MY PERSONAL STRUGGLE TO OVERCOME VAGINISMUS

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  • @sneha_2005
    @sneha_2005 2 місяці тому +26

    Thank you so much. Because of you I realised that I have Vaginismus and I did everything you told in the video with my husband's support. I could overcome Vaginismus within 6 months and I got pregnant. Now my daughter is 2 months old and I came here to say thanks to you! Me and my husband are immensely grateful for you! ❤❤❤

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  2 місяці тому +3

      I’m so happy for you! ❤❤❤

    • @moon1805_
      @moon1805_ 2 місяці тому

      Can you share me the link of the book?? Please..

    • @nurdinadwiyahya18
      @nurdinadwiyahya18 Місяць тому

      MasyaAllah

    • @ayushitiwari7794
      @ayushitiwari7794 15 днів тому

      Sneha plz share it in detail...plzzzz it's a request....plz share your daily routine to overcome it plzzz

    • @sneha_2005
      @sneha_2005 15 днів тому

      Hi, initially when I realised I had Vaginismus, I ordered the Vaginal Training Set (Dilators) as mentioned in this video. It is easily available on Amazon.
      Everyday I used to try inserting it, starting from the smallest size. It took me 1 month to become comfortable with the smallest size itself. Then slowly I moved on to the next sizes. My husband was supportive throughout.
      Once I was comfortable with dilators, we tried intercourse and it wasn't as scary and painful as before. I was able to feel relaxed and after 5 to 6 attempts we were able to do it properly.
      I did nothing else. Just used dilators for a few months until I was comfortable with the insertion. After that we tried intercourse for a few weeks till we were able to do it properly.
      The key here is to trust your body and have lots of patience. Slowly you'll be able to overcome it and start to enjoy it even!

  • @jessicarussell3918
    @jessicarussell3918 4 роки тому +197

    I have been dealing with this for years with my husband and am just now realizing that this is what it is, and it’s so helpful to know that there are so many other women going through it. You are bringing me so much peace in this journey, thank you for sharing and putting yourself out there. 🥰

    • @Aparna.S93
      @Aparna.S93 3 роки тому +5

      I had this too.. Silicone dilators helped me a lot..

    • @agent9973
      @agent9973 3 роки тому

      Why didn't you every control you gyn doctor

    • @Aparna.S93
      @Aparna.S93 Рік тому

      @@pooja__894 it's ok use lignocaine gel and medical grade silicone dilators.. u will be ok soon..

    • @Aparna.S93
      @Aparna.S93 Рік тому

      @@pooja__894 no it won't pain at all if u use lignocaine gel beforehand. Try with dilators. Use lots of gel 1st few days while using dilators. Trust me dilators help a lot. They give us confidence.

    • @Aparna.S93
      @Aparna.S93 Рік тому +1

      @@pooja__894 my replies are getting deleted automatically. I don't know why.

  • @Kiwibrowngurl
    @Kiwibrowngurl 4 роки тому +102

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. Only people who actually went through that can truly understand how real the problem is.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +4

      You're more than welcome dear! Since posting this video, I've had so many women reach out to me to help them overcome vaginismus. If you're interested, I'm doing a free live online training next week called Fearless Painless First-Time Sex. This is the link to reserve your spot for the free training: www.amirahzaky.com/firsttimesex

    • @munazzayousuf1135
      @munazzayousuf1135 4 роки тому

      Sri A i m going through please help

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому

      @@munazzayousuf1135 please email me amirah@amirahzaky.com or message me on Instagram

    • @shaikhsana5441
      @shaikhsana5441 3 роки тому +1

      I am also going through this problem vaginusmus

  • @scarlettgillan5022
    @scarlettgillan5022 Рік тому +47

    I cried watching this and listening to your story because it’s sounds so much like what my boyfriend and I are going through right now and I cannot tell you how grateful I am to hear your story. I will definitely check out the book you suggested and I just want to genuinely thank you for making me feel less alone.

  • @butzibuu
    @butzibuu 4 роки тому +31

    I'm crying right now. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I now see hope

  • @4kil_4had
    @4kil_4had 3 роки тому +115

    Your actually very fucking brave like wow well done for bringing light to a sensitive topic and condition Mashallah.

  • @IXOX0oI
    @IXOX0oI 5 років тому +29

    I’m going through this right now too.. so lovely to see another Muslimah talk about this . I felt so alone. Jazak’Allah khair x

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +4

      I'm glad this made you know that you're not alone. Wa iyaki

  • @andiem8575
    @andiem8575 5 років тому +33

    Thank you for sharing your story, I recently got diagnosed with Vaginismus at 16 and hearing the treatment absolutely terrified me, but you make the whole thing seem much less scary and easier to understand.

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 5 років тому

      Hi Andie, I'm so sorry you recently got diagnosed with vaginismus... It can be SO scary, but I'm so happy you came across this amazing video! I had vaginismus as well and at the time, there were so few resources available online... Now I help people put that pain in their past. :) I'd love send you my book about vaginismus for free (just pay for shipping) - you can request a copy at www.katrinwithlove.com.

    • @krrbrr7057
      @krrbrr7057 5 років тому

      Andie M what is the treatment girl

  • @strawberrydiamond5886
    @strawberrydiamond5886 5 років тому +137

    Thank you so very much for sharing your story and being open and honest with us!

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +3

      You're welcome!

    • @deekshasharma7929
      @deekshasharma7929 2 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky I am unable to find silicon dialators on any website. Can you please help or share the link.

    • @akankshamishra7785
      @akankshamishra7785 2 місяці тому

      ​@@deekshasharma7929hi, Could you overcome this issue??

  • @kyledrummond9750
    @kyledrummond9750 5 років тому +55

    I like this video, It has some good advice
    But the first half of the video is really just a personal background of the story and for anyone who is busy they should skip to 14:00

  • @angiejilani
    @angiejilani 10 місяців тому +3

    Thank you for sharing this so much. I'm a Muslim woman as well struggling with this in my marriage and my life. JAK and alhamdulillah.

  • @sarahusman6123
    @sarahusman6123 3 роки тому +28

    Hi girls, I am a muslim too and I just want to share my side too. Teenage stories are always weird. I got married at 28 and the first time was painful but not all women bleed and I did not. I had skin tearing/ expanding etc. Just to clarify girls that there wont be pints of blood on sheets or may be no blood at all. So just dont be scared and talk to someone mature before your marriage date.

    • @me4everhappy
      @me4everhappy 3 роки тому +1

      Dear sis plz let me know that its only first time painful?not second time and always? Em also facing fear of ic

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 Рік тому

      Hi 😮

  • @Njeri-Kenya
    @Njeri-Kenya 2 місяці тому +7

    I struggled with it for 8 months, I thank God we overcame🙏.
    To anyone going through this, trust me it will soon be over❤❤

    • @Sophia-jm6jj
      @Sophia-jm6jj 2 місяці тому

      How did you overcome it pls?

    • @Zarafirdous88
      @Zarafirdous88 2 місяці тому

      Tell us how 😢

    • @Ammaralatif
      @Ammaralatif Місяць тому

      And here am I, still struggling, it's been 4 years now 😢

    • @ayushitiwari7794
      @ayushitiwari7794 15 днів тому

      What did you do to overcome it... Plzzzz explain

  • @gracefaithjanet2673
    @gracefaithjanet2673 Рік тому +2

    Bravo! Many women suffer from this just watched one from christian girls who also suffered from this due to fear and their purity culture. Its good to see a muslim lady also discuss this.

  • @Ancientofdayz1
    @Ancientofdayz1 3 місяці тому +7

    People should stop telling people fake myths about first sex

  • @snebumble9107
    @snebumble9107 4 роки тому +27

    Im literally in tears im also going through thi..me n my boyfriend have been together for 7 years and evn now he has never penetrated
    We have tried a thousand times 😭😭😭

    • @suki4670
      @suki4670 4 роки тому +1

      😭😭😭evn I'm going through it...

    • @knickknight
      @knickknight 4 роки тому

      Yes it happen..... It happens with my gf too. To listen our story mail me at knightknick@gmail.com

    • @Als1822
      @Als1822 3 роки тому +3

      @@knickknight pervert spotted

    • @currentdealsfreebies9807
      @currentdealsfreebies9807 3 роки тому +1

      Me too😭

    • @ChamayamAestheticMot
      @ChamayamAestheticMot Рік тому +2

      Hello have you overcame it yet?
      I'm facing similar conditions..

  • @amnebinbrek14
    @amnebinbrek14 3 роки тому +19

    I'm 22 I'm married and I'm stressed over this. I'm stressed that I can't give myself and my husband pleasure. I never thought it was going to be this tough. Please help me do something about it.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому

      Thanks for your comment. I completely understand your situation. I have a paid online course and coaching program to help women overcome this. If you're interested, send an email to support@amirahzaky.com and you can request a free 30min call with me so you can find out more about these programs.

    • @naanahawayussif1139
      @naanahawayussif1139 3 роки тому +2

      I have the same problem to dear... I've been Married for 3 months and have never really had pleasure during sex due to vaginsmus

    • @Aparna.S93
      @Aparna.S93 3 роки тому +3

      @@naanahawayussif1139 Medical grade silicone dilators helped me a lot.. I used them with lubricants and trust me it increased my confidence so much.. My condition was so bad i couldn't even think of inserting a tampon but now I'm ok so maybe it is an option

    • @jn8922
      @jn8922 3 роки тому +9

      Its the stress and anxiety. As someone who has had sex with a few men in my life and I'm mature in age, I can tell you that men don't really care about all the things you think they do. They love a woman's body and they're not focusing on your flaws etc. Please relax take it slow. Sex is not a job and you're not a prostitute there to just provide your husband with pleasure - men actually want to please their woman. Its mutual pleasure. The sexual pleasure a man experiences its not just about putting his penis in a vagina - he also has a mental and emotional need to know he is satisfying you. Talk, laugh, relax, take it slow and allow more foreplay and don't be afraid to say what you like and you don't. You're not a bad person for telling him that you don't like something. Just say "I'd love it if you did...." Its awkward when you come from a culture that shames sex and doesn't talk about it - I'm Asian so I get it. But for me, I found thinking of myself as just existing to pleasure a man when I was young was so wrong. I need pleasure too and that for me comes from being treated with, love, respect and patience. You need to feel emotionally appreciated because physical pleasure is linked to that. My advice is to focus on how much you love him and that sex is a natural wonderful way to express love, not just a physical act and just relax. The mind needs to relax for the pelvic floor to relax. Shame is usually the issue you need to work. There's nothing shameful in sex - God designed sex and meant for us to have sex.

    • @dove7612
      @dove7612 2 роки тому +1

      @@Aparna.S93 hi, from where u bought them?

  • @AbdulmalikSaeed
    @AbdulmalikSaeed 4 роки тому +29

    I know some may expect that men has no place here.
    But thanks for honestly sharing. We also need to be educated properly so we can help and do not judge wrong. This really help us all .. Jazaki Allah Khair.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +1

      Completely agree!

    • @skyejacques
      @skyejacques Місяць тому

      There's a lot of information available. The main thing is for a person to develop themselves emotionally and spiritually mentally to be able to support women

  • @cadishasehgal4002
    @cadishasehgal4002 11 місяців тому +6

    To anyone dealing I am here to just tell you - Have patience. It is only you who can help yourself. I struggled with this for 8 years and did not even knew that this was a problem. It was only when my current partner and I discussed about it and understood that this is something we both need to work together on. Trust me with patience and love for your body and not letting your mind control you will help. This can be overcome with :)

  • @be1812
    @be1812 3 роки тому +32

    When you mentioned that you felt that everything happens for a reason and how you spun this difficult time into a learning experience that you can share with others going through the same thing, I started to cry because your story has been such a blessing to hear. It really helps to know that I am not alone and that I CAN get through this! Thank you so much for sharing

  • @AngelAngel-zn3un
    @AngelAngel-zn3un 5 років тому +44

    Sister you are so brave mashallah talking about this topic

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +6

      Thank you. I made this video so that other women know they're not the only ones going through it and that it can be overcome 🙂

  • @Atheology
    @Atheology Рік тому +1

    Hi, man here. Thank you for bringing this out. I wish you and your husband the joys you deserve.

  • @AwesomeAcademyWithAngelie
    @AwesomeAcademyWithAngelie 5 років тому +83

    I just found out I had vaginismus this year, and I just started using vaginal dilators. Your story gives me hope! Thanks for sharing! :)

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +2

      Thank you my dear! May God make it easy for you to overcome it ❤️

    • @ken45y
      @ken45y 5 років тому

      I started too. Never had sex yet but helps when I see the gynecologist now.

    • @munazzayousuf1135
      @munazzayousuf1135 4 роки тому +1

      Dilators u buy from where

    • @mohsanali7279
      @mohsanali7279 4 роки тому

      @@ken45y how gynecologist help u plz suggest me i m worry nd m thinking about tO die for the problm of vaginismus

    • @soukainachaina4460
      @soukainachaina4460 4 роки тому +4

      I’m using dilators too with lidocaine. It hurts so much during the insertion of the penis but over time the lidocaine numbs the pain. Trying tonight with lidocaine and the hubby. Hoping all goes well.

  • @rebeccahaidry3383
    @rebeccahaidry3383 3 роки тому +11

    I'm proud of you to share this. So many women stay silent and think it's shameful. I'm married for 8 years I have two children one aged six and one is two. Sometimes I can't have sexual inyercourse because I'm so dry and my body just closes up. This can be frustrating.

  • @anitaknight3915
    @anitaknight3915 5 років тому +39

    I'm so grateful to you for sharing your journey with us!! You're very brave. I have this as well. I've felt so isolated and depressed over this. Your story gives me hope that I will get through this someday

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 5 років тому

      I'm so sorry you have vaginismus... You can definitely overcome it, with the right support

    • @anitaknight3915
      @anitaknight3915 5 років тому

      @@vaginismus.sisters wow this is so inspiring that you overcame this condition!! how were you able to get past it, how long did it take to overcome, and are u able to have a pain free satisfying intimate life now?

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 5 років тому +2

      @@anitaknight3915 Thank you.

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 5 років тому +1

      I'd love to know more about your story, if you'd like to share.

  • @lynnvs6372
    @lynnvs6372 5 років тому +29

    We dont talk about this condition. Why? I think childhood trauma is part of it.Compounded w my hysterectomy . And I had huge fears of getting pregnant and felt PTSD when having had a child. I had 3. I always avoid it and feel extreme anxiety just thinking about it. It is difficult on a marriage and can be exasperated by financial problems and stress and OCD and fill in the blank

  • @impasse0124
    @impasse0124 2 роки тому +4

    I saw this video awhile ago but came back to it because I also struggle with vaginismus but am making good progress thus far. I’m not married and also very religious (Catholic) but I need to fix this issue because gynecology appts are very painful and I have a separate condition that requires transvaginal ultrasounds which are absolutely excruciating. But so far, I purchased a set of dilators on Amazon and have successfully used the first two sizes without any major difficulty. God willing, I’ll be able to size up through the remaining 3 dilators and have no further issues with my healthcare. I appreciate your discussion of this from a religious standpoint.

    • @miniteeya
      @miniteeya 10 місяців тому

      does it hurt when u put in dilator?

    • @akankshamishra7785
      @akankshamishra7785 2 місяці тому

      Hello, could you cure the condition? I am also suffering from vaginismus and looking for help

  • @milkdrumk
    @milkdrumk 3 роки тому +8

    Thank you so much for this video. It took me years to realize what was happening with me before I even discovered what vaginismus was. Recently I had made progress, but I regressed again after a painful doctor's visit. I want to try and make progress especially since I want to be a mother one day and have a fulfilling relationship eventually. I'm just now getting to where I'm no longer in denial about all of it. Thank you very much -- it brought me to tears knowing I'm not alone in this. To know that you could overcome it is so comforting :)

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому +1

      Awesome! Thank you so much for sharing this 💙

    • @ssc9785
      @ssc9785 3 роки тому

      U're not alone dear

  • @strictlyonvacation8860
    @strictlyonvacation8860 4 роки тому +7

    I admire you for overcoming this yourself, without help from a medical professional. I am in process of overcoming this condition too, and would have lost my mind if I have to do it alone. Here in Indonesia there is a doctor who focuses his works on vaginismus, curing the patients as well as campaigning for awareness. So I received a lot of info from him.
    Thank you for sharing, may Allah bless you and your family.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +3

      That's amazing! Thanks for sharing! I'm glad there's someone in Indonesia to help women with this! Alhamdulillah ❤️😊

    • @strictlyonvacation8860
      @strictlyonvacation8860 4 роки тому +1

      amirahzaky Hi! I thought I want to share that today was my last appointment with the doctor I mentioned above. As of today, I am able to have proper transvaginal examination and proper intercourse with my husband hahaha. I am not 100% cured yet, it still hurts (but managable) and I still have anxiety whenever something is about to go into my vagina, but the doctor said it is now managable for me to cure myself with the dilators (like what you did). He also said my body will know when it no longer needs this exercise and should stop. I am praying for that day to come soon!
      For sisters out there who are struggling with this, please know it is curable. Do not be discouraged, do not give up, educate yourself, seek proper help and treatment, pray hard, insya Allah you will find a cure for this condition that works for you. ☺️☺️

  • @omartechnique6090
    @omartechnique6090 4 роки тому +11

    Sister, may Allah reward you. This is a natural thing and it's amazing you are sharing it.. my wife has been going through this problem with me for 6 years. I'm sharing this video with her in the hopes she starts something.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +1

      I would love to help your wife. I actually have a free online 90-minute training called Fearless Painless First-Time Sex that you and your wife can watch together. You can register for this free training here: event.webinarjam.com/channel/painlessfirsttime

    • @omartechnique6090
      @omartechnique6090 4 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky jazak Allah khair. I really appreciate it and hopefully she will be on board. This work you are doing is amazing. We need more avenues like this to help with issues related to sexual health..

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +1

      @@omartechnique6090 wa iyaki brother. I completely agree! You can also message me on instagram (@amirahzaky) or email me at amirah@amirahzaky.com because sometimes the comments in UA-cam get lost or I lose track of them. I look forward to hearing from you soon inshaAllah

    • @Als1822
      @Als1822 3 роки тому

      im so glad to see a man here. wish you and your wife love and happiness!

    • @Alchemist523
      @Alchemist523 3 роки тому

      4 years no intercourse 😭😭😭 divorce pending 😭

  • @daisycruz1765
    @daisycruz1765 3 роки тому +8

    I also had that experience and for 5 years after marriage I finally overcome it but our difference is I did not use any thing to get use to have something inside me. I did not know that it was a condition but my husband was very understanding ang he was very cooperative until we were be able to succeed. We had sex in our own way but not intercourse and I was able to over come it by the use of positive mental attitude. I said to my self If I will not do this our marriage will be broken and I might lost a loving and understanding husband so we tried so many times and I can not count how many time until finally we did it so its true what you said the woman must try their best to help herself but any way thank you very much for the video at least now I know that I was not alone.

    • @me4everhappy
      @me4everhappy 3 роки тому

      Plz tell me how did you get rid of it? Only by positive thoughts because i also want to get rid of it

    • @XXANGELRXX
      @XXANGELRXX 2 роки тому

      Are you able to elaborate more please on how you used a positive mental attitude to allow you to overcome this? Please?

    • @LaraOlina
      @LaraOlina 2 роки тому +2

      @@me4everhappy It is said to be mostly a mental reaction, that causes physical symptoms. The mental reaction is mostly caused by fear, that the intercourse will hurt, shame around sexual acts, that they will unwillingly get pregnant, or for some even history of SA. So mediating to relax is helpful, as are relaxation exercises for the pelvic floor. There are a lot of yoga videos online for pelvic floor relaxation and even yoga for vaginism. I think using a dilator too is a good idea, to make your body get used to penetration and to make your body realize, that nothing bad will happen.

    • @me4everhappy
      @me4everhappy 2 роки тому +1

      @@LaraOlina you are right. It is mental reaction because if our negative thoughts..

  • @nobunaga0088
    @nobunaga0088 3 роки тому +16

    2 years with no sex with my wife, we both just realized this condition that fits perfectly the description.
    The problem is she too afraid to even get up start and deal with it. It’s truly frustrating. Thanks for sharing.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому +4

      I completely understand. Please email me: support@amirahzaky.com if you would like more information about the online program and services I provide to help women overcome vaginismus

  • @MMS-MR
    @MMS-MR 3 місяці тому +4

    I am a Muslim physician involved with counseling in America. I appreciate your good work and efforts, but I do have few sincere suggestions for you as an older Muslim and as a physician.
    I hope you will take these as suggestions for improvement. There is scarcity of information on these taboo topics online and in person, especially for modest muslim girls; your posts might be the only info they read, so it is even more important to make sure your advice is responsible as well as islamically and medically sound.
    There is a difference between educating about a taboo and crossing haya ( islamic term for modesty) boundries as a Muslim. You did not have to explain to others how it felt to finally have your husband inside you. Certain things are best left between couples and for private counseling.
    Secondly, in your other video where you have a long list of questions to ask before nikah ( islamic marriage contract), several of those are clearly beyond the haya and common sense boundaries and might end up ruining several relationships. On a simple level, sex is not what you can plan months before marriage like a calendar about how many times to do in a week; the chemistry develops gradually and has to be adjusted to the life situations. What if you had told your future husband that we will do 3 times a week and then were not able to keep up ( in your own case as an example). Also talking about skin shades of vulva even before nikah is crazy. Any decent innocent young Muslim man will freak out on this, will think how many places this girl has been around, and the proposal may break even before nikah. There is a time and place for all these discussions, and most of these do not need to be discussed before even nikah.
    I am all for having few necessary discussions after nikah about wedding night ( not before nikah) such as to let's take it slow as we will be tired due to the ceremonies, let's spend time knowing each other's bodies first etc.. Majority of your other exhaustive list of questions is something husband and wife gradually discuss after marriage over a period of time, as they get used to each other and have each other's trust.
    There is one more issue which I want all the Muslims, especially girls, to understand. It is true that bleeding during first penetration from hymen and vaginal opening distention may or may not happen; Allah has made each one of us beautiful, slightly different, and individual.
    However, to say that a girl should have no feeling of slight discomfort first time is also not true. Allah has created the vagina as one of the most distensible organs in our body. Closer examples are the urinary bladder and stomach. Vagina can distend so much as to deliver a baby. But distention of vagina is significantly related to mental and hormonal state. If a girl is relaxed, feeling love and connected to her spouse, and has been aroused properly by foreplay, it will be easier to be distended.
    Having said that, think of a virgin vagina as a new tight sock. It has a potential to distend further with use, but the first time, it is difficult to put the foot through the elastic tight opening. Similarly although a girl may not bleed first time, but a virgin typically feels some discomfort as the cap like tip of the penis (called glans) will distend the opening of vagina first time.
    How to minimize the discomfort? One is mental and hormonal. Take it easy, develop love, extensive foreplay to get it relaxed as much possible and ready to receive the penis for the first time; secondly, to use an anesthetic gel (such as 2 percent lidocaine or xylocaine) instead of a KY gel ( which is just a lubricant). We doctors use lidocaine gel to lubricate our fingers before rectal or vaginal exam. We also use it to put a urinary catheter in the bladder. It provides 2 purposes; lubrication and temporary numbing. It can be applied safely to both at the opening of vagina and tip of penis just couple of minutes before penetration.
    After the first few times, inshahAllah you will not need an anesthetic gel, though some people continue to like using just a lubricant gel like KY gel afterwards, which is a matter of personal preference.
    There are other techniques like proper positioning for the first time to make penetration easier for the inexperienced couple. Putting a pillow or two under the buttocks of the girl to raise the pelvis area somewhat ( cover the pillows with a towel or sheet in case bleeding does occur). This slight upward thrust creates a better angle and makes it easy for the penis to penetrate for the first time.
    Another honest observation; for you to claim to be a sex therapist, you seem to have very little knowledge of male anatomy or how to pleasure a male also. You can't just be a therapist for women and not know extensively about men. Even if you have just women clients, without good knowledge of men, you can't advise them professionally.
    I strongly request that not to spoil innocent girls for just your ratings, advertisement and developing clients; I know sex sells. But please, use some common sense, don't cross haya boundaries in a public forum; do not give crazy advice like the long list of those questions to ask before nikah, as those have a potential to spoil relationships and do more harm than good at that stage.
    Continue to do the good job of educating about conditions like vaginismus; but talk in generic terms and as generic scenarios, and leave most of the intimate personal details out on a public forum; you can share those with a client if you so wish during one to one private counseling sessions, if that makes them connect with you.

  • @kmak4861
    @kmak4861 5 років тому +17

    I am so happy I've found this! Also Muslim, been married for 3 years and it's ruining my life

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +4

      I'm glad you found it too! Alhamdulillah, if you need any further support feel free to send me a message on Instagram and we can chat there inshaAllah ❤️

    • @beautyandmessK
      @beautyandmessK 4 роки тому +4

      Kate Maklout same here!!! My mother in law says I am very weird. She barely knows so many people are suffering from it :(

    • @nusratahmed1040
      @nusratahmed1040 4 роки тому

      Sister can I have ur insta ID

    • @kmak4861
      @kmak4861 4 роки тому

      @@nusratahmed1040 if that question was for me my insta is katemaklout xx

    • @Als1822
      @Als1822 3 роки тому

      @@beautyandmessK why are you telling your mother in law abt your sex life? that's weird af

  • @ballybassi888
    @ballybassi888 3 роки тому +4

    Thanks a lot I was 23 and got married now m 33 and still not done cus this same problem with me I ll definitely try my best to do this more stuffs hope I ll over come one day . My husband is so understandable and always with me . God blesses you and your family 4 sharing this 🙏🏻

  • @sabatinasangma7233
    @sabatinasangma7233 3 роки тому +18

    Iam going through the same situation and its really frustrating and emotionally painful to acknowledge this issue of mine. We have been into a relationship before marriage for 10 years and iam still in a same situation after marriage. Im glad to find this video of yours. ♥️

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому +1

      I completely understand? Send me an email support@amirahzaky.com if you're interested in scheduling a free 30min call with me so we can discuss the programs I offer to help women overcome this issue.

  • @blahblahhh5670
    @blahblahhh5670 3 роки тому +3

    I am crying watching this. Thank you for this video.

  • @jannahhamidon9627
    @jannahhamidon9627 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you and i really thankful and grateful after seeing your video. I got vaginismus. Now i passed my one year of marriage. For me its time for making babies and I feel pressure whenever people asking me about child. I gone through episodes of frustration and sad. I feel grateful because my husband was so patient. But yes i’m the one who feel pressure and depressed because i think that i’m not trying to overcome this problem. After seeing your video and sharing I feel motivated.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому

      Thanks for your comment dear jannah. If you're interested, you can register for my free online 90-minute training so that you can find out more about the work I do to help women overcome vaginismus: event.webinarjam.com/channel/painlessfirsttime

    • @goddessphumi
      @goddessphumi 4 роки тому

      this helped me, hope it helps you ua-cam.com/video/LfCrXQ64Hv0/v-deo.html

  • @anastasiaaa4094
    @anastasiaaa4094 Місяць тому +2

    mashaAllah. thankyou for sharing. me and my husband spent 4 years without intercourse. it is still painful. been 7 years now. I have never enjoyed sex 😢

  • @aleg.a1895
    @aleg.a1895 4 роки тому +5

    great video! Thanks for talking about a conditions that affects many women and informing others about it. Women helping and supporting each other.

  • @btisamsaad0425
    @btisamsaad0425 5 років тому +10

    The same thing is happening to me with my husband I'm Muslim and never went through sexual experience but we still can't make it we are new married couple

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +3

      May Allah make it easy for you. Let me know if you have any questions. Or you can message me on instagram

    • @dieumerci2173
      @dieumerci2173 5 років тому +2

      I m Muslim too and I have the some problem

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому

      @@dieumerci2173 hi. I've seen your message on instagram and I've replied to you there 😁

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 5 років тому

      Hi, I'm so sorry you have vaginismus... I had vaginismus as well and at the time, there were so few resources available online - this video is absolutely wonderful! Having overcome vaginismus, I now help people put that pain in their past too. :) I'd love send you my book on the topic for free (just pay for shipping) - you can request a copy at www.katrinwithlove.com.

  • @shelbyholt3472
    @shelbyholt3472 4 роки тому +16

    Thank you so much for making this video! I’m currently struggling with vaginismus, and it’s putting a strain on my boyfriend I’s relationship. I relate to your story so much! So thank you!!

  • @melc_91
    @melc_91 Місяць тому

    I finally lost mine at 33 only recently..it stull hurts a lil bit but it was finally able to go up!!! My boyfriend and future husband was so patient!

  • @febrinasuciwulandari5163
    @febrinasuciwulandari5163 3 роки тому +8

    I've never been married, and I also have no experience about sex. I was planning to get married, but I'm still afraid to imagine how the sex will happen. Then UA-cam recommended this video to me. I hope I don't experience this, but thanks for sharing. I get a lot of insight from your video. May Allah bless you and your family ❤️

  • @asuman1389
    @asuman1389 3 роки тому +3

    My friend made me afraid . I am single. If i got married i will not tell bad stories to make people afraid

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому +1

      great! I'm pleased to hear this! I'd love for you to check out the other videos on my channel and leave comments to tell me what you've learned. Also, let me know if you have any topic suggestions for new videos.

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 Рік тому

      Hi can I help you 😮

  • @MizzNee
    @MizzNee 4 роки тому +11

    Thanks for sharing your story! I have recently been diagnosed with this and its encouraging to have come across your video! Its definitely a taboo in Muslim culture and kudos to you for speaking out about what is a medical condition and its treatment! X

    • @goddessphumi
      @goddessphumi 4 роки тому +1

      this helped me, hope it helps you ua-cam.com/video/LfCrXQ64Hv0/v-deo.html

  • @mariyaasghar7539
    @mariyaasghar7539 3 роки тому +6

    Thank you for speaking out ! You are a very decent and gentle person mashAllah

  • @littlepixieme1
    @littlepixieme1 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for sharing. I came from a very fundamentalist Christian environment and had a similar experience. "Purity culture" regardless of the religion it's built on is horrible and damaging to women and AFAB people. I had this condition even as a young teenager and no one paid attention because I was being promiscuous by using a tampin anyone - I was just overreacting and being over dramatic by saying it was painful.
    I was able to have sex, but it was painful and did have a lot of bleeding and it made me very reluctant to have intercourse... I'm 30 years old and just learning this is a condition that affects as many as 20% of women at some point in their life.

  • @shewhut822
    @shewhut822 19 днів тому

    You are the most strongest women in the world ❤❤❤

  • @021guest
    @021guest 5 років тому +4

    Thank you for sharing. I believe I have this condition. Unfortunately It affected my marriage quiet badly to the point husband and I won't communicating about this and we even stopped trying - after 6 years of marriage (I hadn't worked out by then I had this condition) we separated. We got back together after months, buy then after a year separated again and currently separated. I am working on trying to overcome this condition.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому

      Thanks for your comment dear. May God make it easy for you. Just to let you know that I offer coaching to help women overcome vaginismus if this is something you're interested in?

    • @nayansigupta1995
      @nayansigupta1995 2 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky it would be great if you can help me out. I discovered recently that I have this problem and if you can provide online coaching for it it would be useful for me.
      Please share your contact details sister. I am not married yet but I know I am having this condition

  • @marielmolina4113
    @marielmolina4113 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I also had a very similar background with anxiety about the first time and having Vaginismus affect my marriage for up to a year after we were married too. This video was really done in such a candid and respectful manner, and I truly think it will help for others to hear that 1) they aren’t alone and 2) the fear can be overcome! Thank you!

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому

      Thank you for your kind comment! 💙

  • @taybabycarat
    @taybabycarat Рік тому

    It's been already 3 years of my marriage and recently I got diagnosed with vaginismus. We both suffered a lot. I'm just praying to allah to get rid of it and taking prescribed medicine and exercising

  • @alienhunter3190
    @alienhunter3190 4 роки тому +3

    I felt like hearing my own story... Dear sister.. iam facing this problem and so far I haven't found any solution for this... I too have the same worries that u had once... Ur video really gave me a positive hope ...now I feel that ... Insha Allah .. I will be able to overcome this hurdle... I need share Ur story with my husband... Thanks a lot dear sister

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому

      I understand. You're welcome. If you're interested in finding out more, I have an online course and coaching program to help women overcome vaginismus. You can email me amirah@amirahzaky.com or send me a message on instagram @amirahzaky

  • @kiomastar2
    @kiomastar2 4 роки тому +15

    Thank you so much for posting this video. Your story is almost identical to mine especially with hearing stories about painful sex. I was just married recently and was unable to have sex. Your story gives me faith that I will over come this!

    • @goddessphumi
      @goddessphumi 4 роки тому +2

      this helped me, hope it helps you ua-cam.com/video/LfCrXQ64Hv0/v-deo.html

    • @kiomastar2
      @kiomastar2 4 роки тому

      @@goddessphumi I will take a look, thank you for recommending!

    • @chanoualb9213
      @chanoualb9213 Рік тому

      Did you get through it beautiful soul 🥺?

  • @mjp96
    @mjp96 2 роки тому +12

    I am a male, but I found this SO interesting, because I've had two relationships in my lifetime where this occurred, and I was so confused. I'm not sure if they were, or now are, because it only happened the first time, and we did not discuss it - that's why it's so neat to know there is a condition like this. Thanks Amirah, and so glad you and your husband got past it!

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  2 роки тому

      Thank you, I really appreciate your kind comment! May God bless you.

  • @yvettevina4991
    @yvettevina4991 Рік тому +1

    Thank you....this is very helpful to many women out there who are in this situation but are aftaid to open or share it.

  • @tajudeenabdulwahab9341
    @tajudeenabdulwahab9341 5 років тому +13

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. Almighty God will bless your home and children. Seriously, I believe you've saved someone's marriage, you nailed it with a high sense of modesty. Thank you, thank you and thank you.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +1

      Thanks so much dear for your kind comment

  • @dilwijesinghe4194
    @dilwijesinghe4194 Рік тому +1

    I have learned a lot from watching your videos. I was very sad because of this problem. Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts.

  • @sambed0964
    @sambed0964 Рік тому +4

    I feel so assured for finally coming across a Muslim woman going through this and actually sharing about it , I really appreciate all that you do but i do have one issue , dilators are literally so expensive I'd love to see the link to the book that has the set with it , thank you so much.

  • @Vickii1398
    @Vickii1398 5 років тому +17

    Thank you for talking about this!

  • @LebowskiDudeful
    @LebowskiDudeful 2 роки тому +2

    599 comments. Let me be 600th and say this has been a life-changing video. I married when both me and my wife were "virgins". It lasted three years under the same roof, till I had to leave her, for I started fantasizing about killing her just so I could lose my boyhood to her. She did go to psychologists for years, but they had never heard of this disorder. I have spent over a decade in agony thinking what was wrong with me, what was wrong with her. Now I finally know. Thank you so much !

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  2 роки тому

      Wow this is profound. Thank you for sharing this. I pray that God helps you and your ex-wife to find healing

  • @Sassybliss404
    @Sassybliss404 9 місяців тому

    Best thing is to share this with sexologist or your gynaechologist and I am sure they will guide you about this and make you aware what is exactly happening with you

  • @honaidabm5904
    @honaidabm5904 5 років тому +6

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us because the same thing that happened to you is happening to me right now.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому

      May God make it easy for you ❤️

    • @vaginismus.sisters
      @vaginismus.sisters 5 років тому

      Hi, I'm so sorry you have vaginismus... I had vaginismus as well and at the time, there were so few resources available online - this video is absolutely wonderful! Having overcome vaginismus, I now help people put that pain in their past too. :) I'd love send you my book on the topic for free (just pay for shipping) - you can request a copy at www.katrinwithlove.com.

    • @me4everhappy
      @me4everhappy 3 роки тому

      @@vaginismus.sisters hi i am also suuffering from this.. can you plz tell me that your book will be helpful to get rid of it?

  • @jx861
    @jx861 Рік тому +1

    I have been struggling with vaginsmus for years. But I have been using dilators recently and started bleeding it's been hurting since going a size up but I am not going to give up. It' just frustrating because me and my husband want to have children 😔

    • @qrpcoaching8198
      @qrpcoaching8198 Рік тому

      there are ways to get pregnant even if you have trouble being penetrated. I would like to know what you have tried and what your symptoms are

    • @qrpcoaching8198
      @qrpcoaching8198 Рік тому

      But apparently you don’t want to disclose that so your issue remains the same

    • @jx861
      @jx861 Рік тому +3

      @@qrpcoaching8198 Sorry but why are you approaching me in such a demanding manner? You might be trying to help but I haven't responded in one day and you're sitting their saying how my issue is still the same when you don't even know what I'm doing currently. People do work, their life is not revolved around UA-cam and because of your attitude I most definitely won't speak to you about it. If you're looking for people to coach that's not the right way to go about it either.

    • @qrpcoaching8198
      @qrpcoaching8198 Рік тому +1

      @@jx861 One day?? you did not reply in 10 days. If you pose a problem here, it is not smart not to look for 10 days. But you know what? Solve your own problems and do not ask for advice. You are rude. Go to your doctor instead. Go push away people who try to help. It is YOUR fault not to reply.

    • @khadyadjisall5708
      @khadyadjisall5708 10 місяців тому +1

      @@qrpcoaching8198 you ought to calm down, you are not entitled to her medical history.

  • @bottomoftheiceberg
    @bottomoftheiceberg 5 років тому +7

    Your so brave for sharing this.

  • @de6519
    @de6519 2 роки тому +1

    This went pretty deep and resonated with me too except I never got the official diagnosis. My lady down there in general felt a bit dry and one day I seriously thought, is this abnormal. I moved to a different city to be with the hubs and I was on a job hunt with fierce focus which increased my anxiety. The first handful of times we tried after being married was not successful till now. It's a difficult topic to touch on and I love how you normalized the fact that it's not easy for a lot of people.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  2 роки тому +1

      Hi there, we're sorry to hear that you're experiencing this. Please reach out to support@amirahzaky.com should you require further support. - Noor, Team Amirah Zaky

    • @de6519
      @de6519 2 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky thank you! the video was helpful and i was able to overcome the issue.

  • @1107861214ali
    @1107861214ali 5 років тому +5

    Thank you for sharing I’m sure your inspiration to many women around the world and you are so inspiring and motivating to hear how you overcome this struggle.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому

      Thanks so much for your kind comment

  • @manalahmed7114
    @manalahmed7114 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for sharing! You’re amazing
    I’ve tried EVERYTHING but I’m not still able to. Now I’m trying Vaginismus Botox

  • @haniahmed7534
    @haniahmed7534 Рік тому +2

    Sa I am married for 20years never enjoyed intarcource still feeling pain my husband does understand why I never want to have sex I felt alone all my life every one I close to told me they all ok I felt the only one have this problem I am crying watching your video I just want to hug you if you see my comment please reply you better than doctors Jizakilah qeyr ❤❤❤

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  Рік тому

      May Allah bless you ❤ wa iyaki

  • @carolinanganga5718
    @carolinanganga5718 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you Amirah for sharing your story. Your courage is encouraging. Your story resonates, the same struggle is found among christians not so much maybe in your culture but it's there and we go into marriage thinking we don't deserve to feel this pain coz we kept ourselves pure. It's been a year in marriage going through this. I have cried during sex which progressed to crying in the bathroom and now I just sort of dissociate myself during sex and care less afterwards coz man, the pain physically and emotionally even after sex is exhausting

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  2 роки тому

      Hi there, we're sorry to hear that you're experiencing this. We have vaginismus coaches that can help you overcome this issue. Please reach out to support@amirahzaky.com should you require further support. - Noor, Team Amirah Zaky

  • @krishnagondhea7428
    @krishnagondhea7428 Місяць тому +1

    Maybe being married to the wrong person might be a problem 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @krimapatel4344
    @krimapatel4344 5 років тому +12

    Thank you so much for sharing this! I so much relieved that I am not the only one

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому

      You're welcome You're not the only one! In fact, so many women have sent me messages to say they're going through it too. And I now coach women to overcome vaginismus. I actually have a group coaching program now to help women to overcome vaginismus, if you check out my instagram

    • @knowyourkismat
      @knowyourkismat 3 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky what’s your Instagram ?

  • @SafuraHasson
    @SafuraHasson 3 місяці тому

    ❤Shukran so much for Speaking Up on Sexual topics because it's not an easy subject to bring up amongst us Muslims.

  • @brunafarias3104
    @brunafarias3104 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much. I didn't know about the books. I'll search some in portuguese because I'm not able to read a whole book in English. But thank you for sharing your story with us!

  • @nikkie0306
    @nikkie0306 Рік тому +3

    I'm barely 5 minutes in but I just wanted to say THANK YOU for sharing this. I am 28, single, but have struggled throughout my dating life. I still hold that image of pain, and this fear has held me back for so long, making me feel incredibly isolated. I'm just glad I'm not the only one and there are similar experiences. ❤

  • @XXANGELRXX
    @XXANGELRXX 4 роки тому +8

    This is a great video and helpful to many. Thank you for sharing! :)
    However I think it’s important to comment on what you said at 17.43 stating that ‘don’t worry, the dilators are not vibrators, they don’t give you pleasure or anything’ is implying that women who are going through this cannot have any pleasure when trying to overcome this. If women find it easier to use a vibrator that gives them pleasure it may be easier to do the insertions, if you are aroused and more relaxed this may help. I understand in some cultures that this may not be allowed, and I appreciate this, but I’m sure there are some women where it would be helpful to use something that gives them pleasure to make them feel more relaxed, rather than using hard plastic dilators. Also you can get soft silicone dilators now which are more comfortable to use. :)

    • @goddessphumi
      @goddessphumi 4 роки тому

      this helped me, hope it helps you ua-cam.com/video/LfCrXQ64Hv0/v-deo.html

    • @carolinanganga5718
      @carolinanganga5718 2 роки тому

      I had this same discussion with my hubby. He was object about the dilators thinking they serve the same purpose as toys and later we talked about toys and I asked him whether I didn't deserve to feel pleasure and at that point I really considered getting a toy, I was angry

  • @Angenie1x
    @Angenie1x 3 роки тому +10

    Thank you SO much for sharing your story! The fact that you overcame this in 2-3 weeks gives me hope as I have known I have had this for years but can’t seem to find the help I need. Sister please can you send me a link to the book you used , I have been looking online for it but I can’t seem to find the one you suggested that comes with dialators, dvds, ect.
    Again thank you so much for sharing your words have touched me more than you could ever know

  • @ummuaraphat
    @ummuaraphat 2 роки тому +1

    This is timely for me as my nikkah is soon and have never had sex but just thinking about the first night terrifies me alot.

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 Рік тому

      Hi can I help you 🎉

    • @Sapere_aude_Trottel
      @Sapere_aude_Trottel 7 днів тому

      @@arpitsri9631so you answered a year after she said that? What a pervert.

  • @kartoffelkuchen4354
    @kartoffelkuchen4354 5 років тому +4

    Thank you for sharing, this is the best Video about vaginismus i‘ve Seen

  • @rufiredup90
    @rufiredup90 Місяць тому

    I’m a Malay Muslim and I’ve been married for about 2 months and we can’t have sex. It’s so painful to me and I have tried inserting a finger in. It is not insanely painful with my finger in but I can’t fit him inside me. So many people told me that sex for the first time would be so painful and someone had told me it felt like a knife inside. The same as you, my husband and I can please each other sexually without penetration but it has hurt us and caused a lot of anxiety and depression that we can’t seem to have actual intercourse. I’ve never been raped either alhamdulillah but this is weighing us down. My husband is patient, kind, loving and gentle.

  • @RoukayaSaid_kindya3
    @RoukayaSaid_kindya3 2 роки тому +1

    Djazakillah khairan for sharing your struggle and i'm so proud of you overcaming it. May allah bless your nikkah 🤲🏾 and let you help more people that are struggling with it

  • @bobertbilliamiii3568
    @bobertbilliamiii3568 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for sharing your story, I feel so much less alone knowing other people go through this. Lots of love to you and your husband.

  • @ruddykipling7619
    @ruddykipling7619 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for sharing, I'm not married and I just found out myself that I'm going through the same situation, I need a help

  • @olexia07
    @olexia07 5 років тому +10

    Thank you for sharing. I'm slowly working on curing myself of this, and wow it's been a journey. When you said you thought about how people just do it like they do in the movies, Truth!.

    • @debchi1230
      @debchi1230 2 роки тому +1

      How's it going?

    • @olexia07
      @olexia07 2 роки тому

      @@debchi1230 I’m not going to lie it has been rough. I’ve been on and off with making progress but finally at the end of March this year I decided I would have to be more consistent and stop making excuses. So since working with dilators, I have been making progress. Still on the first dilator but that’s because I want to take my time. I always journal about every time I dilate to track how I’m doing. I also set up an appointment with a pelvic floor specialist and had started working on things like stretching because I learned after a failed Pap test that my left hip is really tight and may be causing issues as well. So I’m feeling pretty positive now. Even though we all know this but truly being consistent is the way to go. If only I had been that way years ago I would have made progress. But I’m happy to be finally getting somewhere now.

  • @progresssena
    @progresssena 2 роки тому +2

    First of all, salute to you for making a video on it, and thank you so much because it is so helpful 🙏🙌

  • @michaeladove7337
    @michaeladove7337 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you so so much for posting this. It meant a lot.

  • @mdg767
    @mdg767 2 роки тому +1

    True , talking abt sex or such topics in islam is so difficult but u r brave to talk abt it its amazing kudos to u girl👏👏👏👏😊😊😊

  • @tamartamunanemsadze7750
    @tamartamunanemsadze7750 5 років тому +4

    Wow! You are such a smart and kind woman for sharing it. ❤️

  • @anesboud2743
    @anesboud2743 3 роки тому +1

    I'm Algerian women i'm married and l have this l'm looking for doctor's help but I didn't find i'm so sad 😞 😔 😢

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you for your comment. Please email support@amirahzaky.com if you’re interested in finding out more about Amirah’s programs and coaching to help you overcome the challenges you’re currently facing. - Noor, Team Amirah Zaky

  • @rainmk87mk95
    @rainmk87mk95 3 роки тому +1

    assamualaikum Sister. Im married for 6 years. And yet not overcome this issue. Tq for sharing... pray for me

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому

      Please email me: support@amirahzaky.com if you would like more information about the online program and services I provide to help women overcome vaginismus

  • @shanellehawkins2911
    @shanellehawkins2911 4 роки тому

    Jzakhallah khair, I'm so shocked that I see a sister speaking about an issue that has so little information.

  • @greenmermaid2338
    @greenmermaid2338 5 років тому +15

    Assalamualaikum sister. Thank you sooo much for coming up with this. It made me cry. I got divorced due to this condition. I am all alone now. Can I overcome this while I am single?

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +10

      Wa alaikum asalam sister. I'm glad you benefitted from it. Sorry to hear you got divorced over this but alhamdulillah everything happens for a reason and inshaAllah you marry again in the future if that's good for you. Yes you can overcome it while you're single. I actually have one client who is single who I'm helping to overcome it before she gets married. If you're interested in working with me so I can help you, you can send me a message on Instagram and we can have a chat inshaAllah instagram.com/amirahzaky/

    • @greenmermaid2338
      @greenmermaid2338 5 років тому +2

      @@amirahzaky jazak Allahu khairan...I will message you soon sister 😊

    • @drfawad7007
      @drfawad7007 4 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky 👍👍👍

    • @drfawad7007
      @drfawad7007 4 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky chek ur insta msg?

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  4 роки тому +1

      @@drfawad7007 I will 🙂

  • @Uummm.11
    @Uummm.11 Рік тому +1

    is it normal that I'm feeling extremely uncomfortable and a sort of pain while watching that video

  • @shravanikore9705
    @shravanikore9705 6 місяців тому

    Thankyou so much for this video dear, you're doing a great work. And also you're well spoken

  • @aqqq9053
    @aqqq9053 3 роки тому +1

    Assalam alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, jazaaki Allaahu khair for the video. I've had vulvodynia since I was 16 or younger and after the intimacy could be in burning pain for two hours. I was prescribed some estrogenic medicine but don't want to use it as such meds make me suicidal and very gloomy. I took the second covid shot yesterday and I'm having a very painful vulvodynia seizure at the moment. First the pain used to last for 30 seconds and over the years it has prolonged to 15 minutes and it stops and starts multiple times a day. I keep reminding myself of the rewards of feeling any kind of pain. May we meet in jannah ❤️

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому +1

      May Allah make it easy for you and bless you with shifa. Ameen to your beautiful dua

  • @hamnam232
    @hamnam232 5 років тому +5

    Thank you. You just talked about my suitvation. It's 9 months over our marriage and never had a sexual intercourse. Iam so sad about it. Just started thinking like you. May Allah bless you. Please include me in your prayers. 🙌👏🙏🙇

    • @jasamkojajesam6108
      @jasamkojajesam6108 4 роки тому +3

      @maypaki alam Oh god get the fuck out of here, wierdo. Ur in every video about vaginismus. Bye

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 Рік тому

      Can I help you 😮

  • @bhoomikathethwar244
    @bhoomikathethwar244 5 місяців тому +1

    Ive this condition and idk how'd i overcome this... Im literally very afraid even hearing about dilators shivers down my spine ...plus i guess ive low libido .. idk if I'd be able to perform normal Intercourse ever in my life ..that really disheartened me that i might be not a complete or good woman ..

    • @Magenta-ju6kq
      @Magenta-ju6kq 4 місяці тому

      You can look into pelvic floor physical therapy, it’s so helpful

    • @Magenta-ju6kq
      @Magenta-ju6kq 4 місяці тому

      It is so hard 😢

  • @mariannehavisham8323
    @mariannehavisham8323 2 місяці тому

    Vaginismus can also massively effect cervical screenings

  • @TheLovee4musicc
    @TheLovee4musicc 5 років тому +2

    You should of linked the book in this video but thanks for the information and making this video!

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  5 років тому +1

      The book is quite difficult to find at the moment. Or it's quite expensive. It's called 10 steps to completely overcome vaginismus. You can search for it on Google. If you search for 'vaginismus' on amazon, you'll come across some other books. You're welcome.

    • @neelampatil5986
      @neelampatil5986 5 років тому

      @@amirahzaky vaginismus.com/products/vaginismus-treatment-kit/
      Is this it ?

    • @anitaknight3915
      @anitaknight3915 5 років тому +2

      @@neelampatil5986 thank u huni for providing this link! I have this condition.

  • @bybre
    @bybre 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us... I'm still struggling with that after being married for 2 years. My husband has been very patient with me but he doesn't know what's going on and he doesn't understand it. I feel like I failed with him and myself.

    • @amirahzaky
      @amirahzaky  3 роки тому +1

      You're welcome. You can check out my free 90-minute training called Fearless Painless First-time Sex here: event.webinarjam.com/register/1/m24w1u7

    • @bybre
      @bybre 3 роки тому

      @@amirahzaky I will do it! Thank you 🙏

    • @kanikagulia7210
      @kanikagulia7210 3 роки тому +1

      @@amirahzaky the video is not there. Please check

    • @ssc9785
      @ssc9785 3 роки тому

      Same here

    • @shaikhsana5441
      @shaikhsana5441 3 роки тому +1

      @@amirahzaky video is not there plz upload video i want this video badly because i am going through this problem from 7 years