1. Practice gratitude. Be grateful for everything you have. 2. Don't be attached to every thoughts you have. Monitor our thoughts. 3. Stop self-criticism. Don't be a perfectionist. 4. Take care of your body. 5. Observe and your self-talk. Recognize positive and negative self-talks. Use positive affirmations. 6. Get out of your comfort zone. 7. Stop comparing yourself to others.
I allow others to get inside my head, and spend a lot of time ruminating about conversations. I am working on putting myself first and recognising that this negatively affects me.
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
You are so right in work in yourself. It used to happen to me so often. When those thoughts would get in my head that’s what I did: I became aware by saying “not here, it doesn’t belong to me. Today is xx/xx and I am doing this action and I choose myself. This is somebody’s else problem and not mine.” This self talk brings me to the present and it helped me a lot.
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
I thought today I better exercise on my trampoline because so many people would love to have it. I wanted it so much ten years ago and have used it a lot. But haven’t much this spring. So grateful.
Good luck to you! That happened to me in November. Him and his dead weight family left my life and things only got better from then on! I’m the happiest I’ve ever been and people all around notice it too! You got this mama!
Olivia White I also listen to assc direct and permission to Exist and have been using the “gray rock method” i kept my Side of the road clean and stopped Reacting to his games,insults, and compliments. I’ve literally been playing dead since April and have since broken our soul tie. It’s like I woke up and nothing will ever be the same. It’s definitely one step forward three steps back process but once you snap out of it and see light at the end of the tunnel it gets easier. He wasn’t getting the fix his ego needed from me so leaving was eventually a given.
Self love is honesty with self. It's learning to laugh. It's inventing a zillion go to play behaviors which really make you laugh out loud and breaking them out often. Self love is attention to self. Self love requires introspective self examination. Self love is finding out who you are. Self love is being True to Self, letting yourself be flawed, saying what you think when you think it. Self love is creating Good Ego character traits like honesty, open mindedness, giving, mercy, compassion, acceptance, forgiveness, etc.. and then learning to love yourself because you know you are a good person who carries those traits when it's not easy.
1. Gratitude Don't complain/be negative. Enjoy where you are & what you have. Radiate + energy 2. Detach From your emotions/thoughts. You are not your thoughts. Only makes you anxious. 3. Dont self criticize Acknowledge your mistakes and move on. You're not perfect. 4. Body Take care of it. Eat healthy/be healthy. 5. Self talk Either builds you or breaks you. Positive affirmations. 6. Get out of your comfort zone Smile at strangers. Builds self confidence. 7. Stop comparing yourself Somebody is always better. 8. Time This is a process. Be patient with yourself.
Some of the things that has benefited my mental health is recognizing people's patterns and learning how to interact with them. I have narcs in my immediate family. I can avoid them for so long but when we do get together I no longer feel depressed after leaving their presence. They have stopped criticizing me but the manipulative ones still try to use me for their personal gain. I'm proud that I don't get frustrated anymore and just let it go.
Narcs(narcissists) will "narc" (narcotics informant) when they see other people when you're not around. Even if such things they say never occurred or they twist, bend, mold, change, modify the "TRUE STORY"
Me too. Just start small and remember that ANY progress is progress. Maybe you told yourself you would go for a run and instead you go for a walk. That's totally fine! In fact, that's awesome! Don't be hard on yourself.
1.Need to Practice gratitude, 2.I need to stop bringimg myself down so much. 3.Stop comparing myself to other people to where i am in life. 4. Regain confidence 5. Love myself again, stop telling myself im not good lookn for anyone and i eont ever find anyone even though i been in multiple past relationships and im older now.
Omg this is the best! I'm a single parent with two autistic children, healing from a Dv marriage and not much support team! This is just what I needed to hear since I usually listen to others of how I'm never going to have a partner because my kids are too much. 😔 now I know this is what I need to practice more self love!!! 🙏❤
There's a beautiful soul out there just for you! LOVE yourself as much as you can and they will come to you easily and love your beautiful kids who they'll see as gifts! Keep the faith and look after yourself!
Watch heaps and heaps more of these type of videos....get more knowledge about why you feel this way and how to cure it....I was like you, I immersed myself in dozens of videos a week to fix me up...all these type videos had a positive effect on me....I feel much better , more confident ....and smarter.....hope u try this out....
Hi Art, I just wanted to tell you I loved your sweet, thoughtful and encouraging words to Kristina. ❤️ She’s right Kristina, what you focus on expands. The more you immerse your mind with words that are intended to lift your spirit and to help you gain clarity, this is the path. Sending my very best.
Today I felt like doing something different I left the house without any make up, didn’t even shower, only applied sunscreen. I’m feeling so light, more like myself, less fake and made up. I needed this.
Thats what I do all time, smile at everyone , some people's faces light up when you smile at them , you've prob made their day by just smiling , you never know what they are going through etc
*Good Morning Sunshine! 🌞* *What a great way to start the day. Self-Love, Stephanie, and a Cup of Coffee. 💗* *May you all have a beautifully blessed morning, a joyful day, and a peaceful night. 🤗*
My focus areas for self ❤️ are: 1. Thought awareness 2. Avoiding caffeine, sugar & alcohol (they all seem to mess with my mind) 3. Recognizing my own personal journey in life 4. Daily positive affirmations 👍🏼Calmer-you website
Gratitude definitely elevates the positive energy that you put out into the universe. Being grateful truly does trigger positive thoughts which radiates and attracts what you want in your life. In conclusion... it all starts with self-love. 💞 Love this video. Self love is, indeed, a big umbrella that is important to talk about and worth breaking down! From another self love content creator to another.. great video beauty! 💕
❤Thank you. As you say, self-care and learning to self-parent (Love the inner children who weren't loved all through the different ages they needed to be), being gentle and kind towards yourself as you would be to others who you Love, replace the negative thoughts (energies) with positive thoughts (I use little phrases repeated over and over again of positivity), stay aware of how you feed and care for yourself, and be grateful for all that you have because there are those with much less in life. Enjoy all the beauty and joy you can each day because healing ourselves is a life-long journey and no one gets out alive or with their wordly possessions 😉😊
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
I yearn for a true friend like you...you're an awesome woman Stephanie! Love your personality...God bless you..😇😇😇😇 Self-love thru prayer works best! Never underestimate the power of prayer cuz our God is an awesome God...pray, have faith, trust in God, be positive and God will do the rest..
The best thing I ever did was believe in myself. I can tell you that the way I feel about myself today is a wonderful and beautiful experience.⚘ don't ever feel bad for taking time to love yourself. The journey to self-discovery and accepting the things that no longer work and looking forward to the things that you become worthy and deserving of make the journey worth taking🦋♥️
This was a milestone video for me Steph. I have watched a few of your videos before and they helped, but the other day when I watched this video, I was in the right headspace and it all just clicked. Everything just finally clicked in my brain. Self parenting finally made sense. I have been searching for everyone else to parent me all my life, I had never stopped to think, I can actually parent myself and reassure myself and tell myself it'll be ok, I love you, I'm not going to hurt you anymore because I love you. Self love is something I never had and I truly despised and hated myself all my life, so I kept running away from myself to find comfort in relationship after relationship and then running when they got hard to a fresh one for the good feelings that I never felt in myself. So it finally made sense to me watching this that I'm not gonna hurt myself anymore. I love myself and I'm here to reassure myself and that is so special and beautiful and really really affected me. So thankyou for this video. A lot of others helped me aswell. But this one just hit me and it was the right time when I needed it and broke through the walls. Thankyou so much. Mental health is so important and after years of ignoring it. I'm glad finally I've seen the need to journey to heal and develop my mental health. So thankyou for this video and the help it gave me. This is only early on in my journey 1.5months of healing after some massive losses in my life which made me finally wake up and realise I need to change and fix myself. I have a lot to go. But this arms me with the ability to parent and care for myself and be happy with myself. So thankyou! Whoop. Keep up the great work.
Eating better, taking chances, and talking to people, stop the negative thoughts about myself, not being good enough, just to be good to me and take life easy. sometimes I feel everybody and everything gives me a hard time, for no reason.
I agree with this! Being lonely and fear of dying alone has constantly been on my mind, and realized that you can live happily alone! (and maybe one day that love of your life comes around!)
being aware of what we're feeling to be aware of our thoughts, asking ourselves how are we feeling can help us understand better what we're thinking... and start substituting the negative thoughts for positive ones... sending love
My grandparents had a wood stove in their livingroom. I remember coming in from playing outside for hours in the snow, getting out of my winter stuff.. and just standing in front of it to get warm. It wasn't until I moved that I realized I had stayed too long, and it was painful the amount of heat on my jeans touching my skin. I guess this is how I feel looking at pictures of "us" together, for a bit it is so warm and cozy, but when I go to move on with the day it burns me so bad. I miss him and love him so deeply, I'm hurting myself trying to get cozy and warm - to fend off my lonliness... and not realizing or accepting that I will warm up on my own - that trying to warm up too quickly is just hurting me more.
This is perfect timing, as my daughter & I are hosting a self Love meditation tomorrow night. My self Love practice started with paying attention to my self talk. When I started noticing how many times a day I call myself stupid, I changed it up. It felt silly at first, like I was trying to baby myself. After a while though, it really helped me feel better, and be able to get into other self loving exercises; better diet, better self expression, shadow work. One thing I am always working on is my addiction to sugar. That is real stuff right there! I have to reel myself in regularly on that one. Also expressing my boundaries & needs is one I'm working on lately. I discovered that I'm not very good in that department. Here's to everyone's self loving journey! 💗
I know, i know, I KNOW that i am SOOO hard on myself! I take "everybody is their own worst critic" and i bolt a supercharger on it and ruminate myself into oblivion! Having said that, i am working on myself day by day. Your uploads and channel are really helping me accept that I AM NOT MY THOUGHTS! The first time i had ever heard that was on one of your uploads, and that one statement alone has profoundly changed how i am approaching myself. Thank you Stephanie, for teaching me that self love and healthy thoughts isnt a finishline to race towards, its a journey!🙏
Thank you for sharing these tips, I have been practising self-love, self-parenting, self-validation. I always feel and practice gratefulness every day while I walk to work: Thank you for my body, my health, my freedom, my job, my loving family, my colleagues, loving friends, my house, opportunities, living and working in NYC. Still working with perfectionism and inner critic
You are helping many souls .. seriously there are many who don't even realize they have self love deficit. We must be grateful of having this realization.
Stephanie you are my savior... I am such a fearful, anxious mess .. I didn’t know where to start until I started to watch your videos... you are very much to the point & this is really helpful for me .. Much Love 💕 ♥️ & Thanks
Accidentally found this and couldn't have came at a better time. Narc abuse has destroyed my already compromised view of self. Thank you for reminding me who I truly am💜💜💜
So many good points, one of my fave is that its something that you have to realize "self-love is a daily practice that you are going to do for the rest of your life!" Needed this! thank you sooo much!
Great video! What I need to work on is the negative self talk. I need to give myself more credit and appreciate my qualities. And finally love myself and my singleness ❤️
I started self love one day ago by practising this few steps.....I will update you guys in a month. Remember you don't need someone calling you beautiful in order for you to feel beautiful.
I'm currently working on self-care as a focus. What I mean by that is exercise, grooming, taking care of my things, personal business, keeping up on the news, & keeping in touch with family.
Gratitude is very important, but is obviously a difficult thing sometimes and will take time and patience. The self love I probably need right now is more time to myself to meditate, and more time with friends. We all get so caught up in our busy daily lives that we forget to stop and breath for a second. Thank you so much for your videos Stephanie 💗
What I need to work on is not attaching to my every thought and overthinking, but instead recognising them for what they are (fear and self-doubt, mostly). This video in particular will help me soooo much! Thank you, Stephanie - I've learned and continue to learn so much from you! 😘😘
Truly terrific, cannot thank you enough for all. Understanding too that those scars bleed from time to time and that is a fact and we still though can be self aware of controlling powerful negative messages.
I relate to this particularly right now in this time. It's the season for Sobering up for a while. It's a litmus test as to whether one has decision power. Things are only difficult when one is wishy washy, but when you decide on something, you can do anything
Great video! 😃👍🏼 thanks a ton for your time, effort and advice! I know that I have to focus on: 1. Patience 2. Disengaging from non-constructive self-criticism 3. Stop comparing myself to an ideal self and others 4. Do more physical exercise 5. Monitor my thoughts 6. Practice gratitude 7. Stop being a perfectionist beyond reasonable limits I am a student in physics and sometimes I succeed in a lesson and sometimes I need to learn, but that’s okay because I progress if I am open to learning new skills, concepts and lessons. Thank you Stephanie!
Having the courage to cultivate my skills and talents, learning to be my own best friend and enjoy my own company, unlearning the message that I need a partner to be fulfilled in life. Speaking to myself kindly, being my own best friend and giving MYSELF the benefit of the doubt rather than every body else. Learning to listen to my gut so that I start to learn whats good for me and what isn't, instead of saying "yes" to everything out of obligation/pleasing.
Great talk! Setting boundaries is part of my life’s journey . I’m practicing self talk every day and that is so empowering to know your worth and value snd staying in the moment. Thanks Stephanie.
Since you asked.....my thoughts in addition to this great video. Give up control. It is a fallicy. Know that it is your journey - Honor it. Very few will honor and support your journey. Know that the universe will guide you. Become present in both. Honor your needs and wishes. Do not dishonor others. Thank you!!
I need to focus on my self talk, my eating and exercising and to stop comparing myself to other coaches 😅💜🙏🏼. Thanks Stephanie. New subscriber. Love your videos.
This video could not be more aptly timed. Be gracious, Express gratitude and bless the things you have been blessed with- not just the tangible acquisitions one has through life. I suspect if you're watching this channel patience, honesty, the desire to help others are all in us. Recognize these blessings and stop comparing your journey to anyone else's especially not your own envisioned one. Thank you Stephanie Lyn for reminding me on my own path to wellness.
Right, I’m from a culture where greeting whilst looking each other in the eye was a usual thing. Here in the UK you either may end up in a fight or you have a potential partner when you look at someone. Absolutely differences in culture.
I have no idea how to control my thoughts. They most certainly control me and I don’t know how to just observe them and let them go. Instead I sit with them and play them in an endless loop throughout the day. So that is what I need help with for self love. ❤️
My weakest area in self love is not loving myself enough. I’m an unfortunate people pleaser so I’ve always been more focused on other people’s happiness before my own. Thanks to you, I’m working on that! Thank you!
I love the way you talk about gratitude. I need to practice more gratitude as well as better eatting practices. Thank you for this video. So many talk about the need for self love, but not how to practice it. I needed this at this point in my life. I 💜
Happiness is enjoying what you have at this moment in life and express your gratitude for all the things that we tend to take for granted. Cultivate awareness and you will be the master of your mind. Feeding the white wolf and starving the grey one is all it takes. Be happy!
I think the areas I need to focus on the most are my body (making healthier food choices and exercising regularly out doors) and positive affirmations.
Love your topics for a long time and helped me a lot after my breakup to get myself back together and better than ever. Now I love your hair, great color for you!
A mentor of mine pointed out that I wasn't loving myself. When I asked her how she stated that I should ask God to show me the way. I started praying, meditating, googling, and of course UA-cam searching. I learned that my diet and exercising had a major affect. I started a green juice fast to reset my body. Started working out 30 minutes 3-4 days a week. Changed my diet completely leaving out a lot of high sugar and saturated fat foods and imputing more greens. My mental health is improved. My thoughts don't seem as negative anymore and if they are I can recognize the pattern and let the thoughts go instead of perpetuating them. Now I'm understanding myself better that I like alone time and need a meditation session periodically to recharge myself. This video confirmed some ideas I have about self love and helped form new ones like comparing isn't good for growth if it's taken too far. Thanks for the good content.💕
Taking care of myself, all the time, I finally get it. Keep consistently moving in the right direction despite wind and waves. It’s neat you talked about horses, I was talking to one this morning. Tommy B. : )
Stephanie, i love how you practice what you preach ABOUT self talk - cuz you said, "im a perfectionist AT TIMES" - you specified that it's only "at times" and it does NOT define you!! Thank you for being a beautiful example of surviving and THRIVING, girlfriend!
Thank you for another great video. It's hard putting into words the impact of me coming into contact with you and the knowledge you've given me. You've opened a whole level of understanding that I knew was there but didn't know how to find it. Keep it up!! You are a blessing to me and many others. Thanks again❣
Great video... needed this!! Thank you, Stephanie... loved how you started this with "gratefulness".What a wonderful reminder, especially, when you feel as if , "life" has been very hard, the last few months. So, thank you for all you do!! 💜💜
Am I the first one commenting? I love your coaching Stephanie, you inspire me so much, ever since I started loving myself, the whole started loving me as well, I truly believe the law of attraction and the mirroring theory! Keep it up!
I need to work on my health and being more grateful what I have. I will start drinking more water, more healthy meals , and working out. I need to work on stop comparing myself to others and stop comparing others. I am me and people are themselves.
I noticed that when I stopped looking people in the eyes it was because I felt terribly ashamed about who I am. The more I say hi and return eye contact with others the better I feel about myself naturally. It's a great point!
The comparing yourself to others is the killer for me! The instagram and FB. Always feeling like your not good enough etc, exhausting!!! You really have to guard your mind and avoid things that make you feel bad🌸 Most important selfcare is a lifetime Journey ✨
Acceptance is the key to happyness , everything is the way it's supposed to be , my peace I give to you he said ,. Your so pretty and smart what a wonderful Lady
"Step out comfort zone!!" Really right!! Many people dont dare to step out a messy situation because of the unknown in front of them that make them too nervous to change!! But growing is a process of changing...Don't stuck in the dead water.
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Practice gratitude. Be grateful for everything you have.
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Don't be attached to every thoughts you have. Monitor our thoughts.
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Stop self-criticism. Don't be a perfectionist.
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Take care of your body.
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Observe and your self-talk. Recognize positive and negative self-talks. Use positive affirmations.
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Get out of your comfort zone.
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Stop comparing yourself to others.
Thank you for typing this out 🙏🏽❤️
Yassss I was hoping this comment was here
This will be my new goals.
Praveen NG Amen hallelujah thank you god
Awesome list, I have a hard time with no.3
Truly, in my experience, a simple walk every day, can change the way your brain works
Where do you go walking at? What do you think about when you walk? I’ve got to try something new in my life...
impactajuvenile anywhere there’s nature, beach, fresh air and hopefully a little sun
Lara Lee here in California it’s against the law unfortunately!
impactajuvenile I participated in protest yesterday 🇺🇸😃 👍
I can still walk around neighborhood. Governor’s not taking that away from me!
Lara Lee good for you, Americans should never be oppressed and held captive to facts that are not truthful. 👍🇺🇸✝️🙏💗
I allow others to get inside my head, and spend a lot of time ruminating about conversations. I am working on putting myself first and recognising that this negatively affects me.
Im.tall dark handsome very educated and rich but I am I'n love with you ??👍🙆♂️
It's happening to me now
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
Thank you. Exactly what I need to hear this morning
You are so right in work in yourself. It used to happen to me so often. When those thoughts would get in my head that’s what I did: I became aware by saying “not here, it doesn’t belong to me. Today is xx/xx and I am doing this action and I choose myself. This is somebody’s else problem and not mine.” This self talk brings me to the present and it helped me a lot.
‘What are things in your life that other people would die to have’ really gave me a different perspective on gratitude.
Arlysse Rodney right?! So powerful!
Now this is interesting. I’m gonna try this asap! I never stick to nothing smh.
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
I thought today I better exercise on my trampoline because so many people would love to have it. I wanted it so much ten years ago and have used it a lot. But haven’t much this spring. So grateful.
Me too!
My narc husband of 10 years finally left last night. I needed this . Thank you.
Congratulations 👏👏 Your Life begins now 🎉💕🤗
Good luck to you! That happened to me in November. Him and his dead weight family left my life and things only got better from then on! I’m the happiest I’ve ever been and people all around notice it too! You got this mama!
drea5510 h time to heal now and thrive! Listen to good UA-camrs, narcology unscripted, ASSC DIRECT are my favorites!
How did you manage to make him leave?
Olivia White I also listen to assc direct and permission to Exist and have been using the “gray rock method” i kept my
Side of the road clean and stopped
Reacting to his games,insults, and compliments. I’ve literally been playing dead since April and have since broken our soul tie. It’s like I woke up and nothing will ever be the same. It’s definitely one step forward three steps back process but once you snap out of it and see light at the end of the tunnel it gets easier. He wasn’t getting the fix his ego needed from me so leaving was eventually a given.
Self love is honesty with self. It's learning to laugh. It's inventing a zillion go to play behaviors which really make you laugh out loud and breaking them out often. Self love is attention to self. Self love requires introspective self examination. Self love is finding out who you are. Self love is being True to Self, letting yourself be flawed, saying what you think when you think it. Self love is creating Good Ego character traits like honesty, open mindedness, giving, mercy, compassion, acceptance, forgiveness, etc.. and then learning to love yourself because you know you are a good person who carries those traits when it's not easy.
@jeffwatkins All good points, maybe you should make a video.
I come across like Ben Stein, saying Buehler? Buehler? lol
True
@@mildredantenor6654 Lives Matter❤
1. Gratitude
Don't complain/be negative. Enjoy where you are & what you have. Radiate + energy
2. Detach
From your emotions/thoughts. You are not your thoughts. Only makes you anxious.
3. Dont self criticize
Acknowledge your mistakes and move on. You're not perfect.
4. Body
Take care of it. Eat healthy/be healthy.
5. Self talk
Either builds you or breaks you. Positive affirmations.
6. Get out of your comfort zone
Smile at strangers. Builds self confidence.
7. Stop comparing yourself
Somebody is always better.
8. Time
This is a process. Be patient with yourself.
Some of the things that has benefited my mental health is recognizing people's patterns and learning how to interact with them. I have narcs in my immediate family. I can avoid them for so long but when we do get together I no longer feel depressed after leaving their presence. They have stopped criticizing me but the manipulative ones still try to use me for their personal gain. I'm proud that I don't get frustrated anymore and just let it go.
Narcs(narcissists) will "narc" (narcotics informant) when they see other people when you're not around. Even if such things they say never occurred or they twist, bend, mold, change, modify the "TRUE STORY"
I need to exercise more and go out and do something that makes me happy more instead of always putting it off telling myself next time.
keesha1232 same here girl!
Me too 🙋
I can do all things thru Christ who strengtheneth me
Book of Philipeans
It’s so bad that I can cancelled hours before I’m supposed to be. Smh
Me too. Just start small and remember that ANY progress is progress. Maybe you told yourself you would go for a run and instead you go for a walk. That's totally fine! In fact, that's awesome! Don't be hard on yourself.
All it takes is to put 1 foot in front of the other. No other task ahead but the next foot.
1.Need to Practice gratitude,
2.I need to stop bringimg myself down so much.
3.Stop comparing myself to other people to where i am in life.
4. Regain confidence
5. Love myself again, stop telling myself im not good lookn for anyone and i eont ever find anyone even though i been in multiple past relationships and im older now.
Omg this is the best! I'm a single parent with two autistic children, healing from a Dv marriage and not much support team! This is just what I needed to hear since I usually listen to others of how I'm never going to have a partner because my kids are too much. 😔 now I know this is what I need to practice more self love!!! 🙏❤
I'm sure there are quite a few that would be willing to be there for you and with you. Just to be with you. Don't give up on love. 💐✌
Yes, go for it! And do take care of your children too in the process, they are precious lives too. You can do it! ❤️
There's a beautiful soul out there just for you! LOVE yourself as much as you can and they will come to you easily and love your beautiful kids who they'll see as gifts! Keep the faith and look after yourself!
❤❤ I am a single mother too. The right person will come along, when you aren't looking. Twice this is my experience and my child is now 23!!
I am so depressed. I have lost interest in everything. I needed to hear this right now.
Watch heaps and heaps more of these type of videos....get more knowledge about why you feel this way and how to cure it....I was like you, I immersed myself in dozens of videos a week to fix me up...all these type videos had a positive effect on me....I feel much better , more confident ....and smarter.....hope u try this out....
Hi Art, I just wanted to tell you I loved your sweet, thoughtful and encouraging words to Kristina. ❤️ She’s right Kristina, what you focus on expands. The more you immerse your mind with words that are intended to lift your spirit and to help you gain clarity, this is the path. Sending my very best.
Today I felt like doing something different
I left the house without any make up, didn’t even shower, only applied sunscreen.
I’m feeling so light, more like myself, less fake and made up.
I needed this.
Interesting 🤔 I LOVE it! Sounds so freeing…
Something so simple and yet uplifting, that's great
I always look at people and smile. Most smile back. I do this so much, I end up talking to them about whatever just comes up. Ha...
Thats what I do all time, smile at everyone , some people's faces light up when you smile at them , you've prob made their day by just smiling , you never know what they are going through etc
It’s hard to smile at people now because everyone is wearing a mask.
T T I don’t know about that.
*Good Morning Sunshine! 🌞*
*What a great way to start the day. Self-Love, Stephanie, and a Cup of Coffee. 💗*
*May you all have a beautifully blessed morning, a joyful day, and a peaceful night. 🤗*
divineenergy your comment made me feel happier cause it’s literally what iam doing as well ))
*Yay! You made my heart smile. 😍*
*May everyone you see today feel your joy and have a lovely day as well. 🥰*
Thanks 🙏 Wish you more happiness 💜💜
Awesome video. You have helped me so much to get through a breakup
Likewise 💖
My focus areas for self ❤️ are:
1. Thought awareness
2. Avoiding caffeine, sugar & alcohol (they all seem to mess with my mind)
3. Recognizing my own personal journey in life
4. Daily positive affirmations 👍🏼Calmer-you website
Gratitude definitely elevates the positive energy that you put out into the universe. Being grateful truly does trigger positive thoughts which radiates and attracts what you want in your life. In conclusion... it all starts with self-love. 💞
Love this video. Self love is, indeed, a big umbrella that is important to talk about and worth breaking down!
From another self love content creator to another.. great video beauty! 💕
I need to focus on everything in this umbrella of self love🥲! Btw i can't thank you enough for these videos stephennie❤️❤️
❤Thank you. As you say, self-care and learning to self-parent (Love the inner children who weren't loved all through the different ages they needed to be), being gentle and kind towards yourself as you would be to others who you Love, replace the negative thoughts (energies) with positive thoughts (I use little phrases repeated over and over again of positivity), stay aware of how you feed and care for yourself, and be grateful for all that you have because there are those with much less in life. Enjoy all the beauty and joy you can each day because healing ourselves is a life-long journey and no one gets out alive or with their wordly possessions 😉😊
♥️ Thank you! Your words touched me deeply.
What I need to work on is sefl-confidence and liking who I am.
Me too!! Thanks to people like this sweet lady. She's teaching us that struggle with this. 💐
Wow I never heard of that self parenting. I love how you explain thoughts shouldn't be repeated. Such a powerful video.
Gratitude radiates that positive glowing energy within anyone .
I appreciate all of your videos and how much you invest and care in the well being of others. Bless you! ❤️
Thank you so much for a lovely common!
Sar Bear : EXACTLY🌷!!!)& U PRETTY SAR....
Sar Bear - you are beautiful
Love and Hugs from Australia. 😘
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
I yearn for a true friend like you...you're an awesome woman Stephanie! Love your personality...God bless you..😇😇😇😇
Self-love thru prayer works best! Never underestimate the power of prayer cuz our God is an awesome God...pray, have faith, trust in God, be positive and God will do the rest..
The best thing I ever did was believe in myself. I can tell you that the way I feel about myself today is a wonderful and beautiful experience.⚘ don't ever feel bad for taking time to love yourself. The journey to self-discovery and accepting the things that no longer work and looking forward to the things that you become worthy and deserving of make the journey worth taking🦋♥️
This was a milestone video for me Steph. I have watched a few of your videos before and they helped, but the other day when I watched this video, I was in the right headspace and it all just clicked. Everything just finally clicked in my brain. Self parenting finally made sense. I have been searching for everyone else to parent me all my life, I had never stopped to think, I can actually parent myself and reassure myself and tell myself it'll be ok, I love you, I'm not going to hurt you anymore because I love you. Self love is something I never had and I truly despised and hated myself all my life, so I kept running away from myself to find comfort in relationship after relationship and then running when they got hard to a fresh one for the good feelings that I never felt in myself. So it finally made sense to me watching this that I'm not gonna hurt myself anymore. I love myself and I'm here to reassure myself and that is so special and beautiful and really really affected me. So thankyou for this video. A lot of others helped me aswell. But this one just hit me and it was the right time when I needed it and broke through the walls. Thankyou so much. Mental health is so important and after years of ignoring it. I'm glad finally I've seen the need to journey to heal and develop my mental health. So thankyou for this video and the help it gave me. This is only early on in my journey 1.5months of healing after some massive losses in my life which made me finally wake up and realise I need to change and fix myself. I have a lot to go. But this arms me with the ability to parent and care for myself and be happy with myself. So thankyou! Whoop. Keep up the great work.
I really liked the focus on gratefulness. I think that if most of us focus on that part, the rest of it will fall into place. Thank you for this.
I need to focus on my health and loving myself!! ❤️❤️
Giving myself the approval and appreciation that fills me up instead of relying on my close relationships to be the only ones giving it to me.
Eating better, taking chances, and talking to people, stop the negative thoughts about myself, not being good enough, just to be good to me and take life easy. sometimes I feel everybody and everything gives me a hard time, for no reason.
Love ourselves and make us happy before loving someone.
I agree with this! Being lonely and fear of dying alone has constantly been on my mind, and realized that you can live happily alone! (and maybe one day that love of your life comes around!)
being aware of what we're feeling to be aware of our thoughts, asking ourselves how are we feeling can help us understand better what we're thinking... and start substituting the negative thoughts for positive ones... sending love
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My grandparents had a wood stove in their livingroom. I remember coming in from playing outside for hours in the snow, getting out of my winter stuff.. and just standing in front of it to get warm. It wasn't until I moved that I realized I had stayed too long, and it was painful the amount of heat on my jeans touching my skin. I guess this is how I feel looking at pictures of "us" together, for a bit it is so warm and cozy, but when I go to move on with the day it burns me so bad. I miss him and love him so deeply, I'm hurting myself trying to get cozy and warm - to fend off my lonliness... and not realizing or accepting that I will warm up on my own - that trying to warm up too quickly is just hurting me more.
You look good in yellow, and spring colors.
This is perfect timing, as my daughter & I are hosting a self Love meditation tomorrow night.
My self Love practice started with paying attention to my self talk. When I started noticing how many times a day I call myself stupid, I changed it up. It felt silly at first, like I was trying to baby myself. After a while though, it really helped me feel better, and be able to get into other self loving exercises; better diet, better self expression, shadow work.
One thing I am always working on is my addiction to sugar. That is real stuff right there! I have to reel myself in regularly on that one.
Also expressing my boundaries & needs is one I'm working on lately. I discovered that I'm not very good in that department.
Here's to everyone's self loving journey! 💗
Yay.. that is so great!
I know, i know, I KNOW that i am SOOO hard on myself! I take "everybody is their own worst critic" and i bolt a supercharger on it and ruminate myself into oblivion!
Having said that, i am working on myself day by day. Your uploads and channel are really helping me accept that I AM NOT MY THOUGHTS!
The first time i had ever heard that was on one of your uploads, and that one statement alone has profoundly changed how i am approaching myself.
Thank you Stephanie, for teaching me that self love and healthy thoughts isnt a finishline to race towards, its a journey!🙏
Thank you for sharing these tips, I have been practising self-love, self-parenting, self-validation. I always feel and practice gratefulness every day while I walk to work: Thank you for my body, my health, my freedom, my job, my loving family, my colleagues, loving friends, my house, opportunities, living and working in NYC. Still working with perfectionism and inner critic
Going to the gym, running, being active and eating nutritious foods really helps me to feel better about myself.
I’m going through a divorce and you have helped me more than you know
How do you feel now this comment was a year ago hows your life I'm going through something similar
You are helping many souls .. seriously there are many who don't even realize they have self love deficit. We must be grateful of having this realization.
Stephanie you are my savior... I am such a fearful, anxious mess .. I didn’t know where to start until I started to watch your videos... you are very much to the point & this is really helpful for me .. Much Love 💕 ♥️ & Thanks
Accidentally found this and couldn't have came at a better time. Narc abuse has destroyed my already compromised view of self. Thank you for reminding me who I truly am💜💜💜
Practice meeting my needs first before others and complain less in tough situations.
So many good points, one of my fave is that its something that you have to realize "self-love is a daily practice that you are going to do for the rest of your life!" Needed this! thank you sooo much!
Perfect timing.. I needed this more than you could ever know! Thank you, Stephanie! So glad I found your videos. 💛
Gosh. These stripes under this imprint are killing me👌🏿
Great video!
What I need to work on is the negative self talk. I need to give myself more credit and appreciate my qualities. And finally love myself and my singleness ❤️
I started self love one day ago by practising this few steps.....I will update you guys in a month. Remember you don't need someone calling you beautiful in order for you to feel beautiful.
Feel like you are getting even more relaxing when making videos. Love your positive energy it makes me wanna just chill and laugh with you.
You seem like you really care about helping people. It feels like listening to a friend - so sweet
You give me hope to be a better person and loving myself! 🤗 Thank you for sharing your videos with us!!
I'm currently working on self-care as a focus. What I mean by that is exercise, grooming, taking care of my things, personal business, keeping up on the news, & keeping in touch with family.
Gratitude is very important, but is obviously a difficult thing sometimes and will take time and patience. The self love I probably need right now is more time to myself to meditate, and more time with friends. We all get so caught up in our busy daily lives that we forget to stop and breath for a second. Thank you so much for your videos Stephanie 💗
Removing toxic relationships and filling life with healthy ones. Employers, government and family relations.
I need to work on positive self talk to boost my confidence.
God sent me to this channel. The SPIRIT of my angle , spoke this word too me." Be Grateful what you have . And then I was iead too your channel.
What I need to work on is not attaching to my every thought and overthinking, but instead recognising them for what they are (fear and self-doubt, mostly). This video in particular will help me soooo much! Thank you, Stephanie - I've learned and continue to learn so much from you! 😘😘
Truly terrific, cannot thank you enough for all. Understanding too that those scars bleed from time to time and that is a fact and we still though can be self aware of controlling powerful negative messages.
Gratitude is a must💯💙🙏🏾 Thank God for the journey, the earnings are just a plus😌
Self love isn’t something a lot of people pay attention to, but should. I appreciate your insights and advice.
I relate to this particularly right now in this time. It's the season for Sobering up for a while. It's a litmus test as to whether one has decision power. Things are only difficult when one is wishy washy, but when you decide on something, you can do anything
Great video! 😃👍🏼 thanks a ton for your time, effort and advice!
I know that I have to focus on:
1. Patience
2. Disengaging from non-constructive self-criticism
3. Stop comparing myself to an ideal self and others
4. Do more physical exercise
5. Monitor my thoughts
6. Practice gratitude
7. Stop being a perfectionist beyond reasonable limits
I am a student in physics and sometimes I succeed in a lesson and sometimes I need to learn, but that’s okay because I progress if I am open to learning new skills, concepts and lessons.
Thank you Stephanie!
I just love how honest you are, Steph! 😘
she is the cutest therapist on youtube do not argue with me
Perfection is a myth that keeps you striving and just a little disappointed in yourself and others, good enough is good enough!
Having the courage to cultivate my skills and talents, learning to be my own best friend and enjoy my own company, unlearning the message that I need a partner to be fulfilled in life. Speaking to myself kindly, being my own best friend and giving MYSELF the benefit of the doubt rather than every body else. Learning to listen to my gut so that I start to learn whats good for me and what isn't, instead of saying "yes" to everything out of obligation/pleasing.
Great talk! Setting boundaries is part of my life’s journey . I’m practicing self talk every day and that is so empowering to know your worth and value snd staying in the moment. Thanks Stephanie.
Since you asked.....my thoughts in addition to this great video. Give up control. It is a fallicy. Know that it is your journey - Honor it. Very few will honor and support your journey.
Know that the universe will guide you. Become present in both. Honor your needs and wishes. Do not dishonor others.
Thank you!!
I need to focus on my self talk, my eating and exercising and to stop comparing myself to other coaches 😅💜🙏🏼. Thanks Stephanie. New subscriber. Love your videos.
LOVE the self-awareness!!
This video could not be more aptly timed. Be gracious, Express gratitude and bless the things you have been blessed with- not just the tangible acquisitions one has through life. I suspect if you're watching this channel patience, honesty, the desire to help others are all in us. Recognize these blessings and stop comparing your journey to anyone else's especially not your own envisioned one. Thank you Stephanie Lyn for reminding me on my own path to wellness.
Right, I’m from a culture where greeting whilst looking each other in the eye was a usual thing. Here in the UK you either may end up in a fight or you have a potential partner when you look at someone. Absolutely differences in culture.
I have no idea how to control my thoughts. They most certainly control me and I don’t know how to just observe them and let them go. Instead I sit with them and play them in an endless loop throughout the day. So that is what I need help with for self love. ❤️
My weakest area in self love is not loving myself enough. I’m an unfortunate people pleaser so I’ve always been more focused on other people’s happiness before my own. Thanks to you, I’m working on that! Thank you!
I love the way you talk about gratitude. I need to practice more gratitude as well as better eatting practices. Thank you for this video. So many talk about the need for self love, but not how to practice it. I needed this at this point in my life. I 💜
Your Healing has begun..
Physical health, comparing myself, self parenting. You have helped me tremendously with your vids, thank you!
Happiness is enjoying what you have at this moment in life and express your gratitude for all the things that we tend to take for granted. Cultivate awareness and you will be the master of your mind. Feeding the white wolf and starving the grey one is all it takes. Be happy!
Thanks, Stephanie!! Great timing! Really needed that.
I think the areas I need to focus on the most are my body (making healthier food choices and exercising regularly out doors) and positive affirmations.
Love your topics for a long time and helped me a lot after my breakup to get myself back together and better than ever. Now I love your hair, great color for you!
A mentor of mine pointed out that I wasn't loving myself. When I asked her how she stated that I should ask God to show me the way. I started praying, meditating, googling, and of course UA-cam searching. I learned that my diet and exercising had a major affect. I started a green juice fast to reset my body. Started working out 30 minutes 3-4 days a week. Changed my diet completely leaving out a lot of high sugar and saturated fat foods and imputing more greens. My mental health is improved. My thoughts don't seem as negative anymore and if they are I can recognize the pattern and let the thoughts go instead of perpetuating them. Now I'm understanding myself better that I like alone time and need a meditation session periodically to recharge myself. This video confirmed some ideas I have about self love and helped form new ones like comparing isn't good for growth if it's taken too far. Thanks for the good content.💕
Journaling , quality time, creative outlets
Taking care of myself, all the time, I finally get it. Keep consistently moving in the right direction despite wind and waves. It’s neat you talked about horses, I was talking to one this morning. Tommy B. : )
I appreciate your videos so much, it’s just crazy how the mind works. Your way of speaking helped me understand & I’m grateful for that ! ❤️
Stephanie, i love how you practice what you preach ABOUT self talk - cuz you said, "im a perfectionist AT TIMES" - you specified that it's only "at times" and it does NOT define you!! Thank you for being a beautiful example of surviving and THRIVING, girlfriend!
Thank you for another great video. It's hard putting into words the impact of me coming into contact with you and the knowledge you've given me. You've opened a whole level of understanding that I knew was there but didn't know how to find it. Keep it up!! You are a blessing to me and many others. Thanks again❣
I would say knowing that I am enough and when someone can’t see that be woman enough to walk away! I am worthy I am a prize I wanted !
I have noticed when I want to buy myself something new I feelbad. My aerea will be def a stable relationship. Thank youxxx
finding happiness while being single is very difficult. but its amazing when it happens
Great video... needed this!! Thank you, Stephanie... loved how you started this with "gratefulness".What a wonderful reminder, especially, when you feel as if , "life" has been very hard, the last few months. So, thank you for all you do!! 💜💜
Leaving the toxic people and toxic relationships is essential for self love and self health. Detox!! :)
Am I the first one commenting? I love your coaching Stephanie, you inspire me so much, ever since I started loving myself, the whole started loving me as well, I truly believe the law of attraction and the mirroring theory! Keep it up!
I need to work on my health and being more grateful what I have. I will start drinking more water, more healthy meals , and working out. I need to work on stop comparing myself to others and stop comparing others. I am me and people are themselves.
I wish I found you a long time ago. Thank you. You’re so helpful ☺️
I noticed that when I stopped looking people in the eyes it was because I felt terribly ashamed about who I am. The more I say hi and return eye contact with others the better I feel about myself naturally. It's a great point!
I really needed this video . Thank you so much !
The comparing yourself to others is the killer for me! The instagram and FB. Always feeling like your not good enough etc, exhausting!!! You really have to guard your mind and avoid things that make you feel bad🌸 Most important selfcare is a lifetime Journey ✨
Thank you so much for your videos. I appreciate that you want to help people help themselves.
Acceptance is the key to happyness , everything is the way it's supposed to be , my peace I give to you he said ,. Your so pretty and smart what a wonderful Lady
💛💛💛happy is the goal ☺️
"Step out comfort zone!!" Really right!! Many people dont dare to step out a messy situation because of the unknown in front of them that make them too nervous to change!! But growing is a process of changing...Don't stuck in the dead water.