How I learned to stop being an ANXIOUS girly

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  • @asiah797
    @asiah797 Рік тому +100

    I rarely hear anyone say that anxiety can be a sign. That’s a very interesting way of looking at it .

    • @creative45630
      @creative45630 Рік тому +10

      It’s an idea from Carl Jung - anxiety is a message from the unconscious

    • @aromatyzowanysmak
      @aromatyzowanysmak Рік тому +1

      So good to hear that!

  • @DominiqueFrancon
    @DominiqueFrancon Рік тому +49

    I would like to add giving up caffeine as a way to reduce anxiety. I was a serious caffeine addict. When I got breast cancer a few years ago, my mind was racing constantly and disasterizing . I could not relax at all. I gave up caffeine in an attempt to calm my anxiety since I was already going through a very stressful event. It made a huge difference in my anxiety. My mind stopped racing and I was able to rationally think without the caffeine coursing through my veins. That one change has helped me tremendously.

    • @anonymousbee
      @anonymousbee Рік тому

      Lol

    • @saandyy900
      @saandyy900 Рік тому

      Did you change to decaff coffee or just quit everything?

    • @DominiqueFrancon
      @DominiqueFrancon Рік тому +1

      @@saandyy900 yes, I switched to decaf. I only quit caffeine and by doing that, I gained control over my appetite. Caffeine made me jittery, which made me want to eat. Not being jittery, I didn’t want to snack all the time and I lost weight. I’ve read that you have to be healthy to lose weight, not the other way around. Turned out to be true.

  • @sadiaarman363
    @sadiaarman363 Рік тому +16

    Your anxiety is not always a bad thing. Sometimes it is a sign. When you have your intuitive hit but you don't listen right away, it can manifest as this low level anxiety that doesnt go away until you fix the problem. Do not focus on the anxiety. Focus on the good things around you. Focus on the wonderful qualities you have. Focus on growth. On solving the problem. Sometimes your anxiety is the result of a pattern your brain learned in the past. Don' t identify as an anxious person. See your anxiety as something that will pass. Anxiety can spiral. In order not to go there, go to a happier thought on the neurological scale.

  • @shaunalouie
    @shaunalouie Рік тому +27

    you explained this in a way i feel everyone can relate and i'm appreciative of that. thank you for being you and bringing clarity into this life and sharing these intimate moments💕

  • @Aliciae411
    @Aliciae411 Рік тому +5

    I recently found it helpful to say to myself that I’m feeling anxious not that I have anxiety or I’m an anxious person. I say to myself in my head that I’m feeling anxious BUT I am safe, the people around me are safe etc

  • @rapunzel346
    @rapunzel346 Рік тому +10

    I just wanted to say that you and your channel have been lifechanging for me as a young 22 year old woman with anxiety, hormonal imbalances (hence intense menstrual cycles), confusing relationships with men, etc.
    I finally feel like I am normal and learning to understand and embrace my feminine side more and more in a world that doesn’t understand that. Thank you for what you do and I am here, watching your videos and learning from you 💗

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  Рік тому +1

      Aw this comment made me so happy. Thank you so much for watching and supporting me!! 😘😘

  • @bmsharma3824
    @bmsharma3824 Рік тому +21

    There is a saying that goes along the lines of: Accepting things is a way of finding peace. Just reminded me of this 😊

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  Рік тому +2

      Yesss love 💙

    • @leahmanderson298
      @leahmanderson298 Рік тому +1

      This helped me tremendously. When I’m anxious, I remember that my feelings are just a part of the human experience and there’s nothing “wrong” with me.

  • @klaradobesova7339
    @klaradobesova7339 Рік тому +12

    Your videos are saving my life. Finding your channel was my blessing

  • @sarah.marco888
    @sarah.marco888 Рік тому +2

    Really love this ❤ my anxiety was telling me that I was definitely in the wrong job. It went away as soon as I resigned. Now I have an offer from an actual company and position that I'm excited about 😊

  • @karthia.creates_
    @karthia.creates_ Рік тому +4

    Can’t believe I feel like a anxious depressed overthinking girly 😢 working on it 💕

  • @thelottieingham
    @thelottieingham Рік тому +6

    You don’t know how much I needed to hear this today. Thank you 🙏🏼💕

  • @alycebagnath464
    @alycebagnath464 9 місяців тому

    This video is exactly what i needed. I was just thinking to myself, i am not going to let my anxiety and emotions rule me so much anymore, and your vid popped up ! Perfect divine timing as always ✨️

  • @elizabethkelly5255
    @elizabethkelly5255 Рік тому +1

    thank u jillz for this video! i’ve always perceived myself as an anxious person and suffered many panic attacks since high school, and slowly through the years learned to manage my anxiety and realized my anxiety is there to help protect me from things, but i’m ready to move on from that because ur so right, i do not have to be an anxious person! and it is time to change the way i view anxiety, love you!!

  • @culturedancer
    @culturedancer Рік тому +1

    I've heard it's better to use "the" rather than "my" before whatever dis-ease you're talking about. Keeps you from identifying with having it and detaching from it, so you can let it go.

  • @carleighmiller542
    @carleighmiller542 Рік тому +2

    I am so glad I stumbled on your videos!! I am from Tennessee also! Thank you so much for your amazing advice!

  • @GloriaStanley95
    @GloriaStanley95 Рік тому

    I love that you brought up things like exercise, painting, drawing, or things like that as being a “release” because they really are and I think that if I can think of those activities more that way instead of exercise for example sometimes being like a chore, it will really motivate me to do them more often because I’ll be thinking of how much better I feel after I do them and have that release. We do all need an outlet like that on a daily basis.

  • @ayaya64
    @ayaya64 Рік тому +1

    So well explained! I think it is very solid advice and I agree sometimes you can't fix it.

  • @katherinekozlik4087
    @katherinekozlik4087 7 місяців тому

    This top looks so good on you Jillz, the color really makes your eyes pop! Also, can really relate to your story about anxiety causing you to feel like you couldn't eat/being nauseous all the time. I dropped from 135 to 109 in 3 months and any time anyone was asking what kind of diet I was on, I told them "anxiety" :( Here's to self betterment!!! Thanks for all your positivity.

  • @nesrinvural3800
    @nesrinvural3800 Рік тому +2

    My long term ex partner (broke up 4 months ago) is posting about his new gf and I felt weak for a moment but I just accepted it, let it slide and felt better. I trust time and I trust that better things are awaiting me

  • @zoethepsychic
    @zoethepsychic 6 днів тому

    Saying things like you "healed you anxiety" only perpetuates the stigma around mental health. As an advocate for mental health I think it's important not spread messages like that. Because anxiety isn't something you can fix. It's like when people say they cure their depression with some life hacks. Anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of and it's a real mental illness for Many of us. We can work on ourselves and manage the symptoms. And change our habits but those with a anxiety disorder know very well that it never fully goes away and it's something that must be treated.
    However this video has been extremely helpful when it comes to managing my anxiety. Some of the steps have helped a lot. Thank you for sharing your experience. ❤

  • @violetwhiskers
    @violetwhiskers Рік тому

    Great set of points to consider. When you have a meaningful quote or saying (like the last bit about change it or change the way you view it), it would be nice if you put that text onscreen and pause 2-3 seconds to let that sink in before rushing on to the next sentence. I love how concise your videos are and not overly fluffed as some YT's are, but it hit me after you had moved on how powerful that sentence was. Love your content and wish you the best!

  • @CarlGallo-fm3ky
    @CarlGallo-fm3ky 6 місяців тому

    I hope men are watching your videos! Because I know they have been helping me tremendously!

  • @user-js2ne4ho5j
    @user-js2ne4ho5j Рік тому +3

    Jillz, you became the mentor I needed so bad! Keep up and THANK YOU!

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  Рік тому

      Aww you’re so welcome!! 😘😘

  • @jessb4035
    @jessb4035 Рік тому +1

    I need these as a podcast 😊

  • @AvivaSingsOut
    @AvivaSingsOut Рік тому

    "anxiety free cam" you're adorable - love it!

  • @antoniyaradulova1990
    @antoniyaradulova1990 Рік тому +1

    Girl, I’ve been following your channel for the past week and I literally had the same journey as you! I’m going through therapy and everything you’re saying resonates so much! You’re amazing, thank you so much for making these videos! 🙏❤️

  • @Billy33753
    @Billy33753 Рік тому +1

    I agree with your approach on anxiety . I’ve been trying to live in the present

  • @livelovedaydream
    @livelovedaydream Рік тому +1

    I like your videos. Its kinda like hanging out with a friend girl talk

  • @orion9294
    @orion9294 Рік тому

    i am so glad to have found your channel, it resonates so much with me...I am still in highschool and it really helped to have more detachment on my feelings honestly so thank you so much

  • @imperfectly_megan
    @imperfectly_megan 11 місяців тому

    This video helped me so much. I know now that my anxiety is a signal about my relationship. We have kids though so I hope the anxiety will improve if our relationship can improve. I learned from your other videos to stop mothering him and to embrace my feminine energy and help him embrace his masculine energy. Hope that helps.
    Also I like how exercise is a release for me too but sometimes that's not an option. You made me realise that I can use piano as a release everyday. I realised that I don't actually have to know how to play it and I could just make up a sad song (for example) to help release sadness. Then I could learn more later (It doesn't have to be a GOOD song lol just something to help me).

  • @Bonitabellla
    @Bonitabellla Рік тому

    I love your videos! You give really good points and solutions. With anxious thoughts, for me its like I already know what’s the right way of thinking, but it’s hard to let myself think and believe these positive thoughts because of the “what if’s.” However you hit the nail right on the head with your points about being present and simply thinking about the next positive thought rather than forcing yourself to be happy!

  • @inspiredshelf
    @inspiredshelf Рік тому +4

    I loved this video! So many amazing reminders as well as new ways of looking at things! I especially love the f*ck it approach 😂 I hardly ever swear either so just the thought of this made me smile - definitely think it'll help. Thank you for this video ❤️

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  Рік тому +2

      Haha glad that approach resonated with you! It makes me laugh 😊

  • @kiiro5989
    @kiiro5989 Рік тому

    Love it how you have put the pieces of this topic together with keys to unlock the way we look and feel in those circumstances. If there is anything I will take from it is your advice on thinking of next best feeling - I can already see the difference in controlling not only anxiety but my mood swings too. Much love and great appreciation of your work here

  • @inmy20_s
    @inmy20_s Рік тому +1

    Perfect timing.. just started watching u yesterday.. i never even watch contents about anxiety bcz never understood what it was n anything but am having anxiety attacks first time in my life.. don't even want to watch any UA-cam content rn but.. i needed u.. ( i don't write this typ of comments it feels so creepy i know) but i had too..💞 may be this is something I need

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  Рік тому +1

      I hope the video was helpful!!💙💙

  • @reilife121
    @reilife121 Рік тому

    So well said. I am familiar with the emotional scale so that helps. I often forget to use it. This was so helpful Thank you.

  • @valentinav.1992
    @valentinav.1992 23 дні тому

    I like the dancing part 🌊! I have always liked doing it occasionally but haven't thought to incorporate it in my routine and use it as a tension release. How do you practice it? I feel like if I start remind myself it can be like forcing and will ruin it..

  • @PinkOpal90
    @PinkOpal90 Рік тому

    Your content means the world to me! Thank you so much for making this video. I will employ the techniques you described in thus video. I saw your video post last night but I waited until today to watch it on my lunch break so I won't be distracted and can fully take it in! ❤️

  • @NicolineXD
    @NicolineXD 7 місяців тому

    "Delusional cam" 😂 loved that.

  • @harriet_louise
    @harriet_louise Рік тому

    Your channel is exactly what I've been looking for for a long time now, ty

  • @orianaarbelaez6171
    @orianaarbelaez6171 4 місяці тому

    Your videos always come to me at the right time ❤

  • @yvonne-transitioning
    @yvonne-transitioning Рік тому

    Such a relevant topic. I have a difficult dealing with real or perceived problems. I internalize everything. I will take your tips and put them into action. Thanx
    Yvonne

  • @Valerieinlovewithfashion
    @Valerieinlovewithfashion Рік тому

    This is a great video that I believe will help so many people with their anxiety. Thank you!

  • @Get_your_clarity
    @Get_your_clarity Рік тому

    Thank you. It’s insightful. I feel like some of your tips I already implement to my life. However I need to remind it every day about it :) greetings from Poland ❤

  • @tracykanana2029
    @tracykanana2029 Рік тому

    I'm loving this vlog because I journaled about similar thing today. Looking into my thoughts and trying to be present in my day to day etc.

  • @ayt1702
    @ayt1702 Рік тому

    Thanks for this video, I really felt bad and down today and needed a portion of „jillz“ and I instantly feel better after watching ❤

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  Рік тому

      Aw I’m glad you’re feeling better 😘

  • @tamara7156
    @tamara7156 Рік тому

    Thank you so much ❤ I will save it up to rewatch in times of need

  • @user-fx2kk5cy8u
    @user-fx2kk5cy8u Рік тому

    Thank youz dear Jillz! It is everytine joy for me to hear the great thoughts from you! Appreciate your work!

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  Рік тому +2

      You’re so welcome! Thank you for supporting me 😘😘

  • @xteresax2546
    @xteresax2546 Рік тому

    omg, your videos help so so much! I am very greatful for it!! Thank you so much, Jillz!

  • @droseraliju
    @droseraliju Рік тому

    Great advices, most of mentioned techniques work for me too!

  • @ajohonly3721
    @ajohonly3721 Рік тому

    Love the hair volume Jillz ❤️🙏🏿.
    Great video as always.

  • @Elif-kg1cj
    @Elif-kg1cj Рік тому

    This woman so attractive and pretty omg

  • @AR-ic4hu
    @AR-ic4hu Рік тому

    Thanks for your efforts. Loved it!

  • @clairespin
    @clairespin Рік тому

    Love all your videos and advice💗 this video couldn’t have come at a better time :)

  • @riberobru
    @riberobru Рік тому +1

    Hi Jillz! Thank you very much for this video. I love your content and it has helped me a lot in connecting with my feminine energy. You do a fantastic job!! As you mentioned in this video about healing traumas, would you mind sharing some books you recommend on the topic?

  • @sophiaisabelle01
    @sophiaisabelle01 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for this video. Keep up the good work as always.

  • @sadoqatalisherova1478
    @sadoqatalisherova1478 Рік тому

    Love you Jillz you are an incredible person. Your videos like a fresh air for me) Highly appreciate your valuable advices f

  • @ra4798
    @ra4798 Рік тому

    also i feel tht journalling helps too

  • @chRizma
    @chRizma Рік тому

    Thank you for this video, it came at the right time 🙌🏽

  • @lovey9605
    @lovey9605 Рік тому

    I needed this so much, thank you

  • @aombaapitchaya2592
    @aombaapitchaya2592 Рік тому

    Thank for this contents Jillz❤

  • @lenik8911
    @lenik8911 Рік тому

    I'm an anxious girly too. You can only manage anxiety cant stop it. Anxiety comes from the unconscious and is anger aimed outward externalised while depression is anger oriented inward toward the self.

  • @karollavine4052
    @karollavine4052 4 місяці тому

    Love your voice

  • @bashairalhidri5955
    @bashairalhidri5955 Рік тому

    Thank you! Such a great video ❤

  • @gladysmi
    @gladysmi Рік тому

    i love that approach hehe 💗

  • @tarinideviyoga
    @tarinideviyoga Рік тому

    Great podcast ❤

  • @christinakarolyi9173
    @christinakarolyi9173 7 днів тому

    Thanks!!

  • @iaf4454
    @iaf4454 Рік тому +1

    Ohhh jillz you are speaking about me. 😢😢 i want to find my true partner and have a meaningful relantionship and build a family however i am so stressed and anxious 😢 because of this. I really want that with all my heart but no success at all. it seems imposible right now.
    I think you are so right, i will train my mind to think in that way. Wish me luck

    • @inmy20_s
      @inmy20_s Рік тому +1

      Going through same situation..

  • @raquelcordivari1372
    @raquelcordivari1372 Рік тому

    The perceived trauma example of the grocery store literally happened to me to a tee!!! I feel so validated rn lol!

  • @orion9294
    @orion9294 Рік тому

    I also find you really graceful in the way you move and express yourself it's really beautiful you iradiate delicateness

  • @rainywildflower
    @rainywildflower Рік тому +1

    That color is so lovely on you by the way!! Do you know what your color season is by chance?

  • @salogiorgadze1810
    @salogiorgadze1810 Рік тому

    Thank you for this video🌟

  • @crismosconi4832
    @crismosconi4832 Рік тому

    I looove your videos!! and wow , from your personality I wonder if you have your moon or some other influential planets in Pisces. You are such a strong Pisces archetype

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  Рік тому

      Thank you!! And I’m actually a cancer! 🥰

    • @crismosconi4832
      @crismosconi4832 Рік тому

      @@JillzGuerin yes i know you are a cancer sun, you said that in an another video ! That s why i said archetype. Pisces is everything intangible and you mentioned dancing, music , painting , letting go ( loss, dissolution ) ...... I think it could be your moon ( mother ) because of what you said happened. If the Pisces archetypes is used on low manifestation mode it goes to its opposite which is Virgo that at low manifestation is anxiety . But i don t know you enough so i could be completely wrong. Loads of love !!! I am binge watching your videos !!! So glad i found you :)

  • @EmmainthePNW
    @EmmainthePNW 7 місяців тому

    very helpful

  • @ayeshaskittyasmr
    @ayeshaskittyasmr Рік тому +1

    Thank you❤

  • @mumijevi
    @mumijevi Рік тому +2

    How do you release trauma from your body? My whole body feels like a wooden plank, especially in my hip area. Would prefer not to go into detail but a lifetime of bullying and horrible self esteem, cutting myself etc. has left my body completely frozen. I literally can NOT dance. Not even completely alone, I've tried a thousand things but the second I try to move my hips or anything, I'll freeze and start to cry. Obviously I can't be feminine while having this issue. Even my boyfriend pointed out how I'm as stiff as a board when he tried to jokingly waltz with me. (it's a very healthy relationship, he was joking, I am the issue in our relationship, not him)

    • @chRizma
      @chRizma Рік тому +1

      I'm like this with singing sometimes! I feel like I want to sing and cry it out but it feels weird, I need to be alone and in the right space to do it. I started releasing some things with journaling and EFT (There are a lot of EFT tapping videos online you can follow along with, you can search eft and whatever thing you want help with). Doing that for some time helped me eventually feel comfortable enough to work with a somatic experiencing therapist. There's also other therapies like the therapy Jillz mentioned. Fascia work releases trauma as it loosens the bound up tissue. There are honestly so many resources for releasing trauma these days, if you research online or read some books about it you'll likely come across some modalities that resonate with you!

    • @mumijevi
      @mumijevi Рік тому

      @@chRizma I'll look into the tapping thing. I don't have any such therapy or anything similar available to me where I live. What about the fascia therapy, is there something on UA-cam that you'd recommend?

    • @creative45630
      @creative45630 Рік тому +1

      Hi, look up a video on UA-cam about Besel van der Kolk describing 6 ways to heal from trauma - he goes into how things like yoga and performing arts can help.

    • @sulusu4812
      @sulusu4812 4 місяці тому

      Listen to Janina Fischer. Look into somatic therapy.

  • @lucyinthesky7923
    @lucyinthesky7923 Рік тому

    Great advice :)

  • @imadina31
    @imadina31 Рік тому

    So usefull ! ❤️

  • @raoniyati
    @raoniyati Рік тому

    Amazing ❤

  • @sihembouaoud8226
    @sihembouaoud8226 Рік тому

    Unfortunately I feel all the day and every day anxious because of my routine with my three kids I am just giving up and feeling hopeless

  • @TheCrystallineLeoness
    @TheCrystallineLeoness Рік тому

    You are _not_ your mind. You said "take a step back, get out of yourself for a minute and act as a third person", and it's paramount that people start to discover that they are not their minds at all, rather we are the totality of this vibrational existence in awareness of the thoughts, feelings, physicality and biology. The mind is simply an instrument designed to help us navigate and excel in this world. Your mind will keep on running with or without you. The thoughts will keep recreating themselves and running in loops forever if you let it. Stepping your attention out of the mind is the biggest first step to evolving and refining your experience here as a human. Women were gifted with brilliant minds and emotionally intelligent networks because of our spiritual ability to intuitively feel and discern everything around us. That feminine design can so easily get out of whack if we are not present. Presence, openness, and stillness is key.

  • @rainywildflower
    @rainywildflower Рік тому

    What advice do you have for anxiety related to PMDD and/or anxious attachment ?

  • @mavoolumma
    @mavoolumma Рік тому

    Thank you so much for this, is there a way I can reach you personally?
    I'm a mess at the moment, I need a hug 😢😢

  • @jazmineseverino1363
    @jazmineseverino1363 Рік тому

    Yeah. Fuck it. 🥰

  • @kimfamilyadventures2301
    @kimfamilyadventures2301 Рік тому +1

    The fuck it solution saved me in a lot of situations 😂

  • @athraa3083
    @athraa3083 Рік тому

    How do we gain our self-confidence?

    • @creative45630
      @creative45630 Рік тому +1

      Trust and believe your feelings over and over. Your self-trust and confidence will gradually grow. It’s about putting down fresh neural pathways over and over to create new patterns.

    • @sulusu4812
      @sulusu4812 4 місяці тому

      Listen to Eckhart Tolle

  • @josephineduran9622
    @josephineduran9622 Рік тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @anitahendricks
    @anitahendricks Рік тому

    🌟

  • @user-mj6qr2ky9d
    @user-mj6qr2ky9d Рік тому

    Where did u find ur partner? 😊

    • @sulusu4812
      @sulusu4812 4 місяці тому

      Through the butler

  • @vikingvitality
    @vikingvitality 4 місяці тому

    Delusional cam 😂

  • @clareheartymariemeguillo
    @clareheartymariemeguillo 21 день тому

    Do you have a podcast?🥲 i would want to listen to you everyday

  • @lulululu4444
    @lulululu4444 Рік тому

    That color looks BEAUTIFUL on you🩵
    btw I had (still have) the same reaction to wrong situations/people

  • @Fatima-6666-i4i
    @Fatima-6666-i4i Рік тому

    ❤❤❤❤