As an ESFP I love this description. I hate that people label us as party animals. You calling ESFPs as conquerors that thrive in chaos really made me smile.
As an INTP my ESFP friend always regards me as a highly evolved intellectual being and praises me for bringing good grades 'effortlessly'. I on the other hand am actually the one who's jealous of her for the fact that she's got all the first-hand experiences and wisdom due to her constant interaction with the more concrete and real world. She's got all the skills and stuffs that's actually required for a living. Also she's hot.
I would also like to see you do something on ISFPs who I think are an extremely interesting type. I'd like to see you touch on how ESFPs are often very energetic and optimistic where as ISFPs are often kind of sullen and pessimistic.
My brother is an ESFP while I am an INTP. He acted as my bridge to reality. Introducing me to music, communities, and ideals that I could not have found myself.
SDB4202012 well THANK you! lol. I've read that INTP and ESFP are incompatible but I'm in a relationship with an INTP and I can say there's definitely a sense of balance and harmony there.
My sis is an ESFP, she likes to play but she’s one of THE MOST hardworking people I know! She gives her all to everything she does. She is committed, & fierce in defending & standing up for others. She’s also a free spirit & very authentic to herself :) She also gets super bored when I (infp) & other sis (infj) engage in long conversations on academic topics & gets super bored at museums ^^
@@Diego-gk8rr As esfp guy who has had experience talking with an infj girl they ghosted me instead of me ghosting them(I like her). Either you got boring to him or they found someone else that showed him more affection. Remember tho I'm just an esfp on the internet so I might be wrong.
I agree so much with this. An ESFP can be very immature, but the mature ESFP is exactly this. I tell people I don't always like the portrayal of ESFP's on sites because they talk about the immature ESFP a lot of the time. But as a mature ESPP, I know the strength that can come with everything talked about here. Also, understanding the struggles in dealing with some our "N" friends and family and neighbors.. thats very real too haha
5:18 "Tendency to look for hidden meanings and patterns, often where there aren't any" Oh I guarantee I will find a hidden meaning and pattern in anything you talk about! There are never not there. I can tell you aren't Ni dom! - INFJ
I was thinking this exactly. It's so cathartic to see it in the comment and even more so that you're also an infj 😅 I wish I wasn't so hung up on patterns, hiddig meanings and analyzing the shit out of everything.
@@heatherbryant4197 I can imagine it being extra hard with ESFP. Even enfp's sometimes have this resistance against being boxed....so being both sensor + PORL Ti must make it the most challenging thing ever
@@PowerRedBullTypology True. Yeah, I definitely understand the resistance to the Ti PoLR "diagnosis" due to its associations. I think we all tacitly understand that ESFPs are commonly regarded as the stupidest type, however untrue it may be. It's the elephant in the room. I always associate that resistance to being "put in a box" with Fi, though I can't remember exactly how I first arrived at that conclusion. It seems more common for Fi types to never be fully satisfied with typings and type descriptions. They feel it doesn't resonate with their identity as closely as they were hoping or doesn't pay homage to their individuality enough. This could also be an enneagram 4 thing, which is likewise correlated with Fi though.
Your Se / Ni description is spot on. I gather - Se, I analyze - Ti, I synthesize - Ni. Not always a fast process but my shit works, or is aesthetically pleasing.
As an ESFP we are really amazing at feelings particularly, our intuition is extremely high with a dangerous level of accuracy, we are open, we love life, people and things, we are supernova types, you just have to find us. We can look at something and pin point exactly what it means, if you have a fear or feeling you can’t describe, then we can understand your “I’m not sure how I feel” “I don’t know how to describe it.” THATS us, and I love me so much. Though we thrive on chaos we are highly organized especially if left to our own devices. And it’s awesome
I'm envy to all Se-dom. Maybe in mbti/meme world they're underrated, but in real life actually they are the best confidently human to fight any bad reality and their bad anxiety.
Good work with the thumbnail picture! Very aesthetic, and of course the video was interesting, Nathan. I liked the part where you said something about taking ESFPs advice into account more than theoretical minded people. It was logically put 👏🏻👏🏻
Finally someone described me 100% :)! Great job! I don't want everything and I am mostly smiley kind optimistic person but when I do want to finish something or I feel that something is wrong, It will happen.
I'm an ESFP, and this is perfect. I dunno why, but I really like the way you make your videos, they seem...straight forward, accurate, highly informative and involving, and they seem to just keep me pulled in and wanting to watch more, which is why I've binged a few series on this channel. You are my favorite MBTI centered channel, and I've turned on notifications. I also for some reason want to tell what my main friend group's personality types are. We have...an ENFP, ESFP(me), ISTP(one of my bffs/face of the group), INTJ(second in command), ESTP, and an INFP. I am apparently, according to the ISTP, the "heartbeat" of our group. He's very cool and fun to be around. Kinda mysterious too. And whether they like it or not, I'm going to try and keep the group alive and happy. The INTJ, is the mind of the group and the "leader", cause he's the smartest. Whenever the ISTP isn't at school, everything is off, and usually low, cause ye they're my best friend. But I do have the INTJ and INFP there, so I'm fine. I have been friends with them all for many a year now, and hopefully will be forever. When the ISTP said that he was moving houses, I thought immediately that he was moving like halfway across the U.S. and got very worried. I brought it up with him when he said he was moving, and he reassured me that he will be at the school still, and he is actually probably moving CLOSER to the school. So, I sighed in relief. My friends are my family, if they leave, well, really "I" leave. In the metaphorical sense. As probably my near endlessly shining spirit would probably die out. Sad, ye, but they're mah family, and my family is my life. Now, I probably need to sleep, so goodnight.
This is adorable! I think esfps' loyalty is highly underrated. I love how wholesome, spirited, and inspirational they are too! ~Someone who doesn't know their type:)
Thank you! My mom seems to be an ESFP and so far the descriptions of them that I've seen have been somewhat accurate, but shallow. This description showed a depth to them that I know they have, but had yet to have explained. You're awesome!
Thank you for this video. It’s enlightening, refreshing and intelligent. I’ve been waiting for your take on the ESFP for a while and I’m not disappointed!
Isfp: listens to music they identify with and find some part of themselves in Esfp: likes music they can dance to, that empowers them and makes them feel GOOD. I'm an isfp and I really like esfps. They bring something out in me that I sometimes neglect. Although, I get the vibe like they are constantly avoiding something... Like.. like they know people are expecting something from them, and they want to ignore it at all costs lol. Idk what it is though. They can also he very assuming and judgemental at times but that might be personal experience.
@@destroyerzh idk if that's it... I think when they know people are watching it makes them feel good but it's not like a validation thing I've noticed... it's weirdly complex, like they can't grasp something within themselves without help
@@milkteaful they have repressed subconscious ideal states of being and attention sometimes helps with that. I think thats inherently pretty genuine and fits with fi. They are trying to be who they are not the opposite like youd see with someone merely seeking attention for its own sake. Although as an isfp, i do like attention.
Good video. I agree about trusting a dominant Se over an intuitive type for practical advice. As a primary Ni type myself, confidence stems from contingency plans which is unsettling for some.
You're so right. My sister always told me that I'm right when I have certain "feeling" for people. When I foreshadow their intention, after that they seems to revelead for they are.
Well, as an INTJ who once had an ESFP boss (yes, talk about irony and bad luck), I can testify that they get less credit than they deserve. However, my God, it was hell. She would not keep any agreement at all and making one with her was almost impossible to begin with, since she simply refused to set herself any kind of "future boundary". For most of the time, I'd feel like I was talking to a door and there were many times in which many colleagues, including some who were close friends to her, would try to help me make her understand that what she was setting us to do simply didn't make sense. We lived in a cycle that went like this: get order -> realize order would screw things up -> try to explain the situation -> get an answer in the form "How do you know that will happen?" -> see things fail -> see boss not realize we were talking precisely about what happened -> repeat. She was certainly an undeveloped and unhealthy ESFP, but it really goes to show the bad side of the aspects you brought up here. After some time, I just gave up and got another job
As an esfp, im a literal clown, even though im feeling depressed, i make people laugh and stuff, my reserved me is often inside of my house, woth my family
Le Cordon Bleu Chef, RISD Artist, Guess Model, Korean Airline Stewardess. Falling in love with them were like drugs to me - INTJ. It always ends up with their emotional outbursts tho. It was all about how they felt. Which can change completely dependent on an instant illogically.
From Linda Berens: Over the last four years, in the MBTI® Qualifying Programs, advanced programs and elsewhere, we found a disproportionate number of people who had reported preferences for the iNtuiting process while their behaviors seemed to resemble the Artisan-SP temperament pattern. This raised some questions such as: What is the relationship between temperament and Jung’s typology? Extraverted Sensing - Notices the rich detail in the whole forest - the trees, their color and texture, their sounds, their smells, the pattern of light and dark…Introverted Sensing - Notes that this forest has always been here and recalls being in a forest from childhood, smelling that smell and the fun of playing hide and seek behind the trees…Extraverted iNtuiting - Thinks of the fractal patterns, the wide range of possibilities in the forest, how this forest is part of the ecosystem and is affected by polllution from the city… Introverted iNtuiting - Recognizes that the forest is deeply symbolic of all of life in its interconnectedness and constant recycling and growth and foresees that this forest will soon be torn down for a housing development… lindaberens.com/resources/methodology-articles/how-to-tell-intuiting-from-extraverted-sensing/
Hey Nathan, thank you so much for making this video. My sister is struggling with her mental health right now and I'm trying to understand her mind through whatever ways I can. She's an ENFP and I'm an INFJ. I strongly see her in your description of ESFPs and I think I understand her mind and motivations a little bit more. Thank you 💞
Yes we are underrated indeed. I finally found out that I am actually an ESFP. But I can relate a lot with the ESTP as well. We actually do anything to predict the future when it comes to long time goals.
Talking to a very bright fem in an ENFP group, she was telling me she goes with feeling over logic, so I thought that's not me. As we kept talking, however, she explained to me that by feelings she doesn't mean it as in "You are hurting me by not agreeing with me, even though I am wrong." sort of feelings that many people employ- only she used other words- but, she meant "gut feeling". To me, that's just the impetus to look for the facts that prove why it exists, so I know it is called "feeling", but, more physical than emotional. (sigh) Life is very complicated.
Ans as an INTP this explains why I'm so absolutely fascinated with my wife. She loves a goof time but gd is she smart. I never know what she's gonna do and usually it works out. I'm endlessly impressed with her ability to roll with the punches, and how she can meet me half way on a lot of my ridiculous ideas. She's so supportive and understanding, and we get to be weird together. ❤❤❤
As an esfp i would say that im really uncomfortable confronting the unknown. I like to be in control of my life and fear the uncertainity ,this is totally ironic. Also esfps have a way to get things done acc. to their way but i don't .
Lol now I’m having trouble focusing on what he’s saying cuz of how many times it cuts. The way he sounds is so smooth though, like I wouldn’t have noticed anything if I was only listening haha
Enfp here who loves my esfp family members! We don’t rlly think the same way but I love esfps! They seem crazy and spontaneous but i know they’ll fight to the death for what they care about and that’s inspiring
I think I might be an ESFP I just don’t personally relate to the ‘party animal’ part since I’m religious which makes me unsure if I rlly am able to be an ESFP lolol
This is so very accurate. My dad is an ESFP (figured out after much deliberation he was definitely not an INFP even if he reminds me of Johnny Depp and tested as INFP on 16 personalities lol). But I think it’s part of why ESFPs unnerve me more than any other type.
And if they can shut up for more than five waking seconds. SF (ISFJs not so much, obv’s.) and outgoing ST types in general just babble on and on and on without ever seeming to get the cue to stop talking. Living with then is a nightmare.
I think Robert Barrathian is a good example of esfp he in a big way defeated the mad king and took the throne but had no idea what to do with it hence him spending most of his time parting
Trying to understand my ESFP friend as an INTP myself Nathan: ‘They cannot be reasoned with logically.’ Me: Fantastic Off to a great start 👍😆 Tbh kinda explains a lot lol Edit: “let’s start a support group” hahaha thank you!
I find no one has more common sense and wisdom then my ESFP Mum who cuts through to the truth or the point of a matter in as few words as possible. (ENFJ)
Whelp, I just got typed by Dave and Shan and I’m an ESFP, and I thought that I was an ENTJ..... I appreciated this a lot haha. I’m not really sure how to process this.
Tbh I disagree. The conqueror type is more like ESTP. ESFPs are this protagonist / main character / adventurous type. you can see this through characters such as Son Goku, Luffy and Gon. Even CR7. These are all main characters. They have a few traits in common, their extreme passion, them following what they want no matter the cost or circumstances, somewhat being stubborn by doing that, and their extreme force when it comes to achieve what they want. They also have immense discipline if they really want something. I also don’t agree with reasoning. You definitely can’t use logic. But you can reason with ESFPs with moral principles or feelings. If you explain to them someone didnt have bad intentions and why they did what they did, I think they’re the most accepting and forgiving type of anyone. Very high level of tolerance if they can follow your morals. They’re also personally my favorite type. Crazy, center of attention, full of energy, caring and thoughtful, not dogmatized, original, usually in good shape and healthy. What else do you want? - female ENTJ
0:11 In chess a pawn reaching the far rank may be promoted to a kNight, which has certain advantages: as a kNight it may deliver a check to the opposing King (immediately) in situations wherein a Queen, not to mention a Bishop or Rook, does not. This is usually done when it's most likely to be captured right-away.
"You start an argument about something very important to this person." 🤣 Speaking to an INFJ. Yeah, probably not going to happen. Again, you are sounding like an ENTJ here 🤣❤
I’m an ENFP with an ESFP bestie that I’ve known for 30 years (she’s more like a sister). She is fun, but she’s also hardworking, loyal, kind and organised. I sometimes get a little fed up with the ESFP stereotype. But then I guess all personalities lose a little in their stereotype translation. Great video as always
As a baby (ESFP) when it comes to knowledge on MBTI. I have to say that the INTJ makes the leveled calculations of what goes on or can happen in the world, while the ESFP makes it known through media and grows up the youth according to the systems in place. What i've found though is that INTJ/ESFP's are on such extreme ends of the spectrum, that we just end up adapting a centrist political approach to life. Living on the edge of society's by-products is strange and we tend to be moderate in everything, but will always get attracted to what we're bad at, so as to not put pressure on the skills that make us good. The ESFP tries to be as present in the moment as they can, just a rush that comes with always widening your eyes to the world. The INTJ always anticipates what the moment brings Overall, both personalities are there to keeping things from falling apart when something goes not according to plan. A more High-School way of putting it would be: ESFP=Geek, INTJ=Nerd These personality extremes can also be put more darkly as: The Psychopath ("Psychos" meaning the soul/mind is corrupted- Hence the ESFP can lose control and look more emotional as their feelings never follow a clear path/"Pathos" implying something happened to it (Psychos) in the greek language) and the Sociopath (Who has developed the way he has from judging and getting to the root of Human society, perhaps also triggered by his discoveries as well) *Note that these are the extreme cases of the two types. By proper definition about 4% of the world are psychopaths and 1% are sociopaths. These are kind of rough estimates of the ESFP (9%) and the INTJ (2%). Keep in mind the INTJ will also tend to be more likely to attend sessions with psychologists because personal health fits into their programme. While the ESFP will not go in for a check-up and will opt to keep their feelings/perspectives buried deep instead of brought to the surface where they can be silenced and easily coaxed into a less thoughtful existence, because overall we'll go for the lifestyle that keeps us most content, happy and stress (AKA hard-work) free. As for evidence on this, you'll just have to trust my perception like I would respectively would trust a smart person's judgement. You wouldn't know the world through my eyes and neither i yours. (Also, we both love highs but get too easily addicted and over-abuse when we find one that suits us)
I hear you but I’ve never heard ESFPs be termed as geeks or anything like it. Jerkily-periodic party animals with a certain artsy individualism more like (in my opinion) but your post is still fascinating.
@@Anonymous_Anon882 an ESFP can be both. They're the most common type so there's many categories of an ESFP. Think of someone who collects action figures/comics or conjures up a campaign of DND. They're using their imagination to paint a colourful world that exists outside their own. It's a different expression of entertainment. To that person he may have an INTJ friend who's sort of nerdy and likes delving into megaprojects of the world or just chatting about the implications of the tv series/anime they are both watching. On the other end of the spectrum there is a parralel INTJ and ESFP for partying and nightlife. One might be trying to get a girl wasted and cracking jokes, possibly trying to juggle a threesome with her friend. The other might be schooled in the "art of seduction" and keep a low and flat tone with the woman, using only smart comebacks and smooth one-liners to convince her she's interested. . They're still a rare animal , but like the ESFP can live a lonesome life, finding entertainment through tv shows and the music they listen to, so can there exist an INTJ who was not interested in getting academic acclaim and rathe found his niche in seducing women at the club.
I felt that. Im an ENTP, my brother an INTP and my mom an ESFP. Im doing the fighting with my mom for the most part and my bro just observes and lowkey supports me but will never tell her. Only if she has taken it too far and i just dont know how to defent myself anymore😂
@@soniapl2120 Bro. Ive been in a similar Situation for years. I feel you. If its still Holding on 7 months Later you can write me a PM, In Case you need coping strategies. Otherwise keep on King. Cheers.
INFJ here, with an esfp mother-in-law who moved in with us 5 months ago. We have 1 more month left. She drives me absolutely insane. She doesn't pick up on non-verbal cues (give us space without us having to spell it out!), can't seem to anticipate things, and will only talk about surface level stuff. I liked her a lot before living with her. 😔
Interesting! You think Lu is an ESFP? I’ve always thought I’ve seen the Fe with Lu. But the Fi is something I can definitely see now. Perhaps I need to meet more ESFPs! This makes me question my dad’s type again. 🤣 Then again, I bet the gender of ESFPs can massively alter the way their presence comes across. Great point about their insights having a great deal of weight.
Funny the Se distrust of intuition. In my experience with Ni, if I’m not shy with any other type, I am very shy around ESFPs. Overly self-conscious. Scared of moving the wrong way and being noticed doing so. Scared of clothing fails. The list of paranoid weirdness goes on. Not a reaction I have with ESTPs bc even if they notice, sensor awkwardness doesn’t matter to them, they just think it’s a little funny. 😅🤣
An immature ESFP is a total chaos and destructive power and trauma to their INTJ child. The are the ones gossip about people instead of talking about ideas, in other words, small minded. They are over-reactors, drama queens, and constant attention seekers. They highjacks the emotion expressions of others because they always put their own feelings on the center stage of any interaction. They are real difficult to reason with. Don’t ever underestimate their chaotic power. I personally don’t want to deal with an ESFP, it’s energy draining for no good reason and likely get you nowhere.
Because of our function stack, absolutely it can manifest itself in these ways when we are less mature. I would give us more of a chance as we grow though - once we learn what our faults are and discover how to temper them, we can be loyal friends, hard workers and committed to everything that we choose to do.
You'd be wise to listen ESFPs. When they think something is wrong, there really is something wrong. They are not stuck in their heads like every other types. They see reality for what it is right in front of them.
Wow, this is the first time I've watched a video about ESFP and felt good about myself. I much more prefer the title of Conqueror of Chaos over Party Animal
ESFP here. There are 2 ways to look at these stereotypes from the Intuitive types about us. On one hand, I can understand that some might feel annoyed or bullied by them, but on the other hand, I feel like it works to my advantage. It's like the story of the rabbit vs the turtle. ESFPs being the turtle and the Intuitives being like the rabbit thinking they're better than the turtle. The turtle always wins because of the rabbit's arrogance and for underestimating the turtle. The powerhouse combination as described in the video is the magic :)
Interesting i am best friends with an esfp and im an infj. I often say im the turtle and hes the rabbit because he is always rushing into things in the moment without any planning or care about the pitfalls along the way. He ends up being distracted and getting hung up in a disaster he didn’t prepare for while im moving along cautiously ready and prepared and end up passing him by while he is stuck in the moment. (Literally he gets stuck in mud more than any person I know)
@@shelbysongy2666 That could very well be the case for some ESFPs. There are 8-10% ESFPs that make up the global population according to some statistics online. That's a lot! We're not all exactly the same because we have the same personality, my friend 😊 I, on the other hand, am aware of my weakness like planning and other things, so I've trained and have gotten help with them. And I'm a very patient person that doesn't rush things without a Plan B. My best friend was an INTJ. They are known for being strategic planners and for being smart, which he was. However, he was extremely arrogant like the rabbit in this tale which made me always win by predicting his next move (It's a very long story). So you're an INFJ, huh? Interesting... I want an INFJ friend myself as I've heard they get along very well with ESFPs (according to many people on the forums). It's a shame that INFJs are very rare 😄
@@thelightofdawn6513 see that's awesome that you have figured out that you need to pay more attention to planning. In fact, this is something that I've been teaching (sounds weird) to my esfp friend. He is constantly finding himself in precarious avoidable situations. Normally I wouldn't even give him a second of my concern because logic means nothing to him and it annoys me when I break it down to the simplest form of logic and he still doesn't get it. BUT a lot of the pickles he finds himself in involve me. Meaning if he is late to meet with me then I'm affected by it. I have tried to just dump his friendship but he works so hard at trying to do what I suggest that I can't get rid of him. So you see, he fulfills my need to mentor because he is such a poor planner and so bad at intuition but asks me all the time to help him and does show personal growth. That gives me so much, I can't explain it. ON the other hand, he is so in the moment that he counters me in a way that challenges my intellect and keeps me interested. He has helped me cope with real time pressure that I usually stay away from. He deals with my performance anxiety in a way that I have never experienced before. He won't allow me to stop and pushes and pushes and guess what I usually accomplish things that I didn't think I could when it comes to the here and now. So I suppose we compliment each other well. But that doesn't mean that we both don't scream and yell all the time. We fight like cats and dogs. Its hard and draining. I feel he needs to grow up and gain some maturity for sure.
@@shelbysongy2666 I see. You know, the way you describe your relationship with your ESFP is something I feel like I can relate to with my INTJ friend. I don't know exactly what it is you two argue about, but for me and him it's mostly when he gets depressed. When INTJs get depressed they go EXTREMELY DEEP. And it's very draining calming him. I tell him that it's like me trying to dig him out of a ditch with a shovel, and he grabbing it from me and digging himself back in. We can go back and forth like that for days. Btw, thanks for sharing your story :)
@@thelightofdawn6513 ha, this is interesting listening to your experiences. I would not be like your friend because no one would know I was depressed, I would smile and fake it. Even my espf friend. So we are in a competitive environment we train for every day. Its like the damn olympics, ha ha, but not. Anyway, he coaches me how to react on the spot in fast situations. It has helped me because I am not a sports person I am very out of place in chaotic situations but at the same time I am severe ADHD so I need the chaotism to give me dopomine ha ha. interesting, right? This environment I'm in fulfills that chemical need but at the same time Its very stressful because I'm not equipped cognitively to be good at it. He has helped me practice for years and suddenly I've not only gotten better but I've gotten good. Meanwhile he is always late to train, or caught up in distractions (he is also ADHD ha ha ha crazy, I know) but he creates chaos to get his dopamine. I hate that! I can't handle anymore chaos than necessary. He also is getting older and is trying to plan more so he is more prepared with crap that comes up to avoid more issues down the line. He truly is so bad at planning and geezus we both have ADHD but my god I can plan and prepare and I can help his butt so we can avoid drama that I don't want to personally deal with I just want to freaking train. He is a natural at this so he doesn't need to train like I do. See so we fight about this crap. And I feel 9 out of 10 times I'm right and he ends up owing me damn money because he thinks he is so right that HE bets me money. Happened just today that's why I mention it. Okay wayyyyy more than you needed to know but hey, my meds have worn off! Peace!
As an intuitive, infp there is no leaps and bounds. I won't stop until I have covered every single angle including empirical or at least observable evidence. I've big pictured from every conceivable side and if I missed a perspective, I'm instantly curious and will be researching. But I do know intuitives that assume in leaps and bounds, because they are using their bias or cognitive dissonance rather than their intuition. Intuition needs to develop and grow, but can't do that in a full cup.
I’m INFJ my little girl is ESFP. She recently has come up with the plan that if I just quit being a lawyer we can have more fun together. I explained that if I quit my job we’ll lose our house and our timeshares . She looked at me and said so we’ll figure it out. I’m carrying $7000 a month in mortgage payments but I’ll just figure it out. Well thought out that’s for sure. 😂😂😂😂😂. When we are out an about she talks to everyone. She makes friends wherever she goes. She’s quite the card. She’ll walk around with her shirt on backwards and shoes on the wrong feet and say she’s starting a fashion trend and giggle. However this child does not like to feel criticized at all. It infuriates her.
Hoy geez, I have been at a loss to type my ex, because he is NPD, and they survive by absorbing other people’s personalities-the one who scores “equally” across categories on personality tests…and lately I have been wondering how our children could type as poor relational matches for me (per MBTI), so I have been looking back into all of this. This so far appears to be the best match, and tracks with the types my girls ended up with and the stark reasons he and I butted heads. 😮
I am quiet but not shy. I just do not trust you to understand me or want to act like you know what you are talking about when I am paying attention to your body language and very suddenly come to the conclusion that I am wasting my brain cells listening to you. Not sure what letters in the alphabet I'm in but I will look into this. You have my curiosity and that is my weakness because now I need to know. Damn it, now I have something else to research.
is it possible for this type to give off the vibe of Fe? almost as if their first and second function merge? actually this can be a question for all types.
In my experience as an ESFP, on first acquaintance some people think I might have Fe because I love connecting with people through experiences and I love chatting and being around others. But I feel that external empathy is not our strength. Whilst we feel our emotions strongly and understand them pretty easily, Te3 often means we go into "problem solving mode" rather than empathic mode. We want to have fun with others for sure, but being in tune with others' feelings and acting to create harmony in the room is not really our natural mode.
Explains why my roommate from the first year in college hated my guts, I am too logical for her taste, and a bit too uncompassionate... Oh dear.. Oh wait, she was a ESFJ.
Fatima Zahra Vlogs It’s a shame that logical people apparently lack compassion when compared to others. It’s a fundamental part of our humanity. Though of course, logic has its own place as well.
We ESFPs also need some ESFP meme pages but there aren’t any...
NO MEMES THIS INJUSTICE NEEDS TO STOP!!!!
right? ;-;
ESFPs are too busy living in the real world to be on the internet making memes
@@iurk0_streaming truth
Honestly though we could just make one
As an ESFP I love this description. I hate that people label us as party animals. You calling ESFPs as conquerors that thrive in chaos really made me smile.
But you gotta admit, we sure do know how to party.... hahaha (as well).
I'm not a party Animal or class clown. I don't NEED to be the Center of attention 🤔
Butttttt, I can surely entertain a Crowd. 😉
@@luckyjasonfan thank you, I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed. I thought that ESFPs needed to be the center of attention. I can relax now.
@@ammarkhalil34v You're welcome 😊
You labeled yourself with many things, how can you be resistant when someone labels you as well, it's all just games of fictional identities
"Esfp is an underrated mbti type" THANKS
Lmao that’s what I said 😂
@@lexiwhite424 lmao same
But not their sex appeal
Yet it's The Most Common in My Country
Yees 😭💔💔💔
As an INTP my ESFP friend always regards me as a highly evolved intellectual being and praises me for bringing good grades 'effortlessly'.
I on the other hand am actually the one who's jealous of her for the fact that she's got all the first-hand experiences and wisdom due to her constant interaction with the more concrete and real world. She's got all the skills and stuffs that's actually required for a living.
Also she's hot.
someone's got a crush👀
Update, updateeeeeee!!!!
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i think ESFP's being hot is their trait
@@rovli816 i feel algae B)
As an INTP, I think ESFPs are probably my favorite sensor type. I should probably mention that they have great artistic skills and musical ability.
I would also like to see you do something on ISFPs who I think are an extremely interesting type. I'd like to see you touch on how ESFPs are often very energetic and optimistic where as ISFPs are often kind of sullen and pessimistic.
My brother is an ESFP while I am an INTP. He acted as my bridge to reality. Introducing me to music, communities, and ideals that I could not have found myself.
@@danielb840 That's what I like about the ESFP type.
my best friend is an INTP and I am an esfp. I find INTP is a really good friend and funny. I am really comfortable with whatever it is
SDB4202012 well THANK you! lol. I've read that INTP and ESFP are incompatible but I'm in a relationship with an INTP and I can say there's definitely a sense of balance and harmony there.
My sis is an ESFP, she likes to play but she’s one of THE MOST hardworking people I know! She gives her all to everything she does. She is committed, & fierce in defending & standing up for others. She’s also a free spirit & very authentic to herself :)
She also gets super bored when I (infp) & other sis (infj) engage in long conversations on academic topics & gets super bored at museums ^^
Yeah my brother is ESFP and I'm an INFJ, we love each other but he makes me raise an eyebrow and I make him bored and have to try and focus.
Esfp here, about to conquer this beer.
Quote of the day. Well played ~ Nathan
Spoken like a true ESFP, you got to love them
fuck. now I need a beer. i cant let homeboy drink alone!!
Fellow ESFP and ESTP here petting a bear in Alaska
@@SamStrane Imma crack open a cold one with my ESFP boys
I am an INTJ and my mother is an ESFP, when you said "it's difficult to convince them of something using logic" I couldn't relate more...
Then every mother in the world is ESFP
INTJs also dont have Ti in their first 4 Functions sooooo
@@kadsenvieh Nope, they've got Te. Which means, as an INTP with Ti myself, that they actually get things done while we procrastinate.
Especially when they are very religious 😳
I just give up most times
@@VE11 jesus...I can't imagine
This is a beautiful representation of the ESFP...so underrated - like most sensors, if you ask me.
"start an argument" entp strategies
"Have your mind and ass kicked" my strategie
@@annsmith936 yeah... No.
ENTP nodding here, I've repeated that chunk of the video 10 times. I'm making notes hahah
debatable
As an INFJ, I find ESFP fascinating. They aren’t really my cup of tea but sometimes I wish I had more of their traits.
Fr, I've been talking to one for weeks and it's so amazing how diferent our traits are, so diferent that I don't know how are we still talking lol.
@@Diego-gk8rr Likely because we have an interest in you (assuming you are Infj) or we just cant stop talking.
@@twis8653 Yeah he just ghosted me lol.
@@Diego-gk8rr As esfp guy who has had experience talking with an infj girl they ghosted me instead of me ghosting them(I like her). Either you got boring to him or they found someone else that showed him more affection. Remember tho I'm just an esfp on the internet so I might be wrong.
@@twis8653 na, you’re right. We can only try so long to bring you to the party before we give up and bring someone else.
ESFPs are badasses and nice. What a combo! On a personal level, I find them very appealing.
I agree so much with this. An ESFP can be very immature, but the mature ESFP is exactly this. I tell people I don't always like the portrayal of ESFP's on sites because they talk about the immature ESFP a lot of the time. But as a mature ESPP, I know the strength that can come with everything talked about here. Also, understanding the struggles in dealing with some our "N" friends and family and neighbors.. thats very real too haha
"I'm mature". Said who? Said me. Oneself is not a good gauge, ask people surrounding you who have to deal with you on a regulae basis.
5:18 "Tendency to look for hidden meanings and patterns, often where there aren't any" Oh I guarantee I will find a hidden meaning and pattern in anything you talk about! There are never not there. I can tell you aren't Ni dom! - INFJ
Thundercloud Entertainment bahaha - I was thinking the same! You cracked me up. (Fellow INFJ).
I was thinking this exactly. It's so cathartic to see it in the comment and even more so that you're also an infj 😅 I wish I wasn't so hung up on patterns, hiddig meanings and analyzing the shit out of everything.
no...
Lol I guess if napoleon was an esfp then it would explain why he tried to invade Russia in the winter
K channel maybe someone dared him
👁👄👁
😂 yup.
Idk why but I feel personally attacked lmao.
Finally, a flattering explanation of ESFPs!
Side note beware convincing an ESFP their an ESFP if they don't resonate with the limited mbti desscriptions
My ESFP will have a meltdown if I mention anything type related to her...even if it's not about her. smh lol
My ESFP hasn't even read the descriptions. She just doesn't want to be put in a box LOL
Same goes for many Sensor types
@@heatherbryant4197 I can imagine it being extra hard with ESFP. Even enfp's sometimes have this resistance against being boxed....so being both sensor + PORL Ti must make it the most challenging thing ever
@@PowerRedBullTypology True. Yeah, I definitely understand the resistance to the Ti PoLR "diagnosis" due to its associations. I think we all tacitly understand that ESFPs are commonly regarded as the stupidest type, however untrue it may be. It's the elephant in the room. I always associate that resistance to being "put in a box" with Fi, though I can't remember exactly how I first arrived at that conclusion. It seems more common for Fi types to never be fully satisfied with typings and type descriptions. They feel it doesn't resonate with their identity as closely as they were hoping or doesn't pay homage to their individuality enough. This could also be an enneagram 4 thing, which is likewise correlated with Fi though.
"Let's start a support group"
YEAH LET'S DO THAT to ease our endless suffering
We drive each other crazy- estp
Your Se / Ni description is spot on. I gather - Se, I analyze - Ti, I synthesize - Ni. Not always a fast process but my shit works, or is aesthetically pleasing.
This video is fantastic and refreshing. 10/10
As an ESFP we are really amazing at feelings particularly, our intuition is extremely high with a dangerous level of accuracy, we are open, we love life, people and things, we are supernova types, you just have to find us. We can look at something and pin point exactly what it means, if you have a fear or feeling you can’t describe, then we can understand your “I’m not sure how I feel” “I don’t know how to describe it.” THATS us, and I love me so much. Though we thrive on chaos we are highly organized especially if left to our own devices. And it’s awesome
I'm envy to all Se-dom. Maybe in mbti/meme world they're underrated, but in real life actually they are the best confidently human to fight any bad reality and their bad anxiety.
as an infp, i really have a thing for esfp's 😔👍 i find them to be really genuine and spontaneous, i love it
YES ME TOO, literally! i am also infp and i love esfps. i think my crush might be esfp as well
Ayyy INFP that's just started dating an ESFP here! 😊 Any advice for someone less familiar with them?
As an infp, i dislike my esfp friend. A LOT
same
Yes they're cool but hard to deal with them.
Good work with the thumbnail picture! Very aesthetic, and of course the video was interesting, Nathan. I liked the part where you said something about taking ESFPs advice into account more than theoretical minded people. It was logically put 👏🏻👏🏻
Finally someone described me 100% :)! Great job! I don't want everything and I am mostly smiley kind optimistic person but when I do want to finish something or I feel that something is wrong, It will happen.
One of the best typology channels, hands down. One of my top two favorites.
6:00 is a good note. I really prefer the way you interpret mbti than almost all other mbti channels I watch.
TheRealHerbaSchmurba Indeed
underrated- i feel that- i got to MBTI type memes and i see like no esfp's lmao
I'm an ESFP, and this is perfect.
I dunno why, but I really like the way you make your videos, they seem...straight forward, accurate, highly informative and involving, and they seem to just keep me pulled in and wanting to watch more, which is why I've binged a few series on this channel. You are my favorite MBTI centered channel, and I've turned on notifications.
I also for some reason want to tell what my main friend group's personality types are.
We have...an ENFP, ESFP(me), ISTP(one of my bffs/face of the group), INTJ(second in command), ESTP, and an INFP.
I am apparently, according to the ISTP, the "heartbeat" of our group. He's very cool and fun to be around. Kinda mysterious too. And whether they like it or not, I'm going to try and keep the group alive and happy. The INTJ, is the mind of the group and the "leader", cause he's the smartest. Whenever the ISTP isn't at school, everything is off, and usually low, cause ye they're my best friend. But I do have the INTJ and INFP there, so I'm fine. I have been friends with them all for many a year now, and hopefully will be forever.
When the ISTP said that he was moving houses, I thought immediately that he was moving like halfway across the U.S. and got very worried.
I brought it up with him when he said he was moving, and he reassured me that he will be at the school still, and he is actually probably moving CLOSER to the school.
So, I sighed in relief.
My friends are my family, if they leave, well, really "I" leave. In the metaphorical sense. As probably my near endlessly shining spirit would probably die out.
Sad, ye, but they're mah family, and my family is my life.
Now, I probably need to sleep, so goodnight.
Thank you for this comment! I’m glad you’re enjoying the videos. ~ Nathan
This is adorable! I think esfps' loyalty is highly underrated. I love how wholesome, spirited, and inspirational they are too! ~Someone who doesn't know their type:)
@@user-hw6bi5uc1q Thank you!
Thank you! My mom seems to be an ESFP and so far the descriptions of them that I've seen have been somewhat accurate, but shallow. This description showed a depth to them that I know they have, but had yet to have explained. You're awesome!
too funny, Homer Simpson at end of the day believes he will get his donuts.
Thank you for this video. It’s enlightening, refreshing and intelligent. I’ve been waiting for your take on the ESFP for a while and I’m not disappointed!
Isfp: listens to music they identify with and find some part of themselves in
Esfp: likes music they can dance to, that empowers them and makes them feel GOOD.
I'm an isfp and I really like esfps. They bring something out in me that I sometimes neglect. Although, I get the vibe like they are constantly avoiding something... Like.. like they know people are expecting something from them, and they want to ignore it at all costs lol. Idk what it is though. They can also he very assuming and judgemental at times but that might be personal experience.
@@destroyerzh idk if that's it... I think when they know people are watching it makes them feel good but it's not like a validation thing I've noticed... it's weirdly complex, like they can't grasp something within themselves without help
woah this sounds like something i subconsciously do.. can you give an example?
@@milkteaful they have repressed subconscious ideal states of being and attention sometimes helps with that. I think thats inherently pretty genuine and fits with fi. They are trying to be who they are not the opposite like youd see with someone merely seeking attention for its own sake. Although as an isfp, i do like attention.
Esfp is the happier naturally but doesnt mean we didn't feel bad or suffer. Thanks
Good video. I agree about trusting a dominant Se over an intuitive type for practical advice. As a primary Ni type myself, confidence stems from contingency plans which is unsettling for some.
You're so right. My sister always told me that I'm right when I have certain "feeling" for people. When I foreshadow their intention, after that they seems to revelead for they are.
Well, as an INTJ who once had an ESFP boss (yes, talk about irony and bad luck), I can testify that they get less credit than they deserve. However, my God, it was hell. She would not keep any agreement at all and making one with her was almost impossible to begin with, since she simply refused to set herself any kind of "future boundary". For most of the time, I'd feel like I was talking to a door and there were many times in which many colleagues, including some who were close friends to her, would try to help me make her understand that what she was setting us to do simply didn't make sense. We lived in a cycle that went like this: get order -> realize order would screw things up -> try to explain the situation -> get an answer in the form "How do you know that will happen?" -> see things fail -> see boss not realize we were talking precisely about what happened -> repeat. She was certainly an undeveloped and unhealthy ESFP, but it really goes to show the bad side of the aspects you brought up here. After some time, I just gave up and got another job
As an esfp, im a literal clown, even though im feeling depressed, i make people laugh and stuff, my reserved me is often inside of my house, woth my family
With*
"let's start a support group" haha
ESFP's everyone's other favorite lovable rogue's
Esfps make excellent doctors. Especially ER docs.
Le Cordon Bleu Chef, RISD Artist, Guess Model, Korean Airline Stewardess.
Falling in love with them were like drugs to me - INTJ.
It always ends up with their emotional outbursts tho.
It was all about how they felt. Which can change completely dependent on an instant illogically.
From Linda Berens: Over the last four years, in the MBTI® Qualifying Programs, advanced programs and elsewhere, we found a disproportionate number of people who had reported preferences for the iNtuiting process while their behaviors seemed to resemble the Artisan-SP temperament pattern. This raised some questions such as: What is the relationship between temperament and Jung’s typology?
Extraverted Sensing - Notices the rich detail in the whole forest - the trees, their color and texture, their sounds, their smells, the pattern of light and dark…Introverted Sensing - Notes that this forest has always been here and recalls being in a forest from childhood, smelling that smell and the fun of playing hide and seek behind the trees…Extraverted iNtuiting - Thinks of the fractal patterns, the wide range of possibilities in the forest, how this forest is part of the ecosystem and is affected by polllution from the city…
Introverted iNtuiting - Recognizes that the forest is deeply symbolic of all of life in its interconnectedness and constant recycling and growth and foresees that this forest will soon be torn down for a housing development…
lindaberens.com/resources/methodology-articles/how-to-tell-intuiting-from-extraverted-sensing/
Hey Nathan, thank you so much for making this video. My sister is struggling with her mental health right now and I'm trying to understand her mind through whatever ways I can. She's an ENFP and I'm an INFJ. I strongly see her in your description of ESFPs and I think I understand her mind and motivations a little bit more. Thank you 💞
Yes we are underrated indeed. I finally found out that I am actually an ESFP. But I can relate a lot with the ESTP as well. We actually do anything to predict the future when it comes to long time goals.
Talking to a very bright fem in an ENFP group, she was telling me she goes with feeling over logic, so I thought that's not me. As we kept talking, however, she explained to me that by feelings she doesn't mean it as in "You are hurting me by not agreeing with me, even though I am wrong." sort of feelings that many people employ- only she used other words- but, she meant "gut feeling". To me, that's just the impetus to look for the facts that prove why it exists, so I know it is called "feeling", but, more physical than emotional. (sigh) Life is very complicated.
aaah thank you i've been waiting for this
@@NathanJGlass yes, it was so helpful, i just started to dig deeper into this type recently, they're one of my favorites
i appreciate the effort you put into this channel.
Thank you, that’s really nice to hear! ~ Nathan
Ans as an INTP this explains why I'm so absolutely fascinated with my wife. She loves a goof time but gd is she smart. I never know what she's gonna do and usually it works out. I'm endlessly impressed with her ability to roll with the punches, and how she can meet me half way on a lot of my ridiculous ideas. She's so supportive and understanding, and we get to be weird together. ❤❤❤
As an esfp i would say that im really uncomfortable confronting the unknown. I like to be in control of my life and fear the uncertainity ,this is totally ironic. Also esfps have a way to get things done acc. to their way but i don't .
"let's start a support group" 😂 love your brand of humour.
Dude you literally edit yourself for each 5 seconds
for real like do you just ramble for hours for each 5 min video and try to narrow it down by sentence 😂
I kinda totally like the effect it brings about... In fact, the abruptness accentuates key points and makes it both lively & edgy to watch. )
Lol now I’m having trouble focusing on what he’s saying cuz of how many times it cuts. The way he sounds is so smooth though, like I wouldn’t have noticed anything if I was only listening haha
most youtubers do that, it helps keep the flow.
I call tertiary Te the hidden batch slap...in other words, ESFPs can be surprisingly bossy.
Yes, but in my experience, few regard their decisions as intelligent.
Enfp here who loves my esfp family members! We don’t rlly think the same way but I love esfps! They seem crazy and spontaneous but i know they’ll fight to the death for what they care about and that’s inspiring
I think I might be an ESFP I just don’t personally relate to the ‘party animal’ part since I’m religious which makes me unsure if I rlly am able to be an ESFP lolol
Party animal is just a stereotype, you don't have to fit into it to be ESFP, since I am also religious and ESFP
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This is so very accurate. My dad is an ESFP (figured out after much deliberation he was definitely not an INFP even if he reminds me of Johnny Depp and tested as INFP on 16 personalities lol). But I think it’s part of why ESFPs unnerve me more than any other type.
That literally happened to me my friends tell me I am definitely an esfp so I just did the test again after getting infp and got esfp
learning something more about yourself is amazing
as a taurus esfp this is so amazing because yes esfps are underrated and people are usually overwhelmed by us because we're so loud and open :)
Sameee I am a Taurus and an ESFP both are underrated tbh
Love esfps. Keep shining ❤
People forget that ESFPs have the same functions as xNTJs. They can conquer the world if they find it worthwhile.
And if they can shut up for more than five waking seconds. SF (ISFJs not so much, obv’s.) and outgoing ST types in general just babble on and on and on without ever seeming to get the cue to stop talking. Living with then is a nightmare.
My mom is an esfp and I'm an infj.... There's always quarrels because we don't agree with the same stuff .....Any advice?
A lot of distance and space. Like, physically distance yourself from one another.
Sticker Lady harsh
What?
Sticker Lady sad reality check, but its for the best for both parties
‘Tis true.
I think Robert Barrathian is a good example of esfp he in a big way defeated the mad king and took the throne but had no idea what to do with it hence him spending most of his time parting
THANK YOU. This is great. By the way, you have pretty dark eyes. :)
Did you mean "dark, pretty eyes" or "very dark eyes"?
It needed to be said 😊
These are such great videos, thank you.
Trying to understand my ESFP friend as an INTP myself
Nathan: ‘They cannot be reasoned with logically.’
Me: Fantastic
Off to a great start 👍😆
Tbh kinda explains a lot lol
Edit: “let’s start a support group” hahaha thank you!
Yo we had this dress up hawaiian day thing today... I was the only one that went full out and was dang proud.
I find no one has more common sense and wisdom then my ESFP Mum who cuts through to the truth or the point of a matter in as few words as possible. (ENFJ)
Still waiting for the "ESFPs in 20 words video"
I LOVE ESFPS -INFJ
Whelp, I just got typed by Dave and Shan and I’m an ESFP, and I thought that I was an ENTJ..... I appreciated this a lot haha. I’m not really sure how to process this.
Great video!!!! So spot on #SeRockS
man i really love being esfp
Very cool. And I concur.
Esfps no logic, party animal dude thanks man
lol
Tbh I disagree. The conqueror type is more like ESTP. ESFPs are this protagonist / main character / adventurous type. you can see this through characters such as Son Goku, Luffy and Gon. Even CR7. These are all main characters. They have a few traits in common, their extreme passion, them following what they want no matter the cost or circumstances, somewhat being stubborn by doing that, and their extreme force when it comes to achieve what they want. They also have immense discipline if they really want something. I also don’t agree with reasoning. You definitely can’t use logic. But you can reason with ESFPs with moral principles or feelings. If you explain to them someone didnt have bad intentions and why they did what they did, I think they’re the most accepting and forgiving type of anyone. Very high level of tolerance if they can follow your morals. They’re also personally my favorite type. Crazy, center of attention, full of energy, caring and thoughtful, not dogmatized, original, usually in good shape and healthy. What else do you want? - female ENTJ
0:11 In chess a pawn reaching the far rank may be promoted to a kNight, which has certain advantages: as a kNight it may deliver a check to the opposing King (immediately) in situations wherein a Queen, not to mention a Bishop or Rook, does not. This is usually done when it's most likely to be captured right-away.
Just found out my sister is an ESFP and i swear i would've thought her results would be closer to ENFP but this is starting to make sense to me
ESFP best type, ngl.
Thanks 😆💜
@@blissfulthoughts5849 you're ESFP? Join ESFP discord dawg!!
@@user-ll8ym9or8c YES
@@user-ll8ym9or8c discord.gg/PP2tky I just created one 😆
GOD that intro music is so good *chefs kiss*
"You start an argument about something very important to this person." 🤣 Speaking to an INFJ. Yeah, probably not going to happen. Again, you are sounding like an ENTJ here 🤣❤
Interesting! Most people type me as an INTP or ENTP ~ Nathan
@@lovewho so which type are you buddy?
This helped remodulate my views of iNtuitives as well.
I’m an ENFP with an ESFP bestie that I’ve known for 30 years (she’s more like a sister). She is fun, but she’s also hardworking, loyal, kind and organised. I sometimes get a little fed up with the ESFP stereotype. But then I guess all personalities lose a little in their stereotype translation.
Great video as always
As a baby (ESFP) when it comes to knowledge on MBTI. I have to say that the INTJ makes the leveled calculations of what goes on or can happen in the world, while the ESFP makes it known through media and grows up the youth according to the systems in place. What i've found though is that INTJ/ESFP's are on such extreme ends of the spectrum, that we just end up adapting a centrist political approach to life. Living on the edge of society's by-products is strange and we tend to be moderate in everything, but will always get attracted to what we're bad at, so as to not put pressure on the skills that make us good. The ESFP tries to be as present in the moment as they can, just a rush that comes with always widening your eyes to the world. The INTJ always anticipates what the moment brings Overall, both personalities are there to keeping things from falling apart when something goes not according to plan.
A more High-School way of putting it would be: ESFP=Geek, INTJ=Nerd
These personality extremes can also be put more darkly as: The Psychopath ("Psychos" meaning the soul/mind is corrupted- Hence the ESFP can lose control and look more emotional as their feelings never follow a clear path/"Pathos" implying something happened to it (Psychos) in the greek language) and the Sociopath (Who has developed the way he has from judging and getting to the root of Human society, perhaps also triggered by his discoveries as well)
*Note that these are the extreme cases of the two types. By proper definition about 4% of the world are psychopaths and 1% are sociopaths. These are kind of rough estimates of the ESFP (9%) and the INTJ (2%). Keep in mind the INTJ will also tend to be more likely to attend sessions with psychologists because personal health fits into their programme. While the ESFP will not go in for a check-up and will opt to keep their feelings/perspectives buried deep instead of brought to the surface where they can be silenced and easily coaxed into a less thoughtful existence, because overall we'll go for the lifestyle that keeps us most content, happy and stress (AKA hard-work) free.
As for evidence on this, you'll just have to trust my perception like I would respectively would trust a smart person's judgement. You wouldn't know the world through my eyes and neither i yours.
(Also, we both love highs but get too easily addicted and over-abuse when we find one that suits us)
You mixed up psycopaths and sociopaths. Sociopaths are the more common type and are more volatile.
@@jasonh394 Yeah I may have confused that
@@jasonh394 both are in gamma quadra so both are dark personalities....
I hear you but I’ve never heard ESFPs be termed as geeks or anything like it. Jerkily-periodic party animals with a certain artsy individualism more like (in my opinion) but your post is still fascinating.
@@Anonymous_Anon882 an ESFP can be both. They're the most common type so there's many categories of an ESFP. Think of someone who collects action figures/comics or conjures up a campaign of DND. They're using their imagination to paint a colourful world that exists outside their own. It's a different expression of entertainment. To that person he may have an INTJ friend who's sort of nerdy and likes delving into megaprojects of the world or just chatting about the implications of the tv series/anime they are both watching.
On the other end of the spectrum there is a parralel INTJ and ESFP for partying and nightlife. One might be trying to get a girl wasted and cracking jokes, possibly trying to juggle a threesome with her friend. The other might be schooled in the "art of seduction" and keep a low and flat tone with the woman, using only smart comebacks and smooth one-liners to convince her she's interested.
. They're still a rare animal , but like the ESFP can live a lonesome life, finding entertainment through tv shows and the music they listen to, so can there exist an INTJ who was not interested in getting academic acclaim and rathe found his niche in seducing women at the club.
Awesome video! Would you mind doing a video on the ISFP mind? Theres not much info available and Id like to hear your take
ISFPs are just shyer, more individualistic ESFPs. A new video probably isn’t that necessary.
my mom is an ESFP, and I am an INTP... it gets rough sometimes because we are almost polar opposites
I felt that. Im an ENTP, my brother an INTP and my mom an ESFP. Im doing the fighting with my mom for the most part and my bro just observes and lowkey supports me but will never tell her. Only if she has taken it too far and i just dont know how to defent myself anymore😂
@@soniapl2120 Bro. Ive been in a similar Situation for years. I feel you. If its still Holding on 7 months Later you can write me a PM, In Case you need coping strategies. Otherwise keep on King. Cheers.
INFJ here, with an esfp mother-in-law who moved in with us 5 months ago. We have 1 more month left. She drives me absolutely insane. She doesn't pick up on non-verbal cues (give us space without us having to spell it out!), can't seem to anticipate things, and will only talk about surface level stuff. I liked her a lot before living with her. 😔
Interesting! You think Lu is an ESFP? I’ve always thought I’ve seen the Fe with Lu. But the Fi is something I can definitely see now. Perhaps I need to meet more ESFPs! This makes me question my dad’s type again. 🤣 Then again, I bet the gender of ESFPs can massively alter the way their presence comes across.
Great point about their insights having a great deal of weight.
Funny the Se distrust of intuition. In my experience with Ni, if I’m not shy with any other type, I am very shy around ESFPs. Overly self-conscious. Scared of moving the wrong way and being noticed doing so. Scared of clothing fails. The list of paranoid weirdness goes on. Not a reaction I have with ESTPs bc even if they notice, sensor awkwardness doesn’t matter to them, they just think it’s a little funny. 😅🤣
An immature ESFP is a total chaos and destructive power and trauma to their INTJ child. The are the ones gossip about people instead of talking about ideas, in other words, small minded. They are over-reactors, drama queens, and constant attention seekers. They highjacks the emotion expressions of others because they always put their own feelings on the center stage of any interaction. They are real difficult to reason with. Don’t ever underestimate their chaotic power. I personally don’t want to deal with an ESFP, it’s energy draining for no good reason and likely get you nowhere.
Because of our function stack, absolutely it can manifest itself in these ways when we are less mature. I would give us more of a chance as we grow though - once we learn what our faults are and discover how to temper them, we can be loyal friends, hard workers and committed to everything that we choose to do.
My mom is an ESFP and a toxic parent. It’s really personal for me. However I don’t think every ESFP is toxic. So I believe you.
You'd be wise to listen ESFPs. When they think something is wrong, there really is something wrong. They are not stuck in their heads like every other types. They see reality for what it is right in front of them.
Wow, this is the first time I've watched a video about ESFP and felt good about myself.
I much more prefer the title of Conqueror of Chaos over Party Animal
ESFP here. There are 2 ways to look at these stereotypes from the Intuitive types about us. On one hand, I can understand that some might feel annoyed or bullied by them, but on the other hand, I feel like it works to my advantage. It's like the story of the rabbit vs the turtle. ESFPs being the turtle and the Intuitives being like the rabbit thinking they're better than the turtle. The turtle always wins because of the rabbit's arrogance and for underestimating the turtle. The powerhouse combination as described in the video is the magic :)
Interesting i am best friends with an esfp and im an infj. I often say im the turtle and hes the rabbit because he is always rushing into things in the moment without any planning or care about the pitfalls along the way. He ends up being distracted and getting hung up in a disaster he didn’t prepare for while im moving along cautiously ready and prepared and end up passing him by while he is stuck in the moment. (Literally he gets stuck in mud more than any person I know)
@@shelbysongy2666 That could very well be the case for some ESFPs. There are 8-10% ESFPs that make up the global population according to some statistics online. That's a lot! We're not all exactly the same because we have the same personality, my friend 😊 I, on the other hand, am aware of my weakness like planning and other things, so I've trained and have gotten help with them. And I'm a very patient person that doesn't rush things without a Plan B. My best friend was an INTJ. They are known for being strategic planners and for being smart, which he was. However, he was extremely arrogant like the rabbit in this tale which made me always win by predicting his next move (It's a very long story). So you're an INFJ, huh? Interesting... I want an INFJ friend myself as I've heard they get along very well with ESFPs (according to many people on the forums). It's a shame that INFJs are very rare 😄
@@thelightofdawn6513 see that's awesome that you have figured out that you need to pay more attention to planning. In fact, this is something that I've been teaching (sounds weird) to my esfp friend. He is constantly finding himself in precarious avoidable situations. Normally I wouldn't even give him a second of my concern because logic means nothing to him and it annoys me when I break it down to the simplest form of logic and he still doesn't get it. BUT a lot of the pickles he finds himself in involve me. Meaning if he is late to meet with me then I'm affected by it. I have tried to just dump his friendship but he works so hard at trying to do what I suggest that I can't get rid of him. So you see, he fulfills my need to mentor because he is such a poor planner and so bad at intuition but asks me all the time to help him and does show personal growth. That gives me so much, I can't explain it. ON the other hand, he is so in the moment that he counters me in a way that challenges my intellect and keeps me interested. He has helped me cope with real time pressure that I usually stay away from. He deals with my performance anxiety in a way that I have never experienced before. He won't allow me to stop and pushes and pushes and guess what I usually accomplish things that I didn't think I could when it comes to the here and now. So I suppose we compliment each other well. But that doesn't mean that we both don't scream and yell all the time. We fight like cats and dogs. Its hard and draining. I feel he needs to grow up and gain some maturity for sure.
@@shelbysongy2666 I see. You know, the way you describe your relationship with your ESFP is something I feel like I can relate to with my INTJ friend. I don't know exactly what it is you two argue about, but for me and him it's mostly when he gets depressed. When INTJs get depressed they go EXTREMELY DEEP. And it's very draining calming him. I tell him that it's like me trying to dig him out of a ditch with a shovel, and he grabbing it from me and digging himself back in. We can go back and forth like that for days. Btw, thanks for sharing your story :)
@@thelightofdawn6513 ha, this is interesting listening to your experiences. I would not be like your friend because no one would know I was depressed, I would smile and fake it. Even my espf friend. So we are in a competitive environment we train for every day. Its like the damn olympics, ha ha, but not. Anyway, he coaches me how to react on the spot in fast situations. It has helped me because I am not a sports person I am very out of place in chaotic situations but at the same time I am severe ADHD so I need the chaotism to give me dopomine ha ha. interesting, right? This environment I'm in fulfills that chemical need but at the same time Its very stressful because I'm not equipped cognitively to be good at it. He has helped me practice for years and suddenly I've not only gotten better but I've gotten good. Meanwhile he is always late to train, or caught up in distractions (he is also ADHD ha ha ha crazy, I know) but he creates chaos to get his dopamine. I hate that! I can't handle anymore chaos than necessary. He also is getting older and is trying to plan more so he is more prepared with crap that comes up to avoid more issues down the line. He truly is so bad at planning and geezus we both have ADHD but my god I can plan and prepare and I can help his butt so we can avoid drama that I don't want to personally deal with I just want to freaking train. He is a natural at this so he doesn't need to train like I do. See so we fight about this crap. And I feel 9 out of 10 times I'm right and he ends up owing me damn money because he thinks he is so right that HE bets me money. Happened just today that's why I mention it. Okay wayyyyy more than you needed to know but hey, my meds have worn off! Peace!
As an intuitive, infp there is no leaps and bounds. I won't stop until I have covered every single angle including empirical or at least observable evidence. I've big pictured from every conceivable side and if I missed a perspective, I'm instantly curious and will be researching. But I do know intuitives that assume in leaps and bounds, because they are using their bias or cognitive dissonance rather than their intuition. Intuition needs to develop and grow, but can't do that in a full cup.
I’m INFJ my little girl is ESFP. She recently has come up with the plan that if I just quit being a lawyer we can have more fun together. I explained that if I quit my job we’ll lose our house and our timeshares . She looked at me and said so we’ll figure it out. I’m carrying $7000 a month in mortgage payments but I’ll just figure it out. Well thought out that’s for sure. 😂😂😂😂😂. When we are out an about she talks to everyone. She makes friends wherever she goes. She’s quite the card. She’ll walk around with her shirt on backwards and shoes on the wrong feet and say she’s starting a fashion trend and giggle. However this child does not like to feel criticized at all. It infuriates her.
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Hoy geez, I have been at a loss to type my ex, because he is NPD, and they survive by absorbing other people’s personalities-the one who scores “equally” across categories on personality tests…and lately I have been wondering how our children could type as poor relational matches for me (per MBTI), so I have been looking back into all of this. This so far appears to be the best match, and tracks with the types my girls ended up with and the stark reasons he and I butted heads. 😮
I am quiet but not shy. I just do not trust you to understand me or want to act like you know what you are talking about when I am paying attention to your body language and very suddenly come to the conclusion that I am wasting my brain cells listening to you. Not sure what letters in the alphabet I'm in but I will look into this. You have my curiosity and that is my weakness because now I need to know. Damn it, now I have something else to research.
Se is the function that strives for personal self-expression. Because of aux Fi, if the savior blast doesn't receive the full attention it wants for p
Hey, thank you.
is it possible for this type to give off the vibe of Fe? almost as if their first and second function merge? actually this can be a question for all types.
In my experience as an ESFP, on first acquaintance some people think I might have Fe because I love connecting with people through experiences and I love chatting and being around others. But I feel that external empathy is not our strength. Whilst we feel our emotions strongly and understand them pretty easily, Te3 often means we go into "problem solving mode" rather than empathic mode. We want to have fun with others for sure, but being in tune with others' feelings and acting to create harmony in the room is not really our natural mode.
@@dearkristin oh hi I didn't expect you here!!
you should do a collab with Nathan :D
Explains why my roommate from the first year in college hated my guts, I am too logical for her taste, and a bit too uncompassionate... Oh dear..
Oh wait, she was a ESFJ.
esfj's typically like logical people
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Depends on whether it’s Ti or Te I think. I know that technically Ti is rationality and Ti is logic, but still.
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It’s a shame that logical people apparently lack compassion when compared to others. It’s a fundamental part of our humanity. Though of course, logic has its own place as well.
ESTP when 😭