Vaginismus Cure on Discovery TLC (Entire show)
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- Опубліковано 31 жов 2013
- Samira, A former patient, contacted Discovery/TLC television network and urged them to dedicate an episode to vaginismus. She took a step forward by promising that she and her husband, Firas, will go face-on and expose their private details, highly unusual bravery for anyone who suffers from this embarrassing condition. Discovery/TLC was receptive and it is our pleasure to feature the entire episode.
As of February 2012, this episode has been featured on OWN, Oprah Winfrey's Network.
A correction to an erroneous statement on the show: our treatment is typically covered by insurance. To see if you are covered please see our website under the "Insurance" tab.
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"I gave birth September 4, 2011, to a girl, Lamese. I wanted to thank the Women's Therapy Center for curing me and for giving me the chance to have a beautiful angel in my arms. My life is definitely what I imagined it to be thanks to you and God's grace."
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Poor woman. I know *exactly* how she feels. I suffer from vaginismus as well. It is so frustrating and painful. It takes a toll on you and your partner.
BellaMetallicA yep. this made me bawl. I 3000% understand. It's horrible :( This sort of marital trouble has been one of my biggest fears. Fortunately I have a patient and understanding partner
BellaMetallicA my boyfriend cheated on me 😢😢
Is it possible to have an intercourse even in spite of having the disease?
@@gocubs4010 I am now divorcing...in his mind I was just being a coward.
this is not a "rare" condition. Many women have it and it can come from multiple sources.
I thank TLC for airing this; I wish the person who wrote the description would not have called it "embarrassing."
The saddest part is that in a lot of these testimonials she's mostly upset about not being able to please her husband without any regard to her pleasure. Society sucks especially when it comes to women and sex.
The focus of this documentary was vaginismus, not their sexual intimacy. Most of our vaginismus patients have satisfying sexual lives even without penetrative sex.
You're right though, dude. It's all about a man's pleasure, not the woman's. This is so common because we women early on associate sex only with pain, not with pleasure for ourselves.
@@Womentc my girlfriend has it and even though we try, she knows she can't satisfy me the same way I do with her. The majority of men don't say the truth just to not make our girlfriends feel bad about it.
I have this condition to but have a very supportive husband who has been by my side through out I am getting there slowly but surely
Lucky you. I do not have that luxury. I wish my husband was that supportive.
Could you please help me? I have been suffering for years and I cannot afford to travel to the US. I am thinking of suicide. Please email me at handina.dedino@gmail.com if you have any advice to offer.
Davina Cooper i am having this problem i am crying n i wanna just commit suicide
Same here! We are not alone. It truly pisses me off when ppl who don’t have this think it’s some joke, and it’s not. Nothings funny about not feeling normal. We are stronger than most when we fight through it ❤️
@@ivyvanderwallI can feel you 😞. Did you overcome through it now?
I've suffered from vaginismus it is extremely difficult. Even if you have the world's most patient and understanding partner it's normal to feel and sense of embarrassment or even guilt. But I promise you it's treatable and I promise you that if you really work on it can get better and it will get better. Never give up. You will get through this.
Spazzy taco thank you I needed this.
Spazzy taco Spazzy can u please let me know how you dealt with this. I have this problem too. Quite serious yeah
Archana Jn After I went to the doctor he told me that I needed to get a set of dilators. So I got a set from a vaginismus website. They come with instructions on how to use them. But outside of that the best advice I can give you is when you start dilating I suggest doing it in the bathtub always go at your own pace and remember it's going to take time to get through this I still have to dilate every time before my husband and I get intimate. I would also suggest doing different stretches and yoga poses that help relax your pelvic floor muscles which are pretty easy to find online as well.
Ask your doctor for a prescription of Diazapam (Valium). It got rid of it for me. Haven't had it in probably 20 years.
Snazzy can you please tell us the treatment process for vaginusmus?
this also caused by sexual abuse its a big cause its not just fearing it will hurt like people saying its ur brain bein scared of the act not just pain but also from experience
ashlea read Amen
If this man wants a divorce bcos his wife has a medical disorder, he's not worth it. Period.
It's a lot of stress and pressure on both people, it would be very depressing.
I am happy she was finally able to have sex.
They said they were talking about getting a divorce. If you just got married and still haven't been able to have sex with your wife for a few months, nearly all men would be thinking about divorce. Especially considering they were arguing and the wife was starting to act crazy and depressed. He probably thought he would never be able to have sex with the woman at the time. People love to pretend "relationships are about so much more than sex," but they key part of a relationship is sex, without it, it's just two people who spend time with each-other. The reason people are attracted to each-other is for sex, so we can pro-create as humans.
Lol I guess 99.9999999% aren't worth it. Sex is important in a relationship.
If you never been through it... You will never understand. It's hard on both the man and woman to go through the physical mental pain
I am proud of these 2 for the bravery it would take to speak publicly on this. I truly hope others with this problem see this video and know they are not alone.
Honestly that guy isn't worth it. She should find someone better.
Shut the fuck up
Wow we take small things/ everyday activity for granted when a lot of individuals are having issues doing the same things, this shows we need to be thankful for the little things in life. I am so happy that she was eventually able to consummate her marriage, she was filled with so much joy, it was nice to see.
Looks like the husband did nothing to help.
Margarida BC exactly
What should he do???
😭
He accompanied her to the facility and was with her side, that is extremely helpful in my opinion.
I am happy that the video has now come out because when I dealt with this same situation no doctors had any clue but to just relax. RELAX, RELAX, RELAX that is all they could say. And I was very much like the young lady in the video. I have since then conquered the condition but I still deal with low sex drive after conquering the condition almost 5 years ago.
I am with you; welcome to the club.
Could you please help me? I have been suffering for years and I cannot afford to travel to the US. I am thinking of suicide. Please email me at handina.dedino@gmail.com if you have any advice to offer.
I can not believe I just watched this entire video...i think ive exhausted my TLC clip addiction..feel a little relieved. Thank you.
Having lived thru this illness for almost 4 years i can say that it is heartbreaking. i got married a virgin and had no idea what was wrong with me. It was embarassing i had the same feelings Samira had. I even felt confused after a while about my feelings. I felt alone and felt guit for the hurt i was causing my then husband. Back then in 2005 there wasnt as much information as there is now and we were embarassed to tell anyone. My marriage did not survive. My advice to anyone going thru this is to seek help immediately. Do not be ashamed becuase this is real and it can destroy your relationship if you dont beat it quickly. Have the courage to step up and find a cure. Thats alot easier than looking back and realizing you lost the person you were meant to spend your life with. I wish i knew then, what i know now.
Could you please help me? I have been suffering for years and I cannot afford to travel to the US. I am thinking of suicide. Please email me at handina.dedino@gmail.com if you have any advice to offer.
Purchase some dilators online. They are affordable and available and they are a very effective treatment.
Souhail Zineb I've been suffering from vaginismus for the past 2 years. I just recently gotten to the point I can comfortably have intercourse with my husband. Best thing you can do is buy a pack of vaginismus dilators. some packs start off smaller than a tampon so it's not as intimidating that way. Work your way up. It takes a while but it will get better.
Souhail Zineb are you okay?
Carmen Ho, you have no clue. The woman in this show put forth the effort, to get it corrected. This treatment isn't cheap and not covered under insurance. I paid for a program: book, dialators, and all. I still married her knowing, she had this. She never picked it up, or never tried. 3+ years of not being intimate, all the time arguing because of her being insecure, and her kissing someone else. I stayed 100% faithful, I showed support. It's a living hell for both people in the relationship and not because there is no sex! Intimacy isn't the most important part of a relationship, so our intimate moments was kissing. She gave that to someone else. I stayed 5 more months after that, to see if we could work on us. A little effort at first, and she quit trying. HOW MANY MEN DO YOU KNOW THAT WOULD STAY FAITHFUL OVER 3 YEARS WITHOUT, ARGUING ABOUT NOTHING, SHOWING NO EFFORT AND KISSING SOMEONE ELSE(cheating)? Sometimes the guy is worth it!
Chris White I was told by the gynaecologist that it wasn't their problem if I ever had comfortable sex. Really supportive and doing their job. I then luckily got a referral for a physiotherapist who is an expert on this issue. It's a slow and painful process but I'm miles ahead of what I used to be.
Chris White Our treatment is typically covered by insurance. Regrettably, the video came out with that error and TLC could not correct it after the fact. We added this disclaimer to the synopsis above as well.
Women's Therapy Center - vaginismus, painful sex, cancer, incontinence, and more this was 2007, and at that time it wasn't covered under insurance. I was 24 when it all started. The biggest problem was no effort on her part. It takes time and effort. To every lady and man working through this it takes effort on both sides.
Amber O'Reilly I am proud of you! I wish you the best in your treatment. You stated the guy in the video talked about divorce. He wasn't worth it period, I can agree with that. She was putting forth the effort and he should have been more supportive at that time. I am divorced, but it's due to no effort, arguments and kissing someone else(communication, trust, loyalty are important components for a relationship to last) it's in the rear view now.
Chris White i applaud you, for being something that is now too rare: a real man. faithfulness is also near nonexistent. i sure dont like the treatment you had to take, bht the most important thing is that you stayed faithful and you put forth the effort. so when it did not work out, it was most definitely no fault of yours. i certainly hope that you do or already have..find someone who loves u the same as you love them!!
I hope this couple is doing great. Thank you for sharing such a personal issue.
Congratulation Samira
I'm glad you got better. I'm going thru the same thing you're going thru. I PRAY 🙏to GOD everyday that I will get better soon!!! Thankyou for sharing. You gave me FAITH.
Why would her mom tell her something like that? Getting a pap smear doesn't make you lose your virginity
Any vaginal insertion prior to marriage consummation is forbidden or considered losing virginity by some cultures/religions (even if it has nothing to do with virginity). Furthermore, we often hear of OBGYNs who will not do a speculum exam for that very reason.
Ivy well our society is much more educated than her parents Society was you have to understand the era and the gap between the parents and the children a different era different ideas different ways of teaching when you know better you teach better you learn better you do better
I also have it. I tried breaking my virginity many times but I just couldn't and I didn't understand why, I thought it was just fear. Until years later I came across an extract in a magazine talking about it, I went online to research and oh my gosh was I shocked. I immediately started crying, all the "symptoms" listed were exactly like mine, it's like I was the one being interviewed for all that information. Anyone I told about it didn't understand, believe or they just dismissed me. Even if I show someone the research they either don't care to understand or they don't believe that it's the same thing I have. I can't even insert a finger in my vagina talk less of a penis. When I looked up the causes I concluded that mine was caused by sexual abuse that I experienced as a child. I'm 25 years old and still a virgin, not by choice though. I have been in plenty of relationships and yeah there were other issues that led to the break ups but the bone of contention has always been that I was "refusing" to give it up. I always try pushing it to the back of my mind but it's always there and to top it off I also suffer from clinical depression that no one understands too, I'm just seen as "the girl with issues". Oh well, just another day in Africa.
Shoshanna Schoeman I feel you my sister. I feel you
Two years later I'm now happy to attest that I got help from a physiotherapist.. her name is Ceciliah and she has been a God sent. I was able to have sex after just 3 sessions with her and she used only her fingers and taught me breathing exercises.
im in the same situation! ive always suffered from depression nd vaginismus made it worse😞,any tips on how to heal please! I can t afford therapy
@@spiritedaway99 Please leave me your email address.. I will try to share as much information as I can.
Same situation for me but I think I have something called “microperforated Hymen” it’s a hymen covered up in skin but it still comes blood out of it cause it has a really small opening. No one takes me serious because “I’m 15” and they say “I’m still too young” but it’s actually ruining my life. I cant wear tampons and every time I sleep with someone I have to an*l.
I literally cried when i watched this video because I understand perfectly what this young woman was going through.sex is almost always painful for me and it is very difficult to penetrate in the beginning.I don't know if my vaginismus comes from first painful intercourse or my conservative upbringing but sex and any obgyn visits are extremely uncomfortable for me.I am 31 years old and only last week I was able to do my first pap smear thanks to my fantastic gynecologist who diagnosed me with vaginismus,was very understanding and told me this condition is treatable.I have to start using dialators but I am so extremely happy that I am finally getting in control of my body.
Good luck :) I’m the same age as you and going through the same thing. You aren’t alone!
Nicole Rai i hope you are doing ok!I started using dialators every day for 20 minutes and right before the intercourse with a lot of lubrication and it helps a little.
anastasia051886 I’m so happy the dilators are working for you and things are improving! I’m so happy for you and I know things will only get better! :) I actually ordered a set of dilators so I will be starting my dilator therapy soon! :)
I'm the same age and only got diagnosed less than 1 year ago after seeing several doctors for over 10 years. Still going through physio but the doctor has ran out of options and not enough research in the UK to try other options
@@Amelia-we1sf were the dialators successful at helping u overcome the condition? I have this too and had no idea what was wrong with me
What a gorgeous brave young woman. Your children will be very lucky and loved.
I have this condition it has gotten drastically better over the years but when it first started it was insanely painful and took a huge emotional toll on me.
Hi can I help
“Princess syndrome”- no. Often vaginismus can present in people who were sheltered, but sometimes sex-positive people can present with it. It’s not always caused by negativity or trauma. I was raised in a sex-positive way and I struggle with this. I’ve never been assaulted either. It’s just 🤷🏼♀️.
You are correct. Vaginismus covers the entire fabric of women, from sheltered to otherwise, and is ALWAYS an anxiety-based condition.
I would still love my GF or wife regardless of this, I mean it be hard to impossible to have a baby, but if I truly cared for her id stick around,I'm 20 so maybe idk what I'm talking about.
Ann Berns I know I'd be difficult but if I actually truly liked someone I'd be wiling to do that, there is many ways to make a woman happy without penetrating anyways and vise versa.
You are a great person I have seen man
I am so amazed to see u.
the world needs more people thinking like you fam
C P you're so full of shit. You are either a virgin or a damn liar who's never been in an actual long term relationship with a woman.
You're 20 so it's fair if you don't know what you're talking about. I know for sure that the person I was at 20 didn't exist by the time I was 25 and I definitely said some shit at 25 that makes me cringe at 32
Congratulations on the pregnancy. May Jehovah bless both of you with happiness and long life. You both stuck through it and that's a good thing.
Wtf, the hymen can break without anything being inserted. That’s not what virginity is anyways!
A hymen does not break on its own, but may with the insertion of a tampon, a finger, a penis, etc. That said, not all virgins will have a hymen: some never had one, while others may have their hymen elasticize in the years since onset of menstruation (estrogen effect).
Women's Therapy Center - Treatment Center For Vaginismus, Painful Sex, Cancer, Incontinence & More I think they meant that it could break due to activities such as horseback riding. Don’t know if it’s 100% true but I heard that it could be possible.
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It's also possible to not be a virgin and have a partially intact hymen.
Everything she said hit so close to home. It's really lucky when you have an understanding partner (I'm glad I have one). I haven't started treatment because I'm a college student and I don't have the time or money and it's made me really depressed, but this really gives me hope :')
Hi, have you been able to treat?
I am so happy for you guys! What a sad thing you went through. Thank you for sharing and I am so glad your husband stood by you through all of this. What a great man!
I'm glad things worked out for this loving couple.
I'm just so happy for you. God bless!
It's hard sometimes but if someone loves you ,you can get through this.
Jloofaz my boyfriend cheated on me
she's absolutely gorgeous
I have vaginismus as well. It is honestly heartbreaking sometimes. It's been a few years and it is baby steps but it will slowly get better when you stop beating yourself up and start focusing on other things.
I just think that's sooo fucked up. I wouldn't consider divorce if my man had erectile dysfunction.
vickie g thats called every man over 60
vickie g exactly it's like did you marry him for his penis 😤
I'm so glad Samira was able to find a cure and go on to become a mother! She is such an amazing and strong woman who definitely deserves happiness and I hope she continues to live a long healthy and happy life with a great sex life.
Awww!!! I'm so happy for her!! Never knew this existed..
Same :) It definitely does. Vestibulitis is another condition that affects about 10% of women (can be constant and happen when a woman is sitting on a bike seat, or it can happen and just the whole area gets inflamed out of nowhere, etc.) but so many women don't talk about it. A good gyn will help someone with this. If a gyn ever says it's in your head--see another one!
I am so happy for them! He is such a great husband and I absolutely love her friend! She is a lucky girl.
I have this because I suffered with long battle with endometriosis but my fiance has been with my four years and he has stuck by me threw endometriosis and this when I have relapses like this year but seeking help 👍for anyone with this item does get better have hope stay strong
Hi can I help you
Thanks a lot, mommy and daddy.
THANK GOD this sweet girl turned out to have at least one parent living in the 21st century! Waiting for marriage is *beautiful* and I'm all for it but don't be willfully bassackwards about it like her mom obviously is!
Congratulations Samira for getting pregnant :) I literally cried while watching your video because I am also suffering from the same issue but here in Pakistan there is not much awareness of this problem. I am going through a hypnosis treatment. my married life is also completely on sake just like yours was. I was also thinking to suicide when I discovered I couldnt do it. its really so painful and depressing. I wish my husband was as much supportive as your husband is. my husband didnot resist it for 9 months :(
Do you not see all the other comments talking about how her husband was NOT supportive at all and was quick to want to divorce her over it as if that's all she's good for and he can't wait for the therapy to work. Your partner is SO crappy to you that your expectations and standards have become delusional. You're here saying how supportive her partner was and literally hundreds of comments and 100% of the comments besides yours is about how horrible and unsupportive he is. Leave your partner and find someone who actually cares about you.
Web search. They have 2 other kids now.
@@brandonwillis7534 thank u. I wish to have a husband like u really
Hey, were you able to treat your condition?
They are beautiful patient couple. With a very happy ending.
The fact that she's willing to seek treatment for it is honourable. Lack of sex is the major cause of divorce. If the woman and of course partner aren't willing to seek treatment, the marriage won't survive.
You are correct.
Wish I saw this video a long time ago. It was encouraging and I’m so happy for them. Hopeful I can achieve the same for myself.
It is never too late to cure your vaginismus! Contact us if interested in our services doctors@womentc.com
This is a nightmare to me. Even with being with someone you love and trust and still being too constrained and anxious that you just clam up. I couldn't ever imagine that. I mean- I could, but I'd hate to.
The awesome love story! How were the pregnancy and delivery afterward?`
Nancy Anderson
Read the description. She has baby girl. Geez
If you love her you will struggle through it with her. That is marriage.
Beautiful couple i wish you many years of bliss and beautiful babies
I am so happy for them.
This just makes me so incredibly sad for so many reasons.
First off: sex does not make a relationship. Sex is not the end all be all of a marriage. An asexual relationship is just as valid and loving as one that includes sex.
Secondly: being raised to fear sex or even having anything like tampons near your vagina, is so incredibly unhealthy for a young woman’s health. Fearing your own genitals is not exactly the recipe for a healthy relationship to your own body or sex in general. And the idea that the hymen is something that you “break” when you are penetrated for the first time is so misleading and just plain untrue. It’s a pseudoscience lie that has become this kind of societal jargon to manipulate women and make them feel dirty about having sex, because it supposedly “devalues” them as human beings, and dirties them for any future man they might want to sleep with. And that’s just such a fucking disgusting sentiment that I can’t even deal with it right now.
Thirdly: there are so many ways to have fun, fulfilling sex that doesn’t include any kind penetration whatsoever. Pushing for penetration when your partner is clearly uncomfortable with it and stressed out by it won’t lead to anything good. Instead you can mess around, get each other off with your hands and your mouths and learn what the other person responds to. Just have some fun for God’s sake! Get to a place where sex is something that’s related to feeling happy, safe, sated and close to your partner, not some kind of duty you should fulfill. Depending on what kind of vaginismus you have, that feeling of safety might start reducing the effects, because it slowly but surely removes the fear around sex, and often, by extension, penetration. Whether that be by fingers, a dildo or penis, or even just a tampon. However, that might also not be the case. It could be a permanent, and you know what? That’s ok too. It doesn’t devalue you as a person or a partner, and it shouldn’t be something that negatively affects your relationship at all if you have a loving and supporting partner.
Sure... But it'll be nice to have sex not just for pleasure but for what it's actully meant for, having kids
I live two minutes away from the women's center!
Hi can I help you
I myself had to deal with this for years...i then i realised that its about your mind n you can overcome it
It's fucking awfull that he tried to force sex on her when he knew she was struggling, he's a scumbag. Any guy that sees himself as a victim in this situation is not worth life.
Throughout this I just felt sad that they got married so soon and that he was so quick to want to divorce her because of a condition she couldn't control but could be treated/cured.
Idk. I realize it's a cultural thing.
samra salam They're not considered married until they've had sex...that is a culture thing
I thought it was sad too, like maybe they could have focused on hugging and just laying together without so much pressure to have sex.
Ruth Barnard i hope to move to lala land someday, how is the weather there?
xNinja83x lol
i dated an egyptian guy while i dealt with my issues, he of course was such a obtuse man about it, but he was always kind, and he let me take my time and take my breaks.
could be a cultural thing, but my muslim actually saved my pussy from a life of celibacy
There is so much happening around us that we don't realize until in that situation. Cultures n traditions affect individual to extreme at times. It's unfortunate that even in twentieth century there are many afraid to talk. Great they helped out each other, great hubby
Hi can I help you
I struggle with this as well. It has made marriage difficult but I’ve tried suppositories which is like an anxiety pill for down there and started dilators. Anyone know where this clinic is?
We are located in Plainview (Long Island), NY. Details are on our website www.womentc.com Do not hesitate to reach out to us via email to doctors@womentc.com
Suppositories are a great idea, I think!
what a nightmare omg for both husband and wife ....I just can't imagine.
I have multiple rare medical conditions, including endometriosis (not rare, but I had it extremely bad) plus Interstitial Cystitis, and Cystinuria. By my 30s, sex was always excruciating for me. I explained it to doctor after doctor and no one cared, no one addressed it at all. So on top of pain, I wondered if I was crazy, and my husband didn't understand. For me, sex was just gritting my teeth till it was over. Even though my husband's knew it was painful, he'd spend an hour or more, every time, forcing me to ask him to stop, because I couldn't stand it any more. I wish any of my doctor's had cared, offered me any advice, anything. I offered divorce, but he refused. Turned out he'd been cheating, he enjoyed cheating, and enjoyed my pain trying to please him. Not something I want to detail any more but when we were finally divorced it was a relief. In my 30's my periods stopped and I got divorced. Two of the best events on my life. In retrospect, of course.
My hart goes out to this couple.
Is it just me or does he have a speech impediment? I can’t tell if it’s that or a weird accent coz most of his speech sounds normal.
Temporary use of Diazapam - 5 mg (Valium) cured this for me. I don't recall how many times a day I took it but IIRC, it was gone in a month? It was so long ago, I can't remember exact timeframe.
Indeed, being that vaginismus is a psychosomatic condition, some women may benefit from anti-anxiety medication such as what you used. The rest will need further intervention. Happy for you!
Is this true? Did diazepam really work for you? I suffer with this as well
Yes, for me it was a cure.
Omg thanks
I tried a menstrual cup didnt work...i never was afraid of anything but why me? But let me change it to try me
I also have painful intercoursr
Such a handsome couple!!! Their culture is different than most Americans but they are also Americans and proud of themselves. Such a great story. May they have children as beautiful as they are themselves...
Why the hell is this in my recommendations
I also suffer from Vaginismus and it’s honnestly horrible I can’t wear a tampon or anything i just feel stuck so it hurts me to see her husband be not supportive!
Some are, and some are not because they don't understand the enormity of the condition. Hoping you are doing better by now. Let us know if we can be of any help.
www.womentc.com/conditions-and-treatments/penetration-pain-disorders/vaginismus/
And vaginal dryness . plz tell me why this?
Plz help me
its really a struggle to have vaginismus I've had it for as long as I can remember and I can't even take my girls pointer finger without hurting and crying and it really hurts me that maybe I will never get to be a mother mother and that my girlfriend will have to carry the baby she has no problem with it and carrying the baby she would do that for me but I still want one baby out of myself one day
Hi can I help you
I understand completely
Sorry to hear of your struggle with vaginismus. Here for you if you wish to contact us for treatment doctors@womentc.com
@@Womentc thank you 🙏
When I was a virgin l also had a visit to see my gynecologist and it didn’t hurt but when I had sex for the first time it did. It was extremely painful it so wasn’t what I expected.
what are the symptoms
for me, it just hurts like hell if you try to get anything inside (yes, even a tampon).
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Samira and Firas you are awesome guys and very brave and I really appreciate your honesty. I am happy for both of you. Now excuse me for writing in Arabic for the Arabs guys and ladies. أولاً كل الاحترام والتقدير لكما لهذه الشجاعة ان تتحدثا عن هذه المشكلة الطبية التي منتشره بشكل أكبر في مجتمعنا وارجو منكما ان تعلموا انه بالفعل هذه الظاهرة هي منتشره أكثر في مجتمعنا لأسباب كثيره ولكن أكثرها هي ما تحدثتي عنه سميره وهو لانه المحافظة على العذرية هو مهم للغاية في مجتمعنا مما يسبب الكثير من المخاوف والقلق حينما ياتي وقت التزاوج فكثير من الفتيات يمرنن بمثل هذه الشد في الاسفل الغير ارادي وأيضاً شد الرجلين والدفع وكثير من التصرفات الطبيعية ولكن الغريبه في عقول الكثير وخصوصاً الرجال. اغلب الرجال يأخذون هذه التصرفات وكانهم يظنون انه هناك شذوذ معين لدى السيده واغلب الرجال لا يتفهمون وكثيرا ما يخطئون الرجال بفرض غايتهم بدون اخذ شعور السيده بمحمل الجد وهذا غير جيد ويؤثر سلبيا بحل المشكلة الطبيه واغلب الاحيان يبقي الاثر الرهيب في ذاكرة السيده. ولحسن الحظ كان فراس، وهنا اقول كل الاحترام والتقدير لك سيد فراس لصبرك وحبك لسميره. وعلم بان سميره ستحترمك للعمر كله. إلى الرجل المسلم او العربي، الرجاء ان تتمهل وتصبر وأيضاً من المفيد ان تستير الأمهات او العمات ولا يجب ان تخجلون لهذه الحالة وكيف يمكن ان تحل. غالباً ما ستجد شخص الذي من الممكن ان يساعدك. وهنا كان أيضاً إيجابياً انكم استعنتم بخدمه طبيه . على العموم شكرا لسميره وفراس.
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I hope so many young girls particularly Muslims get to see this documentary.
too much pressure oneself
somcana how would you like to have it
I’m 34 and a virgin and I recently learned I have this condition and I was in denial for years.
Glad you are now in the know! There is much information on our website, www.womentc.com There is no need to live with vaginismus.
I wanna direct contact with woman's therapy centre. Please help me .
I experienced this after an abusive marriage. I could not even get tampons inserted. It is very strange that your own body rejects any type of penetration. I recovered slowly....took about a year for me...therapy and some self touch exercises.
It's not strange at all, esp after an abusive marriage; your body was probably protecting you from getting into another relationship too soon.
It can be very painful to the point where n when u do have sex you can bleed like its your period..having a understanding partner really makes it easy.Relaxing is easier said than DONE.
Foe the people who say just do weed, has anyone had this condition & found weed works or helps? Of course u don't always want to be high for sex but im curious if its an option to help these women loosen up.
I didn't do weed. My doctor prescribed Diazapam (Valium) and it cured it. Haven't had it return in 20 years.
I think it’s a biophysical issue. The girl needs to buy a small device and relax and stretch the muscles little by little. Eventually the muscle with stretch out.
Faras wasn't very helpful. She deserved better than that, he's very selfish. I wonder if she (and him) have learned about her clitoris yet? This has been all about penetration - what about the rest?
Maybe their religion told them not to
Amy Erlanger hahah wtf once your married you can do whatever you want while having sex 😂
Good old religious guilt..... shame your children.
Russell Meyer it happens to atheists too. It seems to happen to about 1/100 women “naturally” and can have acute onset in previously “normal” women because of trauma of various kinds. My now-ex wife suffered from it, and neither her gynecologists nor any counselors we saw even believed such a thing existed. Religious guilt doesn’t help though.
Yup, religion and sex shaming doesn’t help anyone. Treating this takes a lot of time and therapy. All this over a hymen- essentially a tiny piece of skin tissue. The very idea of virginity is mind numbing. Instilling the fear of sex into younger girls all in the name of keeping them pure and holy... then comes adulthood and the very idea of sex makes them terrified, not only from the physical aspect but the emotional aspect too.
The guys with tiny dicks created it
Repeat after me : SEX IS NOT ONLY PENETRATION, YOU CAN HAVE SEX WITHOUT IT.
You are right but if someone wants children, then it becomes a headache.
I too suffer from it.
Archana Jn I’m so sorry :( I too. It’s very difficult. I wish you the best
Nicole Rai thanks. Few months to my marriage and still couldnt have sex.
Archana Jn it’s been over 1 year for me ... you are not alone. I hope everything works out for you! :)
Believe me ,my wife also have same problem but we have a son without having proper sex till date .... And we are happy with each other 😄
This guy though,he really was thinking about divorce if he did not get to have it. bet they not together.
Nope. Web search. They still are.
is this very dangerous ???
Dangerous? No, but it takes a toll on you. Let's say you want to use tampons, well you can't be cause of those reactions.
Planning the big moment on a specific day and time sounds stupid no matter if you have the condition or not. I can never plan when I want something in my vagina.. I just do or don't lol
Her future husband shouldn’t act as if he knows everything! (Especially about any woman)
It used to be that even women never learned as much as they should’ve about their own bodies. No one would talk about the sex organs. They are now more open than before, but still some cultures aren’t.
I have this condition :-(
Try erotic massage giving and receiving you partners will climax and you can just stick to the relaxing massage or incorporate erotic. ..no penetretion of any kind is required. ..just caresses. Kisses. Massage movements
yes, I've tried this is the past. But I don't have a partner right now.
I agree. Wish it works with my husband, but it does not. To him, sex is penetration.
Could you please help me? I have been suffering for years and I cannot afford to travel to the US. I am thinking of suicide. Please email me at handina.dedino@gmail.com if you have any advice to offer.
Souhail Zineb did you get help?? Please let me know if you need to talk.
I think I have that
I started crying at the end, I was so happy for her! This is extremely inspirational for me. I’m 18 years old and I too, have this. I’m in a long term relationship, I can’t even count how many times we’ve attempted sex but I’ve never had sex with my boyfriend 🙃 luckily I have the most supportive BF who is patient with me. Also I believe mine is a reaction to sexual trauma, so it’s kinda different but this video really showed me that anyone can overcome it and it’s a natural thing that shouldn’t be feared. Best of luck to both of them and anyone else going through it.
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It makes me so angry that intercourse is seen as consumating a marriage and if you don't have it, then your marriage is null. So angry! That is nobody's business but you and your spouse! There was another video of a couple where the husband was a pastor and he quit because they told him he'd lose his job if he didn't force himself into his wife.
I also have vaginismus. However my husband and I discussed it before our marriage and decided we'd have intercourse when the time felt right, and just let it flow. (We didn't know I had vaginismus at the time, but both dislike the myth of virginity)
We still had sex that didn't involve penetration, and it made for a lovely honeymoon.
Don't get me wrong, is an emotional struggle, I've cried more times than I can count over it, but it's not so gut wrenchingly pivotal as it was for this couple.
I also dislike the dramatic background music, very news report-y which makes it seem like the condition is a massive tradgedy and they're doing a secret ops investigation and the suspense keeps building.
Also how awkward would it be to have a doctor tell you "for this appointment you will attempt intercourse." ?!?!
Goodness society, you're a jerk.
This men is such a mean person instead of being supportive no matter what , he would only like to stick to her if inter course works, that so bad of him.
Pretty damn common though. Men are less likely to hang around if a woman gets ill as well. Stay well wives!
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I have this and it sucks so bad i havnt had sex with my husband in 3 years 😭
i have vaginismus and my gf doesnt have a problem with it
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