Worst is the emotional and physiological weight that is left behind by these imaginary arguments. Im always left feeling angry, violent, or some other form of energy drainage. It used to help me when I was a younger man, would put me in a happy place to imagine good things and potential happy moments. Somewhere along the way life has made me a pessimist, and the thoughts that influence these conversations or events in my head are rooted in negativity. Your advice seems helpful, especially as I am a filmmaker and writer who hasn't practiced my craft in almost a decade. Putting this problem into use and it becoming a tool seems very reasonable. The part about replacing yourself in the argument with someone you admire is great as well, but. makes me think, which of my heroes hasn't let me down enough that i could trust my intuitions, though imaginary, with? Great video.
My biggest problem is that if something happens or if someone approaches me in a certain manner I wouldn't know how to respond to it. Then later regret not saying anything... Catastrophizing and Maladaptive Daydreaming has taken over 80% of my life now.. oh! I had two arguments while trying to focus on this video. 🤦🏾♂️
wow same here, honestly i have arguments about things im deeply insecure about, and facing things that sound very ugly and scary to me, trying to find the perfect response and answer. i have been diagnosed with OCD, i think it is mostly that. stay strong :)
Same here. I realize it’s just me trying to learn to respond but it’s useless in real convo cause I don’t actually know how I’m gonna react or how the person is going to speak or even if that situation will happen. I think it’s also addictive cause you feel accomplished in doing nothing.
But amazingly those imaginary conversations helped me a lot to stay my mind active. It's like when I stop those arguments I know myself that I will forgot some core things someone did me.
Thank you SO MUCH for this. Mine is awful, daily, constant…. I’ve began to think I’m losing my mind and that nobody else experiences this. Very grateful for this video!
No you are not alone. I also replay interactions in my head. Like if I talk to a clerk at a gas station I might get in the car and totally react the way I smiled, waved and spoke to the clerk to analyze if I presented my self correctly.. 🤦🏽♀️
@stellaferraz1668, I can relate. I have to catch myself. I am learning to catch the thought before it gets out of control. These thoughts never come true. It is an energy thief.
I just got an idea : from now on instead of fabricating a whole script in my head I’m going to go straight to a big fuck you im out of here every time the argument starts 😅😅😅😅
I was always super shy everywhere I went. Still am. I used to imagine beating the absolute sh*t out of people constantly. I would literally walk around listening to music as a background and imagine fighting and being all cool and dangerous and everyone being all shocked and in awe. I believe this was an abrasion to telling people how I really feel and setting healthy boundaries in the real world because I was practically mute.
This is a huge problem for me. I just had 5 arguments during my teens that were unnecessary and those which hurt me. And I've been feeling scared to face them again and don't really know how to deal with those aggressive people even if we are soft and kind. And this is what's happening these days, imaginary arguments. And they are very exhausting.
This was really helpful. In my case such mental arguments occurred when I was preparing for a presentation. I always feared that someone in the audience would discredit my views and that's when the imaginary fight started. And, need I say I won all those fights 😄.
All I do is imagine conversations or scenarios. And, I can't stop. It is so distracting that I can't do the things I need to do like job training and school. I've tried yoga and meditation. I've tried to focus.
@@username-r3p you have to manifest. Meaning actually applying what you are doing into your life...or realizing and going through the pain cycle of truth...where you accept none of it may not happen and none of it is actually helping you so no need to hold onto it. You have to accept where you are now and get rid of the illusions those day dreams are causing. It's hard but it will get better when you accept what is around you and realize how your dreams can becom reality if you apply them ..maybe you want to be apart of a debate club...either or ..try to refrain or take your thoughts off of that. I'm still improving too
Worst is the emotional and physiological weight that is left behind by these imaginary arguments.
Im always left feeling angry, violent, or some other form of energy drainage. It used to help me when I was a younger man, would put me in a happy place to imagine good things and potential happy moments.
Somewhere along the way life has made me a pessimist, and the thoughts that influence these conversations or events in my head are rooted in negativity.
Your advice seems helpful, especially as I am a filmmaker and writer who hasn't practiced my craft in almost a decade.
Putting this problem into use and it becoming a tool seems very reasonable. The part about replacing yourself in the argument with someone you admire is great as well, but. makes me think, which of my heroes hasn't let me down enough that i could trust my intuitions, though imaginary, with?
Great video.
My biggest problem is that if something happens or if someone approaches me in a certain manner I wouldn't know how to respond to it. Then later regret not saying anything... Catastrophizing and Maladaptive Daydreaming has taken over 80% of my life now.. oh! I had two arguments while trying to focus on this video. 🤦🏾♂️
I think you have ocd my nigga
wow same here, honestly i have arguments about things im deeply insecure about, and facing things that sound very ugly and scary to me, trying to find the perfect response and answer. i have been diagnosed with OCD, i think it is mostly that. stay strong :)
Same here. I realize it’s just me trying to learn to respond but it’s useless in real convo cause I don’t actually know how I’m gonna react or how the person is going to speak or even if that situation will happen. I think it’s also addictive cause you feel accomplished in doing nothing.
But amazingly those imaginary conversations helped me a lot to stay my mind active. It's like when I stop those arguments I know myself that I will forgot some core things someone did me.
Thank you SO MUCH for this. Mine is awful, daily, constant…. I’ve began to think I’m losing my mind and that nobody else experiences this. Very grateful for this video!
No you are not alone. I also replay interactions in my head. Like if I talk to a clerk at a gas station I might get in the car and totally react the way I smiled, waved and spoke to the clerk to analyze if I presented my self correctly.. 🤦🏽♀️
same
@stellaferraz1668, I can relate. I have to catch myself. I am learning to catch the thought before it gets out of control. These thoughts never come true. It is an energy thief.
Me to
I just got an idea : from now on instead of fabricating a whole script in my head I’m going to go straight to a big fuck you im out of here every time the argument starts 😅😅😅😅
I was always super shy everywhere I went. Still am. I used to imagine beating the absolute sh*t out of people constantly. I would literally walk around listening to music as a background and imagine fighting and being all cool and dangerous and everyone being all shocked and in awe. I believe this was an abrasion to telling people how I really feel and setting healthy boundaries in the real world because I was practically mute.
This is a huge problem for me. I just had 5 arguments during my teens that were unnecessary and those which hurt me. And I've been feeling scared to face them again and don't really know how to deal with those aggressive people even if we are soft and kind. And this is what's happening these days, imaginary arguments. And they are very exhausting.
I am going to use Jesus as my roleplay responder every time!
Well spoken and great advice. Hope you are still creating somewhere out there!
Thanks! Great advice. These days, it’s easy to get wrapped up in repetitive imaginary arguments about world events.
This was really helpful. In my case such mental arguments occurred when I was preparing for a presentation. I always feared that someone in the audience would discredit my views and that's when the imaginary fight started. And, need I say I won all those fights 😄.
Thank You for this advice. Roleplaying as a person I'd like to be is a great idea.
This was very helpful. I've ben struggling with this.
Insightful advice, much appreciated
All I do is imagine conversations or scenarios. And, I can't stop. It is so distracting that I can't do the things I need to do like job training and school. I've tried yoga and meditation. I've tried to focus.
I have been suffering from same problem from many years....
@@username-r3p you have to manifest. Meaning actually applying what you are doing into your life...or realizing and going through the pain cycle of truth...where you accept none of it may not happen and none of it is actually helping you so no need to hold onto it. You have to accept where you are now and get rid of the illusions those day dreams are causing. It's hard but it will get better when you accept what is around you and realize how your dreams can becom reality if you apply them ..maybe you want to be apart of a debate club...either or ..try to refrain or take your thoughts off of that. I'm still improving too
@@username-r3pmost of the time I perform in the essence of what I daydream about so it causes personality problems for myself in real life
Thank you. This sounds very helpful I will try it. ❤
Theese are a live saving, for 3 years i did'nt realize ive been doing this and really dentroying my mental,
Is it a teenage problem??
Thank you I've been struggling with it. I decided to stop doing it because it is was not helping me do8ng this
wow this is cooll advice! Anyone try this - didnit work? if so how long did it take?
Did it work for you?
Can this relate to OCD? I had OCD for 3 years and now the final thing i wanna cure is my self talk
samee, big gut feeling that it is my OCD acting up, i try to accept it, make fun of my delusions and snap out of it as much as i can.
6 arguments in the first 30 seconds 🙁🙁🙁my brain is suck , i can't stop . Help
My question is why should you?
WTF? Who is this guy? These tips don't work