Im actually doing a 3-day trip by myself listening to this. My girlfriend and I had once again a difficult argument some days ago and we are in the middle of a big crisis. I hope everyone who has a crisis like ours is taking some time off to reflect, listen to this, listen to other very interesting talks by Esther Perel for instance, to take the right decision. A couple is complex and decisions we make about it have a huge impact on our life. Be strong all!
This should be a chapter in every relationship advice book. I wish someone had told me this when I was younger instead of "turn the other cheek" and "it takes two to tango"
Ive been married (to the same man) for 45 years. There have been long patches when we sorta existed side by side (mostly during the two huge jobs and two kids stage), other patches with some conflict. On balance, even in those times, it was better to be together than apart (sometimes financially or the kids). We had values and goals in common, that's what carried us through. So, some stages in life, we just 'marked time' but overall, we came out the other side.
We've mostly been raised with a totally unrealistic concept of soul mate; the partner that will 'complete' us and be everything we need. I see it as important to recognise that some of our emotional and social needs need to be supported by friends and family, outside the relationship. It's unrealistic to expect your partner to be all-things to you.
Disney has a lot to answer for. The 'perfect partner' and happy ever after (with no effort or compromise) myth is pervasive. Alongside that is the 'never stop pursuing your dream' thing. Its generally spread by the winners and the folks who strive and strive but will never attain the (often unrealistic/unattainable) dream are never seen, theyre the invisible majority. The ability to put everything and everyone aside to endlessly follow their dream are either narcissistic or very privileged. Also, we need to challenge the concept of happiness that marketing has brainwashed you with. Endless pleasure/novelty, is not the same as happiness. This, in itself, is worthy of discussion.
29:15 It was a revelation for me when I realized healthy people end relationships simply because they're not working for them. You mean you can DO that?! 😂 ("Thanks" mom, for teaching me I'm not allowed to have needs or boundaries. 👿) 3:55 Covert narcissists & empaths are another NON dynamic duo. So glad to be FREE!!! 🌈🌿😃🍀💖
Me, being single for years: "Interesting."
same here
Im actually doing a 3-day trip by myself listening to this. My girlfriend and I had once again a difficult argument some days ago and we are in the middle of a big crisis.
I hope everyone who has a crisis like ours is taking some time off to reflect, listen to this, listen to other very interesting talks by Esther Perel for instance, to take the right decision. A couple is complex and decisions we make about it have a huge impact on our life.
Be strong all!
This should be a chapter in every relationship advice book. I wish someone had told me this when I was younger instead of "turn the other cheek" and "it takes two to tango"
Ive been married (to the same man) for 45 years. There have been long patches when we sorta existed side by side (mostly during the two huge jobs and two kids stage), other patches with some conflict. On balance, even in those times, it was better to be together than apart (sometimes financially or the kids). We had values and goals in common, that's what carried us through. So, some stages in life, we just 'marked time' but overall, we came out the other side.
We've mostly been raised with a totally unrealistic concept of soul mate; the partner that will 'complete' us and be everything we need. I see it as important to recognise that some of our emotional and social needs need to be supported by friends and family, outside the relationship. It's unrealistic to expect your partner to be all-things to you.
Disney has a lot to answer for. The 'perfect partner' and happy ever after (with no effort or compromise) myth is pervasive. Alongside that is the 'never stop pursuing your dream' thing. Its generally spread by the winners and the folks who strive and strive but will never attain the (often unrealistic/unattainable) dream are never seen, theyre the invisible majority. The ability to put everything and everyone aside to endlessly follow their dream are either narcissistic or very privileged.
Also, we need to challenge the concept of happiness that marketing has brainwashed you with. Endless pleasure/novelty, is not the same as happiness. This, in itself, is worthy of discussion.
Should we also have a video on “How do you know when it’s time to start relationships?” 🤔
29:15 It was a revelation for me when I realized healthy people end relationships simply because they're not working for them. You mean you can DO that?! 😂 ("Thanks" mom, for teaching me I'm not allowed to have needs or boundaries. 👿) 3:55 Covert narcissists & empaths are another NON dynamic duo. So glad to be FREE!!! 🌈🌿😃🍀💖
Me who has never been in a relationship: "is that so..."
it's a re-upload 😭
Such an important topic. Thank you for covering this ❤
Mark also talk about being "single"
is it better or worse
Aren't this channel videos going to the TSAonGAf podcast? Or is there another podcast?
Giving gifts can give someone pleasure. That's not happiness
Once I started to be myself and be better to myself I saw that wasn’t being accepted so yea lol thanks 😂🤣
UA-cam wont accept my LIKE!!
Where is the poop emojy toy on the right of your sofa?😢
I think this is a re-upload, maybe he didn't have it back then.