No Freaking Speaking: 3 Techniques for Managing Speaking Anxiety

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  • Опубліковано 14 лис 2024

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  • @roughryder5
    @roughryder5 9 років тому +445

    I like this guy. This stuff is gold. I have a 5 min presentation tomorrow, and then a 20min presentation next week. Wish me luck.

    • @SteveeSmith
      @SteveeSmith 8 років тому +9

      how'd it go?

    • @roughryder5
      @roughryder5 8 років тому +62

      Bombed the 5minute presentation pretty hard since I had no time to prepare but I aced the 20 minute one like a natural. Spent about 2 hours a day rehearsing for 5 days leading up to the presentation. I think I got a 98% on it.

    • @SteveeSmith
      @SteveeSmith 8 років тому +16

      well done you. I've just been informed that I will have a 4minute presentation and a 20minute presentation in November. already shaking.

    • @roughryder5
      @roughryder5 8 років тому +11

      SteveeSmith Trust me, rehearse a few hours every day until you practically memorize everything word for word.

    • @aibdraco01
      @aibdraco01 7 років тому +6

      Have 5-6 min speech 2morrow. Already freaking out

  • @user-le1rr8ls1e
    @user-le1rr8ls1e 2 роки тому +208

    Notes:
    Technique 1: Greet anxiety and acknowledge that it's normal and natural to be nervous
    Technique 2: Reframe as conversation, not a performance
    - by asking questions and polling
    - use conversational language
    Technique 3: be present-oriented
    - focus on the present but not the future
    - e.g. count down, tongue twister
    Thanks for the useful tips! I have learnt a lot from this video!

  • @esrathe-first9316
    @esrathe-first9316 2 роки тому +52

    7 years on from this video and I must say it is the best video I have watched. I'm a 40 year old autistic guy who has to speak tomorrow. I have been watching video after a video recently and this one is amazing. Thank you kindly 🙏🏽 🙏🏽 🙏🏽

    • @janelle-westsideblonde
      @janelle-westsideblonde 2 роки тому +6

      How did it go?

    • @esrathe-first9316
      @esrathe-first9316 2 роки тому +13

      @@janelle-westsideblonde I had to speak to two different groups and after the first one I realised that I coukd use what I found hard as a great ice breaker. I found it hard to say "employability practitioner apprenticeship". By starting off saying that I have practiced saying it hundreds of times and still find it hard to get it right. People try saying it and start smiling. It turns talking at people, to talking with people. After talking, people were coming up saying that it was hard to say, to many p's. I want to get good at public speaking and you can only get good at it, by doing it.
      Thank you kindly for asking. 🙏🏽 🙏🏽 👍🏽 🖖🏽

    • @misterrkaiser
      @misterrkaiser Рік тому +1

      Took me three times to say it myself 😂

  • @syahirah4499
    @syahirah4499 Рік тому +10

    1. asking questions beginning of the speech
    2. be present, less worry about the future (listen to music, count backwards)
    3. do tongue-twister
    4. use conversational language

  • @sibongiletasilaphiri7521
    @sibongiletasilaphiri7521 2 роки тому +43

    3 key tips
    1. Greet the Fear
    2. Reframe the presentation to become conversation oriented
    3. Become present eg through walks, musik, tongue twisters, etc

  • @gregsbrown85
    @gregsbrown85 2 роки тому +38

    One other thing I would like to recommend is that there are apps in virtual reality that help you with giving speeches. The apps have you present in different scenarios and it feels real. There are games like Horizon in oculus that give you a chance to talk in front of live audiences too. Both instances feel very real and it's a good way to practice. Once you do it a lot of times, you become more comfortable and you can train your brain to focus on your the information you're presenting rather than thinking of a performance.

  • @Divinii
    @Divinii 4 роки тому +21

    4:16-4:37 *Wow! Mind blown! So speaking is very different from a musical performance. It's ok to make mistakes.*

  • @konyvnyelv.
    @konyvnyelv. Рік тому +11

    Seeing how people are afraid of public speaking makes me realize how lucky I am for not being interested in a career which involves it. I want to be archivist or librarian

  • @EricELT18
    @EricELT18 9 років тому +25

    Framing the presentation as conversation certainly helps, and starting with questions makes this aspiration a reality. Thanks for sharing this practical, often overlooked tip.

  • @yum121234
    @yum121234 8 років тому +28

    i have an interview tomorrow wish me luck, thanks for the tips :)

  • @julesmartin6972
    @julesmartin6972 Рік тому +7

    Great techniques, definitely will try to think about it. In two days I will be presenting for 1.5 hours for 300 people since I will start teaching. Twice a week, for the coming 12 weeks.
    I'm curious how it will evolve.

  • @koninginbox2603
    @koninginbox2603 4 місяці тому +2

    5:40 is the best tip Ive heard - write down questions you think your audience might have - and pretend you are having a conversation in which you are answering those questions.

  • @frankc1702
    @frankc1702 Рік тому +6

    ’ve developed severe anxiety when speaking not just to a group but one on one and it can be a spontaneous conversation in passing. This only happens in work settings. I feel like I can hear my blood flow, I’m trembling on the inside and I feel like I’m going to pass out. The last thing my anxiety does in help me focus. Most of these videos are geared towards public speaking to a group. This is not the case for me.

    • @ThinkFastTalkSmart
      @ThinkFastTalkSmart  Рік тому +1

      I believe most of these techniques work for in person communication as well. Check out NoFreakingSpeaking.com for more.

  • @ameii6887
    @ameii6887 Рік тому +2

    I have a presentation in 2 days, and it’s my first time present a presentation, and kind of new world to me but what I found difficult is that breathing and talking at the same time. 😩
    Thank you for the tips.

  • @thatwickedsmahttraumachick
    @thatwickedsmahttraumachick 3 місяці тому

    I have to read my kid’s book on loss and grief to a crowd. Adults will be there. This video is better than the important parts of 5 years of videos. 👏

  • @xiangningsu5882
    @xiangningsu5882 3 роки тому +1

    I love Abraham’ speech especially when I have a teaching presentation

  • @KiereJafarou
    @KiereJafarou 5 місяців тому

    One of the best videos l have watched about public speaking

  • @chocpuddingg
    @chocpuddingg 2 роки тому +9

    This is long ago but wish me luck on my Student Council speech!

  • @AshwiniKondalakadu
    @AshwiniKondalakadu 7 місяців тому

    You are sooper good... Very effective speech 👏

  • @bernie5809
    @bernie5809 6 років тому +3

    Matte is effective in any topic he discussed. Thanks much. You sure are a BIG help.

  • @MarshallE1983
    @MarshallE1983 4 місяці тому +12

    Taking a deep breath actually does nothing

    • @carnivalgirl9281
      @carnivalgirl9281 3 місяці тому +4

      I agree to a certain extent. I think it does nothing when you have nothing in mind. Try doing this:
      Ask yourself “why am I taking this deep breath?” Answer : “to calm down so I can do (insert) well!”
      Visualize yourself actually calming down
      Visualize yourself giving that presentation
      Visualize acceptance
      And do all this while taking a deep breath.

    • @MarshallE1983
      @MarshallE1983 3 місяці тому +1

      @@carnivalgirl9281 that's basically kinda what I do

  • @jaehan3161
    @jaehan3161 Рік тому +1

    Hi Matt, your video is great and it is the best video I've watched. Your sharing helps me think about public speaking differently. Thank you.

  • @nimeshkotadia6526
    @nimeshkotadia6526 4 роки тому +8

    Are there any other techniques which you have not mentioned in this video? Three techniques mentioned are gold when it comes to doing something about anxiety.

    • @ThinkFastTalkSmart
      @ThinkFastTalkSmart  4 роки тому +4

      Please check out my book Speaking Up without Freaking Out for 50 techniques to help.

  • @JaquelineLopez-Cabrera
    @JaquelineLopez-Cabrera 3 місяці тому

    I think I feel better about doing my final speech tomorrow!

  • @shantalitoe
    @shantalitoe 2 місяці тому

    Thank you, Sir.

  • @SamAndrew27
    @SamAndrew27 2 роки тому +2

    This is a great talk - thank you!

  • @lin-kaiwen
    @lin-kaiwen 9 років тому +16

    I slit a sheet, a sheet I slit, and on that slitted sheet I sit. 9:36

  • @JordanMills-km5ej
    @JordanMills-km5ej 2 місяці тому

    This is an amason talk thank you

  • @aydataha6564
    @aydataha6564 4 роки тому +29

    What worries me the most is that I get palpitations and tremors. That worries me cause it shows. At times I feel I will pass out. I'm in big trouble

    • @ansh201
      @ansh201 4 роки тому +5

      I get that too and hate it

    • @pemayangzom629
      @pemayangzom629 3 роки тому +3

      I completely understand this 😥

    • @aydataha6564
      @aydataha6564 3 роки тому +4

      @@pemayangzom629 I started therapy and feel better

    • @pemayangzom629
      @pemayangzom629 3 роки тому +6

      @@aydataha6564 I am happy for you. 😊 My therapy and therapists are youtubers...

    • @aydataha6564
      @aydataha6564 3 роки тому +1

      @@pemayangzom629 thank you. I had to. Was getting totally out of control for me. But UA-cam definately is helpful

  • @ferozarian9672
    @ferozarian9672 5 років тому +6

    Thank you sir for the great guide, Is it possible to get that handout virtually ? highly appreciated.

    • @ThinkFastTalkSmart
      @ThinkFastTalkSmart  5 років тому +2

      Please check out NoFreakingSpeaking.com for hand outs and material.

  • @faisalarghandiwal7508
    @faisalarghandiwal7508 3 роки тому +3

    *keep up the good work*

  • @eugert6
    @eugert6 5 місяців тому

    Conversionational form, greeting fear and present oriented(tongue twisters)

  • @ramongeraci
    @ramongeraci 3 місяці тому

    Man giving a lecture without fear about giving a lecture without fear...how adequate is that...I should do that too...!

  • @trendme5943
    @trendme5943 5 років тому +7

    I need to take a training in public speaking please advise me

    • @ThinkFastTalkSmart
      @ThinkFastTalkSmart  5 років тому

      Please check out BoldEcho.com

    • @sun_sets_with_Natalia
      @sun_sets_with_Natalia Рік тому +1

      Hi, @Trend Me. I would be really interested in learning more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to interview individuals (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.

  • @lucysmithe7916
    @lucysmithe7916 6 років тому +10

    I have to give a speech in front of my whole school in two weeks and im freaking out

  • @MatheusCoelho-i7i
    @MatheusCoelho-i7i 8 місяців тому

    Awesome!!!

  • @sandyperez847
    @sandyperez847 7 років тому +2

    alguien sabe donde puedo encontrar el video en español o subtitle...

  • @loursvanthilai4034
    @loursvanthilai4034 9 років тому +1

    thank you

  • @sarvinozizatullayeva8502
    @sarvinozizatullayeva8502 Рік тому +1

    I came here because my professor shared the link

  • @Fadednights730
    @Fadednights730 5 років тому +3

    I slit a sheet, a sheet I slit, a gave a speech, when I give a speech I shit.

  • @FlyenNun1
    @FlyenNun1 9 років тому

    ty

  • @ShekofahAhmadi
    @ShekofahAhmadi Місяць тому +1

    Finger crossed

  • @8finiity
    @8finiity Рік тому +6

    I have a 40 minute presentation Infront of 75 students... Wish me luck!

  • @adeeshaakalanka5777
    @adeeshaakalanka5777 Рік тому +2

    I have to give a speech infront of a whole institutions and I never done that in my life. I don't know what to do. And my crush is there also. I don't know how to not give a f about that.

    • @ThinkFastTalkSmart
      @ThinkFastTalkSmart  Рік тому +2

      Congrats on the opportunity! Please visit NoFreakingSpeaking.com for techniques to help.

  • @smokinjoe4684
    @smokinjoe4684 2 роки тому +1

    9:36

  • @ShekofahAhmadi
    @ShekofahAhmadi Місяць тому

    🤞

  • @Roger-hu4tk
    @Roger-hu4tk Рік тому +1

    5% , other 15%...this guy is a math genius

  • @furleysbrain
    @furleysbrain Рік тому +1

    Speaking at my sisters wedding tomorrow - IT IS NOT A PERFORMANCE!

  • @quealcomedy264
    @quealcomedy264 2 роки тому

    @hashae unlimited

  • @samuelmarte5384
    @samuelmarte5384 2 місяці тому

    4:00