how to deal with TOXIC PEOPLE | 9 signs of a toxic friend and how to cut them out of your life!
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How to spot FAKE FRIENDS...This video covers the 9 types of toxic friends, how bad friendships affect your life, how to deal with this, how to cut them off, cope with the loneliness and heal from the aftermath of a friendship breakup. (MY EARRINGS ARE MY OWN BRAND! Follow @ sajanastudio on Instagram xxx)
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which types of toxic friends have you had to deal with before? 🥴 me? I've experienced the thief, the snake, the energy vampire and the bad influence. 🥲
The friend that hangs out with people that damage your feelings and agrees.
ALL 😳 (but I cut them all off this is from before dwww haha)
Are u punjabi?
Combos of them all! Weeee!
I've dealt with the snake and energy vampire. the energy vampire was very recent and I blocked her a few days back but I was too young to do anything about the snake when I knew her. currently wanting to cut off a high maintenance friend to my low maintenance
Friendly reminder if you’re watching this video because you fear you might be toxic that its a sign you’re not toxic, because toxic people never reflect on their own actions. Love you!! xoxo
I’m scared I’m the clueless one tho 😭
@@ems_. same tho 💀
Facts
@@ems_. ITS OK IF YOU THINK YOU ARE ATLEAST NOW YK AND YOU CAN WORK ON IT
Really need to hear this ig...🥺❤
friendly reminder that it’s totally okay to just stop talking to people that don’t respect you. you don’t owe everyone an explanation
Omg thank you I needed this
Duh
Having toxic friends gave me anxiety and depression, i used to always get negative thoughts and would be pessimistic about everything in life
Soooon true
There is a friend of mine she is okay as per me but sometimes I think she I to much recently I was send her some links of institutions and she was like idiot y r u sending me this I am asking about other language so i said I am helping u and u are calling me idiot she didn't reply , one more incident in front of so many she called me pumpkin cause I am fat. And once she came to my house and telling my grandparents that i don't know how to read marathi and she gets jealous. Once i was asking my friend why she didn't call that day and that my friend reply was ara idiot she was got out I also reply I am asking about farewell.So is she good or I am over thinking. She had said Idiot, mad, pagal so many times and don't like it then to she says. I she good or am I over thinking
one more type of friend: The Condescender. They make you feel bad about everything, and make sure you know that they are better than you. They always drop hints of why you aren't good enough, and nitpick everything you do. They make you feel stupid, and have a big enough ego that you can't hurt them back. They act clueless about what they are doing, and insist that they are your most supportive and helpful friend. But really they are just trying to undermine you and make you feel guilty for the life you are leading. Like the name, they are SUPER condescending, and will stop at nothing to make sure you know they are nicer, smarter, more talented, more helpful, and a better friend then you. BEWARE of this type, because they will make you feel guilty about everything and a lot of times you don't even realize they are toxic, you just think they are speaking the truth about everything that is wrong with you.
had a narcissist friend that she was this ...
Had a friend exactly like this
^whats happening to me rn :/
Had 5 friends like this for 4 years. Ruined my mental health and grades too.
It's actually going on in my life I don't know how to deal with her anymore .I feel guilty everyday thought I'm the one who is toxic but every time I try so hard to understand me I feel devastated can't act like I don't care or ovoid her I don't know how to act or how to make her to understand me💔
On keeping friends around just because of all the good memories/you’ve been friends for so long: “You are prioritizing your past over your future” 🤯 such a good point!
Now I know what direction to follow with old friends. Especially the toxic ones
YES! This helped me make a strong decision to stop dealing with a lifelong friend who just doesn't make me happy anymore.
Never prioritize them too muchh they will definitely take you for granted, remember you're only their friend THEY'RE NOT YOURS!!. Set boundaries, never tell anyone about your personal life. LIKE NEVER because by chance if u ever get into a fight wid them, they'll definitely puke your secrets out and they'll laugh on you. LIVE RESPECTFULLY GIRLIES
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One tip: always express yourself when you're with friends. Say stuff like "I don't think talking this negatively is good for us", you might actually make them realize certain things. If there is no change or respect for boundaries tho, don't tolerate that.
I was the toxic friend and everything she saying I needed to hear soooo bad. My best friend cut me off because of a boundary I crossed with her and I understand now. This just encourages me to continue with inner work and healing myself so I can show up better for my current bestfriend and future friendships ♥️
Proud of you for wanting to work on yourself! You can do this 💪
@@parastu388 Thank you so much!! 🥰
@@Greshymarroneur soo strong.. Omg
Omg takes courage to admit you should be so proud of yourself,this is what I wish my friend realised rather than flipping it on me …yourself awareness is good and I’m glad ur gonna do the inner work
There is a friend of mine she is okay as per me but sometimes I think she I to much recently I was send her some links of institutions and she was like idiot y r u sending me this I am asking about other language so i said I am helping u and u are calling me idiot she didn't reply , one more incident in front of so many she called me pumpkin cause I am fat. And once she came to my house and telling my grandparents that i don't know how to read marathi and she gets jealous. Once i was asking my friend why she didn't call that day and that my friend reply was ara idiot she was got out I also reply I am asking about farewell.So is she good or I am over thinking. She had said Idiot, mad, pagal so many times and don't like it then to she says. I she good or am I over thinking
This literally happened to me last summer when I realized the people that were close to me weren’t right for my mental health. I literally lost my whole friend group, then simultaneously went thru a spiritual awakening and went thru a rebirth and more self trust and self love. Horrible and chaotic experience at the time but 8 months later I’m Soooooo much better off. Now, I’d rather be alone and have no friends, rather than people who don’t value me.
Slayyy queen 💕
Same
what is spiritual awakening and rebirth?
Omg I'm going through the same thing rn I hope it gets easier
I relate to this so much
Last year I got rid of FIVE people because I started prioritizing myself. Really, if you're a respectful, selfless person with good intentions you need to be so careful. Put your energy into the right people and don't forget you can't pour from an empty cup!
I just got rid of four. Any advice? When did you start feeling whole again?
@@BeYounique...Maryanne took me around 7 months. It was a tough time, sometimes lonely and frustrating but so so so necessary. I'm a lot more at peace with myself now, secure in myself and I can stand my ground. There's more time and energy for the people who actually love you AND the ones YOU love. So yeah. It gets better! Hang in there, you got this.
@@nikecontd Thanks a million!
There is a friend of mine she is okay as per me but sometimes I think she I to much recently I was send her some links of institutions and she was like idiot y r u sending me this I am asking about other language so i said I am helping u and u are calling me idiot she didn't reply , one more incident in front of so many she called me pumpkin cause I am fat. And once she came to my house and telling my grandparents that i don't know how to read marathi and she gets jealous. Once i was asking my friend why she didn't call that day and that my friend reply was ara idiot she was got out I also reply I am asking about farewell.So is she good or I am over thinking. She had said Idiot, mad, pagal so many times and don't like it then to she says. I she good or am I over thinking
I think the running theme is learn how to be comfortable alone. It’s a hard reality.
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Great point. Sometimes it's not a friendship but a habit. I just made a clean slate, no contact with a few of them.
There is a friend of mine she is okay as per me but sometimes I think she I to much recently I was send her some links of institutions and she was like idiot y r u sending me this I am asking about other language so i said I am helping u and u are calling me idiot she didn't reply , one more incident in front of so many she called me pumpkin cause I am fat. And once she came to my house and telling my grandparents that i don't know how to read marathi and she gets jealous. Once i was asking my friend why she didn't call that day and that my friend reply was ara idiot she was got out I also reply I am asking about farewell.So is she good or I am over thinking. She had said Idiot, mad, pagal so many times and don't like it then to she says. I she good or am I over thinking
@@Sanskruti-2222 Maybe let her go. There are other people out here that are more worthy 💕
I don't know if they're toxic but I've grown tired of my friendship circle. It just feels like they don't grow and accept what isn't good in their life. I feel drained about how they wallow in their misery and don't try to cheer me up when I face sadness / disappointed
That’s toxic. You’re surrounded by people with a victim mindset while you have a surviver mindset. Get away from them.
@@lc-do5eo Oh dang. That explains why I'm always so exhausted whenever I'm around them and so refreshed when I do my own thing.
There is a friend of mine she is okay as per me but sometimes I think she I to much recently I was send her some links of institutions and she was like idiot y r u sending me this I am asking about other language so i said I am helping u and u are calling me idiot she didn't reply , one more incident in front of so many she called me pumpkin cause I am fat. And once she came to my house and telling my grandparents that i don't know how to read marathi and she gets jealous. Once i was asking my friend why she didn't call that day and that my friend reply was ara idiot she was got out I also reply I am asking about farewell.So is she good or I am over thinking. She had said Idiot, mad, pagal so many times and don't like it then to she says. I she good or am I over thinking
There is one more type of toxic friends in my opinion .
The one who will get to know your all secrets, they will even read your diary but when it comes to their secret suddenly they become so private.😅😅
After watching this video I have realised I don't have any friends in my life who will stand with me , I feel sad that I couldn't make one good friend in my entire life.
I'm the same. Maybe you're a Sigma female like I am? They just do better on their own and want quality over quantity. And people can't figure them out because they are equally outgoing and shy. Sigmas are the rarest type of female. Learning I was one was empowering because I honestly thought there was something wrong with me before. Then it all made sense, learning I was Sigma, then finding this video. The pieces of the puzzle are coming together.
There is a friend of mine she is okay as per me but sometimes I think she I to much recently I was send her some links of institutions and she was like idiot y r u sending me this I am asking about other language so i said I am helping u and u are calling me idiot she didn't reply , one more incident in front of so many she called me pumpkin cause I am fat. And once she came to my house and telling my grandparents that i don't know how to read marathi and she gets jealous. Once i was asking my friend why she didn't call that day and that my friend reply was ara idiot she was got out I also reply I am asking about farewell.So is she good or I am over thinking. She had said Idiot, mad, pagal so many times and don't like it then to she says. I she good or am I over thinking
Types of toxic friends 1:45
How this affects your life 7:13
How to cut them off 10:10
Are you a toxic friend? 17:04
Dealing with the aftermath 18:39
Ohh you are an angel
I'm going through a friendship breakup, I had no choice but to ghost them because they are so dramatic and never misses a chance when it comes to spreading hate and rumors. I really needed to let them go. Right now I feel a bit lonely (but I already have a good friend) but I tell myself that I'm making rooms for welcoming more secure and lovely people into my life but first I need to heal.
Omg ,,,Sameeeee hereeee
There is a friend of mine she is okay as per me but sometimes I think she I to much recently I was send her some links of institutions and she was like idiot y r u sending me this I am asking about other language so i said I am helping u and u are calling me idiot she didn't reply , one more incident in front of so many she called me pumpkin cause I am fat. And once she came to my house and telling my grandparents that i don't know how to read marathi and she gets jealous. Once i was asking my friend why she didn't call that day and that my friend reply was ara idiot she was got out I also reply I am asking about farewell.So is she good or I am over thinking. She had said Idiot, mad, pagal so many times and don't like it then to she says. I she good or am I over thinking
My ex best friend was like this and I cut them off completely because as soon as I started improving in life they completely turned on me. It’s taken me a year to comprehend it and I’m still healing from it. The fact that she checks off all the boxes you mentioned.. I was wayyy too nice. I left silently the minute I spoke up for myself and she treated me like I wasn’t ever a friend to begin with
The same happens to me tod ,she started to follow everyone I follow ,it doesn't if she knows who are they she just wants to now everyone I meet or talk with ,and I notice that but I said to myself no way it's only me ,I think of her like that cause Im overthinking a lot but when my other friends notice that ,I said omg it's not me overthinking,it's real ,and today I decide cut off with her .And Im so happy that I notice that before she steals all my friends
I'm sorry ,my English isn't good 😭💔
19:40 This was so well spoken! I just recently at the beginning of the year cut off a friend of almost 9 years. It was super super hard but I knew that no matter what the past was she wasn’t treating me the way I deserved to be treated in the present. At times I think I can’t believe I spent almost half of my life with someone and now they’re a stranger. She was my only friend and I was left with no one but I knew that being alone was way better then sticking with someone that was draining my energy and making me feel bad and alone. Cutting off people who aren’t meant for you anymore is definitely not easy but NECESSARY for living your life to the fullest.
7 years of friendship ended the previous year. Love for her blinded me from actually seeing the obvious red signals..I am still healing from it. When I feel lonely, I remind myself that you should not eat poison just because you are hungry.
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How are you☺
Being with solumate kinda Best friend (basically a Green Flag) for 6yrs and being left with no friend (only surface level one's) for almost 4yrs. I can say this having a genuine friend in life is generally a previlage and blessing but not need.
- (An Introvert)
There is a friend of mine she is okay as per me but sometimes I think she I to much recently I was send her some links of institutions and she was like idiot y r u sending me this I am asking about other language so i said I am helping u and u are calling me idiot she didn't reply , one more incident in front of so many she called me pumpkin cause I am fat. And once she came to my house and telling my grandparents that i don't know how to read marathi and she gets jealous. Once i was asking my friend why she didn't call that day and that my friend reply was ara idiot she was got out I also reply I am asking about farewell.So is she good or I am over thinking. She had said Idiot, mad, pagal so many times and don't like it then to she says. I she good or am I over thinking
Even if they are nice people, they can still be toxic or very incompatible with you, so just rip the band-aid off and let them go. Don’t feel guilty, especially if after you’ve had an honest talk with them and STILL feel drained and don’t have the energy to invest into the friendship.
That's so true. Some can be very nice, but they just don't get you, so you have to let go.
Ever since childhood I’ve been surrounded by toxic friends and I’ve never felt sad ghosting them but the fact is sometimes life gets so tough I wish I had a friend to talk to but in the end I have been always lonely and that’s one thing in my life I’ve been struck forever since and I feel so bad sometimes . I pray anyone reading this will find true friends like them and live a happy life. Having no friends is like a curse that I am trying to accept because literally until this day I could not find a true friend
Il est vrai que parfois, on voudrait un vrai ami, une personne sur qui on peut compter mais ne pas en avoir n’est pas une malédiction. C’est bateau mais quand on apprend à s’aimer, à se tolérer, à s’écouter, on peur devenir notre propre ami. Et pour le coup, nous serions toujours là pour nous mêmes malgré les hauts et les bas.
Une fois, j’ai trouvé une personne qui était comme moi ou du moins, j’avais l’impression que c’était une personne que je pourrais fortement apprécier. J’aurais aimé apprendre à le connaitre tout doucement mais malheureusement, il a déménagé. Nos interactions se résument principalement à des sourires béats et des jeux enfantins. Enfin bref, j’ai apprécié ces moments simples passés ensemble, c’était pour la première fois que j’ai ressenti cette sensation d’être « connecté ». Tout ce que je veux dire, c’est qu’il n’est pas impossible de trouver des personnes qui nous correspondent fortement. Ces personnes te tombent dessus un peu comme l’amour, ce qui veut dire qu’il est inutile d’essayer de chercher un vrai ami.
Done it aftee 12 years of friendship, last 5-6 years were already made me doubt of it. I levelled up ever since! It is worth it, even if you loved them. ❤
Well said!
The snake, puppet master, leech, the silent spy, the fraud, and the two-faced all in one. And the the bad influence in another.
I don't feel like the clueless friend or the one who is always venting is necessarily toxic. I just think that they're broken and need to work on themselves first.
No but their unconscious lack of boundaries means they drain you
The number of people I had in my mind to block just after watching this video ☠️ Thanks girl for removing some data from my phone and lightening my brain 💗
Proud of u
I had a friend who was an “energy vampire” as you said, every time we would talk she would be complaining just for the sake of it, being nothing but negative about every aspect of her life. The worst part is that when i wasn’t able to provide with the support that she demanded i would feel bad about not being there for her. On top of that, when i had an issue that i wanted to discuss she would always shift it to her having it worse, minimizing my problems or straight up laughing at me for being corcerned about certain things. If anyone going through this is reading just please believe me, they do not deserve your time and energy, once I decided to cut this “friend” out of my life i felt much happier and less judged, i hope you’ll feel the same ❤
Thank you so much you helped me
Omg literally your comment describes that one "friend" of mine,thank you for the advice!
Soo true
Ya same Such friends who are very toxic and no matter how lovingly we talk to them, they never support us and always draw our energy. They themselves are never happy and even if we feel positive, they give us negative vibes, due to which we feel only and only sadness.
I want friends that really deserve me my kind ness my love my care who gives m sane respect love
this video was a literal sign for me! things you mentioned have been exactly happening to me - it's like you read my mind! THANK YOU 💗
the fact that she gets more and more gorgeous with every video
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I am the clueless friend :) and I am actually aware of it and try to control myself actively i usually end up distancing myself from my friends just to avoid be an effing mess and all over the place a friend one time told me "gather yourself girl" and honestly that hit me hard xD I geniunely do not know how to change the situations
Proud of you for the Self awareness ❤️
Sameeeee 😂 I’m in therapy don’t worry
There is a difference between Ghosting and No Contact. Last one is about your safety and gaining absolute distance from toxicity or abuse. Don't beat yourself up for leaving an abuse relationship (romantic, friendship, family, coworkers). Ghosting refers actually to suddenly ignoring someone you're dating.
I just caught off a friend yesterday. I'd known her for years but I noticed more recently she was subtly trying to tear me down. Yesterday it was just more blunt. I feel better for cutting the negativity off.
Tam, loving this content. People need to here about a friend vs a fake one.
Thank you and absolutely!!
@@tamkaur This is so true. Exactly what you stated, "we need to have friends that we align" with.
I just realised that I have all of these toxic people in my life. I thought I was the problem but now I realised that THAY ARE THE PROBLEM. There toxicity exhaust me ahhh!
YES!! That's exactly it!! I just got rid of FOUR I couldn't talk to because if I tried I was called "crazy" or "why are you doing this to me?" or another who went into total defense mode. THEN, I saw the most negative change in myself -- I actually caught myself doing it. I was talking about people! Something I never did before! I turned into a gossip because these people were making me nuts. I was trying too hard to get them to like me more. I kept being nicer, and nicer, and nicer and it backfired. Some people don't want "nice" they want "comfortable." And I was a fish out of water. By not being my honest self, I lost myself.
Its hard to find like minded people, especially after my spiritual journey and healing from childhood trauma. People who resonate with me so far are certain youtube personalities. Its a lonely path because its not like i can befriend them, unless i align with them become a youtube personality etc. Idk i need to join some group
I know how you feel. Me too. And I’m sorry, but you’ll get through it, and find someone who fits you perfectly
I was in toxic group in 12th grade, but in time being I understand and ghost the whole group. After watching this I think I was right , thank you 😊
I had to cut off a friendship with an old friend because she stopped having time to hangout due to her bf. Weeks with no text, and would only reach out when she’s in a fight with him or he cancels on her, she never had time for me anymore. It hurt but I knew I didn’t deserve that type of disrespect when I poured my heart into supporting her every need.
😫I was literally thinking about ending toxic friendships and this video just enlightened me… thank you so much baby girl ❤
I just ghosted two Lola’s and I never felt better, after 5 years of being bullied by my friends I finally feel like I can start living life. I felt bad about ghosting them and they found accounts they texted me from after that, but honestly like u said, even through one message they victimized themself and acted like they did nothing. Thank you for giving people like me some closure, because I felt like I’ve done something wrong.
girl your energy is full of positivity i feel sooo relaxed and happy while watching your videos!
You may have missed one, the friend who schedules with your then flakes or say something like I wanna hang out more but almost never hangs out or even txts you back until 2-3 weeks later
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Yup. I have that “friend”. She makes plans and 10 minutes after our scheduled time, she doesn’t have time anymore and cancels. I was canceled over 5 times in a month and that’s when I thought. Fuck it, I’m not dealing with this shit anymore. That’s so disrespectful and what’s even more disrespectful, she doesn’t see a problem with it. I feel like this type of person fits in the leech category
i had a best friend like this which would always cancel our plans and just ignore me and my other friend (we were a trio) and only come to us when she was bored. We weren’t even a priority so we ended up cutting her off
There is a friend of mine she is okay as per me but sometimes I think she I to much recently I was send her some links of institutions and she was like idiot y r u sending me this I am asking about other language so i said I am helping u and u are calling me idiot she didn't reply , one more incident in front of so many she called me pumpkin cause I am fat. And once she came to my house and telling my grandparents that i don't know how to read marathi and she gets jealous. Once i was asking my friend why she didn't call that day and that my friend reply was ara idiot she was got out I also reply I am asking about farewell.So is she good or I am over thinking. She had said Idiot, mad, pagal so many times and don't like it then to she says. I she good or am I over thinking
This video was so relatable and helpful. I find it difficult to let people go even if they're toxic or bad for me and when I do finally let them go it feels so much better.
Thank you Tamanna for coming into my life through your content on UA-cam, instagram and TikTok. I'm so glad I crossed paths with your page. I shared one of your TikTok video's on my insta because you are the first person I saw who talked about how it's not necessary for each relationship to be toxic when it ends. I went through this exact same thing 2 months back and still the flashes come across sometimes but yes I know it's all for the good. I really hope someday I can get a chance to see you in person and express my gratitude ! Thank you :)
After listing to this I realised my gut feeling was always right about my friends but the problem is that I never let them go but it's ok cause highschool is over now,
Tam, thank you so much for making me feel normal. The guilt that comes after cutting people off.
When you were talking about the friend that is just a hot mess I felt that so hard. I have always felt bad about leaving friends like that. It always broke my heart but now I'm learning where my boundaries are. Thankyou for your beautiful words girl.
your every sentence is so convincing, so smart, you speak to me like nobody ever has. THANK YOU! you are only 22 and already so smart. Can't wait how you progress and how you teach life when you're 40 :)
Recently realized I was toxic so I left my friends and started working on myself.
This video is making me feel so seen, i just got out of mine and they were so toxic that i always felt frustrated, angry, annoyed and so on but when i finally left i actually and finally felt relieved physically, emotionally and spiritually. This video really inspires me to become a better person and to have courage and confidence to be my own person and to fight these personal battles
This song suits my situation today "all my friends toxic all ambition less rude and always negative " like don't even have a single Good friend. All are toxic afff
I just want to say you are an absolute ray of sunshine there is no video of yours I don't LOVE. I love seeing your authenticity and amazing self love journey
You're the best!
I started watching your videos yesterday and this is the exact video I needed, thank you so much
This video is SUCH a lifesaver omg. I’ve had a bad feeling about two friends for a while, one of them who i’ve been friends with for ages. I needed this guidance and reassurance to do what I had to do, thank you so much ❤
beauty with brains i must say, thankyou so much for the elder sister advices. i feel so lucky to came across your channel, wanna gatekeep it so bad
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this video was actually so helpful. Many of my thoughts actually was brought up so i did not feel so alone anymore🥰
I’m embarrassed to admit that I used to kinda be an energy vampire, tho I was completely unaware of what I was doing and have stopped that behavior since and am trying to better myself.
I’m so proud of you for wanting to improve yourself🩷
Please do a video on setting boundaries with people within your life in a healthy way I find myself to be a people pleaser sometimes too often (although I am working on it) would definitely love to hear your take on it love the videos you have helped me so much on my self love journey thank you!❤
Is that you in your PFP?? You're literally so pretty 😭
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THIS VIDEO IS A HUGE BLESSING!
It’s way better to have 0 friends than be stuck in the same toxic group for 5 years that all turn into enemies in the end
I think I am the energy vampire and this video made me realize so many things, thank you
Thank you so much Tam!! I’ve been feeling so horrible thinking I’m doing something wrong for not chasing after this ‘friend’ of mine who’s an energy vampire. Now it’s clear that I wasn’t indeed wrong about how I felt in that friendship. This literally helped me so much.
Much love!! ✨
Why is this video so underrated 🥺Love you, thank you!❤️
ik im like 7 months late but this actually helped a lot, like 20 minutes ago one of my best friends just turned into a stranger because she kept accusing me of stuff i didn’t do or over exaggerating the littlest thing, so thank you.
NEEDED THIS VIDEO!!!! my friend alwaysssss copies things i do or say and i know it’s probably bc she admires me but it makes me so annoyed and depressed!!! learning to set boundaries and making sure they are kept up!!
this video is a MASSIVE eye opener! after I watched this vid I immediately left our "friend" GC.
They added me back one time and when I left again they didn't even bother adding me again. None of them asked me why I left or if I'm alright.
I know it's just a gc but it shows how much they wanted me out of their group. I found out from another friend that they had their own gc without me and there, they would invite each other to go hang out. They only chat on the gc that I'm on just so they could go to my house and hang out there.
I honestly feel super betrayed but I did this to myself. Thank you so much tam! you're the hero I never even thought of needing but actually deserved
I had a situation with toxic friendships and I literally ghosted so hard and still lowkey am, is it bad because I don't think it is since I am protecting my peace. Also love your videos keep up the amazing work!😁
Protect your peace always!
Always prioritise your mental health and peace girl💕
Thanks for helping us to level up and get Into our best versions:) sending tons of love to you from India💗✨
It's my pleasure 😇
This was much needed! ❤
Girl u are the top five people I spend the most time with 😂😂😂 (work colleagues notwithstanding). Love your videos so much, they’re so inspiring - I just got ‘Attached’ with an audible free trial last night and I’m not regretting it. Bless you bestie 💕
It's so important for me as I have lost many of my friends and yes I am constantly feeling what's so wrong within me and the reason why I can't have a stable relationship friendship but yes lot to improve within thank you for the video
Highly appreciated
I agree with you 100 percent and have recently cut four out of my life.
The part about high maintenance friends and low maintenance friends -- I can do either, as long as it's not a roller coaster. Like someone being all high maintenance, calling me every day, saying things like, "I feel like I didn't see you in forever" when it was only a week, THEN going from that to not calling, not answering emails, and only calling you when they want something. And when you call them on it, they say you're crazy. Uh, that's not me being crazy, it's them being a terrible "friend."
Very creative and easy to understand with signs and characters . Good work
i literally take notes of you!! you started your self love journey 1-2 years back and now you are just 💗. And I m beginning today . hope to see myself grow like you in following years.!!
you really is one out of the 5 friends thats average sums up to be me. 💓💓
Love from India 💝💝🌸🌸
Good luck!
I want to thank you so much for me it seems helpful and hopefully your advice will work for me.
For 3 years I've been friends with someone whose a mix of all 9 types you mentioned in this video, and there was no way of getting out of this friendship...I've talked to that person about thier bad behaviour and what actions they are doing that are bothering me, they would act like they are sorry but deep down I know they don't feel sorry for anything, they never changed, instead they would act like a victim every time we talked about it.
My head hurts anytime I remember that person and I seriously need to leave. So wish me luck :)
Loved this! Such an important messege to spread that how you look is the least interesting thing about you. 😊 thanks for sharing.
Thankyou soo much 😀U can't even imagine how much u have helped me .....l would rather live alone than live as a sheep to comfort a wrong crowd.....Thanks once again.......
Lots of love ❤️
Side note, the more I watch you, the more I realise I have to find my eyeliner style. Yours looks amazing babes 💗💗
thank you youtube for putting this woman in my home page omg- i love you already🫶🏼
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the fraud one is so freaking true. there's this girl i'm friends with, and she does every single thing you described in that section. omg, i'm actually so thankful u made this vid
now realizing all of my friends including me are toxic to each other, we all deserve better friends fr
Ugh… not me realizing the individual that caused me to go down this cutting off friends rabbit hole on UA-cam fits into ALL of these categories 😞 I do agree, I cannot be stuck on the past and how things were, or the good old days. Gotta focus on the future. It is what it is now, maybe it’ll be different someday, but I can’t hold onto that hope. I’ll believe it when I see it and until then, I’ll let go. Silently. I’ve been the toxic friend myself, especially in my early 20’s. Now in my 30’s, so many lessons have been learned in just one decade, but not all friends learn the same lessons sadly. Thanks for this ❤️ Needed it.
omg this is motivating me to journal all my ideal best friend/partner qualities !!
love this
Thank you😘 love this content, so excited for the part 2💕
It’s out now!! Xx
This content is amazing ! You’re totally and incontrovertibly right ❤
Out of topic but you are so gorgeous! ❤ Thank you so much for making this video. It helped a lot!
This video saved me one year of therapy. Thanks! ♥
THANK U FOR THIS THIS IS SO HELPFUL FOR ME RNNNN
Tam, just wanna say, you're a live saver ❤
Thank you sooooo very much for your kind heart and soul to give us good knowledge and skill to help us being aware of our self sabotaging thoughts and actions that I've been doing for years of my existence, I'm broken and I thought I my hope is only if I have lots of money which I cannot afford to pay for counseling and therapist to give me all what you said. Bless your heart Tam
You are incredible!! Keep doing you!! 🥰❤
thank you sooo much for this video. i genuinely needed it
This is the type of videos I NEEDED for moooonthsss, and there is another video coming??? OMGGG
Yesss🥰🥰🥰
I usually never comment on any videos but you literally changed my mindset and I can relate so much with your videos especially how to be happy single video thank you so much for creating awesome content I can proudly say you are part of my top 5 people and i love you so much.
Thank you so much!!
THE VIDEO I WANTED ALL MY LIFE
tam ur channel has helped me so much ty! ur my fav UA-cam atm :) it’s really nice to see a brown girl making self growth content 💐 also ur earrings r so pretty omg 😍🤩
Thank you so much!! My earrings are my own brand which are launching soon! @sajanastudio on instagram ❤️
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Bro she's saving my life
Thank you ❤ you have helped me heal and get away from toxic friendships 🎉
This video was very eye-opening. Especially the part with list of questions. Thank you ❤
Glad it was helpful!
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i am so grateful to have found your channel!💖
Welcome!!
I always feel very energetic and positive when I watch your videos