S Tier- Informal Meal, Museum/Zoo/Aquarium, A Tier- Coffee B Tier- Formal Meal, Comedy Show, Sporting Event C Tier- Walk, Concert, Bar/Drinks Only, Amusement Park, Shopping D Tier- Hiking, Group/Friend Date F Tier- Movie, Family Function, Your House
First date should be simple, inexpensive, and extendible. That way: 1.) If it sucks, you bail out quickly. For example, if it's a coffee date, you take the coffee to go and get the heck out of there. 2.) If it's going okay, you can add on to it. For example if it's an ice cream date and there's a rail trail nearby, go for a stroll on the rail trail. Simply put, the first date is to get to know someone. It should not cost hundreds of dollars. If it does she should move to the Klondike because she's a gold digger.
I agree with this. Definitely like coffee since it's inexpensive and I always have a nervous stomach when meeting someone for the first time, so I am not a huge fan of meals for a first date.
Exactly. Going to a super nice place is just try hard and comes across as approval-seeking. At the end of the day, the guy should be seeing if he's into the girl just as much as she is w/ him. I like drinks, if the girl drinks, because if you sit at the bar (and you should) it doesn't feel like an interview. And if the girl is into you she will lean in and let you know w/ body language. If it's not going well you can bail easily. If it's going well you can easily transition to anything, even dinner. The great thing about drinks is you can tailor it to any kind of vibe you want. I would probably not choose a dive bar, but for the right girl...that's the perfect first date because it can be interesting!
Most of Courtney's date ideas are about 'getting to know each other,' and that translates to job interview or boring small talk, talking about random stuff that no one cares about. I believe that the most important purpose of a date is to have fun, beside getting to know each other. For example, playing games like pool, mini-golf or shared interests like a workout date. Most people would much rather continue to date the person who they have the most fun with.
First date; coffee or a walk. In a large percentage of first dates, the dude will never see the lady again, so control what you spend. You don't owe total strangers half a week's wage.
Most of Courtney's date ideas are about 'getting to know each other,' and that translates to job interview or boring small talk, talking about random stuff that no one cares about. I believe that the most important purpose of a date is to have fun, beside getting to know each other. For example, playing games like pool, mini-golf or shared interests like a workout date. Most people would much rather continue to date the person who they have the most fun with.
@@coldsteel9420 You said first dates should be about “fun”, and your first example of an activity was pool. In my opinion, pool is about as fun as slamming your head against drywall. At the end of the day, what you find enjoyable on a date, someone has a completely different idea of fun.
I took someone to an ice cream shop for a first date once. Easily accessible, casual, and fun. Second date was a board game cafe and that was a great time as well. Highly recommend those if available
MUSEUM - I have found museum and coffee or museum and lunch is a great first date. It’s easy to talk as you walk around and conversation keeps flowing because you can always talk about the art when you’re not sharing about yourselves. Public space. Admission is usually affordable and better museums will have a cafe and a gift shop as well.
I think a good one to add would be a friendly competition date: Bowling, Mini-golf, Arcade, things of that nature. As long as it is something you both really enjoy.
Only Americans would complain that meeting up for a coffee - the gold standard, low stakes, great-way-to-get-to-know-someone hangout - is "low effort" or "shows that a person just sees you as a friend."
Anyone complaining that something casual and little to no pressure is no effort shouldn't be dating period! I'd combine a walk with either coffee or farmer's market, etc.
After a first marriage that went 20 years and another marriage I went 16 years, I was dating again and decided I didn't know anything about it. I started listening to people like you and I am forever grateful. Everything you say in this video is good advice! FYI, I proposed meeting at a Starbucks. I did this several times. When they replied why Starbucks, and sometimes said they did not drink coffee, I gave the following reasons: 1. It's busy enough that neither one of us will feel like we are sticking out like a sore thumb; 2. We should find a nice place to sit down so we can have a nice visit; 3. It's not so noisy we can't have a good conversation; 3 1/2 there will be an exit door on either side of us so if either one of us feel we needed to get away quickly we could do that. Not a single girl turned me down on this first date option
Starbucks isn't terrible, but it's a little bit boring. An independent cafe or coffee shop in a nice location where you could go for a nice walk after would probably go down a lot better.
Let’s be clear; women who demand a 5 star restaurant for the first date have zero interest in the guy; they’re looking for a simp to exploit on a foodie call.
I took a friend bowling and it became our first date. Next I took her apple picking (it was that time of year). That was a fun thing to do. I'm a good bowler, so that looked good. Then apple picking was fun picking her up to reach higher apples, plus there were animals and treats and all that stuff.
I took someone out on a date to an arcade/bowling ally, and it was very loud and hard to hear each other. So I have to disagree unless you already know each other and just want to have fun. And I'd also add that this date activity might be more fun as a double date.
Great video, Courtney! It's always helpful to hear different perspectives on first date ideas. I agree that individual preferences and the specific person you're with should be the biggest factors.
Coffee date - I told my date to meet me for coffee, and said if she was still enjoying herself after a cup, we could continue for an outing with my dog at the beach. After that we had lunch. After that we went to my place for a glass of wine. She said it was the best first date ever. So all those women who shun coffee dates missed out.
For a first date, you want to maximize conversation time and minimize distractions. That means coffee, drinks, and walk should be at the top, and movie, concert, comedy show, and sports should be at the bottom. In those four bottom ones, they all involve an active real-time presentation you're supposed to be following along, and they all involve noise that could drown out or otherwise conflict with conversation. Zoo/museum could actually be a nice balance because there's space to talk but there's also a passive conversation piece to talk about, though you'd want to make sure everyone is actually interested in what the place is offering.
Controversial opinion: The better you are at conversation, the better a stripped down date is. Walking is fine if you can find topics to discuss and engage in.
I love tuning in because your voice for this is 100% perfect and you also aren't petty or mean. However you are doing your audio is dead on! Plus it is fun to hear thoughts about dating and people interacting.
What I love is sushi or Korean bbq. Much slower to eat with more room to talk, can share dishes to see what each other likes, can cook for one another with the bbq, variety of choices. Don’t get me started with “Cheesecake Factory” meme from years prior 😂
@@OptimisticRealizer bro. Thats sounds like something you need to work on. Respectfully 😭. Dinner manners are a must for first impressions. I know what you mean, but it’s easy to eat slowly and clean your mess as you go.
I'm still on the 'Have a first date' stage. Yes, you read that right, I've never been on a date before. Mostly because, during my school years, I was ridiculously shy and I had a lot of trouble working up the nerve to approach people. My best friend was the one who approached me first during Year 5 (4th Grade). Edit: That shyness hasn’t really dissipated yet, unfortunately. I think I’d probably only approach a woman to ask her on a date if I got to know her beforehand as friends, over a period of a few months maybe at the least.
I was watching an interview on tv and a super attractive movie star- mid 20s- said she had never been on a date in her life. So you may be in good company.
@@Lawrence_writer Well, that made me feel a bit better, knowing that it’s not just me who struggles with these things. Helps me feel a little bit less alone.
It depends on the class of woman a man takes out. Based on experience, upper middle-class women enjoy low cost dates that involves arts, museums, coffee, and even strolls. Whereas working-class or lower-class women demand expensive dates with activities outside their own budget, etc. If you're a middle-class gentleman, never date working-class women. Date within your class.
I've found coffee to be the best first date. Not expensive, relaxed environment, and can extend/cut short if it isn't going well. The only issue with it is that it's not great for weekdays after work since a lot of people don't want to have caffeine in the evenings. I really don't drink so I tend to avoid drinks.
Loved this tier list video!! Saved a photo of it for reference. 🥰👏 Enjoyed hearing more about how you and your husband met, and your first date experience. Would be cool to hear more of your story! ❤💞
I think you graded the dates excellently. I like that you bare in mind that it's better to be safe than sorry. I look forward to more content, thank you very much for the content, and God Bless you, Courtney
One i love to do is an antique mall or shop like that. It can bring back memories for people if they see something nostalgic and you can see things that make them warm and fuzzy. Also, you can gather senses of style with furniture or clothing which can be an interesting peek into them too and how it aligns or clashes with yours.
Most of Courtney's date ideas are about 'getting to know each other,' and that translates to job interview or boring small talk, talking about random stuff that no one cares about. I believe that the most important purpose of a date is to have fun, beside getting to know each other. For example, playing games like pool, mini-golf or shared interests like a workout date. Most people would much rather continue to date the person who they have the most fun with.
I highly recommend the following if they are available in your area: train trolley trips, horse-drawn carriages, tour boats, and tour buses. You can sit and chat while enjoying the view.
Having an adventure is a great way to build chemistry before. See her earlier, other video on excitement and how it makes you fall in love. It's also just fun! It doesn't have to be expensive, just do something adventurous like roller coasters, snorkeling, a skatepark, zip lining, exotic new food, etc. where you can both feel that rush and start to fall in love.
A girl who really likes you isn't going to put any conditions on where you go. If she demands to go to a certain place, it means she's just trying to use you for your money. She'll gladly order takeout to bring home to the guy she's hooking up with who doesn't have to take her on any dates. I know because I've been that guy waiting at home.
These are my go to ideas that I’ve had decent success with for a first date. Also pair these with a coffee or casual lunch at cafe or family diner. Relatively inexpensive and great way to keep conversation going/flirt. Also relatively public so she will feel safe and likely less anxious. - Farmers market - County Fair - Mini Golf - Bowling - Art Gallery - Aquarium - Museum
Your right men don't factor in the safety thing enough. I know I sure didn't and one time I took a girl to a park and it was late evening. She ended up calling her friend at one point. It wasn't a first date, but still something I didn't really think about.
One way I elevate my coffee dates is to check out small business cafe's. That way, its different for her (not a Starbucks) and we are supporting local!
I'm guessing that most women get so much attention on dating apps, that they just automatically filter out the coffee dates as low effort or cheap because the chance she'll get a more expensive date out of someone else is high.
Probably dating for the wrong reasons then. Not looking to find someone, just looking to get a free meal/stuff. How much a man is willing to spend often does not equate to how much she will actually enjoy herself.
Largely agree. Biggest thing is that you want it to be something you can talk, doesn’t involve excessive spending and is easy to have an out if things don’t look good for safety.
My last successful first dates were: - a picnic on a green meadow with a view of the mountains - a visit to an amusement park (with lots of candy floss - the stuff was sticky everywhere) - a visit to a special medical exhibition (she was a surgeon) - a ride in a horse-drawn carriage (including a heated blanket and a picnic basket with champagne) through the city center on a cold day - a ride in a vintage convertible to a popular spiritual place - a visit to the Viktualienmarkt in Munich (high-quality food and drinks everywhere, but also very crowded)
I really appreciate your content Courtney. Your videos have helped me develop a more mature approach to dating which is something I’ve struggled to figure out before. Thank you 🙏
First date is always active, it's great at weeding out sedentary people. Frisbee golf is a great way to spend time with someone new. Outside, casual, walking, recognizing how difficult frisbee golf is and laughing about it. You can always offer to remove some of the burrs if they can't reach them. If it is a one and done, you both probably still had some fun and got your steps in for the day. If it's a good time and you enjoy each other's company, you can ask if she would like to spend some more time getting to know each other over the picnic basket that you prepared (just in case).
If coffee/tea sounds boring, invite her for a Swedish Fika. It's a drink (coffee/tea/juice) and pastry, with a cozy feel. It's very similar, but sounds exotic.
@CourtneyRyan Where would you rank watching the sunset on the beach for a first date? I live near the ocean and it’s my go-to first date. I usually bring a blanket so we can sit together and if the first few minutes go well I pull a bottle of my favorite wine out of my bag and ask if she’d like a glass. If the conversation goes well, we could extend the date or plan a second date. This date has always worked well for me, and even if it’s not a love connection it’s a nice way to spend some time with someone new.
I agree with most of your points. But a few days ago i met a woman to a first date (we knew us). We cooked together and watched movies til the night and it was very great for both of us
Walks are highly underrated imo. I think we forget that's how courtship used to happen for hundreds of years before all the fancy stuff. Just wanted to point that out.
I like grabbing coffee at a small, tasteful cafe, stay or go, take a short stroll through a historic area to an art exhibit & then decide on light fare food or drinks. Tapas or sushi are great for sharing & discussion. If you go for drinks & get tipsy, know a cute late night diner as an option. Ya just need to study your surroundings & date logistics
I've got to throw in my favorite first date idea: going to an arcade! $20 can get you hours of fun at an arcade, and you can make it last as long as you want. There are sooo many things to talk about there, and it's also easy to talk over whatever you're doing to get to know each other better. It's perfect if you're both competitive, or you can work together on games if not. If they're not into video games, you've still got ski ball, pinball, air hockey, basketball, etc. EVERYONE can find something they enjoy at an arcade. Then you can trade in your tickets for matching prizes as memories of the date if it goes well. I had great success recently with a board/card game picnic too. You both bring your favorite games and snacks.
My first date with my GF : Coffee together for 1 hour, after that 2 hours in the Museum at the end she wanted to continue to talk, so we walk for 2 hours. Coffee date for a safe bet, museum is great but depend on the woman tastes.
Best first date: Meet at a Barnes and Noble. Each of you go get 5 books that describe a different part of your personality/life. Meet back up in 15ish minutes. Get coffee/tea. Take turns sharing books. Ask lots of questions and really get to know the person. BONUS: You now have 5 ideas for your next 5 dates that you know she'll like.
I met my wife (who's from Canada) online (I'm from the UK). Our first date consisted of her flying to England and staying the night in a spare room at my parents house where I lived, and then we did a whole day out in London, seeing all the sights. I then took her on a 5hr car trip down to Cornwall in the South West of England for a 5 day holiday, followed by a weekend in Paris........I think I overdid it. 😂😂😂. She still married me though.
Generally don't go to drinks by itself as a date unless the woman suggests it (I like doing dinner and getting a drink at dinner). HOWEVER, I view drinks as a first date as a good way to vibe check as the date is happening. First: a lot of people get very nervous on dates and alcohol is something that helps with nerves and inhibitions, this helps people loosen up. You get one drink, see how things are going. If the date is going well, maybe we get a 2nd drink - for me (guy's pov), if a girl feels comfortable enough to get a 2nd drink, then I know that it's going pretty well. If she doesn't want to get a 2nd drink, or I don't want to get a 2nd drink, it means either one or both of us are neutral to negative about the date overall, and that's great too, at least we know! TLDR: it's a nice way to kinda organically understand the vibes of the date in the moment.
My piece of advice is to know your area, know your options. Know where the best places to eat, hang out, all entertainment options, hidden jems, activities, events, everything. Doing your homework ahead of time will set you up for success.
Great list! Coffee or picnic is the way to go for first date. If she wants dinner on the first date, she wants free food. She doesn’t want to get to know you.
I reckon you were pretty spot on with your choices. I had a first date that we went out for a casual meal and then while walking around, went into a second-hand store full of cool old stuff, similar to your shopping experience.
Where does this need for effort on a date with a girl a guy barely knows come from? Why would a guy want to put in effort for a girl that probably will ghost him after the first date. Picknicks start on the third date, best thing a girl can expect on a first date from a guy that doesn't simp is a museum, maybe a coffee date, a brunch date at best.
I tend to do two-tier first dates now. If it goes poorly you can stop after coffee, museum, dinner, etc. If it goes well, then can walk to ice cream or drinks or a show, etc.
Coffee 1st date is my go-to. But also good is Sunday afternoon drinks at a spot with a nice beer garden; pick a sunny day around 4pm. The time is not accidental - it means you/she can still fit in an activity you/she may already have on earlier. And 4pm means you aren't buying lunch or dinner. 😆 It's also more relaxed and 'safe' than evening drinks at a bar, where there's more of an implied 'progression'. And she's not walking around by herself at night.
Thanks, I didn't know about shopping dates ! So it depend of the intentions. I always thought fancy date were the only things one should do, but now I will implement informal restaurant and interactive activities. Thanks !
First date: casual, low pressure, easy to leave if need be. drinks at a lounge or wine bar to lube up conversation. a bottle of wine shared or cocktails. 2 drinks max. or coffee on a weekend morning. Second date: an activity. museum, ax throwing, mini golf, art class, casual minor league sports game where you don't really care about the game, any event going on in your area. third date: start to get intimate. dinner at your place where you can show off your cooking skills (if need be, get some cooking skills) or cook something together. of course everything is about how youre feeling each other and your comfort level. but this is my general guide.
Hey! So, I’ve recently decided to dip my toes back into the dating pool after a long break and, honestly, I haven’t given much thought to the details of a first date in a while. I work remotely in the Pacific Northwest for a DC-based consulting group, so I don’t get out much. Plus, my line of work means I don’t use social media and I’m a bit cautious about putting my preferences out there on dating apps. Here’s my idea: start with a coffee date at a locally-owned artisan coffee shop. It would set the stage for substantive and engaging conversation and help me tell the difference between someone who’s all looks and no substance, and someone who’s svelte, elegant, and genuinely interesting. If it’s the latter, we could head out for a walk in the International Rose Test Garden, and if we’re still feeling it, maybe wrap up with happy hour at a local foodie hot spot. If it’s the former, well, at least I’ve only invested an hour!
The best first date I ever took a girl on has to be ballroom dancing. Granted, I had been taking classes for a couple of years at that point, but it's great because it shows the girl you can lead and it helps break the touch barrier very quickly.
First date types are also a chance to weed out potential mismatches. Personally I prefer a walk or hike for a first date. Usually somewhere more public. Often it does turn into a meal as well. I find a woman that isn’t interested in doing something outdoors probably not my type.
Think you are spot on with these. I have had arguments with friends about movies as I think they are a bad idea for a first date. Unless she is keen to see a particular film or it is a classic movie, then what you are doing is taking someone you don't know to see a film you haven't seen and it is too risky. If she hates the film, then that will colour her impressions of you. If you are tempted to do it, I would advise reading the guidance for it as well as the last thing you want is random nudity to appear as she may think that you were trying to get her in the mood.
my thoughts (at least from what I have here on our side of the planet) if a first date setting is over a meal, order something that is served in quick small bites… like a couple of appetizers, or something snack-sized… that way, both can have a conversation without being distracted by a spoonful of food… Japanese restaurants can be a good start, specially those that serve sushi, sashimi, maki, tempura, miso soup and tea… done right it definitely can get lovely…
I’ve always said that don’t make dating more complicated than necessary, do things you normally do, a date is a chance for the other person to see a glimpse of your life.
You go for a coffee date or local restaurant, have back up plans for extending if necessary. Ice cream, walk on local pier, visit farmers market, go feed ducks and geese just think before the date of multiple options.
My first date with my current gf was going to a dancing social. I've practicing Salsa en Bachata for over a year and she loved it! It's very rare for a girl/ woman te see a guy who likes to dance!
The perfect first date is a pub or an informal meal like an Italian cantina, or a sport bar. It always work for me, and beer or wine teases both of us.
I prefer coffee date first. I like to test the connection before jumping into anything too intimate. I totally agree with you on the family function/event! I was talking to a guy and he invited me to his sister’s bday party. This would have been our first time meeting irl. I was not expecting that as a first meet 😅
My ideal date is going to the beach. We're in public, we can talk, we have basically no curfew at the place, we have an incredible view the whole time, and we can eat/drink basically whatever we bring
First Date: Sharis (akin to Coffee Date, spent 3 hours talking) Second Date: Sharis (again, 3 hours talking) Third Date: Kenny Chesney concert (she won the tickets) ... 20th Date: Honeymoon on a cruise ship ... 432th Date: 20th Anniversary dinner at the Melting Pot
You should do this tier-list video but about dating profiles. With a couple of your female friends to see what sticks, it would be an incredibly valuable thing to see
Since dating profile opinions are usually very personal, but you are the kind of woman who I believe most guys would want to optimize their profiles for, when looking for a healthy conscious and traditional relationship ☺️
One tip on if you’re going to a bar for a first date: see if any of the cocktails can be made alcohol-free (i.e. virgin margarita, paloma, etc.). Some places even create their own alcohol-free cocktails!
I went on a first date with a girl to a concert at a large amphitheater (Billy Joel - so you now know how long ago this was). It was a great time. Getting out of the grass parking was normally a nightmare, but we ended up just talking for two hours and then realized we were virtually the only ones left and could just drive out no problem. We laughed quite a bit about it. It really depends on chemistry. I went on another first date years after to a Mexican restaurant with a girl whose greatest ambition in life was to buy the house next door to her parents. I had to shut that down soon afterwards. That was chemistry working as well.
Once I was watching a movie at the cinema, a guy sitting next to me was on a FIRST date with his to be his girlfriend they kept chitchatting kind of loudly, to a degree which angered the guy sitting in front of them making him completely upset this guy stood up, turned back, looked at them, and said "enough would you please stop" 🎶 ta da 🎶 🤭 .. this just signaled the start of an upcoming dispute On a sudden move, the girl on the guy's date started talking to me, she opened a conversation, she totally forgot that she was on a date with her to be her boyfriend; it appeared as if I myself were on a date with her .. we laughed and exchanged little jokes about the situation and the dispute terminated happily 🎶 l 🎶 🫂 👏👏👏👏 Nice topic Courtney! Pretty shirt!
A first date should either be low cost or ideally, free. You're only getting to know the person. There's no need for a big financial or time investment when you aren't certain about the probability of the date progressing further. Walking is fine as long as you're both able to chat. It's not fancy, but it doesn't need to be when this is considered the first interaction. Yeah, anything passive like watching a movie is terrible first date advice, especially for something as prolonged as a 2-hr film. The theater should only be used as a vehicle for the guy to break the touch barrier after he gets to know the girl. Lol Definitely don't wine and dine a chick on a first date unless you're open to the possibility of dating food diggers. A lot of opportunistic women will exploit this to get free meals. Even an informal meal at a fast food joint is pushing it these days. Leading with money always ends up being a bad idea. The fact that women are brazen enough to ask a stranger that they've met for the first time to pay for them and their mum tells you everything you need to know about the modern dating paradigm... Going to a zoo or a museum is a good date idea, but at the same time, you gotta include the cost of entry. Some venue with super expensive tickets may not be the best option if you're unsure whether the date with lead anywhere. The safety issue of immediately going to a dude's home is understandable, but if an unscrupulous guy wanted to do something, he could also behave one way when you're both in public while flipping the switch as soon as you're both in a confined private space, so you can't always be sure about the person's motivations unless you've known them for an extended period. If you wouldn't go hiking with a man on a first date, does that mean you'd rather be stuck in a forest with a bear? ;) 🐻 Going on a double date is one thing, but who in their right mind brings friends with them on a date? All that would do is designate them as the third wheel. Only problem with a concert is the expense. It's a lot more interactive than sitting in a movie theater, but can men really afford to shell out potentially hundreds of dollars on tickets for a random chick who may or may not see them again? Determining whether a girl gets offended by certain jokes would actually be a good vetting mechanism for the guy. It might create some awkward tension in the moment, but it'll help him ascertain whether she's a viable long-term partner. Working out on a first date is a terrible idea unless the workout in question happens to be horizontal jogging. 🏃♀🏃♂ Added bonus, the protein shake in this scenario would also be organic and free. /s I think there's a big difference between grabbing drinks at, say, a winery vs a bar. One is a lot more conducive to getting sloppy and blackout drunk than the other. But generally speaking, I'd say staying sober during a first encounter is probably best. And this is without even factoring in the cost. A guy's crib is a much better "amusement park" than the ones that involve going on rollercoasters, and the best part is that the sole ride is free, albeit doesn't last as long. ;) 🎢 The only time a girl should expect to go shopping on a first date is if she met the guy on a sugar daddy website. Otherwise, avoid at all costs. Sports may not necessarily be the best option, but if you really think about it, a first date is a lot like baseball. The guy's goal is to get to first base while aspiring to hit a home run. ⚾
If a perfect stranger is mad that you didn't spend a fortune entertaining her, then she isn't for you.
Sure, but reality is that the expectation standard is there and women now prefer to share elite men than have a less elite man to themselves.
Agreed lol
That's just sad. No wonder they stay single @@jfkst1
Yup, those kind of girls are high value and want more.
@@ponokunishima1 or at least those kind of girl - think - they're high value.
S Tier- Informal Meal, Museum/Zoo/Aquarium,
A Tier- Coffee
B Tier- Formal Meal, Comedy Show, Sporting Event
C Tier- Walk, Concert, Bar/Drinks Only, Amusement Park, Shopping
D Tier- Hiking, Group/Friend Date
F Tier- Movie, Family Function, Your House
Thank you!
'Your House' is def F tier.
F boy tier lol
She moved concert up to B tier
Legend for doing this 🔥
Thank you very much
First date should be simple, inexpensive, and extendible. That way:
1.) If it sucks, you bail out quickly. For example, if it's a coffee date, you take the coffee to go and get the heck out of there.
2.) If it's going okay, you can add on to it. For example if it's an ice cream date and there's a rail trail nearby, go for a stroll on the rail trail.
Simply put, the first date is to get to know someone. It should not cost hundreds of dollars. If it does she should move to the Klondike because she's a gold digger.
I agree with this. Definitely like coffee since it's inexpensive and I always have a nervous stomach when meeting someone for the first time, so I am not a huge fan of meals for a first date.
women barely acknowledge this.
Exactly. Going to a super nice place is just try hard and comes across as approval-seeking. At the end of the day, the guy should be seeing if he's into the girl just as much as she is w/ him. I like drinks, if the girl drinks, because if you sit at the bar (and you should) it doesn't feel like an interview. And if the girl is into you she will lean in and let you know w/ body language. If it's not going well you can bail easily. If it's going well you can easily transition to anything, even dinner. The great thing about drinks is you can tailor it to any kind of vibe you want. I would probably not choose a dive bar, but for the right girl...that's the perfect first date because it can be interesting!
What happens if her ex was there? What do you do?
Most of Courtney's date ideas are about 'getting to know each other,' and that translates to job interview or boring small talk, talking about random stuff that no one cares about. I believe that the most important purpose of a date is to have fun, beside getting to know each other. For example, playing games like pool, mini-golf or shared interests like a workout date. Most people would much rather continue to date the person who they have the most fun with.
Talking during a movie: straight to jail. Hilarious!
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For a first date, yes I agree. When she says “straight to jail” cracks me up haha
I agree. Movies theaters are sacred.
I'm someone who chronically talks during movies (ESPECIALLY "Well in the books they actually") and I approve this message
“Do you really want to be getting sweaty, out of breath, unable to talk to each other…” Lady; you just described the entire reason I’m on this date!
Exactly. Does she not have bdroom fun?
Ha! Exactly!
😂 If it's a one night stand then that is a very different "getting to know someone" kinda date. 😂
[rim shot] LOL
First date; coffee or a walk. In a large percentage of first dates, the dude will never see the lady again, so control what you spend.
You don't owe total strangers half a week's wage.
Most of Courtney's date ideas are about 'getting to know each other,' and that translates to job interview or boring small talk, talking about random stuff that no one cares about. I believe that the most important purpose of a date is to have fun, beside getting to know each other. For example, playing games like pool, mini-golf or shared interests like a workout date. Most people would much rather continue to date the person who they have the most fun with.
@@coldsteel9420 You said first dates should be about “fun”, and your first example of an activity was pool. In my opinion, pool is about as fun as slamming your head against drywall. At the end of the day, what you find enjoyable on a date, someone has a completely different idea of fun.
Could not agree more. 👌 That was why I was so shocked when going for a walk got C tier!
I took someone to an ice cream shop for a first date once. Easily accessible, casual, and fun. Second date was a board game cafe and that was a great time as well. Highly recommend those if available
Escape rooms are fun too; builds and tests connections and destroy friendships lol
Gonna add Axe throwing here as well! It's fun, low pressure, and a little bit different!
Sooo cute!
@@grants5383 what about Gun Shooting?
bowling is also fun
MUSEUM - I have found museum and coffee or museum and lunch is a great first date. It’s easy to talk as you walk around and conversation keeps flowing because you can always talk about the art when you’re not sharing about yourselves. Public space. Admission is usually affordable and better museums will have a cafe and a gift shop as well.
This is a good gem, I think what’s missing from a lot of good/great dates is flow and this certainly helps creates that
I'd put zoo and arboretum in the same category. Excellent choice.
A forensic or anatomy museum is well appreciated!
Yep, Coffee + Museum = Always good results
I think a good one to add would be a friendly competition date: Bowling, Mini-golf, Arcade, things of that nature. As long as it is something you both really enjoy.
Sumo Suit Wrestling?
Only Americans would complain that meeting up for a coffee - the gold standard, low stakes, great-way-to-get-to-know-someone hangout - is "low effort" or "shows that a person just sees you as a friend."
Right lol I think it’s cute!
Not just the US - most of the Western world's women would say it's insufficient.
This country is over.
Let's sit in a busy cafe for 15 minutes until someone gets the coffee poops and has to leave.
More appropriately, American women. I think most men would be fine with it.
You should dress as Morticia Addams for Halloween.
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@@CourtneyRyan Then the husband would have to be Gomez.
I second this
Absolutely
Yeah man she even looks like her that black white version one no wonder she looked familiar 😅
I end all my first dates with a walk.
Me walking back to my car, alone.
Broke, but never broken.
Soldier on fellas.
Anyone complaining that something casual and little to no pressure is no effort shouldn't be dating period! I'd combine a walk with either coffee or farmer's market, etc.
Love that!
Holiday light displays are another great idea
@@mikeklein1779considering that's coming up, yes! And go somewhere after
@@mikeklein1779 I love that! So cute!
@@CourtneyRyan How should we respond if she says that a gentleman would take her to a high-end restaurant?
I agree with her. Coffee date first.
I love a coffee date!
@@CourtneyRyan You'd bone after a coffee date?
Coffee dates are great for starting friendships!
@@alohayoutube Why would a coffee date be more likely to cause you to be friendzoned?
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu Coz aloha ain't got no game my man.
After a first marriage that went 20 years and another marriage I went 16 years, I was dating again and decided I didn't know anything about it. I started listening to people like you and I am forever grateful. Everything you say in this video is good advice!
FYI, I proposed meeting at a Starbucks. I did this several times. When they replied why Starbucks, and sometimes said they did not drink coffee, I gave the following reasons:
1. It's busy enough that neither one of us will feel like we are sticking out like a sore thumb;
2. We should find a nice place to sit down so we can have a nice visit;
3. It's not so noisy we can't have a good conversation;
3 1/2 there will be an exit door on either side of us so if either one of us feel we needed to get away quickly we could do that.
Not a single girl turned me down on this first date option
Starbucks isn't terrible, but it's a little bit boring. An independent cafe or coffee shop in a nice location where you could go for a nice walk after would probably go down a lot better.
OG Stud moves! Well done. Dude - don’t get married, again. Three times isn’t a charm.
Let’s be clear; women who demand a 5 star restaurant for the first date have zero interest in the guy; they’re looking for a simp to exploit on a foodie call.
Don't forget bowling and arcades. I took my date to both of these and she had a great time! Definitely should be s rank for both of these.
I took a friend bowling and it became our first date. Next I took her apple picking (it was that time of year). That was a fun thing to do.
I'm a good bowler, so that looked good. Then apple picking was fun picking her up to reach higher apples, plus there were animals and treats and all that stuff.
I took someone out on a date to an arcade/bowling ally, and it was very loud and hard to hear each other. So I have to disagree unless you already know each other and just want to have fun. And I'd also add that this date activity might be more fun as a double date.
Great video, Courtney! It's always helpful to hear different perspectives on first date ideas. I agree that individual preferences and the specific person you're with should be the biggest factors.
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Thank you for tier List, Courtney.😮
A video on how to approach women and ask for her number would be good. Thank you.😅
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Went on a coffee date and went to the antique shop across the street for a first date. It was awesome, would recommend.
Coffee date - I told my date to meet me for coffee, and said if she was still enjoying herself after a cup, we could continue for an outing with my dog at the beach. After that we had lunch. After that we went to my place for a glass of wine. She said it was the best first date ever.
So all those women who shun coffee dates missed out.
Love this!
Did you get any action?
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu I'll never tell. 😜
"Low effort" such a modern women comment. The point of a date is that your interested in the other person... not how can he impress me
For a first date, you want to maximize conversation time and minimize distractions. That means coffee, drinks, and walk should be at the top, and movie, concert, comedy show, and sports should be at the bottom. In those four bottom ones, they all involve an active real-time presentation you're supposed to be following along, and they all involve noise that could drown out or otherwise conflict with conversation. Zoo/museum could actually be a nice balance because there's space to talk but there's also a passive conversation piece to talk about, though you'd want to make sure everyone is actually interested in what the place is offering.
Controversial opinion: The better you are at conversation, the better a stripped down date is. Walking is fine if you can find topics to discuss and engage in.
I love tuning in because your voice for this is 100% perfect and you also aren't petty or mean. However you are doing your audio is dead on! Plus it is fun to hear thoughts about dating and people interacting.
Ice skating at an outdoor rink has been my go to
Oh that’s so fun!
What I love is sushi or Korean bbq. Much slower to eat with more room to talk, can share dishes to see what each other likes, can cook for one another with the bbq, variety of choices.
Don’t get me started with “Cheesecake Factory” meme from years prior 😂
Oh I LOVE this! Korean bbq is so fun
Cheesecake factory is the best first date if both ya'll love cheesecake!
I don't know about eating BBQ. I get messy as heck. I don't if I would want a woman to get distracted with that. lol
@@OptimisticRealizer bro. Thats sounds like something you need to work on. Respectfully 😭. Dinner manners are a must for first impressions. I know what you mean, but it’s easy to eat slowly and clean your mess as you go.
I think exotic food in general is dope.
I'm still on the 'Have a first date' stage. Yes, you read that right, I've never been on a date before. Mostly because, during my school years, I was ridiculously shy and I had a lot of trouble working up the nerve to approach people. My best friend was the one who approached me first during Year 5 (4th Grade).
Edit: That shyness hasn’t really dissipated yet, unfortunately. I think I’d probably only approach a woman to ask her on a date if I got to know her beforehand as friends, over a period of a few months maybe at the least.
I was watching an interview on tv and a super attractive movie star- mid 20s- said she had never been on a date in her life. So you may be in good company.
@@Lawrence_writer Well, that made me feel a bit better, knowing that it’s not just me who struggles with these things. Helps me feel a little bit less alone.
We gotta have. Winter date tier list
👀 good idea!
Let’s make it happen, Courtney. The tier list needs to be seasonal
Depends where you live. If I the upper Midwest skip the date and wait until spring.
@@CourtneyRyanIce Skating!!
This is so helpful thanks!
I think combinations of those seperat Dating situstions make a big difference, rather than looking at them all seperatly.
Totally!!
It depends on the class of woman a man takes out. Based on experience, upper middle-class women enjoy low cost dates that involves arts, museums, coffee, and even strolls. Whereas working-class or lower-class women demand expensive dates with activities outside their own budget, etc.
If you're a middle-class gentleman, never date working-class women. Date within your class.
Also I love tier lists. So I will gobble all tier list videos up
They are so fun! 😂
I've found coffee to be the best first date. Not expensive, relaxed environment, and can extend/cut short if it isn't going well. The only issue with it is that it's not great for weekdays after work since a lot of people don't want to have caffeine in the evenings. I really don't drink so I tend to avoid drinks.
All true!
How do you react to women who expect/demand you take them to a high-end restaurant & pay for everything?
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu Again...abandon them from your life. Have self-respect.
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu Would never go to dinner for a first date, unless I knew the person for a while. I would simply move on to someone else.
Loved this tier list video!! Saved a photo of it for reference. 🥰👏
Enjoyed hearing more about how you and your husband met, and your first date experience. Would be cool to hear more of your story! ❤💞
I think you graded the dates excellently. I like that you bare in mind that it's better to be safe than sorry. I look forward to more content, thank you very much for the content, and God Bless you, Courtney
One i love to do is an antique mall or shop like that. It can bring back memories for people if they see something nostalgic and you can see things that make them warm and fuzzy. Also, you can gather senses of style with furniture or clothing which can be an interesting peek into them too and how it aligns or clashes with yours.
Antique mall is a great idea.
Great idea. Can you do a cologne / perfume tier list and possibly an outfit/shoe tier list?
Most of Courtney's date ideas are about 'getting to know each other,' and that translates to job interview or boring small talk, talking about random stuff that no one cares about. I believe that the most important purpose of a date is to have fun, beside getting to know each other. For example, playing games like pool, mini-golf or shared interests like a workout date. Most people would much rather continue to date the person who they have the most fun with.
I highly recommend the following if they are available in your area: train trolley trips, horse-drawn carriages, tour boats, and tour buses. You can sit and chat while enjoying the view.
Very cute date ideas
Having an adventure is a great way to build chemistry before. See her earlier, other video on excitement and how it makes you fall in love.
It's also just fun! It doesn't have to be expensive, just do something adventurous like roller coasters, snorkeling, a skatepark, zip lining, exotic new food, etc. where you can both feel that rush and start to fall in love.
A girl who really likes you isn't going to put any conditions on where you go. If she demands to go to a certain place, it means she's just trying to use you for your money. She'll gladly order takeout to bring home to the guy she's hooking up with who doesn't have to take her on any dates. I know because I've been that guy waiting at home.
Effort and pressure go hand and hand. You can't have the former without the latter.
These are my go to ideas that I’ve had decent success with for a first date. Also pair these with a coffee or casual lunch at cafe or family diner. Relatively inexpensive and great way to keep conversation going/flirt. Also relatively public so she will feel safe and likely less anxious.
- Farmers market
- County Fair
- Mini Golf
- Bowling
- Art Gallery
- Aquarium
- Museum
Your right men don't factor in the safety thing enough. I know I sure didn't and one time I took a girl to a park and it was late evening. She ended up calling her friend at one point. It wasn't a first date, but still something I didn't really think about.
Oh, I know. And if you're carrying a shovel, don't women just freak out?
For me
1. coffee and art gallery or museum will be fine.. and
2. informal meal + zoo/something similar.
3. Shopping + Coffee ☕
One way I elevate my coffee dates is to check out small business cafe's. That way, its different for her (not a Starbucks) and we are supporting local!
I'm guessing that most women get so much attention on dating apps, that they just automatically filter out the coffee dates as low effort or cheap because the chance she'll get a more expensive date out of someone else is high.
Probably dating for the wrong reasons then. Not looking to find someone, just looking to get a free meal/stuff. How much a man is willing to spend often does not equate to how much she will actually enjoy herself.
Largely agree. Biggest thing is that you want it to be something you can talk, doesn’t involve excessive spending and is easy to have an out if things don’t look good for safety.
My last successful first dates were:
- a picnic on a green meadow with a view of the mountains
- a visit to an amusement park (with lots of candy floss - the stuff was sticky everywhere)
- a visit to a special medical exhibition (she was a surgeon)
- a ride in a horse-drawn carriage (including a heated blanket and a picnic basket with champagne) through the city center on a cold day
- a ride in a vintage convertible to a popular spiritual place
- a visit to the Viktualienmarkt in Munich (high-quality food and drinks everywhere, but also very crowded)
I was thinking to get such type of suggestion from someone around me and I saw this video. It is helpful video.
Thankyou.
I really appreciate your content Courtney. Your videos have helped me develop a more mature approach to dating which is something I’ve struggled to figure out before. Thank you 🙏
First date to the house is S tier boyz.
First date in my basement. They love it so much they never leave
First date is always active, it's great at weeding out sedentary people. Frisbee golf is a great way to spend time with someone new. Outside, casual, walking, recognizing how difficult frisbee golf is and laughing about it. You can always offer to remove some of the burrs if they can't reach them. If it is a one and done, you both probably still had some fun and got your steps in for the day. If it's a good time and you enjoy each other's company, you can ask if she would like to spend some more time getting to know each other over the picnic basket that you prepared (just in case).
I've played frisbee golf many times, have a set of discs, but never thought of it as a date idea. Good one.
If coffee/tea sounds boring, invite her for a Swedish Fika. It's a drink (coffee/tea/juice) and pastry, with a cozy feel. It's very similar, but sounds exotic.
@CourtneyRyan Where would you rank watching the sunset on the beach for a first date?
I live near the ocean and it’s my go-to first date. I usually bring a blanket so we can sit together and if the first few minutes go well I pull a bottle of my favorite wine out of my bag and ask if she’d like a glass. If the conversation goes well, we could extend the date or plan a second date.
This date has always worked well for me, and even if it’s not a love connection it’s a nice way to spend some time with someone new.
I agree with most of your points. But a few days ago i met a woman to a first date (we knew us). We cooked together and watched movies til the night and it was very great for both of us
Walks are highly underrated imo. I think we forget that's how courtship used to happen for hundreds of years before all the fancy stuff. Just wanted to point that out.
This is one of your best videos. Really fun to watch.
I like grabbing coffee at a small, tasteful cafe, stay or go, take a short stroll through a historic area to an art exhibit & then decide on light fare food or drinks. Tapas or sushi are great for sharing & discussion. If you go for drinks & get tipsy, know a cute late night diner as an option. Ya just need to study your surroundings & date logistics
Game spots can be great too. Does she like bowling, pinball or even go karts? Fun & playful competition or team effort wins
I've got to throw in my favorite first date idea: going to an arcade!
$20 can get you hours of fun at an arcade, and you can make it last as long as you want. There are sooo many things to talk about there, and it's also easy to talk over whatever you're doing to get to know each other better. It's perfect if you're both competitive, or you can work together on games if not. If they're not into video games, you've still got ski ball, pinball, air hockey, basketball, etc. EVERYONE can find something they enjoy at an arcade. Then you can trade in your tickets for matching prizes as memories of the date if it goes well.
I had great success recently with a board/card game picnic too. You both bring your favorite games and snacks.
My first date with my GF : Coffee together for 1 hour, after that 2 hours in the Museum at the end she wanted to continue to talk, so we walk for 2 hours.
Coffee date for a safe bet, museum is great but depend on the woman tastes.
Best first date: Meet at a Barnes and Noble. Each of you go get 5 books that describe a different part of your personality/life. Meet back up in 15ish minutes. Get coffee/tea. Take turns sharing books. Ask lots of questions and really get to know the person.
BONUS: You now have 5 ideas for your next 5 dates that you know she'll like.
I met my wife (who's from Canada) online (I'm from the UK). Our first date consisted of her flying to England and staying the night in a spare room at my parents house where I lived, and then we did a whole day out in London, seeing all the sights. I then took her on a 5hr car trip down to Cornwall in the South West of England for a 5 day holiday, followed by a weekend in Paris........I think I overdid it. 😂😂😂. She still married me though.
Paris is the clincher! Well done. :)
Generally don't go to drinks by itself as a date unless the woman suggests it (I like doing dinner and getting a drink at dinner). HOWEVER, I view drinks as a first date as a good way to vibe check as the date is happening. First: a lot of people get very nervous on dates and alcohol is something that helps with nerves and inhibitions, this helps people loosen up. You get one drink, see how things are going. If the date is going well, maybe we get a 2nd drink - for me (guy's pov), if a girl feels comfortable enough to get a 2nd drink, then I know that it's going pretty well. If she doesn't want to get a 2nd drink, or I don't want to get a 2nd drink, it means either one or both of us are neutral to negative about the date overall, and that's great too, at least we know!
TLDR: it's a nice way to kinda organically understand the vibes of the date in the moment.
I like drinks too, but I am English...
My piece of advice is to know your area, know your options. Know where the best places to eat, hang out, all entertainment options, hidden jems, activities, events, everything. Doing your homework ahead of time will set you up for success.
Great list! Coffee or picnic is the way to go for first date. If she wants dinner on the first date, she wants free food. She doesn’t want to get to know you.
I reckon you were pretty spot on with your choices. I had a first date that we went out for a casual meal and then while walking around, went into a second-hand store full of cool old stuff, similar to your shopping experience.
As a man I find your advices very helpful, thank you so much!
I am a married man, but your videos gives me ideas on how to wow my wife, like it as her awesome first date
Where does this need for effort on a date with a girl a guy barely knows come from? Why would a guy want to put in effort for a girl that probably will ghost him after the first date. Picknicks start on the third date, best thing a girl can expect on a first date from a guy that doesn't simp is a museum, maybe a coffee date, a brunch date at best.
I agree with everything you said except brunch? So you're gonna spend money to friendzone yourself? Nice
COURTNEY! Can you please make a video on men's sweaters? Different styles for different guys and how to wear them.
Please make a video tailored to the man that has his looks,style, and financials together on how to approach women and get their number for a date.
I tend to do two-tier first dates now. If it goes poorly you can stop after coffee, museum, dinner, etc. If it goes well, then can walk to ice cream or drinks or a show, etc.
Coffee 1st date is my go-to.
But also good is Sunday afternoon drinks at a spot with a nice beer garden;
pick a sunny day around 4pm.
The time is not accidental - it means you/she can still fit in an activity you/she may already have on earlier.
And 4pm means you aren't buying lunch or dinner. 😆
It's also more relaxed and 'safe' than evening drinks at a bar, where there's more of an implied 'progression'. And she's not walking around by herself at night.
The less it costs (financial and reputation), the better the date.
Thanks, I didn't know about shopping dates ! So it depend of the intentions. I always thought fancy date were the only things one should do, but now I will implement informal restaurant and interactive activities. Thanks !
First date: casual, low pressure, easy to leave if need be.
drinks at a lounge or wine bar to lube up conversation. a bottle of wine shared or cocktails. 2 drinks max.
or coffee on a weekend morning.
Second date: an activity.
museum, ax throwing, mini golf, art class, casual minor league sports game where you don't really care about the game, any event going on in your area.
third date: start to get intimate.
dinner at your place where you can show off your cooking skills (if need be, get some cooking skills) or cook something together.
of course everything is about how youre feeling each other and your comfort level. but this is my general guide.
If there aren't any brunch/informal places in town, just going to a pizza place for lunch w a salad bar is a good alternative.
Awesome breakdown, thanks Courtney 🙏🏻
Hey! So, I’ve recently decided to dip my toes back into the dating pool after a long break and, honestly, I haven’t given much thought to the details of a first date in a while.
I work remotely in the Pacific Northwest for a DC-based consulting group, so I don’t get out much. Plus, my line of work means I don’t use social media and I’m a bit cautious about putting my preferences out there on dating apps.
Here’s my idea: start with a coffee date at a locally-owned artisan coffee shop. It would set the stage for substantive and engaging conversation and help me tell the difference between someone who’s all looks and no substance, and someone who’s svelte, elegant, and genuinely interesting. If it’s the latter, we could head out for a walk in the International Rose Test Garden, and if we’re still feeling it, maybe wrap up with happy hour at a local foodie hot spot. If it’s the former, well, at least I’ve only invested an hour!
The best first date I ever took a girl on has to be ballroom dancing. Granted, I had been taking classes for a couple of years at that point, but it's great because it shows the girl you can lead and it helps break the touch barrier very quickly.
First date types are also a chance to weed out potential mismatches. Personally I prefer a walk or hike for a first date. Usually somewhere more public. Often it does turn into a meal as well. I find a woman that isn’t interested in doing something outdoors probably not my type.
Think you are spot on with these. I have had arguments with friends about movies as I think they are a bad idea for a first date. Unless she is keen to see a particular film or it is a classic movie, then what you are doing is taking someone you don't know to see a film you haven't seen and it is too risky. If she hates the film, then that will colour her impressions of you. If you are tempted to do it, I would advise reading the guidance for it as well as the last thing you want is random nudity to appear as she may think that you were trying to get her in the mood.
my thoughts (at least from what I have here on our side of the planet)
if a first date setting is over a meal, order something that is served in quick small bites… like a couple of appetizers, or something snack-sized… that way, both can have a conversation without being distracted by a spoonful of food…
Japanese restaurants can be a good start, specially those that serve sushi, sashimi, maki, tempura, miso soup and tea…
done right it definitely can get lovely…
S tier - REACHING NIRVANA
A tier - the moon, the stars, the closest galaxy
B tier - Cabo, DR, Paris, Egypt
I’ve always said that don’t make dating more complicated than necessary, do things you normally do, a date is a chance for the other person to see a glimpse of your life.
You go for a coffee date or local restaurant, have back up plans for extending if necessary. Ice cream, walk on local pier, visit farmers market, go feed ducks and geese just think before the date of multiple options.
What you think matters!!! women empowerment!!! have more information like this!!! thanks courtney Ryan
Thank god i live overseas and i have any woman i want with no drama, love it Ryan ❤
Where?
If you live overseas, then don't I as well?
@@albundy7794 I love it
I don't think Tijuana counts as overseas.
@@Lawrence_writer Yep
My first date with my current gf was going to a dancing social. I've practicing Salsa en Bachata for over a year and she loved it! It's very rare for a girl/ woman te see a guy who likes to dance!
The perfect first date is a pub or an informal meal like an Italian cantina, or a sport bar. It always work for me, and beer or wine teases both of us.
I prefer coffee date first. I like to test the connection before jumping into anything too intimate. I totally agree with you on the family function/event! I was talking to a guy and he invited me to his sister’s bday party. This would have been our first time meeting irl. I was not expecting that as a first meet 😅
My ideal date is going to the beach. We're in public, we can talk, we have basically no curfew at the place, we have an incredible view the whole time, and we can eat/drink basically whatever we bring
First Date: Sharis (akin to Coffee Date, spent 3 hours talking)
Second Date: Sharis (again, 3 hours talking)
Third Date: Kenny Chesney concert (she won the tickets)
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20th Date: Honeymoon on a cruise ship
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432th Date: 20th Anniversary dinner at the Melting Pot
Hi! Please do another men’s fragrances you recommend please
You should do this tier-list video but about dating profiles. With a couple of your female friends to see what sticks, it would be an incredibly valuable thing to see
Since dating profile opinions are usually very personal, but you are the kind of woman who I believe most guys would want to optimize their profiles for, when looking for a healthy conscious and traditional relationship ☺️
One tip on if you’re going to a bar for a first date: see if any of the cocktails can be made alcohol-free (i.e. virgin margarita, paloma, etc.). Some places even create their own alcohol-free cocktails!
I went on a first date with a girl to a concert at a large amphitheater (Billy Joel - so you now know how long ago this was). It was a great time. Getting out of the grass parking was normally a nightmare, but we ended up just talking for two hours and then realized we were virtually the only ones left and could just drive out no problem. We laughed quite a bit about it. It really depends on chemistry.
I went on another first date years after to a Mexican restaurant with a girl whose greatest ambition in life was to buy the house next door to her parents. I had to shut that down soon afterwards. That was chemistry working as well.
Once I was watching a movie at the cinema, a guy sitting next to me was on a FIRST date with his to be his girlfriend
they kept chitchatting kind of loudly, to a degree which angered the guy sitting in front of them making him completely upset
this guy stood up, turned back, looked at them, and said "enough would you please stop"
🎶 ta da 🎶 🤭 .. this just signaled the start of an upcoming dispute
On a sudden move, the girl on the guy's date started talking to me, she opened a conversation, she totally forgot that she was on a date with her to be her boyfriend;
it appeared as if I myself were on a date with her .. we laughed and exchanged little jokes about the situation and the dispute terminated happily 🎶 l 🎶 🫂
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Nice topic Courtney!
Pretty shirt!
A first date should either be low cost or ideally, free. You're only getting to know the person. There's no need for a big financial or time investment when you aren't certain about the probability of the date progressing further.
Walking is fine as long as you're both able to chat. It's not fancy, but it doesn't need to be when this is considered the first interaction.
Yeah, anything passive like watching a movie is terrible first date advice, especially for something as prolonged as a 2-hr film. The theater should only be used as a vehicle for the guy to break the touch barrier after he gets to know the girl. Lol
Definitely don't wine and dine a chick on a first date unless you're open to the possibility of dating food diggers. A lot of opportunistic women will exploit this to get free meals. Even an informal meal at a fast food joint is pushing it these days. Leading with money always ends up being a bad idea.
The fact that women are brazen enough to ask a stranger that they've met for the first time to pay for them and their mum tells you everything you need to know about the modern dating paradigm...
Going to a zoo or a museum is a good date idea, but at the same time, you gotta include the cost of entry. Some venue with super expensive tickets may not be the best option if you're unsure whether the date with lead anywhere.
The safety issue of immediately going to a dude's home is understandable, but if an unscrupulous guy wanted to do something, he could also behave one way when you're both in public while flipping the switch as soon as you're both in a confined private space, so you can't always be sure about the person's motivations unless you've known them for an extended period.
If you wouldn't go hiking with a man on a first date, does that mean you'd rather be stuck in a forest with a bear? ;) 🐻
Going on a double date is one thing, but who in their right mind brings friends with them on a date? All that would do is designate them as the third wheel.
Only problem with a concert is the expense. It's a lot more interactive than sitting in a movie theater, but can men really afford to shell out potentially hundreds of dollars on tickets for a random chick who may or may not see them again?
Determining whether a girl gets offended by certain jokes would actually be a good vetting mechanism for the guy. It might create some awkward tension in the moment, but it'll help him ascertain whether she's a viable long-term partner.
Working out on a first date is a terrible idea unless the workout in question happens to be horizontal jogging. 🏃♀🏃♂ Added bonus, the protein shake in this scenario would also be organic and free. /s
I think there's a big difference between grabbing drinks at, say, a winery vs a bar. One is a lot more conducive to getting sloppy and blackout drunk than the other. But generally speaking, I'd say staying sober during a first encounter is probably best. And this is without even factoring in the cost.
A guy's crib is a much better "amusement park" than the ones that involve going on rollercoasters, and the best part is that the sole ride is free, albeit doesn't last as long. ;) 🎢
The only time a girl should expect to go shopping on a first date is if she met the guy on a sugar daddy website. Otherwise, avoid at all costs.
Sports may not necessarily be the best option, but if you really think about it, a first date is a lot like baseball. The guy's goal is to get to first base while aspiring to hit a home run. ⚾
Okay but we all know a bird watching date is S+ tier.
😂 for me it would be!
@@CourtneyRyan That would get you in the mood?
Especially if you love RD2.