WHY WE SELF SABOTAGE (and what to do about it)
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- Опубліковано 22 лип 2024
- Let’s talk about why we self sabotage and how to stop because self sabotage is something we ALL do to some extent! If you want to know how to be a high value woman, you have to learn how to stop self-sabotaging your life and how to stop self sabotaging relationships.
Your self improvement and your personal development matters. It’s time to step into the best version of yourself! :)
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CHAPTERS:
0:00 Why We Self-Sabotage (and what to do about it)
0:38 WHY we do it
3:53 Tip #1
4:52 Tip #2
5:22 Tip #3
7:33 Tip #4
8:22 Tip #5
9:11 IMPORTANT REMINDER!
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I think of my intuition as a consistent pull in the pit of my stomach but feelings are more fleeting and changing. Feelings tend to be an emotional reaction for me whereas my intuition is grounded and comes with a sense of security. If my intuition is consistently nudging me in one direction I try my best to listen to it.
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One of the things you said I already knew, but somehow wasn't self aware of it at this time - that doing small changes first, instead of big ones. This is logical and it's where my psychologist is failing with me. I'm 38, my life's a mess, I hardly get out of my house, almost have no friends and spend most of my life procrastinating. I studied to be a nurse but dropped out at the 2nd year of the course because I realized I was too sensitive to deal with other people's negative feelings. I graduated to be a preschool teacher but still had to study 2 more years to be licensed to practice and also dropped out the course. Last year I started babysitting but then some weird things started happening around me and got really scared and shut down to a point of not being able to trust anyone. At the first appointment, I told my therapist all that had happened and although she understood, she immediately told me that I had to change my whole life and that I had to get a job (no matter what), be with people, get out and work out. I mean... 1 - if I knew this was going to be her approach I would never have gone there; these are things I already know and that I struggle with already, if I didn't, I wouldn't need any help and also this is something anyone could have told me, you don't have to have a degree to know this; 2 - she told me to do things one step at a time but keeps pushing me and wanting me to do all these things at once and doesn't even give me tips to make it easier. 3 - my father is always questioning me about the appointments and to know if I'm doing what she says and of course I don't want to tell him because I know he's going to bug me and guess what: he saw her one day and asked her and she told him I was applying for a job (which I wasn't even sure yet to apply to because it's not something I like doing). And I wonder: where is the professional secrecy policy here?? Conclusion: I'm not going to keep going there. She's not respecting my rhythm at all, nor acknowledging my resistancies, or my needs/wants.
Glad to hear you won't keep going to her, she definitely doesn't sound right for you or what you need. Big hugs, take care and be gentle with yourself x
I'm not a psychologist but maybe you could try to understand why you acted consistently to lead you where you're at, understand why maybe could help, if you don't understand why and what is the route cause no matter what you try to do, you will be on your own way. Hope you can change your life the way you want, we all deserve to be happy. Don't give up on trying to discover yourself, it will help you on your journey and don't forget to be compassionate to yourself, you can reset your life the way you want you just need to understand what is happening and believe you can handle everything. I know it's not easy, but don't give up. Wish you well ❤️
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Hii jillz this is nearly my 7th video tht i have been watching in your channel consecutively n I'm here for the first time. Thankyou for being out there n sharing your valuable knowledge to us 💕
your hair looks great today! thanks for the motivational video! I sum up this video as "get out of your own way" lol
Thank you!! And yes that’s such a good way to put it 😊
You are a gift Jillz, thank you for this video 💝
This my second video of you,I noticed you explained things as simple as possible. This a sign your expert. Just wow.
Aw thank you!
Thank You! Grounded, Harmonious & Balancing Approach⚖️ Wise & Powerful 💓💞🥰🙏
I just started reading Mindset by Carol Dweck. This is so close to the same topic - fixed vs growth mindsets. Thank you for the recommended read - I will check it out next. I knew I had some resistance to the success that I'm experiencing now but didn't know how to resolve. This is also along the lines of Atomic Habits, the 1% change method, which is the book I just finished. Thank you for your work. I enjoy your channel so much.
Oh I need to check the mindset book out! And yes atomic habits is such a good book too 🙌 So glad you enjoyed the video!!
Excellent! You have provided me with the guide to a better me, not a different ego. I am okay.. I just need to leave the baggage behind and grow. Thank you. Please continue to send messages of self growth, as you go.
Glad it was helpful! 💕
Thank you Jillz your videos keeps me motivated
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Thank you so much - this is exactly what I needed to hear. Clara 👍
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I love every content you put! Wishing you all the best❤
Aw thank you so much!!❤️
Thank you for being so practical about self-sabotage. Now I understand why I have been self-sabotaging myself so much 🥰
Ahh you’re welcome! Self awareness is key! 💖
Hey Jillz! This video came just in time!
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Thank you for the amazing video🤩
You’re so welcome! 💛
I actually watched this video three times over consecutively and I am going to do it once agsin. I have not yet heard anyone or read anything in which it was said that resistance can be our higher self speaking. I know there is a Being within me that has a Voice of its own. Once that Being calls quits to something, and my other faculties reason on the opposite side it becomes a situation of conflict. Guess thats why I am having to deal with so much resistance right now. Love you and much obliged to you
Happy to share a new perspective with you ❤️❤️
Jillz this video was soo useful! Whenever I'm down I come to your channel to uplift my mood. I've been working hard to find my new life rhythm and this video gave me all the inspiration I've been looking for. Also I've been following you since you had about 5k followers and feel soo so proud to see you have grown to a 52.4k following today.
Sending you lots of love all the way from India.
P.S. Love the colours on you :*
Omg so amazing that you’ve followed me since the beginning!!! I appreciate your support so much! So glad you’re loving my videos and that they’re valuable to you 💕💕💕
Amazing video as always, Jills!
Thank you for talking about this topic, it's something I've been struggling with, too, since the pandemic.
Have a great day ❤️
Thank you! So glad you liked it 🥰
I love your videos, it really helps me to learn more about my feminine side. Thanks for sharing your experiences!
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I am a man which doesn't matter because your advice can be used by men as well. This is nothing against you but sometimes I feel like most of the self help videos aren't much help at all and could be simplified. I get lost in the talk and droning on about the different aspects (emotion, intuition, personality etc) sometimes I think we should just examine ourselves be honest and work those issues out and focus on the prize. Maybe I'm just rambling now lol