Knowledge is power. The more you study and know your audience you give yourself permission to rise above their toxic/harmful behavior. Awesome content 👍🏽👍🏽
I’ve let too many days be ruined because I cared about what they thought of me. I think I’ve finally crossed that hurdle. I’ve let it go and now I can “put it on the shelf” and enjoy my days. 😊
I’ve literally been watching your videos for two years straight. My relationship of 3 years ended May 2020 and within the same month I stumbled across one of your videos. Now anytime I’m having a toxic thought or obsessing over them I head straight to UA-cam to just listen to a video of yours. Thank you!
Thank you I only wish I heard this month's ago. I had a long rough road in accepting who he is. However I'm out 6 months! I'm happy and life is great and gets better every day!
Wow!…these 2 videos really spoke to me. The thing that spoke to me the most was the going back to self, focusing on yourself, doing self care to handle these kinds of situations. That was huge…thanks Stephanie. You rock!
Stephanie, I've been watching your videos for about a year now. I came across your videos when I first separated from my ex a year ago. You have played a pivotal role in my healing process. I've had a few therapists but honestly, you've been my best therapist. I'll listen to your videos while driving, before bed, while exercising. You are just so spot on regarding narcissists and relationship. If it weren't for your videos, I'm not sure I would be in such a healthy place today so from the bottom of my heart, thank you. Please keep making these videos. They changed my life and I'm sure they are changing others' lives as well.
Stephanie, your knowledge on these topics is extremely validating. My healing process has excelarated bc of you. Thank you so much for creating this content. May revealed blessings surround you forever 🙏 ✨️
My toxic adult daughters have told me that I’m not taking accountability for my actions and I’m blame shifting because I’ve finally called them out on their abusive behavior towards me and told them that they can’t verbally and emotionally abuse me ( for years ) They’re 40 and 32 years old and expect me not to finally react to it and so I guess standing up for myself is not taking responsibility or accountability for my actions ~ I even suggested counseling together and they said no.
@Trudy * it’s so hard to understand how our own kids can treat us so horrible 😰 it’s not easy saying that I’ve had enough because I still wonder some days if I really did enough and if what they’re telling me is true and maybe I’m not taking accountability and I really am blame shifting but I have to remember I know my truth no I wasn’t a perfect mom but yes I did my best while being married to their covert narcissist dad for 37 years and having my oldest at 16 Yes I did the best that I could at that time and I have to keep telling myself that and not get dragged back into those toxic thoughts that keep me from healing. I’m sorry that I going through this also. ( Hugs ) 💕
My toxic adult children took over where their father left off, and now they abuse me. 8 years ago it was so terrible that I went no contact and have never looked back. They can't emotionally abuse their mother, they can't throw me into the street with no money and no where to go, and they can't sit back and watch my narc brother abuse me. I've had enough.
@@KaleCasanova I’m so sorry that you’re going through that but enough is enough it’s so hard to understand how our own family can treat us this way but be proud of yourself for standing up and saying you’re not going to treat me this way any more because that takes a lot of strength and you did it💕
Thank you very much for this timely video because I'm still having a lot of trouble not reacting to those amongst us who delight in hurting their fellow humans! In fact, I told a highly narcissistic and disturbed man I know to f**k off recently, as he expects me to stop whatever I'm doing to keep him company for hours when he spots me while I'm out and about. I'm 62 years old and he's about 40 and I've known him on and off for many years, which is a very long story. I finally managed to get him to leave me alone for a couple of years, but made a HUGE mistake by getting caught up with him one night. He's difficult to get away from though and follows, or walks along with, people when they say they have to go. He also comes across as a shy and sweet person, yet he's dangerous, especially in regard to women. He used to talk to me about issues with his on/off ex and felt like I was a mother figure at first, until he rang and dumped her AGAIN one night, then propostioned me, as he thought that I wanted to sleep with him. I can assure you that I've never had any attraction to him whatsoever! Unfortunately, I ended up having an accident at home about two months ago and hurt my head and broke my collarbone, which was partly caused by the stress with him and an abusive family member. I'm getting carried away again (too late though), so I'll stop myself. I'll do my best to memorise the responses and, hopefully, I'll be safe because this man is a self-confessed vindictive person. ❤
Ohhh jeez I can relate to how you’re feeling and what you’re dealing with! You sound like a really empathetic person that seems to be taken advantage of by terrible people. That’s how my story goes!
I've been struggling with this lately. I've definitely have been ruminating over the past about those who hurt me. Definitely has to do with low self esteem and insecurity on my part. Happy Friday Steph 🙂
Omgosh! I have listened to so so so very many videos trying to help me fix myself. And I had learned alot from so many of them, BUT you are the 1st person who has been able to articulate EVERYTHING my ex did and said. I am 1 year into no contact or really, no control over me. So his last ditch effort was to call Child protective Services on me because I was not doing what he thought I should be (mainly not hearing and believing his crap) also every time he kept trying to come back to me and lie to his next supply about what he was doing, I would copy her on all his messages.... he didn't take that too well. Anyway, all has turned out well and his accusations to DCF were Unfounded. Anyway, you are amazing! You stated everything word for word about what I had gone through!
Thank you for the insightful video. I did as you say, didn't react, and felt saying anything was futile. Later, I wished I'd said this or that. What you say punctuates the fact that sometimes there's no point and we just need to let the wound up toxic person go. I also appreciated the ending, about putting it on the shelf and moving on. It's so easy to ruminate but when we understand there are no words that will fix someone, searching for the right ones doesn't work because there are none.
Wow 🤩 Your key messages were so on point 🙏🏽 I was that person, stuck in emotional wounds that I was unconscious to.Psycho-education allowed me to step into my power & lean back. I began to trust in my healing process, knowing that the more I did the inner work the sooner I would be able to confidently exit for good. RUN 💃🏽| Keep moving forward 🌞 | CELEBRATE 🎉
Stephanie you're brilliant. When you said allowing people to think what they think about you and being indifferent about it and how that's power and then you laughed about it. It made me realize that's one of my triggers. My wife always triggers me with like you're stupid or you're lazy stuff like that and if I can just be in different about it I think I will retain the power versus giving her the power. I'm going to try it out I think it's going to work so I wanted to thank you personally for making this video..
Stephanie: This talk is especially insightful and the ideas expressed are important for everyone to learn and digest and practice. I am truly grateful to you for this video.
By the end of every weekend I am EXHAUSTED and so grateful to go back to work to be away from my narcissistic husband. Memorial Day weekend I finally saw the light. After 10 years of an emotionally abusive and controlling marriage .. I realized I needed help. Not only for me but our 2 year old son. I’m really working on getting some strength back thru weekly therapy and videos like yours. I feel strong thru out the week as I have limited time with the narcissistic husband. But by the end of the weekend all of that strength is gone. I don’t want to keep giving him the power of ruining my day. Our son is possibly autistic … narc refuses to acknowledge that this could be an issue. Narc also loved at work and works midnights so is never with our son for long. He gets to be fun for a few mins and thru mind games and gas lighting … comes and goes as he pleases. I despise how by the end of the weekend, even tho he does work most of it or sleeps most of it or goes out with his friends I’m drained. The watching my moves on our ring doorbell and constant calls while he is at work… he might as well be home. I want to get stronger. I’m going to watch this over and over. As I’m working so hard. I’ve learned my mom was a covert narcissistic person who to this day is still never happy. My childhood of trying to make her happy has shaped me. I see it now. But sooo much work and so scary to face traumas. Thank you for this content. You touch so many lives!
Thanks to you Stephanie, today I see my ex-wife exactly as she is, the ugly truth, without masks and without the ability to pretend, the pain that runs in my heart and body has almost disappeared, to your credit, I am still learning the terms you present here and there in your videos, my native language is Hebrew And for me to completely understand everything you present takes a little more time than someone who speaks the English language, it's very interesting and fascinates me every time, thank you again Stephanie, I wish you great success in everything you do and will continue to do,✊🏽
This was amazing and I have added this to one that I will watch over and over. Thank you. I’m able to practice this sometimes but sometimes I take it so personally or sometimes I fight back and it’s pointless. I can’t wait until I get to the point to becoming fully indifferent to this person. The freedom & power will be joyous!
There IS light at the end of the tunnel. There IS life after narcissist hell/loss. Know, KNOW it’s going to be ok. Know that help is on the way. I’m living proof. These videos helped… a lot. Take one step at a time. And Eventually, you will live in a state of peace. I wish I could explain. I wish I could put into words what it’s like to make it through this. I can’t. Just know what you’re going through will get better. ❤️🩹
It’s definitely not easy work BUT… you can do it! I’m doing it it’s possible and it does work! I’m aware of things I’ve never been aware before! I’m so grateful ❤
Excellent presentation Madam on Disengage from detractors.Cools down the nerves.Aftermath after professional narc abuse become easy to overcome after your practical tips.Let Go is a good philosophy from you and remain unfazed .Thank you Madam. 🙏☺️
Thank you Stephanie for this wonderful video, it brings together lots of things I've been trying to put in practice and brings to light some things I hadn't thought of such as not allowing negative interactions to ruin my day as its easy to allow them bring you down and not let go of them, so you feel sad for some time so that's something I need to pay particular attention to.
Hi , in a relationship with a great partner who uses few days of silent treatment as a punishment. We have broken up before where he came crying back. Vice versa. Seems like an anxious attachment but there is immense respect and faith on love and future. It is his personality to go silent not just with me but almost everyone in his life. When his parents disagreed with something, he left his house. When his friends disagreed, he left them. Im trying to break these patterns and so I do love him but I am going to start practice being unphased. For the first time I haven't called, texted or said anything. Ive gone about my day and I have reached out to friends. But I am not unphased as I keep waiting for his call/message. It's not easy friends, to remove someone you love from your heart, but to break patterns of toxic and immature behaviour being the mature one is important and you must do it for yourself more than for the other person. Their sadness should not affect you, their tears or small talk, or words should not matter. That is true self growth. You may love them but you don't need to put up with how they behave towards you. If they can't eat what they serve, tough luck If they want to leave, they can. Good luck
Hey coach. Excellent advice as always. Was wondering if you could do a vid or 2 on the statistical probability of having a psychologically impaired person in your sphere of influence. I've always read that the socio, psycho, narc person was a minority in society however personal experience has lead me to the opposite conclusion. Wondering if you could expound on the topic. Thanks coach.
Thank you so much for this. As someone who was in a 10 year relationship with a narcissist, and still now 6 1/2 years later, dealing with him, it is certainly draining. I have gotten better over the years, but it’s still very hard. Constant blame and name calling, accusations and projecting, threats to take me to court, etc. The worst part is he is the father of my two children. As they have gotten older (they are 10 and 12 now), they are realizing things and dealing with his behaviors. And they will feel the stress from the things he texts them and the guilt trip tactics he uses. I am considering looking into counseling for them via church. How can I help them through this in a healthy way? What advice can you offer.? So very appreciate what you do.
Hello Stephanie, just letting you know that the link to your self-parenting course is taking viewers to the page in Kajabi's Preview mode. The message says: "You are in Preview mode! Payments are disabled. Edit Offer". Same on last video ;-)
It's ironic my ex narc watches you. He's said/done everything you've said! He doesn't see that he's narcissistic and toxic but of course misused what he learned to also use against me.
Oh I can tell you living with a narcissist can be a daily ordeal. Every day I wonder how she will push a button and start some trouble. And nearly every day she does. Even knowing what I know about narcissist tactics, she can still find a way to say or do something to trigger my anger, a personal jab at me or my family, or something generally offensive to my values. On a good day I laugh it off, on a bad day I get right in her face and call out her crap. I'm a red blooded healthy strong man, not a simp who backs off and takes it. I've watched many videos from many people on this subject and it's always 2 options to deal with this problem. Either move out or accept it and learn to deal with it. How about option 3.....get right back in their stupid face and give it back to them even worse so they think twice about screwing with your head? Why should I have to uproot my entire life because of some ass who doesn't know how to treat people? That's not fair to me. I say if it's war they want, then they are going to have to fight very hard until they get it thru their thick skull I'm not s pushover. Screw narcissists. Screw understanding they maybe were abused. Doesn't give them the right to abuse innocent people. Break the cycle.
What about when my abuser used this when i was reacting to belittle me more as if i was just randomly acting wrong.. 10 years broke me i couldnt control myself i became toxic when she abused me i lost empathy for her i just couldnt handle how it seemed only to her she was allowed to do things that everyone else says is wrong.. yet to me i knew i was loosing myself who i knew i was.. she has apologized using my words.. saying how she just "couldnt handle how i was treating her" always always always ignoring the abuse that always ended up with me reacting poorly... as healing as your words are in this video they are also triggering because of how many times she tried to train me to be indifferent to her abuse so that i would be easier to control... she would scream at me to stop reacting but never ever felt bad for hurting me so painfully... she would ignore me for hours on end treating me like i dont deserve a second of her time then when i lost it it was always "breathe dont react i wont be talked to this way im going to be your consequence you will learn love yourself" which is supposed to be good things.. but they hurt because i needed to do all those things AND leave her. It hurt because she refused still to see her part and blamed me for all of it. I question everyday if i was the problem.. if i should have just accepted her abuse and not reacted just like she wanted me to then there would be no problems. Never her stopping the abuse... never...
What if you're not in a relationship but for some reason this is still happening to you, but you don't know who or why? So it leaves you lost, trying to figure it out and you end up with your brain worse than it was prior to... whatever the heck is going on. What do you do then? When you are not sure who exactly it is that has the issue or control over your life.
Are you asked why you got for us you got something to bring for me what kind of something you can bring for me has something for it you got something to eat
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Knowledge is power. The more you study and know your audience you give yourself permission to rise above their toxic/harmful behavior. Awesome content 👍🏽👍🏽
Don't allow the person who didn't love you, keep you from the one who will.
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I’ve let too many days be ruined because I cared about what they thought of me. I think I’ve finally crossed that hurdle. I’ve let it go and now I can “put it on the shelf” and enjoy my days. 😊
Thank you for every single word. Your advice is POWER when dealing with abusive narcisistic people.
I’ve literally been watching your videos for two years straight. My relationship of 3 years ended May 2020 and within the same month I stumbled across one of your videos. Now anytime I’m having a toxic thought or obsessing over them I head straight to UA-cam to just listen to a video of yours. Thank you!
If you don’t have any expectations, no one can hurt you
Yes!✨️💯
Doing this more and more taking their power away over me it empowers you by not being reactive where they have own their own bs
This is awesome stuff. Once they can't play they don't stay. The best thing for you!
Thank you I only wish I heard this month's ago. I had a long rough road in accepting who he is. However I'm out 6 months! I'm happy and life is great and gets better every day!
This is extremely empowering and insightful. Never get tired of watching your videos, Stephanie. Thank you!
Healthy is simple and sweet! Awesome
Wow!…these 2 videos really spoke to me. The thing that spoke to me the most was the going back to self, focusing on yourself, doing self care to handle these kinds of situations. That was huge…thanks Stephanie. You rock!
Stephanie, I've been watching your videos for about a year now. I came across your videos when I first separated from my ex a year ago. You have played a pivotal role in my healing process. I've had a few therapists but honestly, you've been my best therapist. I'll listen to your videos while driving, before bed, while exercising. You are just so spot on regarding narcissists and relationship. If it weren't for your videos, I'm not sure I would be in such a healthy place today so from the bottom of my heart, thank you. Please keep making these videos. They changed my life and I'm sure they are changing others' lives as well.
For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.
Your videos have honestly helped me so much with dealing with my anxious attachment style. So grateful I found your channel.
Stephanie, your knowledge on these topics is extremely validating. My healing process has excelarated bc of you. Thank you so much for creating this content. May revealed blessings surround you forever 🙏 ✨️
My toxic adult daughters have told me that I’m not taking accountability for my actions and I’m blame shifting because I’ve finally called them out on their abusive behavior towards me and told them that they can’t verbally and emotionally abuse me ( for years ) They’re 40 and 32 years old and expect me not to finally react to it and so I guess standing up for myself is not taking responsibility or accountability for my actions ~ I even suggested counseling together and they said no.
@Trudy * it’s so hard to understand how our own kids can treat us so horrible 😰 it’s not easy saying that I’ve had enough because I still wonder some days if I really did enough and if what they’re telling me is true and maybe I’m not taking accountability and I really am blame shifting but I have to remember I know my truth no I wasn’t a perfect mom but yes I did my best while being married to their covert narcissist dad for 37 years and having my oldest at 16 Yes I did the best that I could at that time and I have to keep telling myself that and not get dragged back into those toxic thoughts that keep me from healing.
I’m sorry that I going through this also. ( Hugs ) 💕
Adults choose their family
My toxic adult children took over where their father left off, and now they abuse me. 8 years ago it was so terrible that I went no contact and have never looked back. They can't emotionally abuse their mother, they can't throw me into the street with no money and no where to go, and they can't sit back and watch my narc brother abuse me. I've had enough.
@@KaleCasanova I’m so sorry that you’re going through that but enough is enough it’s so hard to understand how our own family can treat us this way but be proud of yourself for standing up and saying you’re not going to treat me this way any more because that takes a lot of strength and you did it💕
Epic. Thank you so much, your videos are exactly what I needed!
Thank you very much for this timely video because I'm still having a lot of trouble not reacting to those amongst us who delight in hurting their fellow humans!
In fact, I told a highly narcissistic and disturbed man I know to f**k off recently, as he expects me to stop whatever I'm doing to keep him company for hours when he spots me while I'm out and about.
I'm 62 years old and he's about 40 and I've known him on and off for many years, which is a very long story. I finally managed to get him to leave me alone for a couple of years, but made a HUGE mistake by getting caught up with him one night. He's difficult to get away from though and follows, or walks along with, people when they say they have to go.
He also comes across as a shy and sweet person, yet he's dangerous, especially in regard to women.
He used to talk to me about issues with his on/off ex and felt like I was a mother figure at first, until he rang and dumped her AGAIN one night, then propostioned me, as he thought that I wanted to sleep with him. I can assure you that I've never had any attraction to him whatsoever!
Unfortunately, I ended up having an accident at home about two months ago and hurt my head and broke my collarbone, which was partly caused by the stress with him and an abusive family member.
I'm getting carried away again (too late though), so I'll stop myself. I'll do my best to memorise the responses and, hopefully, I'll be safe because this man is a self-confessed vindictive person. ❤
Ohhh jeez I can relate to how you’re feeling and what you’re dealing with! You sound like a really empathetic person that seems to be taken advantage of by terrible people. That’s how my story goes!
Wish you all the best Stephanie. You are significant person and you are helpful for so many of us who is searching for true life.
Yes! Be completely indifferent
Thank you so so so much Stephanie, your valuable insight is much appreciated!
I've been struggling with this lately. I've definitely have been ruminating over the past about those who hurt me. Definitely has to do with low self esteem and insecurity on my part. Happy Friday Steph 🙂
Omgosh! I have listened to so so so very many videos trying to help me fix myself. And I had learned alot from so many of them, BUT you are the 1st person who has been able to articulate EVERYTHING my ex did and said. I am 1 year into no contact or really, no control over me. So his last ditch effort was to call Child protective Services on me because I was not doing what he thought I should be (mainly not hearing and believing his crap) also every time he kept trying to come back to me and lie to his next supply about what he was doing, I would copy her on all his messages.... he didn't take that too well. Anyway, all has turned out well and his accusations to DCF were Unfounded.
Anyway, you are amazing! You stated everything word for word about what I had gone through!
Thank you for the insightful video. I did as you say, didn't react, and felt saying anything was futile. Later, I wished I'd said this or that. What you say punctuates the fact that sometimes there's no point and we just need to let the wound up toxic person go. I also appreciated the ending, about putting it on the shelf and moving on. It's so easy to ruminate but when we understand there are no words that will fix someone, searching for the right ones doesn't work because there are none.
Wow 🤩 Your key messages were so on point 🙏🏽 I was that person, stuck in emotional wounds that I was unconscious to.Psycho-education allowed me to step into my power & lean back. I began to trust in my healing process, knowing that the more I did the inner work the sooner I would be able to confidently exit for good. RUN 💃🏽| Keep moving forward 🌞 | CELEBRATE 🎉
Stephanie you're brilliant. When you said allowing people to think what they think about you and being indifferent about it and how that's power and then you laughed about it. It made me realize that's one of my triggers. My wife always triggers me with like you're stupid or you're lazy stuff like that and if I can just be in different about it I think I will retain the power versus giving her the power. I'm going to try it out I think it's going to work so I wanted to thank you personally for making this video..
Thank you for brilliant observations and excellent advice. 😊
Stephanie: This talk is especially insightful and the ideas expressed are important for everyone to learn and digest and practice. I am truly grateful to you for this video.
Thank you for your help your videos are very helpful in my life with family and friends 😃
You are right miss Stephanie I need to start set boundaries with people and in every area sincerely yours Mrs Amber McCutchen
Repeat:”Father, Thou art Harmony. Let me reflect Thy harmony. Harmonize my error stricken dear one”
This video reminds me of the serenity prayer...Again Stephanie..Thank you!!!
By the end of every weekend I am EXHAUSTED and so grateful to go back to work to be away from my narcissistic husband. Memorial Day weekend I finally saw the light. After 10 years of an emotionally abusive and controlling marriage .. I realized I needed help. Not only for me but our 2 year old son. I’m really working on getting some strength back thru weekly therapy and videos like yours. I feel strong thru out the week as I have limited time with the narcissistic husband. But by the end of the weekend all of that strength is gone. I don’t want to keep giving him the power of ruining my day. Our son is possibly autistic … narc refuses to acknowledge that this could be an issue. Narc also loved at work and works midnights so is never with our son for long. He gets to be fun for a few mins and thru mind games and gas lighting … comes and goes as he pleases. I despise how by the end of the weekend, even tho he does work most of it or sleeps most of it or goes out with his friends I’m drained. The watching my moves on our ring doorbell and constant calls while he is at work… he might as well be home. I want to get stronger. I’m going to watch this over and over. As I’m working so hard. I’ve learned my mom was a covert narcissistic person who to this day is still never happy. My childhood of trying to make her happy has shaped me. I see it now. But sooo much work and so scary to face traumas. Thank you for this content. You touch so many lives!
I love the practical advice thank you so much
Thanks to you Stephanie, today I see my ex-wife exactly as she is, the ugly truth, without masks and without the ability to pretend, the pain that runs in my heart and body has almost disappeared, to your credit, I am still learning the terms you present here and there in your videos, my native language is Hebrew And for me to completely understand everything you present takes a little more time than someone who speaks the English language, it's very interesting and fascinates me every time, thank you again Stephanie, I wish you great success in everything you do and will continue to do,✊🏽
Thank you Stephanie.
This was amazing and I have added this to one that I will watch over and over. Thank you. I’m able to practice this sometimes but sometimes I take it so personally or sometimes I fight back and it’s pointless. I can’t wait until I get to the point to becoming fully indifferent to this person. The freedom & power will be joyous!
Same here. Hugs
Good stuff here. I needed this channel 10’years ago.
There IS light at the end of the tunnel. There IS life after narcissist hell/loss.
Know, KNOW it’s going to be ok.
Know that help is on the way.
I’m living proof.
These videos helped… a lot.
Take one step at a time. And Eventually, you will live in a state of peace.
I wish I could explain. I wish I could put into words what it’s like to make it through this. I can’t. Just know what you’re going through will get better. ❤️🩹
Phenomenal advice!
Thank you Stephanie! 💚
Fabulous information - thanks, Stephanie!!! ❤
It’s definitely not easy work BUT… you can do it! I’m doing it it’s possible and it does work! I’m aware of things I’ve never been aware before! I’m so grateful ❤
This is a fabulous video! This is the way to interact with these toxic people.
Excellent presentation Madam on Disengage from detractors.Cools down the nerves.Aftermath after professional narc abuse become easy to overcome after your practical tips.Let Go is a good philosophy from you and remain unfazed .Thank you Madam. 🙏☺️
Thank you for this
Amazing 🙌🏼 both of these videos were incredible. Thank you! ♥️
I was expecting this topic ! Thanks 😊
Thank you Stephanie for this wonderful video, it brings together lots of things I've been trying to put in practice and brings to light some things I hadn't thought of such as not allowing negative interactions to ruin my day as its easy to allow them bring you down and not let go of them, so you feel sad for some time so that's something I need to pay particular attention to.
thank you so much for the advices, I'm grateful for your compassion to share such insightful information
Hi , in a relationship with a great partner who uses few days of silent treatment as a punishment. We have broken up before where he came crying back. Vice versa. Seems like an anxious attachment but there is immense respect and faith on love and future. It is his personality to go silent not just with me but almost everyone in his life. When his parents disagreed with something, he left his house. When his friends disagreed, he left them. Im trying to break these patterns and so I do love him but I am going to start practice being unphased. For the first time I haven't called, texted or said anything. Ive gone about my day and I have reached out to friends. But I am not unphased as I keep waiting for his call/message. It's not easy friends, to remove someone you love from your heart, but to break patterns of toxic and immature behaviour being the mature one is important and you must do it for yourself more than for the other person. Their sadness should not affect you, their tears or small talk, or words should not matter. That is true self growth. You may love them but you don't need to put up with how they behave towards you. If they can't eat what they serve, tough luck If they want to leave, they can. Good luck
Right on Stephanie.
Amazing!! 🎉 thank you
AWESOME VIDEO!!!
This video is great!
thank you
Excellent video, thank you.
Great video! ❤️💪
This was helpful.
That's great 🌹🙏
Thanks🌹🙏
Thank you so much
Hey coach. Excellent advice as always.
Was wondering if you could do a vid or 2 on the statistical probability of having a psychologically impaired person in your sphere of influence.
I've always read that the socio, psycho, narc person was a minority in society however personal experience has lead me to the opposite conclusion. Wondering if you could expound on the topic.
Thanks coach.
Thank you 🙏
Yes!
Can you please do a video about toxic co-parenting
Thank you so much for this. As someone who was in a 10 year relationship with a narcissist, and still now 6 1/2 years later, dealing with him, it is certainly draining. I have gotten better over the years, but it’s still very hard. Constant blame and name calling, accusations and projecting, threats to take me to court, etc.
The worst part is he is the father of my two children. As they have gotten older (they are 10 and 12 now), they are realizing things and dealing with his behaviors. And they will feel the stress from the things he texts them and the guilt trip tactics he uses. I am considering looking into counseling for them via church. How can I help them through this in a healthy way? What advice can you offer.?
So very appreciate what you do.
Hello Stephanie, just letting you know that the link to your self-parenting course is taking viewers to the page in Kajabi's Preview mode. The message says: "You are in Preview mode! Payments are disabled. Edit Offer". Same on last video ;-)
Brilliant advice. I love the rehearsed answers. Can you please write them down in the description. Thank you :)
It's ironic my ex narc watches you. He's said/done everything you've said! He doesn't see that he's narcissistic and toxic but of course misused what he learned to also use against me.
My partner just told me that "you are always the victim "
Thank you for making this video
Oh I can tell you living with a narcissist can be a daily ordeal. Every day I wonder how she will push a button and start some trouble. And nearly every day she does. Even knowing what I know about narcissist tactics, she can still find a way to say or do something to trigger my anger, a personal jab at me or my family, or something generally offensive to my values. On a good day I laugh it off, on a bad day I get right in her face and call out her crap. I'm a red blooded healthy strong man, not a simp who backs off and takes it. I've watched many videos from many people on this subject and it's always 2 options to deal with this problem. Either move out or accept it and learn to deal with it. How about option 3.....get right back in their stupid face and give it back to them even worse so they think twice about screwing with your head? Why should I have to uproot my entire life because of some ass who doesn't know how to treat people? That's not fair to me. I say if it's war they want, then they are going to have to fight very hard until they get it thru their thick skull I'm not s pushover. Screw narcissists. Screw understanding they maybe were abused. Doesn't give them the right to abuse innocent people. Break the cycle.
It’s exhausting in every way 😅
Love & Logic for adult relationships 😅
My toxic ex partner. Has stopped taking our kids. And then saying I use them against her.
Spelling error in your hashtag in description. Thank you for the awesome content, long time listener since my divorce.
What about when my abuser used this when i was reacting to belittle me more as if i was just randomly acting wrong.. 10 years broke me i couldnt control myself i became toxic when she abused me i lost empathy for her i just couldnt handle how it seemed only to her she was allowed to do things that everyone else says is wrong.. yet to me i knew i was loosing myself who i knew i was.. she has apologized using my words.. saying how she just "couldnt handle how i was treating her" always always always ignoring the abuse that always ended up with me reacting poorly... as healing as your words are in this video they are also triggering because of how many times she tried to train me to be indifferent to her abuse so that i would be easier to control... she would scream at me to stop reacting but never ever felt bad for hurting me so painfully... she would ignore me for hours on end treating me like i dont deserve a second of her time then when i lost it it was always "breathe dont react i wont be talked to this way im going to be your consequence you will learn love yourself" which is supposed to be good things.. but they hurt because i needed to do all those things AND leave her. It hurt because she refused still to see her part and blamed me for all of it. I question everyday if i was the problem.. if i should have just accepted her abuse and not reacted just like she wanted me to then there would be no problems. Never her stopping the abuse... never...
What if you're not in a relationship but for some reason this is still happening to you, but you don't know who or why? So it leaves you lost, trying to figure it out and you end up with your brain worse than it was prior to... whatever the heck is going on. What do you do then? When you are not sure who exactly it is that has the issue or control over your life.
This is my ultimate goal, until I dont care about what or who she's doing im stuck.
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She wants me to fail as a parent without her
I am not in contact with my narc mom...but now my relatives are contacting me and asking me about her..i am not sure what to respond to them
Because I need to go somewhere I need drink something Why I don't know why you think for yourself need to stay in the house
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Are you asked why you got for us you got something to bring for me what kind of something you can bring for me has something for it you got something to eat
Why are they always calling us crazy? Wtf
Why did 4 minutes why you just walk and I'll give it for me the way you give me nothing the 855 you can send I'll make you right you Google you crazy because you don't make it right gold every Tuesday for your choice not make it stand up you Google you're making nonsense every time ask question