Filipinos AWFUL Behavior | Toxic traits YOU should know
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Filipinos are very much well-know for a lot of positive things such as singing, hospitality and beautiful beaches, but we are all aware that perfection is an illusory concept, and that comes in a form of some traits that we may find a bit toxic. These are the Filipino Toxic behaviors unveiled.
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they're passive aggressive people. They provoke you and play the victim game
They sure do, and that victim crap, be gone with that. I separated from my moms side for reasons and more
I am here just to know that everybody's same or not
Lying about being your friend and then shutting you out for no reason, many Filipinos did that with me
Same
Filipinos are very arrogant people, I'm foreigner and had my car parked when I go outside there was a motorcycle so close I couldn't get out, had to wait until he shows up and almost got into a fight, another time I parked at a mall and when I came out a Filipino driver had parked his car so close I couldn't open the drivers side door, and he was over the striped line, they don't hold the door for you and never will they say thank you, they cut in front of the line and when you challenge them one said me "go back to your country".
They didnt like you as a friend
@@Dlxxx159This. Many filipinos from the homeland are living in an animalistic state of stab or be back stabbed. They will gossip about you no matter what, they are cowards among cowards
I have worked with 3 Filipino women and they have been the hardest for me to work with. One caused so much contention for me with all the backstabbing. I try to be kind and positive but it often is often the opposite given to me from all 3. They love to put me down to get a cheap laugh.
Déjà vu! This is their defense mechanism. That's very common with these people. Many of them are extremely envious and jealous. Insecurity and jealousy are very common diseases with these people. Look at the way they raise their kids and you will understand why they become like this. Pinoy parents are literally dominating their kids. Imagine the result it gives on a very large scale of 110 million+ people in a tropical archipelago. Oh, but they all post beautiful pictures of themselves smiling on Facebook.
THEY ARE THE WORST. THEY DON'T HAVE MANNERS AND ARE SUPER SHADY. LOVE TO TALK CRAP ABOUT YOU RIGHT IN FRON OF YOU IN THEIR OWN LANGUAGE. MY LAST TWO LANDLORDS HAVE BEEN PHIL APEEN0 AND THEY ARE ALWAYS LYING AND TRYING TO SCAM ME IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER. I HAVE TRIED SO HARD TO BE FRIENDLY AND SHOW THEM RESPECT BUT THEY ARE SO LOUD AND RUDE BACK TO ME. THE FACT THAT WE CAN NEVER ADDRESS THIS CULTURAL PROBLEM IS CRAZY TO ME. I WENT TO A CLINIC FOR A WHILE WHERE MOST OF THE FEMALE STAFF WAS "YOU KNOW" AND THEY WERE JUST A NBIGHTMARE TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH. CONSTANT LAZINESS AND WOULD ALWAYS TALK TO ME DISRESPECTFULLY OR WITH ATTITUDE FOR NO REASON. I TRIED TO VERY HARD WITH THEM YET FOR SOME REASON THEY JUST ALWAYS REMAINED NASTY TO ME AND THE OTHER PATIENTS.
Hi omg... Same... I have Filipino staff and they make a group and bodderline bully me.. Idk what to do... I'm so close to quitting my job
indeed. I'm not sure why these negative things are funny to women. Chismes... smh
Filipinos and East Indians are by far the most toxic coworkers I've experienced
Couple of things I noticed while in the philippines. Most do no say "thank you" when you do things for them. You take them out to dinner, or take them out all day for activities. Another is the notion that the foreigner is supposed to pay for everything, yet they do not offer to pay.
So much, very entitled and ungrateful
@@miketrillo8067 these people are mostly Low Life anyway !
So true, filipinos just keep using foreign people as their own advantage 😢, i was married with filipino and later dated another one after my divorce, i will never going to date another filipino just to keep my own mental health good level
Yep no shame about expecting others to pay for everything - 3rd World mentality & behaviour
You asked them to go out, dont expect them to treat you like a king just because you bought them dinner.
As a filipino myself, here are some toxic traits I see in my own culture
1: gossip the heck out of everything
2: always late
3: colonial mentality
4: crab mentality
5: inconsiderate and thoughtless of others
6: pinoy pride
7: ignorant of rules and laws
8: onion skinned (hypersensitive/over emotional)
9: short tempered and impatient
10: hypocrite
11: double standard
12: constant shaming and guilt tripping
13: mental illness is never taken seriously
14: religious fanaticism
15: racism
16: indecisive
17: poor financial planning
18: victim blaming on top of suffering from victim mentality
19: low emotional intelligence
20: abuse tolerant society
21: supports a corrupt filipino government
I've heard other people say "but this happens in other cultures". Here's my problem with that statement: just because it happens in other cultures doesn't make it excusable for us filipinos
I think when it comes down to most of this traits are a result of Filipinos being very emotional and passionate characteristics
all the above is you shame on you 🤮
Perfect list, I'd personally add gaslighting
the iq in the phil is in the mid 80s and it shows, i fully agree with your points
@@marieloumontenegro3103someone tries to say what's wrong with the Philippines, another Filipino comes and gets pissed for it. You literally proved his point
WORST TRAIT: DISRESPECT
Oh I now know all my character flaws! Thanks to my Filipino neighbor.
I know from personal personal experience they disrespect their own people.
I'd like to add table manners, cutting in lines, being distracted or acting inattentive during purchasing transactions, and indirectness in communication. I don't believe these are toxic, just annoying, because I am western. I am sure my behavior is toxic to filipino people as well, but I'm in your country, so I learn.
It is a strange paradox that Filipinos seem nice, but really it's very superficial. Many will gladly help you as long as there's no cost to them. Cutting in line for example, or how they drive, or when negotiating. Self-interest is always the top of their list. That's common for all humans. What's different is Filipinos do have a nicer veneer. Kind of like people in the hospitality industry. Trained to have a nice and helpful appearance but behind the scene maybe not.
@@MrWaterbugdesign yes..the same friendly people will also have their hand in your pocket
@@MrWaterbugdesign fake is a word that springs to mind
You could probably add another 100 annoying things about the general environment as well. Dogs, roosters, horns, road rules, rubbish and dog shit everywhere, the constant trying to get money out of a foreigner, the incomplete explanations when purchasing items or tours, the lack of ability to even give simple directions, the list goes on..7 years I lived here and I'm over it. Back to a normal country..ain't nothing gunna change here
@@peteranderson2130 I hate to admit it, but I agree 100%. Everything you mentioned, I have complained about.
My experience's with filos are as follows ( been around them for 27 years)
First story
My best friend in UK was filipino. He had a wife and 2 gorgeous kids and loved his family so much.
His wife was filipino also. One day she advised him she was leaving him and the kids as she had found a white man (she wanted this all along) She wanted a white man so she could have half white half filo kids. She mentioned that this is every filipino women's dream. She called her full filo kids ugly and started her new family and left her kids and husband behind. 3 years later, I knew 6 other filo women that did this to their amazing filo husbands. Leaving them behind, ditching their (dark skinned, flat nosed) kids according to the mothers to have half white half filo kids.
Second story
My friend at work went on leave back to the phillipines for month. She told me she would come back slimmer, whiter and more pretty. I told her she was so beautiful and didnt need anything but she told me her own parents put her down and called her ugly since she was born. She went to get surgery and never woke up from the surgery table.
RIP Anne :(
Third story
I never knew my filipino friend back in UK had a sister. Her own parents disowned her because she married a guy who was from the poor parts of phillipines. The parents wanted her to marry a white guy so all the kids could be beautiful.
4th story
Im quarter singaporean and 3 quarters british.
My first bf was a filo. Good family but the family made me tell everybody in the family I was half filo half white. When I was at parties they would constantly parade me around and say look everybody, clara is half filo half british...im like, wtaf?!
5th story
I used to be a nurse in 2006 and they all bullied me in UK and in Australia saying my skin is way too dark. Some of them brought in this cream that had 'whitening'on the label and said you must whiten your skin its more beautiful. (My skin is fair with an olive tint to it)
Annoying trait
Claiming everybody that looks filo to them is their own.
Taboo from black eyed peas is half mexican half native american, the filos kept claiming him as a full filo even back in 2002. He went through testicular cancer and did a documentary. The poor guy poured his heart out...the whole comment section was filled with OMG his wife is filopino (she appeared in the documentary for 1 second)
I saw in a filo newspaper in the UK they were calling tiger woods half black half filo..
Wtf, he's half thai?!
Many filipinos have told me Keanu Reeves , Tyga, Chris Brown, Kristen Kruek, the rock, Amerie, Naomi Scott, Jason Momoa are half filipinos.
Do they just look at somebody with asiatic features then start going around claiming them?
Phillipines, Please learn to love yourself, the country you come from and all the people in it. Everybody is beautiful, fair or dark skinned.
Be proud of your own kind, not just the ones that are mixed with white.
We are all human beings, not accessories for your personal gain & status
Sorry, I needed to rant
Hi I am sorry about your Filipino experience. Most of the Filipinos who leave to work abroad belong to the lower class (although with diploma) . They create families abroad and become the image of Filipinos abroad. There are those well mannered decent Filipinos who are not out there making toxic images of Pinoys. There are people like us who feel ashamed when traveling with loud pinoys with no manners and those who deem themselves a higher class because they work abroad. Right now it's crazy how most people see working abroad as a goal and gauge for success. Gone are those days with old rich families from the Spanish time where education and class and refined personalities were the goal.
What I discovered, thievery is very common among Filipinos with fragile egos at my workplace, most of other nationalities stay away from them.
I'm not Filipino, but I've encountered some Filipina women before and the one thing that frustrates me about some of them is there lack of boundaries. I really think they don't understand the concept of personal space and privacy. They also tend to have a bit of a jealous streak for some reason? I didn't understand why 🤷♀I don't want to generalize all of them and say that they are all like that, but the handful of Filipinas that I have known have been that way unfortunately.
They are ALL like this !
You got that right. There are not only women but even men are like that too in the Philippines.
Not all of them, but as a Filipino myself it’s rare to find some who don’t get easily jealous/has self control. Everyone gets jealous once in awhile but the ones I know don’t set boundaries and other toxic traits etc. Hence why I have more non-Filipino friends and don’t easily identify as Filipino lol
Sadly most have this childish jealous streak.
Wow, damn...they probably think it's normal and this is coming from someone of the same country
"It's better to arrive late than to arrive ugly" that is right up there with "If your phone doesn't ring, it was me"
Shows she has no time management skill outside of a paying job.... and ugly or pretty, be on time.
@@cattywampusmcdoogle even for work they often show up late with some kind of saving face excuse.
@@DrDlane that's the first I have heard about them being late for work also
So she shouldn't show up ever because she is ugly AF
Exactly! Just get ready earlier!
It’s extremely annoying when the entire group is waiting for someone and their excuse is “I’m on Filipino time!”.
…and we pride themselves in saying that!
As a plus size black woman amidst a large group of Filipinas I have to say that after watching video my feelings are so valid. To my face all smiles but when they think I'm not looking or I'm not around it's disappointing what is talked about.
You are dealing with ignorant children most of the time.These people are Born with an Inferiority Complex - their average height - all 5ft 00" also adds to their behaviour.
Stay strong, filipinos are emotionally and spiritually frail people. They may seem intimidating, but if you assert yourself more and stand your ground, they will start respecting you. Many are scared inside and needs group validation during confrontations or someone they can walk all over to bully. I may have acted unprofessional because someone I considered a good coworker basically back stabbed me... when I confronted him he was all meek unlike on the phone. Keep that in mind and if they start hazing you, collect data and send to HR. I'm being patient cause we're going to get em under our department or fire em
there men are the same, they will if they work with you offer to cook you food at the resturant then tell the boss you ate for free. happened to me and i never even thought of food i was simply offered it, next day told on. shramy lubricious two faced lover haters par excellance on the globe.
Others worth mentioning. Many children in the lower class speak like savages because they are used to profanities. Many men in fact use profanities in every few sentences. Lack of politeness. A number of times, some guy almost hit me with their motorcycle only for the other guy riding on his back smile at me instead of saying sorry. Its insulting. Filipino pride. If some Filipino or mixed-Filipino athlete or beauty queen wins, many other Filipinos would like to see that victory kinda like their own. And of course there is the insensitive karaoke or loud dance music to disturb their neighbors.
As a foreigner the toxic trait I noticed is saving face. I've seen it cause a lot of dishonesty
Absolutely. My wife unnecessarily gaslights all the time.
Hi Rubeauti. This is a great topic and it was nice to see the people you interview recognize what they do that would be considered toxic. In reading the comments I see a lot of people saying things that I have seen. I have to say I agree with a lot of the comments especially the one about Filipino time. It is very true that people from the west would think you are not interested in meeting for whatever the reason is if you are late and many would just leave after about 15 - 20 minutes. As always you look stunning. Keep smiling and stay safe
Wow! They got ONE of three most toxic behaviors (to foreigners) and maybe missed a fourth! Filipino time is something most westerners will have a problem with. We're raised to be prompt. When we are expected at a given time we consider it our DUTY to be on time. Being late is an insult. We have a saying, if you're 5 minutes early, you're on time. If you're right on time, you're actually late, and if you're late, we're gone! I'd bet there are quite a few potential relationships Filipinas have missed out on because of 'Filipina Time'. If you're late it sends the message that you really aren't all that interested.
The 2 missed behaviors are 'saving face' and 'jealousy' and maybe a 4th is that you don't realize how toxic these 2 really are. Saving Face is considered LYING by most westerners. I know, Filipinas are not liars, per se; but it will take some getting used to. It's definitely toxic. Jealousy is a whole different matter. It can be a little flattering at first, but gets old in a hurry. If it can't be tempered it's probably time to move on; constantly answering accusations is no way to live your life. Two points about Filipina jealousy: 1) If she thinks you can't be trusted, wouldn't it would be logical to assume SHE can't be trusted? 2) Can you imagine how many relationships are destroyed by this very toxic behavior? Not many western guys will put up with this spit for very long, so if a Filipina wants to keep her guy she better get herself under control. No ifs, no ands and no buts. If your guy tells you to knock it off, you had better listen or he won't be your guy for long!
My finding dealing with Filipina and Filipino are they are always trying to convince you that what’s in there best interest is what you want, and many are very stubborn
It is! 😅
Rubeauti@ it's the same in Thailand
Believe me, even some of us Filipinos get annoyed by it. I am a Filipino myself and when I dated a Filipina girl, she came an hour and a half late and didn't even think it was a big deal. Take note that it was only a friendly date and not a romantic one! I know this does not apply to ALL Filipinos but it's still a prominent one, so brace yourselves, Westerners.
Many foreigners come here out of desperation for female companionship, and will tolerate all of that and more. Some call it 'simping,' and even look the other way while the filipina is fleecing them. That just encourages more scamming.
I think all these behaviours are in the UK too. The ladies were really honest and open, you brought out their truthful side Rubeauti! I've found here, gossip is worse in small communities and in organisations were people don't like their work, like government work. Their minds seem to need to be filled up with thoughts about other people! Thank you for the great interviews lovely Rubeauti, stay safe and well, we need you! 🥰❤🌸
I’m dating a Filipino guy and it’s getting pretty serious and I’m most likely going to be apart of the family and the culture and learning how the Filipino culture is, it’s actually very intimidating. I haven’t met any of the Filipino family members except for the grandmother over FaceTime and the first thing she says to me was a threat. Said it with a straight face and not saying it was a joke. His mom told me to expect people to body shake me and talk shit behind my back.
You are mixing with Low Life - get out while you can,
They LOVE to talk crap behind peoples backs even when the person they insult was friendly to them.... these people are evil man.
@@CuttySobz oh yea they love to gossip. Glad my bf isn’t like that. He doesn’t want anything to do with his mother and grandmother (they’re the Filipino side of his family) given that both are abusive both physically, emotionally, and mentally. His mom tried to k*ll herself and blame the dad over Amazon packages and she’s is in the psych ward rn. So yea I can’t blame him not wanting anything to do with the Filipino side of his family.
Don't LOWER your Standards to these Low Life - get out or you will Regret it Big Time.
Don't know how any woman can be interested in the 5ft nothing Dwarfs ?
Being nosy. It’s very typical for Filipinos to delve on matters that most westerners consider private or personal such as how much money you make or your medical history. I once told this woman: “none of your f**king business”. She almost had a seizure in response. They don’t respond well to such directness apparently.
Bingo. They don't like assertive and confident people, it scares them and makes them jealous which is 100% unhinged
Body shaming and filipino time is horrible here i have to say.. I have never shamed anyone here out of respect which many don't have unfortunately
Yes,complete lack of discipline - this WHY the country is the Basket Case of Asia.
This is true. I lost my best friend on the surgery table. She was getting a these surgeries done as her parents (filo) told her she was ugly, dark skinned etc etc...she never woke up..
My late aunt was like that. She’s too dumb to realize it’s not cool to body shame people. I would tell my grandparents my aunt doesn’t show any respect to other Filipino people if they were still alive.
@@clarayates6187May she rest in peace and find love in her next life
Great video. I love their honesty and your questions give great insight that would help foreigners adapt to cultural challenges. Thank You for Sharing this.
Sounds like Polynesians, our women to be specific. I've had Filipino male co workers and they are the friendliest and chillest co workers I've had inside and out of work but I've also had Filipino female co workers and most of the time it would just be her backstabbing other co workers lol. This is the exact same case with Pacific Island women, friendly by face but the real talking starts when your back is turned lol.
Yes, even with relatives, lol
Thanks for the interview Ru!
Hello Rubeauti. Living happily in the Philippines I realised I needed to change my mindset on a lot of issues embedded in the culture, so have a great relationship with my wife's family. My wife and I are fortunateable to assist family with setting them up in business, so no need to help financially due to having high paid jobs in Australia. The one thing I could not cope with was personal lack of privacy from family members, I'm sure others have experienced this. I went to work on rectifying this in a respectful way and after a period of time the family understood
I live in Manila since 2019. Absolutely the worst is the jealousy here. It's so ridiculous and irrational and it becomes so toxic and irritating with time, till the point where you are not even allowed to go outside or to interact with any other people. It made it blow 3 relationships I had already. At the beginning I felt bad, I didn't know what to do, I didn't understand. Now I don't give a shit anymore to the point where I can't even take relationships seriously anymore.
I'm currently coupled again and I see the same story repeating. The only difference is that now I don't give a shit anymore if she goes away
Just dont go to Tondo, my in laws are from Tondo and all they like to do is be violent and "fight to the death" at the same time they expect you to take care of them and pay their bills .
Here in the UK 8 out of 10 people are good - Filipinos 8 out of 10 are BAD .
Juggling 3 girls at the same time is stupid
I’m glad I don’t stay in Manila when I visit family in the Philippines. It’s better to stay in San Fernando Pampanga.
@@blackpearL40-y2p
Not at the same time
My Filipino friend says they are raised to be sanguine. Outwardly- Happy Happy Joy Joy- all the time. It is inauthentic. In my experience, Filipino people have been very duplicitous. They are smiling to your face, but thinking negative thoughts. I have seen Filipinas act out in cringe-y “Tampo” behavior too many times to count, and I had to tell my friend’s new (mostly sweet, though very naive) Filipina wife that she needs to learn to use her words to communicate. I have been trying to mentor her to acclimate just enough to western culture now that she is in the States. Now that she has a daughter, she is able to see how her behavior is akin to a toddler’s behavior. One of my patients expressed that she thinks her Filipino culture has a heavy cloak of narcissism. Like a demonic spirit of Narcissism. Filipino people have experienced so much abuse and trauma from the Spanish and then the Americans and Japanese through history; I can see how the country would become narcissistic.
Of course, there are strengths and flaws in every culture, and I don’t mean to highlight just the negative qualities of Filipinos. I have beloved Filipino kith and kin. However, I see how destructive these negative thought patterns are, and it is highly frustrating and agitating to be around.
It was your ancestors who went through all those unfortunate ordeals, being colonized by Spain. The Philippines wasn't the only country in the Pacific where the Spanish occupied and devastated the indigenous people. Take Guam and the Northern Mariana Islands. They, too, suffered under Spain, Germany, and Japan, but they are nothing like the Philippines.
So I believe that it's an obsolete reason. I think It has to do more with poverty and a corrupted government. I think the Philippines was once under the U.S. after WWII, but it wasn't being colonized. The U.S. fought off the Japanese, so I think the Americans are not part of the problems you mentioned above. The Filipino wanted their independence from the U.S.. Could the Philippines be better off being a U.S. territory to prevent the type of corruption that has taken place in the Philippines for so long? Now, most people there want everything that's doesn't define them, such as bleaching products to give appearance like the Western world or other Asian countires. The abuse that came after WW II was from your own people. The leaders there were the ones neglecting their own people and the same family who were in power for so many generations.
Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of corruptions in the U.S. , but there are also the Constitution and Amendments, which I think is better implemented than what the type of democracy is in the Philippines.
I think one of the most toxic things is that young Filipinas are looking for extremely old men in the Western for relationships and marriage. The age gap could be 40 to 60 and up. They pretend to be in love, they pretend that they want a mature man, but in reality, they just want money. Many are gold diggers.
I remember once before, I overheard a Filipina saying that "I married this old man, but I don't love him. I'm just waiting for him to die from old age so I could have everything. " or they file for divorce in the U.S. once, they have a green card or become a U.S. Citizens and seek younger men. It's not love that they seek from older fragile men but for the assets and for their own selfish securities. On top of that, you marry their entire family🤣 and the majority will be sending money back to their families in the Philippines. Of course, not all Filipinos do this, but there are many. It's the hardship there, I think, made them this way.
They value money and looks and the need to show off all everything through tiktok, Facebook, or other types of media platform that include food, especially from places that most can'tafford to eat at. And don't get me started with "paying your debt" back to your family. A parent's job is to raise and prepare a child for life as an adult, not have 8 children all just to send them out to work and bring the money back home. This vicious cycle of dependency is not healthy. There's nothing wrong with helping family members, but there are differences between helping and a lifetime of providing to family members as an adult.
Hi could u elaborate and explain more about the narcissism part. I’m keen to know
Ithink u should interview some provincial Filipinas with the same questions. Do it with those woman from the lower-middle class. I think u will get different answers.
Province girl are shy, Not opinionated especially in the lower class and has poor English. They cannot express themselves
You are exactly correct
what is described here as toxic traits is also in the west called shamed based family systems or narcissistic enmeshed family systems., certainly contributes to all their social problems. It is good that some Filipinos are seeing it, as in Thailand or other regions in Asia still accept
such toxic and intrusiveness from their families and society. I m single I dont like socialize with people that possess these traits or are entangled with other toxic people. With their sense of entitlement , manipulation they have established many defense mechanisms to pacify their conscience greed and control 7:57
Entitlement
Yep, Dishonesty & the Church go hand in hand here !
Great Interview.
Seems these people are Well Aware that even they practice Some Toxic Things .
But that last part where they talk about Confrontation. The Question they need to ask themselves 🤔 maybe is, what do we actually gain. From being Confrontational? Pick your battles Carefully . Know when you're Better off just walking Away, which is Most of the Time.
Filipinos have a hard time just walking away. And they never admit to being wrong. They love to blame others. They really are an island full of bratty kids.
The toxic ones are toxic. The good ones are good, all the workers cashiers of 7-11, Walmart, ... angels in work. [But desk job, hospital, ... not so much ].
Filipino American here. These are my pet peeves:
- body shaming
- color shaming
- judgement and jealousy
- comparison/competitive, especially is someone is in the same age group
- emotional immaturity (no awareness and cannot communicate; they just ignore you or talk to other people instead of you directly)
- passive aggressive communication (you can’t set boundaries without them being “offended”)
- chismosa
- unsolicited advice about anything and everything
- realizing that some parents have narcissistic tendencies
Husband and I realize this and I think this is why we work. We agree on all these points and want to end the cycles. Started counseling in my 20’s because I was so depressed with my upbringing and how my parents “parented” me. It’s ongoing but it gets better
Very nice post and welcome to my country po.
Saying YES when they mean NO…. And not being able to say “ sorry, I don’t know” and reserving seats when waiting for friends or relatives…… 😂
Hahahahahaha, the last group was entertaining to watch. They were all teaching us about the Philippine culture, that was awesome, thank you for sharing. You looked amazing as always 😍
I knew about some of them, but your info is helpful to making me understand your culture!! Love you lots sweetheart!!
Thank you for sharing this info I appreciate it rubi this is helpful to know 😎
"Setting boundaries"....yes! SO important in every aspect of life!
Hi Rubeauti, thank you very much for your reply. You are 100% correct of course. Desperate people do desperate measures when they are poor. But it always starts in the home from the parents. They set the example to the children. My ex-wife was the type of Filipina that thinks she is beautiful. This type of Filipino forgets that she will grow old and lose her looks. Now she is 45 and wishes she had not blown it. Especially now that I am very wealthy. Have a great day and I look forward to your next video 😀
ALAN YOU ARE THE MAN AND I HOPE TO GOD TO BE WEALTHY LIKE YOU SOME DAY. WEALTH IS FREEDOM.
hi was nice to some one doing a interview and letting the person answer, to many ask the question then answer it so well done to you and you are gorgeous
Thanks for sharing this great video as usual ❤️🌹
I learned s lot from this video... Keep up the go job Rubeauti...Would love for you to do something about the Aetas people of the Philippines...
Great video. Thanks for sharing.
This subject does show the bad parts of what the Filipino people can be by the fellow country people. So they do have problems with the same things foreigner’s have! Great job 🌹🌹🌹
The body shaming ("tumaba ka") is rlly affecting me, and I lack confidence showing myself on camera etc. It really needs to change.
Hi. Thanks for the video.
Two things that were mentioned. Other than a purely social event, Filipino time is an extremely rude and disrespectful power play. It's often used by bad business persons to dominate others. That's why many foreign men won't like it.
Debt of gratitude is an evil being thrust on young people, mostly women in my experience, that is having a very simular effect as the western feminist lie that all women need a career first. It has the same result of putting off a family until it's too late. Leaving the woman feeling unfulfilled and with regrets. In the Filipinos case it seems to extend from the leach subculture. I have noticed that families with more independent members don't push the debt of gratitude.
Hi Baby, thank you for another great video. I really enjoy watching your videos and find them very entertaining. Filipinas are the most complicated group of females on the planet to understand. They should come with a manual called: A Thousand things to know about your Filipina. Bear in mind that women are naturally secretive. Lying of course is the big one as many Filipinas see nothing wrong with bending the truth to suit their needs and circumstances. My ex-wife was a Filipina, and hid her daughter from me for 2 1/2 years into the marriage, before I found out she had a daughter. Even telling the doctors at the hospital that my son was her first born. You would think the doctors would know if a child was a woman’s first born, right! If I was to date another Filipina now, I would be just good friends with her and not get too serious. Have a great day and all the best 😀
Every Filipina, just like every human being on the planet, is different. You can't judge a whole culture by one person you encountered. My Filipina wife and I have been together a LONG time, and she's never lied to me. As we now reside in the USA, she has made some Filipina friends that are here and married to an American. I've spoken with many men married to Filipinas, and very few have had their wife lie to them, at least about something so consequential. You need to reevaluate your vetting methods. Not every beautiful woman has a beautiful heart, no matter what culture they are from. I lived with my wife in the Philippines for more than a year before we decided to get married, and knew her at least 3 months before we started dating.
I ALWAYS suggest to every man dating outside of his country that he doesn't have a serious relationship online, but only get serious after MONTHS of being together in person. You just honestly have no clue what is going on unless you spend a LOT of time with them IN PERSON. This goes for any woman from any culture.
"Lying of course is the big one as many Filipinas see nothing wrong with"
And putting 120 million people to one bucket, is a big one, that you somehow also see nothing wrong with. Very few filipinas have lied to their husbands in the way your ex-wife lied to you.
What's up with the greedy money mongering and entitlement attitude? Hand out for receiving, never for giving, and rarely a 'thank you' :(
Very good topic I think mostly hours when comes from the family members because that's family should love unconditional
Tampo, Filipino time, The losing face issue,
Difficult for a westerner to accept.
As for body shaming, that's a disgusting trait...crab mentality also isn't good.
Both considered bullying in the west.
Yes on all these topics. I promise myself I will never go through that again.
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What I don't understand is that many know what they're doing is wrong, but continue to do it.
Face the FACT,you are dealing with the Low Life of Asia here.
Not saying what they mean, and meaning what they say, stopping in front of the walkway with no regard for who’s behind them, talking frantically for no reason, crab mentality, gossip, the fact you can’t be right if you’re talking to someone older.
I had a philipino friend online back in 2022 but later he started to attack ppl and then he later harrassed made fun of me and had his 2 backup friends which harrassed me too and they made fun of me so much that I even began to cry and felt suicidal but he later stopped harrassing me and we made peace but hes still harrassing people to this day he even lied about someone who lives in Egypt he said that hes not Egyptian and and I can tell philipenos should not be on the internet (also heres the title of the video he bullied me : you live in system error island) that was my old yt name btw what a awful title hope he realise what he did was WRONG but this proves Philipenos can be bullies on the internet (sorry for spelling mistakes)
Please can you reply to this thanks!
Putangese bullied you? Report them!
I totally agree with the asking "what do you want?" And the person saying "Oh, I am not really hungry...just only this one" and when the food arrives, that person is eating more than you 🤣🤣 Filipina do this every time. That is why I always order more food than what I will eat in that situation. Tip guys...always order more 🤗🤗 And also don't share your personal problems to anyone, mostly especially your relationship or financial problems. They will tell everyone!!! 😂😂
YOU DESERVE BETTER BROTHER I MEAN IT.
Nice one. What about you the same question. None of us ate perfect or with out sin. Confession deals with that.
I really like the top your wearing in this vlog. interesting content.
I like that young lady with the curly hair my girlfriend has curly hair like that and I think it's so beautiful if your hair is already curly wear it. My girlfriend never wear her curly hair outside until she met me and I told her to be herself and forget about trends.
I’m the family curse breaker of that crap. I’m Filipino and Irish, Cali tan and treated not nice growing up. Mine are fake all the way around, it’s sad.
The positive traits of my Filipina far out weigh any minor negative traits she has. Nobody is perfect.
I was shocked when my filipino lady friend said "You looked better when you were skinnier" So I'm fat? Ha , is that how blunt people are over there? Over here in the States, we try to say NICE things to people!
Yes, they are that blunt with YOU. It is extremely hypocritical. If you say that to her, it will start a tampo episode and you are wrong. A Filipino will ask you if you are single, how much you make, how much you weigh and if you are single all within 30 seconds of meeting them. However, you are expected not to ask the same questions. you will be lied or the question ignored.
A lot of friends ask me about things/my time in the Philippines and its hard to answer. It is a paradox. MOST Filipinos are the nicest, kindest people you could imagine, yet as a collective society, the most toxic I have ever seen.
@@wuhancooties3767 I agree. My friend is the most immature, over thinker, always negative mindset type. I decline hanging out! Who needs that crap
@@wuhancooties3767 " MOST Filipinos are the nicest, kindest people you could imagine," In 24 countries, the most toxic and certainly not the kindest. So mean to people, trash talking ugly, fat, LGBT, horrible behavior and I have seen it more times than I can count. My girl is from PH, I hate being there and can't wait to leave other than my girl.
I thought Americans are blunt...🤔🤔 .
Did she say that out of the blue? Or you ask her if you look good /bad in the dress/clothes you're wearing? If she said that out of nowhere then the problem is her.
she was being nice, caps lock=poor emotional bank account. stupid.
DANG THAT GIRL AT 1:40😩😩😩 LOOKING GOOD BESTAY😩😍💖
im afam and in my opinion, mostly bisyaya, backstabbers, entittled, lazy, late, ignoramnt, unapologetic and narcistic ...
good video
They even love victim blaiming they love to pissed people in Luzon and will act victims.
My aunt here in Canada does the 'did you lose weight? ', 'did you gain weight?' As I got older and if I haven't seen her in a while, I asked her first 'did I lose weight Tita?'😀 haha..and we all start laughing
Everybody's gotta have somebody to look down on
Who they can feel better than at any time they please
Someone doing something dirty decent folks can frown on
If you can't find nobody else, then help yourself to me
"utang na loob" .. that's something I can't hang with.. I don't want to make someone's family my financial responsibility where they expect expect expect.. don't want to pay other people's way in life; again, this is not my responsibility. I've got my own family too from which I came. If I were to marry a female of the Philippines this is a firm standpoint I would make known about myself from the start, and it is not going to change, where people think that you as a foreign person should also feel obligated through the filipina to submit yourself under this cultural . No_thank_you. Neither would I allow her to give all her money to her family; eg, if we have a home, a family (ie a child or two of our own), our own bills and needs..., she would need to recognise this and contribute to it every step of the way: it is your home too, your new family too, and your responsibilities too, and her family needs to understand this. The 2 become 1 unit, 1 flesh, what we have takes precedence. If I can work, she can work, THEY likely can work too. If she insists that she needs to give her family all her money.......................... Good bye. That relationship would not get off the ground.
@@Rubeauti I am looking forward to it.
Fun video, Nicole is very pretty!
Thank you for this video. Now I understand things better. I also love how reflected this young people in the video are, wow!
Filipinos and African Americans share such similar plight.
I’m sure there are other cultures too but of English speaking cultures that I am aware of, these two are allot alike. The trauma of colonialism and forced cultural assimilation runs deep.
A beautiful race, but many, mainly young-ish Filipinos can be quite insular, worry to much about what others think & poses childish behaviour.
I believe alot of this stems from a less open mind to the world & than Western Countries. This said, the same applies to insular people in all countries.
The being on time & tampo are two issues that not many older 'experienced in life' westerners will put up with.
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I'd say a huge issue, when it comes between a man & wife.
The Filipina must remember that most westerners come to the Philippines for an easier time than they've had, an enjoyable time with less stress & issues.
A Filipina possessing tampo is not what they come for.
I see the same in the US when I'm with poorer families. They can be very cruel, crude and insular. The kids in such families then learn that behavior so it seems generational. Without good social skills the kids then struggle to earn any money because it causes problems in the workplace, poor interviews. Even when starting a business for themselves they struggle because they don't see reality. They blame others and see themselves as always awesome and that's death for a new business.
@@tman5634 that's true. People in U.S don't care about what others think about them. It's just another day. But Filipinos concern themselves with what people say about them. It's really a Red Flag
It is either they nag or tampo. Just choose which one you prefer. Lol.
I really appreciated the honesty of the people interviewed... I am thankful you allowed them the freedom to express their views... True heart honesty is the most single important thing, along with deep heart compassion, that this world is so desperately in need of... Thank you! :)
I have been fat-shamed from my filipino family while growing up. They make me feel vulnerable and sensitive in a way. Perspectively, I'm completely satisfied of who I am, and as they all say: "Looks aren't everything!", and some of my family members and friends don't even care if I'm a plus-size figure, but embracing self-love. It's not soo bad to be different, and nobody shouldn't dictate our reputation frfr. . . ALL SIZE MATTER! PERIODT!!!!
Great video I think the Filipina is most beautiful as a natural Filipina and you look very beautiful always but extra beautiful in this video. I like the brown skin and black hair most beautiful ladies in the world in my opinion!!!
Narcissist abuse. When confronted about an issue we never talk about it. I’ll bring up an issue and she just stays silent. And her friends never have names it’s always her cousin or the gay guy or friend of the family. I just recently found out she had 15000 dollars in credit card debt that she didn’t tell me about. And she still isn’t telling me the truth on what she spent it on. When I want to talk about it I’m either overreacting or she just doesn’t address anything which feels like I’m going crazy.
she's gaslighting you
All these people say the bad traits they do, but still continue.
What about learning from what you know is wrong?
They do not, the educational system is 100% broken there. They are taught what to think, not how to think. Basic things are not taught, a 12th grade Philippine education there might be 5th grade in America as I have seen it with my own eyes there. Sometime go read the college modules, I sweat it was 6-8th grade level.
so true, they still use the traits that benefit them
They are too narcissistic to learn. They think they know it all.
When I have been waiting for a van or bus for a long time and a Filipino goes ahead of you when they have only been there 2 minutes
Welcome to Flipland !
So why do guys even bother with all the toxicity. Had a Filipina go crazy for me online for years. Sexual right away then I finally visit and she says she can’t sneak out to see me
Yep as a half Russian half Filipino I can testify the foolish mentality of Filipino women when falling in love mostly to the wrong guys if a good guy comes they doubt them if bad guys come they'll love them and be loyal to them 😂
I have noticed in videos of very nice Filipino families that by US standards they can be very cruel to each other, teasing. Including to very young kids. Families in the US can do the same. Mostly the more poor the more cruel. I think maybe the 2 traits go together. People don't want to work with such people. So if they never learn manners they have a harder time earning money. Growing up in such a family the kids don't learn to treat people nice so each generation gets worse and worse.
Filipinos will treat foreigners very nice but then say bad things about the foreigner when talking to other Filipinos. It's part of the saving face thing. Treat people nice to their face in order to earn money, but tear others down behind their backs to make yourself seem greater. Common human behavior all over the world. It's a human thing. But correlated to wealthy in general. A person who is secure won't talk bad about others because they have no need to elevate themselves...IN GENERAL.
A person who is genuinely helpful to others, treat others with respect without being a doormat, will be sought by others and given more opportunities so they increase their wealth. Wealth being handed to someone doesn't make them nice. Handed wealth can have the opposite effect because the person is insecure (imposter syndrome). Donald Trump for example is extremely insecure so he lashes out at others.
Worst thing I've observed and it drives me crazy. If someone points out something that could be done better, or a system that needs updated it's taken as a personal attack or an attack on the culture. Some genuinely want to help, but if they are immediately shut out or told "that's just how it is", or the person they mention an issue to gets angry you lose an ally. We all know the schools could use some updating, and the only way out of generational poverty is through education, but no one wants to hear suggestions or make a change. Filipinos outside the philippines are so successful, intelligent, and willing to continue self growth but within the philippines they are closed to new ideas or concepts.
Wow, Rubeauti, I can see what you mean about Western culture, which I would call a lack of culture, polluting the younger generation of Filipinos. Very disturbing some of the things I heard!
I've seen that toxic behavior online.
Really big gaslighters too and manipulative
Phlips don't know how to be respected and how to gain respect.. They're way too cringe.
I’m a western man, I believe and know what you call “toxic” is common across the globe. It’s human trade and people just need to work harder on their selves. Stop listening to everyone because most of the things we do is “influence” we received from our young age and then believe it’s true… it doesn’t mean it’s true. Finally just asked your self, is this good for me and will I benefit from it? If not then just let it go and don’t make it part of your character. Be the best version of your self stop following everyone your not a sheep your so much more.
wow:) what a lively gathering:))
I am British but I notice Filipino people like to talk about each other all the time, its so annoying. why haven't they got something better to do
Yeah and when their talking to each other (gossiping) making all these different noises (Tagalog) laughing, hooping and hollaring like it's a drug or somthing. 😱🤐😬
Coming from the Gutter to start with doesn't help either ?!
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Interesting
The masses seem to prefer re-electing politicians thanks to “utang na loob” and make time applauding beauty queens (pageant craze) than see themselves as contributors to the nation’s advancement or poverty, depending on how they think, act and vote. This is an unhealthy outlook while they keep hoping for somebody else to give them a better future served on a silver platter.
The very deadly sin I believe Filipinos have is “bahala na”. Whether its the government offices, telcos and Internet providers, power companies, water service, all are usually doing poor to mediocre service nationwide because the Filipinos imbued with the “bahala na” philosophy that are in charge of them, do not seem to innovate or fix problems that existed for a while. The same could be said for the government bodies from the top down to the barangay level so there is mediocrity of service everywhere. While this is happening on the corporate and government worlds, the average Filipino citizen is fine even if their street is dirty with garbage and dog feces, some pipes are leaking water in the sideways, the roads are dangerously overrun by unregulated motorcycles some of which had noisy exhaust pipes. Its somebody else’s concern.
For me it seems (from my experience) they are the nicest people, nicest locals (Malasya, Vietnam,,...) until you realize you are ATM machine, it killed so many pootential good relationship for me, idk maybe its my fault but one one start asking for money especially when have an iphone its end of the story right there...maybe i am in wront, to tough because its the way you are brought up but i cant cobtiniue past the poing they start to ask for money or asking you how much money do you have and it seems you always hit this conversation 😢😢😢 its hard to remember how many nice people and you don't know were they "nice" or nice..never will know 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
If you put up with it then nothing changes, I never get mad what would be the point, being always late I would always leave 15 min after meet up time and wouldn't be mad just got better things to do. Body shaming no! here's the point if you are unwilling to take care of yourself how are you going to take care of your partner.
worst one is the belief in Catholicism and they don’t own up to their mistakes or wrong doings. They just blame religious figures for everything. The body shaming, their need to control everything and everyone, and the fact that they say one thing, mean something else and then think something completely different is all a huge problem
Hence why the Philippines is a fake conservative country Spain just use the catholic religion to the PH as a distraction to steal.
Colorism, crab mentality, body shaming, whitening products, glorifying European features and calling our own features ugly, mental health isn’t real mentality, and not really toxic but annoying and rather should not be happening, but revering other cultures like Korean or American or Japan and not being proud of our own culture and not investing in our arts and traditions, also the fact that this video is full of Filipinos speaking English is bothersome because why in the world are we losing our own language in our own country. I’m proud to be Filipino but this is what irks me about us, like we need to to stop comparing cultures and start being our own and original like we have had enough of colonizers trying to rid us of our culture.
Black folk, Latin and Filipino time. 1hr late .We go hand in hand.
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nice video., interesting subject, question,... are the women in philipines jealous,.. and how they let known other women a specific man is taken?...
did they forgive easily or they stay angry?.
happy that you like my question,.. l have lots more,.. meanwhile waiting for your reply, thank you in advance
Hello my beautiful angel 😘. You look lovely as always ❤️.
Thank you William, I thought you might not have seen me there.
Great video chismes and bullying is the biggest diseas in this world 😂😂😂👍👍👍
Body shaming I get that growing up from my mother weather I’m getting fat or I’m getting too thin. I don’t do this to my own children always give them positive feedback. Filipino time I don’t like. I made sure to express my displeasure about that to my Filipina gf when we first started dating. If you’re going to be late text or call me. Don’t keep me hanging or else I’m gone. Not here waiting for your ass. Be on time to show that you care about the other person.
Body shaming is rampant in the US too, especially 'skinny shaming' now because so many in our nation are overweight.
Yep, I just leave them and they start texting 50 times and I just move on with my day and say I am busy.
They give me headaches .on-line
What i cannot stand is when we are doing common activities and my filipino family or the friends of my wife are all speaking in their dialect. Other thing i dont understand is the overruled. During the covid they ask you to fill infinite papers and permissions and so on and when comes to the moment of show the documents no one ask you for them. For example the trazer application. The spass, the health pass, the barangay covid safety document,... it is all absurd. With just one app or document should be enough. This exist, of course, because of corruption. Other things i dont understand is the travel to a place to take pictures and selfies but not to enjoy the place. If we visit intramuros Manila lets be curious and explore not just be in a rush to take pic in every place. Another thing i cannot stand with is the missunderstanding or cinism of catholicism. You see all of them worried for be the most catholic: going to misa, bautizos, comuniones, etc. But when you ask them to behave as real catholic (help the poor, build up a cooperative to help the poor, do funding to help single women with babies, push for the construction of a public hospital, or be aggressive against the corruption) they just avoid the issue. They put excuses: the cityhall is corrupt and nothing can be done, we will do someday, or just tell you it is a good idea and thats all.
Apart of those, filipino people when it comes to family or friends are really marvelous people.
@@Rubeauti jajajaja so funny. Sí, soy español! What most bother me is when they speak at each other in their dialect in front of me and can be speaking like that for hours. Sometimes they will speak me in english (or spanish) but mostly they are in their conversation is sooo annoying. In spain when you have a foreigner you try to communicate all time
@@filipinoespanol6414 It's interesting to see how they focus on the person instead of what he says. They do the same with their politicians. They vote for personalities. No for ideas. A tough looking president (a dictator) is always right about everything he says. Issues remain unaddressed. Talking about problems is taboo. When we try to reason Filipinos about problems, they try to flip the table and insinuate that the real problem is the ones who talk about the problems.
WELL SAID sir! I speak decent Spanish and it helps with Cebuano 🙂
That last line - Jesus !
great camera