This is so sad. Going no contact from my brothers was so very hard, but it needed to be done. I’m grateful for my relationship with my sister. I’m so sorry too Cassie. 😢
It is worse people blame you for drama they made. Ruining the good vibes which is so toxic. Tolerance to understanding/empathy is so rare nowadays when it isn't faked to look good. Having trauma to wounds is gaslighted as crazy such as this. Where can anyone confid in when anyone can set someone off?
Do I even need to watch? The title is everything. That's right. She hates her life and it's my fault. Jealous of me. Angry. And nothing I do helps. In fact, it makes it worse.
I wish more videos about siblings. I know they could be treated like some other relationships but learning how to navigate types of sibling dynamics would be of great help.
I know this story very well! From abusive, toxic, narcissistic "parents and siblings." I can't handle or better tolerate negativity. I cut ties with my sister's. No regret! I let go, and I move on with my life. Much happier now. There is a reason why God part the see, there is a reason why God burned down Saddom and Gomorrah, dont look back, keep moving forward, protection let toxic people behind, you cant help them nor fix them, its not your responsibility!
Please resolve to be a person who doesn't keep secrets from their spouse. You know the limits to this idea. I am of the opinion that if you discussed a plan of action, you stick to that plan of action come hell or high water. This doesn't mean the plan can't change as situations change, it means you discuss the changes (when possible).
My ex-wife had a gambling problem. For her, gambling was an investment. Yes indeed, sooner or later she was gonna win "the big one". I tried to help her get over this toxic mindset, but the more I tried the more she blamed me for this toxic issue. It was all my fault that she was losing. The more she lost the more she blamed me for stressing her out and causing her to gamble even more.
it is such an important subject and so difficult, when you are trying to recover from the parental abuse and your siblings aren´t. I have two alcoholic brothers and a sister who stays with my abusive mother. I did an anourmous effort to detach and stay away from my exploitative and manipulative mother, yet I am still being pulled into the drama because of my older sister who lives with my mother, I love my sister but I hate when she keeps telling me over and over again, actually every day how my mother abuses her. it is both painful and annoying because I know my sister has a choice to leave but she acts as if she hadn´t any choice but to stay with the mother like a victim collecting abuse and chaos.
My brother contacts me only when he needs something from me, like money, or pitch in for his new purchase. He is a grown man, but with me, he acts like I’m a bank account or doesn’t exist. And to the outside world he is a normal, together guy with decent job etc. I honestly don’t get it, why this attitude with me?! I don’t talk to him cause i don’t wanna refuse him yet again. This relationship became something so bizarre, so far from loving siblings’ bond. Ps my mom is from highly toxic family, she also has ton of issues. It’s just sad to grieve for lost sibling …
This is so sad. Going no contact from my brothers was so very hard, but it needed to be done. I’m grateful for my relationship with my sister. I’m so sorry too Cassie. 😢
I have nothing to do with my brothers and older half sister. Too much shit from parental behaviour passed down.
It is worse people blame you for drama they made.
Ruining the good vibes which is so toxic.
Tolerance to understanding/empathy is so rare nowadays when it isn't faked to look good.
Having trauma to wounds is gaslighted as crazy such as this.
Where can anyone confid in when anyone can set someone off?
Do I even need to watch? The title is everything. That's right. She hates her life and it's my fault. Jealous of me. Angry. And nothing I do helps. In fact, it makes it worse.
As soon as i saw the title i said that's my whole life unfortunately. I have to see this video. We're not alone in this.
I wish more videos about siblings. I know they could be treated like some other relationships but learning how to navigate types of sibling dynamics would be of great help.
I know this story very well! From abusive, toxic, narcissistic "parents and siblings." I can't handle or better tolerate negativity. I cut ties with my sister's. No regret! I let go, and I move on with my life. Much happier now. There is a reason why God part the see, there is a reason why God burned down Saddom and Gomorrah, dont look back, keep moving forward, protection let toxic people behind, you cant help them nor fix them, its not your responsibility!
Exactly! Plus they don’t want to be fixed they don’t realize they are unhealthy.
Please resolve to be a person who doesn't keep secrets from their spouse. You know the limits to this idea.
I am of the opinion that if you discussed a plan of action, you stick to that plan of action come hell or high water. This doesn't mean the plan can't change as situations change, it means you discuss the changes (when possible).
My ex-wife had a gambling problem. For her, gambling was an investment. Yes indeed, sooner or later she was gonna win "the big one". I tried to help her get over this toxic mindset, but the more I tried the more she blamed me for this toxic issue. It was all my fault that she was losing. The more she lost the more she blamed me for stressing her out and causing her to gamble even more.
People in addiction blame other people or their situation rather than take accountability
for their own actions.
it is such an important subject and so difficult, when you are trying to recover from the parental abuse and your siblings aren´t. I have two alcoholic brothers and a sister who stays with my abusive mother. I did an anourmous effort to detach and stay away from my exploitative and manipulative mother, yet I am still being pulled into the drama because of my older sister who lives with my mother, I love my sister but I hate when she keeps telling me over and over again, actually every day how my mother abuses her. it is both painful and annoying because I know my sister has a choice to leave but she acts as if she hadn´t any choice but to stay with the mother like a victim collecting abuse and chaos.
4 minutes in, codependent to the max. This is hard to listen to.
My brother contacts me only when he needs something from me, like money, or pitch in for his new purchase. He is a grown man, but with me, he acts like I’m a bank account or doesn’t exist. And to the outside world he is a normal, together guy with decent job etc. I honestly don’t get it, why this attitude with me?! I don’t talk to him cause i don’t wanna refuse him yet again. This relationship became something so bizarre, so far from loving siblings’ bond. Ps my mom is from highly toxic family, she also has ton of issues. It’s just sad to grieve for lost sibling …