I enjoy rewatching the old videos to realize how much I have changed since I first found them back in the day. I'm still shaking my head at the person I was 10 years ago, like come on man lol
Hi Corey just wanted to say it's so refreshing to hear advice that actually makes sense and applies to men. Not women telling us a load of BS to be a nice guy which never works
There is a difference between being a Nice guy vs a "nice guy". One is just being who you are as a good, confident person vs pretending to be someone you aren't just to win her affections by hiding your true shïtty self. Many women can detect the second type easily.
@@MuantanamoMobileagreed but you’re thinking “kind” vs “nice.” A kind man will treat you with respect but not at the expense of his own self respect… and a nice man will let you run all over them because standing up for themselves is seen as a conflict that may make people mad.
My woman friend once told me that by the time she was ready to end her relationship she’d already *mourned it* long before it came to making the decision to end things. Brutal.
Yeah everything could be ‘fine’ in the moment but she’s already mentally checked out. They do that so they can monkey branch to another guy and then you’re blind sided…you just have to be aware this happens and say “Ok” to her…don’t beg, just move on and up
That's really good to hear. How did you chance upon this career? I'm just alright with my job as it pays the bills but I don't particularly enjoy/dislike it. I feel unmotivated usually.
Luke Wolfe I was beating my head against the wall to be an environmental engineer because I was interested in the field, but sitting in an office working on a computer didn’t match my personality. Now I teach and enjoy it much more. Think finding what you enjoy is key.
What you said at 23:00 is true. I grew up without a father figure most of my life. And so I became a pleaser. However, thanks to your work, things are turning around. Thanks for your work!!!!
This is on point. For a man to be a worrying woman is a sad case and no woman wants that kind of a man. It's amazing what you understand AFTER you screw. Great advise as always coach.
It seems like everything boils down to simply managing one’s emotions. When we get too excited or anxious and act out of that, it has a negative effect on ourselves and the people around us, and can turn a woman away, whereas if we just slow down and calm down, the interactions go much more smoothly.
You know why I like you Corey. It's because I can see what you feel when all of us guys are pulling silly crap and the fact that you hold it together without either A. laughing your ass off and shaking your head or B. Saying "WTF is wrong with you." Then again, I'm sure you've been there before many of times hence why you know how it works so well. But I can tell you have nerves of steel to keep a straight face sometimes. But you keep it positive. Good man.
Coach Corey Wayne, Been a long time since I commented on your vids... still here appreciating every word you speak! Much Love & Respect!! To every one commenting or viewing, This guy is a true champion among men! Do take heed to whats being said, nothing he says is false.. your ego might tell you otherwise,but trust, thats what got you viewing his vids in the first place.. hop in the passenger seat & take a journey with Coach Wayne on the trip to Alphaville! I got a comfy loft in that Ville, stop on through & say hi.. and if you're hard headed, well Coach will say "C'mon maaan."
Guys so hard on himself - i literally had this a few weeks ago for the first time ever and i am almost 29... boy dont i wish i learnt this stuff when i was 18 - i would have slayed - every guy is always out trying to 'get chicks' when all they should be doing is focused on their purpose, grind, work out and when your out and about and a woman shows you the choosing signals, make a move! Hang out, have fun, hook up. DONT COMPLICATE THINGS
Bought the book. I’m feeling more enlightened with each page I read. Even shaking my head at certain parts that I should have implemented because my last relationship would have been a lot better if I did. I played the available Butler, answered her calls and texts at the drop of a dime. I could have been at work busting my ass it didn’t matter. My girlfriend’s father was a deadbeat so I went above beyond and to the milky way for her. It was natural but a part of me also wanted to show her that I could be the man that I thought she dreamed of and not like her father. Never cheated but in the end, I couldn’t get what I wanted most from her which was respect and I decided to walk away. Lesson to self, screw pleasing a woman and expecting something in return that you feel entitled to, cause you’ll be the one looking stupid.
My ex dumped me after I wouldnt throw money at her and I wasnt a yes man as she is used to guys who throw money at her and never say no. She says she wants a guy to spoil her with everything and to always give her everything she. I always thought a guy should not do this to be respected. I'm confused. But to me my ex is a golddigger
thanks' coach, I've develop the love of my work after looking at this clip,, it's all in the ways we view things ,,,we can ether hate or love what we do cos' everything is in the eyes of the beholder . great work and keep them coming ,,,video 's I mean LOL
I hate this "shes not your mom or your therapist" .... someone who doesnt act like a man .... its bullshit .... you're almost always right coach but man I hate this ... im.a fighter I'm 6 foot 2 245 pounds .... I'm planning on going pro here in the next year or 2 in the IFBB pro.... I'm an expert marksman ... I've won local shooting competitions.... not trying to act cocky I'm only mentioning this is because... I could waste almost every dude my ex girlfriend knew .... with 1 arm tied behind my back but she dumped me like trash....straight ghosted me with no explanation or reason just blocked me on all social.media, blocked my phone number everything anyway just like you said.. i have emotional issues .... I'm a self hater ... I cant help it .... its hereditary..... I've gone through and continue to go to therapy and have been poked and prodded and my meds mixed so many times I've lost count .... and I was the one who discovered my fathers rotting corpse in the closet after he hung himself on my sisters birthday December 17th .... well it broke me ...... I'm not sure I'll ever be able to get over it .... legit 1 year later when I was blubbering she legit told me "I talk about it too much" I probly did or do but how the fuck can a woman say that to anybody.... let alone someone she claims to love? And why cant you whine to your girl once I'm a while? Especially when you have been in a serious relationship with her for 5 years and are talking about getting married..... it csnt be fun and games all the time.... I cant be a happy dancing clown all the time? In sickness and healthy for richer or poor .... till death do us part right ? Why should we as men have to suffer in silence? So what if I'm needy sometimes? .....women want a man right? Why is it that I look like the incredible hulk, am a good fighter hunter .. and I have a decent job... it doesn't pay the best but thats ehh I'm going to school and I would do anything for her .... I guess my question is .... even tho I'm about to go pro in body building...... why am I a Bitch or look like s bitch for having feelings and crying sometimes ? Even tho I'm conan. The destroyer physically?...... why shouldn't I be able to share my fears and insecurities with the woman I am going to spend the rest of my life with? Why cant I cry and be feminine sometimes by being depressed or sad or afraid or doubtful or insecure? My woman SHOULD be the only one I should be able to show my soft side too.... I have to be hard and vicious and strong to the rest of the world to survive ... why shouldn't I be able to let my guard down around the love of my life when it's just her and me?..... she SHOULD be there to mentally and emotionally support me....... I support her physically, financially, emotionally and eveything else .... why cant I ask her to lift me up in that one area of my life that I'm weak in? (Emotions like depression, hopelessness etc...)? Isnt that what equal partners do? We step in and lift the other one up in places where the other is weak ...... I'm weak emotionally ... so she cant hug me and tell me its going to be alright sometimes when I cry? Shes weak physically ... that guy that grabbed her butt is now missing all of his teeth and walking with a limp.... I have childhood trauma where I just wanna hold her and be held back when I'm sad or afraid .... shes weak physically ... she cant benchpress 450.... I can .... ya get where I'm going with this? Why is it that all the sudden I'm. Not a man because I have emotional and depressive issues?
Thanks Coach Corey for the kick in the 🍑 because I was a big people pleaser and got taken advantage of lots of times through my life. It would just hurt me in the end and when I needed help people would hardly be there. Now I just don't care too much about people too much anymore.
When you've been a pleaser your whole life... how do you switch it off? I've just realized i'm a pleaser and I don't want to push someone away. So I bottle everything up and its tearing me apart. Meanwhile my GF is thinking everything is perfect, which to her it is... I suppose its just about finding hobbies or friends to hang out with. Which I don't have either of those. Or maybe... just maybe, I need to let the universe guide me... or maybe the universe has me right where it wants me...
Bro if that works in your relationship then go with it, if you're women treats you well and appreciates you, nothing wrong with it, I was born a pleaser,the difference is my wife treats me like shit,so I am no longer a pleaser to her,that's the difference between someone who appreciates who you are and someone who doesn't
so.... i know i'm not a human pleaser, because i ignore people if i don't like them at all. but im neither the men just yet who people, call and ask where i am at, honestly.... during the last year i've gotten just 1 cellphone call, people at the college where i go at, say hello to me everyday. but at the end of the college, nooone calls me or anything at all, the only thing that happens is if i call people, the answer and immediatly, show that they are avaible... but not a single person has called me ever it's annoying.
You do a great job of organizing your thoughts and videos i can see that you have put a lot of effort in your videos and coaching. Clear and concise great job
Wife dumped me after 16 years. I took good care of her.she took and took. Gaslighted me.. look where it got me ! She suffers from BPD . If I contact her and lay everything out then I will be looked at as weak. What do I do ? Wait for her to contact me ? Probably never happen. Hearing her past relationships she just cuts people off. Guess just accept fate and move on...
Exactely as me. Pack and send all her shit to cut all ties and for her to not have an excuse to keep contact or eventually contact you. She left you and she will miss you, but if get back together she'll leave you again and pierce your heart with Leonidas' spear TWICE. Have self respect and don't you ever beg or plead or go after her. May you heal from this. And learn that it was all right there in your face, as you said 'she left everyone like that', but you chose to stay. Thats her nature, but she will look for you again, and I repeat: DO NOT GET BACK TOGETHER!!!! God bless
@@phoxzinhu thank you for those words of wisdom. I am getting better as of this writing. She can be so loving and also be as cold as a mother in laws heart. She is off love bombing some other jack ass now. Thanks again for your help full words and encouragements.
@@jamesg2609 that poor bastard... you may not realize this, but the day she left will probably turn out to be the best of your life when you are ready to meet someone special. Good luck to you.
@@jamesg2609 Sounds about right. Don't be a Plan B doormat. Got this same shit after 11 years. I hear you on it with the NBPD angle. If I can ask, has your life seemingly become stress free and more productive since she left?
Don't ppl play the "neglect" card on you when you don't please them at all? So when I stop doing stuff for them, they feel I don't give a shit and basically don't bother contacting me any more
Sometimes you have to act unpredictable to be respected. Honestly women respect a man who dominates them more than a nice guy. They remind girls of their dads. They feel safer around a dominant guy. They think a nice guy isn’t committed to be strong person. You see it all the time when you see these hot girls with some built guy. It’s all in front of you
Well, you gotta work, Coach Wayne. I got bills to pay. In order to get the job that I would want will take years - years working at the same job or kind of jobs I hate while going to school. In Nevada, especially Las Vegas, you are kept in poverty as there is a "right to work" law that means an employer can fire you for no reason. You ask for a raise? You're fired. Why, because I asked for a raise? No, no reason. Anyway, I'd like to get some answers to my questions about how to improve my life from Coach Wayne as books don't specifically give you answers to your specific questions. He wants some money to answer my questions and won't say how much. It must be too rich for my blood if he doesn't give the specific amount as that's been my experience when it comes to offered services where no price is quoted openly. I'll try to buy his book, but I don't even know how to socialize that well, so I'm not sure how this will improve my life. I don't know how that's going to help me as most of these videos are about relationships and guys bitching about how they're having sex and having great lives while I don't even know how to talk to women really.
women want to convince those who don't see their worth that HERE IT IS! SEE ME.. If you a pleaser and you change to accommodate become a good USER that the women wants you will be UNHAPPY because you should have been your true self ...even if its a PLEASER,if your a pleaser accept it ,be good at it ,desert whom to please maybe.don't become someone that a LOST woman wants , let her find what she wants, you be your true self ....
How do you explain a woman who says she's afraid of getting dumped by you, but then she goes from hot to cold in just two days and it is she, herself, who is in the process of dumping me? I'll admit I like to be a pleaser, but I'm also a man with his own identity and purpose so??? It's all confusing. And I have to say, if jumping from one foot to the other is required to maintain a psychological advantage in the relationship, damn! So much energy and time that is such a waste and is so illogical. Are relationships really worth it?
what women says she wants doesnot mean she actually needs that..u have to be on ur purpose in life,have an abundance mindset..stop obsessing over one girl and stop being a pleaser..set your boundaries and learn to say NO and make her know that u can walk away anytime she messes up...as corey says the strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away,never look back and mean it..u’ll thank me later
No they are not, there are some good women who are pleaser just like us,the problem is they are taken already because they are the ones men never let go of
Corey, you may get a kick out of this one. It's text book. I started dating a guy, (I was 47)we were attracted. I have 3 kids. One weekend two months into the relationship, I couldn't spend it with him (he has no kids and he was 53), because I had an issue with my teen. Motherhood is first with me and always will be. He got so butt hurt, he broke up with me via text! He was bawling on the phone and sent this long-ass text explaining his position (it didn't fit on the screen of my phone). Somehow I managed to patch it up, but I never felt the same. His neediness and willingness to just call it quits because I HAD TO BE A MOTHER just ruined it for me. We made it thru the holidays, but by summer I was sick of him hanging on me, always being with me every weekend and never giving me space, questioning WHY I hadn't texted or called (it had only been 24 hours), and I finally had enough! He wasn't a man. Not the kind of man I wanted. I wanted someone to have fun with, depend on, lead with grace, not all the drama and neediness. Corey you dead nuts on with this one man! I tell all the men I know about you! ❤️💋😁 P.s. I am a widow and my husband of 26 years would have NEVER behaved this way! He was an alpha.
Some women are born to please, Some men are born to please, it's just the way it is, if the other person finds that to be weak, then the hell with them,someone will love you for who you are, just the way you are
Not me. Be a good person because it's the right thing to do. Don't seek approval. Alpha male and assertive. Some ladies like jerks. Why? Idn. Don't be jerks guys.
greetings.. good information. I have a pleaser personality. Now, I know women dont like that... even though many say this on their facebook statuses.. if I do what you say, isnt that like changing my personality? I dont think I can change and become someone different.. that's like having a woman tell me to change from rock music to rap music.. at least, thats the way I see it. am I wrong?
another thing.. some women go to whom they believe are men.. then become disappointed because they cheat on them, etc.. but when they need help, they come to me.. unbelievable
Man I have this recurring problem, females are always telling me what to do. Like any chance they get. Their could be twenty dudes in a room and I get told to do something every single time. I don't want to appear rude or whinny because I consider myself somewhat respectful, problem is... people take advantage of this. It's slowly driving me insane. Let me give you some examples of females telling me what to do. Bare in mind their are a great deal of other people to select. "Hey Tom, come show the class how to do blah blah blah," or "Tom... I want you to count out loud push ups." Or female Co-workers, "Tom, go get me this, and can you do this while you're at it?" Keep in mind, these are not female bosses, their just girls at the same level as I am. Once again, their are so many other people for her to choose. I'll be like, "why don't you do it or get someone else?" Then two things usually occur, I get told to just do it and stop being a little bitch or...... they do it and act bitchy and rude every time I see them. I also get looked at as a psycho and a whiny bitch because she goes and tells everyone. You see my dilemma right? Be a bitch and do what every girls says, or... deal with the bitchy attitude from them. And boy, lemme tell you. Girls don't seem to forget things. I ask myself, "would these chicks ask Mike Tyson, or Tom Hardy to do these things they ask of me? " Nobody is going to read this or care, and I will continue to live a shit life because of this, At least I wrote about it.
Be sweet to them. Hey princess, unfortunately I’m not paid to serve you. Now go grab me a coffee and laugh. They’ll see you’re a nice guy and witty but not a pushover.
Well Coach if you love so much what you do, then do not get married, do not use people for sex, do not chase an ignorant partner, do not complicate people with your frustration, and do not have a family. A real man has to be honest. Mean it. Be responsible. THINK how MUCH you can handle. People pleaser kill the world.
awe i thought this video was about me haha.... i used to call myself a pleaser because i try to get my woman off first and i like to keep levity every chance i get
32:18 Women do not dump men that they are in love with, and they’re chasing, and they’re calling, and they can’t get enough of, and they wonder what he’s doing and what he’s thinking and what he’s up to and if he still cares, and if he’s still interested. Scientific fact thay women are more attracted to men who’s feelings are unclear. They dump men who have turned them off, or guys who are wussies and they don’t act like men. Or guys that they’ve lost respect for because they act like pleasers and they’ve totally fallen out of love with them. (Fearful state, comes from a place that I’m not worthy and I’m gonna lose her. What you fear, you attract)
Can we talk about simp songs? Girl let me love you! I know your troubled, girl let me help! Baby you should let me love you, let me be the one to give you everything you want and need. I was like baby, baby, baby, oh, like baby, baby, baby, no, like baby, baby, baby, oh, you said you'd always be mine!
She broke up w me after 8 years on Saturday. Very next week I walk into a bar and met someone w the same last name as hers and showed me a very good time that night and 2 nights the following week. Take action and that's what you get. Mope and you're a dope. Simple. Texted the x 2 weeks later and boom ! Immediate response and came right over. We are powerful when we tap into it. Mainstream has done a number for sure.
The things you are saying is true butt you can't change your self for a woman because they can't be please being a man man is one thing .but that is never enough for most women . because things is not getting better it's only getting worse .Whit them .times is changeing . remember that
Coach Corey Wayne turns all that complex, round the houses, game playing, dating advice and turns it into common sense.
Agreed! Love Corey's no nonsense, simple approach. Works wonders! :)
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I enjoy rewatching the old videos to realize how much I have changed since I first found them back in the day. I'm still shaking my head at the person I was 10 years ago, like come on man lol
Hi Corey just wanted to say it's so refreshing to hear advice that actually makes sense and applies to men. Not women telling us a load of BS to be a nice guy which never works
i dont think women understand themselves, its no wonder us men have a hard time getting it sometime
@@dholvey1 or they're telling you how to be part of a harem lmao
There is a difference between being a Nice guy vs a "nice guy". One is just being who you are as a good, confident person vs pretending to be someone you aren't just to win her affections by hiding your true shïtty self. Many women can detect the second type easily.
@@MuantanamoMobileagreed but you’re thinking “kind” vs “nice.” A kind man will treat you with respect but not at the expense of his own self respect… and a nice man will let you run all over them because standing up for themselves is seen as a conflict that may make people mad.
My woman friend once told me that by the time she was ready to end her relationship she’d already *mourned it* long before it came to making the decision to end things. Brutal.
LMS Sucks big time.
Yeah everything could be ‘fine’ in the moment but she’s already mentally checked out.
They do that so they can monkey branch to another guy and then you’re blind sided…you just have to be aware this happens and say “Ok” to her…don’t beg, just move on and up
Hang out,have fun,hook up.Amen.
Marko Radulovic He says this in almost every video. Having it beat into my head like that keeps me level and grounded. I love it!
Still relevant in 2024!
This so true. It took me years to finally find the career that makes me happy. Not glamorous or high paying, but I’m happy everyday!
That's really good to hear. How did you chance upon this career? I'm just alright with my job as it pays the bills but I don't particularly enjoy/dislike it. I feel unmotivated usually.
Luke Wolfe I was beating my head against the wall to be an environmental engineer because I was interested in the field, but sitting in an office working on a computer didn’t match my personality. Now I teach and enjoy it much more. Think finding what you enjoy is key.
@@matts6287 thank you bro 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
What you said at 23:00 is true. I grew up without a father figure most of my life. And so I became a pleaser. However, thanks to your work, things are turning around. Thanks for your work!!!!
I know exactly what you mean. Hoping if you make people happy they'll give you validation
“It’s supposed to be hang out and have fun, not hang out and have drama.” - best line ever.
This is on point. For a man to be a worrying woman is a sad case and no woman wants that kind of a man. It's amazing what you understand AFTER you screw. Great advise as always coach.
Goes both ways. Only weak men like women who act so weak for them.
yep very amazibng what you learned after fucking up to where all you can do is demonstrate your tactics somewhere else
It seems like everything boils down to simply managing one’s emotions. When we get too excited or anxious and act out of that, it has a negative effect on ourselves and the people around us, and can turn a woman away, whereas if we just slow down and calm down, the interactions go much more smoothly.
You know why I like you Corey. It's because I can see what you feel when all of us guys are pulling silly crap and the fact that you hold it together without either A. laughing your ass off and shaking your head or B. Saying "WTF is wrong with you." Then again, I'm sure you've been there before many of times hence why you know how it works so well. But I can tell you have nerves of steel to keep a straight face sometimes. But you keep it positive. Good man.
Coach Corey Wayne, Been a long time since I commented on your vids... still here appreciating every word you speak! Much Love & Respect!!
To every one commenting or viewing, This guy is a true champion among men! Do take heed to whats being said, nothing he says is false.. your ego might tell you otherwise,but trust, thats what got you viewing his vids in the first place.. hop in the passenger seat & take a journey with Coach Wayne on the trip to Alphaville! I got a comfy loft in that Ville, stop on through & say hi.. and if you're hard headed, well Coach will say "C'mon maaan."
Rich Cardone *6 years ago*
Smooth brain.
Guys so hard on himself - i literally had this a few weeks ago for the first time ever and i am almost 29... boy dont i wish i learnt this stuff when i was 18 - i would have slayed - every guy is always out trying to 'get chicks' when all they should be doing is focused on their purpose, grind, work out and when your out and about and a woman shows you the choosing signals, make a move! Hang out, have fun, hook up. DONT COMPLICATE THINGS
"Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" the original song was by Robert Hazard. It makes so much more sense when a man sings these words.
They should teach this shit in high school. Lot of young men are clueless when it comes to arousing and keeping a woman's interest.
There is no such thing as rape culture you low iq tard
Doing nothing is doing something fellas infact it’s doing more than you think
Meditation has helped me a lot to be fine by myself. I love spending time alone and in a place of stillness and peace
Where is the line between being a pleaser and just working on yourself?
Wrong. Belecheck was just riding the Bradey wave.
Regarding the friendly amateur personal trainer; for some of us using our passions as a means for income takes the best of the joy away. Sometimes.
Bought the book. I’m feeling more enlightened with each page I read. Even shaking my head at certain parts that I should have implemented because my last relationship would have been a lot better if I did. I played the available Butler, answered her calls and texts at the drop of a dime. I could have been at work busting my ass it didn’t matter. My girlfriend’s father was a deadbeat so I went above beyond and to the milky way for her. It was natural but a part of me also wanted to show her that I could be the man that I thought she dreamed of and not like her father. Never cheated but in the end, I couldn’t get what I wanted most from her which was respect and I decided to walk away. Lesson to self, screw pleasing a woman and expecting something in return that you feel entitled to, cause you’ll be the one looking stupid.
I work as a lead carpet cleaning tech, field supervisor for 20 yrs. I don't know what my passion is. How do you figure that out
My ex dumped me after I wouldnt throw money at her and I wasnt a yes man as she is used to guys who throw money at her and never say no. She says she wants a guy to spoil her with everything and to always give her everything she. I always thought a guy should not do this to be respected. I'm confused. But to me my ex is a golddigger
They are all Gold Diggers and Evil Cunts period.
@@kareembrown1673 Soon to be exwife of 15 years.
@@kareembrown1673 I am good just stating the obvious about today's Modern Woman.
do you really want a woman like this anyway?
@@lordhumongus8669 Bingo!
That's why you have fun, hook up, have sex, and then move on to the next one. Cuz bitchez be Gold Digging Whores.
I've done that, following your advice ,and it worked out well.
thanks' coach, I've develop the love of my work after looking at this clip,, it's all in the ways we view things ,,,we can ether hate or love what we do cos' everything is in the eyes of the beholder . great work and keep them coming ,,,video 's I mean LOL
Daniel Alari
This is the best video you ever made
The best advice I can give is one woman’s lost another another woman’s game
I found your channel a few days ago and man you have some good insight. This stuff is gold my friend.
I hate this "shes not your mom or your therapist" .... someone who doesnt act like a man .... its bullshit .... you're almost always right coach but man I hate this ... im.a fighter I'm 6 foot 2 245 pounds .... I'm planning on going pro here in the next year or 2 in the IFBB pro.... I'm an expert marksman ... I've won local shooting competitions.... not trying to act cocky I'm only mentioning this is because... I could waste almost every dude my ex girlfriend knew .... with 1 arm tied behind my back but she dumped me like trash....straight ghosted me with no explanation or reason just blocked me on all social.media, blocked my phone number everything anyway just like you said.. i have emotional issues .... I'm a self hater ... I cant help it .... its hereditary..... I've gone through and continue to go to therapy and have been poked and prodded and my meds mixed so many times I've lost count .... and I was the one who discovered my fathers rotting corpse in the closet after he hung himself on my sisters birthday December 17th .... well it broke me ...... I'm not sure I'll ever be able to get over it .... legit 1 year later when I was blubbering she legit told me "I talk about it too much" I probly did or do but how the fuck can a woman say that to anybody.... let alone someone she claims to love? And why cant you whine to your girl once I'm a while? Especially when you have been in a serious relationship with her for 5 years and are talking about getting married..... it csnt be fun and games all the time.... I cant be a happy dancing clown all the time? In sickness and healthy for richer or poor .... till death do us part right ? Why should we as men have to suffer in silence? So what if I'm needy sometimes? .....women want a man right? Why is it that I look like the incredible hulk, am a good fighter hunter .. and I have a decent job... it doesn't pay the best but thats ehh I'm going to school and I would do anything for her .... I guess my question is .... even tho I'm about to go pro in body building...... why am I a Bitch or look like s bitch for having feelings and crying sometimes ? Even tho I'm conan. The destroyer physically?...... why shouldn't I be able to share my fears and insecurities with the woman I am going to spend the rest of my life with? Why cant I cry and be feminine sometimes by being depressed or sad or afraid or doubtful or insecure? My woman SHOULD be the only one I should be able to show my soft side too.... I have to be hard and vicious and strong to the rest of the world to survive ... why shouldn't I be able to let my guard down around the love of my life when it's just her and me?..... she SHOULD be there to mentally and emotionally support me....... I support her physically, financially, emotionally and eveything else .... why cant I ask her to lift me up in that one area of my life that I'm weak in? (Emotions like depression, hopelessness etc...)? Isnt that what equal partners do? We step in and lift the other one up in places where the other is weak ...... I'm weak emotionally ... so she cant hug me and tell me its going to be alright sometimes when I cry? Shes weak physically ... that guy that grabbed her butt is now missing all of his teeth and walking with a limp.... I have childhood trauma where I just wanna hold her and be held back when I'm sad or afraid .... shes weak physically ... she cant benchpress 450.... I can .... ya get where I'm going with this? Why is it that all the sudden I'm. Not a man because I have emotional and depressive issues?
should've known this sooner and i wouldn't have fucked up so much, lol.
Thanks Coach Corey for the kick in the 🍑 because I was a big people pleaser and got taken advantage of lots of times through my life. It would just hurt me in the end and when I needed help people would hardly be there. Now I just don't care too much about people too much anymore.
my mission is to enjoy my fu$$ing life and leave the miserable people out of it. thanks Corey.
Coach Wayne is the best of the best life coach out there!!
When you've been a pleaser your whole life... how do you switch it off? I've just realized i'm a pleaser and I don't want to push someone away. So I bottle everything up and its tearing me apart. Meanwhile my GF is thinking everything is perfect, which to her it is... I suppose its just about finding hobbies or friends to hang out with. Which I don't have either of those.
Or maybe... just maybe, I need to let the universe guide me... or maybe the universe has me right where it wants me...
Same bro
Same. At least the last 15 years!
Bro if that works in your relationship then go with it, if you're women treats you well and appreciates you, nothing wrong with it, I was born a pleaser,the difference is my wife treats me like shit,so I am no longer a pleaser to her,that's the difference between someone who appreciates who you are and someone who doesn't
Your book saved my life more than once! Thank you coach!!!
so....
i know i'm not a human pleaser, because i ignore people if i don't like them at all.
but im neither the men just yet who people, call and ask where i am at, honestly.... during the last year i've gotten just 1 cellphone call, people at the college where i go at, say hello to me everyday. but at the end of the college, nooone calls me or anything at all, the only thing that happens is if i call people, the answer and immediatly, show that they are avaible...
but not a single person has called me ever it's annoying.
Yo friend, have a great day!
I wish i learned this in high school afte that i learned how to do me and not fixed em if they didn't understand it was hard on em
You do a great job of organizing your thoughts and videos i can see that you have put a lot of effort in your videos and coaching. Clear and concise great job
Codependency is never good for a real man in the long run
I really hate that women are like this, but this advice actually works. I guess it’s doubly hard for me wanting that control. But I’m learning
I wish I have a million dollars your advices Cory are gold. Thanks
Great content in this video..
12:10 That's exactly how I feel and it sucks sooo much
I just wish I could figure out what I really want to do with my life
how do you distinguish between, standing your ground and having your needs met,
vs being pushy and expecting a lot from the other.
victor saari err on the side of doing things for yourself. Love is giving not receiving. If there’s overlap, that’s the beauty.
Hell yeah Corey ✊🏼
I wish I knew Corey's work 5 years ago
"I would rather cuddle than hookup"......um, how in the world do you cuddle without hooking up???
Don’t exchange bodily fluids
That’s pussy bullshit lies
Or spoon lol
That dude needs to come to terms with the fact that he might be gay. Not even saying that disrespectfully.
Question. When is it ok for the heart on my sleeve, flowers for no reason, to come out?
I really like this page very informative :D
Best video yet
Wife dumped me after 16 years. I took good care of her.she took and took. Gaslighted me.. look where it got me ! She suffers from BPD . If I contact her and lay everything out then I will be looked at as weak. What do I do ? Wait for her to contact me ? Probably never happen. Hearing her past relationships she just cuts people off. Guess just accept fate and move on...
Exactely as me. Pack and send all her shit to cut all ties and for her to not have an excuse to keep contact or eventually contact you. She left you and she will miss you, but if get back together she'll leave you again and pierce your heart with Leonidas' spear TWICE. Have self respect and don't you ever beg or plead or go after her. May you heal from this. And learn that it was all right there in your face, as you said 'she left everyone like that', but you chose to stay. Thats her nature, but she will look for you again, and I repeat: DO NOT GET BACK TOGETHER!!!! God bless
@@phoxzinhu thank you for those words of wisdom. I am getting better as of this writing. She can be so loving and also be as cold as a mother in laws heart. She is off love bombing some other jack ass now. Thanks again for your help full words and encouragements.
@@jamesg2609 that poor bastard... you may not realize this, but the day she left will probably turn out to be the best of your life when you are ready to meet someone special. Good luck to you.
@@jamesg2609 Sounds about right. Don't be a Plan B doormat. Got this same shit after 11 years. I hear you on it with the NBPD angle. If I can ask, has your life seemingly become stress free and more productive since she left?
The whole world should know your shit! But you know what, that's what keeps us 3 percent men! Thanks so much man!
Don't ppl play the "neglect" card on you when you don't please them at all? So when I stop doing stuff for them, they feel I don't give a shit and basically don't bother contacting me any more
rydendm that's because they were only using you; they weren't real friends
That happens most of the time if you're in friend zone and don't have romantic attraction on you.
Sometimes you have to act unpredictable to be respected. Honestly women respect a man who dominates them more than a nice guy. They remind girls of their dads. They feel safer around a dominant guy. They think a nice guy isn’t committed to be strong person. You see it all the time when you see these hot girls with some built guy. It’s all in front of you
Well, you gotta work, Coach Wayne. I got bills to pay. In order to get the job that I would want will take years - years working at the same job or kind of jobs I hate while going to school. In Nevada, especially Las Vegas, you are kept in poverty as there is a "right to work" law that means an employer can fire you for no reason. You ask for a raise? You're fired. Why, because I asked for a raise? No, no reason.
Anyway, I'd like to get some answers to my questions about how to improve my life from Coach Wayne as books don't specifically give you answers to your specific questions. He wants some money to answer my questions and won't say how much. It must be too rich for my blood if he doesn't give the specific amount as that's been my experience when it comes to offered services where no price is quoted openly.
I'll try to buy his book, but I don't even know how to socialize that well, so I'm not sure how this will improve my life. I don't know how that's going to help me as most of these videos are about relationships and guys bitching about how they're having sex and having great lives while I don't even know how to talk to women really.
"I use to do this stupid shit like this when I was your age" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Heard that when I was in my 20s, now in my 30s I say the same.
women want to convince those who don't see their worth that HERE IT IS! SEE ME..
If you a pleaser and you change to accommodate become a good USER that the women wants you will be UNHAPPY because you should have been your true self ...even if its a PLEASER,if your a pleaser accept it ,be good at it ,desert whom to please maybe.don't become someone that a LOST woman wants , let her find what she wants, you be your true self ....
Thank you 🙏
How do you explain a woman who says she's afraid of getting dumped by you, but then she goes from hot to cold in just two days and it is she, herself, who is in the process of dumping me? I'll admit I like to be a pleaser, but I'm also a man with his own identity and purpose so??? It's all confusing. And I have to say, if jumping from one foot to the other is required to maintain a psychological advantage in the relationship, damn! So much energy and time that is such a waste and is so illogical. Are relationships really worth it?
what women says she wants doesnot mean she actually needs that..u have to be on ur purpose in life,have an abundance mindset..stop obsessing over one girl and stop being a pleaser..set your boundaries and learn to say NO and make her know that u can walk away anytime she messes up...as corey says the strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away,never look back and mean it..u’ll thank me later
No they are not, there are some good women who are pleaser just like us,the problem is they are taken already because they are the ones men never let go of
You the man Corey
23:00 Raised by mother / lack of father = lack of masculine core built into a boy / young man.
27:45 Acting like a woman / Gay male girlfriend
Corey, you may get a kick out of this one. It's text book.
I started dating a guy, (I was 47)we were attracted. I have 3 kids. One weekend two months into the relationship, I couldn't spend it with him (he has no kids and he was 53), because I had an issue with my teen. Motherhood is first with me and always will be.
He got so butt hurt, he broke up with me via text! He was bawling on the phone and sent this long-ass text explaining his position (it didn't fit on the screen of my phone).
Somehow I managed to patch it up, but I never felt the same. His neediness and willingness to just call it quits because I HAD TO BE A MOTHER just ruined it for me. We made it thru the holidays, but by summer I was sick of him hanging on me, always being with me every weekend and never giving me space, questioning WHY I hadn't texted or called (it had only been 24 hours), and I finally had enough! He wasn't a man. Not the kind of man I wanted. I wanted someone to have fun with, depend on, lead with grace, not all the drama and neediness.
Corey you dead nuts on with this one man! I tell all the men I know about you! ❤️💋😁
P.s. I am a widow and my husband of 26 years would have NEVER behaved this way! He was an alpha.
Yea that guy was a bitch! I wouldn't of even done that shit before I found Corey's stuff! Good on you girl!!
I always love the James Bond analogy
i love your imitations! hilarious!!!!
23:00 Become weak super pleasers (men/boys raised by mothers or without strong father figure in their lives)
“It’s an illusion” had me dying
"Absa-fuckin-lutely not" lmao love this guy
Corey, it's evident that half of the guys writing in are drunk 😵😵🥴🥴🥴🥴
Why does it always have to be James bond Corey.Why can't it be Dolamite for once
11:40 How to create a successful business (something you really love).
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Coach! You had a major Marvel movie commercial ad on this video! Soo kool!
Some women are born to please, Some men are born to please, it's just the way it is, if the other person finds that to be weak, then the hell with them,someone will love you for who you are, just the way you are
Shut up
Not me. Be a good person because it's the right thing to do. Don't seek approval. Alpha male and assertive. Some ladies like jerks. Why? Idn. Don't be jerks guys.
Fuck Women destroyers of all that is good.
I dislike because often girls give bad dating advice and I believe your comment is bad advice and that you are a girk
15:30 “You’re gorgeous, how’s a guy supposed to resist that?”
4 Months? Whoa, should call himself Mr. Blue Balls!
greetings.. good information. I have a pleaser personality. Now, I know women dont like that... even though many say this on their facebook statuses.. if I do what you say, isnt that like changing my personality? I dont think I can change and become someone different.. that's like having a woman tell me to change from rock music to rap music.. at least, thats the way I see it. am I wrong?
another thing.. some women go to whom they believe are men.. then become disappointed because they cheat on them, etc.. but when they need help, they come to me.. unbelievable
There are two version of you. A Loser or Winner. You're changing to be a winner.
Why oh why didn’t I find this 6 years ago, I’m killing myself inside
19:20 “Have I told you what a sexy snow bunny you are? It makes your body look fucking amazing.”
Thank you!
Love ya Corey but it's evident that Tom Brady was responsible for all those super bowl wins, not Bill.
Man I have this recurring problem, females are always telling me what to do. Like any chance they get. Their could be twenty dudes in a room and I get told to do something every single time. I don't want to appear rude or whinny because I consider myself somewhat respectful, problem is... people take advantage of this. It's slowly driving me insane. Let me give you some examples of females telling me what to do. Bare in mind their are a great deal of other people to select. "Hey Tom, come show the class how to do blah blah blah," or "Tom... I want you to count out loud push ups." Or female Co-workers, "Tom, go get me this, and can you do this while you're at it?" Keep in mind, these are not female bosses, their just girls at the same level as I am. Once again, their are so many other people for her to choose. I'll be like, "why don't you do it or get someone else?" Then two things usually occur, I get told to just do it and stop being a little bitch or...... they do it and act bitchy and rude every time I see them. I also get looked at as a psycho and a whiny bitch because she goes and tells everyone. You see my dilemma right? Be a bitch and do what every girls says, or... deal with the bitchy attitude from them. And boy, lemme tell you. Girls don't seem to forget things. I ask myself, "would these chicks ask Mike Tyson, or Tom Hardy to do these things they ask of me? " Nobody is going to read this or care, and I will continue to live a shit life because of this, At least I wrote about it.
Be sweet to them. Hey princess, unfortunately I’m not paid to serve you. Now go grab me a coffee and laugh. They’ll see you’re a nice guy and witty but not a pushover.
3 years later I wonder if ya figured it out? it's called a shit-test and you failed enough times for this person to lose respect.
You’re just to agreeable. Learn to just say no. Start with simple things.
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Lol...just tell them "you do it first and show me how its done".
Would you do the shit you do for guys that you do for women? Don’t wanna do something say no. The word no is power
Well Coach if you love so much what you do, then do not get married, do not use people for sex, do not chase an ignorant partner, do not complicate people with your frustration, and do not have a family. A real man has to be honest. Mean it. Be responsible. THINK how MUCH you can handle. People pleaser kill the world.
Jee, what do you want to do tonight? -James Bond
Your audio is messed up sounding like you're in a tunnel, bassie, heard to enjoy.
awe i thought this video was about me haha.... i used to call myself a pleaser because i try to get my woman off first and i like to keep levity every chance i get
thats me!
32:18 Women do not dump men that they are in love with, and they’re chasing, and they’re calling, and they can’t get enough of, and they wonder what he’s doing and what he’s thinking and what he’s up to and if he still cares, and if he’s still interested. Scientific fact thay women are more attracted to men who’s feelings are unclear. They dump men who have turned them off, or guys who are wussies and they don’t act like men. Or guys that they’ve lost respect for because they act like pleasers and they’ve totally fallen out of love with them. (Fearful state, comes from a place that I’m not worthy and I’m gonna lose her. What you fear, you attract)
what do you mean what you look at disappears ?
David ulloa martinez pretty sure what he meant was since we attract what we fear, what we look (fears we face) go away...
god you make so so much sense
Bs if they like you they don't treat you like shit,by not responding, they just don't
Can we talk about simp songs?
Girl let me love you! I know your troubled, girl let me help!
Baby you should let me love you, let me be the one to give you everything you want and need.
I was like baby, baby, baby, oh, like baby, baby, baby, no, like baby, baby, baby, oh, you said you'd always be mine!
Cut down on the James Bond, Thing
If you have a ton of fun and get along really well but she has a BOYFRIEND !! Would you keep enjoying the moment ??
Read the book, there is an entire chapter about that
C'mon man!!!!
39:00 James Bond = Lives Dangerously + Mission & Purpose
She broke up w me after 8 years on Saturday. Very next week I walk into a bar and met someone w the same last name as hers and showed me a very good time that night and 2 nights the following week. Take action and that's what you get. Mope and you're a dope. Simple. Texted the x 2 weeks later and boom ! Immediate response and came right over. We are powerful when we tap into it. Mainstream has done a number for sure.
The things you are saying is true butt you can't change your self for a woman because they can't be please being a man man is one thing .but that is never enough for most women . because things is not getting better it's only getting worse .Whit them .times is changeing . remember that
38:03 - whats wrong whats wrong whats wrong lol
"gay male girlfriend".....ha ha ha ha fucking ha....gold.😁😁😁😁
30:00 = 3rd Email
You had to mention the pats and they just won the afc again smh...
I like to cuddle myself low key👉🏽👈🏽
I used to do stupid shit like this lol..