My Grandmother, GOD rest her soul AlWAYS told me that when a Man is truly interested in you he will move mountains to get next to you. Sounded good to me...
I'm sorry, but for me to move mountains for someone, I have to be passed for part where I am "chasing" her. If i am just getting to know someone, there isnt any reason to do any of that because the Woman has shown me that she deserves that.
@@eddielacrosse2 And if a woman is getting 2 knw of a man she jus met. Ain't no need of her holding convo about sex either until that man becomes her hubby, even deal. Amen Amen Amen🤗Now carry on Sir!👈
Mothers please teach your daughters to NEVER chase a man !!! Absolutely TRUE ‼️‼️ My husband pursued me and we were married 22 years until his death. ❤️🩹
I agree 100%, is your okay Nadine is it how you pronounce that yeah that's pretty that's correct and then another thing stop having these unexpectations unrealistic expectations of the man that loves you don't keep testing it why do you want him to be perfect nobody is but the man above that's sitting on the right hand of the father preparing a place for us to go back with him girl I got to make sure my name is in the Lambs Book of Life I can't miss that seat I don't understand these women I think most of the women that want a man to be perfect they like men and women they're bisexual and a majority of the time if a man is heterosexual he's completely straight he's really not going to take up serious interest in a woman that like men and women no once he discovered they like both and he's a real man and he like women only he's going to dissipate out that woman's life that like men and women why do you want men to be perfect hell if I was a man and some woman wanted me to be perfect or I would run run for the Hills why do you want him to be perfect he's human that's unrealistic I'm sure even the best of couples they don't have some kind of disagreement disagree to agree like meet your man halfway y'all can like compromise and meet somewhere in the middle that's a healthy relationship first and foremost know God love you love yourself and then it'll be safe to love somebody else why do you want a man to be perfect he's human those are unrealistic expectations expectations he you want him to be perfect hell you ain't or you wouldn't even be making a statement you wouldn't even post such
I think great men are more focused on pursuing their goals rather than a relationship. So if you want a great man you may need to pursue him or put yourself in his life. But if you want an average man he’ll pursue you and when he gets you he has no more goals or ambition because he got his “prize”
I used to chase men. One day I was running, with the intention of getting super skinny so a particular guy might be more interested in me (and I was pursuing him in other ways too), when I heard this voice say, "let them chase you". And I believe it was the voice of God. I stopped dead in my tracks and thought, "men would chase me??" I was confused as to why a man would chase me because my self-esteem was so low. Two babies to two different men later, and I am a single Mother who dated bums, clowns, and bullies. I am finally listening to the words I should have listened to long ago, "let them chase you". Instead of focusing on a particular man I am focusing on God and I am holding fast to accepting nothing less than a man of God who truly loves me and my daughter's. I have also realised the man I marry will love me for my heart much more than my appearance.
This sounds harsh but you need to put effort into your looks. Men are visual. Just do your best. Some makeup, pretty hair (biologically, men are attracted to clean LONG hair) and get a manicure or do your own in an elegant colour (not crazy blues or greens but pinks or reds)... He will love you for your soul but you must attact him first. ❤ Please PLEASE read the book that changed my life called "Not your mothers rules" by ellen fein and Sherrie Schneider. LIFE CHANGING.
But feminine man are very emotional they are good conversationalist and you can connect with them deeply no? Masculine man doesn’t love talking and they have difficulty to open and express their emotions
@Just Michelle interesting perspective. I agree on that they are doble minded and they can’t make a decision. It is very hard to rely on them. I am married for 13 years to very masculine energy man and sometimes I wish he has that Devine masculine in him but he doesn’t. So I wish he was a little bit more feminine side to better connect. It’s not like a masculine man is an ideal man. I would say the ideal man is a masculine man who has worked with himself to balance both energies masculine and feminine but such a man are very rare I think.
@@geo.na_824 then those masculine men that say they masculine are really not- they just weak men not understanding who they really are. A real man will tell you exactly how they “feel” 🤷🏽♀️
@@sg5720 yes I feel you. Some man has a complex of not being man enough or masculine enough they try to mimic other masculine guys but deep down they are insecure.
It's easy to understand. If the women us sleeping with the man for any length of time, her power base has gone (or should I rephrase to say both of their virtual bases have been compromised). Personally, at that time, I don't think it really matters who does to the asking, because 'tings garn bad aready' ... Yep my origins are JA!
Your messages are true masterpieces , and today this one resonates to me. I praise God for giving you the key of discovering women hearts and discerning their minds. These teachings have been shedding lights over my life.I love your character and cannot thank you enough for answering God's call , devoting yourself to the knowledge that brings eternal encouragement to women in the pursuit of happiness. Thank you my pastor cause you are now , my loving pop and my cherish leader. Thanks to your lovely wife who accepts to share you with we women out there.We absolutely need these teachings of discovering ourselves as women.Thank you!
My Dad told me, A bird never lay her eggs on a tree branch, she always lay them in a nest. He told me to make sure the Man that comes in my life Married me first, put me in a house before l lay down with him. Thanks Dad RIP🙏🙏🙏
My husband was my high school sweetheart and he chased me, a year after I graduated from high school, we got married. We were married for 33 years until he passed in February 2021 and we was as one.
I'm currently 17 yrs old, and I'm looking for the real definition of "healthy relationship" because my parents never showed/ taught it to me, thank you pastor Blake.
The love of your life will lift you up and treasure you in good times and bad. You'll never have to wonder how they feel about you because they will make it a priority to show how much you mean to them. Don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.
Dear the world we live in today is wicked be careful out there you seem intelligent cause you are here learning about self esteem which is great I wish you nothing but success love and happiness take care .
There is no reason women should wait for a man to confess his attraction to her first if she wants a partner to eventually be married to. Women shouldn’t need to wait for a man to propose marriage. Women don’t need to risk losing the fulfillment of that desire more than men. Desire for that relationship is equally wanted by both genders. One gender should passionately want to pursue the other mutually or marital intimacy that sexual desire is made for will be difficult. Sexual desire is the most passionate feeling anyone can have for another person.
@@ericbreaux6124 you know that's true what you said but actually men are designed to pursue women. God made him that way I want to go against and pursue other things, like each other as in other men it interferes with the delicate balance I believe. There's a very Victorian kind of a notion that women have to wait to be pursued and and in other cultures where marriages are arranged from the time of birth, and people meet at the altar and having never known each other Med each other become friends those kind of situations where people adjust thrust together to make a go of it used to be the norm. Then time to change Free Will has coming to the Forefront of decision-making for relationships and pursuit and feminism has certainly played into this relationship ideal women will go after a man if they want them!
A woman looks beautiful when she is being pursued. I know my worth and most men don't like that. They like it when you settle. I will never lower my standards for anyone.
I once dated a man who was snatched away from me by another girl....they quickly got married and years later got divorced. when i asked him what went wrong he said, its never a nice thing when a relationship or marriage is initiated by the woman. So you are right sir. Anyway i had moved on and another wonderful man found me, we have been married for 11 years now
@MB-iv4mqladies. This is the type of man that should be avoided at all cost. If a man wants you to pursue him, he wants you harmed. Choose a man who loves women not men who are using women. When a man wants to be pursued, it means he doesn't want you and he is using you and he will dump you for a woman he finds attractive. This type of man is no one's father or husband. They are destined for singleness
Mum always said " Never run down a bus or a man " Ran down a bus the other day, twisted my ankle, child I was looking after, almost fell out of the stroller, because it was falling over sideways 😅, and to top it all...when I did get to bus door the driver said no more space on board for me. SHAME and EMBARRASSED!!!😳 The same when you run down a man, you run him down only to find he has no room in his heart for you, and look what you had to suffer trying to get him.
I did that one time ,running after a man i called him he was talking to me but on another line his colleague was asking him about the girls he was with last evening.A few years down the line he wanted to get back to me still playin games this time thru' his Dad ,i thought if ur not man enuf to do the chasin sorry!
The men in my age group will pursue us but the moment we show interest they disappear so I thought I had to act uninterested to keep them, but it wasn’t fair to me because I couldn’t be myself. So I think those type of men are just dating for the sport to get validation from us to make them feel good & continue looking for the next woman to boost their ego. I think it’s emotionally abusive because my feelings are invested because I like the guy and he’s using my emotions to fill this insatiable void that’s causing him to do this to so many women. So now I know if me showing him interest turns him off to the point he’s ghosting me then he isn’t for me to begin with. I need to be with a man who is emotionally mature to receive love & not take advantage of it for selfish reasons.
These are the men looking for validation in the same way that women want to be affirmed and validated. Basically, these are feminine men because they are positioning themselves as women/feminine to receive what women should receive. I need to be with a man who is also emotionally mature, but this is hard to find. That's why we need to be sure that we are emotionally mature so we do not attract feminine men. God bless. Be safe.
Don’t give up the cookie too soon.The moment they get it they don’t value you any longer.Hold out for as long as possible and don’t put your feelings into it ever.Put those feelings in selflove instead
@@girlnextdoor2836 The only change I'd make to this comment is about not "catching feelings with sex" Sex is spiritual and you should WANT to explore many feelings with it. Bottom line being that you shouldn't be having sex with a person at all if you want to avoid feelings.
When I met my husband 16 years ago, he told me that's why he was attracted to me because I was not chasing after him..he said I was different because he was use to women chasing him..and believe me those women had his head swollen..I had to bring him down to earth
What about if you pursued a little in the beginning but you stopped quickly? Do you think that repels the guy completely? Ask your husband please lol 😳
Mine too, my husband pursued me and did all the texts and calls. He said he never had to put any work in before. Now that we married I am training him how to apologize and resolve conflict bcos that too he didnt have to do in past relationships. I will bring him down to earth he is on time out. LOL
@@MorenitaBonita19 Just try to take the advice that you were given and learn from it. Because the thing is if he is not hitting you up, more then likely he went on his way. It is okay to let a man know that you are open to date him, if you comes on to you, and you are interested. But don't pursue then. They know what they want.
I’m Jewish woman but I’m going to continue listening to these videos because they are extremely helpful and this is a lot of good spiritual advice regardless if I’m not a Christian. Much respect, this type of voice is heavily needed especially in this generation.
@@busydem6161 If you are pursuing someone, there's a mutual interest, could lead to a relationship.. If you are chasing, that person is running away. You'll never obtain a relationship if you're chasing someone
I think this rejection usually begins in a woman's childhood, when her father doesn't acknowledge, provide love, protection, and affection for her. She gets early conditioning for rejection and being masculine.
I also believe it could be from watching the actions of the mother and grandmother. If the mother and grandmother is not married or chasing men, there is a possibility the female child may do the same.
My Grandma taught me a Man Pursues and a woman CHOOSES!!! And this word just reminded me of the virtuous woman I am!!!! He just got blocked immediately!!!🙏🏾
My ex-husband chased me when were 19-20 years old in college like somebody crazy lol. We dated, had a daughter and were married a few years later. Although our marriage only lasted 14 years I look back and can appreciate all the letters, crazy stunts and phone calls I received when he was courting me. Now I’m 51 dating a nice guy who pursues me as well with consistent communication, affection, quality time, and kind acts. A very nice feeling indeed!
Yes! My father was working in a shoe store when my mom came in to get some heels. He made sure he was going to be her shoe sales person. When he put the heel on her foot and she looked at him, he knew she was going to be his princess forever. They were young. He worked two jobs and she was dating the governor's son. My father said he earned every date and worked just as hard for her as he did his two jobs. He won her. They were married all their lives. Three children later, my mother and father both taught us what gentlemen do and what ladies do. They were amazing role models and lifelong blessings as a family. My boyfriends loved my mother. My father never stopped working for her and my brothers learned to treat their wives like gold. They married well and are still married with children.
I really needed to hear this… I found myself falling into the trap of going after men when they truly didn’t want me in the first place. They love the idea that I had all the traits of a wife… I cook, I keep a clean house, I don’t have kids, I can sew… but they don’t find it necessary to commit to me. I have to take it back to God and remember my worth.
My Dad told me that when a man loves a woman - that woman can do no wrong. He will gently talk to her about her flaws and if she loves him, she will see the error of her ways and be thankful. He will do everything to try and please her.
@@bracketvilletexas I see you have been played. That hurts. But, my friend, women do not have a monopoly on screwing their partners over. Men do it equally. I have found that the older I get, the more I learn how to be a better partner. But some people never learn. It doesn't matter if they are male or female. Don't let resentments keep you from seeing a diamond who is right in front of you.
A real man seeks first the kingdom of God and his righteousness. God told man to seek Him first and pursue his God given assignment, not a wife. God will bring a wife when a man pursues God and his earth assignment
@ P O - I neither possess your religious upbringing nor your training, but I REALLY have to admire your sense of purpose, if that is indeed where it comes from.
When a woman is rejected, there is something broken in her heart and it will take years to heal. Never pursue a man. The rejection is too much. Stay in your power
@Don Urban Lol. Not all ladies do it, but yes it is something that need to stop. The enemy will use an unhealed heart to become cynical, bitter, and unforgiving on both sides. That's why we all need to seek healing from the Lord. Seek counseling/therapy of some kind. And build a healthy and loving relationship with Christ and self. And focus on doing His will and His will alone. And know that if it is His will. He will bring the right person in your life at the appointed time. Those that wait on the Lord, shall renew their strength. You have a blessed evening/weekend in Jesus name. God loves you, and so do I. And there is NOTHING that you can do about it.
I wonder if this is really true, cause I have seen so many guys that don't even cry when a woman cheats on him, call him bad names and so on and so on ❗❗❗
Right ! Giving the silent treatment and acting stupid instead of just calling the woman and saying “ Hey it hurt my feelings when you said blah , blah..,” I mean women do it to but Ijs... I’m reading a lot of posts on IG starting with if he doesn’t text back ...
@@crownedmelaninqueen typically telling a woman about your emotions is a turn off for them, and if he isn’t texting back it should be because he’s working on the things that make him attractive to you in the first place; his body, his job, his goals and hobbies. A guy that can text you back all day isn’t accomplishing much
@@brandonayyye3487 I agree, he should be busy with his own life. Hell , I can’t just sit and text all day, I want different kinds of communication phone calls, video chats, voice memos, on top of real visits. We all get busy , but show some effort and care. I should also be apart of his world , but not his whole world. I’m not even expecting to talk everyday. Every other day to two days is fine. It’s the 5 days of silence but even in the military it could be an email sent explaining a lock down .Essentially there are no excuses, I’d love when he can say how he feels or send a kissy face emoji. That’s sweet and vulnerability shows trust in my eyes. So bring it all to me...
Never allow a man to change your chracter just because you were hurt and abused by him! Allow God to heal you inside out before you meet the next guy,, if not you'll run him away because not approachable Do not forget your the prize just relax and the right one will come along!
I notice they try to change you..for example I dont cook..and I eat mostly protein..and they want you to eat vegs..and I dont want..howver its ok for vegetarian to not eat meat..but the other way round..WOW you have to follow the establishment ...no one questions Donald trump for not eating vegs however and neither his wife...but women yes are questioned..tell you how to save electricity because I steamed my eggs for 30 min while cleaning instead of boiling them for 3 min..it made me think the man would have a mindset of saving electricity all the time.. anyway I dont want a man like that..but many are like that and want to control..I know what I consume and its ok I can pay the bill..its not that much anyway
My man is a free mason and Shriner. I'm white , and he is Black. He's also much older than me. I stopped walking to the beat of his , because he's just my boyfriend. This is creating quite a problem for me because I do not choose to get married although I do want to commitment and I'm going to key to the house what should I do?
Not everyone "fits" the traditional gender or gender roles. We are fortunately getting away from gender roles. The LGBTQ community is the group pushing the most against gender roles as now the genders are blending and that means less gender roles. I advocate feminism, which is a misnomer as intelligent, rational, intellectual, transhumanist and futurist males also can be feminist. And btw, bowing down on one knee isn't necessary to propose. My husband didn't propose. Due to my disability I was unable to work so it unfortunately was up to him to decide when and if he would marry me. We simply talked about it and set a date.
My mother chased her husband, and it took him 10 years to marry her! 10 YEARS! I ignored my husband and I was engaged 4 months later! So allow the man to hunt you, don't be so easy, nothing makes a man happier than to hunt for his woman!
I have been alone for many years, but I’m NOT LONELY. I like being alone and not dealing with these issues. I think loneliness is an issue for many people. Don’t be lonely.
Correct ! RC said, “Do you know what a big o’ rusty man saying no can do to a women!” Submit to your virtues and self Love rather then thinking you submitting to a man. But fulfill your inner worth. Lead backing his strengths. Not hold a crown to heavy to bear.
I think it is better to be alone than with a man who don’t appreciate me. Stress can have a bad affect on our health. Being alone frees us to work on being the best we can be.
When you carry your self in a godly clean manner, best believe, a clown will NOT come near you. They will look but will NEVER come near you. If so, he will be very respectful and Praise you.
Amen my mother taught me that. It’s all about how you carry yourself: your dress, your speech, your countenance, your aura. Men know when you giving off naive or loose or insecure or unholiness. Especially men in the church. That’s who the sleazy clergyman will seek out while they revere the godly women.
“When a woman is in her masculine energy to the extent that she wants to pursue a man, she misrepresents her VIRTUE” ‼️ The entire video was great, but this right here was a WORD!
So very true. I had that before and we let it get away from us. Don't think I'll ever find it again. It's so sad. I miss my ex husband so bad. Never wanted to get old and be alone. Never thought I would. :(
@Renee Honey Ah. I never thought of it that way. I see how black women must feel now. Thank you. I never understood that before. Just prayin for us all to understand each other better and ALL OF US come together. As the one Race that we are... THE. HUMAN RACE.
@Renee Honey ,dear honey this is message for all woman regardless of colour. Are you sure that you LOST a GOOD MAN,are you sure ,really? There was a little story I heard about two tears flowing down the stream of water. One tear asked another,to whom does she belongs? She said I belong to a girl that lost her man ?And you? The other tear answered -I belong to the girl that got him. You see in time you will see if any of those three men were meant for you ,you wouldn’t loose them ,and even if they were and got lost ,good riddance to them and their finders. Life is still in the front of you,listen to the Pastor again and again until you get the essence of the message.God bless you!
my name is nkosie barnes am from antigua wi i came to know u during the heat of the covid tru my parthner a teacher and talking to her about some of u and miles monroe teachings she stop talking to me
Most men are visual, so they like cute, pretty, someone who looks good to them and well built. Most like a sweet, funny, intelligent personality as well as supportive. If a woman has this there are men who will pursue. Not all men, but most want the above. Support and respect and look at the man with a true heart but a smart mind, that means a lot. Just my two cents.
@@brandonayyye3487 I would like to know your definition of effort in this context. What the OP is referring to is the energy given by a lot of men these days is that a woman initiate and pursue. MY definition of effort in this context means that on the part of a woman; we let you know if we're interested and engage with you accordingly. I take your response to mean a woman should initiate. If a woman pursues a man she's operating in masculine energy. You have to decide whether you want a woman that moves in masculine energy or feminine energy? But that starts with knowing yourself as well.
Desperation leads to devastation. It leaves you vulnerable and attracts people who will take advantage of you. I’ve learned this from experience, now I’m learning, growing and helping others through my UA-cam channel and books. Thank you for another great message.💕
1. When a woman pursues a man, it's a manifestation in the woman of a pure masculine energy; 2. When a woman pursues a man aggressively, she is misrepresenting her virtue; 3. A woman who pursues a man is misinterpreted as a desperation; 4. The potential for disapproval by a man will shatter a woman's self esteem; 5. When a woman pursues a man, it relieves the man of the basic responsibility of leadership.
No, it’s not working! I pursued one man and that was a disaster of a relationship! My current husband asked me if he could kiss me for the first time. I never showed up at his place uninvited. We did eventually move in together, however a month into he asked me to marry him. It all happened so quickly. I fell in love with him the minute he asked me if he could kiss me now and 11 years later I know that this man will protect me and love me with all his might.
Wow that's great definitely God send you to me i was asking myself what's going on it seems i must always text or call is like I'm desperate i decided to distance myself.
I might not learn from my mom or my dad or in school but I’m thankful that there are people like you that teach us the things that we were not taught for many reasons. I didn’t have a strong father figure growing up to have these kinds of father daughter talks, then at 10 my parents got divorced and my mom was too busy doing 3 jobs to care for her 2 kids. She was a masculine strong mother-father figure to me that I admired for years. My mother wasn’t aware of all the internal struggles I have growing up and how much they influenced me as an adult. I have low self esteem and believed I wasn’t good enough therefore no guys/men pursued me. Then when I hit 30’s I face pressure from the social standards, from the relatives, friends everyone that think I’m about to “expire” and I believed it. I believed I run out of time. I believed in the girl friends that encouraged “girl go put yourself out there, go get what you want, don’t wait for the men to pursue you etc...” so in a year I chased after 4 men and my heart got sicker and sicker. I dated a married man, forgot who I’m and my soul and destroyed my moral, then relentlessly went after a man that told me in my face that he doesn’t want a relationship with me and I cried in front of him, then threw myself at a man that took advantage of me sexually and said he can’t be with me, and another one that didn’t want a relationship with me but let me be with him anyways because he was lonely after separated from his ex and then dumped me for someone else. It was a year of heartbreak and sickness. I was sick to my soul. Everything you said in the video happened to me and I feel it like it was yesterday. Even after that when I met a better man who treated me a little better, he was too damaged to commit for long term relationship and ran away too. And yes I felt to my lowest. I invested in him so much, pour my heart out, got too hopeful and desperate to be finally married to a good man but it turned out I was chasing once again. Whatever the real reasons he left, doesn’t matter anymore. I have work to do with myself. And today I say screw the social standard and the pressure and the age deadline bs, I’m turning my life around. I’m not living in the cloud anymore.
ONG MY BABY SITTING USE TO TWLK MW THIS ALL THW TINE AND I STILL GO BY IT BUT I AM ALWAYS CONFUAED CAUe I never loved before and I was thinking maybe it is so drilled in me !!!!
@T Smith Oh yes indeed! Extremely selfish, defensive / guarded and Jezebelish. Furthermore if this is the mindset of a believing woman then society has little foundation to build a family on at all. Very sad to be honest and they way she was able to just put that statement out there like it was nothing is truly sickening 🤢
I got married at 54 my love is younger then me....for 5 years I tried to persuade him to find someone his age so he dated woman his age.. and I dated men mine... long story short He turned out to be the love of my life... and he loves me dearly and I love him too... Thank you God... Ladies just let the man want you too ok..peace to all 😘
You miss read I didn’t say he was 5 years younger ... he’s much younger then myself...but we’re very blessed and very happy.. You keep smiling and don’t worry about what the world promotes worry about what you promote...and I bet you that right person will show up
@@dacoldest3896 look here micro man we been dealing with bums like you from the start so believe me when I say your insults are useless fool…. now carry on an cry yourself to sleep because no one else is there to hold your micro man
The one thing that is devastatingly true for me---- 4. When a woman gets rejected by a man it damages her more. SO TRUE. We weren't meant to take all that rejection.
You are right.I have a guy who has shown me he is into me but l won’t make a first move ever coz the shame if he rejects me would be devastating for me.
@tone loc unfortunately some woman are not mature enough to keep it real.A virtues woman that has the fear of the lord & walks in the spirit (not the flesh)will not play those mind games .The word of God tells us to keep it to a Yes or No so leading someone with out confirming that’s the one is not correct .For example,I asked the lord for a specific thing that my soulmate ,my purpose has to do or have.Nothing not realistic but didn’t say it outloud or tell anyone .I asked the lord in my heart ❤️ I have faith a true conviction that the lord will confirm my husband but that’s me & our relationship with my Lord.If you seek the lord & stop walking in your own understanding.I have a feeling it be easier to find your wife!Consult the Holy Spirit & he has many ways of showing ,speaking to guide us.
"Every woman is some man's type, I promise you"... " the woman is the man's Prize" This is my third time watching this video...PREACH, BISHOP RC BLAKES!!
I cannot express how much I love this. I was raised by a feminist and the amount of damage... I've been unpacking so much in regards to the male/female relationship and the relief I've been experiencing in realigning to my innate feminine nature has been tear-inducing and powerful. My self-worth over the years was merely a facade for I never felt powerful, and the more of the lies I unburden myself with, the freer I become.
You are describing an abusive person, likely with mental illness, and I am so sorry for what you went through, but that's not feminism. You were traumatized by abuse, not the belief that women should have the same opportunities as men.
@@audhdcreativity5899 Yes, You are indeed correct. That's merely a label she used to feel good about the choices she has made in her life. I had recently come across a phrase that describes exactly what I could never find the right words to express: enmeshment trauma. Thank you.
@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 It doesn't necessarily mean he's not worth it maybe the one that's pursuing he feels is not wife material and he's looking for a wife like the bible says.
I had come to the conclusion that if a guy don't want me, I leave without looking back. What is the point? Gone is gone. No one complains to that. It's called keeping it real.
NOT DESPERATE FOR A MAN NOT A COUGAR JUST OLDER SHO NUFF NOT LOOKING! BUT FRIENDLY CAN'T A WOMAN B NICE AT MY AGE STILL BELIEVE THERE IS LIFE BUT BUT N BUT STUCK ON ????? DEFINITELY NOT PURSUING JUST SOMETIMES MELLOW FUNNY AT THIS TIME JUST RESPECT RESPECT MYSELF. VERY WELL TAUGHT .I LOVE SMILING GLAD MASK ARE IN! HAD VENEERS AFTER 20 YEARS THEY FEL OUT KEPT GLUEING THEM IN TILL THE 3rd TIME THEY FEL COULDN'T FIND THEM. PLEASE PRAY GOD GIVE ME FAVOR TO HAVE SOMEMORE GLUED IN DON'T WANT TO PUT THEM DOWN AND FORGET WHERE I PUT THEM. STARTED TO DO A GO FUND ME. ALL I WANT IS A SMILE NOT GUMS SHOWING ! BUT GONNA SMILE ANYWAY BECAUSE IT'S ME! IT COMES FROM INSIDE OUT! APPRECIATE YOUR TEACHING EVEN THOUGH HAVEN'T SEEN IT FOR A LONG TIME.KEEP SHARING YOUR DEVINE WISDOM IT'S WELL NEEDED. SHALOM SHALOM! GRANNY G💯❤🙏
I’ve been struggling now to recognise my self worth. I’ve been depressed over the last 2 days and asked god to help and this video popped up. It’s exactly what I needed to hear and more. Thank you!!!! 🎉
And a seed is planted in the ground. A plug gets plugged into a socket. A socket is stationary. If the connection is right you get what music lights etc. a man plants seeds amd a woman nurtures it. The saying what. Man outs in a woman will Multiply it.
There is no reason women should wait for a man to confess his attraction to her first if she wants a partner to eventually be married to. Women shouldn’t need to wait for a man to propose marriage. Women don’t need to risk losing the fulfillment of that desire more than men. Desire for that relationship is equally wanted by both genders. One gender should passionately want to pursue the other mutually or marital intimacy that sexual desire is made for will be difficult. Sexual desire is the most passionate feeling anyone can have for another person.
“Any man you have to pursue ain’t worth having”... “If a man is interested in you he will make eye contact with you. Then all you need to do is Smile” I love your videos! God bless you Pastor RC Blakes ❤️
@@IHavent82Day wrong. Patriarchy destroyed everything because women couldn't enjoy their lives. There isn't a right thing about patriarchy when women were getting a beating from their husbands/boyfriends. Or when men should always treat women dinner and pay every bill. This isn't right either. If we want a great society with true equality feminism is the only way. Feminism is equal rights equal responsibilities. I'm willing to help woman to clean the house and cooking and she should be willing to pay at least half of a bill because we are staying together. Together in good things, together in hard things.
@@VelvetCrowe734 That’s crazy because my dad has always been the leader in my family and he has always been the provider and my parents have been happily married for 25 years. I think feminism has absolutely destroyed the way men and women interact with each other - and no, I’m not saying women should always be beholden to a man or that women shouldn’t be allowed to be independent. I’m simply saying men as leaders is often a good thing.
This is making me feel so much stronger and better about my decision to end my one year going nowhere relationship. Just did it this morning and was feeling pretty low and feeling the heartache set in immediately after . I consciously know I did the right thing but it still hurts so bad to let someone go . Mainly bc you realize that the person you love who you saw value in doesn’t see your value and that’s what really hurts the most .
But you Learn the lesson of love ❤️, and self wort. I regress clients for living... and the Subconscious always said letting go it’s part of reviving... loving and letting go with love. The love was the lesson the person pick on that life reincarnation. Namaste 🙏 Lorena
Yes. Then, when I was caught up in a home project, I didn't realize who he was. Even when he walked by me three (3) times. Now, time has past. THE SPIRIT revealed to me who that man is. (My husband). Wow! We went to the same high-school. For its been years since I've seen him. Even though I know where his mother resides,, where he grew up, I won't do the "drive by". For the right thing for me to do, now, is wait. I will be looking my best while I wait. In JESUS' name. Amen. 🙏
I did pursue and he never rejected me properly..one vague reply and no more answer to my 20 texts..now I see him on the streets..I have to change sidewalks..as I cant handle it..and it sucks as I have a man with a missing tooth pursuing me..there is always something..so when I see him I feel devalued..however I dont really know him..he may be drinking for all I know.. I simply am obsessed because I thought he liked me too..however I see I hang out with new male friends that I initially found handsome and attractive but then when I get to know them..this disappears...and they all had gf to begin with..and I thought wow they are always taken.. it makes me realise ..its just a perception..as I thought these men were unattainable somehow but now they are my friends..and maybe that man I obsessed with if I became friends I wouldnt want him anymore.. I think it depends on the conversation..the more you talk to someone...too reveal more about themselves..
@@irlandaise5631 i think too many of us have childhood wounds from neglect, abuse in all forms. We must heal and love ourselves before allowing any man to derail our self worth and self value. I wish i could convince you ( as i have wasted too many precious years being in a miserable marriage 25 years) to work on loving you first and truly knowing what you are not willing to accept in any man’s pursuit of you. Get to know you first, self love, self interest, self care. I have been through so much trauma by merely being in survival mode. Be obsessed with finding and loving you so you can attract the right one who is willing to grow and learn with you. I say this from experience and being genuinely concerned for your well being. And yes, treat a man as your friend and they will tell you their deepest secrets. But do not allow them to seduce you. Be firm and let them know your boundaries. They can easily find many women who they can toy with for a quick fix. Do not be a toy for anyone. God bless your journey.
@@Msbenjamin I’m Still trying to get away from this one for 25 years. I had my chance last year and still working on recovery. from mental breakdown. Working with therapist who says I am strong for what I’ve been through with spiritual warfare. Lifelong battle with soul ties. It would take a book to explain. Many books. Please pray as I attempt to rebuild my life as the marriage is over. No men for me in my future at my age. Not looking. I’ve got to heal on my own somehow.
I'm starting to think I'm meant to be alone. These men aren't real men nowadays. They want the benefits of a relationship but don't want the commitment. These guys don't know how to be gentleman and ask to take you out. No Netflix and chill bs. It's a mess out here.
Any man that is dumb enough to check all your boxes that will be treated like a simp and rightly discarded. She will wait until he is at his lowest point, and leave. I have a feeling that the qualities you find attractive in a man directly contradict what you want in a relationship.
Its a mess out there because women are giving into it. Once u see that the man has been typing these type of women. Its best to avoid them. Because you can't change a man. Its who he is. AND once he use to those type of women, he's going expect the same from u. Its sad but its true.
I’m not religious, but these videos are 100x better than all of those self-help ones made by women who have been hurt and now teach you to empower yourself in a woke, masculine manner.
@@Handleem25 who are you to tell me to correct an opinion?! Those men who cannot accept rejection and are overly emotional are displaying feminine traits. You need to correct yourself.
I spent my childhood with a father who told me every day how worthless I was. This is so healing (and painful because I cringe at my past low value behaviour) to finally hear from a high value man what I should have been told as a little girl ❤
Yes, but also your profile picture isn’t the most appropriate to attract high value men. The show of breasts would attract those who would boyfriend you, or cheat. Because those are purely visual men who see sexual only. Try to elevate yourself and how you present yourself as well to get the right attention.
The “feminine man” energy showed up in my life when I was seeing a man that made me do all the work. And I realized I needed to leave him. Then he came running after me. He asked me to marry him. Then I discovered he was still playing games and I left. I haven’t returned. I’m deserving of a man that has true strength and respect and with whom I feel safe enough to be vulnerable and feminine with.
Notice how easily he offered marriage knowing he wasn't worthy of it ... most women are desperate for marriage and men know this and play women completely. Glad you didn't say yes.
“Desperation and lowered value” You told not one lie here cause the relationship I’m currently in, it started out him pursuing me and it showed me that he was interested. Then all of a sudden, I took completely over, always driving to his house on the weekends, making all the plans we did, buying him nice things, and when I didn’t get the vulnerable side m, that intimacy of being desired platonically, and the mushy romantic side I desired and deserved, I felt rejected n broken n my spirit was shattered. I cried for 2 whole months cause I was confused…then one day recently I woke up, and now a new chapter is being written. God is Awesome💕🙏🏾
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Dear Pastor Blake's,The Simplicity with your messages brings such Elasticity to the hearts of QUEENS.
I Appreciate You' Sharing this moment with Me' and My' Beautiful Daughters and Friends. GOD'S CONTINUEOUS BLESSINGS
@@ladysusanharris what are you saying?
@@angeliagreen5859 My apologies. Crazy phone🙂
Never let a man tell you twice that he doesn't want you.
He does even have to tell you once. Don't DO it.
Ouch. I needed to see this
I needed to hear this
Amen … yes, I heard that from Judge Lynn Toler
I let him and I did pay the price, not anymore, now I know my worth.
My Grandmother, GOD rest her soul AlWAYS told me that when a Man is truly interested in you he will move mountains to get next to you. Sounded good to me...
AMEN
I'm sorry, but for me to move mountains for someone, I have to be passed for part where I am "chasing" her. If i am just getting to know someone, there isnt any reason to do any of that because the Woman has shown me that she deserves that.
100%!!!
Amen
@@eddielacrosse2 And if a woman is getting 2 knw of a man she jus met. Ain't no need of her holding convo about sex either until that man becomes her hubby, even deal. Amen Amen Amen🤗Now carry on Sir!👈
"A woman's heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her." ~ Maya Angelou. 🙏💝
Beautiful
Amen 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Lovely !
Amen 🙏🏽
Wow nicely put
Mothers please teach your daughters to NEVER chase a man !!! Absolutely TRUE ‼️‼️ My husband pursued me and we were married 22 years until his death. ❤️🩹
Does it mean don’t call him if he doesn’t call? Does it mean don’t tell him how much you love and miss him if he doesn’t? Thanks
@@Realtalkwithlin Yes, child. Yes.
I actually disagree with this, women are supposed to chase men.
@@fonda7760 lol…maybe he just has a genuine interest sis
I agree 100%, is your okay Nadine is it how you pronounce that yeah that's pretty that's correct and then another thing stop having these unexpectations unrealistic expectations of the man that loves you don't keep testing it why do you want him to be perfect nobody is but the man above that's sitting on the right hand of the father preparing a place for us to go back with him girl I got to make sure my name is in the Lambs Book of Life I can't miss that seat I don't understand these women I think most of the women that want a man to be perfect they like men and women they're bisexual and a majority of the time if a man is heterosexual he's completely straight he's really not going to take up serious interest in a woman that like men and women no once he discovered they like both and he's a real man and he like women only he's going to dissipate out that woman's life that like men and women why do you want men to be perfect hell if I was a man and some woman wanted me to be perfect or I would run run for the Hills why do you want him to be perfect he's human that's unrealistic I'm sure even the best of couples they don't have some kind of disagreement disagree to agree like meet your man halfway y'all can like compromise and meet somewhere in the middle that's a healthy relationship first and foremost know God love you love yourself and then it'll be safe to love somebody else why do you want a man to be perfect he's human those are unrealistic expectations expectations he you want him to be perfect hell you ain't or you wouldn't even be making a statement you wouldn't even post such
A wise woman once told me, " how a man dates you, is how your marriage to him will be" I learned this truth.
Wow!
Amen
I like to look at the treatment of his Mother or the lack there of by the man I'm dating.
WOW!!! 💖💯💯💯SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO MY GRANDMA. SOUND ADVICE…. YOUNG GENERATION BETTER WISE UP AND LEARN LIKE WE DID. STAY BLESSED & GUIDED ALWAYS
Wise words never thought of it like that
"Any man you have to pursue, ain't worth having!" Period.
LOUDER
I think great men are more focused on pursuing their goals rather than a relationship. So if you want a great man you may need to pursue him or put yourself in his life. But if you want an average man he’ll pursue you and when he gets you he has no more goals or ambition because he got his “prize”
yet they all pursue the top 20%
@@jerseysteelfitness6927 go to bed.
@@brandonayyye3487 if he needs to be pursued, he is surely not a great man😂
My grandmother told me a woman is to be found. Never chase a man, he knows who he wants.
Grandma is right
Give grandma a 👊🏾 for me! 💯
Julinda, please ask our Grandma what kind of drink she loves . Everything on me her Granddaughter 😊😊😊😊😅😅 . Advice happily taken. Thanks Grandma
This is true. It’s not a woman’s place to chase. It’s a turn off.
Mhm
I used to chase men. One day I was running, with the intention of getting super skinny so a particular guy might be more interested in me (and I was pursuing him in other ways too), when I heard this voice say, "let them chase you". And I believe it was the voice of God. I stopped dead in my tracks and thought, "men would chase me??" I was confused as to why a man would chase me because my self-esteem was so low. Two babies to two different men later, and I am a single Mother who dated bums, clowns, and bullies. I am finally listening to the words I should have listened to long ago, "let them chase you". Instead of focusing on a particular man I am focusing on God and I am holding fast to accepting nothing less than a man of God who truly loves me and my daughter's. I have also realised the man I marry will love me for my heart much more than my appearance.
So true. Trust me I know how u feel😌
Yes ma’am 🥰🥰🥰🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💗💗💗
Use to be me
This sounds harsh but you need to put effort into your looks. Men are visual. Just do your best. Some makeup, pretty hair (biologically, men are attracted to clean LONG hair) and get a manicure or do your own in an elegant colour (not crazy blues or greens but pinks or reds)... He will love you for your soul but you must attact him first. ❤
Please PLEASE read the book that changed my life called "Not your mothers rules" by ellen fein and Sherrie Schneider. LIFE CHANGING.
@@tracysnipes2144 women degrade themselves
If I have to pursue a man, then he's not from God.
Greetings from Ireland.
Words of wisdom to live by.
Never cast your Perils before swine.
Kind regards Kate. 👱♀️💕
I like your answer. Thank you. I needed to hear that. 🙋🏾♀️I agree.
Jo Ann👏🏾💝
Amen 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Amen! Yes that's true
Amen
Let the man lead in the beginning so he will lead at all times.
But feminine man are very emotional they are good conversationalist and you can connect with them deeply no?
Masculine man doesn’t love talking and they have difficulty to open and express their emotions
@Just Michelle interesting perspective. I agree on that they are doble minded and they can’t make a decision. It is very hard to rely on them. I am married for 13 years to very masculine energy man and sometimes I wish he has that Devine masculine in him but he doesn’t. So I wish he was a little bit more feminine side to better connect. It’s not like a masculine man is an ideal man. I would say the ideal man is a masculine man who has worked with himself to balance both energies masculine and feminine but such a man are very rare I think.
@@geo.na_824 then those masculine men that say they masculine are really not- they just weak men not understanding who they really are. A real man will tell you exactly how they “feel” 🤷🏽♀️
@Just Michelle those are the “modern men” you speaking on.
@@sg5720 yes I feel you. Some man has a complex of not being man enough or masculine enough they try to mimic other masculine guys but deep down they are insecure.
Lord I don’t know what is going on with woman asking men to marry them… I’d rather count every grain of sand on a beach before I do that…😒
Your comment made me laugh. It makes me sick seeing a woman asking a man to marry her. Talk about desperation.
It's easy to understand. If the women us sleeping with the man for any length of time, her power base has gone (or should I rephrase to say both of their virtual bases have been compromised). Personally, at that time, I don't think it really matters who does to the asking, because 'tings garn bad aready' ... Yep my origins are JA!
ROTFL
YES
Hahahahhaha
❤When a man sense that you are desperate or emotionally weak, they manage and manipulate you and take advantage of you ❤
Yes
Amen
Had this, seen this, survived it and helped other women.
This is sad that men do this. They should be taught better than to do this
Exactly
If you carry yourself as the Queen that you are, you’ll attract Kings. Peace. ✌🏾
period！
Gotta look like one as well. That’s always a plus.
True!!!!!!!!!!
Just three years ago, I was out with this happily married could of 30 years, the man told me what you just said, word for word. :)
Not always true!! You can carry yourself like a Queen and the tigers will come. But you gotta know what cage to play in.
'If you push him into a relationship, you'll have to push him through the relationship!'- Ps Rob (From one of his other videos)
Soooooo true 👍
And vise Versa. If both just was there for fun and Sex. And then want to make a relationship out of it. And move in fast and it doesn’t work.
I did that exact thing 35 years ago. We are still together. I am the initiator. I am exhausted and his life has been a breeze.
Fact
Your messages are true masterpieces , and today this one resonates to me. I praise God for giving you the key of discovering women hearts and discerning their minds. These teachings have been shedding lights over my life.I love your character and cannot thank you enough for answering God's call , devoting yourself to the knowledge that brings eternal encouragement to women in the pursuit of happiness. Thank you my pastor cause you are now , my loving pop and my cherish leader. Thanks to your lovely wife who accepts to share you with we women out there.We absolutely need these teachings of discovering ourselves as women.Thank you!
The man God has for you will come and find you
Yep. Enjoy being single while it lasts.
AMEN!
You said what you said pastor!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🗣🗣🗣
Amen but Im 52 & never married. Still waiting.
@@GLeon-ov9yu he will show up when you least expect it! Be blessed!
OMG, THAT LINE RIGHT THERE!!! "... Any man that you have to pursue, AIN'T WORTH HAVING!"
Lord He ain't never lied. I pursued my ex husband and regret it to this day. I should have left him where I saw him
Thank you Bishop 🤎🙏
Whew!! 💯🙌🏽🔥
You can say that again 👌💯
You all are too easy lol. Keep up that energy.
My Dad told me, A bird never lay her eggs on a tree branch, she always lay them in a nest. He told me to make sure the Man that comes in my life Married me first, put me in a house before l lay down with him. Thanks Dad RIP🙏🙏🙏
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Your dad is super cool for this 🕊
@@richaispencer2925 Yes he was,thank you so much🙏🙏🙏❤
😘😘,
😘😘,
My husband was my high school sweetheart and he chased me, a year after I graduated from high school, we got married. We were married for 33 years until he passed in February 2021 and we was as one.
Amen..! That was an accomplishment, and a blessing. Few have this testimony.
Wow , sorry for your loss and God bless you .
@@shanekamorris693 thank you
@@VictoriaNakaraKizer yes, I was very lucky and very well loved!!
Sorry for your loss. Hope you’re doing fine now. Stay positive and God bless you.
The man who God has for you, has to have enough energy and motivation to pursue you.
I will write this on a note to myself so I'll always get reminded that I don't have to be worried and desperate. Ty
@@missphilanji4769 Amen. Would be great if you could only copy and paste it. God bless.
Amen
Whew! Yessss!
@@sogood5373 Praying for you 🙏🏾, if you’re able to, seek out counseling or a life mentor to talk to. You’re not alone 🙏🏾
I'm currently 17 yrs old, and I'm looking for the real definition of "healthy relationship" because my parents never showed/ taught it to me, thank you pastor Blake.
Wow, you’re doing awesome. I wish I had thought about this stuff at your age.
The love of your life will lift you up and treasure you in good times and bad. You'll never have to wonder how they feel about you because they will make it a priority to show how much you mean to them. Don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.
Dear the world we live in today is wicked be careful out there you seem intelligent cause you are here learning about self esteem which is great I wish you nothing but success love and happiness take care .
When your relationship with Christ is healthy, then you will know! Seek him with all your heart, mind and soul. He will do the rest! God bless
You should be focusing on school and not relationships.
“You were so desperate for a man, that you did his job for him.”
Well said👏🏽
There is no reason women should wait for a man to confess his attraction to her first if she wants a partner to eventually be married to. Women shouldn’t need to wait for a man to propose marriage. Women don’t need to risk losing the fulfillment of that desire more than men. Desire for that relationship is equally wanted by both genders. One gender should passionately want to pursue the other mutually or marital intimacy that sexual desire is made for will be difficult. Sexual desire is the most passionate feeling anyone can have for another person.
you said the correct word, "DESPERATE!" Chilling just hearing it said! 😱😵😌😂🌞
@@ericbreaux6124 you know that's true what you said but actually men are designed to pursue women. God made him that way I want to go against and pursue other things, like each other as in other men it interferes with the delicate balance I believe. There's a very Victorian kind of a notion that women have to wait to be pursued and and in other cultures where marriages are arranged from the time of birth, and people meet at the altar and having never known each other Med each other become friends those kind of situations where people adjust thrust together to make a go of it used to be the norm. Then time to change Free Will has coming to the Forefront of decision-making for relationships and pursuit and feminism has certainly played into this relationship ideal women will go after a man if they want them!
God put me with
My mother used to say the same, “never chase a man” value yourself as a woman!
Amen 🙏🏽
How about showing love to a man? Is that precluded too?
@@maxk5831 showing love is totally different from chasing
Where you are how do you get in this class that you are having
You are speaking the truth!!!
Any man that wants to be CHASED or for me to come to HIM, is not the man I NEED. Period!
Any man that doesn’t want a woman to love herself is not a man. Very simple.
Facts 😇
Amen
EXACTLY
I left a whole husband for this same thing ☝ #NoSir
"Any man you have to pursue, ain't worth having"
Thank you pastor, I needed to hear these words today. God bless you! 🙏
“If you work on finding yourself, you will be healthy enough to be found by someone else.” - AMEN!!✨🙌🏽👏🏽 So good.
This! I was gonna quote it myself lol 💕
REAL TALK!!!!!! SIS.
Good analogue.
My God today! Screaming PREACH!
Powerful!!!
A woman looks beautiful when she is being pursued. I know my worth and most men don't like that. They like it when you settle. I will never lower my standards for anyone.
Good on you girl
Don’t settle for less !!! 🙏
@@josee-mariehowman5234 I won't, I am of great value and God created me for a great purpose. Mishandling and misusing a woman is not part of it.
Amen
Amen Linda. You go girl!
Facts
I once dated a man who was snatched away from me by another girl....they quickly got married and years later got divorced. when i asked him what went wrong he said, its never a nice thing when a relationship or marriage is initiated by the woman. So you are right sir. Anyway i had moved on and another wonderful man found me, we have been married for 11 years now
Excellent word!!!!
You dodged a bullet - good thing
Wishing you blessings girl
AMEN. I WISH I GOT MARRIED , BUT THIS VIDEO TOLD ME ABOUT MYSELF. THE TRUE. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE 🙏🙏🙏💖
Yes I So Love This! ❤
Don’t worry, I won’t be pursuing any man at all! When he pursues righteously, I’ll respond righteously ❤
@MB-iv4mq LMBO😩😩😂😂🤣🤣🤣 Stop it!!!!
@MB-iv4mqladies. This is the type of man that should be avoided at all cost.
If a man wants you to pursue him, he wants you harmed.
Choose a man who loves women not men who are using women.
When a man wants to be pursued, it means he doesn't want you and he is using you and he will dump you for a woman he finds attractive.
This type of man is no one's father or husband. They are destined for singleness
Mum always said " Never run down a bus or a man "
Ran down a bus the other day, twisted my ankle, child I was looking after, almost fell out of the stroller, because it was falling over sideways 😅, and to top it all...when I did get to bus door the driver said no more space on board for me.
SHAME and EMBARRASSED!!!😳
The same when you run down a man, you run him down only to find he has no room in his heart for you, and look what you had to suffer trying to get him.
I did that one time ,running after a man i called him he was talking to me but on another line his colleague was asking him about the girls he was with last evening.A few years down the line he wanted to get back to me still playin games this time thru' his Dad ,i thought if ur not man enuf to do the chasin sorry!
YOU PREACHING!!! THAT WAS A REAL REVELATION
😆 This just tickled me so, that I burst into laughter. Thanks for sharing🤪
Perfectly said!
Man, I love your analogy!!
The men in my age group will pursue us but the moment we show interest they disappear so I thought I had to act uninterested to keep them, but it wasn’t fair to me because I couldn’t be myself. So I think those type of men are just dating for the sport to get validation from us to make them feel good & continue looking for the next woman to boost their ego. I think it’s emotionally abusive because my feelings are invested because I like the guy and he’s using my emotions to fill this insatiable void that’s causing him to do this to so many women. So now I know if me showing him interest turns him off to the point he’s ghosting me then he isn’t for me to begin with. I need to be with a man who is emotionally mature to receive love & not take advantage of it for selfish reasons.
These are the men looking for validation in the same way that women want to be affirmed and validated. Basically, these are feminine men because they are positioning themselves as women/feminine to receive what women should receive. I need to be with a man who is also emotionally mature, but this is hard to find. That's why we need to be sure that we are emotionally mature so we do not attract feminine men. God bless. Be safe.
Well said!🙏
@@reginayfavors That makes sense. Wow!! They are trying to get affirmation like a woman needs.
Don’t give up the cookie too soon.The moment they get it they don’t value you any longer.Hold out for as long as possible and don’t put your feelings into it ever.Put those feelings in selflove instead
@@girlnextdoor2836 The only change I'd make to this comment is about not "catching feelings with sex"
Sex is spiritual and you should WANT to explore many feelings with it. Bottom line being that you shouldn't be having sex with a person at all if you want to avoid feelings.
When I met my husband 16 years ago, he told me that's why he was attracted to me because I was not chasing after him..he said I was different because he was use to women chasing him..and believe me those women had his head swollen..I had to bring him down to earth
What about if you pursued a little in the beginning but you stopped quickly? Do you think that repels the guy completely? Ask your husband please lol 😳
Mine too, my husband pursued me and did all the texts and calls. He said he never had to put any work in before. Now that we married I am training him how to apologize and resolve conflict bcos that too he didnt have to do in past relationships. I will bring him down to earth he is on time out. LOL
@@Cupid_ 😆😅😅🤣🤣🤣
Ok now sis, you know the deal!😉
@@MorenitaBonita19 Just try to take the advice that you were given and learn from it. Because the thing is if he is not hitting you up, more then likely he went on his way. It is okay to let a man know that you are open to date him, if you comes on to you, and you are interested. But don't pursue then. They know what they want.
I’m Jewish woman but I’m going to continue listening to these videos because they are extremely helpful and this is a lot of good spiritual advice regardless if I’m not a Christian. Much respect, this type of voice is heavily needed especially in this generation.
Shalom.
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Absolutely. The teaching of Jesus are life-changing, in a positive way. Then a relationship with Jesus has been my saving grace.
No matter ethnicity or religion, these are truths that go back to Genesis, the dawn of time.
@@TheBthebabe definitely I agree , especially when my father doesn’t really talk to me about this
My dad said to me.... "a princess never chases a prince". I felt that.
A princess has to be found.
@@orubek355 I'd be a virgin had I never chased a man. I'm 32.
Yo daddy was wrong princess
I guess your daddy never heard of Boaz and Ruth
A king will never be pursued by a queen
A king doesn’t chase a queen
@@busydem6161 Being chased and being pursued are not the same.
Really and what might those differences be?
@@busydem6161 If you are pursuing someone, there's a mutual interest, could lead to a relationship.. If you are chasing, that person is running away. You'll never obtain a relationship if you're chasing someone
@@Lovetheonewithin Buzzer sound
I think this rejection usually begins in a woman's childhood, when her father doesn't acknowledge, provide love, protection, and affection for her. She gets early conditioning for rejection and being masculine.
I totally agree, it's some time unconscious behavior because this what they did in the past as a child raised by emotionally unavoidable father
Or having no father in the home at all.
That’s me..
I also believe it could be from watching the actions of the mother and grandmother. If the mother and grandmother is not married or chasing men, there is a possibility the female child may do the same.
So true! That is where it started for me!
My Grandma taught me a Man Pursues and a woman CHOOSES!!! And this word just reminded me of the virtuous woman I am!!!! He just got blocked immediately!!!🙏🏾
Thank you for such truth. I needed this. Thanks for being in my life. God bless you both.
There is a very fine line between "flirting" and ""pursuing"
Flirting should be in response to initial contact by the man IF, she's interested. Pursuing is taking the initial steps.
So very true!
My ex-husband chased me when were 19-20 years old in college like somebody crazy lol. We dated, had a daughter and were married a few years later. Although our marriage only lasted 14 years I look back and can appreciate all the letters, crazy stunts and phone calls I received when he was courting me. Now I’m 51 dating a nice guy who pursues me as well with consistent communication, affection, quality time, and kind acts. A very nice feeling indeed!
Girl bye sex before marriage..
@@teeramirez464 Umm duck wtf are you?!!!! I don’t give not one rat’s azz about you or your opinion!! Go back under your rock!!!
Im 54 sis and yes it is nice feeling I agree
That man is a simp ass. Pressuring a girl to be with him lol, in the future the relationship failed lol pathetic
@@Michellemybell739 she is right that God says fornication is a sin, but she is wrong and rude to judge and treat you like an outcast.
Yes! My father was working in a shoe store when my mom came in to get some heels. He made sure he was going to be her shoe sales person. When he put the heel on her foot and she looked at him, he knew she was going to be his princess forever. They were young. He worked two jobs and she was dating the governor's son. My father said he earned every date and worked just as hard for her as he did his two jobs. He won her. They were married all their lives. Three children later, my mother and father both taught us what gentlemen do and what ladies do. They were amazing role models and lifelong blessings as a family. My boyfriends loved my mother. My father never stopped working for her and my brothers learned to treat their wives like gold. They married well and are still married with children.
I love this story so much. Thank you for sharing. You are so blessed to have had such parents. Not everyone can relate.❤
Yass 😊
@@magnolia2 Thank you for your beautiful comment. Wishing you much love in life! 💕
This story!!!!! Thanks for sharing 🖤🖤🖤
But what’s your story?
I really needed to hear this… I found myself falling into the trap of going after men when they truly didn’t want me in the first place. They love the idea that I had all the traits of a wife… I cook, I keep a clean house, I don’t have kids, I can sew… but they don’t find it necessary to commit to me. I have to take it back to God and remember my worth.
My Dad told me that when a man loves a woman - that woman can do no wrong. He will gently talk to her about her flaws and if she loves him, she will see the error of her ways and be thankful. He will do everything to try and please her.
"If she loves him" . Most women don't contribute anything to the relationship.
yeah while she screws over him.. he will turn against his family that know whats she doing
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So true !!!
@@bracketvilletexas I see you have been played. That hurts. But, my friend, women do not have a monopoly on screwing their partners over. Men do it equally. I have found that the older I get, the more I learn how to be a better partner. But some people never learn. It doesn't matter if they are male or female. Don't let resentments keep you from seeing a diamond who is right in front of you.
“If you work on finding yourself you will be healthy enough to be found by someone else.” 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽
Pastor you making plenty sense. Great words of wisdom!
Amen
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Feminine energy makes you attractive to a man
So true
Absolutely. I dont understand masculine acting women
Thank you so much Pastor for this teaching. Don't be a woman who needs a man, be a woman a man needs!
I'm 29 years old and I'm still a firm believer in a man pursuing me! I know my worth and I am the prize. This was amazing!
I agree with you on that one!
Me too! I will never pursue a man.
Women are the prize the world wouldn't exist without us
speak on that worth you talk about.
@@norm1815 no sir I won't. What God has for me is for me specifically. 😊
A real man takes pride in pursuing his future wife and finding her
Where can I find a wife? A virtuous virgin?
@ G B - You are supposed to get out there and pursue and find her . . . .
A real man seeks first the kingdom of God and his righteousness. God told man to seek Him first and pursue his God given assignment, not a wife. God will bring a wife when a man pursues God and his earth assignment
@ P O - I neither possess your religious upbringing nor your training, but I REALLY have to admire your sense of purpose, if that is indeed where it comes from.
Key word is "wife".
I appreciate how you give advice WITHOUT degrading women. 🙌🏾🙌🏾 Thank you for the perspective!
yes! The advice always hits differently when it comes from a man of God who actually loves and respects women.
He's very respectful of everyone. I'm not a christian but he's so wise I love hearing him talk.
Yeah, what you said….he’s not loud and preachy…and he’s clean.
@@sylvannagreene8437 and the minister's ALWAYS GIVING CREDITS 2 His wife, LISA! TYVM! 😂😍🌞
It dont matter which way a man give the message, today's women dont want to hear and apply it to their lives. Nice attemp tho
When a woman is rejected, there is something broken in her heart and it will take years to heal.
Never pursue a man. The rejection is too much. Stay in your power
Just been rejected by a man I thought was serious with me in my work toilet crying my eyes out it's so painful it hurts so much God help me 😢
@@ce_1 just let it out. Don't let the emotions stay in your body.. God will sent you a better match
"You think its for a Lifetime - it's really for the Nighttime" RC.B.
Boom!
Chile when he said THAT!!! 💥💥💥
Dude!!! I felt that!!🔥🔥🔥
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😂🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️ I felt that one in my spirit
Men who purposefully hurts women, usually ends up paying for it.
@Don Urban Lol. Not all ladies do it, but yes it is something that need to stop. The enemy will use an unhealed heart to become cynical, bitter, and unforgiving on both sides. That's why we all need to seek healing from the Lord. Seek counseling/therapy of some kind. And build a healthy and loving relationship with Christ and self. And focus on doing His will and His will alone. And know that if it is His will. He will bring the right person in your life at the appointed time. Those that wait on the Lord, shall renew their strength. You have a blessed evening/weekend in Jesus name. God loves you, and so do I. And there is NOTHING that you can do about it.
Those men are called NARCISSIST!!!
I wonder if this is really true, cause I have seen so many guys that don't even cry when a woman cheats on him, call him bad names and so on and so on ❗❗❗
If only justice was so clean
Amen! Vengeance is the Lords and HE will repay.
“... manifestation of masculine energy in a woman REPELS masculine men” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I think when a woman is smart, and wise, this can be mistaken for masculinity, when a man is intimidated by her intelligence.
Not with all the men acting in their feminine energy all day everyday...🙄🙄
Right ! Giving the silent treatment and acting stupid instead of just calling the woman and saying “ Hey it hurt my feelings when you said blah , blah..,” I mean women do it to but Ijs... I’m reading a lot of posts on IG starting with if he doesn’t text back ...
@@crownedmelaninqueen typically telling a woman about your emotions is a turn off for them, and if he isn’t texting back it should be because he’s working on the things that make him attractive to you in the first place; his body, his job, his goals and hobbies. A guy that can text you back all day isn’t accomplishing much
@@brandonayyye3487 I agree, he should be busy with his own life. Hell , I can’t just sit and text all day, I want different kinds of communication phone calls, video chats, voice memos, on top of real visits. We all get busy , but show some effort and care. I should also be apart of his world , but not his whole world. I’m not even expecting to talk everyday. Every other day to two days is fine. It’s the 5 days of silence but even in the military it could be an email sent explaining a lock down .Essentially there are no excuses, I’d love when he can say how he feels or send a kissy face emoji. That’s sweet and vulnerability shows trust in my eyes. So bring it all to me...
1- Be polite.
2- Be well groomed.
3- Appear interested, when a person is interested in u.
Never allow a man to change your chracter just because you were hurt and abused by him! Allow God to heal you inside out before you meet the next guy,, if not you'll run him away because not approachable Do not forget your the prize just relax and the right one will come along!
AMEN!!!!!!!👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾✋🏿✋🏿✋🏿🙌🏿👐🏿✊🏾🔥🔥🔥🔥
Omg! This right here!!
I notice they try to change you..for example I dont cook..and I eat mostly protein..and they want you to eat vegs..and I dont want..howver its ok for vegetarian to not eat meat..but the other way round..WOW you have to follow the establishment ...no one questions Donald trump for not eating vegs however and neither his wife...but women yes are questioned..tell you how to save electricity because I steamed my eggs for 30 min while cleaning instead of boiling them for 3 min..it made me think the man would have a mindset of saving electricity all the time..
anyway I dont want a man like that..but many are like that and want to control..I know what I consume and its ok I can pay the bill..its not that much anyway
Facts men and women are the prize
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as a young lady I would always say, "any woman that finds a man...finds trouble." God didn't design us in such mannerism. 💯
My man is a free mason and Shriner. I'm white , and he is Black. He's also much older than me. I stopped walking to the beat of his , because he's just my boyfriend. This is creating quite a problem for me because I do not choose to get married although I do want to commitment and I'm going to key to the house what should I do?
This relationship is not for you. Run. Unless you yourself are into the “dark arts”. He will influence you. Negatively. Just MY OP.
Not everyone "fits" the traditional gender or gender roles. We are fortunately getting away from gender roles. The LGBTQ community is the group pushing the most against gender roles as now the genders are blending and that means less gender roles. I advocate feminism, which is a misnomer as intelligent, rational, intellectual, transhumanist and futurist males also can be feminist. And btw, bowing down on one knee isn't necessary to propose. My husband didn't propose. Due to my disability I was unable to work so it unfortunately was up to him to decide when and if he would marry me. We simply talked about it and set a date.
@@jodyblanchard2754 Are you laying with him?
HE, who finds a wife, FINDS a good thing...
My mother chased her husband, and it took him 10 years to marry her! 10 YEARS! I ignored my husband and I was engaged 4 months later! So allow the man to hunt you, don't be so easy, nothing makes a man happier than to hunt for his woman!
10 YEARS? WHEW! 😀
@@deebojo3382 I would have been gone
@@devinesent7696 Me three! 😀
Did she get desperate and put roots on him?
@@bilderberg_news4775A off the wall comment! Yawn...
In nature you never find the female chasing the male they have to work hard to impress her, another great video 🙏
I have been alone for many years, but I’m NOT LONELY. I like being alone and not dealing with these issues. I think loneliness is an issue for many people. Don’t be lonely.
Correct ! RC said, “Do you know what a big o’ rusty man saying no can do to a women!” Submit to your virtues and self Love rather then thinking you submitting to a man. But fulfill your inner worth. Lead backing his strengths. Not hold a crown to heavy to bear.
Yes, and it's a beautiful place to be. 😉
I think it is better to be alone than with a man who don’t appreciate me. Stress can have a bad affect on our health. Being alone frees us to work on being the best we can be.
@@carolynw4814 agreed😌🌌🙏🏽
@@carolynw4814 agreed😌🌌🙏🏽
When you carry your self in a godly clean manner, best believe, a clown will NOT come near you. They will look but will NEVER come near you. If so, he will be very respectful and Praise you.
You said that,😉
This is so true.
@Yapa Yipee I agree!
Very true . Man man will know not to play around
You blessed that statement! I'll be a witness
Amen my mother taught me that. It’s all about how you carry yourself: your dress, your speech, your countenance, your aura. Men know when you giving off naive or loose or insecure or unholiness. Especially men in the church. That’s who the sleazy clergyman will seek out while they revere the godly women.
“When a woman is in her masculine energy to the extent that she wants to pursue a man, she misrepresents her VIRTUE” ‼️ The entire video was great, but this right here was a WORD!
This is what I put into my MIND to be a woman to guard our VIRTUES👍🙏😚
It could be that it's a red flag for us to ourselves!!
So very true. I had that before and we let it get away from us. Don't think I'll ever find it again. It's so sad. I miss my ex husband so bad. Never wanted to get old and be alone. Never thought I would. :(
@Renee Honey Ah. I never thought of it that way. I see how black women must feel now. Thank you. I never understood that before. Just prayin for us all to understand each other better and ALL OF US come together. As the one Race that we are... THE. HUMAN RACE.
@Renee Honey ,dear honey this is message for all woman regardless of colour.
Are you sure that you LOST a GOOD MAN,are you sure ,really?
There was a little story I heard about two tears flowing down the stream of water.
One tear asked another,to whom does she belongs?
She said I belong to a girl that lost her man ?And you?
The other tear answered -I belong to the girl that got him.
You see in time you will see if any of those three men were meant for you ,you wouldn’t loose them ,and even if they were and got lost ,good riddance to them and their finders.
Life is still in the front of you,listen to the Pastor again and again until you get the essence of the message.God bless you!
"Any man you have to pursue ain't worth having." 💥 BOOM 💥
Do not care what century or times we are in, this type of Bible teaching never gets old or out-dated..Thank you Pastor Blakes
my name is nkosie barnes am from antigua wi i came to know u during the heat of the covid tru my parthner a teacher and talking to her about some of u and miles monroe teachings she stop talking to me
i think u are a blessing and healing for many of us who wernt listening or paying attension over the years
@@nkosiebarnes4869 Well said!
@@nkosiebarnes4869 a
The Bible is our blueprint for how to live our lives.
That's why I'm single. Not chasing a man, but in times of the Internet that's what men expect. I can remain single, no problem at all 👍🏾
No we just want effort
Most men are visual, so they like cute, pretty, someone who looks good to them and well built. Most like a sweet, funny, intelligent personality as well as supportive. If a woman has this there are men who will pursue. Not all men, but most want the above. Support and respect and look at the man with a true heart but a smart mind, that means a lot. Just my two cents.
@@brandonayyye3487 I would like to know your definition of effort in this context. What the OP is referring to is the energy given by a lot of men these days is that a woman initiate and pursue.
MY definition of effort in this context means that on the part of a woman; we let you know if we're interested and engage with you accordingly. I take your response to mean a woman should initiate. If a woman pursues a man she's operating in masculine energy.
You have to decide whether you want a woman that moves in masculine energy or feminine energy? But that starts with knowing yourself as well.
Hello!!
I swear
Desperation leads to devastation. It leaves you vulnerable and attracts people who will take advantage of you. I’ve learned this from experience, now I’m learning, growing and helping others through my UA-cam channel and books. Thank you for another great message.💕
awwwww.... that is so awesome. I’m going to check you out! 🙌🏾💗
"Desperation leads to devastation" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I just love the statement
Thank you 🙏🏼 I will check it out
@@naidaugan8087 Thank you!
Absolutely
" a real man does not take pride in the fact: oh my wife ran me down and she caught me, she made me give in .." made my day 😁
I wish I had heard this before, it a good teaching indeed .Thank you RC much appreciated will pass it to my offsprings
Me too.a man said that and all I can say he is a clown
1. When a woman pursues a man, it's a manifestation in the woman of a pure masculine energy; 2. When a woman pursues a man aggressively, she is misrepresenting her virtue; 3. A woman who pursues a man is misinterpreted as a desperation; 4. The potential for disapproval by a man will shatter a woman's self esteem; 5. When a woman pursues a man, it relieves the man of the basic responsibility of leadership.
thanks for the recap
A woman chasing a man is seen as easy
Thank you for this summary 🤗
@@noddybrown3074 No she knows what she wants and is a mature woman
Wtf u talking abt, my gf approched me 3 yrs back & we still together & I lead, she follows
No, it’s not working! I pursued one man and that was a disaster of a relationship! My current husband asked me if he could kiss me for the first time. I never showed up at his place uninvited. We did eventually move in together, however a month into he asked me to marry him. It all happened so quickly. I fell in love with him the minute he asked me if he could kiss me now and 11 years later I know that this man will protect me and love me with all his might.
Wow, that’s beautiful!!
A true king and queen I love this
Wow that's great definitely God send you to me i was asking myself what's going on it seems i must always text or call is like I'm desperate i decided to distance myself.
Run the likes up for this man of God!
For real!
I might not learn from my mom or my dad or in school but I’m thankful that there are people like you that teach us the things that we were not taught for many reasons. I didn’t have a strong father figure growing up to have these kinds of father daughter talks, then at 10 my parents got divorced and my mom was too busy doing 3 jobs to care for her 2 kids. She was a masculine strong mother-father figure to me that I admired for years. My mother wasn’t aware of all the internal struggles I have growing up and how much they influenced me as an adult. I have low self esteem and believed I wasn’t good enough therefore no guys/men pursued me. Then when I hit 30’s I face pressure from the social standards, from the relatives, friends everyone that think I’m about to “expire” and I believed it. I believed I run out of time. I believed in the girl friends that encouraged “girl go put yourself out there, go get what you want, don’t wait for the men to pursue you etc...” so in a year I chased after 4 men and my heart got sicker and sicker. I dated a married man, forgot who I’m and my soul and destroyed my moral, then relentlessly went after a man that told me in my face that he doesn’t want a relationship with me and I cried in front of him, then threw myself at a man that took advantage of me sexually and said he can’t be with me, and another one that didn’t want a relationship with me but let me be with him anyways because he was lonely after separated from his ex and then dumped me for someone else. It was a year of heartbreak and sickness. I was sick to my soul. Everything you said in the video happened to me and I feel it like it was yesterday. Even after that when I met a better man who treated me a little better, he was too damaged to commit for long term relationship and ran away too. And yes I felt to my lowest. I invested in him so much, pour my heart out, got too hopeful and desperate to be finally married to a good man but it turned out I was chasing once again. Whatever the real reasons he left, doesn’t matter anymore. I have work to do with myself. And today I say screw the social standard and the pressure and the age deadline bs, I’m turning my life around. I’m not living in the cloud anymore.
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I pursue no ones. My grandma once told me, "only build a relationship with a man who loves you more than you love him"
ONG MY BABY SITTING USE TO TWLK MW THIS ALL THW TINE AND I STILL GO BY IT BUT I AM ALWAYS CONFUAED CAUe I never loved before and I was thinking maybe it is so drilled in me !!!!
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@MB I 💯% agree she doesn’t even realise how toxic and demonic that ignorant advice is.
@T Smith Oh yes indeed! Extremely selfish, defensive / guarded and Jezebelish. Furthermore if this is the mindset of a believing woman then society has little foundation to build a family on at all. Very sad to be honest and they way she was able to just put that statement out there like it was nothing is truly sickening 🤢
that’s toxic af, why wouldn’t you wanna love him just as much???
Daaaaaannnnnggggg this man said “ you thought it was for a lifetime but it’s just for the nighttime” WOW !! Preach !!!!!
“Any man you have to pursue ain’t worth having”
This is one of my take aways lol
So true
Correct! xx
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You sound like a lameo... Cause you aint no real woman real woman chase little girls play hard to get
My grandma always told me that a woman should NEVER pursue a man under ANY circumstance.
I got married at 54 my love is younger then me....for 5 years I tried to persuade him to find someone his age so he dated woman his age.. and I dated men mine... long story short He turned out to be the love of my life... and he loves me dearly and I love him too... Thank you God... Ladies just let the man want you too ok..peace to all 😘
Five years is not a big difference. I’m encouraged by you testimony, the world promotes the stereotype of youthful love. Thanks for sharing🙂
You miss read I didn’t say he was 5 years younger ... he’s much younger then myself...but we’re very blessed and very happy.. You keep smiling and don’t worry about what the world promotes worry about what you promote...and I bet you that right person will show up
@@mrs.patricewhyte5024 that poor man
Thats why he got with her. Some guys just want the woman they want. Man and woman relationship are rare these days
@@dacoldest3896 look here micro man we been dealing with bums like you from the start so believe me when I say your insults are useless fool…. now carry on an cry yourself to sleep because no one else is there to hold your micro man
The one thing that is devastatingly true for me---- 4. When a woman gets rejected by a man it damages her more. SO TRUE. We weren't meant to take all that rejection.
You are right.I have a guy who has shown me he is into me but l won’t make a first move ever coz the shame if he rejects me would be devastating for me.
@tone loc but you are the “hunter “ you are the pursuer & once you meet the one the lord created for you then you won’t be rejected🙏
@tone loc this isn't about men. The focus is women.
@tone loc unfortunately some woman are not mature enough to keep it real.A virtues woman that has the fear of the lord & walks in the spirit (not the flesh)will not play those mind games .The word of God tells us to keep it to a Yes or No so leading someone with out confirming that’s the one is not correct .For example,I asked the lord for a specific thing that my soulmate ,my purpose has to do or have.Nothing not realistic but didn’t say it outloud or tell anyone .I asked the lord in my heart ❤️ I have faith a true conviction that the lord will confirm my husband but that’s me & our relationship with my Lord.If you seek the lord & stop walking in your own understanding.I have a feeling it be easier to find your wife!Consult the Holy Spirit & he has many ways of showing ,speaking to guide us.
@@girlnextdoor2836 seems any time it's more me than him I get my heart wounded.
"Every woman is some man's type, I promise you"... " the woman is the man's Prize"
This is my third time watching this video...PREACH, BISHOP RC BLAKES!!
I cannot express how much I love this. I was raised by a feminist and the amount of damage... I've been unpacking so much in regards to the male/female relationship and the relief I've been experiencing in realigning to my innate feminine nature has been tear-inducing and powerful. My self-worth over the years was merely a facade for I never felt powerful, and the more of the lies I unburden myself with, the freer I become.
Feminists are often misandrists😢
You are describing an abusive person, likely with mental illness, and I am so sorry for what you went through, but that's not feminism. You were traumatized by abuse, not the belief that women should have the same opportunities as men.
@@audhdcreativity5899 Yes, You are indeed correct. That's merely a label she used to feel good about the choices she has made in her life. I had recently come across a phrase that describes exactly what I could never find the right words to express: enmeshment trauma. Thank you.
@@waterlilyandvine wishing you so much healing and love 🙏 you deserved better so give yourself the best care possible!
@@audhdcreativity5899 most feminists are mentally I’ll!
Any man you have to pursue ain't worth having.
But he’s not pursuing you, so he doesn’t desire you. Why pursue him? It’s his job.
@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 It doesn't necessarily mean he's not worth it maybe the one that's pursuing he feels is not wife material and he's looking for a wife like the bible says.
Amen
Exactly! Either he is not masculine enough OR he is not interested in you. Both situations are not worth a feminine woman's time, energy, or heart.
@@feminineallure6763 thank you love
I'm muslim but I needed to hear this more than anything. Thank you pastor for the wise words❤
May God guide you in your wait for your ordained husband 🙏🏾❤️
The Torah, the Bible and the Quran are holy books of the one and only god. There is only ONE religion since Adam and Eve.
Wisdom is the lost property of the believer. He may pick it up wherever he finds it. ❤
important massage!
I too am Muslim but needed to hear this as well 😊
I had come to the conclusion that if a guy don't want me, I leave without looking back. What is the point? Gone is gone. No one complains to that. It's called keeping it real.
Keeping it real and keeping it moving.🚶🏾♀️
NOT DESPERATE FOR A MAN NOT A COUGAR JUST OLDER SHO NUFF NOT LOOKING! BUT FRIENDLY CAN'T A WOMAN B NICE AT MY AGE STILL BELIEVE THERE IS LIFE BUT BUT N BUT STUCK ON ?????
DEFINITELY NOT PURSUING JUST SOMETIMES MELLOW FUNNY AT THIS TIME JUST RESPECT RESPECT MYSELF. VERY WELL TAUGHT .I LOVE SMILING GLAD MASK ARE IN! HAD VENEERS AFTER 20 YEARS THEY FEL OUT KEPT GLUEING THEM IN TILL THE 3rd TIME THEY FEL COULDN'T FIND THEM. PLEASE PRAY GOD GIVE ME FAVOR TO HAVE SOMEMORE GLUED IN DON'T WANT TO PUT THEM DOWN AND FORGET WHERE I PUT THEM. STARTED TO DO A GO FUND ME. ALL I WANT IS A SMILE NOT GUMS SHOWING ! BUT GONNA SMILE ANYWAY BECAUSE IT'S ME!
IT COMES FROM INSIDE OUT! APPRECIATE YOUR TEACHING EVEN THOUGH HAVEN'T SEEN IT FOR A LONG TIME.KEEP SHARING YOUR DEVINE WISDOM IT'S WELL NEEDED.
SHALOM SHALOM!
GRANNY G💯❤🙏
If a guy says he doesn't want you, take him at his word. Don't walk - run.
I’ve been struggling now to recognise my self worth. I’ve been depressed over the last 2 days and asked god to help and this video popped up. It’s exactly what I needed to hear and more. Thank you!!!! 🎉
My Lula use to tell me “ the Sperm goes to the egg, not the other way around“ . Good video. ❤️
Haha that’s great and so true
So true
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And a seed is planted in the ground. A plug gets plugged into a socket. A socket is stationary. If the connection is right you get what music lights etc. a man plants seeds amd a woman nurtures it. The saying what. Man outs in a woman will
Multiply it.
There is no reason women should wait for a man to confess his attraction to her first if she wants a partner to eventually be married to. Women shouldn’t need to wait for a man to propose marriage. Women don’t need to risk losing the fulfillment of that desire more than men. Desire for that relationship is equally wanted by both genders. One gender should passionately want to pursue the other mutually or marital intimacy that sexual desire is made for will be difficult. Sexual desire is the most passionate feeling anyone can have for another person.
“Any man you have to pursue ain’t worth having”...
“If a man is interested in you he will make eye contact with you. Then all you need to do is Smile” I love your videos! God bless you Pastor RC Blakes ❤️
You are so right. ❤
I disagree it shows interest
@@chrissoulful7086, it may be old school thinking, biblical almost.
@@Cece-mq3bh i agree if they want yo bad enough they will get the courage to approach
@@overcomerbtboj yep!
5. When a woman pursues a man, it relieves the man of his basic responsibility to lead in the relationship.
Lol? What a comment full of patriarchy and stereotype. We are human not simple animals.
I totally agree !
@@VelvetCrowe734 patriarchy isn’t always a negative thing. In families, I think it’s often a good thing.
@@IHavent82Day wrong. Patriarchy destroyed everything because women couldn't enjoy their lives. There isn't a right thing about patriarchy when women were getting a beating from their husbands/boyfriends. Or when men should always treat women dinner and pay every bill. This isn't right either. If we want a great society with true equality feminism is the only way. Feminism is equal rights equal responsibilities. I'm willing to help woman to clean the house and cooking and she should be willing to pay at least half of a bill because we are staying together. Together in good things, together in hard things.
@@VelvetCrowe734 That’s crazy because my dad has always been the leader in my family and he has always been the provider and my parents have been happily married for 25 years. I think feminism has absolutely destroyed the way men and women interact with each other - and no, I’m not saying women should always be beholden to a man or that women shouldn’t be allowed to be independent. I’m simply saying men as leaders is often a good thing.
When I was 12, my Dad told me "Never tell a boy you like him". I obeyed my father without question. Thanks to him, I've never chased a man.
I have never pursued a man 👨 and may I continue in this divine order. 🙌🏽
Amen!
Amen!
This is making me feel so much stronger and better about my decision to end my one year going nowhere relationship. Just did it this morning and was feeling pretty low and feeling the heartache set in immediately after . I consciously know I did the right thing but it still hurts so bad to let someone go . Mainly bc you realize that the person you love who you saw value in doesn’t see your value and that’s what really hurts the most .
Each day stay prayed up do your affirmations through out the day you are worth it!!
@@gaynell4441 thank you 🙏🏼 you are right . I am so worth it 😊
I did so few days ago get over it day by day
But you Learn the lesson of love ❤️, and self wort. I regress clients for living... and the Subconscious always said letting go it’s part of reviving... loving and letting go with love. The love was the lesson the person pick on that life reincarnation.
Namaste 🙏 Lorena
Same here to many out there but not looking
“If you work on finding yourself, you will be healthy enough to be found by someone else”
Absolutely true!
I love all your teaching. "Lil baseball man" was so funny to me. You got your woman!!
Wow, this explains why I never pursued a man. I could not handle rejection. The problem I had was settling for men who pursued me.
Yes. Then, when I was caught up in a home project, I didn't realize who he was. Even when he walked by me three (3) times. Now, time has past. THE SPIRIT revealed to me who that man is. (My husband). Wow! We went to the same high-school. For its been years since I've seen him. Even though I know where his mother resides,, where he grew up, I won't do the "drive by". For the right thing for me to do, now, is wait. I will be looking my best while I wait. In JESUS' name. Amen. 🙏
I did pursue and he never rejected me properly..one vague reply and no more answer to my 20 texts..now I see him on the streets..I have to change sidewalks..as I cant handle it..and it sucks as I have a man with a missing tooth pursuing me..there is always something..so when I see him I feel devalued..however I dont really know him..he may be drinking for all I know..
I simply am obsessed because I thought he liked me too..however I see I hang out with new male friends that I initially found handsome and attractive but then when I get to know them..this disappears...and they all had gf to begin with..and I thought wow they are always taken..
it makes me realise ..its just a perception..as I thought these men were unattainable somehow but now they are my friends..and maybe that man I obsessed with if I became friends I wouldnt want him anymore..
I think it depends on the conversation..the more you talk to someone...too reveal more about themselves..
@@irlandaise5631 i think too many of us have childhood wounds from neglect, abuse in all forms. We must heal and love ourselves before allowing any man to derail our self worth and self value. I wish i could convince you ( as i have wasted too many precious years being in a miserable marriage 25 years) to work on loving you first and truly knowing what you are not willing to accept in any man’s pursuit of you. Get to know you first, self love, self interest, self care. I have been through so much trauma by merely being in survival mode. Be obsessed with finding and loving you so you can attract the right one who is willing to grow and learn with you. I say this from experience and being genuinely concerned for your well being.
And yes, treat a man as your friend and they will tell you their deepest secrets. But do not allow them to seduce you. Be firm and let them know your boundaries. They can easily find many women who they can toy with for a quick fix. Do not be a toy for anyone. God bless your journey.
I can relate to you, I have similar story. How do you relate to men that come in your life now?
@@Msbenjamin I’m
Still trying to get away from this one for 25 years. I had my chance last year and still working on recovery. from mental breakdown. Working with therapist who says I am strong for what I’ve been through with spiritual warfare. Lifelong battle with soul ties. It would take a book to explain. Many books. Please pray as I attempt to rebuild my life as the marriage is over. No men for me in my future at my age. Not looking. I’ve got to heal on my own somehow.
My husband pursued me .And he treats me like the Queen I am.
You are fortunate.
There is hope for me am holding out for my King.
I'm starting to think I'm meant to be alone. These men aren't real men nowadays. They want the benefits of a relationship but don't want the commitment. These guys don't know how to be gentleman and ask to take you out. No Netflix and chill bs. It's a mess out here.
Any man that is dumb enough to check all your boxes that will be treated like a simp and rightly discarded. She will wait until he is at his lowest point, and leave.
I have a feeling that the qualities you find attractive in a man directly contradict what you want in a relationship.
You dont expect commitment from the guy on IG culling numbers from his phone.
No don't be alone. Go where you are appreciated. You are in the wrong pond.
Its a mess out there because women are giving into it. Once u see that the man has been typing these type of women. Its best to avoid them. Because you can't change a man. Its who he is. AND once he use to those type of women, he's going expect the same from u. Its sad but its true.
@@b.williams9473 I really must be in the wrong pond with the wrong ducks. I'll have to move to another pond on the other side of town then apparently.
I’m not religious, but these videos are 100x better than all of those self-help ones made by women who have been hurt and now teach you to empower yourself in a woke, masculine manner.
It's funny that he said men can take rejection over and over again, that's not true because some of these males get rejected and then attack women
The needy and insecure guys don't take rejection well.
Because they are feminine and emotional.
rejection is bad for all
@@maxk5831 but it's a part of life, so everyone has to deal with it at some point, shake it off and keep moving, do not dwell on it
@@Handleem25 who are you to tell me to correct an opinion?! Those men who cannot accept rejection and are overly emotional are displaying feminine traits. You need to correct yourself.
I have really cried watching this video. He is speaking to me and i need to change cuz i'm tired.
Most importantly, you know what needs to be done. I pray you find you King ❤
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Bless You. It is never too late. A good man who deserves you will find you🙏🏽
You did what you felt was right. You went about your life with an open heart - full of love and goodness. Goodness will seek you out🙏🏽❤️
Your right because any time I have chased a guy he never valued me
I spent my childhood with a father who told me every day how worthless I was. This is so healing (and painful because I cringe at my past low value behaviour) to finally hear from a high value man what I should have been told as a little girl ❤
As a young lady who didn't grow up with a father, this was tasteful and helpful. 😇
❤ Thank you so much Lisa QUEEN for your Husband Teaching I'm truly Blessed praise GOD 👏
Yes, but also your profile picture isn’t the most appropriate to attract high value men. The show of breasts would attract those who would boyfriend you, or cheat. Because those are purely visual men who see sexual only. Try to elevate yourself and how you present yourself as well to get the right attention.
The “feminine man” energy showed up in my life when I was seeing a man that made me do all the work. And I realized I needed to leave him. Then he came running after me. He asked me to marry him. Then I discovered he was still playing games and I left. I haven’t returned. I’m deserving of a man that has true strength and respect and with whom I feel safe enough to be vulnerable and feminine with.
Notice how easily he offered marriage knowing he wasn't worthy of it ... most women are desperate for marriage and men know this and play women completely. Glad you didn't say yes.
This sounds similar to my life.the 🤔😳
This look similar to my story too
This was the mistake I made when I got married and now getting a divorce 🤦🏽♀️
I'm glad you left
“Desperation and lowered value” You told not one lie here cause the relationship I’m currently in, it started out him pursuing me and it showed me that he was interested. Then all of a sudden, I took completely over, always driving to his house on the weekends, making all the plans we did, buying him nice things, and when I didn’t get the vulnerable side m, that intimacy of being desired platonically, and the mushy romantic side I desired and deserved, I felt rejected n broken n my spirit was shattered. I cried for 2 whole months cause I was confused…then one day recently I woke up, and now a new chapter is being written. God is Awesome💕🙏🏾
I need to hear this I’m currently broken
Very beautiful and meaningful message and I am delighted to listen to it. Thank you until next time with more blessings!
Proud of you! Your comment has given me strength
@@destiny9082 I hope you okay. Am standing with you. Am currently broken so much too.
Me also but we have two kids I just stop it's his job to pursue his family.