That’s called guarding your heart man, you don’t need to smile, just forgive by faith and stay meek and gentle, you don’t need to feel it, you can still hate the person, but forgive by faith and pray for them and something magical happens to your heart.
It's not about being the good guy. It's about being the guy you want to be. If they try to break you but you stand strong, that's where you shine and where you set yourself apart from the rest. It's the only way to go because it's the only way you will be good enough for whoever will appear in your life that has the same values as you. Love yourself brother, Never let them change you!
Quote from a friend of mine: "Just because I'm not your friend anymore, doesn't mean you're my enemy. I still want you to eat, just not at my table." It profoundly changed the way I view rejecting people, or getting rejected myself.
Love how this video showed up literally right after I cut someone out of my life. Like you, I had enough, tired of being the good guy... I do believe it is for the better though. We are just making room for our people to come in. Good things are on their way 💫 God bless you
I feel the exact same way and it’s crazy that this video showed up on my homepage when I’ve been struggling to put this feeling into words. Some past experiences force you to build these walls to protect yourself and, while they have helped me not get hurt during toxic situations, I feel like they have also been holding me back from experiencing real, authentic emotions/feelings and trusting people. You start expecting nothing from them and eventually you become numb to unexpected situations and emotions, maybe because you kinda “saw that coming” or it’s just how it is. In the long run this defense mechanism is harming us, even if we don't realize it
That’s crazy cus that’s literally how I feel about what’s happened with me. I’m coming to realize in order to move on it’s best to love em and let them go. If they decide they believe my words over someone who doesn’t even really know me anymore. That’s on their conscious and not my own. They have to deal with that with the lord. Just as Jesus said in John 15:18 “ if the world hates you, know the world hated me first” and I live by that now.
One of the first times in my life I’ve truly experienced these feelings that you’ve mentioned. My breakup with my ex and some stupid decisions afterwards still affect my day to day life and it hurts so much seeing my former friends that hate me now and who I found out never liked me in the first place. I’ve been trying so hard to meet new people but I feel broken and can’t seem to talk to anyone new. I feel like my batteries have been drained and I’m just floating now
Hit the nail on the head for my situation. It's so crazy when you've known someone for so long but they can break your heart in 1 text. Keep your head up high my brotha and take care of your mental first better days will come 🙏🏿
i feel you bro, but i must say the type of people who hurt you are wrong. But everyone isn't like that and you should keep your heart open to other people who will love and respect you. get the space you need from people and then get back into it. but be very selective of who you give that love too. AND BE VOCAL about your trust. Vocally express to people that you build relationships with in the very beginning. and anyone that really cares about you won't cross those boundaries. that is what has helped me alot in my friendships and intimate relationships.
@@KhadrianBI am a 50 year old man. I was born into some very bad circumstances including a disability, even though I can just about walk, but there are other aspects of my disability that have adversely affected my mental development as well as prospects as an adult; plus I am not good-looking, I don’t have sex-appeal, I’m not charming either, and I’m only 5’3” tall, these traits make me below average; it is only as a result of being undesirable that I have learned the true nature of people; if I was quite desirable I would have been oblivious and ignorant of the shallow nature of people. I ceased being a sociable and a people person at age 33. My advice would be that one should make their favourite creative hobbies their Number 1 love in life, if you don’t have a creative hobby that you’re passionate about then look up online for something that might interest you, invest in your favourite creative hobby above relationships, human relationships should be secondary in terms of importance, in fact relegated to position number 3 in terms of importance, and that includes sexual relationships. I would advise men to avoid forming normal sexual relationships, instead when you get the itch, just hire a prostitute; this way you will avoid all the crap that comes with having a girlfriend or a wife, plus you get to hold on to your freedom which is priceless.
Sweetie just move forward in Gods light!! You certainly have a great understanding of life!! Stay positive and stay focused on your goals!! ❤ Sending blessings!! Mamma Carolyn
If you were more intelligent than a fart you would know that when someone shares their problems with you, responding with advice about God is the least helpful, as it is not practical advice. I have been in existence for 50 years, so far I haven’t even met one intelligent Christian or Moslim.
the word called adaptability of a person with respect to different situations but at the end don`t forget your unique personality if you don`t know it then you know what to do keep it up brother
I'm appreciative that you were open and expressive about your feelings, especially since so many of us men withhold our feelings to uphold the facade of manliness and toughness. Vulnerability is sometimes only perceived as something negative, but there is true strength in vulnerability if it is applied in a healthy manner. I felt strength, and also loneliness, in your words. Accept and Acknowledge what is without allowing yourself to become numb to the world, for you are the world you experience. Much love and peace 🙏🏽✊🏽🌈
It'd nice seeing alot of us Young guys creating channels to talk about our Experiences with God,am kick starting mine January 2025....Its a journey we all have to embrace.
I sincerely hope Christ is your anchor because i have been through the sameee thing & still & He revealed why ❤ now my eyes are razor focused on his will for my life. I pray you find that peace because it’ll set you free fr 😊
While I don’t agree with putting oneself first, I definitely agree that we shouldn’t predominantly focus more on the opinions of others. This was a well thought out post, and I appreciate your honesty!
man ive been there before i believe in you, keep persevering, people can be awful but they can be so beautiful and i hope one day the people around you can be as beautiful of a person as you are
This is where I’m going through right now I feel like it’s getting worse because I haven’t had any good days lately everyday it seems like something is happening and it’s becoming very overwhelming for me to the point I don’t really wanna talk sometimes I just wanna stay quiet I just want to be left alone for an minute at least
i just found your vid i have been going through a tough time with my girl breaking up with me I actually relate to your video. keep it up man you'll blow up soon
Other than saying we have to find likened people, we also have to realize that they are human too. Its good to vent, but they got to see that this is what they really do to people bro.
Be you.itscgiidcto put yourself first it's good to put all you've got first sometimes it's good to be selfish it's called stating alive . If they don't like it let them go. Trust is built up and demolished like a wrecking ball and you can't like you say expect it to be the same. Stay you boundaries be the good guy and break away it's called asserting boundaries and it's called self care and if they dont like it tough be more viking and grrrr. Keep on going. Keep doing what your doing. Create boundaries because you care about you and your life. Stay you. Well done.
im done caring im done acting tough so much stuff happen in my life it just killed me i don't feel much of anything no more but anger and sadness and nobody care either my own family talk to me like they don't know it makes me mad, then i can't trust my mom or dad with anything no more because they're the reason I'm like this, i don't got friends I'm in a new school i don't know nobody can't show or express my feelings then my mom talking to me like she been going through so much but i been throwing this since i 6 or 7 it might not but they killed me i can't even be a kid no more. I'm in the streets like one of these members. I have bad grades, and then the only thing that's been my therapy is football, and the season is almost over. I don't know if I can take it anymore.
thanks for sharing keep your head up, life is going to bring those obstacles to only mold you. Try and find God and he will guide you through the tuff times, God got me out of a lot of things i thought i couldn’t handle.
Being a good guy means not only to others but 2 urself also, it goes both ways. U can't be a good guy to others without being urself. It's ethier fuck everybody or fuck urself. Being nice don't mean u a bitch it just mean u not mean, angry, spiteful, unfaithful, hateful, covet as a person. Being nice iz one side to u but it doesn't define u as a person. But u also have that dog ñ u to fuck everybody off. I've gotten used 2 being fuck over in life so much so that I didn't know who meant good & who meant harm so my phobia was somebody being nice 2 me cause I was taken advantage of in everyway cause of that. So literally ran away from folks cause I didn't wanted to be taken advantage of 😢. That exposure 2 that was one of the reasons why inversely ruined the chance friendships. I'm still finding today people had love 4 me but I was trapped in the matrix & the sunken place 😔😮💨😌. So I didn't want to be fucked with or get fucked. I believed everybody was out 2 get me. I was lonely until last year. It ramshackled my system. I just had 2 share that with u 💯
i broke my ex trust and i didn’t mean to do it, and i want him back but im not sure if he wants me back in his life. I do like him even now it’s been a month and he is like you in a way. i’m sure that he’s tired of getting hurt and i hurt him in a way i didn’t mean to. but i do want him back and i apologize constantly.
I hope youre doing much better now and holding your peace :) Jesus loved us first and God gave us over to Jesus. Hold onto that and what Christ did for us during your best times and worst moments 😊🙏💕
Acceptance. It is what it is. We learn. We heal. We are all ok. Thank u for being raw n honest.
yes for sure !
That’s called guarding your heart man, you don’t need to smile, just forgive by faith and stay meek and gentle, you don’t need to feel it, you can still hate the person, but forgive by faith and pray for them and something magical happens to your heart.
It's not about being the good guy. It's about being the guy you want to be. If they try to break you but you stand strong, that's where you shine and where you set yourself apart from the rest. It's the only way to go because it's the only way you will be good enough for whoever will appear in your life that has the same values as you.
Love yourself brother, Never let them change you!
Thank you man !
That's really stupid I used be like that and suffer then I changed and now I accept people for what they are .
Quote from a friend of mine:
"Just because I'm not your friend anymore, doesn't mean you're my enemy. I still want you to eat, just not at my table."
It profoundly changed the way I view rejecting people, or getting rejected myself.
you can give a person a second chance, but never a third one.
Love how this video showed up literally right after I cut someone out of my life. Like you, I had enough, tired of being the good guy...
I do believe it is for the better though. We are just making room for our people to come in. Good things are on their way 💫
God bless you
Really felt this, bro. It's so hard because you really still care about them but we all heard the saying "if you love them, let them go."
REAL !
I feel the exact same way and it’s crazy that this video showed up on my homepage when I’ve been struggling to put this feeling into words. Some past experiences force you to build these walls to protect yourself and, while they have helped me not get hurt during toxic situations, I feel like they have also been holding me back from experiencing real, authentic emotions/feelings and trusting people. You start expecting nothing from them and eventually you become numb to unexpected situations and emotions, maybe because you kinda “saw that coming” or it’s just how it is. In the long run this defense mechanism is harming us, even if we don't realize it
For sure!!! Healthier relationships in my life moving forward!!! 🥰🎶❤️❤️❤️🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
yes !
That’s crazy cus that’s literally how I feel about what’s happened with me. I’m coming to realize in order to move on it’s best to love em and let them go. If they decide they believe my words over someone who doesn’t even really know me anymore. That’s on their conscious and not my own. They have to deal with that with the lord. Just as Jesus said in John 15:18 “ if the world hates you, know the world hated me first” and I live by that now.
One of the first times in my life I’ve truly experienced these feelings that you’ve mentioned. My breakup with my ex and some stupid decisions afterwards still affect my day to day life and it hurts so much seeing my former friends that hate me now and who I found out never liked me in the first place. I’ve been trying so hard to meet new people but I feel broken and can’t seem to talk to anyone new. I feel like my batteries have been drained and I’m just floating now
just take your time and heal
🔥 Being around people primarily family with low self awareness is exhausting!
Hit the nail on the head for my situation. It's so crazy when you've known someone for so long but they can break your heart in 1 text. Keep your head up high my brotha and take care of your mental first better days will come 🙏🏿
🙏🏾
i feel you bro, but i must say the type of people who hurt you are wrong. But everyone isn't like that and you should keep your heart open to other people who will love and respect you. get the space you need from people and then get back into it. but be very selective of who you give that love too. AND BE VOCAL about your trust. Vocally express to people that you build relationships with in the very beginning. and anyone that really cares about you won't cross those boundaries. that is what has helped me alot in my friendships and intimate relationships.
Thanks my friend !
@@KhadrianBI am a 50 year old man. I was born into some very bad circumstances including a disability, even though I can just about walk, but there are other aspects of my disability that have adversely affected my mental development as well as prospects as an adult; plus I am not good-looking, I don’t have sex-appeal, I’m not charming either, and I’m only 5’3” tall, these traits make me below average; it is only as a result of being undesirable that I have learned the true nature of people; if I was quite desirable I would have been oblivious and ignorant of the shallow nature of people. I ceased being a sociable and a people person at age 33. My advice would be that one should make their favourite creative hobbies their Number 1 love in life, if you don’t have a creative hobby that you’re passionate about then look up online for something that might interest you, invest in your favourite creative hobby above relationships, human relationships should be secondary in terms of importance, in fact relegated to position number 3 in terms of importance, and that includes sexual relationships. I would advise men to avoid forming normal sexual relationships, instead when you get the itch, just hire a prostitute; this way you will avoid all the crap that comes with having a girlfriend or a wife, plus you get to hold on to your freedom which is priceless.
Bro I been feeling like this for awhile. My same exact sentiments on friendships and relationships
Sweetie just move forward in Gods light!! You certainly have a great understanding of life!! Stay positive and stay focused on your goals!! ❤ Sending blessings!! Mamma Carolyn
If you were more intelligent than a fart you would know that when someone shares their problems with you, responding with advice about God is the least helpful, as it is not practical advice. I have been in existence for 50 years, so far I haven’t even met one intelligent Christian or Moslim.
You are right!!! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing these things with everyone it's very brave of you and its nice to hear someone who feels the same way
the word called adaptability of a person with respect to different situations but at the end don`t forget your unique personality if you don`t know it then you know what to do keep it up brother
yes this is real right here !
Real! It's painful mehn we can really on rely on God to ne perfect ❤
I'm appreciative that you were open and expressive about your feelings, especially since so many of us men withhold our feelings to uphold the facade of manliness and toughness. Vulnerability is sometimes only perceived as something negative, but there is true strength in vulnerability if it is applied in a healthy manner. I felt strength, and also loneliness, in your words. Accept and Acknowledge what is without allowing yourself to become numb to the world, for you are the world you experience. Much love and peace 🙏🏽✊🏽🌈
It'd nice seeing alot of us Young guys creating channels to talk about our Experiences with God,am kick starting mine January 2025....Its a journey we all have to embrace.
Earned a sub bruv. I've been feeling exactly like this for a while now and it helps to see someone talk about it.
It happened to me enough to the point where I can only trust my closest family and a couple friends. Learning to live with yourself is powerful
word bro.
I sincerely hope Christ is your anchor because i have been through the sameee thing & still & He revealed why ❤ now my eyes are razor focused on his will for my life. I pray you find that peace because it’ll set you free fr 😊
While I don’t agree with putting oneself first, I definitely agree that we shouldn’t predominantly focus more on the opinions of others.
This was a well thought out post, and I appreciate your honesty!
I agree I cant do it anymore either
don’t give up
man ive been there before i believe in you, keep persevering, people can be awful but they can be so beautiful and i hope one day the people around you can be as beautiful of a person as you are
thanks i appreciate that 🖤
I know the feeling and it hurts cause all you want is love it's the hard reality of being a man or good guy
This is where I’m going through right now I feel like it’s getting worse because I haven’t had any good days lately everyday it seems like something is happening and it’s becoming very overwhelming for me to the point I don’t really wanna talk sometimes I just wanna stay quiet I just want to be left alone for an minute at least
lovely
🔥🔥🔥
This video hit me too hard...
U got this brother!
i just found your vid i have been going through a tough time with my girl breaking up with me I actually relate to your video. keep it up man you'll blow up soon
I fw this video heavy, it’s not that I don’t care about you it’s just that I love myself too much to let this continue
this is so real bro
Other than saying we have to find likened people, we also have to realize that they are human too. Its good to vent, but they got to see that this is what they really do to people bro.
I love making videos, but the constant pressure to keep up with trends and algorithms is really stressful. It’s hard to stay authentic!
yes, just keep it up !
same here.
MY BOY !
Yoo bro 🖤 you a real inspiration man
Be you.itscgiidcto put yourself first it's good to put all you've got first sometimes it's good to be selfish it's called stating alive . If they don't like it let them go. Trust is built up and demolished like a wrecking ball and you can't like you say expect it to be the same. Stay you boundaries be the good guy and break away it's called asserting boundaries and it's called self care and if they dont like it tough be more viking and grrrr. Keep on going. Keep doing what your doing. Create boundaries because you care about you and your life. Stay you. Well done.
thank you.
im done caring im done acting tough so much stuff happen in my life it just killed me i don't feel much of anything no more but anger and sadness and nobody care either my own family talk to me like they don't know it makes me mad, then i can't trust my mom or dad with anything no more because they're the reason I'm like this, i don't got friends I'm in a new school i don't know nobody can't show or express my feelings then my mom talking to me like she been going through so much but i been throwing this since i 6 or 7 it might not but they killed me i can't even be a kid no more. I'm in the streets like one of these members. I have bad grades, and then the only thing that's been my therapy is football, and the season is almost over. I don't know if I can take it anymore.
thanks for sharing keep your head up, life is going to bring those obstacles to only mold you. Try and find God and he will guide you through the tuff times, God got me out of a lot of things i thought i couldn’t handle.
Real
Being a good guy means not only to others but 2 urself also, it goes both ways. U can't be a good guy to others without being urself. It's ethier fuck everybody or fuck urself. Being nice don't mean u a bitch it just mean u not mean, angry, spiteful, unfaithful, hateful, covet as a person. Being nice iz one side to u but it doesn't define u as a person. But u also have that dog ñ u to fuck everybody off. I've gotten used 2 being fuck over in life so much so that I didn't know who meant good & who meant harm so my phobia was somebody being nice 2 me cause I was taken advantage of in everyway cause of that. So literally ran away from folks cause I didn't wanted to be taken advantage of 😢. That exposure 2 that was one of the reasons why inversely ruined the chance friendships. I'm still finding today people had love 4 me but I was trapped in the matrix & the sunken place 😔😮💨😌. So I didn't want to be fucked with or get fucked. I believed everybody was out 2 get me. I was lonely until last year. It ramshackled my system. I just had 2 share that with u 💯
I’m glad you shared !
i broke my ex trust and i didn’t mean to
do it, and i want him back but im not sure if he wants me back in his life. I do like him even now it’s been a month and he is like you in a way. i’m sure that he’s tired of getting hurt and i hurt him in a way i didn’t mean to. but i do want him back and i apologize constantly.
💖
I hope youre doing much better now and holding your peace :)
Jesus loved us first and God gave us over to Jesus. Hold onto that and what Christ did for us during your best times and worst moments 😊🙏💕
Fr
What’s the song you used?
it’s a instrumental to a song i made
@@KhadrianB it’s fire you should post it frl I would use it in a video I make
@@ShowTime_Star bet