Yes, that you said is really and actually my parents they think they can tell me what to do with my body. But i don't care for the world and so much for their opinions. Im not sure for who i am but i want to find my self . And if i know i feel scaring in the thought of doing came out . Because i don't know how they can react and i start believe i can't trust them. I believe always i was feel different of others in seriously i start thinking that i can be non binary or something like that.
Here's why it's wrong to think that way: children don't know what's good for themselves. If they had it their way, they will eat cake til they explode. Sometimes even adults don't know whats good for them, but especially more so in younger people. It's not a crazy idea to help your kid avoid bad influences
When I learned what transgender meant it took this huge weight off my shoulders. Just knowing that I wasn't the only person to experience all those confusing dysphoric/euphoric feelings was such a relief. I spent a good chunk of my life thinking I was insane.
0:35 - 0:45 I am glad that you took the time to acknowledge that non-binary people are not obligated to also identify with the word trans, but I am also glad that you also do identify with that.
I started to cry watching this. I am a biological born female, but it never really felt right. I still use she/her and never really seriously considered being transgender. But watching this, I felt like it hit something inside. I resonated more with the signs then I thought I would. I always, like I said, felt like something was wrong/uncomfortable. I wished, and still do, that one day I will wake up and be a boy. I don’t really mind being called she/her, but the gender specific compliments, those hurt. When I got a more "male" clothing style, people stopped complementing me. Only when I would were dresses I got complimented. I have never known much about the LGBTQ+ community, mostly because of my west side upbringings. being gay wasn’t a big no no, but I feel like being transgender is a whole nother level. But last year I got into this school which are really open and accepting of the LGBTQ+ community, and I have learned so much about it. I still remember the first week of school and me classmates asked in our group chat what our pronouns were and suggesting making little cards with everyone’s pronouns on them and hang them up in our classroom. I just remember thinking it was so wholesome and considerate. I am still questioning my gender, pronouns, and sexuality, but being around the environment at school and watching videos like these really make me learn and find out more about myself. Thank you to anyone who read this. I am really bad at talking about my feelings, and I don`t have many friends to talk about this either.
I'm so happy this video might have helped you figure out who are. and it's amazing that you're in an environment you feel more comfortable and came discover who you are!
This is amazing, and I'm really glad that this was made. I've been using the label "transgender" for about half a year now but there's always the thought of "what if im just faking for attention" or "you're lying to yourself." This really helped get rid of most of the doubt I was experiencing :D Tysm
Someone finally gendered me correctly today honestly~ they apologized because a few weeks ago they called me dude, then today he came to me and said “hey sorry, I know you said you’re trans, so I won’t do it again, and honestly you’re looking like a girl right now” and my heart dropped~… I blushed and honestly I was really happy
@@owletsnowy been a year since, there are no traces of my previous self left. people and even transphobes see me as a woman now. unless i say i'm trans, people won't even notice
I’ve got my first gender counselling appointment tomorrow and I had to send this to my girlfriend so she can understand me a little better. I’m a transman
Due to a lack of LGBTQ+ education in my childhood & teen years, I never came to my trans conclusion until lockdown...but I suppose there were some early indicators: 1) I always winced whenever my mum (& maybe some other relatives) called me stuff like 'handsome boy.' 2) I never liked using the urinal in public bathrooms & stubbornly used cubicals. 3) whenever having to introduce myself, a part of me would die inside whenever I would have to say my deadname out loud. 4) this one probably doesn't matter but I hate having my hair cut too short because it looked way too macho.
I've been questioning my gender for a while now, but I really relate to that 4th sign you mentioned. I really hate having my hair cut too short. It makes me feel so uncomfortable that I can't even bear to see myself in the mirror. I also heavily relate to the 2nd sign you mentioned
@@Cherrycreamsoda1 I came to my conclusion during lockdown 2020, sometime after being exposed & educated to LGBTQ+ rep. I came out in 2021. I was 21 years old in both scenarios!
my biggest one was euphoria. i would spend HOURS in cosplay because i was so comfortable and safe in the way that i was presenting. so much confidence in masculine outfits. eventually, i realized i didn’t have to force myself to be a girl if i didn’t want to anymore
I feel that too, I used to like to put my moms dresses on since those were the only thing that even came close to fitting me (5’5 vs 5’11) which doesn’t help lol, I really want to get a girly shirt or something
I'm a 14F. I'm not really sure. Ever since I was a kid, I loved dressing up in boy clothes. My parents, siblings, friends, and family used to call me tomboy. I didn't feel uncomfortable being a female, but something about being Male mad me feel safer. So in 2020 I asked my parents if I could cut my hair short and they said yes. When i cut it short, I felt more comfortable and free. I don't know if I'm trans or not, it's driving me crazy.
You are female with short hair. Boys can have long hair, girls can have short hair. The key thing you said is that you feel safer. Has someone or does society make you feel unsafe being female?
I realised I was trans through dreams, I would have lucid dreams where I was a girl, and it just felt right, I changed my name and pronouns, and I now feel sooo much better, it's like I can finally be free
I'm a 15-year-old transgender girl, and I really like this video! I have identified as a girl since I was a little kid, but I didn't know the exact term for it, and I was living as gender-neutral socially. The puberty you talked about didn't necessarily make me feel uncomfortable until when I was 14 it started to get uncomfortable that I want to develop female characteristics. Thank you for this video and hopefully this will help people that are questioning their gender identity and for those too, that don't know about gender dysphoria. P.S. My doctor made a referral to a transgender outpatient clinic and it got accepted! :) All I ever need to wait is an appointment.
As a 14-year-old closeted gay trans male, I felt the exact same. I was never a stereotypical girl (never liked pink, refused to wear dresses, my parents even got me a doll house to make me more “girly” and I put wood lice in it 😂😂😂)
@@Random-lg8eq YOU ARE 14 YEARS OLD OMG, what the hell is going on with you kids?! you don’t have to like pink, wear dresses, and like pretty stuff to be a girl. wtf
sorry but people who do this at a young age shouldnt ...he or she should of wait till there 18 at least bc alot of people who did this at a young age and then when they got older more then half of them said they shouldnt of done it or regret it or wished they had better parents bc there no going back and now they have ruined there lives. parents who let there children do this at a young age are idiots and shouldnt of became parents. when this is done at a young age they still dont understand life and world we live in and plenty of other things as well. so after w.e they have gotten done and as the years go by and get older they know more and understand more and as i said more then half said they never should of done it, it was wrong etc...
I've been questioning for years now. Somehow I just know that I want to be a girl, but I can't explain why. I'm constantly ruminating about this, constantly going from thinking I'm a trans woman to thinking maybe I've just been a cis guy all along, back and forth like a switch being turned on and off countless times. Sometimes neither of the binary genders feels right. I've tried just saying I'm non-binary to be done with the questioning, but I'm still unsure if that fits, and I keep finding myself wondering if I'm a trans woman no matter what I do. I've tried changing my pronouns to she/her countless times. Each time I do, I usually go back to he/him in about 2 or 3 weeks, after I realise that merely changing my pronouns isn't enough for me. Recently when I changed my pronouns back to she/her, it seemed like people didn't even care to use them- they'd just call me he anyway, or completely avoid using pronouns when referring to me altogether. It's like no one believes in my gender identity enough to respect it, and I hate that. How am I supposed to learn to feel comfortable with myself, if I can't even be referred to in a way that feels right? I feel like I always have to use he/him just so OTHER people can be happy. I just feel desensitised to it because people call me that every day of my life. Or that's what I keep telling myself at least. After a while, all this questioning doesn't even make sense to me. However, I feel like maybe I'm getting confused. Maybe the reason that I thought I could be trans in the first place is actually because the narrative of feeling really depressed and uncomfortable for your whole life, until a certain point where you can get the right help and be your truest self, really resonated with me, rather than me actually being transgender if that makes sense. Like, this is kinda how my anxiety and my depression make me feel, but I might have such high anxiety and depression for different reasons. If anyone out there has read through all these ramblings of mine, thanks so much :) I really hope I'm not alone in how I feel, because it feels really isolating and horrible
I feel like you definitely should talk to more trans people through Twitter, Instagram, and/or discord (specifically transfems). They may be able to help you by sharing their own experience. And for the pronouns thing, being in trans friendly spaces online helps. (I know it won’t fix misgender irl, trust me. I get misgendered left and right.)
I have to say, wow. excuse my english, it's not my native language and i'm using the translator because although i know enough to write this i'm too lazy to use my brain so now, no one had written my feelings in such an exact way that you just did, I didn't know how to do it and I didn't think there was a way to do it but here you are, you and your comment...Well I, I have had no self-esteem in my whole life (I am 16 years old) and I feel exactly the same way as you, except that I feel that the possible confusion is because of my lack of self-esteem and depression I'm writing all this and I don't have an answer for our situation either but I just wanted to say thanks for tidying things up for me even a little bit I wish I could help you but I can only wish you luck and tell you that even if you don't see it possible now you will feel better soon
You're not alone. I've been dealing with depression much of my life, but I also think that some of the cause might be that I've been living as the wrong gender. (I'm nonbinary, leaning to trans-masc.) But I also sometimes wonder if I'm crazy to even be trying to transition, because so many of the people around me don't understand trans issues, or care to, apart from saying "We love you no matter what," whatever that's supposed to mean, while still misgendering me every time I see them. The pain is real. And before anyone suggests it, I don't do social media. I'm a grouchy Gen-Xer, and I eschew those pretty hate machines... Except this one. ;)
For me, my gender dysphoria growing up was very very subtle. I didn’t like being called she. I felt so disconnected to “she,” as well as my birth name, and I thought it was normal, I guess? But I liked being called a girl and stuff, and I actually liked that changes that happened to my body during puberty. But, I guess that’s because I’m still very feminine🧍🏻 Then one day, last year, I suddenly realized “hey, neopronouns are pretty poggers” And like a day or 2 later I just randomly thought, “I wouldn’t mind being seen as nonbinary” And then the gender crisis started at 17😭😭 Now I’m a demiboy/nonbinary boy (I use both because Im a demiboy but I’m also a boy in a nonbinary way? Idk)
I'm a late bloomer, exploring my gender identity now that I'm 35. But I've never been comfortable with my natal gender, and I remember distinctly episodes when it was so painfully glaring, in hindsight. But it was different times, and we didn't have the words, the notion of gender identity and transness back there. I might be late to the game, but I'm here now, fighting tooth and nail to be seen for who I am 💪
first off- Your hair looks really cool! (I'm a little envious) Secondly, this video made me very happy! Thank you so much Lynn! Today someone in my class said something kind of transphobic to me and it made me feel really bad but this cheered me right up, so thank you, thank you so much!
I’m so sorry that someone was transphobic towards you, no matter what they say your identity is 100% valid! You will always be welcome in the community, we accept you!
Okay I was thinking I was a trans male but I still watched this video and everything was correct like I always wear baggy clothes to cover my chest and cut my hair always hated being called a female and the way I mostly found out was when I was at a restaurant and they referred to me as a male and omg I felt sooo good- I came out to my mother and my step father and two step sisters and ofc my best friend and I say that I am trans online and stuff but besides those people there is a lot who don’t know and I am thinking of getting a binder and a flag soon so that’s good!
One time my mom asked me “what name would you want if you decided you were a boy. And it was a minute before I answered “Gabriel.” And then I thought about it for a moment and thought “oh my god, I answered too fast.” And then she asked me “and if you were non binary?” I didn’t respond this time but in my head I thought “Either Ellis or Mako.” And I think about it a lot. More of the “but I’m not non-binary?” And then thinking about it so much that I just give up because I don’t have the energy.
I just wanna say, I love the name Mako 🤣 And I can definitely relate to giving up on thinking about it bc it takes too much energy and turns depressing. That’s all I wanted to say lol, but goodluck on your gender journey!
Watching this right before I post that I am trans to my socials bc I was gaslighting myself into thinking I wasn’t trans. Thank you for this video, it really helped me :)
I have been questioning my gender ever since I knew what transgender was. At the start, puberty was bad. I grew bewbs at a young age because of genes and body weight. I was in outright denial about being in puberty and having breasts. I refused to wear a bra until my mom said I had to. Even then I didn't want to have bras with padding, because I didn't want my bewbs to look bigger. I also never liked being called stuff like "Princess," or gendered nicknames. I even had a phase where I dressed more feminine to "Hide who I was," (I was questioning my sexuality, deep in the closet). I had one time where I told my parents I wanted to dress more masculine. I had been eyeing up the button-up shirts at the men's clothing store. They agreed to let me try them on, so that I would see that they didn't fit. They didn't fit, and I felt so bad I wanted to cry, but I didn't.
I started to question my gender when i found out abt trans too! Ive never had problems w being a girl- but i remember before i didnt know what trans rlly is i made my avatar a guy.. and it made me feel a bit better- I still chose girl avatars bc- idk i felt closer to girls.. IT TURNS LIKE A SWITCH I SOMETIMES WANT FO BE A GIRL AND SOMETIMES A BOY and this is so confusing- help
Being someone who rarely experiences gender dysphoria, this video was very helpful. I never really had any issues with being a guy growing up (other than the body hair thing... that hit hard) but once I started exploring femininity and pronouns and names... it all just clicked super well. like damn.
Saaame. I mean I've always avoided the hell out of mirrors so it would be easier to not notice things but definitely the hair has always bothered me a lot. My friend just recently took me shopping for clothes and my first time trying on leggings was like "omg is this that euphoria thing they talk about?" I mean I'm still not sure how I feel exactly but we're getting somewhere 😭
@@jordanstark5924omg gg 😂 You're making me realise I have forgotten so many things cuz of trauma puberty was hell and since I'm autistic I made up multiple personalities and lied to myself to protect myself in my violent toxic environment my conservative ass 3rd world country and crazy mom 😢
I've recently started questioning my gender. I remember having thoughts as a child about the line that goes through the male genitals and thought that it was where my parents chose to make me a boy before i was born and wished that there was an easy way to undo that. Little did i know then that this was actually how males are formed. Never been too comfortable in my own skin. once tried waxing my legs during lock down just to see how that felt... it was very nice. however, I am a Dad... and have since grown to like that title and not sure i'd have it any other way. so there might be conflict between who i've become (a dad and husband) and who might be my true self. maybe it's in between, I've yet to figure this out and i don't really have privacy away from any that would be affected by my trying different gendered things. The sad thing is that the reality might be that I might find out that i'm trans and not have the courage to disrupt my family life and hope that everything is ok in the end. Upon reading this back to myself, maybe i need a therapist to help me work through somethings. it's a mind field! I absolutely admire anyone who decides that they are trans and goes through with it.
many women don't associate with wanting a stereotypical female gender roles that doesn't mean they should be a trans ' man' puberty is uncomfortable for everyone the problem is all the stereotypes used what people do to is not the problem what is strange are all the stereotypes
As a child especially in middle school I was fine whenever somebody used my biological pronouns he/him but whenever someone used she/her or they/them it always just made me feel really comfortable. Actually for a while I thought being trans was just the opposite of your gender and since I was fine with people calling me by my biological pronouns I thought I was like genderfluid or agender until I dug deeper down into the trans community so thank you :)
Finding out that I'm trans really helped explain the "weird" things I did in childhood. And really explained me being dissociated through puberty longer than recovering from a brain surgery.
Hiiii, so cis-women here (at least I think I am) As I am ace-pan and very invested in the queer community, I am around a lot of genderqueer and trans people (like queer people in general) and I think because of that I am very aware of the struggles and stages of these identeties. I don‘t believe in the gender binary and don‘t really feel conected to „womenhood“ but I also don‘t necessarily feel uncomfortable being (and being conceived) as a women. I think (and this is just completely my opinion) gender doesnt matter (for me) it‘s just all very absurd to me to try to lable a feeling that is sooo very individual and is based on a societal construct. I hope I‘m getting my point across without sounding invalidating. I just think a world without gender would be great (as much as I‘d be possible. I love you videos, and thank you so much for your time if your reading this :)
I appreciate you’re comment and it definitely didn’t invalid me. I just know gender does matter so some folks but I’m trans non-binary so not so much to me lol
The more time goes by, the more I grew out of gender and relationship roles and divisions, that is to say that I am genderqueer and asexual but I also was panromantic and non-monogamous before I turned to be a relationship anarchist and rejected relationship roles and divisions all together.
I feel like everyone is so happy about finding who they really are… for me it just feels so dreadful… i love doing masculine things but he/him doesn’t feel right so for a long time i just identified as enby. But a friend told me “its okay to change how you feel about yourself as you grow and get to know yourself better”. That hit me like a semi truck i dont know what im going to do.. i hate my body and i dont know what to do. There isn’t anything i can do… (i know ftm people have it a lot harder but I still wanna voice my own struggles)
I’m still identifying as bi and genderfluid, but have started questioning whether or not I am trans, in my late thirties as an amab. I grew up in a household where I was the only (biological) boy. At school I didn’t want to play the rough games the boys were playing. I was more than happy to play with the girls. It was more fun, and gentler. From a young age, I was so certain that my genitals were wrong. Like something had been done to them surgically. Today, I asked friend if they would use my preferred pronouns and name, and they said yes. And when they used my name, and called me she, it was so amazing. I wanted to happy cry.
Always nice to see you lynn you are perfect the way you are you are part of the trans umbrella just as much as you are part of the asexual umbrella you are beautiful and perfect inside and out love you the way you are i always count you as a close friend thank you lynn
When people called me young lady I felt like I was dying inside. I was once referred to as sir by a waiter and it made my day. Thought I was cis for 10 years after that.
Wow! This is very educational and I loved how you explained this. As a cis-female I hated the adolescence phase in my life. The hormonal changes with other layers going on with me. As soon as I got to high school, I became more and more comfortable in my body, but dealing with other issues that were beyond my control. I think a lot of people don't understand the magnitude of what this feels like for someone who is trans. Thanks for sharing your story!
Fun fact (?) :If your autistic your more likley to be trans or non binary. I do light research on autisim and i can tell if people are autistic (most of thd time) but literally only through roblox 😭 like uh my friend ace i asked them P O L I T L E Y if they were autistic and they said they are getting diagnosed soon, the asked me why and i said i can smell it, same thig happened wih my other friend but i was wrong, the actually had ADD (ADHD but different, im researching about it yet so im not gonna say anything about it)
Ive recently come to terms with me possibly being trans and it feels amazing being accepted by my friends but my family wont ever accept me for who i am. I have had a pretty good relationship with my parents, even if their not really emotionally there for me they still raised me with love. But ever since ive started being more "boyish" they have become abit hostile. My mom hates the idea of me being a boy and it makes me really really sad. The fact that my mom and dad wont ever accept me hurts so much because ive always loved them so much and still do, and the fact that when they say they love me could be a lie is somthing i cant handle atall. This video helped me alot, especially the part about life being short and living happy,hope your living your best life, this goes out to all the trans people around the world
Watching this video all those years ago really helped me figure out what this feeling was inside of me. I was hating myself and just basically thinking no matter how hard I tried to force being cis it would never work out it would never give me that felling of reassurance of being proud and happy about who I was. So thank you so very much for making this.
This helped me thank you I was forced to come out because my boyfriend at the time didn’t want me because I told him I wasn’t comfortable in my body and we broke up it was hard but I was forced to come out when I told my mom and she was supportive and lately I have been confused about what I am but I know a will find out sooner or later I’ve been playing around with names and pronouns for a couple days and it’s been fun just looking for a new way to express myself thank you I hope your doing well sorry for the rant I needed to get this off my chest
Im an AFAB enby, but i associate with a lot of these. im fine being called female pronouns and my assigned name, but I usually ask people, including my teachers, to call me my nickname(gio) NO MATTER WHAT! I really like my birth name, i think its pretty. It feels feminine, unlike me, but I meet people who are with gn/masc names and are feminine, so it makes me feel fine. im fine with not changing my name or legal gender, but I see myself as nonbinary. This just made me feel even better. -gio (she/him)
I still don’t know I wanna be a male, but it feels wrong since my parents are…kinda homophobic so I don’t wanna be disowned. I always hang with boys and it feels normal then with girls it feels weird…my period now makes me feel like a woman, but I wanna be male for a while now. It feels wrong and weird.. I don’t know if this is a sign I might, but I also always want short hair now. I wanna do cheer, but wanna be a boy. I’m scared.
Jesus loves you turn to him and repeat John 3:16. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Psalm 23 “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.” Colossians 3:12 “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Please seek help from the bible it will change your life Jesus loves you ;)
i am having a gender crisis. i label myself as pansexual and gender-fluid but i always did feel more comfortable with he/him pronouns. (i’m a biological girl) but i’m also fine with other pronouns, and on some days i don’t prefer he/him as much as others. but i still love he/him pronouns so idfk what i am maybe i am just gender-fluid and i’m tweaking. but i get so happy when people use he/him for me and sometimes online i tell people i’m he/him and i love it. also when i went through puberty, i did anything i could to make my breasts smaller and i hated them. getting my period also makes me super uncomfortable and i hate thinking about having my period because it means i’m a girl. it’s uncomfortable looking in the mirror sometimes because of my curves but sometimes i LOVE my curves. i always wore baggy clothes and would have panic attacks if i wore anything else because of my body and its shape. i’ve also ALWAYS had a feeling i was different than others, and something inside of me was missing. i just felt like i couldn’t relate to anyone around me. i also get gender euphoria ALL THE TIME. sometimes i cut my hair my hair very short, and i stare at myself in the mirror loving my masculine look. other times it’s just when i wear masculine clothing. sorry if this was long, i just have a lot of experiences that i’m questioning. can someone tell me if i’m trans or not?
I was born female. Was always...different. Came out as gay. (really young) Felt... Broken. Felt like I was going insane. Depressed. Started to consider being trans. Found out my parents are transphobes... Felt even worse. Started to be like "its fine." Got into sports. Felt broken again. Went back to questioning my gender. A little more has happens but... What do I do...?
But when I started puberty (and stuff) ...I felt like... Dying. I felt broken and like life was a waste of time. It was unfair that I wasn't a guy. My parents want a guy... But not a "weird" guy. (trans male) *sigh* Help me.
As an afab transmasc demigirl I personally never felt that uncomfortable with my period. It felt like something neutral. I never got told by my mother that I was becoming a woman or any of that, she just helped with process. Also I have adhd and experience hyperactivity that can be unbearable at times. I guess I get relieved when I feel like I can naturally relax. I donno periods feel so removed from gender for me. I also have an odd relationship with my bits that are traditionally gendered by some. I sometimes wish my chest was bigger and more older looking?? I wish my entire body was taller and had more grown proportions. I wouldn't mind being tall and busty because then I could be masculine in a edgy "punk" girl way. But I'm small and I don't feel like breaking my legs to be 5'7" so I'll settle with small guy with nice tits who looks kinda fruity. On that note I get strong bottom dysphoria at times and wish I had a functional penis. My ideal self makes sense in my head but I'm aware society in general probably wouldn't take me seriously?? Idk I doubt it :/
1000th comment! Ty sm for putting this on here.. This helped me sm except for the fact theres NO way my parents would ever support me or anything.. they dont even understand that Im not okay with being touched or physically touched in any way by people im not comfortable with or anything.. And my dads one of those ppl im not comfortable with. And he doesnt listen and makes it worse. Literally, at this point im now CRYING everytime i get physically touched by someone i dont like..
I came out to my friends and they al loved me for who I am exempt 1 who didn't understand , but when she did start to get it and called me by my preferred gender , it felt amazing 😊
I got this recommended but I was certain I'm not trans. Still, I thought "Why not watch any way and just rule out every sign?" Unsurprisingly, I'm happy with my gender. But the first few points still resonated with me and I noticed there is a piece of my identity that was assigned at birth and I've spent every waking moment since I can remember trying to deny. I feel I can understand you lot much better now. So much so, I want to give 2 more signs and hopefully someone will relate to them: The frustration when someone (ie. the bank or a government agency) has your papers and you have to bite the bullet and identify the way it's written and not the way you feel. The pity you feel for missing experiences others born into the life you want had in childhood and other stages that have already passed you by. Of course, there is a massive chance I'm just talking out of my arse here and this has nothing to do with your feelings. In any case, stay strong my friends. Sometimes life isn't fair; but once you turn it around, you can be proud of yourself.
Before you think you’re transgender just give yourself some time to think, Chances are you’re not. You don’t need to be girly to be a girl you just need to be yourself, don’t worry what this person says, you can still be a girl and like all the things that guys like!! I was born with a lot of Brothers, and I guess I wouldn’t act like a girl, but even so, I am still a girl you can’t change the fact who you are biologically. It’s more that you need to accept yourself❤
@@flowerstem733 and before you start talking again, why come on videos like these just to type a useless paragraph? You think you have effect on people? No lol you don't
what should you go about it then because it’s a mental thing. they can’t stand living in their biological sex so they transition to not hurt themselves.
@@mxsilly You apparently need the leg analogy. Just because some people are born with one leg doesn't mean humans aren't bipedal or that the number of legs is on a spectrum. Same thing with gender. If you have a genetic or developmental defect (i.e. intersex), that doesn't make gender a spectrum. It's still binary. Get it now?
So true I am ftm trans and I get a very gut reaching in my stomach when people misgender me and call me by the wrong name. And I always be this way. All this stuff I go through and or have been through
This sounds like my story. I always loved girly things and wished I was a girl as a kid but I never voiced that opinion because I thought I was weird. I suppressed those thoughts as I got older, I actually forgot that I'd been thinking like that. It would come back every now and then but I'd shoot it down. Its really only been the last 3-4 years of me defending trans rights online that these thoughts came back to me. I'm in my early 30s now and just came out as genderfluid but I am wondering i am just trans and that pretending its "genderfluid" is part of that suppression I've done my whole life and I've just not come to terms with my real gender identity. Taking HRT does excite me, so I think that may be the case.
I’m going to tell you what made me figure out I was mtf trans even tho no one cares: I have been all over the spectrum. I’ve thought I’ve been a gay man, bi, ace, aegosexual, all sorts. And the one thing all of these had in common is that when I realised it I hated it, it’s not who I wanted to be and I cried a lot, but when I realised I was trans it just felt natural and correct and I didn’t not want to feel like that like with everything else I had thought I was.
I'm alr knowing I'm trans but just checking cause sometimes it feels .. you know.. wrong? Maybe cause I was born and learned that "Trans bad" "Trans grrr" but yknow..
I still can’t figure out if I’m trans, non-binary, or gender-fluid. I don’t really much feel like a girl at all but I can’t seem to find what category I fit into. I’ve stuck with the identity of non-binary for a while but i feel like I’m starting to get pushed over to the male side, but at the same time, I don’t really fit into the male or female categories evenly. Could someone please help me figure out?
I'm going to share the cis comparison of myself: It feels really nice to be referred to in men's terms but I don't mind being called feminine terms. It feels relieving to cut my hair short and not have feminine hair. Puberty is often uncomfortable for some, it was not uncomfortable for me. I feel different than everybody else. I don't feel like a woman. I feel like I am out of touch and don't understand how women are supposed to think or act. I allow myself to just be who I am. I didn't complain to anyone that I wasn't a boy. I thought about whether I was a boy once or twice a month during my teen years. I have never changed my name or pronouns. I am happy as a cis woman.
This helped me a lot. I was confused and was scared to actually revel myself. I had thought it was just I needed to be more feminine but it was to b3 something else. Thanks for this video so much love and I am going to start out nonbinary.
For some reason when I was 15 I started thinking that maybe T would stop flowing through my body after puberty was done. Boy was I wrong. I think I look foward to undoing the effects of male puberty. :)
One time in middle school a group of boys yelled to me “BRO WHY ARE YOU GOING INTO THE GIRLS BATHROOM?!” and I turned around, they realized I was a girl and laughed at themselves before saying sorry but it felt good to me. thank you random group of teenage boys.
Hii! Just talking abt my (unfinished) journey. Cis: birth year- start of 2024 Demigirl: a month or two Gender fluid: 1-3 weeks -.starts questioning if im pangender- Pangender: like a day Now: am i trans? Am i gender fluid? Am i pangended? Guys i dont even know anymore Oh yeah, im gonna wait some more into puberty and stuffs. Wish me luck for finding my gender :3 Edit: ok, I think Im trans, also at one point this year I think I was bigender?
This honestly convinced me I'm trans. I talked about it when my friends and for the most part they've been overwhelmingly positive. It's almost scary sometimes because they keep moving on faster then I do, but I'm greatful for that. Other then that I still gotta tell my parents so that'll be an experience, but I hope to grow into someone I can be proud of
I am a cis man, and Sometimes I ask myself "am I trans? Or rather, I would do anything to not work out and eat healthier?" Three signs in and I am pointed towards the latter.😢
i was assigned female at birth. But I feel like that isn’t right, I’ve been questioning for a year now and never figured out. I kept identifying as different identities but none of them fitted me enough, I can’t explain how I feel either. Because it’s such a confusing thing to put into words. but I noticed that I really enjoy being referred to as “transgender”, and being referred to as a male name, I’m comfortable with he/him too. But I don’t mind if someone uses something else. I feel like being a guy would be easier. I always wish that I had a deeper voice. And even had a dream about it, which may be my body telling me I’m trans, but I ignored it because I kept getting confusion on if I actually was, I do occasionally experience gender dysphoria, but it’s very mild I’ve wanted to have a flat chest too. And wanted to bind at some point. The slight gender dysphoria I feel is normally towards my feminine parts. I also don’t usually wear clothing that would be considered “feminine”, usually just baggy clothes and hoodies And I never thought about this until now. I think most of these is probably a sign I’m trans, or at least. Transmasc. But I’m not sure, which is why I’m here, sorry if this is messy. It’s quite late and I’m not good at explaining things
Explains a lot for me. Memories of me dressing up in my sister clothes when I was pre kindergarten. The euphoria of wearing clothes that I feel fits who I feel like.
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1. I didn't get uncomfortable as a kid and tried to imitate my sister and other girls. But as I got older I hated being told to be a lady and to act/sit/dress like a lady. Being called miss and ma'am feels weird. And I hated women's spaces since I hit puberty. And now I just don't want to be associated with anything girl or woman-related. 2. The first time someone called me they/them I felt amazing. Since then I dropped she/her completely. 3. I don't hate puberty like my period never bothered me. My voice is naturally neutral. But my boobs grew in forcing me to have to hide my chest. That bothers me. And they're so big I can't hide them. I hate bras. I hate hiding my chest. I could never understand my sister telling me I had to shave. I don't shave now. 4. I never said I wanted to be a boy. But when I played as a kid I almost always played the male role and I played 'boy games' and I got on better with guys 5. I used to have long hair. Now it's short. I'm still figuring out my hair.
When I found out that I was trans everything just clicked when I was younger around probably 5 I would have princess dresses in my closet and when it just felt right,when I would play any online game or make believe game I would always be a girl,so if you think you might be trans see how it makes you feel if you relies that awesome but if you relies that your not that cool and one more thing before I go if your just releasing don’t be scared be proud of who you are🎉🎉🎉🎉
Since I was 13 i felt different. Long time i hid what i felt. In the age of 25 it has changed. Now I'm 44 and realised, that there is more that hetero- and homosexual. I was married to a woman for 12 yrs, got divorced, live gay now (i did it before i fell in love with the woman i used to fell in love with). The relationship is kinda hard, since i feel the trans* Part in me is coming up. He is afraid to loose me. And can't wait, until i made my decision to become a woman. Thank you for those words in your video: "Your life is for you" "You only have one" Thank you, thank you, thank you...
I figured out I was transmasc when I was 9 or 10. I’m now 12 with my hair cut and I’m so happy. I was freed of something. #protecttranskids butttt besides that this is a pretty cool video, wish I found it earlier
Hearing you say you're a non-binary person who identify with the word trans, mean a lot as that how i feel quite often but always thought to myself that you can only be on or the other, this has opened my mind quite abit, thank you
I am going on 30 years old so when I was kid transgender wasn't really talked about. I remember being 10 years old and embarrassed of my body and couldnt even look in the mirror of myself. I would wear clothes in the shower because I couldnt bear the thought of being naked. at 12 I started wrapping my chest in tight shirts and layers of sports bras because I wanted to be flat chested. I went into therapy and was put on anxiety depression meds later on. I did go on to be more confident as I got older. I think sometimes maybe everyone has a little body dysmorphia. I dont think changing ones gender is the fix all to this. it was a long term mental battle and I will be on anxity depression meds for life but I accepted who I am and I am different then other women. I dont have to be feminine to be a woman.
I hated my body (body hair the most) since puberty started and always had reocurring thoughts and daydreaming about being a girl and how cool would that be and always hated when someone called me a man and that I am gonna get married in the future. Since nobody talked about it I just shrugged it off and told myself that it's normal and every guy goes through this and I just need to get used to it. Now I am confident in the fact that I am trans but when I start doubting myself and thinking I am just faking it for atention and to be unique I go to this type of content for reassurance or talk to my close friend and that doubt goes away as soon as he calls me by my preffered name and pronouns (she/her) Thank you for making this video
“your life is for you” I dont think enough people especially parents realize this
Yes, that you said is really and actually my parents they think they can tell me what to do with my body. But i don't care for the world and so much for their opinions. Im not sure for who i am but i want to find my self . And if i know i feel scaring in the thought of doing came out . Because i don't know how they can react and i start believe i can't trust them. I believe always i was feel different of others in seriously i start thinking that i can be non binary or something like that.
Here's why it's wrong to think that way: children don't know what's good for themselves. If they had it their way, they will eat cake til they explode. Sometimes even adults don't know whats good for them, but especially more so in younger people. It's not a crazy idea to help your kid avoid bad influences
When I learned what transgender meant it took this huge weight off my shoulders. Just knowing that I wasn't the only person to experience all those confusing dysphoric/euphoric feelings was such a relief. I spent a good chunk of my life thinking I was insane.
I hope that you are feeling a lot better
I regret to inform you that you are.
I have EXTREME eurphoria
Fr like I can change my gender?? 🤩🤩
👁👄👁 ima trans I have them all
0:35 - 0:45 I am glad that you took the time to acknowledge that non-binary people are not obligated to also identify with the word trans, but I am also glad that you also do identify with that.
Being "trans" is a lie from masons, search about them, be not deceived by them.
none are "trans", all are victims of masonry depopulation agenda.
I started to cry watching this. I am a biological born female, but it never really felt right. I still use she/her and never really seriously considered being transgender. But watching this, I felt like it hit something inside. I resonated more with the signs then I thought I would. I always, like I said, felt like something was wrong/uncomfortable. I wished, and still do, that one day I will wake up and be a boy. I don’t really mind being called she/her, but the gender specific compliments, those hurt. When I got a more "male" clothing style, people stopped complementing me. Only when I would were dresses I got complimented.
I have never known much about the LGBTQ+ community, mostly because of my west side upbringings. being gay wasn’t a big no no, but I feel like being transgender is a whole nother level. But last year I got into this school which are really open and accepting of the LGBTQ+ community, and I have learned so much about it. I still remember the first week of school and me classmates asked in our group chat what our pronouns were and suggesting making little cards with everyone’s pronouns on them and hang them up in our classroom. I just remember thinking it was so wholesome and considerate.
I am still questioning my gender, pronouns, and sexuality, but being around the environment at school and watching videos like these really make me learn and find out more about myself.
Thank you to anyone who read this. I am really bad at talking about my feelings, and I don`t have many friends to talk about this either.
I'm so happy this video might have helped you figure out who are. and it's amazing that you're in an environment you feel more comfortable and came discover who you are!
UR SCHOOL SOUNDS SO COOL I WISH MINE WAS LIKE THAT :")
you are what you are born as - rest is all just bs
@@PeaceToAll-sl1db way to kill the vibe moron
@@PeaceToAll-sl1db no
This is amazing, and I'm really glad that this was made. I've been using the label "transgender" for about half a year now but there's always the thought of "what if im just faking for attention" or "you're lying to yourself." This really helped get rid of most of the doubt I was experiencing :D
Tysm
I’m so happy it helped!
Honestly same here but I just can't get over it
Someone finally gendered me correctly today honestly~ they apologized because a few weeks ago they called me dude, then today he came to me and said “hey sorry, I know you said you’re trans, so I won’t do it again, and honestly you’re looking like a girl right now” and my heart dropped~… I blushed and honestly I was really happy
💀💀
Sounds u had a crush
Awee good luck on ur transitioning journey and whatnot
@@owletsnowy been a year since, there are no traces of my previous self left. people and even transphobes see me as a woman now. unless i say i'm trans, people won't even notice
Hope your living your best life!
I’ve got my first gender counselling appointment tomorrow and I had to send this to my girlfriend so she can understand me a little better. I’m a transman
Awwww that’s amazing! I hope the appointment goes well☺️
@@lynnsaga1397 I only went and got my diagnosis of gender dysphoria- next step, T! Your boy smashed it! 💙💖🤍💖💙
@@anaveragemuppet Congratulations!! How is it going so far? As someone who wants to take T is their anything you could recommend or warn me about?
@@Random-lg8eq I haven’t started yet, but I’ve had the go ahead for Nebido which is a shot that you get every twelve weeks
@@anaveragemuppet hey, how’s T going? :)
Due to a lack of LGBTQ+ education in my childhood & teen years, I never came to my trans conclusion until lockdown...but I suppose there were some early indicators:
1) I always winced whenever my mum (& maybe some other relatives) called me stuff like 'handsome boy.'
2) I never liked using the urinal in public bathrooms & stubbornly used cubicals.
3) whenever having to introduce myself, a part of me would die inside whenever I would have to say my deadname out loud.
4) this one probably doesn't matter but I hate having my hair cut too short because it looked way too macho.
I've been questioning my gender for a while now, but I really relate to that 4th sign you mentioned. I really hate having my hair cut too short. It makes me feel so uncomfortable that I can't even bear to see myself in the mirror. I also heavily relate to the 2nd sign you mentioned
How old were you when u came out, if you don't mind me asking?
@@Cherrycreamsoda1 I came to my conclusion during lockdown 2020, sometime after being exposed & educated to LGBTQ+ rep. I came out in 2021.
I was 21 years old in both scenarios!
Omygod, same 😭 I've been experiencing all of this what is happening to me 😭.
Lmao you can’t be serious. those aren’t indicators that you’re trans. It’s indicators that you’re insecure and socially awkward.
my biggest one was euphoria. i would spend HOURS in cosplay because i was so comfortable and safe in the way that i was presenting. so much confidence in masculine outfits. eventually, i realized i didn’t have to force myself to be a girl if i didn’t want to anymore
I feel that too, I used to like to put my moms dresses on since those were the only thing that even came close to fitting me (5’5 vs 5’11) which doesn’t help lol, I really want to get a girly shirt or something
ok wait i think i’m trans-
I'm a 14F. I'm not really sure. Ever since I was a kid, I loved dressing up in boy clothes. My parents, siblings, friends, and family used to call me tomboy. I didn't feel uncomfortable being a female, but something about being Male mad me feel safer. So in 2020 I asked my parents if I could cut my hair short and they said yes. When i cut it short, I felt more comfortable and free. I don't know if I'm trans or not, it's driving me crazy.
You are female with short hair. Boys can have long hair, girls can have short hair. The key thing you said is that you feel safer. Has someone or does society make you feel unsafe being female?
@@xz740 not really, I just feel uncomfortable and that being a girl doesn't suit me
@@Heheheheehheehehhehheh What is “being a girl”?
@@xz740 my body, my gender. It just doesn't suit me, that's how I feel
oh my god are you me? I feel the same way! Im glad Im not alone.
i am really needing this more than ever atm :/
gender crisis going harrrdddddd :P
I hope it helps ☺️
Same
I realised I was trans through dreams, I would have lucid dreams where I was a girl, and it just felt right, I changed my name and pronouns, and I now feel sooo much better, it's like I can finally be free
I have dreams every night about waking up as a girl. Those dreams are the best!
Love those dreams
Oh my goodness that is so me right now
Same but opposite gender :0
Omg same. Big same.
I'm a 15-year-old transgender girl, and I really like this video! I have identified as a girl since I was a little kid, but I didn't know the exact term for it, and I was living as gender-neutral socially. The puberty you talked about didn't necessarily make me feel uncomfortable until when I was 14 it started to get uncomfortable that I want to develop female characteristics. Thank you for this video and hopefully this will help people that are questioning their gender identity and for those too, that don't know about gender dysphoria.
P.S. My doctor made a referral to a transgender outpatient clinic and it got accepted! :) All I ever need to wait is an appointment.
Cool!
As a 14-year-old closeted gay trans male, I felt the exact same. I was never a stereotypical girl (never liked pink, refused to wear dresses, my parents even got me a doll house to make me more “girly” and I put wood lice in it 😂😂😂)
@@Random-lg8eq YOU ARE 14 YEARS OLD OMG, what the hell is going on with you kids?! you don’t have to like pink, wear dresses, and like pretty stuff to be a girl. wtf
sad that you are suffering from this condition - hope you get medication
sorry but people who do this at a young age shouldnt ...he or she should of wait till there 18 at least bc alot of people who did this at a young age and then when they got older more then half of them said they shouldnt of done it or regret it or wished they had better parents bc there no going back and now they have ruined there lives. parents who let there children do this at a young age are idiots and shouldnt of became parents. when this is done at a young age they still dont understand life and world we live in and plenty of other things as well. so after w.e they have gotten done and as the years go by and get older they know more and understand more and as i said more then half said they never should of done it, it was wrong etc...
I've been questioning for years now. Somehow I just know that I want to be a girl, but I can't explain why. I'm constantly ruminating about this, constantly going from thinking I'm a trans woman to thinking maybe I've just been a cis guy all along, back and forth like a switch being turned on and off countless times. Sometimes neither of the binary genders feels right. I've tried just saying I'm non-binary to be done with the questioning, but I'm still unsure if that fits, and I keep finding myself wondering if I'm a trans woman no matter what I do.
I've tried changing my pronouns to she/her countless times. Each time I do, I usually go back to he/him in about 2 or 3 weeks, after I realise that merely changing my pronouns isn't enough for me. Recently when I changed my pronouns back to she/her, it seemed like people didn't even care to use them- they'd just call me he anyway, or completely avoid using pronouns when referring to me altogether. It's like no one believes in my gender identity enough to respect it, and I hate that. How am I supposed to learn to feel comfortable with myself, if I can't even be referred to in a way that feels right? I feel like I always have to use he/him just so OTHER people can be happy. I just feel desensitised to it because people call me that every day of my life. Or that's what I keep telling myself at least. After a while, all this questioning doesn't even make sense to me.
However, I feel like maybe I'm getting confused. Maybe the reason that I thought I could be trans in the first place is actually because the narrative of feeling really depressed and uncomfortable for your whole life, until a certain point where you can get the right help and be your truest self, really resonated with me, rather than me actually being transgender if that makes sense. Like, this is kinda how my anxiety and my depression make me feel, but I might have such high anxiety and depression for different reasons.
If anyone out there has read through all these ramblings of mine, thanks so much :)
I really hope I'm not alone in how I feel, because it feels really isolating and horrible
I feel like you definitely should talk to more trans people through Twitter, Instagram, and/or discord (specifically transfems). They may be able to help you by sharing their own experience. And for the pronouns thing, being in trans friendly spaces online helps. (I know it won’t fix misgender irl, trust me. I get misgendered left and right.)
Have you considered the possibility of being gender fluid?
@@Kathen Yeah I have before. I've watched videos about what genderfluidity is from people who are genderfluid, and I don't think I am genderfluid.
I have to say, wow.
excuse my english, it's not my native language and i'm using the translator because although i know enough to write this i'm too lazy to use my brain so now,
no one had written my feelings in such an exact way that you just did, I didn't know how to do it and I didn't think there was a way to do it but here you are, you and your comment...Well I, I have had no self-esteem in my whole life (I am 16 years old) and I feel exactly the same way as you, except that I feel that the possible confusion is because of my lack of self-esteem and depression
I'm writing all this and I don't have an answer for our situation either but I just wanted to say thanks for tidying things up for me even a little bit I wish I could help you but I can only wish you luck and tell you that even if you don't see it possible now you will feel better soon
You're not alone. I've been dealing with depression much of my life, but I also think that some of the cause might be that I've been living as the wrong gender. (I'm nonbinary, leaning to trans-masc.) But I also sometimes wonder if I'm crazy to even be trying to transition, because so many of the people around me don't understand trans issues, or care to, apart from saying "We love you no matter what," whatever that's supposed to mean, while still misgendering me every time I see them. The pain is real.
And before anyone suggests it, I don't do social media. I'm a grouchy Gen-Xer, and I eschew those pretty hate machines... Except this one. ;)
For me, my gender dysphoria growing up was very very subtle.
I didn’t like being called she. I felt so disconnected to “she,” as well as my birth name, and I thought it was normal, I guess? But I liked being called a girl and stuff, and I actually liked that changes that happened to my body during puberty. But, I guess that’s because I’m still very feminine🧍🏻
Then one day, last year, I suddenly realized “hey, neopronouns are pretty poggers”
And like a day or 2 later I just randomly thought, “I wouldn’t mind being seen as nonbinary”
And then the gender crisis started at 17😭😭
Now I’m a demiboy/nonbinary boy (I use both because Im a demiboy but I’m also a boy in a nonbinary way? Idk)
I'm a late bloomer, exploring my gender identity now that I'm 35. But I've never been comfortable with my natal gender, and I remember distinctly episodes when it was so painfully glaring, in hindsight. But it was different times, and we didn't have the words, the notion of gender identity and transness back there. I might be late to the game, but I'm here now, fighting tooth and nail to be seen for who I am 💪
I really needed this. I’m starting the process of getting hrt and doubting myself and what I’m feeling and this put things back into perspective
first off- Your hair looks really cool! (I'm a little envious)
Secondly, this video made me very happy! Thank you so much Lynn!
Today someone in my class said something kind of transphobic to me and it made me feel really bad but this cheered me right up, so thank you, thank you so much!
Awww I'm sorry someone said that to you, but you are always welcome here and I'm glad my video cheered you up!
I’m so sorry that someone was transphobic towards you, no matter what they say your identity is 100% valid! You will always be welcome in the community, we accept you!
I cried while watching this
I don’t…cry much, but yeah, I cried too. Well, I guess I technically didn’t cry, but I got all teary-eyed.
Okay I was thinking I was a trans male but I still watched this video and everything was correct like I always wear baggy clothes to cover my chest and cut my hair always hated being called a female and the way I mostly found out was when I was at a restaurant and they referred to me as a male and omg I felt sooo good- I came out to my mother and my step father and two step sisters and ofc my best friend and I say that I am trans online and stuff but besides those people there is a lot who don’t know and I am thinking of getting a binder and a flag soon so that’s good!
One time my mom asked me “what name would you want if you decided you were a boy. And it was a minute before I answered “Gabriel.” And then I thought about it for a moment and thought “oh my god, I answered too fast.” And then she asked me “and if you were non binary?” I didn’t respond this time but in my head I thought “Either Ellis or Mako.” And I think about it a lot. More of the “but I’m not non-binary?” And then thinking about it so much that I just give up because I don’t have the energy.
I just wanna say, I love the name Mako 🤣 And I can definitely relate to giving up on thinking about it bc it takes too much energy and turns depressing. That’s all I wanted to say lol, but goodluck on your gender journey!
Watching this right before I post that I am trans to my socials bc I was gaslighting myself into thinking I wasn’t trans. Thank you for this video, it really helped me :)
I have been questioning my gender ever since I knew what transgender was. At the start, puberty was bad. I grew bewbs at a young age because of genes and body weight. I was in outright denial about being in puberty and having breasts. I refused to wear a bra until my mom said I had to. Even then I didn't want to have bras with padding, because I didn't want my bewbs to look bigger. I also never liked being called stuff like "Princess," or gendered nicknames. I even had a phase where I dressed more feminine to "Hide who I was," (I was questioning my sexuality, deep in the closet). I had one time where I told my parents I wanted to dress more masculine. I had been eyeing up the button-up shirts at the men's clothing store. They agreed to let me try them on, so that I would see that they didn't fit. They didn't fit, and I felt so bad I wanted to cry, but I didn't.
I started to question my gender when i found out abt trans too!
Ive never had problems w being a girl- but i remember before i didnt know what trans rlly is i made my avatar a guy.. and it made me feel a bit better- I still chose girl avatars bc- idk i felt closer to girls.. IT TURNS LIKE A SWITCH I SOMETIMES WANT FO BE A GIRL AND SOMETIMES A BOY and this is so confusing- help
Being someone who rarely experiences gender dysphoria, this video was very helpful. I never really had any issues with being a guy growing up (other than the body hair thing... that hit hard) but once I started exploring femininity and pronouns and names... it all just clicked super well. like damn.
Same
Saaame. I mean I've always avoided the hell out of mirrors so it would be easier to not notice things but definitely the hair has always bothered me a lot.
My friend just recently took me shopping for clothes and my first time trying on leggings was like "omg is this that euphoria thing they talk about?"
I mean I'm still not sure how I feel exactly but we're getting somewhere 😭
@@jordanstark5924omg gg 😂 You're making me realise I have forgotten so many things cuz of trauma puberty was hell and since I'm autistic I made up multiple personalities and lied to myself to protect myself in my violent toxic environment my conservative ass 3rd world country and crazy mom 😢
I've recently started questioning my gender. I remember having thoughts as a child about the line that goes through the male genitals and thought that it was where my parents chose to make me a boy before i was born and wished that there was an easy way to undo that. Little did i know then that this was actually how males are formed.
Never been too comfortable in my own skin. once tried waxing my legs during lock down just to see how that felt... it was very nice.
however, I am a Dad... and have since grown to like that title and not sure i'd have it any other way. so there might be conflict between who i've become (a dad and husband) and who might be my true self. maybe it's in between, I've yet to figure this out and i don't really have privacy away from any that would be affected by my trying different gendered things. The sad thing is that the reality might be that I might find out that i'm trans and not have the courage to disrupt my family life and hope that everything is ok in the end. Upon reading this back to myself, maybe i need a therapist to help me work through somethings.
it's a mind field! I absolutely admire anyone who decides that they are trans and goes through with it.
This video is just what I needed today, thank you so much!
Awwww I’m glad it was☺️
many women don't associate with wanting a stereotypical female gender roles that doesn't mean they should be a trans ' man' puberty is uncomfortable for everyone the problem is all the stereotypes used what people do to is not the problem what is strange are all the stereotypes
Stereotypes and gossips is really for hell . The future is on our hands !!!! ❤ ✊ I want to be anything i want not that i must to be.
Its not transphobic to say puberty is uncomfortable for everyone... Thats just true 😐
I disagree with the narrative that women are “pretty” and grow up, get married, & have kids. No one has to do any of those things.
Why its how humanity has been running for like always
As a child especially in middle school I was fine whenever somebody used my biological pronouns he/him but whenever someone used she/her or they/them it always just made me feel really comfortable. Actually for a while I thought being trans was just the opposite of your gender and since I was fine with people calling me by my biological pronouns I thought I was like genderfluid or agender until I dug deeper down into the trans community so thank you :)
Finding out that I'm trans really helped explain the "weird" things I did in childhood. And really explained me being dissociated through puberty longer than recovering from a brain surgery.
Wow, that one felt a bit too close to home. Not surgery but flashbacks did cause me to dissociate less than puberty lmao
Bro you make me so happy with those videos, it's so relatable😭
Thanks! I'm non-binary and I believe I, too, am trans :) Thank you for this. I love your channel. This video (and content) is so relatable.
Your not non-binary youre non-logical .
@@unknowngreenguy Learn about intersex / nonbinary chromosomes before you comment.
@@karacourtney3271 get some bread before you talk. The bitches love some good bread
@@unknowngreenguy There is no such word as "non-logical". It's illogical. Instead of bringing people down, why don't you learn English first
Good to see another nonbinary person in the comments
I started crying at 4:28 finally having explaination to what's happening to me feels so good. Thank you so much ❤
Hiiii, so cis-women here (at least I think I am)
As I am ace-pan and very invested in the queer community, I am around a lot of genderqueer and trans people (like queer people in general) and I think because of that I am very aware of the struggles and stages of these identeties. I don‘t believe in the gender binary and don‘t really feel conected to „womenhood“ but I also don‘t necessarily feel uncomfortable being (and being conceived) as a women. I think (and this is just completely my opinion) gender doesnt matter (for me) it‘s just all very absurd to me to try to lable a feeling that is sooo very individual and is based on a societal construct. I hope I‘m getting my point across without sounding invalidating. I just think a world without gender would be great (as much as I‘d be possible.
I love you videos, and thank you so much for your time if your reading this :)
I appreciate you’re comment and it definitely didn’t invalid me. I just know gender does matter so some folks but I’m trans non-binary so not so much to me lol
The more time goes by, the more I grew out of gender and relationship roles and divisions, that is to say that I am genderqueer and asexual but I also was panromantic and non-monogamous before I turned to be a relationship anarchist and rejected relationship roles and divisions all together.
Gender matters to me!
I’m a fiend for labels to describe myself, so that’s part of it. But, my gender identity is really important to me.
@@UczuciaTM I'm happy for you, that's great! I just never understood it myself
I feel like everyone is so happy about finding who they really are… for me it just feels so dreadful… i love doing masculine things but he/him doesn’t feel right so for a long time i just identified as enby. But a friend told me “its okay to change how you feel about yourself as you grow and get to know yourself better”. That hit me like a semi truck i dont know what im going to do.. i hate my body and i dont know what to do. There isn’t anything i can do… (i know ftm people have it a lot harder but I still wanna voice my own struggles)
I’m still identifying as bi and genderfluid, but have started questioning whether or not I am trans, in my late thirties as an amab.
I grew up in a household where I was the only (biological) boy. At school I didn’t want to play the rough games the boys were playing. I was more than happy to play with the girls. It was more fun, and gentler.
From a young age, I was so certain that my genitals were wrong. Like something had been done to them surgically.
Today, I asked friend if they would use my preferred pronouns and name, and they said yes. And when they used my name, and called me she, it was so amazing. I wanted to happy cry.
2:35 is SO SO relatable. Like i hated it the whole time like “ugh why do ‘I’ have to have this?” And it felt to so wrong etc
4:14 that story is so fricking relatable
This video helped me so much.
I’m a male to female! ^_^
Almost cried watching it, i thought i was the only one who felt like this, thank you :)
Always nice to see you lynn you are perfect the way you are you are part of the trans umbrella just as much as you are part of the asexual umbrella you are beautiful and perfect inside and out love you the way you are i always count you as a close friend thank you lynn
Thank you so much!!
When people called me young lady I felt like I was dying inside. I was once referred to as sir by a waiter and it made my day. Thought I was cis for 10 years after that.
Wow! This is very educational and I loved how you explained this. As a cis-female I hated the adolescence phase in my life. The hormonal changes with other layers going on with me. As soon as I got to high school, I became more and more comfortable in my body, but dealing with other issues that were beyond my control. I think a lot of people don't understand the magnitude of what this feels like for someone who is trans. Thanks for sharing your story!
Fun fact (?) :If your autistic your more likley to be trans or non binary.
I do light research on autisim and i can tell if people are autistic (most of thd time) but literally only through roblox 😭 like uh my friend ace i asked them P O L I T L E Y if they were autistic and they said they are getting diagnosed soon, the asked me why and i said i can smell it, same thig happened wih my other friend but i was wrong, the actually had ADD (ADHD but different, im researching about it yet so im not gonna say anything about it)
That's pretty cool (I'm autistic)
@@MisterHamiltonn ouh me and my friends all agree autistic people are better
Ive recently come to terms with me possibly being trans and it feels amazing being accepted by my friends but my family wont ever accept me for who i am. I have had a pretty good relationship with my parents, even if their not really emotionally there for me they still raised me with love. But ever since ive started being more "boyish" they have become abit hostile. My mom hates the idea of me being a boy and it makes me really really sad. The fact that my mom and dad wont ever accept me hurts so much because ive always loved them so much and still do, and the fact that when they say they love me could be a lie is somthing i cant handle atall. This video helped me alot, especially the part about life being short and living happy,hope your living your best life, this goes out to all the trans people around the world
Loved this!
Awwwwww thank you so much!
Watching this video all those years ago really helped me figure out what this feeling was inside of me. I was hating myself and just basically thinking no matter how hard I tried to force being cis it would never work out it would never give me that felling of reassurance of being proud and happy about who I was. So thank you so very much for making this.
This helped me thank you
I was forced to come out because my boyfriend at the time didn’t want me because I told him I wasn’t comfortable in my body and we broke up it was hard but I was forced to come out when I told my mom and she was supportive and lately I have been confused about what I am but I know a will find out sooner or later I’ve been playing around with names and pronouns for a couple days and it’s been fun just looking for a new way to express myself thank you
I hope your doing well sorry for the rant I needed to get this off my chest
i am so happy that i found this video, knowing that i am trans feels refreshing like all the weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
Im an AFAB enby, but i associate with a lot of these. im fine being called female pronouns and my assigned name, but I usually ask people, including my teachers, to call me my nickname(gio) NO MATTER WHAT! I really like my birth name, i think its pretty. It feels feminine, unlike me, but I meet people who are with gn/masc names and are feminine, so it makes me feel fine. im fine with not changing my name or legal gender, but I see myself as nonbinary. This just made me feel even better.
-gio (she/him)
When you said "your life is for you and you only live this once so do what makes you happy" it almost made me cry
I still don’t know I wanna be a male, but it feels wrong since my parents are…kinda homophobic so I don’t wanna be disowned. I always hang with boys and it feels normal then with girls it feels weird…my period now makes me feel like a woman, but I wanna be male for a while now. It feels wrong and weird.. I don’t know if this is a sign I might, but I also always want short hair now. I wanna do cheer, but wanna be a boy. I’m scared.
Jesus loves you turn to him and repeat
John 3:16. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
Psalm 23
“The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.”
Colossians 3:12
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”
Romans 12:2
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Please seek help from the bible it will change your life
Jesus loves you ;)
@@Lordofthering908 lol
@@ThatOneJupiter do you want to be scared, angry and confused all your life?
@@Lordofthering908 idk
@@ThatOneJupiter then please just a least look into Christianity the bible will give you guidance for your life
i am having a gender crisis. i label myself as pansexual and gender-fluid but i always did feel more comfortable with he/him pronouns. (i’m a biological girl) but i’m also fine with other pronouns, and on some days i don’t prefer he/him as much as others. but i still love he/him pronouns so idfk what i am maybe i am just gender-fluid and i’m tweaking. but i get so happy when people use he/him for me and sometimes online i tell people i’m he/him and i love it. also when i went through puberty, i did anything i could to make my breasts smaller and i hated them. getting my period also makes me super uncomfortable and i hate thinking about having my period because it means i’m a girl. it’s uncomfortable looking in the mirror sometimes because of my curves but sometimes i LOVE my curves. i always wore baggy clothes and would have panic attacks if i wore anything else because of my body and its shape. i’ve also ALWAYS had a feeling i was different than others, and something inside of me was missing. i just felt like i couldn’t relate to anyone around me. i also get gender euphoria ALL THE TIME. sometimes i cut my hair my hair very short, and i stare at myself in the mirror loving my masculine look. other times it’s just when i wear masculine clothing.
sorry if this was long, i just have a lot of experiences that i’m questioning. can someone tell me if i’m trans or not?
You aren’t, you are confused and gullible. You are insecure and it just requires you to accept your body.
I’m Trans MTF Awww I love this! I totally agree! I looove your videos! I really hope you create more content!Im Vanessa by the way! 🌈❤️
I was born female.
Was always...different.
Came out as gay. (really young)
Felt... Broken.
Felt like I was going insane.
Depressed.
Started to consider being trans.
Found out my parents are transphobes...
Felt even worse.
Started to be like "its fine."
Got into sports.
Felt broken again.
Went back to questioning my gender.
A little more has happens but... What do I do...?
But when I started puberty (and stuff) ...I felt like... Dying. I felt broken and like life was a waste of time. It was unfair that I wasn't a guy. My parents want a guy... But not a "weird" guy. (trans male)
*sigh*
Help me.
Dude this is me wtf
As an afab transmasc demigirl I personally never felt that uncomfortable with my period. It felt like something neutral. I never got told by my mother that I was becoming a woman or any of that, she just helped with process. Also I have adhd and experience hyperactivity that can be unbearable at times. I guess I get relieved when I feel like I can naturally relax. I donno periods feel so removed from gender for me.
I also have an odd relationship with my bits that are traditionally gendered by some. I sometimes wish my chest was bigger and more older looking?? I wish my entire body was taller and had more grown proportions. I wouldn't mind being tall and busty because then I could be masculine in a edgy "punk" girl way. But I'm small and I don't feel like breaking my legs to be 5'7" so I'll settle with small guy with nice tits who looks kinda fruity. On that note I get strong bottom dysphoria at times and wish I had a functional penis. My ideal self makes sense in my head but I'm aware society in general probably wouldn't take me seriously?? Idk I doubt it :/
1000th comment! Ty sm for putting this on here.. This helped me sm except for the fact theres NO way my parents would ever support me or anything.. they dont even understand that Im not okay with being touched or physically touched in any way by people im not comfortable with or anything.. And my dads one of those ppl im not comfortable with. And he doesnt listen and makes it worse. Literally, at this point im now CRYING everytime i get physically touched by someone i dont like..
I came out to my friends and they al loved me for who I am exempt 1 who didn't understand , but when she did start to get it and called me by my preferred gender , it felt amazing 😊
I got this recommended but I was certain I'm not trans. Still, I thought "Why not watch any way and just rule out every sign?" Unsurprisingly, I'm happy with my gender. But the first few points still resonated with me and I noticed there is a piece of my identity that was assigned at birth and I've spent every waking moment since I can remember trying to deny. I feel I can understand you lot much better now. So much so, I want to give 2 more signs and hopefully someone will relate to them:
The frustration when someone (ie. the bank or a government agency) has your papers and you have to bite the bullet and identify the way it's written and not the way you feel.
The pity you feel for missing experiences others born into the life you want had in childhood and other stages that have already passed you by.
Of course, there is a massive chance I'm just talking out of my arse here and this has nothing to do with your feelings. In any case, stay strong my friends. Sometimes life isn't fair; but once you turn it around, you can be proud of yourself.
Pray for all of y’all😔, love all y’all even tho I don’t support yall
My mom made me trans by taking medication, I was in her womb at second stage so I have a female brain to..❤
Before you think you’re transgender just give yourself some time to think, Chances are you’re not. You don’t need to be girly to be a girl you just need to be yourself, don’t worry what this person says, you can still be a girl and like all the things that guys like!! I was born with a lot of Brothers, and I guess I wouldn’t act like a girl, but even so, I am still a girl you can’t change the fact who you are biologically.
It’s more that you need to accept yourself❤
What?
Shortened: you can’t identify as another gender
@@flowerstem733 yes you can :/
@@flowerstem733 and before you start talking again, why come on videos like these just to type a useless paragraph? You think you have effect on people? No lol you don't
what should you go about it then because it’s a mental thing. they can’t stand living in their biological sex so they transition to not hurt themselves.
I have no idea what my gender is, but, being amab, i dont really mind male pronouns, but people using feminine pronouns on me feels amazing.
Don’t feelings change over time ?
Can you do a "signs your white video?", I am struggling with my ethnicity identity.
💀
I went through this journey a while ago, but it's always a good thing to always look back at
Thank you
You helped me as I have questioned myself and I don’t feel like a boy
Five signs you might be a failure
can’t believe you wanted to figure out if you’re a failure
I know this is an old video, but OMG I NEED that background on my devices.
You're not non-binary. There's no such thing.
@UCIEzredAYtM5WTkkP6dqNkA No you're not. Non-binary is a made-up category. Your body either produces sperm or eggs.
@@mxsilly No, they are not different. Yes, I've heard of intersex.
@@mxsilly You apparently need the leg analogy. Just because some people are born with one leg doesn't mean humans aren't bipedal or that the number of legs is on a spectrum. Same thing with gender. If you have a genetic or developmental defect (i.e. intersex), that doesn't make gender a spectrum. It's still binary. Get it now?
@@mxsilly You do. Your body either has ovaries or testicles. Which one is it?
@@mxsilly I don't really care which one it is, but my point is that you have one or the other.
So true I am ftm trans and I get a very gut reaching in my stomach when people misgender me and call me by the wrong name. And I always be this way. All this stuff I go through and or have been through
Stop the propaganda please. This does not come from inside, this can only be learned.
Bruh !
"Stop this propaganda!!!1!!!!1" I would've been DEAD if i didn't make this choice
@@aliensarerealexe i feel bad that you are only 13 and you did this to yourself
@@aliensarerealexedying by a disease is one thing, taking one’s life for a cult is another.
Don’t drink too much coolaid
This sounds like my story. I always loved girly things and wished I was a girl as a kid but I never voiced that opinion because I thought I was weird. I suppressed those thoughts as I got older, I actually forgot that I'd been thinking like that. It would come back every now and then but I'd shoot it down. Its really only been the last 3-4 years of me defending trans rights online that these thoughts came back to me. I'm in my early 30s now and just came out as genderfluid but I am wondering i am just trans and that pretending its "genderfluid" is part of that suppression I've done my whole life and I've just not come to terms with my real gender identity. Taking HRT does excite me, so I think that may be the case.
brainwashed
I’m going to tell you what made me figure out I was mtf trans even tho no one cares:
I have been all over the spectrum. I’ve thought I’ve been a gay man, bi, ace, aegosexual, all sorts. And the one thing all of these had in common is that when I realised it I hated it, it’s not who I wanted to be and I cried a lot, but when I realised I was trans it just felt natural and correct and I didn’t not want to feel like that like with everything else I had thought I was.
I'm alr knowing I'm trans but just checking cause sometimes it feels .. you know.. wrong? Maybe cause I was born and learned that "Trans bad" "Trans grrr" but yknow..
I still can’t figure out if I’m trans, non-binary, or gender-fluid. I don’t really much feel like a girl at all but I can’t seem to find what category I fit into. I’ve stuck with the identity of non-binary for a while but i feel like I’m starting to get pushed over to the male side, but at the same time, I don’t really fit into the male or female categories evenly. Could someone please help me figure out?
I'm going to share the cis comparison of myself:
It feels really nice to be referred to in men's terms but I don't mind being called feminine terms. It feels relieving to cut my hair short and not have feminine hair.
Puberty is often uncomfortable for some, it was not uncomfortable for me.
I feel different than everybody else. I don't feel like a woman. I feel like I am out of touch and don't understand how women are supposed to think or act. I allow myself to just be who I am. I didn't complain to anyone that I wasn't a boy. I thought about whether I was a boy once or twice a month during my teen years.
I have never changed my name or pronouns. I am happy as a cis woman.
This helped me a lot. I was confused and was scared to actually revel myself. I had thought it was just I needed to be more feminine but it was to b3 something else. Thanks for this video so much love and I am going to start out nonbinary.
I’m watching this having an identity crisis, how’s your day going?
For some reason when I was 15 I started thinking that maybe T would stop flowing through my body after puberty was done. Boy was I wrong. I think I look foward to undoing the effects of male puberty. :)
One time in middle school a group of boys yelled to me “BRO WHY ARE YOU GOING INTO THE GIRLS BATHROOM?!” and I turned around, they realized I was a girl and laughed at themselves before saying sorry but it felt good to me. thank you random group of teenage boys.
Hii! Just talking abt my (unfinished) journey.
Cis: birth year- start of 2024
Demigirl: a month or two
Gender fluid: 1-3 weeks
-.starts questioning if im pangender-
Pangender: like a day
Now: am i trans? Am i gender fluid? Am i pangended? Guys i dont even know anymore
Oh yeah, im gonna wait some more into puberty and stuffs. Wish me luck for finding my gender :3
Edit: ok, I think Im trans, also at one point this year I think I was bigender?
This honestly convinced me I'm trans. I talked about it when my friends and for the most part they've been overwhelmingly positive. It's almost scary sometimes because they keep moving on faster then I do, but I'm greatful for that. Other then that I still gotta tell my parents so that'll be an experience, but I hope to grow into someone I can be proud of
I am a cis man, and Sometimes I ask myself "am I trans? Or rather, I would do anything to not work out and eat healthier?"
Three signs in and I am pointed towards the latter.😢
I’m 11 and I’m a girl but i find myself very happy when I think abt me being a boy
i was assigned female at birth. But I feel like that isn’t right, I’ve been questioning for a year now and never figured out. I kept identifying as different identities but none of them fitted me enough, I can’t explain how I feel either. Because it’s such a confusing thing to put into words. but I noticed that I really enjoy being referred to as “transgender”, and being referred to as a male name, I’m comfortable with he/him too. But I don’t mind if someone uses something else. I feel like being a guy would be easier. I always wish that I had a deeper voice. And even had a dream about it, which may be my body telling me I’m trans, but I ignored it because I kept getting confusion on if I actually was, I do occasionally experience gender dysphoria, but it’s very mild
I’ve wanted to have a flat chest too. And wanted to bind at some point. The slight gender dysphoria I feel is normally towards my feminine parts. I also don’t usually wear clothing that would be considered “feminine”, usually just baggy clothes and hoodies
And I never thought about this until now. I think most of these is probably a sign I’m trans, or at least. Transmasc. But I’m not sure, which is why I’m here, sorry if this is messy. It’s quite late and I’m not good at explaining things
You explained it very well. Don't t worry, everything is going to be okay. Hang in there...
Explains a lot for me. Memories of me dressing up in my sister clothes when I was pre kindergarten. The euphoria of wearing clothes that I feel fits who I feel like.
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1. I didn't get uncomfortable as a kid and tried to imitate my sister and other girls. But as I got older I hated being told to be a lady and to act/sit/dress like a lady. Being called miss and ma'am feels weird. And I hated women's spaces since I hit puberty. And now I just don't want to be associated with anything girl or woman-related.
2. The first time someone called me they/them I felt amazing. Since then I dropped she/her completely.
3. I don't hate puberty like my period never bothered me. My voice is naturally neutral. But my boobs grew in forcing me to have to hide my chest. That bothers me. And they're so big I can't hide them. I hate bras. I hate hiding my chest. I could never understand my sister telling me I had to shave. I don't shave now.
4. I never said I wanted to be a boy. But when I played as a kid I almost always played the male role and I played 'boy games' and I got on better with guys
5. I used to have long hair. Now it's short. I'm still figuring out my hair.
When I found out that I was trans everything just clicked when I was younger around probably 5 I would have princess dresses in my closet and when it just felt right,when I would play any online game or make believe game I would always be a girl,so if you think you might be trans see how it makes you feel if you relies that awesome but if you relies that your not that cool and one more thing before I go if your just releasing don’t be scared be proud of who you are🎉🎉🎉🎉
I turned 18 on august 24th. Finally realized I'm a trans male and everything makes sense now.
None of this is what men go through mentally growing up .
I am trans i feel like.. This helped me alot and thank you so much!! 💞
“… wearing baggy clothes to hide your chest.” STOP. CALLING. ME. OUT.
Since I was 13 i felt different. Long time i hid what i felt. In the age of 25 it has changed. Now I'm 44 and realised, that there is more that hetero- and homosexual.
I was married to a woman for 12 yrs, got divorced, live gay now (i did it before i fell in love with the woman i used to fell in love with). The relationship is kinda hard, since i feel the trans* Part in me is coming up. He is afraid to loose me. And can't wait, until i made my decision to become a woman.
Thank you for those words in your video: "Your life is for you" "You only have one"
Thank you, thank you, thank you...
I figured out I was transmasc when I was 9 or 10. I’m now 12 with my hair cut and I’m so happy. I was freed of something. #protecttranskids butttt besides that this is a pretty cool video, wish I found it earlier
Hearing you say you're a non-binary person who identify with the word trans, mean a lot as that how i feel quite often but always thought to myself that you can only be on or the other, this has opened my mind quite abit, thank you
I am going on 30 years old so when I was kid transgender wasn't really talked about. I remember being 10 years old and embarrassed of my body and couldnt even look in the mirror of myself. I would wear clothes in the shower because I couldnt bear the thought of being naked. at 12 I started wrapping my chest in tight shirts and layers of sports bras because I wanted to be flat chested. I went into therapy and was put on anxiety depression meds later on. I did go on to be more confident as I got older. I think sometimes maybe everyone has a little body dysmorphia. I dont think changing ones gender is the fix all to this. it was a long term mental battle and I will be on anxity depression meds for life but I accepted who I am and I am different then other women. I dont have to be feminine to be a woman.
I AM SO CONFUSED RIGHT NOW!!!
I hated my body (body hair the most) since puberty started and always had reocurring thoughts and daydreaming about being a girl and how cool would that be and always hated when someone called me a man and that I am gonna get married in the future. Since nobody talked about it I just shrugged it off and told myself that it's normal and every guy goes through this and I just need to get used to it. Now I am confident in the fact that I am trans but when I start doubting myself and thinking I am just faking it for atention and to be unique I go to this type of content for reassurance or talk to my close friend and that doubt goes away as soon as he calls me by my preffered name and pronouns (she/her)
Thank you for making this video