I Kicked Out My Girlfriend Because of Dave Ramsey
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Debt has become a massive turn-off for me
Huh?
@@katyedwards3935 if your partner has debt they aren't taking care of then joining finances will drag you down. If they can't take care of their own finances then why would you give them a voice into your finances. Relationships are supposed to be a mutually beneficial where you both take care of each other.
@@katyedwards3935 He means he judges women by their amount of debt and their attitude toward it. He's right to do that.
@@drjlrust He's just doing his job.
Congratulations
This guy is extremely lucky!!
Lucky he didn’t get her pregnant. Lucky that her parents are willing to take over her car loan. Lucky she cooperated and just left the house without any conflict!! This guy better reflect on this and not move another girl in to his home!!!
Marriages have a much higher chance of success (like 70% higher) if there's no sex before marriage.
Find a church. Lutherans are nice.
He said "I feel like I'm choosing my finances over her."
Well, sometimes that is necessary for survival.
To be fair, she did exactly that long before he did.
What’s easier to replace a career and a life or a girlfriend/wife? The girlfriend/wife, of course. Women are a dime a dozen, as are men in the case of women.
He can visit her...
@@jugendamthamburg-ggkonform381 Why? “What’s done cannot be undone” (Lady Macbeth).
No. You did exactly right. Never sell yourself short. Before you reach another decade in your life, you’ll be a WHOLE lot wiser. Don’t fall into this trap again.
While i appreciate full time mom, i cant appreciate a full time girlfriend. Its a recipe for disaster. If a person does nothing for 6 years, it says a lot about her character.
Except that he doesn't sound right in the head, so I would love to hear her side of the story.
Sharon Ramsey hasn't worked even though all her kids left home for college
But she was married, not a live in girlfriend. @siva47931
It depends what kind of "full time" is: a full time spending useless lazy bag or full time taking care of family and house.
No. No way. “Girlfriend” isn’t a job. I don’t care how much housework she does. That is not okay. A person cannot just quit working, unless they are being taken care of by another person. It’s not just room and board a person has to worry about. There is retirement, and healthcare, among other things, that needs to be considered. No employer is taking into consideration how much housework goes into being a stay at home anything. Marriage means she is legally entitled to half the marital assets. That is her compensation for staying at home. How well she does staying home is irrelevant. Being a girlfriend who stays at home means she is just unemployed. There is a radical difference between a stay at home wife and a stay at home girlfriend.
He started dating this girl at 19 and probably didn’t know these were important deciding factors in a relationship.
free p@$$y ain't free...
THANK YOU! I’m just happy he learned at the young age at 25
That's how a lot of young love is.
At 19 there’s only one thing on a young man’s mind.
True he seems to be maturing
This guy made the right decision. Finally a guy that’s not a sucker
He is a drama queen. I would love to hear her side of the story. He is grandiose and bizarre.
@@danielrn133I'm sure you would Daniel bet you'd treat her better too huh?
The reverse of buyer’s remorse
He’s brainwashed. Like you.
@@danielrn133yeah, the way he talks about her, I'm glad she got away.
Wrong, he ended his relationship because was the right thing to do, Dave Ramsey just give him the wake up call he needed.
Homemaker without children is wild
Women love to make easy chores and errands into arduous tasks.
Would you rather spend your weekends doing household chores because you both work or spend your weekends doing fun things with your spouse because one of you doesn't work and is able to do those during the week?
@@brianparrett114not married
If there’s no kids then there’s too much free time for issues or visitors to stop by when you’re not home. No thanks to a kid less home maker.
@@brianparrett114dude. It’s not that hard. 😂. I work 70 hours, study, have 3 cats, commute to all jobs. And STILL hav enough time to clean and have fun.
Guy made the best decision ever, he dodged a bullet here.
more like he did her a favor and SHE dodged a bullet
@@doctorpostinglike why? You mean it would make her get a job
"Why waste each other's time? What are we doing?"😂
I like that, it's to the point.
He cracks me up!
Sex. He had problems finding a gf
This is why I was grossed out when I heard about the stay at home girlfriend trend. Never put yourself in a position where you are so vulnerable and dependent. This is a lifestyle that might seem nice, but if he decides he doesn’t want you anymore, you have nothing.
I hope for both of them that they take this breakup as an opportunity to mature.
yeah, but at least she got 6 years off without having to work. i didn't work for 3 years and living off savings. wouldn't mind if my loser exboyfriend would have paid for my 3 years off, but he actually lived with me so i was financing his life even though i wasn't working and paying rent. he even used my car. i kicked him out and stopped letting him use the car. he broke up because he just wanted to use me for apartment and car. would have been nice if i could have actually lived in someone's apartment and used their car for the last 3 years so i didn't have to use savings. but, nothing is free in life. you give up peace and freedom if you don't pay yourself.
I agree with 3rd date. Don't wait until you both are so invested in the relationship that you want to make excuses for staying together!
@joanarc7963Bingo.
A friend of mine was in a situation like this. 2 weeks after they broke up the other half got a job. For some people the best way to help them is to stop enabling them.
This kid learned some valuable life lessons. Many others should listen and learn from his mistakes.
I think this is a good thing. That woman should be given a chance to learn to take care of herself before she decides to be a homemaker.
Nobody is stopping women from learning to take care of themselves. Men and society actually encourage ye to do so and men don't have to do everything for ye.
@@IrishFrank22 Some girls come from families where are they are not encouraged to learn to be independent. There is nothing wrong with being dependent as long as you have the knowledge and understanding that you know how to be independent if needed. I personally think it's a good thing to be a homemaker but just in case the arrangement doesn't work out a woman must always have a plan B. I think it's important that this woman has that opportunity to be independent even if it's only for a little while before she actually gets married. Some men also have this issue. They live off their parents too long and never actually learn how to be independent. It's not healthy for anyone to not be aware of what they're capable of.
I completely agree with you!! This was me! My parents discouraged me from getting a job in high school and afterwards for various reasons. I am now married and more independent today, but still trying to unlearn and develop my independence as a woman and a wife. It has been very challenging breaking that mold my parents set for me.
@@The-Oneness11 99% of women in the west have all the freedom they want. After they hit over 30, they are usually crying on social media on how hard it is to do everything by themselves. Using the excuse women are not encouraged is just that, an excuse. My mother kept me down but I knew as a man I had to go and learn to be independent myself. You have to be self motivated.
@@IrishFrank22HAHAH men cant even take care of themselves what are you on about?
Nicholas, you did the right thing. From now on be smart, don't tell the girl how much you make. Girl has to be working, aligned with your $$ and faith values at a minimum. Preferably debt free. Sell the house if the ex doesn't leave you alone.
Im in the same situation as him. My ex of 10 years was a financial liability to myself for the last 4 years. I love her. But she didnt want to work for 4 years. She has gambling problem. She has debts, depression, and stress. Her life is messed up. She needs help. I have been trying to get out of debt for the last 6 years, but i couldn't! she was a burden for me. I finally broke up with her 6 months ago. It's hard but needs to be done.
Yep. You can’t fix someone. If they aren’t going in the same direction as you, then it isn’t the right relationship.
You held out for ten years? What a waste of time, money, and effort.
@joanarc7963 Why did you stay that long? But better late than never.
don't ever simp for another woman ever again!
@bruha321 Easy to say when you are not in love. She is a kind and good person. She stayed with me when i hit rock bottom 7 years ago. She is pretty, and she can date any men she wanted. She was influenced by her mom and brother. They are gamblers. Not easy to leave when the person you love needs help.
So a homemaker without children? She was a bum
She was a trophy girlfriend or maybe a socialite or smt. 😂
Was ?
Discrimination
Idk my aunt does this for my uncle. He works she doesn't but he literally doesn't have to even put his pants on himself if he didn't want to lol. She cooks every single meal, from scratch mostly too, she cleans the whole home, and even does outside work too gardening and such, she physically pays all the bills cuz he just doesn't wanna be bothered. I mean when I say this man doesn't even have to breathe for himself outside of his 9 to 5 I ain't lying lol. Every dynamic is different.
@@chenanigans Yeah that's fair, I get what you're saying. Mad respect to your aunt
Theres nothing wrong with wanting a breadwinner/homemaker dynamic but it’s for married people with the same values. Living together and having a bill-paying-bf/ stay-at-home gf dynamic for 6 years is…. not wise and left them both burned.
Married ppl have legal protections so if one wakes up and decides to kick the other out they legally cant bc itd be a marital home. Whereas a bf or gf can put all your stuff on the curb at the drop of a hat. If you take out debt for an unmarried partner, it’s just your debt with only your name on it. Big L
underline multiple😂
My dear the first step is dating then girlfriend then fiancé then Married
@@Anonyme67 Yeah you don’t have to cohabitate and get loans for each other for 6 years before marriage
Honestly being a permanent homemaker without even having any kids is not a productive way of life. One should strive for more in life is my honest opinion, or to find a partner that wants to do more than just doing some house chores.
It's fine for a little bit, like a transition period, like if your partner just moved to your place, just lost their job or just finished their degree or whatever but again this shouldn't be a permanent state IMO.
No Marriage only financially incentivizes the woman to be disloyal and file for divorce. Only an absolute fool would get married with the current legal system.
He made the right choice. He'll be so much better off in life thinking with his big head and not the little one.
If only more men realized this!!!!
Sometimes the little head has good ideas.
Hahahaha
@@benclark1376Very seldom if ever.
He shouldn't be living with his girlfriend anyway. She's not his wife. Maybe now she can find a guy who will marry her, not just shack up with her.
Breaking up with someone over financial issues like this isn't a problem in itself. But this guy is just bristling with red flags.
Together for 6 years. Listens to a radio programme, rents out the house and kicks her out... no discussion... he sounds off as well.
He might be good at finances, but he sounds like a jerk.
How so?
Business is Business, Personal is Personal.....do NOT mix them. You can discuss both and should....just careful not to let the Personal influence the Business. If you co-signing a vehicle, make sure you can take over the payments Fully with NO stress of any kind from your side.....Else don't co-sign at all. Some people have no conscious in leaving you in Debt that was their fault. Regret is Bitter to the max.
dude sounds weird as all hell and did her a massive favor, yet most of these comments are praising him. shows how braindead the majority of ppl are.
This is on him. He allowed her to live with him and offered to pay for everything. Why wouldn’t she take him up on that? She’s probably young too. Imagine spending 6 years with a guy you think is going to protect and take care of you and then get rug pulled like that. It sounds to me like this guy thinks he’s a big shot now and can do better. I’m sure she did more than clean the house. It’s a lot easier to be successful as a man when you have the support of a good woman.
Right? Breaking up may have been right, but he was a jerk too. He let her think it was ok for six years.
You have a good point. I truly believe that girl was forever scarred and now she will never trust a man can protect and provide for her. The guy was WAY TO SLOW to realize he did not like the financial dynamics, he should have moved her out by the first year if he was not okay with it. But do not lead the girl into believing you will pay for both of you and it will all be alright. He seems to value money, so he payed for both because he found value somehow in her. A value he could not find in anyone else for six years.
But a difference in values and the vanishing of love had to appear. If she was really his dream woman, and he was her dream man they would have found a way to comunicate and reach and agreement.
I think some red pilling stuff got into his brain and started to demand from his woman what he had not demanded in the last six years, that or he started to get external influence, he could have moved up to a better level and now he feels she is beneath him, he probably thinks he could get someone better. Yes, the woman must learn to be independent, but if she hears she is to be taken care of and does not need to worry about anything then she will let herself be taken care of. Maybe the guy made a promise he didn't think through or couldn't sustain. She shouldn't have moved in without a ring tho and definitely not wait six years. She was living on a fantasy too.
Yup she will never trust another man. But she will get the chance to find another partner. He may not.
@@jenniferpearce1052that’s what happens when you get in a relationship at 18 and don’t know anything.
Guy just was fed up for the long time that she didn't contribute, and finally got the catalyst from the video to actually stand up for himself and do something. Good!
Dont fund the lifestyle if stay at home girlfriends, in most cases they are leeches!
All cases these women are leeches. No reason at all for a girlfriend to stay at home.
What if she was cleaning and cooking for him for years saving him time, that means nothing to you?
@@user-lt1jd1ye3vcooking and cleaning is easy lol. Every single person in the world does it plus works. It would be different if they had kids.
6 years.... its not unreasonable to believe she thought they were getting married. She wanted to be a housewife and for years he has shown her that he was okay with that by taking care of her, cosigning on loans, and funding her life. That says in every way possible "I am okay being the working husband who takes care of my stay at home wife." You can’t just up and change someone's lifestyle and be confused why they are resistant. This should have been talked about before moving in, combining finances, cosigning cars.
And for those who are gonna comment: sHeS noT a WiFe sheS a GiRLfRieNd...
1. After 6 yrs I guarantee she thought he would propose any day now
2. They were living like a pseudo-married couple for nearly 6 years. A few more yrs and they would've been married by common law in some places
3. He's in control of when she becomes a wife.
I'm really not tryna take her side but she showed up in their relationship just as she planned to show up as a wife. She was honest. He went along with something he wasnt comfortable with meaning he wasn't being honest or assertive about the kind of relationship he wanted.
There's nothing wrong with the lifestyle that either one of them wanted. She's not a leech for wanting to be a homemaker and he's not less of a man for wanting her to contribute. They are simply just not aligned in their relationship goals.
So she was a stay at home girlfriend? Nicholas ain't no simp XD
Glad she got away
Machinery and tech has made home chores easy peasy. Running water. Fridges. Clothing outsourced. Cars. Relative ease compared with times past.
@@kbanghartGlad he got rid of her before she was entitled to HIS assets.
@@carlosmiro4932 glad she got away
first time a non simp ever called this show
I didn’t know collision is an industry before this call.
Me neither, but it makes complete sense when I think about it.
Where do you think cars go when they get into accidents?
@@joeplanter7959 Narnia
@@joeplanter7959 THE COLLISION INDUSTRY
There’s a ton of money in it too if you’re good
yeah he sounds like the typa guy who drives a 2012 mini cooper
Omg he does. He sounds like a man who will not be successful in today's dating market. Lol
Oh man I hate that car 🚗
😂
My wife has a mini cooper. I haven’t driven out of the parking lot. Terrible car, but she likes it. Happy wife, happy life. But if it was my choice, a mini cooper is an absolute terrible purchase. Notice I didn’t use the term investment.
As my father would put it. Big wheels, no spokes.
So he's OK with her staying at home if they were married. So why didn't he put a ring on it?
This! I’m so confused!
He said he's ok with her staying at home if they had a kid. Maybe one or the other doesn't want, or can't have, a kid.
Also that wouldn't resolve the issue of her being irresponsible with money.
Men want you to work like slave even if you have a kid with him or you are seriously injured, thank god I got divorced nobody is bother me or my daughter, and my injured is healing good.
If they had a kid. No kid = you work. It’s the 21st century things are expensive.
It's not just about staying at home. More importantly, it's about being aligned on finances. This includes making money, saving, investing, spending, debt... etc. It's clear they weren't aligned. He sounds like she just wanted to be taken care of regardless of whether she was contributing anything or not and didn't have financial discipline. He waited too long IMO.
I feel like we have to hear her side of the story before we can make a judgment. Imagine she woke up every morning, made the bed, prepared breakfast, went and got groceries, scheduled repairs for the home, made lunch, and dinner, cleaned the entire home, looks good for him. When he got home, was a good companion, probably listen to him, whining all the time for six years. If she was a good homemaker, then, honestly it’s his loss, especially if he has the money to take care of her. It also depends on how much of a spender she wants, if he was only paying her car payments, and she was using that car to buy groceries and do other tasks that ultimately benefited the household. Nothing wrong with him, paying for them, he would’ve had to spend time doing them instead. Having someone to manage your home and provide companionship to you is not worthless. If you tried to pay for those services, it would be very expensive. I actually feel very sorry for the girl who sacrificed a large portion of her youth thinking that he would be someone she could depend on [because that’s how he made it feel for six years] then finding out that she was dumped because of a TikTok post. I hope she is able to get on her feet, build a career for herself, and never put in a similar situation again. I find the way Americans think to be very selfish, and exploitative of woman. It’s like they expect them to work, and provide 50% of the finances to the family, but then come home and cook, clean, get pregnant, give birth, raise the children, teach them for free! How come men don’t pay women for doing those tasks, if a man, were to pay equal market rate for a maid, a cook, a nanny, a driver, a surrogate mother, companionship, and private teacher for the children. It would be a lot more than the 50% that the woman had to contribute to the household.
🎉thank you 🎉
She had no children and could have easily hold a job and maintain a house with his help which is expected.
Why the obsession with 50-50?
Why should they both work then both split the home tasks?
Why can’t each contribute to the house in a different way, work together to build a great home. The problem is men thinking everything that women do is worthless and easy work. They whine that’s it’s unfair that women get to relax at home while they work. Then demand women get jobs and split costs. When the women work, unfortunately most men don’t want to help with home tasks because they feel too tired after a long day.
@@arribaficationwineho32exactly! What if he was injured , sick and couldn’t work. She is too young to sitting at home and not building her resume
@@user-kk3qg5el1m she would leave him in a second
I'm a single man who cooks, cleans, does all his household duties, and debt free. Having a gf with no kids who doesn't work is crazy to me when I can do everything a homemaker can without the burden of taking care of another human financially
A "homemaker" without children and coupled with a young man is guaranteed to hardly be doing much. Most young men living on their own easily handle cooking and cleaning and necessary maintenance and errands.
A childless couple with one calling themselves a "homemaker" makes absolutely no sense, unless there's some serious issues with the layabout.
Ramen noodles and a nasty bathroom.
Yeah reality has it's work cut out for both of them
I'm a homemaker without children because of my health problem. It doesn't mean I stay home and do nothing. 😅
@@jumpiam8477I feel like that’s the exception not the rule.
My wife is a homemaker, and we have no children. She had a stroke in 2020 and has since been diagnosed with various heart, gastrointestinal, bone, connective tissue, reproductive, and nerve disorders. I’ll grant you that you’re probably correct with your statement 99/100 times, or 999,999/1,000,000 times, but I can tell you there’s no layabout issue in my home.
It's one thing to have a wife and mother stay home with the kids....it's quite another for a young person, man or woman, to not work. That's weird. For the first 3 years of our marriage, my wife and I both worked full time. Then, I went back to school, worked part time, and my wife kept working full time even after she had our first child. My wife's last day of work was the Friday before I graduated and she has not worked outside of the home since (26 years). I am not "dragging her along"- we are full partners and all income is our income even though the check has my name on it. When Dave said that, I think he was talking about attitude, not income.
You are married. And your wife worked and has an awesome work ethic. You were partners while you were in school even. That's a big difference between your wife being a homemaker before you even have children and staying that way while you're going to school.
Good.
This girl probably when from mom and dad's to his house. She didn't learn how to grow up, pay bills. And mom and dad are bailing her out again with the car. Sounds like breaking up is for the best.
This couple absolutely made some seriously bad decisions. Her staying home while they weren’t married is absolutely delusional. Him allowing her to move in with him and not work is also absolutely delusional. They don’t need to be together. I’m glad he is doing it now instead 20 years from now. I get that he wants someone who is accomplished, and has goals. In order to find that, he can’t let women move in with him, and just live off him. He needs to think about what he wants his future to look like, and that woman needs to think about her own financial security.
What is funny, that males don't think, doing laundry, cooking, cleaning the place, grocery shopping, is NOT WORKING! One man I dated, hired a housekeeper to clean his place, took his laundry out to be done, folded, went to restaurants, rather than cook fo himself. All chores required him to PAY and extra for eating out. The woman does that. NO WORK.
What an unusual call. It's never good for a relationship when a couple are on two different budgets and have two different sets of goals.
Why does he need a "homemaker?" He has no kids and is a young single guy.
Please say it again: in CAPITAL LETTERS; in bold ; underlined and with a gigantic question mark.
Yeah really isn’t much to do in the household when there are no kids messing up and breaking things.
Cuz the 🍆 don’t shine itself…..
He didn't. He was being used for free rent and a meal ticket for the better part of a decade
maybe it's a bed warmer he was ok with for a while
He made the right decision. Don't do it again. You need to be equally yoked with your other half so that means shared vision and values, no matter who brings in the income or how much.
She knew his family owned "multiple businesses" in Missouri. Of course she wasn't going to work. She thought she found a sugar daddy. Ignore women, acquire currency young man.
Then why sir do married men have more money, higher happiness scores, live longer and have more sex? You sound bitter.
What’s the divorce rate again?
@@jessicabender1301 Because men with more money, higher happiness, healthy, etc, are more likely to get married. Correlation does not always imply causation. Y'all keep qouting that stupid ass statistic like women are out here marrying bums.
@jessicabender1301 Source: trust me, bro.
@@jessicabender1301every thing you said is false.
george and ken are so good together
5:47 You guys combined your life before you were even aligned in life. Whew.... Take a breath. That's a great nugget George!
He woke up before it was too late. Bravo.
Reading betwee the lines: She was waaaayyyy out of his league, he got her as a trophy, and took care of her to inflate his own ego and show off to his friends but then he got buyers remorse.
I think she is one of the rare girls who actually knows how to be a wife. And the dude is a spoiled child who doesn't understand what a good thing looks like.
Like my ex wife.
I want to hear her side of the story. Being a homemaker is a job.
No the fuck its not. When there isn't kids .
@@gladylagy3565 ooh, so you think she made dinners just for herself, and he did his? and laundry, and cleaning up, scheduling handy man etc...you have such a :charming: mindset...i hope youre not marreid
Their synchronized reaction at 1:46 is hilarious 😂
Something is off about this story- I feel there is something missing. Something is off...🧐🧐🧐
Sure but the things he said like no job and getting into debt I don't think that's a lie. She is a mooch
He may have made the right choice but his enabling decisions didn't push her to become independent. It kinda late when he added her to his checking account, signed for her to get a car, and moved her out of her parents home. This is the perfect example of a person who is young and didn't make the best decisions overall thank God they didn't have any children through this relationship.
Good decision Nicholas! She will never change! You will find someone who is just as motivated as you are.
I guess it depends on how she occupies her time as a "homemaker".
The question is, would she still be with this guy if he earned half of what he does.
What if he didn't earn anything and was also homemaker? 😂
At no point did he say he loves or misses her. SHE'S the one who dodged a bullet.
The reason he’s considering dumping her is because the romance is gone. He’s just looking for a moral validation of his decision.
Why would he miss her?? She was leeching off him for SIX YEARS. He provided her for as if she were a helpless child. Men don’t love or miss women that leech off them. Hello!
Life is not a Disney cartoon.
@@Nardaa-ox3be No one said it was.
this!
“Don’t combine your lives before you are ALIGNED in life” that’s good George! 🙌🏾👏🏾
I had this convo with my partner on date number 3. It’s worked out fantastically for us
Nicholas realized probably no one else wants him in spite of Being in the Collision Industry and having a 2012 Mini Cooper 😂
I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is end up with people that make you feel all alone
😂
He already sent one gold-digger packing.
@@bjkarana if you don’t have gold then there is not gold digger for you!
@@jessy7884 Did you not listen to the call at all? This makes no sense.
Why is it important that we know what your parents own or do?
To let us know his background and the household he was raised in. How you grow up decides a lot of factors in our character when we become adults. What he was letting us know is that he is not used to someone in his life doing nothing for themselves.
He gives me spoiled third child vibes.
Love George’s response
All these dudes moving women in and are not married. Kings, do not do this!
I see women do this too - they have jobs and the guy doesn't work and they just move them in. The worse is if they marry them and the guy still never gets a job...
@@wonipowa7542Yeah I notice a lot of young people do this.
@@wonipowa7542that rarely happens.
How can you marry someone without knowing what it's going to be like living with them first?
@@UGotTheFunk Plenty of people do this, including me and my wife. We did not live together before getting married - celebrating 18 years this month.
I worked full time until we had kids and switched to part time. After the kids were driving I went back to full time. When I say part time I was still working 32 hours a week.
The poor dad thought he was free but now has to take over her loans 😂
In the whole conversation I didn't hear a word about LOVE...
Context is always key because this was really making me angry! Saying that homemakers need to put in and help with finances but yet it wasn't even about that it was about she was hoping with debt!! But yet this dude thinks He didn't have no part in it but he had all a part in it!! He was the one actually taking out the loans!! But yet you complain that she took it out? Dude stay single!!
Exactly!!!!!
Homemaking is for married couples. This couple was just playing house. And he set the standard that she didn’t have to work for six years. Now she has to and has a huge gap in her work experience.
This entire situation is weird.
He let it be this way for 6 years…I can’t believe all these comments blaming the girl 😆
@@darylcansino Why would it be his fault when he stands up for not standing up before? How do you know? The man's heartbroken over it, of course he tried to make it work already and she didn't listen obviously.
Ummm he made the money, he can take out loan if he want, she's taking loan out, using his money . Homemaker without kids, isn't hard at all .
I have been a homemaker without kids for years. We had to adopt at one point after the waiting.
I increased our income with my ability to buy stuff at lower prices, even if it was bread. Never in my wildest dreams I thought about going out and buy expensive stuff like I had a sugar daddy!!
Being home is not the problem, acting like you won the lottery is
Wishing everyone a blessed happy mother's day praise God praying for Everyone everyday God bless you all
You made the right choice. She didn’t ever want to work and just live off your success. Find someone with your same financial goals.
Sounds like there's something else that he is leaving out?
Why rent out the home. Just to move someplace else and pay rent? Which is more likely then his mortgage.
In the 6 years of dating, he never talked to her about getting a job?
Owning a house just to rent it out can work depending on your situation.
Maybe to apply pressure to the former girlfriend to move out sooner rather than later.
Yeah, 6 years is a long time. You would have thought he should have said something the first 6 months.
@fromheaventoearth5779 Yeah he rented out so he could probably move and downside.
@@08baby25he’s 25. They started dating when he was 19 and was probably ‘so in love’. He was blinded by that. Happens to a lot of people. He was also hoping she would change and she never did.
The next relationship, don't waist her time for 6 years. Within the first month of dating learn if she has a career. Learn about her moves on debt.
She chose to be there. She deserves the boot.
Career = who cares. She'll quit anyway, and you'll want her to.
Sounds like he let her stay at home, didn’t push that she should work, combined everything, and then 6 years later figured out that was a bad decision. I wouldn’t let a relationship go past moving in with someone who didn’t work 🤷🏻♀️ he was either fine with it or wasn’t firm enough about it bothering him.
Men are wired to provide. He was providing. And then he realized all she was doing is taking.
Are we talking about an adult or a child here? Why does a grown ass woman need someone to push her to work?
@@caydenpo1001 Maybe he was happy with his stay at home "wifey" in the cutesy goo goo gaga phase. And so she thought he was ok with it and that he wanted a stay at home mom wife and then all of a sudden she's out on her ear. He let her take care of all his crap for 6 years and now she's screwed with nothing. Yes, she had her life funded for 6 years but she's 6 years behind on getting a life of her own. And if she really wanted to be a SAHM, 6 years of lost time trying to find someone who really does want the same. Oh, plus she has to get over him and learn to trust someone that tells her he wants the same thing she does.
@@gorkyd7912 truth there, but what took him so long to figure out she wasn't reciprocating? He finally snapped because she didn't reciprocated financially, but he had been fine with it all along. So what bothered him was that she didn't (or stopped to) reciprocate in the other ways that mattered to him. Or suddenly finances changed to first priority for him and that's why he didn't feel supported anymore. Could be her slacking in her supportive loving role, or could be him just changing his mind and values, who knows.
@@jenniferpearce1052 yes, true to all that. They both jumped into the lifestlye without two key ingredients: full knowledge of themselves and their wants and true commitment. They weren't in a mature enough space to either get married or walk away. So why go live together. Recipe for disaster. He was finding value in her being a homemaker until he changed his mind. She shouldn't have gotten in without a ring and without the desire to build a family.
Never knew collision tech was a thing, pretty cool! Also, playing house is not usually good long term.
This guy says he listened to Dave and then combined finances before even getting married, never talked to her seriously about money and planned on renting instead of selling a property with good equity that he no longer needs. I think he needs to listen to Dave for a little while longer
Never date someone who doesn't work. Period. Also never get married
Good job ! Standin on business
Good job
Glad he come to his senses finally. I'm glad they held him accountable too.
It would have been worse if he had married her. You made the right decision friend.
Good for u Nicholas I was stuck i a similar situation until she broke it off i was back to my financial track and found a better GF with same values
If they had kids and she's a stay at home mom, yes, he should provide. But until then, she should work.
Ramsey team... Not everyone wants marriage. Deal with it.
Well don’t call into a show that preaches debt free, marriage if you’re going to combine finances, and religion if you don’t want the advice lol
@@kaylynntorrez5157 or they could adapt to their audience, get with the times, and get out of their one way or the highway mindset which is making people disregard them even if most of what they say makes sense. Adapt and you'll be more successful.
Did he already mention that his family owns many companies in Missouri??? 🙄
I'm sorry must have misheard that in all those collision industry mentions 😂
I’ve been married for 6 years, I’ve never not had a full time job. I have no children, and would love to be a stay at home mom when the time comes (if it does), but until then…
I like Ken’s approach 😂
I’m torn between “she was looking for a free ride” and “she’s a traditional woman that wants to get married, have kids and take care of the home” I need to hear her side.
No woman today is just willing to "take care of the home." That is basically a free ride.
"I feel like I'm choosing my finances over her."
No, you are choosing your worldview over her worldview. And that's okay. It's best to be with somebody who is inline with your worldview. Things like finances, religion, work ethic, etc.
I have a feeling this guy is going to be single for a very long time.
“May he be happy in the life he has chosen”
@@royashworth5560 and so may she.
Times are changing but a lot of guys make so much more than their significant other that it's negligible. If he loved her it shouldn't have been a complete deal breaker.
What does it mean?
She brought NOTHING to to the table financially!
@@specialagentorange4329 and your wife does?
This dude is so weird
Be wierd or be broke
Yeah he ended a 6 year relationship over things he heard over the internet? 😂
@@brianahuerta3699 she was a gold digger
He could potentially have unexplored autistic traits, everything was very matter of fact, then a sudden unexpected boot out the house to the gf.
@@brianahuerta3699his approach is not the right way but she also comes across like a deadbeat golddigger. But again we're only hearing one side of the story so who knows the relationship true story.
You guys have to understand taking care of the home and taking care of you require planning, time, and brainstorming. What I'm starting to find is that men say they want 50/50 BUT it ends up being 25/75. Why? Because these men want the women to continue to cook, clean, schedule repairs, schedule appointments, hold events, be a gymnast in the bedroom while going 50/50. But the men aren't lifting a finger so that they too can go 50/50 on the cooking, cleaning, event planning, etc.
Exactly! There is a reason he wants to go back living in his parent's house, he wants someone to cook and clean for him. Even without children if a man had to pay for a cleaner, home cooked meal every night and sex almost every night he wiuld very quickly understand what a deal he had. He was happy with her, he misses her. Who knows if he will ever find another girl he likes as much? Until he heard some advice online he was fine with the arrangement. This is sad because money brings stability but it doesn't bring happiness, good relationships do.
@@deliciouscoloursThat’s it. They are going online and listening to other men give crazy advice.
@@deliciouscolours yes! People underestimate what the right woman can do to a man to improve his life and motivate him. Something tells me tho, it wasn't completely the right woman for him, or else he would have wifed her up because he would have been in fear she would walk away or have someone else steal her from him. Perhaps he wanted the homemaker without the breadwinner part. Or perhaps he didn't think it through and thought he wanted and could do the breadwinner part, until he didn't want it anymore. It all adds up to the fact that there is no commitment aka marriage arrangement. Its all about going with the flow instead of planning for the future and not knowing yourself enough to be certain of your decisions.
@@ClaudiaM-om4em I think he is too young to understand fully. If he wasn't he wouldn't have "kicked her out" as he put it over a tiktok video. He is very immature.
@@deliciouscolours yes, that "kicked her out" sounded like red piller anger.
We need to hear from the lady.
Why? She leeched off her boyfriend without a commitment for six years. What I want to know is why she wasn’t working?
Whoever speaks first seems right, we need to hear from the woman to cross examine
@@BlueDauntless I want to know it all. Why didn't he propose and why didn't she peace out sooner. And if she actually never worked.
@@bahwickeebecause he’s smart and was probably hoping she would get her act together. I’m glad he didn’t propose. She would have tried to keep the ring
Guy doesn't know the difference between dating & living together!! The eye rolls of the panelist Nicholas was priceless!!
That conversation should be had...Before the date or on date #1!
two sides to the story. He has strung her along for 6 years without marrying her
Probably was telling her that he could take care of her. Money Probably got slim and he asked her to get a job and she was like that wasn't part of the deal. But she still should have had some income with no kids and a car.
They couldn’t get on the same page about finances why would he propose?
Why do you think she was the one who wanted to marry?
@@thelvadam5269 he should have asked sooner about finances if he was so worried about it. He had six whole years of time and maturity evolution to ask. But he didn't because it was a convinient arrangement, he found value in her (any kind of value) enough to keep her around for six years. He changed his mind, values or feelings and now she gets discarded. That speaks about a lack of commitment. But they also say at 25 you mature so... Both people here lost a lot, money, time, energy, opportunities, youth beauty... its a tragedy for both sides.
This story is straight out of A Christmas Carol. 😂
Stay strong Nicholas. You made the right move. She could've potentially broke you later down the road, mentally, psychologically, and financially.
he already took the best years of her life, in youth, beauty and fertility right?
@@ClaudiaM-om4em she doesn't have any kids. She can bounce back
He didn't wake up one day and make this decision. This was 6 years of non-alignment.
Living with her for 6 years and no engagement
why would he do that? Sounds like he was hoping she would grow up, but after 6 years no job and wanting a new car and who knows whatever else, that hope had faded.
More like 6 years and not a single job
Why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free?
@@Bethelgal42I know people hate this saying, but it just rings true.
@@Matt-uj9wlDoubt he was hoping for anything. He just used to like to sleep with her.
This guy isn’t ready to be a husband
She isn't ready to be a wife. Good decision to end it
Yeah wasn't ready to be a husband to her. There's a difference. I wouldn't have wifed her up either if she was racking up debt like that.
Exactly he makes only 90k how does he expect to have a wife to stay at home and take care of kids if he makes that now and can’t afford for 2 people with kid will be 3. It seems he used her to his benefit for 6 years but also if she didn’t want to find work and make some money so she used his money for whatever. Woman if you don’t have kids you have all the freedom to make money with a kid is more difficult to find job as a mom. Dads doesn’t matter because they are usually the head of the household and MAIN financial provider. So yea she should get e job before she has kids and then not work for few years or maybe work from home remote job until the kids are old enough for kindergarten which is 4-5. That is 1 year and then they start 1st grade. At that Point kid is more independent than a 3 month old
Infant (yes after 3 months moms have to go back to work in USA , that’s the maternity leave in USA). If kid is in kindergarten all day, why does she need to stay home and do nothing. It takes 3-4 hours to clean a house and cook… what
Is she doing with the rest of her time. At that time laundry doesn’t have to be done so often as when you have a new born. Once a week and laundry is done.
This boy should man up and find better paying job 120k or more. More the better. Pick carefully who to date and marry. But also know that I
Its better for YOUR family that the mom stay home and bond with the kids than some crazy stranger looking after them because you have no idea what is happening there, they could be abusing your child very very bad.
@@northgirl77My husband made much less when we first got married. We have three kids now and he still doesn’t make $120k, and I have been at home raising them this entire time.
It requires a budget, agreement, and sacrifice.
@@northgirl77 You’re rambling. TLDR. Been a SAHM for ten years. Husband makes 2x now what he did when I stopped working, more than replacing my income. Added 3 kids to the 2 original. It’s possible. Budget and save and stay out of debt.
This man is on a mission...and a little obsessed with the dave Ramsey way of life... Dave's way or the highway......Yeee to the f******* HAW man!! 🤠
Good job Nicholas 👏
They weren’t married
They were “nesting”
Guy was trying to take shortcuts in relationship..
Hey big ups to the homie. Ain’t no free rides on his bus. Love that for him
Amen brother.
You should NEVER live together before marriage. Your decision to be with her for 6 years living together was wrong. If you had 3 dates with her and wanted a committed relationship, then being exclusive followed by engagement was the next step.
This is what my husband and I did, and we were married for 32 years before his passing. Our home and 2 vehicles were paid off along with other debt.
If you're thinking that as a homemaker I did nothing, I took care of our house and 2 children as well as managing our income, so our debt could be paid off when the time came.
My brother you did the right thing ., I was in exact your position but engaged and was about to get married . 5 years have passed and I have saved 300k . Some people just see debt as normal and live paycheque to paycheque…. I can’t