3 Tips To Calm Your Nerves Before Speaking

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  • @Hannah-nh5gf
    @Hannah-nh5gf 9 місяців тому +57

    I tried this and it helped so much especially remembering to breath normally when I get anxiety and knowing that it was just in my brain . I didn't even shake when I was looking at the crowd. I'm even so excited to present again. Thankyou so much for this ❤
    Edit: I've always been a person scared of standing in front of people and I'm trying to get better and I feel like I've done it now.

    • @zineb-iy7zs
      @zineb-iy7zs 9 місяців тому

      Me too I have a presentation tomorrow and I feel like I wanna cancel it even though I'll get a zero because m too scared can you pls help me and tell me what u did exactly

    • @Hannah-nh5gf
      @Hannah-nh5gf 9 місяців тому +5

      @@zineb-iy7zs If you start feeling like your heart is beating fast listen to your breath and try to breath normal or slowly and try to remain that way. And also view having to present as a chance to get better not something to be scared of. I realized that the fear was just in my brain so try not to think in the way that "I'm nervous" or "I'm afraid" Try your best to stay calm and think "I'm excited to try this out, I know I'll do it"

    • @Hannah-nh5gf
      @Hannah-nh5gf 9 місяців тому

      @@zineb-iy7zs Good luck😊I believe you'll be good

    • @zineb-iy7zs
      @zineb-iy7zs 9 місяців тому +2

      I'll try to do this wish me luck and thank uuu for ur advices and support ❤❤❤❤

    • @Hannah-nh5gf
      @Hannah-nh5gf 9 місяців тому

      @@zineb-iy7zs you're welcome❤️I believe you'll do it well😊

  • @noobknight47
    @noobknight47 8 місяців тому +37

    Tips shared:
    1. Take deeper breath to relax, makes the body calm.
    2. Visualise doing the task/presentation successfully.
    3. Imagining how would you feel if others can listen to your negative thoughts on a microphone, replace it with good one.

  • @Tokiioriio
    @Tokiioriio 10 місяців тому +16

    I have generalized anxiety disorder so it makes it worse for me to present but I hope this works!

    • @3laaemad
      @3laaemad 9 місяців тому +2

      Did it work?

    • @Tokiioriio
      @Tokiioriio 9 місяців тому +6

      @@3laaemad yes!

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  9 місяців тому +2

      @@Tokiioriio so happy to hear that! Those that have the harder fight come out stronger so it's great that you're taking action and trying new things to manage your anxiety!

    • @laura_7581
      @laura_7581 Місяць тому

      @@Tokiioriioso there’s a hope for me for tomorrow?

  • @rakeeshajones6832
    @rakeeshajones6832 9 місяців тому +1

    WOW!!!! This was not only a great help for me personally, she actually hit on topics that are a part of my presentation. Great stuff!!

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому

      Yes! Nothing better than a 2-in1 haha. So happy to hear this helped you!

  • @kabeitirapatience8838
    @kabeitirapatience8838 9 місяців тому +11

    When i think about public speaking i get tears in my eyes, how can you help me with this

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому +4

      What you describe is normal for so many people and it shows just how powerful your mind is. The fact your thoughts cause a physical reaction also helps prove the mind-body connection. In the same way your mind influences your body, your body can influence your mind to help you feel better. Try the following: Think about public speaking while practicing the diaphragmatic breathing exercise shown in the video at 7:55. The goal is keep doing slow steady breaths in the 4-4-6 rhythm no matter how you feel. Initially you may still feel tears in your eyes and other unpleasant sensations as you think about public speaking - keep breathing through it. Eventually, you will start to feel calmer, your heart rate will settle, and you'll feel better. New habits and mindsets take time, so you'll naturally need to practice doing this when you find time. But if you couple this with practicing the visualization tip at 9:40, you'll eventually build the habit of thinking about public speaking positively, while training your body to feel calm while doing so!

  • @barbaravandereecken2262
    @barbaravandereecken2262 10 місяців тому +9

    Thank you... very useful video and tips -currently training those butterflies to fly in formation :-)

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  10 місяців тому

      Happy to hear this video helped Barbara! Keep at it and your butterflies will be following your orders to the letter!

  • @ArunMPEdison
    @ArunMPEdison 9 місяців тому +1

    Thank you, much for sharing. Loved the fly the butterfly. All the Velcro analogies which helped it stick! Acknowledging the negative bias was a big lesson as it hits us back a lot more after the presentation.

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому +1

      Happy to help and glad so much of this resonated for you. We're are always our worst critic. Making the mental switch to being your own biggest supporter does wonders for your confidence!

  • @souadkesserwani572
    @souadkesserwani572 Рік тому +4

    thank you so much, amazingly clear and practical, keep it up

  • @kamaraisatu926
    @kamaraisatu926 8 місяців тому +10

    Whenever I was given a microphone to talk in public my hands my whole body shakes so much

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  7 місяців тому +5

      Copying and pasting the response to someone who commented about shaking below:
      Shaking is a symptom of a higher heart rate and shallow breathing. That's why we recommend deep, slow breathing leading up to presenting, and pausing at key moments when talking for emphasis and to take a breath. It relaxes your body taking the tension out and preventing the shaking.
      Also, if you just feel a TON of nerves before presenting. Just go to a private space and literally shake it out. Wiggle your body and limbs to get some of the physical tension out too.
      Lastly, be sure to have eaten a few hours before speaking and definitely avoid coffee or any stimulant.
      Just remember that it's ok to be nervous and you should feel proud of yourself for going up and doing it anyway. That's real courage. The more you face the fear, the easier it will become!

  • @doreemarasi274
    @doreemarasi274 8 місяців тому +4

    I lost hope already that I’m
    going to get better with public speaking. This time, I’ll put my trust in your process.

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому

      Thank you for your trust Doree. Please know that you absolutely, 100% can get better at public speaking. BUT it does take time and it will take practice. Understand that making mistakes is part of the process and each one is a step in the right direction, even if it doesn't feel like it in the moment. As long as you don't lose hope and keep trying, we promise, your success and growth is inevitable!

  • @zoallang2493
    @zoallang2493 2 місяці тому +2

    I really enjoyed your presentation, I some time feel like hating my personality of being a such a shy introverted person but all I have learned was that Creator did do a mistake of making some people shy . So deep breathing before speaking and practicing your presentation over and over again is excellent.

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  2 місяці тому

      So happy to hear you enjoyed our video! Public speaking can be hard for both extroverts and introverts, though extroverts may have more natural, outgoing social skills than the latter. Still, extroverts can struggle with a fear of public speaking, anxiety, and forgetting their presentation mid-sentence just like introverts. The fact that you already know that you lean towards introversion is wonderful, becuase you've learned something about yourself. That means, as you continue to learn, grow, and develop new skills, you'll know to look for advice and learning material that suits YOUR needs as an introverted person. There is no "one-size-fits-all" here--just lots of failing forward till you find what works and stick with it. Deep breathing exercises before speaking (box breath is great for this, same with dragon breath), practicing your presentation, and positive visualization are all effective methods of pushing past the fear and learning to believe in yourself. You can do this!

  • @anonymous-9964
    @anonymous-9964 8 місяців тому

    Thank you so much for sharing your tips

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому

      Appreciate the comment, happy to help!

  • @markray7133
    @markray7133 11 місяців тому +2

    Thank you so much for this video. Very practical tips. Great to find a few easy to remember things to improve this important skill.

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  10 місяців тому

      Appreciate your comment Mark. The goal is to provide guidance that is actionable as much as possible!

  • @juanmesa7664
    @juanmesa7664 6 місяців тому +1

    These videos are amazing. Thank you so much!

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  6 місяців тому

      Happy to hear it Juan, thank you for the comment!

  • @secondstring
    @secondstring 3 місяці тому +5

    Been battling public speaking anxiety for decades...badly. Nothing works for me. Hope this will.

  • @sameersaeed6037
    @sameersaeed6037 2 роки тому +2

    I’ve seen ur videos and found them helpful

  • @charlacharla2885
    @charlacharla2885 3 місяці тому

    Thank you, and God Is great!

  • @y6guan
    @y6guan 2 місяці тому

    Thank you ❤

  • @Luis.DeJesus
    @Luis.DeJesus 10 місяців тому

    This was amazing, thank you

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  9 місяців тому

      Appreciate you saying so, thank you as well!

  • @thexpax
    @thexpax 6 місяців тому

    S o m e o n e who gives brief, real life helps for anxiety and stress simply and without "fluff!"
    Thank 🧡 you I am a fan.

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  6 місяців тому +1

      Happy to hear it! And yeah everything we teach MUST help and be proven. Fia's personal story from when she was younger is facing literal stage fright during a live performance in NY, completely forgetting her lines, and freezing in place. She understands first-hand how crippling stress and anxiety can be. It's what spurred her to understand the mind more and find proven methods to share that anyone to implement. And now she keynotes on confidence and courage!

  • @MARKSMISCELLANEOUS
    @MARKSMISCELLANEOUS 8 місяців тому

    Thanks for this, but how can we do 446 breathing when doing our talk?

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому +3

      All of these exercises are what you should do leading up to speaking. The 446 breathing is excellent to do right up until it's your turn to go up because it will put your body in a calmer state. When it comes to actually presenting, the goal is to simply take slow deep breaths rather than short quick ones. As we mentioned in another comment: To you it will seem like you're being talking too slow and taking pauses that are too long - but ironically, to the audience you will seem calm and well-spoken. Good speakers always pause and never rush, so taking slow breaths will calm you down and help you appear more confident! Try watching any TED Talk and pay attention to when the speaker takes a breath. First you'll realize you never paid attention to their breathing before (no audience does), second you'll see how the pauses help give the speech better pacing and emphasis.

    • @MARKSMISCELLANEOUS
      @MARKSMISCELLANEOUS 8 місяців тому

      @@MoxieInstitute thank u!

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому

      @@MARKSMISCELLANEOUS happy to help!

  • @mindlight2662
    @mindlight2662 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks, great content ❤

  • @Sydney.bloxburg515
    @Sydney.bloxburg515 8 місяців тому +1

    I have genirazed anxiety so hopefully this helps! :)

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому +1

      Hope so too, please let us know! At the very least, the diaphragmatic breathing should help offset some of the physical symptoms of anxiety.

    • @Sydney.bloxburg515
      @Sydney.bloxburg515 8 місяців тому

      @@MoxieInstitute this really help! tysm for the tops

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому +1

      @@Sydney.bloxburg515 Happy to hear it!

    • @Sydney.bloxburg515
      @Sydney.bloxburg515 8 місяців тому

      @@MoxieInstitute :) !!!!!

  • @abdulhafizbozdag2988
    @abdulhafizbozdag2988 Рік тому

    Thank you

  • @savitaharjani
    @savitaharjani 11 місяців тому

    Excellent presentation - thanks!

  • @francisjtuk
    @francisjtuk 7 місяців тому +9

    My god this was always a huge issue for me - even the introductions in big meetings used to screw me up. Especially as everyone else seemed to be so put together and calm. The bottom line is even if you feel that way you CAN still talk even if your voice is a bit shaky. It's not as noticeable to anyone else. Just get through the first couple of minutes and things start to settle down. You've got to think of it like standing up to a bully. Yes you might get beaten up but you're going to do it anyway.

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  7 місяців тому +3

      We promise you that among the "put together and calm" group there were DEFINITELY other nervous/anxious people. We often feel the worse about ourselves and assume the best of others. Which also validates your other point, it's often not as noticeable as it feels. And agreed. Our philosophy is that "showing up is the hardest part". It always starts hard and gets easier as you go.

  • @arti4choc
    @arti4choc 8 місяців тому

    What is your mantra ? I can't think of a useful one, and examples could help. Thx

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому +1

      Some examples of "grounded" mantras that don't sound like the normal platitudes of "I'm amazing" or "I'm the best" could be:
      - I am better than I was before
      - I will grow from this experience
      - I can’t fail if I learn
      - I'm proud of myself if I at least try
      You want to believe what you say wholeheartedly. Statements that feel 100% true so they truly motivate you and shunt the negative voice away.
      The best thing to do is:
      1) Start listing out mantras you even sorta believe in, even if they sound cheesy. Don't care about gramma, spelling, or perfection just write as many as possible.
      2) Then start reflecting on them and re-wording the ones you like, that actually sounds right to you
      3) Keep at it until you have 1 or more mantras!
      This might take time, so don't worry if you get stuck. Just leave it and come back to it later.

  • @ruscoebrobbey24
    @ruscoebrobbey24 Місяць тому

    How do I deal with stuttering?

  • @jamilagoga9675
    @jamilagoga9675 8 місяців тому

    Beautiful ❤

  • @ArunMPEdison
    @ArunMPEdison 8 місяців тому +1

    How many minimum breath should we take prior to the Townhall presentations? if we're not the first one, usually knowing the queue, we may get some time of more than 5! J 5 M

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому +1

      In a perfect world you'll be doing this breathing every time you realize your nerves/anxiety is increasing - even if it's all day. You should do it right up until you step up to speak. Everyone's body and anxiety is different so there is no specific minimum - but anything will help a little.

    • @ArunMPEdison
      @ArunMPEdison 8 місяців тому

      @@MoxieInstitute Thank you for the response. I had the same nervousness today, but need to put in practice every time. Even to remember the technique in the middle of panicking is a big deal (50 times better than before). Being clear on the content may be the source of confidence and never was ready!

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  7 місяців тому +1

      @@ArunMPEdison so proud of you for putting in the work to practice and it's great to hear it felt 50 times better! But yes, knowing your content and practicing the presentation as much as you can before the real thing will help you feel A LOT more confident. The world's best presenters only look relaxed on stage because of how much they practice their speech. If you asked most of them to improv a speech suddenly you'll see a lot more nerves.
      Either way, it's great to hear you're seeing improvements! The more you practice the better you will become, it's guaranteed!

    • @ArunMPEdison
      @ArunMPEdison 7 місяців тому

      @@MoxieInstitute I agree, as you said in one of your videos, part of the initial nervousness is brain feeling fight or flight between you alone against the room. After few presentations, brain feels convinced and comfortable as you’re still alive in one piece, even after doing some mistakes.
      Adaptability and reading the room is one skill as sometimes the content sometimes may not resonate well with the audience either the timing, if it’s at 3 pm, people may be worried of picking up their kids!
      It’s limited when you present online, but some prompting questions to ensure they’re following along with you can help.

    • @ArunMPEdison
      @ArunMPEdison 7 місяців тому

      @@MoxieInstitute Thank you for your encouragement and valuable content again which helped making these progress. Today I had two presentations and after many failures I was appreciated a bit today. One was for senior management 20 people, another making 5 others present with me coaching for the first time to celebrate the team and I did a role play to light them up to celebrate my team and make them speak more.

  • @deanmullen1422
    @deanmullen1422 Рік тому +1

    Nice, helpful video 👍

  • @aimanibrahim2242
    @aimanibrahim2242 8 місяців тому +1

    My mouth shakes while I give the presentation which freaks me out more
    And tomorrow is my presentation

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  7 місяців тому +2

      First of all, you should know that mouth shaking probably feels more noticeable than it really is. And even if it's noticeable, it's ok and not a big deal - don't worry about it!
      Shaking is also a symptom of a higher heart rate and shallow breathing. That's why we recommend deep, slow breathing leading up to presenting, and pausing at key moments when talking for emphasis and to take a breath. It relaxes your body taking the tension out and preventing the shaking.
      Also, if you just feel a TON of nerves before presenting. Just go to a private space and literally shake it out. Wiggle your body and limbs to get some of the physical tension out too.
      Lastly, be sure to have eaten a few hours before speaking and definitely avoid coffee or any stimulant.

  • @peterochungo5239
    @peterochungo5239 9 місяців тому

    Can a Tot of Tia Maria help.....😇

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому

      Funny you should say that, the exercises in this video will do the same thing - make you feel calmer, more focused, more confident - but without the hangover or the cost!

  • @j3stermeric717
    @j3stermeric717 6 місяців тому

    I always shake and panicking😢

    • @j3stermeric717
      @j3stermeric717 6 місяців тому

      My mind becomes empty

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  6 місяців тому

      @@j3stermeric717 that's understandable and perfectly normal. Here's a response we gave someone else in the comments about shaking (below that is advice on preventing your mind from going empty):
      Shaking is a symptom of a higher heart rate and shallow breathing. That's why we recommend deep, slow breathing leading up to presenting, and pausing at key moments when talking for emphasis and to take a breath. It relaxes your body taking the tension out and preventing the shaking.
      Also, if you just feel a TON of nerves before presenting. Just go to a private space and literally shake it out. Wiggle your body and limbs to get some of the physical tension out too.
      Lastly, be sure to have eaten a few hours before speaking and definitely avoid coffee or any stimulant.
      ----
      As for your mind going blank, this is where preparing and practicing before any presentation really makes a huge difference. Your mind can go blank but you can just speak on auto-pilot! We made a video that explains the best way to memorize a speech to help prevent it from happening: ua-cam.com/video/5aky7OMBpPg/v-deo.html
      Just remember that it's ok to be nervous and you should feel proud of yourself for going up and doing it anyway. That's real courage. The more you face the fear, the easier it will become!

    • @sullysaslly
      @sullysaslly 5 місяців тому

      Will put this in to practice 🤞 thank you

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  5 місяців тому

      @@sullysaslly amazing! If you keep practicing your success and improvement is guaranteed!

  • @star4224
    @star4224 10 місяців тому

    Will i get a reply after 1 year 😮

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  10 місяців тому +4

      Welp, looks like the reply came 359 days early.

  • @mrjack2617
    @mrjack2617 29 днів тому

    She said nothing. Laughing about it while people are suffering from Anxiety.

  • @P272-e9k
    @P272-e9k 9 місяців тому +1

    All these videos claim breathing is the answer, its not. The anxiety hyperventilating happens during the speach. You cant do techniques while presenting. Silliness

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  8 місяців тому +2

      Preparation is one of the most important factors to alleviate speaking anxiety. All of these techniques are methods to employ before you step up to speak. With that said, taking regular slow, deep breaths (not the 446 count in this video) during a speech will absolutely help with anxiety and help your body feel calmer. Anxiety, hyperventilating, all of these have the sensation of panic and things speeding up, the breaths are short, speaking is fast, the mind is racing. By forcing yourself to take slow breaths you slow down your body, speak slower, and give yourself more time to think. Obviously breathing isn't the cure for everything, there are many aspects to speaking that can ensure you feel more confident by the time you step on the stage, but it does play an important role.

  • @nawfalidrissi521
    @nawfalidrissi521 16 днів тому

    Your public speaking anxiety video lacks concrete solutions. Visualization and mantras aren't enough. Emphasize practice and perseverance. Initial failures are inevitable, but consistency yields results. Stop spreading misconceptions; focus on faith and practice.

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  11 днів тому

      Thank you for your feedback-we truly appreciate you taking the time to share. You make a great point about the importance of practice!

  • @kulemetboom7846
    @kulemetboom7846 2 місяці тому

    This video is too long.

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  2 місяці тому

      Thank you for the feedback! Our goal with each video is to provide the best context, insights, and exercises to truly help with the topic - regardless of the length. We'd rather you skip to the parts you feel are most relevant to you than us not have provided enough to begin with. We do have a couple videos on similar topics that are shorter, around 10 minutes each.
      How To Face Your Fears: The Antidote To Flight & Freeze: ua-cam.com/video/M-BC_yX28Sk/v-deo.html
      How To Use Stress To Your Advantage: ua-cam.com/video/ejrVtEFQV9Y/v-deo.html
      Hope these help and are what you're looking for length-wise!

  • @goldiscloset
    @goldiscloset 5 місяців тому

    just skip from time 1minute point to the 8minute point yall. this chick likes to waste your time.

    • @MoxieInstitute
      @MoxieInstitute  5 місяців тому

      That wasn't the intention. The goal was to also explain in detail why this advice is being given and why it works. Not just share the tips without context. But if anyone wants to skip straight to the tips then the video chapters a decent way of doing so.

  • @ivanjaji7578
    @ivanjaji7578 4 місяці тому

    Thank you