10 Things Nice Guys Get Wrong
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- Опубліковано 24 лип 2024
- In this video, Jeff from The Style O.G. talks about 10 things nice guys get wrong. He discusses the characteristics of nice guys that don't always lead to nice outcomes.
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The only niceness a guy should be is to himself. When it comes to women, be direct to the point, assertive, and if she says no and desires friendship...Walk.
Indeed Larry !
@@TheStyleOG my reason for the statement brother O.G. I was one of those nice guys in my younger years, now as a mature man, I learned.
Word
I agree with all of that. However, I wouldn't be so fast with walking away. In the past I've made really good friends with a woman because either she or I were upfront and said we just wanted to be friends and the other accepted it. The relationship helped with business, school, and even with her helping me with other women. No wingman better than a wingwoman. Trust me. Also, walking away seems kind of selfish. It's almost communicating "you have little value outside romantic pursuit".
Of course, when let's just be friends is actually just a nice way to say I want nothing to do with you, then for sure move on.
Just be nice. Use Assertiveness with caution. If you mixed the two together, a WOMAN will know where you stand as a man. However, if you're "kind" you're not going to get too far with a potential, but if you're truly a nice person (Who she's attracted to), you in fact will go far with the potential. Females don't want to hear a man say no all the time (Major turnoff). Be available for her NO matter what, where, and who your with, be available for her. Remember, in the end The Nice Guy does win! Not the kind one (once in the blue when she's desperate). Trust me, I'm a true female.
*Mistake #1 - "Placing women on pedestals"*
I have to agree.
I had to advise my boy don't hold a woman in Angelic status just becasue of the shape of her face (good looking).
Treat her like a star she will treat you like a fan
If you put women on a pedestal, they will have no choice but to look down upon you.
Sad ..but tru
@@luisw3406 ..whoa !!!!!
Nice
If you are struggling here are few books to read:
1. No more mr. Nice guy by Robert Glover
2. The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi (all 3 books)
3. Gendernomics 1 and 2.
Save thyself brethen.
Dudes ain’t really nice that’s it
And HOW TO BEAT A WOMAN AT HER OWN GAMES
That's another good book
The problem I see with some of the so called nice guys is insecurity ! The so called nice guy cares too much about what other people's opinion is of them ! Keep hitting them with the wisdom and knowledge jeff !
Will do Mark!
I'm a female and in the end fellas, Nice Guys Win if the female is attracted to you. If she's not, you're not going to win even if you were the Kind, Bad Guy. 🤷🏽♀️
Nothing is wrong With being nice,it's just that women think it means stupid
Another thing that nice guys should stop doing, if a chick isn't interested, stop saying "What's wrong with me? I'm a nice guy." 🤦🤦
Truth !
Absolutely! Why invite insult to injury? You’ve already been told there’s no interest. Don’t belabor the point!
So when hard times hit - the Nice Guy should not help her and tell her ask the pretty boy for help!
I used to be the stereotypical "nice guy" in my teens-early twenties. I tried way too hard to be nice, I never said no. I actually believed, when girls said..."Oh, but you're a really nice guy!" they were complimenting me. Haha...how very very very wrong I was! Looking back, I was embarrassingly "nice!" When I think of some of the things I did to TRY to win a girl's heart...omg CRINGE! I've been through a lot in life, and it's totally hardened me up. I haven't been, nor will I ever be, that pathetic "nice guy" again. I'm kind, but the "nice guy" left the building long ago. Guys, trust me, you NEVER wanna hear a girl tell you what a "nice guy" you are, it's the kiss-of-death!
Appreciate the input!
Thanks for saying that there a difference between Nice and Kind. Just like Al Capone said don't let my kindness, have you thinking that I am weak!
You got it Jonathan!
Nothing wrong with being nice but you have to be firm at the same time.
Yup
@@TheStyleOG I used to be nice but not firm enough and it took some bad experiences to change that in me because I was taken for granted a few times and that wasn't going to cut it.
That jacket is 🔥
Bob is the nicest guy in the world, but everyone is always angry with him.
Thanks Dana !
Frfr it is, I wanna see the rest of the outfit.
The "NO BEING THE MOST POWERFUL WORD" really struck home...this has been one of my personal battles. Make no mistake, it is hard to say no if you are a 'make-the-sacrifice' person like me. I am learning, and this video truly was meant for me. Thank you.
No problem!
Mannnnn the fact that you are teaching me how to dress and be a better man says a lot. My dad was a no show so here I am in my mid 30s getting every bit of your knowledge. Thank you sir !
Salute Miguel !
and my dad zero don't even know the letter A
Loving that jacket bro!
Thanks!
Yes very cool !
Mean jacket
Yeah it's tight
Absolutely! There’s a difference between a kind guy and a nice guy💯
Tell em Busayo !
👀👂
@@curtisstapleton7167 Every woman is different and I'm telling you, most women prefer nice men! I'm a female and I don't want a kind guy. I want a nice guy with an edge. 😉
@@Jj-ke3ug..duly noted my sista
@@curtisstapleton7167 Salute ❤️
I love an aggressive take control masculine man. Be direct! Say what you want! And lead!! Not control, LEAD!! Be kind. No women respects a push over. All 10 points on point! That nice, needy, always available guy is the biggest turn off in the world. Great video HQOG!
Thanks Gail !
@@TheStyleOG You're welcome.
What's the difference between leading and controlling?
What's the difference between leading and controlling?
@@anonymousperson8301 Leading is a man's God given birth right. He leads by being the head of his household securing, covering, protecting providing for his family/household. Leading he respects his wife/partners input and say in a matter or decision, but he has the final say. Controlling is expecting things to be done simply because he says it with no if's, ands, or buts about it. No one has a voice but him because he is the man.
100% brother ! "Be a kind person " and "know your value " ! 💯❤
Yes Sir !
Points well made O.G. Especially about being a introvert. That hit home. How about a vid on top things to do on a first date. Salute‼️
Salute!
That was me about 20 years ago. Being nice and getting taken advantage of all the time in the workplace. I swung to the grumpy side to counteract it and it paid off a little but eventually leaned the hard way how and when to say no, and how to say it the right way. Takes some skill and practice but anyone can learn it.
Can be done !
I replied at the beginning but actually this was one of your best videos. Very practical and accurate. Great!
Thanks!
I love the honesty and tough love coming from you in this video. I don't personally fall into this category but these nice guys needed to hear the tough but helpful truth from someone.
Salute Michael!
Good one Style OG Jeff.
My dad used to say,
“Stay interesting.”
Glad you put it in the list.
Saaaaalute.
Salute!
Great information you’re sharing with us Brothers man!! I Salute back at you!!! Thx😊
No problem!
These are all FACTS. Nice guys have to do a serious self-assessment about the energy they're putting out and they'll find that everything they think they hate about the guys women want are the things they should be aspiring to. Great stuff, OG!
Thanks CJ!
Salute OG . I could've used a good friend, someone like you when I was younger. I turn my "nice guy" on & off. Ur right, from my personal experience. I get ALOT more done, putting 'me' first. Concentrating on MY priorities . Attract positive attention as well. 🤔👊🏽
Indeed !
Another gem! Thanks for the great content and bringing clarification to Nice guy vs Kind guy.
Salute Lady !
Great video Jeff it goes both ways I've had to learn how to say no and stand firm best lesson I've learned.
Thanks Tineshia!
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Well said things to always remember
Thanks Paul !
Yes Sir! I would say I learned these lessons, but in my own time (I wish I knew these traits when I was going through my younger years). My motto was do things my way and let everyone else catch up (meaning I dressed how I liked too and wore the the fragrances I wanted too). I was the guy everyone would take style from and borrow fragrances along with some pointers. Great way to give advice all while wearing that fly jacket and shirt combo! Keep up the outstanding work Sir...
Will do !
Definitely agree Great video And helpful hints
Salute BigMan !
Great vid!!!
Wise words! Thanks for the advice!
No problem Marvin !
I SHOWED THIS TO MY DOG, HE WENT OUT AND BIT SOMEONE
🤣🤣🤣🤣👌🏽💯
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Haha your dog’s a jerk!
Hilarious
Great video. Great advice. Thanks, man!
No problem Reed !
Agree on these ten points. Thanks for summarize them, great video
Thanks Francisco $
This is an excellent, excellent video! I wish I had this information when I was in my 20's. I'm going to pass this on to a few friends who need it. Keep up the great work Jeff!
Will do !
Great subject and you nailed it
Thanks Leon !
That jacket is killing it!!! Thanks OG for the tip.
Appreciate that!
Great video... I appreciate you taking the time to explain the difference between being kind and being nice.... You can't allow yourself to be taken advantage of in any situation...Salute ....
Salute Donny !
Always looking dapper as usual!!! Saaaaalute
Salute Robbie !
Alright now Uncle Jeff! This is clearly on point . 🙌🏽👀👑🔥👋 Did I mention how necessary you are? Every young man should tune in. I’m forwarding this for sure. So nice to have a brother sharing GEMS while looking Dapper. Salute
Appreciate you Jae !
Thanks O.G. great info👍🏿
No problem Marc!
As always O.G. a great message. I had to learn this as a young Man only once on the road to adulthood and my Brother was it ugly. Lessons unlearned are lessons repeated.
Love your vids Jeff, where is a good place to buy pocket squares that aren’t expensive but good quality?
Great list! Right on point! 👍🏾😎
Thanks Ed !
Great Vid Jeff. Impactful information. Salute!!
Salute Ron !
Good info. 👍
Good morning OG just saw this video great tips. Love that jacket. As always wonderful content and depth of the “ Nice Guy”.
Thanks Al!
Beautiful blazer💕.
I've been forwarding your videos to a male friend. His mantra is " I'm a nice guy"; this video is going to be so informative. There is truly a difference between kind and nice. Thanks!!
Thanks F!
Great video. Well said!
Thanks!
this video is on point. I had to change a few of these in the recent year.
Thanks Walter !
Agree 100 percent!! Thanks OG
💯
What's up Jeff Donald from Cincinnati checking in how are you doing just wanted to let you know that you are the truth and you give great advice keep up the great work and as always Salute
I like how Jeff is like, "i use to let my style talk for me" and now i gotta go watch that spring dress video lol
Great video, very informative! Keep it up, God Bless!
Thanks Denzel !
Hi Jeff, just wanted you to know this was a fantastic video, been binge watching your videos and they have been a fantastic help to me during a very horrible divorce, been finally starting to look out for myself after always putting others first! Bought myself 3 watches ( all very reasonably priced but nice!) and I’m looking forward to going shopping centres to buy a new wardrobe once most this coved-19 settled down. Peace to you brother. 👊🏻
Happy to have helped!
Nicely said OG
Thanks L!
Thank you for this video!!! Brother I know I have some work to do!!!
You got it Jerry !
Excellent points, OG! 💙💙💙
Thanks Beans !
Great video. The truth. Period.
Salute Lincoln !
Back in the day I fell in this category. I remember sooooo much of this. Lol again I was young. And over time saw a lot of things for me to chance. It’s very interesting that you touched on mostly everything I have changed or tweaked. it’s also a friendly reminder to continue to work on it. So I don’t fall back into “bad habits” ... thanks O.G! You the man!!!
Thanks Dayshon!
Good advice Jeff, I love the jacket. You could do another video elaborating the difference between being kind & being nice.
Have something in the works
Great info for the Men out there. My Son in Law is a *_"Nice Guy,"_* A very kind caring loving gentleman he is. Few times My Daughter wants to be mean to him. I warn her not to treat him badly when he's the type of Brother who is treating her with love and respect. Due to when good men get tired of the bullshit they leave and may be ruined. He reminds Me so much of My Father, but My Pops had *_Testicular Fortitude_* when people *_"tried"_* to take his kindness for weakness.
Many of these points women can take as well on the flip-side, I know I can. I hope You don't get offended being that Your channel info is directed to Men.
Appreciate your input !
So true, great information!
Thanks Yvonne !
The video is on point!
Thanks!
Great commentary O.G. and nice jacket too.!!!!!!!!!
Thanks Ivy !
Respect ✊🏾 the lesson. I’ve always struggled with finding this balance. Thanks for helping us keep things in perspective. -Rashard J.
Salute!
I watched this video, to see if I was missing anything, or if I really had a "Nice guy" problem. BUT That was when I was in my Late teens early 20's. And I actually adapted alot of what you are saying now In the video. It has helped me avoid all the BS. Women trying to take advantage, or just people in general. When you learn to be assertive, you attract the RIGHT people. the People that like you for you and your purpose.
Well said !
Good info, Jeff. I’m pretty guilty when it comes to some of this. I’ve often felt cursed by being “the nice guy”.
Thanks John !
“Nice” = gross
Respectful = sexy
Nice tips..... still in that learning of changing my ways on that
Thanks Kareem !
@@TheStyleOG the main thing is learning to say no and learning to step out my comfort zone in doing things that is I can do for fun
I've gotten a few of those things wrong. Mostly being too available and giving too much of myself for people who wouldn't piss on me if I were on fire. Once I figured out how to get out of those ruts, I was much better off. They can see what I'm up to from instagram. Great video OG!
Thanks Ryan !
Move in silence ! Much safer..
Great advice. Thank you, Sir.
No problem!
Great content
Great video OG, the jacket is on point.
Thanks Morris !
Fellas, never worry about being liked. I learned that the hard way in college. I had a girl that I liked, we hit it off very well in the beginning. She kinda had a feeling I liked her and used that to her advantage. I made myself too too available to her - legitimately at her beck and call. One day, I decided to ask her out and she replied with “I’m sorry. I don’t look at you like that. You’re like a brother to me.” That hurt, I’m not even going to lie. I had a talk with a good friend and he told me the truth: I was acting like a pushover. So, I just took that & focused on myself for a bit - polishing myself. I took up some hobbies and actually became the Vice President of my university’s African Student Association, which took a lot of my time.
One day, I run into this girl on my way to a student congress meeting. She stopped and gave me a warm, long hug and asked if I could drive her to the mall so she could buy a new outfit. I knew it was for her meeting a guy but, I didn’t really care. I replied to her, “No, I have somewhere important to be.” She asked me if I could drive her after I was done. I replied again, “Nah, I”ll be tired trying to prepare for a student event.” I’m saying this to her as I’m walking away. Y’all should’ve seen the look on her face, like I stole from her or something. Complete shock like “this guy really said no to ME?!?!?”
Fast forward a couple of weeks later and I’m vibing with another female who actually liked me on a serious level. I ask her what it was she liked about me. She said, “I see you’re a guy who has things going for himself. I’ve been watching you as the VP of the African student club and I love the leadership and assertiveness you possess.”
All in all, just be yourself. Take care of yourself. Have an upstanding aura about you....and learn to say no occasionally.
Well said! Dope outfit too
Appreciate it Aaron!
O.G...that jacket was screaming while you were talking...oh good points!
Ha !
Much needed video...thx style OG!
No problem Avis !
This video made me realize that people have been taking advantage of me for years, the way I alwaus have their back but when I ask them for help suddenly I'm a stranger
Time for change!
Bro you have so much value in your videos. I appreciate all that you do King.
I appreciate that!
You nailed it. You have described exactly what pretty much every women I know wants.
I asked a good female friend early in my first dating years why I keep getting hurt in relationship. I was too nice because I didn't want to be an asshole. She told me to be a nice asshole. Best advice I ever got. Been working ever since. You have to be a good combination.
Grey areas my G! The key to life
You can be a decent human being without being a simp or a pushover.
Ge, Jeff
👊. Thank you.☺
You got it!
Thank you so much bro 🙌🏽👏🏽
No problem Dwayne !
Yo Style OG. Great video. And very informative. Also do u have any style tips for men with bald heads?
This is such a strong,powerful truth. "FACTS".. Not only do guys have this problem... women being too nice shares the same results. Good video bro. I dffinelty feel you. Great video and excellent advice❤💯 by the way love the outfit. That jacket is dope!!!
Appreciate you Sis!
Thanks Jeff. Much useful...
No problem Paul!
This was was very good! Great content Jeff!
Thanks Shawn !
I love this brother channel. He's ALWAYS on point. I'm guilty of at least 5 outta 10 of the nice guy characteristics. I find it, that the less I give a DAM. The better off or the results I get. Sometimes it depends on the maturity of the man/ woman. That you choose to deal with
Appreciate the input Anthony !
Fine video Jeff . Very informative and to the point.
Thanks Melvin!
I've definitely learnt something here O.G.
I've been told that I am a nice guy so many times but also been thinking that bout myself too and yes I've been taken advantage of in so many different areas of my life.
I'll definitely try to be kind and not nice.
Thanx O.G
#Salute
Salute!
Great good job OG! 👌
Thanks Axess!
Good advice.
Everything starts with self confidence and self worth.
Thanks Florida !
Great video bruh....on time!
Thanks Michael!
💘 the 📹 homie. Keep them coming ya dig.
Will do Brian !
Amazing unique jacket Style O.G. Wow!
Thanks!
Great video
Thanks Zachary!
Brother thanks for the advice.
No problem Ruben !
Good stuff 👍🏾👍🏾
Thanks Vernon !
That jacket is CRAAAAAZY !!!!!! Nice OG !
Thanks!
Enjoyed the video bro salute.
Salute Clif !
Great Vid!! That blazer though!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥!!
Thanks Terry !