How to Know They’ll Cheat on You - Cheating Expert Reveals Warning Signs! - Neil Strauss
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Today, Lewis sits down with best-selling author Neil Strauss to explore the complex world of relationships, infidelity, and how to spot a manipulator. Strauss opens up about his own journey from infidelity to intimacy rehab, sharing powerful lessons on rebuilding trust and nurturing secure connections. He delves into the psychology behind cheating and the signs that can indicate whether a partner might be unfaithful. Strauss provides a candid look into his most secure and insecure moments in adulthood, discusses the challenges of monogamy, and reveals the keys to a healthy relationship.
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0:00 Intro
00:03:34 - Recovery after Cheating and Signs of a Potential Cheater
00:07:28 - The Evolution of Relationship Structures
00:11:19 - Choosing Healthy Relationships
00:14:49 - Insecurity in Relationships
00:18:24 - Healing and Self-Reflection
00:22:11 - The Healing Process and the Power of Therapy Groups
00:25:44 - Creating a Safe Space for Men to Share Their Feelings
00:29:06 - The Impact of Enmeshment
00:32:38 - The Inner Child and Emotional Safety
00:36:18 - Healing and Transforming Through Personal Journey
00:40:18 - The Key Question of Behavior and Belief
00:43:59 - Awareness and Honesty in Relationships
00:47:31 - Setting Boundaries in Relationships
00:50:57 - Communicating in Relationships
00:54:14 - The Importance of Uncomfortable Conversations
00:57:37 - The Toxicity of Seeking Self-Esteem from Others
01:01:20 - Training in Seduction and Manipulation
01:05:23 - Techniques of Manipulation
01:08:58 - Signs of a Healthy Relationship
01:12:37 - Manipulation Techniques: Circles of Hell, Flattery & Anchoring
01:16:12 - Lessons Learned from Childhood
01:19:42 - Acknowledgement of Neil's Commitment
01:23:00 - Defining Greatness and Happiness
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I love what you do, you are great 😇Love to you’re heart and mind✨🙏✨❤️☮️
I suspect betrayal in multi partners because rarely a small portion of pop is healthy!!!
Not wanting to explore at all. The more u learn the more I underarm why people are so heartbroken
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The entire point of monogamy is to create a bubble of emotional and physical intimacy. When that is broken, it's game over.
Really I don't understand what exactly monogamy,
Polyamory closed relationships can too. Good point!
Obviously. Cheaters have a character disorder.
Now European scientists in Sweden or somewhere found out that Artificial intelligence, is not very intelligent
it puts together wrong information about humans, all kinds of inaccurate information about humans and it looks like a strange mixture "mambo jumbo" nonsense
or like some strange caricature of information.
....But they found pout AI has very strong "convincing" power.
They found out that Artificial intelligence is able to convince people about "it´s own" truth by 82 percent.
So be careful what you read on internet and dont take it seriously, if some channel or article say to you some nonsense, it may be also result of AI "convincing" powers and strategies. Especially dont give these informations to little children or to teenagers who dont understand life and who need positive example.
@@Sarara-mv5sxyeah, some people are just much more prone to shitty behaviour. They’re fairly easy to spot. Trump is a great example
when somebody cheats, it is essentially over.
Not for a man
When my husband cheated, he always gave himself away. He told me about the person for a start.. one was south American and he started learning Spanish.. saying she'd offered to help and do a language exchange. 😅
They usually tell you about the person but create plausibility for them.
That's true.
So true!
#TRUTH
OR in my case, have a great disdain toward them!
Yep! Sometimes even introduce them to you! Narcassist love to tell on themselves! Believe what they say! That's not their "Home girl "!
I will not accept infidelity, violence and addiction in my relationship...
@@embethnewlandauthor my ex husband has addiction with gambling and he put me and the kids in trouble, so yeah addiction in any form...
@@VivienReactsI'm not trying to be critical, at all. But I agree with the addiction thing being nebulous.
Would you mind, please share your definition of addiction? Is it about the result of the action, like, in your case, damage.
I am sorry to hear about your situation. I sympathize. ❤️
Every time I think of addiction, I always go back to Dr. Matés perspective, which changed my own.
@@anoncspan4129 i didn't know he has that gambling addiction until someone came to our house and he said that our house belongs to them bcuz he sold our house behind my back, and I confronted it to him also I called his mom and brother so they can deal with him also, and that time he confessed that he sold our house and cars and he has pile of debts bcuz of gambling that he's been doing for long time 🙈🤷
IMO addiction is the overriding impulse to participate/do something that is out of alignment with the direction you want for your life (or relationship). If “it” is interfering and you can’t stop, but you don’t want your life to head in that direction, it’s an addiction. If you like what you’re doing, want to keep doing it, and other people have a problem with it, you’re just not in alignment to be in a relationship with them. So end the relationship (instead of hiding the addiction).
Create boundaries based on what you just said.
Betrayal trauma is huge to get over and heal from. Especially when the one cheating hasn't learned from his mistake..
"Her" mistakes in my case and yes I am completely devastated but I have healed before and will do it again. I was moving across the pond to change someone's world and my own. Very sad....
“Their” mistakes. Now we sound like alphabet soup crowd.
Guessing you’re not a millennial. Women cheat more often than men do now. They are enrolling in college at higher rates, getting higher paying jobs, etc so they have more opportunity like men used to. Not to mention the dating apps giving them instant validation and opportunity.
Probably because that person is selfish and truly doesn’t care how the behavior effects their partner
*her choice
Not every woman doesn’t want sex during menopause and every woman does not experience post partum depression. Feels like an excuse for bored men to cheat during these times in a woman’s life.
I don't think he meant all women, he was speaking about a specific relationship.
I had post partum depression really bad on my last child..never experienced it before and I have had multiple pregnancies
If she /he is sexual and a good love life may be forever if lack is evident. urges are prevalent and evident in behaviour arousement to energy reciprocation within a loving respectful union 💕 or shy. Single
Men need to get more clued up on how women's bodies work. My husband used to work with older married men and he'd listened to their advice. Men may have a job that is extremely stressful and they just want to come home to piece and quiet (within reason if you've got kids). Have grown up conversations instead of screaming at each other.Unfortunately, in the world there's lots of dysfunctional people and trying be in a relationship with these type of people is a recipe for disaster.
Agreed
Consent isn't an issued when the partner isn't aware of what is REALLY going on. It's humiliating
Respected and Pick-Up Artist are contradictory terms.
he seems really awkward and giggly for a successful pick up artist. if he was around me i would just think he seemed like a weirdo.
Right. Because they use tools of manipulation to get what they want. I think they are very unethical.
I let men know up front that if they cheat, I cannot stay. I’m gone.
I have not cheated as exposed to temptation as I’ve been. I don’t understand cheating and so I do not accept it!
Infidelity is a dealbreaker.
Safe People by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
Never Forgive Infidelity - Sam Vaknin podcast
Cheating Triangulation In Sick Relationships ---Sam Vaknin
Interrogate Your Partners Their Past Is Your Future - Sam Vaknin podcast
The Genetics Of Cheaters --Maken Murphy podcast
So he knows what to do if he wants to get rid of you.😅😅😅
@@BUBBLESPOGO Or he can save all the drama and admit, confront it’s time to go?! Drama Free. 🆓
I think womans who cheat cannot stand to husbands who cheat on them.
@@BUBBLESPOGOThat behavior is exhibited by an emotionally weak and immature man
I still don’t think you answered the question about how do you recognize a person that is going to cheat?
Agreed. They never said the thing.
At 42:40 they do get into the answer, briefly.
He said several times - enmeshment with a parent.
@@chocolatemonster949would enmeshment with a sibling be the same?
Women usually tolerate it for financial reasons and children. It is so immature for men to think that their need for sex is more important than their wife and their knew born. It's very immature and selfish.
Bingo! What happened to personal responsibility and accountability? People are so selfish and all about their own needs and me me me these days. Crazy.
WHAT ABOUT ME
WHAT ABOUT ME
WHAT ABOUT ME
The mantra of the cheater!
Give to charity what about me feels great. And keys to peace
And it's also immature of a wife to get into a relationship with a man that she doesn't want go have sex with. (Sex is the glue) to the relationship
financial security will always give you the power to make the right choice for you, that's why they take financial freedom away from you...men and women.
Makes me want to stay single.
Hahhahaa me too 😂😂
@@eagleeyeeagleeye3143omg I can't believe what you said 😅...hoping you re just joking😅
@@irinadumitru9088 not joking :))) 🤟🏻
@@irinadumitru9088 why is that insuling for you? Wake up we're almost 2025 🤣
Like you have a choice
Gosh, Lewis is such a mature man. His empathy and love for his girlfriend/fiancé is palpable.
This guy's not honestly talking about relationships. He will turn with the wind it seems from hearing about his life and choices back and forth. Not worth really listening to him
we called them "slimey"
Flakey narcissist with tons of word salad coming out of his mouth , honestly one of the most basic and immature conversations I’ve ever heard between 2 older men like them - embarrassing
he gives a weird vibe
Omg you guys are my spirit animals, he wreaks of slimmy pratt …….
You lost me at polyamory as being functional and healthy for raising children. About four minutes in yeah, no.
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Where did you find this guy, Lewis? His life sounds like he swings from one extreme to another. This conversation is difficult to focus on and follow. His voice is also very irritating.He is considered an expert?
To me it sounds better than many other factors that disrupt childhood development. Like not having parents, when your parents are addicts, or having a parent with untreated mental illness.
Thanks for your expert opinion. I wonder how many polyamorous families you have interviewed to conclude your thesis that "it isnt fuctional and healthy for raising children".
You miss the point
Cheat on me and we are done in the spot. The trust is gone and I will never trust you again. Cheating for me is a guaranteed ending to my relationship with me. More power to women who can forgive.. not a chance in hell for me.
I hope you never do anything that a close friend won’t forgive. Withholding forgiveness turns a person bitter.
How is having no self-control and boundries, hurting a partners feelings healthy for raising kids? Because that is what polyamory is. Not being adult enough to make a decision, comit to one person and decide each day to love that person, no matter how much temptations there are elsewhere.
No it isn't. It's an admission that anyone can care for more than one person. That's just a fact. Polyamory is an attempt to allow the heart to do what it naturally does.
@@northofyou33 you are not talking about the heart, but about the egoistic s*x drive. It is our self-control that distinguishes us from animals.
I agree polyamourous relationship is a response to not being able to establish deep connections. You just can't have that one significant connection with morecthan one. The fact he "has seen" happy families like that give me a hint he has not seen far enough and close enough. Polyamourous relationships are a chaotic life on all levels - emotional and physical and create only harmful, desease-prone future.
Um, no. It’s not.
You don't have a clue how much work people have to do in polyamorous relationships. 😂
Wanting to be a better person, consciously and working at it, is my pre-requisite for any friendship, and most definitely an intimate relationship! No one is perfect, and we all have triggers, so starting a relationship with an agreement that makes both parties feel safe is brilliant!
I disagree. You can change yourself but it doesn’t mean they ever will and because you have changed, you’re perspective will change and the relationship won’t work. I’m all for growth but if there’s only one person willing to do the work then it will never work out because we’re always evolving and all have different seasons of ourselves.
Personality and character is fixed. People don't often change. Never doubt patterns AKA The Track Record.
@@sherriflemming3218 totally agree! Two things you can’t change
I see it more like if you change yourself it's about healing the wounds that made you attract that kind of non-monogamous partner in the first place.
@@EllieE-kz3zr wow. So true. And you’re so right.
Thank you Neil. Great wake up call to stay away from TOXIC PEOPLE. ❤
Exactly! He mentioned narcissistic individuals!
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The thing about children raised in polyamorous relationships being healthier is pure nonsense. For starters, the motivation of bashing the nuclear family has always been a theme in academia at least since the Communist Manifesto. In terms of science, polyamorous relationships are scarcer in comparison to monogamous ones. Therefore, you will find all kinds of people in monogamous relationships. The chance to get a more representative sample among the polyamorous ones will be way harder.
The stats show that the nuclear family worlds for less than half of the country. Facts don’t care about your feelings
In the process of selling and packing my things in order to be with someone in the UK only for her to totally lie, deceive, and cheat. So broken hearted that people are like this.
@@d.6861 Agreed.....dodged the biggest bullet of my life to date for sure. I help others everyday so I got that part covered. The heart is powerful and heals up if we stay in a good vibe. Thx for the reply!
"Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" by Lindsay Gibson is the book Lewis mentions and everyone should absolutely read it. It changed my life and made so much sense for some of what Ive struggled with.
How can you find a person who is open to start the relationship with therapy? There's none. I think you're one in a million Lewis! I agree with you!
I was blessed to find her 🙏
It works only in the beginning. Before everything starts.
There are people. I would be upfront in the early dating phase & watch for their sincere commitment to it (through enough time), etc. Be honest with yourself, and be willing to leave if this is a deal breaker. Take care.
Probably the type of ppl who think consent forms are a thing both parties sign before having sex, aka progressive incels and cat ladies.
Probably the type of ppl who think consent forms are a thing both parties should sign with a legal witness, aka progressive incels and cat ladies.
He has dabbled in a different type of lifestyle I would not, but I can still appreciate his perspective. I like what he said, if you aren't healthy in one type of relationship you won't be healthy in another. Which says to me it's the integrity of the person....being open and honest, real with self and their partner. And, I can see poly relationships raising healthy children. It takes a village. Traditional homes fail every day. Another great thought provoking conversation.
Thank you so much for this episode. I know this is a super hard conversation to have. When I read the truth by Neil, it changed my life forever. It’s arguably the most important book I’ve ever read in my life because I grew up in a very similar way to him, while obviously different so much of his story and mine related. And when that book 1st came out, I was kind of spiraling and trying to figure out why my life and relationships are such a disaster and then I realize the same thing that he did, and it solidified my need to go on this healing journey. So thank you so much for this episode. It means the world to me just as someone who loves both you guys.🔥
So glad it resonated
Jesus , the most important book you have ever read? That’s so so sad considering the masterpieces that have long existed in this world. Unbelievable
@@esmeramsay8179 have you read it? I said for me... Not the world. I've read over 400 books and written three. I stand by what I said
I love how you made the whole thing exposing through Psychology studies! I already said that the most prevalent personality structure at this point is the narcissistic one!...wow Lewis I wish more ppl would consider doing inner healing work! Much love and light to you....Healing oneself is a very long process taking a long amount of time!
I really appreciated this interview and this perspective.It would be easier if we were all honest with each other in relationships as to what works and what our needs and values are instead of wearing masks.I can't do polyamorous relationships or open relationships and I'm always upfront about it, also loyalty is one one of my highest values because it is about respect.I rather someone walk away then hide behind my back.Own it as things happen and people fall out of love, just don't be the "have my cake and eat it too" kind of person.That is called being a hypocrite.Thanks again, very enlightening 🙏🧡
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Lewis, the pain of deception is partly described as "not knowing." That's the definition of deception. If someone wants to deceive you, they will and you won't know it until the deception is revealed.
Mr. Howes this guy has an opinion but I don't believe healthy believers in Christ Cheat I don't believe everyone cheats. Communication is so important and Christ at the Center is so important. I truly know people that don't cheat and they life shows that. It's work .
hahaha you sound naive sorry
Lame
@@demigoddess3311 it's ok just keep praying
I never beg and I stopped praying I have everything I need and ever wanted without a saviour or any man
Amen!
'Ex-wife & best friend...'
Someone hasn't figured out what kinds of lines need to be drawn in order to give a monogamous relationship any chance.
I really appreciated the honesty of the both of you. It is beautiful to watch.
Thanks gentlemen for the content!
Hi Lewis!
Thanks for sharing 🙏🙌
Thank you so much for watching!
Awesome information
Thank you 🙏 Relationship can be very difficult
Sounds like classic narcissistic behavior to me!
Love what you said about feeling like “the big me can take care of the little me”. I think that is the ultimate goal. Working on that as well. Great interview.
So...how will I know if they'll cheat on me? The conversation got off topic & never addressed that... After being cheated on & it beinh hiddem for years, THAT'S why I'm watching this video. I'm now single & looking for my person (who I tbought i had found) & having a hard time with trust...
What a great conversation. Thank you for sharing this
You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡
Trust your gut
Thank you. This is what every sweetheart should know. It’s the missing “sex education” lecture. Often learned too late in life. Thanks again.
Lewis s point was not to do a ,sex education , but exposing cheaters!
This choice of guests is a surprise for me. I am a big fan of you Lewis, and I always see the good in all your interviews for the past 3 years. This guest is not a good representation of the type of relationship most people strive to have. His values are not good, and I liken this to a criminal teaching people his tricks to help avoid interaction with this kind of a person. No real value to me as a spiritual person looking for growth and guidance in this new world. I could not listen to this for too long, because my time is valuable and can’t waste it. Maybe he was a sex addict before the term was coined.
Agree. I'm an intelligent, educated, well-travelled woman, who interacts conversationally with many people from many different cultures. i am an American who moved to France at age 60. I found it difficult to comprehend much of his responses to the questions Lewis asked. Surprised that Lewis scraped the bottom of the barrel with this guest.
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Same
As a Kavkaz & Kazakh lady myself 😂 I'm not really surprised about the Kazakh story because I even heard about dating agencies in Eastern Europe that are specified in training the ladies there to get in a relationship with men abroad. But to the main topic of cheatin, I'm very honest that I NEVER couldn't reunite with such kind of man again because I was & am still often unfortunately a crush to married men around me but I'm giving zero effs about them & in my hotel job, I even saw such kinds of men with their affairs in their arms & still acted like "The Very Hungry Caterpillar" by checking out & flirting with another ladies including me. That's why I really appreciate my quiet single life because since all happenings, I have seriously trust conflicts❣️
Yes. I appreciated the comment about going to counseling in the beginning of the relationship. Genius!
Yes Lewis, I enjoyed this! Very insightful!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Hi dudes, where are the signs of them possibly cheating??
Super interesting episode! Thank you 🙏 🎉
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
I loved this conversation and the enthusiasm to connect you both have! “The truths don’t work if you don’t find them yourself.”
Word salad
That was fascinating! Thank you Lewis you often bring the best food for thought.😊💋💚 Lewis can you please put here the link to the previous interview you did with him? I tried to find but I could not. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
Constant discussion sounds as a good recipe. I think it's like a successful business that always gets customer feedback in order to maintain changing customer satisfaction. Feedback is communication and it has to be non-stop and open and honest.
Thank you for this information to be revealed! 😊
Renowned but defo not respected, at least by me.
Who asked?
Very interesting and is so true!
it's nice to see neil again, his book the game was the first book recommended to read after a heart brake and that lead to my path of self improvement and my healing journey.
I have found that being in a relationship where one person is ok with accepting lots of help and attention, but when the other partner needs help, there is radio silence. Be very careful with getting involved with narcissists, a tough feat since some experts say 1 in 6 are narcissistic. A relationship with a narc is always one sided after in initial honeymoon phase. Being alone is 1000 times better.
Amazing to hear, see and experience men being so vulnerable, authentic and open to help us exponentially in our healing journeys. You chaps deserve medals/trophies for sharing and enlightening us. Thank you from the heart
I'm not buying it.. .
😂😂you can’t read people at all , this is all so shallow and silly it made me laugh at their weird basic interactions and poor questions, really sad and odd to see men at this age talking like this my goodness!
Excellent conversation.
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!
You need to invite Teal Swan on your show. She’s the expert on the root causes of this topic as well as relationships.
I completely agree!! She is amazing!!
There was a recent documentary called The Deep End on Teal Swan as being accused of being a cult leader
Would love to see her
Look up batel skater...
Teals the truest deal ❤
Thank you so much to you both, especially for sharing the personal relationship with this topic with transparency 🙏 very powerful, chills. Such an important conversation/topic for all of us to consider in our own relationship and lives.
Yes
Cheating expert? Wow! What the world has come to.
i asked the same question about him being the most respected
and renown pick up artist in the world
The most renowned pick up artist is like the most beautiful insta model, not hot to normal ppl.
Can’t imagine he ever ‘picked up’ any woman with that voice and awkward demeanor, delusional little story teller I think
He is all over the place… parroting therapy lingo giving off a sense of incencerity- creepy vibes
It's too bad that the dissenting voices are the loudest in this comment section. This interview was insightful and had a lot of gems. Neil has lived a life of curiosity, exploration, and adventure into some things I wouldn't dare step into. He's gained wisdom and shares it through his talents. It's okay to take what you want to and leave the rest. I enjoy his books...even The Game, which was infuriating and informational. Lewis was amazing as always. I enjoyed this session. Thank you!
I 100% percent agree some people in the comments missed out on wonderful enlightment in this conversation because they can not get past their own judgment .
Yes, thank you both.
I love your insights on encashment.
Thank you!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
😮thank you so very much for sharing this because it's a trigger for me I realize just now and I realize now I have a trauma I have to deal with ty so much for bringing it to my reality. It really helps.
Can someone explain to me how another person can want to have one night stands when they truly believe they’re in a relationship with someone they love? 13:58
I can understand how some people can have sex without emotional connection, and I can understand how people can have sex with an emotional connection, but I can’t understand how one can have an emotional connection/love and then have sex with a different person with no emotional attachment.
Make sure you watch him closely by getting a clone copy of his messenger apps, to know what his been up to and activities going on backdoor
You all have made me realise that therapy - especially as a family - is necessary.👍🙏
I learned a lot from this interview! ❤
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Would love to hear more of the signs of a cheater x
How do you know if someone is using you?
How do they respond when you say no to what they want.
Theres your answer.
Thank you gentlemen for this most interesting presentation !!! Good communication is a VERY and ESSENTIAL key in any relationship...
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you Lewis for bringing my legend (Neil) on your show, this conversation is so advantages in my life at this present moment in time, and I have to confess that I have listened to this podcast via Google podcast and now on UA-cam and I have just completed the To Die For and cant wait for the 4 June, Love sent always from South Africa.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
As a general rule, therapy is helpful. That said, it’s not a good idea to go to therapy with a partner who has significant controlling or narcissistic tendencies. You refrain from telling the truth (bc that type of person is easily hurt, and you’ll “pay” for it later - after your therapy session), and that kind of partner tends to easily point out what’s “wrong” with you, that makes them a “victim”. And that type of person can be charming, and very convincing - bc they genuinely only see things from their own perspective. The therapist inadvertently ends up helping the partner with controlling/narcissistic tendencies.
Yes great content
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Great show
Thanks for being here! 🧡
Great discussion! So many questions remain: What is a healthy relationship? Do most women ever do the work on themselves when they cheat or do they often just blame their partners?
Commitment is to transparency - I can make my own decision based on that. Which isn't happening in a broken relationship
I still didn't get the sign
He never did address this, he kept bouncing off subject down another rabbit hole. Ironically it’s the name of this video, yet he never gives the signs.
I love Neil. He was my introduction to improvement when i had given up years ago. I have read a lot of his stuff but found The Truth to be hard going yet at the same time interesting. Not sure I could manage those kind of relationships but some may do well. Anyway good content Lewis as always I am new to this channel but love what I have found so far
Thanks
Lewis, I loved this pod episode. It's too bad to see a majority of your commentors being so negative on this thought provoking guest.
I thought there were some exceedingly helpful life tips in it.
Thank you!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Awesome eye opening podcast. Was with someone for 5 years that kept me completely away from his mom until the final year, which revealed they were completely enmeshed and she had full control of him. So either he would avoid her altogether, which didn't seem healthy to me, so I kept pushing for peace, which led to losing him completely and him getting under her spell and changing personality entirely. He was never fully present in the relationship, both of them were functional alcoholics and habitual liers, and it's so satisfying to learn why it was the case. Thank you. 😌 Learning lessons the hard way!
Anyone got a short hand version? Tldr? This vid is waaaay too long 😮💨
Stay single.
Watch this on double speed. I always do.❤😊
Single is better than a bad relationship. This is from someone who is married with a kid, but I did get lucky as we didn't plan it and U obviously have to just guess if a woman is going to be a good mother and look after the house if U are working, or that a husband is going to still dedicate time to his family after work.
test for true love....are they willing to spend time with you, in a non transactional manner.
I don’t resonate with this at all but I respect it.
I only agree with monogamy in relationships but the rest of the podcast was great. I almost stopped listening to it after 5-10 minutes but glad I listened to the whole thing. GREAT INFORMATION!! Thank you!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Please put time stamps no one’s gonna watch an hour and half of this to find one part they want to see
There are chapters, not sure if they were added post publishing?
This is interesting
no
This conversation of enmeshment could be highlighted more, it is surprising and more common then one thinks. Kenneth Adam’s has good research on this.
Thanks guys
You're welcome, thank you for watching! 🧡
Yes
The problem is days are usually busy. That's why doing it before bed when everything's quiet n your done w the day seems like a good time, but I do understand your point about being tired.
It was only a study he mentioned; not necessarily that he supports it. This interview has valuable advice on relationships that you miss out on by being too judgemental in the beginning.
Only one of Lewis's interviews I couldn't finish. Healthy polyamorous relationships???
It gets good he only mentions it at the start to make a point. They don’t go on about it. They get into why it's unhealthy to lie and traumas that cause certain behaviours.
Healthy ANDD Polyamorous do not belong in the same sentence. Same here, I started watching and a few minutes in, I was done.
I enjoyed this. I would so much rather listen to man talk honestly about uncomfortable subjects and choose to agree to disagree and keep moving in alignment with my own traditional values than listen to a deceptive man lying to lure you in to fulfill his own needs. Honesty and authenticity always gives you the option to walk away.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Once someone cheats you now have an open relationship because of the one cheating. And I’d be out immediately.
30:30-31:20
1:07:39-1:12:50
These go hand in hand.
If she meets guys without you, chats with them away from your eyes, or gives them more than 1 minutes attention she is probably cheating on you. FACTS
My husband met his coworker (a married woman) for coffee during the pandemic…when everything was closed…according to him, for business. I think the husband should know…
@jessicag7568 I'm sorry you have to experience that situation. I've been there. The doubts, anxiety, uncertainty and sadness fills you with resentment. Once I got enough evidence I made my move outside the relationship. I feel like an outstanding weight was lifted off me. That weight didn't let me breathe nor move. Hope it gets better for you too.
@@aries3744 thank you for your kind words. I lost 15lbs in 2 weeks. I couldn’t recognize myself, I was lost. My kids were the only reason that kept me going. I not only had to mourn the person I thought he was, but also our future life together, as a couple and as a family. I had to accept that there will never be closure, he refused to talk when confronted, nor he ever denied it. So yeah, the anxiety, the sadness, the heart palpitations, the lack of sleep, the loss of appetite, the motivations for life, the uncertainty, are just some of the things that I have experienced. I’m doing much better now, but I will never be the same. I had to follow him to find out who he really was, then discovered he got himself an apartment on my back. So that was it for me. We are separated now. I’m focusing on myself, and planning my future life without him. I will start the divorce once the kids finish university then rebuild myself. He and that married woman will have to carry their load, soon or later karma,life or the universe will come back at them to demand payment for the hurt they caused. Glad you’re doing better. Be your priority. Much love 💖
This was kind of insufferable to sit through. More guests like Dr.Ramani please.