The Closer She Gets - Feature documentary
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- Опубліковано 21 сер 2013
- Here is the award winning feature length documentary I made about my mother's battle with cancer. It's not a light film to watch while you're surfing other sites. It's a real film. If you want a moving and powerful experience, please set aside 90 minutes. I promise you it is worth it.
Directed / Edited by Craig Ouellette
Co-Edited by Daniel Kraus
I wasn't going to post it online, but times have changed and so many people view movies this way I thought it was okay to get it out into the world this way.
To learn more about the film please visit www.TheCloserSheGets.com - Фільми й анімація
17 Years ago today... Thank you for being such an inspiration for me Mom. And for encouraging, inspiring and caring for so many others, even after. I love you. And still miss you. Thank you all for watching and sharing a piece of my Mom's journey.
Prayers for your family.
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Thank you and your family for allowing us to be part of your journey...you were all so brave.
I lost my mom in September 2019. Your mom reminds me so much of my mothers soul. 😇 bless you as they bless us from above.
@@meredithadams5495 I'm so sorry about your mom don't forget your mom still look down and smile at you I go thru I lost my mom I lost my nov 13 2018
I want to thank everyone who has taken the time to watch The Closer She Gets and especially those who have commented on it. It means a great deal that you would share your feelings and thoughts about the film and my mother's journey. I had no idea that the film would find such a home on UA-cam and reach so many people! It is humbling and wonderful that my Mom can still touch so many people out there with her love and spirit.
Thank you for sharing your journey through your Mother's illness and how hard it is to lose them. Your father is an amazing,kind loving man...this is a beautiful testament to her.
Thank you for sharing. I'm in tears.
Thank you. I lost my mother to this same thing. This was like a flashback to all the things i have seen and felt. Now i see more clearly what was my mothers behavior and what was the disease part of action. It was hard to understand when there was no other case to relate to. We dont talk about this much in finland. I have some desire in my heart im going to speak about this some day and tell the journey. When I feel better. I feel like the pain and my mothers pain is stuck in me but i hope it will settle some day.
Thank you for sharing something so personal. The love shines through.
CraigOfilm
Thankyou for your sharing your dearest Mum's story.
Such a strong woman with a wonderful husband and two loving son's. 💗
I lost my precious Mam to this evil illness. A brain tumour the size of a grapefruit before we found out what was wrong with her. 😢
14 year's on, on the 24th of this month.
Her passing was awful and part of me went with her that terrible morning. My heart is broken. 😢💔
My love to your Dad and you both and of course the rest of your family.
With love from me in Scotland. 💗
I cried all the way through. My mom passed July 14, 2021 of lung cancer that was found after a brain bleed and brain surgery. It gets to a point where we just don’t want them to suffer anymore. It’s not goodbye, it’s “I’ll see you on the other side.” Thank you for posting.
To anyone saying her sons and husband were calm and collected when they heard the news she had passed I imagine it was out of relief that she wasn’t suffering anymore!. I look after my dad for 5 years and although his death absolutely broke me, it was a major relief to know he was out of pain and discomfort.
It's also such a surreal feeling, as your mind tries to slowly process what has just happened. I thought it was very normal for them to act that way. It hadn't "sunk in" yet.
Yes that's how I felt when my mom passed.,no more pain,,,and going home to her Maker
God bless you I lost four family members to cancer in last 17 yrs god bless u again
Exactly and instead of dying sudden and unexpected they had time to prepare for that(as much as one can prepare), in a sense they knew it was coming but there is always hope even if only a little bit, just because we can't see their emotion does not mean that they are not devastated. Of course they are not happy however the relief it gave them to know she no longer had to suffer and they no longer had to watch her suffer and not be able to do anything about it as she was no longer living but existing.
I totally relate
Our parents teach us to do everything in life except how to live without them. 😭💐
FACTSSS 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Reading your comment made me ball my eyes out. This is so true.
Man that’s so true. I lost
My mom in 07 when I was 20yo and I’m 33 still hadn’t figured it out
Teresa Sisson , that is so true. Funny how as humans, we avoid all the hard conversations with our loved ones. But, it’s all part of life, and avoidance only causes misery. 👍♥️
That is the truest statement I have ever heard..... I lost both of my parents and my brother, sister and I are so so so lost without them..... My mom passed in 2006 of brain cancer at the age of 53 and my father passed 2017 of a hemorrhagic stroke at the age of 66.... We were such a close family.... It hurts so bad..... I miss them so much....
She fought like a lioness.
What a great son and husband.
I wish you all the best in the world ❤
* Miss Luca * she had 2 wonderful sons.
She *endured*. What other choice did she have??? Heartbreaking.
Gloria Mary Haywood yes she went through hell. And the noise of that motorway must have been horrific and lack of palliative care.
Yes she did! And she was sweet as pie, so heartbreaking!
@@01chittock thank you it was horrible
This was beautifully done. As a retired Hospice nurse, I understand how courageous her battle was, and how loving and supportive her husband and sons were. You never stop grieving, you just get used to living with the loss with every milestone she missed, weddings and grandchildren. God Bless you all.
I walked my mother home by myself, and she ended up on hospice too. She took her last breath in my arms February 27th, 2022. Watching this was precious, what an honor to be surrounded by such an amazing family as you all. So wonderful. May she Rest In Peace and my hopes that you’re all doing well.
Hi Sarah I hope your doing well :)
I’m so sorry you had to watch your mother die in your arms. I can only imagine how loved she felt when she left this world. ❤
I lost my beautiful mother on my 37th birthday. I sat with her holding her hand and I thought back to the day I was born, and how she held my hand 37 years ago as I came into this world. Now I was holding her hand as she was leaving this world. It was a very beautiful moment I shared with her. I miss her more than words can describe.
Unbelievably cruel what we are forced to endure when recovery is next to impossible. So sorry for this beautiful family.
Yes, should be a choice, but then a person could just go into the woods at twenty below, just like the old dogs do😢
I cried throughout the entire film. My mom passed away from breast cancer on January 7th 2000 just a few days after I turned 16. She was only 39 when she was diagnosed and she passed away at 40. I felt this on so many levels. Over 20 years later and I still think of my mom every single day and miss her so much, I carry her in my heart. I hope your family is doing well, sending you all my love! 💕
I'm so sorry for your loss Cassie💔🙏
GOD BLESS YOU CASSIE MAY GOD SEND YOU PEACE AND COMFORT, Very tragic esp at a age you need her the most
Same 😢
You sound like a very sweet and caring person. So sorry about your mom, but I do believe she knows what an awesome person you are. Many blessings. ❤❤❤
Reading your words on New Years Eve 23 and hope this love finds you❤... your beloved Mum❤ is still very present in this world Cassie and I am thinking of you both (((❤)))
I lost my mom when I was 15. I’m 33 now. People have always told me that “time will heal your grief” and I never liked hearing it. I didn’t want to heal my grief. My mother deserves to be grieved and the reminder that you lost someone you love isn’t something you should feel the need to.. fix. As time went on, I became comfortable in my grief because I realized that time didn’t make it any smaller - my life just continued to grow around it - so it eventually began to feel less heavy even though it never changed its size. I will continue to take her with me everywhere. Thank you for sharing your mom with me. She’s a beautiful soul.
Exactly pepole we really love deserved to be grieved a little ever day ......she is definitely love u from somewhere upthere
Wow, I’m a widow and this blew me away….so incredibly stated. Bless you beloved. ♥️
I'm sorry GOD bless you ❤❤❤❤
Her husband is awsome! I was really sick in 2020 and needed to be taken care of 24/7 for several months, still kinda do, and my angel of a wife was there for me every moment of the way. There are no words to describe the love and appreciation I have for her, it's so nice to see her husband by her side during the worst time in her life, well done sir.
When her son said he had an advantage from the start. 😭
Now that’s the meaning of life and a true legacy. A life well lived, thank you Jane.
The look in your dad's eyes as your mom was trying to sing in church broke my heart. The fear in his eyes as he realizes he might lose his best friend, his love, his wife is all spoken in his eyes at that moment. And what a woman she must have been to have a husband and sons like you.
That’s the moment I lost it and never got it back. Beautifully hard.
When somebody is facing death the last thing they need is to deal with other people's distress. They stayed calm loving and positive for her sake and it's sad that some people are calling that detached. It's brave and putting her first. Well done to the husband and son for how you handled all this and I sincerely hope you are both doing well now.
I agree some might say it looks as if you are detached but you have to be brave in a situation like this, i went through a similar process with my grandmother about 5 years ago and had to stay positive and act like things were normal for her sake.
@@tiaancloete7301 and you are a better person for not bringing your negative emotions to a dying person.😘
Soraya Nasser
Love it. ❤❤❤❤
ABSOLUTELY!❤️
What really are some people saying that? No one would put such an effekt to make a beautiful film about their mother if they didn't love their mother very much, not everyone shows their emotions in the same way, maybe they wanted to be strong for her.
This wasn't about watching a person die but to watch a beautiful woman live. She lived with a wonderful spirit, faith in the Lord and a loving and blessed family.....Love does endure all things. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family.
Andrea Huff yes Jane did. But there was one thing wrong with it she didn’t read the bible enough although I think she tried to look into other options. And then was dismissed. God put all plants for every cure. And cannabis cures cancer with the right diet. People put their trust in the thugs in suits of big pharmaceuticals. Chemo and radiation causes more cancer. There are cures out there. Just follow the money and you will see when the dots all join together. The 13 trillion dollar killer profit machine.
Andrea Huff )
@@01chittock You are a wretched woman who has no clue what your talking about. How dare you say she didn't trust in the bible enough. Did you know her? Do you know her family? You should have just kept your stupid delusional comments to yourself.
@@01chittock oh wow I cant believe you said she didn't read the Bible enough....tht dnt make sense what abt kids and babies tht dies babies can't read...the mind state we in its sad
Man she fought so hard. Im so sorry for your loss.
I hope as time has passed, you're finding an easier rhythm in your heart when you think of your amazing Mom. Thank you very much for turning your camera on.
I came across this today. Omg the love the husband has for her is so heartwarming. I thought this was a beautiful documentary. Bless her spirit and strength
leanlola Grayson
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That's how marriage is suppose to be, I love it.
This is hands down one of the best documentaries I've ever seen. So up close and personal, this is real life. Thank you for sharing your journey.
Kelli Mckinley if you enjoyed this one , you can google dying grace it's good as well.
Sad but good , I just lost my mom 3 months ago of lung cancer , and my dad 1 year ago of stomach cancer.
I was diagnosed with intestinal cancer about six weeks ago, I hope to draw strength from these videos, and go through this with with a smile on my face. 😊
Billie Rowe take care God bless you must be so strong
Billie, sending you love and strength. Know that there are people out there rooting for you. Cancer can be beaten. I've known people who have. And thank you for watching the film. My Mom is one of the strongest, most amazing people I've ever known... hopefully some of her love and strength will leap through the screen and into you.
Thank you so much Kelli. That means a lot for you to share that. I'm glad my Mom was able to touch you too.
Billie Rowe please...try the best you can to keep your spirit high....send you love...
Every woman on this earth deserves a Bob..such a wonderful love story.I hope you all have found peace in this short road we call life.
I had a malignant brain tumor removed leaving me a hemiplegic. The doctors to me not to worry about that or the tremendous amount of weight I hade gained because I would probably die within five years. I had no chemo or radiation. That was 1988. I have some residual hemiparesis but I lose 150 pounds and I’m still “in remission.” Bless your family for the loving relationships you have.
I’m in the final days with my mom right now. Your video has helped so much to let us know it’s not only us siblings that have had to sit through this process.
So touching, so beautifully done. I cried through most of it. I lost my husband of 25 years to pancreatic cancer 15 years ago and even though life does go on it is never the same. I still mourn his passing but I have moved on . You have to for God and sanities sake. Thank you for sharing your lives with us.
Jaci Bledsoe i lost my dad of the same in 2016 such a sad day.
I'm sorry. No matter what, there is always a void. My heart can't know exactly how you feel but I can and do empathize. Prayers....
Craig, Thank you for sharing your mom with us. I am incredibly touched by this film. Your mom will not be forgotten.
Soo nobody was with her???????I'm sick!!!!!
I just watched your video & I cannot tell you how emotional I was. You see 2 Wk’s ago my dad passed away from his battle with pancreatic cancer & I felt like I was reliving your journey with your mum. It’s heartbreaking you feel like your heart will stop your soul is crushed. Your emotions are a cycle of tears, lost, numbness & just the worst feeling that can occur. I must be realistic & say that when he passed away I felt at peace cause I knew that he was at peace & not suffering any longer. He is in a better place now with his family just like your mum. One day you will all be together again. 🙏🏼❤️god bless you all melb australia
My Beautiful Aunt died from a brain tumor and every moment was spent with her asking us to help her die. We felt so guilty because we couldn't do anything!!! This was precious to see the Love,respect,and courage it took to watch the pain and misery she endured to stay alive!
I'm so sorry. Can I ask if they were feeding her and giving oxygen?
I admire couples who stay together until they grow old. As matrimony says in sickness and in health, they both enjoyed every minute of it .
Thank you Neny! It's true, my parents weren't always smiling and laughing, but there love was strong. And the way my Dad instantly stepped up to take care of my Mom when she got sick says so much about him.
Neny Lily Ching she was not old she looked much older than she was she died at 58 which isn't old
I was a widow at 38. My family, my friends and colleagues would tell me, “Your marriage is the exception, not the rule!” I’d just laugh and say, “I know! I have an exceptional partner!” It is a mercy, a gift that we can not see the future. When we learned he was dying, hospice was just getting started in this remote, geographically huge area and to further complicate the situation, he was finally diagnosed at a major medical center out of state. Little did I know getting him home was just the beginning of the journey. I cared for him until he died. It was an honor, a privilege and the fulfillment of those words I spoke on another day-the happiest of my life-in another October, “In sickness and in health, till death do we part.” The last words he spoke to me were, “TW, you *are* the love of my life.” He slipped into a coma and died at sunrise the next morning.
That was decades ago. No one speaks his name anymore. Even though I am now old and grey, I still do-every day. It seems sometimes the older I get, the less I understand but this I do know: Love really never does end.
I have been such a fortunate woman and I remain so deeply grateful for one last opportunity to say “And you *are* the love of mine.” The pain of his death has been worth every moment of our lives together: I think it is the price we pay for having loved and been loved so very, very well.
I admire couples who stay together for that long because they want to, not because the alternative isn't any better.
Menu, Jane was diagnosed at age 58. That’s not old.
Your mom gave one hell of a fight god bless you all and her.
Where was her mom?,??,
Crissy Mohr her mom was in the video. Idiot
She shouldn't have had to.
I have adult adhd and can’t really sit through anything and just watch but I did watch this documentary straight through. It was raw, unedited and just genuine. The love she had from her family and the support are to me the best gift she could have gotten besides peace ….. RIP Jane, you had such a beautiful soul 🙏❤️
AMEN ❤❤❤❤ l Agree and she's in heaven ❤❤❤❤
I'm nearing the first anniversary of my mom's passing from lung cancer. I cared for her in her home for 4 months, by myself, until she passed in my arms.
Thank you for sharing your mom's journey into the next chapter of her life, and your journey helping her get there knowing how loved she was. ♥️🙏
I CRIED SO HARD I FELT EVERY STEP I TOOK CARE OF MY MOTHER SHE WAS ON HOSPICE I WAS HER NURSE SHE HAD CANCER I MISS U MOM. FLY HIGH LADIES
Me too. My mom died in my arms of a awful cancer!! I miss my mom every day!!
Same here
Same here; my mom was diagnosed on May 17, 2020, of pancreatic cancer that spread to her lungs; she died on June 2, 2020. We didn't even know she was sick. Worst yet, she was in the hospital for weeks during Covid19 and we couldn't be with her; I am devastated!
couldn't stop crying... the love between her and bob is just so real!!! omg my heart breaks for yall
me too Rachel it broke my heart
Incredibly sad...
Hopefully I have love like this in my life.
So hard.
@@dixiedarlin1897 Too much.
That was absolutely wrenching. What a sweet, positive woman. I admire her greatly and hope I could be as courageous. She raised some wonderful boys. One day she will hug you again in gratitude for all you did to ease her back Home.
This is an absolutely horrific way to die. I am in the end stage of life (Stage IV terminal cancer). I would never put my loved ones through an extended and prolonged dying proces. I live in Oregon, we have the Death with Dignity program. I will not allow my loved ones to suffer the consequences of my death.
I am reading your comment here from Germany. I absolutely agree with your opinion. We grant our animals to die with dignity, but humans have to go through such terrible ordeal. I live here in Germany,, and also here it‘s Hard to be granted physically assissted dying. Hopefully this is going to change soon. Praying for politicians who are really human beings in creating new laws and no longer robots in human disguise. Greetings from Germany.
She was also getting tube feeding and oxygen and nebulizers which extended her suffering and dying process. Best to you. I wish I lived in a state where that was allowed. I am a hospice nurse and I support everyone's choice to leave on their own terms when dealing with a terminal illness.
@@Fiona-sg9whyou are a nurse, keeping people comfortable should not mean encouraging them to take their lives when they did not decide to be conceive and birthed. Don't push to suicide, whatever you call it. Pain and joy, happiness and suffering by yourself or by family members are part of Life. Thx.
@@Joliebebe2001❤❤❤ you clearly don’t understand her comment
@@Boricua..4 i hope i misunderstood her " I am a nurse I support everyone's choice to leave ON THEIR OWN TERMS...". Death with dignity allows a person to end their life by taking a death pill. She wishes to live in a state like that.. so i put 2 and 2 together... I can understand not supporting Therapeutic obstinacy which doesn t help but not supporting suicide either. Thank you ❤️
I want my son to treat me like that. What a patient son.Bless you.
great son....but didn't know how to give her her physical needs....
Evy Courtney yea
but he tried thats good enough.
Tears. Oh the tears. What a beautiful tribute to a woman who I would have loved to have known. My mom just passed away this past December from covid and sepsis in the hospice. I wasn't allowed to see her due to covid. This made me feel so sad that I couldn't see her before she passed. God bless this family. Thank you for sharing her with us. 💜
Oh beloved, I lost my 43 year old fiancé to the same thing. It’ll be 4 years in April…today is his birthday. I’m so sorry. I’ll toast to them both tonight. Much love and peace to you 🤍🕊️✨
I cried watching this but just kept thinking how lucky she was to have such an amazing family.
I love that even when she was annoyed she was so sweet and kind. She reminds me of my mother. She was diagnosed with cervical cancer at 35 and passed at 37 and she was feisty but kind. But to understand her family’s response you’d have to go through it. As caregivers they are sad, angry, and tired. It’s not easy for either side.
I don't have a family like this, it's a foreign concept to me. Your mom had the privilege of being surrounded by so much love right to the end. Mike said it so well, that he started out in life with a huge advantage having Jane as his mother. I have to admit I was relieved when she finally passed, but you helped her hold onto as much dignity as was possible in such a condition. Beautifully done.
I hated seeing her suffer and the pain it brought to Bob and her sweet boys just made me weep
Same. I don’t have a family like this either.
I was relieved too. My dad suffered from stroke for years. Getting to the end of his life, he had a final stroke which made him bed ridden for 8 days and even though I cried that night for our loss, it was also knowing it had all ended for him. The shame brought by stroke is something I will not wish on anyone. It takes away your diginity. No loved one should go through this. Thanks for sharing your journey with her with us. Bless you and the family.
No. It wasn't beautifully done. It was horrific. The family was so bloody consumed with themselves they couldn't/wouldn't see the horrible condition she was in. I've said it to several people on these comments. The trip. The wedding. She was CLEARLY suffering. It was a long, drawn out, horrible death. Her hypocopic imbeciles of a family would not let her go. Loud. Obnoxious. Fucking bellowing out gd christmas carols like fools while she's actively dying. Not holding her hand, quietly talking with her, saying the goodbyes they should have said weeks before. Dancing and bellowing songs. Bloody selfish imbeciles. She had a horrible death.
@@ShogoMakishimaxx I don't either
This has brought back the memories of taking care of my granny who had brain cancer. I miss her so much. Sleepless nights and emotional days but what i wouldn't do to have her back. This really touched my heart. God bless her faith. ❤
I lost my mother 5 years ago to cancer. She was my best friend and my unconditional love. This journey you shared of your mother’s journey to heaven and all your personal emotions through the process was so similar to mine. Thank you for sharing. It makes me know that I am not alone. Sincere sympathy to you all!
My mom had cancer. Was diagnosed when I was 16. I’m now 20 and sill have her with me, she’s been in remission and cancer free for two years now and I’m so thankful. She’s very strong and brave. I regret every fight we have because at one point we were all so scared, and this reminded me of how heartbreaking watching her struggle to keep strength and hope, and losing her hair and color in her skin… everything. I think I’ll give her a call after seeing this. Thank you so much for sharing.
I can't believe the suffering this poor woman went through , along with the suffering the immediate family went through. Makes one realize you need a living will, so that ilfe comes to an end when you wish.
Most doctors won't abide by it...they will keep you alive by hell or by crook, no matter WHAT your suffering is like.
Some people wait for God to take them.
Or live in a state that lets you chose when you want to leave. This is way to much suffering.
My husband passed quickly at the end and it was peaceful. I am so thankful he did not suffer a prolonged death as this woman did. He had cancer for 7 years and was brave to the end but I personally could not have watched him linger as this woman did and I pray my children would never let me linger like this woman did.
I always think that when someone is that sick and loved ones are saying “I’ll miss you so much” she’s already gone. She hasn’t been herself in a very long time.
This is beautifully done. I lost my mother to cancer a little over a year ago, and I sobbed through this film. I realize that its been some time since your mother's passing, but I am still so sorry for your loss. Your mom looked like such a sweet and special person.
Oh wow!!! This was so inspirational. What a beautiful brave lady mama Jane was. ❤️ What a wonderful set of human beings you all are. Life is so rubbish sometimes. I cried so much at the goodbyes. Life is too short, and we need to make the most of it. Rest in peace, beautiful kind Jane. You were very loved. Jannene UK 🇬🇧 XxxxxX
To me life is about living a life of quality, not being hooked up to tubes etc. It broke my heart to see her suffer more than her actual death.
Jane has such a wonderful Husband and loving family. What a courageous beautiful woman she was. May she rest peacefully in Heaven. 😢🙏
Going through this terminal cancer journey with my sweet little mom now in 2023. It's so heartbreaking and emotionally exhausting. I can relate to so many emotions and things that I saw in your film. It's obvious that your mom was very special to you, your family and friends. I know you think of her everyday. Just as I will mine. She told me the other day that if she crosses over before me, that she'll be waiting on me at the Gates of Heaven to walk me over when my time comes.
I just lost my mom days before Christmas 2022. Pancreatic cancer took her. It’s so hard. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. It’s devastating.
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@@zombiemom6701 🙏❤️
Dr. Kovorkian was what was needed here.
I know what you're going through, it's a very difficult time for everyone.
Best wishes as you care for your mum, hope things go as easily as they can. ❤️
This was a beautiful legacy to leave of your mother and the love that she held for all of you.
There is magic in this family and a bond that even death can't sever. Thank you for sharing your story with me. It changed me forever.
Thank you, that means a lot.
@@CraigOfilm How is your father doing? I keep him in my prayers.
When Robert said its time to talk to mom and dad I can't stop crying... Her husband is strong... Family is great
Who are "Mom and Dad"; his parents?
@@Skeptigal1 ya I assume so. Her mom was there and looked very strong.
Put some ashes in small containers for was family member to enjoy. ❤🌹
My mom died of cancer at age 48 in 1987 We went through the same thing.Heart wrenching.
Those that gave this a thumbs down have clearly never cared for or lost someone close to them.
What an ABSOLUTELY beautiful document to have after such tragedy.
I hate coming across these films, because as hard as it is to watch, and as much as I want to turn it off at certain parts, I can’t and I always come back to watch if I do. This is as raw as it can be, and I’m sure your mother is proud of you for sharing her story. I will say this though, it’s always easy to remember the worst times with your mother, but whenever someone asks about her, always remember her as we first see her in the film, a beautiful, kind, humorous woman, and all the amazing memories you had with her. I can only imagine how it felt to lose her so young man, but it’s amazing how you’ve coped with it. Bless you.
I do think of the happy times with her. Still do. She's amazing. And I'm so glad we get to see her in full spirits at the beginning. Thank you for watching.
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I don't know why I watched this but am so glad that I did. I lost my Mum to ovarian cancer in March 2017 and your film bought back so many memories of the year from her diagnosis to passing. I felt I was watching my Mum again - the withering away and the end stage passing. I had barely had time to come to terms with losing her when Dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. In some respects, we were lucky to get one year with Mum. With Dad, we got 7 weeks. I praise you for having the guts to make this film. It cannot have been easy. Your mother was incredibly brave and she was also so lucky to have you and your family and especially your Dad to be there with her through this journey. May her soul rest in eternal peace.
Beautiful compassionate family, walked her through the most difficult part of life in such a loving way. How wonderful for her to feel the love of her family right up to the end. That is a blessing like no other. Thank you for sharing this with us! ❤️
Your mom was the definition of a fighter and showed more courage than a thousand warriors! This is a reality for us who one day will be doing the same for our loved ones. God bless you and ur family!
Those 2am calls are so hard but when you know their heart is with the Lord there is a peace in knowing you will see her again in heaven!
The most moving and passionate documentary I've ever seen
I know this video was done a long time ago. What a beautiful tribute to your wonderful mother and wife. May she rest in peace and may you be comforted knowing that she is no longer hurting. This was such a touching video.❤❤❤
My mom passed away in 2017, in our case she went quickly after only 2 days. Your film was so sad yet beautiful, as I remember all those feelings like they were yesterday. May your sweet mom rest in peace.
I just found this. Just in time for the one year death anniversary of my best friend from metastatic cancer. Your mom reminds me of her. She fought hard. Such a brave woman. 💜
I literally couldn't stop crying. bless not only her soul, but your entire family's soul, as well.
My mom died from a brain tumor at 54 years old. Brain tumors are SO cruel. Bless you!
Lisa so did mine.
My precious Mam passed in 2004.
I am still having nightmares of that morning.
Stay safe and take care. 💗⚘🕊
Such a cruel disease. 😔
@@davinastanton3865 Thank you so much for your kind words. I will pray for peace and comfort for you.
Your mother was/is a beautiful soul. We went through the same thing with my Step-father. Your mom was very lucky to have the support of all you guys and you guys were blessed to have her as a mother. Godspeed to you and your family.
For all of you commenting and saying the dad and son seem disconnected, have you been through it? There truly comes a time when you know death is going to happen soon and some people have to become a different person to deal with it. I did. My great grandmother passed away earlier this year from cancer and I kept my distance especially the last 2 weeks so I could keep my household running. I was there the night she passed away and when they took her from her home. I barely cried and my husband was even surprised by how well I seemed to cope. I had to for sanity's sake. It isn't easy seeing your loved one going through the dying process and that was the best way I knew how to deal.
She seemed to have been loved by her son and husband. I doubt they were truly disconnected.
I have seen death and this lady was kept far to lucid. She was suffering she wasn’t going to get better. But one does not try and prolong a death by feeding. Jane should have been put on a drive far quicker. Like you said you wasn’t around until your grandmother died. But all the people I know who have been by the sides of their loved ones who have died from cancer would have seen this and been horrified. And been left as it was obvious Jane was going very soon. But yes there is always a part of we didn’t see it all. Brain cancer can be one of the worse due to the damage radiation therapy does. It basically cooks the brain turning it into mush. I wished Jane had more pain relief and had been put on the drive sooner. Just my opinion due to the fact no one really knows how bad it must have been. Just glad she was sedated at the end. There are better ways to go than this.
@@01chittock the better way to go than this is to find a cure. Her family did the best they could do and they loved her until the end which i thought was comforting. We all have to go some way and everyone knows it's not naturally happening like in a fairytail story. Death is death.
Crusae There are cures and when it all comes out I’m not sure what the masses will do. Anyone who has seen and smelled cancer will want to heads to roll. To watch anyone die from cancer is dame right beyond evil when some of us know this is man made. Just like AIDS!
@@Crusae they will never find a cure. Hate to say it, but you know how much money is in the cancer treatments in the world's medicine? 😞
@@01chittock yes there are cures for cancer but that depends on where the cancer is and the type of cancer and how soon it's detected. Also times when people particularly loved ones are dying of cancer and AIDS no matter how distressing it is seeing them die, it's very important that we be by their side making the most of the time we have left with them.
My birthday is two days after hers. All these years later, I still carry the memory of your mom, your family, and this documentary with me. May she rest in peace.. how is your dad doing?
I didn't mention.. my birthday is 8-24 and when I had children, my first born son was born 8-19. I know it's not the "same" day, but it's close. I do think of your sweet mom and your family all these years later. 😊
She was a fantastic person . Sharp witted , amusing, kind .
From the UK. What a truly heart felt film. A family in turmoil but so full of love. I lost my parents to cancer before I hit 27. I’m 73 now and I miss them every day. I pray when my time comes, that my family wrap in the same kind of warmth and love. Thank goodness there are still beautiful people amongst all the cruel ones. Thank you for sharing this film. God bless. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
My condolences to EVERYONE who has lost a loved one to this horrible disease. I've been in nursing for 16 years and NEVER dealt directly with cancer until August 2018, when my Dad was diagnosed with bone cancer and gone within one month. I would never wish anyone to have to see, handle, support, and lose their loved one to this (or any) devastating illness.
My heart goes out to Craig, Mike and Bob for their great loss of such a beautiful Lady. She fought a good fight.
•• RIP Jane ••
* I hope to meet you one day... 💞 *
Thank you lost my grandmother when I was 12 to lung cancer. R.l.P to everyone who had died from Cancer.
Your dad was lucky he only had a month to deal with it all. Trully blessed...
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I have just stumbled upon this clip. It broke my heart that Jane’s mother didn’t stay with her daughter till the end,it’s almost as if the mother was saying goodbye to a friend. I cried more than her. I don’t understand it at all, so sad.
That was very odd! And the first time she visited, she sat far away in a chair saying "hi" instead of being close to her daughter. Maybe that's why Jane was so close to her in-laws!
@@skeptigal2785pareil. Elle semblait pas attristée, ni câliné avec elle .Pas une larme .bizarre
This is such a beautiful film. I lost my father in 99to heart disease. He was 56 years old and was waiting for a heart transplant. It was very difficult for all of us to lose him, but things had always been tough with my dad because he had been seriously ill several times throughout his life. He remained a vibrant and optimistic person all the way to the end. I’ve lost a number of friends and loved ones to various things over the years that took them far too soon. ALS took my aunt in her early 60s, I’ve had friends die in their 30s and 40’s from cancer of various types and other diseases, my grandmother died of cancer at 64 when I was a teenager. Life is rough, but then God never told us it would be easy. Actually, he said that the more we had faith in Him, the more we would suffer. The one thing I’ve learned from this film, but mostly from my own life experience is that if I’m ever diagnosed with cancer, I am not going to have chemotherapy or radiation. I’m going to live out my days with loved ones while trying to make the most my time for as long as I can. I trust that when my end comes, it’s what God has willed for me. May all the souls that we’ve lost rest in peace with our Lord Jesus Christ and may He aid in our healing here on earth. 💛💛💛🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
So well said
She's an admirable lady. She reminds me of my mother during her diagnosis.
Thank you for filming Jane’s final chapter. I felt fortunate to watch her journey. This reinforces my belief in euthanasia.
I was so moved by this film. It is interesting that my mother was also diagnosed with a brain tumor in Dallas, Texas in the year 2000 and passed away in April of 2001. I absolutely loved seeing the closeness that your family shared and how you all faced disease head on. I would like to think that this is how my family dealt with my mother's illness as well. I have to say that parts of this film were hard for me to see because it was like reliving many parts of my mom's life during that time as well. Your mom was so funny and very brave. I know what it is like to be grieving all the while when you realize that your loved one is going to die and so when the end comes, it is somewhat anticlimactic, as you are relieved that their suffering is over. It has been 21 years since my mom went to be with the Lord and there is not a day which goes by that I don't miss her. I'll remember your film for a very long time.
I found this video back in 2018 when my husband was dying of cancer. I followed your journey and it gave me peace. The love and commitment and tenderness. The raw hurt. I was living it while I was watching the video. So very sorry for your loss. My husband passed 03/15/2018
Where do I begin? I haven't cried this hard in a very long time. My sincerest condolences for the loss of your Earth Angel. That is how I view her. She reminds me SO very much of my mom Peg. She was our Earth Angel. We lost her to lung cancer in November of 2013. Seven months from diagnosis to the end. She only had one round of chemo (that nearly killed her). She wouldn't have even gotten chemo if it weren't for her four children. We think that she would have felt guilty for not even trying something so she could be here for us longer. She always put herself last. She always said that it could be worse. After watching your amazing film, I have to agree. Jane's cancer journey was emotionally draining to watch for 90 minutes. I cannot even begin to imagine the toll it took on all who cared for her and loved her. Thank you for sharing Jane and your family to the world. My mom, dad, and one of my brothers all deceased, visit me in my dreams often to let me know that they are okay, and are still with me. This brings me comfort, and I hope it does for you as well! Much love and peace .....❤🙏
I know it has been years this this was posted, but I hope blessings continue for you and your family. Saying 'goodbye' is so very difficult, as I know too well. Sometimes our loved ones wait until we're not around to pass over, just to make it easier (if that is possible) on us, especially Mommas. A lovely tribute to your beautiful Mom.
Thank you Boo. I do think they know. There's a story I found out about at a festival screening of the film, where my brother's best friend told me how he finally went and visited her on what turned out to be her last night. I truly think she was waiting for his visit so she could say goodbye to her "3rd son" as she called him...
It's one of those things where we think that just because someone can't communicate or respond in the way that seems "normal", doesn't mean that they are not present and aware in their own ways.
I will never ever forget this documentary. Very powerful and a valuable life lesson. Love your family, no matter what. Take care of them, even when they seem so hard to deal with, deal with it. They loved you first and now it's our turn to love them just as much in return. Jane is with God, I think we all agree on that. May He be with you all. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Another Bear out there..🤔 it's actually spelled BAER! 🙂
Momma-Bear 1984, well said! I couldn't have said it more perfectly myself
My dad passed away from a brain tumor as well. This was our exact journey. Learning how to live life without him as been trying and so difficult. Jane was wonderful and I’m grateful you let me get to know her a little bit. I hope my dad and her are hanging out wherever they are. Much love. 🖤
I hope they are too :) Thank you for watching.
This film has shaken me deeply but also incredibly touched. She was such an incredibly strong, joyful person and I had hoped so much that a miracle happens. Unfortunately, miracles do not happen at the push of a button, or when you need them the most. It is now 20 years ago and I hope that you and especially your father are well and you could be happy again. Many warm greetings from Germany, you have left the world a rough but also wonderful piece of your life - thank you for it.
You did her proud. What a beautiful family. You took such good care of her. I know she knew she was loved. God bless your family. You will see her again, just as I will see my mom again...someday!
There is peace on the other side. No more suffering. No more pain.
Jedi Mind Just wished she hadn’t been alone. The breathing is the biggest tell tell and if anyone has seen how a good death can be. I just felt that Jane didn’t stand a chance.
On the other side is a beautiful world I am a near death experience I seen that world I had been in that world I have been in the presence of our lord that world is so wonderful what you see in the beginning when you enter death you will come out of your body di.you will see the white light that white light is a present of our lord you will feel a pearl and a ono of love of you will go to him he will form a beautiful plasma tunnel you will go through that tunnel you will see people going through that tunnel and you will see people that is coming to Earth to be born that channel is beautiful you will go fast millions miles per second and you will follow the light into that other world with is beautiful it's a copy of the earth but 1000 times more better
My dear friend you will see your mum again when she's with a relatives who's gone before us into that other world and also she was still be around you
My dear friend she will see many things yes Angels loved ones she will even see that other world that's that's fine Vale between this world and the next will raise and that world you see you will just not believe it is everything you want everything that you can wish for or it is paradise just like the lord said but he's not told you everything he did say he did say there is a surprise for you the beauty and the colour that is there even Jesus knew where he was going when he was nailed on that Cross he was going home ma to his heavenly father amen god be with you all you are passing away today in passing away tomorrow
Stop trying to keep her alive if you want to do with some help put a pillow over her face she is suffering you put down animals and send animals to the Slaughter race send her own mother she's in pain and she is stressed you humans are stupid you are stupid people sorry for what I say but it makes me really cross
I just went through this with my mom this year. Watching this today made me feel all the emotions all over again. I'm sorry you experienced this pain as well ❤ sending hugs
I really appreciate you opening your home and your hearts to others in this way. You matched her strength through that difficult journey. ❤
What a lovely lady, such a beautiful tribute. Your father seems to be an extraordinary man as well. As a nurse, and someone who is experiencing Leukemia and all of it's perks, I can say that I very much appreciated the truthful look at cancer and the toll it takes on the patient and the family. This film isn't really about cancer or dying though, it's about the love your family has for each other. Your family is incredibly brave, thank you.
This broke my heart into a million pieces. It was so beautiful how your Dad cared for and talked to your Mom. It was so sweet. She was lucky to have him and you and your brother. Thank you for sharing this with us. It also made me cry for and miss my amazing stepmom who we lost in May to ALS.
A nurse is forever a caregiver and a teacher- I will remember your story Jane when it is my turn to be a carer and to teach- Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and your mom💜
As a mother all I can wish for is what you gave your beautiful mother. Thanks for sharing. ♥️♥️♥️
The Love and Courage that it took to document your Mothers journey was phenomenal. She raised an amazingly compassionate man that She continues to be proud of you. Her radiant smile will be the first thing you see when you are once again reunited in God's Kingdom ❤
My mom passed away from pancreatic cancer and this video brings back so many memories. Bless this family. They indured so much.
A beautiful, raw and honest film documenting the journey of an incredible woman and her family. Thank you for your graciousness in allowing us to accompany you all.
She suffered too much. That was so difficult to watch for her and the family. There has to be a better way to help someone transition without the prolonged agony for all. We are allowed to help a dog stop suffering yet this amazing woman and her family had to watch the horror of it,,,,I'm heartbroken for them and all who suffer so long
Being on hospice I’m wondering why the didn’t give her more pain relief. 😢
There are alternatives, not sure in the USA but in Europe.
Yes we have Medical Aid and dying physician-assisted dying here in America @@sarahmottram3369
I hope I will never suffer that long in that way. I never want my daughter to see me in this state.
I’d rather like to be put in a coma. She was aware of this distress. I lost my husband and they gave him something in an IV to relax. I worked as Nurse as well and I don’t understand why it took so long to suction her ?
Poor Jane, but she is in peace now, in the arms of Jesus
Yep they completely ignored the end of life path way as they wanted her to die a natural death which there is no need x
This is the 2nd time I've watched this film and I just absolutely love how close your family is and how caring, kind and loving everyone is!!
Please tell me why this poor women wasn’t on comfort care.So sad to see such suffering.
My second time to watch as well, what a fighter she was 💪💪🙏
@@debradupra6554 She was once she entered hospice.
I'm a mess right now after watching this because it really brought me back to my daddy losing his battle 8yrs ago. However it also touched me to see how loving your mom was even through all her pain. Your mom was so loved and I can tell she was an amazing woman! Thank you so much for this!!
mommyof3redheadsand1brunette ! Sorry for your loss ❤! I agree with you so much. Amazing family with so much love for eshother. 💞💕❣
NORTH Line thank you!
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Thank you so much for watching and sharing. In truth, I haven't watched my film in years. But think of my mom every day. And she has been reaching out to me in all sorts of interesting ways in the last few weeks. If you tune in, you might realize your Dad is reaching out to you as well, to let you know you are loved and he's watching out for you.
Heart wrenching :(
She had a wonderful sense of humor. What a strong lady ! It really hurts seeing this. I have been afraid my whole life to have to see this happen to my own parents.
I am so very sorry for your family’s loss. My heart breaks for all of you. She stayed so strong for such a long time. You guy’s were her inspiration to keep pushing forward. You can tell she had so much love for all of you. It was heartbreaking to see her go downhill. I am so glad all of you were right by her side every step of the way. She is now singing her song to everyone who is in heaven with her♥️