Taken from the research i've made its all in your brain, My GF is experiencing the same thing and we are both in a journey to help her, my role is to support and be patient with her which i'm good at. Since its psychological the process will be slow but will get there.
Just watched this video and hopefully it will answer more questions, as I understand it’s not just emotional but physical condition. Please take a listen to this couple’s story. (FYI I don’t know them, just came across their vid, which I found pretty interesting) ua-cam.com/video/fDHAiNaGjYg/v-deo.html
I used to have very serious tonsillitis since my childhood life and part of my adulthood until I did Tonsillectomy. This video has explains to me what's going on down there
THANK-YOU!! Your tips were incredibly helpful and this worked. I'll be making a video on this and referencing your video & will link it. Such a fantastic resource
Anxiety and depression, traumatic divorce after long term marriage and psychological injury, pain and atrophy with menopause, chronic lyme with antibiotics... all apply to cause this problem with me and i want to get back to some normality
You can voice our feelings. I hope I can overcome all of this, actually there has been progress and I hope to become a new, normal human being. Thank you hopefully because you can help many people. 💕 from Indonesia
I’ve had this. I couldn’t have vaginal sex until I was 21 after years of trying. Now I can have relatively easy penetration. What helped was: Yoga (deep breathing calming my self. Also I felt like I can control my body parts-and calm them) Dilators: any entry was no matter how small or shallow was a success. My boyfriends size was substantial so I had to work up to him. At first I felt like there was no hole. And then calmed and was able to put the tip of a tiny bullet, and then a thin dilator and eventually my boyfriend. He could only enter never move 😅. Supportive boyfriend: he was pushy but loving. At first he would hurt my feelings but then he understood i couldn’t control it and tried being helpful and gentle. I still can’t take him perfectly but it soooo much better Finally I never claimed something was wrong: it may not work for everyone but I felt like if I narrated it then it would become more real. I knew something was wrong as a teenager and was proactive but I never claimed vaginismus. Now I do because I’m over it. But at the time I was ‘just as normal as the next woman’. Anyways. I hope this helped Good luck ladies ❤
@@ashvlogs5484 it was not only very painful, but impossible. it felt like he was hitting a wall. i tried for the first time with my high school sweetheart as a teen, then at 18 i was able to insert a tiny bullet but only the tip. it was enough to give me the confidence to explore dilators. I did that for about 6 months(they were also painful) but that combined with my above method increased my confidence. after a few months i encounter a real man. the dilator i used was thinner than the average penis. He could insert but he couldn't move. i felt happy to have been inserted by a real man. (he wasn't satisfied though). we did this for about 2 years, the entire time i was never fully able to have normal sex and we had week long breaks in between. sometimes i was able to preform normally with the exception of a few positions but then i would regress. one day my body just cooperated fully and i've had minimal rejections since. i hope this helped.
I have Lichens (LS) and vaginismus. Not been able to have a smear test and everything is fusing. Having LS makes things ten times worse as it is so chronic and sore all the time. 😢
@@kevinsj99 Think about it. 12 likes means what I said makes total sense to many. I can understand for others it is perplexing. I will write about it in one of my books. I guess it's worth explaining. This is not the place to elaborate, sorry.
I don't think so, at least certainly not directly. I'm a lesbian and I have vaginismus. There are heterosexual women who have it as well, lesbians who don't have that problem etc
@@julesclarke6140 thanks! The reason I ask was I was wondering if one experiences vaginismus due to lack of sexual attraction towards the partner. Also in case of lesbian couples this may not be a real issue I am guessing? As penetration is not going to be on the table unless one is using sex toys. Hope I am not making you uncomfortable! Just trying to learn.
This is the best video on vaginismus I’ve seen.
Thank you so much doctor, there's no other source of so much information ! Thank you
Am so happy I found your video, you explain everything perfectly.
Taken from the research i've made its all in your brain, My GF is experiencing the same thing and we are both in a journey to help her, my role is to support and be patient with her which i'm good at. Since its psychological the process will be slow but will get there.
you manage to get there? i’m suffering with it too
@@leahcooper5191 We've been staying together for 3 Months now and guess what she's comfy and it's no longer painful.
@@tumim8271 that’s great to hear. So it’s all in the mind. . Fear.. ah
Just watched this video and hopefully it will answer more questions, as I understand it’s not just emotional but physical condition. Please take a listen to this couple’s story. (FYI I don’t know them, just came across their vid, which I found pretty interesting)
ua-cam.com/video/fDHAiNaGjYg/v-deo.html
And another link that may help someone
ua-cam.com/video/hcecJr_VTzc/v-deo.html
I used to have very serious tonsillitis since my childhood life and part of my adulthood until I did Tonsillectomy. This video has explains to me what's going on down there
Excellent information and beautifully presented.
Hi i am arpit
THANK-YOU!! Your tips were incredibly helpful and this worked. I'll be making a video on this and referencing your video & will link it. Such a fantastic resource
Anxiety and depression, traumatic divorce after long term marriage and psychological injury, pain and atrophy with menopause, chronic lyme with antibiotics... all apply to cause this problem with me and i want to get back to some normality
You can voice our feelings. I hope I can overcome all of this, actually there has been progress and I hope to become a new, normal human being. Thank you hopefully because you can help many people. 💕 from Indonesia
As a highly sensitive person I have too many issues.
I feel this so much
I have hope now! Will try all your suggestions!!
I’ve had this. I couldn’t have vaginal sex until I was 21 after years of trying. Now I can have relatively easy penetration. What helped was:
Yoga (deep breathing calming my self. Also I felt like I can control my body parts-and calm them)
Dilators: any entry was no matter how small or shallow was a success. My boyfriends size was substantial so I had to work up to him. At first I felt like there was no hole. And then calmed and was able to put the tip of a tiny bullet, and then a thin dilator and eventually my boyfriend. He could only enter never move 😅.
Supportive boyfriend: he was pushy but loving. At first he would hurt my feelings but then he understood i couldn’t control it and tried being helpful and gentle. I still can’t take him perfectly but it soooo much better
Finally I never claimed something was wrong: it may not work for everyone but I felt like if I narrated it then it would become more real. I knew something was wrong as a teenager and was proactive but I never claimed vaginismus. Now I do because I’m over it. But at the time I was ‘just as normal as the next woman’.
Anyways. I hope this helped
Good luck ladies ❤
Hi can I help you 😅
Hey was the sex painfull the first time you did or insert dilators please lemme know it will be very helpful
@@ashvlogs5484 it was not only very painful, but impossible. it felt like he was hitting a wall. i tried for the first time with my high school sweetheart as a teen, then at 18 i was able to insert a tiny bullet but only the tip. it was enough to give me the confidence to explore dilators. I did that for about 6 months(they were also painful) but that combined with my above method increased my confidence. after a few months i encounter a real man. the dilator i used was thinner than the average penis. He could insert but he couldn't move. i felt happy to have been inserted by a real man. (he wasn't satisfied though). we did this for about 2 years, the entire time i was never fully able to have normal sex and we had week long breaks in between. sometimes i was able to preform normally with the exception of a few positions but then i would regress. one day my body just cooperated fully and i've had minimal rejections since.
i hope this helped.
You are truly wonderful. Thank you so much Doc. If I had seen you I would have gone a long way by now
Brilliant! 5.30pm vic.
This is really helpful, very clear with the information and easy to understand. I hope I can cope with my vaginal pain by doing more meditations.
This video was SO helpful and hopeful. Thank you for sharing
Hi i am arpit from
Being treated emotionally poorly by your partner can ascerbate the problem. Most men cant be kind in regards to this issue.
Thank you dr for this helpful video ❤️
This was helpful. Thank you 🙏
Seems like it could be associated with Endo, which I have been told I could very well have.
Wow I enjoyed the information in this video, there is hope for me and my sex life. Thank you for posting. How often do you do maintenance stretching?
Fantastic video thank you
Amazingly
Thank you so much doctor. What about physiotherapy?
Thank you for this video, so informative!
I think I had Vulvydena sp? Too sore to even sit down?
I have Lichens (LS) and vaginismus. Not been able to have a smear test and everything is fusing. Having LS makes things ten times worse as it is so chronic and sore all the time. 😢
I’m sorry.
please ... if you will..... is it possible to have been diagnosed with Lichens Sclerosis and that is 'the problem' ??
You are "love" to me
I am scared to see a doctor so medical treatment should I take
Thank you much
nice hair
My brian is shocking me
Thanks for this video. I’m currently using dilators to try and break the hymen. It’s really painful once it touches the hymen. Is this vagnismus?
sounds like it! any updates?
Hi have you ever worked with the link between tension in the jaw and the pelvic floor? If so how and have you found it useful? Thanks!
Men’s. Pelvic help
it is a psychological protection mechanism of intelligent women. Seems a paradox but it's not.
That doesn't make any sense, elaborate?
@@kevinsj99 Think about it. 12 likes means what I said makes total sense to many. I can understand for others it is perplexing. I will write about it in one of my books. I guess it's worth explaining. This is not the place to elaborate, sorry.
@@matilda4406you got no idea wtf you’re talking about. This is not about intelligence. And “12 likes”? That’s not significant.
Your comment does not make any sense,,..intelligence has nothing to do with vaginimus, ,,
@@tonoolveralol
How to contact with you ?
Hi i am arpit can I help you
Pelvic dysfunction
That’s why Xanax makes it better !!! But we can’t take that drug every day ! Pain from atrophy nerve pain will cause these muscles to contract!
Does this have anything to do with sexual orientation ?
No nothing at all.
I don't think so, at least certainly not directly. I'm a lesbian and I have vaginismus. There are heterosexual women who have it as well, lesbians who don't have that problem etc
@@julesclarke6140 thanks! The reason I ask was I was wondering if one experiences vaginismus due to lack of sexual attraction towards the partner. Also in case of lesbian couples this may not be a real issue I am guessing? As penetration is not going to be on the table unless one is using sex toys. Hope I am not making you uncomfortable! Just trying to learn.
_“I have a vewwy gwate fweind in Wome named Vaginismus … Vaginismus Titus.”_