Thank you so much for your time & interest, I appreciate you. Please click on the subscribe button so that you will receive my new videos first & also PLEASE VISIT www.LovingTooMuch.com so that I can give you tools which will help you Heal Your Heartbreak, Abandonment, Relationship Pains & Addictive Loving. I share this information with you because I KNOW with certainty & passion that I can help you through this devastating time of lost love and abandonment through or after a painful breakup. I can fully relate to what you are feeling as I have been there and I know how hard it is to break free from the damaging grip of addictive love, co-dependency, heartbreak, love withdrawal, love addiction & the overwhelming fear of being rejected, abandoned, unwanted and discarded. With love & warmest wishes, Helen.
I never felt much jealousy before met my narcissist ex who constantly cheated, lied and mentally and psychically abused me. It’s like something in my mind compares me to other females and makes me feel like I’m not as good as them. It’s not a nice feeling but in a different context there’s partners out there that are evil enough to try and make their partners jealous
Hello Pamela, thank you for your post and yes it is often to do with the partners we choose and a lot of jealousy feelings is to do with comparing ourselves with others...take good care and believe you are enough. With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
I agree completely.. I’m more so a secure person but if someone gets into a relationship with someone like I did, that is constantly briskly putting there phone down, deleting messages and has lied a few times, it will make you feel a bit insecure! So sometimes we react based on who or what we are involved with! Either way I don’t think it’s healthy! But when two people love one another like we did that kinda stuff shouldn’t be an issue!
I'm not jealous but I think people lack respect for their partner sometimes and the reaction to that can come off jealous but it's more about respect. If your in a relationship it's about being together. No one needs to be with someone who can't make them feel secure in this already messed up world. I mean really it's not easy to trust these days. So it needs to be built. Flirting with others. Liking photos doing whatever that is all disrespectful when you are in a commitment so people who think otherwise don't even know what a relationship is.
Hello Jonny, thank you for your post. I agree, when we are in a relationship we should respect our partners feelings but unfortunately some may not have the same level of sensitivity to how the other may feel. It all comes down to empathy in the end and if there is no mutual respect and empathy it can trigger all sorts of insecurities in many relationships. Its all about being emotionally responsive to each others feelings and I'm sure this is what you are saying. Again thank you. Warm wishes Helen
THIS IS SO ACCURATE IT MAKES ME WANT TO CRY. Thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for understanding it at a human level rather than antagonizing it like the rest of the world. Like you mentioned the person who feels jealous is the most shameful about it and doesn't need to hear it from someone else that it's abnormal or that it's a sin. Thank you for easing my pain of my failed relationship and this is my guiding star for future ones. Lots of love and happiness to you helen
Hello dear Shivani, thank you for your kind post and I am happy to hear you resonated with my video, I'm sorry to hear of your failed relationship...take very good care with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
My boyfriend is really great but for some reason every time I see him talking to other people I feel jealous and I don’t know how to deal with it, so here I am. He deserves to talk to other people without me sitting there like 👀
How about when you are feeling threatened as you watch your boyfriend you take out your cell phone and text or call a friend to distract yourself or you can also pretend that you are talking to someone who is telling you about their low esteem feelings and pretend that you are telling her how she is a wonderful person and shouldnt feel that way. To make it even more interesting pretend it's a male friend who needs your words of encouragement. This sounds crazy even to me but it might actually help.
I was never a jealous person until some things happened in the relationship that made me to feel jealous. (Lil things like him liking the attention of other girls a lil too much) Now it won’t go away and to top it off now I feel insecure and want to check his phone. I NEVER used to be like this.
Hello Yudy, yes sometimes it is only when we are feeling insecure or unsure in our relationship that we can often begin to experience ourselves being jealous which can course us to feel unsettled. Like you say above re the attention of other girls, rather then you feeling insecure, see it as "his" need for the attention from others rather than put yourself down and feel that you are not enough for him. I believe jealousy has everything to do with the fear of losing the beloved to someone else and putting ourselves below them. You take good care. With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
I tried the camera lens exercise and it sadly made me feel much worse... Its like I could see even more clearly how he wasn't choosing me in that moment and his desire for the other woman became even more clear from a distance.
I've been searching everywhere for a video like this. It's not magic, but this one video has made me feel like I can find some power to get thru this jealousy. So thank you.
Dear post, I am very happy to hear that this video on Jealousy has helped you and that you have found some strength to get through it. My eBook and Blog on Jealousy will be released shortly. You will find that on: www.helenmiaharris.com take care with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Im glad I found your video. I never thought I was a jealous person. Until this week it almost broke my marriage. Everything you said was like you were talking directly to me, especially the last 5mins. After watching your video I realized I need to work on myself. I thank you for that.
@@LetsTalkRealLifeShit Let's Talk,,Your words, thoughts mirrored mine,,scary. Helen spoke with compassion, and with more intelligence than I've ever heard. I hope that I have the guts to give my s o the space and respect they deserve., and at the same time will be able to respect myself too,,the next time the green monster of jealousy tries to consume me,,,or YOU! Hope this made sence,,😊
Thank you so much for this video! My jealousy has been eating me and I try to never show it but it is hard to deal with sometimes. My partner and I are very open with each other about who each finds attractive which only fuels my jealousy more.
Hello Flindo, thank you for your post. Yes feeling insecure is such a disempowering feeling. Please look at my website on www.lovingtoomuch.com this is the reason why I created a program, even if you just browse through the pages, there are many free resources. Take good care with warmest wishes Helen
Oh my goodness you are so right on. I am feeling and going through everything that you describe. I believe you will really get me past this thing that has been plaguing me and the ones I become involved with. It has been a self-fulfilling prophecy that I eventually lose them because of my jealousy. I need to let people be who they are going to be and not try to control and confine them. The mercury analogy was dead on. The same pattern has existed in my life for a long time and only seems to be worse over time. I will buy your program once the funds become available. Thank you so much for your videos. So helpful to me.
Dear Linda, I am very happy that my videos resonate with you. It seems you know exactly where you may have been "holding on too tight" and the consequences of that. In many ways when we have this knowledge and fully understand it, a small miracle happens; we are able to love generously as you say here, so it sounds like you are in a good place Linda and thank you for your post. With warmest wishes Helen Mia Harris
Some time ago i "found" Gabor Maté, who says: "It's not 'why the addiction?' it's 'why the pain?' " :) I'm getting closer to the core, i think. Thank you, Helen Mia Harris.
Ma'am, I can feel your words are alike my mom's.. Thanks for being there for me and hearing your voice through headphones is like a different thing as if you are pouring the words of comfort directly to my head with that much affection and love and you are talking like a family member to us.. God bless, mom...
Hello Sajinc, thank you for your post, its very warming to know my videos speak to you like a "family member"...yes when I speak my intention is to pour words of comfort in to those who experience some of the most painful symptoms of impossible love and send a sense of hope and warmth. Take good care with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
you are amazing! I have struggled with jealousy my whole life and feel like as I get older I get it more. you have really opened my eyes cause if I keep being jealous it may break my relationship. Thankyou so much, btw you are such a beautiful soul inside and out☆
Hello Kristina, thank you for your message, I am very happy to hear my video helped you - yes jealousy can make us feel so very helpless. Take care with warmest wishes Helen
Thank you for this I felt this horrible jealousy fueled doubt in my mind over things that are not in my control, this video helped me so much I could cry of relief.
thank you for this! i have been dealing with insecurities and jealousy for awhile now and i cant help myself. And its not helping me be with someone because of my insecurities
My partner and I are in a working progress to fix my relationship. I’m ridiculously jealous and can get insecure even though my partner has never showed signed of it. We recently just had a really bad patch and he expressed he loves me less from it and still unsure of our future.
im jealous of my boyfriends adult daughter, but wasnt always jealous. it started when he told me she will always be more important to him than iam.., even though he told me he is in love with me. i dont take no backseat to any other woman
Thank you so much for addressing this Helen.. thank you for your compassion and understanding.. Tears were streaming down as I started listening to you..It is very scary to let go and be generous, but I will have to get there from being on this very shaky emotional ground. The control isn't working and doesn't feel right. I want to apply your tips and learn things more in detail. I will check out your offerings.. I am really glad I found you today.
I think the first step I'm gonna take is to stop asking my boyfriend if the person he is hanging out with is a boy or a girl because no matter what gender, its important to remember that he loves me with all his heart and would never cheat on me with another girl.
I think it´s not your fault that you´re jealous. You just happened to have picked a person who does not feel the need to share what´s going on with him with you in detail. I am sure you would not ask anything and be in peace if he said: I am hanging out with these people and we´re doing these stuff; or: oh that other day I was with this people and I want to tell you the silly story, we did this and that and it was funny, I found this interesting.... or if he is on the phone: this and that texted and that´s what´s going on with them... Some people just think it´s not that interesting for their partners or worthy to share. But you happened to be a person who wants to know everything about the person you love. You should be happy and it´s possible. Just try to communicate how you enjoy hearing about details from his day or if he does not understand you after all of that, maybe you should find a person who is sharer to begin with. But I totally understand why people tend to like mysterious ones, taking a challenge to open them up, which may stay a challenge.
Wow, you're an amazing woman, thank you for sharing your passion. I look forward to exploring your websites and UA-cam channel. I do hope you are well and continue to help heal spirits and minds. You seem so genuine. I have been struggling with controlling my thought, especially of jealousy and this video has opened my mind, and my heart. Thank you.
Hello Macayla, thank you for your your kind words and I am very happy to hear how much my video helped you. Yes I am well thank you and you take good care too in these unprecedented times... With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Thank you. Your kindness and compassion on this video was the key for me not to alienate for myself (shame, guilt, self-pitty, hopelessness) completely. I must say YES to all of what you said. I am like that. And while listening to you, some childhood episodes came to me and there i was... being that again! well, i stumbled on your videos coming for a recovery journey already (another addiction), new to the new path, but determined. i've seen some of your videos on youtube (unfortunately i don't have the money to buy the 15 step, but i'm honest, i'll try and and find your book "independently"... sorry.. i know it's your work and it has to be paid. I'm a musician myself and i know... it has to be paid..but... i'll try pirate . :P ) and yet again i reafirm: thank you. I hope on day when i come to the UK i can meet you. :) (sorry for the poor english) Best wishes from Portugal.
ive really never felt the need to be jealous in my life when i was married, when it ended and met someone new who is the most lovely person, im constantly jealous of his ex they still have a good relationship where as i dont with my ex. my children are older so no need for me to see him but my current partner will see his ex on a regular basis due to small child, i know this is selfish but cant stand the thought of them spending even 1 minute in each others company, and i hate her because that will mean i wont see him that day. Not sure if this type of relationship is normal or am i being too sensitive. I know i will lose him eventually if i keep this up.
Simply doing the exercise and imagining him speaking to her makes me feel extremely angry. It's hard to do but I'll keep trying to do the exercise and hopefully it gets easier. :))
The only thing that helps is time. When you get older and hopefully wiser you end up realising that you can't control what others do. You control how you play
My ex girlfriend has purposely made me jealous with her neighbor because she has narcissist traits about her. She blocked me and I still have to work on myself. I never want to be in another relationship like this last one. I am not perfect in anyway.
Then please answer this question that i have. I felt jealous when my girlfriend would go to diner with some of her friends (i'm sure they were totally plutonic because i would ask and she would tell me) and 9 times out of 10 she would find a reason to not go to diner with me but then the next week she would be going out to diner with her friends again. i find that a little tough to not feel a little hurt... your thoughts please
Hello Brittany, thank you for your post and I'm happy to hear you enjoyed this video. Take very good care in these times with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Helen I am so jealous of my husband singing in a lovely male choir and doing concerts. Thinking of trying to ask him to leave (not good l know). For a variety of reasons it is impossible for me to join a choir. Any perspective would be gratefully received. Much thanks from Dawn
i found pictures of my boyfriends ex on his phone (it was a very short relationship about 3 years ago), i dont think he even looks at them but it bothers me a little and makes me feel jealous... is it worth me thinking about?
Im jealous to a person who is not labeled mine. It realy hurts seeing her happy with others and i felt competing to that person. How would i accept that this person is not mine so that this jealousy will end.
Hello Malorie, yes, I will leave you the link to the page where the Recovery Programme is and you can follow the links on the page. It is best to view the programme on a larger screen or laptop but is does work on a phone. With all my best wishes Helen Mia www.lovingtoomuch.com
jealousy roin my relationship😟... i start to search to fix this emotion and found this video. its really useful... but im not sure, it too late for me to fix it😥
Hello Marek, thanks for your post. Unfortunately I don't do online therapy due to working in private practice. Do look at my "addictive love online program", even if you read through the pages there is a lot of online support that will be a huge help for you Marek: www.lovingtoomuch.com Take care and sending warmest wishes Helen
The day after I saw this video I was confronted with an issue with my gf talking to someone from work. Unfortunately I did not take the time to evaluate it objectively and blew up a bit. Now I seem insecure in her eyes I believe. Any thoughts on regaining a sense of self confidence or at least showing her that I am working in my issue?
Hello Bill, I truly believe when we are able to be honest and truthful, it really reaches the other person. As you have said here, let her know that you are aware of these issues and above all anything else, believe that you are worthy in yourself, as often jealousy has to do with putting ourselves below our partner and fearing the loss of them to someone else. Take good care and warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Thank u, Helen. What if your partner openly admits to being sexually attracted to another and attracted to their energy and everything about them? Is that something I should be not be concerned about or not jealous when he talks to her or is frequently on her fb page???
Thank you for your post, unfortunately I don't speak over whatsapp. Please look at my recovery programme page on: www.lovingtoomuch.com and if you would like to book an appointment please go to www.helenmiaharris.com take good care Helen
as Helen explains, love has no proof same as god/allah/vodun/krishna/buddha...., it's an imaginary friend helping insecure people to believe in themselves: so bottom line i don't believe in love but then i need love.
Thank you so much for your time & interest, I appreciate you. Please click on the subscribe button so that you will receive my new videos first & also PLEASE VISIT www.LovingTooMuch.com so that I can give you tools which will help you Heal Your Heartbreak, Abandonment, Relationship Pains & Addictive Loving. I share this information with you because I KNOW with certainty & passion that I can help you through this devastating time of lost love and abandonment through or after a painful breakup. I can fully relate to what you are feeling as I have been there and I know how hard it is to break free from the damaging grip of addictive love, co-dependency, heartbreak, love withdrawal, love addiction & the overwhelming fear of being rejected, abandoned, unwanted and discarded. With love & warmest wishes, Helen.
I am very lucky to have a partner who is willing to work through my jealousy issues due to a very ingrained fear of abandonment.
I never felt much jealousy before met my narcissist ex who constantly cheated, lied and mentally and psychically abused me. It’s like something in my mind compares me to other females and makes me feel like I’m not as good as them. It’s not a nice feeling but in a different context there’s partners out there that are evil enough to try and make their partners jealous
Hello Pamela, thank you for your post and yes it is often to do with the partners we choose and a lot of jealousy feelings is to do with comparing ourselves with others...take good care and believe you are enough. With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Miss P you are definitely correct. Narcissists and insecure ppl who try to make you jealous are despicable bc it forever changes you
I agree completely.. I’m more so a secure person but if someone gets into a relationship with someone like I did, that is constantly briskly putting there phone down, deleting messages and has lied a few times, it will make you feel a bit insecure! So sometimes we react based on who or what we are involved with! Either way I don’t think it’s healthy! But when two people love one another like we did that kinda stuff shouldn’t be an issue!
Yes!!!!
most jealous dudes end up having extre-marital sex destroying both his/her household and her new x's.
I'm not jealous but I think people lack respect for their partner sometimes and the reaction to that can come off jealous but it's more about respect. If your in a relationship it's about being together. No one needs to be with someone who can't make them feel secure in this already messed up world. I mean really it's not easy to trust these days. So it needs to be built. Flirting with others. Liking photos doing whatever that is all disrespectful when you are in a commitment so people who think otherwise don't even know what a relationship is.
Hello Jonny, thank you for your post. I agree, when we are in a relationship we should respect our partners feelings but unfortunately some may not have the same level of sensitivity to how the other may feel. It all comes down to empathy in the end and if there is no mutual respect and empathy it can trigger all sorts of insecurities in many relationships. Its all about being emotionally responsive to each others feelings and I'm sure this is what you are saying. Again thank you. Warm wishes Helen
jonny135 this is true
jonny135 absolutely!! Disrespectful people make their partner look jealous and crazy. When in reality it’s their disrespect they’re reacting to.
exactlyyyyyy
Is liking photos really disrespectful
THIS IS SO ACCURATE IT MAKES ME WANT TO CRY. Thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for understanding it at a human level rather than antagonizing it like the rest of the world. Like you mentioned the person who feels jealous is the most shameful about it and doesn't need to hear it from someone else that it's abnormal or that it's a sin. Thank you for easing my pain of my failed relationship and this is my guiding star for future ones. Lots of love and happiness to you helen
Hello dear Shivani, thank you for your kind post and I am happy to hear you resonated with my video, I'm sorry to hear of your failed relationship...take very good care with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
@@HelenMiaHarris This definitely made my day, you kind person! You have a great day :)
My boyfriend is really great but for some reason every time I see him talking to other people I feel jealous and I don’t know how to deal with it, so here I am. He deserves to talk to other people without me sitting there like 👀
How about when you are feeling threatened as you watch your boyfriend you take out your cell phone and text or call a friend to distract yourself or you can also pretend that you are talking to someone who is telling you about their low esteem feelings and pretend that you are telling her how she is a wonderful person and shouldnt feel that way. To make it even more interesting pretend it's a male friend who needs your words of encouragement. This sounds crazy even to me but it might actually help.
I watch this video everyday. this is so powerful
I was never a jealous person until some things happened in the relationship that made me to feel jealous. (Lil things like him liking the attention of other girls a lil too much) Now it won’t go away and to top it off now I feel insecure and want to check his phone. I NEVER used to be like this.
Hello Yudy, yes sometimes it is only when we are feeling insecure or unsure in our relationship that we can often begin to experience ourselves being jealous which can course us to feel unsettled. Like you say above re the attention of other girls, rather then you feeling insecure, see it as "his" need for the attention from others rather than put yourself down and feel that you are not enough for him. I believe jealousy has everything to do with the fear of losing the beloved to someone else and putting ourselves below them. You take good care. With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Sounds like my marriage. To top it off he is extremely non-affectionate which stems from his childhood. That adds a thick layer of insecurity for me.
You are right I’m saying I never used to be like that
Same with me
I tried the camera lens exercise and it sadly made me feel much worse... Its like I could see even more clearly how he wasn't choosing me in that moment and his desire for the other woman became even more clear from a distance.
I've been searching everywhere for a video like this. It's not magic, but this one video has made me feel like I can find some power to get thru this jealousy. So thank you.
Dear post, I am very happy to hear that this video on Jealousy has helped you and that you have found some strength to get through it. My eBook and Blog on Jealousy will be released shortly. You will find that on: www.helenmiaharris.com take care with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Im glad I found your video. I never thought I was a jealous person. Until this week it almost broke my marriage. Everything you said was like you were talking directly to me, especially the last 5mins. After watching your video I realized I need to work on myself. I thank you for that.
Hello, thank you for your post and I am happy to hear my video resonated with you...take care with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
I ruined my relationship because of jealousy. I thought we would never breakup but we did. I wish I would have known about this video before.
Hi Jasmine, thank you for your post and take care. Warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
I am so sorry. I am in the same boat right now. Your post was three years ago, I wonder how you’re doing now?
Im scared Im about to ruin the best thing that’s ever happened to me bc of my toxic jealousy trait
@@LetsTalkRealLifeShit Let's Talk,,Your words, thoughts mirrored mine,,scary. Helen spoke with compassion, and with more intelligence than I've ever heard. I hope that I have the guts to give my s o the space and respect they deserve., and at the same time will be able to respect myself too,,the next time the green monster of jealousy tries to consume me,,,or YOU! Hope this made sence,,😊
Thank you so much for this video! My jealousy has been eating me and I try to never show it but it is hard to deal with sometimes. My partner and I are very open with each other about who each finds attractive which only fuels my jealousy more.
I'm really jealousy person. Idk why.. I hate it. why I feel this insecure..
Hello Flindo, thank you for your post. Yes feeling insecure is such a disempowering feeling. Please look at my website on www.lovingtoomuch.com this is the reason why I created a program, even if you just browse through the pages, there are many free resources. Take good care with warmest wishes Helen
I am so sorry. The anxiety is horrible.
I think you are explaining it the best I’ve heard on UA-cam
Thank you so much for your post and I'm glad to hear it helped a little...with warm wishes Helen Mia
Amazing. No one has been able to put words to my issues with a relationship quite so well. Thanks for the wisdom.
Thank you for your post and I am happy to hear that my video helped you a little. With warm wishes Helen
Not dating narcissists and loving myself helped a lot.
Oh my goodness you are so right on. I am feeling and going through everything that you describe. I believe you will really get me past this thing that has been plaguing me and the ones I become involved with. It has been a self-fulfilling prophecy that I eventually lose them because of my jealousy. I need to let people be who they are going to be and not try to control and confine them. The mercury analogy was dead on. The same pattern has existed in my life for a long time and only seems to be worse over time. I will buy your program once the funds become available. Thank you so much for your videos. So helpful to me.
Dear Linda, I am very happy that my videos resonate with you. It seems you know exactly where you may have been "holding on too tight" and the consequences of that. In many ways when we have this knowledge and fully understand it, a small miracle happens; we are able to love generously as you say here, so it sounds like you are in a good place Linda and thank you for your post. With warmest wishes Helen Mia Harris
Helen Mia Harris Thank you very much for your time and support and for your "healing" videos and i was wondering if you could give me your e-mail
Helen Mia Harris I have jealousy and insecurity issues and I need your help
Some time ago i "found" Gabor Maté, who says: "It's not 'why the addiction?' it's 'why the pain?' " :) I'm getting closer to the core, i think. Thank you, Helen Mia Harris.
This has been the most sensible video I've seen on this subject. 👏
Thank you for offering tools to deal with jealousy not just rhetorics ! Most helpful and supportive !.
Why did you stop making UA-cam videos? You’re phenomenal!
I love your advice your method and your soothing voice with that right speed. ❤
Thank you Ally, I'm very happy to hear resonated with you. best wishes Helen
Ma'am, I can feel your words are alike my mom's.. Thanks for being there for me and hearing your voice through headphones is like a different thing as if you are pouring the words of comfort directly to my head with that much affection and love and you are talking like a family member to us.. God bless, mom...
Hello Sajinc, thank you for your post, its very warming to know my videos speak to you like a "family member"...yes when I speak my intention is to pour words of comfort in to those who experience some of the most painful symptoms of impossible love and send a sense of hope and warmth. Take good care with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
you are amazing! I have struggled with jealousy my whole life and feel like as I get older I get it more. you have really opened my eyes cause if I keep being jealous it may break my relationship. Thankyou so much, btw you are such a beautiful soul inside and out☆
Hello Kristina, thank you for your message, I am very happy to hear my video helped you - yes jealousy can make us feel so very helpless. Take care with warmest wishes Helen
Thank you for this I felt this horrible jealousy fueled doubt in my mind over things that are not in my control, this video helped me so much I could cry of relief.
Hello Jacky, I am so happy to hear this video helped you so much. Take good care with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
thank you for this! i have been dealing with insecurities and jealousy for awhile now and i cant help myself. And its not helping me be with someone because of my insecurities
My partner and I are in a working progress to fix my relationship. I’m ridiculously jealous and can get insecure even though my partner has never showed signed of it. We recently just had a really bad patch and he expressed he loves me less from it and still unsure of our future.
Here if you need to talk.
im jealous of my boyfriends adult daughter, but wasnt always jealous. it started when he told me she will always be more important to him than iam.., even though he told me he is in love with me. i dont take no backseat to any other woman
Thank you so much for addressing this Helen.. thank you for your compassion and understanding.. Tears were streaming down as I started listening to you..It is very scary to let go and be generous, but I will have to get there from being on this very shaky emotional ground. The control isn't working and doesn't feel right. I want to apply your tips and learn things more in detail. I will check out your offerings.. I am really glad I found you today.
I think the first step I'm gonna take is to stop asking my boyfriend if the person he is hanging out with is a boy or a girl because no matter what gender, its important to remember that he loves me with all his heart and would never cheat on me with another girl.
I think it´s not your fault that you´re jealous. You just happened to have picked a person who does not feel the need to share what´s going on with him with you in detail.
I am sure you would not ask anything and be in peace if he said: I am hanging out with these people and we´re doing these stuff; or: oh that other day I was with this people and I want to tell you the silly story, we did this and that and it was funny, I found this interesting.... or if he is on the phone: this and that texted and that´s what´s going on with them...
Some people just think it´s not that interesting for their partners or worthy to share. But you happened to be a person who wants to know everything about the person you love.
You should be happy and it´s possible. Just try to communicate how you enjoy hearing about details from his day or if he does not understand you after all of that, maybe you should find a person who is sharer to begin with.
But I totally understand why people tend to like mysterious ones, taking a challenge to open them up, which may stay a challenge.
karaqi4 PREACH
Wow! Thank you! I am feeling bad right now, but listening to your wisdom calms me.
Thank you so much for this! God multiply the blessings for you amen 🙏🏻 Lots of love for you.
Hello Angela, thank you ery much for your post and I am glad you could resonate with it..Warm wishes
Helen Mia Harris www.lovingtoomch.com
Amazing quality and i am using this to understand how to retrain my mind regard my jealousy. Thank you so much x
Thank you Helen, inspirational and wise x
Thank you for your kind words Bill...with warm wishes Helen Mia www.lovingtoomuch.com
You are so adorable and I found your message really usefull, thank you!!
I needed this video so hard thank you so much i suffer every day from jealousy
Hello Ala'a thank you for your post and I'm happy to hear it helped you a little. Take good care with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
So powerful you are awsome what a beautiful person you are. Thankyou for your helpful tips.
Wow, you're an amazing woman, thank you for sharing your passion. I look forward to exploring your websites and UA-cam channel. I do hope you are well and continue to help heal spirits and minds. You seem so genuine. I have been struggling with controlling my thought, especially of jealousy and this video has opened my mind, and my heart. Thank you.
Hello Macayla, thank you for your your kind words and I am very happy to hear how much my video helped you. Yes I am well thank you and you take good care too in these unprecedented times... With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Thank you. Your kindness and compassion on this video was the key for me not to alienate for myself (shame, guilt, self-pitty, hopelessness) completely. I must say YES to all of what you said. I am like that. And while listening to you, some childhood episodes came to me and there i was... being that again! well, i stumbled on your videos coming for a recovery journey already (another addiction), new to the new path, but determined. i've seen some of your videos on youtube (unfortunately i don't have the money to buy the 15 step, but i'm honest, i'll try and and find your book "independently"... sorry.. i know it's your work and it has to be paid. I'm a musician myself and i know... it has to be paid..but... i'll try pirate . :P ) and yet again i reafirm: thank you. I hope on day when i come to the UK i can meet you. :) (sorry for the poor english) Best wishes from Portugal.
your words and advice are so beautiful and helpful, thank you so much!
Hello Jasmine, thank you for your post and I am very happy to hear my videos are so helpful to you. With warmest wishes Helen
You are so beautiful! I get great, warm, beautiful vibes from you. 🙏
ive really never felt the need to be jealous in my life when i was married, when it ended and met someone new who is the most lovely person, im constantly jealous of his ex they still have a good relationship where as i dont with my ex. my children are older so no need for me to see him but my current partner will see his ex on a regular basis due to small child, i know this is selfish but cant stand the thought of them spending even 1 minute in each others company, and i hate her because that will mean i wont see him that day. Not sure if this type of relationship is normal or am i being too sensitive. I know i will lose him eventually if i keep this up.
this genuinely helps so much thankyou!
I need so much help with this. I am in an emergency situation. I am ruining my relationship right now. Sucks.
Simply doing the exercise and imagining him speaking to her makes me feel extremely angry. It's hard to do but I'll keep trying to do the exercise and hopefully it gets easier. :))
Hello Maja, thank you for your post and take very good care whilst your going through this. With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Great information. It’s extremely helpful. Thank you ❤️
Helen, thank you so much for your videos! They are so helpfull. Bless you!
I just want to thank you, Helen. ❤️
The only thing that helps is time. When you get older and hopefully wiser you end up realising that you can't control what others do. You control how you play
Hello, thank you so much for your very wise post..take good care with warm wishes Helen Mia www.lovingtoomuch.com
You're so amazing Helen. Thank you
My ex girlfriend has purposely made me jealous with her neighbor because she has narcissist traits about her. She blocked me and I still have to work on myself. I never want to be in another relationship like this last one. I am not perfect in anyway.
Then please answer this question that i have. I felt jealous when my girlfriend would go to diner with some of her friends (i'm sure they were totally plutonic because i would ask and she would tell me) and 9 times out of 10 she would find a reason to not go to diner with me but then the next week she would be going out to diner with her friends again. i find that a little tough to not feel a little hurt... your thoughts please
I'm happy I found your channel
THANK YOU! A whole new meaning for "Mind the gap"
Thank you. This video helped me realize a lot...
Hello Jasmin, I am happy to hear this video helped you. With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Very glad to have found this, it was what I needed right now! Thank you
Hello Jasmine, thank you for your post and I am happy to hear this video helped a little... With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Thank you so much
This is a great depiction of what I feel & go through
Thank you for your post and happy to hear my video helped a little. With warm wishes Helen Mia www.lovingtoomuch.com
thank you so much for this video
I love this! Thank you so much
You are awesome! Thank you 🙏🏻
great video ...thank you
Dear Post, thank you, I am happy to hear you liked my video. With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Thank you for making this amazing video ❤️
Hello Brittany, thank you for your post and I'm happy to hear you enjoyed this video. Take very good care in these times with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
This is a really great video, thank you so much!
Hello Angelika, thank you for your post you sent today, I'm happy to hear it resonated with you. With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Helen
I am so jealous of my husband singing in a lovely male choir and doing concerts. Thinking of trying to ask him to leave (not good l know). For a variety of reasons it is impossible for me to join a choir. Any perspective would be gratefully received. Much thanks from Dawn
So get another hobby? Paint knit basketball ect?
i found pictures of my boyfriends ex on his phone (it was a very short relationship about 3 years ago), i dont think he even looks at them but it bothers me a little and makes me feel jealous... is it worth me thinking about?
I have question, What if he upon realizing it bothered you, willingly removed those pictures? How would you feel?
Told my bf of same issue and he said he deleted them. Then I said ok I’ll delete my pics ex in my phone too lolz 😂 he got jealous too
Wow! super helpful
Hello Redah, thank you for your post and I am glad this video was helpful for you..with warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
you’re so kind :)
Hello Daisy, thank you for your post and kind words, I do hope the video helped a little..warm wishes Helen Mia www.lovingtoomuch.com
this helped me a lot today, thank you helen.
Thank you for your post Meleah, I'm happy to hear my video helped you a little. With warm wishes Helen (www.lovingtoomuch.com)
You need more subscribers.
Thank you so much for this xxxx
What if it is when they are drunk that you feel jealous
Im jealous to a person who is not labeled mine. It realy hurts seeing her happy with others and i felt competing to that person. How would i accept that this person is not mine so that this jealousy will end.
Did you say you could watch the program on a phone?
Hello Malorie, yes, I will leave you the link to the page where the Recovery Programme is and you can follow the links on the page. It is best to view the programme on a larger screen or laptop but is does work on a phone. With all my best wishes
Helen Mia www.lovingtoomuch.com
@@HelenMiaHarris I'm gonna get it for my birthday in November I think. I just don't want it to hurt my feelings. Idk but that's cool it's cheaper now.
The only remedy for my jealousy is complete disattachment from any and everyone. I care way too much and love myself way too less I guess
thanks alot. really helped me.
Thank you for your post and I am very happy to hear this video helped you, with warmest wishes Helen Mia Harris
You are amazing!!!!!
jealousy roin my relationship😟... i start to search to fix this emotion and found this video. its really useful... but im not sure, it too late for me to fix it😥
how did it go?
I hope all went well
They get jealous seeing me or others wanting me
Thank you sooo much
Hello, thank you for your post and I am glad you liked my video. With warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Thank You
Thank you for your post Merek, I'm glad you found it helpful. With warmest wishes Helen
i was wondering if u do online therapy?
Hello Marek, thanks for your post. Unfortunately I don't do online therapy due to working in private practice. Do look at my "addictive love online program", even if you read through the pages there is a lot of online support that will be a huge help for you Marek: www.lovingtoomuch.com Take care and sending warmest wishes Helen
Thank You you very kind!
Interesting ! ! ! !
Thank you so much!
Hello Bill, thank you for your post and warmest wishes from Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Hello Bill, thank you for your post and I send you warmest wishes for the New Year Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
The day after I saw this video I was confronted with an issue with my gf talking to someone from work. Unfortunately I did not take the time to evaluate it objectively and blew up a bit. Now I seem insecure in her eyes I believe. Any thoughts on regaining a sense of self confidence or at least showing her that I am working in my issue?
Hello Bill, I truly believe when we are able to be honest and truthful, it really reaches the other person. As you have said here, let her know that you are aware of these issues and above all anything else, believe that you are worthy in yourself, as often jealousy has to do with putting ourselves below our partner and fearing the loss of them to someone else. Take good care and warm wishes Helen www.lovingtoomuch.com
Thanks again, keep doing what u do
True
Hello Sharn, thank you for your post. With warm wishes Helen
Thank u, Helen. What if your partner openly admits to being sexually attracted to another and attracted to their energy and everything about them? Is that something I should be not be concerned about or not jealous when he talks to her or is frequently on her fb page???
Leave. Choose sanity. It will love u better.
lyssa this is one of my biggest fear
Ugh I’m sorry. I couldn’t imagine. You deserve better.
Helen please I need your help I don't want to lose my relationship we can talk over whatsapp
Thank you for your post, unfortunately I don't speak over whatsapp. Please look at my recovery programme page on: www.lovingtoomuch.com and if you would like to book an appointment please go to www.helenmiaharris.com take good care Helen
Your so beautiful 😍
as Helen explains, love has no proof same as god/allah/vodun/krishna/buddha...., it's an imaginary friend helping insecure people to believe in themselves: so bottom line i don't believe in love but then i need love.
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