The food obsession consumed me until I got on to this path.
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This is the best video I've seen on eating disorders. It felt like the motivations you were describing are very real and I do think this video helps people feel less alone.
Thank you, Alaine, I'm so glad it was helpful ❤️
The way that you remember the exact comments people made about your body… I can so relate to that and how it sticks with you. Thank you so much for this video!
My eating disorder is literally killing me. I have had bulimia, anorexia in the past and I have been on the binge and restrict cycle for 5 years now. My journey with eating disorders started when I was 15. I am now 22 and I have autoimmune disease markers and my liver is not working properly. Before the situation with my liver started. A doctor prescribed me ozempic for my appetite and I ate under 900 calories for 2 months and I ended up in the hospital from a cardiac event and learned my liver is failing and my electrolytes are completely out of balance. I had to get off all medicine and I have put on 15 pounds in a month. I am binge eating despite the situation with my liver. I can’t believe the damage that I have done to my body and am continuing to do because I have no idea how to eat normally. If I would have known starving my self at 15 would have led to this out of control binge and restrict cycle and multiple medical problems at 22 years old I would have re thought about making those choices many years ago.
I’m so sorry I hope you’re getting better and I’m sure you’re strong enough to get through this ❤️
wow. I'm praying for you
I resonate with SO MUCH of this. I’m currently in the extreme hunger phase of recovery and the weight gain is really taking a toll on me. I’m just so obsessed with food still and it doesn’t seem to be getting any better. I’m so scared I’m going to keep gaining weight and that I’m just emotional eating now.
So courageous of you to take a stand and decide you deserve to move to a healthy relationship with food. Man, it can be scary and overwhelming (and up and down!). There certainly is a lot of stuff to learn about. Do you work with anyone that understands to help you navigate this and your concerns? Hopefully you are and if not, hopefully you won't need this by the time it comes out, but I am bringing out an online comprehensive DIY programme as quickly as I can to help women gain all the puzzle pieces they need to understand and have a healthy relationship with food. Hunger, emotional eating, mind games, nutrition, body image...the lot. If that is at all something that would be helpful, then pop your name down here to be notified ❤️ rachaelwrigley.com/programme-waitlist-sign-up/
I resenate with your comment (and also this video) so much! I am in the same phase as you, and I am also scared. Knowing I’m not alone, makes me feel a bit safer. We got this! ❤️💪🏻 I’m working with professionals and although the process is slow I’ve already noticed great things happening in my mind.
I've never thought I could relate to someone so much... so many times I stopped and silently nodded. I appreciate you sharing this so much. it gives me so much solace to know that someone else understands and gets it. Im so proud of you. Thank you.
I'm really delighted you found comfort in this, Emma. It is so lovely to have you ❤️
“I have no desire to eat past the point of satiety; why would I, when I can eat again in 10 minutes?”
This throwaway comment you made at the end felt totally groundbreaking Rachael, thank you.
I have a very similar story. My first memory of shame around my appearance was in kindergarten. I'm 22 now, and after many failed attempts to do so, I'm determined to actually get better for good this time.
Mine always gets worse when I'm unemployed - beyond just self-worth issues from that, you're having less fun, social interactions, stuff to focus on, etc. so the obsessive mind gives you something to focus on and structure your life around. Making todo lists and self-assessing life goals helped me a lot
I'm currently 18 years old and I've always had a problem with overeating ever since I was a child. Probably from the age of 12. In primary school, I lived in a home where food was not necessarily scarce, but certain types of food were rare. So when I got to high school, I went to live with my mom and food was more available.
I used to overeat because I thought I would regret not having eaten the food later😅...still struggling with this since it has become a habit now and I almost do it unconsciously .
I just wanna obtain food freedom and not have it control my life😫😭
I think this video and your channel is incredibly valuable, your honesty and bravery gives people a true connection and understanding of “eating disorders “ I had many childhood behaviours similar to the ones mentioned in this video. I was very confused and afraid until I read “in the realm of hungry ghosts” by dr Gabor Mate which completely changed my perspective. Very grateful for these videos, thank you
Thank you so much! That's kind of you and I'm so glad it's helpful. thank you for the book recommendation! Added to the list ⭐️
This was fantastic!! Thank you for sharing your story!
Thank you very much. You don't know how you made me feel now. A lot of the words you said describe me so badly. I thought I was the only one going through these situations and feelings. You gave me hope ❤
Thank you, Rachael. You explain things in such a way that is so helpful and honest. And so much of what you say resonates with me, and obviously others. I look forward to your next video. ❤
This really touched me, I feel like all the awareness that people bring on UA-cam are keeping me from spiralling in my ed, even if sometime I struggle with it, most of the time I'm enjoying life and it's all thank to the people sharing their story and the fact that I'm able to relate to it and see a way through the struggle
So thank you for that ❤❤
Oh my goodness, the relief I feel at having listened to you. Thank you, you have made me feel less crazy. ❤
Thank you Rachael, you are a lifesaver ❤
Thank you for sharing. This is incredibly hard to do and you where so transparent it made me cry. I am so happy for your recovery journey and i wish you to be forever balanced.
Thanks for sharing your story with peoples who needs it❤ I underwent a surgery last year to move away a tumor in my pancreas, and I couldn’t eat and drink normally for two to three months. I would say I recovered quite well now, but I also realize that I got extreme hunger due to the lack of nutrition for months. Although I know intuitive eating can help me with it, my pancreas isn’t well functioning which really frustrates me😢 Hope I can take care of my mental health first and see what I can do to improve my relationship with food!
You’re channeling is incredibly helpful for me. I was Ed-thought- and binge free for years but I relapsed and so I am re-watching all of your videos 💙 so excited there’s a new one! Can you do a video on emotional eating in particular please?
Thank you for being SOUL beautiful inside and outwards to those who need your words and wisdom 💖
Rachael thanks so much for this video. It’s unbelievable how much I can relate to everything you’re saying. We have a similar story. I am not 100% recovered (binge eating is still an issue) but finding your channel has given me so much hope that I can be “normal”. ❤
Hi Rachael, your story is so painful to listen to 😢 which tells me there is something in my childhood eating that I haven’t healed from. Not to mention I recognise some of the behaviours in my little girl and it kills me to think that she may feel like I did.
I resonate with so much of it although I never suffered with bulimia (only because it never occurred to me otherwise I may have become that way!)
I also really struggled to stop eating and would be stealing food from the fridge or getting up much earlier than everyone else to have as many bowls of cereal as I wanted without judgment. I guess I learned it made me feel good. I didn’t know how else to feel good I was also very lonely and my parents sort of left me to my own devices deep in their own life and interests. Growing up overseas in a culture that was so image based for women was torture. People I didn’t know would twist my chubby cheeks and call me fat. Everything I said would be “cute” not intelligent or interesting. Either everyone would avoid me or infantilise me.
I have come a loooong way to heal it all and am learning so much about how having a fun fulfilling life means I won’t obsess over food. Now the guilt of maybe having a daughter who feels that way is hard to swallow. I’d love to know how to help the little limitless eater in my house without shaming or taking control for her. Any advice would be appreciated 🙏
Love your plants and thank you for sharing your story!
Thanks a lot for sharing your story! For someone who now are in the phase of an extreme hunger - please EAT, don't restrict yourself, let it go, you can do it and you can live your life happily.
I'm so grateful that once I had a chance to find a video about all-in method and decided to went through it. It really saved my relationship with food and I feel free now
Thank you for sharing, courageous and incredibly helpful.❤
Thank you for sharing this with us, it gives me so much hope so see how you made it out of this disorder 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I'm so so glad!! Xx
I have suffered from a succession of anorexia, binge eating disorder, bulimia and orthorexia for over fifteen years. I have learnt more and had more insight into what I want and how it is possible to get there through discovering your channel than I have through 15 years of professional therapy! I am finally beginning to realise and accept (definitely only beginning but it's a start!) That restriction will never serve me in any form, in body control, in health or in happiness or freedom. This is GROUNDBREAKING and has given me more hope for some kind of freedom and peace from food and my body than I could ever have imagined might be possible. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤
Thank you so much for this! I am really happy to hear how these videos have helped. Made me day! I wish you all the very best and I’m sure you’re going to do really well in this new chapter of life x
Although my disordered eating started at a much later phase in life, I can relate with so much you say in this video. Thank you, Thank you so much for your honesty! It's incredibly brave to do a video like that! Thank you!
Well done you’re truly inspirational. I’m on a journey right now towards a healthy relationship with food and this has been really useful thanks.
I'm really happy for you and this new journey ❤️ I'm so glad this helped!
I needed this from restricting myself with foods for a year now being low on weight . To binge eating and gaining weight. To working out so badly to lose the weight and get out of the binge cycle . Your videos have helped me start to find a healthy relationship with food ! ❤❤ this video is everything!!
This is extremely relatable and helped me connect so many dots. Your childhood difficulties and traumas with weight and food struggles feels so core to my upbringing as well. Interestingly, in the last year and a half, I have dramatically changed my life in areas seemingly unrelated to diet and food obsession. I fell in love with someone who loves me back, I started going out more and meeting people that I click with and enjoy being around, and I’ve gotten very into playing music. Before all of this occurred, I struggled heavily with binging daily, and then feeling intense shame about my lack of discipline and “feeling fat.” The fact that all of that generally ended as I started to get more friends and socialize more hadn’t even clicked until now. The reason I’m here now is because the last 6 weeks or so I suddenly got it in my head that I really want to lose that “last 10-15 pounds.” So I started intermittent fasting and being really restrictive and I did lose about 6 pounds in 3 weeks. Then the holidays rolled around and my coworkers and boss started bringing in tons of cookies and sweets and heavy holiday foods and pizza and wings were ordered for us… and because I had been restricting soo much leading up to this, and I was socializing less because I didn’t want to drink alcohol or be tempted by high calorie foods, then all this food at work was way too much for me to have the ability to resist/take it easy with. So in the last two-ish weeks, I gained all 6 pounds back that I had worked so hard to lose in the previous weeks. And I’ve been pissed at myself and also blaming my coworkers for “sabotaging” me… when really it all happened because 1. Restrictive eating makes you extremely hungry and 2. I was pulling back from my relationships and upping the stress I was experiencing at work and 3. Being REALLY hard on myself while going through these things. I, too, previously thought I just like food way too much and have a chronic sweet tooth and sugar addiction and all of these negative attributes. I’m only just now realizing that I’m actually using food to cope with difficult emotions. Holy shit.
Thank you thank you for your videos. I’m so happy I came across your channel, I think I’ve watched most of your videos now 😅 our stories are very similar, unfortunately I think just very typical of growing up in the “00’s.. I started my first diet age 9 (I had puppy fat at most but was encouraged by my mum?!) and went on to yoyo between restriction, bingeing, being vegan etc. for the next 20 years..but now at 32 finally feeling like there’s light at the end of the tunnel! The weight is falling off and I’ve gone from daily binges and emotional eating to not having an episode for over a month. I’m finally learning to trust my body and listen to what it wants in all areas… and the change is amazing!! I feel like there’s a whole generation of us 😢but hopeful it will change with people like you guiding change ❤️
That's amazing ❤️⭐️ Thank you so much for sharing your experience, I know it really helps other women who read it. Yes... it seems like this is a pretty widespread source of pain and difficulty for a lot of women. Wether it's just out generation mostly I don't know. Congratulations on all the shifts you have created, it's inspiring!
I've never commented to much but thanks for being so humble and honest about a tough subject for me anyways this has been very relatable n inspiring to see so many ppl fighting the same thing God bless you all ❤️proverbs 3 20-26
The absolute lengths i relate to this and the help i already feel like I am somewhat receiving is to the point where I kept saying i love you please don't cry out loud when you started tearing up 🫂Thankyou so much Rachel you are a wonderful older sister.
Thank you ❤️ I'm so glad it's helping xxx
I am so grateful that I came across your story, I could relate so much, it brought me to tears. Thank you. I still have a long way to go but I have hope now. On top of eating disorder I got type 1 diabetes 3 years ago and I have no idea how to go around eating freely when you have to plan when and how much you will eat. Also, keeping up anti inflammatory diet without gluten and milk. Did you have clients who went through the same problem? Thank you once more for making this content.
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and being a guiding light for so many people. I wish everyone considering or in recovery the peace and happiness you've always deserved. 💖
Something small you said in this reeeally triggered some pretty major realisations for me and how i feel about myself since i was a child. Am exhausted from crying and integrating this information. Thank you
I cried watching this video. I also want feel normal and not obsess about food every day of my life. Thanks for sharing.
I cried watching this video... Those details and feelings I know them very well.. Thank you for sharing your story.. I know now, I need help!
Wow! This was so incredibly honest and refreshing to listen to. My experience is almost IDENTICAL to how you described yours! At the age of 40 now, I am exhausted from allllll the diets that DO NOT WORK! I am now intent on exploring a much healthier relationship with food.
Thank you!
Wow❤I love you, Rachael! Totally relate.
THIS! I relate to this on so many levels. Currently dealing with this.
i have never related to someone so much in my life. thank you for sharing
Wow, our stories are so similar. To the childhood relocation to a new country and being made fun of at 7, to the atypical anorexia in HS to breaking down and telling my brother. I so appreciate your video.
Thank you for sharing ❤
For me it started when I was 10. Immigrating to a new country and leaving behind every single family member & friend except for my mom. As I would look at photo’s sent in the post, of my best friend, my brother and the rest of my family, living their best care-free lives in the sunshine, enjoying BBQ’s, beach days, pool parties and family gatherings … I was in a miserable, grey country with no family and no friends, and a poorly mom whom I then had to care for. The one person I made friends with was as skinny as a rake! Just like my mom. And I felt so, so, so inadequate as a more healthily figured child who was already developing breasts and entering womanhood. The boys at school would comment on my chest size, which gave me such a complex. I would avoid PE lessons at all costs so that I didn’t have to change in front of anyone else or have to deal with being so conscious of my boobs during sports. Constantly felt like an outsider. Boys never showed interest in me.
I constantly felt like I was missing out on the fun in life! My best memories were the holidays back home where I would beg and plead with my mom to please let me stay.
I never really had issues with anorexia or bulimia but ate for comfort for sure.
At 40, I am so exhausted from being at war with my body. For a long time I’ve been obsessed with health and nutrition, with going Vegan for 8 yrs or so.
I’m so TIRED of it alll…. I just want to live my best life!
I can relate to about everything you said. Thanks for sharing your story ❤
Thank you so much for sharing 🙏💛 God bless you Rachel🌟
12:35 im gonna get a handle on my life and im gonna show back up totally thin...
It grieves my heart bc i know this and have lived this. The enemy of our souls keeps us so outward focused, and while i was wasting my life abiding in social anxiety and disordered eating the people i so wanted to impress were living their lives!
I wish i could hug my teen self and my younger self and tell her its not worth it.
I havent fully healed, but im thankful for this journey and its bc of you i am aware and finally know i can be bound to that life NO longer. Before watching your videos i didnt have a context- but now i do. So thank you. Thank you.
I've had sugar cravings my whole life but it is getting worse and worse in recent years, I am now 42 and I am worried that I am completely losing control 😞
Hi Rachael, thank you so much for all your content, it’s EXACTLY what I have needed! Well done! ❤😊 I am currently walking out of disordered eating! 🎉🙌🏻💃
Quick Q, do you weigh yourself and what are your thoughts on how weighing either daily or weekly affect normal healthy eating/food freedom/intuitive eating?
Awesome Video, thank u so much❤
Hi Rachel. I know you work with women and that its women your videos are directed towards, but as a man who has had bulimia and now working through binge-eating disorder, I want you to know how helpful I find your videos. It's so hard finding resources for men with disordered eating and so much of the content addressing men's eating is just about enough protein for gains at the gym...which isn't at all helpful. You get into the emotional connections, the mindset of EDs and practical tips on adjusting one's relationship with food, all of which has been immensely supportive and helpful. Thank you.
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this to me. I appreciate it. I am really glad that my videos are helpful to you. I do have other men who watch my channel who say the same. My content isn't exclusively for women, it's simply that that is my area of specialty and it would be wrong for me to give the impression otherwise. It's wonderful to have you ☺️❤️
Thank you for sharing your story ❤
The authenticity in your videos speaks volumes on your character.
You are so special. 🦋✨🤍
That's incredibly kind of you to say ❤️
I'm a french guy, and I can relate a lot with your story and a lot of guys do, and everytime I think I have everything under control something too stressful or some emotionnal disconfort and I spiral down but I get back quicker on track still habe some fthings to figure out..
Hi Rachael, thank you so much from posting this video ! I feel like I relate so much to your story and I think that I'm ready to begin my own journey. However, I still have some questions, what if this doesn't work and I'll just end up eating my way to more weight gain (as I already gained a lot of weight because of binge eating) ? I really want to stop focusing on weight and diets but I don't want to become more unhealthy.
Thanks again for the video !
Hi, Sabrina. Thank you for your message. I completely understand your fears and concerns. Yes I believe you can be healthy and fit and your natural healthy weight, no matter what stage of your journey you're starting at. If it would be helpful, I am bringing out a comprehensive programme to guide women through this process from start to finish. In that, these questions are covered in depth and you will feel very reassured. This programme is designed for those that have a history of binge eating and food obsession to find their natural healthy weight and relationship with food without ever dieting again. If you think you're a good fit for this, you're welcome to join the waitlist to hear more about it here rachaelwrigley.com/programme-waitlist-sign-up/ ❤️
thank you for sharing your story. It really helped me
I love your honesty
I love your plants and you are beautiful, I want to look radiant like you. God bless you!
That's incredibly kind of you ❤️ I have no doubt by your loveliness that you are incredibly radiant!!
I am a new subscriber to your channel. I found one of your videos today, and I have already watched a few. I want to make a video suggestion. Can you talk about what to do when you have a good relationship with the food but you stop losing weight? Thank you 😊
Please take this with a pinch of salt because this is just a general concept but in my philosophy: if you already have a healthy relationship with food and are caring for yourself in a positive way, then surely that means you will settle at your natural healthy weight? That may be higher than we wanted it to be. I don't know what more we can do for ourselves besides care for our health and confidence and body image as we do so? There may be a few things that can be done with nutrition and health and fitness that can 'lower their set point weight' slightly. Each individual is different in this regard and this needs to be navigated with caution in my experience with a real gentle experimental approach X
Thank you so much for such an amazing video! You're doing a great job for lots of women and men who are struggling with such problem as binge eating... But I also have question, which is some kind different, then the video topic: is it possible, that some unhealthy food habbits or even binge eating can cause hair loss and skin problems? Thanks for any respond
oh you speak french ???
I want to say, thank you for yours videos, because it's help me to see the problem on a other side ! And I think is the best videos about ED :')
literally binge eating as i watch this video. sigh.
Thank you for sharing your story Rachael, I stumbled upon your channel and it couldn't have come at a better time 🥲 I'd been in the calorie-counting food-obsessed stage the past 1.5 months, and though I lost weight, I've been unhappy and found it started to dictate my lifestyle. Counterintuitively, when I went on a short trip and didn't weigh myself nor track macros, I actually lost the lost weight and felt much better. A healthy relationship with food from a balanced and loving place is so important, thank you for all your share and do! ❤️❤️ (i stopped tracking 2 days ago and already feel amazing!)
Im not vegan but I am eating more plants, veggies qnd fruits when i crave sweets. I am trying to get back to my childhood in the 80s in Brazil. No junk, no processed foods. just a full plate of whole foods, cooked from scratch, and very colorful plates. restrictions make me so anxious and late night, anxiety would go through the roof and the only relief was a high sugar food before bedtime. No restrictions and starvation anymore. the more colors on my plate, the better.
I'm so profoundly touched by your story and how much I have in common with it... I too have worked very hard to have a normal relationship with food. My question is... as I was recovering from my binge eating disorder I had started smoking cigarettes. Now that I've been quit from cigarettes for the last few months my old binge eating tendencies have come back... I thought I had moved past this can I feel devastated.... I even became a vegetarian and then introduced all other foods and became quite comfortable with all of it. I'm scared to have these feelings again. Do you have any insight or suggestions for me? Anything would be greatly appreciated. I definitely feel that I need to work on my emotional elements more. 🤷😢 Again thank you for your time.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I feel hopeless when it comes to food but I guess I do not need to feel that way.
Very encouraging video! Very relatable story. I do feel like men fall through the cracks in the conversation of eating disorders, even though we go through many of the same problems.
Thank you. And yes you're absolutely right. I speak to women because I am a woman and women that binge eat is my specific niche. One day I would love to expand my training and understanding to help men as well. One step at a time. I never want to offer help to a demographic that I'm not 100% certain I can help or empathise with x
Hi. Do you have a list of the different emotions that could bring on "emotional eating". I'm really curious about this bit :) Thank you so much for being such a positive light in this space! At this moment, I cannot afford your programs. I really cannot wait until I can. I'm not in a terrible place right now at all. I just really like the idea of discovering why I'll suddenly get intense cravings, etc
It can be all of them! In lots of interesting different ways. It can also be different food 'meanings'. Emotional eaten seems complicated on the tin but actually it's remarkably straightforward . And really rewarding as a process to go down. It's hard not to change as a person as you really move past emotional eating. I won't get heavily in to that now as it wouldn't be fair on those that sign up to my program to get this information, however do please note that if all of this information is something that would be helpful to you I am doing my level best to bring out extensive payment plan options as quickly as possible. You are very welcome to stay updated about that here: rachaelwrigley.com/programme-waitlist-sign-up/ For now, lots of love and thank you for taking the time to comment ❤️
@@RachaelWrigley Thanks for the reply!
I’ve been struggling for 10 years now. It feels like I can’t turn the binge eating around. I keep trying tho I guess
Would like to go on Wait list plse.
You voiced my fears and struggles exactly as they are. I've been restricting myself and lost lots of weight to the point my ribs are showing and I loved it and tbh I still love seeing my ribs poking out but the constant mental battle between crazy cravings and restricting is driving me mad. I can't restrict as I used to and honestly I don't think I really want to any more. I'm still terrified of the thought of gaining weight but now it's less about becoming thin and thinner and more about being healthy so that's a good start I guess. Thanks for this video ♡
How do you move past the shame and guilt tied to binge eating? That’s the part I’m struggling with at the moment because if I don’t admit what I’m doing then I don’t have to have the shame with the problem at hand
Thank you for your question, please could you clarify what you mean by 'if I don’t admit what I’m doing then I don’t have to have the shame with the problem at hand'?
I have an eating disorder for five years. And i couldnt find the power to go on anymore. I am architecture student and in my school it is very stressful time to time. And it makes me more binge eating. I don't know what to do. I dont want to go on like that. But i don't know...
Please do everything possible to get help from someone who understands and I encourage you to seek out the path to a healthy relationship with food and with yourself ❤️
@@RachaelWrigley i will try 🤍
well,,, i've ate 2 chocolate muffins and 2 croissant while watching this and i wasn't even hungry,,, i can't getting over this binge again
how were you able to make these changes in your diet (reintroducing all foods/going vegan etc) without rules/restrictions from other people? (my mum has strict rules about what i can/can't eat and those are the foods i binge on in secret, but i havent mustered up the courage to come about that yet)
Great question. And if you live at home and others are placing restrictions on you I can imagine this is very difficult. And thank fully, I can imagine, a temporary situation. As you asked about my case, it was not relevant to me. Firstly, no-one was enforcing rules on me about food and secondly, I was purchasing my own food and was an adult and therefore no-one had any possible say over what I was eating. Worst case someone may have had an opinion on my food intake, but I never was particularly impacted by that after I was committed to my path of healing my relationship with food. It wasn't anyone else's business how or what I ate and I'm sure if someone had commented negatively, I would have told them that in the politest way possible. I don't know if that answers your question but I hope that it did ❤️
How long did it take after going all in to stabilize your hunger/satiety cues and stop gaining weight?
For me personally a couple of weeks. There is no typical. Women I work with ranges significantly ❤️
After watching a lot of your vids, i can tell we have so much in common but at the same time, and forgive me, i can't bring myself to fully trust you, or believe that recovery is real....because you aren't fat. I am. Always have been. And I hate it. As much as I hate thinking about food all the time. And I know this will sound insane -it is- sometimes i wish I had developed bulimia and/or anorexia too alongside....I just binge and get bigger. And bigger and gross.
But even from this place of insanity i can tell my thinking is wrong and harmful. 😭
I completely understand and hear you. And I'm glad that you notice this way of thinking is not helpful or caring to yourself or will ultimately lead you to health and happiness. I hear the desperation in that though. While there may be similarities in our stories, there will of course be differences: biological and psychological. I hear that the main difference you bring up is our sizes. It is true that this journey can be slightly different for individuals in larger bodies. Much still remains the same, but I know from my training there are a few key differences. It may be that the body you settle at with a healthy relationship with food is bigger than mine. In my philosophy we cannot do any more for ourselves that care for ourselves and develop a healthy relationship with food. I believe that leaves us with 'our natural healthy weight' over time. For most of us, the more we deliberately try to lose weight, the further we seem to move away from this 'natural healthy weight'. What more can we do but care for our physical and mental health like this, be patient and accept the body that this gives us? I do strongly recommend reaching out to a professional that is able to navigate your particular situation. Someone that really understands this and specialises in eating disorder recovery for individuals in larger bodies. Someone that can take the full picture in to consideration. I would love to be of more help at this time, but I'm reluctant to comment more on the situation and give you ideas that may not be helpful. Hopefully I'll be of more help in the future as I learn more and become more competent in this one area ❤️
I struggle with medication weight gain. Plus hunger and fullness is affected by my medication. 😢 how can I deal with that? X
Clare, thank you for your comment. Clearly you have been advised that this medication is important for your health. That is not for anyone else to comment on. So I suppose the question at hand is, what do you mean by 'how do I deal with that?'. And if your goal is to control your exact weight or to do best you can by yourself and your health and begin your journey to moving past making yourself feel insecure and limited by your body. And I would always recommend working with a professional to navigate your situation in particular. Consider the question: if I was acting from a place of pure self care and love for myself, what would my goal be here (big picture)? I invite you to be curious about the part of you that doesn't want the most caring thing for yourself and listen to that part of you. Then, you could consider: what sort of help would I need to make this future of self care and health and wellness a reality?
As a grown woman, you then get to decide what you are working towards. These are my limited thoughts on the matter ❤️
it scares me how having an ed can honestly last long, i am 14 and i developed ed 7 months ago and right now everything has been getting so difficult for me because i am now suffering from binging. I sometimes wanna just be better and be myself like how i used to look like but it scares me most of the time, whenever i see myself it gives me panic attacks where i started to binge. I hate to admit that i find comfort in food. :(
My bulimia consumes me can't seem to even have 1 week without it happening
I feel like I am just physically unable to lose 10 pounds. Like I tried it for years and just end up eating 900kcal or wayy too much every time. My psychologic eating mechanism is broken idk. I often catch myself eating without any hunger or not eating but having the worst stomach growls. Like I just want to be a normal eater, being in a good shape, occasionally eating well deserved pizza, feeling good after eating, but I am so caught in bad eating habits and I don‘t know how to leave.
My week was very upsetting in terms of eating habits, I feel nauseous from the food, and it feels long ago since I was physically hungry. I hope this will end eventually.
As a parent, i KNOW my worry and attention feeds my child’s disorders. Yet what can I do ?!
will I resonate with this story?... 'I moved to France at the age of 7' well dang, me too - spooky! x
So…you realize you no longer want to restrict any of your eating…how long after say --you brought your favorite cookies back in your life -- did it take before you didn’t want to eat them for breakfast lunch and dinner? Lol. This is the phase I’m in…I’m trying to bring stuff back in, but I am wanting those foods much more than the healthier foods that I know ideally my body really wants but my emotional mind and taste buds really want the cookies. I’ve done this before for a while and then I have freaked out and said clearly this isn’t working at which point - it must all go - I can’t be trusted around xyz…but…I don’t think I’ve given it enough time
Same situation here, I am also curious how long it can take because I really dont want to gain too much weight since summer is around the corner
The best thing you can do first of all is acknowledge that you’re not morally or emotionally at fault for wanting to enjoy a cookie. Our brains are prime wired to crave sugar and fat content because we evolved from a species where food was scarce, and in the case of eating disorders, these primal tendencies are where the scarcity mindset comes in. My advice would personally be to add and not restrict, by enjoying the cookie after I eat a satiating meal like a bowl of Greek yoghurt and berries. I do this not because I believe that in order to enjoy a cookie, I must eat something more nutritionally dense (that’s just moralizing) but it is a good way to balance hormones and satiate yourself so that you can mindfully enjoy eating the cookie without feeling the need to binge more. I also hate how mindfulness tends to get thrown around as a buzzword these days but truly practicing being present as I’m eating a dessert and eating slower really helped. Making sure I sit down and savor it as opposed to eating on the go where I’m hardly tasting it.
I remember my older sisters were getting ready at a beauty salon for prom. I was 5 so they were 16 & 18. One of their friends had chicken nuggets, which I was drooling for. She smiled & offered one to me & my older sister said: oh no, my mom said don't feed her! Her friend said: why?? One won't kill her! My sister was like: Idk, my mom's weird about her weight. It started there. Every comment stuck. I was constantly hungry. I am still working on it but I've learned to let go of a lot I'd been carrying with me for decades. Some came with understanding, some came with getting older.
The thing with me is that I am only happy when I am loosing weight, hungry and counting my calories and macros 🤷🏻♀️
Great video, really however you didn't tell us why you found balance.
You don't sound like you actually know why you finally found balance you just know you did which is great. I know what you did though that created balance for you. Do you?
Thank you for your comment. I discuss this in all my others videos in a lot of detail :)
If what you say is true, that dieting leads to an obsession with eating, and this causes people to become fatter, then what is the reason that people became fat before their first diet?
There are many many factors that can contribute to this like genetics, culture, medical issues, emotional uses of food etc (to name a few!). And this is why simply 'stopping dieting' can be very insufficient advice.
I find that you say my “home was life was good” “nothing really terrible”, “nothing too bad. Then you say actual traumatic events. Been in a foreign country where you don’t speak the language is not a small thing, even as a adult, divorce parents is not a small thing, low self esteem is not a small things. These are huge event. Your home life wasn’t good. All these things add us. Shouldn’t be minimized. Should be grieved and understood and not minimized. We should give excuse for them. Lesson I learnt from a psychiatrist as I go through therapy. We tend to do this a lot as humans. I am happy for your recovery.
I'm really glad that you said this, thank you ❤️
Honestly, I think a lot of the time, people think it's from some type of abuse, so yea, she had a decent home life in the regard.
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funny analogy: "as useful as a chocolate teapot"
That's what I was looking for 😂
That doesn't sound right and I don't feel that you still have a healthy relationship with food. Why did it matter that you could still eat loads of food? That's still not OK. I am a vegan and massively overweight and a binge eater and I am gaining even more weight every day. Just eating a plant based diet but still eating mounds of food is not right. I think you are not being totally honest with yourself or your audience. Not intentionally but in denial.
Hi there thank you for your comment. I think it’s great that you have questioned me on this as it’s very important when I speak to other people on this topic. I know exactly the ‘denial’ you’re referring to as I have been there years ago. I think there’s a misunderstanding somewhere as I don’t eat a plant based diet or mounds of food (although it depends on the definition of that!). However I do want to say my experience on this tells me that what a healthy relationship with food is for one person will 'look' different to someone else as a healthy relationship with food is less about what is eaten and how much and more about wether someone is happy and healthy and taking care of themselves in the context of their relationship with food (at a 20,000ft view). Someone could eat a plant based diet and lots of food compared to someone else and still have a healthy relationship with food. They also may not. Our relationships with food are more complex and involve nutritional, behavioural & psychological components and it's challenging to assess if someone has a 'healthy relationship with food' just by looking at what they eat. That’s my thoughts on this and hope it helps in some way ☺️
I’m so happy I found you 🥹🥹
This is necessary, thanks 🤍
You’re welcome 😊❤️