Becoming emotionally attractive is extremely important to re-attracting an ex, meeting new people, and maintaining a relationship. If you don’t do the work it will come back to haunt you
Hey coach, just wanted to thank you so much!! Watching your videos have helped me. I was going through a depression and when my girlfriend broke up with me it made it worse... during our relationship I was contemplating suicide and it got worse when she dumped me. I had a really rough childhood. I started watching your videos and going and getting help. I'm getting better mentally, physically and emotionally. And watching your videos have helped me out a lot and I dont think about doing that now. Youre the man, im going to get a Skype call with you really soon and I honestly can't wait for it. I want her back so bad and I will continue to make changes to better myself in all aspects. Again I'd love to thank you coach!! You helped save my life and I cant thank you enough!!!! Much love and God bless you
@@taylordavidson9099 Hey if you ever need someone to talk to just let me know and I'll send you my phone number. Sometimes we just need a friend to discuss things with
@@taylordavidson9099 Good for you for sticking it out and still being here, you know the hard times will pass, it might be months or years in the future but things will work out for you. I've been through depression, wishing you all the best buddy.
We have to be more present, not worrying about the past, future or opinions. Have to get your behaviors under control and enjoy that we are back together in this moment. We need to shift on becoming better in our relationships and every area of our adult life.
People really can sense your mental health. A few times this weekend, I had several friends tell me that "you seem like you're in a really good spot." They saw me at my worst earlier this year, now it's completely different. A couple that saw me before the pandemic while I was still in the relationship remarked with "dude, you seem way more healthy emotionally now." It's funny, for me it's been a bunch of small changes, but bring it all together and show someone you haven't seen in awhile, and they really do see a "new" you. I understand why eventual contact after an extended period works now. If you make changes and offer a whole new package, people can't help but notice. Guessing if my ex ever comes around, she'd notice, too. Still not completely over it but I'm taking my time to get this right. Not for her, but for my life going forward. Getting there towards a success story, and hearing other success stories with or without an ex keeps me motivated. The channel's due for a new video on that!
@@maybugz Almost 8 months. First 3 or 4 months were brutal, then a few months of ok but still hurting. Around month 7 things started feeling noticeably better. I'm not over it completely but I'm so glad I took this time to work on everything. Gets easier each week, whereas early on I didn't see any improvement for a long time. Not ridiculous, you can't rush the process. My relationship was over 4 years and I'm guessing it'll take me at least a year to be truly over it.
@@ChrisLT I'm glad it's not just me that takes a long time to get over it, I felt suicidal one particular Saturday night like 2-3months in. It seems to me that women get over it much quicker, my ex had a photo of her and a new guy on fb within 6 weeks, that broke me. I've still not met anyone im interested in! Currently doing really well in the gym and work though, looking by best I ever have at 38. Noticed a pretty girl checking me out in the supermarket today, that gave me a little confidence boost. Got to look for the little positives in life!
@@maybugz My ex had a new guy pretty quickly. The break up was sad, but seeing who this was... it was crushing, way worse than the initial break up when I was still in denial. Saddest I've ever been. But it got better the more I put in that work. Physical, mental, emotional, it's all paying off. Just like the coaches said it would. I still get hit with sadness now and then but it lasts an hour or two rather than ruining my week. I've learned how to deal with those moments in a healthy way and I'm just better at dealing with any negative things that come along. This breakup made me a better person and now I'm almost glad that it happened. Just keep working on yourself and the healing will continue. And before you know it you've grown into a way better person.
@@ChrisLT yep seeing the photo of them on fb completely freaked me out and hit me like a truck. I didn't think I'd lose her, it's such a head fuck after you've been so close for years and then suddenly.....they're gone, never see them again. Seems like you've been through the same so you know what I mean. Yeh im much better now, get lonely at weekends and Sunday mornings etc, online dating is an extra kick in the bollocks and just an attention grabber for women so I've abandoned that for now lol
This is one of those videos that you have to save to a personal playlist and replay daily. This is my third time watching it and I still feel like I learn a little more each time. Thanks, Coaches!
We gotta quit worrying about the future, as in what " may" happen. We need to be more present. We need to heal from our past. This was a really good one video, Thank you!
If only I had found these videos while I was still in a relationship with my ex. I feel like me being unable to differentiate from my family was ultimately the downfall of my relationship. I didn’t stick up for myself and set my boundaries with them. I let their negative comments and attitudes consume me and I carried it over into my relationship. I took it out on my ex and ultimately he got tired of my bad mood and being put second to my family. He then left me. I’m really hoping I get another chance with him..
Thank you for this video - not only are you explaining what to change but how! These key points on differentiation will not only help in romantic relationships but with friends and family too. Becoming secure is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself - and I learned that from this channel. Keep these videos coming!
if you think craigs videos are awesome, then wait til you Skype with him, dude changed my perspective on dating and brought me outta dark place in my realitionship. I see things so much clearer now and have become a way better guy from his knowledge and advice!!! you da man craig!!!!!
Thankyou for making this video, it was my emotional state and worrying about the future and not living in the moment that caused my relationship to end. I really have learnt life lessons from this breakup.
Same, that’s exactly what my ex said, that I’m so focused in the future and forgot how to enjoy the present. She got so pressured where it reached the point she need to break up with me. Sad
Hey Craig and Margaret! I hear often about how people reach out to you and say they wish they'd found you sooner....well I did! I was able to learn and recognize my own need for personal growth and was able to turn a potentially bad situation into a much better one. When my anxiety starts, I just come to your show and listen and I start feeling better. It helps me see the good instead of the bad and to understand my own issues. Thank you for all your help. Take care
Margaret is a living legend. Sharing this material is so helpful and of course you guys sharing your understanding is also huge. The comic relief does help too but I'm left wondering what banter was edited out 😭. The dynamics may contain more to learn from. 🌞
I first learned about Carl Jung Playing a game 😂, the game was called "Control" delved into the concept of your inner self and your outer self and synchronicity and how your thoughts can be transmuted to reality. I've been reading up on the subconscious and conscious mind and psychology for about 5 or 6 years now and I learn something new all the time.
With that avatar I'd love to see Anni having done his homework on the subconscious and see how it would have worked out differently. (Unless the writers would be very mean to him and doom him still.)
I treated my woman like a queen and still got dumped. Was attentive to her wants and needs, but treated me so cold and wanted nothing to do with me towards the end...
Great video. I'm unaware of any possible connection between the content that Margaret presented and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), but I was reminded of it. Thanks for the video.
I worked at a department store and it stirred up enough trauma for me to start my crazy learning, healing and growing journey. It was like a petri dish of sorts with very contrasting cultures and people coming and going with management that address nothing probably because their just overwhelmed by it all.
We need emotional health in someone, as he says we can sense or even witness when someone is out of control, they get triggered, and likely are passive aggressive, not health, for it will repeat.
Wow This subject blows my mind and hits so deeply. Thank you Margaret Craig and Victoria on this one. Tears...time to get to work. I got the Knowledge Craig. Thank you
Hey Coach Craig, appreciate all the video content you have done! :) I don't recall seeing a video on the topic - monkey branching. Perhaps, you can do a video on it? Thank you!
Can anyone tell me what the workbook series is like? I’m considering getting it as I know I need to do a lot of internal work. Is it beneficial for someone that is dealing with low self-worth and cravings for external validation? Thanks everyone
its not easy . i struggle all the time. one day im great and nothing can stop me the next moment i can be a crybaby. but working everyday on yourself gets better. never give up on yourself
I dont agree and share that all the emotional responsibility sshould be charged in only one person (both man and women are responsible). The rigth way to correct this is trough therapy but it seems that everyone is happy to blow the relation off to smitherins first and then glue every little part toguether again and that is harder.
Hang in there. Get the workbooks. Itll help you deal with your anxiety and heal. Make sure you talk about how you feel and think either out loud to yourself or with someone. Lastly, make sure you exercise. Youll be okay and you got this! You are worthy of love
Women also cause with her lack of attentions the demise of the emotional atraction, is not a sole factor of the individual, both have to juggle the variables, its a work of two.
Stress levels increase without support of the couple and those are the triggers for explosive discussions and problems. Specially if you live with a narcicist. One can never done enough to mantein those monsters happy. There are jobs that deal with agenda(future) and you cant withdraw from that stimulae, nor with the context problems specially if your couple never help and is responsible and acvountable of compromise and participate in the homme and couple life.
Start dictation hey Craig I’m dating a detachment personality girl and it’s kind a hard for me to understand her but I’m trying to make it work with her because I love her so yeah I’ve been watching your videos for a think about a year or two now and they help me a lot better
Gracias,,,, !!!! . I’m a gay man who has been watching your videos and even might be for straight people. . My 18 years boyfriends decided to move on, 2 month ago. Soo I did begging, crying and work the relationship but he was cold soo decided to move on was very hard still hard he cold me and I text back acted cold and asked Do you need anything or a mistake cold he said a mistake I’m ok soo fur I’m a very attracted man soo talking to others guy but still love him
Becoming emotionally attractive is extremely important to re-attracting an ex, meeting new people, and maintaining a relationship. If you don’t do the work it will come back to haunt you
Those words of a very wise man
Hey coach, just wanted to thank you so much!! Watching your videos have helped me. I was going through a depression and when my girlfriend broke up with me it made it worse... during our relationship I was contemplating suicide and it got worse when she dumped me. I had a really rough childhood. I started watching your videos and going and getting help. I'm getting better mentally, physically and emotionally. And watching your videos have helped me out a lot and I dont think about doing that now. Youre the man, im going to get a Skype call with you really soon and I honestly can't wait for it. I want her back so bad and I will continue to make changes to better myself in all aspects. Again I'd love to thank you coach!! You helped save my life and I cant thank you enough!!!! Much love and God bless you
@@taylordavidson9099
Hey if you ever need someone to talk to just let me know and I'll send you my phone number. Sometimes we just need a friend to discuss things with
Harsh truths, but that's what people need to hear. Emotional health takes a loooong time and much working on yourself to genuine change.
@@taylordavidson9099 Good for you for sticking it out and still being here, you know the hard times will pass, it might be months or years in the future but things will work out for you. I've been through depression, wishing you all the best buddy.
Being accepting and understanding is the most attractive trait. If that person isn't on any level they're not worth the time.
We have to be more present, not worrying about the past, future or opinions. Have to get your behaviors under control and enjoy that we are back together in this moment. We need to shift on becoming better in our relationships and every area of our adult life.
Excellent!! Love this video. ❤
Mindfulness is essential for mental well being.
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People really can sense your mental health. A few times this weekend, I had several friends tell me that "you seem like you're in a really good spot." They saw me at my worst earlier this year, now it's completely different. A couple that saw me before the pandemic while I was still in the relationship remarked with "dude, you seem way more healthy emotionally now." It's funny, for me it's been a bunch of small changes, but bring it all together and show someone you haven't seen in awhile, and they really do see a "new" you.
I understand why eventual contact after an extended period works now. If you make changes and offer a whole new package, people can't help but notice. Guessing if my ex ever comes around, she'd notice, too. Still not completely over it but I'm taking my time to get this right. Not for her, but for my life going forward. Getting there towards a success story, and hearing other success stories with or without an ex keeps me motivated. The channel's due for a new video on that!
How long since your breakup? It's been a year for me now, ridiculous I know! Feeling much better now.
@@maybugz Almost 8 months. First 3 or 4 months were brutal, then a few months of ok but still hurting. Around month 7 things started feeling noticeably better. I'm not over it completely but I'm so glad I took this time to work on everything. Gets easier each week, whereas early on I didn't see any improvement for a long time. Not ridiculous, you can't rush the process. My relationship was over 4 years and I'm guessing it'll take me at least a year to be truly over it.
@@ChrisLT I'm glad it's not just me that takes a long time to get over it, I felt suicidal one particular Saturday night like 2-3months in. It seems to me that women get over it much quicker, my ex had a photo of her and a new guy on fb within 6 weeks, that broke me. I've still not met anyone im interested in! Currently doing really well in the gym and work though, looking by best I ever have at 38. Noticed a pretty girl checking me out in the supermarket today, that gave me a little confidence boost. Got to look for the little positives in life!
@@maybugz My ex had a new guy pretty quickly. The break up was sad, but seeing who this was... it was crushing, way worse than the initial break up when I was still in denial. Saddest I've ever been. But it got better the more I put in that work. Physical, mental, emotional, it's all paying off. Just like the coaches said it would.
I still get hit with sadness now and then but it lasts an hour or two rather than ruining my week. I've learned how to deal with those moments in a healthy way and I'm just better at dealing with any negative things that come along. This breakup made me a better person and now I'm almost glad that it happened. Just keep working on yourself and the healing will continue. And before you know it you've grown into a way better person.
@@ChrisLT yep seeing the photo of them on fb completely freaked me out and hit me like a truck. I didn't think I'd lose her, it's such a head fuck after you've been so close for years and then suddenly.....they're gone, never see them again. Seems like you've been through the same so you know what I mean. Yeh im much better now, get lonely at weekends and Sunday mornings etc, online dating is an extra kick in the bollocks and just an attention grabber for women so I've abandoned that for now lol
This is one of those videos that you have to save to a personal playlist and replay daily. This is my third time watching it and I still feel like I learn a little more each time. Thanks, Coaches!
I do repeat listening too
We gotta quit worrying about the future, as in what " may" happen. We need to be more present. We need to heal from our past. This was a really good one video, Thank you!
@@yahuzasulaimanyahoozee3496 does he know how to cast a spell that will make you disappear for good?
I did my thesis on a comparison of Jung and Freud's dream theories
This is excellent. What a wealth of wisdom Margaret possessed! Such a loss!
If only I had found these videos while I was still in a relationship with my ex. I feel like me being unable to differentiate from my family was ultimately the downfall of my relationship. I didn’t stick up for myself and set my boundaries with them. I let their negative comments and attitudes consume me and I carried it over into my relationship. I took it out on my ex and ultimately he got tired of my bad mood and being put second to my family. He then left me. I’m really hoping I get another chance with him..
Any update?
@@robert8211 Still in no contact.
Thank you for this video - not only are you explaining what to change but how! These key points on differentiation will not only help in romantic relationships but with friends and family too. Becoming secure is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself - and I learned that from this channel. Keep these videos coming!
This channel is such a blessing, thank you for posting!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
if you think craigs videos are awesome, then wait til you Skype with him, dude changed my perspective on dating and brought me outta dark place in my realitionship. I see things so much clearer now and have become a way better guy from his knowledge and advice!!! you da man craig!!!!!
Thank you both! I appreciate that
Thankyou for making this video, it was my emotional state and worrying about the future and not living in the moment that caused my relationship to end. I really have learnt life lessons from this breakup.
Same, that’s exactly what my ex said, that I’m so focused in the future and forgot how to enjoy the present. She got so pressured where it reached the point she need to break up with me. Sad
Hey Craig and Margaret! I hear often about how people reach out to you and say they wish they'd found you sooner....well I did! I was able to learn and recognize my own need for personal growth and was able to turn a potentially bad situation into a much better one. When my anxiety starts, I just come to your show and listen and I start feeling better. It helps me see the good instead of the bad and to understand my own issues. Thank you for all your help. Take care
Thank you for helping through such a tough period in my life. These videos are priceless 💯
This video makes me miss my dad. We had a good relationship like that where we were individuals and connected in that way
This was one of my favourite videos. Thank you so much
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They should teach this stuff in school.
Wonderful insights in this video. Thank you!!
Margaret is a living legend. Sharing this material is so helpful and of course you guys sharing your understanding is also huge. The comic relief does help too but I'm left wondering what banter was edited out 😭. The dynamics may contain more to learn from. 🌞
This is great information. I like to listen to you guys in the mornings before work, while I stretch. This message really came across, for me.
Thank you for the great video. Coach Margaret your insight in this segment was so helpful to me. Bookmarking this video!!
I first learned about Carl Jung Playing a game 😂, the game was called "Control" delved into the concept of your inner self and your outer self and synchronicity and how your thoughts can be transmuted to reality. I've been reading up on the subconscious and conscious mind and psychology for about 5 or 6 years now and I learn something new all the time.
With that avatar I'd love to see Anni having done his homework on the subconscious and see how it would have worked out differently. (Unless the writers would be very mean to him and doom him still.)
I treated my woman like a queen and still got dumped. Was attentive to her wants and needs, but treated me so cold and wanted nothing to do with me towards the end...
Thank you for all your hard work, coach!
more on becoming emotionally attractive!
Great video. I'm unaware of any possible connection between the content that Margaret presented and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), but I was reminded of it. Thanks for the video.
Margaret was great. Thanks for these videos
Happy Monday Craig, thanks for posting
This is a wonderful perspective. Thank you very much and more of these, please!
I worked at a department store and it stirred up enough trauma for me to start my crazy learning, healing and growing journey. It was like a petri dish of sorts with very contrasting cultures and people coming and going with management that address nothing probably because their just overwhelmed by it all.
We need emotional health in someone, as he says we can sense or even witness when someone is out of control, they get triggered, and likely are passive aggressive, not health, for it will repeat.
Great topic, love what You do! Thanks again! 🙏
Wow This subject blows my mind and hits so deeply. Thank you Margaret Craig and Victoria on this one. Tears...time to get to work. I got the Knowledge Craig. Thank you
Great! Commit to 30 minutes a day! You only get out what you put in! 💪
This was great! Effective examples of relationship faux pas. Aha moments abound‼️ thank you 🙏
So much knowledge 🤯🌱
Thank you so much for this video...it was very informative!
Very good topic and well researched bravo Margaret! :-) thank you!
You can't bring up the past. I know someone that brought up the past.., something that 10 to 20 years ago ..I didn't remember.. lol
Sand trays are so wonderful. I like the little figures. :3
What about the context? Economic crisis, lots of work, insuficient economic power at hand, etcetera.
Hey Coach Craig, appreciate all the video content you have done! :) I don't recall seeing a video on the topic - monkey branching. Perhaps, you can do a video on it? Thank you!
Great topic 👏
Awesome!
Can anyone tell me what the workbook series is like? I’m considering getting it as I know I need to do a lot of internal work. Is it beneficial for someone that is dealing with low self-worth and cravings for external validation? Thanks everyone
Hopefully people can share their experiences with you here…. If not, check my Instagram highlights! I have some posted on there from people 💪
its not easy . i struggle all the time. one day im great and nothing can stop me the next moment i can be a crybaby. but working everyday on yourself gets better. never give up on yourself
I have the workbooks. They are worth every penny. You will learn so much from them and learn how to grow and move forward. I am very happy with them.
I dont agree and share that all the emotional responsibility sshould be charged in only one person (both man and women are responsible). The rigth way to correct this is trough therapy but it seems that everyone is happy to blow the relation off to smitherins first and then glue every little part toguether again and that is harder.
Can differentiation occur "too early" in childhood? If so, what issues/challenges might result from this?
Day 32 of no contact and I feel defeated..
Hang in there. Get the workbooks. Itll help you deal with your anxiety and heal. Make sure you talk about how you feel and think either out loud to yourself or with someone. Lastly, make sure you exercise. Youll be okay and you got this! You are worthy of love
Women also cause with her lack of attentions the demise of the emotional atraction, is not a sole factor of the individual, both have to juggle the variables, its a work of two.
Did Margarete begin two times with the first Step? I am confused :D
Everyone is different and has different opinions.
Stress levels increase without support of the couple and those are the triggers for explosive discussions and problems. Specially if you live with a narcicist. One can never done enough to mantein those monsters happy. There are jobs that deal with agenda(future) and you cant withdraw from that stimulae, nor with the context problems specially if your couple never help and is responsible and acvountable of compromise and participate in the homme and couple life.
It's works our for me
I got my ex lover back within 48 hours
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Start dictation hey Craig I’m dating a detachment personality girl and it’s kind a hard for me to understand her but I’m trying to make it work with her because I love her so yeah I’ve been watching your videos for a think about a year or two now and they help me a lot better
My ex…undifferentiated…I lean towards differentiated. Would this be a red flag for incompatibility?
Gracias,,,, !!!! . I’m a gay man who has been watching your videos and even might be for straight people. . My 18 years boyfriends decided to move on, 2 month ago. Soo I did begging, crying and work the relationship but he was cold soo decided to move on was very hard still hard he cold me and I text back acted cold and asked Do you need anything or a mistake cold he said a mistake I’m ok soo fur I’m a very attracted man soo talking to others guy but still love him
i wish margarret was my grandmother :( my grandmothers were both pretty dumb, one of them was pretty racist and collected terrorfying porcelain dolls.
My (long time now) Greek ex-wife used to explode over any issue…. I thought it was Greek culture…. Sounds like she was bi-polar…
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