IS FILIPINO CULTURE TOXIC?
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- Опубліковано 22 бер 2023
- IS FILIPINO CULTURE TOXIC?
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Wht are your thoughts?
Uhmm my thoughts is so out of the topic but,,this is the word that was running of my mind ,,Always do you dont let anyone get inside your head and takes control of who you are you are what you think so think believe believe in things but dont just because they told you ,everything is going to end someday but no one can ever take away what you believe in from you just do you,.
By:Jhon Paulo Nase
angry woman syndrome. pede naman pag usapan iyong toxicity ng filipino culture without pag-abutin yong dalawang kilay mo. haaaist. relax lang ate.
Grabe tlg ang toxicity sa ibang cultures at actions ng mga pinoy. Ang masakit pa sa mismong pamilya at relatives mo unang nagmumula. Growing up ang dami kong naranasan na ganyan na nakaapekto sa self esteem, confidence at even ang pakikitungo ko sa mga tao. Ang hirap kasi parang kada kilos mo may nakamasid at may masasabi sila. I used to be a cheerful at friendly when I was a child but as the time goes by parang unti unti nawawala yun sakin and turned me into snob at hirap magtiwala sa mga tao around me. Kaya nung nagkaanak aq sinabi ko sa sarili ko pipilitin ko na di ito maranasan ng anak ko.
In general, compared to the Western World that have adapted what these lady is lecturing, filipino generations are much more humble, kind, moral, well educated, well disciplined, respectable etc etc., while western kids are wild, dumb, irresponsible, disrespectful, self-centered, addicts, do not know the difference between man and woman, favor devorce and abortions, etc etc etc ..
No Chuck, filipino culture is still the envy of the world because of their well known hospitality and kindness under the traditional way of discipline from their Godloving parents.
Chuck, please RECOGNIZE THE OUTCOME to understand what is really a toxic culture !
its not the culture it self its the people, do something toxic saying its a filipino culture.
She's got a point truly, but I think because we grew up in an environment where we are surrounded with tito's and aunts "relatives who are blunt and straight-forward to the point its offensive, filipino kids develop a sense of surviving mechanism/ attitude that makes us emotionally strong. Filipino kids who grew up in the 90's or before aren't emotionally weakling and sensitive because we know how to take negative comments and just laugh it out. There are advantages and disadvantages but that's why we are Filipino's because we are resilient even when dealing with rejection, hurt and pain.
Like what you said this toxicity culture doesn't just happen in the Philippines alone this happened much worse to other countries. Believe me.. Filipino culture is more laid back and easy going.. we are not pressured of anything at all..in work, education, family and even success.. compare it to other Asian countries.. who's always on stressful life to be the best, to excel in everything.and when they fail they just stumble and commit suicide.
thank you for this comment im proud of being a Filipino 🇵🇭
I don't think we're "laid-back". We just have the tenacity and are able to find positivity in everything or anything we do. 50%+ of young people from our country are suffering from depression and are having suicidal thoughts, their problems doesnt just end with SCHOOL. There's family, friends, dreams, responsibility, and more. With all of these challenges, toxicity, and negativity being thrown in a blender and forcefully make a kid or young adults drink it, they would quit. But we won't, because somehow we see positivity in any situations: being bullied in school? Hey! At least you have your dog!, Being harassed by someone? Hey! At least you have your friends! ... We have this mentality and with how hard it is to live peacefully especially in our day and age, we need this tenacity.
I'm not hating or anything...just stating an OPINION.
@@ryvnhaust5250 compared it to south Korea, japan, Singapore, hongkong and china... We are more laid back.. because Filipinos are resilient despite the fact that we're poor and living a stressful life.. we always see the bright side of life... Those countries I mentioned have the hardest and most difficult education system. They study from 16 to 18 hours a day.. here this girl complains that her parents used to remind her to study hard.. at least they only remind you to study hard and I don't see any problem with that..I think this girl should try to have Japanese and korean parents in her life so she would know the difference...The SK is the 4th most suicidal country in the world they used to be the 2nd before and japan you we're called useless (hikikomori) that cause of severe social withdrawal this happened when they failed in life.. while the Philippines is one of the 10 countries with lowest suicide incidents.. so, I could say our mental health is much stable than them..
@@Stellarlaurens a college degree doesn't really matter lol if I'm being honest in the Philippines it's true due the age discrimination
@@joandarc441 Age discrimination exists more in SK where a large number of their elderly commit suicide due to lack of attention and support of their family and government.. Filipinos are more resilient in the hardest time, Filipinos adaptability is high, we just know how to survive in the most critical scenario..
we are still lucky as compared to other cultures.. in tthe general sense..as you said this also exist in other cultures..
Real talk...she is on point in my opinion..but now a days Filipino parents and relatives are more understanding and treat young people with better communication and openess.. thank you Chuck for this
I can relate to so much of what she said. As a Filipino-American, I grew up hearing my mom say to us “Why can’t you be like your cousins? Why can’t you be like so-and-so’s kids?” I would hear aunties point out other girls and say “She’s too fat! She’s too dark!” I grew up hearing aunties say to me “You’re almost as pretty as your sister” as if that was a compliment! One time at a wedding reception, my mom took two of my daughters around the room to show them off, and left the other two daughters, who she didn’t consider as beautiful as the others, at the table! I was so upset. These are just a few examples. I loved my mom and my aunties, but they did very hurtful things without thinking.
OMG! So relatable!!! My mom would randomly tell me... "I think your daughter's ears took after her dad cuz we don't have ears that look like that in our family" or "I think your daughters eye brows took after her dad cuz ours are thinner" so many of this and that. I feel like what? Is that ugly that your "apo" looks more like her dad and not more like us?? I love my mom but one day i felt uncomfortable already and I told her please don't let her hear that while she's growing up.
@@eL-eL_B
Yes!! The comparisons would drive me crazy! My sister and I grew up with terrible self-esteem, and I didn’t want to raise my daughters the same way. We had a large Filipino-American community here, and we daughters were expected to compete for the local Miss Philippines DC pageant each year. I won one year and and my sister a couple years later. I resented that my mom thought physical beauty was more important than who I was as a person. I made sure my daughters knew that I was proud of them and loved themno matter what and I encouraged them to do what they loved. All four of them did very well in high school-student government president, artists, musicians, singers, athletes and continue to do well as adults. Now their children, mostly teenagers, are also shown love, support and encouragement. Fortunately, by the time my mom had great-grandchildren, she treated them differently. We are also teaching them to be proud of their Filipino heritage-they are a quarter Filipino.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. But thank you for sharing your story!
OMG. I used to get comments like oh you're so pretty but if only your nose is more matangos like my younger sister's nose. My mom and my titas used to tell me that I should go get a nose job in Japan when I become a grown up! Like really?;? I was maybe 7 when I started getting those comments.
@@bargainhuntermama
Oh wow! And you were seven when those comments started?!? I do remember my mom and aunties talking about noses too, and about how one girl was so pretty because she had a “high” nose because it was pointy and not flat, and they would squeeze their noses to show what they meant! But wow, saying you needed a nose job was pretty low! What were our moms thinking? Why couldn’t we meet their “standard” of beauty?
My mother who was born in 1930 had seen this toxic culture way before her time. She made sure she kept our family living away from our relatives because my mother was tired of family in-fighting, competitions, and those expected dependability on relatives who may have a little bit more. My mother would talk about relatives who are smart and successful to inspire me but never compared me to them. That's why I grew up confident (not mayabang) and proud Filipino migrating to the US at a young age. I didn't fear classmates in my new school and I never felt inferior to other nationalities and culture living in a multicultural society.
Why are these relatable to me? When my dad was still alive, I actually addressed this to my dad. I am breaking this cycle and try hard not to repeat this to my kids. I always encourage them to speak their mind. This Filipino mentality needs to change. I am not afraid to say sorry to my kids when I make a mistake. I'm setting an example for them. By the way Chuck, where are your glasses? Looking good😉
It's like this in Nigeria too, my parents compare to my younger sister and my cousin.
But now I don't really care anymore it's now a daily drug for me.
Filipino culture is not that bad... atleast from my point of view... mas laid back nga eh. mas prefer ng maraming lahi mapangasawa ang Filipino. Millenial and Gen x y z mentality ata. Lahat ng dumadaan sa puberty, adolescent, lahat dumadaan sa life nila na nirereklamo nila ung culture ng sarili nilang pamilya... its a stage. Pag nag ka family ka na ng sarili... iba narin ang mindset mo...
So true
I don't think she meant the "ENTIRE" Filipino culture is toxic. Her video specifically says "message to Filipino parents" so I believe she is addressing the toxic nature of Filipino PARENTING (or REARING since she also addressed the Titos & Titas). If she is addressing the ENTIRE culture, she could have also talked about our crab mentality, manana habits, Filipino time, etc but those toxicity are not "parenting/rearing" related.
My wife and I both grew up in the Philippines and we have two American born kids who are now in their 20s. I can definitely relate on each and every point she made. She is God sent for raising awareness on the issue.
Maybe some/most of you Filipino kids "at home" (ie in the Philippines) might relate having Filipino parents but YOU REALLY CANNOT COMPARE YOURSELVES to Filipino kids living "abroad" (US, Canada, Australia, etc).
Why? Because of the support structure you have "at home" compared to the support structure of kids living "abroad". "At home" Filipino kids are surrounded with generally a bigger support structure of family/relatives/friends. "Abroad" Filipino kids are usually surrounded by nuclear (smaller) family -- the smaller nature of their support structure leaves them more vulnerable because there is no one they could turn to other than the people who are doing harm to them.
"At home" kids can see friends (who are able to relate) compare notes and laugh it all off (like Dude! my parents are even worse...). "Abroad" kids see friends (who mostly cannot relate because they don't have Filipino parents) and finds out they are alone and cannot turn back to their parents (or siblings, who are being victimized too btw). This is the reason why "Abroad" kids tends to experience all sorts of mental health issues; Stress, Anxiety, and Depression.
If you don't believe me read the comments on her youtube video and you will find "Abroad" kids relating more with what she has to say.
Just my two cents.
Totally agree. These only addresses to parents who resides abroad. Having kids with western culture mentally is pretty tough to handle. They're so privilege and so independent Most Gen Z and millenials are too weak & sensitive. They can't handle harsh words!
Yes Reality sa mga Pinoy ang may ganyang nakakaranas.. Kahit ganyan ang kultura natin mapalad pa rin tayo sa ibang lahi..
Oh.. common guys our parents do something for our own good.. knowledge is important.. okay 👍
this happens everywhere so it's up to you how to deal with it wether dwell on it or just ignore.
At the end of the day, no culture is perfect. There's always positive and negative. All have bright sides and toxic sides too. Filipino culture can be very positive if we take and live by the positive sides of it but it can also be very toxic. And as the next generation of Filipinos, I hope that we do not repeat all these toxicity. Overall, we all should just choose to be better and kinder as individuals. Take the good, and avoid the bad. But yeah, like Pinuno, always choose to be kind.🥰🥰🥰
p.s. This is a very good topic Chuck. We need more conversations about these matters.😊
I think is not a culture is the behavior of the person
I’ll meet you halfway here. I grew up with those things you spoke about. It made me tougher as I age. But yes, it would have been nice to give credit when credit is due. Two way communication can improve.
I don’t think this “comparison” thing is common only or entirely seen in Filipino families. It also happens in families in other Asian countries, and even in Western families. And I believe not all Filipino parents are just as this lady describes them to be. The way she sounds, it seems like she herself was exposed to or has observed a lot of comparisons and nagging in certain Filipino families she knows personally. This is just my opinion though.
But I agree with her on other points. Mental health is very important. Even if they are older, parents and elders should refrain from giving comments or ‘jokes’ that lower the self-esteem of the children; they still have to be tactful and sensitive to how the child/children might feel.
Sa bandang huli ang sasabihin mo na lang ..tama pala si sila, oo nga,..kaya nga may kasabihang "papunta ka pa lang pabalik na ako" nagkakaiba lang ng ways how to tell their children whats good and bad for them..its good we have strong family ties, we can share our feelings n thoughts to them saying " si Nanay nakakainis" unlike other race, they keep it to themselves then bad things happen...🙄😐😉🙏🙏
Exactly.
She’s actually stating facts…and sometimes I’m guilty of it hehe
When all is said and done, I think growing up with filipino values and culture is still better compared to other countries na ang taas ng suicide rate, psycho disorders, etc. dahil hindi close sa family nila. Though aminin natin na talagang may mga parents na pasaway din gaya ng sabi ni girl.
True. I feel that most children anyway- even those commenting on psychology topics here in youtube- complain about parents being overbearing and narcissistic- which happens to be the case for a lot of people regardless of the race, culture, or religion. I think most children associate toxicity with parenting because psychologically, parenting has more impact than genetics and some environmental factors- like schooling and peers. They say that even if a child shows psychotic tendencies, the symptoms do not always have to manifest unless bad parenting and domestic abuse trigger them.
goes to show how the upbringing of other countries make their younger generation much weaker
bwahaha...if you say so......
True, true true, i strongly agree!
wow, relate na relate especially keeping secrets instead of telling them the story/problem
Gud pm po boss chuck. Late me but never too late.
Relate much!
The one that particularly hit me was the comparison, since my siblings were the scholars and I had average grades. I for one wanted to be in health care, but because my parents were both lawyers in the level of an Atty. Roque, they enrolled me in a prelaw course. Sadly I did not do very well and finally shifted to a health course years later. Tumaba ka na, in my case I was the thin one and would always be compared with my “bigger cousins”. Why can’t you grow fatter like them? Sumasagot ka pa ha. This caused me to be unassertive. It had to take the parents of my best friend to show me my worth. Parents of this generation should learn to Appreciate, Motivate and Encourage their children. If you dig deeper into the early lives of some of the successful Filipinos, you would see this, people like Bruno Mars, Darren Criss, Lea Salonga, Apol d Ap, the Filipino Women’s National Football team, Carlos Yulo and many others.
Good evening everyone.. miss you po Sir Chuck!
miss you!
Im late here, i can relate to this one. At the young age i learn to compete not with my friends or classmate but with my own elder sister who's very good in school. She is consistent first honor from kinder to grade 6 while me i was only on top 2 or 3. I try to take the attention of my mother by making good in school but i think its not enough and i failed until i married. To make the story short bumawi sya sakin as in bawing bawi sya mula ng mag asawa aq ramdam na ramdam ko yong love nya sa apo nya at sa akin hanggang sya ay namatay.
I totally agree with her as a Filipino American. I find myself cherry picking which part of the Filipino culture to share with my kids. Honestly, because of Filipino toxic traits my sisters and I witnessed from relatives, we've become less and less Filipino over the years, to the point that we didn't really date Filipinos and barely have any Filipino friends. And no, we're not in the mid-West where it's mostly white, we're in Los Angeles. We just felt more at home with other Asian-Americans. We got turned off by the Filipinos here. However, as I got older, I find myself wanting to go back to my Filipino roots. I have been putting more effort into speaking Tagalog with my parents and titos and titas. We used to just speak English to each other and only use Tagalog to talk sh*t about other people. Plus it's easier for my tita to communicate in Tagalog anyway. So ever since she started living with my younger sister, my sister and I started speaking more Tagalog. While I don't agree with many aspects of Filipino culture, there are aspects that I also find admirable and beautiful and those are the parts that I want to share with my half-Pinoy and half-Chinese kids (my kids aren't very traditional Chinese either since my husband is American born Chinese and barely speaks Cantonese). I do want to make a better effort and can't wait to take the kids to the Philippines for the first time in a couple of years. COVID pretty much cancelled our original trip.
Me wanting to listen to more OPM was how I discovered SB19 very late in 2022. I'm trying to use their music so my kids can hear more Tagalog in our house. And since I stream SB19 and Moira in my car as I drive my kids to and from school, they're starting to recognize some sounds especially from Mapa. I'm hoping that as we prepare for our upcoming trip, it'll inspire them to be more interested in learning about their Filipino side.
As in other culture, there are good and bad sides. But one point i wanna raise is... in the Phils, guns can be purchased legally like in the US and other parts of the world. But here? As far as my memory serves (and i'm 56) i haven't heard of a school shooting incident that have happened here. Speaks volume, right? In my opinion, It's because of the values that Filipinos are raised with. So, you're on the right track on connecting your kids to Filipino values and culture.
"Bakit hindi ka maging tulad ni ganito", kung hindi sakin sinabi yan ng magulang ko hindi sana mataas grades ko nung nagaaral aral, wla sanang pagpupursigi sakin n mag aral
"Tumataba/an' taba mo na" kung hindi sakin yan sinabi hindi sana ako nsa healthy weight ko ngayon, ramdam ko nmn nun na bumibigat n ko lalo n sa pagtulog feeling ko my nadagan sakin nun dati kya nag maintain tlga ako ng weight ko for my health,
Sa totoo lng nsa pagtanggap mo yan kung gagawin mo positibo ung pagtanggap o magiging sensitive ka masyado
"Retirement plan ang mga anak" sa lht ng toxic ito pinaka toxic, wla ng paliwanagan pa, sana hayaan nyong magbigay ang mga anak nyo ng bukal sa puso nila hindi ung inuobliga nyong mga magulang kayo.
yeah they love flexing, but the funniest part is the fact that they're most likely flexing the fakest LV bag you will ever find
That’s not Filipino culture, it’s just Filipino Silent Gen and Boomer culture. Us Filipino Gen Xers and Millennials, we know it’s just plain wrong. My mother compared me to herself. She was top of her class when she was young, and to her I was always “just second best, just like your dad.” God bless her soul but… geez. People who didn’t have to go through the same things as I did wonder why I don’t have confidence.
The “respect the elders” and “if you’re younger, your opinions weigh less” attitude and other negative things come from the 70’s, reinforced by the older generation at that time. Our parents were young then and once they became parents and got older, they used that same card on us.
I became the black sheep of my family. It is mostly my dad's family that have those toxic traits. I get called 'mayabang', 'matapobre', 'palasabat', etc. because I'm not afraid to voice out my concerns and am extremely opinionated. Before I became a multimillionaire, they would shame me by having high ambitions (ambisiyoso) and goals in life (masaydong mataas ang pangarap ya). When I started trading, my relatives would caught wind to what I'm doing and told me I'd fail and it's gambling.
Took me a few years and lots of sleepless nights until I finally made it. I bought anything I want. A 12,000 sq ft house, my dream cars (2023 Mercedes Benz S580, 2020 Aston Martin DB12 and my 2022 Cadillac Escalade Sport Platinum) and traveled to 15 countries. Now those same relatives want to be closer to me and told me how my Patek Philippe watch could send someone to school or feed numerous children. Or anything that I have that has significant values. I became a smartass and stopped attending reunions and family gatherings. I told them to stop treating me like I'm 10 years old or how my money is not their money. I swear they are so manipulative and jealous. Good thing I live far away from them.
Sa younger days ko, it's burden me kasi I thought it was normal kasi nageexixst sya everywhere sa family ko or sa paligid ko. Minsan nga talaga I talkback sa parents ko kasi especially sa nanay ko she keeps me comparing sa friends ko nor relatives or even siblings but as I grow older d talaga mabuti nagihing wall sya towards sa kids kaya I have so much wall in terms of emotions I tend to say opposite things sa kanila.
All culture is toxic..give me one who has no toxic culture at all 😂
She is not wrong
If there is anything that's a bit toxic that attracted my attention because some Filipino college students talk about it is "smartshaming"- like when you speak in English or you talk about fallacies or bad logic/ bad reasoning and sometimes parents and friends would react by saying "tama ka na, parati ka na lang tama." They say it also happens when you're asked to tone down your arguments because you have to respect your elders- even when their reasoning defies common sense.
Most people say smart-shaming comes from Philippine culture being anti-intellectual- that if you try to be very assertive and argumentative they will say you're arrogant, narcissistic, and such a "smart-ass." Anything that sounds like a textbook is "toxic" to most Filipinos- they say- because the average Pinoy would rather gossip or talk about fashion, politics, or what their neighbors and friends are busy with. In other words, they can't appreciate topics that have more to do with issues than specific people.
I don't always agree, of course. Though there might be a grain of truth there- I'm not so sure.
What I do think is that Filipino families respect and appreciate their children's education NOW more than they did in the past. If we compare it with the bygone centuries, Rizal wrote something about smart-shaming involving Crisostomo (in Noli Me Tangere) being "smart-shamed" by Padre Damaso. The Dominican friar, in his homily, said that "Indios" (or Filipinos like Crisostomo Ibarra) are not supposed to be smart- because they will be punished by God if their intelligence surpasses the heavens. He says Filipinos have no use for education- it has no effect on the redemption of their souls. In Spain, Rizal faced smart-shaming also when the Spanish professors said that Filipino brains are much smaller- so they are supposedly less intelligent than Europeans.
I will stop here because I might ramble on forever.
Thanks Casual Chuck for this topic, btw. I see that you're very busy again, and that's always inspiring! 😍😍😍
I hope we have topics like these to discuss in your channels once in a while- so Filipinos like me can stay in touch with the real issues and events that deserve more attention. 😇😇😇
Yes! i don't understand the nose bleed comments when I try to watch Filipino shows - why is that commonly incorporated in the dialogue like it's cool to say? It's embarrassing when I hear Filipinos say that instead of making an effort to understand or learn more about what the other person is trying to say.
That really true pilipino still have those crab mentality !!it!s absolutely right l have nothing to say!!!!!!🤡🤡🤡🤡
That's why there are kids that has a low esteem because they can't develop their own passion or curiosity because some of the parents are assertive of the "should " behavior or what their children should do. The creative and free mind is not develop because of the assertive standard set by the parents or the society itself,... So a lot of people has no self confidence to do their own thing because of comparisons....
good eve everyone..
My father a deadbeat Filipino. Like he brags about his life compare to mine. He also has a corporate personality. Personally for me, I don't really believe in any culture because of their beliefs. I would focus on the freedom cycle because I'm a human and cultures may come from our ancestors. When it comes from the rules of our ancestors. Family like that, my father uses words to challenge me.
I can’t relate to that in my own family although I’ve seen it in my aunts and uncles family and my neighbors’s. I’m 72 now and never once have I done it to my own children.
We're in the same generation(73 now) but I didn't do anything of that but I cringe when my in-laws will be saying that to their children. "But kaya di kayo makapag-aral ng di masyadong pahirap sa magulang tulad ng anak nina Tito___ at tita___nyo?, or "Bakit kaya di kayo pumuti tulad ni____? those might have been hurtful to the children if they are mature enough to understand the implication but the children just go on with their life and activities as if they don't mind. it is only the adults who are trying so hard to put the negativities in the mind of their children, but so far in our family that did not deter them from achieving their dreams in adulthood.
11:40 this one though, i'd say it's not necessarily bad. for one, we have to admit first that they know better than we do as young people. minsan kasi, especially nowadays, marami nang "know-it-all" o "entitled for their rights" which is a horrible trait for youngsters if you ask me. these type of kids can be easily manipulated by people with evil intentions, trying to persuade them to rather do what seems harmless to them. 🤦♀🤦♀🤦♀
Exactly my point 👉. Most Gen Z and millenials nowadays especially the one who grow up abroad are too sensitive and weak. They're so privileged & entitled.
Hahahahaha may kulang pa sa sinabi nya Sir Chuck 🤣🤣 number one sa listahan ng pilipino culture ang pagiging utak talangka 🤣🤣🤣, pero hindi ko nman linalahat. ✌️✌️✌️
ramdam ko si ate na bitter sa experience nya. hehehe... kidding aside, some filipino parents just want their kids to excel, give their best shots. they want their kids to succeed. they compare their kids to other people to give their kids some kind of role model or standards that they can emulate. just look at it in a more positive way.
i once a rebel kid. i ran away at the age of 18 and i found it later that my old wise dad is right all along. 😂
Same here lmao
Exactly 💯.. parents won't say anything if they see you're striving hard.
It's not only to Filipino culture.... it is very common here in western culture..
Nasa personality/mentality na rin yan ng tao. Nasa kanila kung babaguhin nila un kinalakihan nilang toxic traits from their family. Kung weak personality yan, for sure ipapasa lng nila sa future generation nila, kasi di nya nakita/pinuna un tama at mali. Luckily mejo un father ko sinadya nyang ilayo kami sa compound or extended family kung San npaka tindi ng tsismis utang ingitan asahan at comparison at kung ano ano pa
One of the oldest cultures in the World if not the oldest.
She made valid points, actually.
I would say this happens in American culture but not this extent. I admire Asian cultures cause of the respect young people show to older people, but there does come a time when younger people need to stand up for themselves, even to older people. In American culture, young people have zero F**ks to give when telling older people they are being offensive or shouldn't say certain things and there is nothing wrong with that. I was raised that respect is earned, not given, regardless of age. Not saying American culture isn't toxic, cause it is, but so is every culture on this planet.
ND k nmn na experience Yung I compare. Pero true Yan.. at sa na observation ko rin mga Bata sa atin pg my artwork n puro lng guhit lang sasabihin pangit gawa puro lng guhit. Dito ND sasabihin oi Ganda kahit ND nmn sa true lng hahahha tpos sasabit pa Yan sa dingding kc proud na proud 👏 hahahha
Mapa isip aq. Tama nga no never ko narinig dito a g pag confirm sa bata..
Mexicans are the same 😅 "why u not like your cousin" why this why that..aye
Filipino culture is not really toxic.. in other countries is far worst. It's how you deal with it and take it in a positive way.
If lack of accountability was a real person.............
So true 👍
I don't hear these things these days. I believe new generations here now know how to respect individuality. Even our aunts and such don't do it (anymore). I think the change slowly started also from their generation and strengthen by us. When my mum starts speaking about how hard their life before and so their work, we strike back practically 😅 (that's believably not good but if makatarungan naman ang sagot mo, go! 😅😅😅)
So far that's what I observed both in Mindanao and Visayas areas where I grew/live.
Cashual ely here maybe she can watch jokoy he made this topic everytine on stage and his mom is watching while hes on the stage as a stand up comedian during his show
honestly she is just encompassing my whole life now i didnt expect this wow
sis pinaiyak mo ako fak you
.. Or "ang payat payat mo naman, kumain ka nga ng marami!"
Kasi nmn iba n kabataan ngayon hindi nmn lhat... gusto lng nmn sila itama..
other cultures are more toxic than this tho esp western
It's not just Filipinos. When I was in high school, the brightest student in my class, a Chinese, once told me that his relatives were asking his parents what kind of food he ate to make their children be as smart as he is. On another personal experience, my friend, an Indian parents were punishing their child to exert more effort to be as smart just like his cousin. So don't be too harsh that your culture is toxic. I think your description applies to certain family and not the race, being a Filipino. In my family, we were encouraged to spread our horizon on becoming a successful professional. Modesty aside, here's what my family consist of: doctor, pharmacist, businesswoman, engineer, accountant and economist.
luckily my mom is not like that and not force me to get high grades.
This is triggering. It’s making me remember the times when my parents would casually joke about my skin color. My skin color is like that of any other Filipino. My weight has been talked about my my parents, family friends, and relatives. I’ve just grown to live with it. I was told that my little brother was smarter than me. We went to an amusement park when I was a kid. Instead of “taking care” of my little brother like some random big sister my age in the park, it made me feel incompetent. I was also told that I looked like I was “3 months pregnant” as a teen. That was targeted towards me gaining weight around that time in my life. I’m much bigger now, so the comments have never really gone away.
I think western culture is toxic coz I live it.
I don't care about being told to do good but being compared is a no no. It messes up the mind honestly.
Being called fat is helpful though.
"why can't you be like your cousin/friend?..."
I'd just answer with "because we are from different parents... Why can't you be like my cousin/friend's parents then?"😂
Para sakin Hindi lng nmn Pinoy may ganung kaugalian.....Hindi lng satin merong ganun uie...halos asian ganun Ang mga kaugalian.....Yung kinokompara Ka sa mga Kapatid mo na mas matalino sau.....
Oh damn she's absolutely right,but she forgot to mention about crab mentalities of some filipinos😂😂😂
It’s all true….
Guess what... I know for certain that it happens everywhere and much much worse than in the Philippines.
To answer the "title" question thou, No, it is not all together toxic.
Akala ko ba shes just voicing other people's opinion. Pero parang may pinaghuhugutan sia...im referring to the "ang taba mo na..." (im not fat shaming by the way. I grew up that way all my life. And been told to lose some all my life.)
Nope not all Filipinos is like that never ever maybe 5%to 10%.
*/ nilakasan Yung volume
For me crab mentality hence why the Philippines cant progress properly.
It is not body shaming,,,family closeness just made those people say those comments. There is no such thing as mental illness to pinoys..we are resilient. When you tell ur parents,, i feel depressed... Ur parents would tell you to do laundry or dishes...arte arte ka pa jan.
Absolutely true. Millenials & Gen Z are too sensitive & weak.
I can relate sorry guys it's like me but I'm proud to be one look I have a successful Nurse daughter that I'm proud of 😊
Life is not rainbows and sunshine, life is tough. Rather than making a video complaining why not use it as motivation to prove them wrong. Puro reklamo.
That’s an Asian culture not jus Filipinos! Chinese, Japanese and Korean culture actually are worst. Soooo lighten up it’s not just Filipino … it’s the ASIANsss!
Ya know.....aside from everything in the video, one of the biggest toxic things about Filipino culture is a lack of accountability. This comment section is FULL to the brim with it. And none of the topics of the video will make a difference if you can't even accept criticism and change. Two things to think about: 1. Saying a b c happens in other cultures doesn't discount your own behavior. The video is about PH culture, not everyone else. and 2. For those that deny the selfish/rudeness of PH culture, try to Google it..... there's many more than just a post or two. And maybe, just maybe it's worth some self reflection.
Agreed, the funny thing was Philippines used to be the second strongest economy in Asia just behind Japan. During the founding of ASEAN when their neignboring countries work harder, reformed culture, industrialize and catch up meanwhile Philippines just keep falling into mid. When I look at filipino comments on social media and I always think that they may be suffering from the same path as the indians "nationalism and pride". They are so used to pride their own and counter every criticism with their whataboutism. They're afraid to change, keep voting for their clan of marcos , vote their government through popularity and not by merit. When the country supposedly vow to be the best and better than USA, but are still lacking by many fields regardless, when you call them lazy they will just counter you with "no we are just laid back". They thrive on like any other developing third world countries "be grateful, easily content, always look at the bright side for every unfairness in life" some even fall back to religion because it's the only motivation for the poor to keep living. On one hand, they don't like it when foreigner talk about issue with them. On the other hand, they will keep talking about other developed nations which their people have eaten hardship, being severely underpaid and work hard to escape poverty, starvation and drugs leap forward to first world country, but some filipinos with complexity issue will tell their fellow countrymen that "they're unhappy, chasing to be the best and for what?" meanwhile many escape from their country working in those developed wealthy countries to have a good life. If they are that confident for their culture is not that bad then what for going to youtube and beg foreigners to do reaction or vlogging telling how awesome things in the Philippines, seeking validation at it finest. and let's not talk about the overwhelming pinay registered dating app to find someone from the West
“The cheapest sort of pride is national pride; for if a man is proud of his own nation, it argues that he has no qualities of his own of which he can be proud; otherwise he would not have recourse to those which he shares with so many millions of his fellowmen. The man who is endowed with important personal qualities will be only too ready to see clearly in what respects his own nation falls short, since their failings will be constantly before his eyes. But every miserable fool who has nothing at all of which he can be proud adopts, as a last resource, pride in the nation to which he belongs; he is ready and glad to defend all its faults and follies tooth and nail, thus reimbursing himself for his own inferiority.”
― Arthur Schopenhauer
dang.... triggered. 😅
Why Pilipinos can't be like in the US.
You should think twice before wishing that🙄
Lol, the more she talk, the more it shows how toxic she herslelf is😂
lok seems your triggered and denying what you do lol
Exactly 💯... this girl seems doesn't want to be called out by a family member. You can sense the entitlement and western culture influenced.