I stopped buying as much costume jewelry pieces and started saving and buying a few pieces of gold or silver instead - I wear those daily and don’t have to worry as much.
I've stopped buying clothes that "just fit". Now I really look for things that are well made, give me a nice figure, that are the right material and that have colors that suit me.
Such a great question! It got me thinking about what I don’t want rather than what I do. You mentioned most that I could think of: thrift, on-sale, I’ll-fitting, meh, uncomfortable. The only thing I might add is fast-fashion brands. Taking care of the environment is important to me.:)
I take a longer look at the quality of fabric and construction than I used to in the past. I tend to wear basic classic clothing in a limited color palette. I'd rather have fewer quality pieces than a bursting closet of things I'd rather not wear.
I recently came to the realization that I was buying to ensure I was covered in any scenario, ex. shoes for any conceivable situation, perfume for every possible mood… and what I was really trying to buy was a feeling of security and control.
Livia! I’ve been doing to exact same thing! Those specific items are always the ones I end up decluttering (sometimes without having even worn them). I do the same “planning” with other household things. I’ve been working hard the last few months to change these habits.
A morbid but funny thing I always think of is “wear your outfits as if you might die today and it will be your ghost outfit” 😂 who wants to be walking around as a ghost in their “worst” clothes? I want to haunt people in my most iconic, confident outfits thanks
My daughter was in a panic because she needed 3 outfits for 2 weddings in one weekend. I helped her shop her wardrobe. She had 2 gorgeous 50s/60s vintage dresses plus a vintage repro dress and a beautiful 1950s hat and various vintage handbags. In the end she only had to buy a pair of heels and they were inexpensive. She was one of the best dressed women at these weddings and looked stunning and got many compliments.
I stop buying "must-have" or "essential" pieces just because fashion influencers says so. If the piece doesn't suit my lifestyle there's no point because the cost per wear is not going to be in my favour. I still enjoy watching fashion videos to live vicariously through the creators but I don't have to own everything I like ✨
And the opposite is also true. If you like a piece that fits your life and your taste but isn’t super trendy who cares ? Like if it is useful in your life and you enjoy it but it instead of a trendy clothe that is gonna stay in your wardrobe because is somehow off. Plus vintage pièce that aren’t trendy can be pretty cheap or not super pricy for what it is 😊
I came to the conclusion, that I can take Screenshots at the things I like and look at them and appreachiate them, but I dont have to own them. Some things are art and inspiring, but there is no need for hanging in my Wardrobe.
It's funny you mentioned "bad undies," as recently I had to do a whole undergarment purge. After going braless for the entirety of my college life + pandemic lockdown, I realized that none of my bras fit- nor did they ever actually properly fit to begin with, it was all things my mom bought because that's what she felt my size should be. Now that I have my own money and able to make my own purchases, I got professionally fitted. Instead of 12 bras that didn't fit, I now have 4 good ones that do. It's definitely given me a huge confidence boost, and now I can wear certain tops and dresses without being overly self conscious.
@@sitapatel573 I’m 34G. At first I was also worried (mostly about wandering eyes) but found out that going braless actually helped strengthen my pec muscles underneath, keeping the rest of it perky. Plus in college, everyone was wearing hoodies and leggings so who could tell 😂
@@sitapatel573 saggy boobs from not wearing a bra is a huge myth.. not wearing a bra maintains muscle strength vs bras doing all the work and leading to loss of strength. It's also genetic or based on if you've breastfed or not. There's plenty of research on it you can find online but as a small chested person you absolutely don't need to wear a bra if you don't want to. I'm a C cup, haven't worn a bra in almost a decade outside of the occasional bralette and I'm doing just fine. Go braless if you want to
Something that everyone calls a "closet staple", but I will never buy again: t-shirts. I just don't like them!! I like cute frilly blouses, I like camisoles, but I DON'T like t-shirts. I don't need them. They need to stay away from me lol
Same. From all the closet staples I’ve been told, I don’t own any tshirts. I just can’t like it. I’ll buy basic colors with more interesting cuts that I can basically wear anywhere.
I don't buy anything with elastine in it. A surprising amount of clothes have this as it's a cheap way to get clothes to fit. BUT the elastine doesn't last! Then you end up with something that droops. Horrible! Just say no to elastine.
Same, i have hour glass body type and tshirt made my body looked like pregnant woman 😂 bcs it makes my waist non existent, and i hate tucking it in if i want to show my waist in tshirt
I know you love blazers Christina, but personally I knew they never worked for me! My job is very active and they have always felt stuffy for me. So I stopped buying them even after being listed in the “optimal” capsule wardrobe. Really goes to show how a capsule wardrobe is super individual!
I feel the same way, I have wanted love and look great in blazers for so long but I have broad shoulders and feel constricted in them. I found that although I love the look of layering but realized that it’s just not for me. I finally purged my last blazer a couple of weeks ago.
I had one blazer that I wore into the ground in college but then somehow have never really worn them again. With my style at the time it didn’t feel stuffy because I was wearing them with more casual clothes and over a hoodie even and felt like a menswear touch which is what I think I was going for, but these days I just don’t like dealing with collared shirts and blazers because I don’t want to iron anything after washing it 😅
I always struggled with blazers, as being slightly pear shaped they were not comfortable. Then from learning about French style, I learned that the secret is to wear blazers in a more relaxed and casual fashion. Team them with jeans, sneakers and white t shirts and push the sleeves up. I now get compliments on my blazers.
I shop a lot at tj maxx and it’s easy to fall into the “just because” trap. So I always ask myself, “would I buy this if it was at it’s original boutique?” It helps me look at the item from a more objective perspective.
Yes, I do this ani in charity shops too. I also go in TK Maxx (here in UK) with specific items and colours in mind and apply this to all my clothes shopping. The only items I might buy on impulse are dresses I love, because they are an outfit in themselves but it rare. Always try on or take items back/return that have disappointed you!
Unforgettable brilliant line: "I don't want to have to negotiate with my pain tolerance every time I wear these things." I did this with shoes, as in if the occasion were only 2-4 hours I could probably wear certain shoes but not if it were an all-day event. I just cleared out all the shoes that I never or rarely wore b/c they were uncomfortable and I was shocked how many pairs went out the door, and how long I'd been keeping them in my closet. Never again! Thank you!
In every video I find she has at least one unexpected phrase that sticks in my mind. Because it captures the essence of the experience. 'Negotiating with the pain factor' has to be one of them.
Thank you for often taking the time to point out that your viewers closet staples might be different from what you represent on your channel and giving advice with that in mind ❤️
I’ve really tried to stop buying meh…. I ask myself… “am I excited to walk out, right now, with this on?’ I also take pics in the change room to really see the fit and look. The thrill of the shop is strong- I find paying attention to how I’m ‘ feeling’, (that excitement)helps too. Acknowledge the feeling, enjoy the fun of trying things on, then walk away empty handed😅
I'm working on this! Sometimes I feel guilty, especially if it's a little boutique. Often they don't have what I go in for and so I end up trying on other meh things instead in hopes that something will substitute my want. Maybe I should just walk out then before I feel obligated to buy.
I often skip the fitting room and then don't love the item when it's home and feel that weird stuck-with-it feeling. Mind you I have a 5 year old and 5 month old to lug around..but still lol
I've been doing it for years! I ask myself, 'do I already have something similar'? The answer is invariably 'yes'. The other question is where will I wear it? If it's to an occasion that won't come up often I just stick to the thing I already bought for that type of occasion. As long as you buy non fad clothes it's fine. they last years! The other thing is keeping your weight stable. I don't like to lose a lot of weight or put it on because it costs money, it's a waste to change over your clothes. Easier to just eat a bit less and Do light eating at night. People keep eating the same quantities as they age and their metabolism slows. Just cut down on food and comfort eating. I allow myself a bit of dark chocolate a day. Hardly any sweets or sugary things. It's just a no-no. IMO.
A great tip I was given about essentials is buy them on different sizes because some days you feel like Medium-adjusted black tee-shirt and the next day you feel a little puffy and bloated and you'd rather wear it in Large. Also you might need an M option with a high-waist jeans for a fitted sharp look and an L with a legging for a more casual laid-back look.
I have also stopped buying things that don’t fit perfectly. I sew and I have started to learn pattern drafting so I am making all my own skirts now that literally fit perfect!
I dunno about meh items… I’ve bought a LOT of things that were meh in the store only to find within a few weeks that it was my new favourite item. Maybe it’s just a me-problem but I can’t always tell what I’ll love long-term in a store
I’m very down for the decision not to wear an underwire bra, but for reference, if your underwire bras were uncomfortable they weren’t fitted correctly. A well put together video. Thanks
Not necessarily. I’m a 36DDD and I was in my correct size but underwire bras were still uncomfortable. I got my same size in wireless and problem solved. Not everyone has the same body type/shape and I think that plays a part. Even with my shape, underwear can be uncomfortable if I’m in the correct size.
@@so.many.obstacles fit is more than just size, it’s also about having a pattern that works with your shape. You can pick up a bra that claims to be your size on the tag, but doesn’t fit right because the angle and pattern of the underwire doesn’t work with your body. Underwire isn’t a requirement, it doesn’t provide support, it just provides shape. If you don’t care about shaping, then don’t bother with underwire. That being said, underwire shouldn’t be uncomfortable. If it’s not comfortable, it’s either not fitted properly or it’s being worn improperly. It’s true about most clothes, if it’s not comfortable it’s probably not fitted for you properly. If your bra is uncomfortable it’s not the bra for you. I mostly made the above comment, because I felt the video implied that underwire bras are inherently uncomfortable.
I am SO glad that you DID buy the thrifted fringed leather jacket (and can't believe you don't wear it, lol!). And thank you for acknowledging that "staples" are unique to each individual. I've stopped buying shoes that are non-leather (ie made of plastic / PU leather). No matter how cute or funky the design, they always exhaust my feet horribly due to heat / sweat / blisters. It means paying more and being more selective but I've learned too many times now that sore uncomfortable feet are never worth it.
I spent the day trying on every item of clothing I owned and decluttering everything that didn’t make me look and feel amazing. Everything I kept is a similar color palette and can be mixed and matched now….but I’ve got the urge to shop already! Ugh this video was a great reminder that less is more!
@@SueRosalie this! Recently I met a +60 lady which impressed me with her looks. She has a nice minimal style, modern and elegant, and I realized she just uses the colors of her hair and eyes: pale browns, gray, greens and blues. She doesn't look boring though, because she have a plenty variety of textures!!
For years I thought I needed a blazer and I just needed to find the right one. Then I realised it was a style I would never wear as I felt restricted in them. Would love to have less meh clothes but I'm plus size so it's often a matter of finding something that fits even if I don't 100% like it.
That’s a really good point… I’m not plus size but Ive always been picky and these days even moreso, so as time has gone one it’s gotten more obvious to me how few options there r for plus size girlies. Def more than there used to be, but u guys just do not have the luxury of a billion and one options and getting to be picky the way the rest of us do 😕😕🤨
That is a special torment for me because I look SO GOOD in a nice blazer. But they just sit in my closet. I even had my mom try to give me multiple jackets that SEEMED more comfortable but still had a structured cut. But that's just not me. I like hoodies. And flannel. I guess now those "shackets" are trendy, so I guess everyone else has finally caught up to me 🤣😎.
@@erinlikesacornishpasty4703 Yeah, I've never found a blazer that I could wear for long periods. They feel heavy, make it hard to put your hands in the air and often too hot. They look good on influencers like Christina but on me, nope
For the wear once pieces, ej bridesmaid dress, you can always rent it! That way you will be perfect for the occasion but you won't be stuck with a occasion only piece :) there are boutiques where you can rent the whole thing, shoes, purse, dress, jewelry, etc
Maria, can we rent black tie dresses? I'm invited to a black tie wedding and I have nothing to wear. I'm a t-shirt, jeans and cardigan or hoodie girl, so black tie is way out of my comfort zone.
I think the "just because" thrift store items are the hardest to say no to. I am learning however, especially after deciding to donate some great wool and linen clothes I bought last year. I bought them because of their nice fiber content, not because I liked them or liked wearing them. Live and learn!
I find that I most often use pieces that are part of my go-to outfit formula. Like jeans + t-shirt. To spice things up I have started incorporating skirts into my wardrobe instead of jeans. It requires a little push to put them on in the morning but I'm generally very happy with the looks. Items that I stopped buying are mainly occasion-wear and no regrets there. I sometimes see a beautiful piece and stop to admire it and then say 'You're gorgeous but you're not for me' 🙂
I actually just did a huge closet clear out after feeling dissatisfied with my outfits and I've been having way more fun with my wardrobe since. I was surprised to realize getting rid of clothes made me happier, I have very few gaps to fill in my closet now!
I love thrifting but recently I’ve become a lot more intentional in only buying things that I love and or really good quality pieces . It’s amazing how much cashmere and silk is out there if you just look for it! Some other garments I can alter to fit if they are not perfect off the rack. Makes shopping fun like a treasure hunt with not much monetary investment 😁
Exactly! I almost exclusively shop second hand because of budget restrictions but I have such precise criteria for pieces I buy that I was able to build a really good cohesive wardrobe. Wools, linen and silk, all affordable. Not without trial and error, of course.
@@rekwa3860 I agree with you both, I recently purchased silk trousers for $3. I also snagged wool and silk blazers, all under $9 each. I do need to take them to the cleaners, but they don’t need to be laundered as often. I looked in one of the blazer pockets and found an article from 2012. The blazer was in great condition and I could tell that it was made well before 2012. Because I have classic pieces they will never go out of style and with good care I will have them for a long time.
Absolutely! I love cashmere and angora! Check out the men's shirts section of the thrift shop, often they have better quality flannel shirts and oversized sweaters in natural fibres.
What I really appreciate lately is that fashion should sustain and wear well. That means key pieces that have life across time. I wanna have pieces that I would wear my whole life if I can. I love natural tones and building style. It can be fun and simple. :3
What a fantastic video! I think it should be required viewing for everyone when they start to buy their own stuff! For me, the feeling of self-satisfaction/sense of sweet relief when I resist the “meh”/because it’s on sale/doesn’t quite feel right/etc purchases makes me just as giddy as a good, solid, exciting purchase. I heard once that most people are already wearing a capsule wardrobe, we just can’t see it because of all the other clothes covering/cluttering it up. That really struck a cord with me and helps me to really see and evaluate my clothes and be honest with myself. Again, a super video. Will save to rewatch and share. I’m a big fan from Nova Scotia ☺️🇨🇦.
Adding another comment - I am moving right now and packed up a great deal of clothes. I’ve been for 6 weeks been living with maybe a 1/16 of my wardrobe and man is it easier than ever to choose what to wear when I have 3 dresses, 2 blouses, 2 pairs of jeans, still a lot of athletic wear lol to choose from. Maybe something about having so many options to compare and contrast makes getting dressed harder.
I find that if i wanna experiment with trendy outfits or new style of shoes/clothes, i buy them secondhand for a few bucks and see if theyll fit into my lifestyle. If yes, then great, if not, i can resell it or at least i didnt spend a fortune on something that doesnt suite me. Also, thanks to fashion going in a cycle, i get my moms clothes that she no longer likes to wear. So i get some nice vintage and quility peaces for free. As far as not fitting items - pants in stores arent made for my body. I have 13 inch difference between my waist and hips, so i just buy pants that fit my hips and then tailor them myself. Same goes for thrifted items
TFS. My most worn items are the "meh" ones, mostly staple pieces that I find on sale. I might get the most excited for a leather bodycon dress but I wear my $17 Zara cargo pants or $9 Target shorts so often. But am definitely guilty of trying to fill a perceived gap in my wardrobe all the time.
I buy special occasion wear secondhand. Most has only been worn for a few hours and has been cleaned. I have paid very little for some gorgeous clothes and can usually sell them on for the same price I paid.
Nowadays I’m buying for a good feeling. I used to buy clothes only for being dressed properly 🫣. Now I’m 61 and finally have the guts to dress for a more powerfull look. I get lots of compliments and see eyes on me when I go shopping or something 💃🏼Now I’m proud of how I look for my age, without being too sexy but just being my shiny self 🤩
Clothes in my closet change over time bc I change. I dont mind that. I love revising my looks year to year. In my 60's I am having more fun than ever, surprisingly. I seem to be revisiting what I wore in the 1970's. Its so nice to feel relaxed about clothes now and to add color, texture and style.
Honestly this channel has really helped with my wardrobe. All the information is like “of course why didn’t I think of this” but it’s so hard when you’re wrapped up in social media and trying to aspire to dress exactly like someone else. Thank you for helping me refine my style and building a wardrobe I’m finally feeling confident about.
You are on point with every example. I feel like I learned these lessons the long and hard way (also the very expensive way). One of the biggest lessons for me was learning what I actually felt comfortable in and enjoyed wearing. Like a lot of women I was told if I have a specific shape and size then I should wear xyz. And while that advice is helpful as a starting point it doesn’t necessarily reflect what you actually enjoy wearing. So for a while my closet was full of items that I technically looked good in, but didn’t feel good in and over time I would just stop wearing them completely. It wasn’t until I started tracking what I wear every day and also kept track of the items I was decluttering that I was able to pinpoint what actually works for me, and also what doesn’t.
I’m at the point now where I know my style and love all the clothes in my closet. HOWEVER, I have too much because I keep buying similar pieces. I do love them, but I already have 10 things that look the same. When I try it on though, I’m like- oh I love this and it looks so good! I’m not sure how to walk away from those items!
Even my wedding dress was bought with an idea of wearing it later. As I don't like white dresses, I bought a pink one, made of comfortable fabric that will look good at many other occasions 🙂
I find that feelings about an item can change. A lot of time I tried on the clothes and they feel nice so I buy them. After a few wears/a few washes they don't look/feel like when they are new, so the feeling changes. I don't know how people can have a capsule wardrobe these days- feels like it is just never enough.
@@TVGIRL I find it has something to the fibre used and aftercare. I went through many "good quality" white basic t-shirts- many of them shrink and get winkles, especially cotton.
I can't remember what You-Tuber I got this from....but recently I have been saying to myself "Do I already have something that will function the same as **whatever I'm thinking of buying**". At first, I thought this would not be helpful advice because part of the fun of buying something is....the high of buying! But thinking through purchases in this was has been extremely helpful to me, surprising me greatly!
On the used bridesmaid dress front. I would always advise taking your dress to either a good taylor or dressmaker and then dying it a colour more suited to your tastes.
And y’all dont be ashamed to return an item. Even though I try it on in the fitting room, I still try it on at home. Look at other pieces in my closet. If it doesn’t fit with my other pieces, it goes back.
ohhh im so guilty of the "don't fit" one always told myself "i'll work out for a few month and it'll fit perfectly" or "i'll just get the pant legs tailored after" or "it'll fit after a few washes" but it never ends up fitting. and i never wear it
I did a no fast fashion challenge and that completely changed my shopping habits, when spending more on clothes I got to really think about it a lot if I really wanted it or not. The challenge is over now and I still buy some fast fashion pieces due to my overall budget. but the shopping process has stayed the same, and I absolutely love that. i simply don’t get that urge anymore and I have become very picky with that I buy. Recommend this to everyone! ☺️
Yes, if you have a properly planned French-style wardrobe you always have something to wear and no longer need to waste money on buying a one-off for a special occasion.
I still have my reception dress from my wedding- a midi length, one shoulder cream dress with macrame tassels on the hem. I wore it to a dinner party and that was one of my proudest moments that I got more use out of it
From now on, I vow to check garment tags, and no longer buy rayon or polyester garments. I didn't check the tag on a recently purchased blouse, and discovered it had shrunk after one washing in cold water. Another rayon/linen blend blouse I loved had also shrunk. I am going to stick to natural fabrics from now on.
I realised that I keep buying lots of things on ebay "just because they're cheaper than buying new" and I wanted to try things out. Now I'm learning that even when thrifting I need to have a strict wishlist and not endlessly scroll through ebay!
I totally agree with most of what you said. I sometimes buy clothes on sale but dont really like the fabric when i get them so I need to learn how to identify fabrics I like. I'm 49 yrs old woman always on a budget and live in the Caribbean and so I buy mostly on line which cost me to ship and return etc. I end up giving away alot so I waste money this way which is frustrating.
I dont know if it would be possible for you, but I paid a coach/seamstress to come help me get my wardrobe to Work - she asked me to find the things i love in my wardrobe and she told me that i, based om my favorite items, prefer woven fabric to knitted fabric. She also gave med tricks to making my not so good clothes fit Better. Can you guess what I actually own most of?
I love wearing maxi dresses in the summer months. In the autumn and winter I wear knitted dresses and when really cold I will wear jeans with knitted jumper. Very simple and when I want to buy something new I will first look in my wardrobe. I choose a dress that doesn't fit nice any more and make it into a sleeveless dress or skirt and wear it with a white t-shirt. I never want to change this wardrobe. I am very happy. I rather spend my money on organic food. Much love.
This was so helpful and so much truth! One question I ask myself when I'm shopping is this garment similar to something I already have but it's better quality and would last longer. Often times the answer is no. I have to spend enough time in my closet to know what I have so that when I'm shopping I remember. If I buy something new with tags that can be returned, I keep the tags on them try it on at home with different clothes that I already have to see if I can mix and match and use it multiple ways. If the answer is no, I bag it up and put it on my list of things to do to return it because I'm shameless about returning things if I haven't worn them.
Lately I’m struggling with the first thing you brought up, needing to get something or usually a list of things that are “missing” from my closet… especially in anticipation of the new season. I’d love to hear more about how having less items helps you avoid that. I’ve wanted to take a plunge and get rid of most of my wardrobe but I’m afraid I’ll regret it and then really need to replace things.
Having less clothing really gives us the opportunity to enjoy what you love. Also, less laundry! I don't believe there is a specific number of wardrobe items for all people. If I have 20 t-shirts, love wearing 'em and take care of them, that could be my number. Someone else might think that's too many tees, and that's fine with me, but they'd better stay away from mine! 😉 If I have to buy a staple piece, I find the one or 2 that I'll wear, and I'm done. Happy closet declutter!
Just get rid of say 5 pieces that you really only feel meh about and keep around just in case but in truth you would never actually wear it even if the “just in case” scenario happened.
@@AMcDub0708 I feel like I could get rid of 30 meh things.. and I actually have 2 black garbage bags full that I keep putting in the car and then taking back out, AND a whole bin of items that are out of season or meh but do wear occasionally. They just don't feel exciting. Maybe I am expecting too much of clothing, lol.
@@contempl8ive I don’t think you are expecting too much of clothing. Possibly keep the meh that you are using now but be on the lookout for better replacements. Ones that spark joy when you wear them.
My one caveat would be items that are too big. If I love something and it’s too big, I will have it altered. However, I have a tailor I have worked with to re-imagine items or tailor to fit for years. I buy off the rack and have most of my pieces tailored. My tailor is amazing and incredibly affordable.
Selling things second hand gave me some perspective on things I rarely wear or have too many of. It has helped me a little bit to walk away from those purchases.
I am constantly editing my closet... I don't follow trends, however, I do shop a lot at thrift stores.. too much , so I still need to work on that..... I have a closet full of blazers.. all thrifted ... And I like them... However, I'm a stay at home mom, I am a full time caregiver for my elderly mom and while I love fashion , clothes, shoes all of that, ( I don't want to get sloppy because I'm in my 50's...) I find I wear what is practical for my lifestyle...( that is not always stylish or necessarily pretty) .. So... I have a closet full of pretty dresses, shoes and winter wear, with no where to wear them and I live in a desert 🏜️ climate ... Sigh... Appreciate your content. It's thought provoking. Thanks.
No pressure to get rid of anything unless you feel like it’s a burden - you have a lot on your plate! If your joy is in your thrifted blazers, embrace them. Doesn’t matter how many. No pressure
LOL. OMG. Ballet flats are a staple for me. I have them in all the neutrals including (chanel style two-tone). As for sneakers, I actually only have one white pair because I consider that one, the trend piece. White sneakers have been trending a lot lately.
I haven’t bought a single item since I started watching you. I am just cycling through my “maybes” before I do a major closet cleanse. Thanks for all the tips! Once I am ready to build my wardrobe back up, I will refer to this video again lol
Thank you for this video. I stopped buying too many shoes some years ago. Now I am all about comfy shoes that are for various activities. Of course tennis shoes/snickers are different but I only have one pair for now. Nowadays I am all about quality pieces and I have been working on capsule wardrobe.
I used to buy nice shoes based on influencer recommendations and finally stopped after purchasing oxfords from Nisolo and not even being able to walk in them without horrible pain. I've decided to only purchase shoes in person, at the store so I can actually try them on and walk around a little bit first instead of dealing with expensive shoe clutter
I love my nisolo Oxfords but they run a half a size small. The other issue is the last the shoe is made on needs to be similar to your foot to be comfortable. I have a low arch but not flat. It could be your arch is higher.
I don’t have a problem getting rid of clothes but most of my closet is stuff that I’ve had since high school or pieces that can only be worn with a specific item. I’m now 24. I find myself wearing the same pieces over again that are just “meh”. Currently in the process of buying a whole new wardrobe with just staple pieces and more neutral colours that are timeless.
Hello Christina! Fellow Canadian Health Care Worker....I am a recently graduated Emergency doctor and I am moving cities/ provinces for my new job. I have accumulated so much stuff during my 9 years of training due to lack of time to properly plan and care for my wardrobe. Now that I have some time off and am forced to evaluate my items as I prep for the move, I find myself wanting to create an intentional and simplified life for myself going forward, and I feel that starts in the closet! Similar to you, I have massive student debt and I don't want to make the mistake of upgrading my lifestyle and feeling trapped in my high-paying job. I can relate to a lot of your story, down to the minimalist boyfriend (mine literally wears the same thing 90% of the time... and looks great!) Great work with your videos, thank you for the inspiration as I am literally going through all my items while I listen. It's helping me feel great about all the space I will have to enjoy the items I REALLY love.
My wardrobe chaos is rooted in the hate for my body shape. I'm a top heavy inverted triangular and there are so many pieces I'd love to wear but my body shape won't allow me. It will be a mammoth task to to rebuild it and I feel discouraged.
Since I buy less I find really difficult to find the perfect piece that I would certainly wear. This summer for exemple I returned a lot of on line purchases and I made three purchases that I regret…it a process not easy to change spending habits. Not easy for me! Thank’s for thé vidéo Christina always inspiring.
I’ve recently started doing research on what brands sell natural fiber good quality clothing and from now I’ll definitely invest in a few good quality pieces that will last years and maintain well.
I have stopped buying clothes which I am not sure won’t scratch me. My skin is highly sensitive sensory wise. I also gave up wired bras. I bought them because I was told that was “correct” but they never got worn. I do have some nice, (fairly supportive) bras which are wireless and comfy.
I really like the video. Very strong points so true. I've stop buying theft things I realised because it's so cheap I was buying and buying it was becoming an addiction so I've gone cold turkey and not tempted to go back.
i recently gained some weight and i don’t mind at all! made me give up some things i was on the fence about and figure out what i couldn’t live without and needed in my new size :3
Right there with you with IBTC! I have finally had to actually buy some regular bras because I’m almost 50 now and some type of support is actually now needed 😂. I got two good ones and kept a couple of the bralettes. I think these are all very good tips. I appreciate this video!
I feel good dressed all in black and I feel it never goes out of style and as long as I feel good in it, I love it!! I am already working on different outfit ideas with what I already have.
I have bought things for particular occasions- work occasions resulted in clothes I wore many many times- usually purchased on sale. clothes bought to wear to weddings hang in bags in my back closet. I bought several things from Ripskirt Hawaii for a vacation that was cancelled but I wear them ALL the time.
Doing good with the clothing but SHOES!!! This last Halloween I had to wear heels (1920's theme) only to find I cannot walk in them anymore. Hell I broke my pelvis in 2016 and stopped wearing the heels only to discover now I just "cant do more than kitten heels" anymore and a 2 hr limit at that, if cushioned. So revamping my shoe wardrobe. And a capsule video of shoes and accessories would be very interesting. I'm going to attempt a shoe capsule with every clothing capsule from now on (excluding workout, lotta mtn biking pairs, flats, not clip ins 🙄 .. but I do use them all according to terrain challenges here in the CA Sierra Nevada trails). Great video!
With me, it's definitely shoes. No more heels or sneakers, for sure. I have far too many that I hardly have a chance to wear because I have my usual go-to pairs. Also, I know what you mean about "occasion" pieces! That one hit hard. There's a red and black jumpsuit I wore once and a really pretty dark pink dress that was on sale - tags are still on. I'm so sure they'll come in handy during the summer months though (southern hemisphere girl, here). Your uncomfortable and then comfortable boots story was so relatable! I had that with a pair of heels and it was the same! Great video 💜 lots to think about! Best from SA 🇿🇦
I learned to be better at critical appraisal of pieces when in the change room. The item has to be on my list of things I need, and it has to be really flattering or else I know I will end up not wearing it. Imagine you are going to bump into some old classmates you haven't seen for many years. Would you feel good wearing this item?
So funny the other day I went to a fancy lunch with a couple of friends and I wore a simple v-neck linen blouse I love with-a pair of black slacks I love with pearls necklace and earrings. My husband said you look elegant wow and then one of the woman I was with said you really look elegant wow. I learned this from youtube simple but elegant yes I got it.❤️❤️❤️❤️🥰
This was a very interesting video it definitely made me think about how I spend my money and on what ,I have stopped buying just because a long time ago and I'm now putting a stop on what people say a women need in her closet 😀 and paying more attention on what I actually wear .
This is one of my favorite videos that you created! I will keep tuning in. I needed all of these advice. Im a shopaholic and I need to change my ways when it comes to shopping and money.
I stopped buying polyester fashion and it has cut the options of clothes by 80% but the remaining 20% are typically better constructed, higher quality items. They also go on sale a lot less, so I'm not making "just because it's on sale" purchases.
I tend to get obsessed about a certain style and buy similar items. A visual reminder really helps me not to do so. I look at the ones I already bought in my photo folder as a reminder “enough”. I started swimming daily. Since last year I have been obsessed with bathing suit and rash guard. Right now I have reached my “enough” moment. I still want more bathing suits but the impulse to get the next new one is kept at bay.
Such great tips! With the uncomfortable shoes part, I totally agree but when it comes to my Doc Marten Jadon boots.. Man I don’t think they’ll ever be comfortable but I like the way they look too much 😂 they just totally elevate any outfit!
I am new to your channel and enjoy your outlook. I am slowly taking on the mindset. I wore scrubs to work, now retired. I am trying to figure out my look. I try to buy quality at second chance sites.
I stopped buying (and almost stopped wearing) jeans and t-shirts. They are not my personal staples and they no longer fit into my lifestyle. I have replaced them with classic trousers and pants, as they give me more elegant and sophisticated look. I am extremely petite woman with babyface in my 30s, and plain jeans with t-shirts just make me look like a kid, which is not my goal. I curate my wardrobe so that my clothing supports me and works to my benefit. Thanks for mentioning underwear! I stopped wearing push-up bras long ago, but kept them for unknown reason. Got rid of them last year. As for shoes, it’s tricky. I buy comfortable shoes, but I still carry variety of band-aids in my purse, just in case. Sometimes my feet swell and even the comfiest shoes can give me blisters. I revise my wardrobe twice a year and it makes me happy and proud that my giveaway piles become smaller. It means that I’ve finally built the wardrobe I’m satisfied with and it’s almost free of clothes that I don’t like. During my wardrobe purge I ask myself these questions to assess the item: 1. Did I wear it last year? How many times? 2. Do I love how I look in it? 3. Does it work with my wardrobe staples? Am I able to make at least 5 wearable looks with it? 4. Does it express my personality? 5. Does it have the image I’m looking for? 6. Does it fit into my lifestyle? 7. How many other similar items do I have? Is this one the best of them all? It really helps me to realize whether I want to keep the item or not. It also helps to remember everything I have and to not shop doubles accidentally. And during the purge I usually combine and try out new looks, which saves me time later when I can put on one of these prepared looks and be sure it looks good. During wardrobe purges I only make some exceptions for special occasions outfits as they are extremely hard to find in my size. But I always make sure that everything that goes into my closet fits me well, is clean and in good condition.
The thrifted gems are my WEAKNESS. I’ve gotten into the habit of collecting cool vintagey 80s clothes because they’re like $5 but I never wear them regularly, if at all.
Same. It's tempting to buy a bag full of items that cost less in total than the actual item I want, repeatedly. I am considering stopping thrift/consignment/vintage shopping for a year to see how that affects my shopping habits.
I have a twofer! A dupe pair of trendy studded sandals that gave me several blisters the first time I wore them. Have never put them on since, yet they are still in my closet.🤦♀️
Addition to Uncomfortable Shoes Tip: check the insole length. It must be 5 mm longer than your feet. I made a huge mistake ordering shoes online by trusting the "size guide" where the length of feet appeared to be the insole length.. Honestly, the size charts are so confusing.. Like, RU: 37, EU: 38 (37.5?), UK: 5, US: 7... That's why knowing the factual length is the best option
Hi Christina, I'm a young adult who hasn't really had much experience with fashion. Do you have any tips on how to transition from casual to more professional looking or mature clothing? I'm on the short and skinny side so I feel like many of the pieces of professional wear do not fit that well and that I'm drowning in fabric which makes you look like you're a) trying too hard and b) small and childish. Also, I'm in college so I don't really have the money to splurge on expensive or tailored clothes. Love your vids and your style!
I had the same issue when I entered the professional world, as a petite. Ignore the stores that don't stock your size, and stick to brands that work for your body. For me, Dynamite has always worked for my body for professional clothes. I believe Christina is on the taller side, so she can pull off the oversized structured jackets, but I would stick to a more tailored look. Winners is also great if you have patience and time! Laura petites is another option for smaller women. If you like dresses, a good dress makes it easy to look professional. Ask the sales teams for help finding good items for you.
Keep things simple but interesting on your small figure. Basics, neutral tones, interesting small prints or details on your blouse/shirt. Add belts to keep a "clean" line and look for cropped jackets.
I’ve been really intentional about my purchases but today I went thrifting and bought a few items that are definitely not it… trying to be gracious with myself and learning why they aren’t good but I thought they would be
What are some clothes you’ve stopped buying?
I stopped buying as much costume jewelry pieces and started saving and buying a few pieces of gold or silver instead - I wear those daily and don’t have to worry as much.
I've stopped buying clothes that "just fit". Now I really look for things that are well made, give me a nice figure, that are the right material and that have colors that suit me.
Such a great question! It got me thinking about what I don’t want rather than what I do. You mentioned most that I could think of: thrift, on-sale, I’ll-fitting, meh, uncomfortable. The only thing I might add is fast-fashion brands. Taking care of the environment is important to me.:)
Definitely trendy tops. They’re never worn more than once and constantly change so it’s not worth it
I take a longer look at the quality of fabric and construction than I used to in the past. I tend to wear basic classic clothing in a limited color palette. I'd rather have fewer quality pieces than a bursting closet of things I'd rather not wear.
I recently came to the realization that I was buying to ensure I was covered in any scenario, ex. shoes for any conceivable situation, perfume for every possible mood… and what I was really trying to buy was a feeling of security and control.
I feel you 🥰 that’s a massive realization - congrats 🫶
I realized that I do the same with food many years ago.
Livia! I’ve been doing to exact same thing! Those specific items are always the ones I end up decluttering (sometimes without having even worn them).
I do the same “planning” with other household things.
I’ve been working hard the last few months to change these habits.
That just blew my mind. Never thought of it that way but I think I did the same too.
@@iamkateo me too!!!
A morbid but funny thing I always think of is “wear your outfits as if you might die today and it will be your ghost outfit” 😂 who wants to be walking around as a ghost in their “worst” clothes? I want to haunt people in my most iconic, confident outfits thanks
Lollll I mean that’s a good one!
This thought gives me a whole new fear of underwires.
My daughter was in a panic because she needed 3 outfits for 2 weddings in one weekend. I helped her shop her wardrobe. She had 2 gorgeous 50s/60s vintage dresses plus a vintage repro dress and a beautiful 1950s hat and various vintage handbags. In the end she only had to buy a pair of heels and they were inexpensive. She was one of the best dressed women at these weddings and looked stunning and got many compliments.
I stop buying "must-have" or "essential" pieces just because fashion influencers says so. If the piece doesn't suit my lifestyle there's no point because the cost per wear is not going to be in my favour. I still enjoy watching fashion videos to live vicariously through the creators but I don't have to own everything I like ✨
And the opposite is also true. If you like a piece that fits your life and your taste but isn’t super trendy who cares ? Like if it is useful in your life and you enjoy it but it instead of a trendy clothe that is gonna stay in your wardrobe because is somehow off.
Plus vintage pièce that aren’t trendy can be pretty cheap or not super pricy for what it is 😊
I came to the conclusion, that I can take Screenshots at the things I like and look at them and appreachiate them, but I dont have to own them. Some things are art and inspiring, but there is no need for hanging in my Wardrobe.
It's funny you mentioned "bad undies," as recently I had to do a whole undergarment purge. After going braless for the entirety of my college life + pandemic lockdown, I realized that none of my bras fit- nor did they ever actually properly fit to begin with, it was all things my mom bought because that's what she felt my size should be. Now that I have my own money and able to make my own purchases, I got professionally fitted. Instead of 12 bras that didn't fit, I now have 4 good ones that do. It's definitely given me a huge confidence boost, and now I can wear certain tops and dresses without being overly self conscious.
Woot! Cheers to that!
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I’m jealous that you could go bra free! I’m small chested (34A) and I’d worry my boob’s will drop to my knees if spent that time bra less 😂😩
@@sitapatel573 I’m 34G. At first I was also worried (mostly about wandering eyes) but found out that going braless actually helped strengthen my pec muscles underneath, keeping the rest of it perky. Plus in college, everyone was wearing hoodies and leggings so who could tell 😂
@@sitapatel573 saggy boobs from not wearing a bra is a huge myth.. not wearing a bra maintains muscle strength vs bras doing all the work and leading to loss of strength. It's also genetic or based on if you've breastfed or not. There's plenty of research on it you can find online but as a small chested person you absolutely don't need to wear a bra if you don't want to. I'm a C cup, haven't worn a bra in almost a decade outside of the occasional bralette and I'm doing just fine. Go braless if you want to
Something that everyone calls a "closet staple", but I will never buy again: t-shirts. I just don't like them!! I like cute frilly blouses, I like camisoles, but I DON'T like t-shirts. I don't need them. They need to stay away from me lol
Me too! Only just came to this realisation
ditto!! i am debating getting rid of most of my t shirts
Same. From all the closet staples I’ve been told, I don’t own any tshirts. I just can’t like it. I’ll buy basic colors with more interesting cuts that I can basically wear anywhere.
I don't buy anything with elastine in it. A surprising amount of clothes have this as it's a cheap way to get clothes to fit. BUT the elastine doesn't last! Then you end up with something that droops. Horrible! Just say no to elastine.
Same, i have hour glass body type and tshirt made my body looked like pregnant woman 😂 bcs it makes my waist non existent, and i hate tucking it in if i want to show my waist in tshirt
I know you love blazers Christina, but personally I knew they never worked for me! My job is very active and they have always felt stuffy for me. So I stopped buying them even after being listed in the “optimal” capsule wardrobe. Really goes to show how a capsule wardrobe is super individual!
Absolutely!! If you don’t like it, you don’t like it! No need to force it - and I love that you didn’t!
I feel the same way, I have wanted love and look great in blazers for so long but I have broad shoulders and feel constricted in them. I found that although I love the look of layering but realized that it’s just not for me.
I finally purged my last blazer a couple of weeks ago.
@@lilis969 yes! I agree. I have a couple that I keep for more formal things here and there but otherwise I prefer myself in a softer silhouette!
I had one blazer that I wore into the ground in college but then somehow have never really worn them again. With my style at the time it didn’t feel stuffy because I was wearing them with more casual clothes and over a hoodie even and felt like a menswear touch which is what I think I was going for, but these days I just don’t like dealing with collared shirts and blazers because I don’t want to iron anything after washing it 😅
I always struggled with blazers, as being slightly pear shaped they were not comfortable. Then from learning about French style, I learned that the secret is to wear blazers in a more relaxed and casual fashion. Team them with jeans, sneakers and white t shirts and push the sleeves up. I now get compliments on my blazers.
I shop a lot at tj maxx and it’s easy to fall into the “just because” trap. So I always ask myself, “would I buy this if it was at it’s original boutique?” It helps me look at the item from a more objective perspective.
Yes, I do this ani in charity shops too. I also go in TK Maxx (here in UK) with specific items and colours in mind and apply this to all my clothes shopping. The only items I might buy on impulse are dresses I love, because they are an outfit in themselves but it rare. Always try on or take items back/return that have disappointed you!
Good tip!
I’ve decided to stop buying at TJM! No more!
Unforgettable brilliant line: "I don't want to have to negotiate with my pain tolerance every time I wear these things." I did this with shoes, as in if the occasion were only 2-4 hours I could probably wear certain shoes but not if it were an all-day event. I just cleared out all the shoes that I never or rarely wore b/c they were uncomfortable and I was shocked how many pairs went out the door, and how long I'd been keeping them in my closet. Never again! Thank you!
In every video I find she has at least one unexpected phrase that sticks in my mind.
Because it captures the essence of the experience.
'Negotiating with the pain factor' has to be one of them.
I really don’t think men contemplate how many hours they can endure wearing ANY shoes at any event. Why do women?
Thank you for often taking the time to point out that your viewers closet staples might be different from what you represent on your channel and giving advice with that in mind ❤️
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I’ve really tried to stop buying meh…. I ask myself… “am I excited to walk out, right now, with this on?’ I also take pics in the change room to really see the fit and look. The thrill of the shop is strong- I find paying attention to how I’m ‘ feeling’, (that excitement)helps too. Acknowledge the feeling, enjoy the fun of trying things on, then walk away empty handed😅
I'm working on this! Sometimes I feel guilty, especially if it's a little boutique. Often they don't have what I go in for and so I end up trying on other meh things instead in hopes that something will substitute my want. Maybe I should just walk out then before I feel obligated to buy.
I often skip the fitting room and then don't love the item when it's home and feel that weird stuck-with-it feeling. Mind you I have a 5 year old and 5 month old to lug around..but still lol
I've been doing it for years! I ask myself, 'do I already have something similar'? The answer is invariably 'yes'. The other question is where will I wear it? If it's to an occasion that won't come up often I just stick to the thing I already bought for that type of occasion. As long as you buy non fad clothes it's fine. they last years!
The other thing is keeping your weight stable. I don't like to lose a lot of weight or put it on because it costs money, it's a waste to change over your clothes. Easier to just eat a bit less and Do light eating at night. People keep eating the same quantities as they age and their metabolism slows. Just cut down on food and comfort eating. I allow myself a bit of dark chocolate a day. Hardly any sweets or sugary things. It's just a no-no. IMO.
A great tip I was given about essentials is buy them on different sizes because some days you feel like Medium-adjusted black tee-shirt and the next day you feel a little puffy and bloated and you'd rather wear it in Large. Also you might need an M option with a high-waist jeans for a fitted sharp look and an L with a legging for a more casual laid-back look.
I have also stopped buying things that don’t fit perfectly. I sew and I have started to learn pattern drafting so I am making all my own skirts now that literally fit perfect!
Totally smart! Also you can buy bargains and alter them yourself. But only good quality fabric. It's really enjoyable to do that.
I dunno about meh items… I’ve bought a LOT of things that were meh in the store only to find within a few weeks that it was my new favourite item. Maybe it’s just a me-problem but I can’t always tell what I’ll love long-term in a store
I just arrived from a thrifting fair , completely happy empty handed 🙌🏻 I finally feel I don’t need anything more to be added for now.
I’m very down for the decision not to wear an underwire bra, but for reference, if your underwire bras were uncomfortable they weren’t fitted correctly. A well put together video. Thanks
My bras are underwire and I honestly can’t even tell I have them on. I’m average size, 38B.
Not necessarily. I’m a 36DDD and I was in my correct size but underwire bras were still uncomfortable. I got my same size in wireless and problem solved.
Not everyone has the same body type/shape and I think that plays a part. Even with my shape, underwear can be uncomfortable if I’m in the correct size.
@@so.many.obstacles fit is more than just size, it’s also about having a pattern that works with your shape. You can pick up a bra that claims to be your size on the tag, but doesn’t fit right because the angle and pattern of the underwire doesn’t work with your body. Underwire isn’t a requirement, it doesn’t provide support, it just provides shape. If you don’t care about shaping, then don’t bother with underwire. That being said, underwire shouldn’t be uncomfortable. If it’s not comfortable, it’s either not fitted properly or it’s being worn improperly. It’s true about most clothes, if it’s not comfortable it’s probably not fitted for you properly. If your bra is uncomfortable it’s not the bra for you. I mostly made the above comment, because I felt the video implied that underwire bras are inherently uncomfortable.
They are uncomfortable if you’re a 34F!
I'm a 70E and my bras don't feel uncomfortable. But I only wear balconette bras, other shapes feel uncomfortable on me
Buying trends intentionally works much better than just buying to buy and I had to learn that the hard way. Great video ☺️
Me too! Totally agree!
I am SO glad that you DID buy the thrifted fringed leather jacket (and can't believe you don't wear it, lol!). And thank you for acknowledging that "staples" are unique to each individual. I've stopped buying shoes that are non-leather (ie made of plastic / PU leather). No matter how cute or funky the design, they always exhaust my feet horribly due to heat / sweat / blisters. It means paying more and being more selective but I've learned too many times now that sore uncomfortable feet are never worth it.
I spent the day trying on every item of clothing I owned and decluttering everything that didn’t make me look and feel amazing. Everything I kept is a similar color palette and can be mixed and matched now….but I’ve got the urge to shop already! Ugh this video was a great reminder that less is more!
yep if you stick to a simple colour scheme everything goes with everything else so you don't need as many clothes.
@@SueRosalie this! Recently I met a +60 lady which impressed me with her looks. She has a nice minimal style, modern and elegant, and I realized she just uses the colors of her hair and eyes: pale browns, gray, greens and blues. She doesn't look boring though, because she have a plenty variety of textures!!
For years I thought I needed a blazer and I just needed to find the right one. Then I realised it was a style I would never wear as I felt restricted in them. Would love to have less meh clothes but I'm plus size so it's often a matter of finding something that fits even if I don't 100% like it.
That’s a really good point… I’m not plus size but Ive always been picky and these days even moreso, so as time has gone one it’s gotten more obvious to me how few options there r for plus size girlies. Def more than there used to be, but u guys just do not have the luxury of a billion and one options and getting to be picky the way the rest of us do 😕😕🤨
That is a special torment for me because I look SO GOOD in a nice blazer. But they just sit in my closet. I even had my mom try to give me multiple jackets that SEEMED more comfortable but still had a structured cut. But that's just not me. I like hoodies. And flannel. I guess now those "shackets" are trendy, so I guess everyone else has finally caught up to me 🤣😎.
@@erinlikesacornishpasty4703 Yeah, I've never found a blazer that I could wear for long periods. They feel heavy, make it hard to put your hands in the air and often too hot. They look good on influencers like Christina but on me, nope
@@mckenzielangendorf1437 Yeah - a lot of it I don't buy as it's synthetic materials so limits choice further. Good plus size can be expensive
@@TheEmzies For some reason I picture you trying to throw your hands in the air with a boxer on at a concert 😂
For the wear once pieces, ej bridesmaid dress, you can always rent it! That way you will be perfect for the occasion but you won't be stuck with a occasion only piece :) there are boutiques where you can rent the whole thing, shoes, purse, dress, jewelry, etc
Maria, can we rent black tie dresses? I'm invited to a black tie wedding and I have nothing to wear. I'm a t-shirt, jeans and cardigan or hoodie girl, so black tie is way out of my comfort zone.
I think the "just because" thrift store items are the hardest to say no to. I am learning however, especially after deciding to donate some great wool and linen clothes I bought last year. I bought them because of their nice fiber content, not because I liked them or liked wearing them. Live and learn!
I find that I most often use pieces that are part of my go-to outfit formula. Like jeans + t-shirt. To spice things up I have started incorporating skirts into my wardrobe instead of jeans. It requires a little push to put them on in the morning but I'm generally very happy with the looks. Items that I stopped buying are mainly occasion-wear and no regrets there. I sometimes see a beautiful piece and stop to admire it and then say 'You're gorgeous but you're not for me' 🙂
I actually just did a huge closet clear out after feeling dissatisfied with my outfits and I've been having way more fun with my wardrobe since. I was surprised to realize getting rid of clothes made me happier, I have very few gaps to fill in my closet now!
I love thrifting but recently I’ve become a lot more intentional in only buying things that I love and or really good quality pieces . It’s amazing how much cashmere and silk is out there if you just look for it! Some other garments I can alter to fit if they are not perfect off the rack. Makes shopping fun like a treasure hunt with not much monetary investment 😁
Exactly!
I almost exclusively shop second hand because of budget restrictions but I have such precise criteria for pieces I buy that I was able to build a really good cohesive wardrobe. Wools, linen and silk, all affordable. Not without trial and error, of course.
@@rekwa3860 I agree with you both, I recently purchased silk trousers for $3. I also snagged wool and silk blazers, all under $9 each. I do need to take them to the cleaners, but they don’t need to be laundered as often. I looked in one of the blazer pockets and found an article from 2012. The blazer was in great condition and I could tell that it was made well before 2012. Because I have classic pieces they will never go out of style and with good care I will have them for a long time.
Absolutely! I love cashmere and angora! Check out the men's shirts section of the thrift shop, often they have better quality flannel shirts and oversized sweaters in natural fibres.
What I really appreciate lately is that fashion should sustain and wear well. That means key pieces that have life across time. I wanna have pieces that I would wear my whole life if I can. I love natural tones and building style. It can be fun and simple. :3
What a fantastic video! I think it should be required viewing for everyone when they start to buy their own stuff!
For me, the feeling of self-satisfaction/sense of sweet relief when I resist the “meh”/because it’s on sale/doesn’t quite feel right/etc purchases makes me just as giddy as a good, solid, exciting purchase.
I heard once that most people are already wearing a capsule wardrobe, we just can’t see it because of all the other clothes covering/cluttering it up. That really struck a cord with me and helps me to really see and evaluate my clothes and be honest with myself.
Again, a super video. Will save to rewatch and share. I’m a big fan from Nova Scotia ☺️🇨🇦.
So true! We wear 20% of our clothes 80% of the time - that’s a way to look at our little “capsules” for sure!
Adding another comment - I am moving right now and packed up a great deal of clothes. I’ve been for 6 weeks been living with maybe a 1/16 of my wardrobe and man is it easier than ever to choose what to wear when I have 3 dresses, 2 blouses, 2 pairs of jeans, still a lot of athletic wear lol to choose from. Maybe something about having so many options to compare and contrast makes getting dressed harder.
yes! this is psychologically true. decision fatigue!
I find that if i wanna experiment with trendy outfits or new style of shoes/clothes, i buy them secondhand for a few bucks and see if theyll fit into my lifestyle. If yes, then great, if not, i can resell it or at least i didnt spend a fortune on something that doesnt suite me. Also, thanks to fashion going in a cycle, i get my moms clothes that she no longer likes to wear. So i get some nice vintage and quility peaces for free.
As far as not fitting items - pants in stores arent made for my body. I have 13 inch difference between my waist and hips, so i just buy pants that fit my hips and then tailor them myself. Same goes for thrifted items
TFS. My most worn items are the "meh" ones, mostly staple pieces that I find on sale. I might get the most excited for a leather bodycon dress but I wear my $17 Zara cargo pants or $9 Target shorts so often. But am definitely guilty of trying to fill a perceived gap in my wardrobe all the time.
I buy special occasion wear secondhand. Most has only been worn for a few hours and has been cleaned. I have paid very little for some gorgeous clothes and can usually sell them on for the same price I paid.
Nowadays I’m buying for a good feeling. I used to buy clothes only for being dressed properly 🫣. Now I’m 61 and finally have the guts to dress for a more powerfull look. I get lots of compliments and see eyes on me when I go shopping or something 💃🏼Now I’m proud of how I look for my age, without being too sexy but just being my shiny self 🤩
Ballet flats are a classic, especially here in Europe, they have been around for decades. I would never describe them as a trend piece.
They’re “trending” currently, but I would agree
I have been wearing black ballet flats in one form or another since the late 1980s
Clothes in my closet change over time bc I change. I dont mind that. I love revising my looks year to year. In my 60's I am having more fun than ever, surprisingly. I seem to be revisiting what I wore in the 1970's. Its so nice to feel relaxed about clothes now and to add color, texture and style.
Honestly this channel has really helped with my wardrobe. All the information is like “of course why didn’t I think of this” but it’s so hard when you’re wrapped up in social media and trying to aspire to dress exactly like someone else. Thank you for helping me refine my style and building a wardrobe I’m finally feeling confident about.
You are on point with every example. I feel like I learned these lessons the long and hard way (also the very expensive way).
One of the biggest lessons for me was learning what I actually felt comfortable in and enjoyed wearing. Like a lot of women I was told if I have a specific shape and size then I should wear xyz. And while that advice is helpful as a starting point it doesn’t necessarily reflect what you actually enjoy wearing. So for a while my closet was full of items that I technically looked good in, but didn’t feel good in and over time I would just stop wearing them completely. It wasn’t until I started tracking what I wear every day and also kept track of the items I was decluttering that I was able to pinpoint what actually works for me, and also what doesn’t.
💯 well said! I agree a helpful starting point but not a box we need to enclose ourselves into for sure
I’m at the point now where I know my style and love all the clothes in my closet. HOWEVER, I have too much because I keep buying similar pieces. I do love them, but I already have 10 things that look the same. When I try it on though, I’m like- oh I love this and it looks so good! I’m not sure how to walk away from those items!
I would store them and cycle through them!
SAME!
Even my wedding dress was bought with an idea of wearing it later. As I don't like white dresses, I bought a pink one, made of comfortable fabric that will look good at many other occasions 🙂
I find that feelings about an item can change. A lot of time I tried on the clothes and they feel nice so I buy them. After a few wears/a few washes they don't look/feel like when they are new, so the feeling changes. I don't know how people can have a capsule wardrobe these days- feels like it is just never enough.
Some of that is quality, stuff just isn’t good quality or hold up like it used too…
@@TVGIRL I find it has something to the fibre used and aftercare. I went through many "good quality" white basic t-shirts- many of them shrink and get winkles, especially cotton.
I can't remember what You-Tuber I got this from....but recently I have been saying to myself "Do I already have something that will function the same as **whatever I'm thinking of buying**". At first, I thought this would not be helpful advice because part of the fun of buying something is....the high of buying! But thinking through purchases in this was has been extremely helpful to me, surprising me greatly!
On the used bridesmaid dress front. I would always advise taking your dress to either a good taylor or dressmaker and then dying it a colour more suited to your tastes.
And y’all dont be ashamed to return an item. Even though I try it on in the fitting room, I still try it on at home. Look at other pieces in my closet. If it doesn’t fit with my other pieces, it goes back.
Yes!!! Thank you!
ohhh im so guilty of the "don't fit" one
always told myself "i'll work out for a few month and it'll fit perfectly" or "i'll just get the pant legs tailored after" or "it'll fit after a few washes"
but it never ends up fitting. and i never wear it
I did a no fast fashion challenge and that completely changed my shopping habits, when spending more on clothes I got to really think about it a lot if I really wanted it or not. The challenge is over now and I still buy some fast fashion pieces due to my overall budget. but the shopping process has stayed the same, and I absolutely love that. i simply don’t get that urge anymore and I have become very picky with that I buy. Recommend this to everyone! ☺️
I can relate to the “meh” you talked about. I have too much of that. I need to start calling myself out for that when shopping.
Yes, if you have a properly planned French-style wardrobe you always have something to wear and no longer need to waste money on buying a one-off for a special occasion.
I still have my reception dress from my wedding- a midi length, one shoulder cream dress with macrame tassels on the hem. I wore it to a dinner party and that was one of my proudest moments that I got more use out of it
From now on, I vow to check garment tags, and no longer buy rayon or polyester garments. I didn't check the tag on a recently purchased blouse, and discovered it had shrunk after one washing in cold water. Another rayon/linen blend blouse I loved had also shrunk. I am going to stick to natural fabrics from now on.
I realised that I keep buying lots of things on ebay "just because they're cheaper than buying new" and I wanted to try things out. Now I'm learning that even when thrifting I need to have a strict wishlist and not endlessly scroll through ebay!
I totally agree with most of what you said. I sometimes buy clothes on sale but dont really like the fabric when i get them so I need to learn how to identify fabrics I like. I'm 49 yrs old woman always on a budget and live in the Caribbean and so I buy mostly on line which cost me to ship and return etc. I end up giving away alot so I waste money this way which is frustrating.
I dont know if it would be possible for you, but I paid a coach/seamstress to come help me get my wardrobe to Work - she asked me to find the things i love in my wardrobe and she told me that i, based om my favorite items, prefer woven fabric to knitted fabric. She also gave med tricks to making my not so good clothes fit Better.
Can you guess what I actually own most of?
Personally, I started avoiding everything polyester…
i am also obsessed with looking at fabric composition. i prefer cotton, linen, and silk and am shocked how much designer clothing contains polyester
I love wearing maxi dresses in the summer months. In the autumn and winter I wear knitted dresses and when really cold I will wear jeans with knitted jumper. Very simple and when I want to buy something new I will first look in my wardrobe. I choose a dress that doesn't fit nice any more and make it into a sleeveless dress or skirt and wear it with a white t-shirt. I never want to change this wardrobe. I am very happy. I rather spend my money on organic food. Much love.
I love the decluttering, tidying, minimizing, finances, budgeting theme so much
This was so helpful and so much truth! One question I ask myself when I'm shopping is this garment similar to something I already have but it's better quality and would last longer. Often times the answer is no. I have to spend enough time in my closet to know what I have so that when I'm shopping I remember. If I buy something new with tags that can be returned, I keep the tags on them try it on at home with different clothes that I already have to see if I can mix and match and use it multiple ways. If the answer is no, I bag it up and put it on my list of things to do to return it because I'm shameless about returning things if I haven't worn them.
Lately I’m struggling with the first thing you brought up, needing to get something or usually a list of things that are “missing” from my closet… especially in anticipation of the new season. I’d love to hear more about how having less items helps you avoid that. I’ve wanted to take a plunge and get rid of most of my wardrobe but I’m afraid I’ll regret it and then really need to replace things.
Having less clothing really gives us the opportunity to enjoy what you love. Also, less laundry! I don't believe there is a specific number of wardrobe items for all people. If I have 20 t-shirts, love wearing 'em and take care of them, that could be my number. Someone else might think that's too many tees, and that's fine with me, but they'd better stay away from mine! 😉 If I have to buy a staple piece, I find the one or 2 that I'll wear, and I'm done. Happy closet declutter!
Just get rid of say 5 pieces that you really only feel meh about and keep around just in case but in truth you would never actually wear it even if the “just in case” scenario happened.
@@elizabethhannah6836 thanks for sharing your permission to be oneself. It helps to have some rules and then break some too! :)
@@AMcDub0708 I feel like I could get rid of 30 meh things.. and I actually have 2 black garbage bags full that I keep putting in the car and then taking back out, AND a whole bin of items that are out of season or meh but do wear occasionally. They just don't feel exciting. Maybe I am expecting too much of clothing, lol.
@@contempl8ive I don’t think you are expecting too much of clothing. Possibly keep the meh that you are using now but be on the lookout for better replacements. Ones that spark joy when you wear them.
Im stopping purchasing final sale items. Yes, they are HEAVILY discounted. most times I have buyers remorse and then stuck.
My one caveat would be items that are too big. If I love something and it’s too big, I will have it altered. However, I have a tailor I have worked with to re-imagine items or tailor to fit for years. I buy off the rack and have most of my pieces tailored. My tailor is amazing and incredibly affordable.
Selling things second hand gave me some perspective on things I rarely wear or have too many of. It has helped me a little bit to walk away from those purchases.
I do the same thing. It takes a lot of effort to sell your clothes. It makes me pause before I buy anything now.
I am constantly editing my closet... I don't follow trends, however, I do shop a lot at thrift stores.. too much , so I still need to work on that..... I have a closet full of blazers.. all thrifted ... And I like them... However, I'm a stay at home mom, I am a full time caregiver for my elderly mom and while I love fashion , clothes, shoes all of that, ( I don't want to get sloppy because I'm in my 50's...) I find I wear what is practical for my lifestyle...( that is not always stylish or necessarily pretty) .. So... I have a closet full of pretty dresses, shoes and winter wear, with no where to wear them and I live in a desert 🏜️ climate ... Sigh... Appreciate your content. It's thought provoking. Thanks.
No pressure to get rid of anything unless you feel like it’s a burden - you have a lot on your plate! If your joy is in your thrifted blazers, embrace them. Doesn’t matter how many. No pressure
We are so similar. I have a closet full of fun, cute clothes but I'm retired and pretty much stay home all day. LOL!
Video idea: how to find *your* wardrobe staples, with a couple examples from other drastically different styles! Maybe a fun collab!
LOL. OMG. Ballet flats are a staple for me. I have them in all the neutrals including (chanel style two-tone). As for sneakers, I actually only have one white pair because I consider that one, the trend piece. White sneakers have been trending a lot lately.
I haven’t bought a single item since I started watching you. I am just cycling through my “maybes” before I do a major closet cleanse.
Thanks for all the tips! Once I am ready to build my wardrobe back up, I will refer to this video again lol
I seriously need to play this video every day, I’m that person! Thanks for the awesome video and pep talk.
Thank you for this video. I stopped buying too many shoes some years ago. Now I am all about comfy shoes that are for various activities. Of course tennis shoes/snickers are different but I only have one pair for now. Nowadays I am all about quality pieces and I have been working on capsule wardrobe.
I used to buy nice shoes based on influencer recommendations and finally stopped after purchasing oxfords from Nisolo and not even being able to walk in them without horrible pain. I've decided to only purchase shoes in person, at the store so I can actually try them on and walk around a little bit first instead of dealing with expensive shoe clutter
I love my nisolo Oxfords but they run a half a size small. The other issue is the last the shoe is made on needs to be similar to your foot to be comfortable. I have a low arch but not flat. It could be your arch is higher.
Me… who purchased 4 *just because thrifted* pieces yesterday 😅😅😅
I don’t have a problem getting rid of clothes but most of my closet is stuff that I’ve had since high school or pieces that can only be worn with a specific item. I’m now 24. I find myself wearing the same pieces over again that are just “meh”. Currently in the process of buying a whole new wardrobe with just staple pieces and more neutral colours that are timeless.
Hello Christina! Fellow Canadian Health Care Worker....I am a recently graduated Emergency doctor and I am moving cities/ provinces for my new job. I have accumulated so much stuff during my 9 years of training due to lack of time to properly plan and care for my wardrobe. Now that I have some time off and am forced to evaluate my items as I prep for the move, I find myself wanting to create an intentional and simplified life for myself going forward, and I feel that starts in the closet! Similar to you, I have massive student debt and I don't want to make the mistake of upgrading my lifestyle and feeling trapped in my high-paying job. I can relate to a lot of your story, down to the minimalist boyfriend (mine literally wears the same thing 90% of the time... and looks great!)
Great work with your videos, thank you for the inspiration as I am literally going through all my items while I listen. It's helping me feel great about all the space I will have to enjoy the items I REALLY love.
My wardrobe chaos is rooted in the hate for my body shape. I'm a top heavy inverted triangular and there are so many pieces I'd love to wear but my body shape won't allow me. It will be a mammoth task to to rebuild it and I feel discouraged.
Since I buy less I find really difficult to find the perfect piece that I would certainly wear. This summer for exemple I returned a lot of on line purchases and I made three purchases that I regret…it a process not easy to change spending habits. Not easy for me! Thank’s for thé vidéo Christina always inspiring.
I’ve recently started doing research on what brands sell natural fiber good quality clothing and from now I’ll definitely invest in a few good quality pieces that will last years and maintain well.
I have stopped buying clothes which I am not sure won’t scratch me. My skin is highly sensitive sensory wise. I also gave up wired bras. I bought them because I was told that was “correct” but they never got worn. I do have some nice, (fairly supportive) bras which are wireless and comfy.
I really like the video. Very strong points so true. I've stop buying theft things I realised because it's so cheap I was buying and buying it was becoming an addiction so I've gone cold turkey and not tempted to go back.
i recently gained some weight and i don’t mind at all! made me give up some things i was on the fence about and figure out what i couldn’t live without and needed in my new size :3
Right there with you with IBTC! I have finally had to actually buy some regular bras because I’m almost 50 now and some type of support is actually now needed 😂. I got two good ones and kept a couple of the bralettes. I think these are all very good tips. I appreciate this video!
I feel good dressed all in black and I feel it never goes out of style and as long as I feel good in it, I love it!! I am already working on different outfit ideas with what I already have.
I love that you make your points so individual. Not like, you need 3 white tees and 2 jeans and on and on and on🤩😍
I have bought things for particular occasions- work occasions resulted in clothes I wore many many times- usually purchased on sale. clothes bought to wear to weddings hang in bags in my back closet. I bought several things from Ripskirt Hawaii for a vacation that was cancelled but I wear them ALL the time.
Doing good with the clothing but SHOES!!!
This last Halloween I had to wear heels (1920's theme) only to find I cannot walk in them anymore. Hell I broke my pelvis in 2016 and stopped wearing the heels only to discover now I just "cant do more than kitten heels" anymore and a 2 hr limit at that, if cushioned.
So revamping my shoe wardrobe. And a capsule video of shoes and accessories would be very interesting. I'm going to attempt a shoe capsule with every clothing capsule from now on (excluding workout, lotta mtn biking pairs, flats, not clip ins 🙄 .. but I do use them all according to terrain challenges here in the CA Sierra Nevada trails).
Great video!
With me, it's definitely shoes. No more heels or sneakers, for sure. I have far too many that I hardly have a chance to wear because I have my usual go-to pairs. Also, I know what you mean about "occasion" pieces! That one hit hard. There's a red and black jumpsuit I wore once and a really pretty dark pink dress that was on sale - tags are still on. I'm so sure they'll come in handy during the summer months though (southern hemisphere girl, here). Your uncomfortable and then comfortable boots story was so relatable! I had that with a pair of heels and it was the same! Great video 💜 lots to think about! Best from SA 🇿🇦
I live in a humid climate and synthetic materials are a no-go! Maybe in the winter and spring, but that’s it.
JE SUIS UN ANANAS!!!
It made my heart so happy to see Telefrançais referenced in this video lol.
I learned to be better at critical appraisal of pieces when in the change room. The item has to be on my list of things I need, and it has to be really flattering or else I know I will end up not wearing it. Imagine you are going to bump into some old classmates you haven't seen for many years. Would you feel good wearing this item?
So funny the other day I went to a fancy lunch with a couple of friends and I wore a simple v-neck linen blouse I love with-a pair of black slacks I love with pearls necklace and earrings. My husband said you look elegant wow and then one of the woman I was with said you really look elegant wow. I learned this from youtube simple but elegant yes I got it.❤️❤️❤️❤️🥰
This was a very interesting video it definitely made me think about how I spend my money and on what ,I have stopped buying just because a long time ago and I'm now putting a stop on what people say a women need in her closet 😀 and paying more attention on what I actually wear .
This is one of my favorite videos that you created! I will keep tuning in. I needed all of these advice. Im a shopaholic and I need to change my ways when it comes to shopping and money.
I stopped buying polyester fashion and it has cut the options of clothes by 80% but the remaining 20% are typically better constructed, higher quality items. They also go on sale a lot less, so I'm not making "just because it's on sale" purchases.
Yessss!!! This has been huge for me. Sticking to wool, cotton, cashmere, suede etc., has made the biggest difference to my wardrobe.
I tend to get obsessed about a certain style and buy similar items. A visual reminder really helps me not to do so. I look at the ones I already bought in my photo folder as a reminder “enough”. I started swimming daily. Since last year I have been obsessed with bathing suit and rash guard. Right now I have reached my “enough” moment. I still want more bathing suits but the impulse to get the next new one is kept at bay.
You : what else do we talk about here?
Me: money, budgeting, self care. Lol 💚
Such great tips! With the uncomfortable shoes part, I totally agree but when it comes to my Doc Marten Jadon boots.. Man I don’t think they’ll ever be comfortable but I like the way they look too much 😂 they just totally elevate any outfit!
I am new to your channel and enjoy your outlook. I am slowly taking on the mindset. I wore scrubs to work, now retired. I am trying to figure out my look. I try to buy quality at second chance sites.
I stopped buying (and almost stopped wearing) jeans and t-shirts. They are not my personal staples and they no longer fit into my lifestyle. I have replaced them with classic trousers and pants, as they give me more elegant and sophisticated look. I am extremely petite woman with babyface in my 30s, and plain jeans with t-shirts just make me look like a kid, which is not my goal. I curate my wardrobe so that my clothing supports me and works to my benefit.
Thanks for mentioning underwear! I stopped wearing push-up bras long ago, but kept them for unknown reason. Got rid of them last year.
As for shoes, it’s tricky. I buy comfortable shoes, but I still carry variety of band-aids in my purse, just in case. Sometimes my feet swell and even the comfiest shoes can give me blisters.
I revise my wardrobe twice a year and it makes me happy and proud that my giveaway piles become smaller. It means that I’ve finally built the wardrobe I’m satisfied with and it’s almost free of clothes that I don’t like.
During my wardrobe purge I ask myself these questions to assess the item:
1. Did I wear it last year? How many times?
2. Do I love how I look in it?
3. Does it work with my wardrobe staples? Am I able to make at least 5 wearable looks with it?
4. Does it express my personality?
5. Does it have the image I’m looking for?
6. Does it fit into my lifestyle?
7. How many other similar items do I have? Is this one the best of them all?
It really helps me to realize whether I want to keep the item or not. It also helps to remember everything I have and to not shop doubles accidentally. And during the purge I usually combine and try out new looks, which saves me time later when I can put on one of these prepared looks and be sure it looks good. During wardrobe purges I only make some exceptions for special occasions outfits as they are extremely hard to find in my size.
But I always make sure that everything that goes into my closet fits me well, is clean and in good condition.
I strongly recommend trying out retail detox at least for few months ❤
The thrifted gems are my WEAKNESS. I’ve gotten into the habit of collecting cool vintagey 80s clothes because they’re like $5 but I never wear them regularly, if at all.
Same. It's tempting to buy a bag full of items that cost less in total than the actual item I want, repeatedly. I am considering stopping thrift/consignment/vintage shopping for a year to see how that affects my shopping habits.
I have a twofer! A dupe pair of trendy studded sandals that gave me several blisters the first time I wore them. Have never put them on since, yet they are still in my closet.🤦♀️
On 2:49 I noticed a 💛💙 colors on your phone. Thank you for that ❤️
Addition to Uncomfortable Shoes Tip: check the insole length. It must be 5 mm longer than your feet. I made a huge mistake ordering shoes online by trusting the "size guide" where the length of feet appeared to be the insole length.. Honestly, the size charts are so confusing.. Like, RU: 37, EU: 38 (37.5?), UK: 5, US: 7... That's why knowing the factual length is the best option
Hi Christina, I'm a young adult who hasn't really had much experience with fashion. Do you have any tips on how to transition from casual to more professional looking or mature clothing? I'm on the short and skinny side so I feel like many of the pieces of professional wear do not fit that well and that I'm drowning in fabric which makes you look like you're a) trying too hard and b) small and childish. Also, I'm in college so I don't really have the money to splurge on expensive or tailored clothes. Love your vids and your style!
I had the same issue when I entered the professional world, as a petite. Ignore the stores that don't stock your size, and stick to brands that work for your body. For me, Dynamite has always worked for my body for professional clothes. I believe Christina is on the taller side, so she can pull off the oversized structured jackets, but I would stick to a more tailored look. Winners is also great if you have patience and time! Laura petites is another option for smaller women. If you like dresses, a good dress makes it easy to look professional. Ask the sales teams for help finding good items for you.
Keep things simple but interesting on your small figure. Basics, neutral tones, interesting small prints or details on your blouse/shirt. Add belts to keep a "clean" line and look for cropped jackets.
I’ve been really intentional about my purchases but today I went thrifting and bought a few items that are definitely not it… trying to be gracious with myself and learning why they aren’t good but I thought they would be