Yes, exactly. Sadly from personal experience(s) I've noticed that people often care way too much about trivialities. Such things become problematic if it interferes with people's lives. It could leave them even somewhat paranoid if it would happen enough/too much. Living life would become a lot easier if one was a bit more indifferent, especially if it is deemed weird. ' Weird' people seem to care less about the trivial stuff society in general seems to care about. You seem to care about the right things. Right in the sense that you aren't messing with people and right in the sense that it is productive. So keep up the great videos.
I agree, its futile to expect things from others, you'll just end up hurting yourself. When you approach people from a state of indifference, you give yourself the opportunity to be surprised (for better or worse). Realizing how important it is to maintain ones integrity can keep us from losing ourselves while we change through life. Very insightful video as always, i wish i could have talks like this with my loved ones, but it really is such a hard thing to explain at times. Its like two people who are painting with different color palettes, you can describe lights and darks, shades and hues, but if the person isnt working with the same set of colors as you, they cant fully understand the kind of picture you are trying to paint. The more i think about it, this might be a flawed analogy 😅(so i won't lmao) . But thank you man, sincerely
This is super true as well! I never will be able to understand why society is so indiferent and cruel with people in disadvantage circunstances, they act like bullies!!
@@FatherJohnny-oh4dh Its easier to bully the weak. They make the best scapegoat as they cannot retaliate. They bully due to the trauma of growing up in a cruel, indifferent world.
What I do not like is when the indifference (continually) affects my livelihood. I also strongly recognize what you say about things being okay just so long as it does not cause them problems. It becomes quite frustrating, still, to interact with or find appropriate work that does not get met with both indifference & create problems or inconvenience for others.
It almost reminds me of stoicism. Ive gotten to a point in life with much personal strife that having zero expectations is the best way. I want to give the benefit of the doubt but I’m not going to be shocked anymore at the idiosyncrasies of most humans. I should not be and I’m not the epithet of human existence so why, as you said, should I expect carbon copies of myself. I think this is freeing. Especially for those of us who are an outlier.
Bonjour, ne suis pas ok avec vous lorsque vous dites que ce n' est ni mauvais ni bon que les nt soient "réduits " à peu d'empathie, réduits à l'indifférence. Le constat est juste. Néanmoins il est intolérable et même plus, de chaque fois aller dans le mur par leurs faits, leurs fautes. Si vous regardez plus en " méta ", il ne s'agit pas juste de choisir un métier ou on est pas sur le même point de vue ou juste avoir des points de vue " divergeants " (😅). En mon quotidien, je ne cesse de pâtir des comportements des nt. Parce que je vis en van ( à la recherche depuis des années pour mettre un habitat léger sur un terrain isolé ( ultra grandes hyperesthesies). En mon pays le van n' est TOUJOURS pas bien vu au niveau des représentations. Résultat, ces punaises de nt viennent faire chier quasi quotidiennement, à me demander des comptes, à vouloir me raconter leurs soi- disants- " soucis" ( il semble qu' ils sentent surtout ma gentillesse et peuvent venir " déposer " des choses - puisque les autres sont....... justement indifférents😢. Ça vous prend une énergie de dingue. Maigre que j'ai fait le gros travail d'être plus franche, plus assertive..... ça ne marche qu' un tout petit peu. Et pour les plus encul.s, ils repartent frustrés . Et vous envoient les " forces du dés- ordres"😢. Parce que oui, une femme est censée la fermer et être toujours heureuse qu' on vienne pour la faire ch.....ier. Donc, permettez de dire que votre analyse est courte. Le premier niveau de conscientisation de ça. Il est vrai que c' est un cap difficile à passer ( j' ai mis des années avant de le " comprendre"). Mais si, les nt posent des problèmes majeurs. Alors, que vous soyez un homme, bon, c' est déjà un avantage ( vous n' en pouvez rien, c' est vrai, néanmoins élargissez votre horizon svp. Les nanas ont de multiples peines en plus de vous - codes culturels biaisés. À un moment, ce serait bien de regarder plus loin que ça. Dire que le problème est que l'appréciation est incorrecte....bravo...... Mais ce sont les conséquences de leurs merdiques comportements qui influent sur votre vie qui posent problème. Alors, si vous vivez en une grotte n'aimez pas ou n'avez point besoin de trop de lien social ( moi je les subis, et le fait de ne pas trouver un terrain n' est pas un choix de ma part, le fait de survivre au quotidien ( importante organisation pour savoir quand, comment, où, jusqu'à quelle heure potentiellement il y aura de la tranquillité...eetc), et que le seul " souci " est de prendre conscience qu'il faut apprendre à changer de perspective..... Rien que ce dernier point, pour moi , c'est bien déjà la merd..... et en plus je me coltine le reste. Ce que j'essaye de transmettre, ce n' est nnon pas le fait que vous parliez d' une info importante, mais plutôt que vous minimisiez beaucoup d'éléments autres en la dynamique sociale..... L'anglais n' est vraiment pas ma première langue, donc il est possible d'envisager que votre discours soit déformé pour la compréhension. Parce que , autrement ,et sachez que, vraiment vraiment, je vous trouvais " suffisant"😊. Je me doute que ce n' est évidemment pas du tout , ddu tout un but en soi.et je ne souhaite pas vous heurter.... Plutôt désespérée de voir que les neurodivergeants que connais sont " tous" introvertis ou mieux dans leur grotte.... et sue je ne croise pas un peu plus aussi des neurodivergeants plus " siciables ", " extravertis " - également , ai un côté introvert très très poussé aussi - qui ont une autre visibilité sur le monde, une autre analyse que , juste, " intellectuelle". Il manque la sociologique, l'émotionnelle, et des pistes de solutions.... Un toute toute petite dernière chose : j' ai pu " observer" que les hommes ont moins de difficulté à considérer la perspective dont vous faites montre ( construction de l'égo différente, codes culturels !?) Souvent et que les femmes souffrent " plus" - en en discutant avec des hommes et des femmes , bien sûr ) - de ne pas pouvoir créer plus de liens "authentiques ". Bonne journée 😊 Alo
If everyone was not indifferent, there would be no need for "pushing" you. Our world would be a fair, just, sane, nurturing environment with healthy, humane policies in place. There would be very minimal problems for people to be in your business about. People would be busy creating, loving, learning, experiencing to be in your business. None of us are free in this indifferent, cold, inhumane world. In fact the majority are enslaved and starving.
Thanks Abel. Big fan of autonomy. Have watched your videos before, but needed reminding, and actually just needed some like-mindedness in my evening. Thank-you.
Could somehow understand what your motivation/idea with that talk was, but my favorite in that starts at 8:53, very simple, nearly "obious" analogy, yet so easy, that it is great again. I love understanding in pictures.
I want to enact social change and that involves garnering support from the collective. It feels like you're taking the stance of confronting indifference with more indifference about their indifference and while that is tempting and advantageous, it seems less than compassionate for folks who are disadvantaged and not afforded this privilege.
I appreciate the insights. I just bought your book. I do find that accepting that most people are indifferent is extremely painful. It’s something I have felt anguish over my life and have not been able to fully accept it as truth. It is a heavy burden to bear thinking it is my mantle to get people to care about important things. It’s hard to comprehend that people, in fact, do not care and there is a part of me that cannot fully accept that as of yet. Any advice on how to accept that people don’t care but still push forward to trying to make the world a better place?
I think this is a good insight. It’s really frustrating that most people won’t change their minds about anything. For me, it is jarring to understand that most people are genuinely indifferent to the suffering of animals, for instance. It makes me feel like there’s an invisible wall between me and even my best friends. How do you deal with this?
This is a very limited perspective on that issue. You assume that if people would not be indifferent, they'd be trying to change your intentions. This is not logical. If people would not be indifferent, then everyone would be understanding what happens within the other person. Thereby nobody would try to change any behaviour or intentions. Thereby the understanding would be given to actually understand why the other person is doing it thinking the way she/he is thinking. This then would be able to cause what you call freedom. But think of it more deeply. If I'm aware of another person, I need to not only be aware of the person, but I also need to be aware of my thinking - and able to absorb it. Otherwise the person would appear to us like an optical illusion, unreal. Like when we sometimes think we see something but it was just a change in the eye pressure, resulting in a point you may see somewhere in your vision. You're aware of it - but your thinking was not focused on it. Resulting in the question: what was that? Was there an insect flying around? So, why do we ask ourself even this question? Because we, whatever we are, relate to our environment, but also the other way round. We relate the environment to us. Here it becomes interesting. Regarding to developmental psychology the creation and forming of a sense of self is taking place really early in life. If this process is distorted by e.g. a "dead" mother (Winnicot) the building self can be so overwhelmed that it creates a fake friend, a fantasy "god" friend, which then sacrifices the real self - that is the origin of pathological narcissism. These people do not have the capability to reference back to an intact "self" since they only can refer back to a god-self, which they have a knowing about, is not their real self while being unable to restore that true self. If that reference point is not given or appears like a god within one's experience, it is quite difficult to not be indifferent as long the other person does not provide the wrong self with life-force, what Freud called libido - since the god-self is aware, but not mentally able to focus on it, of it being not god simply because one is not able to move a mountain. This then creates the "experience dissonance" - not a cognitive dissonance, since they experience their missing reference point in that way like when someone asks you to proof that something does not exist - it is impossible in a free setting. That then may create the feeling of being not alive while they're are alive. So, they have a sensational deficit, actually an experience deficit, which they try to balance due to others, mostly very vivid or "alive" persons. Usually their children. They can't defend themselves. But if they're neurodivergent chances on an anecdotical level I assume are higher. This would fall into the "cause a problem" segment you mention. I assume you mean therewith that one causes a problem as soon one is behaving authentic - since that always triggers the false-self because it can't be that way. It is stuck at a level in child developmental states. This is what I consider to be the meaning behind of what you talk about. I just came on it since the assumption one wanted to change others when being aware of their patterns and problems would be set standard. This is not a must, it may even lead to exactly that what these false-selfes want. Life-force. Attention. If everyone would be empathic and had a reference point within oneself, this would mean that people would reciprocally do good to each other. Feel free to discuss with me. I'd be interested on other hypothesis and generelly what others do think in this regards. Thanks :) and have a good time.
@@FatherJohnny-oh4dh FatherJohnny, I must express my heartfelt gratitude to you for this nuanced and accurate statement, with all due respect for you as a clergyman. Yours sincerely, Gandalf.
Abel your voice and content is very insightful. It would fit to make podcast. Maybe also gives a space to go deep. I like to listen to your content while I do everyday tasks like cooking.
I wish most people were indifferent.. too bad they are not. they are indifferent when they feel is in their best interest (ex when someone is in need of help), but they meddle in other peoples affair, gossip and use others for their own ends, when they are in need of help, or they simply want other people to be as miserable as they are
I'd call meddling and gossiping indifferent, inasmuch as it's indifferent to whom you really are and what you feel. It's an unfortunate case of getting caught in their machinations. Which is why you have to be always ready to fight, cfr. my other video on that...
@@Abel.Abelson yes well it's a matter of definition. when I am indifferent to others, I follow the motto "live and let live" and "mind your own business", and I expect the same from others. if they don't follow the above rules, I consider them to be not indifferent to me.
I subscribed to your wife's channel and read her bio in her blog. It seems that you were environmentalist for a time, I think that is why you are a little bit frustrated by the behavior of neurotypicals. But when you are in the environmental movement, you are against vested interests that wont give that easily. Your wife has a video on horizontal humans, and the vested interests are hierarchical vertical humans.
Expect anything from people and you'll be disappointed. A better word for the "cure" might be acceptance. You get what you get, trying to change people brings all sorts of suffering.
@@arm4ix Maybe you misunderstood me. Desiring change is to suffer how things are, and losing your contentment to a mental vision of how things could or should be, while not trying to change things is to be content. Thus give up trying to change things. Or give up on the mind if you prefer because it will make you miserable.
@@oscarl.3563 i didn't misunderstand u. Willingness to suffer in friction in order to change the indifference of people in this world to make it a better place is what makes u different.
Indifference to matters of publuc urgency is morally depraved or a condition of a moral idiocy! Global climate warming, threat of nuclear War, emergence of fascism and totalitarianism are all urgent public matters that are far beyond mere "voting".
Well, sociopathy is a continuous scale, and "everybody" (read: NT's) is somewhere on the scale, above zero. Not to a degree that's officially recognised as "sociopath", but not zero either...
Hi, thanks for the suggestion. I'm not an expert on the subject however, and I think it's better that everyone talks about what they have personal experience or a certain level of understanding or expertise in, so I'm afraid I'm not really qualified and would better leave this to someone more knowledgeable or with more experience on the subject...
It takes a certain level of understanding (knowledge) to ace an IQ test. Does it then say people were able to learn to be intelligent? While intelligence does differ between people, or perhaps the desire and capacity to learn.
Dr Evil God a packet of crisps that invariably asks questions wattis what? private behind peoples backs. a private joke. coffee. m25 isn't a pretty drive. the speakers an old pub, the tables, a pint, well a pint's a pint. Alex bellfield voice of reason. the feedback I got. Helen Dibble. These words are my own song 2005
I get so excited when I find someone who says they want to know something, but blindsided when inevitably that was just them lying to be polite.
You should feel honored if they lied. At times they want information in order to misuse it to their advantage.
Yes, exactly. Sadly from personal experience(s) I've noticed that people often care way too much about trivialities. Such things become problematic if it interferes with people's lives. It could leave them even somewhat paranoid if it would happen enough/too much. Living life would become a lot easier if one was a bit more indifferent, especially if it is deemed weird. ' Weird' people seem to care less about the trivial stuff society in general seems to care about. You seem to care about the right things. Right in the sense that you aren't messing with people and right in the sense that it is productive. So keep up the great videos.
Even psychologist can be indifferent...
Tremendous video as usual. I always try to make the most of people's insensibility and stupidity. Basically it's about forgetting about one's own ego.
I agree, its futile to expect things from others, you'll just end up hurting yourself. When you approach people from a state of indifference, you give yourself the opportunity to be surprised (for better or worse). Realizing how important it is to maintain ones integrity can keep us from losing ourselves while we change through life. Very insightful video as always, i wish i could have talks like this with my loved ones, but it really is such a hard thing to explain at times. Its like two people who are painting with different color palettes, you can describe lights and darks, shades and hues, but if the person isnt working with the same set of colors as you, they cant fully understand the kind of picture you are trying to paint. The more i think about it, this might be a flawed analogy 😅(so i won't lmao) . But thank you man, sincerely
Thank you very much for the advice. I will stop expecting many behaviors from people.
It will bring a lot of peace to your life, and you'll become a lot more efficient in what you do.
The "indifference" you speak of can be understood better by also thinking about "intellectual frugality".
This is super true as well! I never will be able to understand why society is so indiferent and cruel with people in disadvantage circunstances, they act like bullies!!
I thought they acted like that in general, not simply towards those with disadvantages. They probably can't relate themselves to yourself.
@@FatherJohnny-oh4dh Its easier to bully the weak. They make the best scapegoat as they cannot retaliate. They bully due to the trauma of growing up in a cruel, indifferent world.
bro this is next level observation, thank you for pinpointing something so hidden yet influential and articulating it
What I do not like is when the indifference (continually) affects my livelihood. I also strongly recognize what you say about things being okay just so long as it does not cause them problems. It becomes quite frustrating, still, to interact with or find appropriate work that does not get met with both indifference & create problems or inconvenience for others.
It almost reminds me of stoicism. Ive gotten to a point in life with much personal strife that having zero expectations is the best way. I want to give the benefit of the doubt but I’m not going to be shocked anymore at the idiosyncrasies of most humans.
I should not be and I’m not the epithet of human existence so why, as you said, should I expect carbon copies of myself. I think this is freeing. Especially for those of us who are an outlier.
YES, I have come to a very similar realisation and change in mindset recently, as well. Learning about neurotypicals helped immensely.
Bonjour, ne suis pas ok avec vous lorsque vous dites que ce n' est ni mauvais ni bon que les nt soient "réduits " à peu d'empathie, réduits à l'indifférence. Le constat est juste. Néanmoins il est intolérable et même plus, de chaque fois aller dans le mur par leurs faits, leurs fautes.
Si vous regardez plus en " méta ", il ne s'agit pas juste de choisir un métier ou on est pas sur le même point de vue ou juste avoir des points de vue " divergeants " (😅).
En mon quotidien, je ne cesse de pâtir des comportements des nt.
Parce que je vis en van ( à la recherche depuis des années pour mettre un habitat léger sur un terrain isolé ( ultra grandes hyperesthesies).
En mon pays le van n' est TOUJOURS pas bien vu au niveau des représentations.
Résultat, ces punaises de nt viennent faire chier quasi quotidiennement, à me demander des comptes, à vouloir me raconter leurs soi- disants- " soucis" ( il semble qu' ils sentent surtout ma gentillesse et peuvent venir " déposer " des choses - puisque les autres sont....... justement indifférents😢. Ça vous prend une énergie de dingue.
Maigre que j'ai fait le gros travail d'être plus franche, plus assertive..... ça ne marche qu' un tout petit peu. Et pour les plus encul.s, ils repartent frustrés . Et vous envoient les " forces du dés- ordres"😢.
Parce que oui, une femme est censée la fermer et être toujours heureuse qu' on vienne pour la faire ch.....ier.
Donc, permettez de dire que votre analyse est courte.
Le premier niveau de conscientisation de ça.
Il est vrai que c' est un cap difficile à passer ( j' ai mis des années avant de le " comprendre").
Mais si, les nt posent des problèmes majeurs.
Alors, que vous soyez un homme, bon, c' est déjà un avantage ( vous n' en pouvez rien, c' est vrai, néanmoins élargissez votre horizon svp. Les nanas ont de multiples peines en plus de vous - codes culturels biaisés.
À un moment, ce serait bien de regarder plus loin que ça.
Dire que le problème est que l'appréciation est incorrecte....bravo......
Mais ce sont les conséquences de leurs merdiques comportements qui influent sur votre vie qui posent problème.
Alors, si vous vivez en une grotte n'aimez pas ou n'avez point besoin de trop de lien social ( moi je les subis, et le fait de ne pas trouver un terrain n' est pas un choix de ma part, le fait de survivre au quotidien ( importante organisation pour savoir quand, comment, où, jusqu'à quelle heure potentiellement il y aura de la tranquillité...eetc), et que le seul " souci " est de prendre conscience qu'il faut apprendre à changer de perspective.....
Rien que ce dernier point, pour moi , c'est bien déjà la merd..... et en plus je me coltine le reste.
Ce que j'essaye de transmettre, ce n' est nnon pas le fait que vous parliez d' une info importante, mais plutôt que vous minimisiez beaucoup d'éléments autres en la dynamique sociale.....
L'anglais n' est vraiment pas ma première langue, donc il est possible d'envisager que votre discours soit déformé pour la compréhension.
Parce que , autrement ,et sachez que, vraiment vraiment, je vous trouvais " suffisant"😊.
Je me doute que ce n' est évidemment pas du tout , ddu tout un but en soi.et je ne souhaite pas vous heurter....
Plutôt désespérée de voir que les neurodivergeants que connais sont " tous" introvertis ou mieux dans leur grotte.... et sue je ne croise pas un peu plus aussi des neurodivergeants plus " siciables ", " extravertis " - également , ai un côté introvert très très poussé aussi - qui ont une autre visibilité sur le monde, une autre analyse que , juste, " intellectuelle".
Il manque la sociologique, l'émotionnelle, et des pistes de solutions....
Un toute toute petite dernière chose : j' ai pu " observer" que les hommes ont moins de difficulté à considérer la perspective dont vous faites montre ( construction de l'égo différente, codes culturels !?) Souvent et que les femmes souffrent " plus" - en en discutant avec des hommes et des femmes , bien sûr ) - de ne pas pouvoir créer plus de liens "authentiques ".
Bonne journée 😊
Alo
If everyone was not indifferent, there would be no need for "pushing" you. Our world would be a fair, just, sane, nurturing environment with healthy, humane policies in place. There would be very minimal problems for people to be in your business about. People would be busy creating, loving, learning, experiencing to be in your business. None of us are free in this indifferent, cold, inhumane world. In fact the majority are enslaved and starving.
Thanks Abel. Big fan of autonomy. Have watched your videos before, but needed reminding, and actually just needed some like-mindedness in my evening. Thank-you.
Could somehow understand what your motivation/idea with that talk was, but my favorite in that starts at 8:53, very simple, nearly "obious" analogy, yet so easy, that it is great again. I love understanding in pictures.
This video is like a revelation. Bravo.
I want to enact social change and that involves garnering support from the collective. It feels like you're taking the stance of confronting indifference with more indifference about their indifference and while that is tempting and advantageous, it seems less than compassionate for folks who are disadvantaged and not afforded this privilege.
Hi, thanks for commenting. What privilege are you referring to exactly?
Merci à vous. J'ai posté moi aussi un commentaire sur le sujet😊
@Abel abelson, the NT-language is 90% non-verbal ? ,[with lots of ''brackets aka. hidden/double meanings]
That's also definitely true.
I appreciate the insights. I just bought your book. I do find that accepting that most people are indifferent is extremely painful. It’s something I have felt anguish over my life and have not been able to fully accept it as truth. It is a heavy burden to bear thinking it is my mantle to get people to care about important things. It’s hard to comprehend that people, in fact, do not care and there is a part of me that cannot fully accept that as of yet. Any advice on how to accept that people don’t care but still push forward to trying to make the world a better place?
Wow the later idea about how indifference is a good thing is a great insight, thanks!
You're welcome, glad I could be of help🙂
Thanks very much for your contributions, I appreciate your points of view.
I think this is a good insight. It’s really frustrating that most people won’t change their minds about anything. For me, it is jarring to understand that most people are genuinely indifferent to the suffering of animals, for instance. It makes me feel like there’s an invisible wall between me and even my best friends. How do you deal with this?
I really enjoyed this video. 💖
I'm glad you did, thanks for letting me know 👍
This is a very limited perspective on that issue.
You assume that if people would not be indifferent, they'd be trying to change your intentions.
This is not logical. If people would not be indifferent, then everyone would be understanding what happens within the other person. Thereby nobody would try to change any behaviour or intentions. Thereby the understanding would be given to actually understand why the other person is doing it thinking the way she/he is thinking. This then would be able to cause what you call freedom.
But think of it more deeply.
If I'm aware of another person, I need to not only be aware of the person, but I also need to be aware of my thinking - and able to absorb it. Otherwise the person would appear to us like an optical illusion, unreal. Like when we sometimes think we see something but it was just a change in the eye pressure, resulting in a point you may see somewhere in your vision. You're aware of it - but your thinking was not focused on it. Resulting in the question: what was that? Was there an insect flying around?
So, why do we ask ourself even this question? Because we, whatever we are, relate to our environment, but also the other way round. We relate the environment to us.
Here it becomes interesting. Regarding to developmental psychology the creation and forming of a sense of self is taking place really early in life. If this process is distorted by e.g. a "dead" mother (Winnicot) the building self can be so overwhelmed that it creates a fake friend, a fantasy "god" friend, which then sacrifices the real self - that is the origin of pathological narcissism. These people do not have the capability to reference back to an intact "self" since they only can refer back to a god-self, which they have a knowing about, is not their real self while being unable to restore that true self.
If that reference point is not given or appears like a god within one's experience, it is quite difficult to not be indifferent as long the other person does not provide the wrong self with life-force, what Freud called libido - since the god-self is aware, but not mentally able to focus on it, of it being not god simply because one is not able to move a mountain. This then creates the "experience dissonance" - not a cognitive dissonance, since they experience their missing reference point in that way like when someone asks you to proof that something does not exist - it is impossible in a free setting. That then may create the feeling of being not alive while they're are alive. So, they have a sensational deficit, actually an experience deficit, which they try to balance due to others, mostly very vivid or "alive" persons. Usually their children. They can't defend themselves. But if they're neurodivergent chances on an anecdotical level I assume are higher.
This would fall into the "cause a problem" segment you mention. I assume you mean therewith that one causes a problem as soon one is behaving authentic - since that always triggers the false-self because it can't be that way. It is stuck at a level in child developmental states.
This is what I consider to be the meaning behind of what you talk about.
I just came on it since the assumption one wanted to change others when being aware of their patterns and problems would be set standard. This is not a must, it may even lead to exactly that what these false-selfes want. Life-force. Attention.
If everyone would be empathic and had a reference point within oneself, this would mean that people would reciprocally do good to each other.
Feel free to discuss with me.
I'd be interested on other hypothesis and generelly what others do think in this regards.
Thanks :) and have a good time.
Can't argue with what you said, nor can I add to it.
@@FatherJohnny-oh4dh FatherJohnny, I must express my heartfelt gratitude to you for this nuanced and accurate statement, with all due respect for you as a clergyman. Yours sincerely, Gandalf.
Abel your voice and content is very insightful. It would fit to make podcast. Maybe also gives a space to go deep. I like to listen to your content while I do everyday tasks like cooking.
That's fabulous, thank you! On what kind of platform or site do you listen to podcasts?
I myself just use UA-cam platform, but there is also other platforms such as bodbean, Spotify. ect. :)
I wish most people were indifferent.. too bad they are not. they are indifferent when they feel is in their best interest (ex when someone is in need of help), but they meddle in other peoples affair, gossip and use others for their own ends, when they are in need of help, or they simply want other people to be as miserable as they are
I'd call meddling and gossiping indifferent, inasmuch as it's indifferent to whom you really are and what you feel. It's an unfortunate case of getting caught in their machinations. Which is why you have to be always ready to fight, cfr. my other video on that...
@@Abel.Abelson yes well it's a matter of definition. when I am indifferent to others, I follow the motto "live and let live" and "mind your own business", and I expect the same from others. if they don't follow the above rules, I consider them to be not indifferent to me.
What is your main field of interests??
Ahh I'm so grateful to the world for it's indifference
I wished we were friends. :/
I subscribed to your wife's channel and read her bio in her blog. It seems that you were environmentalist for a time, I think that is why you are a little bit frustrated by the behavior of neurotypicals. But when you are in the environmental movement, you are against vested interests that wont give that easily. Your wife has a video on horizontal humans, and the vested interests are hierarchical vertical humans.
Abel's wife has a channel? Please tell me the link!
@@flavioluismachado5825 ua-cam.com/channels/oC_82TEPYlFF7NHxd2-bIA.html
Yurira Harris that is the channel.
Faulty expectations. Yep, Disney lied to us!!!! ;)
Ha ha, before you mentioned the spotify example, I was about to click off this vid in a few seconds.
How indifferent of you 😉😄😄
So the cure to the problem of indifference is more indifference?
Expect anything from people and you'll be disappointed. A better word for the "cure" might be acceptance. You get what you get, trying to change people brings all sorts of suffering.
@@oscarl.3563 That didn't end suffering, but just became ignorant to it
@@arm4ix Maybe you misunderstood me. Desiring change is to suffer how things are, and losing your contentment to a mental vision of how things could or should be, while not trying to change things is to be content. Thus give up trying to change things. Or give up on the mind if you prefer because it will make you miserable.
Very well put, Oscar L.
@@oscarl.3563 i didn't misunderstand u. Willingness to suffer in friction in order to change the indifference of people in this world to make it a better place is what makes u different.
Indifference to matters of publuc urgency is morally depraved or a condition of a moral idiocy!
Global climate warming, threat of nuclear War, emergence of fascism and totalitarianism are all urgent public matters that are far beyond mere "voting".
What should I do about these issues?
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Develop a vision of society that is far better by creating an ideal and how that ideal can be realized.
That being said, are you vegan? Meaning, how does the suffering of animals and of the planet affect you?
@AA, are nt's sociopaths ?
Well, sociopathy is a continuous scale, and "everybody" (read: NT's) is somewhere on the scale, above zero. Not to a degree that's officially recognised as "sociopath", but not zero either...
Both sides can have that aspect. The degree varies, and I will personally say yes
I wonder what personal experiences informed this one
Hello Abel, can you speak about positive desintegration in one of your videos please ✨
That would be great!
Hi, thanks for the suggestion. I'm not an expert on the subject however, and I think it's better that everyone talks about what they have personal experience or a certain level of understanding or expertise in, so I'm afraid I'm not really qualified and would better leave this to someone more knowledgeable or with more experience on the subject...
@@Abel.Abelson that's ok, thank for answering. 💖
nobody cares because of cellular phones. :.))
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I really have mixed feelings about IQ discourse because some people bring race to it
Mec tu es hors sujet
It takes a certain level of understanding (knowledge) to ace an IQ test. Does it then say people were able to learn to be intelligent? While intelligence does differ between people, or perhaps the desire and capacity to learn.
Dr Evil God a packet of crisps that invariably asks questions wattis what? private behind peoples backs. a private joke. coffee. m25 isn't a pretty drive. the speakers an old pub, the tables, a pint, well a pint's a pint. Alex bellfield voice of reason. the feedback I got. Helen Dibble. These words are my own song 2005