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definitely not okay you're in the midst of the most debased degradation of society before the total collapse of civilization it's happening return to living in accordance with nature, symbiotically with the earth - eco-centrism we are meant to be caretakers of each other and all that dwell upon the earth, but modern society is about human-centrism, the human endeavor, exploitation and destruction - this is narcissism look into: wendigo
Every comment you read was from a female, yet you said PEOPLE are delusional. Why is it so hard for you to simply criticize and call out women? When it’s time to get on men, get on men. It’s a common occurrence with your content and other female creators in the space
Courtney I know you don’t want people to feel stupid or bad but like it or not until we shame and mock these delusions it won’t change. A lot of these quote adults act like children and need to be told your wrong. It’s been a good decade of trying to convince women now I think that time is over. You may get them for a few videos but feminism and delusion have them from kindergarten to college
"Toxic positivity is eliminating critical thinking and realism from our society." One of the most profound things I have heard on UA-cam. Thanks for those wise words!
@@rockon8174 Not really. Paradoxical is more the word you're looking for. Toxic Positivity is grossly unthinking behaviour like telling survivors of violent crime that "every cloud has a silver lining" for example.
I thought the wisdom was in the paradox found space between "toxic" and "positivity." Positivity was pushed pass the tipping point to became negative. Thus, the paradox.
It’s crazy how delusional people are. I see it with people I know. Barely take care of themselves, horrible spending habits, bad diet, but think they can land a millionaire who looks like a movie star. The entitlement is real.
I'm six foot and make six figures and I just recently ended a relationship because of the delusion and entitlement. She was never satisfied and if anything I'm sad for these women. This mindset of most of them will leave them dying alone and miserable. Keep the content coming Miss Ryan!
@@Primitive_Code If youre the dude on the pic... you need to just grown a beard to hide the weak chin. For what ive learned in US if youre tall its all you need to get sex. But with that money per year forget girlfriend they will be a burden and a drain. Just hit and quit. Relationships today are communism for 2, transference of your money to her.
I think part of this issue is that people turned 'dating standards' into wishlists and don't realize that they did so. There's a difference between 'I want someone who is adult enough to work, pay their own bills, own their own vehicle and I like dancing so we should do that a couple of nights a month' and 'they must make 300k, fully support me, be in the top 1% of human genetics and exercise and never judge me on anything'. Like...come back to earth where the rest of us are.
Implicit to the term "standards" is that they should actually be standard for you. Meaning you are accustomed to them. What women today call their "standards" are often things that they have never actually had. So you are correct, it is just a wish list.
You know that old couple that’s been married for 50+ years? The “that’s how love should be” couple? They succeeded because of sacrifice, understanding, compromise and communication.
Those relationships are almost going the way of the dinosaurs. I have a few friends who have relationships like that, and man, I hope it stays that way. 🙏
Stop dating, fellas. This is getting ridiculous. Be a leader. Have discipline, make your life better. When they figure it out we are back in business… As men, we must lead ALL of us out of this hell…
average doesn't exist though an average is a result of combining all the things that DO exist within a certain parameter (women, men, number of hits at bat), not an individualized account of the things that make up the parameter it's reductionary, not explanatory
@@zerpblerd5966 you can be average at one thing and excellent at something else. Average appearance but very smart. Or below average intelligence and above average personality. So you are right there is no ‘one size fits all average person’
Being "average" nowadays has such a negative connotation on it when the reality is that most people are average everyday people. You can be a confident person while recognizing you're just a person with real problems and life issues like the next man, but everybody it seems is more focused on being "high value" when, if everyone was "high value" then the term wouldn't exist. Even that phrase is poorly defined nowadays with everyone giving it their own spin, but being a "high value" person is simply about being someone with character, morals, and being someone who provides value to those around you and your community. It's not about the luxury and wealth or the look of a celebrity, but about what you do for others and how you carry yourself as a person.
Pretty much. "Wealth is a great servant but a poor master" - Seneca I believe. "It is not the creation of wealth that is wrong, but the love of money for it's own sake" - Thatcher. To counterbalance this, a saying attributed to the Scottish: "Money can't buy you happiness, but it is more comfortable to cry in a SUV than on a bicycle". Finally, to wrap up with paraphrasing Simon Sinek "Confidence is believing in yourself. Arrogance is treating all others as inferior. Confidence inspires. Arrogance destroys."
I agree with your comment. Here's the problem: you can define "high value" in the best light possible according to character, values, and morals. Those traits are not easily measured, especially for capitalistic or entertainment purposes. The term "high value" is not poorly defined; it is poorly measured. The dominant culture MEASURES "high value" according to money making or entertainment traits: number of followers, beauty, luxury items acquired, status job, physique, etc. If you can't become a brand within the dominant culture, they have measured you as not high value. Normal and average are failures in this world now. Who wants to be a "failure" or be part of a failing or not high value relationship?
2:55 Courtney genuinely looks incredibly sad. she knows that MOST people dont even make 70k/year and these people genuinely hurt her by tying quality of a person to their income.
70k a year is like lower level income depending on the city you live in. Some of these cities have such insane cost of living that a higher yearly salary thats not high enough becomes a bit of a trap- Your working class doing quite well, but then suddenly the little things that you would've qualified for that could help you live get taken away.... and THEN your paying hidden taxes on top of that. Some cities (like Vancouver) are so fucking backwards its impossible to make the most income and your competition with rich foreigners who did not make their income who buy up all the property and boomers who want to downsize Yikes bit of a wall of text there.... in this town couples move in together all the fucking time "to test the relationship" but really mostly out of necessity
@@Matanumi for a city dweller it might be harder to live off, but most people in the country don’t live in LA, New York City or Chicago, so the averages being below 70k aren’t directly related to the big 3’s higher income necessary for big city living
" She will only date a millionaire" I wonder if she realizes That her placing his value on how much money he makes won't even get her on a millionare's radar let alone the front door. The sense of entitlement is a complete turn off to any man
I think the whole “having a checklist” and “my man should earn this, should be this tall etc” is the dumbest thing. Having a good/lasting relationship is 99.9% love based. A feeling. Not materialism or anything else. Ofc do I have my preferences, but experience proved me wrong many times. On some occasions I encountered woman that did not fit my “preferences” at all, but I fell bigtime for them. And once you get that feeling that your heart is about the burst, butterflies in your stomach, and wanting to do everything for that person, anything else doesn’t matter anymore. Money doesn’t matter, looks don’t matter, even some personality traits that might be perceived “not attractive” don’t matter. If that feeling is mutual, you have won the jackpot. People these days are so delusional, and are only following their checklists. Those relationships are doomed to fail a lot of the times, or many are unhappy in the relationship they are in. No surprise the divorce rate is skyrocketing these days.
And to add to the topic of this video. A lot of people are trying to make sense of something, that just doesn't make sense. So they are pulling out the big old scale and are trying to weigh the pro's and con's in a logical way. This will result in the "below average", "average", "above average", "supreme" etc. labels. How can you apply logic to something illogic as love? If the person has checked all the boxes and is perfect on paper, it doesn't automatically mean that you feel anything for that person. Some people still go for it because it will improve their lifestyle. To those people I will say "Good luck with your relationship. Enjoy while it lasts"
Thanks for speaking to this. Love and affection is something that zero relationship videos talk about. Everything is about money, standards, manipulation, gaslighting, not being abused. Relationships aren’t about love anymore. Or getting to know people. Or bonding with people.
Love is an action, not a feeling though so be careful about that. I chose to love my wife actively every day. I am not waiting to fall out of love, cause i will not let that happen.
My checklist is not what most men would want. Over 30 and have kids. Those two are not negotiable. I am happy to be a stepfather(I don't want biological kids due to genetic issues)
I am happily married, but I always hear these things from single-dating male colleagues. These dating apps give women so many "choices" that they think they can make these demands. These "choices" are not interested in marrying them, they want to take them out for a spin.
Exactly right. The women just can't get it through their heads that the men are interested in activities only. Not a commitment. To a woman these amount to the same thing. But to a man, it's very different.
The huge majority of those choices for women on dating apps are crap guys anyways. Still, they feed off of that attention thinking they're much hotter than they actually are. The huge majority of women I know that found "love" on dating apps were with guys that have trash personalities. Bad boys, desperate boys, damaged boys, boys using apps to cheat, you name it.
I agree. Men are ignorant about women's experiences BUT women are also ignorant of men's experiences on dating apps. A lot of women who know me and work with me seem to think men also get messages first and lots of matches. They seem to think men have the same experience as them where women users are making a move and showing interest. And use to always suggest dating apps as they think I'd easily get matches as I'm apprently a good looking man. Thinking men probably get the same experience and when I've shown women I know that's not the case. They are shocked Dating apps suck for both. The sooner men and women stop using dating apps and start going outside to meet each other. The less Misery and Loneliness. Dating apps want men and women to keep searching for financial gain. They want loads of men to not want relationships and want the actual men on it who are looking to get nothing. Because the longer the men and women are on it trying to find a relationship. The more money it makes. Dating apps are playing both men and women on different ways. It's the lotto of dating to me. They don't want most people to actually find love. That is not profitable
You say that you're average at most things but I'd like you to know that you are really good at being a UA-camr. You come across as the friend most of us men wish we had. Keep on doing your thing!
I have been following this channel for like 2 years or so and Courtneys videos was what finally got me to put relationships on the shelf... To finally stop hoping that "the right woman" would show up. Most of the things she has said, I already knew or suspected, and some things actually shocked me, but I really can't stand modern dating. It is something I don't want to be part of and honestly can't be a part of. In about 5 months I will turn 42, and I have been single for like 5 years, and it's been the best years of my life, because I have what I need. I have learned to live alone and still have a good life, when I realised this I felt like a billion bucks. :) Have a good weekend.
Did you see the vid of the 16 yr old who got a Tesla and $1600 for her birthday and she flat out rejected it because it wasn’t good enough for her? That’s the mindset of many these days.
I think it is really cool that you talked about being OK on $35,000. It’s definitely natural to want more money, but I am most proud of the times in my life that I found happiness independent of financial security. I also think that being able to be happy with less is a way more attractive quality than insisting on big money. I think most guys are going to feel this way too. Even the ones that pull down $500,000 a year.
I don't know this but I think 35k can do OK in Connecticut. Not so in Seattle, Vancouver, San Fran, DC, Toronto, New York, etc. Really depends where you live
I'll never fault someone for wanting more but you need to know how you are going to get it. Practically speaking, how are you going to get more money? Without an actual plan to get what you want, you are just wishing on a star.
I haven’t heard women speak honestly about themselves in circles. They say “girl you a bad b**** find you a man who’s going to appreciate you being a bad bitch” yet are always going on dates and single. It makes it tough to find a genuine woman who I’m attracted to and see a future with. I hope being realistic becomes the norm again. I don’t see it happening with hookup culture and social media pushing more delusion
Was reading "Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday" & now Courtney's message "know what you're up against". Hit the right chords & reinforced my learning. Thanks 🙏
I'm in the top 5% or so for net worth, but I immediately reject anyone that says they are looking for wealth, and why I'm a happy single. People with values like Courtney describes that can make do with less are rare, and refreshing.
To add to that, anyone that has made a lot of money knows that money can flow nice and easy, it can also go up in a puff of smoke, a big part of making good money is taking risks and sometimes those risks don't work out. My bigger point is that finding somebody that makes a million dollars a year today does not mean they will make that much 20 years from now, 10 years from now or even 1 year from now. Picking a long term partner based on the amount of money they make is a probably not going to survive the long term.
@@iamme25yago23 Of course. Yes. I'm not dating anyone here is the only reason I mentioned it, but "out there" I keep that as hidden as much as possible. I can't hide my career, car, house at the beach, etc. Although the point I was making was that when I see a girl that says she wants to find big dollars, I'm out. I doubt many guys with money want those girls either.
@@mattclark6482 I agree. A lot of truth there. The average lottery winner is broke in 5 years. Plus, a lot of people that look/act like they have money are financed to the max. Net worth, they're broke.
@@iamme25yago23 Absolutely, but there's a consequence to that too. It means not living my best life in hopes of maybe finding someone that isn't hiding their true nature. In my divorce, I saw the worst in female humanity and the government's willingness to assist that evil plan (yes, evil). Makes it pretty easy to convince myself to "walk away."
Gotta look for the independent women. It's okay if she says she's looking for someone financially stable if SHE is financially stable. If she's a broke waitress and wants someone who's financially stable, then like you, I'm out.
I do consider myself average. On a good day, I could pass for a 6 ¹/2. I do work to keep myself in shape and healthy and work to just be comfortable. I am totally fine with being average. Watching philosophy videos have taught me that being average will help you live a long and peaceful life. Whereas if you are the richest, the most attractive, smartest, etc. people will try to use you for superficial reasons rather than seeing you for the person you are.
An attractive girl that's authentic, grounded, realistic, and financially aware. Courtney you very well may be a living UNICORN!!! Keep up the good work!
Just get a girl who lives in apartment and works at Walmart. There’s a reason why you can’t even get such a girl you might wanna work on yourself. I see a lot of guys who have girlfriends so this is something you need to work on.
The house analogy is very good. Any time we base our value or worth or the worth of others on superficial things (looks, money, perceived power, etc.), things will never end well.
Hi Courtney. Love your content. I just started dating after becoming a widower last summer. I had an amazing marriage and loved being married. I have encountered an avalanche of delusion out there in the dating world. To me the most shocking aspect of the delusional, seemingly ubiquitous rating system is that the women who insist on crazy standards have no idea what being in a loving relationship is like. They are so focused on getting something that they see no value in sharing , building, being a partner and all that a loving relationship entails. I'm fortunate to be in an enviable financial situation but the minute I sense that I am being manipulated by a woman I'm out. Because I know there is no future.
@@shahee6579 Lol I know right. What these people mean is they were suffering from low confidence and getting a hair cut or going to the gym putting on bit of muscle or losing that bit of weight, was what it took for them to gain a normal level of confidence as an average to above average individual. These people should try dating as a below average male in any aspect from penis size to height or going bald etc. Take abit more than a hair cut hahaahahaaha
it's been said before but most of these attitudes didn't exist until social media. people profit off of distracting you from what matters and i think it's high time we take a step back and evaluate who's the user and who's the commodity in this arrangement we have with technology.
You talk from a place of such passion. You are always genuine in your delivery and it's great to see how you're using your platform to help others. That's Beautiful!
This is one of the most important videos I’ve seen in a while. I’m actually happily married, and I’ll say that my wife and I are happy with each other cause - wait for it- we accept each other where we are at. We each work hard on ourselves (workout every day, have good careers, save money, etc), but we’re not rich by any means nor are we SI models haha. But we love each other and have a great life. Thanks Courtney!
That bad news is that, by definition, most of us are average in most ways. The good news is that it's not necessary to be above average in every way to get someone to date or marry you. You just have to be above average - enough to stand out - in the ways that are important to someone that you're interested in. That's why the mantra "be what you want to attract" is so important.
Pretty much every woman I know who married mostly for money is in an abusive marriage. You're right Courtney, we need more perspective on this but in more ways than one.
@@khanhcao3123 And you act like abuse does not exist when it is commonplace. You know nothing about the circumstances of the women I know but are assuming that I am tossing around the term abuse? What a nice fantasyland you must live in.
@@khanhcao3123 every woman who has ever claimed to be in an abusive relationship is making it up? Really, is that your argument? Sounds like the perspective of someone who spends too much time on the internet and not in the real world.
@annajankowski2578 OH please. How many times have I heard, my husband did not buy me a Gucci purse. The wife screams he financially abused me or my husband want me to stay home and watch the kids. Wife will scream mental abuse. Every woman will use the word abuse if they don't get their way. It gets old real quick.
You are spot on Courtney! People on social media platforms have created some very twisted ideas of what healthy, realistic and genuine dating looks like because everyone seems to believe their living in some big reality show, thinking they can keep up with the Kardashians - which is delusional all by itself. Personally, I want to live a normal life - I don’t want extraordinary by any measure.
I really think that a lot of people who would be considered below average still have the same mindset because when they cant find someone, its now because "nobody met their qualifications". It's another way of rejecting accountability.
Courtney, after watching your recent video, I watched the Daily Stoic’s recent video and he quoted Seneca who said, “Being poor isn’t having too little, it’s wanting more.” It reminded me of these women who want a man who makes 600k. They want more.
The problem is people put value in the wrong things. Rather than putting value in being a kind, strong, mature human being we put value in how tall someone is or their income. How young and fit someone is. There are merits in all those things. But they should not be the core things we value in a partner.
Courtney is the realistic girl, every guy needs, but unfortunately a lot of women are still delusional with their expectations. It takes a lot of patience in the dating game to find a partner that will be supportive and has realistic expectations.
She is realistic, and definitely down-to-earth in terms of her values and perspective of the world...but she is definitely not 'average' overall. Courtney is in-shape and feminine, the two traits which alone make her immediately above the average women in the USA (given that the average woman is overweight, with nearly a third being obese...and most of them aren't very feminine). Courtney's partner (Teddy Baldassare) is an entrepreneur/influencer likely on the sort of money that all the girls in her comments and in her videos want their dream-man to earn. And this is before we get onto the fact that he is tall, in-shape, and good-looking. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy Courtney's videos on the modern dating world and exposing how delusional alot of young people are today, but let's not pretend like she is out here happily dating joe-average, because she isn't. She's likely on triple figures herself just from her UA-cam gig...
@Harry Pike honestly, I never even see her reply to a comment 🤣🤣🤣 I personally believe she's just another snake taking advantage of the low self-esteem of men. Honestly I didn't expect having a pair of tits and talking about relationship could be so profitable. Also it's America there's been a shift! And unfortunately femininity is A LUXURY!! Before it was normal now you have to PAY FOR IT!
@@aim-for-greatn3z947 Yes its unfortunate that for our grandfathers, getting a feminine wife with low bodycount was almost a given, but now, for young men you need to be a millionaire or at least very wealth, for that. I don't think she is a 'snake' - she's definitely capitalising on the situation though, and fair play to her - better that young women expose the problems in modern society via content like this, than resort of things like OnlyFans.
I am wordless. This video is just perfect. Having people like you makes me smile and think there's still hope for a better world. North American women are so lost! Thanks Courtney, you made my entire weekend! Brilliant and beautiful. What a woman!
There's a trend going around telling people to "be delusional"? Holy hell. Well, that explains some things I guess! Thanks for being informative once again.
You said the word that is lacking in all of these people in those comments you read, "content". These people are chronic malcontents. Narcassistic individuals who overcompensate for their own average qualities by amassing things for status. A lot of people posting this kind of stuff are plastic, not real and they need the status that comes with money to feel good about themselves. It is proof positive that how we feel about ourselves directly effects how we treat others and what we expect of them. If we have a good amount of self esteem, we will be realistic in our appraisal of ourselves, and our expectations of others. If we lack self esteem, we will be harsh in our expectations of ourselves and will compensate for that by becoming obsessed with raising our status and getting attention. We will also have wildly unrealistic expectations of others because we will see them, not as people with needs or feelings, but as props for our own ego, tools to help compensate for our own issues. Thanks for giving us a normal person's perspective on this rabbit hole of craziness. 🙏
I'm just a simple 24 year old man that wants to be in a healthy relationship. I'm being more comfortable with finding the right time to approach a woman in public that I find attractive. Most of the women I've talked to were in relationships, but I've made some friends with them. At least I went on a few coffee dates with women. Thank you so much for making awesome videos, Courtney! I hope that you have a happy Friday and I'll be excited for Sunday's video. Love from California! 🥰🫶🏾
@@CourtneyRyan Oh my gosh! Thank you, Courtney! I always look forward to your new videos. Thank you for not only looking out for the young men, but for all men. I appreciate your support! 🥺😭❤️👏🏾
I so relaxed when I started seeing myself and others as being the sum of our parts. I have qualities that are below average and a few that I honestly believe are above average. I stopped dwelling on my below average areas and don't brag on my above ones. I can find the same in anyone if I look hard enough. No perfect people. I'd like to find a relationship where we compliment each other and can lean on each other for help with weaknesses and make the most of each others strengths. What's the net sum of such a couple? Average.. As for the 70k, if you can manage to be broke and drowning in debt at 70k you will figure out how to do it at 700k.
The second marriage vow is literally "for richer or for poorer." I worked like crazy when my wife was substituting while getting her teaching credential, she had my back when I started a business, when it failed, starting a whole new career, and most recently when I took a risk to move up in my new career. Lifestyle should be the absolute last of your concerns when finding a partner. My wife sat next to me when I had a head injury, no guarantees I would ever go back to normal. You see it all the time on social media, people with life changing injuries being taken care of by spouses who have their back no matter what. Your spouse isn't a paypig, they are your foundation.
Thank you Courtney for this video. I am missing an aspect, though. I think people are already delusional, when they believe that possessions make them happy or make their relationship last. Women often want to decorate themselves with a high class man in the pursuit of some kind of competition, instead of wanting to care and be there for someone else and spend their time with a person. It ends up being about showing off how flashy they are by having and doing expensive stuff. It stems from a sick and shallow society. There is also the expectation, that the money a man makes is to be spent on the woman. First and foremost, it's his money. If a woman makes a lot of money, there would rarely be the assumption that they would have to spend it on their man. In fact statistics show that they would most likely just replace the man, if he doesn't keep up with what she earns.
"And I think it goes to show the fact that you can learn a lot about our society and people by what we don't know, and most people don't know the reality." Quote of the year right there, well said.
Lol. I told my mother how unreasonable it was that a woman would expect a man to bring in 300k. She thought it was fair because it brings security. I had to break down the numbers of how rare that kind of a guy is before she caved and admitted is was unreasonable . She is 64..
Notice how even Courtney was very careful to say she was an average…cook. She wouldn’t dare say she’s an average woman out loud. People are willing to say they are average at individual things, but not themselves as a whole.
It's actually pretty hard to be average in every area. You will be above or below average on most metrics... And naturally you will focus on the areas where you are above average.
@@empathyedits8809 so she got the bag and now want men simp for her with subs and views also telling other women about picking average men but herself picked a loaded dude. funny.
Social media and thirsty men have caused a lot of this IMO. Women can get endless attention not even leaving the house when they turn on filters and take special angled pictures and make themselves look like an unrealistic version of themselves and guys in the comments drool all over them. This give them a false sense of their true value in the dating market. Sometimes I want to respond "you don't really look like this in real life", but just laugh and leave it alone. Also, the "strong, independent woman" culture pushes an agenda that women are queens and any man would be lucky to be with them and their faults/behavior should be completely ignored. This is why more and more men are walking way from dating these days and doing their own thing. Hot women will always get men because they're hot. But the majority are average. If you're a 5-7, you can't get away with things a 10 can. It sounds shallow but it's reality. But guys even get sick of the hot ones and their BS. An average looking woman who is sweet, loyal, humble but confident in their own skin, and pleasing can be very sexy and appealing. Unfortunately there are not many of them out there anymore.
Such an important vid Courtney! I have been realizing how judgement of myself and others is the toxicity itself. Accepting myself and others as they are is the healing agent that actually empowers me and then others around me to the aspiring heights we all are shooting for… division is exactly that… it divides and keeps us from connecting with others. As I’ve done the work on my self, life has looked so much fuller, rich and intriguing, and what do you know… I feel like I’m surrounded by many beautiful people. That’s not toxic positivity, that’s clearing out the blocks of hurt within me to see myself/others clearly… and then Enjoy it All! Life can be hard, but we will get there together. Many blessings beautiful ones! 🎉✨🫂🥳🕊️
That's the only way brother. All the broken and messed up people are on the dating sites. The only way to get a good one is in person. The Internet only robs you of your powers and it forces you to be judged. In person you get to be a real person and they can't get away with acting like they do on the Internet.
Having the same experiences and thoughts as well, my friend. A little worried that even with that, the online dating will still hijack the process from the women's side.
@vancityguy agreed! There are just fewer opportunities than there used to be. Both of my older sisters met their husbands at the office. That's, of course, much harder now with so many people working remotely.
I swear to god every time I see women approaching their thirties bragging about how high their standards are, I always think "good luck - you'll need it." I don't care how good looking a woman is, when they spout off about how high their standards are, it tells us men that they are actually just entitled and don't know what a standard is or what a fantasy is. Entitlement is selfish, and a selfish person's value in a relationship is 0. Doesn't matter if she looks like an 8, 9, or a 10.
The overpriced house analogy is pretty good - until it's sold the house value is zero. Even worse if you're in the market to have kids. A house you can just sit on until the right buyer appears. Raising kids require you to be young enough to have them. Imagine your house is lined with composition 4 explosives and a 5 year timer. Set your price accordingly.
Another analogy for this with women approaching 30 or in their early 30’s still being unrealistic is how you see people in the United States get into a lot of credit card debt for instance because they’re living beyond their means. People can just be stupid even in situations that seem obvious
Your journey is unique and your experiences are one-of-a-kind. They do not define the norm or the average. Embrace your individuality and let it inspire you to reach new heights. Your story has the power to motivate and encourage others to pursue their dreams, too. So, keep pushing forward and know that your experiences, no matter how unconventional, have the potential to make a profound impact on the world.
I think it was still pretty simple around 10 years ago. Back in 2014 when dating apps were a thing but not a norm. I remember that tinder was sort of embarassing back then and it was for people who are too clumsy to connect with others irl. 🤔
Yeah, I actually know of a lot of guys doing this. Especially the more richer -average looking guys. It’s loads easier going to somewhere like Columbia where you’ll get 50 tinder matches in one day to 8+ looking girls.
My mom and dad are from Kenya 🇰🇪! Trust me I would rather eat my own poop 💩 in a bowl 🥣 than marry an American 🇺🇸 woman! They are not marriageable anymore!
@dustin weaver yup, I'm one of them 🙋🏾♂️ and honestly, it's been the BEST decision I've ever made! Just for the fact that you're traveling and experiencing new cultures and placeses, this makes dating WAY more exciting than to compared in the u.s. When I used to date here I would literally go to the same places and talk the same bullshit. Fuck that! I'm out! And since I travel for free why not!
That is because women from other places are not stuck up and ignorant to life, as are a lot of women in the US. Entitlement exists everywhere, but I would posit that it is much worse in the US than any other country. There are going to be a lot of single women out there one of these days, and they will only have themselves to blame for it. I would love to do it as well. I am 100% sick and tired of American females because they just don't live in a world where the rest of us live. My ex-wife was the penultimate " me me me" type, and entitled to the gills. Fuck that!
A man sits down next to a woman at a bar and asks her, "Will you sleep with me for a million dollars?" The woman replies, "Yes." Then the man asks the woman, "Will you sleep with me for $5?" The woman quickly replies, "No! What kind of woman do you think I am?" The man points out, "Well, that's been established. Now, we are just negotiating price." 🤣😂
I have put so much pressure on myself after realizing a couple of years ago how the expectations were changing in today's modern dating scene. I'm glad that I spent that time working and investing into myself, my education, physical fitness, and improving in different aspects of my life and inner self. I'm single at 27 with a solid and secure career making $70k with even higher earning potential, in really good physical shape, and I am an attractive person with a good heart and good morals. It's sad that I won't even try to date anyone due to the fact that the expectations are so unrealistic. It has given me anxiety at times. It's my dream to share a life with someone and have a family one day. All that work, and here I am, just another average man in every woman's eyes in modern day society. I know my worth.
Good video. I love the “Be what you want to attract” line. It’s amazing how many people don’t understand that. Fat guys who won’t date fat girls. Women who bring little or nothing to the table expecting men who are wildly successful. It’s nuts. I also think that online dating makes these unrealistic expectations even worse. People fill out a wish list like they can order a person off of Amazon. But when they meet someone in a natural way (at work, at the grocery store, at church, etc) and hit it off, at least half of the things on their online list never even enter their minds.
I'm average at best, when I met my wife of now 40 years, she was hot 🔥. She's still a very good-looking woman, especially to me. How did an average guy at best bag a hot 🔥 wife?? I was nice to her, respectful, assertive, independent and good to my mom. Don't feel sorry for yourself, there's many nice girls out there waiting for you.
It was possible because u met her 40 years ago dumb dumb. It's 2023,not 1983. If u were 20 today,your wife would demand at least 500k and top model looks
The woman that won't date below a certain weight or income, when she's told that she's being unrealistic, but she says, "I won't settle!" and apparently she'll know she'll be unhappy if she "settles' for less than what she's wanting.
Weight and money? Seriously? It must be a JOKE. The most important things are understanding and sharing, not a number. Maybe it is because i am European 🤷🏼 The ideal scenario is that both have a salary in order to not depend on another person. And it is far more important to be healthy than your weight.
Thank you for being honest about yourself and about the folly of many who overvalue who they are. They will wind up alone and unhappy in their old age.
That's why we have people like Tate and Fresh and fit saying what they're saying (not that I agree with everything) but the truth is that the dating scene in this day and age is primarily approached from a status/economic component. The irony is that "average" people can't pull it off. The dating scene is either extremely guarded or extremely delusional.
After years of therapy I feel like I'm getting closer to average after a very long time feeling less then average but now I don't know if there's any point in trying to date as so many women want so much more then that. I don't make much money, it's not something I value much, I live basically debt free so I don't need a lot. There's a lot more to people then how much they earn.
If you can afford another person, just get a dog and solve your own problem. You must be able to afford a dog though, because a dog doesn’t make money.
As a guy, I don't think there's much hope for dating in today's world. I'd consider myself a 7 all around, yet my luck in dating has been pretty dismal due to this delusional mindset that women have. Men in general are waking up to this, and aren't even bothering with dating. Just seems like a losing battle, and it's a real shame because there are a lot of good men out there who want a long term partner, and a family down the road. Too many of them are being automatically disqualified cause they don't check off all the boxes on women's unrealistic checklists.
unfortunately there is still so many simps that will feed their fake ego. But if they are that stupid fine. Men with self respect wouldnt want such wahmen anyway. It's just sad because it seems out there so many women are like this. And most others (the normal realistic ones) are taken.
@@EvaMarise I use it only in these videos sometimes and that's it but sure you know better. The fact that you judge man based on this says also how shallow you must be. And I use it sometimes because I like memes.
@@arthurmorgan2906 Couldn't care less about how often you use it. If you have *any* "mgtow" tendencies, including in language, you're not high-quality. End of story. And if not wanting to be taken advantage of makes me/any other woman shallow (even though this is so ironic, coming from the gėnder that places almost the entire value of a woman based on how she looks), then heck yea. Sorry not sorry.
Turns out (I had to look it up) the Dunning-Kruger Effect is a* Form* of the phenomon of Illusory Superiority. I was wondering the connection. Illusory Superiority is the overarching concept, and the Dunning-Kruger Effect is a sub-category.
Courtney I tried to explain to a good looking female friend that the average guy these days can barely get any ass. And she was curious what is an average guy. Also, even as a man who’s well over 6 feet and has been making over $100K for quite a while it definitely gets you in the door for more dates but it doesn’t really make dating itself any easier
@@stevethomas74 Wait till it gets to over a decade plus haha, you want to end life. Look the only thing most modern women are interested in, is penis size. Aslong as you're massively endowed and mr girth, thats all they care about. Else they aren't bothering to even show you basic human respect, let alone date you. If you are even remotely below average penis size and of course if you are below average girth, just give up on life, don't even bother living anymore blah blah insert average male shaming toxic female rhetoric that infests every part of modern culture these days.
Being realistic as a man these days means accepting the fact that the majority of us will go about our lives alone and unnoticed. I’m a 37 year old 6’2 very built high 6 figure income earner and women will look past me because they live in a fictional world where men like myself are 1)on every corner 2)still don’t meet their inflated criteria. I’ll bet the first to say Young men need to be better and strive to be better but women need to understand we’re genuinely doing our best for them but we’re slowly realizing we might have to make the best of life on our own.
Your in the 12percent of male height and the top 20 percent and a earner but honestly your no different from the average guy that’s how society is setup because they push this narrative on women
Wow for real? May I ask where do you live? I find this is accentuated by the kind of environment that you live in. IE cities such as LA / Scottsdale / New York where there's a greater standoffish culture is more likely to have this kind of exaggerated delusional behavior. But I mean dude being 6.2, being well bilt and making good money is far above average, ; I find this disheartening and frankly scary being 26 myself.
@@rodrub12you’re correct about being more common in cities like those. I live in Austin Texas and this place has become Los Angeles 2.0 with the kind of girls that have transplanted here. It can be discouraging because there is a .001% of the population that are those exceedingly wealthy guys/pro athlete and/or model status guys and the girls think they can all obtain those guys
@@johncraven7864 Oof yeah that makes sense; I've heard as much. Honestly I leave in Canada and since I also live in a college city I don't have it as bad with girls being that type. Honestly I don't expect to get married though. I have a visible disability and even though I'm a good looking guy (by what girls have told me), love fitness at 195 lbs at 5-9, have a good job and are well read, being disabled in this market is as annoyingly limiting as you would imagine. Don't get me wrong I'm the kind of guy who does not let his disability defined him, and are extremely self-assured, but even though it may not matter that much for a drunken one night stand, for dating it for sure is limiting.
I read some comments here ... and everything has been said! you are a beautiful unicorn for sure! and you are not average at all. your common sense, your normal is a rare commodity, people have unrealistic expectations, I've been there. Good Job!
I feel bad for Courtney. All she wanted to do is provide cheerful, helpful dating advice and we’re all driving her slowly insane. One day she’s going to post a three minute video of herself just screaming into the camera.
I appreciate this video. It's real. These are not cheerful times and we don't want to see cheerful people talking about how wonderful and easy life is.
Trying not to be superficial when most people want to connect. Looks versus all the rest of our qualities and idiosyncrasies “There is something in psychology known as the “spotlight effect.” This is the phenomenon where people tend to overestimate how much others notice aspects of one’s appearance or behavior”.
Frustration in life is caused when expectations do not correlate with realty. We have extremely high expectation in our society...but reality is not pretty.
Excellent video Courtney. They say more money more problems. Nowadays one of those problems is the women who pursue men for the size of their bank account and not the size of his heart. Like you said I'm not saying wealth is bad but it's not everything. There's MUCH more that goes into a successful and meaningful relationship. Greed is not in that equation at all. Thanks Courtney.
The 70k comment makes sense to me, it really comes down to where you live. I live in central NJ and make 80k a year but in retrospect that is nothing for my area because I live in an area where you have the high concentration of stem majors/doctors/lawyers.
I just wanna say that I’m very appreciative of your channel. Some of the things that you have said I know and other things you have given me a new perspective too. I always look forward to your reaction or comment. It really does help to hear another woman say these things
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definitely not okay
you're in the midst of the most debased degradation of society before the total collapse of civilization
it's happening
return to living in accordance with nature, symbiotically with the earth - eco-centrism
we are meant to be caretakers of each other and all that dwell upon the earth, but modern society is about human-centrism, the human endeavor, exploitation and destruction - this is narcissism
look into:
wendigo
Every comment you read was from a female, yet you said PEOPLE are delusional. Why is it so hard for you to simply criticize and call out women? When it’s time to get on men, get on men. It’s a common occurrence with your content and other female creators in the space
Courtney be out here peaching on the DANGERS of the illusion of options, the internet despoil screaming into the void and vitamins!
Courtney I know you don’t want people to feel stupid or bad but like it or not until we shame and mock these delusions it won’t change. A lot of these quote adults act like children and need to be told your wrong. It’s been a good decade of trying to convince women now I think that time is over. You may get them for a few videos but feminism and delusion have them from kindergarten to college
Everyone should be paid at least $50K net income annually after paying all tax and medical insurance and 401K dues.
"Toxic positivity is eliminating critical thinking and realism from our society." One of the most profound things I have heard on UA-cam. Thanks for those wise words!
🙌🏼
Saying "toxic positivity" is on par with saying "jumbo shrimp." Oxymoron. 😐
@@rockon8174 Not really. Paradoxical is more the word you're looking for. Toxic Positivity is grossly unthinking behaviour like telling survivors of violent crime that "every cloud has a silver lining" for example.
I thought the wisdom was in the paradox found space between "toxic" and "positivity." Positivity was pushed pass the tipping point to became negative. Thus, the paradox.
And the forced PC behaviour what I would add in extra.
It’s crazy how delusional people are. I see it with people I know. Barely take care of themselves, horrible spending habits, bad diet, but think they can land a millionaire who looks like a movie star. The entitlement is real.
Spot on
This appears to be a US and maybe European problem. Girls in, say, the Philippines, are totally different. Have actual modesty.
Tinder, online dating and swipper apps have created the illusion of options in women
@@Matanumi so basically Social Media
You mean how delusional women are?How often do you hear guys saying ''i'm a 10'' ??
I'm six foot and make six figures and I just recently ended a relationship because of the delusion and entitlement. She was never satisfied and if anything I'm sad for these women. This mindset of most of them will leave them dying alone and miserable. Keep the content coming Miss Ryan!
Good for you! What feeds their ego is the simps. That is the problem.
@@ellkmlmhmd truth!
I'm 6'4 and make $25k a year and no girlfriend. Am I doing something wrong?
You sound like Kevin Samuels 😊
I love him. And I am a woman.
Sad that he is gone.
@@Primitive_Code If youre the dude on the pic... you need to just grown a beard to hide the weak chin. For what ive learned in US if youre tall its all you need to get sex.
But with that money per year forget girlfriend they will be a burden and a drain. Just hit and quit.
Relationships today are communism for 2, transference of your money to her.
I think part of this issue is that people turned 'dating standards' into wishlists and don't realize that they did so. There's a difference between 'I want someone who is adult enough to work, pay their own bills, own their own vehicle and I like dancing so we should do that a couple of nights a month' and 'they must make 300k, fully support me, be in the top 1% of human genetics and exercise and never judge me on anything'. Like...come back to earth where the rest of us are.
No kidding
Implicit to the term "standards" is that they should actually be standard for you. Meaning you are accustomed to them. What women today call their "standards" are often things that they have never actually had. So you are correct, it is just a wish list.
people=mostly women
As if :))))) apparently being financially stable is tOo mUcHof a requirement for modern "mėn".
@@anyamiranda9452 the list doesn't end there does it you disingenuous toad 😂😂😂
You know that old couple that’s been married for 50+ years? The “that’s how love should be” couple? They succeeded because of sacrifice, understanding, compromise and communication.
Awesome point.
So you mean traditional values? things that don’t exist in this day and age
Those relationships are almost going the way of the dinosaurs. I have a few friends who have relationships like that, and man, I hope it stays that way. 🙏
There's none of that these days. Most women treat relationships like people treat jobs, always jumping onto the next one.
Amen!!!
Most WOMEN don't think they're average. Most men are quite self-aware.
Yeah common basic women that call themselves queens with below-average personalities.
Stop dating, fellas. This is getting ridiculous. Be a leader. Have discipline, make your life better. When they figure it out we are back in business…
As men, we must lead ALL of us out of this hell…
@@dueth2508 Don’t chase women, chase excellence.
average doesn't exist though
an average is a result of combining all the things that DO exist within a certain parameter (women, men, number of hits at bat), not an individualized account of the things that make up the parameter
it's reductionary, not explanatory
@@zerpblerd5966 you can be average at one thing and excellent at something else. Average appearance but very smart. Or below average intelligence and above average personality. So you are right there is no ‘one size fits all average person’
Being "average" nowadays has such a negative connotation on it when the reality is that most people are average everyday people. You can be a confident person while recognizing you're just a person with real problems and life issues like the next man, but everybody it seems is more focused on being "high value" when, if everyone was "high value" then the term wouldn't exist. Even that phrase is poorly defined nowadays with everyone giving it their own spin, but being a "high value" person is simply about being someone with character, morals, and being someone who provides value to those around you and your community. It's not about the luxury and wealth or the look of a celebrity, but about what you do for others and how you carry yourself as a person.
You’re the best AJ. Great comment per usual 🥰
If a lot of ppl was high vaule it would just mean being high vaule is common the high vaule word itself wouldn’t be taken away
Pretty much. "Wealth is a great servant but a poor master" - Seneca I believe. "It is not the creation of wealth that is wrong, but the love of money for it's own sake" - Thatcher.
To counterbalance this, a saying attributed to the Scottish:
"Money can't buy you happiness, but it is more comfortable to cry in a SUV than on a bicycle". Finally, to wrap up with paraphrasing Simon Sinek
"Confidence is believing in yourself. Arrogance is treating all others as inferior. Confidence inspires. Arrogance destroys."
@@TheHorseshoePartyUK most ppl have confidence
I agree with your comment. Here's the problem: you can define "high value" in the best light possible according to character, values, and morals. Those traits are not easily measured, especially for capitalistic or entertainment purposes. The term "high value" is not poorly defined; it is poorly measured.
The dominant culture MEASURES "high value" according to money making or entertainment traits: number of followers, beauty, luxury items acquired, status job, physique, etc. If you can't become a brand within the dominant culture, they have measured you as not high value. Normal and average are failures in this world now. Who wants to be a "failure" or be part of a failing or not high value relationship?
2:55 Courtney genuinely looks incredibly sad. she knows that MOST people dont even make 70k/year and these people genuinely hurt her by tying quality of a person to their income.
It’s heavy to read comments like that for sure. Makes me sad.
For real. I died inside when I heard THIS comment at 2:24
70k a year is like lower level income depending on the city you live in.
Some of these cities have such insane cost of living that a higher yearly salary thats not high enough becomes a bit of a trap-
Your working class doing quite well, but then suddenly the little things that you would've qualified for that could help you live get taken away.... and THEN your paying hidden taxes on top of that. Some cities (like Vancouver) are so fucking backwards its impossible to make the most income and your competition with rich foreigners who did not make their income who buy up all the property and boomers who want to downsize
Yikes bit of a wall of text there.... in this town couples move in together all the fucking time "to test the relationship" but really mostly out of necessity
Oh! Also if you own a house in Vancouver or the surrounding cities IT IS worth a million dollars EVEN IF its a PoS
@@Matanumi for a city dweller it might be harder to live off, but most people in the country don’t live in LA, New York City or Chicago, so the averages being below 70k aren’t directly related to the big 3’s higher income necessary for big city living
Lol watching Courtney learning what it's like to talk to girls is so cathartic 🤣
" She will only date a millionaire" I wonder if she realizes That her placing his value on how much money he makes won't even get her on a millionare's radar let alone the front door. The sense of entitlement is a complete turn off to any man
They will find a guy attractive and take it back when his height doesn't start with an 6
If she's only looking for millionaires, she's for sale......
I think the whole “having a checklist” and “my man should earn this, should be this tall etc” is the dumbest thing. Having a good/lasting relationship is 99.9% love based. A feeling. Not materialism or anything else. Ofc do I have my preferences, but experience proved me wrong many times.
On some occasions I encountered woman that did not fit my “preferences” at all, but I fell bigtime for them. And once you get that feeling that your heart is about the burst, butterflies in your stomach, and wanting to do everything for that person, anything else doesn’t matter anymore. Money doesn’t matter, looks don’t matter, even some personality traits that might be perceived “not attractive” don’t matter. If that feeling is mutual, you have won the jackpot.
People these days are so delusional, and are only following their checklists. Those relationships are doomed to fail a lot of the times, or many are unhappy in the relationship they are in. No surprise the divorce rate is skyrocketing these days.
And to add to the topic of this video. A lot of people are trying to make sense of something, that just doesn't make sense. So they are pulling out the big old scale and are trying to weigh the pro's and con's in a logical way. This will result in the "below average", "average", "above average", "supreme" etc. labels. How can you apply logic to something illogic as love?
If the person has checked all the boxes and is perfect on paper, it doesn't automatically mean that you feel anything for that person.
Some people still go for it because it will improve their lifestyle. To those people I will say "Good luck with your relationship. Enjoy while it lasts"
Thanks for speaking to this. Love and affection is something that zero relationship videos talk about. Everything is about money, standards, manipulation, gaslighting, not being abused.
Relationships aren’t about love anymore. Or getting to know people. Or bonding with people.
Maybe it's love based under 25 after that into the 30s that fades slowly
Love is an action, not a feeling though so be careful about that. I chose to love my wife actively every day. I am not waiting to fall out of love, cause i will not let that happen.
My checklist is not what most men would want. Over 30 and have kids. Those two are not negotiable. I am happy to be a stepfather(I don't want biological kids due to genetic issues)
I am happily married, but I always hear these things from single-dating male colleagues. These dating apps give women so many "choices" that they think they can make these demands. These "choices" are not interested in marrying them, they want to take them out for a spin.
Illusion of options! There it is I've been saying it for years And now guys self awareness of it is popping up everywhere I look
Exactly right. The women just can't get it through their heads that the men are interested in activities only. Not a commitment. To a woman these amount to the same thing. But to a man, it's very different.
The huge majority of those choices for women on dating apps are crap guys anyways. Still, they feed off of that attention thinking they're much hotter than they actually are. The huge majority of women I know that found "love" on dating apps were with guys that have trash personalities. Bad boys, desperate boys, damaged boys, boys using apps to cheat, you name it.
I agree. Men are ignorant about women's experiences BUT women are also ignorant of men's experiences on dating apps.
A lot of women who know me and work with me seem to think men also get messages first and lots of matches. They seem to think men have the same experience as them where women users are making a move and showing interest. And use to always suggest dating apps as they think I'd easily get matches as I'm apprently a good looking man. Thinking men probably get the same experience and when I've shown women I know that's not the case. They are shocked
Dating apps suck for both. The sooner men and women stop using dating apps and start going outside to meet each other. The less Misery and Loneliness.
Dating apps want men and women to keep searching for financial gain. They want loads of men to not want relationships and want the actual men on it who are looking to get nothing. Because the longer the men and women are on it trying to find a relationship. The more money it makes.
Dating apps are playing both men and women on different ways. It's the lotto of dating to me. They don't want most people to actually find love. That is not profitable
I'd never marry them, but giving the a ride if they are attractive just enough is a consideration.
You say that you're average at most things but I'd like you to know that you are really good at being a UA-camr. You come across as the friend most of us men wish we had. Keep on doing your thing!
I really appreciate that. Thank you 🥺
She has a nice delivery, she seems very rational, and has just enough cuteness to make it work.
Jesus you simps get a grip
@@hughjanis6439 cuteness level is high and it's hard to focus on the content when she s wearing this outfit.
Word. There’s something about that neck band lol
I have been following this channel for like 2 years or so and Courtneys videos was what finally got me to put relationships on the shelf... To finally stop hoping that "the right woman" would show up. Most of the things she has said, I already knew or suspected, and some things actually shocked me, but I really can't stand modern dating. It is something I don't want to be part of and honestly can't be a part of.
In about 5 months I will turn 42, and I have been single for like 5 years, and it's been the best years of my life, because I have what I need. I have learned to live alone and still have a good life, when I realised this I felt like a billion bucks. :) Have a good weekend.
dont give up man, you still have time. I know it sucks but there are many normal people in this crazy world. Its just finding them is the issue.
This applies to a lot of guys, too. We should all strive to be realistic with our standards for others, being aware of our inherent bias.
Did you see the vid of the 16 yr old who got a Tesla and $1600 for her birthday and she flat out rejected it because it wasn’t good enough for her? That’s the mindset of many these days.
Damn thats like me throwing away a biweekly check
fck them teslas trash car tracking my every move foh.
It would probably be good for her to live on nothing for awhile.
Her parents have destroyed her for life. Great job.
greed destroyed many folk. If you want to know their true personality give them money or power...
Courtney staring into the camera and saying are we okay??? made me lose it😂😂
I think it is really cool that you talked about being OK on $35,000. It’s definitely natural to want more money, but I am most proud of the times in my life that I found happiness independent of financial security. I also think that being able to be happy with less is a way more attractive quality than insisting on big money. I think most guys are going to feel this way too. Even the ones that pull down $500,000 a year.
I don't know this but I think 35k can do OK in Connecticut.
Not so in Seattle, Vancouver, San Fran, DC, Toronto, New York, etc. Really depends where you live
I'll never fault someone for wanting more but you need to know how you are going to get it. Practically speaking, how are you going to get more money? Without an actual plan to get what you want, you are just wishing on a star.
I haven’t heard women speak honestly about themselves in circles. They say “girl you a bad b**** find you a man who’s going to appreciate you being a bad bitch” yet are always going on dates and single. It makes it tough to find a genuine woman who I’m attracted to and see a future with. I hope being realistic becomes the norm again. I don’t see it happening with hookup culture and social media pushing more delusion
Was reading "Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday" & now Courtney's message "know what you're up against". Hit the right chords & reinforced my learning. Thanks 🙏
I'm in the top 5% or so for net worth, but I immediately reject anyone that says they are looking for wealth, and why I'm a happy single. People with values like Courtney describes that can make do with less are rare, and refreshing.
To add to that, anyone that has made a lot of money knows that money can flow nice and easy, it can also go up in a puff of smoke, a big part of making good money is taking risks and sometimes those risks don't work out. My bigger point is that finding somebody that makes a million dollars a year today does not mean they will make that much 20 years from now, 10 years from now or even 1 year from now. Picking a long term partner based on the amount of money they make is a probably not going to survive the long term.
@@iamme25yago23 Of course. Yes. I'm not dating anyone here is the only reason I mentioned it, but "out there" I keep that as hidden as much as possible. I can't hide my career, car, house at the beach, etc. Although the point I was making was that when I see a girl that says she wants to find big dollars, I'm out. I doubt many guys with money want those girls either.
@@mattclark6482 I agree. A lot of truth there. The average lottery winner is broke in 5 years. Plus, a lot of people that look/act like they have money are financed to the max. Net worth, they're broke.
@@iamme25yago23 Absolutely, but there's a consequence to that too. It means not living my best life in hopes of maybe finding someone that isn't hiding their true nature. In my divorce, I saw the worst in female humanity and the government's willingness to assist that evil plan (yes, evil). Makes it pretty easy to convince myself to "walk away."
Gotta look for the independent women. It's okay if she says she's looking for someone financially stable if SHE is financially stable. If she's a broke waitress and wants someone who's financially stable, then like you, I'm out.
I do consider myself average. On a good day, I could pass for a 6 ¹/2. I do work to keep myself in shape and healthy and work to just be comfortable. I am totally fine with being average. Watching philosophy videos have taught me that being average will help you live a long and peaceful life. Whereas if you are the richest, the most attractive, smartest, etc. people will try to use you for superficial reasons rather than seeing you for the person you are.
Toxic Positivity. Yes. That’s a real thing. Very real.
Hope is a double a edged blade 😅
“We all know that light travels faster than sound. That's why certain people appear bright until you hear them speak.”
―Albert Einstein
An attractive girl that's authentic, grounded, realistic, and financially aware. Courtney you very well may be a living UNICORN!!! Keep up the good work!
Thank you 🥹
Just get a girl who lives in apartment and works at Walmart. There’s a reason why you can’t even get such a girl you might wanna work on yourself. I see a lot of guys who have girlfriends so this is something you need to work on.
The house analogy is very good.
Any time we base our value or worth or the worth of others on superficial things (looks, money, perceived power, etc.), things will never end well.
Hi Courtney. Love your content. I just started dating after becoming a widower last summer. I had an amazing marriage and loved being married.
I have encountered an avalanche of delusion out there in the dating world.
To me the most shocking aspect of the delusional, seemingly ubiquitous rating system is that the women who insist on crazy standards have no idea what being in a loving relationship is like.
They are so focused on getting something that they see no value in sharing , building, being a partner and all that a loving relationship entails.
I'm fortunate to be in an enviable financial situation but the minute I sense that I am being manipulated by a woman I'm out. Because I know there is no future.
The moment I realized I was average was the moment I changed my hair cut and actually got dates LOL
😂😂😂
Agree with this. Realizing where you actually are is helpful (for men)
So you weren't getting dates with your other haircut?
How does that mean you're average ?
@@shahee6579 Lol I know right.
What these people mean is they were suffering from low confidence and getting a hair cut or going to the gym putting on bit of muscle or losing that bit of weight, was what it took for them to gain a normal level of confidence as an average to above average individual.
These people should try dating as a below average male in any aspect from penis size to height or going bald etc.
Take abit more than a hair cut hahaahahaaha
I spent a long time with my ex and am new to the modern dating scene. I can confirm, I am prepared to be alone for the rest of my life. haha
I am also single, and I approve this message
it's been said before but most of these attitudes didn't exist until social media. people profit off of distracting you from what matters and i think it's high time we take a step back and evaluate who's the user and who's the commodity in this arrangement we have with technology.
You talk from a place of such passion. You are always genuine in your delivery and it's great to see how you're using your platform to help others. That's Beautiful!
This is one of the most important videos I’ve seen in a while. I’m actually happily married, and I’ll say that my wife and I are happy with each other cause - wait for it- we accept each other where we are at. We each work hard on ourselves (workout every day, have good careers, save money, etc), but we’re not rich by any means nor are we SI models haha. But we love each other and have a great life. Thanks Courtney!
Glad to hear how true this is, Courtney you have a pure great heart!!
People are delusional, for sure, and woman’s expectations are wildly unrealistic. Great video!
That bad news is that, by definition, most of us are average in most ways. The good news is that it's not necessary to be above average in every way to get someone to date or marry you. You just have to be above average - enough to stand out - in the ways that are important to someone that you're interested in. That's why the mantra "be what you want to attract" is so important.
Pretty much every woman I know who married mostly for money is in an abusive marriage. You're right Courtney, we need more perspective on this but in more ways than one.
You ladies toss out the word abuse, like men say girls are fat.
@@khanhcao3123 And you act like abuse does not exist when it is commonplace. You know nothing about the circumstances of the women I know but are assuming that I am tossing around the term abuse? What a nice fantasyland you must live in.
@annajankowski2578 Women use the word abuse, like Peter cry wolf. Nobody believes a women cry any longer.
@@khanhcao3123 every woman who has ever claimed to be in an abusive relationship is making it up? Really, is that your argument? Sounds like the perspective of someone who spends too much time on the internet and not in the real world.
@annajankowski2578 OH please. How many times have I heard, my husband did not buy me a Gucci purse. The wife screams he financially abused me or my husband want me to stay home and watch the kids. Wife will scream mental abuse. Every woman will use the word abuse if they don't get their way. It gets old real quick.
You are spot on Courtney! People on social media platforms have created some very twisted ideas of what healthy, realistic and genuine dating looks like because everyone seems to believe their living in some big reality show, thinking they can keep up with the Kardashians - which is delusional all by itself. Personally, I want to live a normal life - I don’t want extraordinary by any measure.
Dude, at least experience some things you would want to. Don't be afraid of looking for something new. Find your happiness.
Courtney, I love watching your videos. They make me a better person
I’m so glad 🥺❤️
Simp
I really think that a lot of people who would be considered below average still have the same mindset because when they cant find someone, its now because "nobody met their qualifications". It's another way of rejecting accountability.
Courtney, after watching your recent video, I watched the Daily Stoic’s recent video and he quoted Seneca who said, “Being poor isn’t having too little, it’s wanting more.” It reminded me of these women who want a man who makes 600k. They want more.
That house analogy is perfection! 🙌
Courtney is the definition of a high value woman ❤
Except that she's late 20s to early 30s, but looks 36-37, is unmarried and has no kids ;)
@@slartibartfast2452 she is about to get married
@@slartibartfast2452 This is a joke right? She looks mid twenties, is engaged and has personal accountability. Don’t try and stir anything here.
@@slartibartfast2452 Ok bro....
She's so hot
The problem is people put value in the wrong things. Rather than putting value in being a kind, strong, mature human being we put value in how tall someone is or their income. How young and fit someone is. There are merits in all those things. But they should not be the core things we value in a partner.
That's just your garbage opinion.
Courtney is the realistic girl, every guy needs, but unfortunately a lot of women are still delusional with their expectations. It takes a lot of patience in the dating game to find a partner that will be supportive and has realistic expectations.
Fuck that! I said fuck it not worth it at all!! Dating now seems more like a damn job 🙄
She is realistic, and definitely down-to-earth in terms of her values and perspective of the world...but she is definitely not 'average' overall. Courtney is in-shape and feminine, the two traits which alone make her immediately above the average women in the USA (given that the average woman is overweight, with nearly a third being obese...and most of them aren't very feminine).
Courtney's partner (Teddy Baldassare) is an entrepreneur/influencer likely on the sort of money that all the girls in her comments and in her videos want their dream-man to earn. And this is before we get onto the fact that he is tall, in-shape, and good-looking.
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy Courtney's videos on the modern dating world and exposing how delusional alot of young people are today, but let's not pretend like she is out here happily dating joe-average, because she isn't. She's likely on triple figures herself just from her UA-cam gig...
@Harry Pike honestly, I never even see her reply to a comment 🤣🤣🤣 I personally believe she's just another snake taking advantage of the low self-esteem of men.
Honestly I didn't expect having a pair of tits and talking about relationship could be so profitable.
Also it's America there's been a shift!
And unfortunately femininity is A LUXURY!!
Before it was normal now you have to PAY FOR IT!
@@aim-for-greatn3z947 Yes its unfortunate that for our grandfathers, getting a feminine wife with low bodycount was almost a given, but now, for young men you need to be a millionaire or at least very wealth, for that.
I don't think she is a 'snake' - she's definitely capitalising on the situation though, and fair play to her - better that young women expose the problems in modern society via content like this, than resort of things like OnlyFans.
@@harrypike731 1000% agree in every way!
That house example is a perfect comparison!!👏
I am wordless. This video is just perfect. Having people like you makes me smile and think there's still hope for a better world.
North American women are so lost!
Thanks Courtney, you made my entire weekend!
Brilliant and beautiful. What a woman!
There's a trend going around telling people to "be delusional"? Holy hell. Well, that explains some things I guess! Thanks for being informative once again.
Courtney, this was a wonderful peace of work. Thank you for that! I hope some people can be more realistic, I think eventually they will...
You said the word that is lacking in all of these people in those comments you read, "content". These people are chronic malcontents. Narcassistic individuals who overcompensate for their own average qualities by amassing things for status. A lot of people posting this kind of stuff are plastic, not real and they need the status that comes with money to feel good about themselves. It is proof positive that how we feel about ourselves directly effects how we treat others and what we expect of them. If we have a good amount of self esteem, we will be realistic in our appraisal of ourselves, and our expectations of others. If we lack self esteem, we will be harsh in our expectations of ourselves and will compensate for that by becoming obsessed with raising our status and getting attention. We will also have wildly unrealistic expectations of others because we will see them, not as people with needs or feelings, but as props for our own ego, tools to help compensate for our own issues. Thanks for giving us a normal person's perspective on this rabbit hole of craziness. 🙏
VERY VERY GOOD
VERY REALISTIC
VERY RELEVANT TO "CURRENT" GENERATION
COURTNEY YOU ARE MATURE AND HUMBLE... WHEN YOU ARE ACTUALLY "ABOVE THE AVERAGE"
I'm just a simple 24 year old man that wants to be in a healthy relationship. I'm being more comfortable with finding the right time to approach a woman in public that I find attractive. Most of the women I've talked to were in relationships, but I've made some friends with them. At least I went on a few coffee dates with women. Thank you so much for making awesome videos, Courtney! I hope that you have a happy Friday and I'll be excited for Sunday's video. Love from California! 🥰🫶🏾
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@@CourtneyRyan Oh my gosh! Thank you, Courtney! I always look forward to your new videos. Thank you for not only looking out for the young men, but for all men. I appreciate your support! 🥺😭❤️👏🏾
@@alvinugochukwu2329 let's go!! What part of California are you from? And I feel you. Same age. Same mentality
I so relaxed when I started seeing myself and others as being the sum of our parts. I have qualities that are below average and a few that I honestly believe are above average. I stopped dwelling on my below average areas and don't brag on my above ones. I can find the same in anyone if I look hard enough. No perfect people. I'd like to find a relationship where we compliment each other and can lean on each other for help with weaknesses and make the most of each others strengths. What's the net sum of such a couple? Average.. As for the 70k, if you can manage to be broke and drowning in debt at 70k you will figure out how to do it at 700k.
Thank God we have a good women like Courtney 👍
Thanks for understanding our side of things.
2:53 You are absolutely correct. Way too many people have a spending problem and don't even realize it.
The second marriage vow is literally "for richer or for poorer." I worked like crazy when my wife was substituting while getting her teaching credential, she had my back when I started a business, when it failed, starting a whole new career, and most recently when I took a risk to move up in my new career.
Lifestyle should be the absolute last of your concerns when finding a partner. My wife sat next to me when I had a head injury, no guarantees I would ever go back to normal. You see it all the time on social media, people with life changing injuries being taken care of by spouses who have their back no matter what. Your spouse isn't a paypig, they are your foundation.
That's a great story, you should spread that far and wide because a lot of people online have lost hope.
Well the vows also say “in sickness and in health” but I don’t see that being used to shame you into dating an unhealthy woman.
Thank you Courtney for this video. I am missing an aspect, though. I think people are already delusional, when they believe that possessions make them happy or make their relationship last. Women often want to decorate themselves with a high class man in the pursuit of some kind of competition, instead of wanting to care and be there for someone else and spend their time with a person. It ends up being about showing off how flashy they are by having and doing expensive stuff. It stems from a sick and shallow society.
There is also the expectation, that the money a man makes is to be spent on the woman. First and foremost, it's his money. If a woman makes a lot of money, there would rarely be the assumption that they would have to spend it on their man. In fact statistics show that they would most likely just replace the man, if he doesn't keep up with what she earns.
"And I think it goes to show the fact that you can learn a lot about our society and people by what we don't know, and most people don't know the reality." Quote of the year right there, well said.
As a roaming tyrannical lizard, I can't agree more.
Everyone is an expert in every topic it seems. Fragile egos all over and around.
Courtney is the best!
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Your emotions on the spending problem are halarious🤣🤣👌
Lol. I told my mother how unreasonable it was that a woman would expect a man to bring in 300k. She thought it was fair because it brings security. I had to break down the numbers of how rare that kind of a guy is before she caved and admitted is was unreasonable . She is 64..
Notice how even Courtney was very careful to say she was an average…cook. She wouldn’t dare say she’s an average woman out loud. People are willing to say they are average at individual things, but not themselves as a whole.
Good call
She also is engaged to a guy thats loaded lol
It's actually pretty hard to be average in every area. You will be above or below average on most metrics... And naturally you will focus on the areas where you are above average.
@@empathyedits8809 so she got the bag and now want men simp for her with subs and views also telling other women about picking average men but herself picked a loaded dude. funny.
She is not average but a nice person easy on the eyes as well
Social media and thirsty men have caused a lot of this IMO. Women can get endless attention not even leaving the house when they turn on filters and take special angled pictures and make themselves look like an unrealistic version of themselves and guys in the comments drool all over them. This give them a false sense of their true value in the dating market. Sometimes I want to respond "you don't really look like this in real life", but just laugh and leave it alone. Also, the "strong, independent woman" culture pushes an agenda that women are queens and any man would be lucky to be with them and their faults/behavior should be completely ignored. This is why more and more men are walking way from dating these days and doing their own thing. Hot women will always get men because they're hot. But the majority are average. If you're a 5-7, you can't get away with things a 10 can. It sounds shallow but it's reality. But guys even get sick of the hot ones and their BS. An average looking woman who is sweet, loyal, humble but confident in their own skin, and pleasing can be very sexy and appealing. Unfortunately there are not many of them out there anymore.
The increase in humor and creative quick cut edits are great techniques to keep attention. It's working! :)
Such an important vid Courtney! I have been realizing how judgement of myself and others is the toxicity itself. Accepting myself and others as they are is the healing agent that actually empowers me and then others around me to the aspiring heights we all are shooting for… division is exactly that… it divides and keeps us from connecting with others. As I’ve done the work on my self, life has looked so much fuller, rich and intriguing, and what do you know… I feel like I’m surrounded by many beautiful people. That’s not toxic positivity, that’s clearing out the blocks of hurt within me to see myself/others clearly… and then Enjoy it All! Life can be hard, but we will get there together. Many blessings beautiful ones! 🎉✨🫂🥳🕊️
Ya after yet another flaky online dating experience this week, I'm determined to start approaching and meeting women in person. Old school, I know!
That’s the way to go now but it always should have been.
That's the only way brother. All the broken and messed up people are on the dating sites. The only way to get a good one is in person. The Internet only robs you of your powers and it forces you to be judged. In person you get to be a real person and they can't get away with acting like they do on the Internet.
Having the same experiences and thoughts as well, my friend. A little worried that even with that, the online dating will still hijack the process from the women's side.
Do it!
@vancityguy agreed! There are just fewer opportunities than there used to be. Both of my older sisters met their husbands at the office. That's, of course, much harder now with so many people working remotely.
I swear to god every time I see women approaching their thirties bragging about how high their standards are, I always think "good luck - you'll need it." I don't care how good looking a woman is, when they spout off about how high their standards are, it tells us men that they are actually just entitled and don't know what a standard is or what a fantasy is. Entitlement is selfish, and a selfish person's value in a relationship is 0. Doesn't matter if she looks like an 8, 9, or a 10.
The overpriced house analogy is pretty good - until it's sold the house value is zero. Even worse if you're in the market to have kids. A house you can just sit on until the right buyer appears. Raising kids require you to be young enough to have them. Imagine your house is lined with composition 4 explosives and a 5 year timer. Set your price accordingly.
Another analogy for this with women approaching 30 or in their early 30’s still being unrealistic is how you see people in the United States get into a lot of credit card debt for instance because they’re living beyond their means. People can just be stupid even in situations that seem obvious
Your journey is unique and your experiences are one-of-a-kind. They do not define the norm or the average. Embrace your individuality and let it inspire you to reach new heights. Your story has the power to motivate and encourage others to pursue their dreams, too. So, keep pushing forward and know that your experiences, no matter how unconventional, have the potential to make a profound impact on the world.
I didn't think about any of this stuff before I started watching UA-cam.
Sigh, it used to be so simple 25 years ago 😪 now all you get is a headache...thanks for keeping it real Courtney!
I think it was still pretty simple around 10 years ago. Back in 2014 when dating apps were a thing but not a norm. I remember that tinder was sort of embarassing back then and it was for people who are too clumsy to connect with others irl. 🤔
@@Snofey1 sounds about right, that is very astute 👏👍 ....but now, its only swipe right, or swipe left
This is one of the reasons why more men are venturing to other countries for foreign wives or partners. You should do a video on this trend, Courtney
Yeah, I actually know of a lot of guys doing this. Especially the more richer -average looking guys. It’s loads easier going to somewhere like Columbia where you’ll get 50 tinder matches in one day to 8+ looking girls.
My mom and dad are from Kenya 🇰🇪! Trust me I would rather eat my own poop 💩 in a bowl 🥣 than marry an American 🇺🇸 woman! They are not marriageable anymore!
@dustin weaver yup, I'm one of them 🙋🏾♂️ and honestly, it's been the BEST decision I've ever made!
Just for the fact that you're traveling and experiencing new cultures and placeses, this makes dating WAY more exciting than to compared in the u.s.
When I used to date here I would literally go to the same places and talk the same bullshit.
Fuck that! I'm out! And since I travel for free why not!
That is because women from other places are not stuck up and ignorant to life, as are a lot of women in the US. Entitlement exists everywhere, but I would posit that it is much worse in the US than any other country. There are going to be a lot of single women out there one of these days, and they will only have themselves to blame for it. I would love to do it as well. I am 100% sick and tired of American females because they just don't live in a world where the rest of us live. My ex-wife was the penultimate " me me me" type, and entitled to the gills. Fuck that!
@@mattirealm I am going back to Kenya 🇰🇪 or Ethiopia 🇪🇹 for a wife! America 🇺🇸 women are not marriageable anymore
A man sits down next to a woman at a bar and asks her, "Will you sleep with me for a million dollars?" The woman replies, "Yes." Then the man asks the woman, "Will you sleep with me for $5?" The woman quickly replies, "No! What kind of woman do you think I am?" The man points out, "Well, that's been established. Now, we are just negotiating price." 🤣😂
I have put so much pressure on myself after realizing a couple of years ago how the expectations were changing in today's modern dating scene. I'm glad that I spent that time working and investing into myself, my education, physical fitness, and improving in different aspects of my life and inner self. I'm single at 27 with a solid and secure career making $70k with even higher earning potential, in really good physical shape, and I am an attractive person with a good heart and good morals. It's sad that I won't even try to date anyone due to the fact that the expectations are so unrealistic. It has given me anxiety at times. It's my dream to share a life with someone and have a family one day. All that work, and here I am, just another average man in every woman's eyes in modern day society. I know my worth.
In some women views they see u as a broke short overweight guy that lives in yo mom basement that’s the society will live in dude sorry
Courtney, please do a podcast. Even it is posting the same exact thing you post on UA-cam on podcast platforms.
Good video. I love the “Be what you want to attract” line. It’s amazing how many people don’t understand that. Fat guys who won’t date fat girls. Women who bring little or nothing to the table expecting men who are wildly successful. It’s nuts.
I also think that online dating makes these unrealistic expectations even worse. People fill out a wish list like they can order a person off of Amazon. But when they meet someone in a natural way (at work, at the grocery store, at church, etc) and hit it off, at least half of the things on their online list never even enter their minds.
Courtney: Are we okay?!
Me: FAR from it! BuT I dOnT wAnT tO bE aVeRaGe😵💫🥴
Hahahahah
I'm average at best, when I met my wife of now 40 years, she was hot 🔥. She's still a very good-looking woman, especially to me. How did an average guy at best bag a hot 🔥 wife?? I was nice to her, respectful, assertive, independent and good to my mom. Don't feel sorry for yourself, there's many nice girls out there waiting for you.
It was possible because u met her 40 years ago dumb dumb. It's 2023,not 1983. If u were 20 today,your wife would demand at least 500k and top model looks
@@giorgosdro7059 I disagree completely.
The woman that won't date below a certain weight or income, when she's told that she's being unrealistic, but she says, "I won't settle!" and apparently she'll know she'll be unhappy if she "settles' for less than what she's wanting.
Weight and money? Seriously? It must be a JOKE.
The most important things are understanding and sharing, not a number.
Maybe it is because i am European 🤷🏼
The ideal scenario is that both have a salary in order to not depend on another person.
And it is far more important to be healthy than your weight.
But men are allowed to not date above a weight or income. SMH
Men are the ones settling in a lot of cases.
I love how bewildered she is in this video 😁 👏
Thank you for being honest about yourself and about the folly of many who overvalue who they are. They will wind up alone and unhappy in their old age.
That's why we have people like Tate and Fresh and fit saying what they're saying (not that I agree with everything) but the truth is that the dating scene in this day and age is primarily approached from a status/economic component. The irony is that "average" people can't pull it off. The dating scene is either extremely guarded or extremely delusional.
The problem is Tate and FnF are teaching men how to get these shallow idiotic unrealistic women
After years of therapy I feel like I'm getting closer to average after a very long time feeling less then average but now I don't know if there's any point in trying to date as so many women want so much more then that. I don't make much money, it's not something I value much, I live basically debt free so I don't need a lot. There's a lot more to people then how much they earn.
If you can afford another person, just get a dog and solve your own problem. You must be able to afford a dog though, because a dog doesn’t make money.
@@IVvOOvVI Yep have a dog, a black Labrador, she's wonderful. She's getting old now though.
As a guy, I don't think there's much hope for dating in today's world. I'd consider myself a 7 all around, yet my luck in dating has been pretty dismal due to this delusional mindset that women have. Men in general are waking up to this, and aren't even bothering with dating. Just seems like a losing battle, and it's a real shame because there are a lot of good men out there who want a long term partner, and a family down the road. Too many of them are being automatically disqualified cause they don't check off all the boxes on women's unrealistic checklists.
As if you don't have unrealistic beauty standards for us 🙃 cut the cr*p already.
unfortunately there is still so many simps that will feed their fake ego. But if they are that stupid fine. Men with self respect wouldnt want such wahmen anyway. It's just sad because it seems out there so many women are like this. And most others (the normal realistic ones) are taken.
@@arthurmorgan2906 The very fact that you use "wahmen" is enough to keep *any* self-respecting woman away from you, be her taken or single.
@@EvaMarise I use it only in these videos sometimes and that's it but sure you know better. The fact that you judge man based on this says also how shallow you must be. And I use it sometimes because I like memes.
@@arthurmorgan2906 Couldn't care less about how often you use it. If you have *any* "mgtow" tendencies, including in language, you're not high-quality. End of story. And if not wanting to be taken advantage of makes me/any other woman shallow (even though this is so ironic, coming from the gėnder that places almost the entire value of a woman based on how she looks), then heck yea. Sorry not sorry.
Preach Courtney. The sad reality is that most of these women will fully understand your words at a time when it will be too late for them.
This ties into the phenomenon known as the "Dunning-Kruger Effect". You even quoted David Dunning.
Correct! 🥰
Turns out (I had to look it up) the Dunning-Kruger Effect is a* Form* of the phenomon of Illusory Superiority. I was wondering the connection. Illusory Superiority is the overarching concept, and the Dunning-Kruger Effect is a sub-category.
Courtney I tried to explain to a good looking female friend that the average guy these days can barely get any ass. And she was curious what is an average guy.
Also, even as a man who’s well over 6 feet and has been making over $100K for quite a while it definitely gets you in the door for more dates but it doesn’t really make dating itself any easier
Can confirm.
I'm 6'2 but average in everything else, apart from spelling and grammar. And I'm currently on Year 4 of my unwanted sexual 'drought'.
@@stevethomas74 Wait till it gets to over a decade plus haha, you want to end life.
Look the only thing most modern women are interested in, is penis size.
Aslong as you're massively endowed and mr girth, thats all they care about.
Else they aren't bothering to even show you basic human respect, let alone date you.
If you are even remotely below average penis size and of course if you are below average girth, just give up on life, don't even bother living anymore blah blah insert average male shaming toxic female rhetoric that infests every part of modern culture these days.
@@TheNaturalHealthBlogger Oh well, yet another thing I can check off the list of things 😒
Being realistic as a man these days means accepting the fact that the majority of us will go about our lives alone and unnoticed.
I’m a 37 year old 6’2 very built high 6 figure income earner and women will look past me because they live in a fictional world where men like myself are 1)on every corner 2)still don’t meet their inflated criteria. I’ll bet the first to say Young men need to be better and strive to be better but women need to understand we’re genuinely doing our best for them but we’re slowly realizing we might have to make the best of life on our own.
Your in the 12percent of male height and the top 20 percent and a earner but honestly your no different from the average guy that’s how society is setup because they push this narrative on women
Wow for real? May I ask where do you live? I find this is accentuated by the kind of environment that you live in. IE cities such as LA / Scottsdale / New York where there's a greater standoffish culture is more likely to have this kind of exaggerated delusional behavior. But I mean dude being 6.2, being well bilt and making good money is far above average, ; I find this disheartening and frankly scary being 26 myself.
@@rodrub12you’re correct about being more common in cities like those. I live in Austin Texas and this place has become Los Angeles 2.0 with the kind of girls that have transplanted here. It can be discouraging because there is a .001% of the population that are those exceedingly wealthy guys/pro athlete and/or model status guys and the girls think they can all obtain those guys
@@johncraven7864 Yuk, Austin. No wonder. That place needs to go back to the pit of California from where it came.
@@johncraven7864 Oof yeah that makes sense; I've heard as much. Honestly I leave in Canada and since I also live in a college city I don't have it as bad with girls being that type. Honestly I don't expect to get married though. I have a visible disability and even though I'm a good looking guy (by what girls have told me), love fitness at 195 lbs at 5-9, have a good job and are well read, being disabled in this market is as annoyingly limiting as you would imagine. Don't get me wrong I'm the kind of guy who does not let his disability defined him, and are extremely self-assured, but even though it may not matter that much for a drunken one night stand, for dating it for sure is limiting.
Watching these vids I'm convinced Teddy Baldassarre was the last known man to succeed in the modern dating game.
😂😂😭😭 I’m going to show him this comment hahaha
I just bought a watch from him! It's pretty awesome.
You are (very much) above average in choosing your words. Very well said, as always. I think sooner or later most people will settle for less..
I read some comments here ... and everything has been said!
you are a beautiful unicorn for sure! and you are not average at all. your common sense, your normal is a rare commodity, people have unrealistic expectations, I've been there. Good Job!
I feel bad for Courtney. All she wanted to do is provide cheerful, helpful dating advice and we’re all driving her slowly insane. One day she’s going to post a three minute video of herself just screaming into the camera.
dark humor jeez lol
I appreciate this video. It's real. These are not cheerful times and we don't want to see cheerful people talking about how wonderful and easy life is.
If she wants to post a video of her mental breakdown or having a panic attack because her fiance took the dog and ghosted her, I'm here for it. 🍿
Courtney you look absolutely gorgeous ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Aaron ❤️
The older women get, the higher their standards get, the lower their value gets, and the higher their risk of rejection lol
You're right for the most part but then again there's legions of simps out there that will grovel at their feet.
Trying not to be superficial when most people want to connect. Looks versus all the rest of our qualities and idiosyncrasies
“There is something in psychology known as the “spotlight effect.” This is the phenomenon where people tend to overestimate how much others notice aspects of one’s appearance or behavior”.
Frustration in life is caused when expectations do not correlate with realty. We have extremely high expectation in our society...but reality is not pretty.
Thank you. Lets bring back reality, not fantasy.
These videos are really helping me regain my dignity and self worth. Thanks Courtney
Excellent video Courtney. They say more money more problems. Nowadays one of those problems is the women who pursue men for the size of their bank account and not the size of his heart. Like you said I'm not saying wealth is bad but it's not everything. There's MUCH more that goes into a successful and meaningful relationship. Greed is not in that equation at all. Thanks Courtney.
The 70k comment makes sense to me, it really comes down to where you live. I live in central NJ and make 80k a year but in retrospect that is nothing for my area because I live in an area where you have the high concentration of stem majors/doctors/lawyers.
I just wanna say that I’m very appreciative of your channel. Some of the things that you have said I know and other things you have given me a new perspective too. I always look forward to your reaction or comment. It really does help to hear another woman say these things