MY PERSONAL STRUGGLE TO OVERCOME VAGINISMUS

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  • Опубліковано 15 лют 2019
  • In this video, I talk about my experience of losing my virginity to my husband. I open up to talk about my personal struggle to overcome a condition called vaginismus. I couldn't have sex with my husband for a long time after we got married.
    Unfortunately talking about sex is still quite a taboo topic in the muslim community. It doesn't need to be. I decided to do this video in case anyone else is struggling with this. Know that you are not alone and that you can overcome it!
    I had no idea that what I was going through was called vaginismus. When I found out, I was determined to overcome it. I talk about my personal story and experience and what I used to help me overcome this condition. I hope you find benefit in this video.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 740

  • @jessicarussell3918
    @jessicarussell3918 4 роки тому +177

    I have been dealing with this for years with my husband and am just now realizing that this is what it is, and it’s so helpful to know that there are so many other women going through it. You are bringing me so much peace in this journey, thank you for sharing and putting yourself out there. 🥰

    • @Aparna.S93
      @Aparna.S93 3 роки тому +4

      I had this too.. Silicone dilators helped me a lot..

    • @agent9973
      @agent9973 2 роки тому

      Why didn't you every control you gyn doctor

    • @Aparna.S93
      @Aparna.S93 Рік тому

      @@pooja__894 it's ok use lignocaine gel and medical grade silicone dilators.. u will be ok soon..

    • @Aparna.S93
      @Aparna.S93 Рік тому

      @@pooja__894 no it won't pain at all if u use lignocaine gel beforehand. Try with dilators. Use lots of gel 1st few days while using dilators. Trust me dilators help a lot. They give us confidence.

    • @Aparna.S93
      @Aparna.S93 Рік тому +1

      @@pooja__894 my replies are getting deleted automatically. I don't know why.

  • @Ladschu
    @Ladschu 3 роки тому +27

    I'm crying right now. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I now see hope

  • @Kiwibrowngurl
    @Kiwibrowngurl 4 роки тому +91

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. Only people who actually went through that can truly understand how real the problem is.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +3

      You're more than welcome dear! Since posting this video, I've had so many women reach out to me to help them overcome vaginismus. If you're interested, I'm doing a free live online training next week called Fearless Painless First-Time Sex. This is the link to reserve your spot for the free training: www.amirahzaky.com/firsttimesex

    • @munazzayousuf1135
      @munazzayousuf1135 4 роки тому

      Sri A i m going through please help

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому

      @@munazzayousuf1135 please email me amirah@amirahzaky.com or message me on Instagram

    • @shaikhsana5441
      @shaikhsana5441 2 роки тому +1

      I am also going through this problem vaginusmus

  • @IXOX0oI
    @IXOX0oI 5 років тому +25

    I’m going through this right now too.. so lovely to see another Muslimah talk about this . I felt so alone. Jazak’Allah khair x

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +4

      I'm glad this made you know that you're not alone. Wa iyaki

  • @aleg.a1895
    @aleg.a1895 3 роки тому +4

    great video! Thanks for talking about a conditions that affects many women and informing others about it. Women helping and supporting each other.

  • @strawberrydiamond5886
    @strawberrydiamond5886 5 років тому +134

    Thank you so very much for sharing your story and being open and honest with us!

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +3

      You're welcome!

    • @deekshasharma7929
      @deekshasharma7929 2 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky I am unable to find silicon dialators on any website. Can you please help or share the link.

  • @4kil_4had
    @4kil_4had 3 роки тому +90

    Your actually very fucking brave like wow well done for bringing light to a sensitive topic and condition Mashallah.

  • @andiem8575
    @andiem8575 5 років тому +27

    Thank you for sharing your story, I recently got diagnosed with Vaginismus at 16 and hearing the treatment absolutely terrified me, but you make the whole thing seem much less scary and easier to understand.

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 4 роки тому

      Hi Andie, I'm so sorry you recently got diagnosed with vaginismus... It can be SO scary, but I'm so happy you came across this amazing video! I had vaginismus as well and at the time, there were so few resources available online... Now I help people put that pain in their past. :) I'd love send you my book about vaginismus for free (just pay for shipping) - you can request a copy at www.katrinwithlove.com.

    • @krrbrr7057
      @krrbrr7057 4 роки тому

      Andie M what is the treatment girl

  • @Atheology
    @Atheology 9 місяців тому

    Hi, man here. Thank you for bringing this out. I wish you and your husband the joys you deserve.

  • @marielmolina4113
    @marielmolina4113 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I also had a very similar background with anxiety about the first time and having Vaginismus affect my marriage for up to a year after we were married too. This video was really done in such a candid and respectful manner, and I truly think it will help for others to hear that 1) they aren’t alone and 2) the fear can be overcome! Thank you!

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому

      Thank you for your kind comment! 💙

  • @scarlettgillan5022
    @scarlettgillan5022 Рік тому +38

    I cried watching this and listening to your story because it’s sounds so much like what my boyfriend and I are going through right now and I cannot tell you how grateful I am to hear your story. I will definitely check out the book you suggested and I just want to genuinely thank you for making me feel less alone.

  • @MizzNee
    @MizzNee 3 роки тому +11

    Thanks for sharing your story! I have recently been diagnosed with this and its encouraging to have come across your video! Its definitely a taboo in Muslim culture and kudos to you for speaking out about what is a medical condition and its treatment! X

    • @goddessphumi
      @goddessphumi 3 роки тому +1

      this helped me, hope it helps you ua-cam.com/video/LfCrXQ64Hv0/v-deo.html

  • @shelbyholt3472
    @shelbyholt3472 3 роки тому +15

    Thank you so much for making this video! I’m currently struggling with vaginismus, and it’s putting a strain on my boyfriend I’s relationship. I relate to your story so much! So thank you!!

  • @angiejilani
    @angiejilani 5 місяців тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this so much. I'm a Muslim woman as well struggling with this in my marriage and my life. JAK and alhamdulillah.

  • @1107861214ali
    @1107861214ali 5 років тому +5

    Thank you for sharing I’m sure your inspiration to many women around the world and you are so inspiring and motivating to hear how you overcome this struggle.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому

      Thanks so much for your kind comment

  • @mariyaasghar7539
    @mariyaasghar7539 3 роки тому +6

    Thank you for speaking out ! You are a very decent and gentle person mashAllah

  • @milkdrumk
    @milkdrumk 3 роки тому +8

    Thank you so much for this video. It took me years to realize what was happening with me before I even discovered what vaginismus was. Recently I had made progress, but I regressed again after a painful doctor's visit. I want to try and make progress especially since I want to be a mother one day and have a fulfilling relationship eventually. I'm just now getting to where I'm no longer in denial about all of it. Thank you very much -- it brought me to tears knowing I'm not alone in this. To know that you could overcome it is so comforting :)

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому +1

      Awesome! Thank you so much for sharing this 💙

    • @ssc9785
      @ssc9785 2 роки тому

      U're not alone dear

  • @AbdulmalikSaeed
    @AbdulmalikSaeed 4 роки тому +19

    I know some may expect that men has no place here.
    But thanks for honestly sharing. We also need to be educated properly so we can help and do not judge wrong. This really help us all .. Jazaki Allah Khair.

  • @blahblahhh5670
    @blahblahhh5670 2 роки тому +3

    I am crying watching this. Thank you for this video.

  • @ballybassi888
    @ballybassi888 2 роки тому +4

    Thanks a lot I was 23 and got married now m 33 and still not done cus this same problem with me I ll definitely try my best to do this more stuffs hope I ll over come one day . My husband is so understandable and always with me . God blesses you and your family 4 sharing this 🙏🏻

  • @rebeccahaidry3383
    @rebeccahaidry3383 3 роки тому +10

    I'm proud of you to share this. So many women stay silent and think it's shameful. I'm married for 8 years I have two children one aged six and one is two. Sometimes I can't have sexual inyercourse because I'm so dry and my body just closes up. This can be frustrating.

  • @sabatinasangma7233
    @sabatinasangma7233 3 роки тому +18

    Iam going through the same situation and its really frustrating and emotionally painful to acknowledge this issue of mine. We have been into a relationship before marriage for 10 years and iam still in a same situation after marriage. Im glad to find this video of yours. ♥️

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому +1

      I completely understand? Send me an email support@amirahzaky.com if you're interested in scheduling a free 30min call with me so we can discuss the programs I offer to help women overcome this issue.

  • @anitaknight3915
    @anitaknight3915 5 років тому +40

    I'm so grateful to you for sharing your journey with us!! You're very brave. I have this as well. I've felt so isolated and depressed over this. Your story gives me hope that I will get through this someday

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 4 роки тому

      I'm so sorry you have vaginismus... You can definitely overcome it, with the right support

    • @anitaknight3915
      @anitaknight3915 4 роки тому

      @@vaginismus.sisters wow this is so inspiring that you overcame this condition!! how were you able to get past it, how long did it take to overcome, and are u able to have a pain free satisfying intimate life now?

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 4 роки тому +2

      @@anitaknight3915 Thank you.

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 4 роки тому +1

      I'd love to know more about your story, if you'd like to share.

  • @tamartamunanemsadze7750
    @tamartamunanemsadze7750 5 років тому +4

    Wow! You are such a smart and kind woman for sharing it. ❤️

  • @yvettevina4991
    @yvettevina4991 Рік тому +1

    Thank you....this is very helpful to many women out there who are in this situation but are aftaid to open or share it.

  • @be1812
    @be1812 2 роки тому +29

    When you mentioned that you felt that everything happens for a reason and how you spun this difficult time into a learning experience that you can share with others going through the same thing, I started to cry because your story has been such a blessing to hear. It really helps to know that I am not alone and that I CAN get through this! Thank you so much for sharing

  • @bobertbilliamiii3568
    @bobertbilliamiii3568 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for sharing your story, I feel so much less alone knowing other people go through this. Lots of love to you and your husband.

  • @bottomoftheiceberg
    @bottomoftheiceberg 5 років тому +5

    Your so brave for sharing this.

  • @inresonanz1524
    @inresonanz1524 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing your story! Helps a lot and encourages me to talk about it more too.

  • @Vickii1398
    @Vickii1398 5 років тому +17

    Thank you for talking about this!

  • @dilwijesinghe4194
    @dilwijesinghe4194 10 місяців тому +1

    I have learned a lot from watching your videos. I was very sad because of this problem. Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts.

  • @strictlyonvacation8860
    @strictlyonvacation8860 4 роки тому +6

    I admire you for overcoming this yourself, without help from a medical professional. I am in process of overcoming this condition too, and would have lost my mind if I have to do it alone. Here in Indonesia there is a doctor who focuses his works on vaginismus, curing the patients as well as campaigning for awareness. So I received a lot of info from him.
    Thank you for sharing, may Allah bless you and your family.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +3

      That's amazing! Thanks for sharing! I'm glad there's someone in Indonesia to help women with this! Alhamdulillah ❤️😊

    • @strictlyonvacation8860
      @strictlyonvacation8860 4 роки тому +1

      amirahzaky Hi! I thought I want to share that today was my last appointment with the doctor I mentioned above. As of today, I am able to have proper transvaginal examination and proper intercourse with my husband hahaha. I am not 100% cured yet, it still hurts (but managable) and I still have anxiety whenever something is about to go into my vagina, but the doctor said it is now managable for me to cure myself with the dilators (like what you did). He also said my body will know when it no longer needs this exercise and should stop. I am praying for that day to come soon!
      For sisters out there who are struggling with this, please know it is curable. Do not be discouraged, do not give up, educate yourself, seek proper help and treatment, pray hard, insya Allah you will find a cure for this condition that works for you. ☺️☺️

  • @febrinasuciwulandari5163
    @febrinasuciwulandari5163 3 роки тому +8

    I've never been married, and I also have no experience about sex. I was planning to get married, but I'm still afraid to imagine how the sex will happen. Then UA-cam recommended this video to me. I hope I don't experience this, but thanks for sharing. I get a lot of insight from your video. May Allah bless you and your family ❤️

  • @AngelAngel-zn3un
    @AngelAngel-zn3un 5 років тому +43

    Sister you are so brave mashallah talking about this topic

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +6

      Thank you. I made this video so that other women know they're not the only ones going through it and that it can be overcome 🙂

  • @kartoffelkuchen4354
    @kartoffelkuchen4354 5 років тому +4

    Thank you for sharing, this is the best Video about vaginismus i‘ve Seen

  • @fadzaimushangwe6917
    @fadzaimushangwe6917 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much💛. This is enlightening. Shared your webinar link with many women.

  • @kyledrummond9750
    @kyledrummond9750 4 роки тому +43

    I like this video, It has some good advice
    But the first half of the video is really just a personal background of the story and for anyone who is busy they should skip to 14:00

  • @RoukayaSaid_kindya3
    @RoukayaSaid_kindya3 Рік тому +1

    Djazakillah khairan for sharing your struggle and i'm so proud of you overcaming it. May allah bless your nikkah 🤲🏾 and let you help more people that are struggling with it

  • @progresssena
    @progresssena Рік тому +2

    First of all, salute to you for making a video on it, and thank you so much because it is so helpful 🙏🙌

  • @kmak4861
    @kmak4861 4 роки тому +17

    I am so happy I've found this! Also Muslim, been married for 3 years and it's ruining my life

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +4

      I'm glad you found it too! Alhamdulillah, if you need any further support feel free to send me a message on Instagram and we can chat there inshaAllah ❤️

    • @beautyandmessK
      @beautyandmessK 4 роки тому +4

      Kate Maklout same here!!! My mother in law says I am very weird. She barely knows so many people are suffering from it :(

    • @nusratahmed1040
      @nusratahmed1040 3 роки тому

      Sister can I have ur insta ID

    • @kmak4861
      @kmak4861 3 роки тому

      @@nusratahmed1040 if that question was for me my insta is katemaklout xx

    • @Als1822
      @Als1822 3 роки тому

      @@beautyandmessK why are you telling your mother in law abt your sex life? that's weird af

  • @Angenie1x
    @Angenie1x 3 роки тому +10

    Thank you SO much for sharing your story! The fact that you overcame this in 2-3 weeks gives me hope as I have known I have had this for years but can’t seem to find the help I need. Sister please can you send me a link to the book you used , I have been looking online for it but I can’t seem to find the one you suggested that comes with dialators, dvds, ect.
    Again thank you so much for sharing your words have touched me more than you could ever know

  • @lionhugs8940
    @lionhugs8940 3 роки тому

    thank you so much for sharing. you have no idea how helpful this was to me.

  • @honaidabm5904
    @honaidabm5904 5 років тому +6

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us because the same thing that happened to you is happening to me right now.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому

      May God make it easy for you ❤️

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 4 роки тому

      Hi, I'm so sorry you have vaginismus... I had vaginismus as well and at the time, there were so few resources available online - this video is absolutely wonderful! Having overcome vaginismus, I now help people put that pain in their past too. :) I'd love send you my book on the topic for free (just pay for shipping) - you can request a copy at www.katrinwithlove.com.

    • @me4everhappy
      @me4everhappy 2 роки тому

      @@vaginismus.sisters hi i am also suuffering from this.. can you plz tell me that your book will be helpful to get rid of it?

  • @omartechnique6090
    @omartechnique6090 4 роки тому +10

    Sister, may Allah reward you. This is a natural thing and it's amazing you are sharing it.. my wife has been going through this problem with me for 6 years. I'm sharing this video with her in the hopes she starts something.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +1

      I would love to help your wife. I actually have a free online 90-minute training called Fearless Painless First-Time Sex that you and your wife can watch together. You can register for this free training here: event.webinarjam.com/channel/painlessfirsttime

    • @omartechnique6090
      @omartechnique6090 4 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky jazak Allah khair. I really appreciate it and hopefully she will be on board. This work you are doing is amazing. We need more avenues like this to help with issues related to sexual health..

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +1

      @@omartechnique6090 wa iyaki brother. I completely agree! You can also message me on instagram (@amirahzaky) or email me at amirah@amirahzaky.com because sometimes the comments in UA-cam get lost or I lose track of them. I look forward to hearing from you soon inshaAllah

    • @Als1822
      @Als1822 3 роки тому

      im so glad to see a man here. wish you and your wife love and happiness!

    • @Alchemist523
      @Alchemist523 2 роки тому

      4 years no intercourse 😭😭😭 divorce pending 😭

  • @sambed0964
    @sambed0964 9 місяців тому +1

    I feel so assured for finally coming across a Muslim woman going through this and actually sharing about it , I really appreciate all that you do but i do have one issue , dilators are literally so expensive I'd love to see the link to the book that has the set with it , thank you so much.

  • @impasse0124
    @impasse0124 2 роки тому +3

    I saw this video awhile ago but came back to it because I also struggle with vaginismus but am making good progress thus far. I’m not married and also very religious (Catholic) but I need to fix this issue because gynecology appts are very painful and I have a separate condition that requires transvaginal ultrasounds which are absolutely excruciating. But so far, I purchased a set of dilators on Amazon and have successfully used the first two sizes without any major difficulty. God willing, I’ll be able to size up through the remaining 3 dilators and have no further issues with my healthcare. I appreciate your discussion of this from a religious standpoint.

    • @miniteeya
      @miniteeya 5 місяців тому

      does it hurt when u put in dilator?

  • @tajudeenabdulwahab9341
    @tajudeenabdulwahab9341 4 роки тому +13

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. Almighty God will bless your home and children. Seriously, I believe you've saved someone's marriage, you nailed it with a high sense of modesty. Thank you, thank you and thank you.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +1

      Thanks so much dear for your kind comment

  • @olexia07
    @olexia07 4 роки тому +9

    Thank you for sharing. I'm slowly working on curing myself of this, and wow it's been a journey. When you said you thought about how people just do it like they do in the movies, Truth!.

    • @debchi1230
      @debchi1230 2 роки тому +1

      How's it going?

    • @olexia07
      @olexia07 2 роки тому

      @@debchi1230 I’m not going to lie it has been rough. I’ve been on and off with making progress but finally at the end of March this year I decided I would have to be more consistent and stop making excuses. So since working with dilators, I have been making progress. Still on the first dilator but that’s because I want to take my time. I always journal about every time I dilate to track how I’m doing. I also set up an appointment with a pelvic floor specialist and had started working on things like stretching because I learned after a failed Pap test that my left hip is really tight and may be causing issues as well. So I’m feeling pretty positive now. Even though we all know this but truly being consistent is the way to go. If only I had been that way years ago I would have made progress. But I’m happy to be finally getting somewhere now.

  • @michaeladove7337
    @michaeladove7337 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you so so much for posting this. It meant a lot.

  • @shravanikore9705
    @shravanikore9705 Місяць тому

    Thankyou so much for this video dear, you're doing a great work. And also you're well spoken

  • @aaajuicy909
    @aaajuicy909 5 років тому +132

    Honestly, I am in tears watching this video. I am going through this as well, Muslim Arab girl just like you. I got married last year at 27 years old, a Virgin. My experience was and is a nightmare. I would love to tell you privately if that’s ok.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +13

      Hiya! Thanks for your comment my dear. I've just seen your DM on instagram. I'll reply to you on there ❤️

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 4 роки тому +10

      Hi, I'm so sorry you are experiencing the nightmare of vaginismus. :( I had vaginismus as well and now I help people put that pain in their past.

    • @beautylipss
      @beautylipss 4 роки тому +1

      Katrin, with Love hai i dont have a creditcard . I have a debitcard. is there any other way to pay?

    • @Bella11.11
      @Bella11.11 3 роки тому

      How was it painful

    • @knickknight
      @knickknight 3 роки тому

      Mail me at knightknick@gmail.com

  • @krimapatel4344
    @krimapatel4344 4 роки тому +12

    Thank you so much for sharing this! I so much relieved that I am not the only one

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому

      You're welcome You're not the only one! In fact, so many women have sent me messages to say they're going through it too. And I now coach women to overcome vaginismus. I actually have a group coaching program now to help women to overcome vaginismus, if you check out my instagram

    • @knowyourkismat
      @knowyourkismat 3 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky what’s your Instagram ?

  • @nuraisyah619
    @nuraisyah619 3 роки тому +1

    masyaAllah.. thank you so much for sharing! I'm glad I'm not alone!

  • @Zafioni
    @Zafioni 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much. This is helpful. I'm gonna visit my doctor and discuss some of this with them.

  • @parked1104
    @parked1104 5 років тому +3

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience.

  • @carolinanganga5718
    @carolinanganga5718 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you Amirah for sharing your story. Your courage is encouraging. Your story resonates, the same struggle is found among christians not so much maybe in your culture but it's there and we go into marriage thinking we don't deserve to feel this pain coz we kept ourselves pure. It's been a year in marriage going through this. I have cried during sex which progressed to crying in the bathroom and now I just sort of dissociate myself during sex and care less afterwards coz man, the pain physically and emotionally even after sex is exhausting

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  2 роки тому

      Hi there, we're sorry to hear that you're experiencing this. We have vaginismus coaches that can help you overcome this issue. Please reach out to support@amirahzaky.com should you require further support. - Noor, Team Amirah Zaky

  • @lynnvs6372
    @lynnvs6372 4 роки тому +28

    We dont talk about this condition. Why? I think childhood trauma is part of it.Compounded w my hysterectomy . And I had huge fears of getting pregnant and felt PTSD when having had a child. I had 3. I always avoid it and feel extreme anxiety just thinking about it. It is difficult on a marriage and can be exasperated by financial problems and stress and OCD and fill in the blank

  • @manalahmed7114
    @manalahmed7114 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for sharing! You’re amazing
    I’ve tried EVERYTHING but I’m not still able to. Now I’m trying Vaginismus Botox

  • @fathimathuzahra5908
    @fathimathuzahra5908 2 роки тому +1

    Jazakillah Khair ukhti 💖✨ your videos really helped me... Keep going!

  • @kiomastar2
    @kiomastar2 4 роки тому +15

    Thank you so much for posting this video. Your story is almost identical to mine especially with hearing stories about painful sex. I was just married recently and was unable to have sex. Your story gives me faith that I will over come this!

    • @goddessphumi
      @goddessphumi 3 роки тому +2

      this helped me, hope it helps you ua-cam.com/video/LfCrXQ64Hv0/v-deo.html

    • @kiomastar2
      @kiomastar2 3 роки тому

      @@goddessphumi I will take a look, thank you for recommending!

    • @chanoualb9213
      @chanoualb9213 10 місяців тому

      Did you get through it beautiful soul 🥺?

  • @brunafarias3104
    @brunafarias3104 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much. I didn't know about the books. I'll search some in portuguese because I'm not able to read a whole book in English. But thank you for sharing your story with us!

  • @de6519
    @de6519 2 роки тому +1

    This went pretty deep and resonated with me too except I never got the official diagnosis. My lady down there in general felt a bit dry and one day I seriously thought, is this abnormal. I moved to a different city to be with the hubs and I was on a job hunt with fierce focus which increased my anxiety. The first handful of times we tried after being married was not successful till now. It's a difficult topic to touch on and I love how you normalized the fact that it's not easy for a lot of people.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  2 роки тому

      Hi there, we're sorry to hear that you're experiencing this. Please reach out to support@amirahzaky.com should you require further support. - Noor, Team Amirah Zaky

    • @de6519
      @de6519 2 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky thank you! the video was helpful and i was able to overcome the issue.

  • @shanellehawkins2911
    @shanellehawkins2911 3 роки тому

    Jzakhallah khair, I'm so shocked that I see a sister speaking about an issue that has so little information.

  • @thequestionedpodcast
    @thequestionedpodcast 4 роки тому +3

    This is brilliant thank you for this :)

  • @renadz4748
    @renadz4748 2 роки тому

    thank you amirah 👏🏻🙏🏻

  • @jumana9999
    @jumana9999 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience!!!! Jazak Allah Khair

  • @AmirRahman123
    @AmirRahman123 3 роки тому +3

    You should talk about this topic more. My ex had this and I only found out several years after the fact. She's still in denial though. It's a tough thing to get over.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому

      Thanks for sharing this. Yes I plan to talk about this more inshaAllah here on UA-cam. I do have an Instagram account dedicated to raising awareness about vaginismus and helping women to overcome vaginismus

  • @aayeshasaddamhussain5133
    @aayeshasaddamhussain5133 4 роки тому +1

    JazakALALAHU khairan... Veryyy Veryyyy Muchhhh... for Sharing This...... I Hope This Will really help me Tooo❤... do pray for us.. as we got married last month..... & are facing the same problem...

  • @sarahusman6123
    @sarahusman6123 3 роки тому +23

    Hi girls, I am a muslim too and I just want to share my side too. Teenage stories are always weird. I got married at 28 and the first time was painful but not all women bleed and I did not. I had skin tearing/ expanding etc. Just to clarify girls that there wont be pints of blood on sheets or may be no blood at all. So just dont be scared and talk to someone mature before your marriage date.

    • @me4everhappy
      @me4everhappy 2 роки тому +1

      Dear sis plz let me know that its only first time painful?not second time and always? Em also facing fear of ic

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 Рік тому

      Hi 😮

  • @AngelieAcademy
    @AngelieAcademy 4 роки тому +83

    I just found out I had vaginismus this year, and I just started using vaginal dilators. Your story gives me hope! Thanks for sharing! :)

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +2

      Thank you my dear! May God make it easy for you to overcome it ❤️

    • @ken45y
      @ken45y 4 роки тому

      I started too. Never had sex yet but helps when I see the gynecologist now.

    • @munazzayousuf1135
      @munazzayousuf1135 4 роки тому +1

      Dilators u buy from where

    • @mohsanali7279
      @mohsanali7279 4 роки тому

      @@ken45y how gynecologist help u plz suggest me i m worry nd m thinking about tO die for the problm of vaginismus

    • @soukainachaina4460
      @soukainachaina4460 3 роки тому +3

      I’m using dilators too with lidocaine. It hurts so much during the insertion of the penis but over time the lidocaine numbs the pain. Trying tonight with lidocaine and the hubby. Hoping all goes well.

  • @mdg767
    @mdg767 Рік тому

    True , talking abt sex or such topics in islam is so difficult but u r brave to talk abt it its amazing kudos to u girl👏👏👏👏😊😊😊

  • @berooo3506
    @berooo3506 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for sharing this ❤

  • @jannahhamidon9627
    @jannahhamidon9627 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you and i really thankful and grateful after seeing your video. I got vaginismus. Now i passed my one year of marriage. For me its time for making babies and I feel pressure whenever people asking me about child. I gone through episodes of frustration and sad. I feel grateful because my husband was so patient. But yes i’m the one who feel pressure and depressed because i think that i’m not trying to overcome this problem. After seeing your video and sharing I feel motivated.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому

      Thanks for your comment dear jannah. If you're interested, you can register for my free online 90-minute training so that you can find out more about the work I do to help women overcome vaginismus: event.webinarjam.com/channel/painlessfirsttime

    • @goddessphumi
      @goddessphumi 3 роки тому

      this helped me, hope it helps you ua-cam.com/video/LfCrXQ64Hv0/v-deo.html

  • @alienhunter3190
    @alienhunter3190 3 роки тому +3

    I felt like hearing my own story... Dear sister.. iam facing this problem and so far I haven't found any solution for this... I too have the same worries that u had once... Ur video really gave me a positive hope ...now I feel that ... Insha Allah .. I will be able to overcome this hurdle... I need share Ur story with my husband... Thanks a lot dear sister

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому

      I understand. You're welcome. If you're interested in finding out more, I have an online course and coaching program to help women overcome vaginismus. You can email me amirah@amirahzaky.com or send me a message on instagram @amirahzaky

  • @annawolarz7136
    @annawolarz7136 3 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing and giving hope

  • @021guest
    @021guest 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you for sharing. I believe I have this condition. Unfortunately It affected my marriage quiet badly to the point husband and I won't communicating about this and we even stopped trying - after 6 years of marriage (I hadn't worked out by then I had this condition) we separated. We got back together after months, buy then after a year separated again and currently separated. I am working on trying to overcome this condition.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому

      Thanks for your comment dear. May God make it easy for you. Just to let you know that I offer coaching to help women overcome vaginismus if this is something you're interested in?

    • @nayansigupta1995
      @nayansigupta1995 Рік тому

      @@amirahzaky it would be great if you can help me out. I discovered recently that I have this problem and if you can provide online coaching for it it would be useful for me.
      Please share your contact details sister. I am not married yet but I know I am having this condition

  • @elbiemostert3502
    @elbiemostert3502 8 місяців тому

    Thank you for sharing your story

  • @karwayudiil
    @karwayudiil 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for sharing this! May Allah bless you and your family.

  • @reshmakhan2385
    @reshmakhan2385 6 днів тому

    Thankyou Amirah. May Allah reward you.

  • @Fnaelk05
    @Fnaelk05 4 роки тому +2

    I am glad you shared this I bet it helped other people🙂

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +1

      Thank you dear! At the time I recorded this I was very nervous but I'm glad I made this video as so many women have commented here to say how it's helped them and I've also received loads of messages on Instagram and I've even coached clients through overcoming vaginismus. Are you currently struggling with vaginismus?

    • @Fnaelk05
      @Fnaelk05 4 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky no thankfully, I am just a young girl who likes learning about humans and their disorders( one of the reasons on to why I do this is because I struggle with clinical depression and anxiety) Hopefully a future surgeon. The fact that you helped a lot of people already is mind blowing! You should keep up the effort may allah grand you with his heaven🙂

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +1

      @@Fnaelk05 this is absolutely amazing! I love that you love learning about humans 😊 wishing you all the best with your career ❤️

  • @corneliaeleanore3215
    @corneliaeleanore3215 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much ❤ you really were extremely helpful ❤🥰

  • @hildamumbi7295
    @hildamumbi7295 4 роки тому +1

    thanks for the share, currently going through it. I'm sure ill overcome

  • @redrose894
    @redrose894 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for this video!

  • @bananisarma1050
    @bananisarma1050 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It'll helps to many girls who have facing this problem but can't share it with anyone.. thank you very much... Love from india ❤️❤️

  • @keishakiger8541
    @keishakiger8541 Рік тому

    So helpful!!!!!!

  • @snebumble9107
    @snebumble9107 4 роки тому +26

    Im literally in tears im also going through thi..me n my boyfriend have been together for 7 years and evn now he has never penetrated
    We have tried a thousand times 😭😭😭

    • @suki4670
      @suki4670 4 роки тому +1

      😭😭😭evn I'm going through it...

    • @knickknight
      @knickknight 3 роки тому

      Yes it happen..... It happens with my gf too. To listen our story mail me at knightknick@gmail.com

    • @Als1822
      @Als1822 3 роки тому +3

      @@knickknight pervert spotted

    • @currentdealsfreebies9807
      @currentdealsfreebies9807 2 роки тому +1

      Me too😭

    • @ChamayamAestheticMot
      @ChamayamAestheticMot Рік тому +1

      Hello have you overcame it yet?
      I'm facing similar conditions..

  • @chanoualb9213
    @chanoualb9213 10 місяців тому

    Thank u so much to day you can go through anything I love u 🥺🥺🥺🥰

  • @gracefaithjanet2673
    @gracefaithjanet2673 7 місяців тому

    Bravo! Many women suffer from this just watched one from christian girls who also suffered from this due to fear and their purity culture. Its good to see a muslim lady also discuss this.

  • @RanjuSandeep07
    @RanjuSandeep07 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for this video

  • @HanifBaloch-tv7sy
    @HanifBaloch-tv7sy Місяць тому

    u are so brave sister ❤

  • @passion2210
    @passion2210 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you very much for sharing this experience may allah reward you. Im an arabic Psychotherapist. Actually I face this cases . Please could you give me the book name and from where we can order it . ????

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому

      The book is called 10 steps to completely overcome vaginismus. You need to search for it on Google but it's quite hard to find. If you're interested, I am launching a group coaching program to help women overcome vaginismus. You can sign up for the wait list here: www.amirahzaky.com/vaginismus

  • @rimanassar3255
    @rimanassar3255 3 роки тому

    amazing video thank you sister !!!

  • @jihenekhemiri7140
    @jihenekhemiri7140 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you seriously thank you you are the only Arab person I guess talking about this '
    Sad but great from you to share

  • @nobunaga0088
    @nobunaga0088 2 роки тому +14

    2 years with no sex with my wife, we both just realized this condition that fits perfectly the description.
    The problem is she too afraid to even get up start and deal with it. It’s truly frustrating. Thanks for sharing.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  2 роки тому +5

      I completely understand. Please email me: support@amirahzaky.com if you would like more information about the online program and services I provide to help women overcome vaginismus

  • @mackgaro7513
    @mackgaro7513 3 роки тому

    What informative advice.

  • @TheLovee4musicc
    @TheLovee4musicc 5 років тому +2

    You should of linked the book in this video but thanks for the information and making this video!

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +1

      The book is quite difficult to find at the moment. Or it's quite expensive. It's called 10 steps to completely overcome vaginismus. You can search for it on Google. If you search for 'vaginismus' on amazon, you'll come across some other books. You're welcome.

    • @neelampatil5986
      @neelampatil5986 5 років тому

      @@amirahzaky vaginismus.com/products/vaginismus-treatment-kit/
      Is this it ?

    • @anitaknight3915
      @anitaknight3915 5 років тому +2

      @@neelampatil5986 thank u huni for providing this link! I have this condition.

  • @nikkie0306
    @nikkie0306 7 місяців тому +3

    I'm barely 5 minutes in but I just wanted to say THANK YOU for sharing this. I am 28, single, but have struggled throughout my dating life. I still hold that image of pain, and this fear has held me back for so long, making me feel incredibly isolated. I'm just glad I'm not the only one and there are similar experiences. ❤

  • @nailahlukanga7226
    @nailahlukanga7226 3 роки тому

    A new subscriber here, thanks. Jazaka Allahu khairan

  • @bismapervaiz3820
    @bismapervaiz3820 3 роки тому +1

    I am suffering from same condition ...can u plzz tell me how much time did it took u to recover from this condition using dilators as i am thinking to start this therapy

  • @vidhu9916
    @vidhu9916 4 роки тому

    Thank u sooo much for sharing ur experience..im also going through this condition ..still unable to overcome..ur video is really helpful me to think that im not the only one who is suffring from this condition..

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому

      You're welcome dear. If you're married and interested in overcoming your vaginismus, then it would be my pleasure to support you. I have an online program called Confident Marital Sex to help women overcome vaginismus. If you're interested in finding out more, send me an email amirah@amirahzaky.com 😊❤️

    • @goddessphumi
      @goddessphumi 3 роки тому

      this helped me, hope it helps you ua-cam.com/video/LfCrXQ64Hv0/v-deo.html

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 Рік тому +1

      Hi can I help you 😮