Your body language may shape who you are | Amy Cuddy | TED
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2012
- Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy argues that "power posing" -- standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don't feel confident -- can boost feelings of confidence, and might have an impact on our chances for success. (Note: Some of the findings presented in this talk have been referenced in an ongoing debate among social scientists about robustness and reproducibility. Read Amy Cuddy's response here: ideas.ted.com/inside-the-debat...)
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But they are hidden..... Smh
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I showed this TedTalk to my son
Now he is my Father
Faizan Siddiqui, You need to watch it again and be his grandpa!
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“Fake it ill you become it”- The most impressive statement ever!! As a girl in middle school with so many outstanding fellows, I cried a river along my way to graduation. But through all those tearful years, I know found what my true identity was: Always keep up with your work, and don’t limit your identity as just a “normal” student
I am man and I also used to cry even in 5th or 6th grade publicly. Then later stopped doing that publicly but after I am at home with so much stress, tears also used to appear. In last year I was not sure if I am insane, when exams added even more stress and I had to be still aroud those idiots who care about illegal fighting and I was also in that organised crime, because my best friend kept telling me to do this and he was not leaving my home until I accepted. Good that police stopped us and we went home and noone was hurt. You are powerless child and how the schools are being done stupidly, I cannot imagine. If I would tell to lets say parents or some other adults about this, then it would be bad for me in school also. Was no way out besides maybe leaving the school, asking parents to drive me to another school which would be stress again and whole village would be talking about me going to other school, would ask me why and what would I say? Its insanity.
I watched this for one of my classes and sometimes, I admit, I only half pay attention to required videos but this one completely captivated me. When she told her personal story I literally started to cry because I used to be that girl she was describing. I had horrible social anxiety and struggled so much with day to day interactions. Now I am getting more confident everyday and have taken on roles that I never thought I could do as a painfully shy teenager. Fake it until you become it really does work.
The same! Lots of uni videos are too boring but this is spot on interesting constantly
I'm watching this for my AP Psychology class, I Love it!!
Same here! I got this assigned to me for a class and now I have tears streaming down my face! I feel so inspired and grateful.
Little known fact: Originally, the video was not planned to be this long. She decided to add that last personal experience in the moment, which has evidently made it much more popular than it would have been.
The power of vulnerability 😅
TED talks are typically 15 min and Amy's personal story starts at 16:00, which can be sensed as it's on imposter syndrome but is brought back to relate to her main point, and which the audience resonates more than well structured stone cold results
Little known fact: there’s no science behind power poses and the only research speaking about it wasn’t able to be replicated 🙊
@@Xirnatts I was just about to say this same thing, funny how people are still watching this whole thing after basically 7 years since the scientific evidence has been debunked and keep saying how this changed their lives, just goes to show how much people can believe stuff if they want to, even without any data to support the claims... Tnx statistics course!
As someone who records a podcast, the mouth clicks almost drove me insane.
the saying " I 'm not supposed to be here", "No, you are" is so touching for me.
yeah i cried at that point
@@serdarbicer719 me too
I cried there as well!
Most powerful moment. Gets me every time!
Interesting
if you're always feeling low on confidence check if you have hunched shoulders. if you do pull them back to where they should be. this made the world of difference to me, it literally is changing my life. I don't know if it's a placebo but I feel much more confident now
When I need my self-esteem, I always come back to this. I have been living all my life with this idea, I’m not good enough. I tried hard to overcome, but the thought always caught my leg before going on to the next level that I looked up to. When I was in law school, I was so devastated with the competitive environment. I was surrounded with smart students and I felt I was no one. The fact that I was so insecure, made me more insecure. I knew I had something in me, but it didn’t seem to be shown. I was struggling so hard when I watched this video. And it really hit me. The idea that I can fake it until I become it gave me a strange relief that it was okay to admit that I am no one, but at the same time it gave me a strength to keep trying no matter what the results were. It was okay because I worked hard and it will get better. it was like a small disbelief within Greater belief. Thank you for sharing this ted. It really changed how I see me.
I relate to you completely because this is exactly what I'm going through at my university where everyone is literally a genius which makes me doubt my abilities. Like you, I am aware that I have something in me which hasn't blossomed for everyone to see yet. You are so inspiring! Thank you for sharing. Hwaiting ❤️
Next time, just before the act, close ur eyes and say "dear God, help this imperfect soul to connect and share my thoughts with other imperfect souls here".
And imagine a connection between ur heart and their hearts, shining bright. :)
@@karan257 That's so beautiful 🥰
Sure, on one hand this may be an inspiring, empowering and even enlightening presentation, but on any level, for any of you did it not glaringly highlight how baselessly manipulatable, maliable, exploitable and insecure we can be despite how our faculties are "supposedly" superior to the "animals" we tout ourselves as being so separate from? I mean, appearances should bear some level of significance and without a doubt can immediately communicate a slew of information (though reception presents many problems and, as noted, potential loopholes), but it never has been more will be fully informative. I just see this information as being more an indicator of characteristics to beware, more closely examine, supercede and defend against rather than continue to endorse, mimic or employ for 'personal gain'. IMO, the premise of 'royal bloodlines' and other facades which only promote our division, warp value systems, impede progress and ultimately serve to further the destructive tendencies our kind's covetry have, as one example, perpetuated across and upon this beautiful planet, our species and our co-habitants. Truth is truth and also a lie is a lie is a lie. True power never comes from the outside just as it never yields to the misconceptions and lesser impressions that stem from the same source. Obama fist bumping that security guard was the perfect example of true power, because true power elevates all instead of merely seeking to allude to or project the appearance of being elevated above another.
I realised being powerless is being fake, becoming powerful is the true you, we just lost ourselves somewhere.
Aaron Oxborough amen to this brother!! Some of us lost it in our childhood, but some people lost is minutes from birth.. literally we are all born to be resilient and extremely powerful but life beats us down and makes it seem impossible!! Pray to god for strength and put in the WERK 💪💪
*indeed*
I strongly agree .
How did u come to that conclusion? In a split second we may develop an illness that causes us to rapidly deteriorate. Someone perfectly healthy today may end up I’ll tomorrow. And you think we are powerful?
@@jayceontaylor8195 Powerful in one's spirit, mindfulness, emotional well being, and confidence are all powerful ways of being... not just power in physical health. The speaker in this TedTalk is talking about inner courage / inner strength. ❤️
I notice a lot of people here are confused. All she is saying is to fake confidence until you become confident... that's it.
thanks
Here you go, have an internet point for saving me all that time.
All she is saying is that humans are visual creatures when they're judging other humans and it's good to take advantage of it so we can be more successful in social interactions.
She is probably lying to a large extent: www.thecut.com/2017/04/amy-cuddy-death-threats.html en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amy_Cuddy
that's what most people do, and that's where the word poser came from, right?
The reason why this talk is so attention catching and touching is because Amy Cuddy is REAL, she shows herself truly in this talk and while the content is amazing as well, I truly believe that her soul shines through her words and her body language. Truly beautiful - thank you for the message!
HER SPEECH GAVE CHILLS ALL OVER MY BODY. When she started talking about feeling like she was not supposed to be at Harvard but then one of her students said the same thing, it even gave goosebumps on my face. She is one successful woman. Internally and externally. Thank you so much!
She still has a little stage fright, but she toughed it out and gave a charming and heartfelt talk. That took some guts.
Really what shows?
@@imamgiuseppe5103 Seems to me she just needs some water. A dry mouth while you're talking, esp. on stage is gonna cause a little anxiety. I wish these speakers would stop and take a sip of water now and then.
@@imamgiuseppe5103 She breathes a lot and kinda loudly. Also talking slightly too quickly
Idgaf what u ladies are saying did you get this amazing persons message ?
I've never met anyone that gets completely over stage fright. Not professional actors/actresses, not professional dancers, not college teachers. No one. For some though it becomes kind of the fuel for going out to that stage. So if someone tells me they're not afraid to speak in public the available options are, they're lying, completely dead inside or can't feel any emotions
Awww, she got a standing ovation! She deserved it too.
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@@mitchellc4 Amen
The ending got me in the feels so much.
You can tell that is how it really went down cause she was on verge of tears.
I started to tear up by her anecdote at the end. Such a wonderful TED talk 💖
Moral of the story is to T-pose when nobody's looking
I'm dead !
Actually yes XD
RIP @@dawkso1945
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X-pose for optimal spread
All those comments about her being annoying because of her "mouth noises" and sniffing are actually the reason why so many people, who are shy and not confident, will never take the risk to speak and "fake it, until they make (become) it"!
"... become it"
Your comment about the NEGETIVE comments posted here, Is exactly how I feel! I'm not a shy or person lacking in confidence , that's how I used to view my ability to forge ahead apparently fearless. Based on this "talk", I have realized I had been practicing exactly what she is talking about it turners out I have been doing all along without even realizing it! To all the people wondering if they should give this method a try, I say YES! Besides what do you have to loose? Thank you as well Elodie for spotting the HATERS!
It's because those who lack confidence have no other recourse to do than to pick at little things to belittle and drag others down, so when one sees comments like that insulting others, like the speaker in the video, it shows just who has the lowest amount of confidence in the comment chain.
For this issue I highly recommend Brene Browns TED Talks. She is everything! By sharing your personal story including your failures and pain to an enormous crowd you are a lot braver than the ones nitpicking anonymously in the crowd. - Watch her!
@@NChiggi I've watched her Power of Vulnerability speech. It is inspiring, though I seen to need to find a balance, because there is such thing as revealing too much. In this situation I am switching from online discussion to real life encounters. As I found out, sharing my vulnerabilities in an effort to appear brave and someone to be liked, more often than not, backfired. Instead I got treated as someone less competent, someone to be pitied, rather than respected. So There must be a happy balance somewhere. Sharing just enough of my weaknesses to gain trust, but not so much that people question if they should suggest I see a psychiatrist.There's another Ted talk I remember on this issue that I'm describing but the speaker's name is slipping from my mind. It has to do with those who are viewed by the crowd as being respectable and an with a level of expertise being more liked when they blunder vs those the crowd deems as incompetent and sees their blunders.
This is an amazing lecture by Amy Cuddy. Lots of intakes for the young generation who aim to improve their body language! She has struggled a lot to reach here even after the accident and suffering from brain damage, but she has not lost herself. She became stronger and now she is an inspiration to people who think their communication and body language skills don't come easy to them. As she says "Fake it till you make it"!!
Thank you for this. I had done this method and lots of people say you will not become manager and always put me down and they told me your english is you’re third language. Manager needs to have great english language and your not one of them. The person who told me that was someone very close to me that is supposed to support me. So hearing from him, i felt very disappointed and doubt myself to then point i start agreeing with his point of view.
Fake it till you become it and i did it at age 30 yrs old and i become a manager in prestigious firm and thank u so much for ur advice.
I did this very thing when I was 16. I was a shy introvert when my family moved from one school district to another city. It was then I decided I didn't want to be shy and introverted but WANTED to be extroverted and outgoing. Since no one at the new school knew I wasn't already extroverted, I "faked" it till I became it. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. I am now 62 and most people I know can't believe I never lacked confidence.
Similar story to you! I was really shy and had a bit of social anxiety before,but after starting at a new school,decided to fake the confidence when socialising with others. Although it was awkward and uncomfortable at first, one year on, it's second nature to me
Wow how awesome. Thanks for sharing your story, it is interesting to hear about these kinds of willful changes of self. I used to be very under-confident and suffered from pretty bad social anxiety, I lacked friends for most of my formative years and it left me lacking in social graces and positive self-image. Only until I came to a new state and met someone who made friends everywhere they went and saw how they acted, did I realize I could make the change. I adopted a very positive and confident persona at the college I began attending. I dressed differently, threw out the big sweaters and put a summer dress on for once. Ever since then things haven't been perfect but I've been so much happier with myself, and I expect as life progresses this positive attitude will lead me to my goals. I hope other women who feel powerless or like their value is dependent on societies expectations can evaluate how valuable real confidence, real love for your self, truly is.
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Risa Puzas you look amazing for 62
You mean shy, not introverted. The first one is a state of mind, the second one is a personality trait which can't be changed. You either like having a lot of social interactions or you really really need time for yourself to recharge in order to be your best self in the next social event.
These Ted Talks man, they're changing my life, they're changing everyone's lives. Thank you!
+teddy Baltz Or in a more possitive way: We move forward together. It's not a about competition buddy. For example wouldn't you enjoy being around posstive confident people, thanks to this lady's talk?
+teddy Baltz All this info has been known for years. In the words of Jim Rohn, motivation is what it takes to get you started and habit keep it going. odds are, less than 5% of the people that watched this will put it into affect. You have the power to be among the few. I believe in you my brother!
+teddy Baltz Thats capitalism speaking
dookdawg214 He he, I wish you can witness my story. Let's just say I won a "potential 1 million dollars".
accidentally flagged it. sorry. anyways, yeah. it really changes how you see others and you kinda look for this stuff
I don’t know why but when she was talking about her personal story, I started to cry… That girl who used to think ‘I don’t belong’ here was me. I don’t wanna feel that way anymore. Thanks a lot, Amy.
Kind regards, I feel the same way too. I hope you're better now.
11 years later and I'm not tired of watching over and over again ❤🎉 just bought your book and I'm so excited!!
When she started talking about how she had survived that car wreck and had to rebuild herself after suffering with brain damage, and dropping 2 deviations in her IQ level, which led to losing her sense of identity, because she had always been known as the smart girl. I was overwhelmed with so many emotions and was so happy when she said that she is now a professor at Harvard. She is the epitome of fake it until you become it but in the absolute best way possible, because she has lived it, simply, INCREDIBLE!!
Only those who have experienced that can give this kind of full-intensity speech.
I like to reframe the saying “fake it till you make it” to “face it till you make it!”
Fortunately I haven't been involved in any such tragedy, still I was overwhelmed with emotions and was clenching my jaw
i literally call this my favorite ted talk ever. i watched it for the first time nearly 2.5 years ago when i was shy and unconfident in myself and my looks and personality and basically everything about myself. i followed this message and now i am the best and most beautiful person i know. i walk around like i run the place and i am not afraid of what people think of me mostly. i still am working on becoming better in social situations and being able to talk to anyone and not being afraid but i am way better now than i was before
read the book named" the what if principle"
I’m so happy for you and aspire to be like you one day!
Yaaass 💪🏽
RIGHT there with ya!
I'd be willing to bet that it's not power posing that did that to you (but still, well done to you)
Alright Hope, let's see this famous super man pose
Watched this video because of the season 👍
yes, here for the same reason lol
LMAOOO
Bro I literally just got to that part 😂😂😂
@@Basic01- minute plsss
I got tears in my eye when she replied to the student No, you're supposed to be here
You know... you guys with negative comments about her hair, her mouth and so on you should stop now because all the one who are criticizing probbably don't even have enough courage to talk in front of their classroom, if her hair is to her left or right so what thats her personality and she said "fake it till you make it". Unfortunately i was looking for a comment in the comment section for someone who was standing up for her so i could like it and support them but unfortunately there were none, atleast not one that i saw. I honestly didn't even notice all those things because i was actually focusing on what she was teaching. Amy great job, you definitely made a big turning point in my life, so thanks keep it up! :)
Hashaam Zafar 100th like. :D
Exactly
I just nailed a job interview after watching this. :)
Well done!
Wow!!
Good job
Congratulations 👏👏👏
Congratulations
At the end she got emotional it shows she was speaking from her heart
as a shy person, this has to be one of the best TED talks ive watched.
Yes. For now on, I will fake it until I become it.
Even better: Fake it until you fake it.
Become it until you fake it.
do your best to fake it
faker best lol player
+trksanity LOL xD
I was in a CVS & a stranger smiled at me as she passed me in the aisle. This was years ago, pre-covid. Her spirit was radiant, so much that it made me stop & reflect on how lovely a human being she was & how the kindness of strangers can be so impactful. Then I got in line behind her, & another customer walking by stopped, turned to her & thanked her for writing a particular book. She graciously thanked him, & I remember going back to my car after that & searching the book to see who she was. It was Amy Cuddy, & then I remembered watching this, & it was kind of a mindfxck. Anyway yeah she's super chill & beautiful. Love coming back to this talk.
is she on cocaine? why all of the nasal?
@@annmotts what nasal, Miss Bigot? Seriously, if you think that lowly of people who are born with nasal voices...wow. I almost feel sorry for you.
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No,she is simply nervous and control herself. Drugs’ abusers look like less self-controlled and they seem to be unable to control the line of their speach for more than big audience ….
It was an interesting, motivating and honestly speech for me.
One thing about society is it is in this Goldilocks fantasy... If your sad... its OK but if your sad over 3 days we are going to give you a pill... OH she was so happy... and nice... but after a while... she is just too positive... no one can be that happy... I have had interactions too like this...
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I almost cried towards the end. Simply beautiful.
I remember when I was younger I wasn't as social as I am now. I wouldn't say I was afraid to talk to people but if I didn't have to I never would.
When I started my Retailmanagement major in college all those years ago I was forced to do internships in stores and businesses and interact with all kinds of people, even though I sometimes knew nothing about the product they had questions about. I had to deal with new customers, interested customers, angry customers,... anything you can imagine. Having to do this made me significantly more comfortable dealing with people, especially in unexpected scenarios.
I would recommend everyone to get out of their comfort zone and do what scares you. Do what you think will make you freeze or lock up. It won't be easye but damn is it satisfying afterwards when you realize you CAN do it.
I love it 😍
I needed to read this! 🙏 thank you
I wonder why half the comments here are about her performance in delivering this talk rather than its content. The part about how even people blind since birth still strike the winning poses when winning an athletic competition is really interesting. Its a good reminder of how the mind and body are connected and you can learn a lot about humans by watching other speicies of animals.
Because the way you present something is as important as the content for some people. The lip smacking and constant heavy breathing is really really annoying and some people just concentrate on that more.
+That Girl Lia Then you have an OCD. I've also noticed it, but I could overcome it. There are many nervous people.
+g1g2g3g4g5gt I didnt realise it at all, mainly because I found the content she was talking about so interesting that I blocked off everything but the words.
+J13alls Because of the irony of someone speaking about the importance of body language, while not recognizing her own distracting habit
+J13alls Because they have a petty spirit and they probably lean more towards having a social path/psycho path personality as opposed to being compassionate and understanding. I finished watching this video and thoroughly enjoyed Amy's message and presentation. I laughed, smiled , got a little teary eyed and felt better about myself while watching this video.I didn't notice any of the petty things that some of these commenters mentioned. I can only pity them and pray that they somehow become more enlightened and compassionate.
I tried this back in 2012 and now Im 1 of the top managers for a high profile company. Fake it till you succeed. It really works.
Peter Huang was gonna call bs but your last name made me think twice
I would love to hear your story! Would you like to share it with me?
This video amazed me. I didn't know that body language can tell us a lot about a person. It tells us how you can get out of any nervous situation, knowing only your body language. I advise everyone to watch this video!
I watched this video in a speech class my senior year, and I've taken this lesson with me since. I've tried power posing and it works! Great message thank you.
I tried the power posing for 5 minutes before my english speech in high school. (english isnt my mother tongue) and it did really help, calmed me down so much. and the shakiness was also gone. in the bathroom stall. just focusing on breathing. Amazing!
Enthucia where are you from ?
are you Igot7?
Rümeysa Lale lol there's a giant pic of Jackson😂 I'm a BIGBANG fan(Daesung)
finland!
yesss
I never thought the sound of someone inhaling through their nose would be so distracting
+Hombre De Bano
I couldn't get past the spit sounds she was making every time she opened her mouth
You should get yourself checked, you could be suffering from ADHD
nah it's not that, lol. I'm actually just really uncomfortable with anything spit related. I don't like seeing it, hearing it, etc. Nothing else bothers me. Just spit, lol.
+Hombre De Bano Ah shoot. I didn't even notice it until you mentioned it. TED talk ruined. haha
***** Bano lol pay attention to what she's saying.
Wow this brought tears to my eyes! Most of the beginning I knew bc I’ve read books on body language and plus I’ve always had “star mentality “ bc I used to want to be a rapper , so I’d always go first for presentations and I’ve always showed confidence. But the second half got me bc she’s right! Fake it til you become it! That’s literally the key
"Participatian accounts for half the grade" is a terrifying statement that is the essence of equality of outcome and I hated every minute of it when I went to school.
I feel like my like wasn't enough. Powerful speech.
Steph Arlette the results were p-hacked, according the Cuddy’s co-researcher. In addition, numerous universities replicated the experiment and their results had no statistical significance
Yes, me too, at videos like this I also wish to give more than just one LIKE. LIKE LIKE :)
@@ethanknifsend9775 But alas, it was a powerful speech :)
@@ethanknifsend9775 so it is not scientifically true?
This is a lecture she put out to help people out. Instead of criticizing her, find a way to help people too.
Amy, thank you from the bottom of my heart. For someone who’s been dealing with imposter syndrome and working for a big company, I always felt like I’m gonna get caught because I don’t belong here. And I thought this is just how I am, no way out. But today, just watching your video, I feel hope. I’m hopeful that one day I will become it! I will fake it until I become it. Sending lots of love from South Korea ❤️
Please dont feel sorry for not being a typical thoughtless, grasping, simple minded, corporate tool. Maybe you're just better than that.
As soon as she mentioned the idea of faking it, I was all in. "Fake it til you make it" is something I have told people for years while doing recruiting and consulting.
This video should carry some kind of warning, I'm furious! I had a job interview last week for a well paid financial analyst position, and was incredibly nervous. Taking on board Amy's advice I got there early and did my 'ten to two' reach up power pose for 20 minutes in the toilet cubicle thinking I'd be ten times more powerful than the 2 minutes she originally recommended(I'm an analyst after all).
However when it came to go and smash the interview, I found I had managed to lock into that pose. I cursed my poor fortune and paralysed body. I couldn't bend enough to unlock the door so I had to struggle to slither under the gap like some sorry kind of business python who's swallowed a large catapult, and damp toilet paper already on the floor ended up sticking to my suit and forehead.
As you can imagine the interview went less than ideally with me standing(I was unable to sit) in front of the stern 3 person panel; looking inexplicably like someone who overly loves the first movement of Village People's Y.M.C.A. dance, and to top it having off a fetish for toilet paper. The piece of tissue dangling from my forehead fluttered up every time I spoke. Trying to explain that this was all down to watching a one eyed woman on youtube give a talk on low self-esteem did not seem to help my predicament.
The experience was so traumatizing that I haven't left the house since and feel my social anxiety is now worse than ever. Amy, I am absolutely livid.
Err..thanks but I made it all up.
lozinja LOL! Brilliant!
lozinja Haha you're awesome. That rant could easily be made into a Seinfeld episode (Sorry.. i'm living in the 90's okay?)
unknownbaldwin That's ok. I live in the 80s.
Ha! I used to watch Seinfeld as a teen sometimes over here in the UK. He's a good guy.
She’s a good human being; a sweet soul.
Yup such a kind soul she is :)
Simp
She's one shooter from being a sjw and it's anoying.
These people are the fakest humans on earth.
I always misunderstood this "fake it til you make it" idea and she's the first to explain it this way. Thanks a lot!
I used this video and showed it to my high school home class. I could see that it really made them think.
Oh my god, I had been identified as gifted as a child and then had a Traumatic Brain Injury in an accident and at 40 years old, I had lost at least 30% of my core Personality strength and identity. When I found out I had lost so much of who I was and many other personality traits, and not only dropped out of at least the top 1% but down to the very, very average IQ and fell to the floor in grief and sadness and finally ran out of the room before they had even finished reading the rest of results. I have experienced the tremendous loss for the last 11 years and I know exactly what she is talking about. See her tears...those are real.
I am so hoping some of these tips may help me, if even in a very small way.
Sometimes I wonder is there a logical reason for people to dislike the video cause i think it was informative and engaging
+Percy Cebo The people here looking for good speeches and who don't care about the actual content don't like the minor mistakes she makes like unnecessary pauses. Never even noticed till I read the comments, I don't care even now that I know. But I'm here for the content not the speech.
That and some people are misinterpreting her "image is important" point for "images is everything". She's saying image is incredibly useful and a part of you. Which is true. Never once did she say it was the *only* thing that defines you. You don't need a good image to be successful, but it's certainly helpful.
+Randy Marsh and according to my experience simple ideas make big change
+Percy Cebo The logical reason will become clear if you Google "Amy cuddy scientific overreach" to see that she was proven wrong. This whole study she is promoting is based on 17 people. Studying 300 more, other researchers found her findings completely made up.
+Percy Cebo www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/04/14/power-poses-body-language_n_7057658.html
amen. I wonder the same thing.
I feel so gratified.
I was a little self-confidence and boring people, and often look at everything with a desperate mindset, but after listening to Amy Cuddy's TED, it's not impossible to change, change the way, spend a couple of minutes, little by little change, there will be results.
Wow this is a remarkable speech! It brought me to tears, as I can relate when your identity is taken by an accident, illness, and you loose your core self. I suffer from chronic pain, and never thought I was going to get better, til now that I am a twin mom, and rediscovered myself as a dominant woman, who can carry two babies in the womb, give birth to them, and raise them despite the minuses pain brings on. When it gets crazy with the babies, I pose in a dominant way and take authority of the situation! I magically feel empowered and able to control myself and the situation!
I did not realize how amazing this speech is until it comes to 16:10 when she started to share her own story. It is not about how great the the story is or how great the way she told the story, but she finally become not nervous anymore. She talked without stops, repetition and looking down to the floor or her hand, she started to look at the audience and speak more fluently. The change is not because she remembers this part of speech better than other parts, but you can feel that she really want to talk about that story and how big impact the story made on her.
It is interesting because the topic of this speech is about body language of being powerful, and her own behavior just suits into the speech perfectly without herself maybe realizing that.When she finished her own story and came back to the final part of the talk, she went back to her initial way of giving the talk.
I agree with you analysis of her body language, however this sadly doesn't change the fact that what she says is wrong... (to be more exact it has not enough support by scientific studies)
@@user-J.M.A.I is it wrong? Does it not work for you?
@@user-J.M.A.I ?
1. Fake it until you BECOME it!
2. Try a power pose to cope the best for that situation. Just for 2 minutes.
Most people never "BECOME". Or worse get themselves in position above their ability and make mess of situation.
I decided to do this when I was 15 years old, just because I was tired of some of the people in my high school, and I was interacting with a new group. I made even more modification when I went into college and again when I moved to this country. She is completely right, you posture, the way you conduct yourself, the way you talk and interact with other, can really change a shy 14 year old kid into an amazing person that is ready to go and be the best version of oneself.
The experience of her really touching me. If one day I feel down, I think watching this video can help me feel powerful again.
I have pretty low self esteem. I think I will definitely give this a try every night and every morning.
Thanks for letting the whole world know you have low self-esteem.
NLP?
Neuro Linguistic Programming.
Basically related to covert hypnosis. For more info contact me on G+. :)
You do that :)
Alexander Dumitru ikr times have changed, social media has become very powerful and influential worldwide and it has changed the way people act, speak, eat, learn, etc. with this things are constantly changing, for some of us this may be too fast so in return we become less confident
Did your professor told you to watch this also?
Give this a like if yes!🤣😊
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My English teacher
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Erika Joy Primero I searched for it myself lol
Yes! :p
it resonates with me deeply that 'fake it until you become it,' exactly the things I'm doing for such a long time to convince myself to overcome those terrifying stuffs I've met.
Go back and complete that episode
Lmaoo
omg hahahaha
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I'm born and raised in a village in southern India. Studied in all local govt/public, girls only, schools of not high standards. I was always a confident clown and a naughty student throughout my schooling, though my grades used to be among top 3. Cleared the entrance exam to get my free govt seat for Engineering. There I witnessed suddenly people from varied background from big cities, top colleges, highly stylish and glamorous girls/guys whose so-called cool looks and attitude I couldn't match. Most of them called me a villager but I proudly accepted, bcz there is nothing to be ashamed of.
People used to mock me for my thick accent (Mother Tongue Influence) on speaking English. I said "Only a fool would expect a British accent from a person who spoke only his mother tongue for 20 years. I speak English not out of love, but only for convenience in communication".
I remained original. I never changed my style or looks and my attitude/confidence remained the same. The remained most confident/powerful student in the class, used to crack jokes in the middle of the lecture, could make the entire class laugh for hours. Guys/Bullies used to be afraid of misbehaving with me, bcz I could give back thoroughly. I used to be on top with good grades even there, so professors used to be on my side mostly. Slowly people got used to me and they started even liking me. I was the most sought out friend to hangout with.
Now I'm a 10 years experienced s/w developer/professional. I worked in (jumped) several MNCs and startups have encountered different types of seniors/managers/leaders. Even now some people are surprised at my looks and how I speak. They can't believe I'm a software professional living in a big city in India! Yet I'm the same, THE COOL CONFIDENT VILLAGER.
The point here I'm making is- Confidence/Power(mental) doesn't come from your background, style, dress, grades, money, looks. It comes from a mental stage (consciousness) where "You know what you are, accept it as normal or different. Also know what you are/doing/saying is not wrong and there is absolutely no need to be afraid of anyone!". Don't need to fake it. Just know that what you're doing/behaving is RIGHT and your intentions are RIGHT.
If you ask me there is absolutely no way for one to be not confident/powerless, unless one is a habitual liar or immoral or disloyal person. Infact these people tend to be more confident, which THEY FAKE IT!
Edit: Again, don't confuse CONFIDENCE with ARROGANCE! You can be Confident Yet HUMBLE!
I highly doubt you could consider yourself a villager if you have spent 35% of your life in Cities. Anyways, I like your conclusion but I would also like to add IQ in that list. Thanks for the post which is not insane like video.
You're a role model.
@@colinelunaire nope I'm not a role model. I'm just a commoner precisely a villager. That's the exact point I'm trying to convey. There's absolutely no need for anyone to live a extraordinary life to get confidence! Confidence is something very basic trait, should be part of every commoners life. We are just brain washed to live a shabby life with low confidence for no damn reason! They say you should be a confident brave modern woman! But what modernity got to do with confidence? If you don't have straight hair you're unprofessional? If you have thick accent you're too be laughed at. If you can't get good grades you're a loser! If you don't dress up fashionably you're old and boring! Somehow, something unnatural is always sold as the source of confidence! The only source is, should be, conscience, morality!
I disagree to the part where you said that confidence is natural, unless one is a habitual liar or immoral or disloyal.
Confidence is a trait, one can obviously learn but it doesn't have to be natural, for a truthful, moral or loyal person too. Maybe it is you being too judgemental of anyone with low confidence, out of your confident self :)
@@keepcalmandstanot7.724 I'm NOT judgmental. I'm just saying, it SHOULD be the basic trait. "Even if you are not a confident person until now, just BE CONFIDENT naturally, bcz you are a person with right intentions, bcz there is no need to fear".
"If you know you're right "JUST BE CONFIDENT"
Even if you don't know you're right still, "BE CONFIDENT" being conscious that your intentions are right and accept if you're wrong gracefully when someone proves/clarifies it."
This is why I always pee in the wonder woman position.
Marking your territory
Carlos Sarceno Lol, this is my favorite comment on this video.
Carlos Sarceno its not about women though
Really?
Carlos Sarceno ROFL
Wow thats incredible 21 mins talk Amy. And i was absolutely floored as i could relate to many situations including faking it, to portray a lot more powerful me, in some of these evaluative situations. Never knew there's actually a method to this madness
Wow, this is one of the most remarkable TED Talks I have ever watched. She has so much confidence yet shows compassion for others who might be struggling with self-confidence, especially those who do not have access to technology... Will remember this one for sure, apply those skills to my daily routine, and share the science. Thank you! ;)
I watched her speech on youtube when I have mentally ill.I couldn't have go out.but I tried to act the person who I want to be, my life has begun.
I respect her.I really appreciate her. Arigato.
Hello
I've watched this speech many years ago, and it still gets me to cry every time she says "you are going to fake it till you make it" to that student.
cry baby
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Amy Cuddy is a very good example of "fake it till you make it" because there is nothing scientific about power posing. It is highly debated because there is no evidence that it works. It is impossible to replicate because it is complete bogus.
After listening to the speech,I deeply feel the same. My major is music,so I have to perform in front of many people. It really needs to be confident on the stage. It's important to pretend that you are great on your instrument. Pretending over and over again, you'll make fake become true.
Thank you Dr. Hasz for making the viewing of this video one of our assignments! Powerful words!
Sometimes I touch my neck, but not due to power, but because my hands are cold and my neck is warm.
I suppose I sit in the medium power mode. Legs together, and arms out to my side, sometimes the arm rest arm behind my chair.
+rachelle2227 Arms resting behind is stress in my experience.
MishaZip Aint you the blessed one! :)
+rachelle2227 -- I'm skeptical about her hand-on-the-neck claim. I'm grabbing on my neck all the time and I'm never nervous in face-to-face interviews or encounters. It's just a habit. In fact, I do it while I'm sitting alone on my computer.
dookdawg214
You need to know yourself more. Also find out why you are tense while sitting on your computer. : )
+rachelle2227 Isn't there a difference between touching your neck in general and touching your neck as a response? I've seen nervous people touch their neck a lot.
This talk is gold.
The talk is from 2012. If you read the linked faq and the studies who tried to replicate it. You will see that not a SINGLE other study measured these hormone changes and also the other effects can only be reproduced from a few studies with very small sample size(means more variance and noise). The biggest study with 200 participants showed no relevant positives in any area. Amy Cuddy and her team were "p-hacking" - manipulating the data they got until the experiment gave them the results that they wanted it to. Pretty common practice to boost your studies. She is living the "fake it until you make it". In a sense she was unlucky that this talk got as big as it is. So that other studies tried to reproduce it.
She was completely discredited
Her study claims power posing: 1) Increases feeling of power. 2)Has a physical effect on hormones.
While it is true that it appears there appears no effect on hormones on studies that tried to replicate it, the other effect - feeling more power after power posing is still very real. - Paraphrased from Forbes, April 3, 2018 article by Kim Elsesser.
The article has several links to the contradicting studies as well.
In short, IMO your mind is a huge factor on how one will respond to a situation. How one think's things are, is going to effect you the most. If going through the power poses help at those times when I'm low, then it can surely help.
Pure diamond. This is like ARV for HIV patient
@@angelsintahoe You know how absurd the feeling of power makes as an evidence. It is called placebo effect which makes all the more reason to call it absurd. Also, The article by Kim Elsesser is absurd to claim that criticism is due to male dominance and also included politics in the article which decreases the authenticity of article. Her conclusions for criticisms are absurd, she got huge criticism because her talk exploded so peers started checking her paper.
I think it’s a nice try of being confidence
for a tiny tweaks , and give ourselves
more power . This concept is just like a smile , it help us fight off stress and share
hapiness to other
This reminds me of the book "the power of your subconscious mind." Joseph Murphey the author talks about how your subconscious manifests what the conscious thinks. And by simple changes in thought like "I'm not sick I'm healing" or "I don't have bad luck, I have good luck that was just an unlucky incident," you can completely change results in your life because your subconscious goes to work to look for and provide results to your conscious mind. Beautiful presentation by Amy and so so so underrated in becoming more confident in yourself.
I think being a 6"4 250 lbs black guy has affected my confidence. I am most aware of that fact at interviews, so I think I tend to make myself smaller, in an effort to make myself less intimidating. I need to let that worry go and be myself. Friggin hard though.
LND ...You sound like a lovely person to be so sensitive to think in this way, all the more reason to share strongly with others who you truly are. Your need to connect and belong is what motivates you to shrink your posture to be accepted. If you see your need to connect and belong as beautiful, and know that it is a need we all have, that thought can help in connection. We all have a beautiful need to belong and connect. Open your heart when you expand to sit or stand strongly, the focus on the open heart giving to yourself as well as to others is the key. Strength with compassion. Blessings ,
how is being a fat black guy intimidating?
Stand tall and smile, mate!
History shows that the most powerful leaders in the world are 5'6". Its the way you express yourself. I am also 6'4" 265 but am a Northern Cheyenne native american. The best thing to disarm someone that you think your intimidating is to smile and start to be yourself.
*****
Being big and black is intimidating to most people, though it somewhat depends on what country you're in. In America most people find it intimidating to some degree. I'm not saying its a good thing, but its there.
This is one of the best TEDx speeches I've ever heard.
Would rate it 5 stars over and again if given the chance.
The power pose study wasn't able to be recreated by anybody.
5 stars from us at Music Cosmo !!!!!!!!!
@@DaihatsuCharade1993 tedx?
Power posing is not replicable by any other psychologist and should not be taken seriously
I really had shivers and goosebumps and tears in my eyes in the last 5 minutes. I really admire your courage! Well deserved standing ovation 👏 Keep up with the good work..
I am currently at this phase of life. Being so insecure and little than others. Your speech really inspire to fake it until become it. Thank you.
"An honest man has nothing to fear, so try your best not to be afraid." - Frank Abagnale Jr.
Did Frank Abagnale actually say that? What irony 😂
Haha I think what he meant by this was since he isn’t honest, he has to try not to be afraid.
The is very true of phobias, and what therapists teach people is; they are actually afraid of the feelings of fear, and not the thing itself. This said, we do have to keep aware of the feeling of fear as, sometimes the hair rising on the back of our necks and other feelings can be a warning to go into fight or flight when a dangerous situation is upon us.
She’s a good human being; a sweet soul.
I just watched this yesterday! 😁
my cat watch this last night...now she fakes herself as a TIGER!!
+Pankaj Singh lol
+Pankaj Singh 😂😂😂😂
she makes mew or roared, lol
Hahahahahah
haha =)))
I can confirm from experience that changing body language induces changes in a person's personality also.
thiss is really goood. I was going for an interview tomorrow and I didn't know why I clicked this. Your story is incredibly inspiring, I'm now confident I'll be positioned somewhere higher
Anyone else addicted to ted talks?
Ofcourse
its easier to watch than do, so... yes!
here :) watching Ted talks is the best thing that could happen to me .)
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i actually cried watching this, becoz my experience also resonates with hers. i'm gonna be 22next year and i'm enrolling in uni also as a freshman. i have had gone through rough patches through my life and finally trying to straightening things out. and i know i will make it
good luck!
Thank you for commenting about this, I cried too because I SO felt her past pain with my own experiences! I felt so much universal love for her and understanding. God bless you too :)
Yes you will
Tom Swinburn nver herd that b4, thx tom.
Yes you can!! Every single person has the power to smash through life's barricades I believe in you all!
Beautiful story at the end. Her authenticity was palpable!
My friend was bullied by his classmates. He became very unconfident and often denied himself. This situation has lasted for five years. I suggested that he try some moves to make himself more confident like this show, and he seems to have really changed. Now that he's in a new environment after graduation, he's less daunted.
Why are people commenting about her voice and attacking her way of speech? Is it bothering you that she's using her voice to speak about something relevant and informative while others choose to use their voice to blab about irrelevant and negative bullshit?
people disappoint :/
little wolf it's called envy
I had a very important Presentation today about which I was very nervous about for a month.
I say this not to make it look like a story because it might look like one, but luckily i saw this video before the Presentation, and miracle happened.
Not only did i do well, i got so confident, I picked up 2 girls also :D
Thank you :)
congratulation man for pick up the tow girls that's mean you did very well in your presentation
i don't think the moral of this conversation is to treat women like objects :)
are you being sarcastic or?
+Matiss Paradise i am suffering from social anxiety with girls.
the purpose of saying that i picked up 2 girls wasnt to show women being treated as objects but to show how good this video is in helping me in my anxiety :)
+Andrei Onisie i guess my happiness while i wrote comment was so evident that it was taken as sarcasm
no i meant it ☺
I have never posted any comment on any UA-cam video until now. Totally captivated me till the end. Amazing.
Can you believe that it was a recommendation from TikTok of all places that put me here. Thank you, thank you, thank you. It is always the simple advice that changes your life.
Oh my god I adore this lady, she's so everything I wish I could say to the world. I went from social anxiety nut to a normal confident girl because I faked it until I loved that person, and it was just me. I cried listening to her speech, I hope she empowers so many people. I plan to tell my friends about that pose, lets all be confident together
Empowers them with lies? Her research didn't pan out. There is no power posing effect (even her coauthor said so), unless you believe in it (but that's a completely different phenomenon), meaning that it's all placebo and no underlying effect.
Tricking the mind... :o
Neverward - she uses flawed scientific studies
Placebo works tho, sometimes will power alone is enough.
Neverward - sss
Anyone else paying $$$$ on online school just to be 'taught' through UA-cam ???
What online school are you paying for?
That sounds rough lol. Have faith in college :) I just received my first internship. (STEM major)
Yes, in online school about meditation and yoga ^^ but $$$$ - is donation. So it's actually free online school
Yess😒
Pain.
One Ted talk that helped my life over four years ago. Thanks Amy Cuddy
I just learnt that the implications for educational settings are profound. In classrooms, where confidence and participation are essential, encouraging students to adopt powerful postures could significantly boost their self-assurance.
I think you guys got the whole picture wrong. She doesn't mean "fake" means "fake", but more like "try". Take hard-working as an example, you "fake" being hard-working until you BECOME a hard-working person.
tedtalks: exist
Teachers: I'll take your entire stock
Tf does this mean
The gospel is the GOSPEL OF THE KINGDOM!
Repent and believe the gospel! Follow Jesus’ teachings!
Jesus is going to return and set up the kingdom of God ON THE EARTH! God’s government ON THE EARTH! The Messiah will resurrect his people! The destiny of the Messiah and his people is to be ON THE EARTH! The renewed restored earth! God also dwelling with them! Rev 21
@@mitchellc4 the letter J wasn't invented until 1524. The Hebrew alphabet doesn't contain a J or an e. Jesus and Yahweh are not the father and sons name are they? The fact that verses like Proverbs 30:4 exists asking the reader if you know the father and the sons name? I do and it's not Jesus Christ. Iesos kristos is not the Messiah's name. Acts 4:12 says there is only ONE name under heaven which men are appointed salvation. Many will say lord lord havent we prophecied in your NAME???? He will say depart from me for I never knew thee....... Lukewarm christians don't know they are worshipping an Idol. Its clear as day if you actually take the time to look. Those with eyes to see know JESUS isnt the messiah. YAHUAH is the father. His son is Yahusha Yahushua ha mashiach Yahushua means Yahuah is salvation. You're welcome.
@@krmitt5 what is the gospel?
How does the Bible end?
@@mitchellc4 how about instead of trying to validate your ego by comparing your own theological knowledge over mine based on the answer to a question about the "gospel" which you obviously are not familiar with because...... It has been changed and to take away from or add to the word is recipe for destruction, how about you try and address what I said and prove me wrong?
I really took this one in. I do this before every job interview and i always crush it out of the park now