I recently asked myself why I didn’t have the drive anymore and where my “inner hunger” was. I thought to take more time to reflect and meditate to find the the next step. You just confirmed it with your awesome video! As a christian I find the source in God’s presence and He helps me to find new inspirations and wisdom.
I am an ENFP Christian man. And I resonate with this exactly. Some seasons (6m-2y) are power and driven and I'm in my sweet spot and naturally connected to others and doing awesome work. But then there are other seasons where it's the exact opposite. It's like pushing a boulder up a hill. My internal drive dies, my connections wither, my work stagnates and becomes draining. I begin to isolate and pull back, and long for better days. Life just feels hard, even little tasks... Journaling and having creative and inspiring friends are like the only solutions to this I've found. Or literally leaving the city and moving somewhere else to start a whole new sort of adventure I know very little about... God(specifically Jesus) has been a unfathomable source of guidance and hope and security and peace. And proclaiming his name above all is my life's passion and calling.
Wow!! This post is so God. I was wondering how to fit Him in. Do you do things that aren't "Christian" (like psychology with a counselor who isn't Christian or AA or other self-help type things) based on your insights in your time in His presence? I'm in a weird place with my Christianity right now. I don't feel like I'm growing much from my Christianity. I'm trying to just stop doing other things and connect wirh God, but it's pretty hard. I'm not sure if this makes sense.
lol, I know exactly what you mean! 😂 Although I find for the most part Heidi speaks fast enough, and with enough density that I don't find myself getting impatient or bored. I did find myself listening to John Vervaeke's podcasts at 1.75x however. I love the guy and all, and I was just barely hanging on... but somehow I also found myself getting impatient with him. I have noticed in Heidi's newer stuff that she seems like she's deliberately slowing herself down, but she does this with this very rhythmical cant that I can also very much relate to. I find myself doing that whenever I have to be very logical or explicit about something.
Your point about adopting a 'perpetual beginner' mindset is a powerful. I've continually tried to remind myself of this because I can get so caught up with where I think I should be at this point in my life.
So much of this felt relatable to me for my current situation. I've felt very stuck in my life, and finances and the need for security have really dominated my decisions because my family struggled growing up and my parents sacrificed happiness for financial security. I've borrowed that mentality from them even though it goes against my nature. I always feel like my life is meaningless, so I put in my 40 hours of work each week and spend my personal time playing games and watching TV. Trying to figure out what I really want is stressful because any conclusions I come to require great risk and my family always tells me it's not a good idea. So I remain. Asking myself a lot of these questions brings up a lot of stress. Hopefully if I can dig into them further they will also bring hope. Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable. I have so much respect for you. Remember, what you are doing IS making a difference in other people's lives. You are truly appreciated. :)
You sound so much like me. I'm also adding in my Christianity and what God wants me to do, which doesn't seem to be helping. Now I'm just trying to do what God wants me to do instead of what my family or co-workers wants me to do.
Two key questions for any ENFP struggling (as I've been for 40 years ^^'') What do I like the most? What do I hate the most? It helped me finding what path I want to take and why... Hopefully it helps someone else 🥰
I’m in my early 30s and unemployed. I don’t know what path to take but I will ask myself these questions. This was amazing. Thank you for being honest.
Extraordinary amount of work put in this video...and I am not only talking about the technical aspect of it ( script, editing etc..) but also all the life-driven experiences you had to personally undergo to come up with such wisdom...It's a standing ovation for me, thank you for all the people you are inspiring and all the lives you are making better. May you find it in God's blessings
Oh boy. I’m just at 5:15 thinking I used to joke that they should’ve put in my yearbook, “Her greatest ambition was to be ambitious.” Just to be clear. I’ve been stuck forever.
This was surprisingly REAL. So much so that a tear ran down my cheek. THANK YOU ( I really have to meditate a bit more on the whole video to write a comment with substance... but for now... )
Thank you for this comment ❤️ I actually waffled a lot about posting this video because it felt so personal but comments like this make me feel so grateful knowing that a lot of my experiences are a lot more universal than they might feel. 🤗
It's comforting to know that even a very successful enfp has been stuck. And thank you so much for sharing your own tools for getting unstuck. You really did find wonderful ways to work through it all. Thank you a ton for lighting the path a bit.
Heidi, you motivate me like no other. From listening to your book on audible, I decided to reorganise my shed at 1am!! I've put this off for an entire year, and it only took me an hour! Having you is like having the most personalised therapist who knows me inside and out. Thank you for everything 😊💓
I read your book and it changed how I viewed life and helped me to understand myself in ways that no one else could put in words. I'm dropping a line to say that your video is really a timely reminder for me and I am really happy for the kind of difference you've made in my life and the difference you're making in our world. It's truly inspiring. Thank you! :)
WOW, so much wisdom just within the first minute. you are so right: the ego is the biggest weakness. if you are not ashamed of failure or embarrassment, you won't be afraid of anything new, won't be closed off to feedback, advice, or improvement, and the possibilities for growth will be endless. as a perfectionist, i've come to find that my perfectionism is a direct result of my terrified inner ego, and as i'm becoming older and more humbled, my perfectionism is slowly fading away. now time to continue the video lol. i'm literally only 1 minute and 16 seconds in and you already have me thinking so much!!
Heidi, thank you for being an ENFP brave enough to take the steps a lot of ENFPs are stuck with and sharing your "success" story with all of us. I quote the word success because I know life still isn't easy for you and won't be easy in the future, but I really consider those steps toward change a huge success. For so long, I've been held back and just been so damn scared to take those steps. I struggle with many of the things you've listed and feel like I am such a failure. I've recently moved out of my environment and my old group of people, my parents and my partner's parent telling me that anything outside the traditional route is a failure, and my social circle that prefers security/comfort over change (nothing wrong with it, probably SJ types). Taking that step I KNOW that I made the right decision, life has NOT been easy since I did that and I am struggling every day. My external problems (eg. rent, finances, employment) are not being resolved, it's all super stressful, but I KNOW that I am on the right path. Going against how the world tells me to operate feels scary and makes me want to cry every day, but it feels so right and I finally feel like I am alive and heading somewhere in life. Watching your video and hearing your stories confirmed that for me. Thank you Heidi for being the role model on my journey and I wish you nothing but the best and all the love from a fellow ENFP ❤
I am not one to comment on videos but I just want to say thank you so much for creating this content! Your videos have helped me to truly understand myself better and are helping me to heal and move forward 🙏🏾
I've been holding on to the wrong career for so long but it's time to change What am I hungry for: Being in a wrong fit job for years I'm hungry to excel ,create and be renumerated for it as well be content while doing it
Heidi: I'm ENFP ... do work in the Microbiome. (multiple patents pend.) Depression, aging, evolution, neurotransmitters etc. ...all occur there. Help is on the way!
Good job, Heidi! I especially appreciate the part about getting past trying to recreate the happiness of the past… that is so hard… and I think you are absolutely right about it.
YES! You answered the questions I had and this video is exactly what I needed. I've been stuck working on the projects I absolutely want to pursue. Which to me sounds crazy. But that's it, I've plateau-ed and I've gotten stuck in habits that make me unhappy. I didn't realize it because I thought these projects are what Ne and Fi always wanted but then I got into the Te-Si realization of those projects and it's taken away the novelty and excitement. Yet, Fi still wants those projects to get done. So, I got stuck feeling uninspired to do things I actually want to do. Why so complicated, ENFP brain??? So, now I need to look at my habits that I've put into place that make me unhappy. And I also need to feed my Ne new things. I was scared to do so because feeding Ne is like getting excited about 300 new projects when I haven't even completed the previous ones I truly care about. But I've also forgotten that Ne can be interested in many things without needing to implement that new knowledge anywhere. That's what I need. This video was really important for me, so thank you for sharing your wisdom!
Ohhh is that really you Joyce? I want to say, thank you so much for starting your channel, it is VERY helpful to me and my family. The way you arrange and organize your interviews is superb. Keep going, you have my full support. ✊✊ #ENFP
Heidi I'm obsessed with your content!! Your so smart and say exactly what NOBODY say! UAU!! It´s mind blowing. I´m from Brazil and dollars are very expensive, but Heidi I'm obsessed with your content!! Your so smart and say exactly what NOBODY say! UAU!! It's mind blowing. I´m from Brazil and dollar are very expensive, but i will 100% find a way to make money and buy your bootcamp. Your content made me feel safe and finally understand a lot A LOT of things about my brain. If you ever need someone to translate your bootcamp to portuguese, I´m on!! A lot of people can benefit from your content here too. Thanksss
I always test as an INFJ. I can totally relate to that and that function stack. But I really also sometimes wonder if I'm actually an INFP. I know, completely different functions lol. But I'm really struggling to type myself. Anyway, whatever I am, this really hit hard. Number five had me weeping like a baby because I am so sentimental and am always referring to how things have been. I'm ill now so my old life has completely gone as well as recently losing my closest family members. So I feel alone and with a huge mountain ahead. Not really sure of what to do. But this has really helped and I know I will keep returning to this video. Thank you again for your helpful, raw, direct and fun content. ❤️
I rarely ever rewatch videos because my Si can replay the highlights in my mind and my Ne is always hungry for fresh insights. There are some videos you've made that I have seen 2 to 5 times because my Ne knows there is still more wisdom to glean, and this is one of those treasures I'll be returning to again. ~INFP
I finished my Masters in Science in 2020 and before finishing I realised that I loved the learning. Not the doing. 🙌🏽 most jobs are laboratory focused which are "doing" jobs. And is not what I desire for me. To get money whilst stuck I tend to get call center jobs but they're so suffocating. I think I need to ask these questions to self to really see where I could pivot towards.
I totally resonate with all you have said here Heidi. Especially the question 'What are you holding onto...' Thank you for another brilliant video!! #ENFP 😁
I've been feeling exactly this recently, and it's crazy how the slow realizations come to you through these depressive days when you notice your energy is not the same anymore. My remote job has been great, but there's still something missing (people-to-people interaction). This is a sign I need to deeply reflect and look at what Im hungry for and go for that. Thanks for this
You are so amazing, it's like you can see inside my mind. Please do more videos on the topic on feeling stuck, and also on how to reach out and make new friends at older ages, or on how to cope with loneliness when you have no actual support system. Thank you for all these great resources, your videos really help me.
Seriously can I like this multiple times! I'm mostly through your class and I relate so incredibly deeper with all your content than basically any other content I have read! My cognitive functions seriously "get it" from your works. Big thanks for making a permanent difference in my life, and I wish you the best on your own challenging adventure called life!
Your videos are so fuckin insightful, I mean I resonate with almost everything you say and your voice is so soothing. Love you Heidi! You’ve changed my outlook on my behaviors I don’t feel like there’s something wrong with me anymore. You’ve helped me realize I just have to shape my life around me personality!💙
I'm definitely there, and I don't quite know where to go from here.... except here. 😂 No really, these videos are super helpful. I still didn't even know I had anything to work on at 30... and I still wasn't really that worried at 35 after finishing 2 degrees in different disciplines only to immediately abandon them. I had thought that my marriage and my mom's death were wake up calls, but maybe it doesn't matter how much motivation you have if you don't know what to do with it. I'm 49 now, and I can't say things have gotten better. At first I thought that working in a field with rewarding work was what I needed.... then I thought that I needed to work with like minded individuals....then I thought I needed to work on human understanding and relational skills.... and now maybe I just want to understand myself and my life before I die. I don't know anymore, only that I've gotten each thing at least slightly wrong, if not completely wrong, and every time I feel like finally I'm on the path I once again realize too late that I've been pulled around by the nose in the same circle once again. I never thought of myself as holding onto the past because if anything, I have very little attachment to it, and I can't say that reminders of it feel pleasant. I was even happy to have developed some dissociation from my memories. I've changed a lot over my life, and this has cost me as much as it has brought me. I've had a few major life transitions, where in the space of the day, nothing afterwards or before was ever the same. My past became easier to deal with because it no longer felt like my own. It was like waking up one day with someone else's memories, and to be honest, that was what I had always wanted, its just that it never occurred to me that the Alternity could be my own. But now I think we all have that ultimate alterity deep within our core. This is the abyss within us that stares back, but also that irreconcilable self difference that makes truly relating to another sentient being possible in the first place. In this journey I've come to see that what I had spent half of my life working towards wasn't even a core part of me. It was a compensation mechanism! 😂 And more recently, in career counselling, I learned that I have been avoiding all of the things that I should be most suited to as an ENFP, because these are also the things that terrify me..... I was also recently diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, and I've come to the conclusion that my attachment style is fearful avoidant. I've had problems with either sticking with the wrong thing too long, or not sticking with something else long enough. But really, I think its more likely that neither of those possibilities are true. Right now, I'm trying to figure out what it is I'm doing that makes me always focus on the wrong thing at the wrong time in the wrong way in the wrong place with the wrong people.... or, what it is that makes it look that way.😅 But back to the matter at hand. I really have noticed that I just want to keep doing whatever I'm already doing and have to really work myself up to starting something different, even though what I like the best is the initial growth phase, and find the mind numbing refinement phase at the end deadens me! I know this is a compensation, I'm just not sure in what way. It does have perfectionistic overtones, and there are a lot of things I never finish. Part of me wonders if that's because then I will have to admit to what I have done, and in that act of admission I will also have to accept that it can never change because it is over. Or maybe I think that I will never have this opportunity again. Or, maybe I can't imagine anything beyond this moment, so it feels like a kind of annihilation. All of these things are true, but it doesn't matter if none of them are primary. My first counselor thought I had an adaptational disorder, but that doesn't make sense if I already change so much that my friends get tired just watching me.... and then eventually they aren't my friends anymore. I mean, some of that is also my fault because the ambivalence of never knowing where I stand can drive me insane, so then I withdraw.
This was so timely for me. Probably just going to sit with it for a while and then come back to it and actually journal out / brainstorm. Also, love Gabor Mate. Need to read more of his work. Agree he seems to have Fi and Te. I actually wondered if he's a fellow ENFP because his knowledge base is so wildly varied across so many different topics, but now you say it could definitely see INTJ too, especially since he's older. I could imagine him being less in his feelings when he was younger and then stepping into it more now with his quiet understanding wisdom with that underlying, but still very present, passion.
hi i just wanted to say that this video really blew my mind as if someone could see right inside my head. Only that you were able to reflect and sort out all of these confused thoughts. thank you for that! that really opened my eyes. Love goes out to you
Thank you for creating this video and for all of your work… I just feel you are brilliant and that what you are doing is immensely important and helpful. Since I found you it is like someone has given me a flash light and a map. I haven’t done a test yet but if I am an ENFP, everything that has always felt confusing and painful would suddenly make sense and feel different. It is truly mind blowing to learn these things and it’s eerie too, to discover that I may not be an alien and that I am not the only one having this experience of life. It’s the most intense strange experience. The way you are sharing so many personal things is so kind and helpful. You are a beautiful, beautiful, lovely being.
thank you so much for this video ! it's been sitting here in tabs for a while and i don't know why i postponed watching it. maybe i knew i needed to make a change, and didn't want to yet. But after finally watching it i felt so understood, it's crazy. and it was refreshing to hear such a positive and grounded take on it. thank you. i needed that.
Thank you so much for posting this video and talking about such a topic in great depth. It can be seen that you have learnt and grown a lot from your personal experiences. Thank you for taking the time to assimilate everything and putting it down in this video. Your video has great "questions" which try to spark insights about situations we are involved in. These major points of yours on getting unstuck come from a place of great depth and reflection. These will help me and going to help a lot of people in future as well, i feel confident about that. There are a lot of empty souls just passing by in life and drifting in their life. A lot of people on the internet searching for truth and looking for meaning. Hope they find this video.
Thank you, subbed. Watched through once, then again while taking notes because so many thoughts popped up along the way. I will return to this video again I'm sure. I know you market directly towards "ENFPs," of which I guess I am one but this advice seems a lot more widely applicable - I hope more who need it can see it. Much appreciated.
I also stopped everything else when I decided to fix some things, I thought it was the most important thing and it was. Great Speech and good points, ty and very true about being sentimental 😅 no I mean this was a very very good video. Will Watch it again soon for sure..
Thanks for telling these 5 questions I'll try to apply on and maybe my goal of having a cool short film before my b'day might be possible and learn drawing, voice acting and athletics will be possible I will try to come out of my comfort zone and use my fruits of Enfp and weakness to achieve happiness and improvements!!
Ouch and wow. Am listening while I cook, so will ponder, listen again and then hopefully have a more full response. Thank you for putting this out there. Eh hem.
Hello everyone, good morning! I think this is the best video edited by Heidi Priebe. I liked so much, very well explained for her. Greetings from Sonora, México.
For this INFP "stuck" is kinda what happens with every step I take, like walking though mud in over size boots on if you know what I mean. The Fi Si loop is so seductive to me. Thanks for sharing your wisdom Heidi.
I'm an ENFP who gets in Fi-Si loop all the time too (thought I was INFP but then professionally typed as ENFP...but I'm 4w5 on Enneagram so more INFP-ish). It's rough. At least we aren't alone in this. lol
Thanks, Heidi. Loved this. I loved how you normalised the love of learning as the driver. I feel like I've started again so many times, but it is what fuels me and always leads me somewhere exciting. I know I work best when I'm hungry. Very interested around what you said about creating space/grieving what has passed. I do a lot of work about knowing when to quit, which I'd love to share with you if you're interested!
I have recently realised that as a fearful avoidant with complex cptsd and being grown up in social isolation I struggle to identify with passions because passions can only develop in a relational context...a meaningful ( for you ) emotional experience that inspires you based on your talents. This is really difficult
Come on!, how do you do the things you did during your struggels (in question 3)? how do you heal your attachment style? How do you get in touch with your true emotions? how do you learn to do this? You got to tell me bro, I am a desperate teen about to get a much harder life. By the way: Your vidioes are amazing and they make me think about those who has not discoverd this goldmine of self-improvement material. There should be some kind of public system that helps people understand what they need on an emotional level. That is how helpfull your vidioes are.
Thank you for this. Especially number 5. I lost my husband to suicide last year and there are so many things that I've been clinging to, trying to conserve, and desperately seeking to recreate to maintain some type of equilibrium that it's left me so much more emotionally exhausted and confused than would have been the case if I had just started letting go when I should have.
Thankyou so much Heidi ❤ this video help me to self-reflect 😭 Got some tears over the 4th & 5th question, but I feel soo amazing after that like.. FINALLY! I can sense my emotion again after 2 weeks burn out 🥲 Hopefully I'll figure out how to deal with this emptiness.. ❤ Love from Indonesia 🇲🇨
So I started streaming on twitch last year, also turn 50 and became a grandfather, and decided I should try to figure out what I want to do when I grow up. I did spend 20 years in information technology and absolutely cannot stand it I hate computers now. I started streaming mostly as a way to get some socializing during lockdowns, play guitar in front of some people, but I could never stick to a schedule and almost quit but instead of quitting and moving on I went into afterburner mode and started doing 8 to 10 hours streams. I did not find the droids I was looking for, despite enjoying being the center of attention, knowing that people actually want to watch what I'm doing, it was draining after a certain point. People kept telling me I needed to have a schedule if I was going to be successful as a streamer. They weren't wrong, but it did make me ask myself do I want to play this game or these games I used to love on a schedule because it's expected. Can I play guitar from the heart and my soul on a schedule because it's expected. I can play guitar and people will say it's good but it won't be creating art and it won't be as impactful it will just be playing cover tunes. It was a hard decision to make because I invested so much time and effort into it in the beginning.
These are just words. There are stages in life, like when your 67 , responsible for you aging mother, so there's NO way in yell, one can say, stuff you, I crave CHANGE.
So I’m one of those ENFPs who is stuck professionally. Do you think that it’s necessary to leave a job that is no longer serving you first in order to get that space to discover what you are hungry for? I have talked myself into staying at my job until I can figure out my next steps but no clarity is coming to me despite my Ne trying all day to find solutions. I remain de-energized, frustrated and not excited by anything
I don’t think it’s *necessary* - I’ve definitely been in a position where I can’t leave a job before finding another - but I think it helps to carve out a lot of space for yourself to reflect and consider your next moves when in that position (the last time I was there I started waking up an hour earlier each morning to spend time with myself and write/reconnect with myself - it really helped figure out next moves!)
I think.it is because your job and what you get from it may be yoir salary serves still a purpose in you. Same feeling, been stucked with my job that makes me survive, but if you come to think of it. Dont you have the capacity to look for another job that you personally and passionately want? When will you try risking what you have and going our of your confort zone? Our comfort zone keeps us from growing, and by it, we will just wake one day with lota of regrets in life...we only have one life, you might as well make the most out of it by doing something new if ur current unhappy with the present one.
@@joemariepenas7568 Oh trust me, I’ve been exploring potential new paths I want to pursue instead, the problem is that I don’t know which path is the right one to take. As soon as I get more clarity, I will have no issue leaving my job
Thank you, I can definitely relate to what you're saying. I have been in a bit of a slump for the last week or so and am looking to how to get myself hooked into my next project. So taken your advice as well, and having a creative day today with my polymer clay and not with my laptop 🙂
I recently asked myself why I didn’t have the drive anymore and where my “inner hunger” was. I thought to take more time to reflect and meditate to find the the next step. You just confirmed it with your awesome video! As a christian I find the source in God’s presence and He helps me to find new inspirations and wisdom.
I am an ENFP Christian man. And I resonate with this exactly. Some seasons (6m-2y) are power and driven and I'm in my sweet spot and naturally connected to others and doing awesome work.
But then there are other seasons where it's the exact opposite. It's like pushing a boulder up a hill. My internal drive dies, my connections wither, my work stagnates and becomes draining. I begin to isolate and pull back, and long for better days. Life just feels hard, even little tasks...
Journaling and having creative and inspiring friends are like the only solutions to this I've found. Or literally leaving the city and moving somewhere else to start a whole new sort of adventure I know very little about...
God(specifically Jesus) has been a unfathomable source of guidance and hope and security and peace. And proclaiming his name above all is my life's passion and calling.
Wow!! This post is so God. I was wondering how to fit Him in. Do you do things that aren't "Christian" (like psychology with a counselor who isn't Christian or AA or other self-help type things) based on your insights in your time in His presence? I'm in a weird place with my Christianity right now. I don't feel like I'm growing much from my Christianity. I'm trying to just stop doing other things and connect wirh God, but it's pretty hard. I'm not sure if this makes sense.
Needed to hear this. Thank you!
This was a success because I’ve been doing the same! In debt because I’ve taken time off working to heal ❤😊🎉
Most of the ENFPs are watching this in 1.5× or 2x speed😂
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Applied in most of the videos and movies on netflix as well 😂😂
lol, I know exactly what you mean! 😂 Although I find for the most part Heidi speaks fast enough, and with enough density that I don't find myself getting impatient or bored. I did find myself listening to John Vervaeke's podcasts at 1.75x however. I love the guy and all, and I was just barely hanging on... but somehow I also found myself getting impatient with him. I have noticed in Heidi's newer stuff that she seems like she's deliberately slowing herself down, but she does this with this very rhythmical cant that I can also very much relate to. I find myself doing that whenever I have to be very logical or explicit about something.
I feel like I’m going to have to watch this several times to really let these soak in
I'm on my second time, and I think I could keep getting more out of 2 or 3 more times.
Your point about adopting a 'perpetual beginner' mindset is a powerful. I've continually tried to remind myself of this because I can get so caught up with where I think I should be at this point in my life.
Thanks for this; “what are you holding on to that’s already gone?” Definitely has me gutted
I think I found the Si integration line. "Slow is smooth. Smooth is fast."
Can you clarify please?.
So much of this felt relatable to me for my current situation. I've felt very stuck in my life, and finances and the need for security have really dominated my decisions because my family struggled growing up and my parents sacrificed happiness for financial security. I've borrowed that mentality from them even though it goes against my nature. I always feel like my life is meaningless, so I put in my 40 hours of work each week and spend my personal time playing games and watching TV. Trying to figure out what I really want is stressful because any conclusions I come to require great risk and my family always tells me it's not a good idea. So I remain. Asking myself a lot of these questions brings up a lot of stress. Hopefully if I can dig into them further they will also bring hope. Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable. I have so much respect for you. Remember, what you are doing IS making a difference in other people's lives. You are truly appreciated. :)
You sound so much like me. I'm also adding in my Christianity and what God wants me to do, which doesn't seem to be helping. Now I'm just trying to do what God wants me to do instead of what my family or co-workers wants me to do.
Two key questions for any ENFP struggling (as I've been for 40 years ^^'')
What do I like the most?
What do I hate the most?
It helped me finding what path I want to take and why... Hopefully it helps someone else 🥰
Yeah but which day of the week? LOL
Why is Kirk climbing the mountain? Because it's there Spock because it's there.
I hate allot of things but allot things I hate is good
I’m in my early 30s and unemployed. I don’t know what path to take but I will ask myself these questions. This was amazing. Thank you for being honest.
Extraordinary amount of work put in this video...and I am not only talking about the technical aspect of it ( script, editing etc..) but also all the life-driven experiences you had to personally undergo to come up with such wisdom...It's a standing ovation for me, thank you for all the people you are inspiring and all the lives you are making better. May you find it in God's blessings
Oh boy. I’m just at 5:15 thinking I used to joke that they should’ve put in my yearbook, “Her greatest ambition was to be ambitious.” Just to be clear. I’ve been stuck forever.
This has changed my life thanks, have been stuck for a year, had tears running down my cheek while listening to you but I think it's time to move on 🤗
Love you ….from a 64 years old ENFP who really needed to hear this!
This was surprisingly REAL. So much so that a tear ran down my cheek.
THANK YOU
( I really have to meditate a bit more on the whole video to write a comment with substance... but for now... )
Thank you for this comment ❤️ I actually waffled a lot about posting this video because it felt so personal but comments like this make me feel so grateful knowing that a lot of my experiences are a lot more universal than they might feel. 🤗
@@heidipriebe1 the more personal the better haha
It's comforting to know that even a very successful enfp has been stuck. And thank you so much for sharing your own tools for getting unstuck. You really did find wonderful ways to work through it all. Thank you a ton for lighting the path a bit.
Heidi, you motivate me like no other. From listening to your book on audible, I decided to reorganise my shed at 1am!! I've put this off for an entire year, and it only took me an hour! Having you is like having the most personalised therapist who knows me inside and out. Thank you for everything 😊💓
Wow. You just taught me more in less than an hour, than most self help videos and books I’ve read in the last 12 years. Thank you.
I read your book and it changed how I viewed life and helped me to understand myself in ways that no one else could put in words. I'm dropping a line to say that your video is really a timely reminder for me and I am really happy for the kind of difference you've made in my life and the difference you're making in our world. It's truly inspiring. Thank you! :)
I dropped out of college recently. Thank you for this!
WOW, so much wisdom just within the first minute. you are so right: the ego is the biggest weakness. if you are not ashamed of failure or embarrassment, you won't be afraid of anything new, won't be closed off to feedback, advice, or improvement, and the possibilities for growth will be endless. as a perfectionist, i've come to find that my perfectionism is a direct result of my terrified inner ego, and as i'm becoming older and more humbled, my perfectionism is slowly fading away.
now time to continue the video lol. i'm literally only 1 minute and 16 seconds in and you already have me thinking so much!!
Heidi, thank you for being an ENFP brave enough to take the steps a lot of ENFPs are stuck with and sharing your "success" story with all of us. I quote the word success because I know life still isn't easy for you and won't be easy in the future, but I really consider those steps toward change a huge success. For so long, I've been held back and just been so damn scared to take those steps. I struggle with many of the things you've listed and feel like I am such a failure. I've recently moved out of my environment and my old group of people, my parents and my partner's parent telling me that anything outside the traditional route is a failure, and my social circle that prefers security/comfort over change (nothing wrong with it, probably SJ types). Taking that step I KNOW that I made the right decision, life has NOT been easy since I did that and I am struggling every day. My external problems (eg. rent, finances, employment) are not being resolved, it's all super stressful, but I KNOW that I am on the right path. Going against how the world tells me to operate feels scary and makes me want to cry every day, but it feels so right and I finally feel like I am alive and heading somewhere in life. Watching your video and hearing your stories confirmed that for me. Thank you Heidi for being the role model on my journey and I wish you nothing but the best and all the love from a fellow ENFP ❤
I am not one to comment on videos but I just want to say thank you so much for creating this content! Your videos have helped me to truly understand myself better and are helping me to heal and move forward 🙏🏾
Love your style and septum ring! 😊
I've been holding on to the wrong career for so long but it's time to change
What am I hungry for:
Being in a wrong fit job for years I'm hungry to excel ,create and be renumerated for it as well be content while doing it
The most helpful video i have watched on UA-cam to date.
as a ENFP it's so easy to lose that motivation as you mentioned. Thanks I'll remember this later and improve myself💞
Heidi: I'm ENFP ... do work in the Microbiome. (multiple patents pend.) Depression, aging, evolution, neurotransmitters etc. ...all occur there. Help is on the way!
I've been watching these videos for months and just today realized Heidi is the author of the enfp book I have had for...longer. Well there you go.
Good job, Heidi! I especially appreciate the part about getting past trying to recreate the happiness of the past… that is so hard… and I think you are absolutely right about it.
YES! You answered the questions I had and this video is exactly what I needed. I've been stuck working on the projects I absolutely want to pursue. Which to me sounds crazy. But that's it, I've plateau-ed and I've gotten stuck in habits that make me unhappy. I didn't realize it because I thought these projects are what Ne and Fi always wanted but then I got into the Te-Si realization of those projects and it's taken away the novelty and excitement. Yet, Fi still wants those projects to get done. So, I got stuck feeling uninspired to do things I actually want to do. Why so complicated, ENFP brain??? So, now I need to look at my habits that I've put into place that make me unhappy. And I also need to feed my Ne new things. I was scared to do so because feeding Ne is like getting excited about 300 new projects when I haven't even completed the previous ones I truly care about. But I've also forgotten that Ne can be interested in many things without needing to implement that new knowledge anywhere. That's what I need. This video was really important for me, so thank you for sharing your wisdom!
"A bad habit is a solution to another problem" 👏👏💯💯 well said!
Ohhh is that really you Joyce?
I want to say, thank you so much for starting your channel, it is VERY helpful to me and my family.
The way you arrange and organize your interviews is superb.
Keep going, you have my full support. ✊✊
#ENFP
That's so great to know!! 🙂 @Ma Lek
Heidi I'm obsessed with your content!! Your so smart and say exactly what NOBODY say! UAU!! It´s mind blowing. I´m from Brazil and dollars are very expensive, but Heidi I'm obsessed with your content!! Your so smart and say exactly what NOBODY say! UAU!! It's mind blowing. I´m from Brazil and dollar are very expensive, but i will 100% find a way to make money and buy your bootcamp. Your content made me feel safe and finally understand a lot A LOT of things about my brain. If you ever need someone to translate your bootcamp to portuguese, I´m on!! A lot of people can benefit from your content here too. Thanksss
I always test as an INFJ. I can totally relate to that and that function stack. But I really also sometimes wonder if I'm actually an INFP. I know, completely different functions lol. But I'm really struggling to type myself. Anyway, whatever I am, this really hit hard. Number five had me weeping like a baby because I am so sentimental and am always referring to how things have been. I'm ill now so my old life has completely gone as well as recently losing my closest family members. So I feel alone and with a huge mountain ahead. Not really sure of what to do. But this has really helped and I know I will keep returning to this video. Thank you again for your helpful, raw, direct and fun content. ❤️
"What would make this time period a success?" Oh man that's a deep one!
I rarely ever rewatch videos because my Si can replay the highlights in my mind and my Ne is always hungry for fresh insights. There are some videos you've made that I have seen 2 to 5 times because my Ne knows there is still more wisdom to glean, and this is one of those treasures I'll be returning to again. ~INFP
Omg the timing on your videos are always so perfect! Thank you. -ENFP recently and currently stuck!
I finished my Masters in Science in 2020 and before finishing I realised that I loved the learning. Not the doing. 🙌🏽 most jobs are laboratory focused which are "doing" jobs. And is not what I desire for me.
To get money whilst stuck I tend to get call center jobs but they're so suffocating.
I think I need to ask these questions to self to really see where I could pivot towards.
I totally resonate with all you have said here Heidi. Especially the question 'What are you holding onto...' Thank you for another brilliant video!! #ENFP 😁
I've been feeling exactly this recently, and it's crazy how the slow realizations come to you through these depressive days when you notice your energy is not the same anymore. My remote job has been great, but there's still something missing (people-to-people interaction). This is a sign I need to deeply reflect and look at what Im hungry for and go for that. Thanks for this
You are so amazing, it's like you can see inside my mind. Please do more videos on the topic on feeling stuck, and also on how to reach out and make new friends at older ages, or on how to cope with loneliness when you have no actual support system. Thank you for all these great resources, your videos really help me.
Seriously can I like this multiple times! I'm mostly through your class and I relate so incredibly deeper with all your content than basically any other content I have read! My cognitive functions seriously "get it" from your works. Big thanks for making a permanent difference in my life, and I wish you the best on your own challenging adventure called life!
Your videos are so fuckin insightful, I mean I resonate with almost everything you say and your voice is so soothing. Love you Heidi! You’ve changed my outlook on my behaviors I don’t feel like there’s something wrong with me anymore. You’ve helped me realize I just have to shape my life around me personality!💙
Once again, I've never ever heard such perfect explanations of ENFP issues and fixes!!!
Wow. Goddamn. The video that answered the question that I've been asking myself for the past 20 years. Wow.
I'm definitely there, and I don't quite know where to go from here.... except here. 😂 No really, these videos are super helpful. I still didn't even know I had anything to work on at 30... and I still wasn't really that worried at 35 after finishing 2 degrees in different disciplines only to immediately abandon them. I had thought that my marriage and my mom's death were wake up calls, but maybe it doesn't matter how much motivation you have if you don't know what to do with it. I'm 49 now, and I can't say things have gotten better. At first I thought that working in a field with rewarding work was what I needed.... then I thought that I needed to work with like minded individuals....then I thought I needed to work on human understanding and relational skills.... and now maybe I just want to understand myself and my life before I die. I don't know anymore, only that I've gotten each thing at least slightly wrong, if not completely wrong, and every time I feel like finally I'm on the path I once again realize too late that I've been pulled around by the nose in the same circle once again.
I never thought of myself as holding onto the past because if anything, I have very little attachment to it, and I can't say that reminders of it feel pleasant. I was even happy to have developed some dissociation from my memories. I've changed a lot over my life, and this has cost me as much as it has brought me. I've had a few major life transitions, where in the space of the day, nothing afterwards or before was ever the same. My past became easier to deal with because it no longer felt like my own. It was like waking up one day with someone else's memories, and to be honest, that was what I had always wanted, its just that it never occurred to me that the Alternity could be my own. But now I think we all have that ultimate alterity deep within our core. This is the abyss within us that stares back, but also that irreconcilable self difference that makes truly relating to another sentient being possible in the first place.
In this journey I've come to see that what I had spent half of my life working towards wasn't even a core part of me. It was a compensation mechanism! 😂 And more recently, in career counselling, I learned that I have been avoiding all of the things that I should be most suited to as an ENFP, because these are also the things that terrify me..... I was also recently diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, and I've come to the conclusion that my attachment style is fearful avoidant. I've had problems with either sticking with the wrong thing too long, or not sticking with something else long enough. But really, I think its more likely that neither of those possibilities are true. Right now, I'm trying to figure out what it is I'm doing that makes me always focus on the wrong thing at the wrong time in the wrong way in the wrong place with the wrong people.... or, what it is that makes it look that way.😅
But back to the matter at hand. I really have noticed that I just want to keep doing whatever I'm already doing and have to really work myself up to starting something different, even though what I like the best is the initial growth phase, and find the mind numbing refinement phase at the end deadens me! I know this is a compensation, I'm just not sure in what way. It does have perfectionistic overtones, and there are a lot of things I never finish. Part of me wonders if that's because then I will have to admit to what I have done, and in that act of admission I will also have to accept that it can never change because it is over. Or maybe I think that I will never have this opportunity again. Or, maybe I can't imagine anything beyond this moment, so it feels like a kind of annihilation. All of these things are true, but it doesn't matter if none of them are primary. My first counselor thought I had an adaptational disorder, but that doesn't make sense if I already change so much that my friends get tired just watching me.... and then eventually they aren't my friends anymore. I mean, some of that is also my fault because the ambivalence of never knowing where I stand can drive me insane, so then I withdraw.
This was so timely for me. Probably just going to sit with it for a while and then come back to it and actually journal out / brainstorm.
Also, love Gabor Mate. Need to read more of his work. Agree he seems to have Fi and Te. I actually wondered if he's a fellow ENFP because his knowledge base is so wildly varied across so many different topics, but now you say it could definitely see INTJ too, especially since he's older. I could imagine him being less in his feelings when he was younger and then stepping into it more now with his quiet understanding wisdom with that underlying, but still very present, passion.
Wow, Heidi, this is such high value! Really valuable insight and wisdom you share here. Thanks a lot 🙂♥️
Thank you for you content! Please don’t stop posting!
hi i just wanted to say that this video really blew my mind as if someone could see right inside my head. Only that you were able to reflect and sort out all of these confused thoughts. thank you for that! that really opened my eyes.
Love goes out to you
I just turned 50 and feel the same and an ENFP. You rock Heidi!
I love you, Heidi! Seriously. You’re amazing and such a gift to the world. I wish you all the fulfilment possible ♥️
"One more time with feeling" has a verse about that feeling of not being where you had hoped to be
Thank you for creating this video and for all of your work… I just feel you are brilliant and that what you are doing is immensely important and helpful. Since I found you it is like someone has given me a flash light and a map. I haven’t done a test yet but if I am an ENFP, everything that has always felt confusing and painful would suddenly make sense and feel different. It is truly mind blowing to learn these things and it’s eerie too, to discover that I may not be an alien and that I am not the only one having this experience of life. It’s the most intense strange experience. The way you are sharing so many personal things is so kind and helpful. You are a beautiful, beautiful, lovely being.
This felt so real so soon. I am crying. I think it's so so understated by thank you so much for everything you do ❤
thank you so much for this video ! it's been sitting here in tabs for a while and i don't know why i postponed watching it. maybe i knew i needed to make a change, and didn't want to yet.
But after finally watching it i felt so understood, it's crazy. and it was refreshing to hear such a positive and grounded take on it. thank you. i needed that.
Damn your the ENFP guru! can relate to so much, really helps me. thankyou!!
Happy 30th birthday in advance
Thank you verrry much for your work... as a fellow enfp I'm learning tones from you again thank you and God bless you.❤
Good on you for making this so sincerely! Thank you!
What you say feels so right. I guess that's the best proof.
Thank you so much for posting this video and talking about such a topic in great depth. It can be seen that you have learnt and grown a lot from your personal experiences.
Thank you for taking the time to assimilate everything and putting it down in this video.
Your video has great "questions" which try to spark insights about situations we are involved in.
These major points of yours on getting unstuck come from a place of great depth and reflection. These will help me and going to help a lot of people in future as well, i feel confident about that.
There are a lot of empty souls just passing by in life and drifting in their life. A lot of people on the internet searching for truth and looking for meaning. Hope they find this video.
Thank you, subbed. Watched through once, then again while taking notes because so many thoughts popped up along the way. I will return to this video again I'm sure. I know you market directly towards "ENFPs," of which I guess I am one but this advice seems a lot more widely applicable - I hope more who need it can see it. Much appreciated.
Thank you for these insights they resonate with me very much, you are a gift to all of us ENFP'ers ❤
I also stopped everything else when I decided to fix some things, I thought it was the most important thing and it was. Great Speech and good points, ty and very true about being sentimental 😅 no I mean this was a very very good video. Will Watch it again soon for sure..
Thanks for telling these 5 questions I'll try to apply on and maybe my goal of having a cool short film before my b'day might be possible and learn drawing, voice acting and athletics will be possible I will try to come out of my comfort zone and use my fruits of Enfp and weakness to achieve happiness and improvements!!
HUUUUGE video / fantastic advices, great job !
Ouch and wow. Am listening while I cook, so will ponder, listen again and then hopefully have a more full response. Thank you for putting this out there. Eh hem.
I will forever be grateful to you❤☺
Hello everyone, good morning! I think this is the best video edited by Heidi Priebe. I liked so much, very well explained for her. Greetings from Sonora, México.
This did come up after I watched a Frank James video! Lol Great video, Heidi! Loved the book, btw!
-ENFP
For this INFP "stuck" is kinda what happens with every step I take, like walking though mud in over size boots on if you know what I mean. The Fi Si loop is so seductive to me. Thanks for sharing your wisdom Heidi.
I'm an ENFP who gets in Fi-Si loop all the time too (thought I was INFP but then professionally typed as ENFP...but I'm 4w5 on Enneagram so more INFP-ish). It's rough. At least we aren't alone in this. lol
Amazing video, some of those questions touched me deeply. Also, I feel so understood ❤
You do an incredible job on these videos. So helpful and insightful.
Wow. I love your videos but this one may be one of my favorites. Thank you 🙏
Thank you. I needed that redirect.
Wow this was incredibly helpful
Thanks, Heidi. Loved this. I loved how you normalised the love of learning as the driver. I feel like I've started again so many times, but it is what fuels me and always leads me somewhere exciting. I know I work best when I'm hungry. Very interested around what you said about creating space/grieving what has passed. I do a lot of work about knowing when to quit, which I'd love to share with you if you're interested!
Wonderful insight!!! Thank you! I'm a new subscriber. This resonated with me!
Thank you, this video is fantastically helpful.
I have recently realised that as a fearful avoidant with complex cptsd and being grown up in social isolation I struggle to identify with passions because passions can only develop in a relational context...a meaningful ( for you ) emotional experience that inspires you based on your talents. This is really difficult
Come on!, how do you do the things you did during your struggels (in question 3)? how do you heal your attachment style? How do you get in touch with your true emotions? how do you learn to do this?
You got to tell me bro, I am a desperate teen about to get a much harder life.
By the way: Your vidioes are amazing and they make me think about those who has not discoverd this goldmine of self-improvement material. There should be some kind of public system that helps people understand what they need on an emotional level. That is how helpfull your vidioes are.
Thank you for this. Especially number 5. I lost my husband to suicide last year and there are so many things that I've been clinging to, trying to conserve, and desperately seeking to recreate to maintain some type of equilibrium that it's left me so much more emotionally exhausted and confused than would have been the case if I had just started letting go when I should have.
This was a powerful video.
Omg this resonated with me so much
Thankyou so much Heidi ❤ this video help me to self-reflect 😭 Got some tears over the 4th & 5th question, but I feel soo amazing after that like.. FINALLY! I can sense my emotion again after 2 weeks burn out 🥲 Hopefully I'll figure out how to deal with this emptiness..
❤ Love from Indonesia 🇲🇨
wow what an incredible video, thank you so much!!!!!!
You.🥰 I like you. Thanks for this video.
So I started streaming on twitch last year, also turn 50 and became a grandfather, and decided I should try to figure out what I want to do when I grow up. I did spend 20 years in information technology and absolutely cannot stand it I hate computers now. I started streaming mostly as a way to get some socializing during lockdowns, play guitar in front of some people, but I could never stick to a schedule and almost quit but instead of quitting and moving on I went into afterburner mode and started doing 8 to 10 hours streams. I did not find the droids I was looking for, despite enjoying being the center of attention, knowing that people actually want to watch what I'm doing, it was draining after a certain point. People kept telling me I needed to have a schedule if I was going to be successful as a streamer. They weren't wrong, but it did make me ask myself do I want to play this game or these games I used to love on a schedule because it's expected. Can I play guitar from the heart and my soul on a schedule because it's expected. I can play guitar and people will say it's good but it won't be creating art and it won't be as impactful it will just be playing cover tunes. It was a hard decision to make because I invested so much time and effort into it in the beginning.
This resonated with me so much!
These are just words. There are stages in life, like when your 67 , responsible for you aging mother, so there's NO way in yell, one can say, stuff you, I crave CHANGE.
Omg you’re only 30 😭 you’ve done so much
I didn’t know you knew Frank James, but I of course you do!
My boyfriend is an ENFP and I am an INTJ. He does NOT like to plan things. I'm trying to get him unstuck. This is helpful thank you!
So I’m one of those ENFPs who is stuck professionally. Do you think that it’s necessary to leave a job that is no longer serving you first in order to get that space to discover what you are hungry for? I have talked myself into staying at my job until I can figure out my next steps but no clarity is coming to me despite my Ne trying all day to find solutions. I remain de-energized, frustrated and not excited by anything
I don’t think it’s *necessary* - I’ve definitely been in a position where I can’t leave a job before finding another - but I think it helps to carve out a lot of space for yourself to reflect and consider your next moves when in that position (the last time I was there I started waking up an hour earlier each morning to spend time with myself and write/reconnect with myself - it really helped figure out next moves!)
I think.it is because your job and what you get from it may be yoir salary serves still a purpose in you. Same feeling, been stucked with my job that makes me survive, but if you come to think of it. Dont you have the capacity to look for another job that you personally and passionately want? When will you try risking what you have and going our of your confort zone? Our comfort zone keeps us from growing, and by it, we will just wake one day with lota of regrets in life...we only have one life, you might as well make the most out of it by doing something new if ur current unhappy with the present one.
@@joemariepenas7568 Oh trust me, I’ve been exploring potential new paths I want to pursue instead, the problem is that I don’t know which path is the right one to take. As soon as I get more clarity, I will have no issue leaving my job
@@kevin6588 thats nice. Just dont put much pressure on urself about it. Just go where your heart wants to. Go to what will really make you happy. ..
@@joemariepenas7568 I’m not sure what would make me happy, that is the problem
Thank you, I can definitely relate to what you're saying. I have been in a bit of a slump for the last week or so and am looking to how to get myself hooked into my next project. So taken your advice as well, and having a creative day today with my polymer clay and not with my laptop 🙂
Thanks Heidi! It’s means a lot
You’re a change maniac! And I get it
Crushed it. Thank you
Superb video
You are dope...and gifted.