Amen! I’m recently divorced after 31 years of narcissistic abuse, and I’m really enjoying my singlehood! I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than ever again be with someone who’s abusive and doesn’t cherish me. 💗💗💗
Congratulations!🤗❤🎉🙌 I finally got divorce from my abusive narcissistic husband after 28 years of marriage! I'm proud of you for your strength & courage to do so! I know all too well how difficult it was to finally leave! My divorce took almost 2 years to be finalized. He was allowed by the court & lawyers 9 months & 10 days to turn in his financial packet. It's wonderful not to deal with his bullshit on a daily basis.
I divorced my husband after 35 year marriage. I love my peaceful life now. Learning to love myself again. He had me really messed up. I'm getting better every day. I'm now planning to move back to my family 3 states away. I'm excited about finally being able to be around them. He never allowed me to talk or visit them. I finally got my power back. He took it all from me in the divorce, but I have my mind and health back, much more valuable to me.
@@tinawalter8863 Congratulations on your new freedom!🤗❤ Proud of you! I'm working on my self love & inner confidence so I don't get into another relationship with an abusive narcissist !
The single life is a peaceful life. Enjoying loving me and it feels so darn good 😍😍Went on a nine hour shopping spree with my very close friends and it was amazing. Happy ❤❤❤❤'s Day to me 💋💋
I went to my local bar to have a pint on Valentine’s Day.. the waitress who I’ve seen many times gave me a look of sadness that she felt bad for me.. I didn’t go because I was drowning my sorrows, I went to celebrate my contentment in being alone in a world full of people who are stuck in relationships they don’t want to be in.
I’ve been single for 10 years now.. I love it.. now that my kids are older there’s nobody to rob me of my time and energy.. I don’t get lonely , I get bored sometimes so I head out to the gym or go for a drive, whatever I want. Thanks so much for all you videos.. I’m a middle aged man who wishes I’d learned this stuff a long time ago, I’ve always been taught that being selfish was a bad thing but it’s not at all..your advice is very helpful in getting me to start enjoying my life again👍
Thank you for sharing your experience Jeff! What else would you share for a young man half your age that you wished you learned many moons ago? Asking for myself and for a friend? haha
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, I m a lady but going to be in a similar situation very soon....I was apprehensive about life...felt good hearing Stefanie and very comfortable reading your message
I started to go places and do things I love alone. Hikes, travel, music events, festivals... Not depending on others in this is so librerating. And a great time for your inner thoughts, learning about yourself and meeting new interesting people. Yes, it gets lonely sometimes but the feeling of freedom is addictive. 🙂
This is yet another amazing video, Stephanie Lyn is such an awesome value to the world of humans with all our mistakes. This video will immediately lift your spirits! She describes the great value of being single to work on yourself, maybe start a hobby, start a career, set habits. If you want to invest in coaching yourself as suggested, Lyn herself has a really good program of coaching in phone sessions, really valuable. Lyn is such a leader on this subject! Enjoy being single, enjoy dates, moments! True happiness is living in the moment!
So true video. This video speaks for me totally. It was the things I have been telling myself. I hope single men and women really listen to this. Thank you
I LOOOOOVEEEEE YOUUUU 🤗🤗💕 Seriously, I’m not single 💁🏼♀️ but you saved me from a narcisistic relationship I had with a family member. So thanks for that ✨
Important subject matter as there aren’t many people addressing the subject as well as reinforcing and validating those who want to be careful about starting a new relationship. Good stuff
You always make me feel so good! I was feeling a bit annoyed about Valentine's day, but now, I am appreciative of where I am right now because I'm working on myself.
I listened to your video yesterday. This morning, I got dressed cute. I went to the car wash and it was 50% off any wash. I went to get pizza. A guy opened the door for me. I was singing along to Jennifer Hudson, Spotlight. I love myself.💗💗💗
Thank you so much for a much needed positive spin on what will be my first Valentines alone in 19 years. This and your other videos have been such a source of help and comfort during the last couple of months.
She's right I'm about living your best life. If any of you ladies are interested, guys keep in tough with the fun happy girl. I've never not called that girl back because she gave it up too soon or she wasn't on my same page about something else in life. That really fun, positive, living her best life girl is irresistible if there is otherwise a mutual chemistry. That's me being positive. Happy Valentines Day to you all.
This Valentine's Day l will dance and have fun . I am self care this year . And also do you and your worth and your power come within yourself. 😚🤗😍 Happy Valentine's Day
Well I realized I became kind of picky now I'm just being very careful cuz I don't want to go through the same experience that I did for 20 years I maybe it's wrong I don't know but I'm just like you said it's all about myself right now then I'll take it from there thank you Stephanie
Wonderful speech. You are absolutely right!!! It's me, me and me time. And the funny thing is wherever you go or whatever you do, you think you are alone. And how wrong we are. There is always somebody else who is single too and you can end up having a great time and may be making a new friend a long the way.....
I'm a man who has escaped a marriage to a narc wife and in-laws. Divorce is pending and I am slowly re-entering the dating scene & meeting women again, after a year of separation and rebuilding my life through re-learning some favorite sports & traveling, which continues now. Valentine's has left me depressed before, but after a year away from dating/relationships I am happy to start meeting women again. Thank you Stephanie for this video...it will help!
Thank you Stephanie! I’m still a work in progress but I can honestly say it’s taking me half my life to embrace self-love. Not in a selfish narcissistic way, but to make goals, be self-determined, change my thinking (from ruminating neg thoughts) and appreciate what and who I do have in my life. Happy Valentines Day!❤️
Yes newly singleness. Enjoying the peaceful and spending time with me. Allow me to do things I like to do. Am good to go and waiting on my other better half.
Coming from an abusive marriage Valentine's day is hard. I wish I had seen this video yesterday. But for next year's Valentine's if I am still alone it is totally doing me time!
Yesss woman!! I really like someone at the moment, but I do wanna be single for a while. I want to know I’m ok on my own. I want to build my confidence and just fully love me. Because my last relationship was a mess. I had a child with him but he turned out to be a controlling narcissist that I completely lost myself and who I really am and want to be.
Hi, Stephanie! I wholeheartedly agree with you. It’s important to take time for oneself, especially after a breakup or a divorce. I’ve been watching several of your videos and I truly appreciate your advice and helpful content. Thanks for all you do! ☺️
I have divorce mediation this valentines day :( . So horribly ironic. And it will probably be nothing but a waste of time, money and mental energy. I will try to do something for myself this weekend, though :)
Nice video!! Did all the steps, then met my boyfriend, was being picky but he seemed amazing.. 4-5 months down the road he started some abusive behavior.. then I was "stuck" with him for more than a year and now I have to start over.. Whats frightening to me now is to have the same experience, have my best single life and then meet a covert narcissist (that I dont notice to be one at first) and then everything s fucked..
I am new to your channel and have been binge listening all morning. These are such great perspectives and I am so grateful to take away from each video. I felt stuck and listening has helped me.
I just watched 3 of your videos. Wow. They are all helpful and awesome! Thanks a lot! This one is also supportive and enjoyable, especially for a fresh single in 2021! Keep up the great work. Wish you be more healthy and happier in 2021! Cheers!🥂
I cannot stop hitting the like button! Thank you very much! This video gives me a new valuable insight. I’m gonna start changing my thoughts and take control of my life.
I just ended a 20 year marriage full of abuse and emotional neglect and yeah I got Christmas presents from her I got birthday present I got a Valentine's Day whatever but it didn't mean anything because she didn't love me and didn't value me so I get what you're saying. At the age of 25 I got married to my first wife three kids 11 year marriage ended had a six-year break with a girlfriend and got married to a different girl for 20 years with a stepdaughter and one child so basically for the last 31 years I've been raising wives and kids and now after my youth has been spent I'm trying to figure out who the heck I am
This video is EVERYTHING! I’m recently single and I was already thinking about what am I going to do for Sweetest Day which is in October here in Michigan. Thanks to your video I’m going to be so darn selfish! Hello Singleness
I'm okay so far today, however, Valentine's hasn't always been easy for me not just because I'm single but it just seems like a reminder to every relationship that didn't work and every heartbreak. I will go to ans ok niles event after therapy tonight. Not so that I can get a man, but just so that I can be social and not moping around the house. I also bought myself some chocolate covered strawberries and will hopefully get to pamper myself over the weekend. The romance part of my life has been very hard along with working on childhood traumas, but I look forward to more alone time. I want to travel more, get my health in order (mentally, physically, emotionally), move in a few months, and just start over.
I'm a 31 year old guy who's never been in a romantic relationship. I'm going to start therapy within the next week or so. I want to be happy being single, and not fear possibly being alone for the rest of my life
Yes! I have got to a place now relationships are more of a risk than being single because I'm so happy single. I'm healthy, developing myself career wise & have great friends & family so either someone amazing shows up or I'm good.
if I met you tomorrow, I'd never want to be single again. You're intriguing. But I'm healing right now, so I'm not healthy at this point in my life. Happy Valentine's day though! 😁
I am going to do a yoga workout / mediation session, next do massages on my neck and shoulder then I am going to do a home spa day with candles lit up, eat my favorite foods and really enjoy eating and I am going to watch all of my favorite romance movies and then recite positive quotes to myself.
Amen! I’m recently divorced after 31 years of narcissistic abuse, and I’m really enjoying my singlehood! I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than ever again be with someone who’s abusive and doesn’t cherish me. 💗💗💗
Pixie , Yes!!!
Congratulations!🤗❤🎉🙌 I finally got divorce from my abusive narcissistic husband after 28 years of marriage! I'm proud of you for your strength & courage to do so! I know all too well how difficult it was to finally leave! My divorce took almost 2 years to be finalized. He was allowed by the court & lawyers 9 months & 10 days to turn in his financial packet. It's wonderful not to deal with his bullshit on a daily basis.
I divorced my husband after 35 year marriage. I love my peaceful life now. Learning to love myself again. He had me really messed up. I'm getting better every day. I'm now planning to move back to my family 3 states away. I'm excited about finally being able to be around them. He never allowed me to talk or visit them. I finally got my power back. He took it all from me in the divorce, but I have my mind and health back, much more valuable to me.
@@tinawalter8863 Congratulations on your new freedom!🤗❤ Proud of you! I'm working on my self love & inner confidence so I don't get into another relationship with an abusive narcissist !
I went through abuse too by a narcissist for 5 years it is so peaceful now. Being single is awesome.so peaceful 😍
I love being free with no drama
Unless this man is absolutely the man God has for me, no thank you! No one will mess up my incredible progress❤🎉
The single life is a peaceful life. Enjoying loving me and it feels so darn good 😍😍Went on a nine hour shopping spree with my very close friends and it was amazing. Happy ❤❤❤❤'s Day to me 💋💋
Tonya Thomas that sounds pretty cool. ❤️
I went to my local bar to have a pint on Valentine’s Day.. the waitress who I’ve seen many times gave me a look of sadness that she felt bad for me.. I didn’t go because I was drowning my sorrows, I went to celebrate my contentment in being alone in a world full of people who are stuck in relationships they don’t want to be in.
I’ve been single for 10 years now.. I love it.. now that my kids are older there’s nobody to rob me of my time and energy.. I don’t get lonely , I get bored sometimes so I head out to the gym or go for a drive, whatever I want. Thanks so much for all you videos.. I’m a middle aged man who wishes I’d learned this stuff a long time ago, I’ve always been taught that being selfish was a bad thing but it’s not at all..your advice is very helpful in getting me to start enjoying my life again👍
Thank you for sharing your experience Jeff! What else would you share for a young man half your age that you wished you learned many moons ago? Asking for myself and for a friend? haha
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, I m a lady but going to be in a similar situation very soon....I was apprehensive about life...felt good hearing Stefanie and very comfortable reading your message
Yay for the singles 🙌🏾😘
Yes yes yes!! 🙌💗
Keeping a positive energy is very important when you were single. 🔥
Yes!
I'm 56 and single for 6 yrs. Sometimes I'm ok with it. Other times I get sad.
So For this Valentines day I got my nails done I am taking GG cupcakes to my coworkers and celebrating Valentine’s Day as a friendship day
Amazing idea!! I love it!
Rebecca Vega ❤️
Great idea! Love it!
For me it is a regular day. I will either go to movies or just go to a furniture shop and see how I can redecorate my house :-)
I'm going to spoil myself. Spa day and relaxation.
Sounds amazing!! 💗
I've been single for 2 years. Took time to work on myself, but I'm over this. 😭 Being single sucks....plain and simple!
I started to go places and do things I love alone. Hikes, travel, music events, festivals... Not depending on others in this is so librerating. And a great time for your inner thoughts, learning about yourself and meeting new interesting people. Yes, it gets lonely sometimes but the feeling of freedom is addictive. 🙂
My separation was a week ago. This Valentine's Day I'm going to focus on me, I will treat myself well :)
Yes!!!!!! 💗
@@StephanieLynCoaching Ty Steph u have helped me thru a very rough time still goin thru it ty so much
This is yet another amazing video, Stephanie Lyn is such an awesome value to the world of humans with all our mistakes. This video will immediately lift your spirits! She describes the great value of being single to work on yourself, maybe start a hobby, start a career, set habits. If you want to invest in coaching yourself as suggested, Lyn herself has a really good program of coaching in phone sessions, really valuable. Lyn is such a leader on this subject! Enjoy being single, enjoy dates, moments! True happiness is living in the moment!
So true video. This video speaks for me totally. It was the things I have been telling myself. I hope single men and women really listen to this. Thank you
I LOOOOOVEEEEE YOUUUU 🤗🤗💕 Seriously, I’m not single 💁🏼♀️ but you saved me from a narcisistic relationship I had with a family member. So thanks for that ✨
Love it! 👏
Important subject matter as there aren’t many people addressing the subject as well as reinforcing and validating those who want to be careful about starting a new relationship. Good stuff
You always make me feel so good! I was feeling a bit annoyed about Valentine's day, but now, I am appreciative of where I am right now because I'm working on myself.
😉❤️
I always have an Anti-Valentines day....
I listened to your video yesterday. This morning, I got dressed cute. I went to the car wash and it was 50% off any wash. I went to get pizza. A guy opened the door for me. I was singing along to Jennifer Hudson, Spotlight. I love myself.💗💗💗
Thank you so much for a much needed positive spin on what will be my first Valentines alone in 19 years. This and your other videos have been such a source of help and comfort during the last couple of months.
She's right I'm about living your best life. If any of you ladies are interested, guys keep in tough with the fun happy girl. I've never not called that girl back because she gave it up too soon or she wasn't on my same page about something else in life. That really fun, positive, living her best life girl is irresistible if there is otherwise a mutual chemistry. That's me being positive. Happy Valentines Day to you all.
Valentine’s Day? Smile and be happy. Maybe do song 125. I’ll try not to sound like you too much but it maybe too late.
This Valentine's Day l will dance and have fun . I am self care this year . And also do you and your worth and your power come within yourself. 😚🤗😍 Happy Valentine's Day
Almost 5 years single post narc. I have grown SOOOO MUCH! And accomplished and maintained many goals. Thanks fir this video Stephanie💕
You’re amazing 💗
Well I realized I became kind of picky now I'm just being very careful cuz I don't want to go through the same experience that I did for 20 years I maybe it's wrong I don't know but I'm just like you said it's all about myself right now then I'll take it from there thank you Stephanie
Wonderful speech. You are absolutely right!!! It's me, me and me time. And the funny thing is wherever you go or whatever you do, you think you are alone. And how wrong we are. There is always somebody else who is single too and you can end up having a great time and may be making a new friend a long the way.....
Love this message! Thank you! Happy Valentine's day everyone! Love yourself 1st! ❤️
I'm a man who has escaped a marriage to a narc wife and in-laws. Divorce is pending and I am slowly re-entering the dating scene & meeting women again, after a year of separation and rebuilding my life through re-learning some favorite sports & traveling, which continues now. Valentine's has left me depressed before, but after a year away from dating/relationships I am happy to start meeting women again. Thank you Stephanie for this video...it will help!
In the same boat mate. I'm worried that I won't let myself love again. Can't go through this again.
@@Amandaandglenn2023 Glad you got out dude. I have met a wonderful woman so don't doubt yourself. You can do this too. There ARE good women out there.
Thank you Stephanie! I’m still a work in progress but I can honestly say it’s taking me half my life to embrace self-love. Not in a selfish narcissistic way, but to make goals, be self-determined, change my thinking (from ruminating neg thoughts) and appreciate what and who I do have in my life. Happy Valentines Day!❤️
Yes newly singleness. Enjoying the peaceful and spending time with me. Allow me to do things I like to do. Am good to go and waiting on my other better half.
Coming from an abusive marriage Valentine's day is hard. I wish I had seen this video yesterday. But for next year's Valentine's if I am still alone it is totally doing me time!
Yesss woman!! I really like someone at the moment, but I do wanna be single for a while. I want to know I’m ok on my own. I want to build my confidence and just fully love me. Because my last relationship was a mess. I had a child with him but he turned out to be a controlling narcissist that I completely lost myself and who I really am and want to be.
me too i hear u
I love your videos!
Thank you, Stephanie!
Yes Stephanie 💕I have learned to follow in my own footsteps and it’s my time to live laugh love ❤️ me set goals and with no fear ❤️
Preach! Yes, so excited with my new life.
Thank you! I did exactly that, went out with a friend for a walk in the sunshine, picknick and dinner at her house. It was a really lovely day 😍
You really give us all the best advice!...❤
👍💖Thank you Stephanie. Happy Valentine's Day to me, and you 💕💕
Hi, Stephanie!
I wholeheartedly agree with you.
It’s important to take time for oneself, especially after a breakup or a divorce.
I’ve been watching several of your videos and I truly appreciate your advice and helpful content.
Thanks for all you do! ☺️
Thank you for the support!
Thank you!!!!!😊😊😊😊❤❤❤ I needed this
LMAO "OMG does he have a weird toe..." It's 11pm, my kids are asleep, and I'm laughing my ass off. Soooo needed that lol
Thank you very much! Wonderful advice. ❤
Thank you for this message. I’m going through hell right now❤️
I've been there too. You're not alone and you won't be there forever ❤
Couldn’t agree more with Cara.. “this too shall pass”
Sending love & light🌷🌷
Have been there too, and escaped it. This too shall pass. You will one day be free of that hell.
Just be strong and stay healthy 💪better days are coming 🤗
Always healthy advice, positive vibe, and helpful guidance!!
Brilliant! Thanks to you I vow to do something special for me this Thurs 😉 💚
Thank you for your support.
Awesome video !
I have divorce mediation this valentines day :( . So horribly ironic. And it will probably be nothing but a waste of time, money and mental energy. I will try to do something for myself this weekend, though :)
Being single for 3 years, I'm looking for advice as people who have been in their alone time for a while! Love your channel!
Your very clever I love your explanation!❤❤❤❤❤
Nice video!! Did all the steps, then met my boyfriend, was being picky but he seemed amazing.. 4-5 months down the road he started some abusive behavior.. then I was "stuck" with him for more than a year and now I have to start over.. Whats frightening to me now is to have the same experience, have my best single life and then meet a covert narcissist (that I dont notice to be one at first) and then everything s fucked..
Love love love thisss!!! Thank you Stephanie for sharing such beautiful and empoweringg messages ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Stephanie you are an angel sent from heaven.
This video is really helpful for sure
I am new to your channel and have been binge listening all morning. These are such great perspectives and I am so grateful to take away from each video. I felt stuck and listening has helped me.
You are helping me so much right now ... thank you for these videos.. you have a big heart!!!
Wow wow ! Thank you this was a great video!
Always so much healing to listen to you. Thank you so much 😍
thank you very much for all the tips. I learned alot.
I wish I could afford a sesh! I love what you say!
I love your education ❤❤❤
Youre amazing! Thank you!
I just watched 3 of your videos. Wow. They are all helpful and awesome! Thanks a lot! This one is also supportive and enjoyable, especially for a fresh single in 2021! Keep up the great work. Wish you be more healthy and happier in 2021! Cheers!🥂
I cannot stop hitting the like button! Thank you very much! This video gives me a new valuable insight. I’m gonna start changing my thoughts and take control of my life.
Thank you Stephanie, you are awesome!!
You are beyond fabulous.....thank you for this; your words are the wind beneath my wings ♡.
Really good advice. Thanks.
Thanks so much. I have some things I can do to go out and grab some joy.
Some weight has been lifted.
It means a lot to me.
Thank you for creating this wonderful video and giving me some tools to use
I just ended a 20 year marriage full of abuse and emotional neglect and yeah I got Christmas presents from her I got birthday present I got a Valentine's Day whatever but it didn't mean anything because she didn't love me and didn't value me so I get what you're saying. At the age of 25 I got married to my first wife three kids 11 year marriage ended had a six-year break with a girlfriend and got married to a different girl for 20 years with a stepdaughter and one child so basically for the last 31 years I've been raising wives and kids and now after my youth has been spent I'm trying to figure out who the heck I am
Lets have some consideration for the new source on valentines day with the ex narc. Lmfao. Staying single for this valentines :) narc free. Yay!
This video is EVERYTHING! I’m recently single and I was already thinking about what am I going to do for Sweetest Day which is in October here in Michigan. Thanks to your video I’m going to be so darn selfish! Hello Singleness
I can't help but like every video!! ❤❤
Super likes...thanks a ton my dear Stephanie
Thank you for this video. You get more beautiful every day. I can't wait until tomorrow.
Happy Valentine's Day Stephanie lyn! Your utubes rock👍🌹
You are amazing 💕
Coach, Great direction and inspiration.
Motivated- thanks
I'm okay so far today, however, Valentine's hasn't always been easy for me not just because I'm single but it just seems like a reminder to every relationship that didn't work and every heartbreak.
I will go to ans ok niles event after therapy tonight. Not so that I can get a man, but just so that I can be social and not moping around the house. I also bought myself some chocolate covered strawberries and will hopefully get to pamper myself over the weekend.
The romance part of my life has been very hard along with working on childhood traumas, but I look forward to more alone time. I want to travel more, get my health in order (mentally, physically, emotionally), move in a few months, and just start over.
Thank you Stephanie.. I loved it❤️
Thank you.
I'm a 31 year old guy who's never been in a romantic relationship. I'm going to start therapy within the next week or so. I want to be happy being single, and not fear possibly being alone for the rest of my life
Taking my daughter on a mommy-daughter date 😊 She’ll probably want Taco Bell, but that’s okay.
Jennifer Boyce ❤️
Taco Bell sound good!
@@brightlights9615 ...if you like cancer.
Amazing video once again!!
Great advice .!!! Thanks Stephanie
You are very beautiful and smart I love what you're doing ❤❤❤
Epic advice! And timely! Just what I needed, thanks!
Great advice !! Me and one of my friends are going to hang out at her house and cook and make drinks ! ❤️ Good friends are the best !!
Another great video, Thank you!!
Yes! I have got to a place now relationships are more of a risk than being single because I'm so happy single. I'm healthy, developing myself career wise & have great friends & family so either someone amazing shows up or I'm good.
Great!!! Lesson One after a break.
What were some of the books you read for working on self love?
Yes!!! Thank you!!!! I wish I had found you a year ago!!!
I needed this!!!!!! I just clicked the Subscribe button!!!!🤸🏽♀️🍾😁
if I met you tomorrow, I'd never want to be single again. You're intriguing. But I'm healing right now, so I'm not healthy at this point in my life. Happy Valentine's day though! 😁
Thank you for this video
Thankyou ❤❤❤
LOVE this and needed it so much- Thank you!
I am going to do a yoga workout / mediation session, next do massages on my neck and shoulder then I am going to do a home spa day with candles lit up, eat my favorite foods and really enjoy eating and I am going to watch all of my favorite romance movies and then recite positive quotes to myself.
Um that sounds amazing!!