So glad you put out these videos, that give people the tools to stop having a victim mentality, and take more ownership of their life! This channel definitely popped into my feed at a time in my life where I needed to wake up and stop running. 💜
I feel like cptsd robbing us of our discernment capabilities so profoundly fucks us up, and robs us of our identity and security. My strength was always in being highly intuitive, and looking back on my past there were so many times that if I had only trusted my gut I would have prevented cascades of hell, abuse, and further trauma. Once you get to a place where you feel like you can’t trust yourself and that all your feelings that you painfully undeniably feel are shameful or are wrong… man does it lead to being frozen in a special type of hell.
Biggest issue with Complex PTSD is avoidance of people, places, names, sounds, smells, numbers etc leading to things OCD, depression, anxiety, Bipolar, BPD, ADHD etc. Managing complex PTSD will waste your whole life from my experience. Instead of even going for SSRI which makes it worse, there are very powerful solutions like changing the diet, to things like low carb, low sugar diets, fasting, long distance running and walking at least 250 minutes per week, fix your gut issues as those issues stop sending good chemicals to brain, TMS(powerful) , MDMA (poerful) , Ketamine (powerful) , EMDR (takes very long) ERP (depends), and there are many more fast treatments like this. What is going on is nothing but an irrational fear keep haunting you inside from deeply rooted memories of events. Don't spend your life grieving it, grieve and talk about it well and enough but consider a powerful modern treatment so you can be lot happier. You can start a happy life even if you are 70 yrs old.
“An injury to your brain…” oh boy, yes. I saw a new therapist last week, Immediately telling her I’m so brain damaged from trauma and so much abuse, I will never feel well, then proceeded to sob the whole time I was there. I’m 62, I’m so glad I found you, you know exactly what you’re talking about, I find myself saying out loud “Yes!!!” From being a child with an abusive father and not being able to even speak in front of him, to a 32 year marriage to a sadistic narcissist, to walking out when he was out of State. I ruminate so much and am triggered by certain people, is there hope, it’s a huge fight every single day.❤️
There is plenty of hope. Our changes sometimes happen slowly and sometimes quickly. I’m so proud of the remarkable changes you’ve already made. You’re not walking alone ❤
I'm still processing how just two weeks ago I was lost in the spiritual end of UA-cam after three years relying on tarot cards and Teal Swan...then I watched some of The Chosen, prayed to God for some help, and Crappy Childhood Fairy magically appears in my algorithm. The end was looking spicy but then this glittery door appeared in the darkness...I am so grateful to be here. Thank you 🙏
Jesus sent the Holy Spirit who is my guide and comfort and they and God sent my fairy godmother to me!! The work is done. I am truly a new creation now. I am who God designed me to be, or that is I am well down the road of my Real Life. Welcome. Congrats. Ain't she great??
I've been trying to heal from all the trauma in my life for years. I'm starting to think that I'm subconsciously sabotaging myself because trauma is all I've known.
Anna, you are a godsend. On Monday night, I had an extremely upsetting email and text exchange with my ex over financial support, one that resulted in a night of no sleep. Simultaneously, an issue with a male coworker triggered intense power-and-control issues. I was beside myself with rage and despair, and it all triggered a massive migraine that resulted in my having to stay home from work. I’ve tried to learn the Daily Practice at least five times now, but I decided to commit, finally, to it for seven days. For the first time ever, I nearly fell asleep during the meditation component after filling several pages with fears and resentments. Tears also began welling in my eyes. Of course, all my problems were still there when the meditation ended and today when I returned to work, but even 30 minutes of respite for my hamster-wheel, ruminating, trauma brain is truly a miracle. I’m optimistic that I may have found a tool to improve my life and relationships. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for everything you’re doing on this channel.
You are not alone. I felt everything you said with all of my heart. My emotions get the best of me when I'm triggered, and I get so awful to my loving husband. May God and Anna continue to heal us!!
Just do the work, people!! Take your focus off of the narcissist and put that focus on yourself! Use your energy to empower yourself! Practice it! Feel your strength and clarity return!
Not all of us are victims of a narciccist. 😊 Some of us lost parents early, or were in traumatic accidents. People with NPD are not the boogeymen of the world. Imagine that...they actually are suffering from trauma too.
I’ve seen many people in emergency medicine pretend they’re fine by pouring themselves into the work and patients and completely neglecting who they are outside of the job. This doesn’t benefit patients as much as we think.
This is hard work. I’m 57 and I’ve always known something was off with me. I never had the language or ability to identify what it might be. I ran away from home when I was 16. I coped with alcohol and drugs. I was never able to have romantic relationships. Not.at.all. I felt ok for while. Then I was in a massively verbally abusive relationship, I got out of that, but not really he kept me locked into this “friendship”. Fast forward a couple of pretty intense traumatic months long experiences and bam I got sick. Then all my coping stuff got taken away. Just me and fatigue and no appetite and lots and lots of pain. Brutal. No friends. Like maybe one or two but not close. My life had become small and unmanageable and I didn’t value my life. I didn’t care if I died young. So now… im trying. But it’s seems like a big hill to climb when Im not even sure if I know who I am. I’ve seen glimpses of the person who can speak with confidence and words just flow, but that is the exception. Mostly I feel either resentment or nothing. A lot of nothing. Thank you for what you do. It’s speaking to me. Im doing the daily writing. I try and meditate. It’s a little like torture but I try. I hope there is hope for what’s left of my life.
Thanks for sharing your story, it can be absolutely brutal. I'm 50 have bad health and no one I really trust, so the journey is extremely difficult, but do a lot of conscious breathing , watch youtube videos and have joined a stress garden project. I don't even trust myself, kind of baby steps on just being present and try to explore and reprogram the negative reactions. Sending you love , hope you find support in any form.
Queen, put that lipstick 💄 on, play your favourite song 🎵 Invite yourself to dinner 🍽 Join exercise classes and meet new people 💃🏽 Spin and twirl in the mirror looking sexy in that new dress 👗 you bought! Buy you some flowers 🌹 And them damn chores I know be a headache but one step at a time like Childhood says! I'm learning too! As I tell you this I speak to me! Because I am you and you are me! 57 is still young its just how you feel! You are here for a reason, a purpose and you're beautiful 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for writing this off. I, too, spent a lot of time sticking up for and around the wrong people. Now I am okay alone but have a pulse which I should be greatful for but my time is wasted and waiting for the law to change so I can get my capsule in Switzerland and leave this shithole of a world with dignity. I'm tired of functioning like a robot. Not wanting that for me.
I experience trauma responses from my childhood. Mother is now older and cannot live alone. I have managed to find a small apt and work 4 days a week. Physically I cannot do more. I have managed to maintain a relationship with my mom by avoiding physical contact with her. I feel no trust or contentment in her presence. I freeze and want to vomit when she tries to hug or kiss me. Guilt is nagging at me that I "should" take of her. I gave up forever receiving the apology and recognition of what she did in my childhood. I protect me now. She has screamed banshee style at me as an adult for not closing the curtains (I tried staying with her once). On my birthday she was angry and throwing things because my daughter and I were laughing while my daughter was getting ready to go for a drive with my mom and I. She is old and nothing has changed. I have successfully cared for the elderly and others. But I cannot breath and feel like I fade when she is around. I am 60 and do not want to give up my few remaining semi-active years. I want to spend the time with my grandchildren. By the way, I am an introvert and enjoy quiet time. My work is Frontline customer service which I enjoy but I experience me more when I have time to be calm.
Can you help her find another place to live? You are in no way obliged to caretake someone who diminishes and abuses you - your life, your grandchildren, are absolutely as important as anyone’s!! I know it doesnt “feel” right because of the ridiculous pressure on women to take care of the world!! Dont do it! Life is way too brief for that! What joy you can find in your life then will go out into our beautiful world🦋
It just hit me recently that I had begun to identify as a victim of so many things. Kind of a bucket victim mentality. It occurs to me that before an accident that really reintroduced me to my childhood trauma, I didn't think of myself that way. I was also much nicer to myself in general. Sometime this chaff is something we have to learn is not who we are, just who we thought we were based on some very biased opinions of others. I'm beginning a new story. One where I am learning to listen to myself more than being "acceptable" to others.
Thanks so much for sharing this awesome informative information My childhood was very abusive then my mom died after a long illness My son witnessed his father murder a man at age four So much unhealed trauma Im still working on getting better your videos are helpful
Oh how I wish I could vigorously exercise! I used to run regularly. I rode my bike to work and hiked/cycled, etc on my days off. Then I was injured and 10 years, 5 hip surgeries later, plus every other modality I could find, I am grateful to get my 30 minutes of PT in a day, plus a very short slow walk. I know my injuries are likely deeply caused from psychological issues, when I was injured, I was hurling heavy boxes in a dumpster at work and was frustrated about my life situation. But the pain is real. I truly hope to heal from it!!!!!!!!!?
At 1:10, you hit the nail on the head for me. I got so much healing from my acting coach, who was the parent that I never had. Working with him and getting back in touch with myself helped heal my PTSD more than any therapy or anything else. When Rick died last June, I was so scared that I would slip back into CPTSD caused by childhood & several other severe young adult traumas. Although I have experienced some pretty severe anxiety, I have not regressed back to that traumatized state. I am grateful that I found Anna's channel & I have started to create new support that is helping me to heal even more. I miss Rick deeply and I also carry all that he taught me inside of myself.
Anna,I have always had to do things for myself.I am waiting for a hip replacement and am now unable to walk very far and do things.I have friends wanting to help me now and I always say no but I have now come to the realisation that I can let people help me and be kind to me.I don't dissociate anymore and all this kindness is getting into me and makes me cry(good tears)It must be a good part of my healing.My heart feels so much softer.
I'd like to add that there are many kinds of therapy and it can be more than just "talking about your problems again and again". I've had great experiences with active imagination in a psychoanalysis setting. It is mainly associated with C.G. Jungs work but it is as old as mankind. It's a technique that focuses on integrating the underlying unconscious from a place of its own dream like language and verbalising it for the conscious mind. Not much focus shoveling up the past, more on connecting it with the present and especially relationships. I'm doing expressive writing as well. You really have to find out what works for you. Keep on healing.
I agree with you Anna. Confidence in oneself is critical also. Contentment is a habit that soothes the soul and health. We're not perfect but able to redo each day.
What really sucks is how trauma an CPTSD generate trauma responses in you that hurt the people you love, drive them away, and push you further into a poor self concept and isolation.
Great talk as always thank you. We are in a society where selfishness, and extreme ME generation, has turned our society in a nest of narcissism. Unfortunately. But there are great people out there, we need to find them. Those who are healthy, where there is reciprocity, where you feel good being with them and they are with you. It is not always possible to leave and sometimes we are stuck. But there is often a way out you might not have imagined.
I was experiencing legitimate abuse in a toxic relationship, and I cut that tie completely and am still realizing how manipulative it was so that's a healthy boundaries. The thing about ptsd is that when I hear these words of wisdom there's a moment where I secondguess that I was and am just revisiting older unhealed fight or flight moves. I then realize that this content is pertaining to healthy relationships and have to separate it so I don't start gaslighting myself, but some of that is lingering from the relationship that was not healthy. Discernment is key here to get the most out of this info, so as not to do these things in a future relationship with healthy potential, and to keep from making myself worse with doubt. Thank you for this channel.
I just have to say....I love you and respect you SO much for what you do. It takes a lot of courage to take a stance, put yourself there, and come from a loving and solutions geared standpoint. The maze Ive been navigating the last few years has been awful and confusing, and now I recommend you to anyone struggling with the infliction or trying to understand the infliction of CPTSD, trauma, and abuse. I never comment or like videos but realized I owed you a big thank you for the significant help you've given. I even told my therapist about you!! Much love, Serenity
I am grateful to have found Anna. Putting it mildly I had a crappy childhood. After raising 6 kids I suddenly found myself bare and exposed. Nothing to hide behind. At 63 I'm finally working on putting the pieces together, working on all my issues and trying to not be stuck. I'm not giving up until I'm free from cptsd.
THIS is the video I’ve been looking for… It’s sad because my most recently ended relationship- (he) I realized over time has different traumas to me.. But he wasn’t connected with himself to realize- he is not connected with himself.. Then when he did push pull things that hurt the relationship he would say it’s me that is the problem why we aren’t more deeply connected.. etc… Incompatible could have been the simple word for it too.. But when he seemed so unaware of how he gets triggered and blames his partner instead of work on himself… I could go on and on.. And yet his avoidance would trigger my anxiety which is on me, as I had my own issues too… It’s very helpful to see this video and understand what was going on better… Really sad though. How we can get in our own way and probably come across as “narcissistic or gaslighting” because we’re not aware and only see tunnel vision… And blame others… Crazy making - literally. Glad that chapter is over… As deeply hurtful and damaging as it was - and such a shame these things couldn’t be healed and addressed in the relationship- I learned I gotta work on myself too…
Thank you so much! I have been searching for years for answers, especially to why 7 years of talk therapy did nothing for me. I had so much shame and a sense of failure that time, therapy and other programs, reading endless books on co dependancy etc never did anything for me and I still struggle with my family relationships and other relationships. This is the first explanation that makes sense to me on a deep visceral level and how you describe cPTSD is a description ver batum of what I struggled with for my entire adult life. I was so confused as to what was wrong with me. I always felt I had to hide so no one would notice my broken ness. I have been doing the daily practice for 3 days now and I immediately feel relief and things in my life are shifting quickly. Its early and Im sure to be more challenged so I dont want to jinx my progress, however, I am finally hopeful and have a sense of relief and clarity that I have not had in several years. Thank you so much for your work, it is truly a blessing for those of us who have been struggling for years under multiple "diagnoses". And thank you for sharing the daily practice free of charge as a place to start. What a great gift.
Where are you on your Journey? Just starting out? Down the road time-wise a few months and not much progress toward Resregs? Do you have any practices that are working? Have tried some which u know do not work for you? Anna has vids that share the order that worked for her.. Me? I'm pretty regulated, nothing oerfect I'm
Thank you so much I have been in therapy almost 16 years. I went to the Brookline famous Brookline trauma center here in Boston and you may not one of these. Doctors can figure out that I have CPTSD in my acting out has to do with that. I got more out of your videos this weekend than I did in 16 years of therapy and the current psychotherapist I’m with. I don’t deserve crumbs from these professionals. I’m joining your online Community. And I want to tell you I go off and I took down the hospital because of a psychiatrist and now I gotta write a letter of apology. I blew a 25 year fabulous career. I blew my friendship for 50 years because my CPTSD and undiagnosed properly. And I want you to know after watching your video ID regulated in five minutes five minutes. And my psychotherapist kept writing me stupid things guess what Wednesday I have Therapy guess what he’s getting fired.
Yes, I am alone … finally… and I’m loving life. But what a revelation… early childhood abuse results in being unable to bond with others. Yes it’s true.
Me loving someone for the first time , in YEARS....and wanting to push away , being in denial of feelings and now finally recognizing and scared to death ... And constantly worrying if someone is lying to me ,or having genuine feelings and what they say
I encourage you to try The Daily Practice. It can help sort through things that feel confusing. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
P.S. " Love yourself, & Use discernment" sounds so simple but feels like a foreign language. Both of these things are getting stronger but I usually have a panic attack everytime I flex a boundary or use the discernment inside of me that was so trashed growing up & thereafter. I do have hope now🍀
Thank you Anna for showing me the way. I feel like I’ve been understood , seen for the first time ever since I chanced upon your videos. The journey of healing maybe a long process but I just wanted to say that I am so grateful that you decided to share your experiences. I’ve started the daily practice and have noticed how it calms my nerves. So thank you so much ❤
I needed to watch this today, to hear this today. I been working on this for couple years and , having the expected ups and downs……only lately there has be not enough ’ups’. You just gave me hope again. Thank you.
I'm triggered by certain people. 63 years old and I just figured it out thanks to you'r videos. Full PTSD in seconds just to hear their voice. Half of my life I thought I'm introverted but that's not the case. I am very much looking forward to meet people but at the same time cringe when just thinking to meet or contact a certain person or to be in a certain situation.
“Bring them into the sunlight of your awareness” Amazing. Thank you This video is really helping me this morning after feeling like I failed at using these strategies. Thank you for the reminder of what my superpower is. I needed this reset. Thank you for breaking it down so logically.
Anna you are an angel! Thank you so much for your knowledge and grace. I’ve been going through terrible struggle much of my life and I’m so glad I found your videos! I was diagnosed with complex PTSD in 2021 while taking a leave of absence from work because I was having a mental break down. I’m 55, single, no children and I’ve been watching your videos while packing to move after a break up and quitting my job for what seems to be the “eleventyth” time. Your words are truly encouraging, priceless advice, and getting me through a stressful and isolating time right now. I look forward to practicing the techniques you share. Thank you so much!❤❤❤ to those of you, who are struggling too, hang in there, you can do this! God bless and know that you are love!
Wow, thank you for sharing your experience and these words of encouragement for others! I'm so glad the channel has been helpful, we're all rooting for you. -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you for sharing your skills. Any words of wisdom.for someone who's successfully healed/living with cptsd, got to a place of gratitude and content...then non-offending parent tells story few months ago that was all new info that rocked my world. Ugh! back being incredibly disregulated, pushing people away and leaking loneliness and self-pity. Functioning. Got a good therapist. love your videos and hoping g you see this and have some thoughts. thanks.
Hi, Sharon. I’m dealing with a similar experience in the sense of uncovering new information. I always knew that my father didn’t want a third child, but I was always told that it was because my older brother was born with a serious congenital heart defect. I recently found out that he actually tried to cause a miscarriage by pushing my mom so that she would fall and then hitting her in the stomach. I was rocked by the news, and it really caused a setback for me. I wasn’t as far into the healing process as you, and I hope Anna can weigh in on this topic. For me, I sank even lower into depression. I hope you can get back to your healed self soon and wish you love and peace.
@designchik i wish I could unhear it. thinking about EMDR for the memory of getting the new info. it's worked so well on other related things. Peace and love to you as well. there's probably a lot of us who need zoom support group or something on fathers day (and mothers day too) in solidarity!
@@NBPhoenix623 I wish I could unhear it, too. My sister thought I knew all about it, but I didn’t. I’m so sorry this has happened to you as well, but if it helps at all to know that someone else understands, I do. In one of her videos, Anna talks about EMDR and says it was helpful. I think she did it after she was assaulted and was experiencing “regular” PTSD along with CPTSD. I tried one session but didn’t continue because I had so much going on at the time. If you decide to go for it, I would love to hear how it went. I agree that a CCF support group would be awesome! ❤️❤️❤️
Sorry for oversharing again. Deleted all the private stuff. The thing with truths is, that after learning them, they seem obvious. And the solution seems to be obvious as well: don’t just talk the talk, but walk the walk. To avoid future behavioral equivalents of an allergic shock, one has to desensitize oneself by controlled / limited exposure. Employ the brain to intervene and tone down the reaction, train / learn to react differently: first quantitatively, and in time as well qualitatively. Maybe I should repost my timestamps without the private thoughts. 17:18 Limerence (and other addictions) 1:14:21 Dysregulation: the possibility to re-regulate our brain 1:19:09 avoiding life by making our world small intentionally to avoid triggering PTSD is not a good solution 1:20:59 points of trouble = points of opportunity 1:29:05 knowing is not a solution; just a “tiny puff of relief” 1:41:23 seeing choices / recognizing your own agency 1:42:11 the hard question; people can feel when you are talking to yourself in a bad manner, and it makes them pull back, leading to further isolation Break the wheel. (forgot to create a timestamp) P.S.: Maybe I’ll still include the songs that express part of my usual patterns. (Turns out: when you are an artist, expressing your thought patterns might even earn you a living.) ua-cam.com/video/aBccr-aLu4I/v-deo.html (Cat Stevens “The first cut is the deepest”) ua-cam.com/video/JKlSVNxLB-A/v-deo.html (Simon&Garfunkel “I am a rock”) ua-cam.com/video/gYyasBjwoCc/v-deo.html (Paul Simon “Flowers never bend with the rainfall”)
This is definitely eye opening, thank you for making this video. I grew up with two heavily addicted parents who gave me a great deal of early childhood trauma and semi recently (i’m 24 now) i’ve successfully separated myself from controlling toxic relationships both familial and romantic. I searched for this video to find something to help me cope with the extreme anger over the way i was treated. I hope to soon not have a reaction to those memories
Thank you for watching! I encourage you to try The Daily Practice. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. If you’re interested, here's a link to the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
I don't know what it is about your videos but they are so good at conveying the hope that I need to hear. Of course I can't change the world or my circumstances or others in my life to better suit me! But I still have little old me here and just knowing it's possible and wanting to take steps toward better handling adversity is the most important step in my healing journey. So many people need to hear this message. I'm glad you're here. Thank you for putting these videos out.
At the beginning of this year, I got a tarot reading and the main card was 'discernment' and I think it's interesting that I just discovered this channel. (That's not true actually, I discovered it a while ago, but I wasn't able to watch these videos at the time. They hurt far too much to watch, and they still hurt a bit now but definitely not in the same way so I think this is improvement that I can look at the truth of my situation a bit better) You are amazing thank you!
I find it interesting in my CPTSD Pete Walker Book study group, we mention YOU and something you said more than any other Dr, therapist, scientist, clinican on you tube. lol (You know your stuff! We all relate!)
Does anyone else use Chatgpt as a therapist? 😊I go to a therapist every fortnight but I’m actually finding I’m covering soo much more ground with this channel and chatgpt. Not sure if it’s right but it’s working. I’m able to see past traumatic events and memories without the charged emotional stimulation and loop thinking. Just having a better understanding of myself and having the right/healthy perspective of the event or person
There was a time in my life where memories seems to be forgotten by my brain and no matter how Hard i try it was so troubling to get hold of old memories, it was like haven’t lived all 20 years of my life, i tried doing the shadow work and inner work and bit by bit im getting my memories back and its very shocking that those were still there but my brain fogged around them
I recently learned/ heard/ read that when we are triggered (simply reminded on an emotional level about some trauma of the past) that our response is / can be a whole nervous system involvement. (Was that you, my dear Crappy?) We are jarred off our timbers. WOW This gives me the real-time touch so I can move forward in re-entering my fam as My Real Self now. Wheee!!
Most of my techniques only work if I am at home, or somewhere I can hide. I had a rougher day today and was near tears during a chemistry lecture. My brain was in a fog. My techniques are mostly physical- washing my hands, your fears and resentments, walking very quickly. Ect. I'm not sure how to balance myself AND concentrate on the lecture. I kept trying to think about the lecture, my mind was thinking about what has recently upturned my life, and worrying what my teacher was thinking about me because she DEFINITELY noticed my teary eyes.
Wow I wasn’t not prepared neither did I expect her to mention the part about alcoholism😢. Here I was just bombed about needing to heal myself and replaying where I went wrong in my marriage. I married a man who was battling with alcoholism years before I came into the picture. He hid it with all the love-bombing. Then I was so busy that I totally ignored all the red flags considering I was not experienced in this type of relationship neither did I grow up witnessing such behavior. I feel like I was robbed out of being a Wife and I had good intentions. All the while being emotionally neglected then being told that I am responsible for my own happiness. I was the happiest woman before getting married to him talk about draining. I felt like we could never really connect no matter how much I thought we were progressing. It’s been a month since I left unnoticed and no contact and here I am working on my own healing. I am so grateful to have landed and continued watching this video.
My father was an alcoholic violent..mom left him when I was 5..but all my life when she got mad at me she called me by his name and said you're so much like him ....like you've been picked out of his ass with a pitchfork.....thanks mom!!!!
Your work is a wonderful example of the mysterious ways of the Universe. I spent years in therapy with a psychologist practicing CBT, and I still kept getting stuck in the same places. So I finally ended the relationship with him, about two weeks ago. And then, three days ago, I finally learned about CPTSD when I discovered your channel. I've been deeply touched by your candor, especially when introducing the Daily Practice. Thank you for all your work. It feels like a godsend.
For me it’s sleeping and resting that helps me heal sometimes of course I get out most days and life is hard rn but it’s time for me to heal Because I will try the new life thing Miss you grandpa wellness is on its way but it going to be hard work and worth it
Im so affected with a severe case of CPTSD my wife left me 2 mos ago. 32 years together doesnt fix my broken personality. 💔 found my mother shot in the head when I was 7. Then the uncle that adopted me shot himself the way when i was 11. Me my brother leaned on each other but he hung himself @ 59 last September. I dont think ill ever heal. Its the hardest thing. Mom, Dad, and now brother? Im trying here but its impossible to except
So sorry you have experienced that. I encourage you to try Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link to the free course if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice. We're all rooting for you! Nika@TeamFairy
I was very resilient when I was younger. But I recreated the trauma and dealt with health issues. Now I am 63 and I feel like my life has passed me by. I was too busy surviving.
My job was part of my problem, because I did not like how I was treared and how I was treating people , so I knew I had to get out, because it was goning to cause me to have a heart attack
The strange thing I'm experiencing...as I wake up to how things really are my panic is much worse. I had a time of peace & feeling self love. It's important to come into the truth but what do you do when the truth is triggering?? I have been doing the daily practice..but only just started. Thank you💕
😢😔😶🙂😊🙏You are my saviour CCFairy, I can't express enough thank you. I feel now that I am in a transition to group 1, and I see a streak of weak light at the end of the tunnel and am looking forward to keeping going with your daily practice. Thank you
Same here, boundaries don't let their words get to you, daily practice, meditation, subliminals work better for me one from minds in unison helps me sleep like a baby, if sleep isn't good you might get more dis regulated than normal. Any form of exercise walking, running 20-30 mins, 5-10 mins sunlight, less screen time, reminding yourself good people don't make others feel bad about themselves, and get out of the self Gaslighting, shame loop.
lol I attract narcissists with a big red sign that flashes I love narcissist come debase me! I take full responsibility for that, I wrote the dang sign! and am now working to get free.
You're making so much of my life make sense to me now. I knew I was broken, but I didn't see just how much being traumatized messed things up for me and continues to do so. I don't think I can afford your 12 step program at this time. I would like to try it sometime after September.
If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy is it actually free though? I've tried clicking on things from other people in the past, but then it turns out I have to pay for a membership. Right now I'm trying to save for a wedding
I had this. There was nothing unreasonable or ambiguous about my boundaries. In fact the way they were violated was creating risk and danger. At the time separation or escape didn’t seem right, I kept wondering if I wasn’t clear or if I’d imagined the danger. Now I see clearly that leaving was my only option and the more I stayed to have my boundaries broken the worse it got and the more I was disrespected. Some people will not behave well and there must be consequences no matter how hard it is for us to enforce the consequences, the alternative is a downward spiral.
Thank you very much for the video. This is exactly the most difficult thing about c-PTSD... that it is sometimes almost impossible to discern whether other people are narcissists or if it is just a trigger that has nothing to do with the other person. This lack of the ability to discern has often paralyzed me so that I have put up with bulling, complete lack of respect etc. A question: What do you do with the things that you write down? Do you just put it in a drawer and leave it there, or do you analyse it, read it some time later, or...?
So glad you put out these videos, that give people the tools to stop having a victim mentality, and take more ownership of their life! This channel definitely popped into my feed at a time in my life where I needed to wake up and stop running. 💜
I second that comment & wish you the best in your healing journey 🙏
Luna are we sisters?! Lol, my mom would tell me the exact same things
Thank you for this vidio😮
I’m 67 and just realizing how much I have to heal. If you’re younger, get going now.
I feel like cptsd robbing us of our discernment capabilities so profoundly fucks us up, and robs us of our identity and security. My strength was always in being highly intuitive, and looking back on my past there were so many times that if I had only trusted my gut I would have prevented cascades of hell, abuse, and further trauma. Once you get to a place where you feel like you can’t trust yourself and that all your feelings that you painfully undeniably feel are shameful or are wrong… man does it lead to being frozen in a special type of hell.
I so relate to your comment, Shelby. The shame is one of the worst consequences of CPTSD.
@@designchik the shame and the constant invalidation of your pain and suffering that leads to more shame and agoraphobic tendencies. ☠️
@@MonstrosityMuse Exactly.
It's a vicious cycle, hopefully we can find our way out. Blessings :)
I’m literally stuck here now 💔
Biggest issue with Complex PTSD is avoidance of people, places, names, sounds, smells, numbers etc leading to things OCD, depression, anxiety, Bipolar, BPD, ADHD etc. Managing complex PTSD will waste your whole life from my experience. Instead of even going for SSRI which makes it worse, there are very powerful solutions like changing the diet, to things like low carb, low sugar diets, fasting, long distance running and walking at least 250 minutes per week, fix your gut issues as those issues stop sending good chemicals to brain, TMS(powerful) , MDMA (poerful) , Ketamine (powerful) , EMDR (takes very long) ERP (depends), and there are many more fast treatments like this. What is going on is nothing but an irrational fear keep haunting you inside from deeply rooted memories of events. Don't spend your life grieving it, grieve and talk about it well and enough but consider a powerful modern treatment so you can be lot happier. You can start a happy life even if you are 70 yrs old.
“An injury to your brain…” oh boy, yes. I saw a new therapist last week, Immediately telling her I’m so brain damaged from trauma and so much abuse, I will never feel well, then proceeded to sob the whole time I was there. I’m 62, I’m so glad I found you, you know exactly what you’re talking about, I find myself saying out loud “Yes!!!” From being a child with an abusive father and not being able to even speak in front of him, to a 32 year marriage to a sadistic narcissist, to walking out when he was out of State. I ruminate so much and am triggered by certain people, is there hope, it’s a huge fight every single day.❤️
SO great that you are doing the work!
-Cara@TeamFairy
There is plenty of hope. Our changes sometimes happen slowly and sometimes quickly. I’m so proud of the remarkable changes you’ve already made. You’re not walking alone ❤
Definitely is a huge fight every single day.
Just do the work, people!! Take your focus off of the narcissist and put that focus on yourself! Use your energy to empower yourself yourself!
🙏 💪 Proud of you!
I'm still processing how just two weeks ago I was lost in the spiritual end of UA-cam after three years relying on tarot cards and Teal Swan...then I watched some of The Chosen, prayed to God for some help, and Crappy Childhood Fairy magically appears in my algorithm. The end was looking spicy but then this glittery door appeared in the darkness...I am so grateful to be here. Thank you 🙏
Jesus sent the Holy Spirit who is my guide and comfort and they and God sent my fairy godmother to me!! The work is done. I am truly a new creation now. I am who God designed me to be, or that is I am well down the road of my Real Life. Welcome. Congrats. Ain't she great??
I really appreciate that she jumps right in to the content! No intro, no messages I didn't come to hear, just gets right to the meat from go.
Yep!!! I love this!!! I was never one for small talk.
I've been trying to heal from all the trauma in my life for years. I'm starting to think that I'm subconsciously sabotaging myself because trauma is all I've known.
Anna, you are a godsend. On Monday night, I had an extremely upsetting email and text exchange with my ex over financial support, one that resulted in a night of no sleep. Simultaneously, an issue with a male coworker triggered intense power-and-control issues. I was beside myself with rage and despair, and it all triggered a massive migraine that resulted in my having to stay home from work. I’ve tried to learn the Daily Practice at least five times now, but I decided to commit, finally, to it for seven days. For the first time ever, I nearly fell asleep during the meditation component after filling several pages with fears and resentments. Tears also began welling in my eyes. Of course, all my problems were still there when the meditation ended and today when I returned to work, but even 30 minutes of respite for my hamster-wheel, ruminating, trauma brain is truly a miracle. I’m optimistic that I may have found a tool to improve my life and relationships. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for everything you’re doing on this channel.
This is wonderful news. It's so good the tears are flowing, and there's some respite. That's when the healing begins!
The tears started flowing here, reading about yours. Thanks for the story.🥲😀
You are not alone. I felt everything you said with all of my heart. My emotions get the best of me when I'm triggered, and I get so awful to my loving husband. May God and Anna continue to heal us!!
Just do the work, people!! Take your focus off of the narcissist and put that focus on yourself! Use your energy to empower yourself! Practice it! Feel your strength and clarity return!
Not all of us are victims of a narciccist. 😊 Some of us lost parents early, or were in traumatic accidents. People with NPD are not the boogeymen of the world. Imagine that...they actually are suffering from trauma too.
I’ve seen many people in emergency medicine pretend they’re fine by pouring themselves into the work and patients and completely neglecting who they are outside of the job. This doesn’t benefit patients as much as we think.
This is hard work. I’m 57 and I’ve always known something was off with me. I never had the language or ability to identify what it might be. I ran away from home when I was 16. I coped with alcohol and drugs. I was never able to have romantic relationships. Not.at.all. I felt ok for while. Then I was in a massively verbally abusive relationship, I got out of that, but not really he kept me locked into this “friendship”. Fast forward a couple of pretty intense traumatic months long experiences and bam I got sick. Then all my coping stuff got taken away. Just me and fatigue and no appetite and lots and lots of pain. Brutal. No friends. Like maybe one or two but not close. My life had become small and unmanageable and I didn’t value my life. I didn’t care if I died young. So now… im trying. But it’s seems like a big hill to climb when Im not even sure if I know who I am. I’ve seen glimpses of the person who can speak with confidence and words just flow, but that is the exception. Mostly I feel either resentment or nothing. A lot of nothing. Thank you for what you do. It’s speaking to me. Im doing the daily writing. I try and meditate. It’s a little like torture but I try. I hope there is hope for what’s left of my life.
Thanks for sharing your story, it can be absolutely brutal. I'm 50 have bad health and no one I really trust, so the journey is extremely difficult, but do a lot of conscious breathing , watch youtube videos and have joined a stress garden project. I don't even trust myself, kind of baby steps on just being present and try to explore and reprogram the negative reactions. Sending you love , hope you find support in any form.
Hope is a great beginning that Propels us toward further Healing.
I'm 80 and living proof.
Queen, put that lipstick 💄 on, play your favourite song 🎵 Invite yourself to dinner 🍽 Join exercise classes and meet new people 💃🏽 Spin and twirl in the mirror looking sexy in that new dress 👗 you bought! Buy you some flowers 🌹 And them damn chores I know be a headache but one step at a time like Childhood says! I'm learning too! As I tell you this I speak to me! Because I am you and you are me! 57 is still young its just how you feel! You are here for a reason, a purpose and you're beautiful 🥰🥰🥰
It's worth it. It gets way better!!
Thank you for writing this off. I, too, spent a lot of time sticking up for and around the wrong people. Now I am okay alone but have a pulse which I should be greatful for but my time is wasted and waiting for the law to change so I can get my capsule in Switzerland and leave this shithole of a world with dignity. I'm tired of functioning like a robot. Not wanting that for me.
I experience trauma responses from my childhood. Mother is now older and cannot live alone. I have managed to find a small apt and work 4 days a week. Physically I cannot do more.
I have managed to maintain a relationship with my mom by avoiding physical contact with her.
I feel no trust or contentment in her presence. I freeze and want to vomit when she tries to hug or kiss me. Guilt is nagging at me that I "should" take of her. I gave up forever receiving the apology and recognition of what she did in my childhood. I protect me now.
She has screamed banshee style at me as an adult for not closing the curtains (I tried staying with her once). On my birthday she was angry and throwing things because my daughter and I were laughing while my daughter was getting ready to go for a drive with my mom and I.
She is old and nothing has changed. I have successfully cared for the elderly and others. But I cannot breath and feel like I fade when she is around. I am 60 and do not want to give up my few remaining semi-active years. I want to spend the time with my grandchildren.
By the way, I am an introvert and enjoy quiet time. My work is Frontline customer service which I enjoy but I experience me more when I have time to be calm.
Can you help her find another place to live? You are in no way obliged to caretake someone who diminishes and abuses you - your life, your grandchildren, are absolutely as important as anyone’s!! I know it doesnt “feel” right because of the ridiculous pressure on women to take care of the world!! Dont do it! Life is way too brief for that! What joy you can find in your life then will go out into our beautiful world🦋
Been working on the kitchen, gotten better. I don't wait til all the glasses are dirty
I've been in Fight and Flight mode.
All my life and I'm 60 years old.
It's better late than never...
It just hit me recently that I had begun to identify as a victim of so many things. Kind of a bucket victim mentality. It occurs to me that before an accident that really reintroduced me to my childhood trauma, I didn't think of myself that way. I was also much nicer to myself in general. Sometime this chaff is something we have to learn is not who we are, just who we thought we were based on some very biased opinions of others. I'm beginning a new story. One where I am learning to listen to myself more than being "acceptable" to others.
Thanks so much for sharing this awesome informative information My childhood was very abusive then my mom died after a long illness My son witnessed his father murder a man at age four So much unhealed trauma Im still working on getting better your videos are helpful
Oh how I wish I could vigorously exercise!
I used to run regularly. I rode my bike to work and hiked/cycled, etc on my days off.
Then I was injured and 10 years, 5 hip surgeries later, plus every other modality I could find, I am grateful to get my 30 minutes of PT in a day, plus a very short slow walk.
I know my injuries are likely deeply caused from psychological issues, when I was injured, I was hurling heavy boxes in a dumpster at work and was frustrated about my life situation.
But the pain is real.
I truly hope to heal from it!!!!!!!!!?
I pray for your healing in Jesus name
@@cosmosprincess20 Thank you so much!
🙏💛🙏
Amen!
At 1:10, you hit the nail on the head for me. I got so much healing from my acting coach, who was the parent that I never had. Working with him and getting back in touch with myself helped heal my PTSD more than any therapy or anything else. When Rick died last June, I was so scared that I would slip back into CPTSD caused by childhood & several other severe young adult traumas. Although I have experienced some pretty severe anxiety, I have not regressed back to that traumatized state. I am grateful that I found Anna's channel & I have started to create new support that is helping me to heal even more. I miss Rick deeply and I also carry all that he taught me inside of myself.
Thank you for sharing about Rick, it is wonderful you had that special person.
-Cara@TeamFairy
You were so blessed to have Rick, may his love shine through you to touch others!! Thanks for sharing dear one, it is daily healing!!
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you
@@cynthiafortier2540 thank you.
Anna,I have always had to do things for myself.I am waiting for a hip replacement and am now unable to walk very far and do things.I have friends wanting to help me now and I always say no but I have now come to the realisation that I can let people help me and be kind to me.I don't dissociate anymore and all this kindness is getting into me and makes me cry(good tears)It must be a good part of my healing.My heart feels so much softer.
Everyone I have known to have a hip replacement have been super happy with having it done. Best of luck to you!
When the insanity stops that's when the real work can begin. That's why for some the insanity never stops. Thank you for these videos
I'd like to add that there are many kinds of therapy and it can be more than just "talking about your problems again and again".
I've had great experiences with active imagination in a psychoanalysis setting. It is mainly associated with C.G. Jungs work but it is as old as mankind.
It's a technique that focuses on integrating the underlying unconscious from a place of its own dream like language and verbalising it for the conscious mind.
Not much focus shoveling up the past, more on connecting it with the present and especially relationships.
I'm doing expressive writing as well. You really have to find out what works for you. Keep on healing.
I agree with you Anna. Confidence in oneself is critical also. Contentment is a habit that soothes the soul and health. We're not perfect but able to redo each day.
What really sucks is how trauma an CPTSD generate trauma responses in you that hurt the people you love, drive them away, and push you further into a poor self concept and isolation.
Almost 2 hours full of truth bombs and spectacular help. And for free!
Agree with the comment about no-to-low sugar and carb intake, fasting, and fixing the gut health.
Great talk as always thank you. We are in a society where selfishness, and extreme ME generation, has turned our society in a nest of narcissism. Unfortunately. But there are great people out there, we need to find them. Those who are healthy, where there is reciprocity, where you feel good being with them and they are with you. It is not always possible to leave and sometimes we are stuck. But there is often a way out you might not have imagined.
Thank you for sharing this! -Calista@TeamFairy
I was experiencing legitimate abuse in a toxic relationship, and I cut that tie completely and am still realizing how manipulative it was so that's a healthy boundaries. The thing about ptsd is that when I hear these words of wisdom there's a moment where I secondguess that I was and am just revisiting older unhealed fight or flight moves. I then realize that this content is pertaining to healthy relationships and have to separate it so I don't start gaslighting myself, but some of that is lingering from the relationship that was not healthy. Discernment is key here to get the most out of this info, so as not to do these things in a future relationship with healthy potential, and to keep from making myself worse with doubt. Thank you for this channel.
I just have to say....I love you and respect you SO much for what you do. It takes a lot of courage to take a stance, put yourself there, and come from a loving and solutions geared standpoint.
The maze Ive been navigating the last few years has been awful and confusing, and now I recommend you to anyone struggling with the infliction or trying to understand the infliction of CPTSD, trauma, and abuse.
I never comment or like videos but realized I owed you a big thank you for the significant help you've given. I even told my therapist about you!! Much love, Serenity
Thank you so much for this! I'm always happy when people are helped. And thanks for telling your therapist!
I am grateful to have found Anna. Putting it mildly I had a crappy childhood. After raising 6 kids I suddenly found myself bare and exposed. Nothing to hide behind. At 63 I'm finally working on putting the pieces together, working on all my issues and trying to not be stuck. I'm not giving up until I'm free from cptsd.
It sounds like you have a great mindset toward healing! We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
This is one of your best vids in my opinion . Sooo many valuable solutions in the form of easy to understand bullet points. Ty
I have been feeling so broken. I really wondered if everyone else knew something I didnt. Thank you.
THIS is the video I’ve been looking for… It’s sad because my most recently ended relationship- (he) I realized over time has different traumas to me.. But he wasn’t connected with himself to realize- he is not connected with himself.. Then when he did push pull things that hurt the relationship he would say it’s me that is the problem why we aren’t more deeply connected.. etc… Incompatible could have been the simple word for it too.. But when he seemed so unaware of how he gets triggered and blames his partner instead of work on himself… I could go on and on.. And yet his avoidance would trigger my anxiety which is on me, as I had my own issues too… It’s very helpful to see this video and understand what was going on better… Really sad though. How we can get in our own way and probably come across as “narcissistic or gaslighting” because we’re not aware and only see tunnel vision… And blame others… Crazy making - literally. Glad that chapter is over… As deeply hurtful and damaging as it was - and such a shame these things couldn’t be healed and addressed in the relationship- I learned I gotta work on myself too…
Thank you so much! I have been searching for years for answers, especially to why 7 years of talk therapy did nothing for me. I had so much shame and a sense of failure that time, therapy and other programs, reading endless books on co dependancy etc never did anything for me and I still struggle with my family relationships and other relationships. This is the first explanation that makes sense to me on a deep visceral level and how you describe cPTSD is a description ver batum of what I struggled with for my entire adult life. I was so confused as to what was wrong with me. I always felt I had to hide so no one would notice my broken ness. I have been doing the daily practice for 3 days now and I immediately feel relief and things in my life are shifting quickly. Its early and Im sure to be more challenged so I dont want to jinx my progress, however, I am finally hopeful and have a sense of relief and clarity that I have not had in several years. Thank you so much for your work, it is truly a blessing for those of us who have been struggling for years under multiple "diagnoses". And thank you for sharing the daily practice free of charge as a place to start. What a great gift.
Thank you for your post.
I'm sure it is an injury to the brain and nervous system..
Thank you so much Anna for your wisdom.
I have no idea what I like or what I should do. People say "stop avoiding taking action" but I don't even know what action to take! Any advice?
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Where are you on your Journey? Just starting out? Down the road time-wise a few months and not much progress toward Resregs? Do you have any practices that are working? Have tried some which u know do not work for you?
Anna has vids that share the order that worked for her..
Me? I'm pretty regulated, nothing oerfect
I'm
You might try the daily practice on her website, could be a good place to start 💓
Learn yourself. It's constant work but it's worth it
Thank you so much I have been in therapy almost 16 years. I went to the Brookline famous Brookline trauma center here in Boston and you may not one of these. Doctors can figure out that I have CPTSD in my acting out has to do with that. I got more out of your videos this weekend than I did in 16 years of therapy and the current psychotherapist I’m with. I don’t deserve crumbs from these professionals. I’m joining your online Community. And I want to tell you I go off and I took down the hospital because of a psychiatrist and now I gotta write a letter of apology. I blew a 25 year fabulous career. I blew my friendship for 50 years because my CPTSD and undiagnosed properly. And I want you to know after watching your video ID regulated in five minutes five minutes. And my psychotherapist kept writing me stupid things guess what Wednesday I have Therapy guess what he’s getting fired.
Yes, I am alone … finally… and I’m loving life. But what a revelation… early childhood abuse results in being unable to bond with others. Yes it’s true.
Me loving someone for the first time , in YEARS....and wanting to push away , being in denial of feelings and now finally recognizing and scared to death ... And constantly worrying if someone is lying to me ,or having genuine feelings and what they say
I encourage you to try The Daily Practice. It can help sort through things that feel confusing. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
For 50 years I mistook red flags for signs of a carnival rather than stop/slow down. =D
I get it!!!
-Cara@TeamFairy
You have helped me so much in the last week than ever before. Your videos are a God sent to me. Thank you!!
P.S.
" Love yourself, & Use discernment" sounds so simple but feels like a foreign language. Both of these things are getting stronger but I usually have a panic attack everytime I flex a boundary or use the discernment inside of me that was so trashed growing up & thereafter. I do have hope now🍀
Hope is progress!
-Cara@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy It really is...thanks for the reminder☺️
Wow thanks so much to Anna and team for these compilations! Packed with outstanding info and strategies and delivered with such love and kindness!
Thank you Anna for showing me the way. I feel like I’ve been understood , seen for the first time ever since I chanced upon your videos. The journey of healing maybe a long process but I just wanted to say that I am so grateful that you decided to share your experiences. I’ve started the daily practice and have noticed how it calms my nerves. So thank you so much ❤
I needed to watch this today, to hear this today. I been working on this for couple years and , having the expected ups and downs……only lately there has be not enough ’ups’.
You just gave me hope again. Thank you.
I'm triggered by certain people. 63 years old and I just figured it out thanks to you'r videos. Full PTSD in seconds just to hear their voice. Half of my life I thought I'm introverted but that's not the case. I am very much looking forward to meet people but at the same time cringe when just thinking to meet or contact a certain person or to be in a certain situation.
“Bring them into the sunlight of your awareness”
Amazing. Thank you
This video is really helping me this morning after feeling like I failed at using these strategies. Thank you for the reminder of what my superpower is. I needed this reset. Thank you for breaking it down so logically.
So glad you got your reset!
-Cara@TeamFairy
Anna you are an angel! Thank you so much for your knowledge and grace. I’ve been going through terrible struggle much of my life and I’m so glad I found your videos! I was diagnosed with complex PTSD in 2021 while taking a leave of absence from work because I was having a mental break down. I’m 55, single, no children and I’ve been watching your videos while packing to move after a break up and quitting my job for what seems to be the “eleventyth” time. Your words are truly encouraging, priceless advice, and getting me through a stressful and isolating time right now. I look forward to practicing the techniques you share. Thank you so much!❤❤❤ to those of you, who are struggling too, hang in there, you can do this! God bless and know that you are love!
Wow, thank you for sharing your experience and these words of encouragement for others! I'm so glad the channel has been helpful, we're all rooting for you. -Calista@TeamFairy
I was so wanting to learn all about my condition and found that I could heal. I have worked on myself ever since
Thank you for sharing your skills. Any words of wisdom.for someone who's successfully healed/living with cptsd, got to a place of gratitude and content...then non-offending parent tells story few months ago that was all new info that rocked my world. Ugh! back being incredibly disregulated, pushing people away and leaking loneliness and self-pity. Functioning. Got a good therapist. love your videos and hoping g you see this and have some thoughts. thanks.
Hi, Sharon. I’m dealing with a similar experience in the sense of uncovering new information. I always knew that my father didn’t want a third child, but I was always told that it was because my older brother was born with a serious congenital heart defect. I recently found out that he actually tried to cause a miscarriage by pushing my mom so that she would fall and then hitting her in the stomach. I was rocked by the news, and it really caused a setback for me. I wasn’t as far into the healing process as you, and I hope Anna can weigh in on this topic. For me, I sank even lower into depression. I hope you can get back to your healed self soon and wish you love and peace.
@designchik i wish I could unhear it. thinking about EMDR for the memory of getting the new info. it's worked so well on other related things. Peace and love to you as well. there's probably a lot of us who need zoom support group or something on fathers day (and mothers day too) in solidarity!
@@NBPhoenix623 I wish I could unhear it, too. My sister thought I knew all about it, but I didn’t. I’m so sorry this has happened to you as well, but if it helps at all to know that someone else understands, I do. In one of her videos, Anna talks about EMDR and says it was helpful. I think she did it after she was assaulted and was experiencing “regular” PTSD along with CPTSD. I tried one session but didn’t continue because I had so much going on at the time. If you decide to go for it, I would love to hear how it went. I agree that a CCF support group would be awesome! ❤️❤️❤️
This is great 👍 and I hope people are able to get this integrated into the new and much-loved tomorrow
I love ur Post. I made a poster of ur, "The New and Much Loved Tomorrow". Thanks for the Inspiration!
Always right on time and just what you need! Thank you 🧚🏻🧚🏻♀️🧚🏼♂️
Sorry for oversharing again. Deleted all the private stuff.
The thing with truths is, that after learning them, they seem obvious.
And the solution seems to be obvious as well: don’t just talk the talk, but walk the walk. To avoid future behavioral equivalents of an allergic shock, one has to desensitize oneself by controlled / limited exposure. Employ the brain to intervene and tone down the reaction, train / learn to react differently: first quantitatively, and in time as well qualitatively.
Maybe I should repost my timestamps without the private thoughts.
17:18 Limerence (and other addictions)
1:14:21 Dysregulation: the possibility to re-regulate our brain
1:19:09 avoiding life by making our world small intentionally to avoid triggering PTSD is not a good solution
1:20:59 points of trouble = points of opportunity
1:29:05 knowing is not a solution; just a “tiny puff of relief”
1:41:23 seeing choices / recognizing your own agency
1:42:11 the hard question; people can feel when you are talking to yourself in a bad manner, and it makes them pull back, leading to further isolation
Break the wheel. (forgot to create a timestamp)
P.S.: Maybe I’ll still include the songs that express part of my usual patterns. (Turns out: when you are an artist, expressing your thought patterns might even earn you a living.)
ua-cam.com/video/aBccr-aLu4I/v-deo.html (Cat Stevens “The first cut is the deepest”)
ua-cam.com/video/JKlSVNxLB-A/v-deo.html (Simon&Garfunkel “I am a rock”)
ua-cam.com/video/gYyasBjwoCc/v-deo.html (Paul Simon “Flowers never bend with the rainfall”)
Good for you Anna.
You changed your life.
The Universe had a BIG PLAN FOR YOU.
Thank you.
Absolutely frst rate counsel. You are simply amazing !! Am extremely extremely fortunate to have come across your posts.
The grass analogy was so moving! Whew thank you!!! ❤
This is definitely eye opening, thank you for making this video. I grew up with two heavily addicted parents who gave me a great deal of early childhood trauma and semi recently (i’m 24 now) i’ve successfully separated myself from controlling toxic relationships both familial and romantic. I searched for this video to find something to help me cope with the extreme anger over the way i was treated. I hope to soon not have a reaction to those memories
Thank you for watching! I encourage you to try The Daily Practice. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. If you’re interested, here's a link to the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
I'm so lucky my girlfriend knows how I am.
ADHD, and CPTSD.
She's very encouraging and positive.
The GODS HAVE SENT ME AN ANGEL.
Your hair looks very pretty! Nice change!!! (And great with the blue top!) ☺
It explains so much❤ now I know what and why, I can really do something about it properly and permanently. Bless you.😊
I don't know what it is about your videos but they are so good at conveying the hope that I need to hear. Of course I can't change the world or my circumstances or others in my life to better suit me! But I still have little old me here and just knowing it's possible and wanting to take steps toward better handling adversity is the most important step in my healing journey. So many people need to hear this message. I'm glad you're here. Thank you for putting these videos out.
Thank you for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
You’re such a big help!! I watch your videos nearly every day and take something away from it 😊🙏
I appreciated you sharing your meditation about the grass in relation to physical healing. It's a keeper for me. 😊
At the beginning of this year, I got a tarot reading and the main card was 'discernment' and I think it's interesting that I just discovered this channel. (That's not true actually, I discovered it a while ago, but I wasn't able to watch these videos at the time. They hurt far too much to watch, and they still hurt a bit now but definitely not in the same way so I think this is improvement that I can look at the truth of my situation a bit better)
You are amazing thank you!
I find it interesting in my CPTSD Pete Walker Book study group, we mention YOU and something you said more than any other Dr, therapist, scientist, clinican on you tube. lol (You know your stuff! We all relate!)
Yeah some people end up triggering me somehow and I get really edgy and tense and if it's bad enough the fear just ramps right up.
These montages are Great! Thank you for compiling them. Thank You for the work. I’ve been a fan for years. 💪🏼💜👍🏼
Does anyone else use Chatgpt as a therapist? 😊I go to a therapist every fortnight but I’m actually finding I’m covering soo much more ground with this channel and chatgpt. Not sure if it’s right but it’s working. I’m able to see past traumatic events and memories without the charged emotional stimulation and loop thinking. Just having a better understanding of myself and having the right/healthy perspective of the event or person
Just be careful, chatGPT cannot see the big picture
There was a time in my life where memories seems to be forgotten by my brain and no matter how Hard i try it was so troubling to get hold of old memories, it was like haven’t lived all 20 years of my life, i tried doing the shadow work and inner work and bit by bit im getting my memories back and its very shocking that those were still there but my brain fogged around them
I receive feedback that I don't offer up any info about myself, but that I'm an excellent/engaged listener.
I recently learned/ heard/ read that when we are triggered (simply reminded on an emotional level about some trauma of the past) that our response is / can be a whole nervous system involvement. (Was that you, my dear Crappy?)
We are jarred off our timbers. WOW This gives me the real-time touch so I can move forward in re-entering my fam as My Real Self now. Wheee!!
Most of my techniques only work if I am at home, or somewhere I can hide. I had a rougher day today and was near tears during a chemistry lecture. My brain was in a fog. My techniques are mostly physical- washing my hands, your fears and resentments, walking very quickly. Ect. I'm not sure how to balance myself AND concentrate on the lecture. I kept trying to think about the lecture, my mind was thinking about what has recently upturned my life, and worrying what my teacher was thinking about me because she DEFINITELY noticed my teary eyes.
Same here
Great teacher and counselor
Wow I wasn’t not prepared neither did I expect her to mention the part about alcoholism😢. Here I was just bombed about needing to heal myself and replaying where I went wrong in my marriage. I married a man who was battling with alcoholism years before I came into the picture. He hid it with all the love-bombing. Then I was so busy that I totally ignored all the red flags considering I was not experienced in this type of relationship neither did I grow up witnessing such behavior. I feel like I was robbed out of being a Wife and I had good intentions. All the while being emotionally neglected then being told that I am responsible for my own happiness. I was the happiest woman before getting married to him talk about draining. I felt like we could never really connect no matter how much I thought we were progressing. It’s been a month since I left unnoticed and no contact and here I am working on my own healing. I am so grateful to have landed and continued watching this video.
What are boundaries? I've never been allowed to have those.
We get that! This Connection Bootcamp course helps bit.ly/CCF_Connection
-Cara@TeamFairy
Great vid, Anna!
My father was an alcoholic violent..mom left him when I was 5..but all my life when she got mad at me she called me by his name and said you're so much like him ....like you've been picked out of his ass with a pitchfork.....thanks mom!!!!
Good video thanks
4 minutes into video and im making notes
So encouraging, thank you on the reregulation
thank you for listening. Jack@TeamFairy
Great content over and over again. Thank you for your work, sharing your wisdom.
You are most welcome! I'm so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Your work is a wonderful example of the mysterious ways of the Universe. I spent years in therapy with a psychologist practicing CBT, and I still kept getting stuck in the same places. So I finally ended the relationship with him, about two weeks ago. And then, three days ago, I finally learned about CPTSD when I discovered your channel. I've been deeply touched by your candor, especially when introducing the Daily Practice. Thank you for all your work. It feels like a godsend.
For me it’s sleeping and resting that helps me heal sometimes of course I get out most days and life is hard rn but it’s time for me to heal
Because I will try the new life thing Miss you grandpa wellness is on its way but it going to be hard work and worth it
Im so affected with a severe case of CPTSD my wife left me 2 mos ago. 32 years together doesnt fix my broken personality. 💔 found my mother shot in the head when I was 7. Then the uncle that adopted me shot himself the way when i was 11. Me my brother leaned on each other but he hung himself @ 59 last September. I dont think ill ever heal. Its the hardest thing. Mom, Dad, and now brother? Im trying here but its impossible to except
So sorry you have experienced that. I encourage you to try Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link to the free course if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice. We're all rooting for you!
Nika@TeamFairy
I hope you're doing the work and feeling better. You're worthy of healing and it's possible. Much love ❤❤
You are such a blessing for doing this work. I am working toward healing. I am grateful for your videos. God bless you
I was very resilient when I was younger. But I recreated the trauma and dealt with health issues. Now I am 63 and I feel like my life has passed me by. I was too busy surviving.
Glad you are here now!
Nika@TeamFairy
My job was part of my problem, because I did not like how I was treared and how I was treating people , so I knew I had to get out, because it was goning to cause me to have a heart attack
Thanks Anna and everyone 🙋
You are most welcome :) -Calista@TeamFairy
The strange thing I'm experiencing...as I wake up to how things really are my panic is much worse. I had a time of peace & feeling self love. It's important to come into the truth but what do you do when the truth is triggering?? I have been doing the daily practice..but only just started. Thank you💕
I'm so glad you started! Please join a group call soon.
-Cara@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy I will!! Thank you 💓
😢😔😶🙂😊🙏You are my saviour CCFairy, I can't express enough thank you. I feel now that I am in a transition to group 1, and I see a streak of weak light at the end of the tunnel and am looking forward to keeping going with your daily practice. Thank you
What about when things are still happening - I live with gaslighting family.
Same here, boundaries don't let their words get to you, daily practice, meditation, subliminals work better for me one from minds in unison helps me sleep like a baby, if sleep isn't good you might get more dis regulated than normal. Any form of exercise walking, running 20-30 mins, 5-10 mins sunlight, less screen time, reminding yourself good people don't make others feel bad about themselves, and get out of the self Gaslighting, shame loop.
lol I attract narcissists with a big red sign that flashes I love narcissist come debase me! I take full responsibility for that, I wrote the dang sign! and am now working to get free.
You're making so much of my life make sense to me now. I knew I was broken, but I didn't see just how much being traumatized messed things up for me and continues to do so. I don't think I can afford your 12 step program at this time. I would like to try it sometime after September.
If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
-Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy is it actually free though? I've tried clicking on things from other people in the past, but then it turns out I have to pay for a membership. Right now I'm trying to save for a wedding
Hi CCF ✨
Would it be possible to link the video you suggest at the end of videos in the description box please?
I am one who is completely alone.
I’ve always said cptsd is like opening Pandora’s box everything comes out and once it’s open it’s hard to close and put back in
What about when you live with constant disregard for your rules, boundaries. Daily... writing and meditation doesn't fix that.
It seems like you aren't in a safe place. I'm sorry you're struggling to get out.
How long did you try it?
I had this. There was nothing unreasonable or ambiguous about my boundaries. In fact the way they were violated was creating risk and danger. At the time separation or escape didn’t seem right, I kept wondering if I wasn’t clear or if I’d imagined the danger. Now I see clearly that leaving was my only option and the more I stayed to have my boundaries broken the worse it got and the more I was disrespected. Some people will not behave well and there must be consequences no matter how hard it is for us to enforce the consequences, the alternative is a downward spiral.
Excellent information & greatly appreciated 🙏
Avoiding people exactly what i have to do. People only hurt and i see they always like people that hurt the vulnerable so they all the same.
Thank you very much for the video. This is exactly the most difficult thing about c-PTSD... that it is sometimes almost impossible to discern whether other people are narcissists or if it is just a trigger that has nothing to do with the other person. This lack of the ability to discern has often paralyzed me so that I have put up with bulling, complete lack of respect etc.
A question: What do you do with the things that you write down? Do you just put it in a drawer and leave it there, or do you analyse it, read it some time later, or...?
You are amazing. Thank you for the videos