I know exactly what you mean - I was 'burned' once too in the past by a coworker. It is natural to trust people and particularly those we work with because we spend more time with them than anyone else in our lives. My best advice is to be cautious who you share what with at work. Sometimes it's best to draw a line between work relationships and friendships. Thanks for sharing your comment and I'm sorry you have been hurt by someone you work with.
That’s what happened to me😔. I trusted another coworker and we spoke our opinions on stuff and she ended up getting me in trouble and went behind my back acting like I said things I didn’t now I do admit to one of the things but she made it seem like I said something about management…I ended up losing My job yesterday :(
I got let go today and feel very relieved and not stress at all. It's nice not having to deal with a overbearing manager who micro manages. I got let go because of my "performance" even though I'm a top performer in the company. The job I had sucked and was time consuming having to deal with bad leads that my manager gave me. There is always another job. Your mental and physical health is more important. You being fired is a positive.
I got fired from a good paying job yesterday. I am 42 and never been fired before. It was because of an error I made. I was upset and cried alot. But the site director hugged me and said she'd give me a good review. I'm still processing it.
I’m sorry to hear that; hold your head up high as what she says is true - I do definitely feel that there is life after being fired. I have literally just had my employment terminated - and it’s difficult to say that - it was due to having a mild chronic condition that affected my performance a couple of times. So many of my Work Colleagues were surprised that it resulted in termination and have been sooo supportive. So take that time to grieve as she says and really focus on all the qualities you have to offer - because people who have experienced tough times and grow in character have a huge amount to offer both professionally and personally. 😊🌈 Very best wishes to you. 😊🌈
I just been fired from my job for the first time in my existence. Found your video after searching “what to do when you get fired.” Really helpful, really realistic. Thank you for this.
My first time too. I was crying so much and falling because of it. But I feel like I'm finishing up my grieving period of it. 4 years with the position, and feeling positive. I hope everyone here positivity and blessings in their futures
I got fired today and I was so upset cried and it was difficult to accept because it was a very big opportunity for me and I feel like I let myself down , thank you for sharing this
Hang in there Miss Sunshine! I'm so sorry to hear you were fired. I know it feels horrible but it is through our mistakes and experiences that we become better and stronger people. If you were fired for justified reasons then learn from your mistakes - it will make you stronger in the long run. If you were fired for unfair or unjust reasons then know it wasn't your fault, hold your head high and move on - there will be bigger and better opportunities in your future. If you are struggling with how to explain it to future employers and need some coaching you are welcome to reach out to me at questions@virtualjobsearchcoach.com or you can contact me through my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com Stay strong and focus on all the great things that make you who you are❣🌞
Absolutely! And I intend on using my mega award from a settlement or trial to make a business a reality. I am NEVER working for a company or human being EVER again.
I just got fired today from my first job due to my family leaving short notice to another state for vacations. I called 2 days before saying I couldn’t come they terminated me when I came back to work. I had a melt down in my car for a couple minutes then drove home. I was looking for understanding of my situation and this video comforts me. As a minor of only 16 I feel it was unfair of them to fire me.
I just made a huge mistake for the 3rd time in 2 weeks. Stress with personal and professional life hitting hard and I have been bawling. I am dreading going into work tomorrow but this video helped me look past this. I have already started pulling out my resume and making plans if the worst happens.
I hope you are doing okay. It is hard not to make more mistakes than usual when we are especially stressed. Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself for your mistakes, if you can - take some time off for yourself - get out in nature or do something that brings you joy. I realize having an income is critical for most people but so is your mental and emotional health! In the big picture of life - this is one job - if the worst happens there will be other jobs in your future. Hang in there❣🌞
Hi Balien - I'm sorry to hear you were fired but it sounds like you are on a good path in your thinking. Now is your opportunity to discover a new job or career where you'll experience more good things❣🌞
My position was eliminated on friday. I'm shocked, heartbroken, and angry. Mostly scared from not knowing what will come next. The job market is good, but there are SO many applicants.
@Chris Long I know exactly how you feel, those were my exact emotions after I got the news I was being laid off about one month ago. It is devastating to say the least. There is a natural fear of what comes next? Will you find another job anytime soon? How are you going to pay monthly expenses, rent/ mortgage, cars, food etc.. Man.. it is the worst! Lets all hang in there and keep pushing.
@@bella8145-d9z I agree! One thing I notice is that depending upon the job, sometimes hundreds of people are applying for the same one job. Especially the 100% remote entry level jobs, which seem to be especially attractive to people, even though many are starting off near minimum wage. I tell ya.. it is tough to stay optimistic in the job search, when you literally see 900 other people applying for a job. What are the chances?
I got fired twice this year. It’s been such a hard year for me since my Mom died … my heart isn’t in anything. I’m so burnt out in call center work. I don’t know what else I can possibly do, I feel so stuck.
Thanks for sharing Rob. I have worked with hundreds of people who have been fired and most end up saying the same thing "it turned out to be the best thing that happened to me". It doesn't feel like it in the moment when you are fired but once you process it, make a plan moving forward and take action - you usually end up in a better place. 🌞
While working as a security supervisor at a hotel( no manager position available), I was informed on May 21st that the whole department is to be laid off on May 31st(today is May 28th) due to outsourcing; going with a 3rd party security company. it’s hard to complete the regular work that consist of security task because I felt that if the employer valued me as an employee, they would’ve ensured that I was hired on with the new company.
I was fired due to company policy violation. One fine day I was on a call with a customer who was facing huge loss because of the company and I had to address his query. He was really angry and was shouting on the call. I had to calm him down and it took me 15 minutes to do that. But it was bad and while I was putting the receiver down and it was still not disconnected from my end, I murmured an inappropriate/ abusive word to myself which got recorded on the call. This was my reason of termination. Please tell me how to go about explaining this in the interview.
Don’t be honest about it. Your new employer is not an angel we are all humans and have all done mistakes. Tell the employer I am looking for growth or the management did change they don’t need to dig in ur past if they need to hire u. They too lie about expectations and you only are avoiding judgments
I have been let go numerous times. I have been fired before (partially my fault), lost my job to outsourcing, laid off (staff reduction) and furloughed, but normally it's just the end of a contract. If I find myself let go for some reason, I take a day or so to grieve (if it was sudden/unexpected) and reflect, then I commit myself to my "new job" of finding a job. Reflection is important if you made a mistake (or several) that resulted or contributed to the job loss. You want to avoid making the same mistakes in the future, if possible. I treat the process of securing new employment as my job - including getting up early and getting dressed (not pjs all day). I spend 8 hours a day on it, 40 hours per week. I take nights and weekends off to recover, relax with friends, and invest in self-improvement and education - although I will do this during my "work time" too between interviews and networking. I'm fortunate that I'm in a highly in-demand field (IT), so I rarely worry about being out of a job for any longer than a few weeks and I now prefer contract work since I get exposure to many different companies without getting married to any of them (I can also opt out of the office politics too) - and it normally pays really well to - just save for the rainy days.
I was fired last year from Kroger but I was stressed but I got a temp job and know I have a real job in housekeeping I love it so all of you out there stay strong don't give up
The only downsides to getting fired for me are the difficulty of finding the best new job and (the worst) the financial hit even with some savings and unemployment insurance. They did not challenge that, thank goodness! It was only after losing my job that I realized what a toxic work environment it was (ageism was definitely a problem too as I am a senior citizen) and how very much I hated that uber stressful position (in mental health working with mentally ill youth).
I am so sorry to hear that! I am glad you found this video helpful and I hope my other videos will give you some guidance and encouragement to find and land your next job! If you haven't already you might want to check out my video called "How to Explain Why You Were Fired, Terminated or Laid off." ua-cam.com/video/lv978cwIh5c/v-deo.html
I was fired a week ago, during my probation period…saying I’m under performing without giving any training. I was so depressed in searching for a new job and felt guilty and devastated and full of regrets for leaving my previous job where they treated me better. I feel bit fine after watching your videos. Love from India😍
The single biggest thing to do when you leave a job without one to go to is to economise, because you don't know how long you need to "glide" for. Cancel things like streaming services, cook at home instead of eating out, if you've recently made larger discretionary purchases then maybe return them if you can get the money back. If you have a high cost car, maybe see if you can change it for a cheaper one (cars are a large expense that can be cut much easier than rent or mortgage payments). Literally, go through your bank statement(s) for a few months and totalise the amounts spent on various "things" and redline everything you can live without. You have less money but more time available, so maybe get the home and garden in order. Whilst you still have money, get yourself a set of "interview clothes" and keep them just for that. Doesn't have to be fancy. Just a cheap suit will do. Try for the best, allow for the worst.
I'm glad you liked the video John! Apparently my comments notifications isn't working as I just saw your message now. I hope you are doing well and are on a better path to your ideal job❣🌞
I got fired back in October and I was so shocked I been stressed because unemployment denied my benefits and I lost my appeal hearing I’m struggling to pay my bills I also been looking for work and no luck at all but I just listened to your video and it made me feel kind of good thank you
Honestly, I found this channel more informative, powerful, heartwarming, courageous, moral boosting and spiritual healing. Thanks alot, it has helped me to cope well and prepare me any future termination
Here is my advice. When they call you office and tell you are fired and tell you sign the papers, never sign anything walk away go home call unemployment dump the garbage to your employer, don’t be afraid if unemployment call your work place they are not going to say you are good person. Take an unemployment than look for a job. When you are looking for a job in your resume or interview don’t never mention you don’t have a job, I tell you why? One if new work place they know you don’t have a job, you’re never going to get paid what you should be, 2) don’t be afraid they never call your previous work place and ask about you. Trust me I done it I know what I’m talking about
Thanks so much 🙏🏾 I needed this was terminated yesterday from my hotel. And I actually feel relieved because my job was really getting the best of me. I stayed stressed and drained and now that I was terminated I FEEL FREE. I'm going to file for unemployment
I appreciate your video. I been up all night after being fired yesterday. It's 4am now and I think Im going to relax and rest today. I will start a new job search on Thursday. Im going to hide in my cave today and probably get out and have fun this evening. 😀
I've been depressed, can't eat or sleep, I've been terminated , walking into walls all week, i have noone i could talk to. Im scared. Cannot collect employment insurance , was left with my last cheque no payment of liu . Cannot use them as a reference now I have a 9 month gap on resume. I'm lost I worked so hard to get this job 100k a year 15- 6 rotation I will never find another job with that pay again. My own fault no one to blame but myself. One choice on one night ruined me. I'm 40 years old that was my career . Now I have nothing.
Hi Bumpy, I'm so sorry to hear of your job loss. I know it probably sounds a little cliche based on how you are feeling right now but hang in there! - there is like after being fired! You made a mistake (we all do from time to time) learn from it and forgive yourself. Your career doesn't have to be over - it's how you handle it going forward and I can give you some suggestions. Email me at questions@virtualjobsearchcoach.com and I'll setup a time for a free call with you to discuss your situation and I'll give you a strategy on how to handle things moving forward. ~ Stacey 🌞
Questions: 1) Why were you terminated so abruptly? Were there signs that termination was coming, say, bad performance reviews/attendance issues? 2) Why can't you draw unemployment? The only reason I know of for not being able to draw unemployment is because one was fired for cause. Or, were you perhaps not in your position long enough to qualify? 3) I'm assuming the "nine month gap" on your resume refers to the position from which you were fired. Why can't you use that company as a reference? Too many unanswered questions. A final one, do you live in the USA and are you eligible to work here legally? P.S. "One choice on one night" means what, exactly?
Hello. I just got a notice of termination a few days ago. Its a lot worse considering its a week before Christmas. I feel horrible because its the time of the year where people are having fun and enjoy their holidays. While here I am, having to stress about getting a new job. Not to mention there arent many people hiring in December. How do I overcome this emotional and financial hurdle? thank you
Hi Stacey; I am a nurse. I worked in a LTC facility. One of the residents didn't like me, and she wanted me gone. She feigned that I was trying to injure her. I was not, I am a very good nurse. LTC facilities don't want the State to come investigate complaints. I self reported the incident, what happened, and how she behaved. I was shocked to be called on the phone, and fired. I believe I was wrongfully discharged from my job. I don't mind being humbled, but my administrator said some untrue & unkind things to put me down when I was fired. I'm having a hard time getting her negative words out of my mind. I've been very depressed since being fired Monday. I have put my heart and soul into taking care of the residents. I am 65 years old, and feel like my life is falling apart. How can I look for another job after being told that I don't belong in LTC, I don't make a good LTC nurse? ( I have only had good performance evals prior to this occurring).
Oh Maria! I am so sorry to hear how you have been treated. It is horrible and makes me angry. I understand that LTC’s are concerned about investigations but to take one resident's complaint without proof or an investigation is extremely unfair to you. If I had your number I would call you right now with a phone hug and some sage advice…so consider this a virtual hug and here is my sage advice: I have no doubt you are experiencing a range of negative emotions and depression so I’m going to give you a little exercise to help combat this. Firstly I want to personally thank you for dedicating yourself to being in nursing (especially in Long Term Care - I know how difficult that environment can be) - nursing is one of the most difficult jobs but also one of the MOST important and needed careers in the world! Can you imagine the state the world would be in if we didn’t have nurses? Now having said that I want to help change your perspective on something. The Administrator is the person who hands you your paycheck (and controls whether you are hired or fired) - they are one person with their own job pressures, personal issues etc. It’s human nature that we can have 99 people compliment us but it is the 1 who says something negative that we focus on (I’ve been there too)…and the reason for that is because we care and that is a good thing. But let’s not give your power and energy to those negative people (the Administrator and the Resident who complained). They don’t deserve it. If you loved your job as a nurse then I have no doubt you were very good at it so remember this - The people you serve (your patients) are your true bosses! Those are the people who deserve your care, your compassion, your patience, your love and your energy. I can imagine right now you are feeling beaten up and depleted so I’m going to give you an exercise to help rebuild your self-esteem, confidence and help the negativity and rawness of what you have just experienced fade. What I would like you to do is sit somewhere quiet where you have no major distractions - or go somewhere that makes you feel good like a local park, lake, and take a pen and notebook with you. I want you to write down a list of all of the wonderful patients you have worked with throughout your career (forget the negative, grouchy and difficult ones - I know they existed too) - write down the ones who have said “thank you!”, the ones who made you laugh, the ones that you looked forward to seeing each day - and I don’t mean just recently, I mean all of those people throughout your entire career. If you can’t remember their names, write down something that reminds you of them, the man with the curly mustache, the lady with the bad perm, the one with the birthmark on their arm, the man with the old navy tattoo, the one whose hand you held when they were scared, when they were crying or upset, or as they were passing away, the one who always told you the same joke every day…just something that reminds you of them. Those are the people you work for (not the Administrator), those patients and their families are the ones you serve - they are the ones who are important and I’ll bet you have plenty of examples. Think back to when you first started your career, think of each facility you have worked at if more than one, remember the family members who thanked you, who asked for your advice, write down something that symbolizes that positive memory. If you want you can go a step further (I would suggest on another day) and write down all the times you went above and beyond either for a patient, a family member or a colleague, write down memories where you ‘saved the day’, or stepped in to help when you saw a need, when you supported a colleague etc. I really want you to truly do this….not just say “yeah yeah I remember those people”, I want you to physically go somewhere, take a cup of tea or buy a coffee on your way to the park, and then sit quietly and write down those patients names or as I said something to remind you of them….the purpose of this exercise is as you see this long list developing, it will retrain your brain’s focus onto positive memories which will overshadow the negative comments you have recently experienced. Those negative comments are recent, it’s raw, and has beaten up your self-esteem and self-confidence….it has created a wound and we want to help heal that wound quickly by smothering you with love (like putting polysporin on a cut). This exercise (if you actually do it) will help rebuild your self esteem and self-confidence on both a conscious and subconscious level. I would love to hear how you find the exercise, so please remember to give me an update. You are welcome to book a free 15 minute call through my contact page on my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com or you can find my email on my contact page too. I won’t post my email address here as I’ve discovered I get inundated with spam when I do. Believe and trust in yourself Maria! You are worthy, you are wonderful and the fact that you went into nursing as a career shows how much you care about people…so give yourself the same compassion right now that you show to others. I also wanted to mention, I’m not an employment lawyer but having been in HR for 30 years I’ve “seen it all” and based on the situation you described it does sound like you may have a case for wrongful dismissal, so depending on where you live and what the employment and human rights laws are for your state/province you may have legal recourse for severance pay. If you live in Canada you would have a strong case, but I know the US has different laws in each state (often protecting an employer more than an employee) but I would recommend you talk to an employment lawyer in your area. Many will offer a free consultation and some will charge a small fee to tell you whether you have a case worth pursuing or not. (Make sure it is a lawyer who specialises in employment law). There are many variables that will need to be taken into consideration which a lawyer will explain such as how long you worked for your employer being one, but your age will work in your favour in this situation. I wish you all the best Maria and please do let me know if that exercise helps. If you feel you need help explaining why you were terminated to future employers, I do provide one-to-one paid coaching sessions and I would be happy to work with you…again you can contact me through my website to set something up. Kind regards ~ Stacey ❣🌞
After 40 years of full time work. I have been fired twice from the same industry in the past 2 years. I actually wanted to quit the second job, befoee I was terminated, but wanted to get a new job before giving notice. Then, I made a critical mistake and was given the choice of being fired or resigning. I chose to resign to avoid being walked out in front of every one. I am not ready to retire, but I dont know what else to do for a living. Age discrimination is also alive and well in the employment hunt and Im running into that loke a brick wall.
I hate how common this question is on applications. I'm 32 now, at 16 I was fired from my first job as a cashier for a short till (miscounting customer change) I can’t tell you how many guys pay for $1,000 electronics and game systems…. with cash - SMALL BILLS! Though my manager came over to assist on occasion when there is a lot of cash involved, it’s still ultimately the employee's fault for miscounting. Was fired for a short till of negative $50. I’m 30 now….much more meticulous with cash though I rarely handle it in my professional career…but gotta admit, it feels pretty damn stupid to have to explain this for senior-level positions that are entirely unrelated.
I sympathize Simone - it does feel silly to have to explain something from 16 years ago. But the good thing is you have a great story to tell that explains that you truly learned and improved from that experience...and look where you are now! Thanks for sharing! 🌞
I was fired for “Low productivity during a furlough.” My boss did everything in their power to get rid of me. I was great at my job but couldn’t transfer bc of COVID. I haven’t been able to recover bc my former boss blocked opportunities for me. I’m a single mom and still pissed bc I lost that job over a year ago! I was hired back in another department but then another manager didn’t like me and fired me bc of attendance knowing other employees had worse attendance issues than me! My life has sucked! I try to do the right thing, do right by others. Why do I always get the short end of the stick?
I’m sorry to hear you were fired during this time. This COVID pandemic has caused so many problems and complications at every level for both employers and employees. I sympathize with what you’ve gone through and it’s so crappy when you are trying so hard and feel like you are always getting the short end of the stick. I know what that’s like and although I know it might not feel like it, things will turn around for you….sometimes it just takes some time and sometimes it takes a little action on your part. It’s kind of like being in a rain storm that goes on for weeks and you can’t do anything to control the weather…but you can wear a raincoat and rainboots and you can find places to stay out of the rain for awhile…and then eventually the sun comes out again life seems so much better. So my point is to hang in there and take charge of the things you can control. You are valuable and worthy! Be proud of what you are good at, and take some time to reflect on what you can improve on (You mentioned low productivity…I have a couple of recent videos on improving productivity in the workplace so if you haven’t already, you might want to check those out). None of us are perfect we all have things we can improve on. If your past supervisors ever gave you any feedback on things you can improve on - take some time to reflect on whether there was any truth to what they were saying and if so look for ways to improve on that. There are lots of books, online info and free online courses on just about every topic these days so whether you want to improve some skills or consider a different career or same job but a different industry there are lots of ways to create positive change and empower yourself at almost no cost. Of course if you have the budget you can also hire professionals to help get you there faster too. I also have a video on “5 top skills employers want”, that you might like. I would love to hear an update from you sometime. I wish you all the best in the meantime❣🌞
I'm pretty sure I'm loosing mine too but it seems to be planned. The took part of my resposibilities and told me that a company will do that. Last Wednesday the 2 ladies I worked directly with were interviewing somebody when I wend to drop the last documents and folders I had. They got all nervous when they saw me and try to get me to go right away. The next day I got a warning for confusing the name of 2 students. The day after that they did an unplanned drill. I though it was real and got so nervous because I have a visitor in my office. I locked the 2 doors and close the blinds and hide. I was almost in a panic attack the moment I heard the team saying that the 2 doors were open. Exept the one in the room I was in with the visitor. I got so scared that I pee myself and almost passout. Now, I'm waiting for the call to the office again.
The manager at my last job text me the same day they "let me go," to ask for my direct deposit info for my first/last check. ha. In the text message, I asked for a little more info on why they let me go, since all I got was the "not a good fit" line. Instead of any polite response denying me that info and perhaps the reasoning, they ghosted me. That only added to the hurt, humiliation and embarrassment (and all the other nouns, adverbs and/or adjectives from the list) that I was feeling. Anger was on top at that particular moment, plus fury, helplessness and a feeling that I was worthless, especially because of my age and disability. I couldn't stop thinking about it all day, "What did I do wrong? Is it my personality? Do they hate me? Why are they ignoring me?" How will I ever get a job?
😅😅 I got terminated because I had consumed alcohol on shift, wasn’t angry or sad when I was informed of my termination yesterday afternoon as I was well aware it was coming after my final shift last Sunday, however I am stressed/terrified what my future holds as I have very little money saved , no known skills off the top of my head and while I’ve tried to study/learn new skills through things like UA-cam or hands on I struggle with the studying/implementing what I learned in a way to benefit me in a way that will make people think I’m one of a kind 💀
Thanks for your kind words and I hope my video helps your cousin. (sorry for the slow reply, my notifications were accidently turned off so I missed many comments). 🌞
My husband is 52 and was fired after being a branch manager for over 20 years and his boss, I will call him jack, Jack wanted my husband to hire someone jack knew, I will call him Bob. Bob was a disaster and my husband tried telling Jack for a long time that Bob wasn't working out. Jack just would blame my husband, for the things Bob did. Well now Jack has a golf buddy that is in his 30s that will be taking my husband job. We live in Florida and I am worried there is nothing we can do about it. Gonna talk with a lawyer in a few days.
In my case, I was fired for poor job performance. I didn't want to be in that position, I wasn't succeeding, I didn't like my manager and I got to the point where I didn't care anymore. I asked to be moved into another department doing a different job and they wouldn't do it. Now I am interviewing again and I don't know what to say if asked why I am no longer working at my former company. What would be your suggestion? Thank you.
I received a Warning Official Letter from my boss due to lots of mistakes, clumsy and just lots of pressure onto me but I knew this was letting the team down. I was sad and shocked but I accept and understand. So I have a feeling I may not last at my work, which is why I want to be calm, positive and thankful when my time is coming to me. Of course it be scary but I must face my fears.
Thank you for sharing your situation. Do you really love your job? If you are making lots of mistakes, clumsy and lots of pressure then it sounds to me like you may be in a job/career that is not a good fit for you. If your job does come to an end - hold your head high, be thankful for the experiences you have gained there (good and bad), leave on as good a terms as you can (you may still need them as a reference in the future), and consider reaching out to me (you can email me at questions@virtualjobsearchcoach.com) and we can book a free chat to discuss how I can help you with determining what is an ideal fit for you (though skills and career assessments etc). ~ Stacey 🌞
I was dragged upstairs today for questioning over a minor safety breach involving a forklift. I felt like I was in court. I kept my job by the skin of my teeth with a 'first and final warning'. Given I have to drive the forklift every day, usually for my entire shift, something else will happen eventually. I am human. So I may just jump before I'm pushed, and leave in my time and way, with another job lined up in advance. I think it's toxic now as they're gathering together my history of breaches....... I'm fucking over it all!
I am sorry you had to go through that Noel. You are right - you're human and bound to make future mistakes (we all do). It definitely sounds like it might be time to look for a new job. Better the power be in your hands to leave on your terms rather than wait to be terminated (and definitely smart to have another job lined up in advance). Life is too short to be in a job or work environment you aren't happy in right? There are lots of great employers out there that will value your skills! Thanks for your comment and thanks for watching my videos - hope you are finding them helpful. 😊
I got fired yesterday and i come back home feeling so empty. I just wrong with one policy but end up they think I'm cheating. I'm okay with lost job but they they tell me that i'm cheating i can't accept this . I don't know I can find job anymore or not.
Hi Bo, I am so sorry to hear that....it can be really hard for employers sometimes because many times they don't want to fire a person but if you aren't performing well in the job they may not feel they have a choice. I hope they at least made some efforts to help you perform better and try to make less mistakes before they had to make the decision to fire you. Now is the time to reflect on what types of mistakes you were making and ask yourself if these are things you could learn from and prevent from happening in future? Sometimes the answer is no and that is okay. I have often worked with clients where the employer provided my services as part of the employee's termination package and would tell me that the person just wasn't cut out for that type of work....so in that case I do career and skills assessments with the person and we discover what types of jobs and career fields would be ideal for them. Sometimes people go into a career because they 'think' they will like it or they think they will be good at it but they aren't and that is okay, or they go into a career because their parents told them they should or because they took schooling in a particular field and feel they need to work in that field now. It is okay to change your mind, it's okay to realize you don't love what you do - the important thing is to make the change, find something that you will be good at naturally (we each have our own natural aptitudes and talents), where you will feel fulfilled in your job, you'll succeed in what you are doing, you'll be appreciated and valued for your talents. Life is too short to be in a job you aren't happy in or aren't thriving in. I do offer personalized one-to-one coaching services so if you need help, please feel free to reach out to me through the contact page on my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com and we can chat further on how I can help you❣🌞
I just got fired today for a Failed drug test and I feel extremely horrible.. this was the 2nd job I was terminated from, my first time getting terminated was cause of using a pair of new gloves that I didn’t tell my boss. I feel hopeless cause I been job hopping and I feel like my background is bad…
Hi Eric, I'm sorry to hear what you've gone through and it is a tough situation when you have failed a drug test. Depending on the type of drug and nature of the drug use sometimes things can be explained and justified even when it costs you your job. (I had a client who failed a drug test from taking Tylenol with codeine for a migraine, not realizing the codeine would cause him to fail the test, but the employer had a no-tolerance rule for failing drug tests and he was fired which seemed extremely unfair). It's the mistakes we make in life that make us stronger and better people! Depending on the type and nature of your drug use maybe this is one of those times to learn from your mistakes? - you have the power to learn and change (if you want to). I've worked with many clients who have been fired from several jobs consecutively and they still land new job opportunities. It does require having a strategy in how you talk about it with future employers. You can turn things around! If you need help coming up with a strategy to explain this to employers, or would like some advice on how to go about making some positive changes, or taking a look at some career options that might be better suited for you, I do offer confidential one-to-one coaching. You can reach out to me through the contact page on my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com if you like. Mention you found me through this video and I'll offer you a special discount. 🌞
I would never think of yelling, but if I got fired due to a client lying or mis-representing me, i would say we can "agree to disagree". As I have worked for over 15 years for my employer i would ask if they could help with my expenses until I found another job to pay rent or for a year until I can make a case for disability. (chronic shoulder and knee pain)
Hi Jeffrey, You are wise not to yell (it never helps the situation) and depending on what country/province/state you are in there are sometimes employment laws to protect you from being fired unless there is a 'just cause' and a client lying or misrepresenting you would not be just cause unless it can be proven. I know many are in tough times thanks to the pandemic and the state of the economies everywhere but I always recommend everyone try to set aside a little money every month so you have at least 3 months of income so in the event of a sudden firing, you have the ability to support yourself financially while you look for another job. I certainly hope you are never fired but if it does happen and if you feel it was unfair or unjust check with an employment lawyer in your area to see if you have a valid case. 15 years with one employer is a long time, shows your commitment and loyalty and you could be entitled to a very significant severance payout if you were unfairly terminated. I wish you the best❣🌞 ~ Stacey
Just got fired. But it was a contract job and I had low expectations. Just confusing because they were praising me and saying they liked me, but the agency randomly calls and goes “ya, they don’t wanna keep you”. Never a good feeling either way
The thing is people today are lazy and don’t wanna work would rather live off government assistance and when these people do have a job they slack off and then get mad when they get fired for that. Best thing you can do is be friendly be nice to the higher ups you don’t got too be a suck up just be nice especially if there being nice and respectful too you. Second give it your all at work you don’t have to be the best employee there but show your willing to work and try your best bosses love that it shows they can trust you and probably give you a raise or put you in control of your own department. Show up on time be there at least 15 minutes to 10 minutes early don’t show up right at starting time this will also show your trying and taking it serious. Lastly don’t go around to other employees and say bad things about employees or the higher ups trust me it gets around and eventually you’ll be called into the office and that’s not really a good thing bosses would rather have you working then sitting in the office.
That’s what happened to me :(…… a coworker played like we were on good terms bad mouthed some coworkers that were bad and then I spoke my opinion then she came in the next day and also said I said some about our property manager and the assistant manager and they both brought me in office and were pissed. Then days later aka yesterday brought in office again after I thought things were settled and tried to tell her what really happened finally and she said she thinks it’s best I turn in my keys.
@@aaliyah6402 I’m sorry to hear that I’ve learned over the years too keep my mouth shut and only open it too speak about work and nothing else I hate when people start talking to me about other employees I don’t wanna get involved it’s too messy when things go south
@@ryans413 honestly I’ve learned to now never trust anyone but this was saddd it was a job that paid higher than any jobs I hate which was fast food.. and I lost it and it was drama after drama.
Hi @Ryan S and @Aaliyah Monét - I love the dialogue you two have going on! Aaliyah, I'm sorry to hear what you've gone through and Ryan you have given some great advice! The work-world can be messy sometimes - not everyone is good, not everyone treats you with the respect and integrity we all deserve. You have to stand strong in your own convictions and be the person you want to be (don't fall into the gossip and drama of others). Focus on your own success and your own goals and be your own best self....you will either get recognized for it eventually (by employers) or you'll grow within yourself and maybe decide one day to start your own business using all of those valuable lessons you have learned along the way. I wish you both well❣🌞
Iam going to be terminated today ....& iam watching this now...feeling soo depressed....i can't imagine my self on such a discussion with my boss....i was literally praying don't make me cry infront of all ....i was in a situation that no one is there aftr that to console me ....instead of consoling ,i have people in my life who curse,who blame ,who will shout at me for my loss ....don't know wt will happen to me by evng ......hopping i can handle that situation ....
I got terminated too recently for not performing when I was in training i don’t understand why ?? How I can find a job and should I tell the recruiter I am not employed ???
Hi Jeevana, I'm so sorry I am just seeing your message now and I hope you are doing okay! I know how hard it is to get fired and how much harder it is when you don't have people around you to support you. My best advice in a short sentence is "you are valuable and worthy! Be strong and believe in yourself - you have the power within you to be who you want to be and to overcome anything you want to overcome!" If you need a plan to move forward I can help you with that. Just reach out to me through my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com and we can talk about how I can help❣ ~ Stacey 🌞
Hi Assia, if you got fired while you were in training I assume that means you weren't with the employer very long (ie. less than 3 months?) if that is the case - don't mention that employer and don't put it on your resume - it's not necessary and is not valuable enough since it was such a short time. When talking with recruiters it is best to be honest that you are currently employed. If you don't put that job on your resume then you don't need to tell them you were fired. Focus on what experience and skills you do have and target jobs that align with your strengths. 🌞
I was terminated over my social media was hacked and exposed with materials I had nothing to do with. I'm been trying to seek legal action but at the same time I'm having a hard time finding a job. Is there any hope in my future?
Hi Unbreakable (love your name!) and I'm so sorry I didn't get a notification of your comment until now. I hope things have turned around for you in the meantime but to answer your question - yes there is definitely hope in your future. It is awful to hear what happened to you and you certainly aren't alone in your experience of having your social media hacked. You were a victim of a crime and it is unfortunate that your employer didn't see it that way and support you but stand strong in your confidence that you didn't do anything wrong. Watch my video about "How To Explain Why You Were FIred, Terminated or Laid Off" for some tips on how to explain your story. If you are still struggling, you are welcome to engage my services for some one-to-one customized coaching where I can help you come up with how to explain what happened appropriately and strategize on addressing it in interviews. Many employers and recruiters do check social media accounts as part of the hiring/screen process so sometimes it is better to be upfront about it then to let them discover and make wrong assumptions. 🌞
I was actually forced to leave. Management was spying on my calls and they gave me a bad review. We are treated worst than 💩 by the customers. But still management says we must be bootlickers, peasants and servants all the time. I am F leaving.
Well that is despicable behavior by your employer! If you sensed a termination coming then you have nothing to lose at this point....so depending on where you live and your employment laws you could have several options....1) see a doctor today and go on medical stress leave - depending on employment laws in your region they may not be able to terminate you while on medical leave...then start looking for a new job...it is better to find a new job while still employed - less complicated to explain than being fired. 2) contact an employment lawyer for advice on whether you have a wrongful dismissal case 3) confront your employer (calmly and professionally) about the posting. (Is there any chance they may be planning to promote you or offer you a different role?) 4) try to leave on good terms with a severance package and good reference. If they are planning to terminate you try to find out why...as an opportunity to learn what you need to improve on. Wishing you the best!
@@staceyd2670 I also saw an email to a prospective employee that said “are you still seeking a front desk job, I’m not crazy about the girl I hired”. So I know it’s coming but I can’t get up the nerve to go back. I feel extreme anxiety and I can’t face her calling me into an office and saying “we decided to replace you”.
Hi Deb, I was replying through my phone earlier and looks like it had me logged in from my personal account not my business YT account - so in case you didn't see my last reply - I would love to have a chat with you and offer you some suggestions on what to do. I can't post my phone or email here as I'll get spammed so if you visit the contact page on my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com you'll find my cell and email listed about halfway down the page - either drop me a text or send me an email and I'll squeeze some time in to chat with you today if you like (no charge). kind regards ~ Stacey
I got fired due to lack of proper training. I am a single mother caring for an adult child who is terminally ill. I loved my job and now I don't know what I am going to do. I am very angry about this. As a career, I can't find it in me to take the high road on this one. I have been begging for training that other investigators would have gotten, yet my supervisor did not approve me for such. I don't know what I am going to do. Devastating!!! That's to say the least.
I was just terminated from my job this past Friday however my supervisor is still requiring me to wrap up paperwork. She threatened me that if I do not complete the paperwork she will report me for an ethical violation. I know this sounds like a funny question. Can your supervisor still require you to complete work duties after you have already been officially terminated?
Wow - I am so sorry you were terminated and faced with that type of situation! It's a tough question to answer without knowing more details - If you have been giving a working termination notice then yes, however if you were fired for cause then No. I would suggest contacting an employment lawyer to confirm your rights have not been violated.
I got terminated for telling a woman... "You have nice breasts..." She replied, "They're firm." Then she went to my manager and told her, alongside filed a complaint to regarding the incident. And as of today I'm unemployed... Lmfaooooo wdf 💀💀💀💀💀💀 All seriousness, it's no joke. I can see where I messed up and it was inappropriate. I usually don't compliment women but this time time. I had to take a chance ;( Thwoman was gorgeous and had natural beauty. I simply complimented her. I didn't mean in a sexual way. I can see now it was inappropriate. My didn't want to terminate me it was all HR. We sat down and had a conversation regarding the incident, I owned up to my mistake and here I am. Please forgive me Lord, I ain't mean it like that. Just forgive me and help me get a better job. Pray for me 😔
That definitely falls under sexual harassment and completely inappropriate in the workplace, but sounds like you understand that and learned from it. It is unfortunate it cost you your job but you'll have plenty of opportunities in future. I wish you the best! 🌞
I was fired for something I'd never heard of before, what my manager called, "my fake attitude." It had to do with being one way at work and another when not at work and the fact that it all got played out very publicly (as in newspaper-level publicly). It had nothing to do with how I performed my duties. Just my madcap sense of fun. Uptight religiously funded organization.
Hi Max, I'm sorry to hear what has happened...that certainly is an unusual reason your employer gave you. Unless you were doing something outside of work that was illegal, or what some might consider morally irresponsible and would have a negative impact on your employer, or you were in breach of a policy (ie. moonlighting) then they should not have terminated you. (However, what employers 'should' do versus what they actually do are two different things!) If you really loved your job you may want to talk to an employment lawyer to see if you have a legal case against your employer (even if you don't want your job back you may be entitled to severance pay). However if you are in an 'at-will' state then your employer can terminate without cause or justified reason (which is completely unfair to employees!). If you are in a province or state with employment laws that protect employee rights then you may have a case. Having said all of that, sometimes it is better just to put the negative experience behind you and move on...only you can decide on that. If you are doing something outside of your day job that gets you newspaper-level publicity then maybe that is an avenue to explore as a career change? (ie. social media influencer) If you feel stuck or unsure what to do now, I do provide one-to-one coaching for everything from identifying what are ideal career paths for you to job search strategy, to revamping your resume, to interview coaching, and more so feel free to reach out to me through my contact page at www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com anytime. All the best to you! ~ Stacey🌞
What if the reason for letting you go is that you had an accident in your work place & the company will have to spend for your hospitalization. So the company wants to limit their liability to you so they let you go instead.
I have resigned from my previous job . Almost i worked for four months only. But due to some hearing aid problems happened with me, i couldn't bear this pain for long time. then I requested to my boss for taking medical leave only . On the same day, asked me to serving notice period but i simply denied to do so for joining company. After having few days, I started giving an interview not only for the bpo only rest of the interviews like in banking role whereas I can do productive role and earn income for my family and myself. But unfortunately I was not shortlisted for which I was preparing from last six months. Now I was feeling under depressed and anxious about my job. All the time I felt offended, embarrassed , frustrated myself infront of neighbours and relatives. I do yoga in free time for relaxing my mood. All of sudden I expressed anger in front of my family because of not stability in any job. Kindly give me suggestions and tips how can we overcome my stress, anxiety and mood of depression.
How do you justify getting terminated if you have been doing great for 8 years. All of a sudden, our manager was given a promotion. Sooo the new manager, 2 yrs in, I could no longer do anything right 😮 Even though our current progress report, productivity is 100% and my job objective is 112%, but they terminated me bc " you don't meet the policy standards " Idk what that even means. I was getting written up for typos, missing an "NA" on a questionnaire,???, so strange. If they want to get rid you, they will find a way. Smh
Hi Chris, I'm so sorry to hear your job has been eliminated. It sounds like it came as a shock. I know losing a job (regardless of the circumstances) does leave a lot of uncertainty, creates anxiety and it is perfectly natural to go through a range of emotions. I do offer one-to-one customized coaching and would be happy to set up a free initial call to learn more about your situation and explain how I can help. If you visit the contact page on my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com you will see my email (I won't list it here as I have discovered I get inundated with spam when I do). Just drop me an email and let me know what time zone you are in and we'll setup a time. I am on holidays for the next couple of days but I do check my email every day so I'll usually reply within 24 hours. I look forward to hearing from you. ~ Stacey 🌞
I was fired for getting into it with my coworkers. I was there for 2 years and never had problems until they hired 2 new girls. I turned out to be the problem and I am now completely fucked. Thanks fake friends 👍
First thing: consult a lawyer. I did, and I now have a multi-MILLION dollar case. I will likely never have to work a day in my life again. In fact, I can likely make a fortune getting fired from jobs through suing (as long as they wrongfully fire me). A lawyer can find multiple causes of action to throw at the employer, some of which you could be shocked at. Also, make sure you document EVERYTHING.
@@angelcamachorivera137 I thrive on seeking justice, and it helps that I don’t have to pay my lawyer up front. He takes a cut when the money is awarded. I don’t believe in getting fired for no reason. As the famous saying goes, there’s a reason for everything.
Hi AJ, (sorry for the delayed response my notifications were accidently turned off). I'm sorry to hear you are lonely. I think many people are feeling especially lonely and are finding it harder to make friends since this pandemic started. (I know I have found it more difficult and I'm a Gen Xer). I don't know where you live but now that things are starting to open up again, I hope you can find some places to meet new people. Maybe you can join a group or club that has activities you like (sports, games, hobbies) sometimes trying something you have never done before is a great way to meet new people and learn something new. My town just opened a gameboard cafe where people can drop in and play board games as well as have a coffee and snack. Maybe see if your town has something like that. Let me know how you do. 🌞
Companies do not like to deal with ill employees. You go from being an aasset to becoming a risk..😢❤ Some managers will tell you verbally by phone... you are older you can't "do the work" anymore but they will never put it in an email.
If I were you I would have a very serious conversation with yourself in the mirror and self reflect. Odds are the problem is not your bosses but yourself. Learn from your mistakes and figure out why and never ever let it happen again. Self reflection is the biggest part of maturity and self development.
Thanks for your comment (my apologies for slow reply - I missed the notification). I'm sorry this happened to you. It is becoming quite common. I have spoken to 2 people this past week that were let go from their jobs for not complying with the companies vaccine mandate. But not all employers will mandate it so hang in there and find one where it is not a concern. 🌞
I found your video most helpful! I was fired after a new manager was hired after my former manager retired; I did not meet the new manager's processing expectations so I was fired after a 45-day Accountability Plan took place. The kicker was also that she fabricated tasks that she said I did not complete or completed incorrectly. Some were even tasked to others not me. Technically I was wrongfully terminated!
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I got fired I'm the CEO
I was in charge of a office full of women. They banded against me
Are you still in business?
@dr.roberts4508 yes I am. You are welcome to visit my website at www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com
You can't trust anyone anymore don't make friends with people at work period don't share anything .
So true!!! But then you're seen to be antisocial or said to be affecting the mood in the work place.
I know exactly what you mean - I was 'burned' once too in the past by a coworker. It is natural to trust people and particularly those we work with because we spend more time with them than anyone else in our lives. My best advice is to be cautious who you share what with at work. Sometimes it's best to draw a line between work relationships and friendships. Thanks for sharing your comment and I'm sorry you have been hurt by someone you work with.
That’s what happened to me😔. I trusted another coworker and we spoke our opinions on stuff and she ended up getting me in trouble and went behind my back acting like I said things I didn’t now I do admit to one of the things but she made it seem like I said something about management…I ended up losing
My job yesterday :(
Yes I’ve been bitten and trust too much
@@JulesinAZ I just been bitten.😟
I am fired today, 😢 it was a horrible experience, have two childrens dont know how to survive hope all get fine.
is It Good now Sir
I got let go today and feel very relieved and not stress at all. It's nice not having to deal with a overbearing manager who micro manages. I got let go because of my "performance" even though I'm a top performer in the company. The job I had sucked and was time consuming having to deal with bad leads that my manager gave me.
There is always another job. Your mental and physical health is more important. You being fired is a positive.
Can I ask do you have an emergency savings fund?
I got fired from a good paying job yesterday. I am 42 and never been fired before. It was because of an error I made. I was upset and cried alot. But the site director hugged me and said she'd give me a good review. I'm still processing it.
I’m sorry to hear that; hold your head up high as what she says is true - I do definitely feel that there is life after being fired.
I have literally just had my employment terminated - and it’s difficult to say that - it was due to having a mild chronic condition that affected my performance a couple of times. So many of my Work Colleagues were surprised that it resulted in termination and have been sooo supportive.
So take that time to grieve as she says and really focus on all the qualities you have to offer - because people who have experienced tough times and grow in character have a huge amount to offer both professionally and personally. 😊🌈
Very best wishes to you. 😊🌈
@@PaulaElizabethJ I'm sorry that happened to you. Everything is fine now. You will be fine too.
I just been fired from my job for the first time in my existence. Found your video after searching “what to do when you get fired.” Really helpful, really realistic. Thank you for this.
My first time being fired as well!. I am feeling totally lost!
Just got a text been fired today 😢😢😢
First time firee here as well and the reason being is disheartening
Me too, but I feel free. Maybe it will hit me later.
My first time too. I was crying so much and falling because of it. But I feel like I'm finishing up my grieving period of it. 4 years with the position, and feeling positive. I hope everyone here positivity and blessings in their futures
I got fired today and I was so upset cried and it was difficult to accept because it was a very big opportunity for me and I feel like I let myself down , thank you for sharing this
Hang in there Miss Sunshine! I'm so sorry to hear you were fired. I know it feels horrible but it is through our mistakes and experiences that we become better and stronger people. If you were fired for justified reasons then learn from your mistakes - it will make you stronger in the long run. If you were fired for unfair or unjust reasons then know it wasn't your fault, hold your head high and move on - there will be bigger and better opportunities in your future. If you are struggling with how to explain it to future employers and need some coaching you are welcome to reach out to me at questions@virtualjobsearchcoach.com or you can contact me through my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com Stay strong and focus on all the great things that make you who you are❣🌞
@@VirtualJobSearchCoach thank you so much ! These words mean a lot to me 🫶🏼
@@misssunshine1124how are you doing there hope ur fine but now its my turn
Am going through this and its hard
Don't feel sad. I smiled & said thanks to my boss when he fired me. I showed how happy I can be to get out of that toxic environment
Step 1: start your own business
Step 2: never look back
how...
That actually the best thing EVER…I been saying this since being back getting into the work field after being off for one year from maternity leaf..
I can do the step 2 but step 1 I can't 😢
Absolutely! And I intend on using my mega award from a settlement or trial to make a business a reality. I am NEVER working for a company or human being EVER again.
I just got fired today from my first job due to my family leaving short notice to another state for vacations. I called 2 days before saying I couldn’t come they terminated me when I came back to work. I had a melt down in my car for a couple minutes then drove home. I was looking for understanding of my situation and this video comforts me. As a minor of only 16 I feel it was unfair of them to fire me.
I just made a huge mistake for the 3rd time in 2 weeks. Stress with personal and professional life hitting hard and I have been bawling. I am dreading going into work tomorrow but this video helped me look past this. I have already started pulling out my resume and making plans if the worst happens.
I hope you are doing okay. It is hard not to make more mistakes than usual when we are especially stressed. Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself for your mistakes, if you can - take some time off for yourself - get out in nature or do something that brings you joy. I realize having an income is critical for most people but so is your mental and emotional health! In the big picture of life - this is one job - if the worst happens there will be other jobs in your future. Hang in there❣🌞
It's easier after it's already done then when you still have to go
Thank you for the helpful advice! My firing came as a total shock
Thank you for sharing this. My life was my job and I missed so many good things. I'm not even mad I was fired. I wish I had left sooner.
Hi Balien - I'm sorry to hear you were fired but it sounds like you are on a good path in your thinking. Now is your opportunity to discover a new job or career where you'll experience more good things❣🌞
@@VirtualJobSearchCoach thank you Stacey ❤️
My position was eliminated on friday. I'm shocked, heartbroken, and angry. Mostly scared from not knowing what will come next. The job market is good, but there are SO many applicants.
so hard to get a job now
@Chris Long I know exactly how you feel, those were my exact emotions after I got the news I was being laid off about one month ago. It is devastating to say the least. There is a natural fear of what comes next? Will you find another job anytime soon? How are you going to pay monthly expenses, rent/ mortgage, cars, food etc.. Man.. it is the worst! Lets all hang in there and keep pushing.
@@bella8145-d9z I agree! One thing I notice is that depending upon the job, sometimes hundreds of people are applying for the same one job. Especially the 100% remote entry level jobs, which seem to be especially attractive to people, even though many are starting off near minimum wage. I tell ya.. it is tough to stay optimistic in the job search, when you literally see 900 other people applying for a job. What are the chances?
I got fired twice this year. It’s been such a hard year for me since my
Mom died … my heart isn’t in anything. I’m so burnt out in call center work. I don’t know what else I can possibly do, I feel so stuck.
Getting fired was the best thing happened to me . At first l was angry, because l was with this job for 14 years. I received a prestige award.
Thanks for sharing Rob. I have worked with hundreds of people who have been fired and most end up saying the same thing "it turned out to be the best thing that happened to me". It doesn't feel like it in the moment when you are fired but once you process it, make a plan moving forward and take action - you usually end up in a better place. 🌞
While working as a security supervisor at a hotel( no manager position available), I was informed on May 21st that the whole department is to be laid off on May 31st(today is May 28th) due to outsourcing; going with a 3rd party security company. it’s hard to complete the regular work that consist of security task because I felt that if the employer valued me as an employee, they would’ve ensured that I was hired on with the new company.
I was fired due to company policy violation. One fine day I was on a call with a customer who was facing huge loss because of the company and I had to address his query. He was really angry and was shouting on the call. I had to calm him down and it took me 15 minutes to do that. But it was bad and while I was putting the receiver down and it was still not disconnected from my end, I murmured an inappropriate/ abusive word to myself which got recorded on the call. This was my reason of termination. Please tell me how to go about explaining this in the interview.
Don’t be honest about it. Your new employer is not an angel we are all humans and have all done mistakes. Tell the employer I am looking for growth or the management did change they don’t need to dig in ur past if they need to hire u. They too lie about expectations and you only are avoiding judgments
I got fired from a job of 7 months. But at the same time I’m in school. I’m not using that company as a reference and in my resume.
Lie man what u talking about 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I have been let go numerous times. I have been fired before (partially my fault), lost my job to outsourcing, laid off (staff reduction) and furloughed, but normally it's just the end of a contract.
If I find myself let go for some reason, I take a day or so to grieve (if it was sudden/unexpected) and reflect, then I commit myself to my "new job" of finding a job. Reflection is important if you made a mistake (or several) that resulted or contributed to the job loss. You want to avoid making the same mistakes in the future, if possible. I treat the process of securing new employment as my job - including getting up early and getting dressed (not pjs all day). I spend 8 hours a day on it, 40 hours per week. I take nights and weekends off to recover, relax with friends, and invest in self-improvement and education - although I will do this during my "work time" too between interviews and networking.
I'm fortunate that I'm in a highly in-demand field (IT), so I rarely worry about being out of a job for any longer than a few weeks and I now prefer contract work since I get exposure to many different companies without getting married to any of them (I can also opt out of the office politics too) - and it normally pays really well to - just save for the rainy days.
Just got Fired even though from outside it seems bad but strangely feeling free and restful.
I was fired last year from Kroger but I was stressed but I got a temp job and know I have a real job in housekeeping I love it so all of you out there stay strong don't give up
Thank you so much
The only downsides to getting fired for me are the difficulty of finding the best new job and (the worst) the financial hit even with some savings and unemployment insurance. They did not challenge that, thank goodness! It was only after losing my job that I realized what a toxic work environment it was (ageism was definitely a problem too as I am a senior citizen) and how very much I hated that uber stressful position (in mental health working with mentally ill youth).
Thank you! This was helpful. I'm expecting to be terminated a couple of days from now and this really helps a lot in the coping aspect.
I am so sorry to hear that! I am glad you found this video helpful and I hope my other videos will give you some guidance and encouragement to find and land your next job! If you haven't already you might want to check out my video called "How to Explain Why You Were Fired, Terminated or Laid off." ua-cam.com/video/lv978cwIh5c/v-deo.html
Expected???😳
I was fired a week ago, during my probation period…saying I’m under performing without giving any training. I was so depressed in searching for a new job and felt guilty and devastated and full of regrets for leaving my previous job where they treated me better. I feel bit fine after watching your videos. Love from India😍
That’s crazy u regret leaving ur previous job I hope u found something better than both at least there are no deadlines
@@annabelconstantine1241 thanks for the reply…I’ve joined my new job ❤️✨
The single biggest thing to do when you leave a job without one to go to is to economise, because you don't know how long you need to "glide" for. Cancel things like streaming services, cook at home instead of eating out, if you've recently made larger discretionary purchases then maybe return them if you can get the money back. If you have a high cost car, maybe see if you can change it for a cheaper one (cars are a large expense that can be cut much easier than rent or mortgage payments). Literally, go through your bank statement(s) for a few months and totalise the amounts spent on various "things" and redline everything you can live without.
You have less money but more time available, so maybe get the home and garden in order.
Whilst you still have money, get yourself a set of "interview clothes" and keep them just for that. Doesn't have to be fancy. Just a cheap suit will do.
Try for the best, allow for the worst.
Thanks for sharing
Thanks for this video, I just walked out of HR without my job... I'm still positive and I like these steps.
I appreciate you, Coach!😁😁😁😁😁
I'm glad you liked the video John! Apparently my comments notifications isn't working as I just saw your message now. I hope you are doing well and are on a better path to your ideal job❣🌞
I got fired back in October and I was so shocked I been stressed because unemployment denied my benefits and I lost my appeal hearing I’m struggling to pay my bills I also been looking for work and no luck at all but I just listened to your video and it made me feel kind of good thank you
How is it going there are u good
Have a side source of income.
Honestly, I found this channel more informative, powerful, heartwarming, courageous, moral boosting and spiritual healing. Thanks alot, it has helped me to cope well and prepare me any future termination
Hi Laurentius - thank you so much for your kind words - that really means a lot and I'm so glad you find my videos valuable❣🌞
Here is my advice.
When they call you office and tell you are fired and tell you sign the papers, never sign anything walk away go home call unemployment dump the garbage to your employer, don’t be afraid if unemployment call your work place they are not going to say you are good person. Take an unemployment than look for a job. When you are looking for a job in your resume or interview don’t never mention you don’t have a job, I tell you why? One if new work place they know you don’t have a job, you’re never going to get paid what you should be, 2) don’t be afraid they never call your previous work place and ask about you.
Trust me I done it I know what I’m talking about
Thanks so much 🙏🏾 I needed this was terminated yesterday from my hotel. And I actually feel relieved because my job was really getting the best of me. I stayed stressed and drained and now that I was terminated I FEEL FREE. I'm going to file for unemployment
I appreciate your video. I been up all night after being fired yesterday. It's 4am now and I think Im going to relax and rest today. I will start a new job search on Thursday. Im going to hide in my cave today and probably get out and have fun this evening. 😀
I've been depressed, can't eat or sleep, I've been terminated , walking into walls all week, i have noone i could talk to. Im scared. Cannot collect employment insurance , was left with my last cheque no payment of liu . Cannot use them as a reference now I have a 9 month gap on resume. I'm lost I worked so hard to get this job 100k a year 15- 6 rotation I will never find another job with that pay again. My own fault no one to blame but myself. One choice on one night ruined me. I'm 40 years old that was my career . Now I have nothing.
Hi Bumpy, I'm so sorry to hear of your job loss. I know it probably sounds a little cliche based on how you are feeling right now but hang in there! - there is like after being fired! You made a mistake (we all do from time to time) learn from it and forgive yourself. Your career doesn't have to be over - it's how you handle it going forward and I can give you some suggestions.
Email me at questions@virtualjobsearchcoach.com and I'll setup a time for a free call with you to discuss your situation and I'll give you a strategy on how to handle things moving forward. ~ Stacey 🌞
@@VirtualJobSearchCoach wow thank you
Questions: 1) Why were you terminated so abruptly? Were there signs that termination was coming, say, bad performance reviews/attendance issues? 2) Why can't you draw unemployment? The only reason I know of for not being able to draw unemployment is because one was fired for cause. Or, were you perhaps not in your position long enough to qualify? 3) I'm assuming the "nine month gap" on your resume refers to the position from which you were fired. Why can't you use that company as a reference? Too many unanswered questions. A final one, do you live in the USA and are you eligible to work here legally?
P.S. "One choice on one night" means what, exactly?
Lie on ur resume man that’s easy 😂😂
I needed to hear that, thank you. You have such a positive voice and approach, it literally heals me.
I am glad you enjoyed the video. Thank you for your comment❣🌞
Thank you I really needed this.
Hello. I just got a notice of termination a few days ago. Its a lot worse considering its a week before Christmas. I feel horrible because its the time of the year where people are having fun and enjoy their holidays. While here I am, having to stress about getting a new job. Not to mention there arent many people hiring in December. How do I overcome this emotional and financial hurdle? thank you
Thank you for this video.
Hi Stacey; I am a nurse. I worked in a LTC facility. One of the residents didn't like me, and she wanted me gone. She feigned that I was trying to injure her. I was not, I am a very good nurse. LTC facilities don't want the State to come investigate complaints. I self reported the incident, what happened, and how she behaved. I was shocked to be called on the phone, and fired. I believe I was wrongfully discharged from my job. I don't mind being humbled, but my administrator said some untrue & unkind things to put me down when I was fired. I'm having a hard time getting her negative words out of my mind. I've been very depressed since being fired Monday. I have put my heart and soul into taking care of the residents. I am 65 years old, and feel like my life is falling apart. How can I look for another job after being told that I don't belong in LTC, I don't make a good LTC nurse? ( I have only had good performance evals prior to this occurring).
Oh Maria! I am so sorry to hear how you have been treated. It is horrible and makes me angry. I understand that LTC’s are concerned about investigations but to take one resident's complaint without proof or an investigation is extremely unfair to you. If I had your number I would call you right now with a phone hug and some sage advice…so consider this a virtual hug and here is my sage advice:
I have no doubt you are experiencing a range of negative emotions and depression so I’m going to give you a little exercise to help combat this.
Firstly I want to personally thank you for dedicating yourself to being in nursing (especially in Long Term Care - I know how difficult that environment can be) - nursing is one of the most difficult jobs but also one of the MOST important and needed careers in the world! Can you imagine the state the world would be in if we didn’t have nurses?
Now having said that I want to help change your perspective on something. The Administrator is the person who hands you your paycheck (and controls whether you are hired or fired) - they are one person with their own job pressures, personal issues etc. It’s human nature that we can have 99 people compliment us but it is the 1 who says something negative that we focus on (I’ve been there too)…and the reason for that is because we care and that is a good thing. But let’s not give your power and energy to those negative people (the Administrator and the Resident who complained). They don’t deserve it. If you loved your job as a nurse then I have no doubt you were very good at it so remember this - The people you serve (your patients) are your true bosses! Those are the people who deserve your care, your compassion, your patience, your love and your energy. I can imagine right now you are feeling beaten up and depleted so I’m going to give you an exercise to help rebuild your self-esteem, confidence and help the negativity and rawness of what you have just experienced fade.
What I would like you to do is sit somewhere quiet where you have no major distractions - or go somewhere that makes you feel good like a local park, lake, and take a pen and notebook with you. I want you to write down a list of all of the wonderful patients you have worked with throughout your career (forget the negative, grouchy and difficult ones - I know they existed too) - write down the ones who have said “thank you!”, the ones who made you laugh, the ones that you looked forward to seeing each day - and I don’t mean just recently, I mean all of those people throughout your entire career. If you can’t remember their names, write down something that reminds you of them, the man with the curly mustache, the lady with the bad perm, the one with the birthmark on their arm, the man with the old navy tattoo, the one whose hand you held when they were scared, when they were crying or upset, or as they were passing away, the one who always told you the same joke every day…just something that reminds you of them. Those are the people you work for (not the Administrator), those patients and their families are the ones you serve - they are the ones who are important and I’ll bet you have plenty of examples.
Think back to when you first started your career, think of each facility you have worked at if more than one, remember the family members who thanked you, who asked for your advice, write down something that symbolizes that positive memory. If you want you can go a step further (I would suggest on another day) and write down all the times you went above and beyond either for a patient, a family member or a colleague, write down memories where you ‘saved the day’, or stepped in to help when you saw a need, when you supported a colleague etc.
I really want you to truly do this….not just say “yeah yeah I remember those people”, I want you to physically go somewhere, take a cup of tea or buy a coffee on your way to the park, and then sit quietly and write down those patients names or as I said something to remind you of them….the purpose of this exercise is as you see this long list developing, it will retrain your brain’s focus onto positive memories which will overshadow the negative comments you have recently experienced. Those negative comments are recent, it’s raw, and has beaten up your self-esteem and self-confidence….it has created a wound and we want to help heal that wound quickly by smothering you with love (like putting polysporin on a cut). This exercise (if you actually do it) will help rebuild your self esteem and self-confidence on both a conscious and subconscious level.
I would love to hear how you find the exercise, so please remember to give me an update. You are welcome to book a free 15 minute call through my contact page on my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com or you can find my email on my contact page too. I won’t post my email address here as I’ve discovered I get inundated with spam when I do.
Believe and trust in yourself Maria! You are worthy, you are wonderful and the fact that you went into nursing as a career shows how much you care about people…so give yourself the same compassion right now that you show to others.
I also wanted to mention, I’m not an employment lawyer but having been in HR for 30 years I’ve “seen it all” and based on the situation you described it does sound like you may have a case for wrongful dismissal, so depending on where you live and what the employment and human rights laws are for your state/province you may have legal recourse for severance pay. If you live in Canada you would have a strong case, but I know the US has different laws in each state (often protecting an employer more than an employee) but I would recommend you talk to an employment lawyer in your area. Many will offer a free consultation and some will charge a small fee to tell you whether you have a case worth pursuing or not. (Make sure it is a lawyer who specialises in employment law). There are many variables that will need to be taken into consideration which a lawyer will explain such as how long you worked for your employer being one, but your age will work in your favour in this situation.
I wish you all the best Maria and please do let me know if that exercise helps. If you feel you need help explaining why you were terminated to future employers, I do provide one-to-one paid coaching sessions and I would be happy to work with you…again you can contact me through my website to set something up.
Kind regards ~ Stacey ❣🌞
Thanks for your video. Now I know exactly what to say (or not) to future interviewers.
I needed this video! The information was very helpful.
Thank you for making this video ❤
After 40 years of full time work. I have been fired twice from the same industry in the past 2 years. I actually wanted to quit the second job, befoee I was terminated, but wanted to get a new job before giving notice. Then, I made a critical mistake and was given the choice of being fired or resigning. I chose to resign to avoid being walked out in front of every one. I am not ready to retire, but I dont know what else to do for a living. Age discrimination is also alive and well in the employment hunt and Im running into that loke a brick wall.
I hate how common this question is on applications. I'm 32 now, at 16 I was fired from my first job as a cashier for a short till (miscounting customer change) I can’t tell you how many guys pay for $1,000 electronics and game systems…. with cash - SMALL BILLS!
Though my manager came over to assist on occasion when there is a lot of cash involved, it’s still ultimately the employee's fault for miscounting. Was fired for a short till of negative $50.
I’m 30 now….much more meticulous with cash though I rarely handle it in my professional career…but gotta admit, it feels pretty damn stupid to have to explain this for senior-level positions that are entirely unrelated.
I sympathize Simone - it does feel silly to have to explain something from 16 years ago. But the good thing is you have a great story to tell that explains that you truly learned and improved from that experience...and look where you are now! Thanks for sharing! 🌞
I was fired for “Low productivity during a furlough.” My boss did everything in their power to get rid of me. I was great at my job but couldn’t transfer bc of COVID. I haven’t been able to recover bc my former boss blocked opportunities for me. I’m a single mom and still pissed bc I lost that job over a year ago! I was hired back in another department but then another manager didn’t like me and fired me bc of attendance knowing other employees had worse attendance issues than me! My life has sucked! I try to do the right thing, do right by others. Why do I always get the short end of the stick?
I’m sorry to hear you were fired during this time. This COVID pandemic has caused so many problems and complications at every level for both employers and employees.
I sympathize with what you’ve gone through and it’s so crappy when you are trying so hard and feel like you are always getting the short end of the stick. I know what that’s like and although I know it might not feel like it, things will turn around for you….sometimes it just takes some time and sometimes it takes a little action on your part. It’s kind of like being in a rain storm that goes on for weeks and you can’t do anything to control the weather…but you can wear a raincoat and rainboots and you can find places to stay out of the rain for awhile…and then eventually the sun comes out again life seems so much better. So my point is to hang in there and take charge of the things you can control.
You are valuable and worthy! Be proud of what you are good at, and take some time to reflect on what you can improve on (You mentioned low productivity…I have a couple of recent videos on improving productivity in the workplace so if you haven’t already, you might want to check those out). None of us are perfect we all have things we can improve on. If your past supervisors ever gave you any feedback on things you can improve on - take some time to reflect on whether there was any truth to what they were saying and if so look for ways to improve on that. There are lots of books, online info and free online courses on just about every topic these days so whether you want to improve some skills or consider a different career or same job but a different industry there are lots of ways to create positive change and empower yourself at almost no cost. Of course if you have the budget you can also hire professionals to help get you there faster too. I also have a video on “5 top skills employers want”, that you might like. I would love to hear an update from you sometime. I wish you all the best in the meantime❣🌞
How ur former boss even do that i swear I would threaten him
I'm pretty sure I'm loosing mine too but it seems to be planned. The took part of my resposibilities and told me that a company will do that. Last Wednesday the 2 ladies I worked directly with were interviewing somebody when I wend to drop the last documents and folders I had. They got all nervous when they saw me and try to get me to go right away. The next day I got a warning for confusing the name of 2 students. The day after that they did an unplanned drill. I though it was real and got so nervous because I have a visitor in my office. I locked the 2 doors and close the blinds and hide. I was almost in a panic attack the moment I heard the team saying that the 2 doors were open. Exept the one in the room I was in with the visitor. I got so scared that I pee myself and almost passout. Now, I'm waiting for the call to the office again.
I lost my job yesterday due to performance. I tried my best but they don’t want to consider . Please help me 🙏🏼I m going into depression.
I went through the same thing back in April 2023 unfortunately
The manager at my last job text me the same day they "let me go," to ask for my direct deposit info for my first/last check. ha. In the text message, I asked for a little more info on why they let me go, since all I got was the "not a good fit" line. Instead of any polite response denying me that info and perhaps the reasoning, they ghosted me. That only added to the hurt, humiliation and embarrassment (and all the other nouns, adverbs and/or adjectives from the list) that I was feeling. Anger was on top at that particular moment, plus fury, helplessness and a feeling that I was worthless, especially because of my age and disability. I couldn't stop thinking about it all day, "What did I do wrong? Is it my personality? Do they hate me? Why are they ignoring me?" How will I ever get a job?
Discrimination man can’t change anything
😅😅 I got terminated because I had consumed alcohol on shift, wasn’t angry or sad when I was informed of my termination yesterday afternoon as I was well aware it was coming after my final shift last Sunday, however I am stressed/terrified what my future holds as I have very little money saved , no known skills off the top of my head and while I’ve tried to study/learn new skills through things like UA-cam or hands on I struggle with the studying/implementing what I learned in a way to benefit me in a way that will make people think I’m one of a kind 💀
My cousin just got fired and she is devousted it I believe this going to help her go through thank you nice video.
Thanks for your kind words and I hope my video helps your cousin. (sorry for the slow reply, my notifications were accidently turned off so I missed many comments). 🌞
I’m going to watch this video over and over
Until I get it thank you
My husband is 52 and was fired after being a branch manager for over 20 years and his boss, I will call him jack, Jack wanted my husband to hire someone jack knew, I will call him Bob. Bob was a disaster and my husband tried telling Jack for a long time that Bob wasn't working out. Jack just would blame my husband, for the things Bob did. Well now Jack has a golf buddy that is in his 30s that will be taking my husband job. We live in Florida and I am worried there is nothing we can do about it. Gonna talk with a lawyer in a few days.
In my case, I was fired for poor job performance. I didn't want to be in that position, I wasn't succeeding, I didn't like my manager and I got to the point where I didn't care anymore. I asked to be moved into another department doing a different job and they wouldn't do it. Now I am interviewing again and I don't know what to say if asked why I am no longer working at my former company. What would be your suggestion? Thank you.
Yup! I felt all of those!
I received a Warning Official Letter from my boss due to lots of mistakes, clumsy and just lots of pressure onto me but I knew this was letting the team down. I was sad and shocked but I accept and understand. So I have a feeling I may not last at my work, which is why I want to be calm, positive and thankful when my time is coming to me. Of course it be scary but I must face my fears.
Thank you for sharing your situation. Do you really love your job? If you are making lots of mistakes, clumsy and lots of pressure then it sounds to me like you may be in a job/career that is not a good fit for you. If your job does come to an end - hold your head high, be thankful for the experiences you have gained there (good and bad), leave on as good a terms as you can (you may still need them as a reference in the future), and consider reaching out to me (you can email me at questions@virtualjobsearchcoach.com) and we can book a free chat to discuss how I can help you with determining what is an ideal fit for you (though skills and career assessments etc). ~ Stacey 🌞
I might be getting terminated tomorrow. Thank you for this video!!! I love you ❤️❤️
I just went to rock concerts,strip clubs,camping and hiking for the first year after getting fired. Then i started my own business. They can suck it.
I was dragged upstairs today for questioning over a minor safety breach involving a forklift. I felt like I was in court.
I kept my job by the skin of my teeth with a 'first and final warning'. Given I have to drive the forklift every day, usually for my entire shift, something else will happen eventually. I am human. So I may just jump before I'm pushed, and leave in my time and way, with another job lined up in advance. I think it's toxic now as they're gathering together my history of breaches....... I'm fucking over it all!
I am sorry you had to go through that Noel. You are right - you're human and bound to make future mistakes (we all do). It definitely sounds like it might be time to look for a new job. Better the power be in your hands to leave on your terms rather than wait to be terminated (and definitely smart to have another job lined up in advance).
Life is too short to be in a job or work environment you aren't happy in right?
There are lots of great employers out there that will value your skills! Thanks for your comment and thanks for watching my videos - hope you are finding them helpful. 😊
@@VirtualJobSearchCoach
They are helpful, and thank you 😊
@@noelgibson5956 Glad to hear that Noel. Thanks for your support!
My positive endorphins are coming in the form of a carton of ice cream.
I got fired yesterday and i come back home feeling so empty. I just wrong with one policy but end up they think I'm cheating. I'm okay with lost job but they they tell me that i'm cheating i can't accept this . I don't know I can find job anymore or not.
I was just fired 2 days ago and im so devastated my boss fired me because i was making mistakes but he likes me
Hi Bo,
I am so sorry to hear that....it can be really hard for employers sometimes because many times they don't want to fire a person but if you aren't performing well in the job they may not feel they have a choice. I hope they at least made some efforts to help you perform better and try to make less mistakes before they had to make the decision to fire you.
Now is the time to reflect on what types of mistakes you were making and ask yourself if these are things you could learn from and prevent from happening in future? Sometimes the answer is no and that is okay. I have often worked with clients where the employer provided my services as part of the employee's termination package and would tell me that the person just wasn't cut out for that type of work....so in that case I do career and skills assessments with the person and we discover what types of jobs and career fields would be ideal for them.
Sometimes people go into a career because they 'think' they will like it or they think they will be good at it but they aren't and that is okay, or they go into a career because their parents told them they should or because they took schooling in a particular field and feel they need to work in that field now. It is okay to change your mind, it's okay to realize you don't love what you do - the important thing is to make the change, find something that you will be good at naturally (we each have our own natural aptitudes and talents), where you will feel fulfilled in your job, you'll succeed in what you are doing, you'll be appreciated and valued for your talents. Life is too short to be in a job you aren't happy in or aren't thriving in.
I do offer personalized one-to-one coaching services so if you need help, please feel free to reach out to me through the contact page on my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com and we can chat further on how I can help you❣🌞
Please keep putting out your videos, thumbs-up 👍
Thank you. This really makes me feel better
I'm glad you found it helpful and hope you are doing well after your termination❣🌞
Your videos are helping me out tremendously!
I am so glad to hear that Paolo - thanks for your comment!
I just got fired today for a Failed drug test and I feel extremely horrible.. this was the 2nd job I was terminated from, my first time getting terminated was cause of using a pair of new gloves that I didn’t tell my boss. I feel hopeless cause I been job hopping and I feel like my background is bad…
Hi Eric,
I'm sorry to hear what you've gone through and it is a tough situation when you have failed a drug test. Depending on the type of drug and nature of the drug use sometimes things can be explained and justified even when it costs you your job. (I had a client who failed a drug test from taking Tylenol with codeine for a migraine, not realizing the codeine would cause him to fail the test, but the employer had a no-tolerance rule for failing drug tests and he was fired which seemed extremely unfair).
It's the mistakes we make in life that make us stronger and better people! Depending on the type and nature of your drug use maybe this is one of those times to learn from your mistakes? - you have the power to learn and change (if you want to). I've worked with many clients who have been fired from several jobs consecutively and they still land new job opportunities. It does require having a strategy in how you talk about it with future employers.
You can turn things around! If you need help coming up with a strategy to explain this to employers, or would like some advice on how to go about making some positive changes, or taking a look at some career options that might be better suited for you, I do offer confidential one-to-one coaching. You can reach out to me through the contact page on my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com if you like. Mention you found me through this video and I'll offer you a special discount. 🌞
I would never think of yelling, but if I got fired due to a client lying or mis-representing me, i would say we can "agree to disagree". As I have worked for over 15 years for my employer i would ask if they could help with my expenses until I found another job to pay rent or for a year until I can make a case for disability. (chronic shoulder and knee pain)
Hi Jeffrey, You are wise not to yell (it never helps the situation) and depending on what country/province/state you are in there are sometimes employment laws to protect you from being fired unless there is a 'just cause' and a client lying or misrepresenting you would not be just cause unless it can be proven.
I know many are in tough times thanks to the pandemic and the state of the economies everywhere but I always recommend everyone try to set aside a little money every month so you have at least 3 months of income so in the event of a sudden firing, you have the ability to support yourself financially while you look for another job.
I certainly hope you are never fired but if it does happen and if you feel it was unfair or unjust check with an employment lawyer in your area to see if you have a valid case. 15 years with one employer is a long time, shows your commitment and loyalty and you could be entitled to a very significant severance payout if you were unfairly terminated.
I wish you the best❣🌞 ~ Stacey
Just got fired. But it was a contract job and I had low expectations. Just confusing because they were praising me and saying they liked me, but the agency randomly calls and goes “ya, they don’t wanna keep you”. Never a good feeling either way
The thing is people today are lazy and don’t wanna work would rather live off government assistance and when these people do have a job they slack off and then get mad when they get fired for that. Best thing you can do is be friendly be nice to the higher ups you don’t got too be a suck up just be nice especially if there being nice and respectful too you. Second give it your all at work you don’t have to be the best employee there but show your willing to work and try your best bosses love that it shows they can trust you and probably give you a raise or put you in control of your own department. Show up on time be there at least 15 minutes to 10 minutes early don’t show up right at starting time this will also show your trying and taking it serious. Lastly don’t go around to other employees and say bad things about employees or the higher ups trust me it gets around and eventually you’ll be called into the office and that’s not really a good thing bosses would rather have you working then sitting in the office.
That’s what happened to me
:(…… a coworker played like we were on good terms bad mouthed some coworkers that were bad and then I spoke my opinion then she came in the next day and also said I said some about our property manager and the assistant manager and they both brought me in office and were pissed. Then days later aka yesterday brought in office again after I thought things were settled and tried to tell her what really happened finally and she said she thinks it’s best I turn in my keys.
@@aaliyah6402 I’m sorry to hear that I’ve learned over the years too keep my mouth shut and only open it too speak about work and nothing else I hate when people start talking to me about other employees I don’t wanna get involved it’s too messy when things go south
@@ryans413 honestly I’ve learned to now never trust anyone but this was saddd it was a job that paid higher than any jobs I hate which was fast food.. and I lost it and it was drama after drama.
Hi @Ryan S and @Aaliyah Monét - I love the dialogue you two have going on! Aaliyah, I'm sorry to hear what you've gone through and Ryan you have given some great advice! The work-world can be messy sometimes - not everyone is good, not everyone treats you with the respect and integrity we all deserve. You have to stand strong in your own convictions and be the person you want to be (don't fall into the gossip and drama of others). Focus on your own success and your own goals and be your own best self....you will either get recognized for it eventually (by employers) or you'll grow within yourself and maybe decide one day to start your own business using all of those valuable lessons you have learned along the way. I wish you both well❣🌞
Iam going to be terminated today ....& iam watching this now...feeling soo depressed....i can't imagine my self on such a discussion with my boss....i was literally praying don't make me cry infront of all ....i was in a situation that no one is there aftr that to console me ....instead of consoling ,i have people in my life who curse,who blame ,who will shout at me for my loss ....don't know wt will happen to me by evng ......hopping i can handle that situation ....
I got terminated too recently for not performing when I was in training i don’t understand why ?? How I can find a job and should I tell the recruiter I am not employed ???
Hi Jeevana, I'm so sorry I am just seeing your message now and I hope you are doing okay! I know how hard it is to get fired and how much harder it is when you don't have people around you to support you. My best advice in a short sentence is "you are valuable and worthy! Be strong and believe in yourself - you have the power within you to be who you want to be and to overcome anything you want to overcome!" If you need a plan to move forward I can help you with that. Just reach out to me through my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com and we can talk about how I can help❣ ~ Stacey 🌞
Hi Assia, if you got fired while you were in training I assume that means you weren't with the employer very long (ie. less than 3 months?) if that is the case - don't mention that employer and don't put it on your resume - it's not necessary and is not valuable enough since it was such a short time. When talking with recruiters it is best to be honest that you are currently employed. If you don't put that job on your resume then you don't need to tell them you were fired. Focus on what experience and skills you do have and target jobs that align with your strengths. 🌞
I was terminated over my social media was hacked and exposed with materials I had nothing to do with. I'm been trying to seek legal action but at the same time I'm having a hard time finding a job. Is there any hope in my future?
Hi Unbreakable (love your name!) and I'm so sorry I didn't get a notification of your comment until now. I hope things have turned around for you in the meantime but to answer your question - yes there is definitely hope in your future. It is awful to hear what happened to you and you certainly aren't alone in your experience of having your social media hacked. You were a victim of a crime and it is unfortunate that your employer didn't see it that way and support you but stand strong in your confidence that you didn't do anything wrong. Watch my video about "How To Explain Why You Were FIred, Terminated or Laid Off" for some tips on how to explain your story. If you are still struggling, you are welcome to engage my services for some one-to-one customized coaching where I can help you come up with how to explain what happened appropriately and strategize on addressing it in interviews. Many employers and recruiters do check social media accounts as part of the hiring/screen process so sometimes it is better to be upfront about it then to let them discover and make wrong assumptions. 🌞
Love that floral painting!!
I was actually forced to leave. Management was spying on my calls and they gave me a bad review. We are treated worst than 💩 by the customers. But still management says we must be bootlickers, peasants and servants all the time. I am F leaving.
Such a positive video!!!! Thank you for posting this 😊
You are welcome Carter and thank you for your kind comment❣🌞
12-15 jobs in a lifetime? I've had that many in the last 5 years.
I saw my job posted on Indeed last night. I called in sick today because I am so upset and my anxiety is through the roof. What should I do
Well that is despicable behavior by your employer! If you sensed a termination coming then you have nothing to lose at this point....so depending on where you live and your employment laws you could have several options....1) see a doctor today and go on medical stress leave - depending on employment laws in your region they may not be able to terminate you while on medical leave...then start looking for a new job...it is better to find a new job while still employed - less complicated to explain than being fired. 2) contact an employment lawyer for advice on whether you have a wrongful dismissal case 3) confront your employer (calmly and professionally) about the posting. (Is there any chance they may be planning to promote you or offer you a different role?) 4) try to leave on good terms with a severance package and good reference.
If they are planning to terminate you try to find out why...as an opportunity to learn what you need to improve on.
Wishing you the best!
@@staceyd2670 I also saw an email to a prospective employee that said “are you still seeking a front desk job, I’m not crazy about the girl I hired”. So I know it’s coming but I can’t get up the nerve to go back. I feel extreme anxiety and I can’t face her calling me into an office and saying “we decided to replace you”.
Hi Deb, I was replying through my phone earlier and looks like it had me logged in from my personal account not my business YT account - so in case you didn't see my last reply - I would love to have a chat with you and offer you some suggestions on what to do. I can't post my phone or email here as I'll get spammed so if you visit the contact page on my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com you'll find my cell and email listed about halfway down the page - either drop me a text or send me an email and I'll squeeze some time in to chat with you today if you like (no charge). kind regards ~ Stacey
I got fired due to lack of proper training. I am a single mother caring for an adult child who is terminally ill. I loved my job and now I don't know what I am going to do. I am very angry about this. As a career, I can't find it in me to take the high road on this one. I have been begging for training that other investigators would have gotten, yet my supervisor did not approve me for such. I don't know what I am going to do. Devastating!!! That's to say the least.
I was just terminated from my job this past Friday however my supervisor is still requiring me to wrap up paperwork. She threatened me that if I do not complete the paperwork she will report me for an ethical violation. I know this sounds like a funny question. Can your supervisor still require you to complete work duties after you have already been officially terminated?
Wow - I am so sorry you were terminated and faced with that type of situation! It's a tough question to answer without knowing more details - If you have been giving a working termination notice then yes, however if you were fired for cause then No. I would suggest contacting an employment lawyer to confirm your rights have not been violated.
I got terminated for telling a woman...
"You have nice breasts..."
She replied, "They're firm."
Then she went to my manager and told her, alongside filed a complaint to regarding the incident. And as of today I'm unemployed... Lmfaooooo wdf 💀💀💀💀💀💀
All seriousness, it's no joke. I can see where I messed up and it was inappropriate. I usually don't compliment women but this time time. I had to take a chance ;( Thwoman was gorgeous and had natural beauty. I simply complimented her. I didn't mean in a sexual way. I can see now it was inappropriate. My didn't want to terminate me it was all HR. We sat down and had a conversation regarding the incident, I owned up to my mistake and here I am. Please forgive me Lord, I ain't mean it like that. Just forgive me and help me get a better job. Pray for me 😔
Bro that's sexual harassment wtf???
That definitely falls under sexual harassment and completely inappropriate in the workplace, but sounds like you understand that and learned from it. It is unfortunate it cost you your job but you'll have plenty of opportunities in future. I wish you the best! 🌞
I was fired for something I'd never heard of before, what my manager called, "my fake attitude." It had to do with being one way at work and another when not at work and the fact that it all got played out very publicly (as in newspaper-level publicly). It had nothing to do with how I performed my duties. Just my madcap sense of fun. Uptight religiously funded organization.
Hi Max, I'm sorry to hear what has happened...that certainly is an unusual reason your employer gave you. Unless you were doing something outside of work that was illegal, or what some might consider morally irresponsible and would have a negative impact on your employer, or you were in breach of a policy (ie. moonlighting) then they should not have terminated you. (However, what employers 'should' do versus what they actually do are two different things!) If you really loved your job you may want to talk to an employment lawyer to see if you have a legal case against your employer (even if you don't want your job back you may be entitled to severance pay). However if you are in an 'at-will' state then your employer can terminate without cause or justified reason (which is completely unfair to employees!). If you are in a province or state with employment laws that protect employee rights then you may have a case. Having said all of that, sometimes it is better just to put the negative experience behind you and move on...only you can decide on that. If you are doing something outside of your day job that gets you newspaper-level publicity then maybe that is an avenue to explore as a career change? (ie. social media influencer)
If you feel stuck or unsure what to do now, I do provide one-to-one coaching for everything from identifying what are ideal career paths for you to job search strategy, to revamping your resume, to interview coaching, and more so feel free to reach out to me through my contact page at www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com anytime. All the best to you! ~ Stacey🌞
What if the reason for letting you go is that you had an accident in your work place & the company will have to spend for your hospitalization. So the company wants to limit their liability to you so they let you go instead.
I have resigned from my previous job . Almost i worked for four months only. But due to some hearing aid problems happened with me, i couldn't bear this pain for long time. then I requested to my boss for taking medical leave only . On the same day, asked me to serving notice period but i simply denied to do so for joining company. After having few days, I started giving an interview not only for the bpo only rest of the interviews like in banking role whereas I can do productive role and earn income for my family and myself. But unfortunately I was not shortlisted for which I was preparing from last six months. Now I was feeling under depressed and anxious about my job. All the time I felt offended, embarrassed , frustrated myself infront of neighbours and relatives.
I do yoga in free time for relaxing my mood. All of sudden I expressed anger in front of my family because of not stability in any job.
Kindly give me suggestions and tips how can we overcome my stress, anxiety and mood of depression.
Employer occasionally break the law, how constantly
How do you justify getting terminated if you have been doing great for 8 years. All of a sudden, our manager was given a promotion. Sooo the new manager, 2 yrs in, I could no longer do anything right 😮
Even though our current progress report, productivity is 100% and my job objective is 112%, but they terminated me bc " you don't meet the policy standards "
Idk what that even means. I was getting written up for typos, missing an "NA" on a questionnaire,???, so strange. If they want to get rid you, they will find a way. Smh
I got fired from job today because I had college class and they didnt want me on campus even when I wasnt clocked in
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 🌞
How do i hire you? I'm in need of help so badly
Hi Chris, I'm so sorry to hear your job has been eliminated. It sounds like it came as a shock. I know losing a job (regardless of the circumstances) does leave a lot of uncertainty, creates anxiety and it is perfectly natural to go through a range of emotions. I do offer one-to-one customized coaching and would be happy to set up a free initial call to learn more about your situation and explain how I can help. If you visit the contact page on my website www.virtualjobsearchcoach.com you will see my email (I won't list it here as I have discovered I get inundated with spam when I do). Just drop me an email and let me know what time zone you are in and we'll setup a time. I am on holidays for the next couple of days but I do check my email every day so I'll usually reply within 24 hours. I look forward to hearing from you. ~ Stacey 🌞
Hello, Can i get your contact for getting your help ND Guidance on what happened to me. Thanks!
I was fired for getting into it with my coworkers. I was there for 2 years and never had problems until they hired 2 new girls. I turned out to be the problem and I am now completely fucked. Thanks fake friends 👍
Don't ever make friends at work. They are NOT YOUR FRIENDS
the host is so pretty
First thing: consult a lawyer. I did, and I now have a multi-MILLION dollar case. I will likely never have to work a day in my life again. In fact, I can likely make a fortune getting fired from jobs through suing (as long as they wrongfully fire me). A lawyer can find multiple causes of action to throw at the employer, some of which you could be shocked at. Also, make sure you document EVERYTHING.
How do u go through this I got fired and given no reason at all and it hurts a lot and want to see if I can get recomposition
@@angelcamachorivera137 I thrive on seeking justice, and it helps that I don’t have to pay my lawyer up front. He takes a cut when the money is awarded. I don’t believe in getting fired for no reason. As the famous saying goes, there’s a reason for everything.
Don't have friends. People in the Gen z are lonely
Hi AJ, (sorry for the delayed response my notifications were accidently turned off). I'm sorry to hear you are lonely. I think many people are feeling especially lonely and are finding it harder to make friends since this pandemic started. (I know I have found it more difficult and I'm a Gen Xer). I don't know where you live but now that things are starting to open up again, I hope you can find some places to meet new people. Maybe you can join a group or club that has activities you like (sports, games, hobbies) sometimes trying something you have never done before is a great way to meet new people and learn something new. My town just opened a gameboard cafe where people can drop in and play board games as well as have a coffee and snack. Maybe see if your town has something like that. Let me know how you do. 🌞
What would you do if find out you have a serious illness get fired and lose your health care?
Great question.
Companies do not like to deal with ill employees. You go from being an aasset to becoming a risk..😢❤
Some managers will tell you verbally by phone... you are older you can't "do the work" anymore but they will never put it in an email.
Fun things you can't do that without money 💵 😥
Was this filmed before COVID 19?
No. This was filmed after covid.
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Thanks for your comment 😊
Is there life after being fired from 3 different jobs?
If I were you I would have a very serious conversation with yourself in the mirror and self reflect. Odds are the problem is not your bosses but yourself. Learn from your mistakes and figure out why and never ever let it happen again.
Self reflection is the biggest part of maturity and self development.
Laid off due to not following the mandate of vaccinations.
Thanks for your comment (my apologies for slow reply - I missed the notification). I'm sorry this happened to you. It is becoming quite common. I have spoken to 2 people this past week that were let go from their jobs for not complying with the companies vaccine mandate. But not all employers will mandate it so hang in there and find one where it is not a concern. 🌞
Can u help me with a job please?😮😮😮😮
Also, take names - the world has a way of spinning some of these clowns into your path again.
I found your video most helpful! I was fired after a new manager was hired after my former manager retired; I did not meet the new manager's processing expectations so I was fired after a 45-day Accountability Plan took place. The kicker was also that she fabricated tasks that she said I did not complete or completed incorrectly. Some were even tasked to others not me. Technically I was wrongfully terminated!