To sound professional and confident, avoid speaking this way. 7 TIPS
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- To sound professional and confident, avoid speaking this way. 7 TIPS
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Thanks Alex Lyon!
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@@AdautoMedeiros Hi, Adauto! Nice to meet you.
I like the silent breath tip. I noticed in this video nobody said "um" or "uh" during a pause but instead took a quick breath. When giving a presentation or speech, those pauses can feel excruciatingly long to the speaker but really they're hardly noticeable to the audience because they also need some time to register/process what you've just said.
I was taught the same in grade school also using "like" isnt even a word
We do need pauses to process the information that was conveyed or take notes, if anyone does that anymore. I don’t care for speakers to run through presentations quickly or on a superficial level, and then e-mail an entire Library of Congress afterward. I feel burdened when I leave such a presentation. My job doesn’t provide office time for me to pore through digital reams of information and articles. Just do a proper lecture so I leave with knowledge I can use immediately. Bishop R.C. Blakes is an excellent speaker and teacher. When he makes a point, he always repeats it.
Yes, I use the silent breath myself all of the time. Works well with practice.
Actually,I've always known that when people use um or uh is when the person is trying to comprehene and process what is being said and come up with a response.
I've learned that if someone unironically **types** "umm" their take can be safely disregarded.
I think a large problem why so many people are “verbose” is because in school you have to have so many paragraphs... so people start adding random lines to meet that quota and that translates over to our speaking I believe. Awesome video!!
This is exactly what I was thinking!
Why is this right on the dot? I’ve been doing this for year since I started high school. Now I sound like a politician
Haha I think that might be the reason 😄
Yeah, as a man. I keep it to the point.
@@noxoxogen yeah that Shits annoying ngl. Like I try to speak so a 4 year old can understand me.
I’m 74 yo, living in the USA for 22 years, always learning English by myself. How I’d like to have met you before, Lisa! In the last 2 weeks my vocabulary has improved and my pronunciation sounds a lot more better. Thank you so much!!!
I’m 45 years old, spoken English all my life. I wished I had English teachers like this in school. Thank you for the lesson. 🤙🏻
Have you ever thought of reading and teaching yourself? It works.
DON'TS
1. Don't be verbose
2. Avoid filler words (ex "kind of like"- in the wrong context)
3. Avoid side particles unless necessary(ex. basically, technically, actually)
4. Avoid disclaimers unless necessary (a statement that decreases the value of what a person is saying)
DO:
Practice by saying "period" or "pause" in your head. Or take a silent breath when you are tempted to use fillers
I be using so many similes when I talk
@@GuyVick You have more pressing bad habits to break. "I be..." is horrible grammar, and reading it immediately conjures unfavorable impressions of you in the reader's mind.
Your comment, written correctly, might read, "I use too many similes when I speak."
who cares
@@wtfsus538 The people like me who, in your future, undoubtedly, will decide how much money you are paid (if any, at all). So you'd better learn to at least pretend that you care unless you're content being a pauper. Or a rap star.
BTW, it's "Who cares?"
@@migbham1 kinda cringe homie ngl. Finna make that man go off
I found this video very useful. However, based on my experience in a professional environment, most people use complicated phrases instead of their concise counterpart to sound professional
in a profesional environment could be. However at high management levels (CEO, CFO etc..) chats are very concise and short.
...and nobody likes it. ;')
yeah most companies wouldn't care its just getting the work done for the day given but if you work at companies like Deloitte - different story.
It's probably a sign you should find a new career in an actually better, more professional English-speaking environment than whatever anecdote you are using to prove you know what "most people in a professional environment" constitutes.
It's very common for people living in non-English speaking countries to be unnecessarily verbose (and with hilariously poor grammar) to pretend they have a good command of the language.
Ironic then that wordiness is a sign of both unintelligence and insecurity. Brevity is wit...
I was told I sounded angry when I’m concise on work emails. Always got straight to the point without using smiley faces at the end of a sentence.
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Communication is an art essentially. These tips can not be cut and paste in our own context. Sometimes a bit of fillers can dilute the tension of the conversation, sometimes disclaimer can soften the hearts of audiences. I believe eventually we will find the sweet spot to be a balanced and effective communicator by trials and errors.
Agree, “distancing” is a great way for softening..
One of the best ways to learn, trial and error
You're doing exactly what she said filling the statement with a lot of filler bulshit to make yourself sound intelligent when the most intelligent are those that can be succinct
I agree! You do not want to sound like Chat GPT either....
I used disclaimer sometimes, when what I’m talking about, could turn into a debate or a point of disagreement. Or to keep from embarrassing the person I’m talking to. Another way I do this is by phrasing it into a question.
"Be careful who you imitate" is great advice. Thank you
To be sincerely honest in my humble opinion without being sentimental and of course, without offending anyone who thinks differently from my opinion but rather looking into serious mater with perspective distinction and without condemning anyone's point of view, i honestly think and believe that i have nothing to say.
As Captain America says: "I understood that reference"
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This is the perfect why to piss people off 🤣🤣🤣
A very good example of how we shouldn't write. Speak English!
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I have seen the exact same things with my clients, where they use too many words to express their message and it undermines the force of the message, especially in pitches. I was working with a client the other day and we took out a lot of words like 'I think', 'basically', and 'quite', etc. to deliver her idea with stronger conviction. This is especially important in a pitch, where you have to convince in a short time and show that you're confident in what you're pitching! The pause tip is good too, because you can use it for dramatic effect in addition to giving your audience time to take in your message.
Thank you for your comment Christina.
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Thirty years ago, when I started writing, I read "How To Write Plain English," by Rudolph Flesch. Over the years, I've become a good editor and writer because of what I learned through his book. What you've shared is compatible. Thanks!
I love how straight forward and to the point she is. Not going on all kinds of rabbit trails about why it’s important to use this language.
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Obviously, she teaches speaking
Me too 🌺
She’s very concise
I am so glad to meet you here Lisa.
Your lessons are absolutely useful for English learners as I am a foreigner.
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us.
Will follow up with you every day if I have a chance.
Thank you for making this available for people like me. I was just expressing my frustration to my son yesterday because I am not confident during our meetings at work. This is very helpful.
One of my teachers advised me to keep the sentences (in writing) short and simple. This made a huge difference in my writing, both at work and university.
I think we're conditioned throughout k-12 to use a lot of fill in sentences when we had to write 10 page essays and such and that spills in to how we speak in more formal settings.
@@onexonesie Yes, agreed, and I could make those long sentences in my native language so that they make sense. Also, for some reason, they were almost a form of a show off - to sound more eloquent or philosophical. Doesn't really work in a professional environment. 😂
@@TheOssie98 Thank you smartass
I like complex sentences. It's more interesting.
it's not all about wording.. it's about how you say things, the tone of the voice, the rhythm, the charisma, the personality, the way you use even 'unnecessary'' words to create a tension or an atmosphere, the sincerity, the knowledge behind what you are trying to communicate. Does everybody think they can become amazing speakers just adjusting a couple of words here and there? good luck with that!
Bravo!
Hope they read your comment
No one said you'll follow this tips and INSTANTLY become amazing. These are things that are gonna help you to achieve that
No, these are just tips
This is a great point. It's not all about words indeed especially because we are not all native english speakers. However experience and knowledge of the subject matter always comes out even when you dont use this fancy professional language ....and caring more about your audience goes a longer way indeed.
The video is titled " To Sound Professional and Confident Avoid Speaking This Way 7 Tips".As the title stated, the purpose of the video was to tell us 7 tips which are things to avoid in our communication with others, if we want to have confident, professional sounding communication with others. It was not about how someone could become an amazing "speaker" or how to give good speeches. So no, "it", which in this case is this video, is not about all of the things you stated, it is about the clear, concise, non confusing content of our sentences and how to not be verbose (which, as you can see, is a struggle for me every minute of every day ...lololol.)
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Valley girl speaking, ‘Like you know’, is hard to let go. I was a teen in the early 80’s living in L.A. and now these words bring me joy. I’m glad I came across this to help me keep it real though in a professional setting. Thanks.
This is a class that everyone should watch. I ´ll do my best to not be verbose anymore! Deeply Thanks teachers Lisa and Alex.
I'm glad it was helpful, Elisabete.
Verbose doesn’t hurt anyone. From my CEO to junior staff , as long as you understand each other, keep it moving.. unless I’ll get to her by being concise then who’s judging . In fact I tend to see more native speakers or those who purport to be eloquence English speakers to be over expressive and verbose meanwhile non native English speakers or uneducated folks use simpler more concise words for lack of words !!
Thank you so much ms Lisa , I waited to long for this lesson , it’s great and very helpful as always 🙏
Hello Lisa, thanks for providing us with accurate english lexis and native accent. you're doing great job for us, non-native leaning english. what you're doing is really helpful. So, congratulations. It's only yesterday, I discovered your chanel and I give you my word, I won't quit untill I become fluent like a native speaker.
It's common to use disclaimers when being tactful especially with superiors or clients from a different culture as it helps the point you're trying to make go down smoothly. From what I have learned after spending decades in several multinational companies, sometimes being too direct can be misconstrued as getting uppity with them.
So true, especially in Asian countries. Thanks for your comments!
The key in your comment is "from a different culture". In some cultures and contexts, concise phrases may be interpreted as rude behavior and long explanations are needed as a sign of you care about. In other cultures, too much talking may be interpreted by the listeners as a wordy person with a lack of content. Note that Lisa made reference to formal occasions and professional environments in the United States, but you are right when you say that the cultural context of a person or a group of persons must be taken into consideration when you are about to address any speech
Cultural differences are hard to get and they often may cause some unintentional discomfort. For instance, it might be unpolite to address a person you don't know by one's first name in America ("Mr. Smith" or "Mr. Smith"). In Latin America, people generally disapprove when you call them by their family name because they prefer being treated by their first name (Gabriel ou Martha). On formal occasions in the U.S., you treat women as "Ms.", but in some countries like Brazil, if you use the word "senhora" (meaning "Ms." in Portuguese), most women think you are calling them old😁
Already mentioned in the video, side particles or filler can be used but in the right context. Hearing certain words repeatedly would make your statement boring and uninterested. Just use the right phrase on the right time. That's the actual point
Another good reason to use disclaimers is to demonstrate that you are NOT confident in what you are saying, and that you are inviting either constructive critcism or approval. It's tantamount to saying "I'd like to run this idea up the flagpole to see who salutes it", without having to use that phrase.
A lot of these are great tips. There is value in being concise, especially in writing. However, I can see situations where you will want to be a little more verbose, especially when you need to built a rapport with a client or a new team. It sounds friendlier and you can do it in a professional manner (just don't do it too much).
The best advice is: don't speak like Justine Trudeou. Most important thing is getting rid of the "ennn, ahhh". You will be fine.
@@seanleith5312 just dont be Justin
I totally agree. “Sort of “, “Kind of like” and such are parasites of the speech. But there is nothing wrong in using “due to the fact”. or “in the event of”. When a speech is too concise, one can appear as a person who has poor vocabulary.
Also try to avoid the word “literally”. It’s so overused at this point it’s becoming cringe.
@@jamie7664 I think it's fine as long as people use it properly. This also naturally limits the number of times it comes up. The other day, I heard someone say "I literally died". And no, it wasn't a re-animation story.
Highly appreciated Lisa's lesson which is really helpful for me. And Thanks for your introduction/interview with other teachers/native speakers. Those are wonderful.
Seriously so true, for years have seen many top school top consulting folks being wordy to sound cool and intelligent. If you are concise and straight to the point you’re “advised” to elaborate or they call you cryptic.
Verbosity is also a bad habit that education writers demonstrate when writing textbooks. They often beat around the bush and are not clear with the material presented. For example, if a textbook is trying to teach addition, I often see sentences like, "Addition is very important in calculating important figures in life." when a few sentences before, the writer would say, "Addition is a mathematical operator that is useful in our everyday lives." I put the blame in part on the education system in our formal years exaggerating the importance of word count and other meaningless criteria.
true. academic jargon can be overwhelming but it’s also the nature of the community. every community uses jargon that may or may not exclude others, you just have to learn how to read it. the writing should still be concise though
Having just finished reading a book about people in the nineteenth century and their letters, even that textbook verbosity seems lean. It's been called flowery language and seemed to be an effort to flaunt ones' intellect and education. It's exhausting to read.
@@virginiamoss7045 would it be academia if it weren’t exhausting? 😂😂
@@ratmilk1 Letters to your children about family matters aren't academia. Those letters were beyond verbose and exhausting to read.
@@virginiamoss7045 Academia especially old school education is big airhead intellectuals trying to elite themselves and block simple understanding of knowledge that could be improve and better understand without all that jargon.
I was so glad that I clicked the recommended video. The way you teach is so clear; it is so easy to remember and use in daily life.
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It is great to hear all those tips from Alex. They are very convenient, simple, and straightforward.
The problem with me taking a breath in conversation is that people think you’re done and jump in. Combining that with my lack of uptalking and I get cut off often.
Same here. I tell people, "I wasn't quite finished," and they will most often apologize and let me finish. I feel that uptalking and filler words are used to keep others from interrupting them, but they are detrimental to sounding confident and concise.
@@ladyparmelee1003 These are great insights. I like your phrase for handing it, "I wasn't quite finished." Thank you. I'm writing that down.
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As a transcriptionist, I often see how unprofessional it sounds when people use multiple filler words. On paper, it looks very bad. 😂 This has helped me with my own speaking habits because I ask myself, if someone was reading what I am saying, would it make sense? Would it be be a clean text?
I tell newer team members about this all the time. A previous coach used to do a little dance and sing, “When you say um, you sound dumb!”
@@EZ2XLR8 Pausing to think makes you sound dumb, so I'm told.
I'd rather be dumb in silence, then have others hear it!
@@FecundoArrabales666 I can't think of how it got this bad. The slang and jive of earlier decades was bad enough, but now it's in every form of literature, newspapers, and TV commentaries; the worst being the phrase, "It's all about..."
Oh god....I interview people often for work, and when I transcribe, I automatically edit out the filler words. But recently I got this transcription software and was confronted with how my speech actually looks. It was terrible!!!! Filled with 'like' and 'you know' and 'sort of' etc. Urgh. Making a very big effort to stop saying those things.
Yeah....and????
I believe that these tips help students who are going to take the Speaking Section of the IELTS exam because using fillers a lot while speaking indicates to a lack of confidence , words and ideas 💡 .Thank you for this useful video.
Lisa, I love the way you teach. You know what you are talking about!
In your example "I hated the fact that I had to work on Saturdays" being shortened to "I hated working on Saturdays", the meaning actually changed. A more accurate shortening would be "I hated having to work on Saturdays", preserving the concept that the speaker was being forced to do so (i.e., he might not have minded working on Saturdays, but instead hated being forced to do so). Concise is good, but one can overdo it if not careful.
Agreed.
Much better. Did you try to guess it in your head before she said it too?
@@yackman4368 I didn't notice until after. But I think that's normal for writers/editors. We write first, then edit.
Yes. This. I'm not perfect but I say, if you're called verbose, it's because someone likes to hear themselves talk more than you - Or they're threatened by your knowledge.
This, for the most part, is a great video! For those who are not native, this is best applied when giving a presentation. Giving presentations is generally more formal than talking amongst coworkers.
Thank you so much for these seven tips, madam! I learned that I am a verbose speaker. Through this vlog, I do reminded to be better and "sound" knowledgeable. Much love!
Your lessons help a lot. Thank you Lisa🙏🏼
I've been a native speaker for 47.5 of the 49 years I've been alive, and I must say that the basic tips that you offered here are excellent for me. I've recently made the step from having been a very tactical manager for decades into a director role, which is much more strategic. I am finding that my communications style is necessarily changing, and you've just touched on every way in which it needs to continue changing.
P. S. Thank you for being such a cunning linguist! 😊
CLEVER linguist. Not " cunning"...and I'm not a native speaker
That last phrase can be easily misheard 🤭
And you just failed in every way because the 1st lesson is to not write long paragraphs w/ unnecessary nonsense.
@@macysondheimThough I'm certain you believe your own bitchy nonsense to be of utmost necessity, you've succeeded mightily in being a hypocrite.
I have been following this channel using my main account. It's been 3 years since I subscribed and I have learned a lot. Thank you, Ma'am Lisa for teaching us, efficiently. You earned my subscription, again. You are the best!:)
Thank you teacher Lisa for the advices in order to speak better!
This is good advice. Generic phrases make someone sound like they're trying to be smart. Filler words make someone sound like they're uncomfortable or scared. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
As a German in an english speaking work environment, I taught myself to add more words to sentences, because it seemed to be what native English speakers do. Instead of just placing the message like I was used to being a German. I did not want to stick out. Now l will try to get back to the straightforward German approach, to appear more professional ;)
you go meister, quite curious where you work I‘d love to work in an english environment
I agree. I also trained myself to say ‘anything’ to show people ‘I speak fast and a lot’. Now I know I can use some good pause to clarify my thoughts and speech.
It's because of our schooling. Putting a word limit on writing assignments really makes it hard to be concise.
Hi Lisa, this is the first time I have actually viewed your channel and I was completely impressed and inspired by it. In fact, since a couple of years I have been wanting to make a career change from the travel industry into training in English language. I have been a trainer for almost 7 years in the customer relations team where I needed to train staff in using proper English (British & American styles) in corresponding with customers. However due to work constraints I could not pursue my plans to gain proper certifications. The lockdown gave me the opportunity to take my plans further. I completed my course in Teaching English as a Foreign Language & Business English Teaching.
This video so clearly presents many of the areas of speaking and the avoidable usage of words and phrases. I could clearly relate to it as I have had similar experiences. Thanks once again for this video as well as the other videos which are very useful as I move into this new career.
Thank you to Alex and you Lisa, I learned a lot from both of you.
Magnificent video. Thanks, Lisa.
I suppose it depends on your environment. In upper management I noticed that people tend to be concise because they're communicating with each other as peers, where work changes hands a lot, typically from department to department, and your work loads are often generated by and for yourself. In lower management the opposite is true, you're required to be softly spoken and personable when you give instructions because tasks are delegated out in a more hierarchal fashion, so the nature of the dialogue is different. Larger corporations tend to regulate speech and communication in such a way that instructions cannot be construed as condescending or hostile. So what is "professional" speech changes.
Whether or not people think that that is right or wrong is another conversation, but seeing that has enlightened me to the fact that context matters. When you're dealing with a client or customer, being concise can often escalate a grievance and using filler words can de-escalate the dialogue or prevent it from escalating in the first place; because being concise can be seen as being dismissive. Also, when dealing with clients/customers, using "er" and "um" is often just a way of acknowledging the enquiry. If i pause before responding because i had to think for a moment, it's often assumed that i'm ignoring that person even though it was only a 1-2 second pause.
I'm not trying to suggest that anything in this video is false, but that in my experience i adapt my language depending on the context of the engagement. I wont speak to a client/customer the same way i speak to my director and i wont speak to my director the same way I speak to "my" employees and i wont speak to my employees the same way i speak to our customers. For example, sometimes i'm in an awkward position where i have to tell my boss "no", but if i just come out and say 'that' then the implication is that i'm questioning their authority. Adding verbosity seems to reduce the potential to introduce conflict in a dialogue. Rather than just saying "no, i wont do that, because: XYZ" which is immediately and unambiguously contradictory, I would say "I understand the request being made, but it's important that we factor in XYZ, so we should consider an alternative solution".
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This! 🙏
I was tracking in agreement with you up until the end where you refer to… telling your boss,”no”, as concise. You’re correct to not state, “no” to your boss, because it’s not a courteous way to respond in that scenario. “I understand” seems concise to present a respectful response, and then go on to present your opinion, “we could do…..”. Also, I particularly liked your explanation as to how speech can be interpreted as condescending or even hostile. I’ve experienced receiving a lot of that in a setting over the past year, & you’ve helped me actually recognize the truth of it.
agree. this video is way overblown. Verbosity or being concise is really context and environmental related. Kind of LOL
@@georgiehughes4858Agreed. Yes tell them no. But give them a BRIEF sentence as to why no.
An old boss taught me to always ask for things like this:
- Say what you need.
- Say why you need it.
Lead with the most important information first then back it up with a brief explanation as to why. This approach applies in most work situations.
Lisa really by mistake I found your channel. And I can say for sure that you are one of the good teachers. You explain clearly and simply thank you. I already feel an improvement in the language thanks to you .👌👌😊love from Israel ❤️
I'm here to appreciate the great video editing. Clear and to the point. Just like their communication.
I love your video, thanks for making a lot of non native English speaker understand how to use the language correctly
Great tips! You and Alex did a fantastic job in collaborating here. You also managed to tie the two independent videos together to give a "live" feel as well, which is hard to do. Well done, and thank you!
The beautiful thing about the English language is it's ability to be incredibly nuanced and broad at the same time. These tips make it appear like the "professional environment" should be devoid of feeling. A professional email is very different than a conversation at work but let's also consider WHAT the "professional environment" itself is. A corporate office requires different language than a child care center.
The beautiful thing about English...or Vietnamese, or Chinese, Korean, French, Arabic or even Danish and whatever is that so many silly and unscientific UA-cam comment s are written about all these languages...
For example yours one...
@@RakhmanovRecords work on your English before coming for someone speaking knowledge on it because what they said is facts
@@SmallWRLDS I agree. But maybe you also meant "before coming at" someone and that what they said "is a fact" or "are facts".
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I guess its good tips for someone stuggling with sounding confident theyre not good with english. But yah. I dont see a problem with using any of these phrases just not all day every day or people will end up taking you less seriously.
Thank you Lisa, this was very helpful.
I really needed this video. I had this issue somewhere in my mind but I couldn't name this. I could not even recognise this issue. Limited and correct sentences makes a sentences beautiful and intresting.
Hi Lisa.
Can't thank you enough for your excellent courses.
As Always I was in awe
All very good tips; be concise and succinct when you speak or write. Regarding saying "uh" when speaking, I was an Engineering Major in college and one of the few electives i took was a Speech class. It really helped me throughout my long Engineering career and the professor who taught the course was a real hoot. When we gave our test speeches, if anyone said "uh" she'd throw a chalk board eraser at them and yell "No Uh's". She made it very stressful (but fun) and once you finished the class you were sure to have no hang ups with public speaking.
Wow,!
You are so concise and you avoid filler words that I understood your video very well despite my short English vocabulary.
Thanks!
This video taught me a lot about my own speaking. Thanks, Lisa!
Thank you for sharing this!
I loved & needed, this refresher! I _used_ to be considered an above average communicator and I took a job where ... well, let's just say my abilities & skills degraded, all through a desire to fit in with the new culture and team. I've since taken a different position, working with more senior levle personnel and recognized I wasn't speaking well, correctly or right for my new role and responsibilities. This video has helped me recall my communication strengths and is a strong reminder I can use going forward.
Again, thank you! ✌🕊🦋
Thank you for your comment. 😄 I’m glad the video has helped you.
This video was very informative, I'm in high school and apart of the student council, this video really helped me with my punctuation that even my English teacher complimented me on how direct I am now,
Thank you accurate English 🙏
These are useful tips to sounding more professional communicator. You both phenomenal coaches.
Thanks for the video. It is not that people sound insecure, but a lot of them really are! Many worry that not having enough to say in a group setting makes them look bad in the eyes of the rest of the group.
Without a doubt, this post was one of the most beneficial ones I've ever watched.
Thank you very much, Liza. I could improve my English through your extraordinary channel. I owe you alot.
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Thanks to you, I finally can understand what Alex tries to tell us! and thanks for the lessons Lisa! I love your channel!
Hi, I do understand what you are saying. We are taught in school to use filler words. We are given the fact challenge of filling out a page while answering a one word or one sentence answer. The more words in proper sentences, the better grades. I see this the moment teachers have to request paragraphs. You are told to repeat certain sentences or phrases to support and give consent to the writer content (essay).
Thank-you very much Lisa and Alex. Really appreciate. 👍👍👍
I like that "pause" or "take a silent breath" technique and am going to try it. I had an English teacher once say to keep "ly" words to a minimum (basically, really, etc). I've found following that advice keeps me from being verbose. 😊
I like that tip about keeping "ly" words to a minimum.
Nothing wrong with verbosity, per se: there's room for entertainment value, even in an academic environment.
@@elrjames7799 brevity is key in a professional setting
@@astraltraveler1 How is deprivation of information, in deference to promotional technique, either business or Intellectually advantageous?
Like totally
It was such a great experience to listen to you both. These comments you have made work in almost all the languages. Yes we have bad habbits, and must get rid of them to reach a more powerful way of communication...
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Gracias Lisa. You are my favorite teacher. Best regards from Perú.
Thank you lisa for your explanation and for your kind words and your pronunciation
This was great!
This is SO important thank you for teaching these lessons to learn and use daily :)
Great tips Lisa! Thank you for the lesson. Have a wonderful day 👍😊
That was awesome!
Great tips, great examples.
Tip #7 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
And what Mr Lyon said about stop qualifying our opinions even before share them out loud.
I have trouble understanding native inglês, but your voice is so sweet and clear that I can understand every word said. Thank you for your tips 😉
Although words matter as a leader…there is more to it than that. Your goal is to get a group of people moving forward together. Each situation is different. If you want to be a leader authenticity is very important. You can say all the right things but if people don’t believe it you are screwed. Be honest, be real, and truly care about the people you lead.
I took on my first manager job about 6 months ago. But I recognize that I’m not an effective communicator. So I’m going to take the steps to fix it. I’m so thankful I found your channel! Thank you
You are in the right place. This channel and the way they explain it is awesome.
Thank you Lisa! America needs you more than ever.
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Another tip from me- instead of saying an outlandish point and then "hear me out" till you explain what you really mean, build up their understanding so they do not react when you do finally put your keypoint. But they rather say, owww.
Thank you 😊
Growing up in South Texas it was normal for most of us to use slang, Tex-Mex, or even Spanglish. At times I found myself having a hard time communicating with a direct and consist language so I would use filler words. The one thing I did right is when I spoke to someone I looked at them straight into their eyes meanwhile my hands were also speaking at the same time. My boyfriend is constantly bringing it up to my attention. I'm currently seeking work and interviews are hard for me but I'm looking forward to gaining some knowledge from viewing your videos. 👍👍👍
It’s sad to have to overcome such a hurdle. Unfortunately in many subcultures, children who are raised speaking properly are taunted and accused of “thinking you’re ‘too good’ for us.”
"Bringing it up to my attention......" drop up. "I looked at them straight.........." Drop "at them...........
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South Texas! Awesome 👍 Donna Texas here! 🙂
I like listening to people from 'Bama...
Hey Lisa ! Thanks ! I’ve been preparing myself for a job interview and your videos are always helpful. When it comes to imitate someone , I have J. Peterson, the famous Canadian psychologist, as a model, he’s always using many clever words and phrases in his speeches but now I realized it could be a little bit verbose , which at the very beginning for a foreign learner is not necessarily bad .
Have a nice one 😊
I love Jordan Peterson. He’s got a great vocabulary. Very few can express themselves as well as he can.
TIP to this UA-cam video "expert". DO NOT USE BIG WORDS WHEN LITTLE WORDS WILL DO.
The very first example for "improvement", you have to use the word "verbose" ....and THEN you ask, "do you know what verbose means?" Right off the bat, you are trying to impress viewers/listeners. NOT GOOD. Yes, there are people who talk a lot because they like to be in charge or stop others from contributing. You have made it clear that this video is more for "professional" speaking .....as opposed to casual speakers. Immediately, I challenge this distinction. Just speak properly and don't try to impress people by speaking over them.
After quickly identifying what your message is in this video, I quickly jumped through to each section to find our if there was truly anything of merit, specific today's very poor speech practices from today's "professionals" who appear on public media such as news and specialized broadcasting topics and interviews .....and found absolutely NOTHING that truly addresses today's "garbage talk".
For example .....in interviews when a question might be asked ...the responder start the response with "I mean ...." ....yet nothing has be said yet. "I mean...." would typically be used to further explain something by using an example or perhaps attempt a different way to explain something.
Another example is the use of "ya know" .....CONSTANTLY ....multiple times throughout any sentence. "Professional" broadcasters/hosts use "ya know" ALL THE TIME. Jacqueline Hansen on BNN BLOOMBERG, midday every day, is a very classic example of one of the poorest speakers in the English language world. She also talks like a child which is common amongst females in her generation. This generation of females took up a trend of trailing off their words at the end of sentences, to a very low guttural kind of sound. NOT NORMAL. Another newscaster is Todd van der Heyden on CTV News. He tries desperately to speak intelligently but routinely falls off the rails with garbage "trendy" words/phrases. RHETORICAL QUESTION: How can ANY formal/professional broadcasting company allow such POOR speakers in front of broadcasting cameras??
Anther example is the use of the word "right?" at the end of a statement. This is really dumb when used all the time. It is a word stated as a question, but the speaker has no expectation of anyone saying anything in response. In a sense, it is an assumed acceptance by the listener in agreeing with whatever has been said. I love responding negatively to EVERYONE who tries this tactic, because they are typically unprepared for a response from anyone. They just use "right?" to finish their thought with automatic acceptance from the listener.
Another example, very briefly touched on in this video, is the word "like" ....by itself ....a completely useless filler word with no context, meaning, or purpose. It is a TRENDY word that people with very limited awareness about anything ...just adopt. Of course, very unprofessional ....relegated to any gutter-talk environment ....like a drinking establishment.
One of the more annoying parts of this video is the fact that ALL of the examples provided are simply "trendy phrases" ....nothing more, nothing less .....but you "experts" seem to think you need to "label" these phrases with a different or more "professional-sounding" term .....as if there is an actual difference ....when in fact there isn't. But I fully understand that you "professionals" are out to try to legitimize your message and perhaps even generate something that doesn't exist .....for the purpose of making some money. I also recognize that there are people out there that really do need to be told how to speak.....but I very much doubt any one of them cares how they speak.
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Ever since I recognize my bad habits I have been trying to find my way back by working hard at it.
Thanks you for considering all❤❤❤❤ things.
I learned a lots from this video! Thank you Lisa👍
What I love most in video are few new words, which are first time I heard are mentioned as under.:
- Verbos
- Filler
- Silent Pause
- Side Particles
Thank you both. That was extremely helpful.
Merci Lisa, je ne parle pas encore avec fluidité.j'ai un tout petit peu de flemme.Mais je n'es jamais cessé de suivre.
Vous êtes une source d'inspiration intarissable.merci beaucoup !!❤❤
Hello Lisa. Thanks for your commitment to helping us improve. This video has tremendously brought tips to better my communication.
I am surprised with how often I hear mainstream reporters inject "you know" during their verbal presentations/interviews. Actually, you're the professional investigative journalist informing us - your audience - with the news. I don't know . . . that's why I'm watching your program! Very effective TIPS identified in the video.
You know you know you know repetitive speech comes from northern England there unaware there doing it.most people from northern England talk like that.it's a lazy ignorant way of trying to express themselves assuming every one knows what your talking about it lacks though and effort and verbally demonstrates a symptom of being poorly educated.i taught myself to stop doing it and use alternative dialog.
@@johnbryant6572 You can’t even spell, i doubt you can even speak *YOU KNOW*
@@johnbryant6572 Obviously - It shows - LAZY!
Hold your hear up high, speak at a medium tone, clear, and precise, looking into the audience eyes. Thanks for the great tips.
Thank you so much great teacher.Really helpful, beautiful tips.The more I watch your videos the more I Learn .🌸❤️
I would say 70% of my english learning came from social media and games, and I realize a lot of my vocabulary is very casual, or even very "internet slang". Many of the wrong sentences examples sounded a lot like me 😅.. This is very helpful for me! Thank you!!
Wow.. this is a wonderful lesson..
As an ESL teacher your videos helped me a lot..
Thanks Lisa 😊
Glad my video was helpful! And glad to hear from other fellow ESL teachers. : )
Thank you so much. I truly appreciate it.
Good tips. It's also important to have clarity of thought about whatever you plan to speak on, before you speak. People that ramble on often have garbled thoughts in their head. The speech is simply a reflection of what is going on in the mind. Additionally if you have an anxious disposition your speech will not be clear and concise. So collect your thoughts, take a deep breath and then speak.
Great 👍, the beauty of this lesson is that we could use these in our daily conversations to perfect our professional speech. Kudos to you Lisa, two for the price of one.
Yes.. Almost everybody has a certain bad habit in speaking. I realize I do have one. Hope I can eliminate it in the future.
It's a trap to think, we have to convince the people, have to explain everything fool-proof. It's easier to say "No" instead to justify everything.
When you compare the theater play Pygmalion and My Fair Lady, you get good examples for verbosity. Every person appears as being in a court. Instead to say "I prefer being bachelor", Henry Higgins sings a praise song about all the disadvantages a marriage brings.
I would be happy to absorb all the flowery verbosity tinged with a toreign accent. Sigh.
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My Fair Lady was about the power of our words, accents, and pronunciations, to effect how others see and treat us.
It is also about class divides and power struggles.
Ultimately, language usage boils down to power and position.
We can use language, as a tool, to vie for power and respect.
Or we can just accept our lot.
The choice is ours.
If we choose to gain power through language..like Lisa Doolittle, we will need a mentor.
I learned a lot from this short video. Thanks a lot ☺️
Just what I needed. Thank you so much!
My teacher iam Kenneth Sindane from South Africa , to be exact I genuinely into professional English . I learn from you , may Almighty keeps you for us moreover I learn from the best , cheers !!!
Thanks MS Lisa for empowering confidence and helping us to sound native American
English-speaking