I suffered with vaginismus for 10 years of marriage and it took over my life

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  • Vaginismus Cure & Treatment | Rashi's message to other women with vaginismus regardless of their age or family status. A message of hope and encouragement as once she found a cure.
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  • @entertain7us148
    @entertain7us148 5 років тому +85

    i honestly feel so lucky to have the internet. people can discover things about themselves after persistent searching that just instantly click with their experience, and it's the most relieving thing in the world to be able to put a name to it, to know you're not alone, and to know their are solutions out there.

  • @Amelia-we1sf
    @Amelia-we1sf 6 років тому +16

    Thank you for posting this! You are so courageous for sharing!

  • @GnowkEannot
    @GnowkEannot 5 років тому +10

    You are very brave to share your story. Thank you. I only learn about this illness recently and this helps me too.

  • @sandhyasivanandam8738
    @sandhyasivanandam8738 6 років тому +5

    im so glad that you figured it out. hope u stay happy

  • @moonbat2533
    @moonbat2533 6 років тому +47

    For the last two years vaginismus has been ruining my life. I've had amazing breakthrough followed by crushing setbacks. Every time I think I can have a normal marriage and kids it's like it flares up and gets worse. I know it's treatable but the way I feel right now is this thing I have is killing me inside.

    • @AKRxx
      @AKRxx 3 роки тому +1

      sorry to hear this :( i feel the same. how are you getting on now?

    • @thomasandrewmcgonigal5150
      @thomasandrewmcgonigal5150 3 роки тому +1

      Please get treatment

    • @mostlysane2248
      @mostlysane2248 2 роки тому +2

      same and iam living in pakistan where we can’t share this with anyone

    • @sibinams6226
      @sibinams6226 2 роки тому

      Same here.. going through treatments

    • @mloppe150
      @mloppe150 Рік тому

      How are you now?

  • @peachlife5118
    @peachlife5118 6 років тому +2

    Congrats and thanks for sharing and giving me hope

  • @sshuteandrew
    @sshuteandrew 6 років тому +59

    I know the very real pain of vaginismus and the feelings of inadequacy it brings, but there is hope ladies. I suffered with this for years but now I’m able to enjoy passionate sex and I four beautiful children. It took effort and therapy and not giving up, but I enjoy the journey and came out the other end. Seek help. Don’t give up 💞💞

    • @julieanghelone1349
      @julieanghelone1349 6 років тому

      Stacey Swope it's very inspiring, i have it to and i want it to go. How did you do? Can you say what helped you? Was it more pyschologic exercises with a psychologue or more "body exercises"? Pardon my bad english, I am french! :)

    • @ccpr15
      @ccpr15 6 років тому

      Stacey Swope I really need help with this

    • @hurricanekenny8837
      @hurricanekenny8837 6 років тому

      Stacey Swope what treatments did you have Stacey? Do you need therapy? Would it help?

    • @sancharipramanik9588
      @sancharipramanik9588 6 років тому

      hi...how can i understand that i have this type of problem or not?

    • @shareandcare7880
      @shareandcare7880 4 роки тому

      Plz tell me something about treatment

  • @sayantikaghosh4240
    @sayantikaghosh4240 3 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing this. It take alot of courage ❤thank you and feeling happy you are happy

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  3 роки тому

      You are so welcome

    • @jyotithakur5414
      @jyotithakur5414 3 роки тому

      Plz help me I also have this problem ....how it is treat plz tell it's my humble request I m so depress ed

  • @lilyjames8354
    @lilyjames8354 2 роки тому

    Love 😍 it. Rashi you have described feelings totally. I feel the same. It is horrible to have this condition. No one cares, no help from anyone, no help from the NHS, anxiety, hopelessness. So glad you shared.

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  2 роки тому +1

      Indeed, vaginismus can be emotionally devastating. Happy to be of help if you can come to us in New York for treatment. Direct all discussion to doctors@womentc.com

  • @annaannab5365
    @annaannab5365 2 роки тому

    thank you for sharing..

  • @vaishalis5539
    @vaishalis5539 4 роки тому +1

    God bless u...love u

  • @thezanarose
    @thezanarose 2 роки тому +2

    Vaginismus never took this much of my identity away. I never allowed it to but also because I am not that interested in having children. For me it has been PTSD that holds me back. I’m so proud of her for sharing her story. I’m almost cured. It’s very up and down. It comes and goes in waves. I did more work emotionally than I did physically or psychologically.

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  2 роки тому

      Vaginismus affects different women in different ways. Wishing you continued success on the way to a full recovery!

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 Рік тому

      Hi can I help you

  • @commonsenseisoverdue.3111
    @commonsenseisoverdue.3111 5 років тому +10

    Wow,thank God I am not alone,I only used an tampon one time in my life ,if only men's understand but instead most don't care as long as they are enjoying themselves.

  • @kru_tp369
    @kru_tp369 Рік тому +2

    I can totally feel this pain. I am in the same position and no matter how much I have achieved in the life but this one thing makes me down and I started raising doubts in myself. How entire world can do it and I cannot.

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  Рік тому

      Not quite the entire world as vaginismus is quite common. We're happy to discuss treatment options if you contact us directly at doctors@womentc.com or +15165761118

  • @fabiennecadet6993
    @fabiennecadet6993 6 років тому +22

    I'm 26 yrs old I just find out i might suffer from vaginismus because I can't really insert thing inside there, I never wear a tampons every time I try to have sex it always a painful.

    • @mayelapena7755
      @mayelapena7755 6 років тому

      So identified with you! I have vaginismus and I am going into my first physiotherapy apt in a couple of days. I am a bit nervous about it

    • @sshuteandrew
      @sshuteandrew 6 років тому +2

      Yes, sounds absolutely like it. I was diagnosed with it 20 years and I’m good now but is was a process. It takes dedication- you can’t give up! 💗

    • @staceynoffke
      @staceynoffke 6 років тому +3

      Look up hypertonic pelvic floor dysfunction. After 17 years of pain I finally have a correct diagnosis. I don't want anyone else to have to be in pain for as long as I have been!

    • @anastasiaaa4094
      @anastasiaaa4094 5 років тому +4

      Its so painful. I cry everyday. Newly married and still a virgin becoz penetrance is not possible

  • @teresatimmer2212
    @teresatimmer2212 4 роки тому +1

    Is there a way to connect to this woman? I would really like to talk with her

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  3 роки тому

      Let us know if we can be of further assistance.
      www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/

  • @zoyasiddiqui5347
    @zoyasiddiqui5347 5 років тому +5

    M 25 years virgin girl n I felt my pelvic muscles are contracted once I was reading about viginismus I ignored but after a couple of years I was reading n the word vaginismus comes n I searched about vaginismus n I felt like m also suffering from vaginismus like feeling contracted in pelvic muscles stiffness in body n whenever I thought about sex i feels different sensations in my lower body something like tingling but different type of tingling n contractions . I did with 2 fingers n it’s not easy but I did then I tried with 3 fingers then I felt like I have a second heart in my vagina like systole diastole I need help in diagnosis n treatment if m suffering with this .. what to do ???please help

  • @nevesdarocha
    @nevesdarocha 6 років тому +24

    This is a real problem and it's so hard to get treatment. Even if you are referred for physical therapy it's hard to get the courage to go. We are told to be conservative, modest, ladylike, and getting treatment feels like the exact opposite of that.

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  6 років тому +2

      Indeed, which is why the exact prevalence of vaginismus is so difficult to come by: most women (by our extensive statistics) do not tell anyone about their suffering with it!

    • @DeeBee2013
      @DeeBee2013 6 років тому +3

      Calcium makes muscle contract - Magnesium makes them relax. Try taking Magnesium Glycinate 665mg - 3 times day (not all forms of Magnesium are well absorbed)

    • @sshuteandrew
      @sshuteandrew 6 років тому

      Getting help is courageous- you need to be vulnerable and let your pain and fears show, but it’s necessary as part of your journey to recovery. You can be conservative and lady-like and still seek help. It doesn’t make you any less of a woman to have issues or seek help. Plus, I always reminded myself the people that I was seeing for treatment were professionals, and to them it wasn’t anything strange or unfamiliar that I was sharing with them. That helped me a lot as I disclose very private moments of intimacy and fears about my own life. Don’t give up! 🌸💝

    • @ken45y
      @ken45y 4 роки тому

      I wonder when this came about. I mean diagnosed. I am not sexually active and haven't had a pap in over 5 years. Don't remember the Gynecologists I went to mention it.

    • @nemo3616
      @nemo3616 2 роки тому

      You can treat this...using dialator...i am telling with my personal experience...i overcame vaginusmus after 2 years of marriage...

  • @sabrinacoolest
    @sabrinacoolest 7 років тому +5

    is there a forum that women can chat about things support , and can I talk to this lady

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  7 років тому +1

      Yes, join Private Pain, our vaginismus group on Facebook where you can meet others and chat with them about the condition. For more information, contact us at doctors@womentc.com

    • @thechinannashow7458
      @thechinannashow7458 7 років тому

      Women's Therapy Center - vaginismus, painful sex, cancer, can I join cause this need to stop

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  7 років тому +1

      Go to Facebook and search for Private Pain (our support group). Follow instructions for how to join.

    • @tinklingcrystals6489
      @tinklingcrystals6489 6 років тому +2

      sabrinacoolest my husband divorced me because of vaginismus.. after 8 years of marriage.. I feel hopeless.. I want to be completely cured.. but here in Kerala, India I see no scope for proper sincere guidance. I can insert my index finger with great discomfort.. I ve almost given up .. I need help as am in love again.. I don't want to lose him.

    • @anettfarkas2757
      @anettfarkas2757 5 років тому

      I’m 18 years old and I have problem as well for me sex is painful. What can I do about it ? I might be have as well vaginismus . I haven’t seen yet doctor .

  • @flyinglights2
    @flyinglights2 Рік тому

    It's nice that she is sharing this, but what I notice in this kind of videos is that they don't talk about the process and cost og treatmen which is in fact a central issue.

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  Рік тому

      Actually, the central issue is understanding vaginismus; the rest are just logistics. As to the process, you can find info on our website. Administrative details are managed via email to our office.

  • @jayham1970
    @jayham1970 Рік тому +2

    My wife has this condition. We have been married for 25 years, and she would never talk about it, acknowledge it, or seek treatment when I found it for her. We have been married for 25 years, we basically live as roommates, we have no kids, and I feel miserable. I married her for better or worse, and our marital bed has been for the worse. If you have this problem, PLEASE be willing to discuss this with your significant other. If you cannot discuss it (and your significant other stays with you), you are absolutely killing another soul who eats to be one with you, and they (through all the pain of the situation) will stay with you. I am heartbroken over this situation, and I have to admit a lot of animosity over the situation, but I am still faithful to my wife.

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  Рік тому

      So sorry to read of your sad journey. Not sure it would be comforting but, we've had other such vaginismus cases with the longest unconsummated marriage being 27 years, and one who was still a virgin after 26 years of marriage (and doing great in treatment). It would be so therapeutic to your wife if there is any way you can get her to watch our videos/read the website/open up, so she won't think she is the 'only one' with vaginismus, nor that she is doomed to live like this forever. If interested in further discussion, contact us at 516.576.1118 or via email to doctors@womentc.com

    • @novianird9751
      @novianird9751 Рік тому +2

      Best man ever.. hope things get better, you do know that she needs you more than anything else in this world

    • @empiricaltheory6650
      @empiricaltheory6650 5 місяців тому

      God bless you both. I hope she is in a better condition now.

  • @prostowoczy2
    @prostowoczy2 7 років тому +14

    I'm suffering from vaginismus for over 7 years. Is it normal that I don't want to try any more. I know what i need to do to cure that but ... for me "sex" could not exist. I don't feel anything :-(

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  7 років тому +2

      This is a typical reaction by many women with vaginismus. It is hoped that you can explore other means of sexual intimacy beside vaginal intercourse, such as oral sex, manual sex, etc. There is no reason to be shutdown sexually because of vaginismus!

    • @prostowoczy2
      @prostowoczy2 7 років тому +1

      Women's Therapy Center - vaginismus, painful sex, cancer,
      Maybe I've explained that in a wrong way. What I meant, from time to time I want to hug or kiss my husband but overall I don't feel that I need those things. Maybe it's very low libido or something, I don't know. .. I would like to mention that my period is very irregular. But my blood test results are fine. I don't know what to do , I don't know what to think. I feel like a loser. ..

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  7 років тому

      Not an usual situation for a long-standing vaginismus. Hoping you can separate the condition from the rest of your sexual intimacy life and get back to enjoying it. And, of course, explore means to cure the vaginismus!

    • @navitathukral4206
      @navitathukral4206 6 років тому

      Women's Therapy Center - vaginismus, painful sex, cancer, could u give me ur email id

    • @sshuteandrew
      @sshuteandrew 6 років тому

      prostowoczy2 - Yes, in my experience I went through many highs and lows as I battled vaginismus for three years. At times I gave up because the fight was exhausting and took so much out of me, but in the and I didn’t give up. I was determined to fight it and beat it, and I did eventually. I was diagnosed 20 years ago and I’m great now. Don’t give up hope! Take breaks when you need to and give your body and mind rest when you need to, but don’t ever give up. The rewards are worth it!! 💝🌸

  • @sanamkhan5867
    @sanamkhan5867 3 роки тому

    Very touchy ur story is......what is the treatment of this issue plz tell

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  3 роки тому +1

      Dear Ms. Khan, visit out website www.womentc.com for more information and/or contact us at doctors@womentc.com. We look forward to being of help.

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 Рік тому

      Hi can I help

  • @menelique5583
    @menelique5583 4 роки тому +5

    Thank you for this video.. but i don’t understand why people are scared ro have vaginism while being married. Its the same as being in a relationship, and your husband, if he loves you well (or wife btw) will definitely understand

  • @annaannab5365
    @annaannab5365 2 роки тому

    thank you so much! can we know the cost? can we go there in New York?

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  2 роки тому

      We look forward to being of help. Please contact the office for further discussion and details, and include where you are located geographically: doctors@womentc.com

  • @nurulaimuni
    @nurulaimuni 6 років тому +21

    Thank you for sharing.. I also suffering vaginismus, I'm married almost 3 years.. so sad, because I do not know to whom I can share my problem. Friends, family always ask me about baby..😣

    • @rahal2016
      @rahal2016 6 років тому

      Aimuni Mun where are you from? You can see a doctor to resolve this problem... you should talk to a doctor

    • @himanshreddy713
      @himanshreddy713 5 років тому +2

      I also had this problem.... now I overcome this problem. I suffered from 3 and half years... here in india we have an excellent doctor DR. SHARMILA MAJUMDAR.
      She is a goddess for me...
      From INDIA
      SORRY for my bad english

    • @SonikaSharma
      @SonikaSharma 4 роки тому

      @@himanshreddy713 can you pls advise the address of doctor's hospital

    • @poojasharma-yh8gx
      @poojasharma-yh8gx 4 роки тому

      @@himanshreddy713 I m also suffering from this problem.. Plzz can you tell me ye docter mujhe thik kar sakti hai? Help me plzzz😌😌

    • @mohsanali7279
      @mohsanali7279 4 роки тому

      @@himanshreddy713hi

  • @shishi3239
    @shishi3239 3 роки тому +14

    My marriage life ended up 8 years ago because of vaginismus.. I thought that I’m only woman had this problem. Just one month ago I knew that my problem called as vaginismus and have medical treatment for it…if any mothers read my comment “remember to educate your daughter about it “ it will be useful for their happy marriage life. 🙂

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  3 роки тому

      So sorry to read about your vaginismus struggle. We are here for you if you want to be treated and cured. Contact our office at either 516.576.1118 or by email to doctors@womentc.com

    • @shezamurtazaa4454
      @shezamurtazaa4454 2 роки тому

      @@Womentc please help mee i have same prblm...

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  2 роки тому

      @@shezamurtazaa4454 For treatment information, contact us at doctors@womentc.com or call our office 516.576.1118

  • @jadealves1581
    @jadealves1581 6 років тому +8

    I am so lost, I dont know what to do with my pain anymore

    • @staceynoffke
      @staceynoffke 6 років тому +3

      Look up hypertonic pelvic floor dysfunction. After 17 years of pain I finally have a correct diagnosis. I don't want anyone else to have to be in pain for as long as I have been!

    • @anilroy2007
      @anilroy2007 6 років тому

      Jade Alves ..good

    • @unknownboo8738
      @unknownboo8738 3 роки тому

      Just relax! Reminder to you and myself, you will get through it. God is great just be hopeful 🌸

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 Рік тому

      Hi can I help 😮

  • @MohdImran-on8sc
    @MohdImran-on8sc 3 роки тому

    Hi I have suffer from vaginismus from 2 yrs but till yet can't be cure my doctor suggested to do surgery but I can't afford that much expences can u please help me without surgery how I can cure because of this vaginismus my husband left me and I'm alone

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  3 роки тому

      So sorry to read of your suffering. Happy to be of help if you can come to us in New York for treatment as we must see you in person in order to cure the vaginismus. Please direct communication to doctors@womentc.com

    • @Hindustan2469
      @Hindustan2469 Рік тому

      hi..
      I'm a male and want to marry vaginismus women,
      due to not interested in sex,
      pls reply

  • @ashanmendis8091
    @ashanmendis8091 4 роки тому +3

    can there be a video by the husbands perspective

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  3 роки тому

      There is one on our channel!

  • @chloer5065
    @chloer5065 3 роки тому +2

    Is anybody else just entirely unable to have anything inside? I’m 20 years old and have never even been able to insert a tampon.

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  3 роки тому

      Of course; we've had many vaginismus cases like that! read more atwww.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/

  • @bhagavadgitashorts08
    @bhagavadgitashorts08 6 років тому +6

    How did u get cured...plz tell something about that...Can we cure vaginismus without going to a doctor?

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  6 років тому +3

      She was cured by us utilizing our specialized treatment methodology. As to self cure, try using dilators (can be purchased online) and see if you can sort this out.

    • @thezanarose
      @thezanarose 5 років тому +9

      Unless you personally have vaginismus, you have zero right to just say "try using dilators". That's not helpful from a psychological perspective. That's purely physical. Not everyone vaginismus is even physical. So dilators won't help with mental health.

    • @Zoels-wj6gh
      @Zoels-wj6gh 5 років тому

      Just please go to a doctor

    • @nurhafizahcj6817
      @nurhafizahcj6817 5 років тому

      @@Womentc can I find women therapy centre in Malaysia?

    • @nemo3616
      @nemo3616 2 роки тому +1

      @@thezanarose it definitely helped for me...i overcame vaginismus

  • @cherryliang5117
    @cherryliang5117 6 років тому +5

    I don't want sex too and can't fit anything in but it doesn't bother me, I just hop from a guy to another. before the point of having sex

    • @staceynoffke
      @staceynoffke 6 років тому

      Look up hypertonic pelvic floor dysfunction. After 17 years of pain I finally have a correct diagnosis. I don't want anyone else to have to be in pain for as long as I have been!

  • @shareandcare7880
    @shareandcare7880 3 роки тому

    Wtc means what mam i am suffering from this prob for3 yrs

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  3 роки тому

      Contact our office for treatment options. doctors@womentc.com

  • @Musafir619
    @Musafir619 2 роки тому

    I just got to know I have this problem please hep

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  2 роки тому

      Happy to discuss further if you email us: doctors@womentc.com

  • @namsifonjacob4694
    @namsifonjacob4694 Рік тому

    I thought you wanted to help us with what you used to treat yourself and get better

  • @sayemasaif7095
    @sayemasaif7095 6 років тому +3

    Do you have any kids now?

  • @jahmedkhan67
    @jahmedkhan67 Рік тому

    How to contact from Pakistan?

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  Рік тому

      You can email us at doctors@womentc.com

  • @shareandcare7880
    @shareandcare7880 3 роки тому +1

    But how u cure it mam

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  3 роки тому

      Contact our office for treatment options doctors@womentc.com

    • @brightyrynold
      @brightyrynold 3 роки тому +1

      Hi ,
      I am also suffering the same.But by gods grace I have a child after 1 year of my marriage and she is 5 years now.My husband is not happy with the sex life with me .He gets irritated and stressed totally with this, and is at the verge of divorce.
      Is it truly vaginismus or only fear .can anyone advise

    • @nemo3616
      @nemo3616 2 роки тому +1

      @@brightyrynold please try using dialator...it really worked for me

  • @Susmitamilu
    @Susmitamilu 3 роки тому

    Where can we get help in india

    • @abdurrehmanishaque8055
      @abdurrehmanishaque8055 3 роки тому +3

      We can solve this problem without visiting Here and There it is my experience since 2yars my wife also suffering from veginismas but after 2 years we got sucsess from dailetor and jell

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  3 роки тому

      Regrettably, we do not know of any clinician in India who offers what we do. So sorry.

    • @zanthozantho6964
      @zanthozantho6964 3 роки тому

      @@abdurrehmanishaque8055 can you tell what gel you used.

    • @abdurrehmanishaque8055
      @abdurrehmanishaque8055 3 роки тому

      @@zanthozantho6964 yas are you still need sorry for delay

    • @zanthozantho6964
      @zanthozantho6964 3 роки тому

      @@abdurrehmanishaque8055 yes can you tell the gel name

  • @beautyhairindo
    @beautyhairindo Рік тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @chamikasenevirathna8051
    @chamikasenevirathna8051 2 роки тому

    I am you 😥 so helpless

    • @Womentc
      @Womentc  2 роки тому

      Happy to be of help if you can come to us for treatment - we have the answer to curing vaginismus. Please direct communication to our office at doctors@womentc.com or by calling us at 516.576.1118