Anyone who has skin picking disorder (dermatillomania), please like this comment to let others and myself know how many struggle with this mental disorder. I struggle with this and it's not easy to live life with it.
Hang in there! ❤ I struggled with this for years and years, especially in my teens. I felt so awful and embarrassed about. My skin clearing up is really what has helped me the most. Now in my mid-40’s I rarely pick, but I have black chin hairs I pluck in an OCDed manner. I’m taking some steps to help through lifestyle & supplementing with a low dose of myo-inositol, but so far no positive results. UGH!!😬😬😬
Skin picking is like a coping strategy that backfires. We pick at our skin (unclogging our pores, etc.) to make our complexions look better, yet they end up looking worse. We pick at our skin to help relieve anxiety, yet cause ourselves even more anxiety as the result of looking an absolute mess with wounds and scabs on our faces. I tell myself that my skin will look beautiful enough if I just let it be. I can't pick at my skin and immediately look better. There's a healing process involved, but if I just resist the urge to pick in the first place, I look absolutely well enough to function normally in society. A blackhead on the nose isn't as bad in my opinion as is a swollen red mark or scab. Where does it end, too? Pick at the clogged pore, then pick at the scab before the wound has properly healed. Skin picking can be an endless cycle. I have suffered from it myself for many, many years. I do feel the disorder is anxiety related. We can almost manage our anxiety throughout the day without any problems, but by the time night rolls around, the torture of abstaining becomes too great, and we break down and resort to the same old behavior. Great video, though, and I feel like you shared some good tips!
I relate to this as lot too. For me I know I get more stressed as the day goes by and if I don't occupy myself with something I will end up picking at my face. It's something that I've started to manage a little better but I caught myself picking at my skin the other night after a particular stressful day. There is a scar on my cheek that I caused and you would think no one would pick at a scar but I actually used to think I was trying to improve my skin. At this point I actually need to see a dermatologist to see about a treatment plan but before I do that I need to stop the picking cycle. Lol I'm sorry for the rant. Something that has Really helped me a lot is to have a skincare routine for day and night and to immediately go write down what I used and take notes on how my skin is improving after I've finished up. That way I'm not standing in front of my bathroom mirror feeling tempted to "improve" my pores.
@@ellamierrose1812 I can always talk about skin picking because I'm such an "expert" at it. Don't worry about ranting. Talking about it sometimes helps me feel that I have a little control over the problem. For me, it always starts with looking very closely a few too many times at an imperfection, however small or imaginary. Then my adrenaline really kicks up, and it's like I just can't resist the urge. If I start at all, I'm almost always off on a binge of picking. Lately, I'm trying not to look too much. Evaluating my skin in the mirror is now a combination of look and don't look. I try to see what's going on without crossing that line that results in a picking binge. Like I said before, I'm just telling myself over and over that my skin will look perfectly fine if I just leave it be. Admittedly, it's great to know that a blackhead or a pimple is no longer on my face, but my overall complexion seems to suffer as a result because I generally just keep going with the extractions. I just hate being all red and marked up from picking, not feeling like going anywhere, and being too torn up to wear makeup. It's just a miserable state for me to be in.
So true. I’m going on 40 and I’ve been picking since probably 15 or so when I got my first pimple. If I would just leave my face alone I would have beautiful skin but I’ve been trying most of my life to stop and I have yet too. It’s awful. Night time is the worst for me as well. The only thing I found to help is if I don’t wash my face or so my skin care at night because then I’m avoiding even looking in the mirror. Only problem then is that I end up going to bed with makeup and sunscreen still on from the day which is not good either. I don’t know which is worse though. Mutilating my face or sleeping in makeup.
Just a thought that has helped so many people we care for. When you feel like picking or looking in the mirror, put on a face mask. It can keep you from picking and looking. I have always recommended Milk Of Magnesia as a mask. Original flavor. I hope this helps. 🍑Lisa Peaches Skin Care
This is what i have DoNe and worked : 1. I wore gloves like she said and helped the most l( when i can t wear both i wear one and i keep the other hand busy) 2. SMALL amounts of aspirin and dermatologist will warn you about this too !!! but i put aspirin mixed with water on my face so i can t reach my face but also it helps with inflammation . 3.I put patches 4. I sacrificed some face cream by putting a good amount until all my face was white :)) so i couldn t see what s underneath but still moisturizing my skin but i really had no acne so i don t know if it affects other people. also coconut oil made my healing faster but again i don t know if it s good for other types of skin . 5. When i felt the urge i said to my self that no i don t have the urge i tried to deny it until my brain believed it 6. I removed most of the mirrors and at night when it gets worse i try to not turn on the light in the bathroom i bring with me a flashlight:)) i know it sounds a little off but worked . YOu Can do it!!
Most people don't know about it and those who notice it think it's "just a bad habit" and you can "just stop." Educating them and seeking help from a professional is key to regaining control and improving your quality of life.
I can’t appreciate Dr Dray enough for talking about mental health. This is such a topic overlooked by the society. Even worse, skin picking disorder is even overlooked in the mental health realm, while most of the providers focus on depression, anxiety, trauma related issues. This is definitely something I will bring up in my next session with my doctor. Thank you Dr Dray!
@@baba-bv8xz I think they meant it’s not taken seriously. For example, like what you said, they’re mentioned but they’re romanticized, which is incredibly harmful
Ikr, like excoriation disorder makes people who have it feel bad mentally and physically. I’ve had moments where it’s wasted my time and made me bleed. I’ve tried so many times to stop it, so I’m going to make a list of things that could finally help me.
Hey loves, I just wanted to come here and tell you that it is indeed possible to stop and put your bad habits to the past. I have now been ”sober” from picking my skin for a week and honestly my acne is improved drasticly. Its really almost gone and Im so happy about that!! I did it, You can do it too, love❤️
@@ilovenycsomuch my acne got worse in 2023 and now against all odds (that I created in my own mind) it is completely gone! Pretty much all of my red spots and discoloration are gone, you wouldn't even notice I ever had acne😃 stay consistent loves: don't pick at ur skin, create a good skincare routine (lots of moisture + korean cosmetics🙏) and stay consistent w those!
Here are some tips that could maybe help some people (gained them from years of experience)= - Cover your mirrors - wear gloves - use stressballs or toys - wear a necklace, so you can play with it when you feel the urge to pick - wear a elastic band around your wrist, so everytime you feel like picking, snatch it (the pain will bring you back to reality) - trimm your nails - sit on your hands, or make fists - create a move that you do, everytime you feel like picking (like snapping your fingers) so you get used to doing this - set a timer so you can challenge yourself how long you can go without picking (can be motivating) - make a checklist, so you can check off the days you didn't skin pick at (you can also do this with rewards for yourself) - eat healthy and take care of your skin Hope I can help :)
@Uhh2, I went thru a period of a few years where I would pick my scalp til it bled. I would end up having little (& some not so little) sores all over my scalp. When they scabbed over, I would spend what felt like hours at night in bed, ripping the scabs off. It was painful to shower/wash hair the following day. Ended up having all these little intentions when they healed 🙁 I was so ashamed when I had to go get my hair cut/colored. The color burned the sores up! My hairdresser commented on them. Then she brought the other hairdresser over to look. They both said "I've never seen anything like this!" which reinforced the shame I felt. I would try to pick at areas that wouldn't be so noticeable in public : arms, back, thighs... I have scars all over my body. 😣 I feel ashamed. Ugly. I avoid mirrors now. I never really look at myself in them anymore. Like...I don't look myself in the eye. Lol. Sorry so long...
@@shellywms70 I'm going through the same thing and i can understand how you feel:( I'm always ashamed of my scars and ugly skin and I've stopped wearing sleeveless clothes too...even tho i love them. People say that don't be ashamed of your scars, embrace them, your scars are beautiful n shi....but deep down i know nobody likes to see these scars, they tell you to cover up or keep pointing out your flaws and tell you hundreds of ways to get rid of your scabs, your scars As if I've not tried things out already! And it really hurts to look into the mirror while others post themselves online all happy and beautiful...it hurts
What about when you have to sit down in front of the computer to work on something (especially something boring)? Cuz I need to my hands for the computer but I constantly start touching my skin without even realizing it until I can’t stop & it’s SO HARD to be productive
thank you for this, i’ve been struggling a lot with my skin picking recently and it’s embarrassing because i know that all the problems with my skin are my own fault and i feel guilty every time i do it because i know it’s making my skin so much worse
I have been struggling with skin picking for a while, it started when i first started getting acne from puberty. i sometimes spend literally hours in front of the mirror squeezing every spot on my face, and its so difficult to stop. even worse, my mom was NOT supportive about it at all. She BLAMED it on me, and got really angry when she saw i had picked at my skin. she would take my phone for a day if she saw a picked pimple on my face, and did absolutely nothing to actually help me with the problem. this made the condition so much more stressful, and even made it worse since she treated me this way because of it. she has since stopped acting that way but i felt so emotionally and physically damaged from that experience. i still deal with skin picking to this day, and i really hope all these tips help my skin and my self confidence!!
i am so sorry your mom treats u like that. i pick when i get upset and most of the time its becuz of my mom and her bs. i am going to counseling now and have found my mom is a narcissist and reading a book called mothers who cant love. i started reading last night and i didnt pick last night at all. but then today she stressed me and i went right to picking today. 😥. i am hoping to keep working on this issue so maybe i can slow dow on picking. i hope you get some help(my counselor does help me alot).
@@sintay8002 Here in the Netherlands if you go to your doctor (gerneral practision) and explain the situation they will send you trough to some specialist. Then it is free here most times. If the problem is severe always free. And this skin picking would deffinitly be for free 'help care.'
Great tips! Avoiding mirrors helps me. I usually avoid touching my face at all, because feeling any bumps etc makes me want to pick, so sometimes it makes doing my normal skincare routine hard. I find that if I can apply my products gently, it makes me feel like I'm actually taking care of my skin and I feel more motivated to not pick (because I don't want to ruin the skin I've just taken care of). I am also glad you pointed out the mental health aspect 😊
Same, especially those 10x magnified mirrors. I'm not a big makeup fan but I find that it helps me not to touch my face because I don't want to disturb it, resulting in better skin than without. Frustrating trade-off! The ritual/gentle application of products gives nice self-care vibes.
You really did the work on this. It's not a dermatologist's job to know about psychology, so it is a great comfort to hear you speak about this with understanding. I have been shamed by nearly every doctor I have gone to for help with the aftermath of my disorder. I have been turned away by estheticians as well. Most mental health professionals with a specialty in dermatillomania say that we have to let go of the shame in order to recover. It's difficult when everyone around you believes that you can "just stop picking".
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I was literally picking my skin in the mirror when I saw this notification. I think it was destiny hahah
Applying very expensive sunscreen during the day and moisturizer at night really helped me stop picking my skin. It made me focus more about the extreme cost of the products id be wasting than the compulsion to pick.
i pick at my skin a lot and i’ve found that picking at dried glue or dried paint instead of my skin helps a lot. i also found that if i put on makeup i pick at my face probably like once or twice instead of like every 30 min. one last thing is weak nails as a result of fake nails/gel nails make it harder to pick! (coming from someone who spends literally like one hour a day picking at my skin)
I have extremely long nails on my left hand,which made me pick my skin a lot less , and extremely less when I wear Nail Polish, also Hardky going to Mirror except while doing Skincare
I was able to stop my lifelong compulsive daily skin picking when I saw Dr Dray's Jan 19, 2018 video on post-inflammatory erythema. I'd had deep painful cystic acne since puberty and felt compelled to squeeze and pick my pimples in an effort to get rid of them, which would result in open infected sores all over my face, chest and back. In her 1/19/18 video, Dr Dray stressed that when you pick your skin you are essentially WOUNDING it. For some reason, as obvious as it seems, this had never occurred to me, and it sent a chill down my spine. Why would I want to wound myself? I stopped picking from that day forward. Her tips on simple, minimalist skin care have changed my life. I am 60 years old and my skin is now flawless every single day. Thank you most sincerely, Dr. Dray. I can''t begin to express my gratitude for your extraordinarily positive influence in my life. -Sam, A Loyal Viewer in Oregon
Thank you so much for this! I've struggled with picking at my skin since I was a little kid, I'd sit on the sink and just dig at my skin until I got something out of it. I've been trying to stop for years but it's just so hard.
Omg so do I!!! I thought I was the only one! I know it’s gross but I make scabs in my scalp and pick them off over and over too. And it’s not just from anxiety, it’s also at any random times .
Be careful with this. I did it so much it cause a cyst type bump on my scalp that had to be removed by my derm. Then as it healed, I lost hair and had a bald spot for over 6 months. 💜
I do that too and one thing I have found that helps is that whenever my scalp gets itchy instead of scratching it using my hand I use a random object like a pencil or whatever I can find, then if I don't touch it with my fingers directly it doesn't trigger the picking
Unfortunately I can relate. I have a greasy skin, large pores and oftentimes painful underskin pimples. Every night when I am the only one awake at home, while in front of the mirror, clearing my skin, I just can't resist the urge to squeeze and pick nearly every pore of my skin. Then my face is left red, bumpy, with a lot of wounds that heal really slow. So immediatley after I am done with the process of picking, I feel guilt for what I've done with my face, telling myself this is the last time, I must stop doing it, but this is until the next time when everything repeats again. It's a neverending cycle, and it's indeed relted to anxiety. But I don't know how to stop. Recently I am feel ashamed to be outside among people, so I need to put a ton of a concealer, but still the wounds can be seen by others. The feeling is that everyone scrutinizes your blemishes and this makes your insecurities even bigger...
The only thing I can do is NOT TO GO to the bathroom. And when I need to go, I give myself only a few minutes. I tend to pick my closed comedones, this is the only reason I do it, I see the comedone underneath and I want it to desappear :(
I actually got bad lights on my bathroom.. not really by choose, but I almost never pick when I'm in there.. cos it's not good enough light.. Maybe you could try that then? Change up your lights in there... ?
Literally cannot express how grateful I am to even see someone mention this. Everyone says it’s bad and not to pick at your skin, but it’s not so easy for everyone. Even when you’re trying really hard it doesn’t always work out. :(
Y'all, if the area you're picking at isn't your face, I recommend using regular bandaids as a cheaper option, I often pick at skin on my chest and stomach, and the last few days I've covered the scabs and pimples I've been picking at, and they're finally healing. 😌💜 I've noticed often times I don't even realise I'm about to do it, but the bandaids are stopping me from it.
I had just bought my third box of the 72 count of mighty patch the night before. Also, thank you for making us with dermatillomania feel heard. Means a lot. It’s gotten better over the years, but this year has caused so much stress that it’s returned with a vengeance!
Yup-described me. Scaring on arms, back and legs. My provider is aware and has focused on the mental health issues. The new antidepressant has helped. It’s so nice to know there are other topical products to help active wounds. I’ve kept the same sore “going” for months. I’ve caught myself doing while waking up. Crazy disorder. I hope all of you going through this can get better.
I know this is an older video and there are a ton of fantastic suggestions here, but for those who really don't want to keep their nails cut super short: acrylics, fiber builder gel nails, anything that makes your nails really thick and blunt makes them really bad for picking at your skin (and this is good!) This has helped me a LOT.
OOOOMYYYYYGGGGGG Literally was just hating myself for picking my skin 5 mins ago. Thanks for this. Wearing long sleeves and avoiding mirrors have helped. But my face..... I can't exactly cover it. 😭
You are not alone. Many many of us do these behaviors for a variety of reasons. Embracing skin Care makes me feel more accepting of my sideways means of dealing with stress. Sorry. I hope you feel better about your Self.
I think it wonderful that you encourage and support people that have skin conditions to seek out not only dermatology services but mental health services! You are a credit to your profession and in my opinion far and above most on UA-cam giving out atrocious advice on skin care. You do good work!! Happy Wednesday Stay safe and healthy everyone 😷🍁
My mom taught me when I was in 5th grade and had some blackheads on my nose, that if I didn't squeeze them out, they'd just make my pores bigger. I didn't learn till decades later it was wrong, and I've been trying to replace this habit with gentle methods. Major struggle...amplified by beauty marketing that never gives you permission to have flaws...the instant gratification of removing a "problem"...ugh! **shakes fist**
I've struggled with this for a long time, thank you for posting this video. My acne never gets better because I pick at it and cover it up with makeup which makes it worse. so when I breakout again I cant help but start hunting for upwards of over an hour to find imperfections in my skin, especially after a long day of work or when I'm stressed out
I cover my pimple mark with makeup so I won't see it in the mirror. Cos whenever I see it dark and crusty spot I always feel the urge to peel the dry skin causing it to be a wound again 😭
I pick my thighs so bad I’ve taken to wearing onesie pajamas when I’m home. Not only do I look adorable (lol) it’s harder to get in there. I’ve been a picker for so long and medication doesn’t seem to make a difference but being diligent about using methods to make picking “harder” does work. My methods: keep the area covered/unreachable, knowing your pick zones (mine is bed and watching tv), medical tape (you can rip off pieces to fit over scabs and it heals them faster as well.
Hey Dr. Dray! I love your videos and really appreciate you posting about dermatillomania. I personally have struggled with this the past 3 or 4 years and I wanted to let you know that for some people, this mental health issue can be closely linked with trauma or traumatic events. Especially for those who are either currently addicted to amphetamines (a drug class that’s known to cause severe dermatillomania) or have used in the past, there are certain words or phrases that can be triggering. “skin picking” being a big one. I couldn’t watch beyond the first 5 minutes because those triggers were so overwhelming. Using “dermatillomania” tends to be less triggering for people I think, as well as adding a trigger warning at the beginning of the video. Anything having to do with a persons skin, face, body, or hair is deeply connected to their identity and sense of self. When a person struggles with dermatillomania, they can also suffer from extreme embarrassment, humiliation, insecurity, etc. so being aware of this can help some viewers feel safer when looking for advice. Thanks again, and I am really happy to see that more people are talking about this!! Good work!(: 💕
My sister hates when she has dry skin around her cuticles and skin near her fingers & toes so she picks them or over uses tweezers/cuticle scissors to trim the uneven skin, sometimes to the point of bleeding. Is this Dermatillomania? What often helps her is to keep her hands and feet super moisturized and to get manicures/pedicures frequently as she doesn’t want to mess up her polished nails by using them to pick at her cuticles.
This is me. It's really bad right now because my hands are dry because of the hand sanitizer and the general COVID anxiety. I have salve, balm, lotion, etc next to my computer and I'm constantly rubbing it into my cuticles so I'm not tempted to pick at the dry skin.
I would definitely say this is dermatillomania. Dermatillomania doesn't just affect the face. I also pick my back, chest and neck in addition to my face. I know some people pick their legs, arms and fingers too ❤
Thank you so much for being incredibly validating and understanding to how this condition can be very emotionally and psychologically involving and draining for individuals who suffer with this. With the severity of my situation I’ve been faced with high risk of infection but am very lucky. To anyone reading this, you are beautiful regardless if you pick. Keep fighting, you’re doing a good job ❤️
would love to see an informative video on trichotilomania (hair pulling) and dealing with the physical damage from it. it im sure lots of people would !
I never put two and two together, and realized this is an actual disorder. At times of anxiety and stress and just a nervous tick, I find myself picking at my face and neck to the point of ugly scarring. Thank you for sharing!
i tend to pick my skin when i'm stressed. it was a lot worse when i was younger. i caused a couple of deep scars by digging into my skin with a sewing needle. seeing the permanent damage i did got me to stop
If you don’t mind me asking, did the scars heal at all? I’m really struggling with the fact that I could have permanent scars from this and I’m trying to figure out ways to help them heal as much as possible
@@briellec7173 some did but not the ones I really dug into and exposed like multiple layers of skin. Cause the skin that grew back was more bumpy. But I've accepted it. No one has perfect skin and having those "flaws" makes us human. Don't stress or get too fixated on them. I'm sure you're gorgeous either way
My tips for people that manifest through scratching on the body like the legs. The la Roche posay anti-itch body cream and body wash and making it a habit of moisturizing every night have helped me so much. I also keep a little tube of the hand cream next to my bed for when little spots start to itch and I put it on there and just keep putting it on until the itch has gone. A little mindfulness meditation like headspace for a few minutes or a 15 minute yoga session just on UA-cam really helps too 💗
Thanks for this video. I have dermatillomania and it's definitely a battle. I found that getting acrylic nails helped a lot because my nails were more blunt at the end because they were so thick. That made me pick less. Also those hydrocolloid bandages are lifesavers, I wear them all the time, even out doing errands. Because they work better the longer that you have them on, I resist taking them off and picking at my skin or else I would have wasted money on the patch.
I had dermatilomania and still find myself skin picking especially healthy skin around my right-hand fingers. I used to keep on picking so constantly that I didn't let the wounds heal, then I got a bad case of erysipelas. The infection got my whole right arm and it was too severe. I had to be hospitalized for 8 days taking 2 antibiotics through my vein every 4 hours. My skin is oily and I remember that my skin, including my mouth and tongue, got so dry it was cracking and hurting because of the high dosage of antibiotics. Those days were hell. So I stopped skin picking, sometimes I catch myself picking but it's easier to deal with, especially now that I've been undergoing therapy. If you are a skin picker, please, go seek help.
I am guilty of doing the same. Had a recent dental checkup and dentist told me I’ve been grinding my enamel down and chewing my cheek while sleeping. High anxiety due to Covid! 🇬🇧❤️
I have trichotillomania (hair pulling disorder) since I was 10. I am finally growing out my hair though! Ive gone though so many cycles of pulling for years. It can be so hard to stop.. but i finally found a good medication. I still pull sometimes but im much more self aware. I appreciate your channel and not only sharing amazing simple fragrance free skin care but also talking in depth about other things in dermatology. You are absolutely amazing!!! Thank you for sharing your knowledge ❤😭 ps I use gloves sometimes to help stop pulling or if its getting really bad. I've heard people with derma can wear the gloves as well and has helped.
After trying so many medications, I am taking 80mg prozac and wellbutrin 150mg. This has been one of the few medications or combinations that have helped me be better about pulling. Currently have a beaitiful full head of hair! Crossing my fingers. I hope you can find something that helps you!! Good luck ❤🥰
Thank you for talking about this. This is something I have struggled with my entire life and I have been working with a therapist over the past few years to improve this.
Thank you for making a video about skin picking. This is me 😢 I’ve been picking at my fingers to the point of disfigurement. It’s really embarrassing. Surprisingly, wearing a mask all day at work has helped.
I have the same thing, I can't even run my fingers through my hair without looking for something to scratch.. So when my scalp gets itchy I grab whatever object I can find near me to scratch it and it kinda helps
I have KP and some mild acne, and I end up attacking my skin after a long day or a stressful week. It's such a frustrating habit that is hard to control!
SAMEEEE- i cant exactly put a bandage on my hair:/ I find that in stead of using ur nail to dig up the scab, just use ur knuckles and rub it. Also idk if u do this too😂but u know when ur pulling the scab out through the hair, well do that but with nothing in ur fingers/nails. And yea wearing a hat helps!!!
I trim my nails every 3 days, it grows crazy fast. I am too anxious to touch my skin and cause acne. Lol. My skin don't have to get any more ugly. Looking radiant today, Dr. Dray. Stay safe. ❤️
Omg I have an unopened pack of mighty patches in my bathroom that I was scared to try, I’m so glad they’re Dr. Dray approved! Quarantine has made my urge (not compulsion, thankfully) to pick at my healing acne sooo strong because I’m just sitting at home with my anxiety all day.
Aww, I’m sorry to hear that! Stay strong! It can help to maybe find out what rooms/places you pick in and then put other things there to distract your hands. Also, you could try wearing gloves or mittens or something, because you probably can’t pick with those on.
As someone who has trichotillomania (compulsive hair pulling) it is great that you are talking about BFRBs. I would also suggest searching Reddit for threads about these conditions. I've gotten a lot of support, tips, tricks and laughs from people going through something similar.
I’m on my 5th month of accutane. I’ve been in the habit of picking for so long. I do it without even noticing. This couldn’t be better timing. I have to let me skin just heal. Thank you!
Thank you for this! As a dermatology PA, I see this practically every day and will be recommending these. Can you please do a video on delusions of parasitosis? I would SO appreciate that.
Thank you SO much, for talking about this, for suggesting behavioral changes, for suggesting therapy and medicine to consider, AND for suggesting how to fix the skin. Thank you thank you thank you, this means so much
I've had this problem for over 10 years. I'm trying to stop but I just can't stop the urge to pick at little pimples and bumps on my skin. Hopefully I overcome it and all my scars fade away 🙏
I opened this video without hope thinking it would be about people who like pimple popping and thinking me (someone with diagnosed skin picking disorder) wouldn’t be able to learn from it. i was obviously pleasantly surprised ! Thank you dr dray!! I feel heard
Interesting topic, my professor in dermatology said that pruritus is more predominant at night due to the lack of stimulation that leads to greater awareness of the sensation of itch.😃
I’ve been trying so hard, it’s always been hard for me not to pick but it definitely got worse when i had stage 5 kidney failure - now I’m doing better after transplant, it is easier but definitely not gone 🤦🏼♀️ i find the only way i don’t pick is if i wear acrylic nails! Will be trying some patches now 💃🏼🤞🏻
Whenever I oil cleanse as im rubbing my face I can like feel the bumps under my skin and it triggers me to pick, also my medicine cabinet mirror is like the first thing I see when I look up from washing my face, which makes it so much worse
Yep I find the mirror to be extremely triggering. I only allow myself to see my face up close one time a day to wash my face and try to limit looking too long.
I have this disorder and pimple patches are invaluable at keeping me from picking at my face. I actually just picked up the Mighty Patch ones. I don't find them to be more discreet than other brands, but I love that they're bigger and they stay on very well.
Buying an extractor was the worst thing I did. I had to ask my mom to hide it because I couldn't control myself. I have been trying to get rid of skin picking for 2 years now and I didn't stop doing this yet.
I developed this during the pandemic , I never had this problem before . I started picking at the bottom of my feet and now I can’t stop . Started with picking at callus but now it’s out of control . Not sure how to stop .
sam schnh: Perhaps keeping your feet soft & well moisturized by using Kerasal Intensive Foot Repair (which Dr Dray often recommends), and wear socks after applying the ointment. But don’t use it when you have open wounds as the salicylic acid may cause irritation. And keep your nails short. Good luck! 😊
Thank you for talking about this!❤️ I am so embarrassed because I do this so so much. I have open wounds I have had for more than a year, because I have scratced my self again and again😞 I had adult acne, and did go through 18 months low dose treatment with isotretinoin to get rid of that.. now I have been off it for 6 months, an it has helped a lot. But... I have wounds everywhere else than my face now instead, because I'm picking my skin all the time.. where there isn't really anything wrong from the beginning..... I'm 48..😣 so this isn't anything I talk about lightly, I feel childish and stupid for doing this at my age.. I do suffer for anxiety and depression, and some more.., so I have retired because of my mental health problems, so I know it's some connections to my mental health for sure to my scin picking. I didn't know so many suffered from this! I do crochet, that helps, and I do wear clothes to stop myself, but when I go to bed at night, my anxiety increases and I fall a sleep with open wounds, sad because my day ended bad again, because I have picked myself to blood again.. so I feel like a big failure..it's a bad circle. I will buy cotton glowes and try that ! That's actually a good tip. Thank you again for teaching me about this. I actually found out we have treatment for this in Norway. I didn't know that, cos I didn't know the name of this . 🙏🙏❤️
You are definitely not childish or stupid no matter what your age. You are suffering with a real disorder. Thankfully you know what it is now, and can get treatment. I struggle with chronic anxiety, depression, and complex ptsd due to 18 years of physical, and emotional abuse by my mother. I don't have this disorder, but I struggle in many other ways. So I understand where you're coming from. Please remember that you are important, you are special, and you are enough! You are also cared about by a total stranger a million miles away, in the US. I wish you all the best with your treatment. Big hugs!! ((((((Marte)))))) Collette :)
Could you do an in-depth video on the NAC supplement? It's what my therapist recommended for me, but I don't know too much about it. Love the video ❤ I felt like the only one dealing with this and this video makes me feel like I'm not alone.
Dr Dray 💕 seeing this has made my heart skip a beat. My best friend suffers from this and is crippled by the condition. It has ruled her life and ruins her confidence, it breaks my heart seeing her try and deal with it - it’s almost a daily occurrence. She has had hypnotherapy and tried most tricks in the book. I never knew these patches existed. I’m buying her some after I finish this message! Thank you so much Dr Dray, saving the day yet again xx 💕
Happy Wednesday Dr Dray and everyone 🤗 this was so helpful I started getting pimples at 12 and I would pick or squeeze. My problem was and is squeezing blackheads . I know most of my acne marks have been of my own making. Thank you for speaking about a real issue ,that many suffer from . Please stay safe you, mom and Tybee during this storm 💖💖💖😍
Thank You Soooo Much my Sweet Friend!! Happy Wednesday!! I Hope You Had a Wonderful Day, and I Hope You Have a Peaceful and Relaxing!! Evening!! -Please You and Yours Stay Safe and Well!! Always an Always!! XOxoxoxo!!!
Thank you so much for posting this! I have been looking for solutions like these for so long, especially for something to help put on the lesions. I appreciate you for leaving out the shame and judgement and being helpful and informative instead.
I’ve had dermatillomania for 13 years now, it started when I was in middle school and being bullied on a daily basis. I would bleed from my lips and people would think I was being hit but it was all just me and my anxiety/OCD. I can (kind of) control myself now, at least in public spaces. But when I am alone I do it on reflex at this point, its extremely frustrating. Hoping this video helps me out…
I've been picking, peeling and biting the skin off my lips for over 2 decades and I cause so much harm to myself. I've even gotten fever blisters from the wound site and then it's horrible for a week or more. You would think causing so much pain to myself I would stop but it really is an unconscious behavior anymore. I have stretches of good behavior but the first sign of dry flakes on my lips or stress and I'm picking and biting again. I wish us success in breaking the habit for good.
When I got this at first I didn’t even notice, it was just my mum telling me to stop picking at my face because I was doing it constantly, I have bad acne and have had for 5 years and I keep think if I pick at it or squeeze it it will all go away but it makes it worse. My skin is constantly bleeding from it and it’s really painful yet I keep going :/ so thank you for posting this video I hope it helps :(
Wearing a turtleneck tucked into my pants helps me not to pick on my back and chest. It also helped me when I saw how quickly can a pimple disappear when I am not touching it. And also having a plasticine in my hands whenever I have to focus on sth.
I have bad anxiety and mild depression I can’t look in the mirror without picking at my skin. And I end up waking up in the morning mad at myself after I have 10 new pimples on my skin. Then I have more stuff to pick at and it’s just a cycle. Ty for this video it helps me understand why I pick at my skin.
Anyone who has skin picking disorder (dermatillomania), please like this comment to let others and myself know how many struggle with this mental disorder. I struggle with this and it's not easy to live life with it.
2 years late, but you’re not alone and it takes a lot to admit you have it. Stay strong 💕
Hang in there! ❤ I struggled with this for years and years, especially in my teens. I felt so awful and embarrassed about. My skin clearing up is really what has helped me the most. Now in my mid-40’s I rarely pick, but I have black chin hairs I pluck in an OCDed manner. I’m taking some steps to help through lifestyle & supplementing with a low dose of myo-inositol, but so far no positive results. UGH!!😬😬😬
Skin picking is like a coping strategy that backfires. We pick at our skin (unclogging our pores, etc.) to make our complexions look better, yet they end up looking worse. We pick at our skin to help relieve anxiety, yet cause ourselves even more anxiety as the result of looking an absolute mess with wounds and scabs on our faces. I tell myself that my skin will look beautiful enough if I just let it be. I can't pick at my skin and immediately look better. There's a healing process involved, but if I just resist the urge to pick in the first place, I look absolutely well enough to function normally in society. A blackhead on the nose isn't as bad in my opinion as is a swollen red mark or scab. Where does it end, too? Pick at the clogged pore, then pick at the scab before the wound has properly healed. Skin picking can be an endless cycle. I have suffered from it myself for many, many years. I do feel the disorder is anxiety related. We can almost manage our anxiety throughout the day without any problems, but by the time night rolls around, the torture of abstaining becomes too great, and we break down and resort to the same old behavior. Great video, though, and I feel like you shared some good tips!
I relate so much
I relate to this as lot too. For me I know I get more stressed as the day goes by and if I don't occupy myself with something I will end up picking at my face. It's something that I've started to manage a little better but I caught myself picking at my skin the other night after a particular stressful day. There is a scar on my cheek that I caused and you would think no one would pick at a scar but I actually used to think I was trying to improve my skin. At this point I actually need to see a dermatologist to see about a treatment plan but before I do that I need to stop the picking cycle. Lol I'm sorry for the rant. Something that has Really helped me a lot is to have a skincare routine for day and night and to immediately go write down what I used and take notes on how my skin is improving after I've finished up. That way I'm not standing in front of my bathroom mirror feeling tempted to "improve" my pores.
@@ellamierrose1812 I can always talk about skin picking because I'm such an "expert" at it. Don't worry about ranting. Talking about it sometimes helps me feel that I have a little control over the problem. For me, it always starts with looking very closely a few too many times at an imperfection, however small or imaginary. Then my adrenaline really kicks up, and it's like I just can't resist the urge. If I start at all, I'm almost always off on a binge of picking. Lately, I'm trying not to look too much. Evaluating my skin in the mirror is now a combination of look and don't look. I try to see what's going on without crossing that line that results in a picking binge. Like I said before, I'm just telling myself over and over that my skin will look perfectly fine if I just leave it be. Admittedly, it's great to know that a blackhead or a pimple is no longer on my face, but my overall complexion seems to suffer as a result because I generally just keep going with the extractions. I just hate being all red and marked up from picking, not feeling like going anywhere, and being too torn up to wear makeup. It's just a miserable state for me to be in.
So true. I’m going on 40 and I’ve been picking since probably 15 or so when I got my first pimple. If I would just leave my face alone I would have beautiful skin but I’ve been trying most of my life to stop and I have yet too. It’s awful. Night time is the worst for me as well. The only thing I found to help is if I don’t wash my face or so my skin care at night because then I’m avoiding even looking in the mirror. Only problem then is that I end up going to bed with makeup and sunscreen still on from the day which is not good either. I don’t know which is worse though. Mutilating my face or sleeping in makeup.
Just a thought that has helped so many people we care for. When you feel like picking or looking in the mirror, put on a face mask. It can keep you from picking and looking. I have always recommended Milk Of Magnesia as a mask. Original flavor. I hope this helps.
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Just came here after murdering my skin 🙋🏽♀️
Same
Same
Same 😭
same : ((((
Same.. ugh
This is what i have DoNe and worked :
1. I wore gloves like she said and helped the most l( when i can t wear both i wear one and i keep the other hand busy)
2. SMALL amounts of aspirin and dermatologist will warn you about this too !!! but i put aspirin mixed with water on my face so i can t reach my face but also it helps with inflammation .
3.I put patches
4. I sacrificed some face cream by putting a good amount until all my face was white :)) so i couldn t see what s underneath but still moisturizing my skin but i really had no acne so i don t know if it affects other people.
also coconut oil made my healing faster but again i don t know if it s good for other types of skin .
5. When i felt the urge i said to my self that no i don t have the urge i tried to deny it until my brain believed it
6. I removed most of the mirrors and at night when it gets worse i try to not turn on the light in the bathroom i bring with me a flashlight:)) i know it sounds a little off but worked .
YOu Can do it!!
Thank You for all the great tips🙏🏾
My parents didn’t believe this was an actual mental health issue until I showed them this video, thank u so much, now they’re taking me to therapy
How's it going so far? ☺️
Most people don't know about it and those who notice it think it's "just a bad habit" and you can "just stop." Educating them and seeking help from a professional is key to regaining control and improving your quality of life.
i’m really glad this video helped you, i hope you find a good therapist
It was most likely caused by them which is f d up
how was therapy? did it help? what do they tell you?
I can’t appreciate Dr Dray enough for talking about mental health. This is such a topic overlooked by the society. Even worse, skin picking disorder is even overlooked in the mental health realm, while most of the providers focus on depression, anxiety, trauma related issues. This is definitely something I will bring up in my next session with my doctor. Thank you Dr Dray!
Yes! And a shout out to CBT. She is a queen and truly cares about helping others. A very rare thing these days.
@@baba-bv8xz I think they meant it’s not taken seriously. For example, like what you said, they’re mentioned but they’re romanticized, which is incredibly harmful
Ikr, like excoriation disorder makes people who have it feel bad mentally and physically. I’ve had moments where it’s wasted my time and made me bleed. I’ve tried so many times to stop it, so I’m going to make a list of things that could finally help me.
Hey loves, I just wanted to come here and tell you that it is indeed possible to stop and put your bad habits to the past. I have now been ”sober” from picking my skin for a week and honestly my acne is improved drasticly. Its really almost gone and Im so happy about that!! I did it, You can do it too, love❤️
So proud of you, i hope its going well still❤
How is your picking now??
@@ilovenycsomuch my acne got worse in 2023 and now against all odds (that I created in my own mind) it is completely gone! Pretty much all of my red spots and discoloration are gone, you wouldn't even notice I ever had acne😃 stay consistent loves: don't pick at ur skin, create a good skincare routine (lots of moisture + korean cosmetics🙏) and stay consistent w those!
@@eevih4258 thanks for your kind encouraging words
Here are some tips that could maybe help some people (gained them from years of experience)=
- Cover your mirrors
- wear gloves
- use stressballs or toys
- wear a necklace, so you can play with it when you feel the urge to pick
- wear a elastic band around your wrist, so everytime you feel like picking, snatch it (the pain will bring you back to reality)
- trimm your nails
- sit on your hands, or make fists
- create a move that you do, everytime you feel like picking (like snapping your fingers) so you get used to doing this
- set a timer so you can challenge yourself how long you can go without picking (can be motivating)
- make a checklist, so you can check off the days you didn't skin pick at (you can also do this with rewards for yourself)
- eat healthy and take care of your skin
Hope I can help :)
This is better than the Dr’s video!
i've been picking for 5-6 years on my scalp it's really bad to the point wear i bleed a lot and it's hard to stop and nothing works
@Uhh2, I went thru a period of a few years where I would pick my scalp til it bled. I would end up having little (& some not so little) sores all over my scalp. When they scabbed over, I would spend what felt like hours at night in bed, ripping the scabs off. It was painful to shower/wash hair the following day. Ended up having all these little intentions when they healed 🙁
I was so ashamed when I had to go get my hair cut/colored. The color burned the sores up! My hairdresser commented on them. Then she brought the other hairdresser over to look. They both said "I've never seen anything like this!" which reinforced the shame I felt.
I would try to pick at areas that wouldn't be so noticeable in public : arms, back, thighs...
I have scars all over my body. 😣
I feel ashamed. Ugly. I avoid mirrors now. I never really look at myself in them anymore. Like...I don't look myself in the eye. Lol.
Sorry so long...
@@shellywms70 I'm going through the same thing and i can understand how you feel:( I'm always ashamed of my scars and ugly skin and I've stopped wearing sleeveless clothes too...even tho i love them. People say that don't be ashamed of your scars, embrace them, your scars are beautiful n shi....but deep down i know nobody likes to see these scars, they tell you to cover up or keep pointing out your flaws and tell you hundreds of ways to get rid of your scabs, your scars As if I've not tried things out already! And it really hurts to look into the mirror while others post themselves online all happy and beautiful...it hurts
What about when you have to sit down in front of the computer to work on something (especially something boring)? Cuz I need to my hands for the computer but I constantly start touching my skin without even realizing it until I can’t stop & it’s SO HARD to be productive
thank you for this, i’ve been struggling a lot with my skin picking recently and it’s embarrassing because i know that all the problems with my skin are my own fault and i feel guilty every time i do it because i know it’s making my skin so much worse
Same!:( ❤️
Same here 😢
I have been struggling with skin picking for a while, it started when i first started getting acne from puberty. i sometimes spend literally hours in front of the mirror squeezing every spot on my face, and its so difficult to stop. even worse, my mom was NOT supportive about it at all. She BLAMED it on me, and got really angry when she saw i had picked at my skin. she would take my phone for a day if she saw a picked pimple on my face, and did absolutely nothing to actually help me with the problem. this made the condition so much more stressful, and even made it worse since she treated me this way because of it. she has since stopped acting that way but i felt so emotionally and physically damaged from that experience. i still deal with skin picking to this day, and i really hope all these tips help my skin and my self confidence!!
Hi, i am sorry you have to go through this. Find help by a psychologist when you can not stop it. Good luck
I felt this on a personal level, honestly.
@@user-gc3rv6jw3n Problem is, most of us can’t afford it. Another stressor lol
i am so sorry your mom treats u like that. i pick when i get upset and most of the time its becuz of my mom and her bs. i am going to counseling now and have found my mom is a narcissist and reading a book called mothers who cant love. i started reading last night and i didnt pick last night at all. but then today she stressed me and i went right to picking today. 😥. i am hoping to keep working on this issue so maybe i can slow dow on picking.
i hope you get some help(my counselor does help me alot).
@@sintay8002 Here in the Netherlands if you go to your doctor (gerneral practision) and explain the situation they will send you trough to some specialist. Then it is free here most times. If the problem is severe always free. And this skin picking would deffinitly be for free 'help care.'
Great tips! Avoiding mirrors helps me. I usually avoid touching my face at all, because feeling any bumps etc makes me want to pick, so sometimes it makes doing my normal skincare routine hard. I find that if I can apply my products gently, it makes me feel like I'm actually taking care of my skin and I feel more motivated to not pick (because I don't want to ruin the skin I've just taken care of).
I am also glad you pointed out the mental health aspect 😊
Same, especially those 10x magnified mirrors. I'm not a big makeup fan but I find that it helps me not to touch my face because I don't want to disturb it, resulting in better skin than without. Frustrating trade-off! The ritual/gentle application of products gives nice self-care vibes.
You really did the work on this. It's not a dermatologist's job to know about psychology, so it is a great comfort to hear you speak about this with understanding. I have been shamed by nearly every doctor I have gone to for help with the aftermath of my disorder. I have been turned away by estheticians as well. Most mental health professionals with a specialty in dermatillomania say that we have to let go of the shame in order to recover. It's difficult when everyone around you believes that you can "just stop picking".
I was literally picking my skin in the mirror when I saw this notification. I think it was destiny hahah
hope the tips help
Same!
I know what you mean!!
OMG... So was I! (Not in the mirror, but at my desk.) Thank you, Dr Dray!
SAME!!
Applying very expensive sunscreen during the day and moisturizer at night really helped me stop picking my skin. It made me focus more about the extreme cost of the products id be wasting than the compulsion to pick.
i pick at my skin a lot and i’ve found that picking at dried glue or dried paint instead of my skin helps a lot. i also found that if i put on makeup i pick at my face probably like once or twice instead of like every 30 min. one last thing is weak nails as a result of fake nails/gel nails make it harder to pick! (coming from someone who spends literally like one hour a day picking at my skin)
I have extremely long nails on my left hand,which made me pick my skin a lot less , and extremely less when I wear Nail Polish, also Hardky going to Mirror except while doing Skincare
I was able to stop my lifelong compulsive daily skin picking when I saw Dr Dray's Jan 19, 2018 video on post-inflammatory erythema. I'd had deep painful cystic acne since puberty and felt compelled to squeeze and pick my pimples in an effort to get rid of them, which would result in open infected sores all over my face, chest and back. In her 1/19/18 video, Dr Dray stressed that when you pick your skin you are essentially WOUNDING it. For some reason, as obvious as it seems, this had never occurred to me, and it sent a chill down my spine. Why would I want to wound myself? I stopped picking from that day forward. Her tips on simple, minimalist skin care have changed my life. I am 60 years old and my skin is now flawless every single day. Thank you most sincerely, Dr. Dray. I can''t begin to express my gratitude for your extraordinarily positive influence in my life. -Sam, A Loyal Viewer in Oregon
Fairly new to Dr Dray’s channel. She is very inspiring. Thanks for sharing your story.
I’m so happy for you, that’s wonderful! I’ve been working to break my habit - I’m not at 100% yet though. Your story is inspiring!
I’m going to watch this!
What a wholesome story
I wish I could do that
I thought I was the only person on the planet with this issue. Can’t thank you enough for this video, Dr. Dray!
Same here
Thank you so much for this! I've struggled with picking at my skin since I was a little kid, I'd sit on the sink and just dig at my skin until I got something out of it. I've been trying to stop for years but it's just so hard.
Me too!!!
Me toooo!
same 3(
That is exactly me and I am 70 years old. 😢
Doing it for more than 30 years… so destressing
'you are enough.'
this short statement just really got to me. Thank you so much Dr. Dray!
I pick my scalp from anxiety :/ it gets overwhelming
Omg so do I!!! I thought I was the only one! I know it’s gross but I make scabs in my scalp and pick them off over and over too. And it’s not just from anxiety, it’s also at any random times .
Be careful with this. I did it so much it cause a cyst type bump on my scalp that had to be removed by my derm. Then as it healed, I lost hair and had a bald spot for over 6 months. 💜
Me too
I do that too and one thing I have found that helps is that whenever my scalp gets itchy instead of scratching it using my hand I use a random object like a pencil or whatever I can find, then if I don't touch it with my fingers directly it doesn't trigger the picking
Cayla McMichael Aww, I’m sorry that that happened. I hope that you’re doing well now!
Unfortunately I can relate. I have a greasy skin, large pores and oftentimes painful underskin pimples. Every night when I am the only one awake at home, while in front of the mirror, clearing my skin, I just can't resist the urge to squeeze and pick nearly every pore of my skin. Then my face is left red, bumpy, with a lot of wounds that heal really slow. So immediatley after I am done with the process of picking, I feel guilt for what I've done with my face, telling myself this is the last time, I must stop doing it, but this is until the next time when everything repeats again. It's a neverending cycle, and it's indeed relted to anxiety. But I don't know how to stop. Recently I am feel ashamed to be outside among people, so I need to put a ton of a concealer, but still the wounds can be seen by others. The feeling is that everyone scrutinizes your blemishes and this makes your insecurities even bigger...
Right on the dot
I understand completely I’m on the same wave as you. We got this though
The only thing I can do is NOT TO GO to the bathroom. And when I need to go, I give myself only a few minutes. I tend to pick my closed comedones, this is the only reason I do it, I see the comedone underneath and I want it to desappear :(
I actually got bad lights on my bathroom.. not really by choose, but I almost never pick when I'm in there.. cos it's not good enough light.. Maybe you could try that then? Change up your lights in there... ?
@@martegulbrandsen1308 thank you, that can be helpful!
I feel like I definitely itch more not knowing the friction and i feel it .
Literally cannot express how grateful I am to even see someone mention this. Everyone says it’s bad and not to pick at your skin, but it’s not so easy for everyone. Even when you’re trying really hard it doesn’t always work out. :(
i needed this video for about 20 years!
thanks for watching
@@DrDrayzday i always do :) thank you for the amazing content
Y'all, if the area you're picking at isn't your face, I recommend using regular bandaids as a cheaper option, I often pick at skin on my chest and stomach, and the last few days I've covered the scabs and pimples I've been picking at, and they're finally healing. 😌💜 I've noticed often times I don't even realise I'm about to do it, but the bandaids are stopping me from it.
I pick my skin and it’s so annoying! I literally had what I call a “picking spree” the day before this video went up. You always post at a great time!
I've always called it a "popping spree," but mine includes lots of picking too....
relatable, mine pop on their own and i pick the scabs and i’m left with so much PIH. ADHD + anxiety is brutal.
I feel you. It got so bad that I made a wound. I felt so terrible
I had just bought my third box of the 72 count of mighty patch the night before. Also, thank you for making us with dermatillomania feel heard. Means a lot. It’s gotten better over the years, but this year has caused so much stress that it’s returned with a vengeance!
Yup-described me. Scaring on arms, back and legs. My provider is aware and has focused on the mental health issues. The new antidepressant has helped. It’s so nice to know there are other topical products to help active wounds. I’ve kept the same sore “going” for months. I’ve caught myself doing while waking up. Crazy disorder. I hope all of you going through this can get better.
hey! Please talk about trichotillomania... plucking your hair... It has literally destroyed my self confidence
This please!!!!
Yes please!! My daughter suffers from this!! It’s horrible
Yes!! Been struggeling since I was 12 :( My eyes are permanently red and sore
I finally do not do it anymore Im so freaking happy I mean it happens like one hair but thats it. Just wanna tell u that there is hope
Realgar how did you stop?
Dr Dray... thank you. I won’t post how I relate, I just want you to know I appreciate you.
thanks for watching
Dr Dray "you are enough"
Says it all
I know this is an older video and there are a ton of fantastic suggestions here, but for those who really don't want to keep their nails cut super short: acrylics, fiber builder gel nails, anything that makes your nails really thick and blunt makes them really bad for picking at your skin (and this is good!) This has helped me a LOT.
That is so true. It also works for biting your nails too.
Dip and powder nails are even better to prevent picking.
OOOOMYYYYYGGGGGG Literally was just hating myself for picking my skin 5 mins ago. Thanks for this. Wearing long sleeves and avoiding mirrors have helped. But my face..... I can't exactly cover it. 😭
You are not alone. Many many of us do these behaviors for a variety of reasons.
Embracing skin Care makes me feel more accepting of my sideways means of dealing with stress. Sorry. I hope you feel better about your Self.
I think it wonderful that you encourage and support people that have skin conditions to seek out not only dermatology services but mental health services! You are a credit to your profession and in my opinion far and above most on UA-cam giving out atrocious advice on skin care.
You do good work!!
Happy Wednesday Stay safe and healthy everyone 😷🍁
My mom taught me when I was in 5th grade and had some blackheads on my nose, that if I didn't squeeze them out, they'd just make my pores bigger. I didn't learn till decades later it was wrong, and I've been trying to replace this habit with gentle methods. Major struggle...amplified by beauty marketing that never gives you permission to have flaws...the instant gratification of removing a "problem"...ugh! **shakes fist**
Such an important topic. I've driven myself crazy scratching until I bleed. It's so difficult to stop, thank you for your tips x
I've struggled with this for a long time, thank you for posting this video. My acne never gets better because I pick at it and cover it up with makeup which makes it worse. so when I breakout again I cant help but start hunting for upwards of over an hour to find imperfections in my skin, especially after a long day of work or when I'm stressed out
I cover my pimple mark with makeup so I won't see it in the mirror. Cos whenever I see it dark and crusty spot I always feel the urge to peel the dry skin causing it to be a wound again 😭
I didnt even now dermatillomania was a thing. Thought I was just "nervous"
I pick my thighs so bad I’ve taken to wearing onesie pajamas when I’m home. Not only do I look adorable (lol) it’s harder to get in there. I’ve been a picker for so long and medication doesn’t seem to make a difference but being diligent about using methods to make picking “harder” does work. My methods: keep the area covered/unreachable, knowing your pick zones (mine is bed and watching tv), medical tape (you can rip off pieces to fit over scabs and it heals them faster as well.
Onsie! Great tip, thank you!
I'm proud of you for working on this! I know it's hard but good on you, hun
You’ve got this! I love your advice and your self awareness. I’m a face-picker but we can use similar tips!
It even prevents you from wanting to pee as much (you need to undress fully, if you are a woman). LOL! ;)
Hey Dr. Dray! I love your videos and really appreciate you posting about dermatillomania.
I personally have struggled with this the past 3 or 4 years and I wanted to let you know that for some people, this mental health issue can be closely linked with trauma or traumatic events. Especially for those who are either currently addicted to amphetamines (a drug class that’s known to cause severe dermatillomania) or have used in the past, there are certain words or phrases that can be triggering. “skin picking” being a big one. I couldn’t watch beyond the first 5 minutes because those triggers were so overwhelming. Using “dermatillomania” tends to be less triggering for people I think, as well as adding a trigger warning at the beginning of the video.
Anything having to do with a persons skin, face, body, or hair is deeply connected to their identity and sense of self. When a person struggles with dermatillomania, they can also suffer from extreme embarrassment, humiliation, insecurity, etc. so being aware of this can help some viewers feel safer when looking for advice.
Thanks again, and I am really happy to see that more people are talking about this!! Good work!(: 💕
My sister hates when she has dry skin around her cuticles and skin near her fingers & toes so she picks them or over uses tweezers/cuticle scissors to trim the uneven skin, sometimes to the point of bleeding. Is this Dermatillomania? What often helps her is to keep her hands and feet super moisturized and to get manicures/pedicures frequently as she doesn’t want to mess up her polished nails by using them to pick at her cuticles.
This is me. It's really bad right now because my hands are dry because of the hand sanitizer and the general COVID anxiety. I have salve, balm, lotion, etc next to my computer and I'm constantly rubbing it into my cuticles so I'm not tempted to pick at the dry skin.
The Kerasol cream Dr Dray recommends is awesome to keep fraying cuticles at bay 🦶🏻
This is me too.
@@hconf omg..me too. And it's only my fingers. I don't know how it suddenly comes up..but it lasts for weeks and goes away for months.
I would definitely say this is dermatillomania. Dermatillomania doesn't just affect the face. I also pick my back, chest and neck in addition to my face. I know some people pick their legs, arms and fingers too ❤
Thank you so much for being incredibly validating and understanding to how this condition can be very emotionally and psychologically involving and draining for individuals who suffer with this. With the severity of my situation I’ve been faced with high risk of infection but am very lucky. To anyone reading this, you are beautiful regardless if you pick. Keep fighting, you’re doing a good job ❤️
would love to see an informative video on trichotilomania (hair pulling) and dealing with the physical damage from it. it im sure lots of people would !
I never put two and two together, and realized this is an actual disorder. At times of anxiety and stress and just a nervous tick, I find myself picking at my face and neck to the point of ugly scarring. Thank you for sharing!
I ordered the cream and the patches! I’m not a picker but I do have to resist picking my blemishes.
Did the patches work for you??
Did you like the patches?
i tend to pick my skin when i'm stressed. it was a lot worse when i was younger. i caused a couple of deep scars by digging into my skin with a sewing needle. seeing the permanent damage i did got me to stop
If you don’t mind me asking, did the scars heal at all? I’m really struggling with the fact that I could have permanent scars from this and I’m trying to figure out ways to help them heal as much as possible
@@briellec7173 some did but not the ones I really dug into and exposed like multiple layers of skin. Cause the skin that grew back was more bumpy. But I've accepted it. No one has perfect skin and having those "flaws" makes us human. Don't stress or get too fixated on them. I'm sure you're gorgeous either way
I’ve always had such a problem with picking. My KP + anxiety means my upper arms always have at least one lesion 🤦🏻♀️ I’ll try these tips!
Same here. I pick at my arm KP all the time which is why I am trying some of her tips from other videos to try to get the KP under control.
Yes !!!! Omg. My upper arm is covered in scars :(
Keeping the KP area hydrated and moisturized has helped me.
Same here, I wish there was a cure, I hate KP so much. I am super fair skin so it is more noticeable when I have a flare up 😢😢
Me too!!
Thank you for addressing this severe condition.
My tips for people that manifest through scratching on the body like the legs. The la Roche posay anti-itch body cream and body wash and making it a habit of moisturizing every night have helped me so much. I also keep a little tube of the hand cream next to my bed for when little spots start to itch and I put it on there and just keep putting it on until the itch has gone. A little mindfulness meditation like headspace for a few minutes or a 15 minute yoga session just on UA-cam really helps too 💗
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Thanks for this video. I have dermatillomania and it's definitely a battle. I found that getting acrylic nails helped a lot because my nails were more blunt at the end because they were so thick. That made me pick less. Also those hydrocolloid bandages are lifesavers, I wear them all the time, even out doing errands. Because they work better the longer that you have them on, I resist taking them off and picking at my skin or else I would have wasted money on the patch.
Wow. I’ve been picking at my face for 2 years. I didn’t even know it was an issue before. I need to stop. Thank you.
I had dermatilomania and still find myself skin picking especially healthy skin around my right-hand fingers. I used to keep on picking so constantly that I didn't let the wounds heal, then I got a bad case of erysipelas. The infection got my whole right arm and it was too severe. I had to be hospitalized for 8 days taking 2 antibiotics through my vein every 4 hours. My skin is oily and I remember that my skin, including my mouth and tongue, got so dry it was cracking and hurting because of the high dosage of antibiotics. Those days were hell. So I stopped skin picking, sometimes I catch myself picking but it's easier to deal with, especially now that I've been undergoing therapy. If you are a skin picker, please, go seek help.
My husband does this. Was wondering what suddenly caused it. Its relatively new since we're married for 20 years!
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COVID-19.
This video came in just right time. I feel like you are giving me counselling hahahh.
Love from Nepal, Dr. Dray ❤💙
I chew the inside of my mouth. I can't stop it. And also my lips.
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I am guilty of doing the same. Had a recent dental checkup and dentist told me I’ve been grinding my enamel down and chewing my cheek while sleeping. High anxiety due to Covid! 🇬🇧❤️
For me having exfoliated and moisturized lips helps a lot. If I have dry or chapped lips I would just lick and chew them because they bother me
You are not alone sis, you are not alone.
I do this too!!
I have trichotillomania (hair pulling disorder) since I was 10. I am finally growing out my hair though! Ive gone though so many cycles of pulling for years. It can be so hard to stop.. but i finally found a good medication. I still pull sometimes but im much more self aware. I appreciate your channel and not only sharing amazing simple fragrance free skin care but also talking in depth about other things in dermatology. You are absolutely amazing!!! Thank you for sharing your knowledge ❤😭 ps I use gloves sometimes to help stop pulling or if its getting really bad. I've heard people with derma can wear the gloves as well and has helped.
Any chance you’d share what medication is working for you?
After trying so many medications, I am taking 80mg prozac and wellbutrin 150mg. This has been one of the few medications or combinations that have helped me be better about pulling. Currently have a beaitiful full head of hair! Crossing my fingers. I hope you can find something that helps you!! Good luck ❤🥰
Thank you for talking about this. This is something I have struggled with my entire life and I have been working with a therapist over the past few years to improve this.
Thank you for making a video about skin picking. This is me 😢 I’ve been picking at my fingers to the point of disfigurement. It’s really embarrassing. Surprisingly, wearing a mask all day at work has helped.
My prob!eh is I pick at my scalp :( it gets bad when I'm stressed. Definitely related to my anxiety.
I do that as well amoung other things. It really sucks :(
I have the same thing, I can't even run my fingers through my hair without looking for something to scratch.. So when my scalp gets itchy I grab whatever object I can find near me to scratch it and it kinda helps
Me too it bleeds sometimes
Asthesia ME TOO
Asthesia maybe idk if this might work but I try cutting my nails short and get a fidget toy thing it kinda helps me sometimes.
I have KP and some mild acne, and I end up attacking my skin after a long day or a stressful week. It's such a frustrating habit that is hard to control!
Dr. Dray - what can you use if you’re a scalp skin picker?
Would also like to know. I've found wearing a hat can help but not always possible and don't love to wear a hat 🤷🏼♀️
SAMEEEE- i cant exactly put a bandage on my hair:/
I find that in stead of using ur nail to dig up the scab, just use ur knuckles and rub it. Also idk if u do this too😂but u know when ur pulling the scab out through the hair, well do that but with nothing in ur fingers/nails. And yea wearing a hat helps!!!
I trim my nails every 3 days, it grows crazy fast. I am too anxious to touch my skin and cause acne. Lol. My skin don't have to get any more ugly.
Looking radiant today, Dr. Dray. Stay safe. ❤️
Omg I have an unopened pack of mighty patches in my bathroom that I was scared to try, I’m so glad they’re Dr. Dray approved!
Quarantine has made my urge (not compulsion, thankfully) to pick at my healing acne sooo strong because I’m just sitting at home with my anxiety all day.
Aww, I’m sorry to hear that! Stay strong! It can help to maybe find out what rooms/places you pick in and then put other things there to distract your hands. Also, you could try wearing gloves or mittens or something, because you probably can’t pick with those on.
Time for a re-watch there are great tips in this video and it really shows a lot of compassion. Great Job Dr. Dray!
As someone who has trichotillomania (compulsive hair pulling) it is great that you are talking about BFRBs.
I would also suggest searching Reddit for threads about these conditions. I've gotten a lot of support, tips, tricks and laughs from people going through something similar.
Dr. Dray, Please stay safe. Praying everyone will be safe from the hurricane. Take care 🕊🇨🇦
Was literally picking at my face when I saw this video. Gotta do what the doctor says!
I’m on my 5th month of accutane. I’ve been in the habit of picking for so long. I do it without even noticing. This couldn’t be better timing. I have to let me skin just heal. Thank you!
I have this disorder for more than 10 years now. Psychotherapy helped me a lot. I recommend.
I was literally going to buy some patches to stop myself from picking at my skin, and this video pops up. It's a sign!!!!
Thank you for this! As a dermatology PA, I see this practically every day and will be recommending these. Can you please do a video on delusions of parasitosis? I would SO appreciate that.
Thank you SO much, for talking about this, for suggesting behavioral changes, for suggesting therapy and medicine to consider, AND for suggesting how to fix the skin. Thank you thank you thank you, this means so much
I've had this problem for over 10 years. I'm trying to stop but I just can't stop the urge to pick at little pimples and bumps on my skin. Hopefully I overcome it and all my scars fade away 🙏
I pick my scalp when I get nervous. Makes it look like I have dandruff. Difficult to deal with.
me too! it started with a little scab and it got worse from there.
Same! And it makes my hair constantly feel gross and greasy and my scalp itches
I opened this video without hope thinking it would be about people who like pimple popping and thinking me (someone with diagnosed skin picking disorder) wouldn’t be able to learn from it. i was obviously pleasantly surprised ! Thank you dr dray!! I feel heard
Interesting topic, my professor in dermatology said that pruritus is more predominant at night due to the lack of stimulation that leads to greater awareness of the sensation of itch.😃
For everyone in the path of Laura, I'm praying that everyone makes it through unscathed. 🙏❤
I’ve been trying so hard, it’s always been hard for me not to pick but it definitely got worse when i had stage 5 kidney failure - now I’m doing better after transplant, it is easier but definitely not gone 🤦🏼♀️ i find the only way i don’t pick is if i wear acrylic nails! Will be trying some patches now 💃🏼🤞🏻
Wow! I just picked my face yesterday! Thank you this couldn’t of come at a better time! Love you so much
Whenever I oil cleanse as im rubbing my face I can like feel the bumps under my skin and it triggers me to pick, also my medicine cabinet mirror is like the first thing I see when I look up from washing my face, which makes it so much worse
I've stopped oil cleansing for this reason! I now use the Bioderma sebium (for my oily skin) on a reusable cotton pad.
I have the same struggle. I've opted to using a brush head cleanser to avoid that stimulation.
Yep I find the mirror to be extremely triggering. I only allow myself to see my face up close one time a day to wash my face and try to limit looking too long.
I have this disorder and pimple patches are invaluable at keeping me from picking at my face. I actually just picked up the Mighty Patch ones. I don't find them to be more discreet than other brands, but I love that they're bigger and they stay on very well.
Me tooooo!
Buying an extractor was the worst thing I did. I had to ask my mom to hide it because I couldn't control myself.
I have been trying to get rid of skin picking for 2 years now and I didn't stop doing this yet.
Just throw it out, thats what i did
that thing gave me pitted scars :( they should be banned
I'm a therapist and YES please see one if you're struggling!! No matter is too small or big 💗YOU ARE ENOUGH
I developed this during the pandemic , I never had this problem before . I started picking at the bottom of my feet and now I can’t stop . Started with picking at callus but now it’s out of control . Not sure how to stop .
sam schnh: Perhaps keeping your feet soft & well moisturized by using Kerasal Intensive Foot Repair (which Dr Dray often recommends), and wear socks after applying the ointment. But don’t use it when you have open wounds as the salicylic acid may cause irritation. And keep your nails short. Good luck! 😊
^totally agree with this. I really struggle with this too and I just have to make sure my skin is moisturized and I try to wear socks more frequently.
Thank you for talking about this!❤️ I am so embarrassed because I do this so so much. I have open wounds I have had for more than a year, because I have scratced my self again and again😞 I had adult acne, and did go through 18 months low dose treatment with isotretinoin to get rid of that.. now I have been off it for 6 months, an it has helped a lot. But... I have wounds everywhere else than my face now instead, because I'm picking my skin all the time.. where there isn't really anything wrong from the beginning..... I'm 48..😣 so this isn't anything I talk about lightly, I feel childish and stupid for doing this at my age.. I do suffer for anxiety and depression, and some more.., so I have retired because of my mental health problems, so I know it's some connections to my mental health for sure to my scin picking. I didn't know so many suffered from this!
I do crochet, that helps, and I do wear clothes to stop myself, but when I go to bed at night, my anxiety increases and I fall a sleep with open wounds, sad because my day ended bad again, because I have picked myself to blood again.. so I feel like a big failure..it's a bad circle. I will buy cotton glowes and try that ! That's actually a good tip. Thank you again for teaching me about this. I actually found out we have treatment for this in Norway. I didn't know that, cos I didn't know the name of this . 🙏🙏❤️
You are definitely not childish or stupid no matter what your age. You are suffering with a real disorder. Thankfully you know what it is now, and can get treatment. I struggle with chronic anxiety, depression, and complex ptsd due to 18 years of physical, and emotional abuse by my mother. I don't have this disorder, but I struggle in many other ways. So I understand where you're coming from. Please remember that you are important, you are special, and you are enough! You are also cared about by a total stranger a million miles away, in the US. I wish you all the best with your treatment. Big hugs!! ((((((Marte)))))) Collette :)
@@ColletteC2106 Thank you so much ,for your kind words.. and the hug❤️👍 Take good care of yourself!
Thank you for sharing. I hope you’re doing better!
Could you do an in-depth video on the NAC supplement? It's what my therapist recommended for me, but I don't know too much about it. Love the video ❤ I felt like the only one dealing with this and this video makes me feel like I'm not alone.
Does NAC help your picking? I take it too.
You literally read my mind 🤯 I am so bad about this. I can tell it’s anxiety related. I was going to request this video! I can’t stop 😭
You are enough
Dr Dray 💕 seeing this has made my heart skip a beat. My best friend suffers from this and is crippled by the condition. It has ruled her life and ruins her confidence, it breaks my heart seeing her try and deal with it - it’s almost a daily occurrence. She has had hypnotherapy and tried most tricks in the book. I never knew these patches existed. I’m buying her some after I finish this message! Thank you so much Dr Dray, saving the day yet again xx 💕
You are an amazing friend! 💗
That is so sweet of you to care about her Self.
Thank you for taking about this. It’s taken me years to find coping mechanisms... I didn’t know it was an actual disorder until recently. ❤️
Happy Wednesday Dr Dray and everyone 🤗 this was so helpful I started getting pimples at 12 and I would pick or squeeze. My problem was and is squeezing blackheads . I know most of my acne marks have been of my own making. Thank you for speaking about a real issue ,that many suffer from . Please stay safe you, mom and Tybee during this storm 💖💖💖😍
happy wednesday
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Greetings Mary Ann Gonzalez hope u r well n Happy Wednesday😀👍💜....
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Thank You Soooo Much my Sweet Friend!! Happy Wednesday!! I Hope You Had a Wonderful Day, and I Hope You Have a Peaceful and Relaxing!! Evening!! -Please You and Yours Stay Safe and Well!! Always an Always!! XOxoxoxo!!!
Thank you so much for posting this! I have been looking for solutions like these for so long, especially for something to help put on the lesions. I appreciate you for leaving out the shame and judgement and being helpful and informative instead.
I’ve had dermatillomania for 13 years now, it started when I was in middle school and being bullied on a daily basis. I would bleed from my lips and people would think I was being hit but it was all just me and my anxiety/OCD.
I can (kind of) control myself now, at least in public spaces. But when I am alone I do it on reflex at this point, its extremely frustrating.
Hoping this video helps me out…
I've been picking, peeling and biting the skin off my lips for over 2 decades and I cause so much harm to myself. I've even gotten fever blisters from the wound site and then it's horrible for a week or more. You would think causing so much pain to myself I would stop but it really is an unconscious behavior anymore. I have stretches of good behavior but the first sign of dry flakes on my lips or stress and I'm picking and biting again.
I wish us success in breaking the habit for good.
I used to pick my face due to anxiety from bullying when I was younger. This video would’ve been rlly helpful!
When I got this at first I didn’t even notice, it was just my mum telling me to stop picking at my face because I was doing it constantly, I have bad acne and have had for 5 years and I keep think if I pick at it or squeeze it it will all go away but it makes it worse. My skin is constantly bleeding from it and it’s really painful yet I keep going :/ so thank you for posting this video I hope it helps :(
Thank you for talking about BFRB!
timely video and pertinent info, as always! Thank you!
Wearing a turtleneck tucked into my pants helps me not to pick on my back and chest. It also helped me when I saw how quickly can a pimple disappear when I am not touching it. And also having a plasticine in my hands whenever I have to focus on sth.
Thank you, Dr Dray, I can’t stop scratching my scalp so I’m going to get some cotton gloves from the chemist. Thank you for that idea. Take care❤️🌻🕊.
I have bad anxiety and mild depression I can’t look in the mirror without picking at my skin. And I end up waking up in the morning mad at myself after I have 10 new pimples on my skin. Then I have more stuff to pick at and it’s just a cycle. Ty for this video it helps me understand why I pick at my skin.