Well I mean with all the school shootings teenagers of this generation been doing is good to be precautious at least. Not to the point of invasive privacy but not completely oblivious to the possibility of danger either. Not all kids are angels.
Best thing is that this amazing kid search room master wouldnt even find anything in my room cuz I jus4 have it under my pillow 😂😂 Thats Such a professional cop
What he's actually trying to say is: "It's important to search your child's room regularly, in order to teach them the valuable skill that is hiding their shit in a different room."
When he said "Journals are also good to go through" my jaw dropped. Journals are extremely private things and should NEVER be looked through. I can tell you right now that if you do this to your kids, they will resent you and as soon as they move out, go as far away from you as possible. Kids are people too, they deserve privacy.
@@calebdonaldson7044have you ever heard of having a conversation? A good parent would talk with their child and let them know they're house is always a safe space for them. Not invade their fucking privacy and make them feel like they live in a jail cell. If the only way you can tell your kid is going through something is by reading through their fucking PRIVATE diary. Than you've already failed as a parent. Please don't ever have children unless your mindset changes.
As a former kid with a very strict mom, this hit too close to home. Whenever she would lose things, I was automatically blamed. My room was searched like a prison cell every week, even little things were pointed out and questioned. She lost a lighter one time, and immediately went to my room and started yelling while flipping my entire room upside-down to find something that I didn't have. I had just cleaned my room too, made it spotless and even organized. After a little bit of her tearing up my room, my brother came in holding her lighter. He found it where she was sitting. She sat on it without realizing. Parents, please give your kid privacy. I understand not wanting them to do bad things behind your back, but with enough trust and _gained_ (not forced) respect, they won't ever do that. Helicopter parenting and being overly strict only pushes them away faster. As soon as I turned 18 I got a minivan and drove away. Kids are people just like you, and just like you, they value privacy. If you don't want your kid going through your room, don't go through theirs(unless absolutely necessary). Thats the shit that gets you sent to a nursing home. Children aren't automatically sneaky, you teach them how to be sneaky by doing this.
The thing LOTS of parents fail to understand is that if you DON'T snoop into your kids' things and invade their privacy, they're far more likely to trust you and share the more sensitive topics with you. When you search their stuff, you're essentially telling them you're looking to condemn them and making them not want to tell you stuff.
Yeah its reverse psychology and also literally anyone will hide things much more if they are under suspicion of hiding things. They will be like well I have to hide it better theres no turning back now.
The part where he says to check the journals too just angers me, I remember when I had stayed with my step-mother for a while and she had gone through my mini journal while I was asleep and I woke up to being told that she had called the cops on me for writing how I did not like the way she was abusing me and how it made me depressed, it was a vent journal and she apparently called the cops and had told them that I was suicidal and needed to be escorted to a hospital, I was traumatized, my trust had been completely ruined I was completely ashamed of expressing my feelings through any means after that and I do not write in any journal anymore as I now tend to unhealthy bottle things up instead and I was humiliated as the cops thought it necessary to have me in handcuffs in escorting me from the house to the hospital even though the only thing I was doing was sobbing in confusion and hurt and it only served to make me more depressed as the first time I was in that hospital for being “suicidal” I felt scared and alone and I did not know what was going to happen to me, I certainly did become suicidal after that, invading your child’s trust of privacy does mentally damage them in ways you might not realize, im still dealing with a lot of mental health issues that stem from that particular incident in my life, please do not be that kind of parent, if you suspect your kid of something have a calm and comfortable conversation with them and not in an accusing way but in a way where you let them know they can trust you and that you only want to help them, that lets your kids know you really care and that you do love them.
I like how they didn’t check under the bed or in the pillowcases which are like the most common areas to hide things but instead ripped apart every random knickknack
It’s not very respectful of privacy, but it could have details like drug use or suicidal thoughts. Plenty of teenagers and young adults die of both every year and it’s only better if more parents can catch on before their kids hurt themselves
@@aaronlandry3934 yeah, it could, but if you're worried about your kid maybe you should, y'know TALK TO THEM! Get them therapy, if you think tossing your kids room every 6 month is how to be a good parent then you might also need therapy.
@@rye872 Yeah, searching their room and finding evidence of something bad in their life is usually what leads to that. Even if the parents suspect it of their kids, their kids will probably deny it unless they’re caught. Only then can you actually have a conversation about it and think about getting them help like you said
That would require actually caring enough to put them into one. Not just leaving them a Denny's while on a road trip with their name and birthday on a piece of paper in their pocket.
This is why I hurt so much for kids as a whole. It's so terrible how we as a society view such a massive group of people as pets that you can cage and control and not human beings with their own needs for dignity and respect. It's horrifying to see how normal this is treated by so many people. I hope kids never stop rebelling against this kind of behavior.
@@blue-lu3iz How do you know that it's JUST the parent's fault for having an aggressive kid? Besides, I have a right NOTtto cope by not feeling empathy for them.
I'm a single mother of 3, and two of my kids are currently teenagers. This is the most pathetic parenting tip I've ever seen! I have NEVER even thought about doing something like this, because I want my kids to actually trust me, not to mention LIKE me and respect me as a parent. My firstborn is turning 20, and I'm proud to say I've managed to raise a wonderful human being, and I know that even though he's leaving the nest, he will still come home from time to time, and I will get to follow his journey. Because he grew up knowing that his mom trusted him to be smart, make healthy choices and wise decisions, and if he F'ed up, he could talk to me about it if he needed to, and no matter what he did to F up (which all normal kids do), his room was still his own private space, and I would never ruin his trust in me by doing something as disrespectful and humiliating as this sorry excuse for a parent.....
As my father always said : when my kid gets into a bad situation or made a stupid mistake, I want his first thought to be 'I need to call my dad' Not: "Oh shit my dad is gonna kill me, he can't find out"
Holy shit you're right. Like damn, I can understand doing this if you actually suspect that your kid might be on drugs/dealing drugs or other serious crimes but he made it seem like he was trying to normalize doing this all the time even when you think your kid hasn't done anything.
No, kids are programmed bio machines that are turning into a perfect being in closed rooms, but it only works if they are controlled and isolated from their personal space
"You have every legal right to search your child's room." And your child has every legal right to move out when they're 18, break all contact and forget you ever existed.
this statement is just as true as it is sarcastic. sure, don't be a complete douchey overlord when it comes to your child's privacy, but you have the final say when it comes to raising *your* child. Your the freaking parent for goodness sakes, not the government or the schools. but anyways, i agree with allowing children some liberties, but instead of yelling at them if you suspect something, sit em down and have an honest heart-to-heart conversation with them. they'll respect you way more if you treat them as human beings rather than pets you can control. sorry for the rant and advice, hope this helps in your child raising
@@thomashornstein7085 I think knight was just talking about action and result, Kids are human beings too and naturally want free will, obviously if someone is going to order you around and give you no other choice your going to hate that person, there probably wasnt a slave in the history of the world that wanted to stay with thier master
Man that comment was kinda cringe. If my kid was fucking up and not following my reasonable rules, smoking weed in the house, failing school, etc., I’d probably be glad they’re gone. Doesn’t mean I wouldn’t still love them, but if they kept fucking up over and over again simply to *spite me* for being “uncool” I’d have no problem telling them to get the fuck out lmao. Like your comment sounds so whiny: “oh yea? You won’t let me do what I want?! Then I’m leaving and you won’t get to pay for all my shit anymore and deal with me!” Like okay, good luck son 😉
Reminds me of how I became unreasonably paranoid of anything about myself being found out by my mother. My father generally just said, "You're going to do things. If you're not certain what to do, the worst thing you can do is not ask anyone about it.". However, my mother was a bit of a religious zealot back in the day. She has SEVERELY mellowed out, however, and deeply apologized for all the anxiety and depression that has become apart of my daily life. She'd constantly check things, randomly burst into my room. At some point, I got so good at hearing her footfalls that I would instantly recognize when she was approaching by a good 5-10 seconds before she'd even touch my door. Of course, when she was just walking by, i'd have the same reaction. I'd go through an extremely quick mental checklist of what I was doing, and if there was anything she'd disapprove of, I'd find a way to hide it. Writing or drawing something she'd hate? Turn the page and start doing something else that wouldn't seem like anything of note. Playing a game that seemed like she might disapprove? Open the game's menu and mess around with the settings. If she asked to see the game, show her a tiny amount and act like it was everything. So on and so forth. It is to the point where I can't *stand* someone behind me when I'm on the computer. Even when I'm just watching UA-cam, playing games, whatever. I *despise* it when someone's behind me. My shoulders tense and get scrunched, my head sinks towards my shoulder, my arms and wrists tense, my fingers become stiff... I just... I hate it. I could be my roommate seeing the video and wanting to ask me what I'm watching so he can watch it himself, and I'll have this sensation like I'm watching porn with him over my shoulder. It just... Ugh... I hate that feeling, and I hate that I get it at all times. Its better, nowadays, but... Believe me, helicopter parents, intrusive parents... They don't help. As a wise man once said, "Getting angry with people for making mistakes doesn't teach them to not make mistakes. It just teaches them to hide them." You can apply this to so much... Its a child's job to do a better job than their parents did. Every generation, a softer punch.
holy shit. This, this is exactly how I feel, granted my parents weren't as bad but holy shit i've done at least like half of these things because I had numerous memories of my family making fun of me or telling me to stop watching this video or playing this game and even years later, I still can't let anyone see what I'm playing or watching without sweating a lot and feeling the weight of the world on my shoulders, oh my god at least I know someone feels the same way I do.
Your story reminds me of the way I would act as a kid, too. My mother was deep into alcohol when I was growing up. The similar things you describe would happen to my siblings and I after around 5 or 6 in the afternoon just about every day. She wasnt too religious, but she WAS very opinionated. She'd say whatever was on her mind, and the longer the nights went on, the worse she would get. Wouldn't hold back on talking shit about anything, especially if she knew she'd get a reaction. Did not matter WHAT it was. Did not matter if you were busy, or sleeping. We had no locks on our bedroom doors. The walls were thin enough to hear a conversation in the next room, and she loved to ramble to herself. Sometimes she would sneak outside our doors just to listen to what it was we were doing/saying. We could catch her footsteps if we were quiet enough, and we'd change the topic or stop talking altogether. If we had a video game, she wanted to see it. If it was a show, she wanted to watch it. Doesn't seem so bad initially, but she dragged everything we liked into the dirt. Looking back on it, i think she chose not to like a lot of what we considered to be interesting just because she could. "What the hell are you playin'/watchin'?" "Why do you put on so much make-up?!" "Wished you'd get a hair-cut you look like a damn hippy, son!" "That friend of yours looks like an alien from space or somethin'" It was ALWAYS silly bullshit to her. left me with this over-the-shoulder feeling that everything we liked or enjoyed was going to be judged harshly. Can't show anybody what I like without feeling like its just too weird to talk about. Usual shit too like movies or music. To this day that feeling can creep in sneakily, but I can dismiss it easily now that I see what all the world has to offer. There's a LOT of silly bullshit in the world. My mom has mellowed out quite a bit almost 15 years later, but I can remember all those times she made us feel like an inch tall for liking the most mundane of things. Spit of all that I love her though. I think that's what makes it hurt so much more for the kid in the video above. He's not an inmate, and yet he's being treated like one in his own room. Probably can't even decorate it the way he wants to.
I'm fortunate enough to have had mostly excellent parents, but the thing about standing behind on the computer is something I can definitely relate to. Even if I'm doing absolutely nothing wrong, I'm paranoid that any authority figure will find some issue with whatever I'm doing. That also translated to my get-ready-for-bed routine, where I became unable to get ready quickly if my parents were in the room or even walking by my room out of fear that wherever I would be would be the wrong place (lucky me, the spot right in front of my door was kinda creaky, so I could hear right before they entered and have like a second or two of warning). My parents were pretty good for the most part though, like my Mom worked really hard and went without sleep sometimes to make sure everything was in order, and my Dad always tried to take interest in my hobbies and join in on them (like for a while he played Minecraft, which was awesome). It's just that they really didn't understand why I kept asking them to stop walking behind my computer (the screen was facing a wall/window so its not like it was a super unreasonable request) and to stop barging in on me in my room (like I wanted them to at least knock or something so I wouldn't get the shit scared out of me when they barge in and startle me) Anyway, I'm sorry that your situation was so much worse! I never had to put up with them actually checking through my things, and it sucks that you did.
These types of parents are what create introverts with anxiety issues. Sadly I was in pretty much the same boat. Intrusive mom (and piece of shit step-dad) that didn't actual parent, just berated me and showed no real interest in what I liked, but just scoffed at everything.
Reminds me of a story my dad told me when he was an officer early on. He got brought along for room inspections, and a guy pulls out model plane glue and asks him, "See anything wrong with this *dad's name*?" "No sir." "He's got model glue and no model airplanes, he's probably sniffing this." "Sir there's an f-5 on his desk." "Oh."
@@DruidEnjoyer that’s what I really don’t get Regularly search your kids room for shit and they’ll hide everything somewhere else Hell, they might just leave a bunch of “containers” around to draw your eye so you don’t get suspicious
As a kid I was always told "privacy is a privellage." As a teenager however they didn't follow that thank god. I will never understand the thought behind that. For your child, privacy is privacy. That's that. I've had friends who had their doors taken off as teens and i seriously can't imagine how much resentment I would have towards my parents if they did that to me.
My dad wants to constantly search my room and look through my phone. He yells at me when I tell him no, so it feels good knowing that I'm not the bonkers one in this situation
Don’t forget to make fun of your child for anything embarrassing in there as well as punish them for any wrong doing like curse words (dang, crap, etc)!!!
if someone has hacked your phone they most likely dont know you or even seen you but if someone finds your journal its more likely they know you and can black mail you and stuff (replying to 2 persons above me)
That’s only if they get lucky and the kid decides too stay in touch. As an example a major reason I moved to South Korea is family issues. I’d rather just not see them in my day to day life.
I dunno my dad was like this growing up and I hated it, obviously, and I, quite literally, hated him but now that Im older I kinda appreciate his strictness. Maybe it helps that he mellowed out with his age. At the very least i know for a fact that him being like this stopped me from doing *anything* illegal because I know he would find it somehow and I would disappoint him. It made me focus on school. There was a time that i despised him for it and I rebelled in college but at the end of the day I dont mind that he was like that.
Violating their privacy because they're "just kids" is going to lead them to become insecure and will give them trust issues. It will also impede their growth. We all need privacy. Making mistakes is a natural part of growing up. I know this would absolutely destroy me if my parents searched and went through all of my private stuff without my permission.
Growing up, my room was never randomly searched for contraband or anything like that, but there was a distinct lack of trust between myself and my parents when it came to money. Every Christmas and birthday, half of the paper money I'd received would be immediately confiscated and "put away for college," and during the rest of the year for the large and most part I wasn't even allowed to spend my own money on things. Naturally, once college started I immediately became an impulse-buyer to make up for lost time, and to this day I'm still trying to tone that drive down. The most ridiculous example was when one classmate in 11th grade was trying to sell me his old PSP and a handful of games for $130, which was a great deal by 2008 standards. I had an ATM card at that time, but because of my upbringing I had the misconception that if I walked up to an ATM and withdrew my own money, my mother would somehow immediately know about it because she had to open the account with me, a minor. Long story short, I had to BEG my parents, at the age of 17, to access $130 of my own money from an ATM to buy this handheld game device from a classmate. And they, who know absolutely nothing about the video game economy, agreed to do it after several days only if I could negotiate the price down to $120. I had to lie to this classmate during that interlude and keep saying I "had my wallet in my other pants" or some BS because I'd have been embarrassed to tell the actual truth. Thankfully in the end, I got the PSP and paid my classmate the full price we agreed on without mommy and daddy knowing, but I felt like a complete fool for having to go through that whole damn process.
"Legally, you can search your child's room. There is no legal problem with that." Legally, you can also tell your child they are disappointing and worthless. There are absolutely 0 legal issues with this as well, and I encourage you to take advantage of that while parenting them.
As a kid i had no privacy and now every adult scares me, seriously every time i hear foot steps near my room i get up quicker than my brain can process. Not to mention that because of the limited amount of trust, i've now managed to create a string of lies to not only my father, but while in DHS i lied to police, and i lied under oath to a judge and court, So if that's they lesson they want passed down to kids, they do a good damn job cuz i know i ain't the only one. Seriously, Don't do this to your kids. in fact in most cases, parents who do this to their kids are also majorly abusive in other forms normally emotionally and mentally, i hope whatever kids that officer has disowns and blocks him, because that is sick.
@MA Aight fam have fun with that. The point is that doing what the cop is showing is a quick way to never hear from your kid again the moment they can get out from under your thumb.
@MA That's only if there's a legit reason to suspect that the kid is doing some illegal shit or getting themselves in trouble. However, if you're treating your kid like your property and invading their privacy and even going as far as to read their personal diary without any rhyme or reason all that time, even if there's literally no reason to suspect any wrongdoing, then maybe you are a piece of garbage that doesn't deserve kids. That's exactly what Charlie is saying and if you agree with the guy in the video then maybe you're already an abusive parent and if you're not a parent, then thank god.
@MA Really? My Dad was explained what risks there were to drinking and smoking, and I *still* don't do either. My mother tried to stop me masturbating because god, and I have a porn addiction.
My dad is ex army and we don't talk anymore, he got violent with me and I left. He regularly performed inspections like this, and refered to the house as a military base, just to give you some perspective
Hahahahah underrated comment because dads like this aren’t fucking involved, and even if they are they don’t pay attention and don’t remember anything. Fantastico!
Not gonna lie, the pipe highlighter and mountain dew hidden compartment are great products. Would buy. Thanks officer. Also, parents like this would drive their kids into drugs and alcohol as they'd want to act out. A complete lack of respect and privacy doesn't make you a better parent funny enough.
Yeah, they were. I had stuff like that when u was in school, and I loved it. Wasn't really of any use to me though because no one rifles through my stuff. See what I did there? Gunsley? Rifled? Yeah, you saw it
He lists multiple items that could be bought online, why this guy isn’t searching every single thing delivered to his house is a good question especially with the regular prison cell inspection check
A message to parents: regularly searching your child's room causes them to feel the need to hide from you. If they are displaying negative behaviors this won't solve them, all it does is make them double down and dig in just to rebel against you.
This kind of behavior is why parents have kids that leave and cut all contact with them. I know a guy whose parents did that sort of crap. Any chance they had that he wasn't around they would root around his room for anything they could find. They did all kinds of crap, like this, and he hasn't spoken to them in over 15 years.
@@caroline537 that's cool to know, I'm adopted and can't be anymore grateful since I fell into the right hands (my parents can be fierce sometimes but they still love me). And yes, I do get that. These whole "adoption" things are sometimes frustrating to think about since there's so many to organize. You must love her so much. She's lucky for that. Sorry for my English and have a great day!
The worst part for me is the fact he’s telling you to check the journal. That’s all your secrets and the most private thing you have, that fully ruins your kids privacy more than ever.
Unfortunately many families don't believe their children should have privacy. Unfortunately for my family, I just treated them worse and worse until they finally gave up. Now I have next to no relationship with my parents and have a hard time emotionally connecting with anyone. I really can't blame them though - most of humanity is dumb as hell and has no idea what they're even doing for themselves to begin with lmao. I turned out okay enough though. Not happy with my life but I'm at least not a criminal, and I keep to myself and don't cause problems for myself or others!!
@@SplendidCoffee0 at this point I've chosen to not have children anyways, so even if I were to be just like them I at least wouldn't end up making someone else grow up like me and many other people did. Although I still try to question my beliefs every day and always try to be adaptive, because we can never be too sure what the future holds for us regardless of what we do or don't want 😝
When I was a lot younger, my mom found one of my sketchbooks while I was on vacation with my grandparents, and it was pretty much like a diary to me since I drew all of my thoughts and feelings into it, as well as drew pictures of shows/video games/etc. that I loved. What she did was look through EVERYTHING in that book, and then posted them ALL to Facebook without my permission. I was so angry with her, and I couldn’t do anything about it because I was states away. To this day I don’t show my art to her, and feel the need to hide anything that might have a close tie to myself. Mind you, I used to show her my drawings all the time when I was little, but ever since that happened I’ve stopped entirely. I know it sounds stupid, but she really broke my trust.
that’s the equivalent of a parent secretly listening in on their child’s therapy sessions, only to use everything they said in private with their therapist against them. fucked up man. hate the fact that i live in orange county with that fuck head.
My parents did shit like this all through growing up. Took away my door and curtains for over two years just so that “I would have nothing to hide” among other crazy shit. It created problems that didn’t get solved in our relationship until I was well into my late twenties and after my twin brother hung himself in our apartment. If you’re a parent, don’t treat your kid like this ever.
Clearly this guy lives in fear because he sees every innocent object as a threat. I bet he's the kind of guy who would plant stuff in other people's belongings just to "prove" his false accusations so that he can feel good about his serious paranoia issues. Imagine him being a father, his home would be a prison.
Looking through someone's diary or journal is the absolute lowest of the low. You're looking inside their head, and most likely one of the only places they feel comfortable.
Yeah I had that happen to me. My mom and aunt did it and I was so mad they wanted to make fun of a story that I wrote for myself, not for someone to read. People need to know boundaries.
I was a correctional officer. The way he's training parents to search their kids room is the way we were trained to search cells. Not just actively searching but the way he told his kid to leave to room. Do not treat your kids like they're inmates
I work in a psych facility and we have the exact same methodology to searches. Both in rooms weekly and belongings when they’re admitted. I hate having to flip through diaries and yet he’s saying that it should be the norm for parents. Breaks my heart
my parents searching through my phone has given me such severe anxiety even to this day. It’s happened 4-5 years ago at this point and i’m still paranoid. It really does hurt your child, don’t do thus
Your parents are just making sure your not looking at anything bad or doing doing anything bad. It's normal parenting stuff. The only reason you'd even get anxiety is if you were looking/doing something bad and hoping he wouldn't find out.
@@maybefoxtart nah bro, parents gave me an iphone when i started middle school without telling me they could see all my text messages and pictures that i took, then when i finally started making friends and made a joke about balls with 1 of my friends i suddenly got confronted and questioned and had to spend the next 4 years having to avoid text message and humiliatingly explaining to people how they shouldn't msg me because my parents can see it. graduated 3 years ago and it ruined my social life and i still have trust issues and 0 friends or personality
when i was 8 my parents were starting to quite honestly beg me to ask them to buy me a diary. they asked so often that i was like okay please get me a diary. i wrote in it ONE time, next day after school it was gone and i was screamed at for a long time because i wrote that my friends and i loved a (male) band. been anxious and extremely depressed since! woohoo good parenting!
To be fair though, this is definitely something more for a troubled teenager rather than just a normal kid. This is for the concerned parents that will do anything for their kid, but their kid just got caught up with a bad crowd or isn’t very social and might have Depression. If parents find it early enough, they might be able to get their kids the help they need to live a good life instead of the life of an addict or no life.
@@aaronlandry3934 would be better to try and build a good relationship with your child, searching their rooms, even if you are concerned about them, would nly do harm, and if not, would only be a momentary solution
@@Gustoberg Parents aren’t mind readers. They can’t know to talk to their kids about issues affecting them if their kid hides it from them. Privacy really isn’t that important if your child could die if their parent doesn’t find out and take measures needed to get their kid help. Yeah, the teenager will probably be upset in the moment, but hey, wouldn’t you prefer your parents finding out and sending you to therapy after them telling you they love you instead of you keeping it secret and ending up strung out on Heroin in a few years? My cousin was a meth addict and hid it from his parents. He died at 22 from an overdose. Reality is sad sometimes and I really don’t value privacy over seeing something that tragic happen to another family
@@aaronlandry3934 You assume the parents are actually concerned about their kid's wellbeing and not their own sense of power. The latter is sadly far too common. Doing this to save your kid from heroin is one thing, but this video is clearly meant for controlling Karen-ass genetic progenitors who just want to remind their kid that they see them as nothing but property.
Speaking from experience, having your parents search your room as a teenager actually makes you want to do drugs FAR more. Now I have a propensity for drugs, and a real major anxiety problem about people being in my home/ room etc as an adult.
i love the idea that this man's son just isn't allowed to have anything in his room that can possibly contain anything like "no you arent allowed a wardrobe because you store a body in it just put your clothes on the floor dammit"
I've been to jail. This is literally a shakedown. Even then, the corrections officers were doing their jobs and didn't sit us down to talk about drawings or empty bottles. Parents out there, you're not a CO. You're a parent. If you do this kind of thing, prepare for your kids to never talk to you again once they leave the house.
Yup. I was a CO in a jail. Can confirm that this is literally just a shakedown. I didn't even like doing it to grown men, I can't imagine how someone could justify doing that to a kid.
I get parents wanting to make sure kids are safe, and kids are stupid sometimes, but doing this every six months for NO REASON is unacceptable. And unless there’s been reason to believe they may be considering self harm, I would NEVER search their diary.
This isn’t just bad parenting advice, that’s exactly how correctional officers search prison cells. That guy was literally telling parents to treat their children like criminals. How has he not been fired yet?
@Chad I Had Your Mom When She Was Tight Thundercock Nah it's just basic psychology, if you treat people like prisoners they will feel like prisoners. It's a great way to lose all trust and make sure they never contact you willingly once they move out.
Ah yes, the most important parenting lesson of them all - making sure you instill trust issues into your child before they’re able to live on their own
My parents have the belief that they would only look through my stuff if they had a justifiable reason to do so. My parents know me well enough that I'd never do drugs or hide things from them. I'd tell them straight up instead of hiding shit. They have no reason to suspect me. I wish more parents had this mindset instead of treating their teenager as a rebel or a prisoner
My parents did the same thing. Although they had this thing where they can see what I've searching up online and commenting on youtube. Sure it gets weird but they just want to make sure I'm not doing anything bad.
My parents went so far as to drill my bedroom door to the floor so that I couldn’t close it. As a socially awkward teenage boy who had few friends and was too afraid to even try drugs or anything, this confused the hell out of me and made me resent them for as long as I lived there.
As someone who is actually a counselor, if I had a nickel for every time a parent asked me “why does my child not like me/want to spend time with me” and then they tell me “oh I have their passwords to their social media, life 360 app, search their room, etc.”, I’d feel pretty financially secure. And it’s always kids who are well behaved too. And this is stuff parents have told me, if not just one parent doing all of this shit. Literally the biggest problem everyone has when it comes to any kind of bad relationship is COMMUNICATION. If you are concerned, TALK to your child without accusing them randomly. It’s not hard, that’s how being a decent person works.
yup helecopter parents love to pretend like the kid's hatred towards them is just coming out of no where then wonder why they want to get as far away as possible from them as soon as possible edit: I had a friend who had parents like this searching his room, checking his texts, alarm on window, literally like a prison. 1 year ago he only smoked weed and 2 days ago he shot up coke for the first time. Dont do this to your children, it will likely make everything much much worse.
@@God-ec8ni is this one of my parents? Because I swear they think they’re a god too. I can’t even question their intentions or vent about something personal about one of my parents without getting made out to a bad guy.
So you can get in trouble in Gunsolley's house for: -having an empty container -having keyboard cleaner -having drawn anything related to drugs or suicide (aka being an edgy teen) - having small plastic bags (they COULD have had drugs in them at some point) Wild. Living here would be miserable lmao
I was an indoor kid and a video game nerd my entire childhood. If my parents had taken away my compressed air cans, it would've been a genuine inconvenience as I was using them for their intended purpose. 😂
i’m so done, i do struggle with a lot of drugs because im a teen and my mom knows but she thinks every time i have pc duster i’m trying to use it to get high 😭😭 like bro leave me the fuck alone i use it to clean my consoles
Exactly...and he's showing the kid that's how to "respect someone's belongings." Teaching him all kind of messed up things about what "respect" is and what actions qualify as "respectful." If that kid ends up in a toxic & abusive relationship - either as the victim or the perpetrator - I won't be surprised. If this is how he treats his future partners, with this kind of "respect," then he will be a horrible partner himself...and a shitty father too. Hopefully he can break the cycle, but it will be in despite of the terrible lessons he's being taught right now.
I was hanging around a friend who was wanted on charges and we were doing drugs (sober now thanks) and I was moving fast to get to a hidden spot to get high. He told me to slow down as he had 6 syringes loaded with dope up his bum so if they caught him on warrents he would have dope in jail. You can hide almost anything I think even the spread the cheeks and cough test can be beat. I am so glad I am clean and sober. I am so glad I wont ever (hopefully) be housed in the same place as Willy Pickton
@@bensoncheung2801 I was quite disturbed when he looked at me and winced, "slow down dude slow down" im packing dope" ????wuuttttt ??? pretty gross but if your facing 3 years and the normal price of 20 goes to 300 in jail I can see the attraction. I am just so happy to never have had that happen to me. Man I love my sobriety and the good lord Jesus.
I like how he says "Remove the child, *or in this case,* the teenager." Meaning that this fucking psychopath wants people to search their 5 year old sons bedroom cause they think he's snorting coke.
I mean what really gets me is why not just do this while your kid is at school? There’s a guaranteed 8 hour window your kid is out of the house and you can look for a stuff while your cleaning their room or bringing in new sheets or towels etc. I don’t see a problem with making sure your kids aren’t hiding drugs or a weapon especially if you suspect something.
@@lawrencetalbot8346 Yeah but it's devoiding your child of their privacy by searching their room. Even if you suspect something. Kids don't just use drugs because they think it's cool (while that can be the case sometimes, it's not often), teenagers often go through way too much during the last year of middle school and all throughout highschool, and they find ways to relieve themselves of that stress. Instead of just searching their room and then accusing them of literally everything they own as being a drug/alcohol hiding scheme, damaging whatever little trust they have of you left, you can just ask them what's going on, and they'll probably open up about it, without any trust being sacrificed.
As an ex correctional officer, this is note for note exactly how we used to conduct searches in cells. Fucking tragic and disgusting that this is being done to children, don't treat your kids like prisoners when you should be talking to them like a respectful human being
I agree. my parents searched my stuff, but it was justified because when I was 12 or so, I was stealing their cards and stuff. Least for me it was justified. I can't imagine having this done to me for no reason
bro fr my parents changed my doorknob so i cant lock it and they're always suspicious that im "hiding something" i trusted you id tell you everything, i really would. i love my parents but i dont trust them with personal things about me.
My grandfather (who fostered me) used to search my room all the time. I always thought it was amusing that he thought I’d be stupid enough to keep shit he shouldn’t find in the room with me. He usually would just find stuff that was never even hidden but he disagreed with but it was all very arbitrary. He got really, very upset when he started finding post it notes saying shit like “nothing here!” “Look harder” “did you think it would be that easy?” He actually confronted me on these antagonizing notes and my response was simply that if he didn’t invade my privacy and show me that he doesn’t trust me; he wouldn’t be getting humiliated in this fashion. Suffice it to say that we don’t talk anymore.
indeed, my mom actually used to check my room and found my journal and started to read it out loud, making fun of what I wrote and I literally never again talked to her about private things in my life :c
*Looks through child's wallet* "You'll see this here is money. This can be used in the streets to purchase illegal drugs and other contraband" *sloppily shoves cash into pocket*
Best way to prevent drug addiction is to *educate your kids* on why it's bad. Not ignore them and then act like it's the kid's fault when they're not taught properly like Charlie says in the beginning
Was raised like this, I'm an adult now and if you want all of your kids to leave at 16-18 y/o and never talk to you again raise them like this. (don't matter if one of them was a prized golden child that got everything they wanted they will see your ways for what they are and leave as well)
No it’s not immoral to search a room in *your own house*. Parents are morally obligated to ensuring their kids aren’t doing bad things so it’s the opposite of immoral.
@@downfromthereeefters it goes both ways. If you severely comprise your child's privacy then the mistrust will go both ways. Your child won't trust you. And the people who are best at lying usually have these kinds of parent. There's a limit to restricting your kids and most of other problems can be ironed out by having honest conversations with their children.
My parents don’t search my room but they do go through my phone, use life360, make me keep my phone out of my room, no social media (which I totally get and don’t think I will get when I leave home anyway), etc. I don’t really know how I feel about it. Honestly it hasn’t affected me too much because I have nothing to hide and I love my parents more than anything. I don’t think it’s really affected our relationship and I guess it’s kept me out of trouble online but I do feel it’s unnecessary sometimes. The only thing I won’t do with my own kids is read their text messages. THAT really does feel like an invasion of privacy and I feel like I have to censor my own thoughts and feelings to make sure I don’t get in trouble with my parents. I’m 15 btw
I remember when I was younger I was forbidden to swear, and I used writing as an overall outlet of emotion, and therefore a lot of my writing was very over the top with things like violence, but also cuss words and such, and I never showed it to anyone, but my parents at some point looked through my school stuff and my father found the writing and came to me with so much disappointment in his voice and so much judgement that it haunts me until today. It may sound a lot less bad than it is, but it felt terrible enough in the moment to now make me feel incredibly sick when I remember it. I think my parents only stopped going through my stuff because I at some point began snapping at them each time they did, mostly because I gained some kind of mental issue that if things aren't the way I left them I become extremely distressed and agitated. What does still bother me quite a lot is despite me being over 18 my mother hasn't learned how to knock or leave my room alone unless I am there. Teens need a lot of privacy, really. Searches wouldn't really stop whatever the parents suspect or worry about. If the parents find something once, the teens will just become more creative with hiding stuff.
Can’t fathom why the kid would feel the need to hide anything, look at how respectfully gunsley treats all of their belongings. _Clearly_ this is an open and accepting household
“As a parent you have every right to search your child’s room. There is no legal wrong there.” If the only thing stopping you from being unethical or immoral are laws, then there are bigger issues at hand 😒
What's weird about that Mtn Dew secret container is that the design is one that hasn't been used since like 2008. Just inexplicably having a Mtn Dew bottle from the late 2000s is really weird unless the person is a collector or something.
If you try and turn your child/parent relationship into a prisoner/warden dynamic, your prisoner won’t return to their prison the moment they’re given the chance
Police officer here. If you take this route to parenting, you have essentially turned your kids into suspects and you have failed as a parent. Take an active role in yours kid’s life from day 1, be open and honest with them, and treat them like they’re a human being. Do that and they will be less likely to engage in substance abuse in the first place. They’re your kids, not inmates. Absolutely horrible advice from this sergeant.
Yep - I could do easily hide drugs from my very trusting parents, but I don't want to be anywhere near them, lol. My friend also has super trusting parents who give him privacy, and while he does smoke marijuana, once they found out, they just sat him down and talked and they've been trying to help him quit - and he WANTS to. It's a lot healthier than struggling with stuff and not telling out of fear of punishment
Dude, for real. Doesn't it seem like common sense that treating your children like this is just an all around bad idea? I mean, for God's sake, there's a MONUMENTAL differentiation between being a good, loving, strict, caring parent vs. being a fucking Nazi who forces their children to live under tyrant rule just because your career is with law enforcement. My mom was a cop, and she never changed her parenting style or utilized her job as a means of specific punishment, like homeboy is literally *telling and encouraging* other parents to do. Just, wow. How sad.
For real, it's worrying how many parents might take this seriously, since my parents already do stuff like this, but less often and more fair than this, but at least I'm not treated like a suspect, the "Get them out of the room so they don't distract you from doing a thorough search" felt more like a reason to get the kid out of their room so they can't stop you from invading their extremely personal items, like a diary. The "child out of room" tactic seriously just felt like the child was going to be an obstacle in the journey of ripping open all of their secrets and forcing yourself into their personal areas
He took his job as a sergeant way to seriously to the point that the treat his house hold like a fucking boot camp. His childrens are cadets and his wife is his general.
This man knows absolutely NOTHING about addiction, child psychology, or adolescent development. Do NOT do this with your kids ever. This parenting style backfires 100 percent of the time.
So if your child is on drugs how are you supposed to find them then? Cause I guarantee if you ask your kid they will say no and just get angry and defensive about it.
@@lawrencetalbot8346 there are so many behavioral signs that a child is on drugs and if a parent can't notice that in their kid it speaks on the parent
Facts! The amount of stuff I hid from my parents and got away with due to them raising me pretty similar like this makes me feel bad. On the bright side, My kids won’t go through this
@@TomJacobW Military school would be an improvement. The people who run those places are authoritarian jerks because it's a job, instead of an ingrained character flaw.
the only time I agree with searching your kids' room is when you undoubted smell drugs and/or suspicion of them drinking alcohol and searching for the said drugs or alcohol but searching through journals and stuff like that should be off limits
" I'm not angry just disappointed " was the worst one for me , it was a nod to let you know that although mum wasn't angry your dad will be home soon and he most certainly will be
@@kibbiking9122 yeah and he's going on that you can because they are not 18 yet and then he tells you to "take advantage of that" just shows that the people making it don't care about privacy
I hate the "legality" argument. Technically slavery and the Holocaust were legal, that is absolutely no justification to participate. But he acts like a Fascist anyway, so he would´ve loved it back then.
I love how parents immediately assume their kid is doing drugs as soon as they are classified as a teenager lol
I swear if my mom thinks I’m doing drugs I’m jumping out the window again
I barely even leave the house 😂
@@bootynut1002 Again?!
@@bootynut1002 if jumping out the window is a common occurrence for you id assume you were on drugs too
Well I mean with all the school shootings teenagers of this generation been doing is good to be precautious at least. Not to the point of invasive privacy but not completely oblivious to the possibility of danger either. Not all kids are angels.
@@bootynut1002 that sounds like something a teenager on drugs tryingg to convince other people that hes not on drugs would say -_-
Parents like these are always confused as to why their children don’t talk to them anymore when they move out.
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@@soft-boiled8545 comments have been trash either way
"You should check your child's room every 6 months"
Yeah okay and I can visit my parents every 6 decades sure.
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@@Kingklownmemes indeed
you guys are so sensitive
This guy: You want to be respectful of your child's property
Also him: *looks through his diary and searches his room like a prisoner cell*
Right? And he said that right after unfolding every pair of socks in the drawer!
Best thing is that this amazing kid search room master wouldnt even find anything in my room cuz I jus4 have it under my pillow 😂😂
Thats Such a professional cop
Acttually crazy I read the comment like as the guy said the line. He legit text-to-spoke that shit ngl
empty sodacan, son you are grounded for 3 weeks for this contraband.
What he's actually trying to say is: "It's important to search your child's room regularly, in order to teach them the valuable skill that is hiding their shit in a different room."
I hid my weed in my parents room
@@ethanl440 power move honestly
@@wowimstillalive5878 tf they gonna do say it’s mine?
@@ethanl440 that is the most powerful idea I’ve ever heard of 💀
@@ethanl440 fucking legendary bro
Gunsley's kid is straight-up trying to get high in every way imaginable just to escape the pain of having him as a parent
Bro is huffing sharpies at this point
Mans is prolly turning on his car just to huff exhaust
I know people in my small town like that
Me as a teenager
@@huntinghighandlow8703 sniffing glue can be pretty lowkey so that works too
When he said "Journals are also good to go through" my jaw dropped. Journals are extremely private things and should NEVER be looked through. I can tell you right now that if you do this to your kids, they will resent you and as soon as they move out, go as far away from you as possible.
Kids are people too, they deserve privacy.
If the journal has a lock on it, then that person unlocked what disrespect is like.
Nah. How would know if they were suicidal? Or to get help? Your definition of a good parent sounds like child neglect.
@@Wusgoinon that’s a very bad take.
@@calebdonaldson7044if ur kid is feeling suicidal that's u being a shitty parent, giving them less privacy just makes it worse
@@calebdonaldson7044have you ever heard of having a conversation? A good parent would talk with their child and let them know they're house is always a safe space for them. Not invade their fucking privacy and make them feel like they live in a jail cell. If the only way you can tell your kid is going through something is by reading through their fucking PRIVATE diary. Than you've already failed as a parent. Please don't ever have children unless your mindset changes.
As a former kid with a very strict mom, this hit too close to home. Whenever she would lose things, I was automatically blamed. My room was searched like a prison cell every week, even little things were pointed out and questioned. She lost a lighter one time, and immediately went to my room and started yelling while flipping my entire room upside-down to find something that I didn't have. I had just cleaned my room too, made it spotless and even organized. After a little bit of her tearing up my room, my brother came in holding her lighter. He found it where she was sitting. She sat on it without realizing.
Parents, please give your kid privacy. I understand not wanting them to do bad things behind your back, but with enough trust and _gained_ (not forced) respect, they won't ever do that. Helicopter parenting and being overly strict only pushes them away faster. As soon as I turned 18 I got a minivan and drove away. Kids are people just like you, and just like you, they value privacy. If you don't want your kid going through your room, don't go through theirs(unless absolutely necessary). Thats the shit that gets you sent to a nursing home.
Children aren't automatically sneaky, you teach them how to be sneaky by doing this.
Damn that sucks man... I hope you're doing well!
You say strict, I say narcissist. Sorry this happened to you. Parents are just regular people that had kids, and a lot of regular people are idiots.
100% agreed that kids aren’t usually very sneaky by nature, you condition them into being that way
You’re a girl huh?!
hope your doing well bro
“Dead body in the closet, gonna wanna set that aside, have a little talk later.”
lmaoo
This comment is golden
Lmao
Thus goteth me deceased asf my lord
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Bruh his kid isn’t just a drug dealer, he’s the entire black market
this 40 year old teenager
@@gkpoo1773 yes
@@gkpoo1773 motherfuking .onion in the house
Not for long, he’s about to kill himself remember?
@@scootydad8093 true, he’ll sell everything on the black market first, that’s why it’s all in his room
The thing LOTS of parents fail to understand is that if you DON'T snoop into your kids' things and invade their privacy, they're far more likely to trust you and share the more sensitive topics with you. When you search their stuff, you're essentially telling them you're looking to condemn them and making them not want to tell you stuff.
You are so very right.
Yeah its reverse psychology and also literally anyone will hide things much more if they are under suspicion of hiding things. They will be like well I have to hide it better theres no turning back now.
Exactly. My overprotective parents made me not trust them and I never tell them when I'm struggling
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"Now we know our son isn't just a criminal, but an extremely untalented one when it comes to art"
-Art Institutes in 1940's
That escalated quickly
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this kind of parenting doesn’t prevent bad behavior, it teaches the kids how to lie and deceive the parent
Seriously, all having controlling parents has done is teach me how to lie and hide my behavior
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Exactly!
A valuable skill!
can confirm i do know how to lie and deceive my parents
"We want to respect our child's privacy."
"So your child's journal is a good place to search."
ikr thats what pissed me off the most
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Now seeing this guy do that made my blood boil
“Make sure you read and memorize allllll their secrets!”
6:50 ? He says "property". He might be aware he doesn't respect privacy. lol
The part where he says to check the journals too just angers me, I remember when I had stayed with my step-mother for a while and she had gone through my mini journal while I was asleep and I woke up to being told that she had called the cops on me for writing how I did not like the way she was abusing me and how it made me depressed, it was a vent journal and she apparently called the cops and had told them that I was suicidal and needed to be escorted to a hospital, I was traumatized, my trust had been completely ruined I was completely ashamed of expressing my feelings through any means after that and I do not write in any journal anymore as I now tend to unhealthy bottle things up instead and I was humiliated as the cops thought it necessary to have me in handcuffs in escorting me from the house to the hospital even though the only thing I was doing was sobbing in confusion and hurt and it only served to make me more depressed as the first time I was in that hospital for being “suicidal” I felt scared and alone and I did not know what was going to happen to me, I certainly did become suicidal after that, invading your child’s trust of privacy does mentally damage them in ways you might not realize, im still dealing with a lot of mental health issues that stem from that particular incident in my life, please do not be that kind of parent, if you suspect your kid of something have a calm and comfortable conversation with them and not in an accusing way but in a way where you let them know they can trust you and that you only want to help them, that lets your kids know you really care and that you do love them.
I like how they didn’t check under the bed or in the pillowcases which are like the most common areas to hide things but instead ripped apart every random knickknack
"Respect their privacy"
"Check their journals"
Perfectly balanced, as all things should be
It’s not very respectful of privacy, but it could have details like drug use or suicidal thoughts. Plenty of teenagers and young adults die of both every year and it’s only better if more parents can catch on before their kids hurt themselves
@@aaronlandry3934 whoooooooooosh
@@aaronlandry3934 yeah, it could, but if you're worried about your kid maybe you should, y'know TALK TO THEM! Get them therapy, if you think tossing your kids room every 6 month is how to be a good parent then you might also need therapy.
@@rye872 Yeah, searching their room and finding evidence of something bad in their life is usually what leads to that. Even if the parents suspect it of their kids, their kids will probably deny it unless they’re caught. Only then can you actually have a conversation about it and think about getting them help like you said
@@Berserk1Manga Ew! Reddit
Damn Nursing home speedrun world record holder looks sick ngl.
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any%?
@@thataintfalc0 nah this seemed pretty glitchless to me
That would require actually caring enough to put them into one. Not just leaving them a Denny's while on a road trip with their name and birthday on a piece of paper in their pocket.
@@house_cocoon a true any% speedrunner would have used the coma cheat to timeskip
This is why I hurt so much for kids as a whole. It's so terrible how we as a society view such a massive group of people as pets that you can cage and control and not human beings with their own needs for dignity and respect. It's horrifying to see how normal this is treated by so many people. I hope kids never stop rebelling against this kind of behavior.
If you hurt so much for OTHER PEOPLE'S KIDS, then you're too sensitive of a human being.
@@blue-lu3iz What if the child is endangering other humans?
@@blue-lu3iz if someone's kid is being a legitimate danger to other people. You know what I'm talking about.
@@blue-lu3iz Oh, and stop hating on people who don't have unnecessary coping mechanisms like you do.
@@blue-lu3iz How do you know that it's JUST the parent's fault for having an aggressive kid? Besides, I have a right NOTtto cope by not feeling empathy for them.
I'm a single mother of 3, and two of my kids are currently teenagers. This is the most pathetic parenting tip I've ever seen! I have NEVER even thought about doing something like this, because I want my kids to actually trust me, not to mention LIKE me and respect me as a parent. My firstborn is turning 20, and I'm proud to say I've managed to raise a wonderful human being, and I know that even though he's leaving the nest, he will still come home from time to time, and I will get to follow his journey. Because he grew up knowing that his mom trusted him to be smart, make healthy choices and wise decisions, and if he F'ed up, he could talk to me about it if he needed to, and no matter what he did to F up (which all normal kids do), his room was still his own private space, and I would never ruin his trust in me by doing something as disrespectful and humiliating as this sorry excuse for a parent.....
you're a good parent. thank you
@@CodenameVODID thank you for saying that :)
As my father always said : when my kid gets into a bad situation or made a stupid mistake, I want his first thought to be 'I need to call my dad'
Not: "Oh shit my dad is gonna kill me, he can't find out"
Thank you for being a good parent. I wish I had parents like you
He doesn't ever once mention talking to your kids like they're also people.
Well put
Holy shit you're right. Like damn, I can understand doing this if you actually suspect that your kid might be on drugs/dealing drugs or other serious crimes but he made it seem like he was trying to normalize doing this all the time even when you think your kid hasn't done anything.
He is a cop so, you know
No, kids are programmed bio machines that are turning into a perfect being in closed rooms, but it only works if they are controlled and isolated from their personal space
Which is fucking nuts
"You have every legal right to search your child's room."
And your child has every legal right to move out when they're 18, break all contact and forget you ever existed.
this statement is just as true as it is sarcastic. sure, don't be a complete douchey overlord when it comes to your child's privacy, but you have the final say when it comes to raising *your* child. Your the freaking parent for goodness sakes, not the government or the schools. but anyways, i agree with allowing children some liberties, but instead of yelling at them if you suspect something, sit em down and have an honest heart-to-heart conversation with them. they'll respect you way more if you treat them as human beings rather than pets you can control. sorry for the rant and advice, hope this helps in your child raising
@@thomashornstein7085 I think knight was just talking about action and result, Kids are human beings too and naturally want free will, obviously if someone is going to order you around and give you no other choice your going to hate that person, there probably wasnt a slave in the history of the world that wanted to stay with thier master
except for the isrealites but that was after they left
Man that comment was kinda cringe. If my kid was fucking up and not following my reasonable rules, smoking weed in the house, failing school, etc., I’d probably be glad they’re gone. Doesn’t mean I wouldn’t still love them, but if they kept fucking up over and over again simply to *spite me* for being “uncool” I’d have no problem telling them to get the fuck out lmao.
Like your comment sounds so whiny: “oh yea? You won’t let me do what I want?! Then I’m leaving and you won’t get to pay for all my shit anymore and deal with me!”
Like okay, good luck son 😉
@@thomashornstein7085 he wasnt sarcastic
Reminds me of how I became unreasonably paranoid of anything about myself being found out by my mother. My father generally just said, "You're going to do things. If you're not certain what to do, the worst thing you can do is not ask anyone about it.". However, my mother was a bit of a religious zealot back in the day. She has SEVERELY mellowed out, however, and deeply apologized for all the anxiety and depression that has become apart of my daily life. She'd constantly check things, randomly burst into my room. At some point, I got so good at hearing her footfalls that I would instantly recognize when she was approaching by a good 5-10 seconds before she'd even touch my door.
Of course, when she was just walking by, i'd have the same reaction. I'd go through an extremely quick mental checklist of what I was doing, and if there was anything she'd disapprove of, I'd find a way to hide it. Writing or drawing something she'd hate? Turn the page and start doing something else that wouldn't seem like anything of note. Playing a game that seemed like she might disapprove? Open the game's menu and mess around with the settings. If she asked to see the game, show her a tiny amount and act like it was everything. So on and so forth.
It is to the point where I can't *stand* someone behind me when I'm on the computer. Even when I'm just watching UA-cam, playing games, whatever. I *despise* it when someone's behind me. My shoulders tense and get scrunched, my head sinks towards my shoulder, my arms and wrists tense, my fingers become stiff... I just... I hate it. I could be my roommate seeing the video and wanting to ask me what I'm watching so he can watch it himself, and I'll have this sensation like I'm watching porn with him over my shoulder. It just... Ugh... I hate that feeling, and I hate that I get it at all times.
Its better, nowadays, but... Believe me, helicopter parents, intrusive parents... They don't help. As a wise man once said, "Getting angry with people for making mistakes doesn't teach them to not make mistakes. It just teaches them to hide them." You can apply this to so much... Its a child's job to do a better job than their parents did. Every generation, a softer punch.
holy shit. This, this is exactly how I feel, granted my parents weren't as bad but holy shit i've done at least like half of these things because I had numerous memories of my family making fun of me or telling me to stop watching this video or playing this game and even years later, I still can't let anyone see what I'm playing or watching without sweating a lot and feeling the weight of the world on my shoulders, oh my god at least I know someone feels the same way I do.
Your story reminds me of the way I would act as a kid, too. My mother was deep into alcohol when I was growing up. The similar things you describe would happen to my siblings and I after around 5 or 6 in the afternoon just about every day. She wasnt too religious, but she WAS very opinionated. She'd say whatever was on her mind, and the longer the nights went on, the worse she would get. Wouldn't hold back on talking shit about anything, especially if she knew she'd get a reaction. Did not matter WHAT it was. Did not matter if you were busy, or sleeping. We had no locks on our bedroom doors. The walls were thin enough to hear a conversation in the next room, and she loved to ramble to herself. Sometimes she would sneak outside our doors just to listen to what it was we were doing/saying. We could catch her footsteps if we were quiet enough, and we'd change the topic or stop talking altogether. If we had a video game, she wanted to see it. If it was a show, she wanted to watch it. Doesn't seem so bad initially, but she dragged everything we liked into the dirt. Looking back on it, i think she chose not to like a lot of what we considered to be interesting just because she could.
"What the hell are you playin'/watchin'?"
"Why do you put on so much make-up?!"
"Wished you'd get a hair-cut you look like a damn hippy, son!"
"That friend of yours looks like an alien from space or somethin'"
It was ALWAYS silly bullshit to her. left me with this over-the-shoulder feeling that everything we liked or enjoyed was going to be judged harshly. Can't show anybody what I like without feeling like its just too weird to talk about. Usual shit too like movies or music. To this day that feeling can creep in sneakily, but I can dismiss it easily now that I see what all the world has to offer. There's a LOT of silly bullshit in the world. My mom has mellowed out quite a bit almost 15 years later, but I can remember all those times she made us feel like an inch tall for liking the most mundane of things. Spit of all that I love her though.
I think that's what makes it hurt so much more for the kid in the video above. He's not an inmate, and yet he's being treated like one in his own room. Probably can't even decorate it the way he wants to.
I'm fortunate enough to have had mostly excellent parents, but the thing about standing behind on the computer is something I can definitely relate to. Even if I'm doing absolutely nothing wrong, I'm paranoid that any authority figure will find some issue with whatever I'm doing. That also translated to my get-ready-for-bed routine, where I became unable to get ready quickly if my parents were in the room or even walking by my room out of fear that wherever I would be would be the wrong place (lucky me, the spot right in front of my door was kinda creaky, so I could hear right before they entered and have like a second or two of warning).
My parents were pretty good for the most part though, like my Mom worked really hard and went without sleep sometimes to make sure everything was in order, and my Dad always tried to take interest in my hobbies and join in on them (like for a while he played Minecraft, which was awesome). It's just that they really didn't understand why I kept asking them to stop walking behind my computer (the screen was facing a wall/window so its not like it was a super unreasonable request) and to stop barging in on me in my room (like I wanted them to at least knock or something so I wouldn't get the shit scared out of me when they barge in and startle me)
Anyway, I'm sorry that your situation was so much worse! I never had to put up with them actually checking through my things, and it sucks that you did.
@@Yoda_16358 It happens. Again, things are better. But I will never quite be rid of it. Which is acceptable.
These types of parents are what create introverts with anxiety issues. Sadly I was in pretty much the same boat. Intrusive mom (and piece of shit step-dad) that didn't actual parent, just berated me and showed no real interest in what I liked, but just scoffed at everything.
Reminds me of a story my dad told me when he was an officer early on. He got brought along for room inspections, and a guy pulls out model plane glue and asks him, "See anything wrong with this *dad's name*?"
"No sir."
"He's got model glue and no model airplanes, he's probably sniffing this."
"Sir there's an f-5 on his desk."
"Oh."
😂
sniffing glue isnt illegal tho
Tf is an f5, he meant f15 i think
@@SUBA_V F-4
Ah, the cop makes a good point, we should just send our kids to jail then they'll be safe from all drugs
even then there's more drugs in jail :D
@@aureosp1600 ohhh, so THAT was the joke. Thanks
@@jonathanoconnor450 its WAY EASIER TO GET HIGH IN JAIL AND FIND DRUGS then on the street.
@@pimpnlovepimpn4461 no wayyy 😱😱😱
I gotcha dawg. What you looking for 😂
This doesn't feel like a psa, more so a guide to cleverly hiding drugs
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Ngl I kinda want to try this, I don't have anything to hide but still sounds pretty fun
I doubt any kid that has parents like that would hide the drugs in their room.
I legit want that Mt Dew bottle with the hidden compartment
@@DruidEnjoyer that’s what I really don’t get
Regularly search your kids room for shit and they’ll hide everything somewhere else
Hell, they might just leave a bunch of “containers” around to draw your eye so you don’t get suspicious
As a kid I was always told "privacy is a privellage." As a teenager however they didn't follow that thank god. I will never understand the thought behind that. For your child, privacy is privacy. That's that. I've had friends who had their doors taken off as teens and i seriously can't imagine how much resentment I would have towards my parents if they did that to me.
My dad wants to constantly search my room and look through my phone. He yells at me when I tell him no, so it feels good knowing that I'm not the bonkers one in this situation
"Journals are good to go through."
This guy really knows how to treat a child
Actually communicating with your child? Absurd!
Don’t forget to make fun of your child for anything embarrassing in there as well as punish them for any wrong doing like curse words (dang, crap, etc)!!!
@MA why put all your personnel secrets online where things can be hacked, hence why russia still uses hard copies
@MA a lot of people, sometimes locks are more useful to some people than phones.
if someone has hacked your phone they most likely dont know you or even seen you but if someone finds your journal its more likely they know you and can black mail you and stuff (replying to 2 persons above me)
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8:58 as a child, you have every legal right to send your parents to a nursing home when they're older
"Make sure you respect your child's property"
*literally less than 5 minutes later*
"Make sure you go through their journal too"
Also "What appears to be a highlighter" got me good
BREAKING NEWS: IF IT WORKS LIKE A HIGHLIGHTER, IT IS TECHNICALLY A HIGHLIGHTER
No one wonder Gunsolley's son does so many drugs. Imagine having a parent like him.
All the drugs it's probably why he looks 30 years older.
That a fact btw ... Strict parents do creat worst kids i saw in my life !!!
He's probably selling weed to Kevin Spacey next door.
Honestly the fact he seem to be into weed is a fucking miracle. I'd be doing heroin, personally.
I feel like being such a horrible person to your child while also constantly telling them to not do drugs would just make them do it out of spite
This is the type of parenting that guarantees you a one-way ticket to an old folk's home when you get older.
That’s only if they get lucky and the kid decides too stay in touch. As an example a major reason I moved to South Korea is family issues. I’d rather just not see them in my day to day life.
thats an overstatement. Youd be lucky if your child even looks at your face
"Then we'll put you in the crooked home that we saw on 60 minutes!"
being too overprotective and not caring about your child is a great way to not be loved by your child
I dunno my dad was like this growing up and I hated it, obviously, and I, quite literally, hated him but now that Im older I kinda appreciate his strictness. Maybe it helps that he mellowed out with his age. At the very least i know for a fact that him being like this stopped me from doing *anything* illegal because I know he would find it somehow and I would disappoint him. It made me focus on school. There was a time that i despised him for it and I rebelled in college but at the end of the day I dont mind that he was like that.
Violating their privacy because they're "just kids" is going to lead them to become insecure and will give them trust issues. It will also impede their growth. We all need privacy. Making mistakes is a natural part of growing up.
I know this would absolutely destroy me if my parents searched and went through all of my private stuff without my permission.
Growing up, my room was never randomly searched for contraband or anything like that, but there was a distinct lack of trust between myself and my parents when it came to money. Every Christmas and birthday, half of the paper money I'd received would be immediately confiscated and "put away for college," and during the rest of the year for the large and most part I wasn't even allowed to spend my own money on things. Naturally, once college started I immediately became an impulse-buyer to make up for lost time, and to this day I'm still trying to tone that drive down.
The most ridiculous example was when one classmate in 11th grade was trying to sell me his old PSP and a handful of games for $130, which was a great deal by 2008 standards. I had an ATM card at that time, but because of my upbringing I had the misconception that if I walked up to an ATM and withdrew my own money, my mother would somehow immediately know about it because she had to open the account with me, a minor. Long story short, I had to BEG my parents, at the age of 17, to access $130 of my own money from an ATM to buy this handheld game device from a classmate. And they, who know absolutely nothing about the video game economy, agreed to do it after several days only if I could negotiate the price down to $120. I had to lie to this classmate during that interlude and keep saying I "had my wallet in my other pants" or some BS because I'd have been embarrassed to tell the actual truth. Thankfully in the end, I got the PSP and paid my classmate the full price we agreed on without mommy and daddy knowing, but I felt like a complete fool for having to go through that whole damn process.
Dang!! Wtf
"And also, It's very important to be respectful of the child's property"
Doesn't fold clothes, leaves mess
Looks through the kid's diary...
He's giving him the deluxe police experience
Proceeds to yell at child for the child not folding their clothes
Lmao wow so invading your child's privacy and looking through everything in their room is being respectful?
@@davebryan1890 Premium All Inclusive DX police experience, by Gunsly
"Legally, you can search your child's room. There is no legal problem with that."
Legally, you can also tell your child they are disappointing and worthless. There are absolutely 0 legal issues with this as well, and I encourage you to take advantage of that while parenting them.
XDDDD
Legally, you can move out and never talk to your parents again, and I encourage you to take advantage of that.
That definitely sounds like the words of cop that gets mad when people tell him he needs a warrant and takes it out on his son
@@deathtaco4095 hey oinker, no warrant?
I plead the 5th!
lol. Exactly
Noted.
As a kid i had no privacy and now every adult scares me, seriously every time i hear foot steps near my room i get up quicker than my brain can process. Not to mention that because of the limited amount of trust, i've now managed to create a string of lies to not only my father, but while in DHS i lied to police, and i lied under oath to a judge and court, So if that's they lesson they want passed down to kids, they do a good damn job cuz i know i ain't the only one. Seriously, Don't do this to your kids. in fact in most cases, parents who do this to their kids are also majorly abusive in other forms normally emotionally and mentally, i hope whatever kids that officer has disowns and blocks him, because that is sick.
Are you a bot or just bad at grammar?
@@isaacandersen1 Maybe both
@@Account_nonexistent possible
i did this too
*"Hey there, fellow kids. I sure do love playing Tetris on my good ole PlayStation."*
The worst part about this is when the kid grows up and has issues, the parents will not admit its their fault.
yup.
@MA Aight fam have fun with that. The point is that doing what the cop is showing is a quick way to never hear from your kid again the moment they can get out from under your thumb.
@MA That's only if there's a legit reason to suspect that the kid is doing some illegal shit or getting themselves in trouble. However, if you're treating your kid like your property and invading their privacy and even going as far as to read their personal diary without any rhyme or reason all that time, even if there's literally no reason to suspect any wrongdoing, then maybe you are a piece of garbage that doesn't deserve kids. That's exactly what Charlie is saying and if you agree with the guy in the video then maybe you're already an abusive parent and if you're not a parent, then thank god.
@MA Seems like you need better company yourself. Get the hell out of those Facebook groups Soccer mom.
@MA Really? My Dad was explained what risks there were to drinking and smoking, and I *still* don't do either. My mother tried to stop me masturbating because god, and I have a porn addiction.
That “teenager” would be a perfect cast for a new Netflix series
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Yeah that’s Jotaro levels of teenager
true
Lol This das is the dad who always talks about when they where a kid
Very true
My dad is ex army and we don't talk anymore, he got violent with me and I left. He regularly performed inspections like this, and refered to the house as a military base, just to give you some perspective
You had a cartoon character for a father
Gross
That pfp with that flag… 😒
@@Justin-yt7pi transgineer gaming
5:50 "Kids use this to get high, and so do I"
*Sniffs*
So wonderful
"HEY champ how old are ya?"
"17 but tomorrow's my birthday"
"OH SHIT BETHANY HURRY! RAID HIS ROOM THIS IS OUR LAST CHANCE!"
*Just starts an entire SWAT team raid
Hahahahah underrated comment because dads like this aren’t fucking involved, and even if they are they don’t pay attention and don’t remember anything. Fantastico!
I guess we’re gonna miss the, *Panty* *Raid*
@@coolturtle5116 lmao
The best thing about that is that the father does not even know his sons birthday or age.
Not gonna lie, the pipe highlighter and mountain dew hidden compartment are great products. Would buy. Thanks officer. Also, parents like this would drive their kids into drugs and alcohol as they'd want to act out. A complete lack of respect and privacy doesn't make you a better parent funny enough.
Yeah, they were. I had stuff like that when u was in school, and I loved it. Wasn't really of any use to me though because no one rifles through my stuff.
See what I did there? Gunsley? Rifled? Yeah, you saw it
I would see shit like that at smoke shops and my dumbass thought they were like actual Brisk tea and Coke cans lol
Those higlighter bowls are cool, but not very fun to smoke through imo
for me the best thing was the scale, cops will never look for a cd scale, way too much work to open everything
theres no way that highlighter pipe is worth it... you smoke out of it once and it will stink up your whole room if you keep it there
The teen drew a goofy edgy drawing of a kid with a gun to their head as a BOOKMARK, this dude REMOVED HIS PAGE FROM THE BOOK BRO
He lists multiple items that could be bought online, why this guy isn’t searching every single thing delivered to his house is a good question especially with the regular prison cell inspection check
A message to parents: regularly searching your child's room causes them to feel the need to hide from you. If they are displaying negative behaviors this won't solve them, all it does is make them double down and dig in just to rebel against you.
Yup, i was raised in a household like that and actually pushed me to rebel when i hadnt dont anything like that before.
Is there any parents that watch cr1tikal? That'd be cool
not to mention, it destroys any trust in the relationship. if my parents don't trust or respect me, why should I do so for them?
This kind of behavior is why parents have kids that leave and cut all contact with them. I know a guy whose parents did that sort of crap. Any chance they had that he wasn't around they would root around his room for anything they could find. They did all kinds of crap, like this, and he hasn't spoken to them in over 15 years.
@@caroline537 that's cool to know, I'm adopted and can't be anymore grateful since I fell into the right hands (my parents can be fierce sometimes but they still love me). And yes, I do get that. These whole "adoption" things are sometimes frustrating to think about since there's so many to organize. You must love her so much. She's lucky for that. Sorry for my English and have a great day!
The worst part for me is the fact he’s telling you to check the journal. That’s all your secrets and the most private thing you have, that fully ruins your kids privacy more than ever.
Unfortunately many families don't believe their children should have privacy. Unfortunately for my family, I just treated them worse and worse until they finally gave up. Now I have next to no relationship with my parents and have a hard time emotionally connecting with anyone. I really can't blame them though - most of humanity is dumb as hell and has no idea what they're even doing for themselves to begin with lmao.
I turned out okay enough though. Not happy with my life but I'm at least not a criminal, and I keep to myself and don't cause problems for myself or others!!
@@RigmanZ11 I’m happy that you’re breaking the cycle!
@@SplendidCoffee0 at this point I've chosen to not have children anyways, so even if I were to be just like them I at least wouldn't end up making someone else grow up like me and many other people did. Although I still try to question my beliefs every day and always try to be adaptive, because we can never be too sure what the future holds for us regardless of what we do or don't want 😝
When I was a lot younger, my mom found one of my sketchbooks while I was on vacation with my grandparents, and it was pretty much like a diary to me since I drew all of my thoughts and feelings into it, as well as drew pictures of shows/video games/etc. that I loved. What she did was look through EVERYTHING in that book, and then posted them ALL to Facebook without my permission. I was so angry with her, and I couldn’t do anything about it because I was states away.
To this day I don’t show my art to her, and feel the need to hide anything that might have a close tie to myself. Mind you, I used to show her my drawings all the time when I was little, but ever since that happened I’ve stopped entirely. I know it sounds stupid, but she really broke my trust.
that’s the equivalent of a parent secretly listening in on their child’s therapy sessions, only to use everything they said in private with their therapist against them. fucked up man. hate the fact that i live in orange county with that fuck head.
My parents did shit like this all through growing up. Took away my door and curtains for over two years just so that “I would have nothing to hide” among other crazy shit. It created problems that didn’t get solved in our relationship until I was well into my late twenties and after my twin brother hung himself in our apartment. If you’re a parent, don’t treat your kid like this ever.
Clearly this guy lives in fear because he sees every innocent object as a threat. I bet he's the kind of guy who would plant stuff in other people's belongings just to "prove" his false accusations so that he can feel good about his serious paranoia issues.
Imagine him being a father, his home would be a prison.
Looking through someone's diary or journal is the absolute lowest of the low. You're looking inside their head, and most likely one of the only places they feel comfortable.
This, this is the one opinion in this comment section I can agree with
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Yeah I had that happen to me. My mom and aunt did it and I was so mad they wanted to make fun of a story that I wrote for myself, not for someone to read. People need to know boundaries.
God I hate that
Happened once and it gave me an anxiety attack
Don't do that....
@@wowimstillalive5878
Holy fuck thats awful, but yeah ideally do it on your phone
I was a correctional officer. The way he's training parents to search their kids room is the way we were trained to search cells. Not just actively searching but the way he told his kid to leave to room. Do not treat your kids like they're inmates
I was thinking this while watching - He's conducting a prisoner search.
Have you ever worked with bill cosby
I work in a psych facility and we have the exact same methodology to searches. Both in rooms weekly and belongings when they’re admitted.
I hate having to flip through diaries and yet he’s saying that it should be the norm for parents. Breaks my heart
Yep. Treat your kids like they’re inmates and they will try to escape. Make them feel at home & comfortable and they will want to stay
why did you stop being a correctional officer?
my parents searching through my phone has given me such severe anxiety even to this day. It’s happened 4-5 years ago at this point and i’m still paranoid. It really does hurt your child, don’t do thus
i mean thats not even that long...Im trying to numb the hatered and the resulting conflict for more than 12 years
Not if they have good reason to search it, plus depends if you bought the phone or they did
doing stuff like that just makes your child use cloud services and log out of them to hide it.
Your parents are just making sure your not looking at anything bad or doing doing anything bad. It's normal parenting stuff. The only reason you'd even get anxiety is if you were looking/doing something bad and hoping he wouldn't find out.
@@maybefoxtart nah bro, parents gave me an iphone when i started middle school without telling me they could see all my text messages and pictures that i took, then when i finally started making friends and made a joke about balls with 1 of my friends i suddenly got confronted and questioned and had to spend the next 4 years having to avoid text message and humiliatingly explaining to people how they shouldn't msg me because my parents can see it. graduated 3 years ago and it ruined my social life and i still have trust issues and 0 friends or personality
when i was 8 my parents were starting to quite honestly beg me to ask them to buy me a diary. they asked so often that i was like okay please get me a diary. i wrote in it ONE time, next day after school it was gone and i was screamed at for a long time because i wrote that my friends and i loved a (male) band. been anxious and extremely depressed since! woohoo good parenting!
I feel like that was just an excuse for them to get mad at you for no reason at all lmao
Nursing home any% speedeun WR
So basically no privacy. That’s a great setting to raise a kid.
Fucking pull off their room door too while you're at it
And removed the walls as well
@@NegusInParis01 and why not install some nice 24/7 ultra 4K HD camera's with audio too
@@NegusInParis01 my parents did that because I dyed my hair lmaooo
make their siblings secret police
“It’s not illegal to search your child’s room. So go ahead and take advantage of that.”
To be fair though, this is definitely something more for a troubled teenager rather than just a normal kid. This is for the concerned parents that will do anything for their kid, but their kid just got caught up with a bad crowd or isn’t very social and might have Depression. If parents find it early enough, they might be able to get their kids the help they need to live a good life instead of the life of an addict or no life.
cop moment
@@aaronlandry3934 would be better to try and build a good relationship with your child, searching their rooms, even if you are concerned about them, would nly do harm, and if not, would only be a momentary solution
@@Gustoberg Parents aren’t mind readers. They can’t know to talk to their kids about issues affecting them if their kid hides it from them. Privacy really isn’t that important if your child could die if their parent doesn’t find out and take measures needed to get their kid help.
Yeah, the teenager will probably be upset in the moment, but hey, wouldn’t you prefer your parents finding out and sending you to therapy after them telling you they love you instead of you keeping it secret and ending up strung out on Heroin in a few years? My cousin was a meth addict and hid it from his parents. He died at 22 from an overdose. Reality is sad sometimes and I really don’t value privacy over seeing something that tragic happen to another family
@@aaronlandry3934 You assume the parents are actually concerned about their kid's wellbeing and not their own sense of power. The latter is sadly far too common. Doing this to save your kid from heroin is one thing, but this video is clearly meant for controlling Karen-ass genetic progenitors who just want to remind their kid that they see them as nothing but property.
Speaking from experience, having your parents search your room as a teenager actually makes you want to do drugs FAR more. Now I have a propensity for drugs, and a real major anxiety problem about people being in my home/ room etc as an adult.
i love the idea that this man's son just isn't allowed to have anything in his room that can possibly contain anything like "no you arent allowed a wardrobe because you store a body in it just put your clothes on the floor dammit"
Parents that do this will unironically call their kids "their property".
my mom is like this and unironically refers to me as "the maid" lol
Well my parents property ran away and made a life for herself without them send a way better life they will ever have
@@penguengu9530 holy shit ;m; hope you're taking it well, sending love from africa -w-
Yeah
True, true.
I've been to jail. This is literally a shakedown. Even then, the corrections officers were doing their jobs and didn't sit us down to talk about drawings or empty bottles.
Parents out there, you're not a CO. You're a parent. If you do this kind of thing, prepare for your kids to never talk to you again once they leave the house.
Whats a CO?
My father literally IS a CO and he isn't quite this bad lmao
@@kettles827 corrections officer ^-^ people who work in prisons to keep inmates in line and whatnot
@@colorblockpoprocks6973 ahh ok. Thanks ^w^
Yup. I was a CO in a jail. Can confirm that this is literally just a shakedown. I didn't even like doing it to grown men, I can't imagine how someone could justify doing that to a kid.
“Go go gadget crack pipe.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I get parents wanting to make sure kids are safe, and kids are stupid sometimes, but doing this every six months for NO REASON is unacceptable. And unless there’s been reason to believe they may be considering self harm, I would NEVER search their diary.
This isn’t just bad parenting advice, that’s exactly how correctional officers search prison cells. That guy was literally telling parents to treat their children like criminals. How has he not been fired yet?
Dudes like him excel in law enforcement wym
Cops treat everyone like criminals. Including their own children. They just assume everyone is as depraved as they are.
prob wasn't his script but idk
@Chad I Had Your Mom When She Was Tight Thundercock Nah it's just basic psychology, if you treat people like prisoners they will feel like prisoners. It's a great way to lose all trust and make sure they never contact you willingly once they move out.
@Chad An Older Meme But It Checks Out Thundercock Are you defending him...? If so wtf dude.
Ah yes, the most important parenting lesson of them all - making sure you instill trust issues into your child before they’re able to live on their own
Perfect parenting if u ask me
@@avadaisy1926 yeah, if you want to make a serial killer. They are forced to learn to get away of any evidence by their own parents.
Run
@@avadaisy1926 /s
@@avadaisy1926 don’t be surprised when your kids grow up to hate you then
whats so bad about searching their room?
My parents have the belief that they would only look through my stuff if they had a justifiable reason to do so. My parents know me well enough that I'd never do drugs or hide things from them. I'd tell them straight up instead of hiding shit. They have no reason to suspect me. I wish more parents had this mindset instead of treating their teenager as a rebel or a prisoner
My parents did the same thing. Although they had this thing where they can see what I've searching up online and commenting on youtube. Sure it gets weird but they just want to make sure I'm not doing anything bad.
My parents went so far as to drill my bedroom door to the floor so that I couldn’t close it. As a socially awkward teenage boy who had few friends and was too afraid to even try drugs or anything, this confused the hell out of me and made me resent them for as long as I lived there.
As someone who is actually a counselor, if I had a nickel for every time a parent asked me “why does my child not like me/want to spend time with me” and then they tell me “oh I have their passwords to their social media, life 360 app, search their room, etc.”, I’d feel pretty financially secure. And it’s always kids who are well behaved too. And this is stuff parents have told me, if not just one parent doing all of this shit. Literally the biggest problem everyone has when it comes to any kind of bad relationship is COMMUNICATION. If you are concerned, TALK to your child without accusing them randomly. It’s not hard, that’s how being a decent person works.
Parents: Communication? But why would I wanna talk to something I don't view as human?
yup helecopter parents love to pretend like the kid's hatred towards them is just coming out of no where then wonder why they want to get as far away as possible from them as soon as possible
edit: I had a friend who had parents like this searching his room, checking his texts, alarm on window, literally like a prison. 1 year ago he only smoked weed and 2 days ago he shot up coke for the first time. Dont do this to your children, it will likely make everything much much worse.
maybe youre just bad at counseling. not gonna be surprised if there are alot of kids on your counseling that would try to unalive themself
@@God-ec8ni bro what
@@God-ec8ni is this one of my parents? Because I swear they think they’re a god too. I can’t even question their intentions or vent about something personal about one of my parents without getting made out to a bad guy.
"You see, this looks like a normal pillow but it's actually your child's moonshine distillery"
💀💀💀
"You can actually buy one of these online. Links in the pinned comment."
So you can get in trouble in Gunsolley's house for:
-having an empty container
-having keyboard cleaner
-having drawn anything related to drugs or suicide (aka being an edgy teen)
- having small plastic bags (they COULD have had drugs in them at some point)
Wild. Living here would be miserable lmao
I was an indoor kid and a video game nerd my entire childhood. If my parents had taken away my compressed air cans, it would've been a genuine inconvenience as I was using them for their intended purpose. 😂
gaming
i’m so done, i do struggle with a lot of drugs because im a teen and my mom knows but she thinks every time i have pc duster i’m trying to use it to get high 😭😭 like bro leave me the fuck alone i use it to clean my consoles
On a smaller note, I like how he's saying to respect his kids belongings while just throwing his shorts in the drawer and unrolling all of his socks
EXACTLY, literally disrespecting his things and making him fold all of it again while saying that
Exactly...and he's showing the kid that's how to "respect someone's belongings." Teaching him all kind of messed up things about what "respect" is and what actions qualify as "respectful."
If that kid ends up in a toxic & abusive relationship - either as the victim or the perpetrator - I won't be surprised. If this is how he treats his future partners, with this kind of "respect," then he will be a horrible partner himself...and a shitty father too.
Hopefully he can break the cycle, but it will be in despite of the terrible lessons he's being taught right now.
and looking through their fucking DIARY
He's probably the same parent to yell at them for having unfolded clothes
@@stinkmonger I went digital years ago because of that exact thing
"This may be a sign of suicidal ideation."
Well, with you as a father....
If it was me in that position.
Those intentions won't be intentions any longer..
@@sdk2571 they would be actions
can’t be sad if you’re dead
I was hanging around a friend who was wanted on charges and we were doing drugs (sober now thanks) and I was moving fast to get to a hidden spot to get high. He told me to slow down as he had 6 syringes loaded with dope up his bum so if they caught him on warrents he would have dope in jail. You can hide almost anything I think even the spread the cheeks and cough test can be beat. I am so glad I am clean and sober. I am so glad I wont ever (hopefully) be housed in the same place as Willy Pickton
That’s some sphincter control.
@@bensoncheung2801 I was quite disturbed when he looked at me and winced, "slow down dude slow down" im packing dope" ????wuuttttt ??? pretty gross but if your facing 3 years and the normal price of 20 goes to 300 in jail I can see the attraction. I am just so happy to never have had that happen to me. Man I love my sobriety and the good lord Jesus.
Watching this video, makes me feel insanely grateful for the parents I have.
I like how he says "Remove the child, *or in this case,* the teenager." Meaning that this fucking psychopath wants people to search their 5 year old sons bedroom cause they think he's snorting coke.
you're saying you weren't snorting coke when you were 5?
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I mean what really gets me is why not just do this while your kid is at school? There’s a guaranteed 8 hour window your kid is out of the house and you can look for a stuff while your cleaning their room or bringing in new sheets or towels etc. I don’t see a problem with making sure your kids aren’t hiding drugs or a weapon especially if you suspect something.
@@lawrencetalbot8346 Yeah but it's devoiding your child of their privacy by searching their room. Even if you suspect something. Kids don't just use drugs because they think it's cool (while that can be the case sometimes, it's not often), teenagers often go through way too much during the last year of middle school and all throughout highschool, and they find ways to relieve themselves of that stress. Instead of just searching their room and then accusing them of literally everything they own as being a drug/alcohol hiding scheme, damaging whatever little trust they have of you left, you can just ask them what's going on, and they'll probably open up about it, without any trust being sacrificed.
As an ex correctional officer, this is note for note exactly how we used to conduct searches in cells. Fucking tragic and disgusting that this is being done to children, don't treat your kids like prisoners when you should be talking to them like a respectful human being
I agree. my parents searched my stuff, but it was justified because when I was 12 or so, I was stealing their cards and stuff. Least for me it was justified. I can't imagine having this done to me for no reason
bro fr my parents changed my doorknob so i cant lock it and they're always suspicious that im "hiding something" i trusted you id tell you everything, i really would. i love my parents but i dont trust them with personal things about me.
You're like the third Ex-Correctional officer I've seen in this comment section
@@heyoyo10gaming4 good cops seem to swarm the stupid ones
@@heyoyo10gaming4 I feel like we should be seeing more there are a lot of prisons in America
My grandfather (who fostered me) used to search my room all the time.
I always thought it was amusing that he thought I’d be stupid enough to keep shit he shouldn’t find in the room with me.
He usually would just find stuff that was never even hidden but he disagreed with but it was all very arbitrary.
He got really, very upset when he started finding post it notes saying shit like “nothing here!” “Look harder” “did you think it would be that easy?”
He actually confronted me on these antagonizing notes and my response was simply that if he didn’t invade my privacy and show me that he doesn’t trust me; he wouldn’t be getting humiliated in this fashion.
Suffice it to say that we don’t talk anymore.
Never been into writing journals but reading your kid's journal is on a whole another level than searching room itself
indeed, my mom actually used to check my room and found my journal and started to read it out loud, making fun of what I wrote and I literally never again talked to her about private things in my life :c
@@GwennSpider holy shit what an horrible thing to experience, that is just so mean.
@@GwennSpider that's just fucked up
@@GwennSpider oh my god this is horrible :((
Never wrote journals for the very same reason, i'm also bad at writting so nobody will understand it anyway, even me.
*Looks through child's wallet* "You'll see this here is money. This can be used in the streets to purchase illegal drugs and other contraband" *sloppily shoves cash into pocket*
Shit that's right, obtaining money IS the first step to drug addiction. D:
100% of drug addicts started with having cash. 😆
that's what id do 100%
@Baked Beans *100% of murderers and drug dealer/addict have became a fetus before, Coincidence?*
@@celestiall7566 *I think not*
100% of murderers and drug dealers/addicts have breathed before, coincidence?
Best way to prevent drug addiction is to *educate your kids* on why it's bad. Not ignore them and then act like it's the kid's fault when they're not taught properly like Charlie says in the beginning
Was raised like this, I'm an adult now and if you want all of your kids to leave at 16-18 y/o and never talk to you again raise them like this. (don't matter if one of them was a prized golden child that got everything they wanted they will see your ways for what they are and leave as well)
This line of thinking has taught an entire generation of addicts how to best hide it from their friends and family.
literally. i remember taping the coke baggies behind posters on my walls bc i was afraid of my mom doing this shit lmfaoo
@@nataliemarlowe2516 degen
@@phantom-xb6wv pretty much yeah
@@nataliemarlowe2516 I hope you stopped doing drugs all together man.
@@squirrel_disaster i have lol. been clean for 6 months now
"If you have to be reassured that whatever you are doing isn't *technically* illegal, then it's probably very immoral..." Charlie with wisdom
This reminded me of "technically it's not incest" meme lol.
Well… I’m sure Jesus has much wisdom to tell
No it’s not immoral to search a room in *your own house*. Parents are morally obligated to ensuring their kids aren’t doing bad things so it’s the opposite of immoral.
@@downfromthereeefters It’s one of those things of just because you *can* doesn’t mean you *should*
@@downfromthereeefters it goes both ways. If you severely comprise your child's privacy then the mistrust will go both ways. Your child won't trust you. And the people who are best at lying usually have these kinds of parent. There's a limit to restricting your kids and most of other problems can be ironed out by having honest conversations with their children.
My parents don’t search my room but they do go through my phone, use life360, make me keep my phone out of my room, no social media (which I totally get and don’t think I will get when I leave home anyway), etc. I don’t really know how I feel about it. Honestly it hasn’t affected me too much because I have nothing to hide and I love my parents more than anything. I don’t think it’s really affected our relationship and I guess it’s kept me out of trouble online but I do feel it’s unnecessary sometimes. The only thing I won’t do with my own kids is read their text messages. THAT really does feel like an invasion of privacy and I feel like I have to censor my own thoughts and feelings to make sure I don’t get in trouble with my parents. I’m 15 btw
Dude I think we might be the same people lol.
I remember when I was younger I was forbidden to swear, and I used writing as an overall outlet of emotion, and therefore a lot of my writing was very over the top with things like violence, but also cuss words and such, and I never showed it to anyone, but my parents at some point looked through my school stuff and my father found the writing and came to me with so much disappointment in his voice and so much judgement that it haunts me until today. It may sound a lot less bad than it is, but it felt terrible enough in the moment to now make me feel incredibly sick when I remember it.
I think my parents only stopped going through my stuff because I at some point began snapping at them each time they did, mostly because I gained some kind of mental issue that if things aren't the way I left them I become extremely distressed and agitated. What does still bother me quite a lot is despite me being over 18 my mother hasn't learned how to knock or leave my room alone unless I am there.
Teens need a lot of privacy, really. Searches wouldn't really stop whatever the parents suspect or worry about. If the parents find something once, the teens will just become more creative with hiding stuff.
Can’t fathom why the kid would feel the need to hide anything, look at how respectfully gunsley treats all of their belongings. _Clearly_ this is an open and accepting household
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throws all of his boxer to the floor and dont bother to putting them back, "also its very important to be respectful to the child belongings". no shit
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“As a parent you have every right to search your child’s room. There is no legal wrong there.” If the only thing stopping you from being unethical or immoral are laws, then there are bigger issues at hand 😒
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Big oof
If your moral compass is solely reliant on how your actions will effect you instead of others that's a problem
its not unethical to know what your kids are doing it's called caring
@Jack Wrath nobody even knows who tf that is weirdo gtfo
What's weird about that Mtn Dew secret container is that the design is one that hasn't been used since like 2008.
Just inexplicably having a Mtn Dew bottle from the late 2000s is really weird unless the person is a collector or something.
If you try and turn your child/parent relationship into a prisoner/warden dynamic, your prisoner won’t return to their prison the moment they’re given the chance
Police officer here. If you take this route to parenting, you have essentially turned your kids into suspects and you have failed as a parent. Take an active role in yours kid’s life from day 1, be open and honest with them, and treat them like they’re a human being. Do that and they will be less likely to engage in substance abuse in the first place. They’re your kids, not inmates. Absolutely horrible advice from this sergeant.
Yep - I could do easily hide drugs from my very trusting parents, but I don't want to be anywhere near them, lol. My friend also has super trusting parents who give him privacy, and while he does smoke marijuana, once they found out, they just sat him down and talked and they've been trying to help him quit - and he WANTS to. It's a lot healthier than struggling with stuff and not telling out of fear of punishment
Dude, for real. Doesn't it seem like common sense that treating your children like this is just an all around bad idea? I mean, for God's sake, there's a MONUMENTAL differentiation between being a good, loving, strict, caring parent vs. being a fucking Nazi who forces their children to live under tyrant rule just because your career is with law enforcement. My mom was a cop, and she never changed her parenting style or utilized her job as a means of specific punishment, like homeboy is literally *telling and encouraging* other parents to do. Just, wow. How sad.
For real, it's worrying how many parents might take this seriously, since my parents already do stuff like this, but less often and more fair than this, but at least I'm not treated like a suspect, the "Get them out of the room so they don't distract you from doing a thorough search" felt more like a reason to get the kid out of their room so they can't stop you from invading their extremely personal items, like a diary. The "child out of room" tactic seriously just felt like the child was going to be an obstacle in the journey of ripping open all of their secrets and forcing yourself into their personal areas
He took his job as a sergeant way to seriously to the point that the treat his house hold like a fucking boot camp. His childrens are cadets and his wife is his general.
FTP
This man knows absolutely NOTHING about addiction, child psychology, or adolescent development. Do NOT do this with your kids ever. This parenting style backfires 100 percent of the time.
Are you speaking from experience
@@delcot5862 I can attest from experience
@@delcot5862 it's kind of obvious too LMFAOO literally look up peoples testimonies they're everywhere on the internet
So if your child is on drugs how are you supposed to find them then? Cause I guarantee if you ask your kid they will say no and just get angry and defensive about it.
@@lawrencetalbot8346 there are so many behavioral signs that a child is on drugs and if a parent can't notice that in their kid it speaks on the parent
"why don't my kids trust me?"
"You have every legal right to search your child's room."
Dude, just because you _can_ do it doesn't mean you _should_ do it.
i think that's what he was trying to imply lol
as a kid that got raised like this, I've always joked strict parents raise smarter criminals
not even a joke though i would make a horrible criminal because my dad straight up hated to come into my room even when he had a good reason
Facts! The amount of stuff I hid from my parents and got away with due to them raising me pretty similar like this makes me feel bad. On the bright side, My kids won’t go through this
Same. I'm constantly anxious and looking over my shoulder even though I'm doing nothing wrong
@@kingnothing8570 My parents don't want to come in my room because I am a degenerate. Life hacks!
Oh dang, that's a pretty snappy quote that I'll definitely be stealing.
"We need to talk about this canned air in your room, son."
"The canned air that I use for my PC?"
“What did you say? PCP? It’s even worse than I thought!!!! Brenda, the kid’s going to military school.”
@@TomJacobW Military school would be an improvement. The people who run those places are authoritarian jerks because it's a job, instead of an ingrained character flaw.
What? CP? Destroy the hard-drive!
“…no dad, I did not know you can get high off it. Thanks for the tip!”
"Are you sure you haven't been using this keyboard cleaner to get hIgH?!!?!?!!"
the only time I agree with searching your kids' room is when you undoubted smell drugs and/or suspicion of them drinking alcohol and searching for the said drugs or alcohol but searching through journals and stuff like that should be off limits
"We'll talk later"
So many years later and this phrase still sends chills down my spine.
It's why you follow up with, "Yes we will."
" I'm not angry just disappointed " was the worst one for me , it was a nod to let you know that although mum wasn't angry your dad will be home soon and he most certainly will be
🤣 we were bad. They dont make em like us anymore
this.
i wasn't even a bad kid. just expected to be perfect so this video just hurts
“There’s no legal problem with searching your child’s room”
Yeah but there’s a moral problem
The fact he didn't say there's no problem, and instead stated that there's no legal problem shows the issue with his logic.
@@kibbiking9122 yeah and he's going on that you can because they are not 18 yet and then he tells you to "take advantage of that" just shows that the people making it don't care about privacy
I hate the "legality" argument. Technically slavery and the Holocaust were legal, that is absolutely no justification to participate. But he acts like a Fascist anyway, so he would´ve loved it back then.
@@Horus4302 quit throwing the word fascist and nazi around left and right
@@shadowyyCFH he's just making a point on how people say its fine cause its legal when terrible things where legal