i had to rewatch that 3x because i thought i heard wrong lol...what is wrong with this generation 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️! can you imagine if they had "Farts in a Jar" in the 1700s?! you'd get a beautifully hand written letter on parchment with the jar that reads ..."Contained in thou jar is the expulsion of thy behind. Do it with it what thou whilst and I bid you adieu!" 🤦♀️🤦🤦♂️🤦♀️🤦🤦♂️🤦♀️🤦🤦♂️
10:00 this is a perfect example of the disconnect between men and women. “I can’t imagine being that lonely” understand, you’re talking about something like 70-80% of men. There’s a quote that I can’t remember who said it (I’ll probably get it wrong) but it kinda goes like this. “Women will never truly understand what life is like for men, and how could they? Life, for the majority of men is like walking through a cold, dry, dark desert, alone, dying of thirst, and the worst part is that nobody ACTUALLY cares, and you learn to accept that.”
Completely agree. I'm one of the 70-80% you mention, even though I'm educated, solvent, fit and articulate. However, I never married, have no children and through circumstances no close family. I'm about to spend my seventh consecutive Xmas alone (I know some people with families might think I'm lucky), but it does underline how isolated one is and I'm likely to talk to a cam girl for some company.
As a recovering porn addict, I cannot agree more. There's such a huge difference in state of mind and perspective between maintaining that self control and giving in to those urges
@@kirubashankarz Do you remember those times from childhood when you were joyful about random things and without any worry in the world? Nofap and sexual discipline make you get those feelings back.
I have an extremely addictive personality so I definitely feel this struggle. I've been addicted to everything from drugs to sex. My sex drive goes through the roof where I could go every second of every day. It's one of the most frustrating things about me that I know comes off in a bad way in my relationships. Definitely something I have to work on and probably always will have to.
Women : I want a man with sexual discipline so he won't harass me when I'm frigid. Also women : I want a man to be so attracted to me he can't control himself. 🙄
Also, Women: "I want men to control themselves, but I want men not to masturbate so I CONTROL THEM" "No Nut November" is all about women controlling men. It reminds me of the old feminist movement to get women to stop participating in porn, so men would have to go to women for sex. SEX = CONTROL for women. If you don't sexually desire women, they have no leverage.
Seeing that you are an above-average beautiful woman I think it could be argued that you'll never ever experience the kind of loneliness so many guys experience on a day-to-day basis. I don't intend to be mean when I say this, because I quite like your channel, it's just something that many beautiful women I've talked to cannot even comprehend because they've never experienced anything even close to this.
You bring a good point up. As a middle aged man who's never had relationship or marriage, loneliness is my constant reality, friend or fiend. Fact is, I have to deal with it, it is default, it is reality, it's like being on a raft in the middle of the south Pacific with minimal supplies. You have to make due because there isn't any other reality. What female friends I do have, they have sincerely expressed that I am a handsome guy with the most desirable attributes. These ladies are not available mind you.
@@wcg19891 Kind of why marriage often happens in prime physical condition, at an age when hormones function at their peak. On purpose. Sort of how society continues its existence into the future.
I think having self - control is a trait that is attractive in both sexes; women who lack self control are not trustworthy either. I speak from personal experience, my ex had no self - control when spending money which put me in a horrible state of mind, anxiety, lack of respect for her and generally not considering her a long term serious partner at all.
Sexual self control assumes people have opportunities and options but do not give in to them. Most women have an abundance of options at all times so it's valued more in their gender. This in comparison to most men who don't have options can easily fake it as "self control" when in reality they just simply can't attract a girl to have sex. When there is a man getting offered sex by women in abundance, society first looks at all the positive traits he possessed to bring in such attraction.
@@darthcholo great point! In order to demonstrate sexual self control one needs to exercise chastity in spite of an abundance of potential options. For men since the general availability/likelihood for sexual opportunity is lower their standard needs to be higher. In addition to having all the qualities that women are seeking they need to refrain from any kind of sexual temptation including viewing any form of pornography amongst other things.
@@susheel2k7 pornography caters to a mans need for variety. It's a drug hitting dopamine levels the same way social media does for womens dopamine levels. different stimuli same effect. Eliminate porn and social media for this conversation. Sexual discipline in a man is not necessarily attractive to women by itself. It's more about what being discipline means behind the scenes. A man who doesn't act desperate means the man has an abundance of sexual options. It means many women want him. That matters more to women compared to if he's actually sleeping with many women.
@THE ADAM FRIEDLAND SHOW it's easy for a woman to tell a man to have self control. They've been turning down d1ck daily since they turned 15 years old (well not as many woman as we think). As a top 10% man, many of whom have been invisible for the majority of his rise to the top, it's not so easy for him to turn down something that's forever been out of his grasp. Women do see "desperation for sex" as a sign of somebody who is NOT at a 10% man. That for sure is a red flag for a woman. But it's not necessarily that he's sleeping with many women. It's the desperation and thirst that showcase that he can't sleep with woman that is a turnoff.
@@darthcholo 2017 PH study revealed that 1 in 3 users is a woman. On mobile and smaller devices the gap shrinks even more. Many npcs compare adult content with social media as if women don't watch p or n, and men don't use social media.
From a male's perspective: the difficulty is to hold back your sex drive as soon as you are triggered in any way, because when the going gets tough, your brain automatically slips into your pants, no matter what you do. It is then almost a kind of spiritual exercise not to let yourself go immediately, but rather to enjoy the process of being turned on on a whole different level.
facts, and when u are solid in ur purpose u become attractive which in turn breaks the loneliness cycle, i highly recommend you read “outwitting the devil” by napoleon hill - specifically the interview part - it pretty much writes it all into a summary that’s actually enjoyable to read
My best sexual experiences happened when I was disciplined in sex and in life. Think no porn, less jerking off, healthy food, not smoking and drinking, excercising regularly. This builds my mojo so much. I think we men should enjoy strengthening our minds, bodies and dicks forever.
how do you strengthen your dick? LOL the "healthy food, not smoking and drinking, excercising regularly" is prob 99% of where you'd actually get benefits.
@@realasf17like a week after the initial withdrawal, but embrace and love it, because that means it's working and rewiring your system and clearing out karma
Agree with you 100%. Still need to release tension from time to time in healthy manner but without pron definitely. And all other activities are as much important. I started it some time ago and results are more than expected.
As a young man I was told some great advice. Deferred gratification is the secret to life. The other was when you know you're going to have loses, the sooner you cut them the better. Both these gems have made me a success.
Not afraid to admit it; porn addiction was o e of the worst things that ever happened to me. I've tried numerous times to kick the habit with some short term success but always relapsed. I've been abstaining now for almost a month and the benefits are clearer than when I gave up drinking 2.5 years ago. Absolutely 100% I agree with the concept of this video!
I know someone that has a pornography addiction. He was able to overcome his addiction attending addiction recovery classes. If you need help in this area seek out help.
It's tough, when women (according to dating app statistics) find 80% of men immediately unattractive. Courtney's right... We (I'll speak for being an average man) only want affection and connection, but women are emphatically telling us that we are unattractive and often creepy. Porn is clearly not the answer, but for many men, that's the only affection they can reliably access.
People say a lot of things all the time. Physical appearance is only one aspect of attraction. Physical attraction weighs even less women. It's brain chemistry caused by hormones and pheromones etc. that creates attraction. Something you can't get from looking at a screen. That's why men need to stay the hell away from dating apps.
No - women that SEARCH on dating apps have these preferences. Not every woman is on a dating app, and even if she plays around a bit there, it does not mean she will do so all her life. We humans crave interactions, so improve your game in REALITY - as other men are still bumbling around on dating apps, it gives you an edge. Be open, be vulnerable. Give her a quick taste of admiration but not too much intensity. Women have to be wary to attract unwanted attention of creeps. She does not know you, so do not come on too strong too soon. Admit if you like her. Train yourself to have GOOD eye contact. (soft eye, but steady). Do not use any pickup lines. Just be honest, express a little bit of admiration, get yourself in the mood where you do not exude the vibe of neediness, entitlement etc. Just an offhand compliment. Just the vibe of: Hey I noted you and I like what I see (and observe in your behavior). Train yourself to make nice but original complements (also with persons that have not romantic interest in). If you develop the art of complimenting with your siblings, relatives, church members, work collegues - you can suprise a woman pleasantly by make a flattering observation. Just do not say: your eyes, hair are beautiful when that is obvious. She has heard that many times.
@@mezjean5966"Physical appearance is only one aspect of attraction" But it's still needed. "Physical attraction weighs even less women. " This is a myth. It's just that there are OTHER things women like, such as money. The rest of your post makes even less sense.
Porn for men is terrible just like social media is horrible for women. Of course society will only say one is a problem though. I knew social media was horrible for people when I was in high school. The truth is slowly coming out.
I caught my ex with another dude after 6 years of marriage. After getting out of that, it was several months before I had interest in dating. I met a few girls that were ready to hop in the bed on the first or second date, seemed to be more interested in my lifestyle than me, but I didn't want another one like the one I had! I met a girl in her mid-20's, never married, no kids. We didn't do anything for about 5 months, didn't even discuss sex. I know, most would say they are not interested in a woman if they are not putting out after a couple dates. Before you jump on that thought, I am now in my mid-50's, have any idea how many friends I have that have been divorced after catching their wives cheating? The same women that were willing to bang on the first or second date! The same one that waited 5 months, we dated for 2 years, got married and soon having our 25th anniversary. Still have a more active sex life than most couples married 2-3 years!
@@thaydathroeun8678 - She didn't "make" me wait, I didn't initiate. I previously found out settling down with an easy girl is problem waiting to happen.
@@chrism2042 hahahahaha...HAHAHAHA... When I read that response, I was hoping you'd respond back. You didn't disappoint. The only problem I might have with the "she wants to wait ✋ " thing is if she's older and didn't want to wait with her one nighters and fwb's. Its really best to just avoid those reformed good girls.
Your story is inspiring, and you may indeed be onto something. But maybe dumb luck also plays a role. I know people who took their time getting to know their brides-to-be, and they ended up in divorces anyway. But I will concede that it's probably a legit statement that a gal who jumps in the sack early in the relationship may be too loose and is too ready to simply play the field.
I am very glad that you shared this video, I have always been taught that the more times a man is with a different woman before being with the one to be your wife, causes a lot of lack in commitment to the one that you choose to be your wife, so I have chosen to wait for the right woman, instead of just hook ups for self gratification
I think it's hard for women to imagine the sex drive young men have. It gets a lot easier when you are older to ignore and put these urges aside, but in your sexual prime it can be a real nuisance to even yourself in your daily life. Basically anything with two bumps and a heartbeat is game, in the eyes of your hormones. That doesn't give you a 'get out of jail free' pass for any of your actions, but I think that hormone-supercharged drive to procreate is sometimes dismissed too easily.
Yeah but you forgot the part that men are wrong all time in this society, after 26 years of living on earth I can tell you no one ever told me that any of my natural feelings is valid mean while, some chick eating 3k calories a day is a queen and Beautiful,
Exactly. After a few days my mind is constantly racing with sex thoughts. I have to tear one off just to be productive. But apparently I'm not supposed to look at pron when I do it. And many say I just shouldn't do it. That is just not practical. And I'd like to say it diminishes with age but I'm 50 and nothing has changed since I was 20. Also keep in mind that many men just can't ever get a wife. So I guess they are just supposed to not have any sexuality? WTF people.
Grown men don't partake in NNN. That's just ridiculous. If you have a pornography addiction then that's another issue entirely where it's detracting from your daily life. Young men naturally have high levels of hormones and it's fine to desire women. But put it all in perspective. If all you do is think about women everyday, every hour, then you need to get your priorities in order. How about establishing yourself successfully and finding your purpose. No woman will give you that.
Nah, who said it was wrong to desire women? You wouldn't believe how much i changed in 2 months of semen retention. Honestly I've never felt so good, i like much more how i look in the mirror. When you're single and you jerk off to porn(or without it) all the time you tell you're subconscious that you already passed on your genes and reproduced, so youre done, what elese can motivate you to workout and work on yourself.
Nothing wrong with cracking off a quick wank every now and then, perfectly healthy for both Men and Women. If you are doing it all the time is is a sympthom of something else which is wrong. It is unhealthy obsessive and addictive behaviour. Keeping away from Porn to my mind is a good thing though. It is not real sex and real intimacy and is just a proxy for what you really want in your sexual life.
I get what you mean. No nut November implies that it's a temporary restraint. Other wise it'd be not doing it, period. If you're in it, the more time passes, the more problems come to the surface. I started when I was 11 and it's been 10 years already. The longest I lasted without it was 10 days. Plenty of times I think it's because of stress from so many things like having an abusive family, no friends at all, manipulative people, no work/life balance in school, etc. I wasn't cared for, but I need to care for myself.
It's not always about men's lack of impulse control or addiction. The bottom line is many women lose their biologically motivated sex drive for various reasons over time and they are just not able to receive the sexual energy their partner may still have. It doesn't really matter what is or is not attractive to the man if his partner either isn't interested or isn't communicating what they actually want. I've had these tough conversations with my wife and straight up told her that a) it's difficult to manage because of the libido mismatch between us b) that use of porn to redirect that energy is not a an indication that she is no longer desirable to me. If a woman is only in the mood once a month or less, she should not expect her partner to be "saving up" that energy for her.
If your woman is in the mood once a month then she simply has no respect for you and does not see you as a man anymore. You need to move on. If a man knows how to keep a woman in line, submissive, he will get sex pretty much whenever he wants even years down in the relationship. I know it is a tough pill to swallow we have all been there but just take the L and start dating other women
Women: I want to be in a relationship with a man who doesn't just want sex the moment we meet Same women not 5 minutes later: I just keep having sex with random guys I heard this conversation in the gym last week between a group of girls
Agreed...NEVER listen to or take "dating advice" from women....especially a female "dating coach".....science has proven women DONT know what they want....instead of listening to what she says watch what she DOES.
@Carmen trust me,i know enough and more than you think....are you going to deny my previous statement despite it being statisticly true?....if so your are deluded.....i have even heard some WOMEN say dont listen to what she says but WATCH what she DOES......and if WOMEN themselves say this then you can draw your own conclusions.
@@damien5748 If you think that you made a valid point for your case... think again. Bringing "evidence" that woman lie and do one thing while saying something else, will NOT help you to prove that they don't know what they want. If you would witness a man that lies to woman to get what he wants, would you conclude that he does not know what he wants? Your arguments and evidence should fit the point you want to prove. And you should not switch what you want to prove mid-argument.
That's exactly why I never remove my headphones at the gym, seriously, the amount of stupid shit you hear just makes me cringe... Although I've made good friends, girls and guys at the gym, most people that attend are shallow AF.
My brother met his wife when he was in debt and working a dead end job. They have a lot in common and he was always trying to get his sh*t together. I don't think "simps" today realize how important it is to have goals. A lot of women won't care if a man isn't a big success as long as he is doing the best he can.
"A lot of women (...)" - yeah, that applies to basically everything. But what is the major trend? They want your success at this very moment, otherwise you're a loser.
I would assume yes since it takes strength for a man to be in control of his desires. As Aristotle once said "I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies, for the hardest victory is over self."
You are such a positive influence on this platform. We need like 20 more people like you doing the same thing. Guys are directionless now, and you are doing the work their parents couldn’t
men are not that directionless............... its women that are confused and directionless... ort actually they are perfects multidirectional in every misguided direction
Porn is very subjective. I've dated a lot of women who watched porn regularly. The rest are pretty basic. People who want a relationship don't find the other actions attractive whether you're a man or woman. And yes, there are women who are the same. I'd say about 1/3 of the women I've dated, especially if I met them on a dating app, turned out to just want to bang because they were recently divorced, separated, or otherwise jaded by relationships. Most women will never know what it's like to be truly "lonely". An attractive woman like you, no matter how lonely you feel temporarily, is surely never alone. Women have more friends, they're usually closer with family, even heavier women can get a guy anytime she wants. It's a huge disconnect that most women can't comprehend about men. Especially as we age where men don't typically have many, if any, real friends and the dating pool gets shallower. It makes me glad I don't like most people all that much 😂
@@BurgerKingNationalist Nice of you to jump to conclusions when I simply made a rational observation and a stated a fact. I wasn't complaining you nimrod.
Porn, even "ethical pornography" is simply not good to consume in any capacity. People can spin it any way they'd like and have whatever justification for who watches it and for whatever reason it's viewed. It's damaging at its core. If you're grown, you don't need an explanation for watching it. If you enjoy it, that's your prerogative. No one can tell you what to do. But the truth is, porn is destructive.
@@V_ii How so? Porn is ten thousand times better than sex with women. If only women were as faithful and as rewarding as pornography! IF ONLY!! Women are pathetic and dismal compared to porn. I'll def. take porn over women any day of the year. (even on a wedding night). I don't understand how or why porn is bad? It's like saying chocolate cake is bad. Obviously it's pretty damn good if it's revenue is more than all the major league sports revenues combined, eh? Something's awfully good about it... geee.... I wonder what it may be!??? Could it be that it doesn't reject you? It doesn't hurt you. It doesn't get pregnant or give you an STD. It doesn't charge you with rape 30 years later (Christine Blase-Ford/Brett Kavanagh, Bill Cosby, Harvey Weinstein, Jeffrey Epstein etc...). Porn is by far THE GREATEST invention in modern history. By far! SAY YES to porn. Put women out of business. Make women obsolete. Teach them a lesson. Teach them they are useless, spoiled, delusional , entitled over-emancipated cunts. Real men say NO to women. Real men DON'T bust to women.
Controlling sexual urges and self control is without a doubt the HARDEST thing I have ever had to do. It is so incredibly challenging, and when you feel incredibly lonely and unloved (especially in todays world) it’s really hard to not turn to anything and everything you can do to feel loving by something or someone. My wife doesn’t hates it when I’m needy or desperate but once you go there you just start spiraling, you need it so bad but you don’t get anything bc you’re needy which makes you more needy and less attractive. Viscous cycle that’s really hard to break from.
@@zapatastyle ...but, as wife she *should* be doing her part for intimacy between both of you - and you also *should* be doing your part for her. This will sound religious but that's exactly what the Bible actually says for husband and wife: Not to deny each other the gift and blessing of each other's intimacy (unless you both mutually agree, and even then, only for a short time).
As I said to another guy here, as your wife she *should* be doing her part for intimacy between both of you - and as her husband you also *should* be doing your part for her. It sounds religious but that's exactly what the Bible actually says for husband and wife: Not to deny each other the gift and blessing of each other's intimacy (unless you both mutually agree, and even then, only for a short time).
But you’ve had sex then right? With your wife? That’s noble of you but now imagine a man who’s never had the pleasure of female love. There is always worse pain than yours.
I've been practicing "nofap" for about four months now. It's given me a lot of self discipline which has really improved all areas of my life. And I'm also no longer, ya know, ruining my dopamine receptors by feeding into a porn addiction.
It would change your genes if your ugly not magically get you women😂 most people think that no fap will somehow improve there genes well unfortunately it’s permanent. No fap just gives you more energy since you lose energy and feel sleepy when you fap
Good job! But ye talk about what ye're NOT doing instead of talking about what ye are doing. It is not because ye stopped fapping. But rather because you spend this time doing something else with yourself.
This encouraged me to practice semen retention. I always wanted to have that control over my sexual impulses but always found myself doing it anyway. This video is motivation. Thank you
Honestly, the reason I keep falling back into porn is I don’t feel worthy of love. It’s the one place that doesn’t reject me. I came across it at 8 years old and with the bullying in my childhood, the depression, the anxiety, and stress I feel from life….it’s become a drug. when friends don’t want to/can’t hang out on a weekend, it becomes the one thing that still says yes to me after so many no’s from people. It’s A coping mechanism. I have gone long streaks without it and I want to be 90 days free before I start dating again but I have a fear of being rejected again. I’m trying to stay hopeful but it is hard as hell being 26 years old and dealing with this for so many years.
It doesn't get easier I'm in the same position but I'm 45....Still dealing w/ a ton of trauma from childhood, including heavy bullying and ridicule, which affected the turnout of my entire life....became an alcoholic...Been almost 10 years since I went on a date or had sex..,,currently in AA, sober, and trying to pick up the pieces and in therapy for trauma.
@@brassyjazzful @courtneyryan I feel like a video on ways to stay hopeful and live with purpose even in moments of hardship would be helpful in fighting this battle. We need more strategies to go to war against it so we can love our women better. I hope and pray my children never have to see it at the age I did, it breeds too much curiosity if you have a high sex drive.
Hey, this is my story almost exactly. I’m 27. The anxiety will slowly creep up on you. Intrusive thoughts can destroy you. Learn to recognize and shut them down.
I think it’s great that you have the awareness of knowing why you watch it so much. Cuz once you’re aware you can learn to cultivate that discipline my advice to you is when you feel like watching porn next time start asking yourself if it’s worth and and try to see if you can do something else instead. That’s what worked for me. ☺️
Keep it up. Why should us men give our power away to a cheap thrill. In the end it only damage us, enpowers hoes, put us men on the bottom side. Time to take our power back.
After my ex cheated on me with a roommate, I’m basically cured of my sex drive. I can’t even bring myself to touch or look at my junk to shower, pee, etc. I don’t even get aroused by instagram models anymore, which is totally fine by me because I don’t need to be looking at that shit anyways. Hooking up is dumb, this year’s events I’ve been through have totally changed my outlook on sex. I’m proud of myself for having restraint, sucks a shitty breakup is what it took for me to get to this point. Don’t get yourself in the trap of pornography, OnlyFans, instagram models y’all. It just causes more harm in the end. Respect women, and have strong morals. Women are more than their bodies or sexuality. Take your time when getting to know someone before diving into bed with them. These are all hard lessons I’ve had to learn through a toxic and shitty breakup.
If you don`t have sex you will get a cancer that will kill you. Sex is a natural action that is necassary for good health. Masterbation is good for cleaning out the system and maintaining a healthy body system. Nature can help you or kill you. If you refuse to be a human, nature will kill you.
Working on yourself to be a better person is the biggest key to make the proper relationship choices. Any choices. Head or heart.Views change, behavior changes. Behavior changes, nature changes. Nature changes, destination /outcome changes.
Almost everyone I know well enough to be able to ask hard questions to has confessed that they wished they weren’t so promiscuous. I was the guy who got the virgin jokes growing up because I wanted to wait on a wife. At 31 my journey is finding its reward in the most genuine and selfless woman I know, and I’m certain this wouldn’t have come to pass if did not take the hard road. In short Courtney is absolutely right.
I was starting to lose hope in finding the right woman. I have been Sexually Disciplined for a long time, now, and have been constantly barraged with these impossibly sexually frustrating situations - especially when going to the gym… Sexual Frustration is one of the most hideous forms of anguish a man can feel and a huge part of it is attributable to our abhorrently dysfunctional society… You do remind me that the right woman is out there… Each day, I just have to stay calm, collected, disciplined*, and focus on becoming a better Man. Eventually she will show…
Right woman doesn't exist. She will eventually show up after being broken by others with a sexual past longer than the highway if it was a metric for it but she will love you, mentally fucked by she will .
I think our (Western) society liberalizes but also casualizes sex so much. In our society - and this is very regularly portrayed in popular culture, or even everyday conversation generally -, basically any woman (or man) can actually or instantly be considered for sex by a man (or woman), even if one has never said a word to them. Everything is "fair game" (as long as you play by the rules of consent, of course, and, the rules of morals, at least for some). This is a hyper liberalized culture. It then becomes very difficult to (constantly) resist urges, when so many temptations exist (again, because we can basically consider anyone for a hook up anytime). This, as you seem to have described, can make it very difficult just to get by in life, on a physical level. Another difficult aspect, which at least applies a lot to me but probably applies to a lot of other men (and women) too, is the seeming tension to "make a move" as a man whenever the "opportunity" might arise (that the possibility or plausibility of mutual attraction might exist). I feel that men get the sense that they "need to have game", or be the initiators when(ever) the realm of _possibility_ with a woman comes up - and if they don't make a move, like starting a conversation or something, they are seen as less manly (i.e., they have no game). This appears to be the opposite of what Courtney says here (in a way), but in society in general, I feel we feel a lot of pressure to hook up, at least just verbally initially, with someone at every given opportunity. I suspect the consideration of basically anybody of the opposite sex (speaking heteronormatively, of course) as a legit target or candidate for sex does not exist in many other societies, and people therefore naturally opt more for the long-term relationship type, and it probably helps with sexual discipline as well. Anyway, keeping fighting the good fight my sir. I've been trying to implement sexual discpline myself recently, and I think it's paying off in the sense that I don't consider every single woman as a legit target for sex right away anymore. It makes resisting, or sexual discipline, seem a lot easier anyway. I'm still not quite over the hump of not casually considering anymore still, but I think there's been some improvements.
I've done no fap before for about 3 months once and I'm telling you from experience if you're abstaining solely to find the right woman it's NOT going to work. All the BS you hear about female attraction because of semen retention is absolutely false. This is why the ugly guy who's abstaining still won't get girls and the Chad who's spewing his semen all the time will. Abstaining from sex or semen retention is for "spiritual practices" ONLY don't expect some sorta mister world wide results just because this woman said "a sexually disciplined man is attractive". Mind you this is coming from women who more than likely have slept with tons of chads but they tell this lie like what Courtney is doing to make you wait for sex as she strings you along for attention. You don't have to take my advice at all but I've tried it all man and it really just comes down to social skills to get a great woman not sexual discipline is what I found.
“LonelyFans” LMAO I love it. This video was amazing. You made such great points. I’ve been thinking about this topic for a while, especially because hook up culture, social media, and the sex industry have really killed genuine connection and has damaged and traumatized so many people. We have so many trust issues because of things like this and so if someone shows discipline in all areas (especially this one) then it is an absolute turn on and makes the person high value. Thank you for sharing. 💖
My experience is that women feel hurt and rejected if I am not trying to 'get at them' at the pace they desire. I have had many very good women 'get hurt' because they are wanting me to make a move, but I won't until I get to know them better/there is a deeper connection.
@zerp blerd I basically made the same point as you on other comments . Women want it down their way and when they want it, if they don’t get it like they they will quickly lose interest and they also don’t want to talk about it, they want you to just do it and be telepathic . They overlook all women have different traits and assume you should know exactly what she wants even though she can’t bring herself to communicate it . Then if you try and communicate the issue she will see it as a failure and how you’re not a good match instead of realize you actually recognize an issue and want her to be happy. Most of the time what they see is “ oh , he’s not man enough for me “ Then ironically they fall for boys , f&ckboys and think to themselves “wow , he’s so confident and masculine/ sure of himself , what a breath of fresh air “ When really the guy is just a borderline r@pey dude who doesn’t think about boundaries , but Iv heard women describe men like that as “ he makes me feel like a woman, he’s passionate , he knows how to take control, our intimate life is exhilarating “ Lol no, he’s just a dum dum, you just like cavemen!
The problem today is that feminists use the lower vibrations of masculine energy and think they are feminine, men get destroyed and use the lower vibrations of feminine energy. And life for most men are all about competition you have to be the strongest all the time anyone who doesent can be strong all the time get destroyed by other men and society. If u can’t controll yourself you end up in jail or get destroyed by porn or drugs. And porn allso is made to make men feminine. Being healthy masculine is one of the hardest thing a man can do today and that Come with time and when you can overcome all challanges life throw at you. I just woke up it is 7pm on a saturday and im going to work out right away. I work out every day, it is all about self discipline wich most men lack today like 80% lack it, i can controll my mind and my emotions, i have been free from drug and porn for a long time now and life is really awsome i get my dopamine healthy today i have been trough both back and arm,elbow and hand surgery the doctors told me i would never be able to walk normal or lift anything again my elbow is made out of screws and plates, don’t ever let anyone tell u what u can and can’t do. Today i can run and do pushups and pullups 1year after surgery💪 anything is possible you just gotta belive👍 the mind is so much more powerfull then we can imagine. Now im going for a run and do pushups and pullups in the park early a saturday morning, after that a cold shower. Porn destroy men it makes u have wrong tought som both women and sex while u support rape and humantradfiking. I know life can be lonely sometimes you don’t got 1 living human to even talk to and no one have ever listened to you your whole life while Nobody gives a fuc about u or what u feel while feminists are out there to destroy you. There is no other way then use discipline and become hard you can’t be soft if you want to survive when you get discipline life Will get better that is the only way for men to find healthy masculinity. If you have issues hit me up i Will do everything in my power to help you. Real men protect the weak and women and family❤ Peace n love✌️
you said the right thing: it's important to not be on the extreme side. Healthy sex is important both for women and men, and a lack of sex is a big contributor to stress, anxiety, and many other health issues in our society. There is no such thing as "sex addiction", but there is an unhealthy way of getting it.
Courtney this is a great topic you covered. One issue men have regarding sexual discipline is, when to actually go for the kiss; be intimate for the first time, etc. Since all women are different, many women are turned off, and put men in the friend zone, if they have that discipline, for too long after meeting. They decide a man isn't interested, doesn't know how to make a move at the right time, etc. Many men want to get to know a woman, to see if she is a good fit, only to be ghosted if a man takes too long. So there is a fine line in sexual discipline. If a man respects a woman, and doesn't want to get in her pants right away, but instead wants to win her mind, and trust, it can either be a win-win, or a loss. Ofcourse it depends on each individual woman, but even the wisest one's will eventually think to themselves " why doesn't he make a move" or " does he not think I'm attractive emotionally or physically"? So there are variables in this equation. Communication is the key, to sexual discipline with a potential long term partner or mate.
You can always clear things up in a simple way like: 'I really like you but I want to take things slow and get to know you better.' Now your intent leaves no room for doubt, you show that you're serious, and you also display discipline if that is your goal. No normal person would have a problem with this unless it's taking you like a year to evaluate. Now if you're afraid that this approach will turn her off then we enter into desperation territory, where it's not lust which overrides your discipline but fear.
I've said it before and I'll say it again: Courtney Ryan is one of the few channels where I don't feel, as a man, I'm being sold something or lectured. Or worst made to feel guitly for being a man. Women in the 21st Century western women get what they deserve. For over 50 years, men have been made to feel like being male and straight is 'wrong'. We've been marginalised and treated in such a way more and more men are doing their own thing. Opting out. There's a horrible set of double standards: When women want to do their own thing and reject the need of men they're labelled as winners. When men do it? We're labelled as 'incels' or women hating? As for dating? More and more people are staying single because dating has become more trouble than it's worth. And that's before you get to the fact people have less free time. The truth is you have to find yourself before you find someone to date.
You absolutely nailed it in the last part of the video around the 10 min point. There is such a breakdown in communication these days and that disconnect between men and women and frankly most women being so out of tune to what men actually want or need has led to this extreme level of loneliness in men which in turn has caused some men to sink to so low a place where all they can do to feel something is watch and pay for temporary sexual pleasure on the internet. It’s a sad truth of life, speaking from someone who cannot find even a half decent woman
watch dr. Rachael Ross on UA-cam for men's sexual health information and Celine Remy and her husband, both on UA-cam, who are interested in helping men and women enjoy their sexual lives. One of the important pieces of advice that I learned was to tell a woman to "take your time" when having sex (not just intercourse) but to help take the pressure off of her to orgasm (it takes her longer than a man); and, also, to talk about that sometimes one of you may just want a "release" and not a full-blown sexual experience. Perhaps just oral sex not leading to intercourse or a hand job. Be open and communicate...
Check out the Black Philip Show, keep on listening - over time it will make ever more sense. Do NOT sacrifice your own happiness, guard it with everything you can. It will change your life brother
The problem today is that feminists use the lower vibrations of masculine energy and think they are feminine, men get destroyed and use the lower vibrations of feminine energy. And life for most men are all about competition you have to be the strongest all the time anyone who doesent can be strong all the time get destroyed by other men and society. If u can’t controll yourself you end up in jail or get destroyed by porn or drugs. And porn allso is made to make men feminine. Being healthy masculine is one of the hardest thing a man can do today and that Come with time and when you can overcome all challanges life throw at you. I just woke up it is 7pm on a saturday and im going to work out right away. I work out every day, it is all about self discipline wich most men lack today like 80% lack it, i can controll my mind and my emotions, i have been free from drug and porn for a long time now and life is really awsome i get my dopamine healthy today i have been trough both back and arm,elbow and hand surgery the doctors told me i would never be able to walk normal or lift anything again my elbow is made out of screws and plates, don’t ever let anyone tell u what u can and can’t do. Today i can run and do pushups and pullups 1year after surgery💪 anything is possible you just gotta belive👍 the mind is so much more powerfull then we can imagine. Now im going for a run and do pushups and pullups in the park early a saturday morning, after that a cold shower. Porn destroy men it makes u have wrong tought som both women and sex while u support rape and humantradfiking. I know life can be lonely sometimes you don’t got 1 living human to even talk to and no one have ever listened to you your whole life while Nobody gives a fuc about u or what u feel while feminists are out there to destroy you. There is no other way then use discipline and become hard you can’t be soft if you want to survive when you get discipline life Will get better that is the only way for men to find healthy masculinity. If you have issues hit me up i Will do everything in my power to help you. Real men protect the weak and women and family
@@djvn229 like it's hard for a woman not to have sex? 1/3rd of women are asexual, 2/3rd never gets orgasm. Half of them doesn't need sex in their life, they don't understand men needs.
Yeah don't act needy then all you want a hug and a friend from all the abuse and isolations for decades caused by the bullies and abusers you choose because they confident and not needy because they put others down so your logic is to choose evil people. Why you think people are needy in the first place. From pain and neglect since childhood. How people you choose are over confident by putting other people down and they have no shame. And then complain so many that end up with bad guys and want good guy. the damage they cause should be a crime you completely ruin a good genuine person who could have had potential for life and good for society and productivity. This happens all over the world as people have no brain cells. Before you mean to someone think about why that person is the way he is. And reflect on yourself are you really a decent human being for putting others down. If it was in my power I would help as many people and especially hurt children as I could. That's what I'd use if I was wealthy what you people do with your success use it for selfish needs. Same in relationship what you looking for? You not looking for love you looking for someone to benefit you. That's selfish you don't care about the person you are with. You should be thinking is too love each other care for each other. In general we should encourage each other for a better life and not this toxic selfish nonsense. Pardon my bad English.
Self Control in everything is good ... Not just sex. It shows that the person's action are all deliberate, and thought out before hand ... As opposed to an impulsive person who can't always account for their decisions/ actions.
All the things you are mentioning also apply to women. Taking care of yourself, exercise, a desire to work. Your videos are great Courtney. You have the right values, and your subtle humour is awesome.
I dont know, I wish this was true, but from most my own experiences with women, if you dont find a way to sexually escalate sooner than later she will get bored and move on. I'll give you one of many examples, I met this girl off Tinder, she was trying to get me to come over, I was tired that evening and asked her if she minded if we wait until nefxt week so we can meet up for a date instead, given we barely know each other. She ended up ghosting me. This has happened time and time again. Looking back, I feel like things would have turned out differently with most women had I initiated physical intimacy sooner than later.
the detail here is that you met her on tinder. of course she got bored easily. shes a low quality chick. get off that shit and youll find women tend to appreciate not being pressured on the first meeting.
Same here man. Like another commented, better sooner than later. My issue was lack of knowing how to escalate things. Found a great blog online that really helped me from Nick Notas
I’ve been one month semen retention, nofap and been working out a lot more. I’ve noticed I don’t even care for woman anymore and don’t even give them the attention I used to. My dopamine feels so much better and I can control my urges with certain things so much better now. I eat healthier and have conscious eating. I can literally look at a bird flying and I find it interesting and I smile more and judge people less it’s crazy. I notice though woman pay attention to me more even when I’m trying to ignore them it’s interesting. Porn is the worst thing and you made a lot of clear cut issues for men and even woman. Porn can destroy lives and it’s never touched on the subject that even woman can be addicted to porn. But yes you are right I always felt like I was supposed to have sex like the guy in the porn. Life is great without it and it’s not to say I don’t care for woman I do I just mean they aren’t my number 1 priority and if I find someone special then definitely bring that special person along. Life feels great atm. Great video and great points, keep up the great work!
Every time I see your video, I was reminded of all of my past experiences, good and bad, and I was able to look back at them from a new angle. Thank you Courtney, you are a gem.
From recent experience, I've realized the benefits of not pushing a girl for sex or seeming too eager. Sex is not as simple and easy as it is portrayed in pornography. It is complicated. Physics and biology always get in the way. That's why it's important to remain disciplined and only move to that stage once you and your partner are ready.
Facts tho! Several years ago i was in that same category but i was in pain over a break up that I didn't want to happen and it took me a long time to climb out of that hole. Im glad that i did tho. I still have some ways to go in the form of sexual discipline but im looking inward in order to heal from that & become better. 💪💪💪💪
I had a girlfriend and we were a couple for over half a year. I never pressured her. When I told her I would like to sleep with her, she left me instantly... She didn't feel attracted to my discipline. Every girl is crazy in a different way, there are no rules. I think she did this with a lot of guys.
What an amazing woman you are Courtney! Thank you for your courage, dedication and speaking the truth that so many people are burying because of too many quick fixes in today's society.
As a man. I realized the more stressed out you are. The more your body ask you for release the stress through sex, also boredom.. I was in a point of life where I had to work hard to finish university and was willing to have lack of sexual discipline because I was in hard point where everything collided so I escape from reality. Also works with video games and so on.
Sexual discipline is a facade. A guy could have a massive porn addiction but doesn't keeps it out of sight and off his social media and date women who are completely unaware of his predilection. Or a guy could have gotten one porn DVD from a bachelor party that he never watches and stupidly leave it on his bookshelf and wonder why women lose interest after visiting his place.
Because of the hyper sexualized nature of many women, a suppressed and controlled sexual desire is confusing to them, and to turn down a first advance only makes them want you more! Their mind races" he doesn't want to bone me? Everyone wants to bone me? I must have him! He can't turn me down I must prove I'm irresistible!" Modern women can be broken, it just takes a lot of patience and psychology
Yeah, the feminist movement of "equality" and almost pressuring women into having casual sex as a form of empowerment has also made a lot of this moot.
Here is what I have learnt. As a man, my urges, are high, there are triggers all around me. I can't make the world conservative for me so that my pants don't get wet, rather, I realised, self discipline is the most effective way even though it is not the only one. Self discipline for me isn't about waiting for the one, or postponing my chance to get laid, rather, it's about ultimate celibacy, and also abstinence from PMO. Ofcourse it's not easy, it's never easy, but at the end of the day, being able to make my own body bow down to my own soul is true domination, that to me is true masculinity. I ain't doing anything for a woman, I ain't doing anything to be a better citizen, rather whatever I'm doing is to be more than a mere human, to not let my soul succumb to the body's desire. I'm not a religious fanatic, I follow neither any faction nor any sect, rather my wisdom against my whims. I realised, near in here, there is a guide, the more we hear and adhere to it, the closer we get to ascension, to be more than a mere human.
I was addicted to OF because of my extreme loneliness. I decided to tally up the amount i spent and it woke me right up. Most of these girls arent even run by the girls themselves but are outsourced to other people. Now im just very lonely but at least im saving some money! lol...
"The successful among us delay gratification." Truly some great words to live by. By delaying gratification, you can become less sus and become more successful imposters and crewmates.
I will say this girl is more aware than most of how much men are struggling in general in society today and it's cool to find a girl that actually cares a little bit with a solution focused attitude.
She's a youtube business brother. A plumber doesn't fix your toilet because he cares about your bowel movements. He just does what he needs to do to eat and pay bills. All these red pill females just filled a 20 year old void in the red pill market place.
@@Bennysol lmao that's kind of funny man there was a phase a few months ago (I guess 5?!) Where I was watching "red pill" UA-cam content but honestly in my opinion girls/starting a family just simply aren't even worth the effort lol. Maybe one day I'll change my mind but rn I'm enjoying the single life 😎
The biggest battle one can win is when he win a battle against himself and corrects the mistakes he does example stop smoking or stop drinking alcohol and other obsession or edictions he’s or she’s got. Thanks. And that’s the ultimate victory.
Seeing a beautiful woman discuss the dangers of porn is actually pretty damn refreshing. We need more women and men to have the courage to speak up. Thanks, Courtney. Thanks for your bravery.
I have been practicing NoFap for over 3 months now and let me tell you guys it feels Great! I was addicted to porn and watched it for 20 years. It made me lazy and it did not motivate me to work on myself to attract the women I wanted in my life. For that reason I was single for 16 years. I know…yikes. Now that I have embarked this journey I am more focused on my life’s mission, working on publishing my book, going to work on a podcast with a friend of mine and I hold myself accountable to a friend who is also doing NoFap as well. It is hard at first because we get used to the instant satisfaction and release. The best way to release your sexual energy is to do some type of competitive sport like football, basketball or boxing which is what I do at my gym. Yes you’ll get women to get more attracted to you but at the end of the day you got do it for yourself and depend on yourself to make yourself happy. You get to decide who can have your seed. You are the prize my friends and with that said I wish you guys well. Peace. ✌️
@@prashanthb6521 While I'm all for good nutrition, diet formulas don't work for everyone. What's the point of adopting one of them if you can't do it consistently. So my advice is work on your nutrition for sure, but the changes need to work for you. The whole point is to change your eating habits for life and never go back. If you hate your diet, you're not gonna stick to it, that's my point.
I don't know how I feel about this video in particular. I came a long way since my college days where I was engaging in online sex a lot, and I lost my V card to a girl who worked in the strip club. Around that time I also had a lot of financial responsibilities dumped on me out of nowhere, having to work a lot (while going to school) to pay bills that I almost received no help from the rest of the family. I did sleep around a lot, but not to the point where I risk losing my job, getting an std, etc. I never had a gf in my 20s (mostly due to being denied), so I didn't think what I was doing is wrong. I'm more financially stable now compared to when I was younger, live on my own, but still have no gf to be intimate with. It's gets lonely at times, I'll tell you that.
you can be lonely in a relationship that starts going bad. Just have fun clapping hoes and don't worry about some Hollywood/Disney notion of soulmates or happily ever after. It's very rare to find that. Most relationships fail, and if you loved them you'll be devastated when it's over. It can take years to emotionally recover from that. It can destroy your life with a level of depression you've never experienced before. Some guys can't handle that and they end it all. If you live a life you enjoy, doing what you love every day, loneliness is just a minor humm in the background you can tune out. Get laid, have a FWB or casual consistent lover, relationships suck. They're fun at first but it all goes to s#!t. A modern relationship is two people sitting at a table looking at their phones and not talking. My last relationship started off great, but they started nagging me constantly about every little thing, started seeing me less frequently, started demanding I pay for stuff, they stopped doing sexual things that they enthusiastically performed in the beginning. It wasn't worth it. They keep it hot in the beginning to rope you in, but once they get comfortable they start becoming moody b!tchy slobs and divas, getting attitudes and making demands and withholding affection and sex to punish you. Rationing it out just enough to keep you around. Pointless. Clap em and move on.
The grass is always greener. I had a single long term committed relationship for my entire 20s and now that it has unfortunately ended I feel like I missed out on something. Mostly I'm just curious about what other women are like sexually.
I've been sexually disciplined for 23 years bruh. No man on this planet wants to be sexually disciplined, we get what we can get and that's it. If we could be with 100 models in a day we would. Most men who claim to be sexually disciplined get no action. All of us just get tied up with the one girl that shows some interest and that's it.
Sexual discipline comes naturally comes with and correlates to the standards that you have for the woman that you want to attract. "Be the Prince and you will find the Princess." -Jordan B Peterson If you project what you want to attract, then you will find the woman that projects what you want too. If you project that you just want sex all the time, you will attract only the women that want the same thing.
If only princesses existed. I respect JP. He's awesome. Maybe it's more like a Led Zeppelin lyric: "Im trying to find a woman who 's never ever been born"
It makes me laugh at times when women complain, or put men down for cheating (which BTW I don't agree with, would never do, and in all honesty, don't get the reason why anyone would) but fail to mention, or seem to forget that they're cheating with WOMEN who most likely KNOW they're cheating with them. Yet these women never get blamed, or accused, or "slammed" by women for cheating with someone else's man. It's always only ever 100% the man's fault. Again, I'm not condoning, or agreeing with cheating; just saying that the women aren't always so innocent. Also, women cheat on men as well; however this is rarely mentioned.
As a man myself who never married or have kids and been out of a relationship for 7 years. You have to stay busy,constantly reinvent yourself and don't follow into the traps of releasing your sexual energy for the wrong reasons. Yes porn is extremely bad. Masturbation should not be your only resort. This topic is not spoken enough on. I myself has been a victim of this. There is hope and help for all
Same here, no relationship for seven years, never get past a third date, masturbation to porn and cam girls, problems being attracted to women my own age. Going to try to pull out of it, but I do have a loneliness cloud that floats over me and engulfs sometimes.
Its easy to say until you havent had any initmacy for a year or more, im 32 and it just keeps getting worse and worse, I used to have no problem having GFs and pretty consistantly did from 2008-13, all my friends are married now and they never come over or are wanting to go out and do things anymore, Ive had to do more and more things by myself, online dating is a farce anymore, and when you do get intmacy it is damn near impossible to not want to try to just maximize it while it lasts as it always is so fleeting, Idk what to do about it anymore, It takes so fucking long to see results from the gym it does next to nothing to help you feel better in the moment, got my finaces up to making 90k this year and its still hard to make ends meet, idk feeling like ive been getting my ass kicked lately without much going on to look forward too on a weekly basis 😞
@@KINduz3jp unless you’re in a state where it’s illegal then you run the risk of a trafficking detective investigating you and your picture on a big wall somewhere in your local police station 🤣
Regarding gym: I hear ya, it doesn't make you feel much better in the momen (you also might have some dopamine and serotinin issues btw from the sound of it) but it makes MASSIVE difference if you get into good shape since most people aren't.
I'll tell you Courtney, I've watched so much of your content over the past two years and have such a greater understanding in approaching women and how to improve myself as a man. Personally, by far this has been the best video I've watched from you. I've heard countless preachers, authors, speakers, etc. speak about sexual control and being disciplined. Not once have I ever heard a women speak about this. This video has definitely given me a new drive to be the man I need to be for a future wife and children someday. Men are their own worst enemy and if we don't take things more serious in our life, we are heading for destruction as Proverbs 5 suggests.
I have been learning about and practicing Stoicism and Taoism philosophy and it has really helped me control not just my sexual desires but my emotions and actions.
It almost feels like a domino effect when you start paying for stuff like OnlyFans. When you get into a rut of things not working out or girls flat out rejecting you, you just give up in a sense. So porn just becomes an easy option. For me, I wish I had more self control not doing that. I would like to get better but not sure what would help
@@carytigani9859 Pretend like you're going through a rough breakup- work on yourself. Start improving any aspect of your life that you can. Stay busy doing stuff from the time you wake up until you go to sleep.
I would say that maybe for right now you don't have to put such a high value on a girl rejecting you or getting a partner. Also, I don't know how old you are or what your ambitions are but really focusing on yourself and figuring out what you want to accomplish for yourself is far more important. If you can love yourself and develop as a human being, starting from developing discipline in any aspect of life it will become easier to date, maintain relationships, and not be so frustrated about getting rejected or left because you still have yourself to rely on.
This is so important. I'm so glad my husband is very disciplined. It is one of the top reasons that I married my guy. I knew he wouldn't be a cheater and that is one of the things that I consider high value. I think many women do not understand that having a man who treats you well is the real high value man. It does not mean he agrees with you all the time. He may not earn much $. However, having high moral character is far more admirable than six pack abs or a sportscar. I can respect my husband because he is faithful to me and that makes me feel safe. He told me he knew that I wasn't a cheater and that he knew we had the same values.
I know I'm late, but chances are she wasn't the right one then. If you're only looking for fun pay for the dating apps and swipe right to your heart's content.
Courtney, you don't have to be a man on this one. You are so on-point. There are so many people out there who are incontinent - that is lacking restraint - in the way they run their lives, and they reap what they sow.
Courtney, the fact that your channel exists is a statement of modern loneliness. There's many reasons for this disconnect but one is the internet itself. That and the pandemic has thrown a monkey wrench into the gears of social skills and people , especially men, simply do not know how to share and be an actual friend with the other gender first. Add a dash of women's liberation and the sense of entitlement and not needing a man, and this leads to the scourge of single people. Many people, men and women now have grandiose and entirely unrealistic expectations of what they think their life is going to be like. I am married to the same woman, coming up now on 22 years. We have 4 children. I love my wife as my friend and partner in life FIRST. There is an illusion that you make your life whatever you want it to be. Talk about hubris. We are frail and need to depend on each other. Once we get past our 60's the sex parts hardly even work anymore. That's not what keeps us together. It is genuine caring about your partner and taking pleasure in their company. Do we still have sexual intimacy? Sure. But this is an ever smaller part of the equation, while caring and loving your partner, this is growing, and this is what keeps it going. It used to be about celibacy until marriage. Sex is so powerful it can easily destroy intimacy which seems a paradox but its true. I recognize that this view comes from a different time, for men and women. I have spoken with my 2nd child, my first son many times about why he can't find someone to marry. He is attractive and is still hitting it up regularly on tinder and bumble. Does he have lots of " action " ? Yes, much more then I had at his age. I stayed with my spouse dating for SIX MONTHS before she was ever willing to be with me intimately. She needed to learn I was trustworthy and could wait it out. Since then I won her over ! And it was WORTH IT! I however don't think I will ever have any grandkids at this point !!
I think a part of the loneliness is a choice. I’m not commenting to argue about what makes me more or less lonely than someone else but I say part of it is a choice (for now). I also believe that once i’ve improved in the social skills, looks & knowledge department it’ll be easier for me to have conversations and actually engage with people. I also believe that when I understand what I like and dislike, I can find the kinds of crowds I’d like to be a part of. Another thing for me is to not force or be forced into someone else’s life. For example I used to play basketball. I liked my teammates on the court but didn’t really enjoy being around them off the court. I also wanna control my emotions and urges. I sure it’ll make it easier for me and the people I interact with in the future. I think that’s going to bring some level of understanding since there is all kinds of different people in the world. For me I think it’s a choice and also part of the consequences caused by my previous decisions. So far it’s hard but I wanna keep going and see it through. I’m also putting my faith in god.
I 100% agree. I always steered clear of guys that were known for sleeping around. It shows self-control, maturity, and it’s just another version of having your shit together. It just seemed like the more partners you/they have, the less impactful or special that interaction or connection would be if you get with them. Just my guess..Maybe this isn’t the case.
I'm 59 in June and I have been mgtow for 23 years now. Women are just nothing more than liabilities. I do however have a escort that I try to see 5 or 6 times a year. Shes26 and not bitter yet, soft spoken and very attractive and Feminine. 300 an hr is kinda steep so I limit my visits. But it better than nothing. And,being single like I am,,, I always have the money, it's just deciding if I want to have some intimacy and affection. Everyone will have their own idea's on that. Stay safe and stay strong my fellow gentlemen.
Well, your escort is cheaper than a wife. After my wife left me while I was stationed overseas, I stayed single for 20 years, had many one-nighters, a few relationships of a year or more. After 20 years of dating, I quickly learned that quality women are almost non-existent, and just having one-nighens now and then was enough for me.
Coming into NNN day 5. I was busting twice a day for months. I think I’m really going to make it this year. I read the EasyPeasy book and it helped so much. I haven’t felt this good in a long, long time. Stay strong lads.
@@LeftHimDead Fight what though? A natural urge that woman can't oblige? Clearly rape and murder isn't legal. The law? (they have guns). The system? (they have police). So then one becomes desperate. And then THAT is when women use, exploit and objectify men; at their weakest moment. Only to then twist the story around. Regret is not rape. If only women were worth a man's nut. IF ONLY.
It’s difficult, the dynamic drawn when as men were supposed to be healthy and exercise and that increases libido like crazy for many. While the challenge of exercising is perhaps grasped, now the battle over libido and sexual discipline begins. I’m in great shape, my wife tells me I’m good looking to her, but I feel unattractive because of lack of affection directed towards me and low levels of sex. I think that building up my sexual discipline and finding healthy ways to lower libido while staying physically active is the next challenge to overcome. ✊
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 This is gold I can’t express how important it is for both men and women to practice sexual discipline. Honestly, I feel that as a society we have sexualized ourselves immensely and it has become a common narrative. However, studies do support the ideals of self respect and self control as driving factors in promoting a healthy, intimate, and longterm relationship with a partner. Whoever is struggling with a porn or masturbation addiction, please know the quick dopamine hit will never equate to something beneficial longterm. A majority of the joys in life require work and self-discipline to achieve them, and that’s what provides the ultimate satisfaction. Comfort and intimacy is what every human desires, but to experience this in a healthy manner requires more. I pray you discover your worth and become free from strongholds in your life you believe will fulfill you. 🖤🖤🖤
there's a great video by john doyle called "why pron is destroying you and our country' and while you might not agree with everything he's about, it's worthwhile and everyone should check it out/spread it around
I never had desire to be promiscuous or intimate with anyone that I wasn't deeply bonded to, and it was still very hard to master my hormones and keep my wits about me. This society makes it extremely hard/nearly impossible for men to navigate things healthily, and it takes being backed by strong moral-based principles+values and good-example influence to have a chance to not wreak destructive energy. you seem like the sort of person I would like to know, Olivia!
The problem today is that feminists use the lower vibrations of masculine energy and think they are feminine, men get destroyed and use the lower vibrations of feminine energy. And life for most men are all about competition you have to be the strongest all the time anyone who doesent can be strong all the time get destroyed by other men and society. If u can’t controll yourself you end up in jail or get destroyed by porn or drugs. And porn allso is made to make men feminine. Being healthy masculine is one of the hardest thing a man can do today and that Come with time and when you can overcome all challanges life throw at you. I just woke up it is 7pm on a saturday and im going to work out right away. I work out every day, it is all about self discipline wich most men lack today like 80% lack it, i can controll my mind and my emotions, i have been free from drug and porn for a long time now and life is really awsome i get my dopamine healthy today i have been trough both back and arm,elbow and hand surgery the doctors told me i would never be able to walk normal or lift anything again my elbow is made out of screws and plates, don’t ever let anyone tell u what u can and can’t do. Today i can run and do pushups and pullups 1year after surgery💪 anything is possible you just gotta belive👍 the mind is so much more powerfull then we can imagine. Now im going for a run and do pushups and pullups in the park early a saturday morning, after that a cold shower. Porn destroy men it makes u have wrong tought som both women and sex while u support rape and humantradfiking. I know life can be lonely sometimes you don’t got 1 living human to even talk to and no one have ever listened to you your whole life while Nobody gives a fuc about u or what u feel while feminists are out there to destroy you. There is no other way then use discipline and become hard you can’t be soft if you want to survive when you get discipline life Will get better that is the only way for men to find healthy masculinity. If you have issues hit me up i Will do everything in my power to help you. Real men protect the weak and women and family❤ Peace n love
Just wanna say that male loneliness hits different because not all men have close intimate relationships where they can talk about their feelings with friends
I know I’m a little late to the party on this video by about two years, but something I’ve come to find out is if you can touch someone, and not even in a sexual way. But just touch someone hug him and hold their hand, leaning on them. And then a lot of those urges seem to disappear. And something else I’ve learned is we don’t touch other people very often. And I think part to do with the male loneliness epidemic is probably the fact that we don’t live at home, even though most of us are still in the “at home age” But we foolishly go rent an apartment, or a home with our bodies, and keep tour selves, and don’t really do much. Something I have not really seen too many people talk about is how physical needs are very similar to psychological needs. but we foolishly go rent an apartment, or a home with our bodies, and keep to our selves, and don’t really do much. Something I’ve not really seen too many people talk about is how physical needs are very similar to psychological needs. There was a study done where you need about five hugs a day and we’re not talking you walk up to someone and you give him a pat on the back, we’re talking, you hug somebody tight you hold them tight kinda hugs, but you need five of those to maintain a healthy lifestyle, I forget the exact verbiage, but then you need about 12 to grow and heal. No, personally think if more of us men would acknowledge that we are human beings, and that the blood of the covenant Is thicker than the water from the womb I think we would be a whole lot better off, if a homey would just give another whole me a hug, and we all helped each other get out of our respective pits of despair.
I did NoFap for 286 days and in that time I went on dates with (at least) 7 different women, which is more women than I’ve been on dates with in the entire rest of my life combined. Ended up getting a girlfriend, got complacent and relapsed, but I’m trying to get motivated to start back up for my own mental health.
NOFAP, for me, personally- is about mastering some weaker links in my personality. I wasn't addicted, in fact, I said NO to more women than I could care to count. The way I see it- I was one giving, no other way around. Besides, I'm extremely active physically, and wiring my brain, and this Testosterone is used for my own development, not for giving some random girl a thrill. I'm introvert, so never really cared about positive feedback from society. Neither a negative one. I've never said I'm not an arrogant prick, as a matter of fact- I was fairly warning people, who decided to interact.
Remember men, power is controlling yourself and your urges while being disciplined. Prioritze yourself and focus on your goals and dreams and be comfortable with just yourself. You are the only person you have to be with forever, so be comfortable in yourself.
100% spot-on with porn and or fapping, which usually go together. Any addiction changes brain chemistry, and the two combined reek havoc on you mentally and physically. Like with any addiction, the more you do it, the worse it gets, the less you do it, the less you think about it. It makes a WORLD of difference giving both of those habits up. You won’t miss it at all.
The best way to combat loneliness is work. I work seven days a week for years. I only went home two days this year. Work takes all your time so there is no room for negative desires like porn or buying farts in a jar.
I think basically everything in this was well thought out but in the other woman's video she mentioned wanting intimacy from a partner and i think women dont always understand that men crave intimacy because we love our partners not just using them for their bodies
If a man can master his own desires, he can be disciplined in just about anything. In a culture that is basically lawless mentally, "give it to me now", those who know how to exercise discipline (all else being equal) will fare much better than those who don't. The virtues of Patience and discipline are rare commodities for the masses, but valuable for character and certain career fields.
I'd say this is the one weakness keeping me from success: LUST and a lack of sexual discipline, it's something I've been battling for years. I'd say I'm fairly disciplined in other aspects, only thing holding me back is an addiction to porn and masturbation. My main experience with it is that staying away from it IS the way to go. I'm much more of a man without it, no question about it. Maintaining that though, it's tough. Spreading this message of NoFap, personal development, and sexual discipline, will seriously benefit this generation of men. It's channels like yours that are helping to ground us on the path of righteousness, so glad you've covered this topic - Thank you Courtney!
I think the biggest obstacle to reducing or eliminating porn or "addiction" to masturbation is being single. A lot of people get stuck in this depressed state of not thinking they'll find a woman, so why the hell not watch porn and jerk off? It's at least a temporary distraction, right? Also, I'd say there's a difference between addiction and habits. They're both hard to break, but there is a difference.
Both people who replied to me: Understand that being your best self requires discipline in every field: you eat healthy, you exercise regularly, etc. So why watch porn and masturbate when it only truly garners negative results. (Or at least, the negative results outweigh the positive by a LONG shot) Try doing 30 days free: explore new hobbies, e.g. Jiu Jutsu, painting etc. These hobbies are constructive and are a better use of time. I only want the best for my brother's and sisters out there🙏
Great video. I am an above average looking man with a great career and have no problem meeting women. This information is for MEN who are seeking mature, lasting relationships. Thanks Courtney!
“If you’re paying for farts in a jar, there is an issue in our society.” - Courtney Ryan, 2022
if you're paying for farts in a jar, there's an issue with you
😂😂
But bath water is still acceptable, right? Oh, thank god
i had to rewatch that 3x because i thought i heard wrong lol...what is wrong with this generation 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️!
can you imagine if they had "Farts in a Jar" in the 1700s?! you'd get a beautifully hand written letter on parchment with the jar that reads ..."Contained in thou jar is the expulsion of thy behind. Do it with it what thou whilst and I bid you adieu!"
🤦♀️🤦🤦♂️🤦♀️🤦🤦♂️🤦♀️🤦🤦♂️
Just wait until it's queefs in a jar
10:00 this is a perfect example of the disconnect between men and women. “I can’t imagine being that lonely” understand, you’re talking about something like 70-80% of men.
There’s a quote that I can’t remember who said it (I’ll probably get it wrong) but it kinda goes like this.
“Women will never truly understand what life is like for men, and how could they? Life, for the majority of men is like walking through a cold, dry, dark desert, alone, dying of thirst, and the worst part is that nobody ACTUALLY cares, and you learn to accept that.”
She doesn't understand what men need at all. this is for women to meet a woman's need and to tailor a man towards her needs.
Amen.
I don't know what percentage of men live like that but it is true for me.
Completely agree. I'm one of the 70-80% you mention, even though I'm educated, solvent, fit and articulate. However, I never married, have no children and through circumstances no close family. I'm about to spend my seventh consecutive Xmas alone (I know some people with families might think I'm lucky), but it does underline how isolated one is and I'm likely to talk to a cam girl for some company.
You just described my life atm.
As a recovering porn addict, I cannot agree more. There's such a huge difference in state of mind and perspective between maintaining that self control and giving in to those urges
Can you explain this clearly?
@@kirubashankarz Do you remember those times from childhood when you were joyful about random things and without any worry in the world? Nofap and sexual discipline make you get those feelings back.
39 days man almost at the halfway point
I have an extremely addictive personality so I definitely feel this struggle. I've been addicted to everything from drugs to sex. My sex drive goes through the roof where I could go every second of every day. It's one of the most frustrating things about me that I know comes off in a bad way in my relationships. Definitely something I have to work on and probably always will have to.
@@jeffnak5598 that's just your assumption bro, change it. You have not addictive personnality trust me
1:23 TLDR: she just wants to choose. When man wants sex is gross, but when she wants it - it’s ok.
Women : I want a man with sexual discipline so he won't harass me when I'm frigid.
Also women : I want a man to be so attracted to me he can't control himself.
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Same than us: we want a freak, bit only with us 🤣
They only want incels to be sexually disciplined enough to stay away from them. Chads don't need sexual discipline.
@@NickM_FirstofHisName A focused freak.
Also,
Women: "I want men to control themselves, but I want men not to masturbate so I CONTROL THEM"
"No Nut November" is all about women controlling men. It reminds me of the old feminist movement to get women to stop participating in porn, so men would have to go to women for sex.
SEX = CONTROL for women. If you don't sexually desire women, they have no leverage.
She wants her man to be hot only when she is so that he doesn’t cheat
Seeing that you are an above-average beautiful woman I think it could be argued that you'll never ever experience the kind of loneliness so many guys experience on a day-to-day basis.
I don't intend to be mean when I say this, because I quite like your channel, it's just something that many beautiful women I've talked to cannot even comprehend because they've never experienced anything even close to this.
You bring a good point up. As a middle aged man who's never had relationship or marriage, loneliness is my constant reality, friend or fiend. Fact is, I have to deal with it, it is default, it is reality, it's like being on a raft in the middle of the south Pacific with minimal supplies. You have to make due because there isn't any other reality. What female friends I do have, they have sincerely expressed that I am a handsome guy with the most desirable attributes. These ladies are not available mind you.
All young attractive women will become old women. It’s inevitable.
@@wcg19891 Kind of why marriage often happens in prime physical condition, at an age when hormones function at their peak. On purpose. Sort of how society continues its existence into the future.
SPOT ON my man
Absolutely Correct 👍🏾👍🏾
I think having self - control is a trait that is attractive in both sexes; women who lack self control are not trustworthy either. I speak from personal experience, my ex had no self - control when spending money which put me in a horrible state of mind, anxiety, lack of respect for her and generally not considering her a long term serious partner at all.
Sexual self control assumes people have opportunities and options but do not give in to them. Most women have an abundance of options at all times so it's valued more in their gender. This in comparison to most men who don't have options can easily fake it as "self control" when in reality they just simply can't attract a girl to have sex. When there is a man getting offered sex by women in abundance, society first looks at all the positive traits he possessed to bring in such attraction.
@@darthcholo great point! In order to demonstrate sexual self control one needs to exercise chastity in spite of an abundance of potential options. For men since the general availability/likelihood for sexual opportunity is lower their standard needs to be higher. In addition to having all the qualities that women are seeking they need to refrain from any kind of sexual temptation including viewing any form of pornography amongst other things.
@@susheel2k7 pornography caters to a mans need for variety. It's a drug hitting dopamine levels the same way social media does for womens dopamine levels. different stimuli same effect. Eliminate porn and social media for this conversation.
Sexual discipline in a man is not necessarily attractive to women by itself. It's more about what being discipline means behind the scenes. A man who doesn't act desperate means the man has an abundance of sexual options. It means many women want him. That matters more to women compared to if he's actually sleeping with many women.
@THE ADAM FRIEDLAND SHOW it's easy for a woman to tell a man to have self control. They've been turning down d1ck daily since they turned 15 years old (well not as many woman as we think). As a top 10% man, many of whom have been invisible for the majority of his rise to the top, it's not so easy for him to turn down something that's forever been out of his grasp. Women do see "desperation for sex" as a sign of somebody who is NOT at a 10% man. That for sure is a red flag for a woman. But it's not necessarily that he's sleeping with many women. It's the desperation and thirst that showcase that he can't sleep with woman that is a turnoff.
@@darthcholo 2017 PH study revealed that 1 in 3 users is a woman. On mobile and smaller devices the gap shrinks even more. Many npcs compare adult content with social media as if women don't watch p or n, and men don't use social media.
From a male's perspective: the difficulty is to hold back your sex drive as soon as you are triggered in any way, because when the going gets tough, your brain automatically slips into your pants, no matter what you do. It is then almost a kind of spiritual exercise not to let yourself go immediately, but rather to enjoy the process of being turned on on a whole different level.
Leonardo da Vinci wrote a whole letter about his dingus. Primarily, that it had a mind of it's own.
@@reedschrichte800 LOL
I feel loneliness becomes more bearable when you have a purpose in life
facts, and when u are solid in ur purpose u become attractive which in turn breaks the loneliness cycle, i highly recommend you read “outwitting the devil” by napoleon hill - specifically the interview part - it pretty much writes it all into a summary that’s actually enjoyable to read
Or around genuine folks that give you purpose
You don't feel it, you think it. Be a man, not a who*e.
Exactly. You only become lonely when you have no purpose, and your mind has a little too much time.
My best sexual experiences happened when I was disciplined in sex and in life. Think no porn, less jerking off, healthy food, not smoking and drinking, excercising regularly. This builds my mojo so much. I think we men should enjoy strengthening our minds, bodies and dicks forever.
how do you strengthen your dick? LOL
the "healthy food, not smoking and drinking, excercising regularly" is prob 99% of where you'd actually get benefits.
how long does it take after leaving bad habits that you grow like that
@@realasf17like a week after the initial withdrawal, but embrace and love it, because that means it's working and rewiring your system and clearing out karma
Agree with you 100%. Still need to release tension from time to time in healthy manner but without pron definitely. And all other activities are as much important. I started it some time ago and results are more than expected.
Well porn is not so hard to quit but masturbation is a hard hobbie to lose!🤔
It's crazy how when men ask sexual discipline of women it's called being insecure
Because it is.
Standards are applied to men, not women.
@@jamegumb7298 yep, all standards are for men. Shut up and obey and let women do what they want
@@dmitry5319 Women only want to date extremely physically attractive tall men.
Or shaming
I think it's important for both men and women.
As a young man I was told some great advice. Deferred gratification is the secret to life. The other was when you know you're going to have loses, the sooner you cut them the better. Both these gems have made me a success.
Not afraid to admit it; porn addiction was o e of the worst things that ever happened to me. I've tried numerous times to kick the habit with some short term success but always relapsed. I've been abstaining now for almost a month and the benefits are clearer than when I gave up drinking 2.5 years ago. Absolutely 100% I agree with the concept of this video!
I know someone that has a pornography addiction. He was able to overcome his addiction attending addiction recovery classes. If you need help in this area seek out help.
You've got this.
Talk to God. He can rescue you from your addiction
It's tough, when women (according to dating app statistics) find 80% of men immediately unattractive. Courtney's right... We (I'll speak for being an average man) only want affection and connection, but women are emphatically telling us that we are unattractive and often creepy. Porn is clearly not the answer, but for many men, that's the only affection they can reliably access.
Shit is sad
People say a lot of things all the time. Physical appearance is only one aspect of attraction. Physical attraction weighs even less women. It's brain chemistry caused by hormones and pheromones etc. that creates attraction. Something you can't get from looking at a screen. That's why men need to stay the hell away from dating apps.
No - women that SEARCH on dating apps have these preferences. Not every woman is on a dating app, and even if she plays around a bit there, it does not mean she will do so all her life. We humans crave interactions, so improve your game in REALITY - as other men are still bumbling around on dating apps, it gives you an edge.
Be open, be vulnerable. Give her a quick taste of admiration but not too much intensity. Women have to be wary to attract unwanted attention of creeps. She does not know you, so do not come on too strong too soon.
Admit if you like her. Train yourself to have GOOD eye contact. (soft eye, but steady). Do not use any pickup lines. Just be honest, express a little bit of admiration, get yourself in the mood where you do not exude the vibe of neediness, entitlement etc. Just an offhand compliment. Just the vibe of: Hey I noted you and I like what I see (and observe in your behavior). Train yourself to make nice but original complements (also with persons that have not romantic interest in).
If you develop the art of complimenting with your siblings, relatives, church members, work collegues - you can suprise a woman pleasantly by make a flattering observation. Just do not say: your eyes, hair are beautiful when that is obvious. She has heard that many times.
@@mezjean5966"Physical appearance is only one aspect of attraction"
But it's still needed.
"Physical attraction weighs even less women. "
This is a myth. It's just that there are OTHER things women like, such as money.
The rest of your post makes even less sense.
Porn for men is terrible just like social media is horrible for women. Of course society will only say one is a problem though. I knew social media was horrible for people when I was in high school. The truth is slowly coming out.
I caught my ex with another dude after 6 years of marriage. After getting out of that, it was several months before I had interest in dating. I met a few girls that were ready to hop in the bed on the first or second date, seemed to be more interested in my lifestyle than me, but I didn't want another one like the one I had! I met a girl in her mid-20's, never married, no kids. We didn't do anything for about 5 months, didn't even discuss sex. I know, most would say they are not interested in a woman if they are not putting out after a couple dates. Before you jump on that thought, I am now in my mid-50's, have any idea how many friends I have that have been divorced after catching their wives cheating? The same women that were willing to bang on the first or second date!
The same one that waited 5 months, we dated for 2 years, got married and soon having our 25th anniversary. Still have a more active sex life than most couples married 2-3 years!
One of the biggest indicators of a high quality female is when she makes you wait at least a couple months. She respects herself!
@@thaydathroeun8678 - She didn't "make" me wait, I didn't initiate. I previously found out settling down with an easy girl is problem waiting to happen.
@@chrism2042 fair enough, excuse my wording
@@chrism2042 hahahahaha...HAHAHAHA... When I read that response, I was hoping you'd respond back. You didn't disappoint.
The only problem I might have with the "she wants to wait ✋ " thing is if she's older and didn't want to wait with her one nighters and fwb's. Its really best to just avoid those reformed good girls.
Your story is inspiring, and you may indeed be onto something. But maybe dumb luck also plays a role. I know people who took their time getting to know their brides-to-be, and they ended up in divorces anyway. But I will concede that it's probably a legit statement that a gal who jumps in the sack early in the relationship may be too loose and is too ready to simply play the field.
I am very glad that you shared this video, I have always been taught that the more times a man is with a different woman before being with the one to be your wife, causes a lot of lack in commitment to the one that you choose to be your wife, so I have chosen to wait for the right woman, instead of just hook ups for self gratification
Good day from a slow reply by YT standards. Nice to hear common sense talk from a man.
I think it's hard for women to imagine the sex drive young men have. It gets a lot easier when you are older to ignore and put these urges aside, but in your sexual prime it can be a real nuisance to even yourself in your daily life. Basically anything with two bumps and a heartbeat is game, in the eyes of your hormones. That doesn't give you a 'get out of jail free' pass for any of your actions, but I think that hormone-supercharged drive to procreate is sometimes dismissed too easily.
Yeah but you forgot the part that men are wrong all time in this society, after 26 years of living on earth I can tell you no one ever told me that any of my natural feelings is valid mean while, some chick eating 3k calories a day is a queen and Beautiful,
@@simplyMaz1 Don't get me started. Really, we need to stand strong and keep believing in ourselves.
It’s about balance u guys..u shouldn’t feel bad about wanting to hunch and that girl shouldn’t feel bad about eating..but balance matters
@@simplyMaz1 bro that is real sht😂😂😂😂😂 im 32 still hasent happened only way is to use discipline and become strong to survive
Exactly. After a few days my mind is constantly racing with sex thoughts. I have to tear one off just to be productive. But apparently I'm not supposed to look at pron when I do it. And many say I just shouldn't do it. That is just not practical. And I'd like to say it diminishes with age but I'm 50 and nothing has changed since I was 20. Also keep in mind that many men just can't ever get a wife. So I guess they are just supposed to not have any sexuality? WTF people.
This is so funny tho because when men say the same thing about women it’s “sl*T shaming”
What exactly do women want?
@@VeeShenge 6'4 handsome athletic men.
@@pocnit in other words the 1% Alpha Chads in which they'll have no problem with hooking up with daily
@@VeeShenge you ran into a feminists thats what happened 😳
Double standards are the new normal.
Grown men don't partake in NNN. That's just ridiculous. If you have a pornography addiction then that's another issue entirely where it's detracting from your daily life. Young men naturally have high levels of hormones and it's fine to desire women. But put it all in perspective. If all you do is think about women everyday, every hour, then you need to get your priorities in order. How about establishing yourself successfully and finding your purpose. No woman will give you that.
Nah, who said it was wrong to desire women? You wouldn't believe how much i changed in 2 months of semen retention. Honestly I've never felt so good, i like much more how i look in the mirror. When you're single and you jerk off to porn(or without it) all the time you tell you're subconscious that you already passed on your genes and reproduced, so youre done, what elese can motivate you to workout and work on yourself.
Great comment!
Yeah. Women in this case are using the word "thirsty" as a shaming tactic.
Nothing wrong with cracking off a quick wank every now and then, perfectly healthy for both Men and Women. If you are doing it all the time is is a sympthom of something else which is wrong. It is unhealthy obsessive and addictive behaviour. Keeping away from Porn to my mind is a good thing though. It is not real sex and real intimacy and is just a proxy for what you really want in your sexual life.
I get what you mean. No nut November implies that it's a temporary restraint. Other wise it'd be not doing it, period. If you're in it, the more time passes, the more problems come to the surface. I started when I was 11 and it's been 10 years already. The longest I lasted without it was 10 days. Plenty of times I think it's because of stress from so many things like having an abusive family, no friends at all, manipulative people, no work/life balance in school, etc. I wasn't cared for, but I need to care for myself.
It's not always about men's lack of impulse control or addiction. The bottom line is many women lose their biologically motivated sex drive for various reasons over time and they are just not able to receive the sexual energy their partner may still have. It doesn't really matter what is or is not attractive to the man if his partner either isn't interested or isn't communicating what they actually want. I've had these tough conversations with my wife and straight up told her that a) it's difficult to manage because of the libido mismatch between us b) that use of porn to redirect that energy is not a an indication that she is no longer desirable to me. If a woman is only in the mood once a month or less, she should not expect her partner to be "saving up" that energy for her.
You're expected to mold to her, but she isn't expected to do a damn thing for you
If your woman is in the mood once a month then she simply has no respect for you and does not see you as a man anymore. You need to move on. If a man knows how to keep a woman in line, submissive, he will get sex pretty much whenever he wants even years down in the relationship. I know it is a tough pill to swallow we have all been there but just take the L and start dating other women
Women: I want to be in a relationship with a man who doesn't just want sex the moment we meet
Same women not 5 minutes later: I just keep having sex with random guys
I heard this conversation in the gym last week between a group of girls
Agreed...NEVER listen to or take "dating advice" from women....especially a female "dating coach".....science has proven women DONT know what they want....instead of listening to what she says watch what she DOES.
@Carmen no you dont...who do you think you are trying to fool.
@Carmen trust me,i know enough and more than you think....are you going to deny my previous statement despite it being statisticly true?....if so your are deluded.....i have even heard some WOMEN say dont listen to what she says but WATCH what she DOES......and if WOMEN themselves say this then you can draw your own conclusions.
@@damien5748
If you think that you made a valid point for your case... think again.
Bringing "evidence" that woman lie and do one thing while saying something else, will NOT help you to prove that they don't know what they want.
If you would witness a man that lies to woman to get what he wants, would you conclude that he does not know what he wants?
Your arguments and evidence should fit the point you want to prove. And you should not switch what you want to prove mid-argument.
That's exactly why I never remove my headphones at the gym, seriously, the amount of stupid shit you hear just makes me cringe...
Although I've made good friends, girls and guys at the gym, most people that attend are shallow AF.
My brother met his wife when he was in debt and working a dead end job. They have a lot in common and he was always trying to get his sh*t together. I don't think "simps" today realize how important it is to have goals. A lot of women won't care if a man isn't a big success as long as he is doing the best he can.
"A lot of women (...)" - yeah, that applies to basically everything. But what is the major trend? They want your success at this very moment, otherwise you're a loser.
I would assume yes since it takes strength for a man to be in control of his desires. As Aristotle once said "I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies, for the hardest victory is over self."
You are such a positive influence on this platform. We need like 20 more people like you doing the same thing. Guys are directionless now, and you are doing the work their parents couldn’t
men are not that directionless............... its women that are confused and directionless... ort actually they are perfects multidirectional in every misguided direction
Porn is very subjective. I've dated a lot of women who watched porn regularly. The rest are pretty basic. People who want a relationship don't find the other actions attractive whether you're a man or woman. And yes, there are women who are the same. I'd say about 1/3 of the women I've dated, especially if I met them on a dating app, turned out to just want to bang because they were recently divorced, separated, or otherwise jaded by relationships. Most women will never know what it's like to be truly "lonely". An attractive woman like you, no matter how lonely you feel temporarily, is surely never alone. Women have more friends, they're usually closer with family, even heavier women can get a guy anytime she wants. It's a huge disconnect that most women can't comprehend about men. Especially as we age where men don't typically have many, if any, real friends and the dating pool gets shallower. It makes me glad I don't like most people all that much 😂
Right on very well said brother.
You're such a baby man. Grow some balls and get right with God.
@@BurgerKingNationalist Nice of you to jump to conclusions when I simply made a rational observation and a stated a fact. I wasn't complaining you nimrod.
Porn, even "ethical pornography" is simply not good to consume in any capacity. People can spin it any way they'd like and have whatever justification for who watches it and for whatever reason it's viewed. It's damaging at its core. If you're grown, you don't need an explanation for watching it. If you enjoy it, that's your prerogative. No one can tell you what to do. But the truth is, porn is destructive.
@@V_ii How so? Porn is ten thousand times better than sex with women. If only women were as faithful and as rewarding as pornography! IF ONLY!! Women are pathetic and dismal compared to porn. I'll def. take porn over women any day of the year. (even on a wedding night).
I don't understand how or why porn is bad? It's like saying chocolate cake is bad. Obviously it's pretty damn good if it's revenue is more than all the major league sports revenues combined, eh? Something's awfully good about it... geee.... I wonder what it may be!??? Could it be that it doesn't reject you? It doesn't hurt you. It doesn't get pregnant or give you an STD. It doesn't charge you with rape 30 years later (Christine Blase-Ford/Brett Kavanagh, Bill Cosby, Harvey Weinstein, Jeffrey Epstein etc...).
Porn is by far THE GREATEST invention in modern history. By far! SAY YES to porn. Put women out of business. Make women obsolete. Teach them a lesson. Teach them they are useless, spoiled, delusional , entitled over-emancipated cunts. Real men say NO to women. Real men DON'T bust to women.
Controlling sexual urges and self control is without a doubt the HARDEST thing I have ever had to do. It is so incredibly challenging, and when you feel incredibly lonely and unloved (especially in todays world) it’s really hard to not turn to anything and everything you can do to feel loving by something or someone. My wife doesn’t hates it when I’m needy or desperate but once you go there you just start spiraling, you need it so bad but you don’t get anything bc you’re needy which makes you more needy and less attractive. Viscous cycle that’s really hard to break from.
Hy bruhh espically if you aint had nun in years
I'm living this reality and it's so frustrating. I'm trying to not desire my wife so that I can get on with my life.
@@zapatastyle ...but, as wife she *should* be doing her part for intimacy between both of you - and you also *should* be doing your part for her. This will sound religious but that's exactly what the Bible actually says for husband and wife: Not to deny each other the gift and blessing of each other's intimacy (unless you both mutually agree, and even then, only for a short time).
As I said to another guy here, as your wife she *should* be doing her part for intimacy between both of you - and as her husband you also *should* be doing your part for her. It sounds religious but that's exactly what the Bible actually says for husband and wife: Not to deny each other the gift and blessing of each other's intimacy (unless you both mutually agree, and even then, only for a short time).
But you’ve had sex then right? With your wife? That’s noble of you but now imagine a man who’s never had the pleasure of female love.
There is always worse pain than yours.
I've been practicing "nofap" for about four months now. It's given me a lot of self discipline which has really improved all areas of my life. And I'm also no longer, ya know, ruining my dopamine receptors by feeding into a porn addiction.
Great job brother!
awesome!
It would change your genes if your ugly not magically get you women😂 most people think that no fap will somehow improve there genes well unfortunately it’s permanent. No fap just gives you more energy since you lose energy and feel sleepy when you fap
If your selling them its a plague
Good job! But ye talk about what ye're NOT doing instead of talking about what ye are doing. It is not because ye stopped fapping. But rather because you spend this time doing something else with yourself.
This encouraged me to practice semen retention. I always wanted to have that control over my sexual impulses but always found myself doing it anyway. This video is motivation. Thank you
Honestly, the reason I keep falling back into porn is I don’t feel worthy of love. It’s the one place that doesn’t reject me. I came across it at 8 years old and with the bullying in my childhood, the depression, the anxiety, and stress I feel from life….it’s become a drug. when friends don’t want to/can’t hang out on a weekend, it becomes the one thing that still says yes to me after so many no’s from people. It’s A coping mechanism. I have gone long streaks without it and I want to be 90 days free before I start dating again but I have a fear of being rejected again. I’m trying to stay hopeful but it is hard as hell being 26 years old and dealing with this for so many years.
It doesn't get easier I'm in the same position but I'm 45....Still dealing w/ a ton of trauma from childhood, including heavy bullying and ridicule, which affected the turnout of my entire life....became an alcoholic...Been almost 10 years since I went on a date or had sex..,,currently in AA, sober, and trying to pick up the pieces and in therapy for trauma.
@@brassyjazzful @courtneyryan I feel like a video on ways to stay hopeful and live with purpose even in moments of hardship would be helpful in fighting this battle. We need more strategies to go to war against it so we can love our women better. I hope and pray my children never have to see it at the age I did, it breeds too much curiosity if you have a high sex drive.
Hey, this is my story almost exactly. I’m 27. The anxiety will slowly creep up on you. Intrusive thoughts can destroy you. Learn to recognize and shut them down.
I think it’s great that you have the awareness of knowing why you watch it so much. Cuz once you’re aware you can learn to cultivate that discipline my advice to you is when you feel like watching porn next time start asking yourself if it’s worth and and try to see if you can do something else instead. That’s what worked for me. ☺️
Keep it up. Why should us men give our power away to a cheap thrill. In the end it only damage us, enpowers hoes, put us men on the bottom side. Time to take our power back.
After my ex cheated on me with a roommate, I’m basically cured of my sex drive. I can’t even bring myself to touch or look at my junk to shower, pee, etc. I don’t even get aroused by instagram models anymore, which is totally fine by me because I don’t need to be looking at that shit anyways. Hooking up is dumb, this year’s events I’ve been through have totally changed my outlook on sex. I’m proud of myself for having restraint, sucks a shitty breakup is what it took for me to get to this point. Don’t get yourself in the trap of pornography, OnlyFans, instagram models y’all. It just causes more harm in the end. Respect women, and have strong morals. Women are more than their bodies or sexuality. Take your time when getting to know someone before diving into bed with them. These are all hard lessons I’ve had to learn through a toxic and shitty breakup.
If you don`t have sex you will get a cancer that will kill you. Sex is a natural action that is necassary for good health. Masterbation is good for cleaning out the system and maintaining a healthy body system. Nature can help you or kill you. If you refuse to be a human, nature will kill you.
Good on you for your new values i thought being cheated on would make a person more promiscuous and into porn.
All women have to offer men is their s3xuality. Everything else, we can do for ourselves.
Working on yourself to be a better person is the biggest key to make the proper relationship choices. Any choices. Head or heart.Views change, behavior changes. Behavior changes, nature changes. Nature changes, destination /outcome changes.
Almost everyone I know well enough to be able to ask hard questions to has confessed that they wished they weren’t so promiscuous. I was the guy who got the virgin jokes growing up because I wanted to wait on a wife. At 31 my journey is finding its reward in the most genuine and selfless woman I know, and I’m certain this wouldn’t have come to pass if did not take the hard road. In short Courtney is absolutely right.
is your wife a virgin as well?
I was starting to lose hope in finding the right woman. I have been Sexually Disciplined for a long time, now, and have been constantly barraged with these impossibly sexually frustrating situations - especially when going to the gym… Sexual Frustration is one of the most hideous forms of anguish a man can feel and a huge part of it is attributable to our abhorrently dysfunctional society…
You do remind me that the right woman is out there… Each day, I just have to stay calm, collected, disciplined*, and focus on becoming a better Man. Eventually she will show…
There is no right woman. People are human and have flaws. Look for someone who treats you right
Right woman doesn't exist. She will eventually show up after being broken by others with a sexual past longer than the highway if it was a metric for it but she will love you, mentally fucked by she will .
Bro you need to put it to good use. Use pranayamas, breathwork, creativity, it had to be put to use otherwise it will overcome you
I think our (Western) society liberalizes but also casualizes sex so much. In our society - and this is very regularly portrayed in popular culture, or even everyday conversation generally -, basically any woman (or man) can actually or instantly be considered for sex by a man (or woman), even if one has never said a word to them. Everything is "fair game" (as long as you play by the rules of consent, of course, and, the rules of morals, at least for some). This is a hyper liberalized culture. It then becomes very difficult to (constantly) resist urges, when so many temptations exist (again, because we can basically consider anyone for a hook up anytime). This, as you seem to have described, can make it very difficult just to get by in life, on a physical level.
Another difficult aspect, which at least applies a lot to me but probably applies to a lot of other men (and women) too, is the seeming tension to "make a move" as a man whenever the "opportunity" might arise (that the possibility or plausibility of mutual attraction might exist). I feel that men get the sense that they "need to have game", or be the initiators when(ever) the realm of _possibility_ with a woman comes up - and if they don't make a move, like starting a conversation or something, they are seen as less manly (i.e., they have no game). This appears to be the opposite of what Courtney says here (in a way), but in society in general, I feel we feel a lot of pressure to hook up, at least just verbally initially, with someone at every given opportunity.
I suspect the consideration of basically anybody of the opposite sex (speaking heteronormatively, of course) as a legit target or candidate for sex does not exist in many other societies, and people therefore naturally opt more for the long-term relationship type, and it probably helps with sexual discipline as well.
Anyway, keeping fighting the good fight my sir. I've been trying to implement sexual discpline myself recently, and I think it's paying off in the sense that I don't consider every single woman as a legit target for sex right away anymore. It makes resisting, or sexual discipline, seem a lot easier anyway. I'm still not quite over the hump of not casually considering anymore still, but I think there's been some improvements.
I've done no fap before for about 3 months once and I'm telling you from experience if you're abstaining solely to find the right woman it's NOT going to work. All the BS you hear about female attraction because of semen retention is absolutely false. This is why the ugly guy who's abstaining still won't get girls and the Chad who's spewing his semen all the time will.
Abstaining from sex or semen retention is for "spiritual practices" ONLY don't expect some sorta mister world wide results just because this woman said "a sexually disciplined man is attractive". Mind you this is coming from women who more than likely have slept with tons of chads but they tell this lie like what Courtney is doing to make you wait for sex as she strings you along for attention.
You don't have to take my advice at all but I've tried it all man and it really just comes down to social skills to get a great woman not sexual discipline is what I found.
“LonelyFans” LMAO I love it. This video was amazing. You made such great points. I’ve been thinking about this topic for a while, especially because hook up culture, social media, and the sex industry have really killed genuine connection and has damaged and traumatized so many people. We have so many trust issues because of things like this and so if someone shows discipline in all areas (especially this one) then it is an absolute turn on and makes the person high value. Thank you for sharing. 💖
Thank you so much, Michelle! 🥰
I have so much self control that I'm still a virgin 😀😀😀
My experience is that women feel hurt and rejected if I am not trying to 'get at them' at the pace they desire. I have had many very good women 'get hurt' because they are wanting me to make a move, but I won't until I get to know them better/there is a deeper connection.
@zerp blerd
I basically made the same point as you on other comments .
Women want it down their way and when they want it, if they don’t get it like they they will quickly lose interest and they also don’t want to talk about it, they want you to just do it and be telepathic . They overlook all women have different traits and assume you should know exactly what she wants even though she can’t bring herself to communicate it .
Then if you try and communicate the issue she will see it as a failure and how you’re not a good match instead of realize you actually recognize an issue and want her to be happy. Most of the time what they see is “ oh , he’s not man enough for me “
Then ironically they fall for boys , f&ckboys and think to themselves “wow , he’s so confident and masculine/ sure of himself , what a breath of fresh air “
When really the guy is just a borderline r@pey dude who doesn’t think about boundaries , but Iv heard women describe men like that as “ he makes me feel like a woman, he’s passionate , he knows how to take control, our intimate life is exhilarating “
Lol no, he’s just a dum dum, you just like cavemen!
The problem today is that feminists use the lower vibrations of masculine energy and think they are feminine, men get destroyed and use the lower vibrations of feminine energy. And life for most men are all about competition you have to be the strongest all the time anyone who doesent can be strong all the time get destroyed by other men and society. If u can’t controll yourself you end up in jail or get destroyed by porn or drugs. And porn allso is made to make men feminine. Being healthy masculine is one of the hardest thing a man can do today and that Come with time and when you can overcome all challanges life throw at you. I just woke up it is 7pm on a saturday and im going to work out right away. I work out every day, it is all about self discipline wich most men lack today like 80% lack it, i can controll my mind and my emotions, i have been free from drug and porn for a long time now and life is really awsome i get my dopamine healthy today i have been trough both back and arm,elbow and hand surgery the doctors told me i would never be able to walk normal or lift anything again my elbow is made out of screws and plates, don’t ever let anyone tell u what u can and can’t do. Today i can run and do pushups and pullups 1year after surgery💪 anything is possible you just gotta belive👍 the mind is so much more powerfull then we can imagine. Now im going for a run and do pushups and pullups in the park early a saturday morning, after that a cold shower. Porn destroy men it makes u have wrong tought som both women and sex while u support rape and humantradfiking. I know life can be lonely sometimes you don’t got 1 living human to even talk to and no one have ever listened to you your whole life while Nobody gives a fuc about u or what u feel while feminists are out there to destroy you. There is no other way then use discipline and become hard you can’t be soft if you want to survive when you get discipline life Will get better that is the only way for men to find healthy masculinity. If you have issues hit me up i Will do everything in my power to help you. Real men protect the weak and women and family❤ Peace n love✌️
you said the right thing: it's important to not be on the extreme side. Healthy sex is important both for women and men, and a lack of sex is a big contributor to stress, anxiety, and many other health issues in our society. There is no such thing as "sex addiction", but there is an unhealthy way of getting it.
Courtney this is a great topic you covered. One issue men have regarding sexual discipline is, when to actually go for the kiss; be intimate for the first time, etc. Since all women are different, many women are turned off, and put men in the friend zone, if they have that discipline, for too long after meeting. They decide a man isn't interested, doesn't know how to make a move at the right time, etc. Many men want to get to know a woman, to see if she is a good fit, only to be ghosted if a man takes too long. So there is a fine line in sexual discipline. If a man respects a woman, and doesn't want to get in her pants right away, but instead wants to win her mind, and trust, it can either be a win-win, or a loss. Ofcourse it depends on each individual woman, but even the wisest one's will eventually think to themselves " why doesn't he make a move" or " does he not think I'm attractive emotionally or physically"? So there are variables in this equation.
Communication is the key, to sexual discipline with a potential long term partner or mate.
The woman would say, "Kiss me, you fool!" If she doesn't say that, then it wasn't meant to be.
You can always clear things up in a simple way like: 'I really like you but I want to take things slow and get to know you better.' Now your intent leaves no room for doubt, you show that you're serious, and you also display discipline if that is your goal. No normal person would have a problem with this unless it's taking you like a year to evaluate. Now if you're afraid that this approach will turn her off then we enter into desperation territory, where it's not lust which overrides your discipline but fear.
So well put,you expressed something I never thought about before,.I wont forget it.
I've said it before and I'll say it again: Courtney Ryan is one of the few channels where I don't feel, as a man, I'm being sold something or lectured. Or worst made to feel guitly for being a man.
Women in the 21st Century western women get what they deserve.
For over 50 years, men have been made to feel like being male and straight is 'wrong'.
We've been marginalised and treated in such a way more and more men are doing their own thing. Opting out.
There's a horrible set of double standards:
When women want to do their own thing and reject the need of men they're labelled as winners.
When men do it? We're labelled as 'incels' or women hating?
As for dating? More and more people are staying single because dating has become more trouble than it's worth. And that's before you get to the fact people have less free time.
The truth is you have to find yourself before you find someone to date.
You absolutely nailed it in the last part of the video around the 10 min point. There is such a breakdown in communication these days and that disconnect between men and women and frankly most women being so out of tune to what men actually want or need has led to this extreme level of loneliness in men which in turn has caused some men to sink to so low a place where all they can do to feel something is watch and pay for temporary sexual pleasure on the internet. It’s a sad truth of life, speaking from someone who cannot find even a half decent woman
Preach brother. Preach
watch dr. Rachael Ross on UA-cam for men's sexual health information and Celine Remy and her husband, both on UA-cam, who are interested in helping men and women enjoy their sexual lives. One of the important pieces of advice that I learned was to tell a woman to "take your time" when having sex (not just intercourse) but to help take the pressure off of her to orgasm (it takes her longer than a man); and, also, to talk about that sometimes one of you may just want a "release" and not a full-blown sexual experience. Perhaps just oral sex not leading to intercourse or a hand job. Be open and communicate...
Check out the Black Philip Show, keep on listening - over time it will make ever more sense. Do NOT sacrifice your own happiness, guard it with everything you can. It will change your life brother
The problem today is that feminists use the lower vibrations of masculine energy and think they are feminine, men get destroyed and use the lower vibrations of feminine energy. And life for most men are all about competition you have to be the strongest all the time anyone who doesent can be strong all the time get destroyed by other men and society. If u can’t controll yourself you end up in jail or get destroyed by porn or drugs. And porn allso is made to make men feminine. Being healthy masculine is one of the hardest thing a man can do today and that Come with time and when you can overcome all challanges life throw at you. I just woke up it is 7pm on a saturday and im going to work out right away. I work out every day, it is all about self discipline wich most men lack today like 80% lack it, i can controll my mind and my emotions, i have been free from drug and porn for a long time now and life is really awsome i get my dopamine healthy today i have been trough both back and arm,elbow and hand surgery the doctors told me i would never be able to walk normal or lift anything again my elbow is made out of screws and plates, don’t ever let anyone tell u what u can and can’t do. Today i can run and do pushups and pullups 1year after surgery💪 anything is possible you just gotta belive👍 the mind is so much more powerfull then we can imagine. Now im going for a run and do pushups and pullups in the park early a saturday morning, after that a cold shower. Porn destroy men it makes u have wrong tought som both women and sex while u support rape and humantradfiking. I know life can be lonely sometimes you don’t got 1 living human to even talk to and no one have ever listened to you your whole life while Nobody gives a fuc about u or what u feel while feminists are out there to destroy you. There is no other way then use discipline and become hard you can’t be soft if you want to survive when you get discipline life Will get better that is the only way for men to find healthy masculinity. If you have issues hit me up i Will do everything in my power to help you. Real men protect the weak and women and family
@@alexanderwalla9751 When your happiness is having a lover in your arms, what do ?
Sexual morality is key to a successful integrity.
dumbest shit I have ever heard
A lot of men and women can benefit from practicing sexual discipline.
Could you explain what women's sexual discipline is?
@@antonioferrepunyed Self respect not throwing herself at every guy.
knowing her worth.
basically what shes saying.
Facts
At the same time a man should be always available when a woman wants sex LOOL. Be on self-control until I want you - say them.
@@djvn229 like it's hard for a woman not to have sex? 1/3rd of women are asexual, 2/3rd never gets orgasm. Half of them doesn't need sex in their life, they don't understand men needs.
Never act needy, act like the need has been met already.
yes when your attracted to a woman who is attracted to you. just ignore her. that'll always work yes.
Yeah don't act needy then all you want a hug and a friend from all the abuse and isolations for decades caused by the bullies and abusers you choose because they confident and not needy because they put others down so your logic is to choose evil people. Why you think people are needy in the first place. From pain and neglect since childhood. How people you choose are over confident by putting other people down and they have no shame. And then complain so many that end up with bad guys and want good guy. the damage they cause should be a crime you completely ruin a good genuine person who could have had potential for life and good for society and productivity. This happens all over the world as people have no brain cells. Before you mean to someone think about why that person is the way he is. And reflect on yourself are you really a decent human being for putting others down. If it was in my power I would help as many people and especially hurt children as I could. That's what I'd use if I was wealthy what you people do with your success use it for selfish needs. Same in relationship what you looking for? You not looking for love you looking for someone to benefit you. That's selfish you don't care about the person you are with. You should be thinking is too love each other care for each other. In general we should encourage each other for a better life and not this toxic selfish nonsense. Pardon my bad English.
@@dennis3351 I never said ignore her, just don't drool over her and act like her lapdog. Just have some self confidence.
@@Joel-pg4yi You're all over the place with that comment!
so if Im hungry, I should act as if I ate already. and starve to death?
Self Control in everything is good ... Not just sex.
It shows that the person's action are all deliberate, and thought out before hand ... As opposed to an impulsive person who can't always account for their decisions/ actions.
All the things you are mentioning also apply to women. Taking care of yourself, exercise, a desire to work.
Your videos are great Courtney. You have the right values, and your subtle humour is awesome.
I dont know, I wish this was true, but from most my own experiences with women, if you dont find a way to sexually escalate sooner than later she will get bored and move on. I'll give you one of many examples, I met this girl off Tinder, she was trying to get me to come over, I was tired that evening and asked her if she minded if we wait until nefxt week so we can meet up for a date instead, given we barely know each other. She ended up ghosting me. This has happened time and time again. Looking back, I feel like things would have turned out differently with most women had I initiated physical intimacy sooner than later.
the detail here is that you met her on tinder. of course she got bored easily. shes a low quality chick. get off that shit and youll find women tend to appreciate not being pressured on the first meeting.
It's ALWAYS better to do it sooner rather then later
Depends on the individual female.
Which part of the point I made in my comment
Same here man. Like another commented, better sooner than later. My issue was lack of knowing how to escalate things. Found a great blog online that really helped me from Nick Notas
"I'm saving myself for marriage."
"You're an incel."
"I have a healthy sexual lifestyle."
"Toxic dude bro playboy."
I’ve been one month semen retention, nofap and been working out a lot more. I’ve noticed I don’t even care for woman anymore and don’t even give them the attention I used to. My dopamine feels so much better and I can control my urges with certain things so much better now. I eat healthier and have conscious eating. I can literally look at a bird flying and I find it interesting and I smile more and judge people less it’s crazy. I notice though woman pay attention to me more even when I’m trying to ignore them it’s interesting. Porn is the worst thing and you made a lot of clear cut issues for men and even woman. Porn can destroy lives and it’s never touched on the subject that even woman can be addicted to porn. But yes you are right I always felt like I was supposed to have sex like the guy in the porn. Life is great without it and it’s not to say I don’t care for woman I do I just mean they aren’t my number 1 priority and if I find someone special then definitely bring that special person along. Life feels great atm. Great video and great points, keep up the great work!
This is motivation for me. Can’t wait to tell my testimony.
Every time I see your video, I was reminded of all of my past experiences, good and bad, and I was able to look back at them from a new angle. Thank you Courtney, you are a gem.
From recent experience, I've realized the benefits of not pushing a girl for sex or seeming too eager.
Sex is not as simple and easy as it is portrayed in pornography. It is complicated. Physics and biology always get in the way.
That's why it's important to remain disciplined and only move to that stage once you and your partner are ready.
Basically a more sophisticated way of saying that women are not attracted to thirsty men or those with a wandering eye.
True!
Facts tho! Several years ago i was in that same category but i was in pain over a break up that I didn't want to happen and it took me a long time to climb out of that hole. Im glad that i did tho. I still have some ways to go in the form of sexual discipline but im looking inward in order to heal from that & become better. 💪💪💪💪
🤔 Really?: What 'bad boy' _doesn't have_ a 'wandering eye'??
@@PeterAcrat Those aren't women
@@yongwei5 How can you say that 90% of women are not women?
I had a girlfriend and we were a couple for over half a year. I never pressured her. When I told her I would like to sleep with her, she left me instantly...
She didn't feel attracted to my discipline. Every girl is crazy in a different way, there are no rules. I think she did this with a lot of guys.
Maybe she had a peen. Or you just have no game
Bro she was not into you in the first place 😂😂why even keep a ho like that!
It's her loss
Yup, they're all batshit crazy
She needed a woman I guess.
What an amazing woman you are Courtney! Thank you for your courage, dedication and speaking the truth that so many people are burying because of too many quick fixes in today's society.
As a man. I realized the more stressed out you are. The more your body ask you for release the stress through sex, also boredom.. I was in a point of life where I had to work hard to finish university and was willing to have lack of sexual discipline because I was in hard point where everything collided so I escape from reality. Also works with video games and so on.
Go buy some 20lb weights bro, workout
@@inferno3080 terrible advice for someone who lacks discipline
@@alexanderg8466 take some accountability, make a schedule, you could workout 10 minutes a day.
I actually think that men who are not sexually desciplined at all get all the girls. Beacause they pursue them and do whatever it takes to get girls.
I agree, numbers game extreme lengths
Sexual discipline is a facade. A guy could have a massive porn addiction but doesn't keeps it out of sight and off his social media and date women who are completely unaware of his predilection. Or a guy could have gotten one porn DVD from a bachelor party that he never watches and stupidly leave it on his bookshelf and wonder why women lose interest after visiting his place.
*pursue
But would you want to marry any of those women?
The women they get are just as bad as them. Neither are marriage material. That's hook-up culture and it's exactly what she's discouraging.
Because of the hyper sexualized nature of many women, a suppressed and controlled sexual desire is confusing to them, and to turn down a first advance only makes them want you more! Their mind races" he doesn't want to bone me? Everyone wants to bone me? I must have him! He can't turn me down I must prove I'm irresistible!" Modern women can be broken, it just takes a lot of patience and psychology
Yeah, the feminist movement of "equality" and almost pressuring women into having casual sex as a form of empowerment has also made a lot of this moot.
Or they just move on cause they assume you’re not attracted to them
very true. it's not the fact that the dude is a voluntarily celibate that is attractive.
we are wired for abundance, we show commitment with resources, not sexuality.
@@Swearengen1980 'Women don't have impulses and free will, it's the big bad feminism that pushes them to have sex' -Theory
Here is what I have learnt. As a man, my urges, are high, there are triggers all around me.
I can't make the world conservative for me so that my pants don't get wet, rather, I realised, self discipline is the most effective way even though it is not the only one.
Self discipline for me isn't about waiting for the one, or postponing my chance to get laid, rather, it's about ultimate celibacy, and also abstinence from PMO.
Ofcourse it's not easy, it's never easy, but at the end of the day, being able to make my own body bow down to my own soul is true domination, that to me is true masculinity.
I ain't doing anything for a woman, I ain't doing anything to be a better citizen, rather whatever I'm doing is to be more than a mere human, to not let my soul succumb to the body's desire.
I'm not a religious fanatic, I follow neither any faction nor any sect, rather my wisdom against my whims.
I realised, near in here, there is a guide, the more we hear and adhere to it, the closer we get to ascension, to be more than a mere human.
I was addicted to OF because of my extreme loneliness. I decided to tally up the amount i spent and it woke me right up. Most of these girls arent even run by the girls themselves but are outsourced to other people. Now im just very lonely but at least im saving some money! lol...
spend it to pay a personal trainer or learn martial arts or any other sport or activity you enjoy!
"The successful among us delay gratification."
Truly some great words to live by.
By delaying gratification, you can become less sus and become more successful imposters and crewmates.
Lame
I will say this girl is more aware than most of how much men are struggling in general in society today and it's cool to find a girl that actually cares a little bit with a solution focused attitude.
She's a youtube business brother. A plumber doesn't fix your toilet because he cares about your bowel movements. He just does what he needs to do to eat and pay bills. All these red pill females just filled a 20 year old void in the red pill market place.
@@Bennysol lmao that's kind of funny man there was a phase a few months ago (I guess 5?!) Where I was watching "red pill" UA-cam content but honestly in my opinion girls/starting a family just simply aren't even worth the effort lol. Maybe one day I'll change my mind but rn I'm enjoying the single life 😎
The biggest battle one can win is when he win a battle against himself and corrects the mistakes he does example stop smoking or stop drinking alcohol and other obsession or edictions he’s or she’s got. Thanks. And that’s the ultimate victory.
Seeing a beautiful woman discuss the dangers of porn is actually pretty damn refreshing. We need more women and men to have the courage to speak up. Thanks, Courtney. Thanks for your bravery.
Nice Guy™
You had a dirty thought with her in mind don't you ?
@@killy374i love being able to see her as a normal human being and not a sex object 😍
@@bachiak1 i hope so
Simping ain't ez @@mordie31
I have been practicing NoFap for over 3 months now and let me tell you guys it feels Great! I was addicted to porn and watched it for 20 years. It made me lazy and it did not motivate me to work on myself to attract the women I wanted in my life. For that reason I was single for 16 years. I know…yikes. Now that I have embarked this journey I am more focused on my life’s mission, working on publishing my book, going to work on a podcast with a friend of mine and I hold myself accountable to a friend who is also doing NoFap as well.
It is hard at first because we get used to the instant satisfaction and release. The best way to release your sexual energy is to do some type of competitive sport like football, basketball or boxing which is what I do at my gym. Yes you’ll get women to get more attracted to you but at the end of the day you got do it for yourself and depend on yourself to make yourself happy. You get to decide who can have your seed. You are the prize my friends and with that said I wish you guys well. Peace. ✌️
Thank you for the positive message Anthony. WE CAN MAKE IT BROS BUT WE SHALL STAY FOCUSED.
Back in my day you had to go out to get porn, it was a lot of effort, not for the lazy!
All the best on your improvement journey. May I suggest 1) Intermittent Fasting 2) Keto Diet ? Nobody can equal you after this !
@@prashanthb6521 While I'm all for good nutrition, diet formulas don't work for everyone. What's the point of adopting one of them if you can't do it consistently. So my advice is work on your nutrition for sure, but the changes need to work for you. The whole point is to change your eating habits for life and never go back. If you hate your diet, you're not gonna stick to it, that's my point.
My b...s start to hurt after 3 weeks
I don't know how I feel about this video in particular. I came a long way since my college days where I was engaging in online sex a lot, and I lost my V card to a girl who worked in the strip club. Around that time I also had a lot of financial responsibilities dumped on me out of nowhere, having to work a lot (while going to school) to pay bills that I almost received no help from the rest of the family. I did sleep around a lot, but not to the point where I risk losing my job, getting an std, etc. I never had a gf in my 20s (mostly due to being denied), so I didn't think what I was doing is wrong. I'm more financially stable now compared to when I was younger, live on my own, but still have no gf to be intimate with. It's gets lonely at times, I'll tell you that.
Invest in yourself. Women are complicated but so are a lot of other things. One you know how they work you can set your watch to it.
Me too…same deal. And you know this girl is aware of how gorgeous she is. It’s like being a starved guy and having a filet mignon dangled in your face
On the other hand you bagged a stripper, something most men can only fantasize about!
you can be lonely in a relationship that starts going bad. Just have fun clapping hoes and don't worry about some Hollywood/Disney notion of soulmates or happily ever after. It's very rare to find that.
Most relationships fail, and if you loved them you'll be devastated when it's over. It can take years to emotionally recover from that. It can destroy your life with a level of depression you've never experienced before. Some guys can't handle that and they end it all.
If you live a life you enjoy, doing what you love every day, loneliness is just a minor humm in the background you can tune out. Get laid, have a FWB or casual consistent lover, relationships suck. They're fun at first but it all goes to s#!t. A modern relationship is two people sitting at a table looking at their phones and not talking.
My last relationship started off great, but they started nagging me constantly about every little thing, started seeing me less frequently, started demanding I pay for stuff, they stopped doing sexual things that they enthusiastically performed in the beginning. It wasn't worth it. They keep it hot in the beginning to rope you in, but once they get comfortable they start becoming moody b!tchy slobs and divas, getting attitudes and making demands and withholding affection and sex to punish you. Rationing it out just enough to keep you around. Pointless. Clap em and move on.
The grass is always greener. I had a single long term committed relationship for my entire 20s and now that it has unfortunately ended I feel like I missed out on something. Mostly I'm just curious about what other women are like sexually.
I've been sexually disciplined for 23 years bruh. No man on this planet wants to be sexually disciplined, we get what we can get and that's it. If we could be with 100 models in a day we would. Most men who claim to be sexually disciplined get no action. All of us just get tied up with the one girl that shows some interest and that's it.
I think discipline and accountability in general are very underrated values in our society but especially in our younger generations.
When sex became easier to get love became harder to find.
@@oeckstei Shit bro...that's deep asf and its only one sentence.
The amount of irony in this video is UNMEASURABLE
truly.
Sexual discipline comes naturally comes with and correlates to the standards that you have for the woman that you want to attract.
"Be the Prince and you will find the Princess." -Jordan B Peterson
If you project what you want to attract, then you will find the woman that projects what you want too. If you project that you just want sex all the time, you will attract only the women that want the same thing.
If only princesses existed. I respect JP. He's awesome. Maybe it's more like a Led Zeppelin lyric: "Im trying to find a woman who 's never ever been born"
It makes me laugh at times when women complain, or put men down for cheating (which BTW I don't agree with, would never do, and in all honesty, don't get the reason why anyone would) but fail to mention, or seem to forget that they're cheating with WOMEN who most likely KNOW they're cheating with them. Yet these women never get blamed, or accused, or "slammed" by women for cheating with someone else's man. It's always only ever 100% the man's fault. Again, I'm not condoning, or agreeing with cheating; just saying that the women aren't always so innocent. Also, women cheat on men as well; however this is rarely mentioned.
A man or woman of virtue is one who waits...not test drives.
As a man myself who never married or have kids and been out of a relationship for 7 years.
You have to stay busy,constantly reinvent yourself and don't follow into the traps of releasing your sexual energy for the wrong reasons.
Yes porn is extremely bad.
Masturbation should not be your only resort.
This topic is not spoken enough on.
I myself has been a victim of this.
There is hope and help for all
Same here, no relationship for seven years, never get past a third date, masturbation to porn and cam girls, problems being attracted to women my own age. Going to try to pull out of it, but I do have a loneliness cloud that floats over me and engulfs sometimes.
Its easy to say until you havent had any initmacy for a year or more, im 32 and it just keeps getting worse and worse, I used to have no problem having GFs and pretty consistantly did from 2008-13, all my friends are married now and they never come over or are wanting to go out and do things anymore, Ive had to do more and more things by myself, online dating is a farce anymore, and when you do get intmacy it is damn near impossible to not want to try to just maximize it while it lasts as it always is so fleeting, Idk what to do about it anymore, It takes so fucking long to see results from the gym it does next to nothing to help you feel better in the moment, got my finaces up to making 90k this year and its still hard to make ends meet, idk feeling like ive been getting my ass kicked lately without much going on to look forward too on a weekly basis 😞
I hear what you’re saying. You’re not alone. Gotta stay strong, brother
Right there with ya bro 😢 modern life sucks 😂
@@KINduz3jp unless you’re in a state where it’s illegal then you run the risk of a trafficking detective investigating you and your picture on a big wall somewhere in your local police station 🤣
All I got to say is Don't sell yourself short!
Regarding gym: I hear ya, it doesn't make you feel much better in the momen (you also might have some dopamine and serotinin issues btw from the sound of it) but it makes MASSIVE difference if you get into good shape since most people aren't.
I'll tell you Courtney, I've watched so much of your content over the past two years and have such a greater understanding in approaching women and how to improve myself as a man. Personally, by far this has been the best video I've watched from you. I've heard countless preachers, authors, speakers, etc. speak about sexual control and being disciplined. Not once have I ever heard a women speak about this. This video has definitely given me a new drive to be the man I need to be for a future wife and children someday. Men are their own worst enemy and if we don't take things more serious in our life, we are heading for destruction as Proverbs 5 suggests.
When I was monogamous I was deeply unpopular among women. My popularity skyrocketed when I entered in my "Casanova" period.
I have been learning about and practicing Stoicism and Taoism philosophy and it has really helped me control not just my sexual desires but my emotions and actions.
Shout out Marcus Aurelius, highly recommend “Meditations”
It almost feels like a domino effect when you start paying for stuff like OnlyFans. When you get into a rut of things not working out or girls flat out rejecting you, you just give up in a sense. So porn just becomes an easy option. For me, I wish I had more self control not doing that. I would like to get better but not sure what would help
A girlfriend who fulfils that need would help.
I’m trying man. Dating is hard
@@carytigani9859 Pretend like you're going through a rough breakup- work on yourself. Start improving any aspect of your life that you can. Stay busy doing stuff from the time you wake up until you go to sleep.
I would say that maybe for right now you don't have to put such a high value on a girl rejecting you or getting a partner. Also, I don't know how old you are or what your ambitions are but really focusing on yourself and figuring out what you want to accomplish for yourself is far more important. If you can love yourself and develop as a human being, starting from developing discipline in any aspect of life it will become easier to date, maintain relationships, and not be so frustrated about getting rejected or left because you still have yourself to rely on.
Once you get into your late 50s, porn won't matter as much to you.
This is so important. I'm so glad my husband is very disciplined. It is one of the top reasons that I married my guy. I knew he wouldn't be a cheater and that is one of the things that I consider high value. I think many women do not understand that having a man who treats you well is the real high value man. It does not mean he agrees with you all the time. He may not earn much $. However, having high moral character is far more admirable than six pack abs or a sportscar. I can respect my husband because he is faithful to me and that makes me feel safe. He told me he knew that I wasn't a cheater and that he knew we had the same values.
*Sexual discipline shows self-control, respect, and focus - qualities that go beyond attraction and actually build real connection.*
It occurs to me that discipline is a characteristic of the kind of men that most women find boring.
Hit the nail on the head.
I know I'm late, but chances are she wasn't the right one then. If you're only looking for fun pay for the dating apps and swipe right to your heart's content.
Courtney, you don't have to be a man on this one. You are so on-point. There are so many people out there who are incontinent - that is lacking restraint - in the way they run their lives, and they reap what they sow.
Courtney, the fact that your channel exists is a statement of modern loneliness. There's many reasons for this disconnect but one is the internet itself. That and the pandemic has thrown a monkey wrench into the gears of social skills and people , especially men, simply do not know how to share and be an actual friend with the other gender first. Add a dash of women's liberation and the sense of entitlement and not needing a man, and this leads to the scourge of single people. Many people, men and women now have grandiose and entirely unrealistic expectations of what they think their life is going to be like. I am married to the same woman, coming up now on 22 years. We have 4 children. I love my wife as my friend and partner in life FIRST. There is an illusion that you make your life whatever you want it to be. Talk about hubris. We are frail and need to depend on each other. Once we get past our 60's the sex parts hardly even work anymore. That's not what keeps us together. It is genuine caring about your partner and taking pleasure in their company. Do we still have sexual intimacy? Sure. But this is an ever smaller part of the equation, while caring and loving your partner, this is growing, and this is what keeps it going. It used to be about celibacy until marriage. Sex is so powerful it can easily destroy intimacy which seems a paradox but its true. I recognize that this view comes from a different time, for men and women. I have spoken with my 2nd child, my first son many times about why he can't find someone to marry. He is attractive and is still hitting it up regularly on tinder and bumble. Does he have lots of " action " ? Yes, much more then I had at his age. I stayed with my spouse dating for SIX MONTHS before she was ever willing to be with me intimately. She needed to learn I was trustworthy and could wait it out. Since then I won her over ! And it was WORTH IT! I however don't think I will ever have any grandkids at this point !!
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I think a part of the loneliness is a choice. I’m not commenting to argue about what makes me more or less lonely than someone else but I say part of it is a choice (for now).
I also believe that once i’ve improved in the social skills, looks & knowledge department it’ll be easier for me to have conversations and actually engage with people. I also believe that when I understand what I like and dislike, I can find the kinds of crowds I’d like to be a part of.
Another thing for me is to not force or be forced into someone else’s life. For example I used to play basketball. I liked my teammates on the court but didn’t really enjoy being around them off the court.
I also wanna control my emotions and urges. I sure it’ll make it easier for me and the people I interact with in the future. I think that’s going to bring some level of understanding since there is all kinds of different people in the world.
For me I think it’s a choice and also part of the consequences caused by my previous decisions.
So far it’s hard but I wanna keep going and see it through. I’m also putting my faith in god.
I 100% agree. I always steered clear of guys that were known for sleeping around. It shows self-control, maturity, and it’s just another version of having your shit together. It just seemed like the more partners you/they have, the less impactful or special that interaction or connection would be if you get with them. Just my guess..Maybe this isn’t the case.
I'm 59 in June and I have been mgtow for 23 years now. Women are just nothing more than liabilities. I do however have a escort that I try to see 5 or 6 times a year. Shes26 and not bitter yet, soft spoken and very attractive and Feminine. 300 an hr is kinda steep so I limit my visits. But it better than nothing. And,being single like I am,,, I always have the money, it's just deciding if I want to have some intimacy and affection. Everyone will have their own idea's on that. Stay safe and stay strong my fellow gentlemen.
Well, your escort is cheaper than a wife. After my wife left me while I was stationed overseas, I stayed single for 20 years, had many one-nighters, a few relationships of a year or more. After 20 years of dating, I quickly learned that quality women are almost non-existent, and just having one-nighens now and then was enough for me.
Coming into NNN day 5. I was busting twice a day for months. I think I’m really going to make it this year. I read the EasyPeasy book and it helped so much.
I haven’t felt this good in a long, long time.
Stay strong lads.
Almost 3 weeks in how you holding up?
but isn't NNN only depriving yourself?
@@Bluzian74 yea it does but you gotta fight it
@@LeftHimDead Fight what though? A natural urge that woman can't oblige? Clearly rape and murder isn't legal. The law? (they have guns). The system? (they have police).
So then one becomes desperate. And then THAT is when women use, exploit and objectify men; at their weakest moment. Only to then twist the story around. Regret is not rape. If only women were worth a man's nut. IF ONLY.
I have never read Izzy pizdi book and it helped me
It’s difficult, the dynamic drawn when as men were supposed to be healthy and exercise and that increases libido like crazy for many. While the challenge of exercising is perhaps grasped, now the battle over libido and sexual discipline begins. I’m in great shape, my wife tells me I’m good looking to her, but I feel unattractive because of lack of affection directed towards me and low levels of sex. I think that building up my sexual discipline and finding healthy ways to lower libido while staying physically active is the next challenge to overcome. ✊
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 This is gold
I can’t express how important it is for both men and women to practice sexual discipline. Honestly, I feel that as a society we have sexualized ourselves immensely and it has become a common narrative. However, studies do support the ideals of self respect and self control as driving factors in promoting a healthy, intimate, and longterm relationship with a partner.
Whoever is struggling with a porn or masturbation addiction, please know the quick dopamine hit will never equate to something beneficial longterm. A majority of the joys in life require work and self-discipline to achieve them, and that’s what provides the ultimate satisfaction. Comfort and intimacy is what every human desires, but to experience this in a healthy manner requires more. I pray you discover your worth and become free from strongholds in your life you believe will fulfill you. 🖤🖤🖤
there's a great video by john doyle called "why pron is destroying you and our country' and while you might not agree with everything he's about, it's worthwhile and everyone should check it out/spread it around
I wish you could have an impotent life partner, so you can have all the sex-discipline you want
I never had desire to be promiscuous or intimate with anyone that I wasn't deeply bonded to, and it was still very hard to master my hormones and keep my wits about me. This society makes it extremely hard/nearly impossible for men to navigate things healthily, and it takes being backed by strong moral-based principles+values and good-example influence to have a chance to not wreak destructive energy.
you seem like the sort of person I would like to know, Olivia!
The problem today is that feminists use the lower vibrations of masculine energy and think they are feminine, men get destroyed and use the lower vibrations of feminine energy. And life for most men are all about competition you have to be the strongest all the time anyone who doesent can be strong all the time get destroyed by other men and society. If u can’t controll yourself you end up in jail or get destroyed by porn or drugs. And porn allso is made to make men feminine. Being healthy masculine is one of the hardest thing a man can do today and that Come with time and when you can overcome all challanges life throw at you. I just woke up it is 7pm on a saturday and im going to work out right away. I work out every day, it is all about self discipline wich most men lack today like 80% lack it, i can controll my mind and my emotions, i have been free from drug and porn for a long time now and life is really awsome i get my dopamine healthy today i have been trough both back and arm,elbow and hand surgery the doctors told me i would never be able to walk normal or lift anything again my elbow is made out of screws and plates, don’t ever let anyone tell u what u can and can’t do. Today i can run and do pushups and pullups 1year after surgery💪 anything is possible you just gotta belive👍 the mind is so much more powerfull then we can imagine. Now im going for a run and do pushups and pullups in the park early a saturday morning, after that a cold shower. Porn destroy men it makes u have wrong tought som both women and sex while u support rape and humantradfiking. I know life can be lonely sometimes you don’t got 1 living human to even talk to and no one have ever listened to you your whole life while Nobody gives a fuc about u or what u feel while feminists are out there to destroy you. There is no other way then use discipline and become hard you can’t be soft if you want to survive when you get discipline life Will get better that is the only way for men to find healthy masculinity. If you have issues hit me up i Will do everything in my power to help you. Real men protect the weak and women and family❤ Peace n love
I appreciate that
I know a woman who is trying to get back with her ex, but wants to sleep with me and I believe three other men. I'm proud to say I left her on read.
Just wanna say that male loneliness hits different because not all men have close intimate relationships where they can talk about their feelings with friends
I know I’m a little late to the party on this video by about two years, but something I’ve come to find out is if you can touch someone, and not even in a sexual way. But just touch someone hug him and hold their hand, leaning on them. And then a lot of those urges seem to disappear. And something else I’ve learned is we don’t touch other people very often. And I think part to do with the male loneliness epidemic is probably the fact that we don’t live at home, even though most of us are still in the “at home age” But we foolishly go rent an apartment, or a home with our bodies, and keep tour selves, and don’t really do much. Something I have not really seen too many people talk about is how physical needs are very similar to psychological needs. but we foolishly go rent an apartment, or a home with our bodies, and keep to our selves, and don’t really do much. Something I’ve not really seen too many people talk about is how physical needs are very similar to psychological needs. There was a study done where you need about five hugs a day and we’re not talking you walk up to someone and you give him a pat on the back, we’re talking, you hug somebody tight you hold them tight kinda hugs, but you need five of those to maintain a healthy lifestyle, I forget the exact verbiage, but then you need about 12 to grow and heal. No, personally think if more of us men would acknowledge that we are human beings, and that the blood of the covenant Is thicker than the water from the womb I think we would be a whole lot better off, if a homey would just give another whole me a hug, and we all helped each other get out of our respective pits of despair.
I did NoFap for 286 days and in that time I went on dates with (at least) 7 different women, which is more women than I’ve been on dates with in the entire rest of my life combined. Ended up getting a girlfriend, got complacent and relapsed, but I’m trying to get motivated to start back up for my own mental health.
Don't count the days it helps for me
I see myself as a person who doesn't masturbates so no need to count and yeah its your preference ofcourse
NOFAP, for me, personally- is about mastering some weaker links in my personality. I wasn't addicted, in fact, I said NO to more women than I could care to count. The way I see it- I was one giving, no other way around. Besides, I'm extremely active physically, and wiring my brain, and this Testosterone is used for my own development, not for giving some random girl a thrill. I'm introvert, so never really cared about positive feedback from society. Neither a negative one. I've never said I'm not an arrogant prick, as a matter of fact- I was fairly warning people, who decided to interact.
Remember men, power is controlling yourself and your urges while being disciplined. Prioritze yourself and focus on your goals and dreams and be comfortable with just yourself. You are the only person you have to be with forever, so be comfortable in yourself.
100% spot-on with porn and or fapping, which usually go together. Any addiction changes brain chemistry, and the two combined reek havoc on you mentally and physically. Like with any addiction, the more you do it, the worse it gets, the less you do it, the less you think about it. It makes a WORLD of difference giving both of those habits up. You won’t miss it at all.
I believe women are attracted to high value men from my research and are happy to share a super high status guy than secure a loser for themselves.
The best way to combat loneliness is work. I work seven days a week for years. I only went home two days this year. Work takes all your time so there is no room for negative desires like porn or buying farts in a jar.
Why not meet women?
@@Frankoshack where?
I think basically everything in this was well thought out but in the other woman's video she mentioned wanting intimacy from a partner and i think women dont always understand that men crave intimacy because we love our partners not just using them for their bodies
Found a level of respect hearing your response to those TikTok’s . 🙌🏻
Self-discipline in all facets of life is a positive trait. In general, self-discipline never hurt anyone.
If a man can master his own desires, he can be disciplined in just about anything. In a culture that is basically lawless mentally, "give it to me now", those who know how to exercise discipline (all else being equal) will fare much better than those who don't. The virtues of Patience and discipline are rare commodities for the masses, but valuable for character and certain career fields.
I'd say this is the one weakness keeping me from success: LUST and a lack of sexual discipline, it's something I've been battling for years. I'd say I'm fairly disciplined in other aspects, only thing holding me back is an addiction to porn and masturbation. My main experience with it is that staying away from it IS the way to go. I'm much more of a man without it, no question about it. Maintaining that though, it's tough. Spreading this message of NoFap, personal development, and sexual discipline, will seriously benefit this generation of men. It's channels like yours that are helping to ground us on the path of righteousness, so glad you've covered this topic - Thank you Courtney!
Seldom ejaculations are correlated to higher risk of prostata cancer. So NoFap is not really good health advice.
I think the biggest obstacle to reducing or eliminating porn or "addiction" to masturbation is being single. A lot of people get stuck in this depressed state of not thinking they'll find a woman, so why the hell not watch porn and jerk off? It's at least a temporary distraction, right? Also, I'd say there's a difference between addiction and habits. They're both hard to break, but there is a difference.
Both people who replied to me: Understand that being your best self requires discipline in every field: you eat healthy, you exercise regularly, etc. So why watch porn and masturbate when it only truly garners negative results. (Or at least, the negative results outweigh the positive by a LONG shot)
Try doing 30 days free: explore new hobbies, e.g. Jiu Jutsu, painting etc. These hobbies are constructive and are a better use of time. I only want the best for my brother's and sisters out there🙏
Great video. I am an above average looking man with a great career and have no problem meeting women. This information is for MEN who are seeking mature, lasting relationships. Thanks Courtney!