It is true to listen actively and carefully, however these days, I am encountering so many people who ramble speak on and on and on. I would like to learn ways to politely but effectively break the conversation, when this happens.
A couple years back, I was the grumpiest bastard you could possibly meet. I don't know how many people I turned off by being that way - a lot probably - but at some point, the light bulb lit up over my head and realized what I was doing was just killing my charisma. I hadn't always been like that either. I'd let things get to me. I'd soured on myself. Along with turning my health and fitness around (along with my style - thank you very much Style O.G.!) I've made an effort to find my old more cheerful, non-grumpy old bastard self. And it works!
As a Political science student I had read about Charismatic leaders during my college days and without doubt I can say that you are a perfect example of Charismatic leader....Salute brother Jeff.....👍🏿🙏🏿👌🏿
Style OG your right on point with these tips. Being positive is a huge tip and I advise my team to always bring a solution. Also add smile when you greet people. Another tip is smile prior to taking or making a phone call. It puts you in a positive state. Greet people with a "good morning", "good afternoon" or a "good evening". Another tip for the gents is open doors for women especially car doors.
I LOVED this video!! Even at my age, I thought charisma was really about being a smooth talker. After watching this three times, I'm realizing it's really about being a smooth listener. Thank you, G. Very very nice. Salute.
Thx playa. Your videos are already making a positive impact on my life. I quit smoking cigarettes 7 months ago after smoking for over 40 yrs and your advice is right on time brother. Thx again. Salut!
Thank you style O.G. this is the channel every man needs for real. This channel could literally be a course in college. 😄😄 Update: The advice and situations on this channel are tackled appropriately and can be a valuable resource to all guys. 👊🏿
All right now! I use all of those traits to make myself a better person. I am reserved by nature, so I am ok with not being overly charismatic. Great points and advice good Sir! You can not go wrong with anything you said. Awesome content for this video!!!
Jeff, no way I’m I perfect. That why I say. All of my pencils have erases on them. I agree the ability to communicate and and listen to others. Make you Charismatic. At work my team is the best. They get all of the credit. Thanks for the helpful tips.
Who better to outline charisma than the most charismatic man on the internet? 💯 You give off such strength and masculinity yet also seem very kind and smart too. Thanks for always demonstrating what to wear on the inside in addition to the outside.
Great subject and great tips, Jeff. I have always strived to display three qualities that have always made me approachable to anyone; dressing well, being positive in my attitude and speech, and listening more than talking. But, Jeff. "Negative Nelson"? Really? 😀
Nice video and shirt jacket! My grandfather told me most of getting along in life was to be on time, iron your shirt, put on lotion and don’t talk too much.
I stole a line from Duke Ellington. When he would compliment a lady on her outfit. Duke Ellington would say: "You make that outfit look good!" The first time I used it, worked like a charm. Now it is in my arsenal.
One of the points that I picked up are being reliable . Sometimes we are but we want to be reliable but don't want to attract the wrong people who start using you. How do you mitigate this if you can't get rid of it completely?
That’s a great point imho. I’ve always heard it’s about boundaries and using the greatest word in the English language: No. I am a hardened people-pleaser so I am forever working on this.
Solid content 👌... You gave the Style O.G family the blueprint to being more charismatic... We can all take notes on this video... Thanks again Jeff. Salute.
I 'm glade I came across this video this what to help me build to improve my people skils at work and outside of work cause sometimes is struggle but I trying my best.
Negative Nelson lol, that’s funny. I’m a new viewer and subscriber, as of this past Monday. Came across your channel by accident and I’m glad it happened!! Best channel on UA-cam and I’m already implementing what you’re saying into my everyday life. Thanks bro, you’re definitely appreciated by me.
All Great stuff Jeff very classy that name thing is true for me also if I don't call their name in a while especially 1st meeting them it's trouble unless something I can relate and also many people say they don't want to be used if we can't then we're useless it's being abused that hurts all Great stuff thanks
Decisive, Positive outlook, sense of humor, Listen more and twice as much and eye contact, dress well, increase your strengths and showcase that you are useful, lead with your strengths, shine spotlight on others. (NOTES)
The older I get the easier it is to talk to people. I just treat people especially in business like an old friend. Treat them the same way I want to be treated. All I do is be myself and go out of my way to be nice to people. It also helps when you have grey hair and wrinkles. People take you a lot more serious. I love being in my 40s
Hey Jeff my apologies for the late comment this was great video I will definitely following some of these tips as some time I can tune someone out my bad . PEACE AND BLESSINGS OG
What technique do I use to help me remember names? Let's say that I meet a guy named Homer. In my brain, I replace Homer's head, with Homer Simpson's. The next time I see Homer, I see Homer Simpson. Boom, Homer feels important because I remembered him!
I don’t agree with #5(Be less perfect).Sometimes peoples perception of others is that other person is perfect.Example;If your a man,6’4”240 pounds,good hair,good teeth and well spoken,that’s who you are,it’s not an act.But,the person who feels less than,may dislike you simply because THEIR PERCEPTION tells them you are better than them.And because of that,they avoid you,sometimes even hate you,and they don’t know why,and you don’t know why because you’ve never done anything to that person.There’s a reason good looking,we’ll spoken people have less friends; Jealousy…. No matter how much you listen,help them & Support them,they will still dislike you because your presence(and they don’t have to know you)reminds them of what they are not…
It is true to listen actively and carefully, however these days, I am encountering so many people who ramble speak on and on and on. I would like to learn ways to politely but effectively break the conversation, when this happens.
A couple years back, I was the grumpiest bastard you could possibly meet. I don't know how many people I turned off by being that way - a lot probably - but at some point, the light bulb lit up over my head and realized what I was doing was just killing my charisma. I hadn't always been like that either. I'd let things get to me. I'd soured on myself. Along with turning my health and fitness around (along with my style - thank you very much Style O.G.!) I've made an effort to find my old more cheerful, non-grumpy old bastard self. And it works!
Love it Mike!
Being positive and funny are definitely two strong ways to show charisma
Yes Sir!
As a Political science student I had read about Charismatic leaders during my college days and without doubt I can say that you are a perfect example of Charismatic leader....Salute brother Jeff.....👍🏿🙏🏿👌🏿
Salute Paul!
Hey hey!!! The key to be more Charismatic is good communication no matter what 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾.
Charisma is about not trying too hard to be everyone's celebrity. When you do that, you sometimes put off the wrong energy. #Salute
Salute Joseph!
Style OG your right on point with these tips. Being positive is a huge tip and I advise my team to always bring a solution.
Also add smile when you greet people. Another tip is smile prior to taking or making a phone call. It puts you in a positive state.
Greet people with a "good morning", "good afternoon" or a "good evening". Another tip for the gents is open doors for women especially car doors.
Listening is definitely key to being more charismatic: That's why the Good Lord gave us two ears and only one mouth... Salute, Sir Jeff
Salute Jerry!
I LOVED this video!! Even at my age, I thought charisma was really about being a smooth talker. After watching this three times, I'm realizing it's really about being a smooth listener. Thank you, G. Very very nice. Salute.
well said!
Thx playa. Your videos are already making a positive impact on my life. I quit smoking cigarettes 7 months ago after smoking for over 40 yrs and your advice is right on time brother. Thx again. Salut!
Salute John!
Very relatable about being the quiet person and dressing well; great video & very informative.
Thank you style O.G. this is the channel every man needs for real. This channel could literally be a course in college. 😄😄
Update: The advice and situations on this channel are tackled appropriately and can be a valuable resource to all guys. 👊🏿
I appreciate that!
@@TheStyleOG Thank you!
"IF YOU CAN'T BE USED UR USEFUL" Preach, my G🙏🏿 "THUMBS UP"🥊🔔
Excellent as always.....be that classy man..the person who is not perfect but strives to be a gentleman at all times...salute my brothers..peace
Peace!
All right now! I use all of those traits to make myself a better person. I am reserved by nature, so I am ok with not being overly charismatic. Great points and advice good Sir! You can not go wrong with anything you said. Awesome content for this video!!!
Salute Shawn!
Jeff, no way I’m I perfect. That why I say. All of my pencils have erases on them. I agree the ability to communicate and and listen to others. Make you Charismatic. At work my team is the best. They get all of the credit. Thanks for the helpful tips.
No problem Pierre!
What's up my bro Og. Great job on this video my G. We all can learn to be more Charismatic in our every day life. Salute my friend.
Salute Glenn!
These are great tips. I use alot of them every day
Thanks Johnra!
Who better to outline charisma than the most charismatic man on the internet? 💯 You give off such strength and masculinity yet also seem very kind and smart too. Thanks for always demonstrating what to wear on the inside in addition to the outside.
My pleasure Steven !
Thanks Jeff for always dropping these 💎 SALUTE
Salute!
Great Video OG!!! I've said this before.....You have one of the most holistic channels there is!!! Salute!!!
Salute Gregory!
Great tips Jeff🙏😀! I would add being curious, smell good and being wellinformed (not a besserwisser though), adds to your charisma!
Great tip!
Great subject and great tips, Jeff. I have always strived to display three qualities that have always made me approachable to anyone; dressing well, being positive in my attitude and speech, and listening more than talking. But, Jeff. "Negative Nelson"? Really? 😀
My bad Doc!
1. 1:16 - Listen intently
2. 2:05 - Use eye contact
3. 3:02 - Listen twice as much as you talk
4. 4:03 - Self-assessment
5. 5:12 - Don’t be perfect
6. 6:14 - Shine Spotlight on others
7. 7:05 - Be humorous
8. 8:00 - Remember people’s name
9. 8:45 - Dress well
10. 10:15 - Be positive
Thanks for all the great content OG. Always uplifting, and inspiring..
My pleasure!
Nice video and shirt jacket! My grandfather told me most of getting along in life was to be on time, iron your shirt, put on lotion and don’t talk too much.
Love that!
Watching and imitating charismatic people helps tremendously. For example certain actors, athletes, and musicians.
i like it
I stole a line from Duke Ellington.
When he would compliment a lady on her outfit. Duke Ellington would say: "You make that outfit look good!"
The first time I used it, worked like a charm. Now it is in my arsenal.
Be vulnerable, be relatable. Great point!
One of the points that I picked up are being reliable . Sometimes we are but we want to be reliable but don't want to attract the wrong people who start using you. How do you mitigate this if you can't get rid of it completely?
That’s a great point imho. I’ve always heard it’s about boundaries and using the greatest word in the English language: No. I am a hardened people-pleaser so I am forever working on this.
Great Information!!! Easy to follow and inspiring. Really like your content !!! Much needed. Thanks so much!!!
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you once again Jeff!! As usual nailing it ! 👊🏾👊🏾
My pleasure!
Some great points tho. Love your channel man 🔥
Thanks Nelson!
Solid content 👌... You gave the Style O.G family the blueprint to being more charismatic... We can all take notes on this video... Thanks again Jeff. Salute.
I 'm glade I came across this video this what to help me build to improve my people skils at work and outside of work cause sometimes is struggle but I trying my best.
You got this!
Something Im definitely lacking smh lol muchas gracias, mi hermano!!!! 🤜🏼🤛🏾💯💯💯 #Salute
Salute Rick!
One of your best of the year O.G!
Thanks Frank!
They should teach this in school! Great stuff OG!
I appreciate that!
Smile O.G. smile!!
Ha!
From Geff to Jeff.. Salute!
Salute Geoffrey!
Very true !!! Drilled into me by mother as a child.... with that said I guess that makes me kind of a mama's boy 😂
Great words of wisdom. I also have to do a better job of remembering names. Where is the jacket from O.G.?
Link for jacket is in the description
Negative Nelson lol, that’s funny. I’m a new viewer and subscriber, as of this past Monday. Came across your channel by accident and I’m glad it happened!! Best channel on UA-cam and I’m already implementing what you’re saying into my everyday life. Thanks bro, you’re definitely appreciated by me.
Thanks for information Jeff , hooyah
My man!
All Great stuff Jeff very classy that name thing is true for me also if I don't call their name in a while especially 1st meeting them it's trouble unless something I can relate and also many people say they don't want to be used if we can't then we're useless it's being abused that hurts all Great stuff thanks
Thanks Eric!
Great list. Got to work on remembering names! Style OG is the best!🤜🤛😄
Salute Howard!
Great points, O.G. and Salute 👍🏾
Salute Clifton!
As always you are on point Jeff. Happy New Year! Be Blessed
Fine video Jeff. Solid information for all to take heed to.
Thanks 👍
Great one Jeff, I already have a few on the list but definitely was lacking on some others dually noted, thank you so much. Carl Mason
Definitely needed this one.
Hope it helps!
Once again top notch information
Appreciate it Carl!
My guy Jeff good stuff as usual
Thanks!
Decisive, Positive outlook, sense of humor, Listen more and twice as much and eye contact, dress well, increase your strengths and showcase that you are useful, lead with your strengths, shine spotlight on others. (NOTES)
What's up Jeff!!!! This was a great video!!! Salute man!!
Salute Paul!
Smiling should be on the list. Smiling attracts people to you.
Agreed!
I.G you’re building us into young men🤟🏾🖤
I try!
The older I get the easier it is to talk to people. I just treat people especially in business like an old friend. Treat them the same way I want to be treated. All I do is be myself and go out of my way to be nice to people. It also helps when you have grey hair and wrinkles. People take you a lot more serious. I love being in my 40s
Hey bro. Good topic. I believe prople can become more charismatic by Owning your oddities....as well as Embracing vulnerability !! 😉❤
Well said!
Great vid. Respect.
Respect Ray!
Smiling helps too...
Agreed
Hey Jeff my apologies for the late comment this was great video I will definitely following some of these tips as some time I can tune someone out my bad . PEACE AND BLESSINGS OG
Peace Al!
What technique do I use to help me remember names? Let's say that I meet a guy named Homer. In my brain, I replace Homer's head, with Homer Simpson's. The next time I see Homer, I see Homer Simpson. Boom, Homer feels important because I remembered him!
That works!
Thank you OG! Excellent lesson!
Glad it was helpful!
This is something I have to work on I’m ex military so I tend to be very strict and to the point , I have to remember to relax this isn’t the Army
Great tips! 💪🏽
Glad you think so!
What’s up my man. Can you send me the link for the jacket you wearing in this video??
Well done. This is highly useful information!
Glad it was helpful!
This helps a lot Jeff!
Salute!
Salute Victor!
Boy you game tight🤣
Thanks Hugh!
Nice advices
This quilted jacket looks awesome which brand is it ???
Check description
All in the eyes chico. They never lie. Lol lol lo lol
Ha ha!
We try to be!!👌🏾👌🏾
Cool Jacket, where did you get it?
link is in the description
@@TheStyleOG Thank you my
brotha!
I don’t agree with #5(Be less perfect).Sometimes peoples perception of others is that other person is perfect.Example;If your a man,6’4”240 pounds,good hair,good teeth and well spoken,that’s who you are,it’s not an act.But,the person who feels less than,may dislike you simply because THEIR PERCEPTION tells them you are better than them.And because of that,they avoid you,sometimes even hate you,and they don’t know why,and you don’t know why because you’ve never done anything to that person.There’s a reason good looking,we’ll spoken people have less friends;
Jealousy….
No matter how much you listen,help them & Support them,they will still dislike you because your presence(and they don’t have to know you)reminds them of what they are not…
So True
Great vlog SOG
Thanks!
"people's name" aaahhhhhhhhhhh i weak on that part. "what is your name? John? nice to meet you..." After 1 minute " what was your name again?"
been there!
Dress well. 🙌🙌🙌
Yup!
Great topic OG
Thanks Luis!
Cool!😎
Thanks!
Salute Style OG
Salute!
Great video
Thanks!
What’s going on Jeff keep them tips coming
Will do Stephen!
salute jeff
Salute Edward!
Where’s this jacket from? 🔥
here ya go
Express Olive Quilted Shirt Jacket go.magik.ly/ml/1an2o/
@@TheStyleOG thanks!
Yo
This guy
"Don't be a negative Nelson"...I actually avoid people with this type of attitude like a plague!
✊🏿
Salute Larry!
Another hint: Pull other people into the conversation.
good one!
💪🏾💪🏾
Salute Rich!
✌🏾💯
Come on man…lol