You can tell the body shamers that the joke is on them because those of us that think Filipinas are beautiful, think that because of the dark skin and the long black hair. You are very beautiful and don't let anyone tell you different. I would be proud to have you at my side anywhere in the world.
My gf would sometimes tell me that girls we passed on the street, had commented negatively about her dark skin tone. I told her to ignore them, because that was one of the things that I found the most attractive when we met. She often commented on how chismis was so common in the Philippines. Thanks Rubeauti for another well presented and interesting topic. I’m sure your channel will continue to grow. Best wishes to you.
My Filipina wife has chocolate brown skin, and at first she was sensitive about it. I assured her that if I was looking for a white skinned wife, I would not have left it all and moved to live half way around the world. I could have easily found that in Canada 😂
@@Kevins-Philippine-Retirement don't we all know, Kev man! I'd literally move to the moon just to avoid white women. It's a sad day when you realise you genuinely cannot stand the women in your own country. Every man NEEDS a god fearing woman by their side. You'll see something beautiful when your filipina asks you for $20 and goes Ukay Ukay, comes back with 4 fake Gucci shirts for you and half a wardrobe of fine as hell clothes for herself. Give your Canadian woman $20 and she'll come back with a penis and a rainbow 🏳️🌈 Do you know what I mean? 🤫
White skin girls even may be prettier than dark skin girls when they are young. But, after 35, 40, dark skin women are prettier and hotter than white skin women who get older earlier than dark skin women. I love dark and black skin women.
Good video. I've lived here for 16 years and great to see a Filipina talking about those negative toxic traits. Too many "happy, everything is great" videos that are unrealistic. Another big issue is how Filipinos bully other Filipinos when they speak English ("social... so OA..."). It cripples confidence of young Filipinos at a very young age.
Thank you for being so honest and informative Rebeauti. Honestly your skin is beautiful. The thing that makes most people ugly is their attitude and actions.
In Cebu, where I grew up before I move to the U.S. in my late teens, I and my Barkadas compliment your skin color by saying, She is a Mulata Beauty. It means to us, that You are a Beautiful Dark Skinned Lady. Lesson I learned from my grandma (mother's side) growing up in Cebu city Philippines. I was very upset about seeing too many wealthy Chinese and Spanish Families while we are just average families struggling to make it. My grand mother was not very happy to hear me say, we should send all the Chinese back to China and the Spaniards back to Spain. Grandma told me with a very stern but loving way, (Danny) my nickname, do you know our family history? you should. Now I will give you a choice, which country are we all going home to? I was speechless! She told me Danny, my great, great, grandfather came from mainland China, now my great, great grandmother is half Spanish/Portuguese. So, you better watch what you say, it will bite you back. We Filipinos are lucky in many ways that, we experienced many different cultures that most of us survive anywhere God put us in this Planet.
@Antonio Alfaro. Your grandmother was right Antonio. My dearest is from Sogod Cebu, we lived together there for 7 years. My wife is very astute in her thinking. She said, 'no one owns the country we live in, it belongs to all of us who live there'. A woman neighbour at Sogod, once told me, 'go back to where you came from', she also does not have the right to tell me that, the Philippines does not belong strictly to Filipino's. I had a legal right to be there, i had a residency card and i was self sufficient, not requiring anyone to support me and my wife plus, we own our home there. It's just plain jealousy bordering on racism, (because i am caucasian). The barangay Captain, once told me, ' Bob, you are a good citizen', that mean't a lot to me, because i tried to be exactly that. Bob and Lina. New Zealand.
@@daddybob6096 I will go ahead and tell ignorant Filipinos, before I will go home in one condition only, I want to see all OFW's, all Filipinos in America, all Filipinos in Australia, UAE Etcetera, Etcetera.... By the way, I will also asked that same Ignorant person, when did you start working for the Philippine Bureau of Immigration? show me proof you have the authority to tell me to go besides, it was the immigration officer who stamped my Passport and let me in.
Unplug yourself from the colonial matrix. In other words, a westerner told you that you were beautiful, or that you are ugly. These standards were based off of their "idea" of what beauty is, and was psychologically reinforced through wealth and "cast" systems to ensure that there would always be a labor force taking care of the rich elitists. Now you know that you are beautiful. Even westerners know this, which is why young westerns are breaking away from this type of colonial thinking embracing all forms of beauty, wanting to finally mary other groups of people other than western women. Hollywood, social media, and advertising conditions your mind to "think" this is "in" and this is "out". You have to go far beyond this and have looonggg conversations with your future spouse. Take long walks and talk. Go beyond the superficial stuff like cuteness and fashion and see not only the outward physical attributes that attracted you, but the mental and spiritual. In the end, the latter will always "trump" the first as this is what is needed to.keep a relationship together and lasting long term.
Words of Wisdom....I urge all humans of all Nacionalities, get an Ancestry DNA Test. You will be CHOCKED....of your ancestors roots. (Therefore yours too.)✌️✌️✌️
Just an add on comment about skin colour. For me, I have never understood this fixation some people in Asia (not just the Philippines) have with having light skin and thinking it is better than darker skin. For me, it is the opposite!! I have light skin but would love to have darker skin - because then I wouldn't get such bad sunburns!! Also I think it is just more beautiful than my pale skin. I was told, when I lived in China, that lighter skin is preferred because dark skin means you are poorer and are a labourer who has to work outside all day instead of an office. (who cares, was what I always thought in response). I still remember the first time I saw people in Japan using umbrellas in the summer on a bright day and thinking, wow, they must know more about an impending change in the weather than me only to eventually realize they were trying to avoid the sun! For Canadians, that borders on bizarre!! We celebrate our tans, especially in winter when it is a sign of wealth because it means you could take a vacation far away from the freezing winter in some tropical paradise! Haha, people like what they don't have I guess!
Befriended a 101 year old woman who said this when people asked her what the secret was to her beauty, grace, longevity: I'm glad when someone is talking behind my back because they aren't talking about someone else. I wondered about that for a long time until I settled on one of my favorite countries to immigrate to, which for years had an official motto, and you may even hear it often repeated in the general population: noone is better than everyone else. What the awesome woman of great age said, and that favorite countries motto was, set me to wonder: how can I understand that, be that? Not just for altruism, but, if I go to that country without being that wise: maybe they will kick me out for not being cool enough, ya know.
Great episode. What you said is so very true. When my fiance lived in Bohol there was so many gossipers. I told her ignore them. All they have to do is gossip all day because their own lives are so sad and boring. They hate to see anyone who is more happy than them. They are always so negative and jealous.She is too concerned about what they say, even to her. My mom taught us if you have nothing good to say don't say anything. I told my fiance that she needs to ignore them and tell them you are not my friends, kiss my ass and go to hell. Then they stop.
@@Rubeauti Very good, brave of you to talk about this mean, back stabbing behavior there. Sure, things like this happen everywhere. But soooo many vloggers are sooo busy trying to kiss the butt of Philippines that they Never mention the bad things..as if it is a perfect place...when no place is
What an excellent topic. That helps me understand many situations that I faced in the Philippines. For example, Filipinas don't realize that their perfect tanned skin attracts us. Thanks, Rubeauti.
@@Rubeauti Like Marc said, most of us westerners find dark skin attractive. You look very light skin in the video, just remember to us you are prettier than them & even more important, you are a lovely person!!
Being from the US and married to a Filipina also living here 6 years i can say you are 100% correct in everything you said. My wife use to use skin whitener. She stopped when i asked her many years ago. She looks like she has a very nice tan something us in the states strive to achieve. Also right is she is never wrong. Always an excuse lmao. She alone supported her family and put her younger brother threw collage. The folks next door don't speak to us and say she changed since getting married to a foreigner. I think most are upset i do not lend them money. We will be moving soon we purchased land in the mountains and are building a new home there. I will be glad to get out of this toxic city where karaoke in the middle of the street till very late at night is a common thing. They dislike me because i will go to them and tell them show respect for others and lower there volume. FYI Most Filipino's can't sing. Don't get me started on the driving.
*Sige na, you have summed it up exactly as it is.* Also *Anthony Liggins* has confirmed all that I wanted to say. 😅The most frustrating thing I must agree with is; "They hate to be embarrassed and will lie to save face." my Filipina wife however is SO good at taking care of me that I will forgive her small faults. We have been married 53 years, tutlo anuk ko. (I have three kids)
I’m from California in USA, I have 3 sisters They want beautiful dark skin every year in summer. The spend all their time in the sun, sunbathing . Every year ! They are in their 60’s now . Still sunbathing So, white American women want to look like you, and Philippines women want to look like my sisters, white I married a Philippines girl 8 years ago and I’m still madly in love with her ! She is beautiful inside and out ! I love her brown skin !!!!!!! She really turns me on ! I’m blessed !❤️❤️
A Number of Reasons can Contribute to the Always Late Habits 1) it was Never Stressed ( Growing up) that being on Time can be Important. 2) Being in Crowded Traffic on a Daily Basis can Lead to a Defeatist Attitude ( where Traffic is Slow, you have no control so why worry) But there is an Answer to the Slow Traffic. I studied the Traffic Patterns on my way to work. Got to know the Average Time to get from Home to Work, added 10 to 15 Minutes to that time in order to address the construction and other delays, so I learned to never Show up late.
I learned this lesson from a co worker. If you NEVER want to be late....just show up an hour early. Get into that habit, and its much more positive than the habit of being late. Also, its an easy way to stand out from the crowd!
Three pieces of advice for those struggling with the topics in the video: 1. Self confidence: the hardest lesson we learn. Some get it easy and others take years to break a cycle of mind games… the ironic part is you’d never know who is struggling. 2. Toughness: Tough times make strong/resilient people. It would be nice to have it easy 100%, but then we’d all be crying over the smallest things. 3. Faith: Aligning your values with the lessons of your faith can get you through a lot. There are so many lessons in my faith about being treated poorly and how the person/people overcame their oppression.
It seems that jealousy and envy is at the root of these behaviors. I think that there's some immaturity going on there as well. Thanks for shinning a light on these behaviors. I'm sure it's not an easy decision "to spill the tea" on your countrymen and women but as a foreigner from the US I like hearing about the good, the bad and the ugly, before I actuly visit the Philippines. As a mature adult, your comments won't discourage me from visiting. I'm very thankful for your perspective however. Thank you for your honesty 😊.
Latin people are like this too; for the most part, especially Mexican women. I mean, you find this in any country, but it seems particularly prevalent in Latin American cultures. I like your content, by the way. Very informative! 👍🏼
From my own experience after working there for years, i can attest that gossiping is a national sport in Ph. And yes, many Filipinos are extremely jealous about other's success or happiness in life.
Thank you for the brutal truth. As a cano married to a filipina for 25 years in the US, the competition, jealousy, chismis is so bad among filipinas here. My wife has had filipina friends but the 'I am your friend until I am not' is just so depressing. Her best friend is Japanese. They get along great. Keep up the good work and keep the information flowing. But at the end of the day, as a tourist I find the Filipino people to be very friendly, caring and generous.
I would like to get a copy of this vlog because it's culturally educational to cover these particular filpino traits..understanding these traits are greatly toxic can help one to deal effectively with these challenges..I want my filipina girlfriend to view this penned piece from a filipina.
I agree I've witnessed most of that in the Philippines. The children of poor parents can never get ahead because they spend half their life providing a retirement for their parents The obsession with white skin is like nothing I've seen before. The refusal to admit error is also frustrating. They hate to be embarrassed and will lie to save face. Even with all that we still love the Filipina s! 😊
Especially the refusal to admit their "errors"/ lack of judgment. The concept of saving face is completely backward. It's obvious they will never evolve.
The bottom line is that you are truly beautiful, you know it, I know it and all of your family, classmates, neighbors and friends know it. Enjoy the gifts that God has given you.
Hello Rebeauti as always since I start watching you I enjoy seeing you and Listening to your great topics, it's a pleasure to see how you are into your work the Honesty and Professionalism is outstanding. I see your Channel getting Big in I hope UA-cam don't give you a hard time, keep up the Great job you are doing and God Bless 🙏
I don't waste my time on toxic people....I waste my time glancing at beautiful people what ever colour they are.....you are the 🍎, 🥭 and 🥥 of my 👀.....thank you for being so beautiful today,as always xxx
Don't ever let anyone tell you you are not beautiful...you are gorgeous my love...I personally shy away from toxic people and your content was very informative...thank you for your wonderful video...
I just found your channel and had to subscribe after listening to your video. Having been married to a Filipina for 11 years I can concur that everything you said pretty much applies to my wife. It's pretty hard being married to someone who is never wrong about anything.
Same here. It is unbelievably frustrating especially when you have dedicated your life to make hers better. You become her escape goat for everything she doesn’t like and everything she does wrong. It is not what I expected in the beginning. It is what she does now.
Gossip is all over the world, not just the Philippines, and people that tell harmless Gossip, I will add to it if it's about me, but if they're trying to tear someone down, I WILL NOT be a friend to them, and I could careless how dark someone is
Always is rude people around. Dont worry you are beautiful "Morena Filipina". Be yourself forget others and go ahead with your chanel and your life. Take care and keep safe. Best regards from Catalonia-Spain.
Interesting video Rubeauti. I'm familiar with all of these but the one that seems to me to be the worst is the Utong Na Loob. I have first hand knowledge of this and I've just decided to live with it. It's so strongly engrained in her mind that she doesn't realize there is anything wrong. So..... I make peace with it in my mind and concentrate on the good things. Salamat for your view on these topics. It helps us foreigners to cope with our loving filipinas.
I posted a comment here about "The Builder" personality as defined by Dr. Helen Fisher. If you don't have this constellation of traits (I don't), dating in the PH will only lead to frustration. Having been in the PH, I'm now focusing on other locales. Peace.
I have to admit- I am guilty of having some of these negative vibes. I am from NY and I respect the Filipino culture. Especially their resilience and revolutionary ways. The way they changed their national language from Spanish to Tagalog very quickly- to preserve their culture. So I have to admit I feel negatively about the way the Filipino beauty standard places whiter skin or mestiza appearance above the brown skinned women- who are in my honest opinion the most beautiful women in the entire world. I do become slightly annoyed when I often see half Europeans represent the Philippines in the a pageant. Respectfully I know that those contestants are great Katriona is absolutely incredible in every way! But the Philippines needs to get over this subtle prejudice against beautiful brown people.
Hi Rubeauti this is the first video of yours that I have seen and I found it to be interesting and informative. I am African-American and in America skin color is a big thing but it has gotten better. I am an old man so I remember when it was much worse. If anyone criticizes you because of your skin color you should ignore them because you are beautiful.
During my first visit to Pampanga from the UK, I asked my Filipino friend 'what are all these adverts for skin whitening products'? He explained how Filipinas often don't like their morena skin. In the UK girls use tanning studios and products to make their skin darker. Many Western men love morena skin tone and your long dark hair, so please Filipinas, celebrate your natural beauty. I have been married to my morena Filipina for 3 years and we could not be happier here in England. Hope we can visit soon
@@GliffYT God bless your trip brother. I am going in October too. My girl is 16 years younger than me, but came from the province. She is wiser, more mature and she looks like she is 26 (I am 56). A great lady. I have been soaking up all the Fil/Am dating videos and am trying to set the cultural expectations before I get there. Let's hope they relax the pandemic stuff before the flights and for entry. I heard flying into Manila was a pain, so its easier to fly into Cebu or Clark (angeles). Any thoughts? Just wondering.
@@Rubeauti I taught is was the good old asian saying, that dark skinned are the poor workers from the fields. So it's been connected with poverty. I know it's seen like this in Thailand. The same if your from a poor part of the country. For me its the same as fat shaming, and its connected with them having poor self-esteem. Like in another video of yours there was a comment about ALL overweight people smelling bad. I mean that commenter must have some serious problems that needs working on badly.
Married a philipino women 34 years ago. I'm a American yank. Slovakian, scotch Irish. Grew up on a American dairy farm. Now have a beef farm. And work in a machine shop for 26 years. Still together. Help her family, to this day. Home, funeral,s, schooling, college. Met her in my beloved marines.❤.Semper Fidelis. Your right. Your right, philipino likes to gossip, state side. Also.
Great Video. So true on toxicity in the Philippines. Especially the gossips. My aunt always says good thing they’re talking about me because then they’re not talking about someone else. And then she would laugh like crazy. Better just to ignore
Rubeauti! Good vlog. Many UA-cam videos on the subject say that the things you are talking about, insulting toxic negative remarks, and what you said about you being very sensitive, toxic people target sensitive people and say things to upset them on purpose. It is a form of Narcissism and might even be NPD or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. They are abusive verbally and should be ignored or it will make you upset, then they point the finger and say "look, what a baby! You are SO IMMATURE!" and things like that. It's horrible, my father treated me this way my whole life and I finally had to push him out of my life because it is not healthy and he wouldn't stop. It's like he is addicted to insulting me. Watch out for these people Rubeauti! Walk away from them. Especially if you are like me. I am very sensitive to other peoples emotions and vibrations, I can tell what someone is feeling without talking to them. Narcissists target people like me, just to upset them. Especially in public. It's ridiculous, I know! Stay strong. It took me my whole life to learn how to deal with my sensitive side. 🙂
@@Rubeauti Ya, it is unfortunate. I know most Filipinos would never abandon family members and good friends of the family and most people enjoy tease and pick on each other but really I don't mean that, there is a certain line most people don't cross and if it's some kind of disorder, there are ways to tell. Like super toxic and into crazy! Like lying, stealing, not being able to say they're sorry when they say and do bad to you, telling people you are mentally ill/immature and like that behind your back, trying to turn people against you, jealousy, etc. Thank God most people are not like this! Life would be so lonely. Because I would be like "ok EVERYONE get out of my house" LOL! 😂
I guess, that most of these traits are everywhere. I've lived in South America and also raised in Europe. Gossip and jealousy across all ethnicities and cultures. Thanks for confirming that Philippines is not an exception. In case I come to visit, it will feel home.
You are right on point. After being in a relationship with my wife for seven and a half years I understand everything you are saying as if you were only talking about my spouse. Unfortunately this toxicity has undermined our relationship and now, after swearing to me that she would never leave me this is exactly what she did.
I appreciate the honesty in the video. It’s not easy to do, because of course in some circles you’ll get some push back, but at least you remained truthful to the topic. It’s sure to help those that are unaware.
I really love this video these are some of the discouraging things I’ve noticed about the Philippines that I didn’t understand the toxicity they have against each other
I don't see all this as negative. I see the bashers as jealous people who have no way to gain traction to succeed. Yes, feelings are hurt because you are a very sensitive and loving group of people. You've mentioned before the competitive nature of your culture, but it should also be mentioned in the same paragraph that in disasters, everyone helps each other. After the Dec 16th Typhoon, people lost their lives, homes, and possessions. I didn't see the crying, whining and self pitty that we see here in the US. Yes, people gossip, but it's only toxic because of your tenderness and caring nature. Your people care about everything to the point of stress about harmless words. I admire this as a beautiful quality. Don't let the bashers get you down. They are jealous and want to be like you. ❤️ Thanks again for your informative videos
@@lunchbox6576 yes, it's a negative. But it's an individual thing. And once you have a partner, she will learn to be punctual to keep things happy. Wishing you all the best with these gentle people.
Truly Rubeauti I wish that your honest views that you share here will contribute to the positive thinking to your negative country people. MAY YOUR UA-cam NUMBERS GROW 10 FOLD. MAY GOD CONTINUALLY BLESS YOUR TRUTHS.❣️
English humour revolves around the idea of self-deprecation, we will abuse ourselves before turning that attention to others. for example, my father and I say terrible things to each other, if you didn't understand the context. However taken in context we have gone out of our way to find insults for each other, demonstrating that we have been thinking about each other. You have a beautiful skin tone btw. I'm not "colour blind" as so many Westerners pretend to be, your skin is darker than mine.. so what. all that matters is who you are, not what you look like. We should acknowledge our differences and celebrate them :) Small town gossip exists all around the world and it is driven by jealousy and spite, the challenge is to rise above it, "be the better person". It is unpleasant but it is not unique to PH. Take the positives out of each day, and smile at someone, because that smile just might make someone feel happier, take care and have fun :)
You are exactly my thoughts on what a beautiful Filipina is and can only hope when I come over there I can find a woman half as beautiful as you. Keep up the good videos.
I have had a long distance relationship with a Filipina for 2 and 1/2 years now. I a mexican with brown skin. The first time she said she liked my skin color. But about 3 months ago she told me now she like light skin , not brown . It hurt me. I told her I like what you have. She is very light skin. What matters to me is the persons heart ♥️
I am an afro American male, so I like Filipinos with dark skin, light skin, white skin, red skin, or any skin color. As you know, in America we have people from all parts of the world and Now in America, we date women of all colors and all classes. I am college educated so I do not care what people say about me or think about me. I try to treat all people with the best respect.
It’s about time we see black ladies with white guys on the tv. Long over due. It should be common place. I’m white, from the ghetto in Sacramento. Lots of migrants where live. The current political situation isn’t helping the white guy in the ghetto either, I tell you! I was a minority in high school big time. I used to hate it. Only go in the bathroom when you absolutely have to. Be careful end of the year too. I learned we are all the same. My experience has helped me in my endeavors. I lived in Hawaii for 7 yrs and they straight hate white people. I never had a problem. I can read it quick and adjust. I’m comfortable at a Hindu party or a Pentecostal church service in Spanish. I’ve done them both. The worst are racist white people. I can’t stand them. Thanks for reading.
I'm italian and my fiancée is filipina so I can reeeally relate to this. I could observe most of the things you said and it's very frustrating for the people who have to suffer it.
I'm glad maam that you were able to mention the toxic mentallity of Pilipinas .I'd lived many years abroad more than 4 decades but the progress is still slow to change..That's why quite hard for me to adapt & to go back the old way.I think we need to be optimistic and improve our weaknesses which is universally accepted in order to remove those toxic in our existence.Thank you,hoping our women not in general will accept it.
I think it can happen anywhere that people's lives are so empty, they need to fill it up with spite about others. I feel sorry for them really. To have a life where the only interest is in putting people down? That's so sad. I wonder if they were bullied a lot and feel that they have to give it back? I love your attitudes Rubeauti, live and let live. Compassion for all and never judge others, it's their lives, their decisions. Stay safe and well lovely lady! ❤🥰😘
I must say that I have heard over vloggers (filipina and foreigner) talk about this subject but you went to a slightly deeper level. I was like.... wow...really... they take things to that level. I am visiting for the first time in a few weeks. I hope I don't stir up any gossip (chismis) or cause problems. Filipina time sounds like CP time...lol. Since you are Filipina you can say and express things a little differently that a foreigner would come off saying some of the same things (but that is a good thing to get the real story). Its a shame people aren't happy for each other. They should stop those side comments.
With my wife since 2016,, OMGOSH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The perfect explanation for all her ODD habits, lol... I actually had her listen over at least 6 times where you said a Filipina is NEVER wrong,, Tho she often is,, yet I am proud to say we had Tampo ONCE,, and it never happened again,, Glad I found you blog,, keep up the good work,,,
You nailed every aspect…that is my mother to a T. When I was growing up it bothered me but as I get older I learned a skill goes in one ear then out the other…complete ignore. I just don’t give a shit. Because of this I treat my kids differently. I always praise them and support them. I’m not going to let that cycle continue. Even money none of my siblings give money to my folks too damn Americanize. My folks on each side still have properties back home and a house plus they got there own house and my mother still complain not having money. They keep buying so much stuff. My mother at age 82 still does Botox, she gets her fake eyelashes, then her nails and hair and complains she needs money. All 3 of us just ignore her. Good video sorry of my rant but that’s my mother.
I love your skin-tone🥰😍 you are an amazing expression of beauty inside and out! Looking forward to exploring your country to reset and learn something new!
Thank you for this honest discussion. I don't let toxic people bother me, but I would warn them that their toxic words and behavior are also poison to their spirit. Bullying doesn't only hurt the bullied. The bully is harmed by their own negative behavior.
if there is someone like you who understands and is aware objectively of the mentioned situations, then it must be more of you out there. it just has to be. thank you for this video. take care
Hi Rubeauti i have to say from my experience without being there, but from LD relationship , i have noticed all of what you mation here. For me the most toxic is that Filipinos can not be wrong they never make mistakes and especially when you find out that they say lies they don't admit that. No people are perfect all we can make mistakes but in a relationship you must have the courage to admit it and try not do it again. Unfortunately this never happened. This can ruin a relationship.
Just subscribed. I really like your content and your personality. I'm from a small town in Virginia USA and I tend to have old fashioned traditional views on dating and marriage. Your videos have helped answer some questions. Toxicity is everywhere so knowing there are women who still hold good values is promising. Your a beautiful smart and bubbly person thank you.
I have grown up abroad, but am rooted to my origins. I realize that Gossip and bullying is common in all cultures and Philippines are not exempt. Some times we focus too much on the hardship and envy of others that it makes Filipinos too sensitive. What I do note is that no one but a few calls anyone out on their negativity and allows it to permeate. The chain is never broken, when all you hear from a few Gossipers that create fake wokness. Look at what has happened to our world today with all the fake news and control given to those disemenating the news. If all you hear is negative news; that is all you become sensitive to; I suggest that you dwell less on the past and make the present a time to change the conversation. Challenge and change the conversation when you hear the negative discussion. This will add to Filipino culture. PS, Filipinos are admired for the beautiful tan skin. Stop buying those whitening soap. :}
Thank you for your persistent efforts to educate us foreigners. You have helped me better understand my Filipina and her culture . Your English is better than the English of most westerners. Clearly, you have made an effort to sharpen your dialect. God bless you always !
Great video. I'm glad you touched on skin color. When I first came here years ago, back when Clark AB was still active, one of the first things I noticed on television and magazines was that all of the actors & models were very fair skinned or "white" looking. I'm now here visiting again after so many years and it's still the same. It hasn't changed. That was very disappointing to see especially since the majority of the Philippine people are brown skinned. I plan on making video on this topic. Perhaps we can discuss it together.
Magandang Japón , i traveled your beautiful archipelago 20 years ago. I had a Filipina asawa and an intelligent and pretty filam daughter. Anyway I just wanted to say that you speak the truth, salamat. Loved your video and look forward to more by ‘Ganda Pilipina and very intelligent. It was a pleasure listening to you.
Hi Rubeauti, what you said is true. Hard working people. As for skin colour, its quite sad, if people comment on what colour others are. Believe me, it happens in other places too. Beauty lies within. Sadly my ex, a chinese thought white skin was beautiful, and darker tones were unattractive. But to me it doesnt matter.
Great video young lady. Many truths exposed in this area. But I feel Many of the philipino characteristics you mentioned are also found in most cultures. Looking forward to your next video. You seem to share common sense thoughts and I appreciate you perspective! P.S. I think darker skin is beautiful!
Toxic mentality is generally a cloaked to hide what they feel about themselves. I think when it's embedded into culture as such I would think that on a larger scale it is related to how Pinoys feel about their people. This behavior is directly impacted by a person education as well. Putting people down to feel good about oneself is detrimental to the person acting it out. BTW, I am new to the channel. Rebeauti, hearing your accent make me miss the Philippines and my Filipino friends. I hope to return in the near future.
I learned about Filipino Time within weeks after arriving. Also learned about the saying, "Bahala na" at the same time. Now if there's something that's supposed to start at 5, I figure it MIGHT start at 6. Maybe even the same day.😏 Gossip isn't limited to the Philippines, sadly, but I've even seen it in churches, where people SHOULD know better. And as far as having darker skin, this foreigner sees it as a plus because it helps a beautiful smile stand out even more.
Hello Rebeauti, good morning. I hope you're doing well. Gossip is big in America too. You get the exact same thing here. So don't worry, it seems to be human nature. It may stem from a touch of jealousy or envy.
The behaviors in part Go across mini cultures. But you’re so right that it is very prevalent in the Philippines. The most damaging of all is the idea that children have to support the family. You can never break the cycle of poverty because no one ever built wealth. You are so smart and so beautiful. I know some man will be so very lucky to have you in his life. You have such a good understanding of life love and people
Yes it's AShame the ladys do this to eachother. I say if you have nothing good to say stay quite. What goes around comes around. PHILLIPINAS are unique and beautiful. Good Job
Hello Rubeauti . Yes I hear what you are saying I think one of the biggest problems is that a lot of the ladies in the Philippines are very jealous and jealous turns into spite which is sad, I have also run into the dark skin issue , I personally love the the dark skin hair and eyes but what I have heard is if your skin is to dark it means you must be poor as you work outside all the time again which is sad there is nothing wrong with working outside , as you said some if not most of the ladies in your Country are the bread winners of the family , you only have to look at the amount that work overseas they are amazing . one thing that annoys me is the amount of men that do very little and live off there sisters , wives and family . Rubeauti you live in a beautiful Country I always love coming there and I enjoy it 100% . Thanks for another great video , take care as always :)
@@Rubeauti You do not have to worry :) you are a very beautiful , it so strange that a lot of Asia ladies wish for lighter or white skin and yet all the people in the Western world want sun tans they try to get as dark as they can . Have a great night sleep well :)
Idk how I'm going to deal with saving face. Accountability is everything to me in a relationship. So, ideally who ever I meet if she is Filipina can admit when she's wrong and try to do better next time. I'll need to have some serious conversations about that. If not then, I'll need to separate from that person. Accountability I value over everything.
You can tell the body shamers that the joke is on them because those of us that think Filipinas are beautiful, think that because of the dark skin and the long black hair.
You are very beautiful and don't let anyone tell you different. I would be proud to have you at my side anywhere in the world.
Well said. I couldn’t agree more.
JUST DONT ACKNOWLEDGE OR SPEAK TO HATEFUL PEOPLE..... !!!
You and me both! 😅
I thank you for your honesty and helping me to understand the culture of the country.
For sure. I'd hit that 🥰
My gf would sometimes tell me that girls we passed on the street, had commented negatively about her dark skin tone. I told her to ignore them, because that was one of the things that I found the most attractive when we met. She often commented on how chismis was so common in the Philippines. Thanks Rubeauti for another well presented and interesting topic. I’m sure your channel will continue to grow. Best wishes to you.
My Filipina wife has chocolate brown skin, and at first she was sensitive about it. I assured her that if I was looking for a white skinned wife, I would not have left it all and moved to live half way around the world. I could have easily found that in Canada 😂
@@Kevins-Philippine-Retirement don't we all know, Kev man! I'd literally move to the moon just to avoid white women. It's a sad day when you realise you genuinely cannot stand the women in your own country.
Every man NEEDS a god fearing woman by their side. You'll see something beautiful when your filipina asks you for $20 and goes Ukay Ukay, comes back with 4 fake Gucci shirts for you and half a wardrobe of fine as hell clothes for herself.
Give your Canadian woman $20 and she'll come back with a penis and a rainbow 🏳️🌈
Do you know what I mean? 🤫
White skin girls even may be prettier than dark skin girls when they are young. But, after 35, 40, dark skin women are prettier and hotter than white skin women who get older earlier than dark skin women. I love dark and black skin women.
Good video. I've lived here for 16 years and great to see a Filipina talking about those negative toxic traits. Too many "happy, everything is great" videos that are unrealistic.
Another big issue is how Filipinos bully other Filipinos when they speak English ("social... so OA..."). It cripples confidence of young Filipinos at a very young age.
Thank you for being so honest and informative Rebeauti. Honestly your skin is beautiful. The thing that makes most people ugly is their attitude and actions.
In Cebu, where I grew up before I move to the U.S. in my late teens, I and my Barkadas compliment your skin color by saying, She is a Mulata Beauty. It means to us, that You are a Beautiful Dark Skinned Lady. Lesson I learned from my grandma (mother's side) growing up in Cebu city Philippines. I was very upset about seeing too many wealthy Chinese and Spanish Families while we are just average families struggling to make it. My grand mother was not very happy to hear me say, we should send all the Chinese back to China and the Spaniards back to Spain. Grandma told me with a very stern but loving way, (Danny) my nickname, do you know our family history? you should. Now I will give you a choice, which country are we all going home to? I was speechless! She told me Danny, my great, great, grandfather came from mainland China, now my great, great grandmother is half Spanish/Portuguese. So, you better watch what you say, it will bite you back. We Filipinos are lucky in many ways that, we experienced many different cultures that most of us survive anywhere God put us in this Planet.
@Antonio Alfaro. Your grandmother was right Antonio. My dearest is from Sogod Cebu, we lived together there for 7 years. My wife is very astute in her thinking. She said, 'no one owns the country we live in, it belongs to all of us who live there'. A woman neighbour at Sogod, once told me, 'go back to where you came from', she also does not have the right to tell me that, the Philippines does not belong strictly to Filipino's. I had a legal right to be there, i had a residency card and i was self sufficient, not requiring anyone to support me and my wife plus, we own our home there. It's just plain jealousy bordering on racism, (because i am caucasian). The barangay Captain, once told me, ' Bob, you are a good citizen', that mean't a lot to me, because i tried to be exactly that. Bob and Lina. New Zealand.
@@daddybob6096 I will go ahead and tell ignorant Filipinos, before I will go home in one condition only, I want to see all OFW's, all Filipinos in America, all Filipinos in Australia, UAE Etcetera, Etcetera.... By the way, I will also asked that same Ignorant person, when did you start working for the Philippine Bureau of Immigration? show me proof you have the authority to tell me to go besides, it was the immigration officer who stamped my Passport and let me in.
Unplug yourself from the colonial matrix. In other words, a westerner told you that you were beautiful, or that you are ugly. These standards were based off of their "idea" of what beauty is, and was psychologically reinforced through wealth and "cast" systems to ensure that there would always be a labor force taking care of the rich elitists. Now you know that you are beautiful. Even westerners know this, which is why young westerns are breaking away from this type of colonial thinking embracing all forms of beauty, wanting to finally mary other groups of people other than western women.
Hollywood, social media, and advertising conditions your mind to "think" this is "in" and this is "out". You have to go far beyond this and have looonggg conversations with your future spouse. Take long walks and talk. Go beyond the superficial stuff like cuteness and fashion and see not only the outward physical attributes that attracted you, but the mental and spiritual. In the end, the latter will always "trump" the first as this is what is needed to.keep a relationship together and lasting long term.
Words of Wisdom....I urge all humans of all Nacionalities, get an Ancestry DNA Test. You will be CHOCKED....of your ancestors roots. (Therefore yours too.)✌️✌️✌️
@@chicagocomment - caste
Just an add on comment about skin colour. For me, I have never understood this fixation some people in Asia (not just the Philippines) have with having light skin and thinking it is better than darker skin. For me, it is the opposite!! I have light skin but would love to have darker skin - because then I wouldn't get such bad sunburns!! Also I think it is just more beautiful than my pale skin. I was told, when I lived in China, that lighter skin is preferred because dark skin means you are poorer and are a labourer who has to work outside all day instead of an office. (who cares, was what I always thought in response). I still remember the first time I saw people in Japan using umbrellas in the summer on a bright day and thinking, wow, they must know more about an impending change in the weather than me only to eventually realize they were trying to avoid the sun! For Canadians, that borders on bizarre!! We celebrate our tans, especially in winter when it is a sign of wealth because it means you could take a vacation far away from the freezing winter in some tropical paradise! Haha, people like what they don't have I guess!
Hi, this not only Filipino culture, these toxic habits are everywhere. Anyway, nice video as always. ... Keep the good thing going ;-)
I think she means it's the common toxic habits in the Philippine culture. My fiancee can confirm about this list.
Befriended a 101 year old woman who said this when people asked her what the secret was to her beauty, grace, longevity: I'm glad when someone is talking behind my back because they aren't talking about someone else. I wondered about that for a long time until I settled on one of my favorite countries to immigrate to, which for years had an official motto, and you may even hear it often repeated in the general population: noone is better than everyone else.
What the awesome woman of great age said, and that favorite countries motto was, set me to wonder: how can I understand that, be that?
Not just for altruism, but, if I go to that country without being that wise: maybe they will kick me out for not being cool enough, ya know.
The countries motto I mentioned was misquoted. Should be "no one is better than anyone else" NOT no one is better than everyone else. Sorry.
Just because it happens it happens in other cultures doesn't make it excusable for filipinos
Well dark skin I'm proud who I am I don't want anything else just except my health and I am satisfied
Great episode. What you said is so very true. When my fiance lived in Bohol there was so many gossipers. I told her ignore them. All they have to do is gossip all day because their own lives are so sad and boring. They hate to see anyone who is more happy than them. They are always so negative and jealous.She is too concerned about what they say, even to her. My mom taught us if you have nothing good to say don't say anything. I told my fiance that she needs to ignore them and tell them you are not my friends, kiss my ass and go to hell. Then they stop.
@@Rubeauti Very good, brave of you to talk about this mean, back stabbing behavior there. Sure, things like this happen everywhere. But soooo many vloggers are sooo busy trying to kiss the butt of Philippines that they Never mention the bad things..as if it is a perfect place...when no place is
What an excellent topic. That helps me understand many situations that I faced in the Philippines. For example, Filipinas don't realize that their perfect tanned skin attracts us. Thanks, Rubeauti.
@@Rubeauti Like Marc said, most of us westerners find dark skin attractive. You look very light skin in the video, just remember to us you are prettier than them & even more important, you are a lovely person!!
@@Rubeauti You are very pretty & a lovely person. Keep up the great vlogs, please 💯🙏
Being from the US and married to a Filipina also living here 6 years i can say you are 100% correct in everything you said. My wife use to use skin whitener. She stopped when i asked her many years ago. She looks like she has a very nice tan something us in the states strive to achieve. Also right is she is never wrong. Always an excuse lmao. She alone supported her family and put her younger brother threw collage. The folks next door don't speak to us and say she changed since getting married to a foreigner. I think most are upset i do not lend them money. We will be moving soon we purchased land in the mountains and are building a new home there. I will be glad to get out of this toxic city where karaoke in the middle of the street till very late at night is a common thing. They dislike me because i will go to them and tell them show respect for others and lower there volume. FYI Most Filipino's can't sing. Don't get me started on the driving.
All around the world same song
Haters want to hate … You are right … Why ruin good vibes …
*Sige na, you have summed it up exactly as it is.* Also *Anthony Liggins* has confirmed all that I wanted to say. 😅The most frustrating thing I must agree with is; "They hate to be embarrassed and will lie to save face." my Filipina wife however is SO good at taking care of me that I will forgive her small faults. We have been married 53 years, tutlo anuk ko. (I have three kids)
I’m from California in USA, I have 3 sisters
They want beautiful dark skin every year in summer. The spend all their time in the sun, sunbathing . Every year ! They are in their 60’s now . Still sunbathing
So, white American women want to look like you, and Philippines women want to look like my sisters, white
I married a Philippines girl 8 years ago and I’m still madly in love with her ! She is beautiful inside and out ! I love her brown skin !!!!!!!
She really turns me on ! I’m blessed !❤️❤️
A Number of Reasons can Contribute to the Always Late Habits
1) it was Never Stressed ( Growing up) that being on Time can be Important. 2) Being in Crowded Traffic on a Daily Basis can Lead to a Defeatist Attitude ( where Traffic is Slow, you have no control so why worry) But there is an Answer to the Slow Traffic.
I studied the Traffic Patterns on my way to work. Got to know the Average Time to get from Home to Work, added 10 to 15 Minutes to that time in order to address the construction and other delays, so I learned to never Show up late.
I learned this lesson from a co worker. If you NEVER want to be late....just show up an hour early. Get into that habit, and its much more positive than the habit of being late. Also, its an easy way to stand out from the crowd!
In Vegas leaving the house 5minutes late will put you 30 minutes late for work.so normal people adjust the time you leave
Three pieces of advice for those struggling with the topics in the video:
1. Self confidence: the hardest lesson we learn. Some get it easy and others take years to break a cycle of mind games… the ironic part is you’d never know who is struggling.
2. Toughness: Tough times make strong/resilient people. It would be nice to have it easy 100%, but then we’d all be crying over the smallest things.
3. Faith: Aligning your values with the lessons of your faith can get you through a lot. There are so many lessons in my faith about being treated poorly and how the person/people overcame their oppression.
It seems that jealousy and envy is at the root of these behaviors. I think that there's some immaturity going on there as well. Thanks for shinning a light on these behaviors. I'm sure it's not an easy decision "to spill the tea" on your countrymen and women but as a foreigner from the US I like hearing about the good, the bad and the ugly, before I actuly visit the Philippines. As a mature adult, your comments won't discourage me from visiting. I'm very thankful for your perspective however. Thank you for your honesty 😊.
Latin people are like this too; for the most part, especially Mexican women. I mean, you find this in any country, but it seems particularly prevalent in Latin American cultures.
I like your content, by the way. Very informative! 👍🏼
From my own experience after working there for years, i can attest that gossiping is a national sport in Ph. And yes, many Filipinos are extremely jealous about other's success or happiness in life.
Thank you for the brutal truth. As a cano married to a filipina for 25 years in the US, the competition, jealousy, chismis is so bad among filipinas here. My wife has had filipina friends but the 'I am your friend until I am not' is just so depressing. Her best friend is Japanese. They get along great. Keep up the good work and keep the information flowing. But at the end of the day, as a tourist I find the Filipino people to be very friendly, caring and generous.
I would like to get a copy of this vlog because it's culturally educational to cover these particular filpino traits..understanding these traits are greatly toxic can help one to deal effectively with these challenges..I want my filipina girlfriend to view this penned piece from a filipina.
I agree I've witnessed most of that in the Philippines. The children of poor parents can never get ahead because they spend half their life providing a retirement for their parents The obsession with white skin is like nothing I've seen before. The refusal to admit error is also frustrating. They hate to be embarrassed and will lie to save face. Even with all that we still love the Filipina s! 😊
You are so right on every point, but we love our Filipinas and will forgive it all because Filipinas take such good care of us.
Especially the refusal to admit their "errors"/ lack of judgment. The concept of saving face is completely backward. It's obvious they will never evolve.
I just wanted to say that you're doing a fantastic job with your informative videos....Please keep making them!*
The bottom line is that you are truly beautiful, you know it, I know it and all of your family, classmates, neighbors and friends know it.
Enjoy the gifts that God has given you.
Hello Rebeauti as always since I start watching you I enjoy seeing you and Listening to your great topics, it's a pleasure to see how you are into your work the Honesty and Professionalism is outstanding. I see your Channel getting Big in I hope UA-cam don't give you a hard time, keep up the Great job you are doing and God Bless 🙏
I don't waste my time on toxic people....I waste my time glancing at beautiful people what ever colour they are.....you are the 🍎, 🥭 and 🥥 of my 👀.....thank you for being so beautiful today,as always xxx
Don't ever let anyone tell you you are not beautiful...you are gorgeous my love...I personally shy away from toxic people and your content was very informative...thank you for your wonderful video...
I just found your channel and had to subscribe after listening to your video. Having been married to a Filipina for 11 years I can concur that everything you said pretty much applies to my wife. It's pretty hard being married to someone who is never wrong about anything.
Mine wife is never wrong. Drives me crazy
If she says the sky is green it's green.
Same here. It is unbelievably frustrating especially when you have dedicated your life to make hers better. You become her escape goat for everything she doesn’t like and everything she does wrong. It is not what I expected in the beginning. It is what she does now.
Gossip is all over the world, not just the Philippines, and people that tell harmless Gossip, I will add to it if it's about me, but if they're trying to tear someone down, I WILL NOT be a friend to them, and I could careless how dark someone is
Always is rude people around. Dont worry you are beautiful "Morena Filipina". Be yourself forget others and go ahead with your chanel and your life. Take care and keep safe. Best regards from Catalonia-Spain.
Interesting video Rubeauti. I'm familiar with all of these but the one that seems to me to be the worst is the Utong Na Loob. I have first hand knowledge of this and I've just decided to live with it. It's so strongly engrained in her mind that she doesn't realize there is anything wrong. So..... I make peace with it in my mind and concentrate on the good things. Salamat for your view on these topics. It helps us foreigners to cope with our loving filipinas.
I posted a comment here about "The Builder" personality as defined by Dr. Helen Fisher. If you don't have this constellation of traits (I don't), dating in the PH will only lead to frustration. Having been in the PH, I'm now focusing on other locales. Peace.
Thanks for the honesty Rubeauti! I understand where you're coming from being put down for darker skin, that's a big issue in the US too!
I have to admit- I am guilty of having some of these negative vibes. I am from NY and I respect the Filipino culture. Especially their resilience and revolutionary ways. The way they changed their national language from Spanish to Tagalog very quickly- to preserve their culture.
So I have to admit I feel negatively about the way the Filipino beauty standard places whiter skin or mestiza appearance above the brown skinned women- who are in my honest opinion the most beautiful women in the entire world. I do become slightly annoyed when I often see half Europeans represent the Philippines in the a pageant. Respectfully I know that those contestants are great Katriona is absolutely incredible in every way! But the Philippines needs to get over this subtle prejudice against beautiful brown people.
Hi Rubeauti this is the first video of yours that I have seen and I found it to be interesting and informative. I am African-American and in America skin color is a big thing but it has gotten better. I am an old man so I remember when it was much worse. If anyone criticizes you because of your skin color you should ignore them because you are beautiful.
During my first visit to Pampanga from the UK, I asked my Filipino friend 'what are all these adverts for skin whitening products'? He explained how Filipinas often don't like their morena skin. In the UK girls use tanning studios and products to make their skin darker. Many Western men love morena skin tone and your long dark hair, so please Filipinas, celebrate your natural beauty. I have been married to my morena Filipina for 3 years and we could not be happier here in England. Hope we can visit soon
@@Rubeauti it's beautiful. This makes me so attracted to my Filipina 😍, going to see her for the first time in October. Mahal kita Shirley 😙🥰
@@GliffYT God bless your trip brother. I am going in October too. My girl is 16 years younger than me, but came from the province. She is wiser, more mature and she looks like she is 26 (I am 56). A great lady. I have been soaking up all the Fil/Am dating videos and am trying to set the cultural expectations before I get there. Let's hope they relax the pandemic stuff before the flights and for entry. I heard flying into Manila was a pain, so its easier to fly into Cebu or Clark (angeles). Any thoughts? Just wondering.
@@Rubeauti I taught is was the good old asian saying, that dark skinned are the poor workers from the fields. So it's been connected with poverty. I know it's seen like this in Thailand. The same if your from a poor part of the country. For me its the same as fat shaming, and its connected with them having poor self-esteem. Like in another video of yours there was a comment about ALL overweight people smelling bad. I mean that commenter must have some serious problems that needs working on badly.
I like your videos. You tell it like it is. You’re very articulate. Keep up the good work.
Yellow is far from a favorite color, but it looks great on you. Your comments are very insightful. You have beautiful skin. Thank you for your videos.
dear Rubeauti, you are a class act. I appreciate your topics of discussion. Thanks!
You clearly are very well spoken, intelligent, educated, confident, and well grounded. I'm very impressed with your channel and contents.
Married a philipino women 34 years ago. I'm a American yank. Slovakian, scotch Irish. Grew up on a American dairy farm. Now have a beef farm. And work in a machine shop for 26 years. Still together. Help her family, to this day. Home, funeral,s, schooling, college. Met her in my beloved marines.❤.Semper Fidelis. Your right. Your right, philipino likes to gossip, state side. Also.
Great Video. So true on toxicity in the Philippines. Especially the gossips. My aunt always says good thing they’re talking about me because then they’re not talking about someone else. And then she would laugh like crazy. Better just to ignore
Rubeauti! Good vlog. Many UA-cam videos on the subject say that the things you are talking about, insulting toxic negative remarks, and what you said about you being very sensitive, toxic people target sensitive people and say things to upset them on purpose. It is a form of Narcissism and might even be NPD or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. They are abusive verbally and should be ignored or it will make you upset, then they point the finger and say "look, what a baby! You are SO IMMATURE!" and things like that. It's horrible, my father treated me this way my whole life and I finally had to push him out of my life because it is not healthy and he wouldn't stop. It's like he is addicted to insulting me. Watch out for these people Rubeauti! Walk away from them. Especially if you are like me. I am very sensitive to other peoples emotions and vibrations, I can tell what someone is feeling without talking to them. Narcissists target people like me, just to upset them. Especially in public. It's ridiculous, I know! Stay strong. It took me my whole life to learn how to deal with my sensitive side. 🙂
@@Rubeauti Ya, it is unfortunate. I know most Filipinos would never abandon family members and good friends of the family and most people enjoy tease and pick on each other but really I don't mean that, there is a certain line most people don't cross and if it's some kind of disorder, there are ways to tell. Like super toxic and into crazy! Like lying, stealing, not being able to say they're sorry when they say and do bad to you, telling people you are mentally ill/immature and like that behind your back, trying to turn people against you, jealousy, etc. Thank God most people are not like this! Life would be so lonely. Because I would be like "ok EVERYONE get out of my house" LOL! 😂
young lady your skin color is absolutely beautiful...keep your head up the "haters" are jealous of your beauty and your intelligence
I guess, that most of these traits are everywhere. I've lived in South America and also raised in Europe. Gossip and jealousy across all ethnicities and cultures. Thanks for confirming that Philippines is not an exception. In case I come to visit, it will feel home.
Interesting information. I'll try to observe some of these behaviors as I travel.
You are right on point. After being in a relationship with my wife for seven and a half years I understand everything you are saying as if you were only talking about my spouse. Unfortunately this toxicity has undermined our relationship and now, after swearing to me that she would never leave me this is exactly what she did.
Hopefully, she didn't take you to the cleaners.
@@fredcarr3550 like a professional. I was number three on her resume. If only I wasn’t so blind. What’s done is done
I appreciate the honesty in the video. It’s not easy to do, because of course in some circles you’ll get some push back, but at least you remained truthful to the topic. It’s sure to help those that are unaware.
I really love this video these are some of the discouraging things I’ve noticed about the Philippines that I didn’t understand the toxicity they have against each other
I don't see all this as negative. I see the bashers as jealous people who have no way to gain traction to succeed. Yes, feelings are hurt because you are a very sensitive and loving group of people.
You've mentioned before the competitive nature of your culture, but it should also be mentioned in the same paragraph that in disasters, everyone helps each other. After the Dec 16th Typhoon, people lost their lives, homes, and possessions. I didn't see the crying, whining and self pitty that we see here in the US.
Yes, people gossip, but it's only toxic because of your tenderness and caring nature. Your people care about everything to the point of stress about harmless words. I admire this as a beautiful quality. Don't let the bashers get you down. They are jealous and want to be like you. ❤️
Thanks again for your informative videos
you do not see habitual tardiness as a negative trait ? If I am supposed to meet you at 7 pm, I will show up at 6:45 out of respect for your time.
@@lunchbox6576 yes, it's a negative. But it's an individual thing. And once you have a partner, she will learn to be punctual to keep things happy. Wishing you all the best with these gentle people.
Everything you do is a pleasure to watch and learn!! Love you lots!! Jeff
Love your another honest, candid and insightful episode... could you possibly do topic on "losing face" as i think would be quite interesting.
Truly Rubeauti I wish that your honest views that you share here will contribute to the positive thinking to your negative country people.
MAY YOUR UA-cam NUMBERS GROW 10 FOLD.
MAY GOD CONTINUALLY BLESS YOUR TRUTHS.❣️
Wow, you can talk about anything, just listening to your voice and watching you is so easy on my eye and soul.. God Bless
You
Thank you so much! I appreciate your kind words :) 🙏
English humour revolves around the idea of self-deprecation, we will abuse ourselves before turning that attention to others. for example, my father and I say terrible things to each other, if you didn't understand the context. However taken in context we have gone out of our way to find insults for each other, demonstrating that we have been thinking about each other.
You have a beautiful skin tone btw. I'm not "colour blind" as so many Westerners pretend to be, your skin is darker than mine.. so what. all that matters is who you are, not what you look like. We should acknowledge our differences and celebrate them :)
Small town gossip exists all around the world and it is driven by jealousy and spite, the challenge is to rise above it, "be the better person". It is unpleasant but it is not unique to PH.
Take the positives out of each day, and smile at someone, because that smile just might make someone feel happier, take care and have fun :)
your a beautiful soul and it shows again through another great vid. Thank
Very good video. Natural Filipina in her honest words.
You are exactly my thoughts on what a beautiful Filipina is and can only hope when I come over there I can find a woman half as beautiful as you. Keep up the good videos.
I have had a long distance relationship with a Filipina for 2 and 1/2 years now. I a mexican with brown skin. The first time she said she liked my skin color. But about 3 months ago she told me now she like light skin , not brown . It hurt me. I told her I like what you have. She is very light skin. What matters to me is the persons heart ♥️
I am an afro American male, so I like Filipinos with dark skin, light skin, white skin, red skin, or any skin color. As you know, in America we have people from all parts of the world and Now in America, we date women of all colors and all classes. I am college educated so I do not care what people say about me or think about me. I try to treat all people with the best respect.
It’s about time we see black ladies with white guys on the tv.
Long over due.
It should be common place.
I’m white, from the ghetto in Sacramento. Lots of migrants where live.
The current political situation isn’t helping the white guy in the ghetto either, I tell you!
I was a minority in high school big time. I used to hate it. Only go in the bathroom when you absolutely have to. Be careful end of the year too.
I learned we are all the same. My experience has helped me in my endeavors. I lived in Hawaii for 7 yrs and they straight hate white people. I never had a problem. I can read it quick and adjust. I’m comfortable at a Hindu party or a Pentecostal church service in Spanish. I’ve done them both.
The worst are racist white people. I can’t stand them.
Thanks for reading.
I'm italian and my fiancée is filipina so I can reeeally relate to this. I could observe most of the things you said and it's very frustrating for the people who have to suffer it.
This toxic characteristic is present in other cultures also. Don't apologize.
I love your communicative style. You have beautiful skin. You also have a beautiful heart❤💕
I'm glad maam that you were able to mention the toxic mentallity of Pilipinas .I'd lived many years abroad more than 4 decades but the progress is still slow to change..That's why quite hard for me to adapt & to go back the old way.I think we need to be optimistic and improve our weaknesses which is universally accepted in order to remove those toxic in our existence.Thank you,hoping our women not in general will accept it.
You are a good person. Sincere and authentic. Good luck to you. I have subscribed.
I think it can happen anywhere that people's lives are so empty, they need to fill it up with spite about others. I feel sorry for them really. To have a life where the only interest is in putting people down? That's so sad. I wonder if they were bullied a lot and feel that they have to give it back? I love your attitudes Rubeauti, live and let live. Compassion for all and never judge others, it's their lives, their decisions. Stay safe and well lovely lady! ❤🥰😘
I must say that I have heard over vloggers (filipina and foreigner) talk about this subject but you went to a slightly deeper level. I was like.... wow...really... they take things to that level. I am visiting for the first time in a few weeks. I hope I don't stir up any gossip (chismis) or cause problems. Filipina time sounds like CP time...lol. Since you are Filipina you can say and express things a little differently that a foreigner would come off saying some of the same things (but that is a good thing to get the real story). Its a shame people aren't happy for each other. They should stop those side comments.
With my wife since 2016,, OMGOSH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The perfect explanation for all her ODD habits, lol... I actually had her listen over at least 6 times where you said a Filipina is NEVER wrong,, Tho she often is,, yet I am proud to say we had Tampo ONCE,, and it never happened again,, Glad I found you blog,, keep up the good work,,,
You nailed every aspect…that is my mother to a T. When I was growing up it bothered me but as I get older I learned a skill goes in one ear then out the other…complete ignore. I just don’t give a shit. Because of this I treat my kids differently. I always praise them and support them. I’m not going to let that cycle continue. Even money none of my siblings give money to my folks too damn Americanize. My folks on each side still have properties back home and a house plus they got there own house and my mother still complain not having money. They keep buying so much stuff. My mother at age 82 still does Botox, she gets her fake eyelashes, then her nails and hair and complains she needs money. All 3 of us just ignore her. Good video sorry of my rant but that’s my mother.
I love your skin-tone🥰😍 you are an amazing expression of beauty inside and out! Looking forward to exploring your country to reset and learn something new!
Thank you for this honest discussion. I don't let toxic people bother me, but I would warn them that their toxic words and behavior are also poison to their spirit. Bullying doesn't only hurt the bullied. The bully is harmed by their own negative behavior.
if there is someone like you who understands and is aware objectively of the mentioned situations, then it must be more of you out there. it just has to be. thank you for this video. take care
Hi Rubeauti i have to say from my experience without being there, but from LD relationship , i have noticed all of what you mation here. For me the most toxic is that Filipinos can not be wrong they never make mistakes and especially when you find out that they say lies they don't admit that. No people are perfect all we can make mistakes but in a relationship you must have the courage to admit it and try not do it again. Unfortunately this never happened. This can ruin a relationship.
Just subscribed. I really like your content and your personality. I'm from a small town in Virginia USA and I tend to have old fashioned traditional views on dating and marriage. Your videos have helped answer some questions. Toxicity is everywhere so knowing there are women who still hold good values is promising. Your a beautiful smart and bubbly person thank you.
All of that is very true but also found in every culture and every country I have lived
I have grown up abroad, but am rooted to my origins. I realize that Gossip and bullying is common in all cultures and Philippines are not exempt. Some times we focus too much on the hardship and envy of others that it makes Filipinos too sensitive. What I do note is that no one but a few calls anyone out on their negativity and allows it to permeate. The chain is never broken, when all you hear from a few Gossipers that create fake wokness. Look at what has happened to our world today with all the fake news and control given to those disemenating the news. If all you hear is negative news; that is all you become sensitive to; I suggest that you dwell less on the past and make the present a time to change the conversation. Challenge and change the conversation when you hear the negative discussion. This will add to Filipino culture. PS, Filipinos are admired for the beautiful tan skin. Stop buying those whitening soap. :}
😮The toxic behaviour you described is universal!😮. Usually I say to a toxic comment “Thankyou for sharing your opinion with me”
Thank You for another great vlog, I find it frustrating that so many relationships never stand a chance because of "topics"
Thank you for your persistent efforts to educate us foreigners. You have helped me better understand my Filipina and her culture . Your English is better than the English of most westerners. Clearly, you have made an effort to sharpen your dialect. God bless you always !
Well, that was an interesting video, some I have heard before… but always good to hear someone back up what I’ve heard in the past. Thanks 😊
I listened to every word you said and appreciated the information you gave.. Looking forward to future video 😊👍well done
I love the Morena skin !! Sooo gwapa !! Ignore the chismis and toxic comments!!! Be happy and proud you are Filipina!! 🇵🇭❤️💯👍🏻
Don't let it get to you young lady, you are beautiful regardless of the color of your skin!
Great video. I'm glad you touched on skin color. When I first came here years ago, back when Clark AB was still active, one of the first things I noticed on television and magazines was that all of the actors & models were very fair skinned or "white" looking. I'm now here visiting again after so many years and it's still the same. It hasn't changed. That was very disappointing to see especially since the majority of the Philippine people are brown skinned. I plan on making video on this topic. Perhaps we can discuss it together.
Magandang Japón , i traveled your beautiful archipelago 20 years ago. I had a Filipina asawa and an intelligent and pretty filam daughter.
Anyway I just wanted to say that you speak the truth, salamat. Loved your video and look forward to more by ‘Ganda Pilipina and very intelligent. It was a pleasure listening to you.
Hi Rubeauti, what you said is true. Hard working people. As for skin colour, its quite sad, if people comment on what colour others are. Believe me, it happens in other places too. Beauty lies within. Sadly my ex, a chinese thought white skin was beautiful, and darker tones were unattractive. But to me it doesnt matter.
Great video young lady. Many truths exposed in this area.
But I feel Many of the philipino characteristics you mentioned are also found in most cultures.
Looking forward to your next video. You seem to share common sense thoughts and I appreciate you perspective!
P.S. I think darker skin is beautiful!
Toxic mentality is generally a cloaked to hide what they feel about themselves. I think when it's embedded into culture as such I would think that on a larger scale it is related to how Pinoys feel about their people. This behavior is directly impacted by a person education as well. Putting people down to feel good about oneself is detrimental to the person acting it out.
BTW, I am new to the channel. Rebeauti, hearing your accent make me miss the Philippines and my Filipino friends. I hope to return in the near future.
I learned about Filipino Time within weeks after arriving. Also learned about the saying, "Bahala na" at the same time. Now if there's something that's supposed to start at 5, I figure it MIGHT start at 6. Maybe even the same day.😏
Gossip isn't limited to the Philippines, sadly, but I've even seen it in churches, where people SHOULD know better.
And as far as having darker skin, this foreigner sees it as a plus because it helps a beautiful smile stand out even more.
I love your honesty. You are beautiful and intelligent too!
Thank you for this. It actually helps me feel more positive about the Philippines.
With ALL RESPECT TO U DONT WORRY. U ARE ONE BEAUTIFUL PERSON
Thank you for your honesty
THANK YOU FOR SHARING
Hello Rebeauti, good morning. I hope you're doing well. Gossip is big in America too. You get the exact same thing here. So don't worry, it seems to be human nature. It may stem from a touch of jealousy or envy.
RuBeauti
Always look forward to your videos
Great topics 😊🇵🇭
And brown is Beautiful 👍🏼
The behaviors in part Go across mini cultures. But you’re so right that it is very prevalent in the Philippines. The most damaging of all is the idea that children have to support the family. You can never break the cycle of poverty because no one ever built wealth. You are so smart and so beautiful. I know some man will be so very lucky to have you in his life. You have such a good understanding of life love and people
Yes it's AShame the ladys do this to eachother. I say if you have nothing good to say stay quite. What goes around comes around. PHILLIPINAS are unique and beautiful. Good Job
Hello Rubeauti . Yes I hear what you are saying I think one of the biggest problems is that a lot of the ladies in the Philippines are very jealous and jealous turns into spite which is sad, I have also run into the dark skin issue , I personally love the the dark skin hair and eyes but what I have heard is if your skin is to dark it means you must be poor as you work outside all the time again which is sad there is nothing wrong with working outside , as you said some if not most of the ladies in your Country are the bread winners of the family , you only have to look at the amount that work overseas they are amazing . one thing that annoys me is the amount of men that do very little and live off there sisters , wives and family . Rubeauti you live in a beautiful Country I always love coming there and I enjoy it 100% . Thanks for another great video , take care as always :)
@@Rubeauti You do not have to worry :) you are a very beautiful , it so strange that a lot of Asia ladies wish for lighter or white skin and yet all the people in the Western world want sun tans they try to get as dark as they can . Have a great night sleep well :)
Idk how I'm going to deal with saving face. Accountability is everything to me in a relationship. So, ideally who ever I meet if she is Filipina can admit when she's wrong and try to do better next time. I'll need to have some serious conversations about that. If not then, I'll need to separate from that person. Accountability I value over everything.
WOW, RUBEAUTI!
YOUR EXPLANATIONS ARE SAID IN A WAY THAT I CAN EASILY UNDERSTAND…(OR RELATE TO)! 🤣🤣🤣
Good video rubi thank you for explaining this toxic mentality I appreciate it very much
Wow! Thanks for the info.