I’m a femme bisexual, who just wants a femme girlfriend 😂 I really like femmes, and I feel like they are the hardest to tell if they are gay or bi, and not straight.
Just shoot your shot . Plain and simple . If you see a femme woman , talk to her , strike up a feeling . Feel out her vibe then ask her out on a date , if she says no , or says she's straight, say "ok no problem, sorry to bother you .. you're still gorgeous" and walk away . The worst that can happen is rejection , but in reality that's kind of sort of a blessing because it makes you more confident once you realize that rejection isn't the end of the world and it's not going to kill you. When you have a confident, it is what it is vibe , and just Do It , like shia LaBeouf says haha, I promise you , you'll steer away from the "omg how can I tell if she into girls" and steer more into the direction of "Let me just strike up a conversation with someone I find attractive and see how it goes" Because remember, there's sooo many things other than "does she like girls" .. she could be married , in a relationship, or just plain not that into you . So figuring out if she likes girls shouldn't be the first of your worries . The first thing to focus on is just talking and getting to know her . Because I guarantee you once talking to them , and getting to know them , you'll get all the answers you need . Maybe not right away , but as you get to know her , yes . Just don't go falling in love at first site , because that's silly for anyone of any sexual orientation to do . Even if you're straight, you can't just assume someone is into you without getting to know them .
ikrr when i was like 11 my older sister kept telling me "dont sit with wide legs, ur not a boy and its inappropriate for a girl" and now when im 16, i realized im bi
Happend to me a lot... Saw girls at the club, really liked her, we’re flirting, dancing, even kissing, and I was sure she was gay. But nope; straight! Hated that! Or (also happend to me) she’s bisexual, has a boyfriend, and was only interested in me as part of a threesome with him. :(
During my freshman year of high school, one of my friends told me that she thinks I’m into girls. When she told me that I got SUPER offended and said to her, “no way!! No way!!” But three years later it turns out she was right💀
me too no gaydar Here in Brazil we use this ring "coconut" ring it's dark and lesbians usully use them but now some straight girls started using it too and it is ruining our code to identify gaygirls. 😧 The only way now is starting a conversation and have the courage to ask if she is or not a lesbian 🙆 😅 well I dont have the courage netheir to talk with a girl nor to ask something like that . 😂😂
I always sit in a very masculine way. Either with spread legs or the way you describe it in the video. I'm not sure if I am obviously lesbian, but I think some people can read others quite well. One day I was on a local festivity related to the historic past of this place. I was wearing a long medieval dress, my short hair completely covered. In the evening a female visitor was sitting with us, we talked about music and she just kissed me. She was 100 percent sure, that I am into girls without bringing up the topic before. So maybe I have this gay vibe, too. A bisexual friend who was there, too, told me later, she also tried to flirt with her. Obviously some people really have this gaydar thing.
It's totally a real thing! When I was in college some girl did a study on it and the results came back totally inconclusive, but I KNOW I have gaydar. I just know. There must be some body language aspect to it, but it would be really hard to measure something like that. Kind of like psychic abilities. I would say the woman you interacted with had super gaydar and also gave off a vibe. Which lesbians in particular love.
You are not bi sexual, it's demons, if you dont stop, very soon when lust is full, those demons will completely remodel that your body to full time lesbian, our body belongs to his creator, even the nature teach many things, stop being a fool for the power of hell, body life is temporary ,but your soul is all that count,I am not begging you, but telling you, your right. Fight for your life, stop eating satan,destructive food to your soul
This video is way better than others of the same topic. I'm a 41 year old "stemme," and I have no gaydar. I'm totally clueless and I have no game 🤦♀️ What a lame combo lol. My ex used to tell me ladies would flirt with me but I had no idea... Nice job on the video, and you're super cute, btw 😬
I swear my gaydar is so broken that it still tells me what I need to know. If I think a woman is into other women, BOOM! She is most definitely straight. 😂🤦🏻♀️
Lesbian. Was only into queer culture for a short period of time, basically when I first came out. After that I was more obsessed with my other interests which were more generic topics. My musical and artistic tastes never coincided with what was cool or exclusively queer. Conclusion: most of us get each other wrong until we find out directly from the person in question. Don't feel bad about making miscalculations (we all do), keep trying.
One way to tell if a girl is gay is to ask her. Easiest and fastest way. They can either tell you yes, no or its none of your business. But I take none of your business as a yes lol.
Same. I asked a girl if she was gay and she clammed up and started stuttering. I told her I’m gay and then she admitted that she is bi. And after that she’s always talking to me about her lesbian crushes lol I think she’s finally happy she has someone she can be open with.
Great video, this is solid advice, it really is about the feel/vibe of the person and how they react to you. If you give blatant signs that you are into someone and they aren’t responding, they probably aren’t into you.
I remember being 14 and there was this girl in my class and i just knew, i just KNEW that she was bi. I had NO interest in her, but I just knew she was bi. Fast forward to 2 years later, we reconnect on facebook, she messages me like "I heard you came out as a lesbian, I'm actually bi." girl, what is new? I congratulated her and told her that I'd had a feeling. "What, but *I* didn't even know back then!" You just had the vibe!
Thanks for the info. I feel that my wife is a lesbian. We really love each other and have a great sex life .I also realize that thier seems to be certain things that as a man I know I can't fill certain parts. I'm okay with it she's having issues with it .that's why I checked out this video. I want to support her and let her be her. I know she's not going anywhere. Neither am I. If she wants a buddy or a girlfriend I'm good with it .just want more education so I can help her except herself. Its sad because she thinks that it makes her a bad wife .she is not ! I love her ALL of her .I don't want to push her and at the same time I want to be able to help her. If anyone can help let me know!
I got very confused about my sexuality once and I had a friend online that was a lesbian. I asked her what she thinks about me (if I’m a lesbian or not, not if she likes me or anything) and she said that I’m hella gay since I always give out gay vibes. I ordered a lesbian flag and got today a t shirt from Adidas with a rainbow design so I can start highschool in peace and give out my gay vibes to people and maybe get a girlfriend =)
I get that vibe thing, I have that intuition. But it only works if I have just met or seen the person. If she is someone I am already attracted to, it doesn't work, if that makes sense.
I’d just like to say that your interpretation was hilarious lmao 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I mean the way you kept moving and slapping your hand on your leg and the facial expressions were freaking hilarious lol 😂😂😂🤣😂
The gay vibes are super real, there was a supervisor of mine that went we met a feeling in the pit of my stomach happened it felt like nervousness and I’m like hmmm there’s something different about her, one day she asked me if I’m one of her and I’m like huh and ohhh yes yes I am lol when she left the company she wanted to be more but unfortunately though yes I am gay, I didn’t like her that way
No Rachel, I'm not into someone I'm wondering about - I am super femme and haven't been out that long ( - I was married to a man for awhile) And I want women to know I'm gay!!
My problem is I’m very shy . Even if, the other person makes the first move ..I always respond nervously. Only to turn them off and, for me to go home thinking how I could’ve handled that better.
Well I hung out with a 40 year old 2 years ago and we didnt date or anything but we had a great amount of banter, teasing and joking! Once she asked me, idk if u have feelings for me? I thought it was a joke question I said maybe I cant help it in a teasy way. She said, awe that's sweet! Well she ended up wanting to cut back communication and hanging out. Skip forward 2 yrs, I reconnected with her only once. She stared at side of my face when I wasnt looking at her, said no one ever made her laugh so much in all her life ! Tried to hold my hand when crossing the road. We also held hands 2 years ago. Basically she ghosted me AGAIN!! Do u think she had feelings for me
Hey amba! Does she identify as straight? Sometimes if women are set in that identity as a core belief about themselves, there can be a lot of cognitive dissonance about loving a woman, ever though it may be strong and true. People are sometimes easily frightened in that age group also because part of the fabric of their upbringing was that being gay was “bad”.
@@rachelgeraci Hey there! Thanks very much for your reply !! Yes she does and you're right. I do agree with the fact that she prolly finds it hard to "accept her feelings ", due to the old fashioned mind set! It's really disheartening for me truly words cant explain as I don't feel such a great connection with people and with her I loved every minute I was in her presence. I feel quite heart broken
This really helped!! I am 23 from Latin America and I like a girl from Asia who is my friend from university in USA. Due to my culture, I'm very affectionate in touching with my friends as I like to hug everyone hello and goodbye. I am not sure if my friend is into queer women because although I study her culture for my degree, I still cant tell the signs. Plus we are both disabled so I met her on disability meet. We are pretty good friends and its been a long time I had a close gal friend. She usually worries for me and asked me during pandemic if Im okay and vice versa. Months ago she sent me a song that talks about friends being apart and loneliness and maturity, then shifting about " I will be there when you need me" in the lyrics. The singer is an androgynous singer from her country and that singer hasn't come out but they use androgynous fashion. In Kpop there is this girl that also dresses androgynous fashion and when I mentioned this artist my friend was like "omg!" Also a year ago, my friend was talking about how free an openly lesbian femme in her class is and then I asked her directly if she supports LGBT people and she gave me an indirect answer and proceeded telling about her homophobic parent. She showed me the rainbow of her country anyways in an art installation. She also texts me much sooner compared to a lot of people. I am not sure..... but I think she is a closeted queer. I am confused as well once again, culture matters, yet there is a commonality and diversity in LGBTQ+ culture. What do you think? I AM SO SORRY FOR THE LONG ESSAY! 👀🤧
I had so many people point that out to me for years including my uncle and aunt who unfortunately are no longer here I never understood how when I never showed any signs of being gay that i know of
Personally I can recognize a gay/lesbian the moment I see, meet, talk to them, watch their body movements or look into there eyes . It ain't hard at all
@@renderz8435 when you are a lesbian you already behaved in certain ways so its not hard recognizing something that you have ever done or gone through & the way a straight woman looks at a fellow woman is totally different from the way a lesbian looks at a fellow woman
I just cut all of my hair off and am hoping it makes it a bit more obvious haha especially as I have a child 😅 (edit: wasn’t the only reason I cut my hair of course)
I’m a femme-ish lesbian and I like this femme girl in my church She said would respect my pronouns (they /them) And my moms got me the lesbian flag and rainbow flag
This was perfect! I am a stud that is attracted to femme women and I have absolutely NO gaydar lol and I always wanted to know what signs to look for and tips. Thank you! I look forward to other videos!
Okay- I’m definitely here for a reason- I like a girl in my year ( I’m bisexual ) but i’m not entirely sure she is too though so I’m kinda confused on what to do, I’m not too keen on asking what her sexuality is though as I don’t want to ruin a good friendship by telling her I really like her , I’m really confused and I honestly don’t know what to do, can I get some help or something please? Edit: she absolutely gorgeous and I love her so much- ee
okay so there is this new girl in my class, today was her 2nd day in my school and we had to do a project together and I was looking for some informations on wikipedia and when i wanted to show her what I found a “am i gay quiz” thing appeared and she said “this is how I feel like” (in italian we say it to say “me”, so yeah basically she said she is gay) and I don’t know if she was joking or something. But I am noticing so many signals like she tries to touch me and she follows lgbt accounts on socials andd she loves nana. My opinion is that she is gay
That might not work with older women who had to stay in the closet for long periods of time. A lot of us are really good at not showing usual signals that we might be gay.
I'm a femme bi and I've fallen for a friend, if she's gay then she'd be a femme too. I can't tell whether she likes me or not, we do hug and hold hands but I've done that with straight friends too so I still don't know! 😭
I honestly didn't come here to find out if anyone else is lesbian I came to find out if I'm a lesbian or a bisexual. Also I feel like I'm sorta femme but also manly? I don't know😐 I'm not even sure if I'm using the word femme in the right conversation /text. I'm new to this LGBTQ stuff😑
I swear I look sooo straight that people might or may think I am not a lesbian, I should consider myself being a femme lesbian, cos I love looking feminine, wear earings and make-up sometimes, and I also dress very very feminine! I guess most people expect me to look like Justin Bieber to believe i am gay,lol😅
You were right! This is the best video out there. You're amazing!!! I'm trying to find out if my University teacher is into women. I've been into her for about 5 months now. Since its online, I can't see how she speaks to other women or her body language, etc. I just have this feeling she might be into women, I try to write to her messages about private things (she has cats, plants, likes black, is single, etc.). Any advice what to do next?
And what’ve you gained here with this comment? Clearly you were looking for the content. So it’s not for you? Ok, let’s leave sarcastic, nasty and bitter comment. What a gem you are!
Ok, so i just met this cute girl at my new school, we were taking some extra classes cuz we r new and needed to be prepared, so when I walked into the classroom I saw her and I was just like- she looked gorgeous (I had never liked a girl before, I’ve found myself feeling attracted to women but I had never been in love with one or sm tho), anyways, at recess she was just standing eating alone out of the classroom, and I wanted to talked to her so bad but I was nervous (I’m never like that lol) and she seemed the same, she wanted to talk and we were looking at each other without the other realizing and finally she talked to me! That day I was kinda shy idk, I wasn’t talking too much, she was doing the taking part. I realized she was funny and cute but that was all, so I kinda stop thinking about her (in a romantical way) that afternoon, but the next day when we were talking she told be that she loved to read and matched some of my hobbies and passions and the next day I found out she is vegan just as me- (I felt like I was about to pass out, I’ve always wanted to meet a vegan person and I mean, that change the whole thing) I started wondering if I really liked her, cuz it was kinda hard to stop seeing her as an amazing friend and person but not a crush, cuz I had never liked a girl before. But I decided that yeah, she is the person I had always been waiting for, just she is a girl and at first I found that a little awkward cuz it was hard to start feeling things for her, but I started watching bi or lesbian couples and I realized that those r even cuter and that they’re so fricking perfect, so yeah, she loves the rain, Harry Potter, she draws and she’s funny, (and we’ve just met 5 days, i can’t wait to learn something new about her everyday) we made a videocall yesterday and we were talking, she was drawing, then we saw some videos, I’m still in the process of falling in love w her u know? I know things will keep going cool. Sadly we were assigned in different classes lol. I had never liked someone in so short time, I have met for at least a year everyone I’ve liked before(just guys), and I are developing feeling for her just meeting her 5 days, it was like love at first sight, I hope she’s bi or lesbian idk. I promise that if we end up together (I’ve got the feeling that we are) I’ll let u know who all this goes :) The only not cool thing is that I’m older than her for a year and 4 or 5 months, i don’t know if she would feel comfortable with that. My parents don’t allow me to have a partner but I was gonna do it anyways so, the fact that she’s a girl it’s even better cuz that way I can invite her home without my parents suspecting anything. I live in a really dangerous country so I can’t go out by myself so I guess that if we end up together our dates r gonna be at my place or hers lol, maybe sometime we could go to buy crystals, (I’m almost sure it’s almost impossible cuz my mom doesn’t like the idea of taking car of other children when we’re out cuz as I said it’s dangerous, but let’s see) I’ve bought her some candy and I love crystals and I showed her some of mine and yesterday she said, omgg, buy my a pendulum, buy me crystals plssss, in a really cute way and rn I don’t have money cuz i spend my savings in something but I will get her a pendulum 😍 She always sits like this yoga position 🧘🏻♀️ in the chair and I always sit every way but formal or femenine as society has labeled, that’s good signs We were in a videocall and she picked a lgbtq+ community filter and she said omg that’s so cute 🫡 is she giving me any signs? 😏
Girl the beginning of your story reminds me so much of what I experienced this year at school! I was that girl that always been alone at school and there was this one girl that sometimes go compliment my style or talk to me a few minute after spanish class. During the whole year we noticed that we were going to another and same high school next year for the same reason(we're artists).I felt like the stars were aligned so there's more between us! So this year i will try very hard to wake up my introverted ass and be friend (or maybe more lol) with her! :)
Its been three months whats the update girl don't leave me hanging. Every detail of your story matches with mine(even the fact that you're older by year and so) and i wanna know what happened next.
Is it bad that as a super femme I’d rather women I’m not into just assume I’m straight? I don’t want to be like “I’m into girls wink wink” and then also “nope, don’t wanna go out with you”. 😬
Bro omg.. the calf thigh sitting thing blew my mind! Up until that point of the vid, I was like ..eh...I just walk ..etc lol and I saw that part...then was like wait a minute ....I sit like that a lot at work lmao But still for the life of me....I don't get the "Eye Contact" thing...bc I just grew up learning it was a sign of respect or whatever so I do my best to maintain eye contact with anyone I talk to....but on the contrary ...I may have some trouble keeping it with someone I'm attracted to but not really.....idk...can someone explain?
@@CaitlynWongSkate do they know you're bi? If they do, aren't they worry about you being secretly in love with them? Or worse u accidentally fall for them
@@anneliselim602 haha jokes on the fact most of them are also bi and yes they know, and no they not because they're reasonable people and plus now I have a gf which is great
> i try to compliment a girl compliment to me me: gay panic also me: she is straight don't think too deeply about it i don't hink this are really that useful, cause every girl is different. i met girl that have a lot of the classic lesbian steretypes and are totally straight. the best way is probably asking them in round about way. for the vibe thing... i'm totally bad guessing others vibe, but i deffently give too much lesbian vibes, but i do think that straight people are less inclined to getting those vibes XD
I am straight!! But I had ex bff I finally realized just how controlling and possessive of me she was.She have not been with a man in years! And claims she into men! But she's too afraid to even go on date. We use call each other sister's but when a incident happen I realized that she was treating me like she was man which made think of my ex-husband.I back away so fast!! And then told another straight friend how she was behaving and she said girl!! She seem like lesbian! because she seen a relationship of old co-worker go this with her controlling and stalker partner! they had major issues..and I was so shocked!! And it finally hit oh my goodness maybe she is a closet lesbian So anyway she finally stop harassing me with all those darn phone calls back to back try to apologize for her rude text messages etc. she wants to take me out to lunch as way of saying sorry and demanded a explanation from me because I was ignoring her!! Smh I said I need to live my own life now! without stress and was through some person issues! now so and was too draining etc so I ended our friendship it's sad but it was necessary for me to be free of a person like her even though she may never come out the closet!! like people do..but hey that's her life...question does she sound like lesbian to you!
My gaydar is so low I can never tell if a girl is gay lol. Wish I could. It's just so difficult to read if somebody is interested in women too lol unless if you see them with a woman too.
I have been out about being gay for 16 years and I have no idea who princess king is and I probably don't know much else about lesbian culture. But I am definitely in to women
Laura Wallace I think at this point you don’t need to know anything about King Princess, she lost relevance pretty quickly through a bad reputation. Cate Blanchett is strangely enough a sustaining lesbian icon due to her movies and you may know her 😎
Savannah: We have have actually ask out plenty of other girls, actually dating 3 of them atm and an enby, just saw the video and clicked it because it seemed fun. :)
I’m really femme but I have a lot of rainbow jewelry and stuff so if someone who’s also gay sees me they might notice it like my bracelet or my watch face and be like oh okay maybe she’s gayer than she looks 👁👄👁
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I love your videos. Would you consider doing a femme bi sexual air hostess dress up video ??
Hey Rachel how are you doing today my name is Chelsea I wanted to let you know that I think you are pretty have a good day 😊
@@chelseaoliver1956 thanks Chelsea! 😁
@@rachelgeraci your welcome 👍🤗
@@rachelgeraci do you have a girl friend.
I’m a femme bisexual, who just wants a femme girlfriend 😂 I really like femmes, and I feel like they are the hardest to tell if they are gay or bi, and not straight.
I’m having the same problem
Just shoot your shot . Plain and simple . If you see a femme woman , talk to her , strike up a feeling . Feel out her vibe then ask her out on a date , if she says no , or says she's straight, say "ok no problem, sorry to bother you .. you're still gorgeous" and walk away .
The worst that can happen is rejection , but in reality that's kind of sort of a blessing because it makes you more confident once you realize that rejection isn't the end of the world and it's not going to kill you. When you have a confident, it is what it is vibe , and just Do It , like shia LaBeouf says haha, I promise you , you'll steer away from the "omg how can I tell if she into girls" and steer more into the direction of "Let me just strike up a conversation with someone I find attractive and see how it goes"
Because remember, there's sooo many things other than "does she like girls" .. she could be married , in a relationship, or just plain not that into you . So figuring out if she likes girls shouldn't be the first of your worries . The first thing to focus on is just talking and getting to know her . Because I guarantee you once talking to them , and getting to know them , you'll get all the answers you need . Maybe not right away , but as you get to know her , yes . Just don't go falling in love at first site , because that's silly for anyone of any sexual orientation to do . Even if you're straight, you can't just assume someone is into you without getting to know them .
To prevent from heartbreak .. I assume all girls are straight 🙃
@@queenb9668 I love this. Thank you ❤️📝
As a femme lesbian, I definitely do the masculine sitting thing...
same lol
same lmaoo
ME BIG TIME LOLOL
My crush does that too, I'm trying to look for clues lol
😉
As a newly out bisexual, I now realize that I definitely gave off some of those vibes when I wasn't even aware of my sexuality haha
ikrr when i was like 11 my older sister kept telling me "dont sit with wide legs, ur not a boy and its inappropriate for a girl" and now when im 16, i realized im bi
@@alexhjc8 i also realized i was bi with 16. Now i am 18
@@alexhjc8 lol does personality affects ur sexuality ? I don’t thjnk so
@@alexhjc8 😂
@@AnakRantau0311 i didnt say anything about my personality
I fear most cute girls are straight.and when they are drunk at the dance clubs they can be very deceiving:-(
Leathur Rokk and then they pretend to not remember the night before
Happend to me a lot...
Saw girls at the club, really liked her, we’re flirting, dancing, even kissing, and I was sure she was gay. But nope; straight! Hated that!
Or (also happend to me) she’s bisexual, has a boyfriend, and was only interested in me as part of a threesome with him. :(
During my freshman year of high school, one of my friends told me that she thinks I’m into girls. When she told me that I got SUPER offended and said to her, “no way!! No way!!” But three years later it turns out she was right💀
I have no gaydar, unless the person has short hair.
Not necessarily the best way to tell
me too no gaydar Here in Brazil we use this ring "coconut" ring it's dark and lesbians usully use them but now some straight girls started using it too and it is ruining our code to identify gaygirls. 😧 The only way now is starting a conversation and have the courage to ask if she is or not a lesbian 🙆 😅 well I dont have the courage netheir to talk with a girl nor to ask something like that . 😂😂
Smiles unless the female is very straight forward.
There’s so many straight women with pixie cuts. That’s not a good way to tell
What about posture ?
I always sit in a very masculine way. Either with spread legs or the way you describe it in the video. I'm not sure if I am obviously lesbian, but I think some people can read others quite well. One day I was on a local festivity related to the historic past of this place. I was wearing a long medieval dress, my short hair completely covered. In the evening a female visitor was sitting with us, we talked about music and she just kissed me. She was 100 percent sure, that I am into girls without bringing up the topic before. So maybe I have this gay vibe, too. A bisexual friend who was there, too, told me later, she also tried to flirt with her. Obviously some people really have this gaydar thing.
It's totally a real thing! When I was in college some girl did a study on it and the results came back totally inconclusive, but I KNOW I have gaydar. I just know. There must be some body language aspect to it, but it would be really hard to measure something like that. Kind of like psychic abilities. I would say the woman you interacted with had super gaydar and also gave off a vibe. Which lesbians in particular love.
Your eye is very pretty :)
@@DC-1313 Thank you :)
My pleasure Anne, if you ever want to have les chat we should connect as friends. :)
Now I'm realizing i had bi women hitting on me before I even realized I was bi 🤦♀️
You are not bi sexual, it's demons, if you dont stop, very soon when lust is full, those demons will completely remodel that your body to full time lesbian, our body belongs to his creator, even the nature teach many things, stop being a fool for the power of hell, body life is temporary ,but your soul is all that count,I am not begging you, but telling you, your right. Fight for your life, stop eating satan,destructive food to your soul
This video is way better than others of the same topic. I'm a 41 year old "stemme," and I have no gaydar. I'm totally clueless and I have no game 🤦♀️ What a lame combo lol. My ex used to tell me ladies would flirt with me but I had no idea... Nice job on the video, and you're super cute, btw 😬
Hey, thanks! So sorry for the late reply. Well. You’re not alone. Not all women are born with gaydar but they can learn to hone in on it.
"totally clueless and have no game" this made me laugh 😂
People always tell me someone flirted with me and I was clueless in the moment lol
I got myself a nice silver bracelet with a "femme" inscription. Its kinda small, but its a start)))
What a great idea! ❤️
Doesn’t this only mean “women” in french? Sorry I don’t know
Oh! This is an idea!
@@anneneville6255 Yes it means a woman* in French language
“Peacocking” is the word you’re looking for with the dominant, confident thing that they have going on when they’re attracted to you.
Does Dua Lipa set off anyone else's gaydar or is it just me?
i get Bi vibes from her since forever
I find her very attractive... but I don't even get bi vibes from her.
No, it's more wishful thinking but I dont get any bi vibes from her.
@Family Room Kendall, yes
Dang, being a lesbian that doesn’t listen to those artists is gonna make dating rough for me
honestly i think that at least knowing they exist or using that to say you're gay is useful
I wish I liked music about/by wuh luh wuh, but I’ve looked and there just aren’t any that click with me
I swear my gaydar is so broken that it still tells me what I need to know. If I think a woman is into other women, BOOM! She is most definitely straight. 😂🤦🏻♀️
Let’s just assume all girls are straight .. I don’t want another heartbreak even a gay girl also break my heart so bad
I can relate I feel like I'm only attracted to straight women...I'm getting use to rejection lol
Mine Sharp as a Razor
Lesbian. Was only into queer culture for a short period of time, basically when I first came out. After that I was more obsessed with my other interests which were more generic topics. My musical and artistic tastes never coincided with what was cool or exclusively queer. Conclusion: most of us get each other wrong until we find out directly from the person in question. Don't feel bad about making miscalculations (we all do), keep trying.
One way to tell if a girl is gay is to ask her. Easiest and fastest way.
They can either tell you yes, no or its none of your business. But I take none of your business as a yes lol.
Same. I asked a girl if she was gay and she clammed up and started stuttering. I told her I’m gay and then she admitted that she is bi. And after that she’s always talking to me about her lesbian crushes lol I think she’s finally happy she has someone she can be open with.
Great video, this is solid advice, it really is about the feel/vibe of the person and how they react to you. If you give blatant signs that you are into someone and they aren’t responding, they probably aren’t into you.
I have worst gaydar EVER!!! that's why,...I'm still single hahahahha
same :'c
I have no gaydar whatsoever. It was never downloaded as a kid.
Very realistic tips. The "vibe" is so so real 😂
Me watching this while my crush is already out as a lesbian...
I suspect my wife of being lesbian or bi
What do I do ?
I remember being 14 and there was this girl in my class and i just knew, i just KNEW that she was bi. I had NO interest in her, but I just knew she was bi. Fast forward to 2 years later, we reconnect on facebook, she messages me like "I heard you came out as a lesbian, I'm actually bi." girl, what is new?
I congratulated her and told her that I'd had a feeling. "What, but *I* didn't even know back then!" You just had the vibe!
Exactly!!
Thanks for the info. I feel that my wife is a lesbian. We really love each other and have a great sex life .I also realize that thier seems to be certain things that as a man I know I can't fill certain parts. I'm okay with it she's having issues with it .that's why I checked out this video. I want to support her and let her be her. I know she's not going anywhere. Neither am I. If she wants a buddy or a girlfriend I'm good with it .just want more education so I can help her except herself. Its sad because she thinks that it makes her a bad wife .she is not ! I love her ALL of her .I don't want to push her and at the same time I want to be able to help her. If anyone can help let me know!
Wow you’re a great husband!
I got very confused about my sexuality once and I had a friend online that was a lesbian. I asked her what she thinks about me (if I’m a lesbian or not, not if she likes me or anything) and she said that I’m hella gay since I always give out gay vibes. I ordered a lesbian flag and got today a t shirt from Adidas with a rainbow design so I can start highschool in peace and give out my gay vibes to people and maybe get a girlfriend =)
Maia Pintilie congrats darling! Hope all goes well for you
Rachel Geraci thank you! I hope i can Spot gay women like you do, even though I think I can, I just feel it, you know
I get that vibe thing, I have that intuition. But it only works if I have just met or seen the person. If she is someone I am already attracted to, it doesn't work, if that makes sense.
Makes total sense!
Yup I'm giving the correct vibe for all the homosexuals out there
My sister is gay her friend new girlfriend
I’d just like to say that your interpretation was hilarious lmao 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I mean the way you kept moving and slapping your hand on your leg and the facial expressions were freaking hilarious lol 😂😂😂🤣😂
I'm only 50% focused on what she's saying lol, she's so damn cute I can't pay attention
I'm so gay wheeze
You're sweet
agree
Most informative video on the subject to date!!! 👍🏻😍 Gaydar definately is REAL - I know this as a bi man.
The gay vibes are super real, there was a supervisor of mine that went we met a feeling in the pit of my stomach happened it felt like nervousness and I’m like hmmm there’s something different about her, one day she asked me if I’m one of her and I’m like huh and ohhh yes yes I am lol when she left the company she wanted to be more but unfortunately though yes I am gay, I didn’t like her that way
No Rachel, I'm not into someone I'm wondering about - I am super femme and haven't been out that long ( - I was married to a man for awhile) And I want women to know I'm gay!!
Maybe I should make a video about how to subtly let women know you're gay! haha
@@rachelgeraci Thanks for replying Rachel! any content along those lines would be much appreciated! Thx! Viki
@@rachelgeraci yusss 🏳️🌈❤
@@rachelgeraci PLEASE do!
if she's really weird about holding the door open for all the girls. that gives off gay vibes
like your confidence very much
This is like the best one yet
Loll i feel like no one can hide from ur scanning
My problem is I’m very shy . Even if, the other person makes the first move ..I always respond nervously. Only to turn them off and, for me to go home thinking how I could’ve handled that better.
Maybe some social anxiety? Try and figure out a way to overcome that and open up without drinking or any drugs would be my advice
I do the same thing 😭
I have the best gaydar, I can spot a lesbian from miles away 😂
Please explain that I wanna to know how because my crush girl looks straight but I doubt know
If you like just ask her even if shes not atleast youll be able to move on and find someone else or maybe it will go the way you want
@@nasirtungub9839
how did it go?
This is best advice I have watched on this topic. I'm sad it's not on the top suggestions.
Give me a big thumbs up! That may help :) thanks for watching!
Hi Rachel love this video and I totally agree with what you all mention here. Nothing beats with the vibes, aura etc.
Well I hung out with a 40 year old 2 years ago and we didnt date or anything but we had a great amount of banter, teasing and joking! Once she asked me, idk if u have feelings for me? I thought it was a joke question I said maybe I cant help it in a teasy way. She said, awe that's sweet! Well she ended up wanting to cut back communication and hanging out. Skip forward 2 yrs, I reconnected with her only once. She stared at side of my face when I wasnt looking at her, said no one ever made her laugh so much in all her life ! Tried to hold my hand when crossing the road. We also held hands 2 years ago. Basically she ghosted me AGAIN!! Do u think she had feelings for me
Hey amba! Does she identify as straight? Sometimes if women are set in that identity as a core belief about themselves, there can be a lot of cognitive dissonance about loving a woman, ever though it may be strong and true. People are sometimes easily frightened in that age group also because part of the fabric of their upbringing was that being gay was “bad”.
@@rachelgeraci Hey there! Thanks very much for your reply !! Yes she does and you're right. I do agree with the fact that she prolly finds it hard to "accept her feelings ", due to the old fashioned mind set! It's really disheartening for me truly words cant explain as I don't feel such a great connection with people and with her I loved every minute I was in her presence. I feel quite heart broken
This really helped!!
I am 23 from Latin America and I like a girl from Asia who is my friend from university in USA. Due to my culture, I'm very affectionate in touching with my friends as I like to hug everyone hello and goodbye. I am not sure if my friend is into queer women because although I study her culture for my degree, I still cant tell the signs. Plus we are both disabled so I met her on disability meet. We are pretty good friends and its been a long time I had a close gal friend. She usually worries for me and asked me during pandemic if Im okay and vice versa. Months ago she sent me a song that talks about friends being apart and loneliness and maturity, then shifting about " I will be there when you need me" in the lyrics. The singer is an androgynous singer from her country and that singer hasn't come out but they use androgynous fashion. In Kpop there is this girl that also dresses androgynous fashion and when I mentioned this artist my friend was like "omg!" Also a year ago, my friend was talking about how free an openly lesbian femme in her class is and then I asked her directly if she supports LGBT people and she gave me an indirect answer and proceeded telling about her homophobic parent. She showed me the rainbow of her country anyways in an art installation. She also texts me much sooner compared to a lot of people.
I am not sure..... but I think she is a closeted queer. I am confused as well once again, culture matters, yet there is a commonality and diversity in LGBTQ+ culture.
What do you think? I AM SO SORRY FOR THE LONG ESSAY! 👀🤧
I had so many people point that out to me for years including my uncle and aunt who unfortunately are no longer here I never understood how when I never showed any signs of being gay that i know of
Personally I can recognize a gay/lesbian the moment I see, meet, talk to them, watch their body movements or look into there eyes . It ain't hard at all
Omg how do you tell? Is there a certain mannerisms that gives it away?
@@renderz8435 when you are a lesbian you already behaved in certain ways so its not hard recognizing something that you have ever done or gone through & the way a straight woman looks at a fellow woman is totally different from the way a lesbian looks at a fellow woman
@@ashleywoodsUg Very true
You can also notice if there is a confuse woman?
I’m not gay nor bisexual. But I find certain women attractive😉.
U are gay just don't know it yet
there's a difference between finding women pretty and wanting to date one
Hello my wife would like to talk to you
I just cut all of my hair off and am hoping it makes it a bit more obvious haha especially as I have a child 😅 (edit: wasn’t the only reason I cut my hair of course)
I’m a femme-ish lesbian and I like this femme girl in my church
She said would respect my pronouns (they /them)
And my moms got me the lesbian flag and rainbow flag
This was perfect! I am a stud that is attracted to femme women and I have absolutely NO gaydar lol and I always wanted to know what signs to look for and tips. Thank you! I look forward to other videos!
Best video I've seen so far on the topic !
emilia maria mila thank you!!
The vibe is soooo true.
Unrelated, but those earrings though!
Okay- I’m definitely here for a reason- I like a girl in my year ( I’m bisexual ) but i’m not entirely sure she is too though so I’m kinda confused on what to do, I’m not too keen on asking what her sexuality is though as I don’t want to ruin a good friendship by telling her I really like her , I’m really confused and I honestly don’t know what to do, can I get some help or something please?
Edit: she absolutely gorgeous and I love her so much- ee
LittleStepz message me on ig and I’d be happy to give you advice! 😀
Ask her what is her fav haily keyoko song hahaha
I don't know if my best friend is straight or lesbian and I have a crush on her
okay so there is this new girl in my class, today was her 2nd day in my school and we had to do a project together and I was looking for some informations on wikipedia and when i wanted to show her what I found a “am i gay quiz” thing appeared and she said “this is how I feel like” (in italian we say it to say “me”, so yeah basically she said she is gay) and I don’t know if she was joking or something. But I am noticing so many signals like she tries to touch me and she follows lgbt accounts on socials andd she loves nana. My opinion is that she is gay
Video starts at 5:15 ;)
Tysm
Tnx 😂
That might not work with older women who had to stay in the closet for long periods of time. A lot of us are really good at not showing usual signals that we might be gay.
What if she's very reserved? how to make her come out. 😁
I'm a femme bi and I've fallen for a friend, if she's gay then she'd be a femme too. I can't tell whether she likes me or not, we do hug and hold hands but I've done that with straight friends too so I still don't know! 😭
NOBODY'S STRAIGHT 🤨🤩🍭😊 IJS
I honestly didn't come here to find out if anyone else is lesbian I came to find out if I'm a lesbian or a bisexual. Also I feel like I'm sorta femme but also manly? I don't know😐 I'm not even sure if I'm using the word femme in the right conversation /text. I'm new to this LGBTQ stuff😑
Trust me you will know if your bi if you like both genders and if your gay you would go for a girl ❤🌈🌈🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Trust me you will know if your bi if you like both genders and if your gay you would go for a girl ❤🌈🌈🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
I swear I look sooo straight that people might or may think I am not a lesbian, I should consider myself being a femme lesbian, cos I love looking feminine, wear earings and make-up sometimes, and I also dress very very feminine!
I guess most people expect me to look like Justin Bieber to believe i am gay,lol😅
Just feeling so empowered by this as a femme woman
You look a lot like Rachel Leigh Cook but younger :P
You were right! This is the best video out there. You're amazing!!!
I'm trying to find out if my University teacher is into women. I've been into her for about 5 months now. Since its online, I can't see how she speaks to other women or her body language, etc. I just have this feeling she might be into women, I try to write to her messages about private things (she has cats, plants, likes black, is single, etc.).
Any advice what to do next?
I received your inquiry and will be responding shortly :)
sublime comedy, sixth minute and just self testimony bout your gaydar, kudos lady
And what’ve you gained here with this comment? Clearly you were looking for the content. So it’s not for you? Ok, let’s leave sarcastic, nasty and bitter comment. What a gem you are!
this video is so great thank you
Ok, so i just met this cute girl at my new school, we were taking some extra classes cuz we r new and needed to be prepared, so when I walked into the classroom I saw her and I was just like- she looked gorgeous (I had never liked a girl before, I’ve found myself feeling attracted to women but I had never been in love with one or sm tho), anyways, at recess she was just standing eating alone out of the classroom, and I wanted to talked to her so bad but I was nervous (I’m never like that lol) and she seemed the same, she wanted to talk and we were looking at each other without the other realizing and finally she talked to me! That day I was kinda shy idk, I wasn’t talking too much, she was doing the taking part. I realized she was funny and cute but that was all, so I kinda stop thinking about her (in a romantical way) that afternoon, but the next day when we were talking she told be that she loved to read and matched some of my hobbies and passions and the next day I found out she is vegan just as me- (I felt like I was about to pass out, I’ve always wanted to meet a vegan person and I mean, that change the whole thing) I started wondering if I really liked her, cuz it was kinda hard to stop seeing her as an amazing friend and person but not a crush, cuz I had never liked a girl before. But I decided that yeah, she is the person I had always been waiting for, just she is a girl and at first I found that a little awkward cuz it was hard to start feeling things for her, but I started watching bi or lesbian couples and I realized that those r even cuter and that they’re so fricking perfect, so yeah, she loves the rain, Harry Potter, she draws and she’s funny, (and we’ve just met 5 days, i can’t wait to learn something new about her everyday) we made a videocall yesterday and we were talking, she was drawing, then we saw some videos, I’m still in the process of falling in love w her u know? I know things will keep going cool. Sadly we were assigned in different classes lol. I had never liked someone in so short time, I have met for at least a year everyone I’ve liked before(just guys), and I are developing feeling for her just meeting her 5 days, it was like love at first sight, I hope she’s bi or lesbian idk. I promise that if we end up together (I’ve got the feeling that we are) I’ll let u know who all this goes :)
The only not cool thing is that I’m older than her for a year and 4 or 5 months, i don’t know if she would feel comfortable with that. My parents don’t allow me to have a partner but I was gonna do it anyways so, the fact that she’s a girl it’s even better cuz that way I can invite her home without my parents suspecting anything. I live in a really dangerous country so I can’t go out by myself so I guess that if we end up together our dates r gonna be at my place or hers lol, maybe sometime we could go to buy crystals, (I’m almost sure it’s almost impossible cuz my mom doesn’t like the idea of taking car of other children when we’re out cuz as I said it’s dangerous, but let’s see)
I’ve bought her some candy and I love crystals and I showed her some of mine and yesterday she said, omgg, buy my a pendulum, buy me crystals plssss, in a really cute way and rn I don’t have money cuz i spend my savings in something but I will get her a pendulum 😍
She always sits like this yoga position 🧘🏻♀️ in the chair and I always sit every way but formal or femenine as society has labeled, that’s good signs
We were in a videocall and she picked a lgbtq+ community filter and she said omg that’s so cute 🫡 is she giving me any signs? 😏
Girl the beginning of your story reminds me so much of what I experienced this year at school! I was that girl that always been alone at school and there was this one girl that sometimes go compliment my style or talk to me a few minute after spanish class. During the whole year we noticed that we were going to another and same high school next year for the same reason(we're artists).I felt like the stars were aligned so there's more between us! So this year i will try very hard to wake up my introverted ass and be friend (or maybe more lol) with her! :)
Its been three months whats the update girl don't leave me hanging. Every detail of your story matches with mine(even the fact that you're older by year and so) and i wanna know what happened next.
Am stright and There's a girl ,I think she like me but she's changed and she's ignoring me ,why ?
I was always wrong. 'Vibe' facked me over bad. Every one I ever wanted was straight
Your picker is broken :(
In general, is it more common for lesbians to be butch or femme?
I’d say it’s more common for them to be on the more masculine side, in my experience
Best advice video I’ve ever seen
Omggg thank you 😊
I'm screwed because I genuinely don't know, regardless.
You're adorable! What was it like when you first came out?
AJ GV I will post my coming out story at some point! Just been caught up with work 😄
Is it bad that as a super femme I’d rather women I’m not into just assume I’m straight? I don’t want to be like “I’m into girls wink wink” and then also “nope, don’t wanna go out with you”. 😬
Not strange at all!
I sit underneath of tables and refuse to sit in chairs in general 85% of the time, does that count as not sitting correctly?
no.. you're good
Rachel, you have amazing energy. Great video.
hey there rachel
@@YTuser854 sup 😎
Uploaded on my 40th Birthday.
Bro omg.. the calf thigh sitting thing blew my mind! Up until that point of the vid, I was like ..eh...I just walk ..etc lol and I saw that part...then was like wait a minute ....I sit like that a lot at work lmao
But still for the life of me....I don't get the "Eye Contact" thing...bc I just grew up learning it was a sign of respect or whatever so I do my best to maintain eye contact with anyone I talk to....but on the contrary ...I may have some trouble keeping it with someone I'm attracted to but not really.....idk...can someone explain?
Rachel is absolutely beautiful!
These are really good tips. 👍🏼
I love you babe.
That was fantastic
I’m a girl. My friend stares at me in a like, seductive way I think?.. does that mean she likes me???? Or am I wrong
she could be playing with you if she knows ur gay, straight girls like to play like that
I'm really affectionate to my girl friends. They're not gay though so they won't take it the wrong way.
@@anneliselim602 same I'm affectionate to my close girl friends too, im bi tho
@@CaitlynWongSkate do they know you're bi? If they do, aren't they worry about you being secretly in love with them? Or worse u accidentally fall for them
@@anneliselim602 haha jokes on the fact most of them are also bi and yes they know, and no they not because they're reasonable people and plus now I have a gf which is great
> i try to compliment
a girl compliment to me
me: gay panic
also me: she is straight don't think too deeply about it
i don't hink this are really that useful, cause every girl is different. i met girl that have a lot of the classic lesbian steretypes and are totally straight. the best way is probably asking them in round about way.
for the vibe thing... i'm totally bad guessing others vibe, but i deffently give too much lesbian vibes, but i do think that straight people are less inclined to getting those vibes XD
Didn’t know theirs a dress code.
I am straight!! But I had ex bff I finally realized just how controlling and possessive of me she was.She have not been with a man in years! And claims she into men! But she's too afraid to even go on date. We use call each other sister's but when a incident happen I realized that she was treating me like she was man which made think of my ex-husband.I back away so fast!! And then told another straight friend how she was behaving and she said girl!! She seem like lesbian! because she seen a relationship of old co-worker go this with her controlling and stalker partner! they had major issues..and I was so shocked!! And it finally hit oh my goodness maybe she is a closet lesbian So anyway she finally stop harassing me with all those darn phone calls back to back try to apologize for her rude text messages etc. she wants to take me out to lunch as way of saying sorry and demanded a explanation from me because I was ignoring her!! Smh I said I need to live my own life now! without stress and was through some person issues! now so and was too draining etc so I ended our friendship it's sad but it was necessary for me to be free of a person like her even though she may never come out the closet!! like people do..but hey that's her life...question does she sound like lesbian to you!
I am fem lesbian 🏳️🌈and they always ask me if I am straight I tell them no I am full lesbian 🏳️🌈
Is fem and femme lesbian same?
I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body. You are gorgeous!
Tysm just found your channel
loving it
this year I’m fully embracing my sexuality 💟
This is useful if you are still in school. Otherwise in a suburban environment the mall is it.
My gaydar is so low I can never tell if a girl is gay lol. Wish I could. It's just so difficult to read if somebody is interested in women too lol unless if you see them with a woman too.
I have been out about being gay for 16 years and I have no idea who princess king is and I probably don't know much else about lesbian culture. But I am definitely in to women
Laura Wallace I think at this point you don’t need to know anything about King Princess, she lost relevance pretty quickly through a bad reputation. Cate Blanchett is strangely enough a sustaining lesbian icon due to her movies and you may know her 😎
And I dont even know if I'm femme or masc
Savannah: We have have actually ask out plenty of other girls, actually dating 3 of them atm and an enby, just saw the video and clicked it because it seemed fun. :)
Unfortunately,my Gaydor broke down about 5 years ago....
Nice vid . all this stuff is true ... All about vibes
I need a lesbian wife like u
You did an amazing job 💓
Did you mention the lesbian salute?
😎👆👉
If so, I'm sorry I missed it lol
I’m really femme but I have a lot of rainbow jewelry and stuff so if someone who’s also gay sees me they might notice it like my bracelet or my watch face and be like oh okay maybe she’s gayer than she looks 👁👄👁
Dude im not even out yet...