Perfectionism is a Terrible Coping Mechanism
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
- Sometimes it feels like if we can be perfect enough, anxiety won't touch us. This could not be further from the truth...and continuing to hold on to perfectionistic tendencies can hold us back in our recovery from Hypothalamic Amenorrhea, Exercise Dependence, or Overtraining Syndrome. Learn why trying to be perfect at things is a terrible coping mechanism, how perfectionism hides in our behaviors, and why it's important to self-monitor to know if your world is getting smaller and smaller. Spoiler alert: if you're obsessed with being perfect, you're probably also being a mega b*tch!!
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I didn't realize I said some of these things until you mentioned them in this video, particularly about "locking down" my training. In the moment, I just saw that as a necessary thing to do - now I see it was self punishment. The funny thing is, the tighter I held to my rules and goals, the harder it was to make progress. And definitely relate to wanting to be the natural at something, and not participating for fear of not living up to expectations. Thanks for your insight
So glad to know this resonated with you. Let me know if you need anything!!
You have literally no idea how fated it is that I found this channel during this point in my life. Thank you so, so much for this great advice. Keep sharing.
I am happy you found me too! Here for you if you need me :)
@@jillcolangelopsych Thank you so much x
These may be a bit peripheral but worth mentioning,there were two things I found extremely helpful in changing destructive patterns.One was to quiet the noise around me,ie social média,tv,small talk etc.I traded those for silence(so scary ),violin music,and soothing ambience videos.The other was to replace the rituals of perfectionism with soothing ones as cheese ball as it sounds.Candles at night,reading a good book before bed,baking for seniors ,and even just a good deep breath and stretch ,all of it helped my mindset transition to a gentler place!
Those are all GREAT ideas and not at all cheeseball!! Sometimes we need a little bit of fuzzy kitten stuff in life! I love it and thank you for sharing :)
Thank you Jill ,as my 13 year old son says regarding you ,you are »the bomb »😏💕
This was a every eye opening video for me. Thanks for always being so authentic
Wow...just wow...you just described me to a tee! I’m going to listen to this many more times to let this all resonate. Thank you again, Jill!
You are so welcome!!
SO TRUE! Perfectionism is a killer. Thank you for spreading awareness as always!!❤️
i need to play this on repeat. every day. there are so many truths here and so much to unpack. i have watched this three times and keep finding important things to reflect upon. brava, jill. thank you so much.
Hope it gives you strength!
Hi Jill, I have recently found your channel and am watching all your videos right from the beginning until now. They are so informative, helpful and inspiring! I've known I have HA for a while now, but have been in denial for ages. I'm finally feeling more equipped and resilient to tackle this head on and am finding your videos super helpful, particularly regarding self compassion and finding my new identity. You're like my virtual cheerleader! Thank you :)
I am so glad that you found me too! Thank you for being here and let me know if you have any questions!
Loved the book Jill! Have you got any more good book recommendations? X
Why don’t you do a podcast?
I think there are already too many! Also I don’t think I am interesting enough to listen to for a whole podcast haha
acaseofthejills omg do it! Don’t be so hard about yourself you are so wise and resourceful!