Signs a Man Is Hiding DEEP FEELINGS For You
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I love men who are direct, I hate to assume anything. Just say it, tell me bro.
Ahhh, right?! x((
True
This 👏🏾
Ikr 😭
Exactly
Never try to interpret someone’s feeling for you..u could be completely wrong and end up being heartbroken or embarrassed or worst of all -obsessed
Yep. True.
So true
Absolutely!
I agree
Very well said!
Feelings are only as good as their expression. If a man has feelings yet chooses to hide them, to me, he is not choosing them, and that is as good as he is not feeling them. All people are equal at the end of the day, no one is better or more worthy than the other, regardless of appearance, status, or history. Men who put out hints and actively make you fall for the sake of making you fall, I know society downplays this but this emotional and psychological assault. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't, nothing can make him stay. Paying attention to their guessing games is a waste of time.
Very true
💯 x 💯
Does this apply to women and their mixed signals too? Yes it does.
'Assault'??? You need to get a grip woman....we always choose who we fall for.You make it a male bashing one way statement,we all make our choices.WE....not genders ..not male or female.
@@davidthomspson9771 unless a woman belongs to that (fortunately) small % of opportunistic sluts, she'll be much more direct with a man when she no longer wants to be with him or when she doesn't want a relationship in the first place.
My now bf was in this postion so I asked him why he didnt tell me sooner and he said "I didn't tell you how I felt because I was more scared that you didn't feel the same way and I'd be loosing my bestfriend, and I'd rather be friends then to loose you altogether."
I hate the talking stage cause I always catch feelings really fast and I never know if he feels the same way and it’s just torturous
Im going through this now...We met two years ago....and spent four hours sat on a bench...falling in love. Kept on touch for two years....live two hours apart....life has been happening. He lives in St.Ives..I live in Saltash Cornwall. We had a perfect day together last week...finally. omg!! He is awesome. Just the perfect day and we didn't want it to end. Are we dating now? Yes, we were intimate...didn't want to be platonic anymore ..mutually ready. He is keeping in touch ..and it looks like we will meet up again in a month. He felt like a soul mate two years ago....I want to know everything..his messages are very pleasant. Kind of like they were...what we are doing ..etc etc...I want him. Life is now...I can't be guessing. Due to betrayal my confidence isn't what it was...expected to come back and not see him again. My heart can't take anymore losses. But they day we had last week....oh boy, if I never saw him again, it was a day you couldn't repeat.
In my life, I apply one rule: when a man wants to do something, he does it, and when he doesn't want to, he doesn't call, write or fulfill his promises. Every man is individual, you can't compare them all in the same way. Everyone expresses their feelings in different ways: for some it is actions, for others it is hugs and kisses. We all know about the language of love.
Here are general signs that he loves you:
- He knows details about you, such as your birthday or your favorite flowers
- He officially declares that you are his girlfriend
- He looks you in the eyes when he talks to you
- He gets a little jealous when you talk to other guys
- He stands up for you (even when you are wrong)
- He is there for you when you need him most
- He wants to meet your family and your friends
You see, men are victims to expressing his feelings directly to women before. And what do they get from those girls in return? 'Ohh what a simp, he's got no game!' 'What? He's so easy confesses to me like that no challenge at all' 'So blunt and direct, expressing interest so fast what a huge turnoff!' 'Since he like me I'm going to test his neediness and see how much he's willing to chase me' All these sound familiar? Some of these women can be downright immature, who only want an answer right here and now and when she does have it, she rejects him. If a man wants you nothing can keep him away.. thus when he chases her more, it got escalated to harassment. Many times it isn't the guessing games they're playing. They're guaging to see if your interest in him matches the same level as his. Not all women are capable of direct heart to heart conversation. And also, being fear of rejection does not equate to not being able to keep his promise
It's really that simple!
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other.
Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
Love this advice 💖
Not everyone can look someone in the eyes!!! If your super attracted!
Im a bit tired of tiptoing around mens precious feelings. Lifes too short. Live and love before ur girl move on to someone Else.
All the guys I thought were shy or afraid of rejection like me ended up not liking me and rejecting me.
Unless a man pursues the woman more 90× she's putting more work.
I know. It does happen more than we like to admit.
If he makes you laugh, you feel you can be yourself around him, he opens doors and brings you in to his circle of friends introducing you and making you feel important to him. If he shares innermost feelings with you, if you feel good from the energy he emits, then he's the one.
A man who only text me, never calls me, never makes time for me always put others before me, never helps me, never takes care of me. is not serious. Just acts like he is in love, just to get the benefits from you. Ive seen men really in love with me and they will protect and show love all the time. Make u feel like a princess.
Covert Narcissists come across as shy, and when they are 'idealizing' you in the beginning.. they seem so genuine. But.. they'll soon devalue and discard you.
So very true
Being discarded by a covert narcissist is an absolute blessing!
Players sometimes seem shy and hesitant too. Sometimes they pull away to get the attention to make themselves feel good.
Like my ex
Players aren't shy there straight forward doing hook ups, shy guys are the complete opposite there more interested in getting to know the opposite sex before saying they like them it's called finding common ground most shy guys want a relationship with a genuine good woman as long as she's not monkey branching dating multiple men is a definite no
If he has deep feelings for me and he's hiding them then I don't want to be around him anyway.
Me too.
thank you
Exactly. What's the point of being with a man who isn't clear about his feelings? smh... Something is seriously wrong there.
true. Then something is off
May be he does it because he will afraid get rejected from you
That's why he hiding him feeling
Stop hiding them and just tell her!
My goodness when it comes to love I'm so blind. All the signs that someone loves me could all be there but I'd never believe it unless I hear him tell me for himself. I'm not one of those people who will just assume a guy is into me.
Same. 😕
Same here. I want to here it from his mouth.
True, im afraid of rejection and someone disliking me so I never expect someone to like me
But, it’s also a question of “into me, with what intention”. Even with this video, sometimes, with some guys, it can be hard to parse out whether there are mind games, with one night stands in mind or something more honorable.
I once had a guy after me and it went on for a few years. But, he was a hard read, for sure. When he finally tired out, he blurted out that 3 letter word - sex. He blew it. Because it made me feel as if all that effort and maneuvering might’ve only been about sex. I was more mad, than flattered, although I had all sorts of things dancing around in my head, too. I often wondered if he thought to himself, “Welp, I guess I destroyed that opportunity.”
How about instincts...should they really be trusted,
All men are different just as women are all different...best thing, be friends first which is the fondation to a solid and lasting relationship even if it does not work out.
One thing also, we ladies need to be careful with or mindful of there are nice guys out there that are just being nice, It is possible to mistaken nice stuff or kindness for something more than that. I have been definitely guilty of that. We also can end up misinterpreting actions or words. We grab, twist or seek out hidden treasure where none really exists. When in fact he is just being nice. Then the let down hurts like hello baby! Ouch!
@@darcyroyce I was making more of a general statement. There are times when one unexpectedly develops feelings for someone who had been a friend and then one can over Analyze anything they do or say to turn it into something other than being a nice guy. This was not a con artist or anything like that. I always feel like a fool when I do this. I feel so guilty for caring about someone when they don't feel the same way about me. I don't WANT to RUIN a friendship or lose their respect. Right now I am trying to put this person back into the proper zone - the just friends zone. I still have feelings for him. I still care about them deeply and am very drawn to them. But it is wasting time and energy to care about someone when they don't share the feelings. Right now I am trying to dust myself off and focus on things that I like to do and over schedule myself- so I will be too busy to even think of them. I know I am enough on my own and I will be fine. I just got to forget about them that way.
The worst part about being a high value female is that there’s an abundance of low self esteem men pulling away all the time, testing me. I am so tired of that shit. 😵💫
Ah feels like high value woman carry too much of a risk for these men!
… because we are not a sure thing, and they are too fragile to handle rejection = weak men that do not have my respect… its best they stay where they are- away- which clears space for the high value men
This “high value” bullshit needs to cease💀
You sound hostile. Maybe men are picking up on that and wisely choosing to avoid your drama.
Dude same. It’s so annoying.
If a man knows you’re too good for him it makes his insecurity that’s already there deeper.
I’m attracted to men that are super hot but kinda are silly, goofy, or slightly clueless because for some reason I find them endearing. Problem is, these guys usually don’t get a clue about romance
I've got nervousness, attention, lots of instant messages from my LDL. Hope, we'll meet soon, I've met my soul mate ❤
Thanks a lot for your video!!!
You’re like the father I’ve never had! 🥰 I’ve binged watch your videos and just had to say that my soul resonates with your knowledge. I’ve learned so much! I wish this information was available to me as a child. But thankfully now, from your videos - i can make better decisions. When you know better. You do better!
Thank you. Respectfully.
Yess guessing is hard and real man speaks out loud
bro, I super love your advices. I dont know why but your uploads are always on time with my situations. Thank you
I've binged a few of your vids. You're super entertaining, and most of what you say makes pretty good sense. I do find that men in different phases of life behave differently depending on the lessons they have or have not learned. Anyway, I enjoy your take on things, especially that rocket in your pocket!!
Your analyses are interesting and likely accurate for many people. I appreciate what you’re revealing. But I’m more like, just find someone who’s really compatible with you, then cut out the games, and go out and enjoy life together as besties. The rest will flow naturally, especially once trust and familiarity cultivate genuine mutual appreciation and respect. There are many types of love, it’s not best to put the romantic type first because that’s the one most likely to blind you.
You are very witty Brian,thanks for your sense of humour!!
After soooo long... I am again here for the same person!!!
As a man I don’t know that we hide deep feelings 🤔 we can be afraid of rejection, maybe?, but if you approach a man and he doesn’t give you time and attention then he’s not hiding feelings he’s just not interested, yeah ?
Thanks for saying it as is.
I thought he's talking about if a man doesn't approach a woman due to shyness
Thank you for that last bit. At church, this man has been sitting near me and interacting with me for a few months now. For two weeks he sat somewhere else and didn't interact with me at all. This really bothered me and made me feel like I ran him off. The third week he was back to sitting near me and so I was going to ignore him because I thought maybe I had been reading him wrong and that he didn't like me after all, but then he started talking to me anyway. So your video helped me understand what he could have been doing. Thank you!
Thanks for your posting I’m having a very similar situation too 🙌🙌🙌
I like man who has confident with himself frank and absolutely HONEST NO need to listen to their friends advised cause it's a personal feeling you've been through ...Its very hard to understand a onesided love affair that he is the one making his OWN novel .
Mahn so true...id rather have someone who's direct than one who hides
Men are so confusing........ I am tired 😞😞
You are fantastically funny and honest!....Entertaining and knowledgeable...and you make sense!...Thank you!❤❤❤❤
I've recently re-entered the dating sphere, and let me tell you most guys LOVE straight-forward open communication, and if you ask for the same they usually give it. I was really surprised by this to be honest. But if you tell them exactly what you want, you're more likely to get it.. or will find out very quickly if they're unable to give it. It seems that A LOT of us are very scared of rejection and being judged, sometimes to a fault, and I think that causes us to hide away our wants or going after what we deserve from the world. Be unapologetically you, keep your standards high (within reason people!), be honest and open, and the right person will find you :)
Yep. It can sometimes be a m outine field
Sometimes a mine field, but keep trying
Well this explains why I’m alone. He wants to talk and doesn’t like the silence…I don’t like to talk and am looking for a guy who enjoys the quiet like me. If he walks away and he is looking to see if I am interested and will follow…I see him leave and figure he is not interested. If I hear he has been talking about me I get anxious and then I feel insecure if he does say something to me. I’m very introverted.
I think I'm in an ego stand off with someone both holding back on saying that we "would". The circumstances don't allow though, so it's immaterial.
Also, in practice - no decision is a decision.
Agreed! I know someone like myself .. I hide feelings.
Ok ....that rocket bit made me lol!
Your goofy jokes make these videos so awesome!!
Love sticking around till the end of your videos! TY Brian😊
Can j have your email?
For me a stable feeling happens with the connection built up gradually as long as there's a basic level of attraction (I also don't believe we could only find one person attractive despite gender). Otherwise, it's the other man's PERCEIVED myself instead of my true self. His hidden feelings might be centered around his imagination of me. We might be classmates or colleagues, yet this is still different from forming a romantic association, including hanging out. I can't see anything wrong to approach your romantic interests in a direct way. Indeed, confidence might mean they don't fear of loosing you, but it's also important to know a healthy affection tends to form after you get to know more about the other person, not before you could even have a coffee together. This type of partner tend to be less passive-aggressive and unreasonably clingy in a relationship as well.
I always listen to the end. Such good content.
Brilliant as always ❤️❤️
I love that Sam Sparro song, I was just listening to it the other day :)
Great video, thank you for the insight!
Finding your channel has been awesome!
Thanks, this was actually insightful
This made me laugh - I enjoyed your sense of humour!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣The rocket in my pocket... I lost it.. Composer is the prescribed remedy but it has eluded me🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣What a beautiful funny bone you have😁
You are so entertaining! Love your talks.
Thank you. I really love your humour.
Brings back good memories. 😊
Interesting enough I was dating a man as you’re explaining, very nervous, sweaty palms, eyebrow shaking, talking about me to his mom, sister, brothers etc and I wasn’t that into him. But I appreciated how he regarded me. So I gave it a real chance. After a month of dating and seeing each other a lot, I asked him some questions and he got extremely offended and defensive to the point of being really hostile and negative. He even wanted to hang up on me… I was so shocked that this man was so into me but just like a light switch, went bonkers. I decided to end things bc I don’t like hostility like that but I’m wondering Brian, what do you say about a man who appears to be enamored and changes at any sign of questioning or disappointment
Sounds like a personality disorder
@@yaelWolfebaz mmmm thank you
Attachment style dismissive avoidant.. Look up Thais Gibson
@@kokoskokso I’m familiar! I used to be fearful avoidant but this was not dismissive it was combative, more like an FA or BPD
He kept me laughing and the conversation going. We had a great connection. He pulled back and I told him I couldn’t do this for another year. Now we don’t talk. So he’s not worried about me. Apparently he’s back with his ex.
You did the right thing!Were you able to get over him?
@@whatsagoodname1841 He reached out months later but I met someone else. He still sees his ex so I’m glad I moved on.
Damn! Never happened to me. No one has ever shown interest in me! If I say I'm grabbing a drink, I'm on my own. But to begin with, I'm most likely going to be standing alone anyways! I often envy other women; who just stand there and men approach them.
I can relate sis.
I think it’s because weirdly, some women come off as very intimidating. We don’t mean to be.. we also give off the vibes of that we don’t want them to talk to them. I didn’t realize that, until I switched careers. I used to work with 99% women and now I work for 99% men. And apparently I was much more intimidating than I thought. I give off a very independent and I have no time for vibes. So, perhaps that is you as well.
No! It sucks. Nothing worse than being at work feeling like u have to ward off wounded, egotistical idiots
I guess my lawyer does not have a crush on me, I’m happy because he does not act nervous around me .He acts all smart, confident, and flirty .🥳🥳
Great video, as always!
God, what i love about your videos and keep watching them is that they are both entertaining and informative. You have done a wonderful job educating women about men and relationship. Thank you so so much ❤❤❤ Keep up the great work.
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Thank you. This helped a lot
Thank you for these tips! I especially appreciated it when you had me thinking about how a Guy will test to see if a Woman will be interested in him and seek Him out! 👍
I've noticed that I've recently hesitated in choosing a particular Guy from the 3 guys I'm pretty sure our interested in me. Partly because I'm having a hard time moving passed the guy I dumped (yes I did the dumping because I thought it was the "right" thing to do at the time) and then the 3 guys I've gotten to know recently.
In the past I've looked forward to dating, and in some ways I still do, but I think because I've said "No" 3 different times, I'm afraid to invest in someone else again, because I'm not sure if I want to invest my time, energy, and emotions into something that will end. I know I have to keep trying until I find the best match for me and Mr. Right (By that I mean someone I am can fully commit to.) , but I just don't want to keep investing and then saying "no".
So hopefully I can get over my discouragement and try again.
You are entertaining as well as informative 😂
Wow, i've been watching a lot of these types of videos, but urs is like the best one yet. Seriously, especially the part that a guy can get shy-er when he's really liking u or that he'll try to test u to see if u like him...I had my suspicions about what these mean but now I have confirmation. Really good information. Write a book, dood.
I thoroughly enjoyed watching this video too. Love, love, looooved his take on it
Some guys give mixed signals. Signs of interest and signs of no interest. So its even more confusing then
The one i like definitely dont like me back.. trying to get over it.. he is a gentleman and the one for me is yet to come
Once again ...I have to realize I should run away from my current "relationship".
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Amaziiiiing 👌🏻❤ thanks a lot for this practical video .
I love the Rocket joke lmao😂❤❤❤ Cute !! I like Funnies! I love to laugh ! ❤ Good for the Soul!❤
Please do more videos. I like your content and humour 😄 I read all your books (well listened to)
Hi Brian ! 🤗🌸 Can you make a video about , if your man wants you back after leaving you , how do you know he is not playing games ?
As per your title of your message on UA-cam, if that's the situation then he is the only one aware of it and therefore he is the only person who knows because if love is not expressed and shown to the woman of his affection then his deep love for her will remain unknown to the woman.
N.B. If you love a woman she would want the man to express it, say it and show it to her and to not other people, otherwise it will never be received or appreciated.
Therefore when you truly love someone you GIVE hence as written in the bible John 3:16 "For God so love the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life.
Amen! Thats why there is no such thing as a shy man, only a man who does not love enough, as “there is no fear in love, but perfect love casts fear out, because fear restrains us…. The one who is fearful has not been made perfect in love” 1 John 4:18. I decided to stop making excuses for these “shy” fearful men, as they are truly only thinking of themselves. What confident woman wants to condescend to date a man who is fearful? That is not a real man
If you don't love, you don't know God, because God is love.❤️
Thank you for this. Needed to hear this
Omg Brian 😂 you crack me up!
WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN ❤
Happy weekend everyone
nice content.. always 😊
Dating is so much more difficult for females than males. We are so transparent, ya guys are like a puzzle, when we think we are figuring you out, we have no clue!!
Love your video
I just love your videos…true, helpful and funny… -:)
Being friends with a guy seems a lot less complicated than having feelings for a guy. Rejection is a hard pill to swallow; I surely learned that lesson one too many times in high school. I feel like I've entered a stage where I just want to remain single and find other single people that I can casually hang out with.
You funny! 😁
Thanks for the video 👍👏👏🤩
great advice, nice rocket! lol
There are also gestures like straightening cuffs, preening, making sure he's looking good.
This guy is funny but informative!
This seems more for people who are newly dating. So, I don't think "deep" feelings apply here. What signs are there when you've been dating for awhile and they've said they have feelings, but haven't actually told you they love you? Are there clear signs he's in love?
Great questions! I’m curious about answers to them myself
Yessss! I need help with this too.
a sign he‘s in love to me is he does small stuff like hold the door for, is always considerate and tries to start conversations and while he does it you look at him and you just can see it’s no egoistical agenda, it’s love, it’s for you. and it certainly can make him shy or nervous :) that’s what i picked up so far but i‘m only 22
as far as i could observe by pretty many example men who labeled themselves as „loving“ me, i‘d say the safest sign is if he just acts like any person who likes the other, just engaged and attentive and loving. if he is distant instead of this or seems unengaged you dont believe if he says he‘s in love. or if he seems like his mind is somewhere else than where we are. but the same goes for any friendship or family member i think it’s pretty helpful to simplifyit like that 😘
@@bathemeinchampagne We are far beyond interested. He has said things that indicate to me that he is in love, but I may be misinterpreting them. Also, we are in a long distance relationship, so that adds a layer of complexity. We don't get to see each other but every 2-3 months.
Dated someone for 4 months . We saw each other a lot because we worked together. He came on strong and we were having a wonderful time .
Eventually he pulled away a bit and when I would question he would shut down. Not the best communicator with his feelings . His life got busier and he wasn’t fitting me in nearly as much. I was pretty heartbroken and questioned him a couple of times and eventually we split. Now have to see him daily at work . He flirts all the time , and even tells me I’m beautiful.
Why? Does he miss me , want to try again, or just enjoys sex with me ?
Never in my life have I experienced this behavior and I’m 52 years old !
Sounds like a player, he doesn't actually love you, you deserve better
Yeah same happened here although we don't work together. These men can only manage 4 months of dating as they are not the committed types.
they all suck
Sounds like he only wants to show affection to you whenever ~he~ has time/whenever it's 'convenient' to him.. 😏 And he suddenly has more 'time' to do that, because you're technically split up..but when you were together then he doesn't find time.. Guess he can't handle commitment.. Sucks.
Is his name Mike?
Haha the rocket got me 🤣🤣👍🏽
😅
Thank you I can relate.
Hi,
What if when a person has no choice or at least a very difficult one to do, like when his boss is toxic and pervers, and makes him choose between his job(with a rate of hight employment), or his crach on that person.🤔you'd be kind to answer.
Has any one been in this case before.🌈
It is even dependend where we meet each other.Not every place is the opportunity to show this in first
Love the dad jokes
Hiding? Then I guess it don't matter because life is busy and full already.
This was useful
Me watching it after everything is over between us and blocked each other 🤡
This is one of the most frustrating things with guys! They seem to act with absolute contradiction! Pardon my rant, but...
We women love our confident guys & want to be told/ shown "I like you", be made a priority, want to be wanted, etc. We're also told "if he likes you, he'll show it", "if you have to question it, the answer is no", etc. Even men will say this! The biggest problem is the upfront types are the ones looking for a hookup or will hurt you whether it be intentional or via their own issues. Occasionally, they also give chase, making the woman think "wow, he really likes me!" Except for all the times when he actually... well, doesn't 😒
On the other hand, when he hides his feelings, nothing happens & he **dun-dun-dunn** friendzones himself. Often resenting it somewhere along the way to boot. If you treat her like a friend or do the warm-hot-cold-behavior thing, she's likely going to ACT like a friend!!
The worst part is those friendships are often where the foundations of trust, honesty, communication & appreciation are built which is pretty much what we're all seeking. Maybe just with more sex. Thus, insert the fear of potentially losing your best bud if you dare attempt to cross the line & get it WRONG in some form.
Again, 😒
In my experience, guys can/ will also hold onto their feelings for YEARS before they spill their guts. The whole time, you could be watching them go through their own relationships, knowing full well they know how to make a move because they DO... just with other women. That's why it's maddening.
"Men go after what they really want"... but do they really? Or is it after their balls have finally dropped, only long after all the chances have passed them by? Geez.
Omg yes! All of this! You just articulated everything I’ve been thinking lately.
Well said.
🎯💯
@Egert Roosgonna throw a several part answer at you because it's way more complicated for us than guys seem to realize.
Part 1: the whys.
When women put their feelings out in any kind of obvious way or make the 1st move, it greatly increases the chances of being immediately labeled as "easy", "desperate" & not "serious dating material". This leads to us being used for sex, boredom-filler, taken for granted, treated poorly in general. Irregardless of her own character, actions, intentions, self-worth to boot, it's a real risk when we put ourselves out there. It can also set a precedent for the woman to carry the relationship where the guy may act as though he has her hooked for merely existing, thereby putting minimal effort into the relationship.
Then we have the feeling-fakers. There are plenty who will pretend to be attracted to a woman for any number of reasons, even beyond sex. Some can/ will keep up the charade for months to even years if it suits them. Some out there will make games of leading a woman on simply due to resentment for a past hurt where they project it towards hurting all women instead of addressing & processing the feels in a healthy way.
Females are brought up on the notion of his effort = his interest. Little to no consistent effort/ attention = he doesn't want her. It's also what gets us into these player traps. The players have no problem putting in effort & will give chase, making us think the guy is interested when he's not. On top of that, the guy off on the sidelines with his secret crush isn't being considered as a potential suitor BECAUSE he's not making himself known as a potential suitor. In turn, if she doesn't know a guy is interested, she'll NEVER make a move on him either, no matter how she feels. Even the most confident of females need a very obvious green light before they'll consider initiating.
To take that even further, it's a lot easier for us to gauge male intentions by how/what he says when he approaches. We can't accurately gauge it when we initiate because again, guys absolutely will play off of female intentions & fake feelings if they feel like it.
All in all, that's A LOT of uneccessary crap to navigate & watch out for behind one simple act of a woman initiating. Rejection sucks & it's scary, sure. I think it's safe to speak on behalf of all women when I say, we'd ALL prefer the outright rejection VS potentially being strung along for funsies. Some could make the argument of "picking the wrong ones" which can absolutely be true to a point, however also adds to the "don't make a move because you may be wrong about this one too."
Like I said, it's really complicated.
Part 2: the signs of female attraction. They're subtle, yet we do put them out there. They won't seem subtle once you know what you're looking at though.
-- she'll create opportunities for you to notice her or talk to her. Lingering, excuses to make conversation, popping up or passing by places you frequent, work, etc. She may even ask for your help or create little opportunities to look like she needs it when you come around (dropping things, having a minor "emergency" or in a school environment, she may ask for class notes or ideas for a paper or project regularly). Guys do peacocking & showing off. Gals will make themselves present & manufacture an environment or situation for the guy to take the lead.
-- staring, repeated glances, eye contact & **especially how she reacts when you notice her looking**. If she's particularly shy & interested, she will look down & away & blush, smile slightly while trying to hide it. If she's not too shy or her attraction overrides it in the moment, she'll maintain eye contact, blush or smile, look down & then look back to maintain eye contact again. That's one of the biggest green lights btw. We use our eyes a lot to convey attraction.
If she's not at all interested, she may make an unpleasant, uncomfortable face, roll her eyes or just turn her head to the side & look at something else.
Looking down & away = shy & interested. To the side = not interested.
-- Watch the friends: they may act goofy, giggly or tease her a bit the moment you come around. If she's very shy, her friends may even create little opportunities to bring the 2 of you together like inviting you places where she is or regularly bring her name up in convos with you as a way to gauge your interest in her. Along the same lines of making her presence known & manufacturing opportunities, but primarily led by the friend group.
-- subconcious body language: ppl have a tendency to point their toes or head, if not their whole body towards what we like most. So she'll be facing you in some way or keeping you in her sights if she's interested. If her arms/ legs cross or she turns her entire body away when she sees you, she's not interested.
Running away is a funny one, but both men & women will do this when shy or nervous. This is one of those where you then have to look for the other subtle signs or how they look at you. If they go deer-in-headlights around you, they like you & are completely terrified of doing the wrong thing. If she's usually very outgoing & goes quiet when you come near, she likes you. Disgust is a pretty obvious NO.
-- mirroring: if she's interested, she'll subconsciously repeat your actions when you're in her field of view, even from across a room. Say you both are holding a drink. You take a sip, she takes a sip. Scratch your neck, cross your arms, touch your nose, run your fingers through your hair, etc, she'll follow suit seconds later if she likes you. It's a completely subconscious response we do to feel more connected to the person who has our attention. Works like a charm!
You can even use it to create a connection intentionally by 1st mirroring someone's body language for a bit, then taking the lead with your own & seeing if they mirror back. If they do, they're more likely to be receptive to you.
Part 3: my advice
Just make the fking move & get it over with. The worst that happens is she says "no", you slide into a hole of self-pity that you & ONLY you can pull yourself out of. You won't die. You may mourn over your feelings & all the things you once dreamed of. Eventually you'll move on to find someone who actually wants & appreciates you. We're not going to be everyone's flavor & 99% of relationships won't work out as we hope. That's okay & not a reality we can fight.
The best case-scenario, she excitedly says "yes!", you both fall madly in love, get married, fk like bunnies for the rest of your natural lives, picket fence, matching burial plots & so forth.
Either way, you'll never know if you do absolutely nothing & don't make your feelings known! Stuck in limbo, pining away, festering into regret & a lifetime of could-have-beens. That's what you're looking at by doing nothing, leaving it up to her & all the "her"s that will come after. Don't do that to yourself.
The biggest keys to overcoming rejection are 1. not to take it personally... No one has to like you & plenty of ppl will find reasons not to that have absolutely nothing to do with you. Crazy world, but it's truth.
2. Use it constructively (like make improvements that increase your confidence, self-acceptance & self-awareness) vs DEstructively (internalizing & wallowing in negative feelings, turning to negative habits to cope, resentment, anger). DON'T become a victim to your own feels & fears. It gets ugly.
3. Let go of expectations & any attachments to the outcome. We humans love our control over things, but it often results in way more struggle than necessary. If you can hit a point where you expect everything & yet nothing, all that fear & pressure you're putting on yourself goes out the window. Easier said than done & takes practice. Life gets a lot less stressful when you can master this though.
This turned out to be way longer than I expected, but I hope this helps in some ways.
Good luck!
This is what I have been going through. And it's not only maddening, completely stressful, but i've also have been deeply hurt by someone I think the world of. This is their pattern and this only makes me feel like less after we hang out.
Am I not special? No. I was apparently a bandaid. And the most hurtful thing of all, is I feel I am losing my best friend : (
Guys. You want simple but you make shit complicated. It shouldn't be complicated. Stop playing with emotions.
I think I'm in love with my principal and I am one of the teachers in our school. But he's always serious, quiet and too formal. He's a good person but he's always cold and never been into any serious relationship all his life.
Maybe you should be blunt and ask him about how he feels about you?
@@uyennguyen5741 I don't I can do that haha.
I'm not second guessing anyone's feelings!! Nope no way,say it,show it or walk away.
At the end of this video I’m convinced that Brian Nox is harboring deep feelings for me lol
😂😂😂
Thаnk you.
A rocket in your pocket lol! 🤣
Unfortunetly, they'll change rapidly!
i can recognise those signs now bc we had a few with my husband. Also, i got a recent recommendation from my best friend eve that human beings in general should invest lot of time to have the best sex experience and she told me something about natural drops spanish fly and i really told her it's bullshit but it worked on me after 5 drops !! my husband loves me now
ahahaaaa thank you i needed a good laugh
damn why i didn't hear of them before? these natural drops are life for me. my partner stopped saying i'm bad in bed !
I got it. The messages. But after i also showed my interest, he sudd pulled himself😂