My parents lived with me and died whilst I was with them as I refused to send them to a ‘home’. . I am so grateful for the time I had with them and value it above going and chasing my happiness, like chasing is something to aspire to. They didn’t stop me from having a career and family or friends. I am blessed.
It’s really commendable because in this current generation rarely any kids do that, so you are very very exceptional, hope this will motivate someone else and thank you for sharing your story . My dad passed away early in my life and as I was working far away from home in India and my brother and family were living less than 50 feet away, my mother chose to live alone. Then we all siblings with our family migrated to USA and we were forced to leave our mother behind and though we made arrangements for taking care of her, during every phone conversation the question she asked was when are you taking me over there? As it was only few months since we came here and we were still struggling to make a foothold in USA, being new immigrants with families and menial jobs, A family meeting was called by our oldest Sister who brought us to USA, and well settled. In the meeting she told us she will move the papers to bring our mother to USA, provided anyone of the rest of the siblings give assurances that he/ she will take care of her because she’s not willing to do that. Nobody responded, within a couple of minutes and I even without consulting with my wife volunteered to take care of her, and my sister told me Thomas you just came here and struggling to make it and you don’t know how challenging is it to take care of a 83 year old mother here in this situation and I answered, Sister I have wife and three kids going to school and no matter what is my situation I have no option but need to take care of them and our mother raised seven children and l think I have the moral responsibility to take of her so no matter what, I will take care of her as I ami am taking care of my wife and children. And she came to USA few months later, lived rest of her life happily with my family and died at the age of 93 peacefully. I consider those 10 years as a blessing, and felt very happy being able to give back something in return for the unconditional love and challenges she faced while raising me.
My mother is over 70 years old and lives alone in a poor, rural area. When she's sick or in pain, she often hides it from her children and grandchildren, afraid to worry us. One time, she fell and couldn't get up; she couldn't even reach her phone to call for help. Luckily, my older sister happened to visit her that day. After that incident, I decided to leave my city job and move my family back to live closer to her. Since my little family moved back, I've noticed a significant improvement in her mental health. She's happier, especially when she plays with my young son. She tells stories from the old days, and there's the sound of children's laughter, small joys... things you can't buy with a phone, no matter how expensive it is.
God bless you for the right decision! I can intellectually understand the message from this video. However, it gives the feeling of such a loneliness and lack of gratitude - the best quality we have in our lives closely connected, if not to actually means it - LOVE. Gratitude. That is what God is waiting from us in exchange of most precious gift of all - life itself.
I have very similar issues and feelings as the old man. I have come to the conclusion that I have to create a new life for myself without closeness to my married daughter although I help care for my two granddaughters often,I know they will grow up also. I must have my own life independent them.
I took care of my father till the end. He was always smiling when I came home from work, we would stay up a lot just talking about everything, those are not wasted days nor resented days. Family should stick together and take care of each other.
Happiness is also temporary, it's a journey and not a destination. Life is fleeting and you must live in the moment to enjoy it, let go of attachment as it only leads to disappointment
It is not just a question of happiness, your parents when they get old cannot manage physically what they once did. So do you just abandon them? No, for goodness sake they gave you life so show compassion and kindness and take care of them in return with loving kindness
Thanks for this video. I am a 66 year old retired teacher, widowed and living with my son who is divorced. I have some issues with my legs which makes it difficult to walk out on my own without a stick. At home I happily complete all my daily chores, like cooking, cleaning, feeding the pets , and set apart time for my daily Puja and meditation. I also take online classes via zoom so that I don't have to go out and work . I am provided by government pension,so I feel i have a fulfilled life, mornings spend in quiet meditation, sipping tea alone, watching spiritual videos. I have my own room, and although,by all perspectives I may not be dancing and socializing and gossiping ,I find a quiet peace and contentment within. I do sometimes long to go out for vacations, but since that is not to be, i have" let go" that desire too. I live in gratitude and acceptance for what life has given me. My adult children still need me as my daughter,too, is recently widowed and seeks advice. And I am keeping house for my son. I feel fulfilled. I strongly resonate with this video , and thanks for sharing. It is as if The good Lord is talking to me via the video.My life has completed one cycle , I am once again single ,free, joyous, without a worry in the world, letting to of all desires, and having not much possessions to call my own and consequently not really bothered of what will happen to them when I pass away. I have a roof over my head and and meals on my table and bills are paid. What more would I want.
Honour your Mother and your Father... the 4th Commandment. My parents lived in our home until they died. My parents -in-law came for holiday for a year at a time. The house was filled with Joy and laughter most of the time. 4 grandparents to share their thoughts and experiences with my four children. .. who grew up well balanced. All of them have been married for more than 20 years, some more than 25years. There is wisdom in GOD'S word. " Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven... and all the rest shall be added unto you." Start the day with prayer... the greatest is The Holy Mass. Praise God for His wisdom and most of all...HIS LOVE ❤️
My parents lived with me until they passed away, and I stayed by their side because I couldn’t bring myself to send them to a care home. I’m incredibly grateful for the time we shared, and I treasure it far more than the idea of chasing after 'happiness' as if it were something to catch. They never held me back from pursuing my career, building a family, or maintaining friendships. I truly feel blessed
Your response reflects deep love and gratitude for family. The decision to be with your parents in their final years is a noble act, creating beautiful memories
Solitude is my new normal since my sick husband died. I did think my adult sons would fill the ‘void’ doing the manly things but now I understand that expectation is causing suffering. Now I realize I’m on my own and will now practice un attachment. Full Circle here I am ready to do the work. 💜
I live in my own hut,on my son and daughter- in-laws property, I am there if they need me, I would never interfere with their lives and journeys, and they give me the same respect. It is not the ideal answer, but for now it’s working. I wish everyone in my position find happiness and security. Love to all from Australia ❤❤
In an ideal world we would all love and support one another. In healthy families this is perfeclty possible - regular visits, shared activities, phone calls etc. But not in dysfuntional families where on eor both parents or their children are toxic, bitter and manipulative. In that case, living in close proximity with one another would be deeply traumatising.
Speaking for myself, there is no greater joy for parents or children when we care for them in old age. My Mom was my best friend. They took care of you when you were a baby. When we care for our parents, we will have great blessings, peace, and gratitude. Nothing will bring you more joy. As difficult as it can be sometimes. I spent the last week with my mom, she was in a bad way healthwise, but nothing will ever make either of us happier. We got to say goodbye. She was 89 in 2011 when she passed. Don't cry because it's over, but smile because it happened. PS. Not everybody is cut out for this journey.
Looking after your parents is an act of selflessness, humility, love, duty. You can do all the meditation u want but inflicting pain by ignoring parents means you have only learnt attachment to a selfish desire for a practice of yoga. Subtle difference!
But that's the children's problem, not the parent's. The video is about the parent's expectations causing sadness. The children's duties are a separate issue.
ftreedom of what? Take response and help others is better no one iven Buda can escape from dukka sufering .. in old age pain of body is natural and Buda have this eny one and pain itself is sufering if some one love make childe he atract or atach for women and desire sexual mast be there otherwise no childe camming so we need become real not bola bola dreaming abut free from atachment imposibile..
It is absolutely normal for parents to be attached to their children, and for children to be attached to their parents. That is family: unconditional love, trust and support.
Im 60 next birthday and i dont put any pressure on my kids, i will do anything for them as long as i am capable. I brought them here, they didnt ask to be here.
Asians love to take care of their parents. They still live with their parents. Their bonding is very strong. I am 43 and stay with my 73 years old mother. I am so happy that we stay together. My life will be empty without my mother. In this fake world, where you are not sure whether your wife will be loyal to you or your friends will stay beside you in your bad times. Your parents are someone who will always be your side. Take care of them, is the mantra and you will be Happy.
My parents lived with me until the end of their life and it was the best decision for them and myself. I feel so in peace now they are gone . It was hard at times but their life was extended by the decision I took to take them home.
I've been missing my son for a couple of months as he's trying to sort things out for himself. I'm feeling lonely and, at times, bitter. Thank you for this video that helps me to 'sort things out', to regain new perspectives.
I took care of my mother as she deteriorated from dementia. We had a contentious relationship all my life but I guess it was our karma to be together at the end. We had a positive closure before she died…so It was an honor for me and important that we had that experience. I have peace in my heart, mind and soul. It’s all good.
It's amazing how a change in perspective, as Buddhism teaches, can make such a difference. Focusing on gratitude and compassion shifts my energy in a positive way
Attachment is a mental state. I can live very close to my daughter and still be internally distant, without needs and without expectations and still enjoy my grandchildren. Supporting each other is only possible if I don't live too far away. ..
This was my story for awhile. My son-in-law's parents live far away and he is often angry with them. He has only seen them 3 times in 15 years. I have had to endure his anger that with them that was directed at me. My daughter wanted to make him happy so I had to stay away way more than I wanted. I always was there to help out whenever they needed some help. I live 60 miles away so my visits involved me packing for a week stay. Now that I am 72 it is not an easy trip anymore. All three babies were born at home and my daughter had issues which left her in bed for while. I actually lived there each time for three months each time. My help has eneabled them to have a successful business and save money. They have a home that is half paid for and much more time to spend with their kids. I am grateful that they trust me and that we can have difficult conversations without it affecting anyone's relationship. My daughter will say to me..Mom, I think it is time for you to go home. This is so nice to know that we can all have our lives and not feel the need to hurt feelings when it is time to resume our seperate lives. I also know that they are planning for the day when I may need them more. We all take good care of our health so I expect that to not happen any time soon. The granddaughters I have absolutely adore and trust me with their little secrets. It is funny though because if there are any little secrets they always tell their parents anyhow. It has beena wild trip for me. I never expected to lose a child , a husband, and live only on social security but I am very content and happy.
There is so much self reflection in this thread. It’s nice to see that UA-cam has places that explore the human condition with respect and care for each other. Every family is different, but I see so much love and consideration for family situations and each other in the comment section. Glad to share this world with many of you.
I also had my mother living with us for 20 plus years. I feel I did the right thing and helped her in her years of need. She died in her own bed here with us in attendance. It was the right thing to do and I don't have any remorse or regrets
The ideal will be something in the middle: In old age one should be to a point independent, have one’s own interests and hobbies, activities and distractions, so as to live one’s own life and let the children live theirs, and not be a bit to them, but, at the same time, the old person can meet once in a while with his/her children and grandchildren and spend pleasant time with them.
I am a Buddhist. I did not hear this concept in my Buddhist philosophy. But Buddha said children should help parents who are invalid. That's the bottom line. My children are emphasizing that I should live close to them now that I am getting older even though I am going strong and enjoy my independence. All these depends on the attitude of the children
I have been living with my parents as a joint family since my marriage 30 years ago! Life just goes on as i am driven by a certain sense of passion , duty & responsibility ❤ My Daughter on the contrary, who is passionate about her work , lives in another city & i am proud of her dynamism & sense of independence ❤️
❤❤❤My parents lived with me and died whilst I was with them as I refused to send them to a ‘home’. . I am so grateful for the time I had with them and value it above going and chasing my happiness, like chasing is something to aspire to. They didn’t stop me from having a career and family or friends. I am blessed.💛💛💛
Live with children by all means . Or they with you but neither be a burden to another . Have your own Life , your own income and it could be great . There is no one formula fits all
Life is a choice. It’s also a vicious circle. What goes around comes around. I consider it my sacred duty to be present whenever my parents need me. It’s not about attachment but my love for them. It’s a joy and a blessing to make sure they are happier as they age. Many of us believe that a retirement home is best for our parents. But best for who. What our parents did is their karma, how we respond will be our karma ❤
Emotional,dependence is never a good way to live. My mother, grandmother, and mother all lived together for a few years. It is one of my best memories and the experience shaped me. We were not dependent. We were strong individuals. Being an individual made it beautiful.
The experience if aging differs from person to person, and it is the experience you lived with your children, what determines your expectations. When your children had it easy growing up, transitioning into a life of respect and independence just flows. Having a partner helps, but even when you don't, it's easier to settle into your own and involve yourself in their lives from afar. When kids grow through difficulties and your own life, was interrupted, redirected, and sometimes even uprooted in order to provide them with the support you felt was needed, the story changes, and expectations are easily created. When it's your turn to need and you don't get the response you feel you deserve, other issues must be looked at.
I feel that the elderly should live in a household with the younger generation as regular family members or in a adjuncted unit nearby - depending on needs and preferences. At least there should be regular visits and hanging out together - helping each other. My grandmother lived with us. It was nice for her and for us - she just belonged with us. In the same house, two stories up lived her sister, my great aunt. She was a wonderful influence and a great support for our family. We learned a lot from her. She was there before and after my grandma's passing - an important anker in our social network. I am grateful for both of these women's care and influence, their legacy. The younger ones can learn from the life experience and skills of the older ones. Young and old should be together and have each other. All these huge costs of old people's homes - crazy. As a young adult in a foreign country I attended a young adults' ward on Sundays for a while. It was awkward. I missed the senior generation as well as young kids and families swirling around. We need each other. And how much do grandchildren and parents also need grandparents! We should all be envolved with all stages of life to not lose perspective. The circle of life - let's be in it. I do not like it how the elderlies are shoved away into isolation in old people's homes. They say, it needs a village to raise a child. The more so it also needs the older generation!
It is better to understand than be understood, better to comfort than be comforted, better to love than be loved. It is by self forgetting that one finds. It is by dying in mind that one awakens to eternal life.
many people live close to their children and grandchildren to support and help them, not with expectation to get help and support, love and giving is a natural mutual and reciprocal energy field. Religion often frames people through archetypal ideologies which do not reflect contemporary life.
I looked after my mother and maiden aunt untill they went to their permanent resident. I would never send them to a home . I lost my dad when I was very young. Yes it’s not easy care… but today I have so much peace inside my heart because of tge choices I made for them and let them live with me untill the end. I think there is not just one path but others to .. one has to work out which gives most peace to both sides
Good asvice. On the other hand, sometimes people need help coping with disability and illness, and moving closer to where one's children live might enable mutual support and kindness without cloying control and demands.
Human connection is vital. Attachment to ideas and expectations about those connections will bring suffering. I love my cat and when she bites me I'm hurt and disappointed. Then I remember, she's a cat by nature. The bite can mean or not mean anything I want it to. She would say, "That's your problem!" I love her.
@ It’s true that we need to manage our expectations of ourselves and others. Emptiness and disconnection can arise from many different places, not having authentic closeness and connection is only one of them.
Good lessons I learned in my own old age. All what is said here is like my own story as I and my husband of 57 years are seeing these all over again. We are together -which is a blessing for sure. Thanks & much merit for the wisdom & insights here. Anumodana!
For over 2000 years, the young cared for their elderly parents - but now in the USA they shove their parents into a nursing home where immigrants ( who are a despised minority) take care of them while the billion dollar nursing industry rakes in the profits all the while reducing costs and care. Is this what this channel is suggesting is an improvement?
So wise… i was brought up a Buddhist, never understood it. Tried other religions. Now at 76, i see the wisdom of it. Life is hard,none of us avoid hardships. No one can save you from inevitability of ups/downs. It is hard to understand, but following its lessons of looking within first, and accepting your life as it is, does give peace within.
My father is 84 and lives alone. I manage his financial affairs and stay over at his home over the weekends. Cook for him and clean up his home. We are very close. I will do this until the day I or he passes on.❤
Such a thoughtful perspective! Wishing everyone here health, happiness, and the wisdom to make choices that bring peace in their later years. 🙏 May we all find strength and clarity on our paths.
What a beautiful story from a very wise Buddhist master. Was this the one who spent his whole life in the monastery, with no family of his own, and didn’t raise children? Let me think… Yes, that’s the one! "No attachment," he said? That makes total sense… for him. But what about you? You, who spend your life living, loving, raising, and creating attachments… Why can’t you count on the children you raised when you’re older? And who decided that the purpose of life is to be happy, proud, autonomous, self-sufficient, and like a lone wolf? Maybe there are other lessons to learn in your later years, beyond non-attachment. What about humility, acceptance, and gratitude for your children who now take care of you when you’re clumsy and grumpy? Could it be about reconciliation… about making amends? And what about your grown kids? What lessons could they learn by caring for their aging parents? Maybe gratitude for those who gave them the best they could. Maybe forgiveness. The understanding that life is short, so don’t waste it. So many possibilities. What about the wisdom you can offer them now, when your body is weak, but your spirit is stronger than ever? What about the unconditional love you can offer your grandkids? Why rob them of this incredible experience of creating an unbreakable bond with their grandparents? These are the thoughts of a not-so-wise girl who chose the world of feelings and attachments. But you think for yourself.
So are your children going to meet your every expectation? I have children and I assure you they fall short very often, and I'm sure I don't meet their expectations all the time. I could get bitter and think, "They owe me" and they could think the same. Or we can be happy because we find our own peace. I have grandchildren, too. Should they devote their lives to my happiness?
What a wonderful explanation of how to live life with happiness ❤ time and lives are changing with choices.. no one wants to abandon their parents but sometimes with responsibilities of jobs children and their activities sometimes life becomes stressful and difficult… so children can’t give quality time to their parents… I now 70, don’t want to burden on my children… live on my own ,I have my hobbies my friends my volunteer time with community.. and close to my children and grandchildren …love to explore the world 🌎
I’m 70 too. I’m doing well, so I am not a burden to my children. I enjoy them, when I can, but we are all very busy having active lives. I enjoy them living fulfilling lives. In contrast, My 92 year old mother is critical and unpleasant expecting all of us to cater to her. She causes problems between us complaining about us, so no one wants her around anymore. If she was even a little more humble and grateful, maybe we would welcome her presence.
If you haven't had any of your children young adults or a child transition from this world before you count yourself truly blessed ❤️ a few old age pains is nothing to complain about believe me . Let your children feel free to live their time here bringing up their family just as you have.
Thank you for this video 🙏 I have found it helpful, for looking towards letting go of attachments to my expectations of my adult children visiting me, which is a source of deep emotional pain as these expectations go unfulfilled. Thanks also for the idea expressed/suggested that as an ageing parent that I focus upon parenting my inner-child, I feel joy writing this 🙏 The Lord grant you eternal and eternally Peace and all Good 🙏
My dad loved his newfound friends and life in his village. If he’d stayed with me and my husband, he’d have been isolated and on his home from 7-6 five days a week. That’s no life. I’m so glad he had four great years of all-day laughter and friends ❤
Life is filled with soooo many emotions,attachments some we have been told what we could,and should expect. But another Buddhist teachings telling me to follow our OWN destiny. Amaste
In short "Do not give responsibility of managing your life to your children for as long as you can manage on your own". Your children will likely appreciate it, and will likely be glad to help as needed. And keep the Doors of Life open as long as you can.🌈🌞‼
Hmmmm…. What if your friends have complicated and busy lives with lovely and caring families? Would you expect them to include you in their family circle?
Attachment is the biggest self-curse one can inflict upon themselves unknowingly. This story is an eye-opener for those who share this view. Thanks very much for the dessiimination of such wisdom 🙏🙏🙏💐❤️
Excellent timing to hear this S it applies to a variety of relationships of attachment as growing old becomes more clear. Suffering is clinging… Thank you
In an ideal world, seniors would be taken care of so that they don’t have to resort to living in a tent in a city park or on a riverbank. Many seniors didn’t have jobs with pensions or 401k’s. So, these same people don’t have many options. We must teach new generations the importance of taking care of their elders.. they could hear history that they would never learn about, otherwise.
Excellent advice / teaching for one and all. A real key to happiness. One's sufferings due to attachments well explained that I understood with realisation. Thanks.
It is true that attachment is a source of suffering because if that thing or person you're attached to goes, then you will indeed suffer...However if we avoid any form of attachment then nobody should ever marry. Nobody should ever have children...Idk, I think that as humans attachment is a natural feeling...Can you really love without attachment? Is it not normal to be attached to those you consider close like your family or your pet? You may try to avoid suffering but one way or another suffering will find you..It's part of life...A natural process
My mother came to live with me when she developed dementia. It was the right thing to do. But while she was fully capable before dementia she lead her full life in her own place. In the video it was pointed out that expecting our grown children to take care of us and to be their center of attention becomes a burden to them. As older people, we are coming in full cycle of our lives. We still have things to do in our last stage of life. Taking care of our children when they were young was part of that cycle but we have come in full circle and we need to continue growing and learning.
It is every children’s duty to take care of their parents during their old age .. when parents do really took care of them by giving good health education good relative and ensure settled life with good wife and family and financial support sometimes ..
I too am 92 years old. I live in Canada, while my children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren live in Europe. Many years ago, when I decided it was time, for me to return to Canada, my children decided to remain in Europe. I let go of their daily presence and the seeming need of other attachments. As a result, as my life continued and, as one by one, my friends died, I learned to relish the freedom of my old age. From now, until my death, I am as happy as I allow myself to be.
This video prioritizing detachment applies to a family without real love and with interest only in themsleves and their own lives. Families with love as the attachment connection do just fine. And people who place themselves and their spirituality first are beacons of light and love and wisdom for others. What it comes down to is alignment with real self which is love and light, and what is called here attachment is really joy and enjoyment of people aligned within themselves and heart, in love confidence self love and people aligned with others in the same state. Love binds in a natural divine connection and is not called attachment. Attachment stems from neediness not love.
Yes You dont have to stay physically away from them and keep your mind away from attachments like many of us do in my couldture in India at the same time you help the young generation growand thrive help them with detached attachment
My parents lived with me and died whilst I was with them as I refused to send them to a ‘home’. . I am so grateful for the time I had with them and value it above going and chasing my happiness, like chasing is something to aspire to. They didn’t stop me from having a career and family or friends. I am blessed.
@@Tarantella1924 Have pleasure always and Thanks for watching
It’s really commendable because in this current generation rarely any kids do that, so you are very very exceptional, hope this will motivate someone else and thank you for sharing your story .
My dad passed away early in my life and as I was working far away from home in India and my brother and family were living less than 50 feet away, my mother chose to live alone. Then we all siblings with our family migrated to USA and we were forced to leave our mother behind and though we made arrangements for taking care of her, during every phone conversation the question she asked was when are you taking me over there? As it was only few months since we came here and we were still struggling to make a foothold in USA, being new immigrants with families and menial jobs, A family meeting was called by our oldest Sister who brought us to USA, and well settled. In the meeting she told us she will move the papers to bring our mother to USA, provided anyone of the rest of the siblings give assurances that he/ she will take care of her because she’s not willing to do that. Nobody responded, within a couple of minutes and I even without consulting with my wife volunteered to take care of her, and my sister told me Thomas you just came here and struggling to make it and you don’t know how challenging is it to take care of a 83 year old mother here in this situation and I answered, Sister I have wife and three kids going to school and no matter what is my situation I have no option but need to take care of them and our mother raised seven children and l think I have the moral responsibility to take of her so no matter what, I will take care of her as I ami am taking care of my wife and children. And she came to USA few months later, lived rest of her life happily with my family and died at the age of 93 peacefully. I consider those 10 years as a blessing, and felt very happy being able to give back something in return for the unconditional love and challenges she faced while raising me.
@Tarantella1924 Exactly and that's how it should be. Not abandoning them when they are old.
You are sn exception.
@@SathiNair-k7p I hope not.
My mother is over 70 years old and lives alone in a poor, rural area. When she's sick or in pain, she often hides it from her children and grandchildren, afraid to worry us. One time, she fell and couldn't get up; she couldn't even reach her phone to call for help. Luckily, my older sister happened to visit her that day. After that incident, I decided to leave my city job and move my family back to live closer to her. Since my little family moved back, I've noticed a significant improvement in her mental health. She's happier, especially when she plays with my young son. She tells stories from the old days, and there's the sound of children's laughter, small joys... things you can't buy with a phone, no matter how expensive it is.
@@TheWisdomGarden1 Thanks for watching
Blessed are you. Blessed will you always be. Never hurt her. Always keep her happy. It will bring immense happiness and prosperity to you.
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@@SriShridhar Thank you for your encouraging words !
God bless you for the right decision! I can intellectually understand the message from this video. However, it gives the feeling of such a loneliness and lack of gratitude - the best quality we have in our lives closely connected, if not to actually means it - LOVE. Gratitude. That is what God is waiting from us in exchange of most precious gift of all - life itself.
I have very similar issues and feelings as the old man. I have come to the conclusion that I have to create a new life for myself without closeness to my married daughter although I help care for my two granddaughters often,I know they will grow up also. I must have my own life independent them.
The point is don’t do something out of expectation or obligation. But if something is done out of love, embrace it.
@@FatMatters much love
Isn't obligation an actual love?
@@zorkabiljecki7408 no.
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I took care of my father till the end. He was always smiling when I came home from work, we would stay up a lot just talking about everything, those are not wasted days nor resented days. Family should stick together and take care of each other.
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This is right on. If we depend on our children or anyone else for our happiness, we will suffer. We need to make our own happiness!
@@j.johnson2270 very true Thanks so much for watching
Happiness is also temporary, it's a journey and not a destination. Life is fleeting and you must live in the moment to enjoy it, let go of attachment as it only leads to disappointment
It is not just a question of happiness, your parents when they get old cannot manage physically what they once did. So do you just abandon them? No, for goodness sake they gave you life so show compassion and kindness and take care of them in return with loving kindness
Plan to go to a nursing home now itself
Sure! If you are rich enough.
Thanks for this video. I am a 66 year old retired teacher, widowed and living with my son who is divorced. I have some issues with my legs which makes it difficult to walk out on my own without a stick. At home I happily complete all my daily chores, like cooking, cleaning, feeding the pets , and set apart time for my daily Puja and meditation. I also take online classes via zoom so that I don't have to go out and work . I am provided by government pension,so I feel i have a fulfilled life, mornings spend in quiet meditation, sipping tea alone, watching spiritual videos. I have my own room, and although,by all perspectives I may not be dancing and socializing and gossiping ,I find a quiet peace and contentment within. I do sometimes long to go out for vacations, but since that is not to be, i have" let go" that desire too. I live in gratitude and acceptance for what life has given me. My adult children still need me as my daughter,too, is recently widowed and seeks advice. And I am keeping house for my son. I feel fulfilled. I strongly resonate with this video , and thanks for sharing. It is as if The good Lord is talking to me via the video.My life has completed one cycle , I am once again single ,free, joyous, without a worry in the world, letting to of all desires, and having not much possessions to call my own and consequently not really bothered of what will happen to them when I pass away. I have a roof over my head and and meals on my table and bills are paid. What more would I want.
@@nandinisinha6117 Thanks so much for watching have pleasure always share the video to others so that they can learn also
@@ZenPhilosophy1723 yes
Perfectly said. 👌👍🏻.
Honour your Mother and your Father... the 4th Commandment. My parents lived in our home until they died. My parents -in-law came for holiday for a year at a time. The house was filled with Joy and laughter most of the time. 4 grandparents to share their thoughts and experiences with my four children. .. who grew up well balanced.
All of them have been married for more than 20 years, some more than 25years. There is wisdom in GOD'S word. " Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven... and all the rest shall be added unto you."
Start the day with prayer... the greatest is The Holy Mass. Praise God for His wisdom and most of all...HIS LOVE ❤️
We need money I have slogged to bring up my children but now no one wants me I dont have a place to go I have to find a shelter homegod bless u mam
My parents lived with me until they passed away, and I stayed by their side because I couldn’t bring myself to send them to a care home. I’m incredibly grateful for the time we shared, and I treasure it far more than the idea of chasing after 'happiness' as if it were something to catch. They never held me back from pursuing my career, building a family, or maintaining friendships. I truly feel blessed
@@TheInnerSecrets-p8o good work, Thanks so much for watching.
You are in 👑👸.❤
Your response reflects deep love and gratitude for family. The decision to be with your parents in their final years is a noble act, creating beautiful memories
Children need parents to grow up and parents need their children in old age. This is the law of nature. Never bypass it.
@@neezlasubratty6537 💓💓💓
Solitude is my new normal since my sick husband died. I did think my adult sons would fill the ‘void’ doing the manly things but now I understand that expectation is causing suffering. Now I realize I’m on my own and will now practice un attachment. Full Circle here I am ready to do the work. 💜
@@kimberlybegonia2869 good job and have pleasure always and Thanks for watching
I'm so sorry for your loss x
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It seems like daughters will stay around and be helpful but not the sons. They follow their wife and her family.
I wish my selfish mother-n-law would understand this.
I live in my own hut,on my son and daughter- in-laws property, I am there if they need me, I would never interfere with their lives and journeys, and they give me the same respect. It is not the ideal answer, but for now it’s working. I wish everyone in my position find happiness and security. Love to all from Australia ❤❤
Wow that is great have pleasure always and Thanks for watching
In an ideal world we would all love and support one another. In healthy families this is perfeclty possible - regular visits, shared activities, phone calls etc. But not in dysfuntional families where on eor both parents or their children are toxic, bitter and manipulative. In that case, living in close proximity with one another would be deeply traumatising.
@@mjbreitmeyer2666 Have pleasure always and Thanks for watching
Yes, toxic aging parents do not deserve their children’s attention!
Absolutely ❤
Speaking for myself, there is no greater joy for parents or children when we care for them in old age. My Mom was my best friend. They took care of you when you were a baby. When we care for our parents, we will have great blessings, peace, and gratitude.
Nothing will bring you more joy. As difficult as it can be sometimes. I spent the last week with my mom, she was in a bad way
healthwise, but nothing will ever make either of us happier. We got to say goodbye. She was 89 in 2011 when she passed.
Don't cry because it's over, but smile because it happened.
PS. Not everybody is cut out for this journey.
Thanks for that and have pleasure always in watching my videos
Very helpful advice. Most grateful.
Yes!!! Lovely!!!
Looking after your parents is an act of selflessness, humility, love, duty. You can do all the meditation u want but inflicting pain by ignoring parents means you have only learnt attachment to a selfish desire for a practice of yoga. Subtle difference!
@@KunjanChauhan Thanks for watching
Thanks, you said that beautifully! I think humans have the tendency to go from one extreme to the next.
But that's the children's problem, not the parent's. The video is about the parent's expectations causing sadness. The children's duties are a separate issue.
My parents passed when I was young so I never had to care for them live in the now, the present not what might have been no regrets what could
Yes, i think the same.
Non attachment & non expectation leads to freedom & joy . Love and blessings .
@@luckydesilva6733 much love thanks for watching
ftreedom of what? Take response and help others is better no one iven Buda can escape from dukka sufering .. in old age pain of body is natural and Buda have this eny one and pain itself is sufering if some one love make childe he atract or atach for women and desire sexual mast be there otherwise no childe camming so we need become real not bola bola dreaming abut free from atachment imposibile..
I'm 73, single and have no children....but the lessons are still valid ❤🙏
@@stephenridley1153 Thanks so much for watching and take care wherever you are.
It is absolutely normal for parents to be attached to their children, and for children to be attached to their parents. That is family: unconditional love, trust and support.
Thanks so much for watching
You mentioned parents and children.
How about the grandparents?
Thats not the point of the story.
Bullshit ..
Dependency is an illness , all wild animals weaning their off spring ..forever it is a biological design ..we are not so different
It’s very “normal”. This video is about whether it makes people happy. Many “normal” behaviors cause unnecessary suffering.
Im 60 next birthday and i dont put any pressure on my kids, i will do anything for them as long as i am capable. I brought them here, they didnt ask to be here.
@@freedom4life123 That is great
My father expressed the same to me. This made relating to him a joy.
We all asked to be here or we wouldn't
@@kentmccoy592 l don't recall asking, in utero. My mother resented my existence in the first place, so she didn't even ask.
@@kentmccoy592How did we ask to be here? I don't remember asking my parents that I wanted to be born.
Asians love to take care of their parents. They still live with their parents. Their bonding is very strong. I am 43 and stay with my 73 years old mother. I am so happy that we stay together. My life will be empty without my mother. In this fake world, where you are not sure whether your wife will be loyal to you or your friends will stay beside you in your bad times. Your parents are someone who will always be your side. Take care of them, is the mantra and you will be Happy.
That is very good and Thanks for watching.
Yesss! 👏👏👏
My parents lived with me until the end of their life and it was the best decision for them and myself. I feel so in peace now they are gone . It was hard at times but their life was extended by the decision I took to take them home.
@@merita47 Thanks so much for watching
Honor thy father and mother. Being close but honoring their own lifes is a blessing for all.
@@kandndad3527 Thanks so much for watching
I've been missing my son for a couple of months as he's trying to sort things out for himself. I'm feeling lonely and, at times, bitter. Thank you for this video that helps me to 'sort things out', to regain new perspectives.
@@casard5235 Thanks so much for watching
I took care of my mother as she deteriorated from dementia. We had a contentious relationship all my life but I guess it was our karma to be together at the end. We had a positive closure before she died…so It was an honor for me and important that we had that experience. I have peace in my heart, mind and soul. It’s all good.
@@rdhawke Well done, Thanks for watching
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I am at that place which you talked about in this video. It came at just the right time, and made me see the truth. Thank you so much.
Thanks so much for watching the support of watching have pleasure always.
It's amazing how a change in perspective, as Buddhism teaches, can make such a difference. Focusing on gratitude and compassion shifts my energy in a positive way
@@ListeningtotheSoul Thanks so much for watching
Attachment is a mental state. I can live very close to my daughter and still be internally distant, without needs and without expectations and still enjoy my grandchildren. Supporting each other is only possible if I don't live too far away. ..
That is good and Thanks so much for watching
This was my story for awhile. My son-in-law's parents live far away and he is often angry with them. He has only seen them 3 times in 15 years. I have had to endure his anger that with them that was directed at me. My daughter wanted to make him happy so I had to stay away way more than I wanted. I always was there to help out whenever they needed some help. I live 60 miles away so my visits involved me packing for a week stay. Now that I am 72 it is not an easy trip anymore. All three babies were born at home and my daughter had issues which left her in bed for while. I actually lived there each time for three months each time. My help has eneabled them to have a successful business and save money. They have a home that is half paid for and much more time to spend with their kids. I am grateful that they trust me and that we can have difficult conversations without it affecting anyone's relationship. My daughter will say to me..Mom, I think it is time for you to go home. This is so nice to know that we can all have our lives and not feel the need to hurt feelings when it is time to resume our seperate lives. I also know that they are planning for the day when I may need them more. We all take good care of our health so I expect that to not happen any time soon. The granddaughters I have absolutely adore and trust me with their little secrets. It is funny though because if there are any little secrets they always tell their parents anyhow. It has beena wild trip for me. I never expected to lose a child , a husband, and live only on social security but I am very content and happy.
Exactly 👍
There is so much self reflection in this thread. It’s nice to see that UA-cam has places that explore the human condition with respect and care for each other.
Every family is different, but I see so much love and consideration for family situations and each other in the comment section.
Glad to share this world with many of you.
@@sleepyhollowgirl1294 Thanks for watching.
I’m so glad I stayed with my parents when they were old.
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I also had my mother living with us for 20 plus years. I feel I did the right thing and helped her in her years of need. She died in her own bed here with us in attendance. It was the right thing to do and I don't have any remorse or regrets
@@beverleybailey3161 Thanks for watching and have pleasure always
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The ideal will be something in the middle: In old age one should be to a point independent, have one’s own interests and hobbies, activities and distractions, so as to live one’s own life and let the children live theirs, and not be a bit to them, but, at the same time, the old person can meet once in a while with his/her children and grandchildren and spend pleasant time with them.
Have pleasure always and Thanks so much for watching
I am a Buddhist. I did not hear this concept in my Buddhist philosophy. But Buddha said children should help parents who are invalid. That's the bottom line.
My children are emphasizing that I should live close to them now that I am getting older even though I am going strong and enjoy my independence.
All these depends on the attitude of the children
Thanks just watch the video to the end you will understand the message well.
I have been living with my parents as a joint family since my marriage 30 years ago! Life just goes on as i am driven by a certain sense of passion , duty & responsibility ❤ My Daughter on the contrary, who is passionate about her work , lives in another city & i am proud of her dynamism & sense of independence ❤️
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What remains are the bonds we have made.the moments we have shared and the light we we have spread.
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❤❤❤My parents lived with me and died whilst I was with them as I refused to send them to a ‘home’. . I am so grateful for the time I had with them and value it above going and chasing my happiness, like chasing is something to aspire to. They didn’t stop me from having a career and family or friends. I am blessed.💛💛💛
Thanks so much for watching
@@ZenPhilosophy1723 ❤❤❤
Live with children by all means . Or they with you but neither be a burden to another . Have your own
Life , your own income and it could be great . There is no one formula fits all
@@kiransinghrawat5018 Have pleasure always and Thanks for watching
good point
I don’t want to live with my children, I live in a retirement home. I wouldn’t want to complicate both my life or indeed my childrens .
Take care wherever you are and Thanks so much for watching
@@decenuvrempace I rent , here in Australia we get rental assistance , it’s only a small studio but it’s enough for me and my cat 😊
Life is a choice. It’s also a vicious circle. What goes around comes around. I consider it my sacred duty to be present whenever my parents need me. It’s not about attachment but my love for them. It’s a joy and a blessing to make sure they are happier as they age. Many of us believe that a retirement home is best for our parents. But best for who. What our parents did is their karma, how we respond will be our karma ❤
Thanks for watching
How true.I am now living with my children and have lost happiness and peace seeing their true colours.
Take note of the message and appreciate everything moment of your life.
Emotional,dependence is never a good way to live. My mother, grandmother, and mother all lived together for a few years. It is one of my best memories and the experience shaped me. We were not dependent. We were strong individuals. Being an individual made it beautiful.
Thanks for watching that is Agood enlightenment
The experience if aging differs from person to person, and it is the experience you lived with your children, what determines your expectations.
When your children had it easy growing up, transitioning into a life of respect and independence just flows. Having a partner helps, but even when you don't, it's easier to settle into your own and involve yourself in their lives from afar.
When kids grow through difficulties and your own life, was interrupted, redirected, and sometimes even uprooted in order to provide them with the support you felt was needed, the story changes, and expectations are easily created.
When it's your turn to need and you don't get the response you feel you deserve, other issues must be looked at.
Yes..interdependence. We were designed as social beings.
The clarity and depth of your teachings are exceptional. I’ve learned so much from your channel!
@@BuddhistWisdomDaily9x Thanks for watching
I feel that the elderly should live in a household with the younger generation as regular family members or in a adjuncted unit nearby - depending on needs and preferences. At least there should be regular visits and hanging out together - helping each other. My grandmother lived with us. It was nice for her and for us - she just belonged with us. In the same house, two stories up lived her sister, my great aunt. She was a wonderful influence and a great support for our family. We learned a lot from her. She was there before and after my grandma's passing - an important anker in our social network. I am grateful for both of these women's care and influence, their legacy. The younger ones can learn from the life experience and skills of the older ones. Young and old should be together and have each other. All these huge costs of old people's homes - crazy. As a young adult in a foreign country I attended a young adults' ward on Sundays for a while. It was awkward. I missed the senior generation as well as young kids and families swirling around. We need each other. And how much do grandchildren and parents also need grandparents! We should all be envolved with all stages of life to not lose perspective. The circle of life - let's be in it. I do not like it how the elderlies are shoved away into isolation in old people's homes.
They say, it needs a village to raise a child. The more so it also needs the older generation!
@@kasko8550 Thanks for that take have pleasure always in watching my videos.
so true
I am familiar with Buddhist teachings and I disagree with your advice . 🙏👲🧑✈️🧑💻🙏. 🌳🧓🏠🌳.
That was fabulous! It resonated so much for me. Wise old man and fortunately for him this brought his family closer
Thanks so much for watching
It is better to understand than be understood, better to comfort than be comforted, better to love than be loved. It is by self forgetting that one finds. It is by dying in mind that one awakens to eternal life.
@@robertharrelson5024 Thanks so much for watching and have pleasure always.
As Jesus said: It’s giving that we receive.
many people live close to their children and grandchildren to support and help them, not with expectation to get help and support, love and giving is a natural mutual and reciprocal energy field. Religion often frames people through archetypal ideologies which do not reflect contemporary life.
@@susanvanaken
My heart and mind feels freer after listening to this. It also helped me to see what i never wanted- dependency. I do not want to burden my kids.
@@AlphagirlMae am glad you liked the video Thanks so much for watching.
I looked after my mother and maiden aunt untill they went to their permanent resident. I would never send them to a home . I lost my dad when I was very young.
Yes it’s not easy care… but today I have so much peace inside my heart because of tge choices I made for them and let them live with me untill the end. I think there is not just one path but others to .. one has to work out which gives most peace to both sides
@@beadas1108 Thanks so much for watching.
Good asvice. On the other hand, sometimes people need help coping with disability and illness, and moving closer to where one's children live might enable mutual support and kindness without cloying control and demands.
@@karenmcgady7637 Thanks for that Thanks for watching.
You being up such a good point. There can be a very fine line between "caring" and "controlling."
Sila, samadhi and prajñā - the cultivation of ethical behaviour, meditation and wisdom is the best path for all. 🙏
@@petewebb6952 Thanks for watching and have pleasure always
Human attachment is fundamental to all humans and not having it leads to the greatest suffering of all: emptiness and disconnection.
@@spinnettdesigns Thanks for watching
Human connection is vital. Attachment to ideas and expectations about those connections will bring suffering. I love my cat and when she bites me I'm hurt and disappointed. Then I remember, she's a cat by nature. The bite can mean or not mean anything I want it to. She would say, "That's your problem!" I love her.
@ It’s true that we need to manage our expectations of ourselves and others. Emptiness and disconnection can arise from many different places, not having authentic closeness and connection is only one of them.
Children should take care of their parents. Even living with parents is beautiful
Thanks so much for watching and have pleasure always.
Good lessons I learned in my own old age. All what is said here is like my own story as I and my husband of 57 years are seeing these all over again. We are together -which is a blessing for sure. Thanks & much merit for the wisdom & insights here. Anumodana!
Have pleasure always and share to your family and friends to learn more.
do not have any feeling for anyone or anything , do not need to feel good or feel bad. nothing will affect u. live in peace
I take care of my mom and I wouldn't change it.
@@janicetelfer6211 That is good and Thanks so much for watching
Super!! This is a load of nonsense
For over 2000 years, the young cared for their elderly parents - but now in the USA they shove their parents into a nursing home where immigrants ( who are a despised minority) take care of them while the billion dollar nursing industry rakes in the profits all the while reducing costs and care. Is this what this channel is suggesting is an improvement?
@jimosborne2 right!
So wise… i was brought up a Buddhist, never understood it. Tried other religions.
Now at 76, i see the wisdom of it. Life is hard,none of us avoid hardships. No one can save you from inevitability of ups/downs.
It is hard to understand, but following its lessons of looking within first, and accepting your life as it is, does give peace within.
@@anniemouse8450 🙏
My father is 84 and lives alone. I manage his financial affairs and stay over at his home over the weekends. Cook for him and clean up his home. We are very close. I will do this until the day I or he passes on.❤
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Thank you for sharing such enlightening teachings. They bring peace and clarity to my daily life. Truly inspiring!
@@MindfulAwakening11 much welcomed share to others so that they can learn.
Boy did this hit home, very timely for me.
@@Arete37 Thanks for watching
Such a thoughtful perspective! Wishing everyone here health, happiness, and the wisdom to make choices that bring peace in their later years. 🙏 May we all find strength and clarity on our paths.
@@ThePowerWithin363 Thanks so much for watching
do not have any feeling for anyone or anything , do not need to feel good or feel bad. nothing will affect u. live in peace
What a beautiful story from a very wise Buddhist master. Was this the one who spent his whole life in the monastery, with no family of his own, and didn’t raise children? Let me think… Yes, that’s the one! "No attachment," he said? That makes total sense… for him.
But what about you? You, who spend your life living, loving, raising, and creating attachments… Why can’t you count on the children you raised when you’re older? And who decided that the purpose of life is to be happy, proud, autonomous, self-sufficient, and like a lone wolf? Maybe there are other lessons to learn in your later years, beyond non-attachment. What about humility, acceptance, and gratitude for your children who now take care of you when you’re clumsy and grumpy? Could it be about reconciliation… about making amends?
And what about your grown kids? What lessons could they learn by caring for their aging parents? Maybe gratitude for those who gave them the best they could. Maybe forgiveness. The understanding that life is short, so don’t waste it. So many possibilities.
What about the wisdom you can offer them now, when your body is weak, but your spirit is stronger than ever? What about the unconditional love you can offer your grandkids? Why rob them of this incredible experience of creating an unbreakable bond with their grandparents?
These are the thoughts of a not-so-wise girl who chose the world of feelings and attachments. But you think for yourself.
Thanks for watching Share to others so that they can learn.
So are your children going to meet your every expectation? I have children and I assure you they fall short very often, and I'm sure I don't meet their expectations all the time. I could get bitter and think, "They owe me" and they could think the same. Or we can be happy because we find our own peace. I have grandchildren, too. Should they devote their lives to my happiness?
What a wonderful explanation of how to live life with happiness ❤ time and lives are changing with choices.. no one wants to abandon their parents but sometimes with responsibilities of jobs children and their activities sometimes life becomes stressful and difficult… so children can’t give quality time to their parents… I now 70, don’t want to burden on my children… live on my own ,I have my hobbies my friends my volunteer time with community.. and close to my children and grandchildren …love to explore the world 🌎
Wow that is amazing, Thanks so much for watching
I’m 70 too. I’m doing well, so I am not a burden to my children. I enjoy them, when I can, but we are all very busy having active lives. I enjoy them living fulfilling lives.
In contrast, My 92 year old mother is critical and unpleasant expecting all of us to cater to her. She causes problems between us complaining about us, so no one wants her around anymore. If she was even a little more humble and grateful, maybe we would welcome her presence.
If you haven't had any of your children young adults or a child transition from this world before you count yourself truly blessed ❤️ a few old age pains is nothing to complain about believe me .
Let your children feel free to live their time here bringing up their family just as you have.
True 👍Thanks so much for watching.
Thank you for this video 🙏 I have found it helpful, for looking towards letting go of attachments to my expectations of my adult children visiting me, which is a source of deep emotional pain as these expectations go unfulfilled. Thanks also for the idea expressed/suggested that as an ageing parent that I focus upon parenting my inner-child, I feel joy writing this 🙏
The Lord grant you eternal and eternally Peace and all Good 🙏
@@BECOMEASALITTLECHILD Thanks so much for watching Share it to others so that they can learn.
My dad loved his newfound friends and life in his village. If he’d stayed with me and my husband, he’d have been isolated and on his home from 7-6 five days a week. That’s no life. I’m so glad he had four great years of all-day laughter and friends ❤
That is very good, am glad you watched the video have pleasure always
And you were unburdened.
Every word in this video is like a soothing balm for the soul. Keep up the amazing work!
@@BuddhasTeachings24 Thanks so much for watching
Life is filled with soooo many emotions,attachments some we have been told what we could,and should expect. But another Buddhist teachings telling me to follow our OWN destiny. Amaste
@@michelewills6350 Thanks for watching
In short "Do not give responsibility of managing your life to your children for as long as you can manage on your own". Your children will likely appreciate it, and will likely be glad to help as needed. And keep the Doors of Life open as long as you can.🌈🌞‼
@@rafiquekhan320 Am glad you liked the video have pleasure always and Thanks for watching
a lovely piece of Zen wisdom at the perfect moment for me to receive it - thank you
Much welcome and Thanks for watching 🙏
Friends are the family you chose. Chose wisely!
Very True, Take care and Thanks so much for watching
choose
Hmmmm…. What if your friends have complicated and busy lives with lovely and caring families? Would you expect them to include you in their family circle?
@@SculptExpress-gv8jpa true friend would include you if you are alone.
Iam going through this period. You have showed me the way. 🙏
Thanks so much for watching Share to others so that they can learn.
Beautiful, timely to listen, so many will appreciate, I will share!!! Thank you❤
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Danke!
Thanks so much for the support 🙏
Thank you for this exploration of thoughts about older ages. It is hard to know our purpose when we gain an older age. I appreciate these thoughts.
Much love for watching
2:40 The background music enhances the spiritual vibe.
Thanks so much for watching
Lessons to be learnt no doubt. The teachings do make sense.
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The great Buddha well said- Attachment is the suffering
Thanks for watching 🙏
😮And also acted to help people come out of suffering. This is empathy and support. Not attachment
Attachment is the biggest self-curse one can inflict upon themselves unknowingly. This story is an eye-opener for those who share this view. Thanks very much for the dessiimination of such wisdom
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Am glad you liked the video have pleasure always 🙏
Nothing wrong with being attached...overattachment and overly dependence is the problem.
Excellent timing to hear this S it applies to a variety of relationships of attachment as growing old becomes more clear.
Suffering is clinging…
Thank you
@@rebeccaelle135 much welcomed and Thanks for watching.
In an ideal world, seniors would be taken care of so that they don’t have to resort to living in a tent in a city park or on a riverbank. Many seniors didn’t have jobs with pensions or 401k’s. So, these same people don’t have many options. We must teach new generations the importance of taking care of their elders.. they could hear history that they would never learn about, otherwise.
Thanks for this note, Thanks so much for watching.
Every situation has pluses and minuses,
But being close to grandchildren is a blessing…
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Wise words, we can feel free, let go and love whatever comes and enjoy life 😂❤
Thanks for watching
Excellent advice / teaching for one and all. A real key to happiness. One's sufferings due to attachments well explained that I understood with realisation. Thanks.
Thanks for watching
Absolutely beautiful! This wisdom is a great gift. Thank you so much. ❤🙏🙏🙏
@@debbiedanilow3202 much welcomed and Thanks for watching
I am a Christian and I fully agree with the message of non attachment to people or things at any age.
Thanks for the video much appreciated 🙏🏻
Much welcomed Thanks for understanding the message
It is true that attachment is a source of suffering because if that thing or person you're attached to goes, then you will indeed suffer...However if we avoid any form of attachment then nobody should ever marry. Nobody should ever have children...Idk, I think that as humans attachment is a natural feeling...Can you really love without attachment? Is it not normal to be attached to those you consider close like your family or your pet? You may try to avoid suffering but one way or another suffering will find you..It's part of life...A natural process
@@dodoraptor8387 am glad you liked the video have pleasure always
do not have any feeling for anyone or anything , do not need to feel good or feel bad. nothing will affect u. live in peace
@David-x2c8l Easier said than done...Isn't this the equivalent of being a zombie? How can humans not feel emotions? That would be a very dull life.
yes agree. They are your family anyway ,children , it's natural to be attached to your family.
@@dodoraptor8387 - to reach enlightenment , that is the true way
Good advice!
A 😊 lesson, but worth hearing it!
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This is what true love is about.
Doing everything to help loved person to live free life.
Thanks for watching and understanding the message
Childhood is Golden age of all. Those who live with children are blessed.
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My mother came to live with me when she developed dementia. It was the right thing to do. But while she was fully capable before dementia she lead her full life in her own place. In the video it was pointed out that expecting our grown children to take care of us and to be their center of attention becomes a burden to them. As older people, we are coming in full cycle of our lives. We still have things to do in our last stage of life. Taking care of our children when they were young was part of that cycle but we have come in full circle and we need to continue growing and learning.
@@kava2021 Thanks for watching
It is every children’s duty to take care of their parents during their old age .. when parents do really took care of them by giving good health education good relative and ensure settled life with good wife and family and financial support sometimes ..
True, am glad you liked the video have pleasure always
@@HareKrishnaHareRama101 real love is expecting nothing back .
@@HareKrishnaHareRama101 well said!
Just the right topic at my perfect time. I will seek this direction 😊
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We can live close to our children, receive help from our children, and still cultivate detachment. Gratitude is every bit as powerful as detachment.
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One size does not fit all. We all have different characters and lives. I am an introvert and 92 years old.
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I too am 92 years old.
I live in Canada, while my children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren live in Europe.
Many years ago, when I decided it was time, for me to return to Canada, my children decided to remain in Europe.
I let go of their daily presence and the seeming need of other attachments.
As a result, as my life continued and, as one by one, my friends died, I learned to relish the freedom of my old age.
From now, until my death, I am as happy as I allow myself to be.
This video prioritizing detachment applies to a family without real love and with interest only in themsleves and their own lives. Families with love as the attachment connection do just fine. And people who place themselves and their spirituality first are beacons of light and love and wisdom for others. What it comes down to is alignment with real self which is love and light, and what is called here attachment is really joy and enjoyment of people aligned within themselves and heart, in love confidence self love and people aligned with others in the same state. Love binds in a natural divine connection and is not called attachment. Attachment stems from neediness not love.
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great video. Wouldn’t it be better to be an animal. No attachment. Just raise the kids to be adults and let them live their life.
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How profound. Just the spiritual medicine i need
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These videos are my go-to for positivity. Even on the toughest days, they help me find something good. So happy to be part of this community! 💛✨
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do not have any feeling for anyone or anything , do not need to feel good or feel bad. nothing will affect u. live in peace
Buddhism is not just a religion but also a meaningful philosophy of life. Thank you for the profound insights in this video!
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Very useful contained true meaning of life journey of relationships Not only with children as well the others.Thanks
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Thank you. Very helpful to me as a new Grandmother. 🙏🏼❤
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While expectation is part of our life accepting whatever come should be the walk of life. What you say?
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Yes You dont have to stay physically away from them and keep your mind away from attachments like many of us do in my couldture in India at the same time you help the young generation growand thrive help them with detached attachment
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We are social creatures that seek connection.
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