Y’know, I’ve always felt like I’ve had some sort of sensory overload in my day to day life but I never knew that what I was feeling (I.e closing curtains, turning off noises, changing clothes) was an acceptable way of dealing with it… thank you for showing me that it can help me and it’s okay to do this :)
Mine gets so bad I have to unplug stuff because I can hear the tiny high pitched noise the plug makes. Didn’t realize this wasn’t just ‘kooky’ until recently :/ but I feel seen lol so that’s beneficial
@@strawberrycherrybaby I swear no one believes I can hear this, it's not all electronics but when they do this noise it drives me crazy, sometimes gives me headache
I came here to comment this and found yours. I knew it was sensory overload but I didn't know how to be intentional about managing it. I'll try some of these things next time
I never knew how to describe what I was feeling until I started dating my current partner who experiences a lot of sensory overload. He started to notice when I would get overstimulated and how I didn’t really know how to calm myself down and he helped me find ways to calm down in different situations. All of my exes used to just get angry with me when I started to feel anxious about multiple sounds going on and things like that, so it’s nice to finally have someone who understands
My in laws don't understand that this is a thing. They find it annoying that I become overwhelmed when their kids are screaming, multiple candles and oil diffusers are going, different music is being played on a TV and through a portable speaker while a sports game is on a second TV, and then there are multiple conversations happening all at once.
I never realised that my favourite "chill out outfits" were "sentory safe outfits". Like... Looking at it now, that's exactly what they are! And I wear them on days where it all just feels too much and I want to curl up on a corner with a bit of music and zone out. They're really loose and baggy, and I just feel safe in them. I never really realized what it was doing until you described it like that.
My husband and I both have ASD with symptoms of ADHD. Our daughter is 3 and exhibits the same kinds of overload. If there's anything I've learned over 27 years , it's that your own community is one of the best foundations. We are like our own island of a family and I've never felt more comfort than that.
@@shannond1511 there is no such thing as a perfect parent. Every parent has bad days, and I've found that those on the spectrum actually tend to be more attentive and overall caring due to their own experiences with childhood development.
@@mynamecausesconfusion9829 The Perfect parent is the one - that decides not to bring a being into the world where they would definitely experience a lot of suffering without their consent.
@shannond1511 I'm adhd and deal with sensory overload (mainly sound but then if it gets too much everything else piles on) and I have 4 very loud children who also have adhd/spd😅. And yes there are many times their sound trigger me, especially when they get on a loop of verbal stimming, but we have all learned as a family to use language everyone understands to express our needs. So I may say "guys all the sound is making mommy's tummy hurt. You can go outside if you need to be loud or stay inside and pick something quiet". It isnt always perfect and sometimes I get frustrated and have to apologize later but i think even that helps my kids have grace for themselves when they're the one who got over stimulated and angry and have to apologize.
@@arifmammadov736this perfection sounds like death. There would be no birth. Tell me who doesn’t suffer? Would you watch a movie about nothing? No obstacle, no triumph. Just dancing in a field until you realize that you’ve been killing the grass and all the bugs at your feet and you are hungry so something will have to die so that you can continue to live. Consume the life of that plant or animal. Anywho, I should probably just finish my coffee…
I am not diagnosed autistic (but think there’s a high likelihood I am) and have been diagnosed ADHD for the majority of my life at this point and your content has made me feel a lot more secure in the ways I can help navigate my day to day and I appreciate that a lot
Same i was diagnosed with adhd and ocd when young but wasn’t observed later on and they didn’t know everything at the time, I really wonder if I have autism because I relate a lot to autism content
@@JlNXED It's common in cases of autism for there to be what's called a "co-morbidity" of other disorders present (in conjunction with the autism). OCD and ADHD are two of those disorders. I'm autistic myself (didn't know that I was until a year ago), and I've personally suffered from OCD for the past 14 years (more or less). Also, in recent months, I had started suspecting that I may have ADHD as well (due to all the various ADHD-related content that I've watched). So, yeah, I've got the whole package. Lmao 😅🥲
I'm lucky I now can do this, I work in a very high stress job which has even been more crazy with Christmas. My boss told me to take at least one day off before the office closes for Christmas. It makes a huge difference being able to take that time awau
I’m 31 and got diagnosed with both autism and adhd in the past two years. I wish I’d had somebody like you when I was younger because I did not understand that this is what I was experiencing or that it wasn’t the norm for everybody. I developed my own coping mechanisms, but they weren’t all particularly useful or healthy. I am so glad for your page even now as an adult who, in a shocking turn of events, really hates change in behavior or routines! There’s always more to learn, and this video made me feel like somebody else understands me. Thank you for that!
Sensory overload is not talked about enough. The people around me don’t understand why I can’t just go to the grocery store with out feeling anxious or exauhsted or why too many voices make me unable to be okay
@@ggundercover3681 sensory overload is not necessarily a seperate condition and I think that plenty of people with anxiety have it (not sure tho). Sensory overloads are also not necessarily a neurodivergent thing, they can happen if you're very tired or stressed too. (I think it's one of the reasons small children get meltdowns in supermarkets, they're not yet equipped for it and are taking in every bit of information) They're different for everyone and can be caused by any form of sensory input (I usually have it with too many overlapping sounds). It's pretty much your brain being overstimulated by information, which is why things like headphones/earplugs/sunglasses work. Things like stimming/fidgeting work (not always and for everyone) because you're redirecting all your focus to one specific sensory input that's controllable by you.
I get this way too, which is why I started carrying headphones w me everywhere. Better if they’re noise cancelling bc then it muffles a lot of the overstimulating sounds of stores and stuff while not forcing you to listen to any music. I will put on music most of the time tho bc it helps me focus since there’s only that one sound and it’s often a repeating song I already know. Give it a try next time!
I had this on Monday- I ended up taking the day off from work and felt so guilty about it. Thank you for sharing this, it feels incredibly brave to me and made me feel like I’m not alone 💛✨
I've been working on not feeling guilty about taking time off from work. It's good my boss has ADHD so he totally understand but I often feel anxious about what others think of me and have confirmed that some don't understand conditions like neurodivergence and chronic fatigue and pain. But I also know if I wasn't able to take time off for overstim days I would have burned out and quit months ago. It's definitely a learning process and a tricky balancing act.
I just got out of school and had a complete meltdown because I was so overloaded from my joints aching and my clothing being too hot and the school being too cold and all of the things. I felt crappy about it but this was a nice wake up call :) thanks for sharing your life for those of us still learning that these things are okay to feel! It helps lots
@@karencarney7595 were seeing a specialist soon! :) the aches started only two years ago and aren’t too bad most of the time but I’m never really pain free especially after physical activity most days the worst it gets is a sharp pain in my hip or knee when I walk but that day was just so horrible everything was aching so much I could barely take a written test! But I’m alright now December is my appointment! All we know right now is that it’s something inflammatory
@@angelaonthego don’t think it’s Lyme disease, I’ve never had a tick or anything that could cause that in my life we actually figured out what it was recently! Just a ton of vitamin deficiencies and because I have fallen arches!
I mostly get overstimulated from sounds or if there’s a lot of things I need to do and people keep asking me when I’m going to do the thing they asked me to do when I’m doing something else, it’s mainly a mix of sound and negative emotions, and if I don’t catch myself in a state of overload then I’ll just break down and won’t be able to do anything for like 35 minutes.
This reminds me of this conversation I had with my aunt one time after I had a panic attack because I couldn't contact anyone for help with something. My phone screen was so damaged I couldn't use it, the home phone only worked on WiFi and the WiFi was turned off and I didn't know how to turn it back on. I ended up having an entire breakdown in the hallway for about two hours before I snapped back and realized I could just drive the 15 minutes to her office. She asked me how often I freak out like that and I said "well not very often but when I do it usually lasts a while". She said something very dismissive implying I don't know how to regulate my emotions but also saying that I need to keep my feelings in because "no one wants to see that". But she also asked how much time I use (the way she said it she meant how much to I waste) freaking out when I get stressed or overwhelmed. And I said I usually end up spending a day getting back to normal. And she said I shouldn't. Made me think though like, I would much rather "lose" a single day to stress and anxiety and regulate all day kind of pampering myself than to be constantly stressed and overwhelmed because I don't take a proper break to make my brain work. Idk, she ended up showing her colors later and I don't talk to her anymore. Anyway, spend your day! Take the time that you need. I do that now and don't care what people say about it. In taking care of myself and that's what's important.
Sorry to hear that about your aunt. I hope you were able to deal with that eventually. Im waiting to move out of my familys home since they also dont understand how i need to unwind. It mostly ends up with harsh criticism and needing more time to unwind
You’re completely justified. As neurodivergents, sometimes breaking down a little (healthily) or shutting down for some time is OUR body & minds’ way of self-regulating. Could you and I find healthier ways to cope with stress rather than breaking down? Sure. And we will. But we need to shut down from time-to-time for our own health.
I have almost no autistic symptoms besides this. THIS single symptom practically rules my life. With the winter coming im almost always permanently annoyed and close to tears because of LAYERS. Not being able to move in layers, having to wear thick shoes with thick socks, HATS oh my god. It all makes me want to rip off all my clothes and fall into a pile in the floor and just bawl. I have to start my days early so that my first moments being awake is very quiet and controlled, and my job starts at 5. I dont LIKE having such early shifts, but it's the only way I can start my day in a way that doesn't doom the rest of the day for disaster. I work in retail, so of course all day I'm on edge and close to tears because there is just. Too. Much. People talking, heat from so many moving bodies, having to focus on work AND customers, trying to list my responsibilities for the day, dealing with flourescent lights, dealing with people's attitudes and energy. I spend almost every single day, especially after work, in this shut down mode. I dont know what to call it other than just part of being HSP. But damn. This video spoke to my daily experience for the past like 5 years. It's so so hard and overwhelming. It's hard to hang out with friends. It's hard to work on projects. It's hard to participate in hobbies. All my time is spent literally just trying not to have a breakdown over the environment around me and how intense it feels.
Is it possible that you may be masking really heavily? I.e. “no other symptoms of autism” may not be your “natural state of being”, but a way you act to protect yourself against a harsh world.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm currently overwhelmed with sensory overload right now so watching what you did really helped me find some things I can do to calm down. I love your videos, they're so helpful!
I swear this is what I am seeing with my daughter. She is always so eager to be involved but randomly some days she just seems off. It feels like everything annoys her and see can't seem to settle, relax and focus on tasks. I bet this is what it is.
You should look into it! Could be from anxiety, autism, adhd, general stress, etc. I’m a 16 year old girl and I’ve had all four since forever but was only diagnosed last year. It would be great for you to jump onto it early so you can learn how to accommodate for her needs and teach her coping skills!!
@@georgia6947 Exactly! @Sky S, as a psychiatric neuroscientist who was first diagnosed as an adult, I 100% agree to get her working with a psychologist as early as possible. Ideally get a referral to a dedicated diagnostic testing center. In tough cases, (especially if she's really intelligent) diagnosis and treatment often should be completely separate things, each handled by the professionals trained for that specific task.
that also sounds like understimulation, when i'm understimulated im jittery, cant stay in one place/settle, cant focus on anything, its like boredom squared
Thank you for this video. It shows me to be more compassionate with myself when I'm severely over stimulated and my plans for the day change because of it
Thank you for posting this. I just started allowing myself to rest like this and it is so recovering for me mentally and spiritually. Sometimes I shame myself for being “lazy” or not capable to do more, but seeing this is really reassuring and I don’t feel alone.
It’s for me at least when I start to feel every single hair that is touching my face, or the acne on my back or my body starts to feel itchy, or I suddenly can just feel everything and it’s loud and I can’t even function it’s manifesting as sensory overload nut it’s like an anxiety attack without the scary part where my throat closes up, or i start to tic bc it’s cold that’s fun but separate. It’s when I can’t focus on anything else but the sensory issue, like “crumbs” in my bed which could just be dead skin cells and small bits of dirt or whatever but that can drive me nuts or like when I go to a restaurant and it’s overly crowded and the sound is just too much not bc its loud but it’s the overlapping cacophony of voices
I hate the feel of things being uneven pressure kinda thing, like my laces or my shirt. It rlly sucks if i cant adjust them bc im in a crowd or smt. Small stuff just seems so big when its all u can feel
for me my hair gets really heavy and I feel like my head/neck is gonna fall off its so heavy so i want to cut it right away and ofc you have to put your hair back so not a single one touches ur face or else it's like an attack.
@@samaraisntthat right there is exactly why I keep my hair short, and have kept it short for much of my life, now. I have extremely thick, heavy, curly/ wavy hair and it just becomes too much, so I get it thinned out and cut real short so it's not so overwhelming.
For me, I get anxiety trying to read super long run on sentences with no or not enough punctuation. My mouth goes dry, and I get all twitchy and uncomfortable. I feel like I can't breathe fully, too.
Yes! This needs to be talked about more! Even shows dedicated to characters with sensory overload issues don’t often portray the struggle correctly, leading people to wrong conclusions about them. Thank you so much for stepping up and showing what many struggle with on daily basis. Much love 💕
It's so so so important to step back and say "I need to unwind, I can't do this right now." I'm still learning to be kind to myself, especially when I can't believe it's okay to be kind to myself because I was raised to think that was just being lazy, so I have to dissociate and imagine someone else taking care of me. I'm so proud of you for doing what I struggle with, and I hope one day I can relax like you.
I have a mild form of autism, so I don't experience these things AS intensely as you do, but I can completely relate! When I was younger, I became depressed and suicidal because I couldn't handle all the input. My family has always been very demanding and asks a lot of me, so safe moments in my safe space were simply too rare for me to function properly. I shut down, I had a period in which I wouldn't dare to go out of my bedroom, because my bedroom was the only place where I could be myself, stay sane, listen to releasing music without being interrupted by family members, and just be able to breathe a little... I was lucky that this was during the Covid pandemic, because everything involving school was done through computers and Zoom calls, in which I could turn off my camera and listen to the lectures. This school period (aside from the overloading part) was me at my happiest place, in terms of studying and living the high school life! After this "decompression-period", I began interacting more and more, and after school I would just zone out for an hour in my desk-chair or on my bed...😂 At least I was able to interact with the outside world again! About 3 years have passed since my decompression period... I'm doing better and better socially! I made a girl-friend who is also autistic (in a more extreme sense than me) and we are so glad to have found each other. We are just friends, and we like it that way. We have a really good feeling when we have deep talks, but neither of us can explain the exact feeling. We just know it's the same feeling! If you've come all the way into this story of mine, I'd certainly like to thank you for paying your interest! Have a great day!
I never thought this was a possibly adhd thing. I just thought I was weird & couldn’t explain why some days I literally am paralysed & do nothing. Thank you for helping me become more aware & giving ways to help me
It is specifically an AuDHD thing, meaning a combo of autism and ADHD. The ADHD can make sensory overload harder to cope with, but sensory overload itself is a symptom of Autism.
I can’t express how perfect of a time this is for me to see this. I’ve been feeling like if I get overstimulated or stressed it means that I can’t handle things as well as other people and I’d kinda convinced myself that I get overwhelmed easily because of how I grew up or a failure of my childhood, but now I see that it is completely fine and normal. Thank you god for sending this to me. You are so kind and thoughtful. You give me so many gifts❤
That was partially my day yesterday. I woke up feeling overwhelmed and super sensitive to the light. Starting out with sensory overload is so hard. I hope your day got better
Watching your videos makes me feel so safe and understood. I want to cry it's so hard explaining to friends and family that this what I have to do sometimes to recharge, especially since I only have a self diagnosis at best. I'm hoping one day I'll have enough money to get diagnosed properly but until then I'm going to find a safe haven in your comment section.
When I have sensory overload, I get so sensitive to other people being too close to me. I feel so anxious, it has made me cry. I don't like to be seen, talked to; I just want a hug and not be spoken to
I LOVE this. I’m in nursing school, and I get so overwhelmed afterwards. I just go home and binge watch shows about cults and mental illnesses. Or listen to music and do no talking. This is a great idea. I definitely monitor what I eat. It’s helped tremendously.
I work in a SEMH school (social emotional and mental health school) and 99% of the kids have ADHD and I completely get this. Sensory overload is a real thing and it's not only autistic people that experience it. Love your routine that you have in place to regulate yourself. X
i don’t think i’ve ever felt so seen or heard. i’m not happy that you experience these things, but it makes me feel so much better to know that i’m not alone and that i’m not crazy or broken.
I will literally have to get rid of clothes just because of texture, luckily I have a friend about my size, not only does it bother me but I also have eczema. I basically do not wear polyester for example. I can love a piece but just not be able to be comfortable at all
Thank you for sharing. This short came up randomly. As a parent to a young child who's got sensory issues with everything and awaiting an autism diagnosis, it's refreshing to see how you, a grown woman, manage for a period of time with similarities how as child would cope (e.g. stim toys) as well as your independence. Thank you for making the world more aware of neurodiversity etc.
And it's so crazy because compressive outfits CAN be really comforting too, under the right circumstances. I spent my childhood wearing quite tight clothes because they made me feel better (especially jazz pants, cos they were tight on the thigh but loose on my ankles so I could move my feet a lot). But now I'm older and have worse joints, I almost always tend towards baggy stuff that doesn't restrict my joints or make me feel like I'm being touched all over. Nothing excuses being cruel to ND people if you're neurotypical but I can see how people can get confused sometimes - wait, you both love AND despise the exact same sensation? Hm... I'd argue being hugged close by someone you care about and then by someone you hate would have a similar outcome for anyone, but what do I know lol
i have no steps to take when i’m overstimulated which results in me lashing out at people or an attitude no one understands and everyone thinks im just mean
Therapy and support groups help SO MUCH. If Therapy is an issue because of funds, you can reach out to organizations or your doctor for a list of support groups. They're on zoom or IRL and free, donations welcome. You'll hear others and what they do to manage. You don't have to be "normal", but you absolutely need to be able to function in ways that doesn't further alienate you. It's very hurtful to those who care about you when you lash out and you need to have some type of accountability when you hurt others, especially if you're able to grasp that others have needs too.♡
love that you shared this ❤️ my son is Autistic and I'm learning everyday how to help him work with sensory overload so it was great to find your channel and hear your experience so I can also understand it from "his perspective" in a way. 💙
This was the hardest part for my fiancé to understand about my autism. Heat is also a trigger for me, I can feel my clothes stick to me, forehead will sweat causing my hair to stick to it, my hands get sticky making everything else feel sticky 🤢 I consider myself very good at masking, but when I get over stimulated I don’t talk as much, too many thoughts and emotions and too overwhelmed to express them. Sometimes I have to get mostly naked, under my weighted blanket on the floor. (Floor is cold which fixes the blanket and heat issue.) I do have to stick my mouth/nose out since I have to have fresh air as to not feel like I’m suffocating. Claustrophobia 😂
I wish I could do this type of thing when I have bad days. As a mom of four I’m forced to power through and to say I’m severely burnt out would be an understatement. I didn’t know I was autistic until after having children.
I also have a sensory safe outfit. :) It includes a super soft, viscose-elastane blend headcover that puts pressure on my ears while not irritating my skin. I also have super soft, silicone-tipped earplugs, a white noise machine for when I need a little background noise, and a very subtle candle that smells like the woods (my favorite place).
For some reason, though I know earplugs help a lot of people with sensory overloads, for me they just feel really uncomfortable and just do more harm than good. Also, instead of loose clothes, which I know a lot of people like, I wear clothes that are a little tight so they are always touching me, as loose clothes that only touch me in some places but are baggy in others just makes everything worse. That headband seems really cool, though. Where is it from?
Hi, everyone :) The candle is called "forest honey." I forget who makes it, but it's in a green container with a wooden cap, and you can buy it at Walmart. So glad that my experience is helpful for others 🥰
Thank you for sharing this video in particular, such an important video for anyone involved in a naurodivergents life. And to us, the neurodiverts, we all have to find the thing that works for us in this situation.
Thank u for posting this. I have adhd and I have sensory issues I’m not diagnosed with a sensory processing disorder but I am almost a 100% sure I have one and it just helps to know that there are other ppl out there that also struggle with similar things as me. So once again thx
Thank you Hayley for sharing this reality for a lot of us... sometimes instead of a day of overwhelm it can turn into a weekend or a week or month...but we definitely find creative, compassionate ways to get through it 💗☺️😎
I have sensory overload quite often at school and because my teachers r shit I end up going into a meltdown where I can't talk or move and they try to give me detentions because of it even when they know I'm autistic. Out of over 700 comments how do u find this and get it to 100 likes
Where do you live? In the US, you can request an individualized education plan (IEP) or 504 to formally make a plan so you get the bwat of your education. Upir caregivers, teachers, & admin will meet regularly to make the plan. You can request breaks in class, an aide, access to school counselor, etc. & all that is written in. Do you have an equivalent in your country? Understood org may be able to give more guidance...
@@ambriaashley3383 well I'm not autistic and in Michigan or at least my district you have to be diagnosed with something for them to even help you with anything. I believe I have ADHD. I'm getting test rn like results soon.
@@ambriaashley3383 I'm in the UK and my parents r trying to get me a TA at school but we need to get that approved by the government but they won't reply
In high school I always had a meltdown at the end of the first day of the school year, every year. It was really frustrating until I realized why - I got overwhelmed by all the people and noises after a whole summer of being at home
I haven't been officially diagnosed with anything that could cause sensory overload other than anxiety, but when it happens I can't even recognize it before it's all too much. Takes me days to come down from this supper high strung place where everything is too much, I can't sleep nor eat and no amount of exercise or meditation will get me to a good head space. I just sit under a blanket in a cold house and try to keep my head empty with colouring books and some easy video games. Really good that people are talking about this, and especially for those that have conditions that can cause this, it should be ok to take a break and to let yourself take it easy.
As someone who is diagnosed you just helped me realized overheating. I always hated overheating but it deeply affected me, especially with blankets or clothing on. Thank you
I got noise canceling headphones and they were a game changer for me. Noise was a huge trigger, and I live in a large city were there is a lot of it. I didn't realize I was having sensory overload until last year when I was 29 so I'm still trying to figure out how to cope, but I have a TBI That mimics adhd symptoms and so I suspect that causes a lot of my issues with stimulus overload as well. It helps seeing how other people cope.
this was really helpful to see. so often I feel like I am being too dramatic when being overstimulated. some days everything makes me cry, being too hot, sweaty, my food, etc. thank you for showing this side of ADHD. you helped at least one person feel a bit more normal
As someone who also experiences this, everytime i have these moments, i stop and think and become so thankful that i live in a time and part of the world that allows me to do all this to treat myself. Some other time in history or elsewhere in the world, people didn't/don't have this luxury and have to literally work through all this to survive (either to support their family, or by threat of violence from an outside force). You, me, and many on this comment thread are so privileged to be able to even think about having this experience, because that means we have the te and energy to think about, feel it, and cater our world to it. (And no, I'm not comparing and saying that these problems don't matter because others have it worse, I'm just saying that you have to admit that your life is objectively better and you are better off. But if we're being real, i do believe that, these kinds of problems don't really hold a candle to all the real, life threatening problems out there for people that can't just close the curtains and change into comfy clothes.)
The zoning out while doing anxious hand stims is too relatable 😭 My husband waits until I snap out of it and then says something to try and improve my mood/help my anxiety. Usually something along the lines of "how was your nap" or "welcome back beautiful" 😂❤
Certain noises like my mom talking on the phone in the car would drive me crazy when I was younger or hearing kids crying even though I love kids.. I never understood until this year realizing I was over stimulated and my senses were just way overloaded
Omg I thought I was a massive bitch as a kid, because I couldn't stand my mum singing in the car. Absolutely couldn't deal with it. BUT I love to sing, and in the car there wasn't much more to do. So I used to ask my mum not to sing, then I would. I really hated myself for it, because it seemed hypocritical, but now I know I'm ND (probs X2) it actually makes a lot of sense. Just sucks that her singing overstimulated me and my singing was self regulating - comes across as just being a brat.
My co workers have experienced my sensory overload. There is always at least one that will say ok guys to many people over here when they catch me getting overwhelmed before I even catch myself getting overwhelmed and about to react. They have realized my movements and build up I'm so thankful for them
I sensory overload way too much during the day. Everything just annoys me and idk why. It’s like a constant battle of why is this and everything annoying me and why am I getting annoyed at simple things
Are you using tools to help- like noise cancelling headphones/ear defenders and sunglasses? Those can make a big difference for bright lights and loud noises
normally i would never do those things when im at sensory overload but i tried them yesterday and it helped me sooo much, feel so much better today! thank you for your content!
I just call these “bad days” I end up just extremely out of it and normally have too much anxiety to even leave the place I’m sitting… I usually go without food on these days
Idk if I have this or not, but sometimes I feel like I do. If people are talking over music, talking really loud, or when more than one person tries talking to me at the same time I just can’t handle it. I guess I’m sensitive when it comes to people talking 💀
Its so interesting how sensory safe outfits vary based on the persons needs. Mine are always skin tight clothes w a big hoodie so that i feel Engulfed and Held. I love learning about people's sensory needs lol
my gawd I wish I had the luxury of just taking the day when I'm having a bad one. gives me hope to know someone can actually make it to a point where not just forcing through it is an option.
I've had this all my life. My most noticeable trigger is fingers doing pointing and other gestures that set my brain off. Cell phone ads are ALWAYS hell for me.
I wish people understood that it isn’t laziness that causes most of my days to look like this. I’m so overwhelmed from the moment I wake up. I’ve needed to clean for weeks, but I just can’t. It’s so hard to do anything when your mind is racing and you can feel the energy flowing throughout your body, blood pumping through every blood vessel. It’s painfully exhausting, and quite frankly depressing at times. It’s so hard. As a kid I got into the habit of zoning out when I’m like this. It gets so bad to the point where a week will feel like a day because I’m not present at all
Thank you the last few years I just started doing this automatically iv been diagnosed with adhd and BPD but now I think I was missed diagnosed the more research iv done the last few days is starting to make sense
I've never seen any of your videos before and I hope this isnt a rude question but I'm curious how you're able to record yourself all over your house having these reactions to be over stimulated
Sensory overloads don't 'paralyze' us or strip us of any thought or will. We can still do stuff during episodes. Sensory overload has to do with the senses. Hearing, smelling, seeing, touching, tasting. When dealing with episodes, we cut off certain stimuli to lessen how much sensory we're experiencing at once. This is why she closes the blinds/darkens the room, or changes into baggy clothes. Moving a camera around doesn't really effect our senses.. It's about the same as getting up to cook something for ourselves.. Or to go use the bathroom. We don't become frozen, mindless creatures during episodes.
I've had moments in middle school and high school when I was out shopping or whatever and all of a sudden I felt the urge to start crying and turtle away....Was a long time before I realized I was probably having sensory overwhelm. Glad there are more people sharing their experiences and how to cope ✨✨
Overheating is also a sensory trigger of mine. I’m getting better at handling overload in a way the lessens the negative effects. For most of my life I had believed that I just needed to push through it. Now I realize that it is necessary to focus on self care during a sensory overload.
"sensory overload day! Let me drag my camera stand and set up my camera everywhere I go. Ppl in the comment section won't realize because they'll relate because I looked up what ADHD sensory overload looks like". Like come on how do y'all believe this. Like really.
@@catindacorner7408 that's the point and you missed it. I guess it's easier to ignore the glaringly obvious when you want to identify with something so bad.
@@catindacorner7408 sensory overload usually don't include setting up a camera everytime you get up to do something. I can tell you've never actually seen behind the scenes of videos like this or any video really. It's not a movie, nobody is there to set up the camera for her. She has to get up, set the camera up to a good frame, make herself look cute for said camera, and then act out what it looks like. If you're having a sensory overload I'm sure a camera being tediously set up every time you get up would be the last thing on your mind. But again you'll have some excuse as to why this makes sense so who am I to point out flawed logic. You're just a kid.
@@Royalty_girlie She was already doing a day in the life video. Not only that but she did not clarify how bad her sensory overload was so maybe she was feeling good enough where she didn't mind making a video. She was showing her coping mechanisms and she cut alot out she didnt show any breakdowns or anything all she did was record a few shots and the scenes were very short. You act like she was acting crazy on the camera or something. There is nothing wrong with documenting her sensory overload day to show people how she copes and/or so people can relate. If nobody documented their struggle autism, adhd, sensory issues and neurodivergences in general would continue to be so stigmatized
@@Royalty_girlie I never said that im defending her because i want to identify with it I'm saying you cant just judge someone's authenticity because they're documenting what they struggle with on a possible day-to-day life
That would be funny if you included, "and then I closed the blinds, paused the video, setup my tripod in my room, and took a video of me changing, and then moved the tripod.."
Thank you, I was thinking the same thing. My adult sister who was diagnosed as a child but was never told she is autistic, could never, EVER fiddle around with a camera when this is happening. It takes over her whole self. she isnt capable in that moment of filming herself, nevermind thinking someone on the internet would pretend to have her struggles for attention q
Yeah I smell bs as well. When I have these I just sit down and try my best to remove what ever triggered it. Which is usually just getting out of the shop asap. I'm not saying she doesn't have them but good god this video is fake as hell
@@caseyalexandraweismiller Same, I was diagnosed with ASD/ADHD just before adulthood and it just overwhelms the system entirely at times. Everyone thinks we just can’t focus on anything but it’s more I see so much around me that others don’t seem to and it just overloads the system. Sometimes all you can do is just sit there staring at nothing while you’re stuck inside your head.
Your really the only adhd account I can relate to it's amazing how relatable it is I send lots of your bids to my mam try help her understand how my adhd and autism affect me. Thank you for your videos ❤
This is a very helpful post as I just had a morning like this yesterday and I could not get anything done and I’m working on being gentle with myself in these moments instead of hating myself 🥰
Im learning so much from you. I've not been diagnosed with anything but everything you share most of it resonates with me. I already have my safe clothes and other things that you shared. I need a safe show though, I struggle with finding safe shows for me.
Y’know, I’ve always felt like I’ve had some sort of sensory overload in my day to day life but I never knew that what I was feeling (I.e closing curtains, turning off noises, changing clothes) was an acceptable way of dealing with it… thank you for showing me that it can help me and it’s okay to do this :)
Mine gets so bad I have to unplug stuff because I can hear the tiny high pitched noise the plug makes. Didn’t realize this wasn’t just ‘kooky’ until recently :/ but I feel seen lol so that’s beneficial
@@strawberrycherrybaby I swear no one believes I can hear this, it's not all electronics but when they do this noise it drives me crazy, sometimes gives me headache
@@strawberrycherrybaby OMG, I thought it was just me. I'd hear these things in the room. Like really feeble clock noises and plug sounds. Wow.
Same
I came here to comment this and found yours. I knew it was sensory overload but I didn't know how to be intentional about managing it. I'll try some of these things next time
I never knew how to describe what I was feeling until I started dating my current partner who experiences a lot of sensory overload. He started to notice when I would get overstimulated and how I didn’t really know how to calm myself down and he helped me find ways to calm down in different situations. All of my exes used to just get angry with me when I started to feel anxious about multiple sounds going on and things like that, so it’s nice to finally have someone who understands
Don't we LOVE a partner who literally helps and supports instead of just being a hateful douchebag 🖤 I'm glad. You deserve it.
I'm so happy you've found someone that gets you❤️❤️
I can relate! I’m glad you found someone like that!
It's great! I'm fighting just to have some alone time from my fam while I'm home in vacation...
@@ShipperTrashOMGGGG YESSSS!!!!
My in laws don't understand that this is a thing. They find it annoying that I become overwhelmed when their kids are screaming, multiple candles and oil diffusers are going, different music is being played on a TV and through a portable speaker while a sports game is on a second TV, and then there are multiple conversations happening all at once.
That sounds like torture
That sounds like a nightmare
That sounds like hell
Oh I don’t think I could walk in there house.
i can't stand that !!!! and my family doesn't get it either
I never realised that my favourite "chill out outfits" were "sentory safe outfits". Like... Looking at it now, that's exactly what they are! And I wear them on days where it all just feels too much and I want to curl up on a corner with a bit of music and zone out. They're really loose and baggy, and I just feel safe in them. I never really realized what it was doing until you described it like that.
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My husband and I both have ASD with symptoms of ADHD. Our daughter is 3 and exhibits the same kinds of overload.
If there's anything I've learned over 27 years , it's that your own community is one of the best foundations. We are like our own island of a family and I've never felt more comfort than that.
That sounds amazing. I’m terrified of having a loud and difficult child that I wouldn’t be able to cope with
@@shannond1511 there is no such thing as a perfect parent. Every parent has bad days, and I've found that those on the spectrum actually tend to be more attentive and overall caring due to their own experiences with childhood development.
@@mynamecausesconfusion9829 The Perfect parent is the one - that decides not to bring a being into the world where they would definitely experience a lot of suffering without their consent.
@shannond1511 I'm adhd and deal with sensory overload (mainly sound but then if it gets too much everything else piles on) and I have 4 very loud children who also have adhd/spd😅. And yes there are many times their sound trigger me, especially when they get on a loop of verbal stimming, but we have all learned as a family to use language everyone understands to express our needs. So I may say "guys all the sound is making mommy's tummy hurt. You can go outside if you need to be loud or stay inside and pick something quiet". It isnt always perfect and sometimes I get frustrated and have to apologize later but i think even that helps my kids have grace for themselves when they're the one who got over stimulated and angry and have to apologize.
@@arifmammadov736this perfection sounds like death. There would be no birth. Tell me who doesn’t suffer? Would you watch a movie about nothing? No obstacle, no triumph. Just dancing in a field until you realize that you’ve been killing the grass and all the bugs at your feet and you are hungry so something will have to die so that you can continue to live. Consume the life of that plant or animal. Anywho, I should probably just finish my coffee…
I am not diagnosed autistic (but think there’s a high likelihood I am) and have been diagnosed ADHD for the majority of my life at this point and your content has made me feel a lot more secure in the ways I can help navigate my day to day and I appreciate that a lot
Same!!
Same i was diagnosed with adhd and ocd when young but wasn’t observed later on and they didn’t know everything at the time, I really wonder if I have autism because I relate a lot to autism content
@@JlNXED It's common in cases of autism for there to be what's called a "co-morbidity" of other disorders present (in conjunction with the autism). OCD and ADHD are two of those disorders.
I'm autistic myself (didn't know that I was until a year ago), and I've personally suffered from OCD for the past 14 years (more or less).
Also, in recent months, I had started suspecting that I may have ADHD as well (due to all the various ADHD-related content that I've watched).
So, yeah, I've got the whole package. Lmao 😅🥲
And you know what sucks even more? Having all this and still having to get through work every day... It's extremely exhausting
my thoughts exactly. simply taking a day off when you're feeling like this is not always an option unfortunately
@@hellomissannie yes I was curious about this too. She can just do that? Very fortunate for her
@@adararelgnel2695 she's a content creator and or works from home. Those are both viable jobs.
I'm lucky I now can do this, I work in a very high stress job which has even been more crazy with Christmas. My boss told me to take at least one day off before the office closes for Christmas. It makes a huge difference being able to take that time awau
@@samaraisnt content creator isn’t a real or viable job
I’m 31 and got diagnosed with both autism and adhd in the past two years. I wish I’d had somebody like you when I was younger because I did not understand that this is what I was experiencing or that it wasn’t the norm for everybody. I developed my own coping mechanisms, but they weren’t all particularly useful or healthy. I am so glad for your page even now as an adult who, in a shocking turn of events, really hates change in behavior or routines! There’s always more to learn, and this video made me feel like somebody else understands me. Thank you for that!
Sensory overload is not talked about enough. The people around me don’t understand why I can’t just go to the grocery store with out feeling anxious or exauhsted or why too many voices make me unable to be okay
Wait I thought this was just my anxiety. Do I jave sensory overload? Or is my anxiety causing me to have it
@@ggundercover3681 anxiety can absolutely cause you to end up in sensory overload
@@ggundercover3681 sensory overload is not necessarily a seperate condition and I think that plenty of people with anxiety have it (not sure tho). Sensory overloads are also not necessarily a neurodivergent thing, they can happen if you're very tired or stressed too. (I think it's one of the reasons small children get meltdowns in supermarkets, they're not yet equipped for it and are taking in every bit of information) They're different for everyone and can be caused by any form of sensory input (I usually have it with too many overlapping sounds). It's pretty much your brain being overstimulated by information, which is why things like headphones/earplugs/sunglasses work. Things like stimming/fidgeting work (not always and for everyone) because you're redirecting all your focus to one specific sensory input that's controllable by you.
My friend just got earplugs for herself, she says they help immensely!!
I get this way too, which is why I started carrying headphones w me everywhere. Better if they’re noise cancelling bc then it muffles a lot of the overstimulating sounds of stores and stuff while not forcing you to listen to any music. I will put on music most of the time tho bc it helps me focus since there’s only that one sound and it’s often a repeating song I already know. Give it a try next time!
I had this on Monday- I ended up taking the day off from work and felt so guilty about it. Thank you for sharing this, it feels incredibly brave to me and made me feel like I’m not alone 💛✨
I've been working on not feeling guilty about taking time off from work. It's good my boss has ADHD so he totally understand but I often feel anxious about what others think of me and have confirmed that some don't understand conditions like neurodivergence and chronic fatigue and pain.
But I also know if I wasn't able to take time off for overstim days I would have burned out and quit months ago. It's definitely a learning process and a tricky balancing act.
I just got out of school and had a complete meltdown because I was so overloaded from my joints aching and my clothing being too hot and the school being too cold and all of the things. I felt crappy about it but this was a nice wake up call :) thanks for sharing your life for those of us still learning that these things are okay to feel! It helps lots
Your lucky it’s cold. Mine is hot. To the point where I have to bring a fan. But I agree school is a big trigger
Have your parents talk to your doctor about Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Please. I'm trying to save u from decades of progressive pain.
@@karencarney7595 were seeing a specialist soon! :) the aches started only two years ago and aren’t too bad most of the time but I’m never really pain free especially after physical activity most days the worst it gets is a sharp pain in my hip or knee when I walk but that day was just so horrible everything was aching so much I could barely take a written test! But I’m alright now December is my appointment! All we know right now is that it’s something inflammatory
@@crowscomplimentary1367 it’s Lyme disease. Cut sugar and gluten as a start. Still go see doctors but that will help the joints a bit.
@@angelaonthego don’t think it’s Lyme disease, I’ve never had a tick or anything that could cause that in my life we actually figured out what it was recently! Just a ton of vitamin deficiencies and because I have fallen arches!
I mostly get overstimulated from sounds or if there’s a lot of things I need to do and people keep asking me when I’m going to do the thing they asked me to do when I’m doing something else, it’s mainly a mix of sound and negative emotions, and if I don’t catch myself in a state of overload then I’ll just break down and won’t be able to do anything for like 35 minutes.
This reminds me of this conversation I had with my aunt one time after I had a panic attack because I couldn't contact anyone for help with something. My phone screen was so damaged I couldn't use it, the home phone only worked on WiFi and the WiFi was turned off and I didn't know how to turn it back on. I ended up having an entire breakdown in the hallway for about two hours before I snapped back and realized I could just drive the 15 minutes to her office.
She asked me how often I freak out like that and I said "well not very often but when I do it usually lasts a while". She said something very dismissive implying I don't know how to regulate my emotions but also saying that I need to keep my feelings in because "no one wants to see that". But she also asked how much time I use (the way she said it she meant how much to I waste) freaking out when I get stressed or overwhelmed. And I said I usually end up spending a day getting back to normal. And she said I shouldn't.
Made me think though like, I would much rather "lose" a single day to stress and anxiety and regulate all day kind of pampering myself than to be constantly stressed and overwhelmed because I don't take a proper break to make my brain work. Idk, she ended up showing her colors later and I don't talk to her anymore.
Anyway, spend your day! Take the time that you need. I do that now and don't care what people say about it. In taking care of myself and that's what's important.
Sorry to hear that about your aunt. I hope you were able to deal with that eventually. Im waiting to move out of my familys home since they also dont understand how i need to unwind. It mostly ends up with harsh criticism and needing more time to unwind
You’re completely justified. As neurodivergents, sometimes breaking down a little (healthily) or shutting down for some time is OUR body & minds’ way of self-regulating. Could you and I find healthier ways to cope with stress rather than breaking down? Sure. And we will. But we need to shut down from time-to-time for our own health.
Neurodivergence is classified as a disability for a reason
To watch these kinds of videos is so damn eye-opening. Society should really stop judging.. we should allow ourselves to do what we best feel doing.
Same, I never knew what I've experienced since forever was actually sensory overload.
I have almost no autistic symptoms besides this. THIS single symptom practically rules my life. With the winter coming im almost always permanently annoyed and close to tears because of LAYERS. Not being able to move in layers, having to wear thick shoes with thick socks, HATS oh my god. It all makes me want to rip off all my clothes and fall into a pile in the floor and just bawl.
I have to start my days early so that my first moments being awake is very quiet and controlled, and my job starts at 5. I dont LIKE having such early shifts, but it's the only way I can start my day in a way that doesn't doom the rest of the day for disaster.
I work in retail, so of course all day I'm on edge and close to tears because there is just. Too. Much. People talking, heat from so many moving bodies, having to focus on work AND customers, trying to list my responsibilities for the day, dealing with flourescent lights, dealing with people's attitudes and energy.
I spend almost every single day, especially after work, in this shut down mode. I dont know what to call it other than just part of being HSP. But damn. This video spoke to my daily experience for the past like 5 years. It's so so hard and overwhelming. It's hard to hang out with friends. It's hard to work on projects. It's hard to participate in hobbies. All my time is spent literally just trying not to have a breakdown over the environment around me and how intense it feels.
I totally relate 🥺
Is it possible that you may be masking really heavily? I.e. “no other symptoms of autism” may not be your “natural state of being”, but a way you act to protect yourself against a harsh world.
It happens with ADHD and SPD as well. I'm sure others too.
Some of it at least sounds like sensory issues. You don't need to have autism, ADHD, etc. to have sensory issues, it just often goes along with them.
Have you thought of looking into Sensory Processing Disorder which sounds like what you are going through ( I am not trying to diagnose or anyyhing )
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm currently overwhelmed with sensory overload right now so watching what you did really helped me find some things I can do to calm down. I love your videos, they're so helpful!
I swear this is what I am seeing with my daughter. She is always so eager to be involved but randomly some days she just seems off. It feels like everything annoys her and see can't seem to settle, relax and focus on tasks. I bet this is what it is.
How old is your daughter?
@@missjustpeachygirl 8.
You should look into it! Could be from anxiety, autism, adhd, general stress, etc. I’m a 16 year old girl and I’ve had all four since forever but was only diagnosed last year. It would be great for you to jump onto it early so you can learn how to accommodate for her needs and teach her coping skills!!
@@georgia6947 Exactly! @Sky S, as a psychiatric neuroscientist who was first diagnosed as an adult, I 100% agree to get her working with a psychologist as early as possible. Ideally get a referral to a dedicated diagnostic testing center. In tough cases, (especially if she's really intelligent) diagnosis and treatment often should be completely separate things, each handled by the professionals trained for that specific task.
that also sounds like understimulation, when i'm understimulated im jittery, cant stay in one place/settle, cant focus on anything, its like boredom squared
Thank you for this video. It shows me to be more compassionate with myself when I'm severely over stimulated and my plans for the day change because of it
Thank you for posting this. I just started allowing myself to rest like this and it is so recovering for me mentally and spiritually. Sometimes I shame myself for being “lazy” or not capable to do more, but seeing this is really reassuring and I don’t feel alone.
I am 45 years old and this makes me feel more seen than just about anything ever has.
Thank you. ❤️
It’s for me at least when I start to feel every single hair that is touching my face, or the acne on my back or my body starts to feel itchy, or I suddenly can just feel everything and it’s loud and I can’t even function it’s manifesting as sensory overload nut it’s like an anxiety attack without the scary part where my throat closes up, or i start to tic bc it’s cold that’s fun but separate.
It’s when I can’t focus on anything else but the sensory issue, like “crumbs” in my bed which could just be dead skin cells and small bits of dirt or whatever but that can drive me nuts or like when I go to a restaurant and it’s overly crowded and the sound is just too much not bc its loud but it’s the overlapping cacophony of voices
I hate the feel of things being uneven pressure kinda thing, like my laces or my shirt. It rlly sucks if i cant adjust them bc im in a crowd or smt. Small stuff just seems so big when its all u can feel
for me my hair gets really heavy and I feel like my head/neck is gonna fall off its so heavy so i want to cut it right away and ofc you have to put your hair back so not a single one touches ur face or else it's like an attack.
@@samaraisntthat right there is exactly why I keep my hair short, and have kept it short for much of my life, now. I have extremely thick, heavy, curly/ wavy hair and it just becomes too much, so I get it thinned out and cut real short so it's not so overwhelming.
For me, I get anxiety trying to read super long run on sentences with no or not enough punctuation. My mouth goes dry, and I get all twitchy and uncomfortable. I feel like I can't breathe fully, too.
Ohhh my god I haven’t seen anyone mention the “crumbs” in bed sensory overload BUT NOW I SEE IM NOT ALONE 😆
Yes! This needs to be talked about more! Even shows dedicated to characters with sensory overload issues don’t often portray the struggle correctly, leading people to wrong conclusions about them.
Thank you so much for stepping up and showing what many struggle with on daily basis.
Much love 💕
It's so so so important to step back and say "I need to unwind, I can't do this right now."
I'm still learning to be kind to myself, especially when I can't believe it's okay to be kind to myself because I was raised to think that was just being lazy, so I have to dissociate and imagine someone else taking care of me.
I'm so proud of you for doing what I struggle with, and I hope one day I can relax like you.
I have a mild form of autism, so I don't experience these things AS intensely as you do, but I can completely relate! When I was younger, I became depressed and suicidal because I couldn't handle all the input. My family has always been very demanding and asks a lot of me, so safe moments in my safe space were simply too rare for me to function properly. I shut down, I had a period in which I wouldn't dare to go out of my bedroom, because my bedroom was the only place where I could be myself, stay sane, listen to releasing music without being interrupted by family members, and just be able to breathe a little... I was lucky that this was during the Covid pandemic, because everything involving school was done through computers and Zoom calls, in which I could turn off my camera and listen to the lectures. This school period (aside from the overloading part) was me at my happiest place, in terms of studying and living the high school life!
After this "decompression-period", I began interacting more and more, and after school I would just zone out for an hour in my desk-chair or on my bed...😂 At least I was able to interact with the outside world again!
About 3 years have passed since my decompression period... I'm doing better and better socially! I made a girl-friend who is also autistic (in a more extreme sense than me) and we are so glad to have found each other. We are just friends, and we like it that way. We have a really good feeling when we have deep talks, but neither of us can explain the exact feeling. We just know it's the same feeling!
If you've come all the way into this story of mine, I'd certainly like to thank you for paying your interest!
Have a great day!
I never thought this was a possibly adhd thing. I just thought I was weird & couldn’t explain why some days I literally am paralysed & do nothing. Thank you for helping me become more aware & giving ways to help me
It is specifically an AuDHD thing, meaning a combo of autism and ADHD. The ADHD can make sensory overload harder to cope with, but sensory overload itself is a symptom of Autism.
@@EveryDayALittleDeath Sensory overload can happen with Anxiety disorders, autism, and ADHD. You can experience it with any of these disorders.
I can’t express how perfect of a time this is for me to see this. I’ve been feeling like if I get overstimulated or stressed it means that I can’t handle things as well as other people and I’d kinda convinced myself that I get overwhelmed easily because of how I grew up or a failure of my childhood, but now I see that it is completely fine and normal. Thank you god for sending this to me. You are so kind and thoughtful. You give me so many gifts❤
That was partially my day yesterday. I woke up feeling overwhelmed and super sensitive to the light. Starting out with sensory overload is so hard. I hope your day got better
Watching your videos makes me feel so safe and understood. I want to cry it's so hard explaining to friends and family that this what I have to do sometimes to recharge, especially since I only have a self diagnosis at best. I'm hoping one day I'll have enough money to get diagnosed properly but until then I'm going to find a safe haven in your comment section.
When I have sensory overload, I get so sensitive to other people being too close to me. I feel so anxious, it has made me cry. I don't like to be seen, talked to; I just want a hug and not be spoken to
Your channel has helped me through so much. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with people who are still learning themselves
You just described my life pretty much whenever I’m off work
I LOVE this. I’m in nursing school, and I get so overwhelmed afterwards. I just go home and binge watch shows about cults and mental illnesses. Or listen to music and do no talking. This is a great idea. I definitely monitor what I eat. It’s helped tremendously.
I work in a SEMH school (social emotional and mental health school) and 99% of the kids have ADHD and I completely get this. Sensory overload is a real thing and it's not only autistic people that experience it. Love your routine that you have in place to regulate yourself. X
i don’t think i’ve ever felt so seen or heard. i’m not happy that you experience these things, but it makes me feel so much better to know that i’m not alone and that i’m not crazy or broken.
Idk for me whenever I feel certain textures I instantly feel like pain or shock and also ocd with small details
I will literally have to get rid of clothes just because of texture, luckily I have a friend about my size, not only does it bother me but I also have eczema. I basically do not wear polyester for example. I can love a piece but just not be able to be comfortable at all
For me I hate when my hands get dry, it feels so weird, so I hate paper. Smooth textures are the best. Not sure why I’m like this, but I am.
Same actually!
@@heyfragrance2695 same
That doesn’t mean you have sensory overload but perhaps some sensory issues
Thank you for sharing. This short came up randomly. As a parent to a young child who's got sensory issues with everything and awaiting an autism diagnosis, it's refreshing to see how you, a grown woman, manage for a period of time with similarities how as child would cope (e.g. stim toys) as well as your independence. Thank you for making the world more aware of neurodiversity etc.
i never realized i had a reason i loved wearing baggy closes > to tight clothes, i’ve always had sensory issues i just never realized it
And it's so crazy because compressive outfits CAN be really comforting too, under the right circumstances. I spent my childhood wearing quite tight clothes because they made me feel better (especially jazz pants, cos they were tight on the thigh but loose on my ankles so I could move my feet a lot). But now I'm older and have worse joints, I almost always tend towards baggy stuff that doesn't restrict my joints or make me feel like I'm being touched all over.
Nothing excuses being cruel to ND people if you're neurotypical but I can see how people can get confused sometimes - wait, you both love AND despise the exact same sensation? Hm...
I'd argue being hugged close by someone you care about and then by someone you hate would have a similar outcome for anyone, but what do I know lol
It's nice to not be alone in this. High quality relatable content.
i have no steps to take when i’m overstimulated which results in me lashing out at people or an attitude no one understands and everyone thinks im just mean
Therapy and support groups help SO MUCH. If Therapy is an issue because of funds, you can reach out to organizations or your doctor for a list of support groups. They're on zoom or IRL and free, donations welcome. You'll hear others and what they do to manage. You don't have to be "normal", but you absolutely need to be able to function in ways that doesn't further alienate you. It's very hurtful to those who care about you when you lash out and you need to have some type of accountability when you hurt others, especially if you're able to grasp that others have needs too.♡
love that you shared this ❤️ my son is Autistic and I'm learning everyday how to help him work with sensory overload so it was great to find your channel and hear your experience so I can also understand it from "his perspective" in a way. 💙
This was the hardest part for my fiancé to understand about my autism. Heat is also a trigger for me, I can feel my clothes stick to me, forehead will sweat causing my hair to stick to it, my hands get sticky making everything else feel sticky 🤢 I consider myself very good at masking, but when I get over stimulated I don’t talk as much, too many thoughts and emotions and too overwhelmed to express them. Sometimes I have to get mostly naked, under my weighted blanket on the floor. (Floor is cold which fixes the blanket and heat issue.) I do have to stick my mouth/nose out since I have to have fresh air as to not feel like I’m suffocating. Claustrophobia 😂
I'm having a sensory overload day today. Took the day off to comfort myself. This video made me feel not alone. Thanks!
I wish I could do this type of thing when I have bad days. As a mom of four I’m forced to power through and to say I’m severely burnt out would be an understatement. I didn’t know I was autistic until after having children.
Thank you for showing this side of yourself that so many people share 💗
I also have a sensory safe outfit. :) It includes a super soft, viscose-elastane blend headcover that puts pressure on my ears while not irritating my skin. I also have super soft, silicone-tipped earplugs, a white noise machine for when I need a little background noise, and a very subtle candle that smells like the woods (my favorite place).
Oooo, what candle is it??
For some reason, though I know earplugs help a lot of people with sensory overloads, for me they just feel really uncomfortable and just do more harm than good. Also, instead of loose clothes, which I know a lot of people like, I wear clothes that are a little tight so they are always touching me, as loose clothes that only touch me in some places but are baggy in others just makes everything worse. That headband seems really cool, though. Where is it from?
I would live in the woods forever if i could. what’s the name of the candle, if you don’t mind me asking? i desperately need it!!
You guys all have it!! Great strategies but if you find loose clothes less confining and more organizing and comforting --go for it
Hi, everyone :) The candle is called "forest honey." I forget who makes it, but it's in a green container with a wooden cap, and you can buy it at Walmart. So glad that my experience is helpful for others 🥰
Thank you for sharing this video in particular, such an important video for anyone involved in a naurodivergents life. And to us, the neurodiverts, we all have to find the thing that works for us in this situation.
I have ADHD, was told not ASD, but was raised in a family of fellow ASers
Thank u for posting this. I have adhd and I have sensory issues I’m not diagnosed with a sensory processing disorder but I am almost a 100% sure I have one and it just helps to know that there are other ppl out there that also struggle with similar things as me. So once again thx
this actually helped me a lot to see a way to get out of a sensory overload myself.
Thank you Hayley for sharing this reality for a lot of us... sometimes instead of a day of overwhelm it can turn into a weekend or a week or month...but we definitely find creative, compassionate ways to get through it 💗☺️😎
I have sensory overload quite often at school and because my teachers r shit I end up going into a meltdown where I can't talk or move and they try to give me detentions because of it even when they know I'm autistic.
Out of over 700 comments how do u find this and get it to 100 likes
@I exist 🇺🇦 ty my guy
I got them at school a lot too. Most school(high) have an emotional councilor and they can get you ice. Sadly that is kinda the most they can do
Where do you live? In the US, you can request an individualized education plan (IEP) or 504 to formally make a plan so you get the bwat of your education. Upir caregivers, teachers, & admin will meet regularly to make the plan. You can request breaks in class, an aide, access to school counselor, etc. & all that is written in.
Do you have an equivalent in your country? Understood org may be able to give more guidance...
@@ambriaashley3383 well I'm not autistic and in Michigan or at least my district you have to be diagnosed with something for them to even help you with anything. I believe I have ADHD. I'm getting test rn like results soon.
@@ambriaashley3383 I'm in the UK and my parents r trying to get me a TA at school but we need to get that approved by the government but they won't reply
Thank you for sharing this video! It’s been so important for my brother to find ways to help when he has sensory overload. 💙
In high school I always had a meltdown at the end of the first day of the school year, every year. It was really frustrating until I realized why - I got overwhelmed by all the people and noises after a whole summer of being at home
I haven't been officially diagnosed with anything that could cause sensory overload other than anxiety, but when it happens I can't even recognize it before it's all too much. Takes me days to come down from this supper high strung place where everything is too much, I can't sleep nor eat and no amount of exercise or meditation will get me to a good head space. I just sit under a blanket in a cold house and try to keep my head empty with colouring books and some easy video games. Really good that people are talking about this, and especially for those that have conditions that can cause this, it should be ok to take a break and to let yourself take it easy.
As someone who is diagnosed you just helped me realized overheating. I always hated overheating but it deeply affected me, especially with blankets or clothing on. Thank you
I got noise canceling headphones and they were a game changer for me. Noise was a huge trigger, and I live in a large city were there is a lot of it. I didn't realize I was having sensory overload until last year when I was 29 so I'm still trying to figure out how to cope, but I have a TBI That mimics adhd symptoms and so I suspect that causes a lot of my issues with stimulus overload as well. It helps seeing how other people cope.
this was really helpful to see. so often I feel like I am being too dramatic when being overstimulated. some days everything makes me cry, being too hot, sweaty, my food, etc. thank you for showing this side of ADHD. you helped at least one person feel a bit more normal
As someone who also experiences this, everytime i have these moments, i stop and think and become so thankful that i live in a time and part of the world that allows me to do all this to treat myself.
Some other time in history or elsewhere in the world, people didn't/don't have this luxury and have to literally work through all this to survive (either to support their family, or by threat of violence from an outside force).
You, me, and many on this comment thread are so privileged to be able to even think about having this experience, because that means we have the te and energy to think about, feel it, and cater our world to it.
(And no, I'm not comparing and saying that these problems don't matter because others have it worse, I'm just saying that you have to admit that your life is objectively better and you are better off.
But if we're being real, i do believe that, these kinds of problems don't really hold a candle to all the real, life threatening problems out there for people that can't just close the curtains and change into comfy clothes.)
im happy that u were willing to share this side of mental health with the world, because it’s just as important
i needed this today
The zoning out while doing anxious hand stims is too relatable 😭
My husband waits until I snap out of it and then says something to try and improve my mood/help my anxiety. Usually something along the lines of "how was your nap" or "welcome back beautiful" 😂❤
Certain noises like my mom talking on the phone in the car would drive me crazy when I was younger or hearing kids crying even though I love kids.. I never understood until this year realizing I was over stimulated and my senses were just way overloaded
Omg I thought I was a massive bitch as a kid, because I couldn't stand my mum singing in the car. Absolutely couldn't deal with it. BUT I love to sing, and in the car there wasn't much more to do. So I used to ask my mum not to sing, then I would. I really hated myself for it, because it seemed hypocritical, but now I know I'm ND (probs X2) it actually makes a lot of sense. Just sucks that her singing overstimulated me and my singing was self regulating - comes across as just being a brat.
I hate it when my siblings talk so much in the car
My co workers have experienced my sensory overload. There is always at least one that will say ok guys to many people over here when they catch me getting overwhelmed before I even catch myself getting overwhelmed and about to react. They have realized my movements and build up I'm so thankful for them
I sensory overload way too much during the day. Everything just annoys me and idk why. It’s like a constant battle of why is this and everything annoying me and why am I getting annoyed at simple things
Are you using tools to help- like noise cancelling headphones/ear defenders and sunglasses? Those can make a big difference for bright lights and loud noises
normally i would never do those things when im at sensory overload but i tried them yesterday and it helped me sooo much, feel so much better today! thank you for your content!
So overwhelmed but had time to do multiple camera set ups
Don’t forget the taking a couple days for a mental break is OK and you’re not being lazy hope everybody has a good day😊
I just call these “bad days” I end up just extremely out of it and normally have too much anxiety to even leave the place I’m sitting…
I usually go without food on these days
Thank you. I've had these recently (sensory overload) more and more, and didn't know what it was.
Idk if I have this or not, but sometimes I feel like I do. If people are talking over music, talking really loud, or when more than one person tries talking to me at the same time I just can’t handle it. I guess I’m sensitive when it comes to people talking 💀
I have it with overlapping sounds, but it's different for everyone
Its so interesting how sensory safe outfits vary based on the persons needs. Mine are always skin tight clothes w a big hoodie so that i feel Engulfed and Held. I love learning about people's sensory needs lol
my gawd I wish I had the luxury of just taking the day when I'm having a bad one. gives me hope to know someone can actually make it to a point where not just forcing through it is an option.
I've had this all my life. My most noticeable trigger is fingers doing pointing and other gestures that set my brain off. Cell phone ads are ALWAYS hell for me.
I wish people understood that it isn’t laziness that causes most of my days to look like this. I’m so overwhelmed from the moment I wake up. I’ve needed to clean for weeks, but I just can’t. It’s so hard to do anything when your mind is racing and you can feel the energy flowing throughout your body, blood pumping through every blood vessel. It’s painfully exhausting, and quite frankly depressing at times. It’s so hard. As a kid I got into the habit of zoning out when I’m like this. It gets so bad to the point where a week will feel like a day because I’m not present at all
Thank you the last few years I just started doing this automatically iv been diagnosed with adhd and BPD but now I think I was missed diagnosed the more research iv done the last few days is starting to make sense
I've never seen any of your videos before and I hope this isnt a rude question but I'm curious how you're able to record yourself all over your house having these reactions to be over stimulated
I’m curious as well
Sensory overloads don't 'paralyze' us or strip us of any thought or will. We can still do stuff during episodes. Sensory overload has to do with the senses. Hearing, smelling, seeing, touching, tasting. When dealing with episodes, we cut off certain stimuli to lessen how much sensory we're experiencing at once. This is why she closes the blinds/darkens the room, or changes into baggy clothes. Moving a camera around doesn't really effect our senses.. It's about the same as getting up to cook something for ourselves.. Or to go use the bathroom. We don't become frozen, mindless creatures during episodes.
@@itsnotthatdeep6657 thank you for sharing and explaining 💕
Pretty sure she was just acting for purpose of the video...🤦♂️
I've had moments in middle school and high school when I was out shopping or whatever and all of a sudden I felt the urge to start crying and turtle away....Was a long time before I realized I was probably having sensory overwhelm. Glad there are more people sharing their experiences and how to cope ✨✨
And she was able to record it all :)
Oh god I feel terrible, lemme whip out my camera so I can record it 🤭
@@Necroslutz_Sodoma omfg ppl with braincells
Overheating is also a sensory trigger of mine. I’m getting better at handling overload in a way the lessens the negative effects. For most of my life I had believed that I just needed to push through it. Now I realize that it is necessary to focus on self care during a sensory overload.
"sensory overload day! Let me drag my camera stand and set up my camera everywhere I go. Ppl in the comment section won't realize because they'll relate because I looked up what ADHD sensory overload looks like". Like come on how do y'all believe this. Like really.
its to show you how it looks?? who cares if she put up the camera
@@catindacorner7408 that's the point and you missed it. I guess it's easier to ignore the glaringly obvious when you want to identify with something so bad.
@@catindacorner7408 sensory overload usually don't include setting up a camera everytime you get up to do something. I can tell you've never actually seen behind the scenes of videos like this or any video really. It's not a movie, nobody is there to set up the camera for her. She has to get up, set the camera up to a good frame, make herself look cute for said camera, and then act out what it looks like. If you're having a sensory overload I'm sure a camera being tediously set up every time you get up would be the last thing on your mind. But again you'll have some excuse as to why this makes sense so who am I to point out flawed logic. You're just a kid.
@@Royalty_girlie She was already doing a day in the life video. Not only that but she did not clarify how bad her sensory overload was so maybe she was feeling good enough where she didn't mind making a video. She was showing her coping mechanisms and she cut alot out she didnt show any breakdowns or anything all she did was record a few shots and the scenes were very short. You act like she was acting crazy on the camera or something. There is nothing wrong with documenting her sensory overload day to show people how she copes and/or so people can relate. If nobody documented their struggle autism, adhd, sensory issues and neurodivergences in general would continue to be so stigmatized
@@Royalty_girlie I never said that im defending her because i want to identify with it I'm saying you cant just judge someone's authenticity because they're documenting what they struggle with on a possible day-to-day life
As some who goes through that and has those days I’m here for you. And I am so proud of you for making this video
Its interesting that you had the focus to film yourself
My thoughts exactly.
@@Royalty_girlie what's your point?
@@beeee1234 what's yours?
Again, do you think we're paralyzed and devoid of all thought during sensory overloads or something?
@@itsnotthatdeep6657 do Americans like pretending to be mentally ill for clout?
I sooo get it. It can be really exhausting. Thanks for your tips and videos, they really help me feel less alone.
That would be funny if you included, "and then I closed the blinds, paused the video, setup my tripod in my room, and took a video of me changing, and then moved the tripod.."
It's possible they are re-enacting the sensory overload day for awareness. Visibility matters
Do you think we're paralyzed during a sensory overload episode or something?
thank you for showing this side of your life. makes me feel less alone / crazy because i dont understand myself
When I’m overloaded like this I would not be capable of setting up and moving a camera all over the place.
Thank you, I was thinking the same thing. My adult sister who was diagnosed as a child but was never told she is autistic, could never, EVER fiddle around with a camera when this is happening. It takes over her whole self. she isnt capable in that moment of filming herself, nevermind thinking someone on the internet would pretend to have her struggles for attention q
Yeah I smell bs as well. When I have these I just sit down and try my best to remove what ever triggered it. Which is usually just getting out of the shop asap. I'm not saying she doesn't have them but good god this video is fake as hell
when I'm overloaded, I can't sit down to watch TV.
@@stephenziga2319 Me neither, I’m lucky if I can drag myself out of bed to pee.
@@caseyalexandraweismiller Same, I was diagnosed with ASD/ADHD just before adulthood and it just overwhelms the system entirely at times. Everyone thinks we just can’t focus on anything but it’s more I see so much around me that others don’t seem to and it just overloads the system. Sometimes all you can do is just sit there staring at nothing while you’re stuck inside your head.
Your really the only adhd account I can relate to it's amazing how relatable it is I send lots of your bids to my mam try help her understand how my adhd and autism affect me. Thank you for your videos ❤
Survivor.. really?? Thats like the most stressful shit you can watch
I think when they said comforting, they mean that it’s familiar.
Comfort shows can be anything familiar! It could be any genre tbh
It’s a familiar show
I feel so seen and not so alone right now to see and know there are other people like me. ❤
Thank you for sharing.
I cant believe adults like this exist bruh wtf
tf does this even mean 💀 what...mentally ill adults or adults with disorders?
And I wonder every day how people like you still exist - watch other people and judge them instead of empathy.
This is a very helpful post as I just had a morning like this yesterday and I could not get anything done and I’m working on being gentle with myself in these moments instead of hating myself 🥰
Lol cameras on, gotta make that money.
Your honesty is so courageous
It seems like taking 9 different angles of yourself with your camera would add to the overstimulation.
When you set up cameras for a day in the life you usually forget they’re there, especially during a sensory overload
Ugh I had one of those yesterday. Called off work today to recoup. Love your home. Looks so cozy and easy to navigate. 💜
You also recorded yourself knowing full well the camera is rolling. Crazy what people do for views
Im learning so much from you. I've not been diagnosed with anything but everything you share most of it resonates with me. I already have my safe clothes and other things that you shared. I need a safe show though, I struggle with finding safe shows for me.
Maybe you'll like Bluey, it's an Australian animated show that talks a lot about mental health, in a kind and understanding way ❤
its like shes begging for attention
Thank you for still posting this.
this is a day in your life. this is a day others don't see. this is your day. it just wasn't a day in your life masking your true self. I felt this.