About 13 years ago I wondered what I would sound like if I said nothing negative about anyone, any thing, any event... and I soon had nothing to say! How awful must I have been before that! More recent years have seen me try and say less negative stuff about my own self and it does feel better.
I also tried the mantra:say something nice or stay silent. And same as you i stod silent a lot. Now i have to face the conversation in my head, stop saying negative things about and to me. Really really weird.
That's not exactly what Jordan is talking about. He's pointing out how one should tell apart the voice that comes from our "monkey mind" (or "racing thoughts") from to the voice that comes out of the depths of our real soul. It's not a difference between negative and positive -- but between what's fake and what's authentic.
I did the opposite to become more useful. Positivity in overdrive made me ignorant of the shadow in myself and others. I became meek, lacking ambition and making excuses for others. These things must be balanced and used constructively. Both have potential to destroy.
havadatequila capitalism can result in monopolies which stifle opportunity and improvement (climate science deniers et al) Free enterprise and trade liberalism is what leads to high achievement. Capitalism only means that trade and industry are in private hands pursuing profit. Without free markets, operating under accountable laws Capitalism can lead to oligarchy and fascism.
@@tmnt10000 Eye an for an eye makes the whole world blind. I dont know what propaganda you're talking about but you should stay away from Facebook. And try not to stupe to the same level as leftist extremist.
“Trouble is more interesting than boring” I saw many “friends” I used to associate with create trouble/problems for other people to make their own lives interesting. Sad really.
I see this in a lot of my friends right now. They do stupid things because they have nothing else to do. It’s even worse now bc of quarantine. Prof Peterson is definitely an eye opener.
Well, I guess I'm weird...I'll take boring over trouble any day, having had my fill of trouble---mine and other people's. Boring is when you're free to find or make something constructive or otherwise fun to do, if you so choose.
I experience this too. Every time I talk, I can feel myself watching and listening to what I'm saying. Most of the time I'm telling me to stop talking.
@@Dev-ri7zf yes.If you feel weak because of things you say and you feel weak during saying them you should stop saying them.Filter out nonsense and say things that you really mean.
Bruce Lee said "To be honest with one's self is a difficult thing to do." If you get rid of what is not you, you can then become who you were always meant to be. It is always nice to hear these concepts put into different words, hopefully in a way that can really sink in. You just started yourself on a whole new journey Mr. Peterson, it is one worth taking. Best wishes.
Then you are using a very loose and incorrect definition of reality. Reality is based on truth and facts. It is there and doesn’t change based on someone’s thoughts or feelings regarding it. It exists whether you believe it does or not. You cannot create any reality that doesn’t already exist unless it is a false one. There is an absolute truth. That is the reality we all live in wether you believe it or not. We don’t get to play God and create “reality” through our thinking. That is not how it works.
@@Josh-qo7yd I agree, but we get to choose how we interpret our reality. That makes difference. Thus we mold reality by our brain. Reality is flexible...sea of possibilies. Brain is the key. We were made in the image of God, so, we co-create our reality with Him.
Pirate LumberJACK ... so you say, however my reality manifests very much based on my thoughts, feelings & intent and that of those around me. You speak of reality as if you understand it yet your five senses only perceive reality as you understand it. The truth of reality is not defined by ones perception and that ... is a fact
Danko Nešović I disagree. God is truth. There is so much around us that we do not understand. I have a masters in psych and worked in the clinical psych field for 2 years before I became discouraged with the same psychobabble that you are spouting now. Thinking that we create our own reality is bogus. You are deceiving yourself. The Bible is truth. the Bible is not open to interpretation. There is absolute truth in it. And I don’t understand it all but I pray. The truth from God is reality; all other “realities” are deception.
I don’t remember where I heard it recently but the gist was that everything you do or say by choice is a vote for the person you will become. Do you want to be negative or even mean? Do you want to be a procrastinator or even lazy? Or do we want to “burn off the chaff”? It’s always up to us. But every choice we make moves us another step down a path.
God bless you Dr. Peterson....! You've helped men so much around the world....! Fight the nonsense culture fighting against our boys and young men...! God sent.... My prayers are with you and your family always...! ❤❤❤
As you grow up from infancy the people that you encounter influence you. They influence you to behave in a manner that makes them feel comfortable at the time. You get rewarded with companionship if you are successful and punished with distance if you’re unsuccessful. All these behaviors that you learned are very deeply rooted and it takes a lot of courage to cast them aside and remake yourself.
Perhaps we never get rid of them ..it s about 14 years I try to push them away ..I even dont talk to some of these ex close friends for the same amount of years yet my thoughts and dreams and so my life is still related and my daily energy highly affected by them..it s about how deep and powerful is my mind and memory for many people works completely different they just forget you after a day or less and your words after seconds..
"It's a hell of a shock to realize you're mostly dead wood." And yet, we probably recognize this fact in others very easily. You have a friend, and you know exactly how she'll react to ANYTHING you tell her? You know someone who always relates every story back to themselves, or their military service, or some celebrity they once knew? We think of those people as simple and repetitive, but we think each pronouncement from our own lips is utterly fascinating. We can't all be right.
I think that a lot of times when people reply with a story about themselves, they're just trying to show that they relate to what you're saying, that they understand.
@@edennis8578 Yeah, that's understandable, but when you are talking about your ectopic pregnancy and he comes back with the same story about how he ate 40 hot wings to win a bet, you know he just doesn't have that much to say. I'm afraid we are all that way sometimes, though.
My dad was one of those silent types. Not to the point that he couldn't socialise, but I remember when people were talking he just sat back and listened until he just straight out said over the table to no specific person. "How the fuck do you have an opinion about everything?!" It was kinda fun, because everyone at the table looked like they started to think hard af before making statements after that not to mention the discussion actually started to go somewhere.
A year and a half ago I started to watch Jordan Peterson to practice my English. Thanks to him I did that but I'd never stop watching him because Im learning how to apply the language by every possible means. Thanks Jordan and God bless you
One thing I appreciate about Peterson is that he doesn’t give it all away. He asserts his ideas, but he leaves the journey of self-discovery up to his audience.
this is why i prefer to be alone, or at the very least, with like minded people. i often find my “friends” starting gossip or just talking badly behind other people’s backs for NO reason other than their own entertainment. it sickens me and i don’t know how to get them to stop so when i’m with them and they’re talking like that, i will literally just shrug at everything they say
We all fall short of the glory of God. We are commanded to "lean not on our own understanding" but rather, lean on the perfect truth of God & actively stay close to him from the moment we wake every day. I have to remind myself of this daily. Hopefully it's a good reminder to someone else, too.
Alignment is key. You know when you are aligned when you feel good. Fear and anger are evidence of mis-alignment. Meditation will align you. When you are aligned with your core higher self, you will channel strength and wisdom.
This phenomena happened to me this year. Started immediately after I learned about Carl Jung’s collective unconscious (about 2 months ago) As soon as I read about the collective i had this indescribable feeling of “HOLY SHIT THERES MORE TO LIFE” and it almost resembled an acute period of enlightenment/revelation/alignment/some gnostic type vibe. Ever since then I have been able to slowly rewire my very essence. First I observed my words/actions, then I observed my thoughts, and now im observing the observer. Hard to describe, phenomena. Huge thanks to JP for keeping me conscious in this mentally liber stage of my life.
Modern pshycology is based off of cj work, im starting to learn the real importance of it, these days alot of people need it. I think it's due to the social isolation ppl are having these day.
I went through almost the same exact thing. When I read the part about knowing your unconscious and conscious self, I paused a little. After that, an overwhelming feeling like you mentioned flew through me. Since then, it has been very different to do things
It's probably a visceral response to hearing the truth. Is so rarely spoken. And I would imagine that you respond to hearing the truth because it's what you think inside of yourself and now you're able to experience it being spoken to you.
This man replaced my youtube habits from chaos to order, same happened happened in life dramatically. Habit of Watching the content that builds me, has been institutionalized deep inside me. Thanks is not enough. I will meet this father figure & wanna cry hugging. 👍
Watch your Thoughts- They become your Words. Watch your Words-They become your Actions. Watch your Actions-They become your Habits. Watch your Habits-They become your Character. Watch your Character-It becomes your Destiny. 🤔 Remember, God is For You. Viva Cristo Rey 😎
@@dirkward2064 Hey Dirk, might it be possible for God to Really be Who He says He is, and you just haven't realized it yet? If you are a Real Seeker, be careful with your answer 🤔. Only a fool would say that God isn't Real.
This split in my psyche has always been there. The second part of me always watching and judging what I was really doing. Split between knowing who I am and equally not having a clue who I am. It's been hard. Jordan Peterson has helped immensely.
I've done this. Example: I stopped saying "I'm Sorry" and instead of saying this I'll say "I apologize for....." or professionally "my apologies for...." I am not "sorry" or sad or pitiful or substandard, but I do think apologizing is a necessary communicative tool.
@@chrisanderson9157 I do not see the post as a profound comment. It is something that I have heard or read before somewhere else and something that I aspire to personally and work toward with many episodes of failure in between, as well as something that I wanted to type in the comments section of this video. My intention was never, and is never, to fish for "likes". Be aware of assumptions and projections Mr. Anderson. Cheers.
I think separating yourself from id (thought) and ego (speaking) is very difficult when you're younger, say 25 and under. It becomes easier after 45yrs old. However, Jordan's concept is always good to at least be aware of. Something to strive for more and more each day such as listening more intently to others while putting your own ideas aside. I love this guy!
I’m becoming more and more aligned :) it’s amazing how the energy and strength I feel within me is just so much more powerful from living like this. I also find myself able to write quickly and effortlessly without even thinking.
He said that one really important thing there... "They come out of the depths inside you..." This came from his heart. I recommend you to listen more of him.
Thank you for yet another powerful observation Jordan. The devil makes work for idle hands - and minds. It is a revelation to recognise these things creeping into ones own thinking.
When he says he's not a particularly nice person, he has to work hard at It, some people are worse than that. Everyone is like that to some degree. That's very real and makes me think about who I am and what do I reveal to this world. And to myself.
It's amazing how I am saying things, that I thought I came up with myself, and then I see a video of JP saying those exact same things 1 to 5 years before I did! 😁😁
its just that i really lile his general ideas and i would like to find out how i would integrate them into my life. decisions where you cold ask him for advice
Amazing work, by giving the scripts also. I saves lot of my time.. I usually go through slide by slide and take the damn notes .. I totally understand the `Content` is important, but how JP presents it is so beautiful , I do not want to miss any JP's sentence formation .
I believe that anxiety is the core reason for our negativity. Although we need cortisol during times that require us to react swiftly in an emergency the every-day stresses of life can be debilitating and it is caused by worrying which is a by-product of anxiety and then we project that anxiety on to others who are also anxious and so it spreads.
Agreed. Peterson appeals to the confused section of the population. Those who have themselves at least moderately figured out consider JP to be a loon.
Is exactly right… Negativity is a weakness. I know for myself when I say something negative or gossipy or such midsentence I regret it. I’m saying to myself now that’s not necessary or you know better than that... ugh. It’s a TERRIBLE HABIT
"There´s only 3 kind of mental patients, the ones that have been diagnosed, the ones current under medication and the ones to be diagnose *left* in the future." Jordan Peterson.
Lately, peoples' perceptions of me have had me feeling like I have to act certain ways/play certain roles that aren't genuinely me. Thank you for such a powerful reminder to be 100% authentic in all my dealings. This above all: to thine own self be true!
"...As true as you can say them" is exactly what I needed to hear. There's so much of what I start to say, but haven't dug into the core of who I am to resolve to the end what I really intend to say and stand firmly on. Definitely reduces what does get said, but hopefully at a much higher quality by distilling it down.
"Trouble is more interesting than boredom". Sound about right for America. Such a problem free country, they have to create problems to keep things interesting, and now nobody knows which bathroom to use. Congratulations.
@AGENTJANE HEALTH & LIFE Most are the same. But not all. The majority of the population have more or less the same beliefs and motives. Or at least seemingly different motives but same outcomes. My love
AGENTJANE HEALTH & LIFE - Triggered much? What botcrack said applies especially to the US and Canada, where Jordan Peterson is from. Tough sh#t if you're offended, love.
Our younger generations are ready and willing to sacrifice long-fought-over liberties and freedoms for temporary solutions. Ban the words, take the guns, redistribute the property, argue from authority, and meanwhile 80% of Millennials don't know who Mao was, and 60% of them don't know who Stalin was. It's primed for self-implosion, and biased, corrupt institutions will likely be the ones to pull the trigger.
A thoughtful man. 'Just live and enjoy life' was my Father's maxim. Too much analysis is also as much a conundrum as too little. We breathe life into our words by just saying them...ergo...we should always be considered and positive in our thoughts, actions and speech.
This video isn't recent. It is from mid 2017. We won't be hearing from Mr. Peterson for some time I predict. Benzos do so much damage it is an indescribable torture to endure. I am only now able to begin participating in life somewhat and I have been recovering for 4 years.
I can comprehend professor to your lecture , it comes out like your dealing as well with your shadow and questioning it both the positive and negative motion that invites being , but if your strength is positive it truly state positively....God bless Professor Jordan Peterson.
iv been going thru the same thought process. I've come to believe many of my thoughts are intrusions. I must dismiss them. Intrusions from where, I'm not sure, but they seem to come from nowhere, and it is my job to control them. Seems like a part of life were supposed to learn about while were here
I sincerely wish I had someone talk to me like this man when I was a teenager. I watch my life from afar. That me is a sad mistake only comedic for all the unfortunate events that happen to him. We are the same man...or used to be anyways.
"Energy flows where attention goes" Mr. Peterson experienced a lift in his consciousness as he obserbed his thoughts as a neutral judge. This is some 3000 years old vedantic method to notice what is really true and what is just your mind's false conviction. Analytical meditation or in other words the "neti neti" (not this not that) process is very useful to get a clear picture of yourself. Mindfulness practices and meditation could help to improve this ability. "In the mirror of your mind all kinds of pictures appear and disappear. Knowing that they are entirely your own creations, watch them silently come and go. Be alert, but not perturbed. This attitude of silent observation is the very foundation of yoga. You see the picture, but you are not the picture." - Nisargadatta Maharaj
All it does in reality is splinter your psyche into many pieces. It may seem enlightening, like you say, but it's just the road to total dissociation from yourself.
@@EmJay2022 Cognitive dissonance, the splitting of yourself, must occur before you can morph in to your new self. You must act as if you are already the new self. It's incredibly difficult to do but if you don't you'll just go down a dark path as you can't reconcile who you are with who you want to be.
@@MetalForEmmanuel Yeah because his wife was dying and he was in a depression and wanted to shake his dependency on the pills he was taking. Most people experience that in today's world.
I’ve noticed my brother talking in such lack, defeat, and doubt when I first realized how my words that I spoke were so triumphant, strong, and confident.
It is your choice what you want to focus your attention on, it is your choice what kind of thoughts do you allow yourself to have ! Your self-talk is your choice :)
@@dankonesovic8437 I think it is our choice we we focus our attention on, how we talk to ourselves, what we say to ourselves:) yes words are Incredibly powerful
Sir, you are describing so truthful! When we talk about things, people often don't understand that they/we clinch to thoughts which are constructed and not true and inherent.
I had this sort of split as long as I can remember but it makes me go into self-justification way too often, because you say not a hundred precent right or in a way that might be misunderstood. This justification all the time makes one seem insecure. So I guess being to reflective is also not a good thing, just like not enough reflection is also bad
Your “Self - Talk.” Being in tune with the One who is The Truth. His Spirit alive in You speaking Truth. Being aligned with Him makes this life worth living.
I love JP, and this is (like all of it) fairly brilliant. It's also, in my opinion, tragic and not a sustainable long-term solution. Fighting through the weak chaff and coming up with only the things that make you feel strong is a defensive state, a threat response to a hostile will (or wills) in your environment. It's a state that's necessary to have access to, but exhausting to maintain. I think it's equally important to secure an environment in which you can be freely vulnerable, which is to say honest about the parts of you that are actually weak. Who can live peacefully in an environment in which people are constantly valenced on a scale of weak to strong?
Reminds me of goggins talking about tuning out the noise and looking in the mirror, being real with who you are good or bad just owning it and starting from scratch instead of living lies. Get your base on.
You know you've really made a difference in this world when people make videos of you talking with music underneath it (like Alan Watts). Love Jordan's work and the clarity of thinking he offers us all.
Mr Jordan indeed is a legend. I am always thrilled and excited to watch his videos or talk shows, he has got incredible qualities to win the table. He is a great intellectual and expert psychologist for this generation!!, i am really extremely inspired by him.
I wonder if the split into two seemingly different people could be referring to the inward and outward man. 2 Corinthians 4:16 (KJV) For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day.
I believe the "outward man" is our biological evolutionary animal/beast nature we came from. Which is a pure self seeking instinctual beast. The "inward man" is that which God breathed into us, His very life giving, Christ like nature. Which gives of itself for others unlike the beast nature. We are in a constant struggle between the two. To whom (which nature) we yield ourselves to, its servant we will be.
"You're Dead wood"... without God in our life there would be no hope and the sprouting of new life within us. We are attack by various matters besides those who don't believe in God to lead us astray and fall into another pit. God and his infinite Mercy, Forgiveness, Knowledge and wisdom is my guide. Jordan your speech and teachings are parallel to what God teaches; Keep up the Good work. I agree when you say that we ALL NEED TO WORK ON being GOOD people...it is easier to be wicked than it is to be good. My own negative thoughts when things for myself are not going well tell me a lot and I believe can also cause sickness in one's life.
"it is easier to be wicked than it is to be good." Wicked or good are subjective positions and neither is easier than the other. Believing in a god makes you dead wood in that you can blame all things bad or good on a third party. You don't, then, take responsibility for your self. The christian god is one of the most immoral and wicked characters ever devised by man. He has no problem slaughtering the innocent to sooth his ego. In the end all sins are related to injuring gods ego. In short, you are sent to hell because you hurt his feelings.
@@charlesdahmital8095 I disagree with your perspective and God simply guides us in becoming better human beings. Without him life would be more unethical and unfair for a lot of people. Focus on the psychology of upper income class folk; there are a lot of emotional and psychological abusiveness occurring here. They are just deceptive enough where all bad is focused upon either general society to the lower income class. Simply because of their money they think they are better than everyone else when their pool of souls are where the majority of vile habits are deriving from. Study the Psychology of our elected leadership would you say they are a beacon of light to follow? I would rather follow a God that is redeeming and forgiving rather than the rich who have ultimately been a villain in disguise for thousands of years.
@@StarEssences Does that include the part where he supports the owning of other people as property? You have a delusional view of god that is not supported by the bible.
"... without God in our life there would be no hope and the sprouting of new life within us." I can easily accept that YOU believe this on your say-so, because I have no reason to doubt that you sincerely believe it. On the other hand, you provide no evidence for ME to believe it, and without such evidence, it is presumptuous for you to use the pronouns "our" and "us", as if you were including me. Better to stick with the first-person singular.
One can get trapped in being their own judge (and everyone else’s) and this opens you up to being accused by yourself, others and the enemy of your soul.
always provokes me to think, reconsider.... and evaluate ... JP is a rock star. you don't have to agree with him but he provokes thought... never boring with our Jordan
@@WordToTheWise I 'Roger That' I am so grateful for all you JP postings. Video editing is super with appropriate scenes ( I know it is lot of work). Thanks for not adding any music . Please keep it `Without Miusic` .. thanks
The thing I love about Jordan Peterson is that for someone like me, to whom emotions don't flow naturally, he still has advice for me that works. I have asked others for help, and when I say, "I can do awful things and feel no remorse, or do someone a huge favor, and feel no joy, I have negative, logical thoughts, and I am concerned what I'll become." Most of the time, it results in the suggestion of medication, or therapy.
About 13 years ago I wondered what I would sound like if I said nothing negative about anyone, any thing, any event... and I soon had nothing to say! How awful must I have been before that! More recent years have seen me try and say less negative stuff about my own self and it does feel better.
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I also tried the mantra:say something nice or stay silent. And same as you i stod silent a lot. Now i have to face the conversation in my head, stop saying negative things about and to me. Really really weird.
MindBox , hmm psychobabble, Consider the prophet Isaiah. And the realization of God incarnate, referenced by Matthew, if you need help, ask.
Peace
That's not exactly what Jordan is talking about. He's pointing out how one should tell apart the voice that comes from our "monkey mind" (or "racing thoughts") from to the voice that comes out of the depths of our real soul. It's not a difference between negative and positive -- but between what's fake and what's authentic.
I did the opposite to become more useful. Positivity in overdrive made me ignorant of the shadow in myself and others. I became meek, lacking ambition and making excuses for others. These things must be balanced and used constructively. Both have potential to destroy.
That's the beauty of personal development, even though you level up, the levels to surmount are endless.
that's how capitalism makes you think of the self, an ever improving, efficient product.
Alan Watts may disagree and say that all the levels you perceive to surmount to are just the same level. Ego-cyclical
@@rymichael7203 Alan Watts is awesome to listen to :)
havadatequila capitalism can result in monopolies which stifle opportunity and improvement (climate science deniers et al) Free enterprise and trade liberalism is what leads to high achievement. Capitalism only means that trade and industry are in private hands pursuing profit. Without free markets, operating under accountable laws Capitalism can lead to oligarchy and fascism.
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Peterson certainly has a knack for taking away people's pacifiers. No wonder so many people hate him.
Especially the left
@@tmnt10000 The left doesnt hate him. Stop spreading that political propaganda.
@@Mavish11
Right and I not white.
@@Mavish11
I stop when the left stops with their intolerance and political propaganda.
@@tmnt10000 Eye an for an eye makes the whole world blind. I dont know what propaganda you're talking about but you should stay away from Facebook. And try not to stupe to the same level as leftist extremist.
“Trouble is more interesting than boring” I saw many “friends” I used to associate with create trouble/problems for other people to make their own lives interesting. Sad really.
I see this in a lot of my friends right now. They do stupid things because they have nothing else to do. It’s even worse now bc of quarantine. Prof Peterson is definitely an eye opener.
Well, I guess I'm weird...I'll take boring over trouble any day, having had my fill of trouble---mine and other people's. Boring is when you're free to find or make something constructive or otherwise fun to do, if you so choose.
Exactly my point.
@Joost Broek Haha and I'm pretty much older than dirt! 😄
@@helenhighwater5313 ,PS..I'm older than dirt too.😃
ASHWAJEET
Sooo nothing changed?
rye, if you think Jordan Peterson videos are useless, why are you here?
Aye. Still watching useless stuff. He has good points. Better to use this as motivation, stop using youtube and actually do something.
@rye How can you dismiss them if you cannot comprehend them? One can explain it to you, but *NO ONE* can understand it for you.
time to get to gym bro
And people want to silence this genius
No. I've been listening ears open and eyes open and mind open. Hopefully this trend will spread. Science help us!
Because he encourages self-responsibility and independence. Two things the Left hates
@@maggiemcgee8487 -- You precisely nailed it.
"Thought and Truth are revolutionary acts". 1984.
Did he make a genius statement here? What was it?
I experience this too. Every time I talk, I can feel myself watching and listening to what I'm saying. Most of the time I'm telling me to stop talking.
And it is a hard feeling to accept too
I need to shut up when i tell me to shut up!!
Me too
So is jbp telling u to listen to the critic instead of babbling things that u know to be false?
@@Dev-ri7zf yes.If you feel weak because of things you say and you feel weak during saying them you should stop saying them.Filter out nonsense and say things that you really mean.
Bruce Lee said "To be honest with one's self is a difficult thing to do." If you get rid of what is not you, you can then become who you were always meant to be. It is always nice to hear these concepts put into different words, hopefully in a way that can really sink in. You just started yourself on a whole new journey Mr. Peterson, it is one worth taking. Best wishes.
Excellent advice. This man is a marvel in that he can make the mysterious utterly obvious, and bring the profound within easy reach.
**Profoundly disturbing ad hoc for self awareness**.. It's like your conscience talking lol
We can all be a "marvel" if willing to put Pride aside.
Chris Anderson
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The pride of life; mankind's absolute defeat. History shows entire civilizations wipe out predicated on that very conundrum.
Excellent advice? What about it was excellent?
@@psychcowboy1 your reply.
Battle for the mind because everything begins in your thoughts.
That's the hardest part!
A bouncer once told me we need a bouncer for our minds unwanted and negative thoughts can be told your not coming in helped me a lot.
We have to be careful of what we are saying, because we create our reality.
Danko Nešović ... we certainly do.
Then you are using a very loose and incorrect definition of reality.
Reality is based on truth and facts. It is there and doesn’t change based on someone’s thoughts or feelings regarding it. It exists whether you believe it does or not. You cannot create any reality that doesn’t already exist unless it is a false one.
There is an absolute truth. That is the reality we all live in wether you believe it or not. We don’t get to play God and create “reality” through our thinking. That is not how it works.
@@Josh-qo7yd I agree, but we get to choose how we interpret our reality. That makes difference. Thus we mold reality by our brain. Reality is flexible...sea of possibilies. Brain is the key.
We were made in the image of God, so, we co-create our reality with Him.
Pirate LumberJACK ... so you say, however my reality manifests very much based on my thoughts, feelings & intent and that of those around me. You speak of reality as if you understand it yet your five senses only perceive reality as you understand it. The truth of reality is not defined by ones perception and that ... is a fact
Danko Nešović I disagree. God is truth. There is so much around us that we do not understand. I have a masters in psych and worked in the clinical psych field for 2 years before I became discouraged with the same psychobabble that you are spouting now. Thinking that we create our own reality is bogus. You are deceiving yourself. The Bible is truth. the Bible is not open to interpretation. There is absolute truth in it. And I don’t understand it all but I pray. The truth from God is reality; all other “realities” are deception.
I don’t remember where I heard it recently but the gist was that everything you do or say by choice is a vote for the person you will become. Do you want to be negative or even mean? Do you want to be a procrastinator or even lazy? Or do we want to “burn off the chaff”? It’s always up to us. But every choice we make moves us another step down a path.
Nicely phrased!
Good angle
Its from the book atomic habits
God bless you Dr. Peterson....! You've helped men so much around the world....! Fight the nonsense culture fighting against our boys and young men...! God sent.... My prayers are with you and your family always...! ❤❤❤
Tracy77751 🙏 amen this has helped my podcast for men.
Men Nation podcast
He’s helped women too. (At least this woman; me)...☺️
Amen! 🙏
As you grow up from infancy the people that you encounter influence you. They influence you to behave in a manner that makes them feel comfortable at the time. You get rewarded with companionship if you are successful and punished with distance if you’re unsuccessful. All these behaviors that you learned are very deeply rooted and it takes a lot of courage to cast them aside and remake yourself.
Perhaps we never get rid of them ..it s about 14 years I try to push them away ..I even dont talk to some of these ex close friends for the same amount of years yet my thoughts and dreams and so my life is still related and my daily energy highly affected by them..it s about how deep and powerful is my mind and memory for many people works completely different they just forget you after a day or less and your words after seconds..
"It's a hell of a shock to realize you're mostly dead wood." And yet, we probably recognize this fact in others very easily. You have a friend, and you know exactly how she'll react to ANYTHING you tell her? You know someone who always relates every story back to themselves, or their military service, or some celebrity they once knew? We think of those people as simple and repetitive, but we think each pronouncement from our own lips is utterly fascinating. We can't all be right.
How daaaaaaaa you I have nevaaaaa been wrong!!!!
I think that a lot of times when people reply with a story about themselves, they're just trying to show that they relate to what you're saying, that they understand.
@@edennis8578 Yeah, that's understandable, but when you are talking about your ectopic pregnancy and he comes back with the same story about how he ate 40 hot wings to win a bet, you know he just doesn't have that much to say. I'm afraid we are all that way sometimes, though.
My dad was one of those silent types. Not to the point that he couldn't socialise, but I remember when people were talking he just sat back and listened until he just straight out said over the table to no specific person. "How the fuck do you have an opinion about everything?!"
It was kinda fun, because everyone at the table looked like they started to think hard af before making statements after that not to mention the discussion actually started to go somewhere.
That's what think about Tim Pool these days. He's tedious to listen to because he tries to make any story he hears about him in some way.
"observing the thinker" is a powerful skill to develop.
Nathy t basic buddhism 101, this guy sounds like somebody insisting on you listen to a band they're unaware of, the beatles because 'it's pretty good
Meta cognition
I watch/listen to these videos almost everyday, to refine the wisdom he imparts. What a good man.
A year and a half ago I started to watch Jordan Peterson to practice my English. Thanks to him I did that but I'd never stop watching him because Im learning how to apply the language by every possible means.
Thanks Jordan and God bless you
"Leave everything you don't have to be behind."
One thing I appreciate about Peterson is that he doesn’t give it all away. He asserts his ideas, but he leaves the journey of self-discovery up to his audience.
Well the thing is I think, that you have to make the journey yourself.
this is why i prefer to be alone, or at the very least, with like minded people. i often find my “friends” starting gossip or just talking badly behind other people’s backs for NO reason other than their own entertainment. it sickens me and i don’t know how to get them to stop so when i’m with them and they’re talking like that, i will literally just shrug at everything they say
Hold every thought captive. Father God bless you all an have a great day!
We all fall short of the glory of God. We are commanded to "lean not on our own understanding" but rather, lean on the perfect truth of God & actively stay close to him from the moment we wake every day. I have to remind myself of this daily. Hopefully it's a good reminder to someone else, too.
Amen!
(& NOT "awoman". That's PC ignorance.)
Alignment is key. You know when you are aligned when you feel good. Fear and anger are evidence of mis-alignment. Meditation will align you. When you are aligned with your core higher self, you will channel strength and wisdom.
Thanks to Jordan my life has significantly improved!
My pre work out videos before the gym.
Nice work. Listen to Converge/Tool/Deafheaven while at the gym and you'll be Superman within a year 😛
This phenomena happened to me this year. Started immediately after I learned about Carl Jung’s collective unconscious (about 2 months ago) As soon as I read about the collective i had this indescribable feeling of “HOLY SHIT THERES MORE TO LIFE” and it almost resembled an acute period of enlightenment/revelation/alignment/some gnostic type vibe. Ever since then I have been able to slowly rewire my very essence. First I observed my words/actions, then I observed my thoughts, and now im observing the observer.
Hard to describe, phenomena. Huge thanks to JP for keeping me conscious in this mentally liber stage of my life.
Modern pshycology is based off of cj work, im starting to learn the real importance of it, these days alot of people need it. I think it's due to the social isolation ppl are having these day.
I went through almost the same exact thing. When I read the part about knowing your unconscious and conscious self, I paused a little. After that, an overwhelming feeling like you mentioned flew through me. Since then, it has been very different to do things
Did that phenomenon caused you anxiety?
I love it, Carl Jung but never Jesus Christ. Guess we aren’t all destined for the narrow path.
Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. James 3:10.
I swear I get a lump in my throat every time I listen to this man! Don't know why. It's not a bad thing.
Karen Swidzinski he's the father we all needed tbh
I would go see a doctor for that lump
It's probably a visceral response to hearing the truth. Is so rarely spoken. And I would imagine that you respond to hearing the truth because it's what you think inside of yourself and now you're able to experience it being spoken to you.
@@laurabarber6697 Indeed
Mental health is the coherence or allignment of the abstract or spiritual with the physical. Brilliant.
Best message I ever heard.. everyone needs to hear this, we can always push to be better persons... #wakeupcall!
This man replaced my youtube habits from chaos to order, same happened happened in life dramatically. Habit of Watching the content that builds me, has been institutionalized deep inside me.
Thanks is not enough. I will meet this father figure & wanna cry hugging. 👍
Whenever I feel depressed, I come here to watch him. His words work like an antidepressant.
JP is fascinating. Seriously. Most of us can learn a lot...
Watch your Thoughts- They become your Words. Watch your Words-They become your Actions. Watch your Actions-They become your Habits. Watch your Habits-They become your Character. Watch your Character-It becomes your Destiny. 🤔
Remember, God is For You. Viva Cristo Rey 😎
That was good. Thank you
@@impatief1096 Merry and Holy Christmas and Happy New year to You and Your's 😎
That's powerful advice. Thank you.
Doing great till you introduced the fictitional character at tha end!
@@dirkward2064 Hey Dirk, might it be possible for God to Really be Who He says He is, and you just haven't realized it yet? If you are a Real Seeker, be careful with your answer 🤔. Only a fool would say that God isn't Real.
This split in my psyche has always been there. The second part of me always watching and judging what I was really doing. Split between knowing who I am and equally not having a clue who I am. It's been hard. Jordan Peterson has helped immensely.
I've done this. Example: I stopped saying "I'm Sorry" and instead of saying this I'll say "I apologize for....." or professionally "my apologies for...." I am not "sorry" or sad or pitiful or substandard, but I do think apologizing is a necessary communicative tool.
Uhhh really?
@@UA-camuser1aa Yep. Really. It may be hard to comprehend, and thank you for your comment.
@@bp8764 why would you say thank you for a comment? It’s not welcome. Sign of weakness.
“Trouble is more interesting than boring”
Damn right. And that gets me into lots more trouble!
I will often pray for purity of intention and a discerning heart...
Doubt your profound comment will get many likes. For it requires humility.
@@chrisanderson9157 I do not see the post as a profound comment. It is something that I have heard or read before somewhere else and something that I aspire to personally and work toward with many episodes of failure in between, as well as something that I wanted to type in the comments section of this video. My intention was never, and is never, to fish for "likes". Be aware of assumptions and projections Mr. Anderson. Cheers.
Is yous praying to the Morning Star? 😆😈😆😈😆😈😆😈
I think separating yourself from id (thought) and ego (speaking) is very difficult when you're younger, say 25 and under. It becomes easier after 45yrs old. However, Jordan's concept is always good to at least be aware of. Something to strive for more and more each day such as listening more intently to others while putting your own ideas aside.
I love this guy!
I’m becoming more and more aligned :) it’s amazing how the energy and strength I feel within me is just so much more powerful from living like this. I also find myself able to write quickly and effortlessly without even thinking.
You are not the thought; you are the awareness.
Thank you so much for posting these videos from JP
My pleasure, thanks for watching!
He said that one really important thing there... "They come out of the depths inside you..." This came from his heart. I recommend you to listen more of him.
Thank you for yet another powerful observation Jordan. The devil makes work for idle hands - and minds. It is a revelation to recognise these things creeping into ones own thinking.
When he says he's not a particularly nice person, he has to work hard at It, some people are worse than that. Everyone is like that to some degree. That's very real and makes me think about who I am and what do I reveal to this world. And to myself.
That's beautiful my friend. Thank you for sharing that.
It's amazing how I am saying things, that I thought I came up with myself, and then I see a video of JP saying those exact same things 1 to 5 years before I did! 😁😁
There is a reason why this man’s books are sitting on my coffee table. Awesome!
i wish i had a therapy session with him
@Psychonaut read his books
He’d mess you all the way up lol that’s your worst nightmare ... trust moi
He’d be an interesting neighbor...
@@yankeedogg2212 I just want to be his friend...
its just that i really lile his general ideas and i would like to find out how i would integrate them into my life.
decisions where you cold ask him for advice
This is a masterful explanation of the expression of ego against ones true self. Brilliant.
Amazing work, by giving the scripts also. I saves lot of my time.. I usually go through slide by slide and take the damn notes .. I totally understand the `Content` is important, but how JP presents it is so beautiful , I do not want to miss any JP's sentence formation .
I believe that anxiety is the core reason for our negativity. Although we need cortisol during times that require us to react swiftly in an emergency the every-day stresses of life can be debilitating and it is caused by worrying which is a by-product of anxiety and then we project that anxiety on to others who are also anxious and so it spreads.
Thank you for being a guiding light in this confused world, Peterson!
Agreed. Peterson appeals to the confused section of the population. Those who have themselves at least moderately figured out consider JP to be a loon.
Is exactly right… Negativity is a weakness. I know for myself when I say something negative or gossipy or such midsentence I regret it. I’m saying to myself now that’s not necessary or you know better than that... ugh. It’s a TERRIBLE HABIT
"There´s only 3 kind of mental patients, the ones that have been diagnosed, the ones current under medication and the ones to be diagnose *left* in the future." Jordan Peterson.
Lately, peoples' perceptions of me have had me feeling like I have to act certain ways/play certain roles that aren't genuinely me. Thank you for such a powerful reminder to be 100% authentic in all my dealings. This above all: to thine own self be true!
Excellent book written by a monk: Our Thoughts Determine Our Lives
"...As true as you can say them" is exactly what I needed to hear.
There's so much of what I start to say, but haven't dug into the core of who I am to resolve to the end what I really intend to say and stand firmly on.
Definitely reduces what does get said, but hopefully at a much higher quality by distilling it down.
"Trouble is more interesting than boredom". Sound about right for America. Such a problem free country, they have to create problems to keep things interesting, and now nobody knows which bathroom to use. Congratulations.
@AGENTJANE HEALTH & LIFE
Most are the same. But not all.
The majority of the population have more or less the same beliefs and motives. Or at least seemingly different motives but same outcomes.
My love
Who else slept through the 2008 financial crisis, ie Wall Street robbing tax payers blind in the biggest financial heist in the history of mankind?
1st world problems are still better than 3rd world problems
AGENTJANE HEALTH & LIFE - Triggered much? What botcrack said applies especially to the US and Canada, where Jordan Peterson is from. Tough sh#t if you're offended, love.
Our younger generations are ready and willing to sacrifice long-fought-over liberties and freedoms for temporary solutions. Ban the words, take the guns, redistribute the property, argue from authority, and meanwhile 80% of Millennials don't know who Mao was, and 60% of them don't know who Stalin was. It's primed for self-implosion, and biased, corrupt institutions will likely be the ones to pull the trigger.
A thoughtful man. 'Just live and enjoy life' was my Father's maxim. Too much analysis is also as much a conundrum as too little. We breathe life into our words by just saying them...ergo...we should always be considered and positive in our thoughts, actions and speech.
Excellent, Merry Christmas Dr Peterson , God Bless You buddy☦
Good advice. Reminds me of "as a man thinketh", where the mind is what creates your external world.
Dr peterson is completely different person than what he was few months ago
Stay healthy sir
This video isn't recent. It is from mid 2017. We won't be hearing from Mr. Peterson for some time I predict. Benzos do so much damage it is an indescribable torture to endure. I am only now able to begin participating in life somewhat and I have been recovering for 4 years.
His wife has cancer. He is devastated.
I can comprehend professor to your lecture , it comes out like your dealing as well with your shadow and questioning it both the positive and negative motion that invites being , but if your strength is positive it truly state positively....God bless Professor Jordan Peterson.
The man is a saint and a genius!!
A gift from GOD!
It has happened to me too recently, I have noticed this immense split too.
iv been going thru the same thought process. I've come to believe many of my thoughts are intrusions. I must dismiss them. Intrusions from where, I'm not sure, but they seem to come from nowhere, and it is my job to control them. Seems like a part of life were supposed to learn about while were here
I sincerely wish I had someone talk to me like this man when I was a teenager. I watch my life from afar. That me is a sad mistake only comedic for all the unfortunate events that happen to him. We are the same man...or used to be anyways.
"Energy flows where attention goes"
Mr. Peterson experienced a lift in his consciousness as he obserbed his thoughts as a neutral judge. This is some 3000 years old vedantic method to notice what is really true and what is just your mind's false conviction.
Analytical meditation or in other words the "neti neti" (not this not that) process is very useful to get a clear picture of yourself.
Mindfulness practices and meditation could help to improve this ability.
"In the mirror of your mind all kinds of pictures appear and disappear. Knowing that they are entirely your own creations, watch them silently come and go. Be alert, but not perturbed. This attitude of silent observation is the very foundation of yoga. You see the picture, but you are not the picture."
- Nisargadatta Maharaj
All it does in reality is splinter your psyche into many pieces. It may seem enlightening, like you say, but it's just the road to total dissociation from yourself.
@@EmJay2022 Cognitive dissonance, the splitting of yourself, must occur before you can morph in to your new self. You must act as if you are already the new self. It's incredibly difficult to do but if you don't you'll just go down a dark path as you can't reconcile who you are with who you want to be.
@@blendergaming1579 That's why you need to make sure the stronger part of your psyche eats the other one to ensure uniformity of the mind
@@MetalForEmmanuel Just because you can't comprehend his very useful advice doesn't mean he's on drugs...
@@MetalForEmmanuel Yeah because his wife was dying and he was in a depression and wanted to shake his dependency on the pills he was taking. Most people experience that in today's world.
I’ve noticed my brother talking in such lack, defeat, and doubt when I first realized how my words that I spoke were so triumphant, strong, and confident.
I think the biggest challenge. Is changing who you are on the inside. When your outside world is the same.
Your thoughts become your actions n your actions make your reality. Act accordingly friends.
It is your choice what you want to focus your attention on, it is your choice what kind of thoughts do you allow yourself to have ! Your self-talk is your choice :)
That's just another thought that happened without anyone's approval.
Good one though.
Self-talk can get interesting... For me at least.
Not to sound condescending but most often thoughts are involuntary. An attempt to control them can make us miserable, don't you think?
So is our choice of words.
@@dankonesovic8437 I think it is our choice we we focus our attention on, how we talk to ourselves, what we say to ourselves:) yes words are Incredibly powerful
Leave everything you don't have to be, behind. That's gold
This video could not come at a better time
Sir, you are describing so truthful! When we talk about things, people often don't understand that they/we clinch to thoughts which are constructed and not true and inherent.
I had this sort of split as long as I can remember but it makes me go into self-justification way too often, because you say not a hundred precent right or in a way that might be misunderstood. This justification all the time makes one seem insecure. So I guess being to reflective is also not a good thing, just like not enough reflection is also bad
Your “Self - Talk.”
Being in tune with the One who is The Truth. His Spirit alive in You speaking Truth. Being aligned with Him makes this life worth living.
Excellent tie - makes a nice contrast with the suit.
I love JP, and this is (like all of it) fairly brilliant. It's also, in my opinion, tragic and not a sustainable long-term solution. Fighting through the weak chaff and coming up with only the things that make you feel strong is a defensive state, a threat response to a hostile will (or wills) in your environment. It's a state that's necessary to have access to, but exhausting to maintain. I think it's equally important to secure an environment in which you can be freely vulnerable, which is to say honest about the parts of you that are actually weak. Who can live peacefully in an environment in which people are constantly valenced on a scale of weak to strong?
Never identify with negativity you can feel depressed but you are not depression you can feel sick but you are not sickness
Very wise words.
Leave everything you don't have to be behind. 👏🏼👏🏼
Reminds me of goggins talking about tuning out the noise and looking in the mirror, being real with who you are good or bad just owning it and starting from scratch instead of living lies. Get your base on.
Such an honest, vulnerable speech, admitting weaknesses and faults.
Made my day just by listening to it
You know you've really made a difference in this world when people make videos of you talking with music underneath it (like Alan Watts). Love Jordan's work and the clarity of thinking he offers us all.
I just come here for the wise words from jordan and the comment section thank you to all
Mr Jordan indeed is a legend. I am always thrilled and excited to watch his videos or talk shows, he has got incredible qualities to win the table. He is a great intellectual and expert psychologist for this generation!!, i am really extremely inspired by him.
Appreciate all the videos and content of Jordan you upload. Thanks
My pleasure! Glad you enjoy the videos :)
This is a life changing 5 minutes and 51 seconds.
I wonder if the split into two seemingly different people could be referring to the inward and outward man.
2 Corinthians 4:16 (KJV) For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day.
I believe the "outward man" is our biological evolutionary animal/beast nature we came from. Which is a pure self seeking instinctual beast. The "inward man" is that which God breathed into us, His very life giving, Christ like nature. Which gives of itself for others unlike the beast nature. We are in a constant struggle between the two. To whom (which nature) we yield ourselves to, its servant we will be.
@@SimplifiedTruth
I think you are right, thanks. :)
@@SimplifiedTruth - there may be a struggle, but one of those beings was crucified with Christ!
Inward and outward both perish in the end.
St. Paul call it the "old man"
Is there is anyone better on the internet ? If so, please let us all know. God Bless you Jordan Peterson.
"You're Dead wood"... without God in our life there would be no hope and the sprouting of new life within us. We are attack by various matters besides those who don't believe in God to lead us astray and fall into another pit. God and his infinite Mercy, Forgiveness, Knowledge and wisdom is my guide. Jordan your speech and teachings are parallel to what God teaches; Keep up the Good work. I agree when you say that we ALL NEED TO WORK ON being GOOD people...it is easier to be wicked than it is to be good. My own negative thoughts when things for myself are not going well tell me a lot and I believe can also cause sickness in one's life.
"it is easier to be wicked than it is to be good."
Wicked or good are subjective positions and neither is easier than the other.
Believing in a god makes you dead wood in that you can blame all things bad
or good on a third party. You don't, then, take responsibility for your self.
The christian god is one of the most immoral and wicked characters ever
devised by man. He has no problem slaughtering the innocent to sooth his ego.
In the end all sins are related to injuring gods ego. In short, you are sent to hell
because you hurt his feelings.
@@charlesdahmital8095 I disagree with your perspective and God simply guides us in becoming better human beings. Without him life would be more unethical and unfair for a lot of people. Focus on the psychology of upper income class folk; there are a lot of emotional and psychological abusiveness occurring here. They are just deceptive enough where all bad is focused upon either general society to the lower income class. Simply because of their money they think they are better than everyone else when their pool of souls are where the majority of vile habits are deriving from. Study the Psychology of our elected leadership would you say they are a beacon of light to follow? I would rather follow a God that is redeeming and forgiving rather than the rich who have ultimately been a villain in disguise for thousands of years.
@@StarEssences
Does that include the part where he supports the owning of other people as property?
You have a delusional view of god that is not supported by the bible.
"... without God in our life there would be no hope and the sprouting of new life within us."
I can easily accept that YOU believe this on your say-so, because I have no reason to doubt that you sincerely believe it. On the other hand, you provide no evidence for ME to believe it, and without such evidence, it is presumptuous for you to use the pronouns "our" and "us", as if you were including me. Better to stick with the first-person singular.
One can get trapped in being their own judge (and everyone else’s) and this opens you up to being accused by yourself, others and the enemy of your soul.
Wow this concept of alignment is brilliant
always provokes me to think, reconsider.... and evaluate ... JP is a rock star. you don't have to agree with him but he provokes thought... never boring with our Jordan
Your thumbnail and video editing is awesome and i am grateful that you didn't add music on his speech. Keep it up
Thanks!
@@WordToTheWise I 'Roger That' I am so grateful for all you JP postings. Video editing is super with appropriate scenes ( I know it is lot of work). Thanks for not adding any music . Please keep it `Without Miusic` .. thanks
@@RameshBaburbabu ua-cam.com/video/Bmc9NFfhx74/v-deo.html
@@RameshBaburbabu but there is music?
I think Jordan Peterson is amazing I never get tired of listening to him
WHEN YOUR EGO IS GONE,, YOU START LIVING.
PEACE FROM DENMARK
The thing I love about Jordan Peterson is that for someone like me, to whom emotions don't flow naturally, he still has advice for me that works. I have asked others for help, and when I say, "I can do awful things and feel no remorse, or do someone a huge favor, and feel no joy, I have negative, logical thoughts, and I am concerned what I'll become." Most of the time, it results in the suggestion of medication, or therapy.