6 Causes of Infidelity (Cheating) and Tips to Prevent It
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- Опубліковано 6 лип 2024
- Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Qualified Clinical Supervisor. She received her PhD in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Florida in 2002. In addition to being a practicing clinician, she has provided training to counselors, social workers, nurses and case managers internationally since 2006 through AllCEUs.com 📢SUBSCRIBE and click the BELL to get notified when new videos are uploaded.
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 6 causes of infidelity and strategies to prevent them
00:11 Prevalence
00:42 Types of Infidelity
04:22 Causes: Need, Opportunity, Disinhibition (NOD)
15:41 Causes
23:55 Support the Channel
24:14 Summary
For the past couple of years, my whole life did not make much sense. I know more than I want to know about narcissism and borderline personality disorder. My husband was diagnosed with it, but I did not know the full impact of what that meant until...The love of my life, the only man I have ever loved and been married to for 38 years, decided he wanted to date while married. He went online and started dating up a storm without my consent or knowledge. That old Knucklehead does not even "have it like that" in the love department if you know what I mean. Well, to make a long story short and sweet, he moved in with one of the side-chicks in Georgia and I am here in California living my life like it is Golden. Every day, I wake up and ask myself, "Martha, what wonderful thing will you do for yourself today?" God has let me know I don't have to understand all the foolishness and "carrying on" that happens in this earthly realm. Just keep moving, so I am moving my mind and body to a higher realm of joy daily walking with GirlTrek as a crew leader.
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Wow that is so uplifting and encouraging I was married for twelve years to a man that was also dating up a storm without consulting with me about it lol I laugh now but really it was a decade of mental and emotional abuse and hardcore gas lighting and the recovery from that has been slow going and a rocky road at best. Your post reminds me it is up to me now and it will get better thanks for the reminder 🤍
When I was young and still living at home all the way into my adult years. For a long time I would feel guilty and feel ashamed that I would do something good for myself or if I bought something nice for myself. My father would find out and give me the evil eye and he would devalue me and everything that I've done and whatever it was that I did or bought for myself. I'm happy that I went no contact when I did. I was no contact with him for 1 1/2 years before he died.
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I don’t perceive someone who is in a relationship watching porn as being a type of infidelity, especially if that person isn’t interacting with the people in these pornos. However, subscribing to someone you know on some level’s OnlyFans is something I do see as a type of infertility for some reason. I need to reflect on this more
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Porn ruins minds. They no longer want or desire real human contact. Porn = masturbation that turns into rejecting the spouse, poor to no performance sexually resulting in a sex starved marriage. Now I only see my husband as very weak and selfish. I have lost all respect because he has chosen to hide, lie and deny. Porn kills relationships, it’s an addiction that gets over looked.
Excellent content! This is a very important topic and I think you nailed it!
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Mania-induced hypersexuality is under-recognized in our profession (mental health). With correct treatment both lives and marriages can be saved so I’m mentioning it here.
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Especially bi-polar neurological personality disorders!!! Really insane!! Great review of unfaithfulness on many levels!! 👏👍🙄
Thank you for sharing.
Respect and kindness are simple yet undervalued and easily forgotten aspects of a happy relationship. I also appreciate you mentioning the mental health factors that can cause infidelity. I have bipolar disorder and have never been sexually unfaithful, but during hypomanic episodes I often become fixated on someone other than my partner. They become the object of my fantasies and I become flirty. I hate it so much. My marriage is the most important thing in my life, so I appreciate you mentioning mania’s impact.
Are you taking medication to balance your mania? Like "Abilify"?
Thank you for sharing that. I wish I had known that this was a thing decades ago. It's something that can be worked on, though, right? Or more like an uncontrollable compulsion? Have you been able to stop? (I'm not trying to be mean, just genuinely curious because this topic and reason for it hits close to home.)
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Thank you for watching, Mystery. Come and watch any video on the channel for as many times as you like. I am grateful to be of help and I am grateful for you. What do you think is the main cause of infidelity?
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Going into professional counseling "together"; is extremely important before ever bonding in marriage or commitment with an individual!! Every one has their history and baggage!! If you can't except another person's History ..... then both people are wasting each other's time and energy of a healthy future together!!😉👍
Great point…get counselling, BEFORE you need to.
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Intellectual incompatibility is also an important factor in infidelity
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Awesome advice everywhere. But I do want to say that I don't believe it's the other person's fault if their significant other cheats. It could be that the other person communicated everything and every way that they could but their significant other wasn't receptive or something. I have been in many relationships where I have been cheated on and each time I just dug into myself and tried to figure out what I had done wrong. But you can't run that route or you will do nothing but self deteriorate. I believe that communication is the key to everything that's in a relationship but you have a partner that is willing and responsive and that wants to try. I hope I explained this well enough and I would like to hear the comments others. I now know it is unhealthy to stay in any relationship where there is serious lack of communication.
Yes, assertively communicating your needs and discomfort is very important. Thank you for watching the video. Here are the videos on betrayal, if you’re interested in watching them: ua-cam.com/play/PLcB3trehXswgdmOu3qJOApYAd_twc5KfD.html
Great review on this subject!! Communication is definitely key in a healthy intimate relationship!! Chemical neurological issues are huge!!! Bipolar disorder is a huge problem!! I stay away from these people at ALL LEVELS!!! 😲🙄👍
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My spouse denies his emotional affair with a female coworker. It's been a year now and I've watched many online free videos on infidelity betrayal and he probably has watched maybe 10 only
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If you are in a relationship with someone that you can't change your mind about something, that's not infidelity regardless of what they think. That's toxic and controlling. If you're relationship's are based on something so conditional, it's the person who can't respect your free will and individual thought that is unfaithful, not you because you changed your mind about something.
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I’ve never been married or had a real relationship. I’m lonely
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@@DocSnipes it’s ok. I bought materials things to keep me busy. But it didn’t help neither for my savings account.
i am lonely because of having too big/many problems and illness that i haven't got help with for 40 years, very sensitive and influenceable by others due to thin skinned and Aspergers lack of flter and aura.
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@@DocSnipes Thank you, what I generally find is the fact that what people do against us is often not as strictly personal as we ourselves believe. And people want to be addressed in their true selves,in oneäs best self and aspirations, ideals. And be inspired, reminded of truth, beauty and goodness. Even more so in abused, sick, unmanageable situations longterm.
It is a complicate subjects
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I want mention also biological base. Many of men are just biologically constructed as unable be monogamists and stay with the same partner for a longer . As some are managing with natural instinct for other its stronger than any rationalisation.
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Don't cheat though, even with biological instinct driving it. Communicate to your partner. Mention it. Don't sneak.
@@carola5644 yes Communication is a key 🔑
That's not true.
While I understand it's a narrative that some believe, and many who believe it use it as a justification for their behavior.
We are more than just instinctual animals...otherwise, can I justify rageful violence, because that's my "biology"?
Why is it that people who heal their CPTSD, question their conditioning, reprogram their subconscious, and change their narratives/lenses, don't struggle with having to use the "biological" excuse?
They have healed and found healthy ways to meet their needs.
I myself, was at times hyper sexual and so much wounding and poor coping, warped tools, are what influenced me.
I now am almost asexual, my whole relationship to sex has massively shifted.
Inquire into your beliefs and challenge every aspect.
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Social infidelity??? C'mon!!! Just because someone is married or committed to someone should not mean you give up autonomy. The basic human right to your own thoughts, feelings, and behavior should not be forfeited. Humans change throughout the lifespan. Just because you've entered the man-made construct of a committed relationship doesn't mean our biology changes. No matter what society tries to drill into us, the individual does not completely merge with that other person. Our thoughts and feelings and needs and wants and even our behavior (how we display those things) are unique to us. Unless one is completely codependent, of course. No wonder marriage is becoming a less attractive life path. 🙄
Did you even listen to the sentences she said after that? It was addressed. If one prefers to spend 90+% of their free time away from their spouse, that's most likely a problem. And feelings often develop in those cases. If you don't want to be married, fine, but you shouldn't talk down on those whose relationships were ruined because someone wasn't respectful enough to admit they should have stayed single.
@@jenynz5334 I guess something struck a nerve!
@@saram3156 I know the info struck one in me. But I am using it to further understand the problems, many of which I realized are mine 😳. But I got that from the o.p.'s comment, too. I almost said it sounded like what a cheater might say, but that's rude and I don't know anything about them.
@@jenynz5334 Those weird comments are a bit of an inkblot I guess! To me it maybe sounds like a kid with a very bad temper who's never been in a relationship at all! 😄 Who knows.
I've known couples who seem content being together 24/7, and ones who seem fine spending weeks and months apart; I don't know if spending time apart just in and of itself would necessarily be a problem.
@@jenynz5334 And the phrase "social infidelity" did also strike me as being strange. Like would we call wasting money behind a partner's back "financial adultery"? 😄
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